April 22, 2025 • 53 mins
Tara Bielawski is a medium and today’s conversation is not so much about starting a business and more so about perspective, her gift and her journey to mediumship.
Losing my dad was the hardest thing I’ve ever been through, and it’s what led me to start this podcast. Conversations like this, whether you believe in mediumship or not, are part of my journey of asking bigger questions about life, connection, and what really matters.
Back in December of last year, I was invited to attend a group medium session. I’m pretty open to at least experiencing things once before I knock them, but I won’t lie - while I was curious, I was also very, very skeptical.
In my thoughts, I said - “Dad, this is your opportunity to prove to me there’s something else.”
And, my mind was blown when Tara started telling me about specific memories with details that have never been written or talked about outside of our family.
They weren’t vague details… not like how a horoscope can be bent to apply to anyone’s life.
And, there wasn’t just one memory, but several.
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Speaker 1 (00:07):
Welcome to how I Built my Small Business.
I'm Anne McIntee.
Your host and today's guest isTara Bielowski.
Tara is a medium and today'sconversation is not so much
about starting a business andmore so about perspective, her
gift and her journey tomediumship.
Losing my dad was the hardestthing I've ever been through and
(00:32):
it's what led me to start thispodcast.
Conversations like this,whether you believe in
mediumship or not, are part ofmy journey of asking bigger
questions about life connectionand what really matters.
Back in December of last year, Iwas invited to attend a group
medium session with Tara.
I'm pretty open to at leastexperiencing things once before
(00:57):
I knock them, but I won't lie.
While I was curious, I was alsovery, very skeptical In my
thoughts.
I said, dad, this is youropportunity to prove to me
there's something else, and mymind was blown when Tara started
telling me about specificmemories with details that have
(01:20):
never been written or talkedabout outside of our family.
They weren't vague details, notlike how a horoscope can be
bent to apply to anyone's life,and there wasn't just one memory
but several, and it was thespecific details that really
made me wonder.
You can find links to connectwith her in the show notes.
(01:43):
You can find links to connectwith her in the show notes.
Tara, thank you so much forcoming on and chatting with me
today.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
Oh, I'm so excited, so so excited.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
When did you know that you had this gift?
Speaker 2 (02:03):
Probably around the age of nine.
I feel that that was after mymother passed away.
Around that time, when I turnednine, that's when things
started shifting and you know,when you're young you don't
understand what it is.
So I kind of just ignored itand the people around me thought
that I had a million imaginaryfriends, because I would always
say things like Bob is in myroom and he misses his wife, and
you know, just information likethat.
(02:24):
But back then we didn't knowwhat that was.
So my family just assumed thatit meant that I just had a lot
of imaginary friends.
But as the years went on, thenthat was revealed that that
wasn't the case.
But that's what it started likefor me.
So about the age of nine iswhen I started feeling a lot of
sensitivity around me.
But I think I was born with it,but I think around that age.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
How did that lead into the rest of your childhood?
Speaker 2 (02:49):
I think for a lot of my childhood I had a really
rough background.
If I really go into mychildhood, I had a lot of trauma
as a child and it wasn't reallyraised in necessarily a
supportive environment to reallyfacilitate me to kind of step
into that power.
I was in a survival mode as achild, like that was my
childhood, so that kind of sortof went on the back burner for
me, you know, and I didn'treally express any of that and I
(03:11):
held that in for a really longtime and that didn't come out
again until I was more into mytwenties.
And then I would say that'sabout when it started coming out
again and I was in my ownenergy, my own freedom.
I think that's when it allstarted coming back out for me.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
And when did you realize that this was real and
it was not just imagination orcoincidence?
How did you know?
Speaker 2 (03:37):
So I had kind of an awakening within myself.
I knew there was something, butI didn't understand that it was
called mediumship.
So for most of my life I justthought I was quirky or I had
like a thing, but I didn'treally know what the name or
what it was to really label it.
But I would just look at peopleand just get information and
not understand where it wascoming from and I really thought
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it was kind of crazy.
So I never said anything.
But finally I had a really bigrevelation.
My father-in-law transitioned.
He passed through suicide andwhen he passed everyone kind of
knew in the family that I hadthis kind of gift, but no one
knew what it was called.
When he passed I had heard thathe had visited someone else in
a dream and when I heard that Iwas really hurt because I felt
(04:20):
as though he would come to me,because he knew I had something
that maybe I could deliver amessage to the rest of the
family.
And I remember being reallyhurt, first of all because I
hadn't had full closure with him.
So everyone else had kind ofhad their full closure letters
written.
I didn't really have that.
So for me it was like I wasdealing with a lot of that
(04:41):
grieving process and a couple ofnights later, his wife was in
my room and she was staying withus my mother-in-law and like
she was sleeping over.
And that night I had a dream andthis is what changed everything
for me.
Obviously, I was sleeping and Iremember looking down and
seeing my body below me and Iremember thinking that I had
died.
And I remember freaking outsaying I have died, I've died, I
(05:03):
died, and that's all I couldkeep thinking.
And I remember coming up out ofmy body hearing this vibration
of like like I can't describewhat I was hearing, but it was
like these sounds and I rememberseeing my body below and all I
kept saying was I died, I died,I didn't do everything I was
supposed to do.
Oh my gosh, what happened.
And a few seconds later I wasfloating through the sky and I
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opened my eyes and I was in thisJapanese beautiful Zen garden
and I was like where am I?
First of all, and then I keptfreaking out that I had.
I was like I died.
This is where my heaven is.
This I died.
And I remember just lookingdown at my hands I could see him
as as as I'm looking at themnow, and I remember feeling a
sense of panic first of all, anda few seconds later I felt a
(05:51):
touch on my shoulder and Iturned around and it was my
father-in-law.
Mind you, if you talk to a lotof people that have had these
experiences, they will tell youthat when we speak at this place
or wherever we go, it's allthrough telepathy.
It's not through actual words.
So I wasn't moving my mouth,but we were having a
conversation, it was throughthought, and he told me that he
loved me and he looked amazing,so healthy, and he had said I
(06:13):
love you like a daughter.
You need to know that.
And I said oh my God, you cameto me like this means so much,
and he goes.
But I brought you here for areason and I said why?
And he said because you need toknow it's all real, it's all
been real your whole life.
This has all been real and Iwas only allowed to bring you
here to make you understand howreal this is.
And you do have a gift.
(06:34):
You have a gift, you have agift.
And he kept repeating it.
And then, a few seconds later, Iasked again, because this is
all I was concerned about.
I said did I die?
He laughed and he said no, youdidn't die, you did not die.
I was allowed to bring you here.
And I said, oh, and all of asudden, this sense of peace hit
(06:54):
me where I cannot describe.
I've never felt anything likethat on this earth and I started
to feel so comfortable and Ireally just kind of was falling
into wanting to stay in thisenvironment.
I was like, wow, this isamazing.
This feels great.
I want to stay here.
And he said, no, you have to go.
And I said, oh, can I see mymom?
So, to preface this, my mompassed when I was nine, so that
(07:17):
was obviously who I reallywanted to see.
And he said, oh, not yet, it'snot your time to see her.
I said okay.
He said you're going to have togo now.
It was a big deal that you camehere, but you need to know it's
real and you have a gift and goback, go back, go back to her,
go go.
And I said, all right, I loveyou.
And then shoved back into mybody the frequency change back
(07:40):
in.
I woke up crying and mymother-in-law also woke up not
much after this, and she hadsaid that she was starting to
have a dream and I said really,what was in your dream?
And she goes all I know isthere was trees and it looked
like a Zen garden and that wasit.
That was all the confirmation Ineeded to understand.
First of all, I already knewthat it was real because the way
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I woke up crying, but the factthat, before I said those words
of anything, she was starting totell me about her experience
and I was like he did that sothat I would understand how real
this truly was.
From that day on, I knew thatthis was real and there was
nothing anybody in the entireworld can ever tell me to change
that experience.
I needed to feel and understandon a level that was full trust
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and that allowed me tounderstand that there was
something and that I needed totrust it and just believe in it,
whatever it was.
So that was a life-changingexperience for me.
That was it.
So.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
I've had some of those throughout my life, not
anything near as impactful, butmoments of wonder where my
grandfather, who lived with me,showed up in a dream as well.
But as I reached out to him andwas already crying because I
remembered in my dream that hehad died, he would just vanish
and disappear.
But he'd be waving through awindow or seeing my dad's face
(09:01):
and him trying to share someinformation with me, like the
first five days after he died.
He said there's so much youdon't know.
I mean, he looked like he wasecstatic to be dead.
Yes, and it was one of thosedreams that I I woke up from
shocked and felt, just likeyou're saying, this overwhelming
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feeling of peace.
Like every single time I haveone of these magical moments,
the skeptic in me was like no,it's just a dream.
But then the other part of meis like what, if, what, if?
Yeah, what do you think happenswhen we die?
Speaker 2 (09:37):
Gosh, so interesting.
I feel like I'm going to bereal.
I'm going to tell you what Ifeel and what I know and what
I've heard from spirit, and thisis purely from them.
But I don't think any of us whoare truly here fully know until
we get there which I'm finewith not knowing why.
And I just want to hit back onyou talking about the skeptic in
you.
I would say any medium youreally meet that practices and
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serve spirit in the way thatthey do on an integrity basis,
is going to be somewhat of askeptic themselves.
I think we go through that,especially in the beginning of
our journeys, with being thatskeptic.
We want a certain amount ofevidence, we want a certain
amount of proof that all this isreal.
We need that validation in thebeginning.
You know so the skepticism is ahealthy thing and I think you
(10:18):
know that's part of the process.
But back to where you weresaying about what I believe
happens.
I feel as though I feel thatwhen we transition, we are no
longer trapped by our body andour limitations that are here on
this physical earth.
I feel that one thing I'veexperienced with from the other
side is, say, someone comesthrough.
(10:38):
I've had people who were maybewheelchair bound or unable to be
mobile, and now they're tellingme they're walking or I'm
seeing them, images of themwalking, and for me to tell
their family and to express thisI don't have pain anymore.
I don't feel it's because wedon't have that limitation of
our body.
So I feel like, first of all,when we transition, there's a
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level of peace that happens thatwe cannot fully understand
being on this physical earth,and when we get there, it's the
pure euphoria of just peace.
And then I feel what alsohappens is the reuniting with
our loved ones.
I believe that we reunite witheveryone and I believe anyone
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we've made a connection withwe're reuniting and we're just
all meeting together like a bigreunion, just like we would here
if we haven't seen our familyfor a long time.
You're going to go see themfirst.
That's your first.
I want to see my family.
I'm pretty sure that's exactlywhat happens when we transition.
We see our family, those thatare there first.
They greet us as we'retransitioning and then I believe
, the peace happens, and thenwhat I've heard is there's also
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a lot of work that we do upthere what I hear from spirit.
I say they're people becausethey are.
They're just souls that don'thave a physical body anymore.
So I consider that when I'mtalking to them as if they're
people and they're telling metheir experience, and what I've
kind of heard is that they'vedone a lot of learning.
On the other side, a lot of themwill say I didn't understand
all of that and now I see thebigger picture.
(12:03):
Now I understand what so-and-sohas been through.
Now I understand about notjudging.
There's a lot of just, I think,learning.
That happens in growth.
And I also feel, if there wassomething you loved in the
physical flying airplanes let'ssay you love to fly airplanes
I've heard them say they'redoing the same thing over there.
I don't know how, I don't knowhow it works, but I know that
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they're over there doing similarthings that we're doing here,
just without limitations, and sothat's the best way I can
explain, when we transition,what at least I believe, or what
I've been told from them in myexperiences, and I feel as
though it's just another levelup.
It's just we lose that physicalbody and we're able to do all
those things that maybe wecouldn't do here.
