September 1, 2025 • 22 mins
Have you ever found yourself in that strange in-between, no longer who you were, not yet who you’re becoming, and feeling lost? In this episode I share my own lifelong dance with “lostness” and how I’ve come to see it differently: not as failure, but as a powerful next transition.
Together, we’ll explore how to reframe these transitional seasons with trust and creativity, and how to notice the resilience, openness and resources you already carry with you.
If you’re in a season of change - whether in identity, career, creativity, or soul - this episode is for you.
Topics Covered
- Why feeling “lost” is often an old identity, not your truth
- How the metaphor of rooms and corridors for life’s transitions can change the way you see these in-between periods
- How to resource yourself with resilience, openness, and creativity while transitioning, and
- Reframing uncertainty as a sacred invitation into becoming.
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Andrea Matthies (00:00):
I'm Andrea Lee Matthies, writer, photographer,
and Clairvoyant Medium, and thisis the Bold, Brave Woman Project.
This podcast is a living, breathing,unfolding of what it really
means to step into our becoming.
Born from the ashes of a failed YouTubechannel, this weekly podcast brings you
real unfiltered moments of failure, ofbravery, and of deep intuitive knowing,
(00:25):
so that you too can step into who you arebecoming with even more trust and bravery.
Let's dive in.
Welcome back to another episodeof the Bold, Brave Woman Project.
Today I wanna talk about that feelingof being lost because this has come up
(00:46):
quite a number of times for me over mylifetime, particularly when I'm trying
to do stuff that's outside of the boxor that's really bold or really brave,
You know, I spent a lot of my life ina corporate type world chasing a dream,
chasing a corporate ladder, and titlesand remuneration that I thought was
(01:09):
gonna give me value and give me status.
I'd always had a, a background ofneeding to fall back on something that
was true and real tangible success ofacademic success, of corporate success.
So I went into lots of different rolesin marketing and in sales and other
(01:29):
roles that really allowed me to solidifymyself and solidify an identity.
Even though, though at the time,for me it was a false identity, but
really solidify this identity of I canachieve, I can do, I am recognized,
I climbed all the way up to become a ChiefStrategy Officer that was consulting out
(01:50):
to lots of different organizations herein Australia and, that sense of corporate
climbing really gave me this need thatfulfilled this need of having something
tangible, something socially acceptableto feel like I had value in the world.
But it would feel very empty and avery transient, and then I'd fall
(02:12):
back into this feeling of lost.
This feeling of, I don't know where I am.
I don't know what my purpose in life is.
I dunno what it is that I'm hereto give back and to give forward
into the world What I'm doing feelsvery empty, feels very financially
focused, very revenue metric focusedthat had no soul value to it.
(02:39):
And so I'd fall into theseperiods of, I'm lost.
I don't know what I'm doing.
I don't know where I'm meant to be.
And then I'd kind of wade through that fora little while and find another shiny kind
of either metric or something that feltlike success, then I'd fixate on that.
And then I'd use that to giveme purpose and move through into
(03:02):
another chapter of my life whereI was striving for something.
But then again, inevitably I'd get to apoint where it wasn't fulfilling me in
the way that I needed it to fulfill me Andthat feeling of being lost would return.
And what I've come to realize over thecourse of my lifetime is that the more
that we want to push into having theseexternal validations of self or these
(03:28):
external attachments to needing somethingto show us or give us that feeling of
value, the more transient it is and themore likely we are to land back into
these patches of feeling lost again.
And I was recently sitting down and justjournaling and just exploring this concept
(03:50):
of lost and what it really means to me.
And what I've discovered isfor me, it feels like we are
moving between rooms, right?
You know, we're in a room that isour life that has certain criteria
or certain things that are goingon, and we've defined ourselves by
certain characteristics of this roomor this version of life that we're in.
(04:14):
And then we end up in these momentsof realizing this room or this version
of my life, or this version of myidentity, it doesn't serve me anymore.
It's not fulfilling me.
