August 19, 2025 • 31 mins
Ever found yourself holding a peanut butter spoon in your bathroom with absolutely no memory of why you’re there or what you’re doing? Welcome to parenting with ADHD, where working memory glitches meet kid interruptions, and somehow you're still expected to keep tiny humans alive and thriving. We're diving into the real challenges ADHD parents face and sharing the hacks that actually work.
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Who Should Listen
This episode is for any parent with ADHD. If you've mastered the art of hyperfocusing on LEGO builds at 2 AM but can't remember to feed yourself lunch, this one's definitely for you.
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What You Get In This Episode
- Real solutions for "What was I doing?" moments – Body doubling tricks and task anchoring that actually work in real life
- Time management hacks for the time-blind – How to stop deep-cleaning the fridge when you should be leaving for school
- Overstimulation survival strategies – Creating tap-out systems and emergency sensory kits for when everything feels too much
- Scripts for emotional rollercoaster days – How to repair with your kids and name that guilt gremlin
- Your ADHD superpowers as a parent – Because hyperfocus ninja skills and empathy champions are real things
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hi everyone.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
We're so glad you're here.
Legally, we are Caitlin and.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
Ariella, that will make sense to you later if you
listen to the end of the show,because you'll get it All right.
Welcome to how to Be a Grown-Up.
This is the how-to show formoms who've served big snack for
dinner and called it aparenting win.
And if you're in my circle, youknow what a big snack is.
It's like a baby charcuterieboard served in a ice cube tray.
Try it, it's a big deal With me.
(00:31):
Today.
Again, I'm Caitlin, is AriellaMonti.
She's a novelist and she's thelove child of a garden fairy and
a swashbuckling pirate.
That one I made up completely,all by myself that is my
favorite it's so good, isn't itso good?
Speaker 2 (00:53):
that's you yeah, I am totally.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
I'm putting that on merch it's like the ultimate
compliment yes, yes, yes, yes,yes.
Oh man, today we're calmingdown.
We are talking about parentingas a parent with ADHD.
(01:18):
So last week we talked aboutparenting the child with ADHD
and today we're talking aboutbeing a parent who has ADHD,
because this mess I almost saida bad word is really hard, so,
so hard.
But first, let's make sureyou're following us on social.
Ariella uses her pen name,which again will be.
(01:42):
It'll make sense if you listento the end of the episode she
follows or no, she doesn'tfollows me, I follow her but
we're not talking about that.
We're talking about youfollowing her at ariela,
underscore monty on threads,instagram and the tickety talk.
Find us at ck and gk podcast onall the things except Twitter,
(02:03):
because ew.
So let's get to it.
Yeah, yeah, okay, our sourcesfor today again, attitude Mag,
my favorite ADHD creator, drSteve Storage Us Find the
sources in the blog post for theepisode.
Here's our disclaimer Parentingrequires the daily execution
(02:26):
Listen to these big words Readythe daily execution of
repetitive tasks, which requiresexecutive functioning.
And again, adhd-ers strugglewith executive functioning.
So our symptoms likeinattention, impulsivity,
emotional dysregulation, affecteverything about the way we
(02:48):
parent, from managing thehousehold shiitake to the
relationships we have with ourchildren.
So we're going to laugh throughas much of this mess as we
possibly can and give some realadvice for how to handle these
things.
Just know that, again, asAriella likes to say, your
mileage will vary on thesethings.
We are not therapists, we arenot mental health professionals.
(03:09):
We've done the research, butwe're struggling just as much as
you and we're learning thesetips and testing them out as we
go along.
So things that work for us maynot work for you, but you can at
least have them in your backpocket as part of your toolkit
to try at some other time.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
Perfect Now my nose is running.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
Thanks, I'm good.
I'm good at disclaimers when Iremember to give them.
Okay.
Welcome to Austin, where nosesalways run.
So here's the first challengethat I have that I faced.
It's the wait.
What was I doing?
Yeah, like a regular part of mylife.
It looks like your workingmemory glitches, like your brain
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caches in the middle of asentence, plus, you have a kid
interrupting your train ofthought, and that all kind of
leads to things like why do Ihave a spoon of peanut butter in
my hand?
But I'm in the bathroom, whichis which sounds weird, but it's
because I was taking.
I was gonna give the dog a bathand I had her lick mat in the
(04:14):
bathroom and I was gonna put thedog peanut butter on the lick
mat that was stuck to the wallof the shower, but I forgot what
I was doing as I was doing itso you're just in the bathroom
with a spoonful, with a spoonfulof dog peanut butter and not
knowing why, and I had put thedog peanut butter jar down
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somewhere behind me on the way.
My house is not big, it's it'slike a four-step hallway from
the kitchen to here, and it'slike what was I just doing?
And then I had to retrace mysteps.
But I got it.
So here's one of the fixes Bodydoubling.
We've talked about this before.
Call a friend while you'redoing your chores, okay, that
(04:57):
way you can say hey, ariella,I'm about to give the dog a bath
.
Can you help me make sure thatI actually do accomplish this
task?
Great Thanks, appreciate it.
Task anchoring this is a fun one.
This is like if you want tobuild a habit, you pair a new
thing with the thing you do allthe time, right.
(05:18):
So like you want to learn totake vitamins and every day you
make your coffee at the sametime of day, put the vitamins on
top of the coffee maker, right?
That's how you task anchor.
So you're going to pair aroutine with a sensory cue.
Like, while your coffee isbrewing, you always unload the
dishwasher, so that the smell ofcoffee makes you go oh, I need
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to.
I need to unload the dishwasher.
So that's one way to helpyourself with the whole wait.
I was doing something, somethingI was going to do something.
I forgot what that is.
I hope it's not holding runnydog peanut butter on a spoon in
the bathroom.
That was so bad, okay.
The next one is I forgot how toadult.
Welcome to this show.
(06:00):
The adult adults trying to begrownups is this show the adults
trying to be grownups is thisshow?
So this looks like misseddentist appointments both yours
and your child's Fun Unpaidbills.
Forgetting to feed yourself,which we've talked about in a
food episode not too long ago.
Make sure you go listen to that.
It's in the ADHD Spotifyplaylist.
