Uninhibited horniness, dirty talk, using the stoplight system (red yellow green), and connecting through information exchanges with fellow sex nerds—Jess shares how her love for learning and deep communication fuels authentic connections both in her personal life and as a legal courtesan.
00:00 Investing in connection and being a “huge nerd”
02:54 Growing up in a Chinese-American household where “food is care” + nostalgic dishes she loves to make
05:23 The continuous process of learning self love and why she wants to go to a head spa
08:15 Auralism, naked couch time, and feeling valued through shared experiences
11:37 Why she talks through TV shows and movies
18:06 The importance of feeling valued + ethical non-monogamy (ENM) and brothel health and safety practices
21:56 Using the red, yellow, green safeword system and all the ways she likes to communicate with partners
26:06 Her introduction to sex through Tamora Pierce books and Harry Potter fanfiction
31:03 Exploring her own body, scant sisterly sex advice, and a secret make-out with a cute Italian boy
34:16 Blowing ten guys at an uninhibited high school house party
37:09 Being SO horny and what she loves about penises
40:26 How oral turned into early kink explorations with trusted partners
45:45 Creating sex contracts in high school and how she healed after an assault
50:29 Popping her cherry after six hours of warm up
53:46 Tight, wet, and being stretched
56:09 ORGASMS! Clitoral quickies, g-spot squeezes, and orgasmic neck kisses
57:53 Sapiosexuality and how she can cum from talking and reading
1:01:35 Impact play, restraints, and extremely sensitive skin
1:04:25 Masturbating in a circular bed for an audience
1:07:06 Exhibitionism origins and how many orgasms she can have in 30 minutes
1:10:31 Queer identity evolution from label-free to "definitely not straight"
1:12:01 How being a legal courtesan is a perfect fit + her favorite brothel discoveries
1:15:35 Helping a grieving widower reconnect with himself
1:19:30 Excited for an overnight with Luna, playing with more couples, and exploring other ladies (+ their friends!)
1:21:30 Her personal pleasure palace: a bed as a stage, shibari instructors, one way mirrors, and more
1:25:56 Practicing community, spreading communication, and more kissing
📈 STATS | 30 pansexual American-born Chinese female, she/her pronouns, ethically non-monogamous, sex nerd, legal courtesan at Sheri’s Ranch near Las Vegas, from the East Coast, into: authentic connection, sapiosexuality, auralism, sensory play, MFM FFM threesomes, dicks, behavioral economics, ancient Greek history and literature
🔗 JESSICA LINKS | sheri's ranch profile / @jessicaxie_OXO
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