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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Let me tell y'all what happened this weekend.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
So you know, Ashley and I've been hanging out like
hard since I moved to Miami, and ashe, I love you,
thank you for both of y'all showing me a good
time here in Miami.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
I'm loving it.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
So Ashley and I've been getting closer, our kids been
getting closer, and Chad and Field been getting homies.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
Clicking up call each other, which could be you know,
and like one the guys.
Speaker 4 (00:32):
Want to hang out and like each other.
Speaker 2 (00:33):
Right, you know it's good though, So ash and I
went out to Larcen's birthday party.
Speaker 4 (00:41):
It was about, hey, Larciga.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
We had a good time. We had a good time.
You got to run that back.
Speaker 4 (00:47):
We have to good at a time.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
So I was drinking, texting Chad.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
You know when I've be on that done, Julio, I'll
be on the whole another level. I was like, Babe,
be ready, I'm coming home. You make sure you're ready.
Speaker 5 (01:02):
You can't.
Speaker 4 (01:04):
So the drive.
Speaker 1 (01:06):
She had the party like an hour out.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
So because Verry responsible can't drink and dry, I'm falling
asleep in the ouber.
Speaker 4 (01:15):
I'm tired.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
I get to the I get back to the house.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
Yeah, barely even shower and jumped in the bed.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
Chad woke up and was hissed, I'm ready.
Speaker 4 (01:27):
For you, like.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
She had told her.
Speaker 5 (01:32):
She sending all the sexy texts and all kind of ship.
It reminds me of you're just stretching and getting ready
for a race, and you warm it up and.
Speaker 4 (01:40):
You get ready.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
And so he was ready. He was ready, and then.
Speaker 5 (01:49):
My ass went to sleep. You couldn't deliver me.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
I couldn't deliver. My ass couldn't deliver.
Speaker 5 (01:53):
I ain't gone.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
I was the same way.
Speaker 5 (01:56):
I had such a good time at the party, got
out home. It was lights out, like slower.
Speaker 4 (02:03):
You know, low key, that happens.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
It happens. But but the thing is, he got so pissed,
like I don't like, on a whole other level, upset,
up set.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
I would have been mad too, because I'm like, okay,
she's gonna allow she about you know, and had a
couple of drinks, so I know she's gonna be ready
for me when she get home.
Speaker 5 (02:22):
You know her ask got up, you sending texts. I'm like,
when I baby, when I get home, I'm gonna do this.
I'm going to do that.
Speaker 4 (02:29):
I'm so low.
Speaker 5 (02:30):
Key, y'all feel like the drive is the one that
basically was the WU.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
Was the liquor Larsa had.
Speaker 5 (02:39):
So the liquor gave y'all courage at the party, put
y'all to sleep, Yes straight today she sucked up by
sending those texts.
Speaker 4 (02:49):
That's the worst encouragement.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
I ain't send no text I was real classic.
Speaker 5 (02:53):
They on the way home say I'm gonna do this
to you. I'm gonna do that.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
I was giving him prime is that I could keep.
So I get home, fall asleep, his ass, wake.
Speaker 4 (03:04):
Up, wake me up? Is that a thing for you?
Speaker 5 (03:09):
All? Up?
Speaker 1 (03:11):
Went downstairs and slept in the other bed.
Speaker 4 (03:13):
I was like, so he was very and I didn't
follow him.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
My ass rolled over and went back to sleep.
Speaker 4 (03:20):
Ship.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
How can you which one of y'all tell me like
y'all experiences as well.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
I know I'm not the only one, yes, but I.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
See I always tell Phil in the morning like I'm
a morning.
Speaker 5 (03:35):
Morning, like.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
You're not a reasonable hour then okay, But if it's
a late night and I haven't been doing the most,
they're having a good time, like catch me in the morning.
Because unless you just want to starfish because.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
I I can't take it.
Speaker 4 (03:50):
I can't. I cannot.
Speaker 5 (03:52):
I cannot. I cannot, like I cannot. You give him
a little dead body if you catch me in the
morning and when I'm fresh, you.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
Know what I'm saying, And.
Speaker 5 (04:03):
I can throw up back, I can be on the top,
I can be I.
Speaker 1 (04:05):
Can do whatever you're doing. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 5 (04:08):
So in this case, she that made these promises she
can't keep. And then I hear phil phone ring. It's
probably like six o'clock in the morning.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
He's thirty.
Speaker 4 (04:19):
He was so pissed, so the bed.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
I'm in the bed and I hear his songe ring,
and I'm like, damn calling him.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
And put it on.
Speaker 5 (04:29):
He answered on a speakerphone or I don't know it
was loud because I could hear the voice on the
other line.