So here's how to fix that.
(06:22):
I'm going to say this withclaps Don't rely on willpower or
memory.
Don't rely on willpower ormemory.
Use visual cues like calendars,timers, whiteboards, family
calendars, whatever it is to letthem do the thinking and the
reminding for you, because youwon't do it.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
Nope.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
I'm going to hold your hand while I say this.
You will not remember.
Remember this we do not controlthe remember.
Adhd brains do not control theremember.
That's why you will remember aninteraction you had with a
parent seven years ago that youstill cringe at, but you can't
remember why you're standing inthe bathroom with a spoonful of
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peanut butter in your hand,right, that's the reason.
Another one, and I love this,I'm gonna start doing this.
I found this tip automate ordelegate anything that cannot be
automated, like bill paymentsand stuff like that.
You need to outsource it.
Maybe, that is, you need tohave your husband set a reminder
(07:30):
on his phone for you to dosomething, but you need to have
someone else be responsible forhelping you with the remember.
So set up as much as you can onauto payment.
You know, auto pay yourmortgage, auto transfers,
whatever it is you have to do,and then the rest of it have
someone else help you remember.
You call the dentist.
(07:50):
I'll schedule the haircut Checkwith me in 15 minutes to make
sure it got done, becausethere's a really good chance
I've forgotten those 15 minutesthat I was supposed to do that.
Did we both accomplish our task?
Great, did probably on me.
Great, I'll go make that phonecall, yeah, um, the other thing
that I like to do is, if it'ssomebody, if it's a appointment
(08:10):
that I can schedule via textlike my son's haircuts I can
schedule with our woman via textI will.
When he says, hey, mom, I needto get a haircut with an iPhone
or other phones, I'm sure atthis point you can schedule the
message to go out, so it doesn'thave to be oh, you know it
(08:30):
doesn't.
Maybe you know they don't wakeup until after 830.
So then schedule the message togo out at 945.
Like, those are things you cando, so try that.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
That's a good.
That's a good tip.
Speaker 1 (08:43):
Thank you, you can, can do so.
Try that.
That's a good, that's a goodtip.
Thank you.
You can do it with emails too,like write the email and then
schedule it to send that's agood idea okay, another
challenge, so we've got two.
So far, the wait.
What was I doing that I forgotto adult.
Here's another one timeblindness meets the tiny time
sucking tyrants that live inyour house, the what is not
(09:05):
crotch goblins.
That's not appropriate.
That's not the ones I was.
There's another one that I wasthinking of spawn anyway, their
offspring yeah, offspring, butthere's another, there was one
that's kind of mean that I that,I think, is funny anyway,
that's what they are they'retiny time-sucking t-rexes, as
(09:27):
you mentioned in the lastepisode.
So what it looks like is oh cool, school starts in five minutes.
Yep, this is definitely time todeep clean the fridge.
And we know this happensbecause jenny talked about how
she reorganized the fridgebefore going to work ended up
being late for work because shewas reorganizing the fridge.
So this is real, and it's notbecause you want to do it, then
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it's because you're looking forsomething in the fridge and then
you're like, oh, I can't findanything and you just completely
lose your mind and the dopaminehits you and you just have to
start going nuts and then youtake everything out and then you
turn around and it's all onyour kitchen island and you hate
yourself.
So, anyway, time blindnessfixes One estimate the time that
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you think it's going to takeand then actually measure the
time it takes to complete a test.
Measure it more than once,because if you are measuring it
and you know you're measuring ityour ADHD brain is going to go.
Well, I said it would take 40minutes, I'm going to go as fast
as I can and I'm not going toget distracted, and then you'll
(10:32):
finish in 25.
And then the next time you'llbe like oh, I can, I can do this
in 25 minutes, but it'll takeyou 45.
And then you've lost those 20minutes.
So you have to measure, itwould say two to three times,
and then use that amount of timeto plan.
Okay so, and you'll reallystart to learn how crappy you
(10:53):
are at time management, wouldn'tyou?
yeah I have done that.
So with my task managementsoftware for work there's a way
to time yourself, like timetracking, in case you have like
billable hours or whatever.
And I don't use it for billablehours because I'm salaried.
I use it for seeing how long ittakes me to do this, and the
(11:14):
amount of time I think it takesme to write two emails for a
client is way more time than Iever estimate.
So just something to thinkabout.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
Yeah, I thought I was going to get my organizing my
notes yesterday before werecorded.
I thought it was going to takeme like 45 minutes and like two
hours later.
Yeah, it's hard I had all thenotes.
All I had to do was organizethem.
Two hours later.
I'm like oh, I could do this inlike 15 minutes, two hours and
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I wasn't even distracted.
That was like that was diligentworking two hours look on your
face right now.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
I wish people could see it.
You're just like oh, I'm so mad.
It's like such a serious face,but what you're saying is
hysterical, I'm sorry.
Okay, all right, another one.
Reverse clocks Count backwards.
You have an alarm for like oh,shiitake, it's time to get
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dressed, okay.
And then have another one formust leave now.
Oh, like not, you know not.
Must leave now, in two minutes.
I'll be fine, because that twominutes is what you need to park
in order to be on time, right?
So, like, have these alarmsreverse engineered so that
you'll know, like I actually dohave to leave at this time,
otherwise I'll be late.
Speaker 2 (12:38):
I have a 10 minute warning alarm and I can snooze
it once.
Yep, and the snooze is nineminutes, and so it's like all
right, like 10 minute warning,we are going to leave, and when
this thing goes off again, wegot to go.
We got to go.
Speaker 1 (12:56):
Yep exactly.
Speaker 2 (12:56):
Right Yep.
Speaker 1 (12:57):
Yeah, is your child in the phase of?
Well, actually it's this timeof day.
Use that to your advantage.
Outsource your timekeeping.
Have your kids shout at you hey, mom, your watch beeped when
the timer goes off.
Or, you know, teach your kidlike okay, we have to leave at
7.53 in order to be there ontime.
(13:18):
So when it's 7.52, here's wherethat well, actually
mansplaining can really come inhandy.
Actually, mom, it's 7.52.
Right, use that, it's helpful.
Sometimes it's 9 o'clock.
Actually it's 8.57.
