A total power exchange with his wife, partner-focused pleasure, and exploring piss play—Steve shares how his 20-year vanilla relationship transitioned into a consciously designed, mutually nurturing connection.
00:00 Scalding hot baths, outdoorsy adventures, and grounding in himself
06:16 A magnetic spiritual connection with his partner and how they balance their disparate relationship needs
12:17 How a 24/7 dynamic with contracts and monthly meetings helped him connect more fully with his partner
19:59 Protecting mental well-being + preparing safety measures following sub drop and top drop
24:56 CUM PLAY!!!
26:59 Growing up feeling like an outsider with Protestant, Catholic, and Jewish influences
32:43 Condom lessons from his classmate’s nurse mom, detailed anatomical drawings, and watching a graphic sex ed video with his family
37:38 How a book from his grandfather led to his first masturbation session
42:57 Why pleasing his partner is always his focus
44:16 Early masturbation exploration, bedsheet burns and baby powder on private parts
47:49 AOL phone sex adventures with “hot babes” to practice flirting
54:43 Rediscovering his innate confidence through Dominance and plans for writing smut
58:01 Early softcore and R-rated film influences on his sexuality
1:02:53 Making classic movie moves on a first date and his first sexually exciting touch
1:08:33 His first time fingering and revisiting sexy shared memories during sex
1:11:41 An absolute love of blowjobs and navigating his “unreasonable” shameless desire with partners
1:16:41 How a mismatch of communication and sexual needs led to consciously designing a D/s dynamic
1:23:32 Breaking out of the relationship rut of a rare sexual “rewards” system to embrace explorations like watersports and cum play
1:29:19 Daddy Dom bedtime rituals and his ongoing Domination development
1:34:46 Piss play and watching his partner pee
1:38:14 How a college class helped him talk openly about sex and why he thinks everyone is sexy
1:42:52 Looking forward to progressing as a Dominant, building community, and working through mutual jealousy to ultimately add more play partners
1:48:15 Shared desire for accessible sex ed + teaching that it’s okay to explore and break out of expected “norms”
📈 STATS | 40 heteroflexible Dominant white dude, he/him pronouns, monogamous, 24/7 power dynamic, married with kids, works in education, US east coast, into: spanking, cum play, watersports, and his submissive
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