There's something that I've either addedto this room or I've built this space
around me to mean or to be, but it is notholding the same value that it once was.
(04:37):
And you end up in this, in this roomThat starts to feel too small or too
big, or not comfortable anymore to be in.
And then we move into what I'm callingcorridors, you know, we open a door out
of that room or out of that life, right,of that identity and we step into a
corridor and then we're in this space of,well, now I don't know what I'm doing.
(05:01):
It is very transient.
And when we are carrying a whole bunch ofold conditioning around what used to feel
safe, what used to feel like home likeme, that we've just closed the door on.
It can feel really unsettling,particularly if the door to the next
room or the next identity or thenext thing that we are meant to do
(05:22):
hasn't opened yet, or it hasn't evenmaterialized in front of us yet.
We're just walking downthis long corridor.
That is a big question mark.
This space of I know I need to work outwhat it is that I'm meant to be doing.
But I haven't quite defined it yet.
I haven't quite set what those newthings are for me to step into.
(05:44):
And so I'm in a liminal space ofWhere on earth is this leading to?
Where is here?
Who am I?
What, what is it thatI'm meant to be doing?
I know that I'm meant to be steppinginto this next version of me, this
next sourcing of bravery of courage.
the next chapter of my life,but I can't see it yet.
(06:08):
And one of the things that actually cameto light through working with a mentor,
and I was talking to her about thisfeeling of like, I just, I keep feeling
lost, like I'm always feeling lost.
And she pointed out to me through thisbeautiful work that we were doing together
I had created feeling lost as an identity.
It's almost like I've defined everysingle corridor or every single
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transitional period that I movethrough as being the lost period.
I'd become quite comfortablein becoming lost.
In being lost.
It was almost like, oh, I'm lost again.
Gonna put that hat back on.
It's like an outfit that Ihave, and I'm like, okay, right.
I'm here.
I'm lost again.
(06:52):
I'm gonna slip back into that reallycomfortable outfit, that really
comfortable identity, and I'm gonnawallow in that for a little bit
until I figure out the next move.
Now here's the thing.
We don't have to slip into thatold identity of being lost.
Because when I sat down and I had alook at my inventory as a human, as a
(07:15):
woman, in this moment, in this hallway,this corridor, this transitional period,
I had with me a whole bunch of stuff.
I had with me an arsenal of things.
I wasn't really and completely lost.
I was just in a transition.
But with me, I have resilience.
You know, I have this surplusof resilience, of bravery that
(07:40):
resides within me at all times.
That I can pull on, that I can pop onas a coat of armor as an outfit, or
simply just hang on to, in terms of anin energy of, yeah, I can get through any
corridor, I can get through any period.
The other thing that I had is myability to be open to new ideas and
(08:00):
new beliefs and new things, you know?
So while I'm in this transitional periodof walking through this corridor, it's
like, yeah, I have openness on my side.
It is a part of me that never leaves sothat I can allow any new idea, any new
possibility in, and that is expansive.
That is not contractive.
(08:21):
Like the feeling of lostcan often feel like.
Being open is expansive.
It is growth.
It is actually having a, energy fieldaround you that is receptive, that
is constantly searching and receivingand able to make something of a
simple idea, a simple energy thatpops into my proximity, that I can
(08:43):
grab hold of and make something with.
Someone who is trulylost, doesn't have that.
Someone who's truly lost is inwardfocused and contractive, but I know I
have this expansive energy around me.
I also realize that there's a perspectivethat I can take in terms of being
locked into a corporate nine to five,Monday to Friday, and being on this
(09:06):
journey of podcasting, of coaching,of being a mentor, of being expansive,
of being open to creating somethingnew rather than defining it as a
contractive period where I'm no longerattached to something secure in terms
of a financial status or a job title.
It's like, in this period I'mprofessionally single and available.
(09:29):
You know, I'm in my professionallyopen and expansive mode.
I am professionally creative.
I am professionally open totapping into what is here for me
as a bold and brave woman, andturning that into something else.
Letting go of the need of havingto have an identity, a professional
(09:50):
identity, and a title to give me value.