Shut up.
I don't know how long thisphase goes on, but I can tell
(13:41):
you it's not my fave, so I haveto use it to my advantage,
though, okay.
Another challenge for ADHDparents is overstimulation.
We've talked about this one alot.
Right, like, your kids arearguing, the dog is barking and
you can hear the lights, andthat probably makes sense to the
ADHD crowd and the autism crowdand the odd DHD crowd really
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gets it.
Lights make noises.
Speaker 2 (14:09):
If you don't believe me you're incorrect.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
So here's how you fix it.
Sorry, hold your hand while Isay you're wrong.
So one way to fixoverstimulation have a tap out
system.
Whether it's a physical tap out, like you go to your person,
you tap out, you're like I gotit, I got to go, and at my house
(14:32):
it's like I can't right now andthen I leave and my husband
will say okay, go, go away.
I love you with my whole heart.
Breathe, get out, because Ihave to tap out, and hopefully
you have a partner in your lifewhere you can do that.
If you don't, it's okay to tapout and say I'm tapping out
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right now.
Mom needs a break, give me 15minutes, and sometimes your kid
will respect that 15 minutes andother times they won't.
But it is okay for you to askfor what you need.
You have to advocate foryourself here.
You can also put together anemergency sensory kit.
Put some noise-cancelingheadphones in there, some sour
candy, a sign on the door thatsays mom is rebooting, a pair of
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socks that says if you can readthis, no, you can't go away.
Whatever it is that you need todo, and some like the bilateral
nature sounds that you'veshared with me before.
I should put that on the ADHDplaylist.
It's a good one, just somethinglike that to help you kind of
come back down to earth andmaybe find something physical to
do.
We've talked about, like youknow, angry sock throwing.
(15:39):
We've talked about all thesedifferent things that you can do
.
I'll link that here.
There's lots of ways to resetyourself Vagus, nerve
stimulation, deep breaths,whatever you have to do.
That kind of brings us intothat emotional roller coaster.
We talked this with our kids.
It's a real thing with adultstoo.
It looks like that RSD, thatrejection, sensitive dysphoria
plus mom guilt, which justexacerbates RSD, you know, kind
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of turns into.
I yelled at him about his shoes.
I'm a terrible mother.
Why am I crying?
He's the one who made me mad.
This is not fair.
You just sort of shame spiral.
The fix here is co-regulation.
Show your child what it lookslike to practice self-regulation
.
Show them what it looks like totake a break.
Show them what it looks like topractice self-regulation.
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Show them what it looks like totake a break.
Show them what it looks like totake a deep breath and do it in
a way that's not an exasperateddeep breath Like I am the queen
of being like serenity now andthat's really not helpful
because it just indicates thatI'm overstimulated and angry and
it's not an actual calming downthing.
(16:46):
It's just, you know, it's angrybreathing.
It's not helpful.
Speaker 2 (16:51):
It's valid, but not helpful.
Modeling.
Speaker 1 (16:54):
No, it's terrible modeling I'm a really good model
guys but show them, just showthem what.
Show your child what it lookslike to take a beat right, how
to stay calm, put some ice onyour neck and keep going.
You need to also employ repairscripts.
Practice them.
We talked about having a scriptfor your child to use in
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certain social situations, butyou need these too, right?
I'm sorry I got frustrated.
My brain was overwhelmed.
Let's try again.
Or my brain really did nothandle all those noises at once.
I'm sorry that I was screaming.
It is not bad parenting.
It does not lessen yourauthority to apologize to your
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child, to work to repair aconnection and I think this is a
different conversation foranother time but there's the
whole gentle parenting thing.
But I think it's gone a littlebit too far and we need to bring
it back a little bit.
So it's okay to be firm in whatyou're asking for and still
repair relationships and showthat you're a human and and you
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know, be genuine with your kidabout when you mess up.
So have that in your backpocket.
Speaker 2 (18:06):
Be genuine with your kid about when you mess up, so
have that in your back pocket.
I think apologizing when I havebeen in that situation, like
when I have, when I've beendysregulated and just acted in a
very disrespectful way towardmy child yes, disrespectful way
(18:30):
toward my child, yes, the act ofapologizing, I feel like has
done more than kind of any otherthing that I have learned in
the like last nine years ofbeing a parent like I feel like
that has made such an immensedifference over.
Speaker 1 (18:44):
You know, over time that has just kind of gotten
progressively better and moreimpactful as my son gets older
and this is not a knock againsteither of our parents, but I
would like to just point outthat it was not a thing to
apologize to your child, ageneration ago no, like parents
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might have said I was wrong butthere was no apology.
Like there might have beenaccountability but there was not
an apology for it, and I thinkthat there is.
There is value in showing yourhumanness to your child here
without apologizing for why yougot that way right.
Right, like you can say, I wasoverstimulated.
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I was angry because I've askedyou 47 times, which we discussed
in the last episode.
My brain cannot handle askingyou that one more time.
I apologize for the way that myanger came out at you.
That was not okay.
I can do better and I will dobetter next time or I will at
least try to do better next time.
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And I still want you to go takethe freaking bath.
Go do it Right, like you can dothose things, it's okay.
Again, we've talked about namingyour ADHD brain, naming the
things that need a name.
In my house we have a name forthe person who leaves cabinet
doors open, sometimes leaves thefront door unlocked.
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It's Myrtle Myrtle does it, butyou can name your ADHD brain
your RSD Gladys Glynnis.
Mock it.
Oh, look, gladys is over here.
Oh, look, gladys is over here.
You know, catastrophizing Isthat the word?
That's not a word.
Speaker 2 (20:29):
It is.
It is a word Catastrophizing,yes, but I cannot say it.
Speaker 1 (20:36):
Like good luck trying me to pronounce that properly
Catastrophizing, I think it'scatastrophizing but Someone's
mad.
Yeah, where's the Miriam WebsterInstagram account when I need
it anyway?
But just name it and say like,ok, you know Gladys at it again
and you explain to your kid youknow when I feel, when I feel
ashamed about something that Idon't need to feel ashamed of,
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that's Gladys, and I need Gladysto shut up today.
Right, it's okay.