Speaker 4 (04:34):
It's chat.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
Oh, yes, calling Field, asking him is this normal?
Speaker 4 (04:43):
Like Chad felt some kind of way. It was really
really upset.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
He call him call Phil for advice. Actually and Phield
been married for a long time, okay, and you know
this is our first time actually living together.
Speaker 4 (04:56):
Yes, so it's.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
Like things It was easy for us when we're in
two different course I were living together.
Speaker 4 (05:02):
So now we're like, wait.
Speaker 5 (05:04):
A minute, but is this what y'all be doing? Meaning
like she's gonna hit me up, warm me up, get
me ready to go.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
She'd come here, and then she don't pass out snoring.
Speaker 4 (05:16):
I can't wait for years. It was like, bruh, if
you like this.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
Very good, it's like yeah.
Speaker 4 (05:27):
He was like yeah, yeah, yeah, it'd be like that's
some time.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
You know, he was very moventing, you know what I'm saying,
And I just like, yeah, you know, it's just you know,
that's just how it is.
Speaker 4 (05:38):
That's just how it is.
Speaker 5 (05:39):
You know, when you married, you know, you've been together
for a long time, they go loud, they have a
good time, but.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
It just be like God, it'd be like like.
Speaker 5 (05:48):
I feel like men and women can relate. Everybody can
relate to that because you get that liqual courage and
you be feeling really you're feeling real good to.
Speaker 4 (05:56):
Be be dropping you know what it is.
Speaker 5 (05:58):
And then you're feeling good and then you want to
lock in with that person, and then you turn around
and you have that little drive. And then also the
good side of liquor is it turns you up with
the liquor is gonna.
Speaker 4 (06:11):
Bring you down, tie to hell.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
That to take it personal, No, I didn't take it personal.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
He can't take He didn't after he got advice, and
I'm glad he he did that though.
Speaker 4 (06:23):
I love that for them too.
Speaker 2 (06:25):
You got some great advice, even though they didn't let
us know.
Speaker 5 (06:28):
But as he didn't tell me, he took me off
the speakerphone. He took my speakerphone real fast, and he
proceeded around. He went to his closet and they talked
on the phone for a few minutes. So whatever he
said must have been good, right.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
Good, because then he called me back.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
He was like, yeah, you over your little hangover.
Speaker 5 (06:48):
Because they don't get it, because they don't drink.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
Like that, Like they don't even drink it. They don't
be understanding, you know.
Speaker 5 (06:55):
But you know one thing that I've noticed with both
of you all and your significant others, they're very accommodating
to what your lifestyle is. They're very accommodating to what
you're both very social, and I noticed, you know, I've
been knowing you and and Phil for years. Phil is
usually right there with us or not, but if he's
(07:16):
he's somewhere nearby.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
If not, we bringing him some food home.
Speaker 4 (07:19):
I'm saying, but you know.
Speaker 5 (07:22):
They remind me, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 4 (07:30):
But like we we understand.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
You know, you guys are very verbal about.
Speaker 4 (07:34):
The communication between you and your significant other.
Speaker 5 (07:37):
And as a friend of you guys's you know, relationships,
I applaud you guys because it's like a good communication
is healthy and the fact that we can be able
to sit and like you know, encourage.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
Healthy behavior because we're going to turn up.
Speaker 5 (07:53):
We have a good time in Miami. We get invited
to a lot of events. But the fact that you
go home and the guys are being able to being
able to communicate.
Speaker 4 (08:03):
Is very crucial. And they know who you are exactly.
They know, y'all.
Speaker 5 (08:09):
I love that Chad call feel because each other, you know,
we'll call each other like the guys that don't normally
do that.
Speaker 2 (08:16):
Their pride is so high and they feel and I'm
glad you know they were able to connect. Yeah, we're
being closer, the kids being closer, the men are starting
to connect.
Speaker 1 (08:25):
So I love that because I can't tell me your
seven exactly. But that leads me to my next thing.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
So actually, when I went to the bad Boys segment
Bad Voice Premiere, Yes, and we were asked a question, Okay,
what are what are things like I love you and Chad,
I love you? And they told Ashley, I love you
and Field, what are things that you do to keep
your man happy? And I know it may sound crazy,
(08:53):
but if you don't give your man six, you can
feed him, you can do whatever.
Speaker 1 (08:59):
But if you don't give.
Speaker 2 (08:59):
Your man sets, yeah, Dennis already Hurricane five period.
Speaker 5 (09:05):
I agree to that, even being not in a situation
right now, but being married, I feel like that's what's
lacking in my situation, just.
Speaker 4 (09:16):
In my essence, like I like to give.
Speaker 5 (09:20):
I like to.
Speaker 4 (09:25):
To give, you know what I mean.