Because when you are a woman who is in hercreative power and you're a coach, you're
a mentor, you're an entrepreneur, allthese different labels and titles, they
are just that energetic labels and titles.
And we can change and define thathowever and whenever we want to.
(10:12):
And so looking at this is like I havethis arsenal of this energy, of this
availability, of this professionally,single, however you wanna define it.
It is actually power.
And when we step into that power,of course, power builds and
attracts other opportunity to us.
(10:34):
We become the frequencymatch of these things.
And so as I'm walking through thishallway into this next room, this
next chapter of my life, it's like,no, I'm not contracted and lost.
I'm actually expansive andI'm redefining what I have.
You know, I can look at the moneythat is coming in, or the money that
is in my savings account, the moneythat is funding all of this beautiful
(10:58):
creative work in this period of my life.
As having this ability to fundthis transition and trusting and
knowing that whatever comes next,will also be adequately funded.
Because I trust and believe in myselfenough and know that I have all of
this stuff available to me and withinme, I'm certainly not lost anymore.
(11:22):
And so just really looking at theseperiods with a certain different
framing, a more bold, brave, out thereframing, a more proactive framing.
It really helps us move throughthese different periods and these
different identities and parts ofour lives that are needed and have
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to happen for us to continue down thejourney that we are here to travel.
But rather than it becoming an oldpart of my life that I am mourning for.
We can start to reframe in our mind.
It's like, no, that was a room thatI was in, or that was a chapter that
I was in that I outgrew and I leftpurposefully with a reason because I
(12:04):
know there's something more that I'mmeant to be stepping into something
different, something expansive.
That next iteration of who I am, and rightnow I'm in the corridor and that can feel.
confining, it can feel restrictive,but actually it is this beautiful
transition period and there is a huge,infinite number of doors that are going
(12:28):
to be opening up either on either sideof me or at the end of this hallway
to step into this next chapter of me.
I'm going to resource myself witheverything that I have right now.
The reframing, the energy, my connectionto my source, my spirituality, my
soul, whatever it is that you areconnected to that is greater than
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you and however you define it.
If you call it God, if you callit source, if it's the universe,
You are so well resourced in thistransitional period in your life that
you can start to reframe this as, This isthe moment where I allow myself to just
sit with the possibility of what's next.
To allow myself to move down thiscorridor with trust and with the
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excitement building of like, oh mygoodness, what is the room that is next?
What is the infinite potential thatexists that I can start to create
through my mindset, through mydreaming, through my daydreaming?
Through sitting in this moment ofexploration of what's actually here,
what am I resourced with, what am Ithinking, what am I feeling, getting a
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journal out, writing it down, you know,if I could step into any room at the
end of this corridor, what would it be?
If I didn't have to think about financesand pressure and security, what would
I build for myself in this room?
How would I architect it?
How would I furnish it?
What would it look like?
What would the reason for this be?
And we can start to just allow ourselvesto be in our minds, in our dreaming,
(14:01):
in our exploration, to really tapinto what is it that I actually want.
Because, part of the reason we oftenfeel lost is because we haven't
really tapped into our full desireof what it is that we actually want.
What it is that we want for our lives,for our feeling of worth and success.
What does that look like?
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How do we resource thatfrom within ourselves?
And just sitting withthese moments, these.
These beautiful moments of possibilityto just explore and sometimes the
question can be hard to answer.
There's been so many times where I'vesat with my journal and I've written the
question out or written the statementof if I didn't have to worry about
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sourcing income, what is it that Iwould do right now in this moment?
Sometimes we can be blocked around that.
I've sat with pen in hand lingeringover my journal and being like,
what is it that I would do?
And part of the old conditioning wouldbe like, well, I'd create this online
course, or I'd do this coaching practice.
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It's like, no, scratch that.
If I didn't have to sell, if I didn'thave to show up and feel like I was doing
something inside the mainstream constructsof what it is to be a coach or what it
is to be a podcaster, if I can wipe theslate clean, what is it that I would do?