Now, all those things arechallenges that we have, but
there are some really coolstrengths that I want to point
out here as an ADHD parent.
One you are a hyper-focus ninja.
Your child needs a 500-pieceLego put together.
Guess who's on it?
That's you, and you're probablyreally good at it and you're
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going to do it really fast andyou won't stop until it's
finished, boom.
And when it breaks, you don'twant your kid to be the one who
fixes it, because you know howto do it already, so you're
going to fix it.
You are amazing at that.
You are also a really, really,really masterful distractor and
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diverter of attention.
So your child asks you in themiddle of cleaning mom, why are
sloths so slow?
You know what?
That's a really good question.
Let's find out right now andyou're going to like go look it
up and you're going to turn itinto an episode of Wild Kratts
and it's going to be amazing.
And then you're going to be madat yourself because you stopped
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cleaning, but still you'regoing to it's learning.
So you're really good at that.
Exactly, and probably your beststrength as an ADHD parent is
your empathy.
You are an empathy champion.
Your kid forgot their homework.
Oh baby, I have been there.
I understand it sucks when thathappens.
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The best we can do is try againtomorrow.
What can we do to remember?
Let's put it in our drop zone,let's put it in our launch pad.
Here's how I have to make sureI don't forget my things in the
morning.
I put them all right here nextto my whatever, or I put them on
top of my keys so that I can'tput them under my keys, because
then I'll forget they existright, like you are so good at
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that.
And if your kid has ADHD too,you will be able to show them
the things that have worked foryou and then help them
understand how you got to thatpoint.
I do this because let's thingsthat have worked for you and
then help them understand howyou got to that point.
I do this because let's figureout what works for you, because
you're going to be killer atthat.
So the bottom line here is thatparenting with ADHD means your
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systems will fail.
Yep, sorry, but they will.
They all work until they don'tyeah, the one day, the one day
you miss that habit, the one day, and then you've ruined you
know four years of habit stuff.
Sorry, yeah, but they will fail.
Be prepared for that.
Your keys will vanish.
Sometimes dinner is going to becereal, it's all okay.
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But your kids are learning fromyou.
They're learning resilience,they're learning creativity,
they're learning how to laughthrough chaos, they're learning
empathy.
All those are real life skills.
You're not failing, you'readapting and that's really good
for your kid to see.
But the best thing that you cando for yourself and for your
child is to give yourself grace.
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They need to see that from you.
There's no such thing as aperfect parent, adhd or not.
They don't exist.
Okay, cause we're all humans.
Speaker 2 (24:11):
So when you make mistakes unless you're a robot
or a fem bot whatever I was-going to say that the perfect
robot I'm sorry the perfectparent is somebody who does not
have children because they'realways the ones who are like
when.
Speaker 1 (24:27):
I'm a parent or if I was a parent, my child never.
Speaker 2 (24:30):
Yeah, the only perfect parents are the people
who are not parents.
Speaker 1 (24:34):
Parenting would be so easy if it weren't for the kids
.
Just say that, yeah, yeah.
What makes you different isthat when you make mistakes,
you're going to take thatopportunity to model
accountability, model resilienceand model self-compassion.
And speaking of self-compassion, next week we're talking about
the stigma of ADHD, the ADHDshame spiral Yay, and also
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specific self-care tips forADHDers, because it's different
for you than it is for the restof us.
So subscribe now so you don'tmiss it and we'll be right back.
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All right, we're back.
Do you remember how we talkedabout how you're going to
understand pen names and fakenames and understanding names
and all that stuff?
Here's why names and fake namesand understanding names and all
(26:08):
that stuff.
Speaker 2 (26:08):
Here's why so they'll have these two names.
And I finally decided I'm likeno, you know what, everybody
gets one name like I like how,how, my one friend, her I met
her as cara and but her non-penname is her real name is tanya
and I have her in my phone astanya because that's her like
(26:29):
her government name.
But then every time I go totext her I'm like where the hell
is kara and it yeah no, you gotof course like right, yeah, so
I changed it.
I was like no, like tanya's nameis kara, like that's it, like
that's how I was introduced toyou.
Yeah, you know how it is myhusband does that too.
Speaker 1 (26:50):
He's got like he was on a sports talk board, reddit
sort of thing, for a long timeand like when he met some of the
guys in person, he was like, ohyeah, this is me, and he used
his handle.
It was like it was likeintroducing yourself to someone
as your twitter name.
It was so foreign to me, butthat's how they all talk to each
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other.
And he's like, oh yeah, that'ssd.
And I'm like his name is dane,like his name's, not sd, like
what?
And he's like no, that's whathe calls himself on the board.
And I'm like, oh, okay, but Iget it now.
It's like that's how you'veknown them this whole time so
right yeah.
Yeah, I mean, I guess it's thein fairness.
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You and I met on the internet,but we were using our real names
, so yes, I don't.
Speaker 2 (27:41):
Yeah, I mean, that's also one of the reasons why,
like, like, my first name isalso, like, part of my pen, like
my legal first name is also mypen name, because I, like I
personally don't think I couldkeep track of like that many
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names, especially if it was sodifferent from what, like, what
I'm called.
Like it's hard enough having,it's hard enough having a
different, like last name,because I will go to the
pharmacy and I'll be like, oh,can I get a pick up a
prescription for ariela monty?
Speaker 1 (28:21):
and it's like, no, that is not my government name
yeah, I struggle with whichemail address to share these
notes with with you, so I cansee how that would be quite
confusing.
I I also just am bad enoughwith names, as it is right.
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It's like you can tell me yourname and I probably wasn't
listening, and it's not becauseI didn't want to, it's because
my brain was like, oh, I seethat shiny thing over there, or
like you seem boring, I'm notlet, you are boring, but like my
brain goes, nope, notinterested, and didn't listen
(29:02):
when you told me your name.
And then two months have goneby and it's too late, so I have
to figure out another way.
How do you spell?
Speaker 2 (29:09):
that.
Speaker 1 (29:10):
They're like S-A-R-A.
Oops, my bad.
So you know I'm bad enough,like I can't imagine.
No, it's just.
This is why I don't have a penname, that's why we're just
initials here.
I'm Caitlin, ck and GK, the end.
I got nothing else, you know.