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Or maybe someone had a restlessspirit and never felt peace
here.
Maybe they were depressed,maybe they were struggling and
when they got there they don'thave that anymore.
All the weights of the world,all the anger, all the things we
feel as part of the humanexperience leaves us, and we
know of forgiveness and purelove.
That's all we know, and that'sthe biggest thing I hear is some
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people come through with well,how can you forgive?
I don't know, but there'ssomething that happens over
there where you can forgiveanything and it's just pure love
.
I don't know.
I don't know the answer.
Pure love, it's pure love.
That's just what it is.
It's for all creation.
Speaker 1 (13:29):
Yeah, it's like you're saying how could we
possibly know?
I mean, nobody can prove ordisprove any of this, and so
until we're there ourselves, wecan't know the answer.
We don't know, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
I am never going to be like.
Well, your experience is wrong.
Who's to say I know?
All I know is what I'veexperienced and what I've been
told and what other people havebeen told.
But I don't think any of uswill fully know.
But that's part of the humanexperience.
I don't think we're meant toknow.
I feel as though we're meant tolive our life in search of our
(14:03):
own faith and passion.
You know it's part of the humanexperience.
So I feel like us knowingeverything.
Would it make this experiencefun?
Speaker 1 (14:13):
And it does feel like the switch has been turned off,
because it's kind of thisquestion that the wisest, most
intelligent people who haveexisted on earth have pondered,
this question of what happenswhen we die and nobody can tell
you.
So when you had that dream withyour father-in-law, when did
you actually start getting yourfirst client?
Speaker 2 (14:34):
So after that I was working at a grocery store and I
was a manager and at thatmoment I said I'm going to start
just telling people what I'mfeeling.
So at work, I just startedapproaching people that I wasn't
even necessarily super close toor knew their personal life and
I started just reading them andpeople were like what the heck?
Like validating everything Iwas saying.
(14:54):
And I was like I'm not crazy,Like this is real.
And then I think the bigexperience was there was two but
my friend invited me to afestival and she told me to
bring my tarot cards, which Iwas into, and to do readings.
And I was like, all right,we'll see, I'll just do this for
fun.
You know donation base.
And this was the changing.
I did not use the cards oncethat entire weekend.
(15:17):
I got there and people startedcoming in and I just started
reading them and I was like Idon't need these cards and then
I'd start picking up on theirgrandparents, their loved ones,
and then they all startedvalidating the entire weekend.
I must have read like probably40 to 50 people that weekend and
every single person validatedwhat I had said.
And I said, okay, this issomething more, this is
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something else and I had had areally, really good friend of
mine, one of my best friends.
He transitioned and me and hissister got really close after
his transition and she told methat her mom had seen a medium.
And I said, oh well, that'scool, she goes, I think you're a
medium.
And I went oh, what is that?
She's like oh, so you know,when you talk to people on the
(16:01):
other side, that's what you justsaid you're doing, that's a
medium.
And I was like, oh, she goes,well, you should meet with my
mom and do a reading for her andlet her tell you what she
experiences from that.
And I said, okay, so I read forhis mom and his mom was like,
(16:24):
wow, a lot of what you said iswhat that medium told me.
And I said, really, and she was, yeah, well, I think you should
connect with her.
And I said, oh yeah, I wantguidance, I want help, I don't
know where to go.
And she said you should reachout to her.
So I reached out to the medium,who had her own kind of
following.
She'd been doing this for like20 years, has been practicing
medium, had her own page, whichshe gave created on Facebook
(16:48):
that gave back to people and ithelped mediums who were
beginning, which she still hasto go on and practice and give
back to people all over theworld and it's just to be a safe
space for people to develop.
And I went to her page and atthis time she was doing kind of
like an internship.
She was teaching, she wastaking people on mentees and I
(17:10):
applied, you know, and I asked,and you know I was chosen to go
in and there was like 15 of uswho had never done mediumship,
really like, really, reallypracticed, and she fine-tuned
with all of us and it was thefirst thing in my life and that
felt natural.
Does that make sense?
Like yeah, I didn't have towork at it, it just flowed, Like
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everything was happening.
And then I just started readingthe whole group, all the people
.
I was very confident, I was anatural, I definitely was
natural.
And then after that she wastaking on people to do private
training with.
So I private trained for aboutthree months until she said
you've grown the nest, you needto go, and she set me free and
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after that I just startedoffering readings full time and
her clients started to come tome that I had kind of read in
between and they gave me a lotof support as well as other
people that I had read on that,Like I said, that platform.
I had read from people in India, the UK, all over all these
people, a lot of people who hadlost their children, but
specifically all over the world.
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And that's kind of when Istarted but I never fully
committed until recently, Ithink.
I was always one foot in andone foot out, so I still stayed
in the grocery world.
I still stayed in, like workingin the service industry and
doing this on the side, andthat's really hard to do.
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I feel like with this type ofwork, it's best when you're all
in.
I feel like with this type ofwork, it's best when you're all
in.
So I feel like I'm probablythis is maybe my first year
really, maybe two years, maybe ayear and a half being all in
and doing this full time and itchanged everything and it's
grown so rapidly and I feel likea lot of that is, you know,
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having the right support systemis a big part of that too and
you know, and if you're with apartner, having that right
partner who will support you andreally, really believe in what
you're doing.
And I met the love of my lifeand the love of my life said hey
, you are too good to be workingat a store and doing this
because you're not fulfillingwhat your purpose is here.
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And I didn't have theconfidence, because I didn't
believe in myself, to know thatit could get to the level that
it was, and I had a lot of fearabout that.
And I was lucky enough to havea partner who said no, do this
Like.
I believe in you, you need todo this.
And once that happened, I meanit was within like six months
just boom, boom, boom, boom,boom, just grew.
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And now I'm doing better than Iwould have ever done at
something else and it's just,it's.
I mean it's taken off liketenfold.
Now I'm doing events likepretty much every week and
private readings, and it's just.
It's just, it's crazy.
It went from zero to 60.
But I also think when you'remeant to do something, I think
you believe in this your solepurpose, whatever you're being
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called to do, when it'ssomething that's right, it flows
very easily and the universemakes everything just fall into
place and there's this flow thathappens and this abundance that
happens, because I feel asthough when you're meant to be
doing what you're supposed to bedoing, abundance comes to you
and it's also doing it for theright reasons.
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Right, I feel like I do thiswork to help people and the
universe goes oh, you want tohelp people?
All right, let's just keepthrowing people at you, because
we know what you're doing is forthe greater good.
So I feel like that has a lotto do with.
It is just being in the rightplace and doing your soul's
purpose.
Speaker 1 (20:43):
So how do you practice your skill?
How do you train and develop itso that it gets better?
Speaker 2 (20:48):
So I think a lot of that is, first of all, trust is
the number one thing a mediumneeds to learn, and it's a trust
within themselves, but morethan anything, it's the trust
that you have for spirit andmeaning that you're trusting the
information or whatever they'regiving you and really believing
that on a full level.
I feel like it really does helpwhen you're starting off medium
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.
I mean, a lot of it is just youlearn on your own.
I'm not going to even I meanyou, just it's a natural thing.
But I do believe you can meetthe right people.
And training is really, really,really important, because I felt
that the training that I gotwith my mentor took me to a huge
, different level of trust.
I mean, I don't even know howto explain this to people, but
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we would do a reading.
I would be reading somebody andshe's experiencing exactly what
I'm experiencing at the sametime the same words, the same
objects that are being shown.
Can you explain that to me?
That's not something that canbe, that's real ability, and
we're both picking up on thisfrequency at the same time.
That is the best trainingyou're going to get, because
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someone's fully experiencingthat with you and can guide you,
and so she really guided meinto trust and listening and I
really believe that that's whyI'm where I'm at, because that
was a big thing I was missingfor a long time.
And I also think a big part ofpracticing is just doing it.
It's just going in cold turkey,you don't know who you're going
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to read, I don't want to knowyour name, I don't know where
you're from, and you just makeme do it and you say Tara, show
up, read 50 people.
I'm like I trust spirit, Itrust them, they're in charge.
So I just got to go in and havefull trust in them and it
doesn't matter about me, itdoesn't matter about any of that
.
That needs to be put aside andI just need to trust and that's
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that's the hardest part, butalso the most powerful part of
mediumship.
Speaker 1 (22:41):
So can you explain, like, when there's a group of 10
, 20, 50 people, how do youreceive these messages to the
best ability that you candescribe it to someone who
doesn't?
Speaker 2 (22:53):
So everyone's different.
I feel like every medium orevery person who receives
messages receives them indifferent ways, but we have lots
of different ways of kind ofgetting them.
I get them in a lot ofdifferent ways.
So, auditory, I'm more of ahearer, and it's more like I'll
hear and it'll feel like athought, it's more like
telepathy.
I'll feel like a thought isbeing put into my head, right,
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or a word will be putting intomy head.
For instance, one I hadrecently was Disneyland and I
kept hearing Disneyland,disneyland, disneyland,
disneyland in my head and I justsaid well, I don't know how
this applies, but they're justgoing on about Disneyland and
I'm supposed to talk aboutDisneyland.
Well, they had just went toDisneyland, like three days ago,
to celebrate and they weren't,they didn't live in Southern
California.
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So I mean, that just shows youto trust, right.
So that was an auditory.
And then there's also feelings.
You may feel something insideof your body.
So for me, sometimes if someonetransitioned a certain way so
say, they passed through a heartproblem I may feel a tightness
inside of my chest.
If they had smoking orsomething with the lungs, I may
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feel a tightness in my throatand that's a symbol for me oh,
there was an issue with mythroat, there was an issue with
my chest.
Me oh, there was an issue withmy throat, there was an issue
with my chest.
So spirits using all of thesesimultaneously to get their
message across.
So that also happens as well.
As images like think of like alittle film reel, and you know
how you it's not always likeperfectly clear, but you'll get
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one, and then you'll get another, and then you'll get another.
So that also happens to mewhere I get images that flash in
front of my face and it's justreal quick, real quick images,
and I can also see sometimeswhat they look like.
Another big part for me is justfeeling like I can feel their
personality.
I don't know how to describe it, but I can just feel their
energy, who they are, whatthey're about.
It's a sense of just knowing,like I just know.
(24:38):
I don't know how I know it, butI know it and I use that as
well.
So it's kind of a mixture of alot of them.
The one that I don't use asoften but does sometimes happen
is I don't know the right word,but it's when you smell, when
you can smell, some mediums canbe strong where they'll be.
Like I smell cigar smoke or Ismell a certain perfume, I get
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that, but for me it's rare aswell, as people think that
mediumship's only limited topeople, but it's not.
It's actually animals as well.
So animals come through for meas well, all animals, and it's
the same way that a person'scommunicating the signs and the
symbols, all the same auditorytelepathy, all of it, same same
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so yeah.
Speaker 1 (25:22):
So when you're receiving these messages, how do
you distinguish between thembeing intuition or your own
personal mental chatter versusmessages from the other side
Like how do you filter all ofthat?
Is there like a doorway?
Speaker 2 (25:39):
I mean yeah, I would say yeah, Well, because, well,
the thing is, before I go intothis, before I go into anything,
right, I'm raising my vibrationa little bit.
I'm kind of going into a stateof like okay, I kind of get it
centered and I go all right,it's time for me to go Right,
it's time for me to dip out byand allow spirit to take over,
and that's the whole point is,the medium is really.
(26:01):
I really try to involve myselfvery little bit.
There'll maybe be parts of mypersonality and the way I
express it.
That's me right.
But when I'm channeling, I don'tfeel that it's me.
I feel that it's the personwho's coming through and they're
speaking and I feel as though Idon't have that mental chatter.
Does that make sense?
Because I'm not there anymore.
I take that away because it'sthat trust and spirit that you
(26:29):
have to you're channeling.