And in those moments where you feelblocked and you can't answer that
question, there's something evenmore magical happening there because
(15:29):
you can actually ask yourself thequestion of why are you blocked?
What are you really afraid of?
Why are you afraid ofanswering this question?
And actually digging into some layersthat sit underneath that around,
well, you know, if I answer thatquestion, I have to take action.
And if I have to takeaction, I could fail.
And there's a fear of failure here.
Or if I define what I really want and itrequires me to move out of the comfort of
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this safety that I have right now in mybody, and it feels scary and I step into
the unknown, it's revealing to us thatthere's a fear of unknown sitting there.
And so these corridor moments are sobeautiful for us to be able to just
sit with ourselves with pen and paperor meditation or whatever format it
is that really resonates with us.
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To explore what is it that I really wannado, and if I can excavate out some of this
old fear of having to take action and fearof failure, or having to step into the
unknown because I can't define what thedoor is that I'm meant to walk through.
I don't know which doorknob to put myhand on to turn the door to step into.
(16:37):
And.
Before I'm even willing to do that,I need to know what's on the other
side because I don't feel safe.
It gives us the opportunity to reallyexcavate what is sitting there, to clear
all of that so that we can actuallytap into and, and find what it is
that we really want to do and what wereally passionate about and what we
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really want to make our lives about.
I think for me, when I've dug into thisand started to clear some of that fear
of failure, that fear of not getting itright or the fear of the uncertainty, some
really simple things have started to dropinto what I am really passionate about.
And one of the things is thisfeeling of flying, this feeling
(17:21):
of freedom, of creative flow.
You know, I have an electric skateboard,I have a one wheel, and so I ride that
quite a lot now the same reason whyI had a number of motorbikes over the
years to get that feeling of flying.
I started my helicopter pilot's licenseagain to get this feeling of flying.
And so what is really being excavatedhere is not necessarily like, okay, you're
(17:43):
gonna be professional, helicopter pilot.
What I'm starting to excavate out are someof those things that are really important
and I'm passionate about, so that I canclear out what is sitting on the top of
it to get deeper into these feelings, toget deeper into my passion and my pleasure
and my desire so that when I'm ready toopen the door into the next room, I can
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bring through some of these threads andcreate some of the experiences and some of
the things in how I show up in the world,the things I talk about on the podcast,
the experiences that I create that reallyare, able to tap into this pleasure and
this passion and the things that I loveto do so that the next version of the life
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that I step into the next version of theidentity or the room and the space that I
transition into has more of these threadsof passion and pleasure and desire in them
So that I can know that no matterwhat it is that I'm doing, I'm really
being true to myself and tappinginto who I am So if you're ever in
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a moment where you're feeling lost,just know you're not lost at all.
It's just a transitional moment whereyou've stepped out of a room that you
were in, that you found safety in, thatperhaps was something familiar and old,
but you outgrew it and you're currently ina corridor where you can start to really
tap into what is it that I wanna do next?
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Where am I currently resourced?
What skills, what thingsdo I have with me?
Which ones are really important to methat I wanna carry into and use as a
basis to create in this next room, thisnext chapter that I'm gonna step into?
And start to source trust,knowing that the next room
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doesn't need to be controlled.
It doesn't need to be perfect.
And if it's not perfect, it's a failure.
allowing yourself to dropall of that pressure.
To just come back to yourself tounderstand what it is that you really
desire, even if it's just a word like Ihave at the moment around freedom flow.
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You know, just coming back to what itis that gives you pleasure so that in
this moment you can resource yourselfenough to let go of this identity and
this definition of being lost knowingthat there will always be another
transitional point down the line, thatnothing that you create in that next
room is permanent and set in stone isjust simply that next chapter of your
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expression, of your bravery, of thepower that you are here to really start
making into something creative, artistic,academic, corporate, whatever vibe it is
that makes sense for you, Ready for thatnext chapter, And please, please, please
make sure you reach out to me anytime.