Speaker 2 (29:31):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:33):
I can't do a fake, I can't do a name.
All right, so make sure yousubscribe, make sure you follow
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Do it.
Share this with an episode.
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Share this episode with a friend there it is.
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Thank you, my brain just cleared its cache, right in
the middle of what I All thetime Peanut butter spoon Fail.
God Make better choices than me.
How about that Love?
You mean it it?
See you next time.
Bye.
Hi everyone.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
We're so glad you're here.
Legally, we are Caitlin and.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
Ariella, that will make sense to you later if you
listen to the end of the show,because you'll get it All right.
Welcome to how to Be a Grown-Up.
This is the how-to show formoms who've served big snack for
dinner and called it aparenting win.
And if you're in my circle, youknow what a big snack is.
It's like a baby charcuterieboard served in a ice cube tray.
Try it, it's a big deal With me.
(00:31):
Today.
Again, I'm Caitlin, is AriellaMonti.
She's a novelist and she's thelove child of a garden fairy and
a swashbuckling pirate.
That one I made up completely,all by myself that is my
favorite it's so good, isn't itso good?
Speaker 2 (00:53):
that's you yeah, I am totally.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
I'm putting that on merch it's like the ultimate
compliment yes, yes, yes, yes,yes.
Oh man, today we're calmingdown.
We are talking about parentingas a parent with ADHD.
(01:18):
So last week we talked aboutparenting the child with ADHD
and today we're talking aboutbeing a parent who has ADHD,
because this mess I almost saida bad word is really hard, so,
so hard.
But first, let's make sureyou're following us on social.
Ariella uses her pen name,which again will be.
(01:42):
It'll make sense if you listento the end of the episode she
follows or no, she doesn'tfollows me, I follow her but
we're not talking about that.
We're talking about youfollowing her at ariela,
underscore monty on threads,instagram and the tickety talk.
Find us at ck and gk podcast onall the things except Twitter,
(02:03):
because ew.
So let's get to it.
Yeah, yeah, okay, our sourcesfor today again, attitude Mag,
my favorite ADHD creator, drSteve Storage Us Find the
sources in the blog post for theepisode.
Here's our disclaimer Parentingrequires the daily execution
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Listen to these big words Readythe daily execution of
repetitive tasks, which requiresexecutive functioning.
And again, adhd-ers strugglewith executive functioning.
So our symptoms likeinattention, impulsivity,
emotional dysregulation, affecteverything about the way we
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parent, from managing thehousehold shiitake to the
relationships we have with ourchildren.
So we're going to laugh throughas much of this mess as we
possibly can and give some realadvice for how to handle these
things.
Just know that, again, asAriella likes to say, your
mileage will vary on thesethings.
We are not therapists, we arenot mental health professionals.
(03:09):
We've done the research, butwe're struggling just as much as
you and we're learning thesetips and testing them out as we
go along.
So things that work for us maynot work for you, but you can at
least have them in your backpocket as part of your toolkit
to try at some other time.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
Perfect Now my nose is running.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
Thanks, I'm good.
I'm good at disclaimers when Iremember to give them.
Okay.
Welcome to Austin, where nosesalways run.
So here's the first challengethat I have that I faced.
It's the wait.
What was I doing?
Yeah, like a regular part of mylife.
It looks like your workingmemory glitches, like your brain
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caches in the middle of asentence, plus, you have a kid
interrupting your train ofthought, and that all kind of
leads to things like why do Ihave a spoon of peanut butter in
my hand?
But I'm in the bathroom, whichis which sounds weird, but it's
because I was taking.
I was gonna give the dog a bathand I had her lick mat in the
(04:14):
bathroom and I was gonna put thedog peanut butter on the lick
mat that was stuck to the wallof the shower, but I forgot what
I was doing as I was doing itso you're just in the bathroom
with a spoonful, with a spoonfulof dog peanut butter and not
knowing why, and I had put thedog peanut butter jar down
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somewhere behind me on the way.
My house is not big, it's it'slike a four-step hallway from
the kitchen to here, and it'slike what was I just doing?
And then I had to retrace mysteps.
But I got it.
So here's one of the fixes Bodydoubling.
We've talked about this before.
Call a friend while you'redoing your chores, okay, that
(04:57):
way you can say hey, ariella,I'm about to give the dog a bath
.
Can you help me make sure thatI actually do accomplish this
task?
Great Thanks, appreciate it.
Task anchoring this is a fun one.
This is like if you want tobuild a habit, you pair a new
thing with the thing you do allthe time, right.
(05:18):
So like you want to learn totake vitamins and every day you
make your coffee at the sametime of day, put the vitamins on
top of the coffee maker, right?
That's how you task anchor.
So you're going to pair aroutine with a sensory cue.
Like, while your coffee isbrewing, you always unload the
dishwasher, so that the smell ofcoffee makes you go oh, I need
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to.
I need to unload the dishwasher.
So that's one way to helpyourself with the whole wait.
I was doing something, somethingI was going to do something.
I forgot what that is.
I hope it's not holding runnydog peanut butter on a spoon in
the bathroom.
That was so bad, okay.
The next one is I forgot how toadult.
Welcome to this show.
(06:00):
The adult adults trying to begrownups is this show the adults
trying to be grownups is thisshow?
So this looks like misseddentist appointments both yours
and your child's Fun Unpaidbills.
Forgetting to feed yourself,which we've talked about in a
food episode not too long ago.
Make sure you go listen to that.
It's in the ADHD Spotifyplaylist.
So here's how to fix that.
(06:22):
I'm going to say this withclaps Don't rely on willpower or
memory.
Don't rely on willpower ormemory.
Use visual cues like calendars,timers, whiteboards, family
calendars, whatever it is to letthem do the thinking and the
reminding for you, because youwon't do it.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
Nope.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
I'm going to hold your hand while I say this.
You will not remember.
Remember this we do not controlthe remember.
Adhd brains do not control theremember.
That's why you will remember aninteraction you had with a
parent seven years ago that youstill cringe at, but you can't
remember why you're standing inthe bathroom with a spoonful of
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peanut butter in your hand,right, that's the reason.
Another one, and I love this,I'm gonna start doing this.
