In this heartfelt and reflective episode, Ali and Kara explore what it means to see God’s hand in the small, ordinary changes of life and to understand His love through both growth and grief. Kara begins by reflecting on her experience nannying babies and realizing how visibly they change in just a few months. She parallels this with how God views our growth—patiently, lovingly, and proudly, even when we can’t see our own progress.
Ali then expands the conversation to how we judge ourselves harshly while God sees us as learning children. She reminds listeners that “it’s all our first time living,” and encourages grace and gentleness with ourselves and others.
The second half dives into a deeper theological and emotional reflection. Ali wrestles with the question, “Why do good things happen to bad people?”—arriving at the idea that “their treasures are not in heaven.” Together, the sisters discuss how faith redefines what “good things” truly are and how focusing on eternal treasures brings peace during life’s inequities.
The episode concludes with a moving reflection on God’s constancy. Kara uses a FaceTime analogy to describe how God’s “signal” is always strong, even when we move in and out of range. Ali connects this to her own experience of loss, likening scripture to rereading loving text messages from her late father—proof that love remains even when presence is unseen. They close by reminding listeners that while we change constantly, God never does.
Key Themes & Takeaways
Growth Is Sacred and Gradual– Like babies learning to crawl, our spiritual and emotional growth takes time. God celebrates every small milestone.
Grace for Ourselves– “It’s all our first time living.” We deserve patience and compassion, just as God gives it to us.
Perspective on “Good” and “Bad”– What seems unfair on earth makes sense when we remember that our treasures—and true joy—are in heaven.
God’s Steady Connection– When we feel disconnected from Him, it’s often our signal that’s weak, not His. He remains constant and patient.
Scripture as Love Letters– The Bible is like a divine “text thread” reminding us of His unchanging love, especially when we doubt it.
Faith Through Grief– Loss and longing can become mirrors reflecting God’s eternal constancy and compassion.
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