Hourgasm

We’re joined by the incandescent dancer, poet, spiritual abolitionist Nikki Darling to talk about how sex work both is and is sometimes not a force for healing and decolonization. From porn to private sex work to stripping and beyond, we break down the systems that oppress people, and how to divest your own energy from them. Along the way, we visit adult time outs, energy exchanges, roots, floaters, and the mothership. 

The rules are all made up, so let’s make everyone valid—especially the elderly. Thus spoke Lenny and Lynsey in this episode all about aging. Your favorite decolonizers talk about issues faced by the elderly in the dominant culture: silencing, media invisibility, medical discrimination, and unacceptable sexuality. Plus side quests into MILFs, cougars, Blanche Devereaux, J-Lo, and more!

Lenny and Lynsey get personal about beauty standards as they’re applied to female-identified folks in America—including themselves. They also discuss how modern beauty is tied to colonization, how whiteness came to be considered supremely beautiful, and the lengths people have gone to in different times and cultures in order to be considered beautiful…whatever that means.

Monogamy is not the only option for romantic relationships, folks! Lenny and Lynsey start the second season of Hourgasm by breaking down what ethical non-monogamy means to them, why it makes sense for many human beings, how it was forced on indigenous groups by colonizing forces, and why Pagans are so horny for polyamory.

First of all, we cannot spell or pronounce this word. Secondly, it's a really difficult concept to pin down. We talk about what it meant for some groups in pre-colonial America, what it means now, and how it’s impossible to hit this moving target that’s defined more by what it’s not than what it is. Plus, we spend a lot of time giving lovey eyes to feminine icons Dolly Parton and Morticia Addams. Because, seriously.

Lenny and Lynsey dig into the way marriage functions as a means of population control, from time immemorial up through the Dawes Act of 1887, the post–World War II push toward nuclear families and suburban living, and the expectations we live with today. Why is marriage so damn important in our culture, and why did it get that way? And how do our cohosts feel about this institution of acceptability? (Hint: Not great.)

We’ve figured it out, folks. The ingredients of any good sex scandal (and pretty much everything else) are revealed in this episode, where we look more closely at modern political sex scandals, different kinds of sex parties, and Lenny and Lynsey’s conflicted feelings about Arnold Schwarzenegger. 

Politicians seem like they’re always getting themselves into compromising situations and then into the headlines. But why do we care so much? And what should we expect out of politicians? How are women thrown under the bus for male politicians’ foibles? And what are some examples of female politicians who had their own sex scandals?

Horror films are a conundrum. They’re both deeply subversive and highly problematic. They rely on gender stereotypes and sexist tropes, but they also allow women and queer characters to take the upper hand in ground-breaking ways. What gives, and how do these films work for or against colonialism? Lenny and Lynsey have thoughts.

In Hourgasm, we’re here to decolonize sexuality and gender. But what does that even mean? In the pilot episode, Lenny and Lynsey share topics they want to cover, utopian visions for decolonized sexuality, and some juicy personal details.