I found this tip automate ordelegate anything that cannot be
automated, like bill paymentsand stuff like that.
You need to outsource it.
Maybe, that is, you need tohave your husband set a reminder
(07:30):
on his phone for you to dosomething, but you need to have
someone else be responsible forhelping you with the remember.
So set up as much as you can onauto payment.
You know, auto pay yourmortgage, auto transfers,
whatever it is you have to do,and then the rest of it have
someone else help you remember.
You call the dentist.
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I'll schedule the haircut Checkwith me in 15 minutes to make
sure it got done, becausethere's a really good chance
I've forgotten those 15 minutesthat I was supposed to do that.
Did we both accomplish our task?
Great, did probably on me.
Great, I'll go make that phonecall, yeah, um, the other thing
that I like to do is, if it'ssomebody, if it's a appointment
(08:10):
that I can schedule via textlike my son's haircuts I can
schedule with our woman via textI will.
When he says, hey, mom, I needto get a haircut with an iPhone
or other phones, I'm sure atthis point you can schedule the
message to go out, so it doesn'thave to be oh, you know it
(08:30):
doesn't.
Maybe you know they don't wakeup until after 830.
So then schedule the message togo out at 945.
Like, those are things you cando, so try that.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
That's a good.
That's a good tip.
Speaker 1 (08:43):
Thank you, you can, can do so.
Try that.
That's a good, that's a goodtip.
Thank you.
You can do it with emails too,like write the email and then
schedule it to send that's agood idea okay, another
challenge, so we've got two.
So far, the wait.
What was I doing that I forgotto adult.
Here's another one timeblindness meets the tiny time
sucking tyrants that live inyour house, the what is not
(09:05):
crotch goblins.
That's not appropriate.
That's not the ones I was.
There's another one that I wasthinking of spawn anyway, their
offspring yeah, offspring, butthere's another, there was one
that's kind of mean that I that,I think, is funny anyway,
that's what they are they'retiny time-sucking t-rexes, as
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you mentioned in the lastepisode.
So what it looks like is oh cool, school starts in five minutes.
Yep, this is definitely time todeep clean the fridge.
And we know this happensbecause jenny talked about how
she reorganized the fridgebefore going to work ended up
being late for work because shewas reorganizing the fridge.
So this is real, and it's notbecause you want to do it, then
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it's because you're looking forsomething in the fridge and then
you're like, oh, I can't findanything and you just completely
lose your mind and the dopaminehits you and you just have to
start going nuts and then youtake everything out and then you
turn around and it's all onyour kitchen island and you hate
yourself.
So, anyway, time blindnessfixes One estimate the time that
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you think it's going to takeand then actually measure the
time it takes to complete a test.
Measure it more than once,because if you are measuring it
and you know you're measuring ityour ADHD brain is going to go.
Well, I said it would take 40minutes, I'm going to go as fast
as I can and I'm not going toget distracted, and then you'll
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finish in 25.
And then the next time you'llbe like oh, I can, I can do this
in 25 minutes, but it'll takeyou 45.
And then you've lost those 20minutes.
So you have to measure, itwould say two to three times,
and then use that amount of timeto plan.
Okay so, and you'll reallystart to learn how crappy you
(10:53):
are at time management, wouldn'tyou?
yeah I have done that.
So with my task managementsoftware for work there's a way
to time yourself, like timetracking, in case you have like
billable hours or whatever.
And I don't use it for billablehours because I'm salaried.
I use it for seeing how long ittakes me to do this, and the
(11:14):
amount of time I think it takesme to write two emails for a
client is way more time than Iever estimate.
So just something to thinkabout.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
Yeah, I thought I was going to get my organizing my
notes yesterday before werecorded.
I thought it was going to takeme like 45 minutes and like two
hours later.
Yeah, it's hard I had all thenotes.
All I had to do was organizethem.
Two hours later.
I'm like oh, I could do this inlike 15 minutes, two hours and
(11:43):
I wasn't even distracted.
That was like that was diligentworking two hours look on your
face right now.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
I wish people could see it.
You're just like oh, I'm so mad.
It's like such a serious face,but what you're saying is
hysterical, I'm sorry.
Okay, all right, another one.
Reverse clocks Count backwards.
You have an alarm for like oh,shiitake, it's time to get
(12:14):
dressed, okay.
And then have another one formust leave now.
Oh, like not, you know not.
Must leave now, in two minutes.
I'll be fine, because that twominutes is what you need to park
in order to be on time, right?
So, like, have these alarmsreverse engineered so that
you'll know, like I actually dohave to leave at this time,
otherwise I'll be late.
Speaker 2 (12:38):
I have a 10 minute warning alarm and I can snooze
it once.
Yep, and the snooze is nineminutes, and so it's like all
right, like 10 minute warning,we are going to leave, and when
this thing goes off again, wegot to go.
We got to go.
Speaker 1 (12:56):
Yep exactly.
Speaker 2 (12:56):
Right Yep.
Speaker 1 (12:57):
Yeah, is your child in the phase of?
Well, actually it's this timeof day.
Use that to your advantage.
Outsource your timekeeping.
Have your kids shout at you hey, mom, your watch beeped when
the timer goes off.
Or, you know, teach your kidlike okay, we have to leave at
7.53 in order to be there ontime.
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So when it's 7.52, here's wherethat well, actually
mansplaining can really come inhandy.
Actually, mom, it's 7.52.
Right, use that, it's helpful.
Sometimes it's 9 o'clock.
Actually it's 8.57.
Shut up.
I don't know how long thisphase goes on, but I can tell
(13:41):
you it's not my fave, so I haveto use it to my advantage,
though, okay.
Another challenge for ADHDparents is overstimulation.
We've talked about this one alot.
Right, like, your kids arearguing, the dog is barking and
you can hear the lights, andthat probably makes sense to the
ADHD crowd and the autism crowdand the odd DHD crowd really
(14:05):
gets it.
Lights make noises.
Speaker 2 (14:09):
If you don't believe me you're incorrect.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
So here's how you fix it.
Sorry, hold your hand while Isay you're wrong.
So one way to fixoverstimulation have a tap out
system.