If it's something that's takinga long time there's a lot of
pauses, there's a lot of thisthat's when the mental part of
the medium is starting to comeback in and the channeling isn't
as clear.
When you hear someone who'sjust boom, boom, boom, boom,
boom, boom, boom, boom, boom,that's a channel because it's
just flowing right.
It's not a forcefulness, it'sjust flowing.
So I think every medium thatgoes into their mediumship or is
(26:51):
starting it kind of really setsthat intention of I'm over here
, we're ready for you to comeand you to take control, and
that's all what it's about.
But that's the hardest part ofbeing a medium is a lot of us
struggle with, like you said,our own mental aspect of it and
trusting trusting that whatyou're receiving is something,
(27:14):
because you may not be able tomake sense of it, but it is not
about you, it's about thatperson sitting across from you.
You're going to understand whatit means.
I may not, but that doesn'tmatter.
The message isn't for me, it'sfor you.
So it's really, really trustingthat as you go in, even if it
sounds wild.
Wild and just trusting.
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That's the biggest part of it.
Speaker 1 (27:36):
When people come to see you.
I know what I was hoping tohear, but I'm curious what do
you think other people arehoping to get from connecting
with past loved ones?
Evidence Okay, yes, that iswhat I wanted.
Yeah, was evidence.
Speaker 2 (27:51):
You want evidence.
You want evidence to reallyvalidate that what you are
experiencing or what you haveexperienced is true and you
don't want vague information.
I don't want vague information.
I don't want vague information.
Spirit usually doesn't givethat.
If they're really going in,they want to be clear and
precise and really validate toyou that your experience with
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them is real.
And I feel like as a medium I'malways striving.
My biggest thing is like I wantto be an evidential medium.
I want to be able to give youthat evidence where you're like
that is my dad, like I don'tcare what you say, like I know
that's my dad, you know, and Ihope that that's the experience
that people leave with, likethat was my dad or that was my
(28:34):
mom, or that was validated, youknow.
And so spirit really works todo that and they work with it in
a lot of different ways, butpart of it could be validating
that picture that's hanging upin your room that no one else
knows.
Or it could be the horse thatyou and your dad had together
and no one knew about that horsebecause it's nowhere online to
(28:54):
be seen.
There's no evidence, nopictures.
You can't find that and I bringthat up.
Those things are the way thatyou go.
This is real.
This is real.
Now, the hard part is because ofsocial media, because of online
.
It's made the job for themedium so much more difficult,
because it does take more.
It takes more evidence, becauseI understand the skepticism.
(29:17):
It could be online, you know.
So you're really hoping whichspirit does is they'll bring
through those parts that aren'tto be seen, to bring you to that
.
So, yeah, I think people arehoping to receive evidence first
, most, and then, I think, toreally feel that they're
connecting to their loved ones.
I think those are the top two.
Evidence, of course, like wewant the real to know it's real,
(29:38):
and then we want to really knowthat we've connected with them.
So it's both of those and thatthey're hearing us and that
they've heard us and that theyknow we're thinking of them.
Those are the top two.
I think people are reallylooking forward to.
Speaker 1 (29:52):
That is definitely what it was for me.
And again, I went in veryskeptical I'm not going to lie
about that and you really blewmy mind, because there were
things that you said that there,as you're saying, there was
nothing online that you couldhave possibly seen or read, and
you were giving such specificdetails and memories that I sat
(30:19):
in the car for 20 minutes afterthat session and just sat there
and tried to process what hadhappened.
But the only thing that I hadsaid telepathically or in my
mind when we got there was dad,this is your opportunity.
Prove to me that there'ssomething else.
Prove to me that somehowsomething, because I'd already
(30:40):
been getting other signs in mylife, but again, the skeptic in
me just wanted to debunk it aslike oh, that's just a
coincidence.
But I want to ask you aboutskepticism, like, how do you
handle this part of it?
Speaker 2 (30:54):
I think being a skeptic is not a bad thing.
I think it's healthy to be abit of a skeptic I mean I do but
there's a difference betweenbeing skeptical and being open.
Now, I've always said I neverwant anyone to come to me who is
being forced, who someone saysyou have to go to this medium.
(31:14):
Go, because then the intentionis set that you don't want to be
there, and that's an energythat I can pick up on, which
then will create a wall for me,because it's an energy exchange
between not only me and spirit,but me and you.
And if you don't have thattrust or you have that, well,
(31:36):
skeptical is a little bit.
But if you have that notwanting to be here, it really
does affect it.
So skeptical, fine, that's alittle bit.
But openness, if you, you camein skeptical right, we talked
about this.
You came in skeptical, but didyou come in open, with curiosity
, with wanting to experiencethis?
It was something you chose todo, a hundred percent Right.
It was something you chose.
(31:56):
No one was forcing you.
That is why that flowed andthat's why it happened.
Now, if you would have came inwith a different mentality of,
oh, this is so, I don't evenwant to be here, I'm just going
to go experience this.
Then your result may have beenvery different.
So, yeah, but skeptical isn'tlike if people don't believe in
what I do.
My job is not to convinceeverybody here on earth, and
(32:18):
it's not about me.
It's what you take away fromthe experience and I hope that
somebody takes away somethingfrom it.
But also, that's not my burdento carry.
It's the fact that I deliveredthe messages and that I did what
I was supposed to do, which wasserve spirit.
And if they can't take fullyeverything, that's fine, it's
(32:40):
okay.
And not everyone's going tobelieve that's just the it's
okay, and not everyone's goingto believe that's just, that's
just the way it is.
But I believe in myself and Itrust spirits, so for me that's
enough.
That's how I feel about it.
Speaker 1 (32:52):
Do you ever receive messages that you feel hesitant
to deliver?
Speaker 2 (32:58):
Yes, yes, I do.
Speaker 1 (33:01):
What do you do in those circumstances?
Speaker 2 (33:03):
It depends, because I ask spirit whether or not I
should deliver it.
I say I'm feeling this, is thissomething you want me to
deliver or not?
Are they ready or are they not?
And majority of the time, ifit's a situation and I'm feeling
something, I will ask theperson hey, I have someone
coming through for you.
I'm a medium, are you open toit?
They say yes.
(33:23):
I say now I want you to knowthere's some heaviness attached
to this.
So I want to know if you'rereally okay with that, because I
want to honor that for you.
If you're not, that's totallyfine.
But know that that's comingthrough.
And that's kind of how Iapproach it, in the sense of if
it's something that I feel, theysay it's okay.
I always want consent and I'mvery careful about how I
(33:45):
approach it to somebody.
I never want to force it ordeliver it if they don't want to
hear it, because that's notgoing to help the person Right.
So it has to be a willingnessto receive the information.
So, yeah, I'm very carefulabout it.
But there are things sometimesyou receive where you're like
should I do this?
But you just have to go back toasking spirit Okay, should I?
(34:06):
They'll tell you yes, no, yes,maybe not right now, maybe they
need three months, maybe theyneed four months of healing,
Maybe they're still in theirgrieving process.
They will tell me that and Isay okay, and then I don't
approach until that time comes.
Speaker 1 (34:19):
When you receive these messages, does it drain
your body Like how many of thesesessions can you do in a day?
Speaker 2 (34:26):
Well, it depends, because every person is
different, right?
So your energy, plus your lovedones, plus my energy, is
different.
So everybody's energy isdifferent.
So I may enter one readingwhere I'm super charged and just
feeling it, we're vibing, wehave such good energy, I'm
feeling it.
And then another reading wheremaybe it's a little heavier,
maybe there was a hardertransitions, maybe it was a
harder relationship with theperson, that transition where I
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feel a little bit more drained.
So it's kind of a give and take, but spirit lines up my
schedule, I feel like.
So they know who's going tocome, who's going to be the day.
They all know that I don't.
So there's a lot ofsynchronicities that will happen
within the scheduling.
But majority of the time for meevery medium is different.
Mind you, some of us can onlydo a little bit, some of us can
(35:09):
do more.
It just depends on how much youdo it and how it develops for
you.
For me, I try not to take.
At most would be three a day.
That would be at most.
I would prefer to do two, andthen I like to have a day or at
least a day between that, liketwo, and then I'll usually take
(35:31):
a day and then do another two,but it depends.
Sometimes I do a lot more.
So it just kind of depends.
And then the events.
It's a different energy.
Events are totally differentfrom private energy.
You would think that privatewould be easier.
People think I think it'sharder because when you're going
into a group energy, thinkabout how many people's energy
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is contributing to that groupright.
So think about a battery beingcharged If you have two
batteries versus having like 10batteries.
A battery being charged If youhave two batteries versus having
like 10 batteries, how is thatgoing to be Right?
So it's a different type ofenergy frequency, I feel, from
groups.
So it's different.
I feel like I could do I justdid three in a row, boom, boom,
boom.
(36:11):
Three days, three nights in arow, and so it's just.
It just depends.
But also I have a partner whois also an energy worker and
provides that personal batteryfor me.
So when I do those events I'mnot, I'm not drained.
I would say I don't think you'llmeet anyone that takes like six
readings, seven readings on aday.
I just don't think that wouldbe.
I mean maybe, but I don't know.
(36:33):
That would be a lot.
I don't think it would besustainable because no matter
how much energy work you do, nomatter how much you say, it does
affect you.
So it wouldn't be honoringyourself, I think, if you did
that many and also you becomedrained where your messages may
not be as clear or maybe you'rekind of tired, so you're not at
(36:54):
your full capacity and I neverwant to like give a half a
reading.
I never want to like give halfof myself.
So one thing about me is likeif I'm not feeling well or if
I'm having an off day and I'mabout me and not about serving,
I will reschedule that readingbecause I want to be a hundred
for that session, for you andfor spirit, and if I can't give
(37:16):
that to you, then I'm not goingto do it.
So I really honor that.
And that took a lot of learning, because in the beginning I
felt guilty like oh, if I don'tfeel good, I should just do it
right.
No, it's not a nine to five job, it's something that's an
energy based thing.
So you really have to be inthat, like you had mentioned, a
frame of mind and energy thatyou need to be there, willing to
(37:39):
serve and ready a frame of mindand energy that you need to be
there, willing to serve andready, and this ability that you
have to access this connection.
Speaker 1 (37:46):
do you think that this is something that only
certain people can tap into,like you're born with it or
you're not?
Speaker 2 (37:49):
See, that's that's an interesting question.
I feel that you can be taught.
I do think you can be taughtmediumship.
I know I do, but I think thereare people that have more of a
natural ability for sure.
I also think if you're teachingit, there just has to be some
sort of natural ability in there, because it is so intuition
(38:11):
based and so it's just not likesomething you could just
necessarily.
I just think having a naturalpart of it would make it easier.
But I have met other people whowere more trained or needed to
learn a little bit more than me.
Like, I feel I came in with alot of natural ability, but I
think there were some peoplethat were like really developing
that within themselves and theydid do a lot of growing.
So I do think it's possible.
(38:32):
But I think there's other typesof mediumship in the world.
If you were to explore that youcan't necessarily be taught.
Speaker 1 (38:45):
I think those there's some that you need to be born
with.
Speaker 2 (38:47):
When you say that intuition is such a big part of
it, what do you mean by that?
Just natural trust of your ownintuition?
So I can't describe it but likeability to like tap into things
.
And I think I always just had anatural intuitive base like,
okay, yeah, I'm picking up onthis energy, like I could read
people, I could feel people,like that was always just
natural for me and this empathof like feeling people on this
(39:08):
deep level, like all of that waslike a natural thing for me.
But fine, tuning the mediumshipand how I deliver and tapping
in on a deeper level, yeah, thattook training, yes, some
training, you know.
But I think having a natural,just intuitive energy or
empathic energy helps withmediumship.
Speaker 1 (39:27):
My mind.
The way it works is that I'mconstantly like wanting the
science to understand, like howis this possible?