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I just wanna celebrate you and thesebrave moves and these realizations
that you are having and help youremember just how incredible you are.
I'll see you in the next episode.
You're amazing, I love you.
and have a beautiful day.
As always, thank you for being here.
If this episode stirred something for youand you wanna book a channeled reading,
(21:05):
jump on the link in the show notes.
There's only a few channel readingsessions available each week.
And of course you can reachout to me anytime on my main
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or follow all of my art and photographyon my art feed @pathandnine on Instagram.
I'm Andrea Lee Matthies, writer, photographer,
and Clairvoyant Medium, and thisis the Bold, Brave Woman Project.
This podcast is a living, breathing,unfolding of what it really
means to step into our becoming.
Born from the ashes of a failed YouTubechannel, this weekly podcast brings you
real unfiltered moments of failure, ofbravery, and of deep intuitive knowing,
(00:25):
so that you too can step into who you arebecoming with even more trust and bravery.
Let's dive in.
Welcome back to another episodeof the Bold, Brave Woman Project.
Today I wanna talk about that feelingof being lost because this has come up
(00:46):
quite a number of times for me over mylifetime, particularly when I'm trying
to do stuff that's outside of the boxor that's really bold or really brave,
You know, I spent a lot of my life ina corporate type world chasing a dream,
chasing a corporate ladder, and titlesand remuneration that I thought was
(01:09):
gonna give me value and give me status.
I'd always had a, a background ofneeding to fall back on something that
was true and real tangible success ofacademic success, of corporate success.
So I went into lots of different rolesin marketing and in sales and other
(01:29):
roles that really allowed me to solidifymyself and solidify an identity.
Even though, though at the time,for me it was a false identity, but
really solidify this identity of I canachieve, I can do, I am recognized,
I climbed all the way up to become a ChiefStrategy Officer that was consulting out
(01:50):
to lots of different organizations herein Australia and, that sense of corporate
climbing really gave me this need thatfulfilled this need of having something
tangible, something socially acceptableto feel like I had value in the world.
But it would feel very empty and avery transient, and then I'd fall
(02:12):
back into this feeling of lost.
This feeling of, I don't know where I am.
I don't know what my purpose in life is.
I dunno what it is that I'm hereto give back and to give forward
into the world What I'm doing feelsvery empty, feels very financially
focused, very revenue metric focusedthat had no soul value to it.
(02:39):
And so I'd fall into theseperiods of, I'm lost.
I don't know what I'm doing.
I don't know where I'm meant to be.
And then I'd kind of wade through that fora little while and find another shiny kind
of either metric or something that feltlike success, then I'd fixate on that.
And then I'd use that to giveme purpose and move through into
(03:02):
another chapter of my life whereI was striving for something.
But then again, inevitably I'd get to apoint where it wasn't fulfilling me in
the way that I needed it to fulfill me Andthat feeling of being lost would return.
And what I've come to realize over thecourse of my lifetime is that the more
that we want to push into having theseexternal validations of self or these
(03:28):
external attachments to needing somethingto show us or give us that feeling of
value, the more transient it is and themore likely we are to land back into
these patches of feeling lost again.
And I was recently sitting down and justjournaling and just exploring this concept
(03:50):
of lost and what it really means to me.
And what I've discovered isfor me, it feels like we are
moving between rooms, right?
You know, we're in a room that isour life that has certain criteria
or certain things that are goingon, and we've defined ourselves by
certain characteristics of this roomor this version of life that we're in.
(04:14):
And then we end up in these momentsof realizing this room or this version
of my life, or this version of myidentity, it doesn't serve me anymore.
It's not fulfilling me.
There's something that I've either addedto this room or I've built this space
around me to mean or to be, but it is notholding the same value that it once was.
(04:37):
And you end up in this, in this roomThat starts to feel too small or too
big, or not comfortable anymore to be in.
And then we move into what I'm callingcorridors, you know, we open a door out
of that room or out of that life, right,of that identity and we step into a
corridor and then we're in this space of,well, now I don't know what I'm doing.