Whether it's a physical tap out, like you go to your person,
you tap out, you're like I gotit, I got to go, and at my house
(14:32):
it's like I can't right now andthen I leave and my husband
will say okay, go, go away.
I love you with my whole heart.
Breathe, get out, because Ihave to tap out, and hopefully
you have a partner in your lifewhere you can do that.
If you don't, it's okay to tapout and say I'm tapping out
(14:54):
right now.
Mom needs a break, give me 15minutes, and sometimes your kid
will respect that 15 minutes andother times they won't.
But it is okay for you to askfor what you need.
You have to advocate foryourself here.
You can also put together anemergency sensory kit.
Put some noise-cancelingheadphones in there, some sour
candy, a sign on the door thatsays mom is rebooting, a pair of
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socks that says if you can readthis, no, you can't go away.
Whatever it is that you need todo, and some like the bilateral
nature sounds that you'veshared with me before.
I should put that on the ADHDplaylist.
It's a good one, just somethinglike that to help you kind of
come back down to earth andmaybe find something physical to
do.
We've talked about, like youknow, angry sock throwing.
(15:39):
We've talked about all thesedifferent things that you can do
.
I'll link that here.
There's lots of ways to resetyourself Vagus, nerve
stimulation, deep breaths,whatever you have to do.
That kind of brings us intothat emotional roller coaster.
We talked this with our kids.
It's a real thing with adultstoo.
It looks like that RSD, thatrejection, sensitive dysphoria
plus mom guilt, which justexacerbates RSD, you know, kind
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of turns into.
I yelled at him about his shoes.
I'm a terrible mother.
Why am I crying?
He's the one who made me mad.
This is not fair.
You just sort of shame spiral.
The fix here is co-regulation.
Show your child what it lookslike to practice self-regulation
.
Show them what it looks like totake a break.
Show them what it looks like topractice self-regulation.
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Show them what it looks like totake a break.
Show them what it looks like totake a deep breath and do it in
a way that's not an exasperateddeep breath Like I am the queen
of being like serenity now andthat's really not helpful
because it just indicates thatI'm overstimulated and angry and
it's not an actual calming downthing.
(16:46):
It's just, you know, it's angrybreathing.
It's not helpful.
Speaker 2 (16:51):
It's valid, but not helpful.
Modeling.
Speaker 1 (16:54):
No, it's terrible modeling I'm a really good model
guys but show them, just showthem what.
Show your child what it lookslike to take a beat right, how
to stay calm, put some ice onyour neck and keep going.
You need to also employ repairscripts.
Practice them.
We talked about having a scriptfor your child to use in
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certain social situations, butyou need these too, right?
I'm sorry I got frustrated.
My brain was overwhelmed.
Let's try again.
Or my brain really did nothandle all those noises at once.
I'm sorry that I was screaming.
It is not bad parenting.
It does not lessen yourauthority to apologize to your
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child, to work to repair aconnection and I think this is a
different conversation foranother time but there's the
whole gentle parenting thing.
But I think it's gone a littlebit too far and we need to bring
it back a little bit.
So it's okay to be firm in whatyou're asking for and still
repair relationships and showthat you're a human and and you
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know, be genuine with your kidabout when you mess up.
So have that in your backpocket.
Speaker 2 (18:06):
Be genuine with your kid about when you mess up, so
have that in your back pocket.
I think apologizing when I havebeen in that situation, like
when I have, when I've beendysregulated and just acted in a
very disrespectful way towardmy child yes, disrespectful way
(18:30):
toward my child, yes, the act ofapologizing, I feel like has
done more than kind of any otherthing that I have learned in
the like last nine years ofbeing a parent like I feel like
that has made such an immensedifference over.
Speaker 1 (18:44):
You know, over time that has just kind of gotten
progressively better and moreimpactful as my son gets older
and this is not a knock againsteither of our parents, but I
would like to just point outthat it was not a thing to
apologize to your child, ageneration ago no, like parents
(19:07):
might have said I was wrong butthere was no apology.
Like there might have beenaccountability but there was not
an apology for it, and I thinkthat there is.
There is value in showing yourhumanness to your child here
without apologizing for why yougot that way right.
Right, like you can say, I wasoverstimulated.
(19:29):
I was angry because I've askedyou 47 times, which we discussed
in the last episode.
My brain cannot handle askingyou that one more time.
I apologize for the way that myanger came out at you.
That was not okay.
I can do better and I will dobetter next time or I will at
least try to do better next time.
(19:49):
And I still want you to go takethe freaking bath.
Go do it Right, like you can dothose things, it's okay.
Again, we've talked about namingyour ADHD brain, naming the
things that need a name.
In my house we have a name forthe person who leaves cabinet
doors open, sometimes leaves thefront door unlocked.
(20:10):
It's Myrtle Myrtle does it, butyou can name your ADHD brain
your RSD Gladys Glynnis.
Mock it.
Oh, look, gladys is over here.
Oh, look, gladys is over here.
You know, catastrophizing Isthat the word?
That's not a word.
Speaker 2 (20:29):
It is.
It is a word Catastrophizing,yes, but I cannot say it.
Speaker 1 (20:36):
Like good luck trying me to pronounce that properly
Catastrophizing, I think it'scatastrophizing but Someone's
mad.
Yeah, where's the Miriam WebsterInstagram account when I need
it anyway?
But just name it and say like,ok, you know Gladys at it again
and you explain to your kid youknow when I feel, when I feel
ashamed about something that Idon't need to feel ashamed of,
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that's Gladys, and I need Gladysto shut up today.
Right, it's okay.
Now, all those things arechallenges that we have, but
there are some really coolstrengths that I want to point
out here as an ADHD parent.
One you are a hyper-focus ninja.
Your child needs a 500-pieceLego put together.
Guess who's on it?
That's you, and you're probablyreally good at it and you're
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going to do it really fast andyou won't stop until it's
finished, boom.
And when it breaks, you don'twant your kid to be the one who
fixes it, because you know howto do it already, so you're
going to fix it.
You are amazing at that.
You are also a really, really,really masterful distractor and
(21:49):
diverter of attention.
So your child asks you in themiddle of cleaning mom, why are
sloths so slow?
You know what?
That's a really good question.