And I actually had an unrelatedperson, who is a medium,
approach me out of nowhere andsay this is a message from your
dad.
And he's saying you don't needto understand the why, just
believe.
And I was like wait what?
(39:49):
You just received this messagefor me and it's just you know.
She said yes, does that makesense to you?
And I said yeah, then thatmakes sense to me.
So, just digging a little bitinto my desire to want to
understand some science here,though, like how do you think
that those who have passed caninfluence our world here on
(40:10):
earth?
And I will give you somecontext for that question.
Okay, on the day that my daddied, I was in New Zealand I
couldn't be any farther away andin an extremely remote location
and I was on a FaceTime callwith my direct family and I was
in a bit of a stupor, like Ithink maybe I was a bit floaty
in another place and there was abutterfly that was very far
(40:33):
away from me and I just wasbegging my dad in my mind.
Dad, if there's any way you canhear me if there's any way you
can.
You could hear me make thatbutterfly land on me.
And that butterfly, it it turnedand it came and it landed on me
within 15 minutes on my wrist,and I burst into tears.
I started laughing and myfamily was like what's so funny?
(40:55):
And I said I explained what hadjust happened.
And again the skeptic in me islike but how Like?
What's the science?
How could a person who haspassed potentially influence a
butterfly's flight pattern?
Yeah, do you have any idea howto answer this for me?
Speaker 2 (41:12):
So kind of.
So one thing I know is that ifwe look, look into it, there is
a lot of research on they'vebeen doing more and more with
like mediums.
I even think one of the othermediums that's big on television
.
They did a brain scan for himas he was channeling and they
were trying to see what markerswere there and apparently he was
(41:32):
in this like sleep and awakestate at the exact same time.
So science was saying thatbasically there is definitely
something that goes within amedium's brain or frequency
scientifically that shows thatthey're doing some sort of
different vibration orconnection than what we're doing
when in our regular state.
(41:53):
Does that make sense?
Yeah, so there is been morescience that's been proven as to
like how it's working in theterms of that aspect now and how
spirit can manipulate and dothings into our physical world.
I'm not exactly sure how, butthere is a lot of other mediums
out there and a lot of differenttypes of mediumship that go
(42:14):
into more of the science-basedaspect of how these things can
happen.
But I do believe in thingsmanifesting or appearing or, as
you, shared that experience, Ihad another client who became a
good friend, who I read for andI talked to her about blue
dragonflies and I said your momsends you these blue dragonflies
, like she's going to send youone and it's going to be so
obvious it's going to be in yourface, it's going to be on you,
(42:35):
it's going to come.
It's going to come, the bluedragonfly.
She said, all right, a coupleof weeks later she was at a
water park and she was in one ofthose wave pools.
Right, she was in the wave pooland the blue dragonfly lands on
her, on her, just as youdescribed.
And she said are you kidding meright now?
Are you kidding me?
And ended up calling me andtelling me that it ended up
(42:56):
landing on her.
And it was just that experience.
And I said I just believe, andI know that somehow they can
manifest in different ways, togive us these signs.
Now I think it would be muchharder to materialize, like to
come into our world and fullmaterialize, right, I don't know
about that if they could dothat so easily, but I do believe
they can energeticallymanipulate energy for certain
(43:18):
things to happen.
So I totally believe thebutterfly as well.
As I'm sure you've heard, peoplehave had experiences where
things have just appeared orshown up and they're like how
did that get there?
Or hey, my mom's bracelet waslost and now I saw it in the
middle of my room.
How is that possible?
Don't ask me how, but I knowthat that those things are.
I've had an instance where apenny fell.
And I didn't know where thepenny fell it was above the sky
(43:40):
into this.
I just didn't know where itcame from and I don't know how.
But I know that spirit isscientifically and weak and I
don't know how, but able tomanipulate energy to where they
can make things happen in ourworld For sure.
I wish I could give you a clearanswer as to why, but I know
there are books and people outthere that would have more clear
of an explanation as to how,but I know it's possible.
Speaker 1 (44:02):
Yeah, it's kind of like how you're saying I don't
think we're really meant to know, and it's the same sort of I
guess you could call it faith,in a way that people have a
belief in a religious system.
There's so many differentbeliefs out there for which
there is no scientific evidence.
Speaker 2 (44:18):
And also you went back to that trust.
So you were talking aboutwhat's the biggest thing with a
medium right, what makes us amedium?
What is it?
Our trust.
So spirit's giving you that, togive you to trust.
They want you to trust just asmuch as we do when we deliver,
and that's the biggest thing.
And those signs and thosethings that happen to you allow
you slowly to build trust, andso that's why why do you think
(44:41):
that people on the other sidewant to connect with us here?
I believe they want to connectwith us to bring us peace, to
bring us a feeling of peace andknowing that they're truly okay
and knowing that there's more,and giving us guidance.
So we know that, even thoughtheir physical body is no longer
in the world, with us, they arestill with us on the same
(45:04):
capacity, just in a differentway.
And your dad will continue therest of your life to make that
clear to you and he willcontinue to do that in many
aspects of your life and in manyways.
And you will just know andthat's part of it, they want you
to know that even thoughthey're not here physically
(45:26):
they've never really goneanywhere, they're just somewhere
else but they're still here.
It's just there's no physicalbody, and it's.
They want us to feel thatthey're always with us, because
that's what we want to feel.
We want to know that they'restill with us.
We want to know that we canstill connect when we want to
connect.
And it's true, they're just athought away, so enjoy it.
Speaker 1 (45:46):
One of the questions I have is just that if the
spirits you connect with couldgive humanity one piece of
advice, what do you think thatthat would be?
Speaker 2 (45:59):
The first instinct which is, once again, I trust
what I'm hearing is love.
That was the biggest word.
Love for one another.
That was the biggest thing Iheard.
Just pure love and acceptancefor everybody as a whole.
I feel like that's what theywant for humanity, and to be
able to accept each other'sdifferences with love.
(46:22):
Easier said than done, right,yeah, it is Easier said than
done, but you know, I feel likea big reason of why we also are
brought here to like do thiswork you know different healers,
all aspects of life is to bringlove to people, to bring peace
to people and to also showacceptance as well.
And I think that in all aspects, that's always the message
(46:46):
that's coming across is love.
That's number one, and just anopen heart and forgiveness and
all those things.
Like I said, it's just.
I feel like for humanity,they're just looking for love
and acceptance and that's comingto unity.
That was the word unity, yeah.
Speaker 1 (47:01):
It starts making me think that earth is school.
Speaker 2 (47:09):
We're here to learn.
That's what I feel.
I fully feel we are here tolearn and to have a human
experience, though, like that'sthe whole point, like we don't
need to know everything that'shappening over there, because
we're going to have thatexperience.
Right, it's going to happen,we're going to have it, we're
going to have it.
So right now, let's just enjoywhat we have here and work on
being present.
Which is the hardest part ofbeing here is being present,
cause we're always looking tothe past, we're always looking
to the future.
It is very hard to be in apresent state and really enjoy
(47:31):
the human experience, and thatwas something that I struggled
with my entire life.
I was always looking to thefuture or wanting to connect
with spirit and not really enjoymy physical, earthly life.
And then I had my partner comeinto my life and my partner said
we're here for this humanexperience.
Like we're here, like let's bepresent, let's be here, let's
enjoy it, because the earth isbeautiful and we need to see it
(47:55):
for that and enjoy it and bringreally, really a lot of
gratitude towards it.
And I said, oh my gosh, this issuch a different perspective
than what I ever could see thebeauty in the earth.
I guess you could say and now Isee that and I'm like all about
having the human experience now.
Heck, yeah, sign me up, let'sgo, I want it.
Speaker 1 (48:15):
What do you want or what do you dream of for your
mediumship journey?
Where would you like to takethis?
Speaker 2 (48:21):
Well, I have a dream, but who knows what's in store?
You know spirit's in control,so I don't know what they have
in store for me.
But one thing I know is that,first of all, I definitely don't
want to limit myself, becauseit's something I've done in the
past where I've been like thisis just my calling, and every
time I say that spirit goes uh,there's more, you're meant to do
this, you're meant to do that,don't limit yourself.
(48:42):
So, first of all, I don't wantto limit myself, but for an
immediate, if I was just to looktowards the immediate, what I
would love to do is continuedoing private groups right and
to continue to reach the massesas much as I can.
That's the ultimate goal is tojust reach the world, and my
ultimate dream world I would betraveling, not only I would do
(49:06):
this a lot in the US as well,but all over the world, and I
would be doing this in differentcountries, giving back to
communities that can't maybeafford it, going into areas with
heavy loss and just doing thisall over.
That would be the ultimate dream, right, but right now would
would be we're looking to dolarger spaces, we're looking for
venues that would be open,having me be a part of that and
bringing in 60, 70, 80, maybe100 people and me starting to
(49:28):
read on that bigger level of aplatform style, that would be a
big goal for me.
That's my first immediate goal,wow, but yeah, then let's take
on the world how do people evenfind you?
Speaker 1 (49:40):
I tried to find your website and I did not find one.
Speaker 2 (49:42):
Okay, so okay, sorry world, I'm not much of a social
media person, but I do have myFacebook.
It's Tara B Medium, and then Ialso have my email, which is a
great way to contact me, andit's tarabalowski at yahoocom or
through telephone.
I might think eventually I willmove to like doing a website or
(50:02):
something, but if someone'scontacting me, they don't need
to give me much informationabout who they want to connect.
Don't want any of that.
Just I'm here, I'm interestedin booking.
That's all I need.
So less is more.
I don't want to know.
You don't even need to tell mewho referred you.
Don't give me any of thatinformation.
Allow that to just come through, naturally, you know do they
(50:23):
have to give you their name?
They don't even have to give metheir name If they do not want
to.
I've had people say I don'twant to give you my email until
five seconds before the reading.
I said all right, that's fine,I don't care, give it to me,
I'll give it to you five seconds.
They want me to do research.
I'm fine with that.
I'm totally fine with that.
You can text me from atelephone number and say hey,
I'm interested in having areading.
(50:44):
You don't even need to say yourname.
You could just say I'minterested in having a reading
book with me.
I fully trust, fully trust.
So I'm never weird about that.
I definitely understand that.
Speaker 1 (50:53):
Tara, it's been such a fun conversation.
It's been very enlightening tojust see what this experience is
like for you.
I think it's an incredible giftand I hope that you continue to
help people around the worldconnect with their loved ones
and get that evidence that theyneed.
It's funny the evidence.
I already feel like I've gottenthe evidence, and yet part of
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me is like no, I need a littlemore.
Speaker 2 (51:19):
That's the human in us.
We want more.
It's never enough.
Don't worry, I ask for more allthe time.
I'm like can you give me moreproof?
And even me, I'm the same way.
I'm like give me more, give memore, give me more.
You know, it's a natural humanthing for us to want more this
has been amazing.
Speaker 1 (51:42):
Thank you so much, so much.
This was amazing.
Thank you so much.
Today's key takeaways Take noteof the things you were drawn to
as a child.
Your intuition then may revealyour purpose.
Now, the instincts you had as achild may hold the map to your
deepest gifts.
Your hardest experiences canhelp reveal your purpose.
When we stop running from ourpain and start listening to it,
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transformation begins.
Purpose often lives on theother side of healing.
Grief can crack us open in waysnothing else can.
Sometimes loss creates thespace for a deeper connection
with ourselves, with others andwith those we've lost.
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Healthy skepticism is a goodthing, but stay curious and ask
questions and keep your heartopen.
Trust is everything when itcomes to intuition, whether
you're tapping into creativity,spiritual guidance or your own
inner knowing.
Real growth begins when wetrust ourselves and the process.
(52:49):
Loved ones often communicatethrough signs, symbols and
synchronicities Butterflies,dreams, gut feelings.