(05:01):
It is very transient.
And when we are carrying a whole bunch ofold conditioning around what used to feel
safe, what used to feel like home likeme, that we've just closed the door on.
It can feel really unsettling,particularly if the door to the next
room or the next identity or thenext thing that we are meant to do
(05:22):
hasn't opened yet, or it hasn't evenmaterialized in front of us yet.
We're just walking downthis long corridor.
That is a big question mark.
This space of I know I need to work outwhat it is that I'm meant to be doing.
But I haven't quite defined it yet.
I haven't quite set what those newthings are for me to step into.
(05:44):
And so I'm in a liminal space ofWhere on earth is this leading to?
Where is here?
Who am I?
What, what is it thatI'm meant to be doing?
I know that I'm meant to be steppinginto this next version of me, this
next sourcing of bravery of courage.
the next chapter of my life,but I can't see it yet.
(06:08):
And one of the things that actually cameto light through working with a mentor,
and I was talking to her about thisfeeling of like, I just, I keep feeling
lost, like I'm always feeling lost.
And she pointed out to me through thisbeautiful work that we were doing together
I had created feeling lost as an identity.
It's almost like I've defined everysingle corridor or every single
(06:31):
transitional period that I movethrough as being the lost period.
I'd become quite comfortablein becoming lost.
In being lost.
It was almost like, oh, I'm lost again.
Gonna put that hat back on.
It's like an outfit that Ihave, and I'm like, okay, right.
I'm here.
I'm lost again.
(06:52):
I'm gonna slip back into that reallycomfortable outfit, that really
comfortable identity, and I'm gonnawallow in that for a little bit
until I figure out the next move.
Now here's the thing.
We don't have to slip into thatold identity of being lost.
Because when I sat down and I had alook at my inventory as a human, as a
(07:15):
woman, in this moment, in this hallway,this corridor, this transitional period,
I had with me a whole bunch of stuff.
I had with me an arsenal of things.
I wasn't really and completely lost.
I was just in a transition.
But with me, I have resilience.
You know, I have this surplusof resilience, of bravery that
(07:40):
resides within me at all times.
That I can pull on, that I can pop onas a coat of armor as an outfit, or
simply just hang on to, in terms of anin energy of, yeah, I can get through any
corridor, I can get through any period.
The other thing that I had is myability to be open to new ideas and
(08:00):
new beliefs and new things, you know?
So while I'm in this transitional periodof walking through this corridor, it's
like, yeah, I have openness on my side.
It is a part of me that never leaves sothat I can allow any new idea, any new
possibility in, and that is expansive.
That is not contractive.
(08:21):
Like the feeling of lostcan often feel like.
Being open is expansive.
It is growth.
It is actually having a, energy fieldaround you that is receptive, that
is constantly searching and receivingand able to make something of a
simple idea, a simple energy thatpops into my proximity, that I can
(08:43):
grab hold of and make something with.
Someone who is trulylost, doesn't have that.
Someone who's truly lost is inwardfocused and contractive, but I know I
have this expansive energy around me.
I also realize that there's a perspectivethat I can take in terms of being
locked into a corporate nine to five,Monday to Friday, and being on this
(09:06):
journey of podcasting, of coaching,of being a mentor, of being expansive,
of being open to creating somethingnew rather than defining it as a
contractive period where I'm no longerattached to something secure in terms
of a financial status or a job title.
It's like, in this period I'mprofessionally single and available.
(09:29):
You know, I'm in my professionallyopen and expansive mode.
I am professionally creative.
I am professionally open totapping into what is here for me
as a bold and brave woman, andturning that into something else.
Letting go of the need of havingto have an identity, a professional
(09:50):
identity, and a title to give me value.
Because when you are a woman who is in hercreative power and you're a coach, you're
a mentor, you're an entrepreneur, allthese different labels and titles, they
are just that energetic labels and titles.
And we can change and define thathowever and whenever we want to.
(10:12):
And so looking at this is like I havethis arsenal of this energy, of this
availability, of this professionally,single, however you wanna define it.