Speaker 5 (09:26):
It's just like in that in that realm, I like
to be able to give my love and be intimate
and religious. That's it's an exchange of energy, you know
what I'm saying. It's a different level of intimacy. And
I believe that sex is the foundation of all relationships
and not just marriage, you know, even just whatever it is,
(09:50):
there's different link love languages, and so if you're able
to be physical with someone and transfer those energies, I
think it's crucial for us, just as man and woman,
you know what I'm saying, and really just I mean
I don't want to even you know, be demographic wise
of men and women, but just woman.
Speaker 4 (10:08):
Physical touch of love and exchanging that love and that.
Speaker 5 (10:11):
Time with someone and being intimate with them one on
one is a big part of any kind of relationship.
Speaker 4 (10:17):
Well, that's crazy.
Speaker 2 (10:18):
I mean I feel like for men, I feel like
sex is such a big thing when it comes to relationships.
But I feel personally that I can't even begin to
want to connect in a sexual way until I feel
that you've tapped into me on in a different way
(10:40):
like mentally, I would say spiritually too, but I feel
like spiritually for me is so individual, like I haven't
I'm still growing in my spirituality, so I don't feel
like I've really tapped into like me and Phil have
a long way. I feel like to get to where
we're spiritually.
Speaker 5 (10:58):
Like connected, I feel like something that I feel like
we're constantly working on that.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
But back to just like before I get anywhere connected sexually,
I feel like emotionally, like you know, are we connected?
If we're not connected, then I don't even.
Speaker 5 (11:16):
Think about sex and Phil knows that just feel disconnected anyway.
Speaker 3 (11:22):
Like, you know, he ain't getting nothing, so I can
tell you, but he knows, he knows you, Yeah, he knows.
Speaker 4 (11:32):
And that goes with investment.
Speaker 5 (11:33):
If you're investing in time with someone, if you're investing
in knowing who they are and knowing their energies and
and knowing that she's gonna she's gonna hit me up
because she out she's going, she's feeling good.
Speaker 4 (11:44):
That's getting me right, but not to take it personal.
If she comes home and she's tired.
Speaker 5 (11:48):
Now they're gonna take it personal regardless. Yeah, it's already
got it in mind. He getting something tonight and you don't.
Speaker 1 (11:59):
Yeah, you and you just got to deal with the repercussions.
Speaker 5 (12:02):
But you know, I think I'm more of the like,
okay with that. I don't think I've ever said no though,
Oh well I felt I told that. I was like,
you know, just put it in exactly, that's rape.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
That's like I really he was like, you don't know
how many people have plane that being in relationships.
Speaker 1 (12:22):
He was like, I would never I want you to
take advantage.
Speaker 4 (12:25):
Yeah, you're good. So I understand that.
Speaker 5 (12:29):
And you say, you've never, ever, ever, ever ever said
nothing no, because like you ain't never had like a
stomach egg and you was just like, I can't.
Speaker 4 (12:37):
I think I'm I'm a piscey. You a little free.
Speaker 5 (12:41):
Yes, so even when your stomach hurt and you just
ready to get it. Because if I'm feeling it and
I'm ready to go and I'm warm up, no, I
say no.
Speaker 4 (12:50):
I got a shower before. If there's others come trying.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
To put your head down there after I left the gym,
and don't kids used to kids and that's what kids
and I still more, you want more?
Speaker 5 (13:08):
I would, But I'm just saying like, I'm very sexual
and it's kind of frustrating low key because I don't
have someone right there in the bed.
Speaker 4 (13:18):
Yeah, you know I can. I can say that as being.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
With somebody right you know, you know, and ready to mingo.
Speaker 4 (13:30):
She and.
Speaker 1 (13:33):
I'm very very I'm very open about that, you know.
Speaker 5 (13:36):
Shout out to doctor Ruth who just passed away by
the way, who was a sex ferst. I remember staying
out late like watching that ship.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
God damn what I was not supposed to be watching.
I ain't know what the hell they was talking about,
but I.
Speaker 5 (13:49):
Was watching herd.
Speaker 4 (13:50):
But attraction is huge between two entities.
Speaker 5 (13:54):
You know what I'm saying, You really want the feeling
of giving that energy and receiving it, receiving. I love
receiving in many different ways, and I love pleasure. So
you don't need the all the other connections. You just
I need a lot of connections. I like physical connections,
I like touch, I like you know, give me.
Speaker 4 (14:14):
What is it? What do they say what I'm saying,
you say you never say no, I never say that.
Speaker 5 (14:18):
It's one of the foundations of being in a relationship.
So I'm saying, if you aren't feeling connected in those
other ways, you will not say no.
