How to stop people pleasing

“Every single time that you say yes to something that depletes you, you are saying no to something that could grow you.” – Amber Cabral 

In this episode of Human(ing) Well, Amber Cabral tackles one of the biggest energy leaks in modern life: people-pleasing. She breaks down why constantly trying to keep the peace actually keeps the pattern alive, how fear and conflict avoidance hold you hostage, and what it really means to build a backbone with grace.

You’ll learn how to:

✅ Recognize when “being nice” is really self-neglect
✅ Set boundaries that honor your values without guilt
✅ Communicate your needs calmly (not combatively)
✅ Say no without over-explaining or apologizing
✅ Stop shrinking yourself to make others comfortable

If you’ve ever felt exhausted by being “the dependable one,” this conversation will help you protect your peace, preserve your energy, and practice self-respect without losing your compassion.

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