When you're present and payingattention, you just might notice
they've been near you all along.
Know your limits and protectyour energy.
You can't serve others whenyou're running on empty.
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Rest isn't a luxury, it's partof your work.
And finally, the mostconsistent message from the
other side is love, pure,accepting unshakable love.
Let that be your guide.
That's all for today.
I release episodes once a week,so come back and check it out.
Have a great day.
Welcome to how I Built my Small Business.
I'm Anne McIntee.
Your host and today's guest isTara Bielowski.
Tara is a medium and today'sconversation is not so much
about starting a business andmore so about perspective, her
gift and her journey tomediumship.
Losing my dad was the hardestthing I've ever been through and
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it's what led me to start thispodcast.
Conversations like this,whether you believe in
mediumship or not, are part ofmy journey of asking bigger
questions about life connectionand what really matters.
Back in December of last year, Iwas invited to attend a group
medium session with Tara.
I'm pretty open to at leastexperiencing things once before
(00:57):
I knock them, but I won't lie.
While I was curious, I was alsovery, very skeptical In my
thoughts.
I said, dad, this is youropportunity to prove to me
there's something else, and mymind was blown when Tara started
telling me about specificmemories with details that have
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never been written or talkedabout outside of our family.
They weren't vague details, notlike how a horoscope can be
bent to apply to anyone's life,and there wasn't just one memory
but several, and it was thespecific details that really
made me wonder.
You can find links to connectwith her in the show notes.
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You can find links to connectwith her in the show notes.
Tara, thank you so much forcoming on and chatting with me
today.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
Oh, I'm so excited, so so excited.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
When did you know that you had this gift?
Speaker 2 (02:03):
Probably around the age of nine.
I feel that that was after mymother passed away.
Around that time, when I turnednine, that's when things
started shifting and you know,when you're young you don't
understand what it is.
So I kind of just ignored itand the people around me thought
that I had a million imaginaryfriends, because I would always
say things like Bob is in myroom and he misses his wife, and
you know, just information likethat.
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But back then we didn't knowwhat that was.
So my family just assumed thatit meant that I just had a lot
of imaginary friends.
But as the years went on, thenthat was revealed that that
wasn't the case.
But that's what it started likefor me.
So about the age of nine iswhen I started feeling a lot of
sensitivity around me.
But I think I was born with it,but I think around that age.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
How did that lead into the rest of your childhood?
Speaker 2 (02:49):
I think for a lot of my childhood I had a really
rough background.
If I really go into mychildhood, I had a lot of trauma
as a child and it wasn't reallyraised in necessarily a
supportive environment to reallyfacilitate me to kind of step
into that power.
I was in a survival mode as achild, like that was my
childhood, so that kind of sortof went on the back burner for
me, you know, and I didn'treally express any of that and I
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held that in for a really longtime and that didn't come out
again until I was more into mytwenties.
And then I would say that'sabout when it started coming out
again and I was in my ownenergy, my own freedom.
I think that's when it allstarted coming back out for me.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
And when did you realize that this was real and
it was not just imagination orcoincidence?
How did you know?
Speaker 2 (03:37):
So I had kind of an awakening within myself.
I knew there was something, butI didn't understand that it was
called mediumship.
So for most of my life I justthought I was quirky or I had
like a thing, but I didn'treally know what the name or
what it was to really label it.
But I would just look at peopleand just get information and
not understand where it wascoming from and I really thought
(03:58):
it was kind of crazy.
So I never said anything.
But finally I had a really bigrevelation.
My father-in-law transitioned.
He passed through suicide andwhen he passed everyone kind of
knew in the family that I hadthis kind of gift, but no one
knew what it was called.
When he passed I had heard thathe had visited someone else in
a dream and when I heard that Iwas really hurt because I felt
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as though he would come to me,because he knew I had something
that maybe I could deliver amessage to the rest of the
family.
And I remember being reallyhurt, first of all because I
hadn't had full closure with him.
So everyone else had kind ofhad their full closure letters
written.
I didn't really have that.
So for me it was like I wasdealing with a lot of that
(04:41):
grieving process and a couple ofnights later, his wife was in
my room and she was staying withus my mother-in-law and like
she was sleeping over.
And that night I had a dream andthis is what changed everything
for me.
Obviously, I was sleeping and Iremember looking down and
seeing my body below me and Iremember thinking that I had
died.
And I remember freaking outsaying I have died, I've died, I
(05:03):
died, and that's all I couldkeep thinking.
And I remember coming up out ofmy body hearing this vibration
of like like I can't describewhat I was hearing, but it was
like these sounds and I rememberseeing my body below and all I
kept saying was I died, I died,I didn't do everything I was
supposed to do.
Oh my gosh, what happened.
And a few seconds later I wasfloating through the sky and I
(05:25):
opened my eyes and I was in thisJapanese beautiful Zen garden
and I was like where am I?
First of all, and then I keptfreaking out that I had.
I was like I died.
This is where my heaven is.
This I died.
And I remember just lookingdown at my hands I could see him
as as as I'm looking at themnow, and I remember feeling a
sense of panic first of all, anda few seconds later I felt a
(05:51):
touch on my shoulder and Iturned around and it was my
father-in-law.
Mind you, if you talk to a lotof people that have had these
experiences, they will tell youthat when we speak at this place
or wherever we go, it's allthrough telepathy.
It's not through actual words.
So I wasn't moving my mouth,but we were having a
conversation, it was throughthought, and he told me that he
loved me and he looked amazing,so healthy, and he had said I
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love you like a daughter.
You need to know that.
And I said oh my God, you cameto me like this means so much,
and he goes.
But I brought you here for areason and I said why?
And he said because you need toknow it's all real, it's all
been real your whole life.
This has all been real and Iwas only allowed to bring you
here to make you understand howreal this is.
And you do have a gift.
(06:34):
You have a gift, you have agift.
And he kept repeating it.
And then, a few seconds later, Iasked again, because this is
all I was concerned about.
I said did I die?
He laughed and he said no, youdidn't die, you did not die.
I was allowed to bring you here.
And I said, oh, and all of asudden, this sense of peace hit
(06:54):
me where I cannot describe.
I've never felt anything likethat on this earth and I started
to feel so comfortable and Ireally just kind of was falling
into wanting to stay in thisenvironment.
I was like, wow, this isamazing.
This feels great.
I want to stay here.
And he said, no, you have to go.
And I said, oh, can I see mymom?
So, to preface this, my mompassed when I was nine, so that
(07:17):
was obviously who I reallywanted to see.
And he said, oh, not yet, it'snot your time to see her.
I said okay.
He said you're going to have togo now.
It was a big deal that you camehere, but you need to know it's
real and you have a gift and goback, go back, go back to her,
go go.
And I said, all right, I loveyou.
And then shoved back into mybody the frequency change back
(07:40):
in.
I woke up crying and mymother-in-law also woke up not
much after this, and she hadsaid that she was starting to
have a dream and I said really,what was in your dream?
And she goes all I know isthere was trees and it looked
like a Zen garden and that wasit.
That was all the confirmation Ineeded to understand.
First of all, I already knewthat it was real because the way
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I woke up crying, but the factthat, before I said those words
of anything, she was starting totell me about her experience
and I was like he did that sothat I would understand how real
this truly was.
From that day on, I knew thatthis was real and there was
nothing anybody in the entireworld can ever tell me to change
that experience.
I needed to feel and understandon a level that was full trust
(08:25):
and that allowed me tounderstand that there was
something and that I needed totrust it and just believe in it,
whatever it was.
So that was a life-changingexperience for me.
That was it.
So.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
I've had some of those throughout my life, not
anything near as impactful, butmoments of wonder where my
grandfather, who lived with me,showed up in a dream as well.
But as I reached out to him andwas already crying because I
remembered in my dream that hehad died, he would just vanish
and disappear.
But he'd be waving through awindow or seeing my dad's face
(09:01):
and him trying to share someinformation with me, like the
first five days after he died.
He said there's so much youdon't know.
I mean, he looked like he wasecstatic to be dead.
Yes, and it was one of thosedreams that I I woke up from
shocked and felt, just likeyou're saying, this overwhelming
(09:21):
feeling of peace.
Like every single time I haveone of these magical moments,
the skeptic in me was like no,it's just a dream.
But then the other part of meis like what, if, what, if?
Yeah, what do you think happenswhen we die?
Speaker 2 (09:37):
Gosh, so interesting.
I feel like I'm going to bereal.
I'm going to tell you what Ifeel and what I know and what
I've heard from spirit, and thisis purely from them.
But I don't think any of us whoare truly here fully know until
we get there which I'm finewith not knowing why.
And I just want to hit back onyou talking about the skeptic in
you.
I would say any medium youreally meet that practices and
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serve spirit in the way thatthey do on an integrity basis,
is going to be somewhat of askeptic themselves.
I think we go through that,especially in the beginning of
our journeys, with being thatskeptic.
We want a certain amount ofevidence, we want a certain
amount of proof that all this isreal.
We need that validation in thebeginning.
You know so the skepticism is ahealthy thing and I think you
(10:18):
know that's part of the process.
But back to where you weresaying about what I believe
happens.
I feel as though I feel thatwhen we transition, we are no
longer trapped by our body andour limitations that are here on
this physical earth.
I feel that one thing I'veexperienced with from the other
side is, say, someone comesthrough.
(10:38):
I've had people who were maybewheelchair bound or unable to be
mobile, and now they're tellingme they're walking or I'm
seeing them, images of themwalking, and for me to tell
their family and to express thisI don't have pain anymore.
I don't feel it's because wedon't have that limitation of
our body.
So I feel like, first of all,when we transition, there's a
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level of peace that happens thatwe cannot fully understand
being on this physical earth,and when we get there, it's the
pure euphoria of just peace.
And then I feel what alsohappens is the reuniting with
our loved ones.
I believe that we reunite witheveryone and I believe anyone
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we've made a connection withwe're reuniting and we're just
all meeting together like a bigreunion, just like we would here
if we haven't seen our familyfor a long time.
You're going to go see themfirst.
That's your first.
I want to see my family.
I'm pretty sure that's exactlywhat happens when we transition.
We see our family, those thatare there first.
They greet us as we'retransitioning and then I believe
, the peace happens, and thenwhat I've heard is there's also
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a lot of work that we do upthere what I hear from spirit.
I say they're people becausethey are.
They're just souls that don'thave a physical body anymore.
So I consider that when I'mtalking to them as if they're
people and they're telling metheir experience, and what I've
kind of heard is that they'vedone a lot of learning.
On the other side, a lot of themwill say I didn't understand
all of that and now I see thebigger picture.
(12:03):
Now I understand what so-and-sohas been through.
Now I understand about notjudging.
There's a lot of just, I think,learning.
That happens in growth.
And I also feel, if there wassomething you loved in the
physical flying airplanes let'ssay you love to fly airplanes
I've heard them say they'redoing the same thing over there.
I don't know how, I don't knowhow it works, but I know that
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they're over there doing similarthings that we're doing here,
just without limitations, and sothat's the best way I can
explain, when we transition,what at least I believe, or what
I've been told from them in myexperiences, and I feel as
though it's just another levelup.
It's just we lose that physicalbody and we're able to do all
those things that maybe wecouldn't do here.
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Or maybe someone had a restlessspirit and never felt peace
here.
Maybe they were depressed,maybe they were struggling and
when they got there they don'thave that anymore.
All the weights of the world,all the anger, all the things we
feel as part of the humanexperience leaves us, and we
know of forgiveness and purelove.
That's all we know, and that'sthe biggest thing I hear is some
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people come through with well,how can you forgive?
I don't know, but there'ssomething that happens over
there where you can forgiveanything and it's just pure love
.
I don't know.
I don't know the answer.
Pure love, it's pure love.
That's just what it is.
It's for all creation.