Speaker 4 (14:30):
No, I'm shutting it down. I will say that, I
will say no.
Speaker 5 (14:35):
And I feel like my partner knows me enough to
know that if they have done anything that has altered
my power.
Speaker 4 (14:43):
And I feel like I have a lot of power.
We have a lot of power in a pussy. And
I'm just gonna say that, okay to.
Speaker 5 (14:50):
Me, we really do have a lot of power in that.
And I'm saying that just and this power in the pen.
You know, the pen is too, but when women, you know,
because there's a lot that comes from that. We give birth,
we we we receive a lot of energy from that.
You know, men can stick it anywhere and have a
(15:12):
different kind of cutoff. It's emotional attachment. That's how I
move soul tis it's soul tied. So like in that realm,
if you, as a man, have come to me and
you have said okay, friend zone, or we're just doing this,
or there has been some cheating or there's been some
anything that's altered my energy of where I can't be myself.
(15:36):
You feel that, and I feel like we give signs
of that, you know, whether we're cooking or preparing something,
or whether we're being not less.
Speaker 4 (15:44):
Communicative or something. You know it.
Speaker 5 (15:47):
And that's why I would say no to like something
like that, because if you know you've done something to me,
you know it's changed. Whereas if you have been on
par and you have been on point for everything that
you've done that you know is my love language and
know that what is good for me, then you don't
get everything.
Speaker 4 (16:07):
You don't get. So this abundance of just just.
Speaker 2 (16:10):
Guess, I just feel like it's kind of impossible to
like one hundred percent give somebody's love languages. Like I
feel like there's always going to be a point in time,
I can only speak of my fucking relationship.
Speaker 4 (16:24):
Let me hear it.
Speaker 2 (16:24):
It's kind of been different, but I just feel like,
you know, yeah, we have our love languages. Yeah, my
heat feel knows me. We've been together for years. Blah
blah blah blah blah.
Speaker 4 (16:34):
But sometimes he ain't.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
Doing everything that I want at the moment, and something change,
right exactly.
Speaker 5 (16:40):
Sometimes what I want change, he can't with it. So
it's not necessarily like his fault that I'm not ready
to just you know, you could be PMS and.
Speaker 4 (16:51):
Yeah, you can be having a long drive home. I
can say that, right. So that's why it's hard for
me to like be like you just never said I know.
Speaker 5 (17:00):
I'm just like, I don't. I don't.
Speaker 4 (17:02):
It's very rare that I say no, and.
Speaker 1 (17:04):
Again he said, yous me off.
Speaker 4 (17:08):
That's what I'm trying to say.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
That's what I'm trying to say.
Speaker 5 (17:11):
I say to like, this is still a prize in
my relationship now, Okay, okay, I still treat my sex
my pussy. I want to say it's his, like he
knows it's his. But I feel like, I mean, like
(17:34):
you said, pussy is power.
Speaker 4 (17:36):
Power.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
It is so if I'm regularly just like you know,
he gonna get it or whatever. Like I mean, I
feel like then that takes it down.
Speaker 4 (17:46):
It's not as power.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
You got to keep it up.
Speaker 5 (17:48):
Yeah, because he had always wanted like he you know
what I'm saying. I feel like it's just it's up
here for him, like he's of the total that is
one of the top value prizes and the top most
valued like possessions. I'm like, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes,
(18:11):
anytime you want.
Speaker 4 (18:12):
Then it's like, but what are you feeling it? I'm
very social, very hardy.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
It's different from women though, but what I'm saying, we
go on the rims.
Speaker 2 (18:22):
Men don't treat how women treat their vagina like a
surprised No.
Speaker 4 (18:27):
It's just I agree with that at all.
Speaker 5 (18:29):
Yeah, he just want to yeah exactly, And I feel
like he could do that on his own. It's just
that like when we again, I mean, I want to
be connected in all those ways because it's not just
sex for me.
Speaker 1 (18:42):
It's so it's a lot.
Speaker 4 (18:44):
I understand that, Yes, I understand.
Speaker 2 (18:47):
As far as orgasms, I didn't have my first orgasm
until I was probably like twenty nine thirty.
Speaker 4 (18:55):
Yeah, yeah, like I didn't know.
Speaker 1 (18:57):
I was just fucking just the book.
Speaker 5 (18:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (18:59):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (19:00):
And to actually have any orgasms, just not from like, oh,
from head too, yeah yeah, I don't know, you didn't
from here?
Speaker 4 (19:09):
From here? Yes, let me like, if you had an.
Speaker 1 (19:14):
Organism from head, don't have to take a sip with us.