It is actually power.
And when we step into that power,of course, power builds and
attracts other opportunity to us.
(10:34):
We become the frequencymatch of these things.
And so as I'm walking through thishallway into this next room, this
next chapter of my life, it's like,no, I'm not contracted and lost.
I'm actually expansive andI'm redefining what I have.
You know, I can look at the moneythat is coming in, or the money that
is in my savings account, the moneythat is funding all of this beautiful
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creative work in this period of my life.
As having this ability to fundthis transition and trusting and
knowing that whatever comes next,will also be adequately funded.
Because I trust and believe in myselfenough and know that I have all of
this stuff available to me and withinme, I'm certainly not lost anymore.
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And so just really looking at theseperiods with a certain different
framing, a more bold, brave, out thereframing, a more proactive framing.
It really helps us move throughthese different periods and these
different identities and parts ofour lives that are needed and have
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to happen for us to continue down thejourney that we are here to travel.
But rather than it becoming an oldpart of my life that I am mourning for.
We can start to reframe in our mind.
It's like, no, that was a room thatI was in, or that was a chapter that
I was in that I outgrew and I leftpurposefully with a reason because I
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know there's something more that I'mmeant to be stepping into something
different, something expansive.
That next iteration of who I am, and rightnow I'm in the corridor and that can feel.
confining, it can feel restrictive,but actually it is this beautiful
transition period and there is a huge,infinite number of doors that are going
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to be opening up either on either sideof me or at the end of this hallway
to step into this next chapter of me.
I'm going to resource myself witheverything that I have right now.
The reframing, the energy, my connectionto my source, my spirituality, my
soul, whatever it is that you areconnected to that is greater than
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you and however you define it.
If you call it God, if you callit source, if it's the universe,
You are so well resourced in thistransitional period in your life that
you can start to reframe this as, This isthe moment where I allow myself to just
sit with the possibility of what's next.
To allow myself to move down thiscorridor with trust and with the
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excitement building of like, oh mygoodness, what is the room that is next?
What is the infinite potential thatexists that I can start to create
through my mindset, through mydreaming, through my daydreaming?
Through sitting in this moment ofexploration of what's actually here,
what am I resourced with, what am Ithinking, what am I feeling, getting a
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journal out, writing it down, you know,if I could step into any room at the
end of this corridor, what would it be?
If I didn't have to think about financesand pressure and security, what would
I build for myself in this room?
How would I architect it?
How would I furnish it?
What would it look like?
What would the reason for this be?
And we can start to just allow ourselvesto be in our minds, in our dreaming,
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in our exploration, to really tapinto what is it that I actually want.
Because, part of the reason we oftenfeel lost is because we haven't
really tapped into our full desireof what it is that we actually want.
What it is that we want for our lives,for our feeling of worth and success.
What does that look like?
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How do we resource thatfrom within ourselves?
And just sitting withthese moments, these.
These beautiful moments of possibilityto just explore and sometimes the
question can be hard to answer.
There's been so many times where I'vesat with my journal and I've written the
question out or written the statementof if I didn't have to worry about
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sourcing income, what is it that Iwould do right now in this moment?
Sometimes we can be blocked around that.
I've sat with pen in hand lingeringover my journal and being like,
what is it that I would do?
And part of the old conditioning wouldbe like, well, I'd create this online
course, or I'd do this coaching practice.
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It's like, no, scratch that.
If I didn't have to sell, if I didn'thave to show up and feel like I was doing
something inside the mainstream constructsof what it is to be a coach or what it
is to be a podcaster, if I can wipe theslate clean, what is it that I would do?
And in those moments where you feelblocked and you can't answer that
question, there's something evenmore magical happening there because
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you can actually ask yourself thequestion of why are you blocked?
What are you really afraid of?
Why are you afraid ofanswering this question?
And actually digging into some layersthat sit underneath that around,
well, you know, if I answer thatquestion, I have to take action.
And if I have to takeaction, I could fail.
And there's a fear of failure here.
