294 | Life of Yum: Olivia Carter on Woo

Next-level self-love, playful acts of service, and a praise kink—Olivia shares how her everyday practice of giving and receiving has led to a wonderful life, her favorite types of dirty talk, the connections that make touch tantalizing, how she discovered her desires, and the ways she wants to give and receive

 

00:00 Seizing every opportunity to treat herself

03:51 Generosity of adults in her early life and her own receiving superpowers

08:05 Healthy romanticizing and an expanded understanding of self-love

11:38 The difference between romantic, platonic and self love

13:38 A love of linguistic specificity and astrological geek-outs

16:46 Communicating clearly as a Black woman and being born into a state of receiving

21:43 Allowing others to nurture and how it differs from self-care

26:45 Desiring romance that begins with connected conversation and exploring partners’ passions

30:13 How Olivia’s love languages stem from what she wanted more of growing up

33:07 Cultivating fulfilling relationships of mutual care

36:26 A baseline of taking care of herself in order to be of service to others

41:11 The everyday pleasures of walking her dog, experiencing the arts, and breathing fresh air

44:33 Opportunistic friend sex and wanting to be enthusiastically desired

51:19 The hotness of emotional intelligence and genuine kindness plus meeting people where they’re at

55:18 Needing mental, emotional, and physical stimulation for the energetic exchange of sex

1:00:46 Practicing dirty talk, loving praise while riding, and being turned on by doing a good job

1:05:39 Fueling partnered pleasure via real-time feedback

1:12:33 A love of sucking dick and doggy style

1:15:34 Open to receiving oral and anal in a safe, enthusiastic connection

1:18:53 Redirecting partners from cunnilingus and advice for fingering

1:24:47 Safety tips for impact play and intuiting types of touch needed

1:29:03 When she likes playing rough, hair pulling, and a hand on her neck

1:31:19 Very sensitive nipples and wanting to savor sex

1:33:57 Erogenous zones all over and a surprisingly sweet act of intimacy

1:38:12 Learning about sex from talking with women rather than getting a formal education

1:42:03 Unlearning what porn taught her and navigating unhelpful educational tools

1:46:19 Confidence and explicit direction about how to be touched

1:47:45 How her brother’s friends helped her be open with herself and others about sex

1:53:08 The sexual blueprint of what she wants to pursue in connections and knowing what she doesn’t want

1:56:34 Desire for playful sex that allows for the full emotional experience (including giggling while cumming)

2:03:06 Building trust, needing mental stimulation and a gradual pace when it comes to sex and relationships

2:09:10 Enforcing boundaries and why WE LOVE CONDOMS!!!

2:15:28 Looking forward to a partner who is as passionate about her as she is about herself

2:20:43 Wanting a long-term, ravishing connection with exciting experiments and open communication

2:23:41 Thoughts on sex with other women, FFM, FMF, MFM, and MMF threesomes, and double penetration

2:30:12 Approaching sex as an act of service from a selfless place

2:36:03 Spreading love by being kind and receiving people as they are in any given moment

2:38:42 Reconnecting to her artistry, sharing her natural gifts by educating others, and reflecting the kindness she’s received out into the world

 

📈 STATS | 28 straight (so far) sapiosexual demisexual Black/African American cis woman, she/her pronouns, single, celibate, thinking about dating, monogamous, threesome-curious bad bitch good girl with a praise kink into: compliments, intimate sex, foreplay, dirty talk

 

🔗 OLIVIA