Speaker 4 (19:18):
Great mm hmmm mm hmm
Speaker 5 (19:26):
Yeah yeah
Let me tell y'all what happened this weekend.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
So you know, Ashley and I've been hanging out like
hard since I moved to Miami, and ashe, I love you,
thank you for both of y'all showing me a good
time here in Miami.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
I'm loving it.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
So Ashley and I've been getting closer, our kids been
getting closer, and Chad and Field been getting homies.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
Clicking up call each other, which could be you know,
and like one the guys.
Speaker 4 (00:32):
Want to hang out and like each other.
Speaker 2 (00:33):
Right, you know it's good though, So ash and I
went out to Larcen's birthday party.
Speaker 4 (00:41):
It was about, hey, Larciga.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
We had a good time. We had a good time.
You got to run that back.
Speaker 4 (00:47):
We have to good at a time.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
So I was drinking, texting Chad.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
You know when I've be on that done, Julio, I'll
be on the whole another level. I was like, Babe,
be ready, I'm coming home. You make sure you're ready.
Speaker 5 (01:02):
You can't.
Speaker 4 (01:04):
So the drive.
Speaker 1 (01:06):
She had the party like an hour out.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
So because Verry responsible can't drink and dry, I'm falling
asleep in the ouber.
Speaker 4 (01:15):
I'm tired.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
I get to the I get back to the house.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
Yeah, barely even shower and jumped in the bed.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
Chad woke up and was hissed, I'm ready.
Speaker 4 (01:27):
For you, like.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
She had told her.
Speaker 5 (01:32):
She sending all the sexy texts and all kind of ship.
It reminds me of you're just stretching and getting ready
for a race, and you warm it up and.
Speaker 4 (01:40):
You get ready.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
And so he was ready. He was ready, and then.
Speaker 5 (01:49):
My ass went to sleep. You couldn't deliver me.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
I couldn't deliver. My ass couldn't deliver.
Speaker 5 (01:53):
I ain't gone.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
I was the same way.
Speaker 5 (01:56):
I had such a good time at the party, got
out home. It was lights out, like slower.
Speaker 4 (02:03):
You know, low key, that happens.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
It happens. But but the thing is, he got so pissed,
like I don't like, on a whole other level, upset,
up set.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
I would have been mad too, because I'm like, okay,
she's gonna allow she about you know, and had a
couple of drinks, so I know she's gonna be ready
for me when she get home.
Speaker 5 (02:22):
You know her ask got up, you sending texts. I'm like,
when I baby, when I get home, I'm gonna do this.
I'm going to do that.
Speaker 4 (02:29):
I'm so low.
Speaker 5 (02:30):
Key, y'all feel like the drive is the one that
basically was the WU.
Speaker 1 (02:34):
Was the liquor Larsa had.
Speaker 5 (02:39):
So the liquor gave y'all courage at the party, put
y'all to sleep, Yes straight today she sucked up by
sending those texts.
Speaker 4 (02:49):
That's the worst encouragement.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
I ain't send no text I was real classic.
Speaker 5 (02:53):
They on the way home say I'm gonna do this
to you. I'm gonna do that.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
I was giving him prime is that I could keep.
So I get home, fall asleep, his ass, wake.
Speaker 4 (03:04):
Up, wake me up? Is that a thing for you?
Speaker 5 (03:09):
All? Up?
Speaker 1 (03:11):
Went downstairs and slept in the other bed.
Speaker 4 (03:13):
I was like, so he was very and I didn't
follow him.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
My ass rolled over and went back to sleep.
Speaker 4 (03:20):
Ship.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
How can you which one of y'all tell me like
y'all experiences as well.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
I know I'm not the only one, yes, but I.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
See I always tell Phil in the morning like I'm
a morning.
Speaker 5 (03:35):
Morning, like.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
You're not a reasonable hour then okay, But if it's
a late night and I haven't been doing the most,
they're having a good time, like catch me in the morning.
Because unless you just want to starfish because.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
I I can't take it.
Speaker 4 (03:50):
I can't. I cannot.
Speaker 5 (03:52):
I cannot. I cannot, like I cannot. You give him
a little dead body if you catch me in the
morning and when I'm fresh, you.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
Know what I'm saying, And.
Speaker 5 (04:03):
I can throw up back, I can be on the top,
I can be I.
Speaker 1 (04:05):
Can do whatever you're doing. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 5 (04:08):
So in this case, she that made these promises she
can't keep. And then I hear phil phone ring. It's
probably like six o'clock in the morning.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
He's thirty.
Speaker 4 (04:19):
He was so pissed, so the bed.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
I'm in the bed and I hear his songe ring,
and I'm like, damn calling him.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
And put it on.
Speaker 5 (04:29):
He answered on a speakerphone or I don't know it
was loud because I could hear the voice on the
other line.