Or if I define what I really want and itrequires me to move out of the comfort of
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this safety that I have right now in mybody, and it feels scary and I step into
the unknown, it's revealing to us thatthere's a fear of unknown sitting there.
And so these corridor moments are sobeautiful for us to be able to just
sit with ourselves with pen and paperor meditation or whatever format it
is that really resonates with us.
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To explore what is it that I really wannado, and if I can excavate out some of this
old fear of having to take action and fearof failure, or having to step into the
unknown because I can't define what thedoor is that I'm meant to walk through.
I don't know which doorknob to put myhand on to turn the door to step into.
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And.
Before I'm even willing to do that,I need to know what's on the other
side because I don't feel safe.
It gives us the opportunity to reallyexcavate what is sitting there, to clear
all of that so that we can actuallytap into and, and find what it is
that we really want to do and what wereally passionate about and what we
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really want to make our lives about.
I think for me, when I've dug into thisand started to clear some of that fear
of failure, that fear of not getting itright or the fear of the uncertainty, some
really simple things have started to dropinto what I am really passionate about.
And one of the things is thisfeeling of flying, this feeling
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of freedom, of creative flow.
You know, I have an electric skateboard,I have a one wheel, and so I ride that
quite a lot now the same reason whyI had a number of motorbikes over the
years to get that feeling of flying.
I started my helicopter pilot's licenseagain to get this feeling of flying.
And so what is really being excavatedhere is not necessarily like, okay, you're
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gonna be professional, helicopter pilot.
What I'm starting to excavate out are someof those things that are really important
and I'm passionate about, so that I canclear out what is sitting on the top of
it to get deeper into these feelings, toget deeper into my passion and my pleasure
and my desire so that when I'm ready toopen the door into the next room, I can
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bring through some of these threads andcreate some of the experiences and some of
the things in how I show up in the world,the things I talk about on the podcast,
the experiences that I create that reallyare, able to tap into this pleasure and
this passion and the things that I loveto do so that the next version of the life
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that I step into the next version of theidentity or the room and the space that I
transition into has more of these threadsof passion and pleasure and desire in them
So that I can know that no matterwhat it is that I'm doing, I'm really
being true to myself and tappinginto who I am So if you're ever in
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a moment where you're feeling lost,just know you're not lost at all.
It's just a transitional moment whereyou've stepped out of a room that you
were in, that you found safety in, thatperhaps was something familiar and old,
but you outgrew it and you're currently ina corridor where you can start to really
tap into what is it that I wanna do next?
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Where am I currently resourced?
What skills, what thingsdo I have with me?
Which ones are really important to methat I wanna carry into and use as a
basis to create in this next room, thisnext chapter that I'm gonna step into?
And start to source trust,knowing that the next room
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doesn't need to be controlled.
It doesn't need to be perfect.
And if it's not perfect, it's a failure.
allowing yourself to dropall of that pressure.
To just come back to yourself tounderstand what it is that you really
desire, even if it's just a word like Ihave at the moment around freedom flow.
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You know, just coming back to what itis that gives you pleasure so that in
this moment you can resource yourselfenough to let go of this identity and
this definition of being lost knowingthat there will always be another
transitional point down the line, thatnothing that you create in that next
room is permanent and set in stone isjust simply that next chapter of your
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expression, of your bravery, of thepower that you are here to really start
making into something creative, artistic,academic, corporate, whatever vibe it is
that makes sense for you, Ready for thatnext chapter, And please, please, please
make sure you reach out to me anytime.
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I just wanna celebrate you and thesebrave moves and these realizations
that you are having and help youremember just how incredible you are.
I'll see you in the next episode.
You're amazing, I love you.
and have a beautiful day.
As always, thank you for being here.
If this episode stirred something for youand you wanna book a channeled reading,
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jump on the link in the show notes.
There's only a few channel readingsessions available each week.
And of course you can reachout to me anytime on my main
Instagram handle @andi.matthies,
or follow all of my art and photographyon my art feed @pathandnine on Instagram.
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