Yearning to be Known by Parents, but They’re Not Curious

​​After an emotional coming out to his Mexican parents, Fermanparis wishes they showed more interest in his love life and life plans. And Aida Manduley, organizer and licensed therapist, returns to the show and speaks with Juleyka about how to invite curiosity into our family relationships. They offer practical advice for helping parents understand who we really are as adults.

Featured Expert: 

Aida Manduley, LICSW, is an award-winning Latinx organizer, international presenter, and trauma-focused clinician known for big earrings and building bridges. Trained as a sexuality educator, social worker, and nonprofit management professional, they’re working to make the world a more equitable place through education, therapy, and community organizing. Their perspective centers intersectionality and maximizing kindness, while retaining both a sense of humor and a sense of justice. From The New York Times to The Rainbow Times, Mx. Manduley has been interviewed by a variety of media outlets. They were even brought on for a debate on the Laura Ingraham show—a popular conservative radio program—and lived to tell the tale. Learn more about their work here.

Aida reminds us we do not have to have these difficult conversations  and recommends the following organizations for the tools and resources they offer: PFLAG, Familia Trans Queer Liberation Movement, and Fe, Familia, Igualdad (this last one has done a lot of cool work at the intersection of Latinidad, queerness and religion) .

If you loved this episode, listen to Getting Divorced, Coming Out and Telling Mamí, and When You Don't Believe in God, But They Rally Want You To.

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