Speaker 4 (04:34):
It's chat.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
Oh, yes, calling Field, asking him is this normal?
Speaker 4 (04:43):
Like Chad felt some kind of way. It was really
really upset.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
He call him call Phil for advice. Actually and Phield
been married for a long time, okay, and you know
this is our first time actually living together.
Speaker 4 (04:56):
Yes, so it's.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
Like things It was easy for us when we're in
two different course I were living together.
Speaker 4 (05:02):
So now we're like, wait.
Speaker 5 (05:04):
A minute, but is this what y'all be doing? Meaning
like she's gonna hit me up, warm me up, get
me ready to go.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
She'd come here, and then she don't pass out snoring.
Speaker 4 (05:16):
I can't wait for years. It was like, bruh, if
you like this.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
Very good, it's like yeah.
Speaker 4 (05:27):
He was like yeah, yeah, yeah, it'd be like that's
some time.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
You know, he was very moventing, you know what I'm saying,
And I just like, yeah, you know, it's just you know,
that's just how it is.
Speaker 4 (05:38):
That's just how it is.
Speaker 5 (05:39):
You know, when you married, you know, you've been together
for a long time, they go loud, they have a
good time, but.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
It just be like God, it'd be like like.
Speaker 5 (05:48):
I feel like men and women can relate. Everybody can
relate to that because you get that liqual courage and
you be feeling really you're feeling real good to.
Speaker 4 (05:56):
Be be dropping you know what it is.
Speaker 5 (05:58):
And then you're feeling good and then you want to
lock in with that person, and then you turn around
and you have that little drive. And then also the
good side of liquor is it turns you up with
the liquor is gonna.
Speaker 4 (06:11):
Bring you down, tie to hell.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
That to take it personal, No, I didn't take it personal.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
He can't take He didn't after he got advice, and
I'm glad he he did that though.
Speaker 4 (06:23):
I love that for them too.
Speaker 2 (06:25):
You got some great advice, even though they didn't let
us know.
Speaker 5 (06:28):
But as he didn't tell me, he took me off
the speakerphone. He took my speakerphone real fast, and he
proceeded around. He went to his closet and they talked
on the phone for a few minutes. So whatever he
said must have been good, right.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
Good, because then he called me back.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
He was like, yeah, you over your little hangover.
Speaker 5 (06:48):
Because they don't get it, because they don't drink.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
Like that, Like they don't even drink it. They don't
be understanding, you know.
Speaker 5 (06:55):
But you know one thing that I've noticed with both
of you all and your significant others, they're very accommodating
to what your lifestyle is. They're very accommodating to what
you're both very social, and I noticed, you know, I've
been knowing you and and Phil for years. Phil is
usually right there with us or not, but if he's
(07:16):
he's somewhere nearby.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
If not, we bringing him some food home.
Speaker 4 (07:19):
I'm saying, but you know.
Speaker 5 (07:22):
They remind me, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 4 (07:30):
But like we we understand.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
You know, you guys are very verbal about.
Speaker 4 (07:34):
The communication between you and your significant other.
Speaker 5 (07:37):
And as a friend of you guys's you know, relationships,
I applaud you guys because it's like a good communication
is healthy and the fact that we can be able
to sit and like you know, encourage.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
Healthy behavior because we're going to turn up.
Speaker 5 (07:53):
We have a good time in Miami. We get invited
to a lot of events. But the fact that you
go home and the guys are being able to being
able to communicate.
Speaker 4 (08:03):
Is very crucial. And they know who you are exactly.
They know, y'all.
Speaker 5 (08:09):
I love that Chad call feel because each other, you know,
we'll call each other like the guys that don't normally
do that.
Speaker 2 (08:16):
Their pride is so high and they feel and I'm
glad you know they were able to connect. Yeah, we're
being closer, the kids being closer, the men are starting
to connect.
Speaker 1 (08:25):
So I love that because I can't tell me your
seven exactly. But that leads me to my next thing.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
So actually, when I went to the bad Boys segment
Bad Voice Premiere, Yes, and we were asked a question, Okay,
what are what are things like I love you and Chad,
I love you? And they told Ashley, I love you
and Field, what are things that you do to keep
your man happy? And I know it may sound crazy,
(08:53):
but if you don't give your man six, you can
feed him, you can do whatever.
Speaker 1 (08:59):
But if you don't give.
Speaker 2 (08:59):
Your man sets, yeah, Dennis already Hurricane five period.
Speaker 5 (09:05):
I agree to that, even being not in a situation
right now, but being married, I feel like that's what's
lacking in my situation, just.
Speaker 4 (09:16):
In my essence, like I like to give.
Speaker 5 (09:20):
I like to.