Let's find out right now andyou're going to like go look it
up and you're going to turn itinto an episode of Wild Kratts
and it's going to be amazing.
And then you're going to be madat yourself because you stopped
(22:13):
cleaning, but still you'regoing to it's learning.
So you're really good at that.
Exactly, and probably your beststrength as an ADHD parent is
your empathy.
You are an empathy champion.
Your kid forgot their homework.
Oh baby, I have been there.
I understand it sucks when thathappens.
(22:34):
The best we can do is try againtomorrow.
What can we do to remember?
Let's put it in our drop zone,let's put it in our launch pad.
Here's how I have to make sureI don't forget my things in the
morning.
I put them all right here nextto my whatever, or I put them on
top of my keys so that I can'tput them under my keys, because
then I'll forget they existright, like you are so good at
(22:56):
that.
And if your kid has ADHD too,you will be able to show them
the things that have worked foryou and then help them
understand how you got to thatpoint.
I do this because let's thingsthat have worked for you and
then help them understand howyou got to that point.
I do this because let's figureout what works for you, because
you're going to be killer atthat.
So the bottom line here is thatparenting with ADHD means your
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systems will fail.
Yep, sorry, but they will.
They all work until they don'tyeah, the one day, the one day
you miss that habit, the one day, and then you've ruined you
know four years of habit stuff.
Sorry, yeah, but they will fail.
Be prepared for that.
Your keys will vanish.
Sometimes dinner is going to becereal, it's all okay.
(23:40):
But your kids are learning fromyou.
They're learning resilience,they're learning creativity,
they're learning how to laughthrough chaos, they're learning
empathy.
All those are real life skills.
You're not failing, you'readapting and that's really good
for your kid to see.
But the best thing that you cando for yourself and for your
child is to give yourself grace.
(24:01):
They need to see that from you.
There's no such thing as aperfect parent, adhd or not.
They don't exist.
Okay, cause we're all humans.
Speaker 2 (24:11):
So when you make mistakes unless you're a robot
or a fem bot whatever I was-going to say that the perfect
robot I'm sorry the perfectparent is somebody who does not
have children because they'realways the ones who are like
when.
Speaker 1 (24:27):
I'm a parent or if I was a parent, my child never.
Speaker 2 (24:30):
Yeah, the only perfect parents are the people
who are not parents.
Speaker 1 (24:34):
Parenting would be so easy if it weren't for the kids
.
Just say that, yeah, yeah.
What makes you different isthat when you make mistakes,
you're going to take thatopportunity to model
accountability, model resilienceand model self-compassion.
And speaking of self-compassion, next week we're talking about
the stigma of ADHD, the ADHDshame spiral Yay, and also
(25:02):
specific self-care tips forADHDers, because it's different
for you than it is for the restof us.
So subscribe now so you don'tmiss it and we'll be right back.
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Do you remember how we talkedabout how you're going to
understand pen names and fakenames and understanding names
and all that stuff?
Here's why names and fake namesand understanding names and all
(26:08):
that stuff.
Speaker 2 (26:08):
Here's why so they'll have these two names.
And I finally decided I'm likeno, you know what, everybody
gets one name like I like how,how, my one friend, her I met
her as cara and but her non-penname is her real name is tanya
and I have her in my phone astanya because that's her like
(26:29):
her government name.
But then every time I go totext her I'm like where the hell
is kara and it yeah no, you gotof course like right, yeah, so
I changed it.
I was like no, like tanya's nameis kara, like that's it, like
that's how I was introduced toyou.
Yeah, you know how it is myhusband does that too.
Speaker 1 (26:50):
He's got like he was on a sports talk board, reddit
sort of thing, for a long timeand like when he met some of the
guys in person, he was like, ohyeah, this is me, and he used
his handle.
It was like it was likeintroducing yourself to someone
as your twitter name.
It was so foreign to me, butthat's how they all talk to each
(27:13):
other.
And he's like, oh yeah, that'ssd.
And I'm like his name is dane,like his name's, not sd, like
what?
And he's like no, that's whathe calls himself on the board.
And I'm like, oh, okay, but Iget it now.
It's like that's how you'veknown them this whole time so
right yeah.
Yeah, I mean, I guess it's thein fairness.
(27:34):
You and I met on the internet,but we were using our real names
, so yes, I don't.
Speaker 2 (27:41):
Yeah, I mean, that's also one of the reasons why,
like, like, my first name isalso, like, part of my pen, like
my legal first name is also mypen name, because I, like I
personally don't think I couldkeep track of like that many
(28:01):
names, especially if it was sodifferent from what, like, what
I'm called.
Like it's hard enough having,it's hard enough having a
different, like last name,because I will go to the
pharmacy and I'll be like, oh,can I get a pick up a
prescription for ariela monty?
Speaker 1 (28:21):
and it's like, no, that is not my government name
yeah, I struggle with whichemail address to share these
notes with with you, so I cansee how that would be quite
confusing.
I I also just am bad enoughwith names, as it is right.
(28:41):
It's like you can tell me yourname and I probably wasn't
listening, and it's not becauseI didn't want to, it's because
my brain was like, oh, I seethat shiny thing over there, or
like you seem boring, I'm notlet, you are boring, but like my
brain goes, nope, notinterested, and didn't listen
(29:02):
when you told me your name.
And then two months have goneby and it's too late, so I have
to figure out another way.
How do you spell?
Speaker 2 (29:09):
that.
Speaker 1 (29:10):
They're like S-A-R-A.
Oops, my bad.
So you know I'm bad enough,like I can't imagine.
No, it's just.
This is why I don't have a penname, that's why we're just
initials here.
I'm Caitlin, ck and GK, the end.
I got nothing else, you know.
Speaker 2 (29:31):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (29:33):
I can't do a fake, I can't do a name.
All right, so make sure yousubscribe, make sure you follow
us on all the places we told youwhere.
Just go.
Do it.
Share this with an episode.
Speaker 2 (29:49):
Share this episode with a friend there it is.
Speaker 1 (29:51):
Thank you, my brain just cleared its cache, right in
the middle of what I All thetime Peanut butter spoon Fail.
God Make better choices than me.
How about that Love?
You mean it it?
See you next time.
Bye.
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