Speaker 1 (13:29):
Yeah, it's like you're saying how could we
possibly know?
I mean, nobody can prove ordisprove any of this, and so
until we're there ourselves, wecan't know the answer.
We don't know, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
I am never going to be like.
Well, your experience is wrong.
Who's to say I know?
All I know is what I'veexperienced and what I've been
told and what other people havebeen told.
But I don't think any of uswill fully know.
But that's part of the humanexperience.
I don't think we're meant toknow.
I feel as though we're meant tolive our life in search of our
(14:03):
own faith and passion.
You know it's part of the humanexperience.
So I feel like us knowingeverything.
Would it make this experiencefun?
Speaker 1 (14:13):
And it does feel like the switch has been turned off,
because it's kind of thisquestion that the wisest, most
intelligent people who haveexisted on earth have pondered,
this question of what happenswhen we die and nobody can tell
you.
So when you had that dream withyour father-in-law, when did
you actually start getting yourfirst client?
Speaker 2 (14:34):
So after that I was working at a grocery store and I
was a manager and at thatmoment I said I'm going to start
just telling people what I'mfeeling.
So at work, I just startedapproaching people that I wasn't
even necessarily super close toor knew their personal life and
I started just reading them andpeople were like what the heck?
Like validating everything Iwas saying.
(14:54):
And I was like I'm not crazy,Like this is real.
And then I think the bigexperience was there was two but
my friend invited me to afestival and she told me to
bring my tarot cards, which Iwas into, and to do readings.
And I was like, all right,we'll see, I'll just do this for
fun.
You know donation base.
And this was the changing.
I did not use the cards oncethat entire weekend.
(15:17):
I got there and people startedcoming in and I just started
reading them and I was like Idon't need these cards and then
I'd start picking up on theirgrandparents, their loved ones,
and then they all startedvalidating the entire weekend.
I must have read like probably40 to 50 people that weekend and
every single person validatedwhat I had said.
And I said, okay, this issomething more, this is
(15:40):
something else and I had had areally, really good friend of
mine, one of my best friends.
He transitioned and me and hissister got really close after
his transition and she told methat her mom had seen a medium.
And I said, oh well, that'scool, she goes, I think you're a
medium.
And I went oh, what is that?
She's like oh, so you know,when you talk to people on the
(16:01):
other side, that's what you justsaid you're doing, that's a
medium.
And I was like, oh, she goes,well, you should meet with my
mom and do a reading for her andlet her tell you what she
experiences from that.
And I said, okay, so I read forhis mom and his mom was like,
(16:24):
wow, a lot of what you said iswhat that medium told me.
And I said, really, and she was, yeah, well, I think you should
connect with her.
And I said, oh yeah, I wantguidance, I want help, I don't
know where to go.
And she said you should reachout to her.
So I reached out to the medium,who had her own kind of
following.
She'd been doing this for like20 years, has been practicing
medium, had her own page, whichshe gave created on Facebook
(16:48):
that gave back to people and ithelped mediums who were
beginning, which she still hasto go on and practice and give
back to people all over theworld and it's just to be a safe
space for people to develop.
And I went to her page and atthis time she was doing kind of
like an internship.
She was teaching, she wastaking people on mentees and I
(17:10):
applied, you know, and I asked,and you know I was chosen to go
in and there was like 15 of uswho had never done mediumship,
really like, really, reallypracticed, and she fine-tuned
with all of us and it was thefirst thing in my life and that
felt natural.
Does that make sense?
Like yeah, I didn't have towork at it, it just flowed, Like
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everything was happening.
And then I just started readingthe whole group, all the people
.
I was very confident, I was anatural, I definitely was
natural.
And then after that she wastaking on people to do private
training with.
So I private trained for aboutthree months until she said
you've grown the nest, you needto go, and she set me free and
(17:56):
after that I just startedoffering readings full time and
her clients started to come tome that I had kind of read in
between and they gave me a lotof support as well as other
people that I had read on that,Like I said, that platform.
I had read from people in India, the UK, all over all these
people, a lot of people who hadlost their children, but
specifically all over the world.
(18:17):
And that's kind of when Istarted but I never fully
committed until recently, Ithink.
I was always one foot in andone foot out, so I still stayed
in the grocery world.
I still stayed in, like workingin the service industry and
doing this on the side, andthat's really hard to do.
(18:38):
I feel like with this type ofwork, it's best when you're all
in.
I feel like with this type ofwork, it's best when you're all
in.
So I feel like I'm probablythis is maybe my first year
really, maybe two years, maybe ayear and a half being all in
and doing this full time and itchanged everything and it's
grown so rapidly and I feel likea lot of that is, you know,
(19:02):
having the right support systemis a big part of that too and
you know, and if you're with apartner, having that right
partner who will support you andreally, really believe in what
you're doing.
And I met the love of my lifeand the love of my life said hey
, you are too good to be workingat a store and doing this
because you're not fulfillingwhat your purpose is here.
(19:23):
And I didn't have theconfidence, because I didn't
believe in myself, to know thatit could get to the level that
it was, and I had a lot of fearabout that.
And I was lucky enough to havea partner who said no, do this
Like.
I believe in you, you need todo this.
And once that happened, I meanit was within like six months
just boom, boom, boom, boom,boom, just grew.
(19:44):
And now I'm doing better than Iwould have ever done at
something else and it's just,it's.
I mean it's taken off liketenfold.
Now I'm doing events likepretty much every week and
private readings, and it's just.
It's just, it's crazy.
It went from zero to 60.
But I also think when you'remeant to do something, I think
you believe in this your solepurpose, whatever you're being
(20:05):
called to do, when it'ssomething that's right, it flows
very easily and the universemakes everything just fall into
place and there's this flow thathappens and this abundance that
happens, because I feel asthough when you're meant to be
doing what you're supposed to bedoing, abundance comes to you
and it's also doing it for theright reasons.
(20:26):
Right, I feel like I do thiswork to help people and the
universe goes oh, you want tohelp people?
All right, let's just keepthrowing people at you, because
we know what you're doing is forthe greater good.
So I feel like that has a lotto do with.
It is just being in the rightplace and doing your soul's
purpose.
Speaker 1 (20:43):
So how do you practice your skill?
How do you train and develop itso that it gets better?
Speaker 2 (20:48):
So I think a lot of that is, first of all, trust is
the number one thing a mediumneeds to learn, and it's a trust
within themselves, but morethan anything, it's the trust
that you have for spirit andmeaning that you're trusting the
information or whatever they'regiving you and really believing
that on a full level.
I feel like it really does helpwhen you're starting off medium
(21:09):
.
I mean, a lot of it is just youlearn on your own.
I'm not going to even I meanyou, just it's a natural thing.
But I do believe you can meetthe right people.
And training is really, really,really important, because I felt
that the training that I gotwith my mentor took me to a huge
, different level of trust.
I mean, I don't even know howto explain this to people, but
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we would do a reading.
I would be reading somebody andshe's experiencing exactly what
I'm experiencing at the sametime the same words, the same
objects that are being shown.
Can you explain that to me?
That's not something that canbe, that's real ability, and
we're both picking up on thisfrequency at the same time.
That is the best trainingyou're going to get, because
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someone's fully experiencingthat with you and can guide you,
and so she really guided meinto trust and listening and I
really believe that that's whyI'm where I'm at, because that
was a big thing I was missingfor a long time.
And I also think a big part ofpracticing is just doing it.
It's just going in cold turkey,you don't know who you're going
(22:15):
to read, I don't want to knowyour name, I don't know where
you're from, and you just makeme do it and you say Tara, show
up, read 50 people.
I'm like I trust spirit, Itrust them, they're in charge.
So I just got to go in and havefull trust in them and it
doesn't matter about me, itdoesn't matter about any of that
.
That needs to be put aside andI just need to trust and that's
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that's the hardest part, butalso the most powerful part of
mediumship.
Speaker 1 (22:41):
So can you explain, like, when there's a group of 10
, 20, 50 people, how do youreceive these messages to the
best ability that you candescribe it to someone who
doesn't?
Speaker 2 (22:53):
So everyone's different.
I feel like every medium orevery person who receives
messages receives them indifferent ways, but we have lots
of different ways of kind ofgetting them.
I get them in a lot ofdifferent ways.
So, auditory, I'm more of ahearer, and it's more like I'll
hear and it'll feel like athought, it's more like
telepathy.
I'll feel like a thought isbeing put into my head, right,
(23:13):
or a word will be putting intomy head.
For instance, one I hadrecently was Disneyland and I
kept hearing Disneyland,disneyland, disneyland,
disneyland in my head and I justsaid well, I don't know how
this applies, but they're justgoing on about Disneyland and
I'm supposed to talk aboutDisneyland.
Well, they had just went toDisneyland, like three days ago,
to celebrate and they weren't,they didn't live in Southern
California.
(23:33):
So I mean, that just shows youto trust, right.
So that was an auditory.
And then there's also feelings.
You may feel something insideof your body.
So for me, sometimes if someonetransitioned a certain way so
say, they passed through a heartproblem I may feel a tightness
inside of my chest.
If they had smoking orsomething with the lungs, I may
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feel a tightness in my throatand that's a symbol for me oh,
there was an issue with mythroat, there was an issue with
my chest.
Me oh, there was an issue withmy throat, there was an issue
with my chest.
So spirits using all of thesesimultaneously to get their
message across.
So that also happens as well.
As images like think of like alittle film reel, and you know
how you it's not always likeperfectly clear, but you'll get
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one, and then you'll get another, and then you'll get another.
So that also happens to mewhere I get images that flash in
front of my face and it's justreal quick, real quick images,
and I can also see sometimeswhat they look like.
Another big part for me is justfeeling like I can feel their
personality.
I don't know how to describe it, but I can just feel their
energy, who they are, whatthey're about.
It's a sense of just knowing,like I just know.
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I don't know how I know it, butI know it and I use that as
well.
So it's kind of a mixture of alot of them.
The one that I don't use asoften but does sometimes happen
is I don't know the right word,but it's when you smell, when
you can smell, some mediums canbe strong where they'll be.
Like I smell cigar smoke or Ismell a certain perfume, I get
(24:59):
that, but for me it's rare aswell, as people think that
mediumship's only limited topeople, but it's not.
It's actually animals as well.
So animals come through for meas well, all animals, and it's
the same way that a person'scommunicating the signs and the
symbols, all the same auditorytelepathy, all of it, same same
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so yeah.
Speaker 1 (25:22):
So when you're receiving these messages, how do
you distinguish between thembeing intuition or your own
personal mental chatter versusmessages from the other side
Like how do you filter all ofthat?
Is there like a doorway?
Speaker 2 (25:39):
I mean yeah, I would say yeah, Well, because, well,
the thing is, before I go intothis, before I go into anything,
right, I'm raising my vibrationa little bit.
I'm kind of going into a stateof like okay, I kind of get it
centered and I go all right,it's time for me to go Right,
it's time for me to dip out byand allow spirit to take over,
and that's the whole point is,the medium is really.
(26:01):
I really try to involve myselfvery little bit.
There'll maybe be parts of mypersonality and the way I
express it.
That's me right.
But when I'm channeling, I don'tfeel that it's me.
I feel that it's the personwho's coming through and they're
speaking and I feel as though Idon't have that mental chatter.
Does that make sense?
Because I'm not there anymore.
I take that away because it'sthat trust and spirit that you
(26:29):
have to you're channeling.
If it's something that's takinga long time there's a lot of
pauses, there's a lot of thisthat's when the mental part of
the medium is starting to comeback in and the channeling isn't
as clear.
When you hear someone who'sjust boom, boom, boom, boom,
boom, boom, boom, boom, boom,that's a channel because it's
just flowing right.
It's not a forcefulness, it'sjust flowing.