Speaker 4 (09:25):
To give, you know what I mean.
Speaker 5 (09:26):
It's just like in that in that realm, I like
to be able to give my love and be intimate
and religious. That's it's an exchange of energy, you know
what I'm saying. It's a different level of intimacy. And
I believe that sex is the foundation of all relationships
and not just marriage, you know, even just whatever it is,
(09:50):
there's different link love languages, and so if you're able
to be physical with someone and transfer those energies, I
think it's crucial for us, just as man and woman,
you know what I'm saying, and really just I mean
I don't want to even you know, be demographic wise
of men and women, but just woman.
Speaker 4 (10:08):
Physical touch of love and exchanging that love and that.
Speaker 5 (10:11):
Time with someone and being intimate with them one on
one is a big part of any kind of relationship.
Speaker 4 (10:17):
Well, that's crazy.
Speaker 2 (10:18):
I mean I feel like for men, I feel like
sex is such a big thing when it comes to relationships.
But I feel personally that I can't even begin to
want to connect in a sexual way until I feel
that you've tapped into me on in a different way
(10:40):
like mentally, I would say spiritually too, but I feel
like spiritually for me is so individual, like I haven't
I'm still growing in my spirituality, so I don't feel
like I've really tapped into like me and Phil have
a long way. I feel like to get to where
we're spiritually.
Speaker 5 (10:58):
Like connected, I feel like something that I feel like
we're constantly working on that.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
But back to just like before I get anywhere connected sexually,
I feel like emotionally, like you know, are we connected?
If we're not connected, then I don't even.
Speaker 5 (11:16):
Think about sex and Phil knows that just feel disconnected anyway.
Speaker 3 (11:22):
Like, you know, he ain't getting nothing, so I can
tell you, but he knows, he knows you, Yeah, he knows.
Speaker 4 (11:32):
And that goes with investment.
Speaker 5 (11:33):
If you're investing in time with someone, if you're investing
in knowing who they are and knowing their energies and
and knowing that she's gonna she's gonna hit me up
because she out she's going, she's feeling good.
Speaker 4 (11:44):
That's getting me right, but not to take it personal.
If she comes home and she's tired.
Speaker 5 (11:48):
Now they're gonna take it personal regardless. Yeah, it's already
got it in mind. He getting something tonight and you don't.
Speaker 1 (11:59):
Yeah, you and you just got to deal with the repercussions.
Speaker 5 (12:02):
But you know, I think I'm more of the like,
okay with that. I don't think I've ever said no though,
Oh well I felt I told that. I was like,
you know, just put it in exactly, that's rape.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
That's like I really he was like, you don't know
how many people have plane that being in relationships.
Speaker 1 (12:22):
He was like, I would never I want you to
take advantage.
Speaker 4 (12:25):
Yeah, you're good. So I understand that.
Speaker 5 (12:29):
And you say, you've never, ever, ever, ever ever said
nothing no, because like you ain't never had like a
stomach egg and you was just like, I can't.
Speaker 4 (12:37):
I think I'm I'm a piscey. You a little free.
Speaker 5 (12:41):
Yes, so even when your stomach hurt and you just
ready to get it. Because if I'm feeling it and
I'm ready to go and I'm warm up, no, I
say no.
Speaker 4 (12:50):
I got a shower before. If there's others come trying.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
To put your head down there after I left the gym,
and don't kids used to kids and that's what kids
and I still more, you want more?
Speaker 5 (13:08):
I would, But I'm just saying like, I'm very sexual
and it's kind of frustrating low key because I don't
have someone right there in the bed.
Speaker 4 (13:18):
Yeah, you know I can. I can say that as being.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
With somebody right you know, you know, and ready to mingo.
Speaker 4 (13:30):
She and.
Speaker 1 (13:33):
I'm very very I'm very open about that, you know.
Speaker 5 (13:36):
Shout out to doctor Ruth who just passed away by
the way, who was a sex ferst. I remember staying
out late like watching that ship.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
God damn what I was not supposed to be watching.
I ain't know what the hell they was talking about,
but I.
Speaker 5 (13:49):
Was watching herd.
Speaker 4 (13:50):
But attraction is huge between two entities.
Speaker 5 (13:54):
You know what I'm saying, You really want the feeling
of giving that energy and receiving it, receiving. I love
receiving in many different ways, and I love pleasure. So
you don't need the all the other connections. You just
I need a lot of connections. I like physical connections,
I like touch, I like you know, give me.
Speaker 4 (14:14):
What is it? What do they say what I'm saying,
you say you never say no, I never say that.
Speaker 5 (14:18):
It's one of the foundations of being in a relationship.
So I'm saying, if you aren't feeling connected in those
other ways, you will not say no.
