Hope when there was none

What does healing trauma look like?

Here are a few things you may experience while going through your healing journey. Have you experienced any of these?

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National Domestic Violence

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Safe Horizon- ⁠https://www.safehorizon.org/⁠

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I will put on a trigger warning. Not that I was too graphic but just in case. This is a car version podcast and there is no video. I didn't want that distraction while driving.

As always, please do something for you on your healing journey today. Whether it is to journal, talk with a friend, watch a funny movie, get out and exercise, create something, or dig out your bible. I share a bit of my recent memories that bubbled up the su...

As a side note, I reference "she" but men can also be survivors in an abusive situation.

Apps ideas mentioned here can be found here: https://www.domesticshelters.org/resources/mobile-apps-for-victims-and-survivors

If you need to talk feel free to message me privately.

After listening into today's broadcast, do you recognize any of these in your own life?

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What is Financial abuse? It's deeper than you think! It can look like:

Giving an allowance to your partner with accountability for all of it.

Not allowing your partner to have his/her name on any credit cards, banking, or loans.

Not sharing decision making with your partner pertaining to financial issues. This and more in today's episode.

After listening into today's broadcast, do you recognize any of these in your own life?

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I'm digging into Emotional abuse on today's episode!

Here's what it can look like:

Emotional abuse-

The abuser's psychological or mental violence can include anything that impacts the mental health and well being of their partner.

Examples-

name calling, insults, put downs

crazy making, blaming the victim for everything

jealousy, unfounded accusations of cheating

intimidation

shaming, humiliation

socially isolating the victim from...

Verbal abuse is the first topic of an 8 part series where I dig deep into what abuse is and the different types. You can find more information here- httls://facebook.com/hopewhentherewasnone

Have you ever heard the childhood rhyme, "Sticks and stones, may break my bones, but words can never hurt me?" You can actually find many examples of this here- https://literarydevices.net/sticks-and-stones-may-break-my-bones/

Words can make ...

Leaving someone that is toxic in a relationship is hard! The decision is not made lightly or without much thought. This can be between you and a family member or an intimate partner.

I mentioned copying documents and here is the list:

If you are concerned your partner will notice these are gone make copies of the original and leave the copies!

Marriage/Birth certificates

Social Security cards

Bills- Student loans, Credit ca...

Gatekeeping sounds like some sort of gaming thing, but it can be darker than this. It is where someone is controlling opportunities, power, resources, and who get these.
You can see this in any type of relationship, and you are also capable of doing this! Anytime you have monitored someone and nitpick or take over the task... Yep, that is gatekeeping!
There are questions you can use yourself and tools to help you heal on today's p...

Abuse can happen between anyone. Whether this is between you and a family member, friend or intimate partner. Answer me this:

Do you make excuses for this persons poor behavior?

Do you dread seeing them or feel exhausted with them or after seeing them?

Is there always the same excuse for why they hurt you?

Does this person say that "they" are the victim?

If this person makes you cry, intimidates you, or hurts your feeling more than...

Abusers don't see the world as we do. They see no fault in their behavior. Abusers will tell others that you were the cause of the demise of the break-up. Question your sanity.

You may feel: Scared, depressed, confused, and angry

The abuser may: Use the legal system against you. Pressure the kids to tell him things about you. If your kids have a cell phone/computer he may gather information about your social media/friends/location...

With any one of these there can use the tactics of - isolating the victim, creating a dependency with the abuser, or may have other mental health issues. Can cause victim to become depressed, have a breakdown, or commit suicide. A proper diagnosis needs to be from a licensed Counselor or Therapist.

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*Trigger warning!*

Sexual abuse can be hard to talk about. Victims can experience a wide range of unwanted assaults. It may become difficult for a victim to develop trust with intimate partners. Here are a few examples of what it can look like. If you relate to any of these please contact a shelter, counselor, or law enforcement. If you need to talk I am happy to hold space for you.

After listening into today's broadcast, do you...

Pet abuse is a difficult topic as well as reason many survivors stay in abusive relationships. An abuser may threaten harm to kill the pet if the survivor wants to leave. Signs to looks out for: - Anxiety- Fear responses- Flinching- Limping and many more

Abusers may harm pets by/with:

- Physically harming

- Torture - Neglect

- Sexual abuse...

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Grooming is the topic for today's episode. We usually picture grooming as something that happens between a child and adult but this can happen between adults as well. This is a gradual process in order to gain the trust of a person in order to have control and take advantage of someone. This can look like:

Romantic, sexual, financial, materially and more! The victim can become withdrawn or depressed. They may suddenly be without mo...

You may find it hard to figure out if the relationship you are in is unhealthy when you are in it. Consider talking with a trusted family member or friend for their opinion of this person. You may feel defensive of their thoughts but remember to try to keep an open mind. Here are a few things you may take notice of:

- The relationship is intense FAST!

- You catch the person in lies

- They are controlling

- Isolate you

- Jealousy

-...

It can be hard to understand why someone would stay in a toxic relationship. I have heard people say:
🌩 She/he must like it!
🌩 I don't understand why she/he won't just leave!
🌩 How stupid is she/he?!
🌩 He/she is so wonderful! Why are they not happy/lying about how "bad" he/she is?!
What happens behind closed doors is a mystery. Many secrets/poor behaviors are passed down from generation to generation and that can trickle into inti...