So I think every medium thatgoes into their mediumship or is
(26:51):
starting it kind of really setsthat intention of I'm over here
, we're ready for you to comeand you to take control, and
that's all what it's about.
But that's the hardest part ofbeing a medium is a lot of us
struggle with, like you said,our own mental aspect of it and
trusting trusting that whatyou're receiving is something,
(27:14):
because you may not be able tomake sense of it, but it is not
about you, it's about thatperson sitting across from you.
You're going to understand whatit means.
I may not, but that doesn'tmatter.
The message isn't for me, it'sfor you.
So it's really, really trustingthat as you go in, even if it
sounds wild.
Wild and just trusting.
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That's the biggest part of it.
Speaker 1 (27:36):
When people come to see you.
I know what I was hoping tohear, but I'm curious what do
you think other people arehoping to get from connecting
with past loved ones?
Evidence Okay, yes, that iswhat I wanted.
Yeah, was evidence.
Speaker 2 (27:51):
You want evidence.
You want evidence to reallyvalidate that what you are
experiencing or what you haveexperienced is true and you
don't want vague information.
I don't want vague information.
I don't want vague information.
Spirit usually doesn't givethat.
If they're really going in,they want to be clear and
precise and really validate toyou that your experience with
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them is real.
And I feel like as a medium I'malways striving.
My biggest thing is like I wantto be an evidential medium.
I want to be able to give youthat evidence where you're like
that is my dad, like I don'tcare what you say, like I know
that's my dad, you know, and Ihope that that's the experience
that people leave with, likethat was my dad or that was my
(28:34):
mom, or that was validated, youknow.
And so spirit really works todo that and they work with it in
a lot of different ways, butpart of it could be validating
that picture that's hanging upin your room that no one else
knows.
Or it could be the horse thatyou and your dad had together
and no one knew about that horsebecause it's nowhere online to
(28:54):
be seen.
There's no evidence, nopictures.
You can't find that and I bringthat up.
Those things are the way thatyou go.
This is real.
This is real.
Now, the hard part is because ofsocial media, because of online
.
It's made the job for themedium so much more difficult,
because it does take more.
It takes more evidence, becauseI understand the skepticism.
(29:17):
It could be online, you know.
So you're really hoping whichspirit does is they'll bring
through those parts that aren'tto be seen, to bring you to that
.
So, yeah, I think people arehoping to receive evidence first
, most, and then, I think, toreally feel that they're
connecting to their loved ones.
I think those are the top two.
Evidence, of course, like wewant the real to know it's real,
(29:38):
and then we want to really knowthat we've connected with them.
So it's both of those and thatthey're hearing us and that
they've heard us and that theyknow we're thinking of them.
Those are the top two.
I think people are reallylooking forward to.
Speaker 1 (29:52):
That is definitely what it was for me.
And again, I went in veryskeptical I'm not going to lie
about that and you really blewmy mind, because there were
things that you said that there,as you're saying, there was
nothing online that you couldhave possibly seen or read, and
you were giving such specificdetails and memories that I sat
(30:19):
in the car for 20 minutes afterthat session and just sat there
and tried to process what hadhappened.
But the only thing that I hadsaid telepathically or in my
mind when we got there was dad,this is your opportunity.
Prove to me that there'ssomething else.
Prove to me that somehowsomething, because I'd already
(30:40):
been getting other signs in mylife, but again, the skeptic in
me just wanted to debunk it aslike oh, that's just a
coincidence.
But I want to ask you aboutskepticism, like, how do you
handle this part of it?
Speaker 2 (30:54):
I think being a skeptic is not a bad thing.
I think it's healthy to be abit of a skeptic I mean I do but
there's a difference betweenbeing skeptical and being open.
Now, I've always said I neverwant anyone to come to me who is
being forced, who someone saysyou have to go to this medium.
(31:14):
Go, because then the intentionis set that you don't want to be
there, and that's an energythat I can pick up on, which
then will create a wall for me,because it's an energy exchange
between not only me and spirit,but me and you.
And if you don't have thattrust or you have that, well,
(31:36):
skeptical is a little bit.
But if you have that notwanting to be here, it really
does affect it.
So skeptical, fine, that's alittle bit.
But openness, if you, you camein skeptical right, we talked
about this.
You came in skeptical, but didyou come in open, with curiosity
, with wanting to experiencethis?
It was something you chose todo, a hundred percent Right.
It was something you chose.
(31:56):
No one was forcing you.
That is why that flowed andthat's why it happened.
Now, if you would have came inwith a different mentality of,
oh, this is so, I don't evenwant to be here, I'm just going
to go experience this.
Then your result may have beenvery different.
So, yeah, but skeptical isn'tlike if people don't believe in
what I do.
My job is not to convinceeverybody here on earth, and
(32:18):
it's not about me.
It's what you take away fromthe experience and I hope that
somebody takes away somethingfrom it.
But also, that's not my burdento carry.
It's the fact that I deliveredthe messages and that I did what
I was supposed to do, which wasserve spirit.
And if they can't take fullyeverything, that's fine, it's
(32:40):
okay.
And not everyone's going tobelieve that's just the it's
okay, and not everyone's goingto believe that's just, that's
just the way it is.
But I believe in myself and Itrust spirits, so for me that's
enough.
That's how I feel about it.
Speaker 1 (32:52):
Do you ever receive messages that you feel hesitant
to deliver?
Speaker 2 (32:58):
Yes, yes, I do.
Speaker 1 (33:01):
What do you do in those circumstances?
Speaker 2 (33:03):
It depends, because I ask spirit whether or not I
should deliver it.
I say I'm feeling this, is thissomething you want me to
deliver or not?
Are they ready or are they not?
And majority of the time, ifit's a situation and I'm feeling
something, I will ask theperson hey, I have someone
coming through for you.
I'm a medium, are you open toit?
They say yes.
(33:23):
I say now I want you to knowthere's some heaviness attached
to this.
So I want to know if you'rereally okay with that, because I
want to honor that for you.
If you're not, that's totallyfine.
But know that that's comingthrough.
And that's kind of how Iapproach it, in the sense of if
it's something that I feel, theysay it's okay.
I always want consent and I'mvery careful about how I
(33:45):
approach it to somebody.
I never want to force it ordeliver it if they don't want to
hear it, because that's notgoing to help the person Right.
So it has to be a willingnessto receive the information.
So, yeah, I'm very carefulabout it.
But there are things sometimesyou receive where you're like
should I do this?
But you just have to go back toasking spirit Okay, should I?
(34:06):
They'll tell you yes, no, yes,maybe not right now, maybe they
need three months, maybe theyneed four months of healing,
Maybe they're still in theirgrieving process.
They will tell me that and Isay okay, and then I don't
approach until that time comes.
Speaker 1 (34:19):
When you receive these messages, does it drain
your body Like how many of thesesessions can you do in a day?
Speaker 2 (34:26):
Well, it depends, because every person is
different, right?
So your energy, plus your lovedones, plus my energy, is
different.
So everybody's energy isdifferent.
So I may enter one readingwhere I'm super charged and just
feeling it, we're vibing, wehave such good energy, I'm
feeling it.
And then another reading wheremaybe it's a little heavier,
maybe there was a hardertransitions, maybe it was a
harder relationship with theperson, that transition where I
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feel a little bit more drained.
So it's kind of a give and take, but spirit lines up my
schedule, I feel like.
So they know who's going tocome, who's going to be the day.
They all know that I don't.
So there's a lot ofsynchronicities that will happen
within the scheduling.
But majority of the time for meevery medium is different.
Mind you, some of us can onlydo a little bit, some of us can
(35:09):
do more.
It just depends on how much youdo it and how it develops for
you.
For me, I try not to take.
At most would be three a day.
That would be at most.
I would prefer to do two, andthen I like to have a day or at
least a day between that, liketwo, and then I'll usually take
(35:31):
a day and then do another two,but it depends.
Sometimes I do a lot more.
So it just kind of depends.
And then the events.
It's a different energy.
Events are totally differentfrom private energy.
You would think that privatewould be easier.
People think I think it'sharder because when you're going
into a group energy, thinkabout how many people's energy
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is contributing to that groupright.
So think about a battery beingcharged If you have two
batteries versus having like 10batteries.
A battery being charged If youhave two batteries versus having
like 10 batteries, how is thatgoing to be Right?
So it's a different type ofenergy frequency, I feel, from
groups.
So it's different.
I feel like I could do I justdid three in a row, boom, boom,
boom.
(36:11):
Three days, three nights in arow, and so it's just.
It just depends.
But also I have a partner whois also an energy worker and
provides that personal batteryfor me.
So when I do those events I'mnot, I'm not drained.
I would say I don't think you'llmeet anyone that takes like six
readings, seven readings on aday.
I just don't think that wouldbe.
I mean maybe, but I don't know.
(36:33):
That would be a lot.
I don't think it would besustainable because no matter
how much energy work you do, nomatter how much you say, it does
affect you.
So it wouldn't be honoringyourself, I think, if you did
that many and also you becomedrained where your messages may
not be as clear or maybe you'rekind of tired, so you're not at
(36:54):
your full capacity and I neverwant to like give a half a
reading.
I never want to like give halfof myself.
So one thing about me is likeif I'm not feeling well or if
I'm having an off day and I'mabout me and not about serving,
I will reschedule that readingbecause I want to be a hundred
for that session, for you andfor spirit, and if I can't give
(37:16):
that to you, then I'm not goingto do it.
So I really honor that.
And that took a lot of learning, because in the beginning I
felt guilty like oh, if I don'tfeel good, I should just do it
right.
No, it's not a nine to five job, it's something that's an
energy based thing.
So you really have to be inthat, like you had mentioned, a
frame of mind and energy thatyou need to be there, willing to
(37:39):
serve and ready a frame of mindand energy that you need to be
there, willing to serve andready, and this ability that you
have to access this connection.
Speaker 1 (37:46):
do you think that this is something that only
certain people can tap into,like you're born with it or
you're not?
Speaker 2 (37:49):
See, that's that's an interesting question.
I feel that you can be taught.
I do think you can be taughtmediumship.
I know I do, but I think thereare people that have more of a
natural ability for sure.
I also think if you're teachingit, there just has to be some
sort of natural ability in there, because it is so intuition
(38:11):
based and so it's just not likesomething you could just
necessarily.
I just think having a naturalpart of it would make it easier.
But I have met other people whowere more trained or needed to
learn a little bit more than me.
Like, I feel I came in with alot of natural ability, but I
think there were some peoplethat were like really developing
that within themselves and theydid do a lot of growing.
So I do think it's possible.
(38:32):
But I think there's other typesof mediumship in the world.
If you were to explore that youcan't necessarily be taught.
Speaker 1 (38:45):
I think those there's some that you need to be born
with.
Speaker 2 (38:47):
When you say that intuition is such a big part of
it, what do you mean by that?
Just natural trust of your ownintuition?
So I can't describe it but likeability to like tap into things
.
And I think I always just had anatural intuitive base like,
okay, yeah, I'm picking up onthis energy, like I could read
people, I could feel people,like that was always just
natural for me and this empathof like feeling people on this
(39:08):
deep level, like all of that waslike a natural thing for me.
But fine, tuning the mediumshipand how I deliver and tapping
in on a deeper level, yeah, thattook training, yes, some
training, you know.
But I think having a natural,just intuitive energy or
empathic energy helps withmediumship.
Speaker 1 (39:27):
My mind.
The way it works is that I'mconstantly like wanting the
science to understand, like howis this possible?
And I actually had an unrelatedperson, who is a medium,
approach me out of nowhere andsay this is a message from your
dad.
And he's saying you don't needto understand the why, just
believe.
And I was like wait what?
(39:49):
You just received this messagefor me and it's just you know.
She said yes, does that makesense to you?
And I said yeah, then thatmakes sense to me.