Speaker 4 (14:30):
No, I'm shutting it down. I will say that, I
will say no.
Speaker 5 (14:35):
And I feel like my partner knows me enough to
know that if they have done anything that has altered
my power.
Speaker 4 (14:43):
And I feel like I have a lot of power.
We have a lot of power in a pussy. And
I'm just gonna say that, okay to.
Speaker 5 (14:50):
Me, we really do have a lot of power in that.
And I'm saying that just and this power in the pen.
You know, the pen is too, but when women, you know,
because there's a lot that comes from that. We give birth,
we we we receive a lot of energy from that.
You know, men can stick it anywhere and have a
(15:12):
different kind of cutoff. It's emotional attachment. That's how I
move soul tis it's soul tied. So like in that realm,
if you, as a man, have come to me and
you have said okay, friend zone, or we're just doing this,
or there has been some cheating or there's been some
anything that's altered my energy of where I can't be myself.
(15:36):
You feel that, and I feel like we give signs
of that, you know, whether we're cooking or preparing something,
or whether we're being not less.
Speaker 4 (15:44):
Communicative or something. You know it.
Speaker 5 (15:47):
And that's why I would say no to like something
like that, because if you know you've done something to me,
you know it's changed. Whereas if you have been on
par and you have been on point for everything that
you've done that you know is my love language and
know that what is good for me, then you don't
get everything.
Speaker 4 (16:07):
You don't get. So this abundance of just just.
Speaker 2 (16:10):
Guess, I just feel like it's kind of impossible to
like one hundred percent give somebody's love languages. Like I
feel like there's always going to be a point in time,
I can only speak of my fucking relationship.
Speaker 4 (16:24):
Let me hear it.
Speaker 2 (16:24):
It's kind of been different, but I just feel like,
you know, yeah, we have our love languages. Yeah, my
heat feel knows me. We've been together for years. Blah
blah blah blah blah.
Speaker 4 (16:34):
But sometimes he ain't.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
Doing everything that I want at the moment, and something change,
right exactly.
Speaker 5 (16:40):
Sometimes what I want change, he can't with it. So
it's not necessarily like his fault that I'm not ready
to just you know, you could be PMS and.
Speaker 4 (16:51):
Yeah, you can be having a long drive home. I
can say that, right. So that's why it's hard for
me to like be like you just never said I know.
Speaker 5 (17:00):
I'm just like, I don't. I don't.
Speaker 4 (17:02):
It's very rare that I say no, and.
Speaker 1 (17:04):
Again he said, yous me off.
Speaker 4 (17:08):
That's what I'm trying to say.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
That's what I'm trying to say.
Speaker 5 (17:11):
I say to like, this is still a prize in
my relationship now, Okay, okay, I still treat my sex
my pussy. I want to say it's his, like he
knows it's his. But I feel like, I mean, like
(17:34):
you said, pussy is power.
Speaker 4 (17:36):
Power.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
It is so if I'm regularly just like you know,
he gonna get it or whatever. Like I mean, I
feel like then that takes it down.
Speaker 4 (17:46):
It's not as power.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
You got to keep it up.
Speaker 5 (17:48):
Yeah, because he had always wanted like he you know
what I'm saying. I feel like it's just it's up
here for him, like he's of the total that is
one of the top value prizes and the top most
valued like possessions. I'm like, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes,
(18:11):
anytime you want.
Speaker 4 (18:12):
Then it's like, but what are you feeling it? I'm
very social, very hardy.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
It's different from women though, but what I'm saying, we
go on the rims.
Speaker 2 (18:22):
Men don't treat how women treat their vagina like a
surprised No.
Speaker 4 (18:27):
It's just I agree with that at all.
Speaker 5 (18:29):
Yeah, he just want to yeah exactly, And I feel
like he could do that on his own. It's just
that like when we again, I mean, I want to
be connected in all those ways because it's not just
sex for me.
Speaker 1 (18:42):
It's so it's a lot.
Speaker 4 (18:44):
I understand that, Yes, I understand.
Speaker 2 (18:47):
As far as orgasms, I didn't have my first orgasm
until I was probably like twenty nine thirty.
Speaker 4 (18:55):
Yeah, yeah, like I didn't know.
Speaker 1 (18:57):
I was just fucking just the book.
Speaker 5 (18:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (18:59):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (19:00):
And to actually have any orgasms, just not from like, oh,
from head too, yeah yeah, I don't know, you didn't
from here?
Speaker 4 (19:09):
From here? Yes, let me like, if you had an.
Speaker 1 (19:14):
Organism from head, don't have to take a sip with us.
Speaker 4 (19:18):
Great mm hmmm mm hmm
Speaker 5 (19:26):
Yeah yeah
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