So, just digging a little bitinto my desire to want to
understand some science here,though, like how do you think
that those who have passed caninfluence our world here on
(40:10):
earth?
And I will give you somecontext for that question.
Okay, on the day that my daddied, I was in New Zealand I
couldn't be any farther away andin an extremely remote location
and I was on a FaceTime callwith my direct family and I was
in a bit of a stupor, like Ithink maybe I was a bit floaty
in another place and there was abutterfly that was very far
(40:33):
away from me and I just wasbegging my dad in my mind.
Dad, if there's any way you canhear me if there's any way you
can.
You could hear me make thatbutterfly land on me.
And that butterfly, it it turnedand it came and it landed on me
within 15 minutes on my wrist,and I burst into tears.
I started laughing and myfamily was like what's so funny?
(40:55):
And I said I explained what hadjust happened.
And again the skeptic in me islike but how Like?
What's the science?
How could a person who haspassed potentially influence a
butterfly's flight pattern?
Yeah, do you have any idea howto answer this for me?
Speaker 2 (41:12):
So kind of.
So one thing I know is that ifwe look, look into it, there is
a lot of research on they'vebeen doing more and more with
like mediums.
I even think one of the othermediums that's big on television
.
They did a brain scan for himas he was channeling and they
were trying to see what markerswere there and apparently he was
(41:32):
in this like sleep and awakestate at the exact same time.
So science was saying thatbasically there is definitely
something that goes within amedium's brain or frequency
scientifically that shows thatthey're doing some sort of
different vibration orconnection than what we're doing
when in our regular state.
(41:53):
Does that make sense?
Yeah, so there is been morescience that's been proven as to
like how it's working in theterms of that aspect now and how
spirit can manipulate and dothings into our physical world.
I'm not exactly sure how, butthere is a lot of other mediums
out there and a lot of differenttypes of mediumship that go
(42:14):
into more of the science-basedaspect of how these things can
happen.
But I do believe in thingsmanifesting or appearing or, as
you, shared that experience, Ihad another client who became a
good friend, who I read for andI talked to her about blue
dragonflies and I said your momsends you these blue dragonflies
, like she's going to send youone and it's going to be so
obvious it's going to be in yourface, it's going to be on you,
(42:35):
it's going to come.
It's going to come, the bluedragonfly.
She said, all right, a coupleof weeks later she was at a
water park and she was in one ofthose wave pools.
Right, she was in the wave pooland the blue dragonfly lands on
her, on her, just as youdescribed.
And she said are you kidding meright now?
Are you kidding me?
And ended up calling me andtelling me that it ended up
(42:56):
landing on her.
And it was just that experience.
And I said I just believe, andI know that somehow they can
manifest in different ways, togive us these signs.
Now I think it would be muchharder to materialize, like to
come into our world and fullmaterialize, right, I don't know
about that if they could dothat so easily, but I do believe
they can energeticallymanipulate energy for certain
(43:18):
things to happen.
So I totally believe thebutterfly as well.
As I'm sure you've heard, peoplehave had experiences where
things have just appeared orshown up and they're like how
did that get there?
Or hey, my mom's bracelet waslost and now I saw it in the
middle of my room.
How is that possible?
Don't ask me how, but I knowthat that those things are.
I've had an instance where apenny fell.
And I didn't know where thepenny fell it was above the sky
(43:40):
into this.
I just didn't know where itcame from and I don't know how.
But I know that spirit isscientifically and weak and I
don't know how, but able tomanipulate energy to where they
can make things happen in ourworld For sure.
I wish I could give you a clearanswer as to why, but I know
there are books and people outthere that would have more clear
of an explanation as to how,but I know it's possible.
Speaker 1 (44:02):
Yeah, it's kind of like how you're saying I don't
think we're really meant to know, and it's the same sort of I
guess you could call it faith,in a way that people have a
belief in a religious system.
There's so many differentbeliefs out there for which
there is no scientific evidence.
Speaker 2 (44:18):
And also you went back to that trust.
So you were talking aboutwhat's the biggest thing with a
medium right, what makes us amedium?
What is it?
Our trust.
So spirit's giving you that, togive you to trust.
They want you to trust just asmuch as we do when we deliver,
and that's the biggest thing.
And those signs and thosethings that happen to you allow
you slowly to build trust, andso that's why why do you think
(44:41):
that people on the other sidewant to connect with us here?
I believe they want to connectwith us to bring us peace, to
bring us a feeling of peace andknowing that they're truly okay
and knowing that there's more,and giving us guidance.
So we know that, even thoughtheir physical body is no longer
in the world, with us, they arestill with us on the same
(45:04):
capacity, just in a differentway.
And your dad will continue therest of your life to make that
clear to you and he willcontinue to do that in many
aspects of your life and in manyways.
And you will just know andthat's part of it, they want you
to know that even thoughthey're not here physically
(45:26):
they've never really goneanywhere, they're just somewhere
else but they're still here.
It's just there's no physicalbody, and it's.
They want us to feel thatthey're always with us, because
that's what we want to feel.
We want to know that they'restill with us.
We want to know that we canstill connect when we want to
connect.
And it's true, they're just athought away, so enjoy it.
Speaker 1 (45:46):
One of the questions I have is just that if the
spirits you connect with couldgive humanity one piece of
advice, what do you think thatthat would be?
Speaker 2 (45:59):
The first instinct which is, once again, I trust
what I'm hearing is love.
That was the biggest word.
Love for one another.
That was the biggest thing Iheard.
Just pure love and acceptancefor everybody as a whole.
I feel like that's what theywant for humanity, and to be
able to accept each other'sdifferences with love.
(46:22):
Easier said than done, right,yeah, it is Easier said than
done, but you know, I feel likea big reason of why we also are
brought here to like do thiswork you know different healers,
all aspects of life is to bringlove to people, to bring peace
to people and to also showacceptance as well.
And I think that in all aspects, that's always the message
(46:46):
that's coming across is love.
That's number one, and just anopen heart and forgiveness and
all those things.
Like I said, it's just.
I feel like for humanity,they're just looking for love
and acceptance and that's comingto unity.
That was the word unity, yeah.
Speaker 1 (47:01):
It starts making me think that earth is school.
Speaker 2 (47:09):
We're here to learn.
That's what I feel.
I fully feel we are here tolearn and to have a human
experience, though, like that'sthe whole point, like we don't
need to know everything that'shappening over there, because
we're going to have thatexperience.
Right, it's going to happen,we're going to have it, we're
going to have it.
So right now, let's just enjoywhat we have here and work on
being present.
Which is the hardest part ofbeing here is being present,
cause we're always looking tothe past, we're always looking
to the future.
It is very hard to be in apresent state and really enjoy
(47:31):
the human experience, and thatwas something that I struggled
with my entire life.
I was always looking to thefuture or wanting to connect
with spirit and not really enjoymy physical, earthly life.
And then I had my partner comeinto my life and my partner said
we're here for this humanexperience.
Like we're here, like let's bepresent, let's be here, let's
enjoy it, because the earth isbeautiful and we need to see it
(47:55):
for that and enjoy it and bringreally, really a lot of
gratitude towards it.
And I said, oh my gosh, this issuch a different perspective
than what I ever could see thebeauty in the earth.
I guess you could say and now Isee that and I'm like all about
having the human experience now.
Heck, yeah, sign me up, let'sgo, I want it.
Speaker 1 (48:15):
What do you want or what do you dream of for your
mediumship journey?
Where would you like to takethis?
Speaker 2 (48:21):
Well, I have a dream, but who knows what's in store?
You know spirit's in control,so I don't know what they have
in store for me.
But one thing I know is that,first of all, I definitely don't
want to limit myself, becauseit's something I've done in the
past where I've been like thisis just my calling, and every
time I say that spirit goes uh,there's more, you're meant to do
this, you're meant to do that,don't limit yourself.
(48:42):
So, first of all, I don't wantto limit myself, but for an
immediate, if I was just to looktowards the immediate, what I
would love to do is continuedoing private groups right and
to continue to reach the massesas much as I can.
That's the ultimate goal is tojust reach the world, and my
ultimate dream world I would betraveling, not only I would do
(49:06):
this a lot in the US as well,but all over the world, and I
would be doing this in differentcountries, giving back to
communities that can't maybeafford it, going into areas with
heavy loss and just doing thisall over.
That would be the ultimate dream, right, but right now would
would be we're looking to dolarger spaces, we're looking for
venues that would be open,having me be a part of that and
bringing in 60, 70, 80, maybe100 people and me starting to
(49:28):
read on that bigger level of aplatform style, that would be a
big goal for me.
That's my first immediate goal,wow, but yeah, then let's take
on the world how do people evenfind you?
Speaker 1 (49:40):
I tried to find your website and I did not find one.
Speaker 2 (49:42):
Okay, so okay, sorry world, I'm not much of a social
media person, but I do have myFacebook.
It's Tara B Medium, and then Ialso have my email, which is a
great way to contact me, andit's tarabalowski at yahoocom or
through telephone.
I might think eventually I willmove to like doing a website or
(50:02):
something, but if someone'scontacting me, they don't need
to give me much informationabout who they want to connect.
Don't want any of that.
Just I'm here, I'm interestedin booking.
That's all I need.
So less is more.
I don't want to know.
You don't even need to tell mewho referred you.
Don't give me any of thatinformation.
Allow that to just come through, naturally, you know do they
(50:23):
have to give you their name?
They don't even have to give metheir name If they do not want
to.
I've had people say I don'twant to give you my email until
five seconds before the reading.
I said all right, that's fine,I don't care, give it to me,
I'll give it to you five seconds.
They want me to do research.
I'm fine with that.
I'm totally fine with that.
You can text me from atelephone number and say hey,
I'm interested in having areading.
(50:44):
You don't even need to say yourname.
You could just say I'minterested in having a reading
book with me.
I fully trust, fully trust.
So I'm never weird about that.
I definitely understand that.
Speaker 1 (50:53):
Tara, it's been such a fun conversation.
It's been very enlightening tojust see what this experience is
like for you.
I think it's an incredible giftand I hope that you continue to
help people around the worldconnect with their loved ones
and get that evidence that theyneed.
It's funny the evidence.
I already feel like I've gottenthe evidence, and yet part of
(51:16):
me is like no, I need a littlemore.
Speaker 2 (51:19):
That's the human in us.
We want more.
It's never enough.
Don't worry, I ask for more allthe time.
I'm like can you give me moreproof?
And even me, I'm the same way.
I'm like give me more, give memore, give me more.
You know, it's a natural humanthing for us to want more this
has been amazing.
Speaker 1 (51:42):
Thank you so much, so much.
This was amazing.
Thank you so much.
Today's key takeaways Take noteof the things you were drawn to
as a child.
Your intuition then may revealyour purpose.
Now, the instincts you had as achild may hold the map to your
deepest gifts.
Your hardest experiences canhelp reveal your purpose.
When we stop running from ourpain and start listening to it,
(52:06):
transformation begins.
Purpose often lives on theother side of healing.
Grief can crack us open in waysnothing else can.
Sometimes loss creates thespace for a deeper connection
with ourselves, with others andwith those we've lost.
(52:27):
Healthy skepticism is a goodthing, but stay curious and ask
questions and keep your heartopen.
Trust is everything when itcomes to intuition, whether
you're tapping into creativity,spiritual guidance or your own
inner knowing.
Real growth begins when wetrust ourselves and the process.
(52:49):
Loved ones often communicatethrough signs, symbols and
synchronicities Butterflies,dreams, gut feelings.
When you're present and payingattention, you just might notice
they've been near you all along.
Know your limits and protectyour energy.
You can't serve others whenyou're running on empty.
(53:10):
Rest isn't a luxury, it's partof your work.
And finally, the mostconsistent message from the
other side is love, pure,accepting unshakable love.
Let that be your guide.
That's all for today.
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