Humble Baddies - Erykah Badu's BBL Shade? + Pastor Marvin Sapp Demands $40,000 Donations & More!

Sharelle, Ashley, and Alexis react to Erykah Badu wearing a BBL shaped bodysuit during her performance at the Billboard Women in Music Awards, Marvin Sapp telling ushers to close the doors of the church until he received $40,000 in donations, Coi Leray asking the internet for parenting advice, and much more!

01:40 – Intro
08:15 – Coi Leray asks for parenting advice
28:23 – Yosohn checks fans
44:14 – Erykah Badu at Billboard Women in Music Awards
56:00 – Pastor Marvin Sapp demands $40,000 donations
01:19:0 – Humble Baddies Mailbag

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Get in my way, never out of my name. It's
been like you one and the more one, so it
is gonna be squad yo yo yo.

Speaker 2 (00:10):
It was good, good evening, and welcome to another episode
of Humble Daddy, Love your Girl. Alexis Sotomayer, I'm sure
whatever saddle and I'm Ashley Nicole and we ah, god,

(00:35):
I haven't seen all in a while. What's already been
up to this past weekend? The last few days, Ashley
and I had that's a good time last night, I
mean yesterday, Yeah, we had went to bed the open
house actually has a nice house under less on the
market right now. And then it was rain and we was,
my girl, let's go get in something to eat and drink.

Speaker 1 (00:55):
We got stuck at the bright Spot got branded. You
got that at the uh oh no, you said, he is.

Speaker 2 (01:09):
Yeah, I got stranded because it started raining and they
wouldn't give us our cars, so I said, let's go
back to the war anyhow, but.

Speaker 1 (01:17):
Another drink or two, we were drinking away.

Speaker 2 (01:20):
I mean, that doesn't sound like a bad being stranded
type of situation.

Speaker 1 (01:24):
You know, might as well cheers.

Speaker 2 (01:25):
We needed that time to catch up because your ass
been on the move my love.

Speaker 1 (01:31):
Okay, you know what's new? What's new? Really? Row what
you got going on? I mean I was on tour.
We know what we're doing. We know, build a tea.
I mean I wasn't doing. I was handling business, you know.

Speaker 2 (01:51):
Okay, just business, no pleasure, Just business, no pleasure. Okay,
she's a lady of her business. But you got to
be able to, you know, balance both business and pleasure. Rather,
what is pleasure. Pleasure is having company, you know, or

(02:14):
being in company, being in company, being in the presence
of other people who are not there, or the of yeah, business.

Speaker 1 (02:24):
Pleasure, the pleasury, the pleasure of joy and time.

Speaker 2 (02:31):
Unfortunately, if I did have any pleasure, y'all would not
know if that's pleasure, y'all know, y'all would be the
first one. But it wasn't enough pleasure. Okay, all right,
as long as you have a good.

Speaker 1 (02:49):
Time, you know, and enjoy it, I'm not mad at it.

Speaker 2 (02:53):
What she got going on, Sexy Lexy. I had an
empty house, so I left. I had friends that were like,
you know what, come through, let's hang out, And I did.
And it was the best weekend I've had in a
long time of just pleasure. And not really it's no
business because I am out of school, spring break, none

(03:17):
of that.

Speaker 1 (03:18):
Yeah, because they were coming off with sper break. I do.

Speaker 2 (03:21):
And I feel like I'm gonna start saying yes more
when people are like, yo, come through, come hang out.

Speaker 1 (03:26):
Let's let's celebrate life, because that's what it's about.

Speaker 2 (03:29):
And you know, I'm being really conscious of who I'm
taking the time with and spending that time with, you
know what I mean. So it's really it was really
refreshing just to relax, have a good time, go to brunch, eat,
chill out, all that kind of stuff.

Speaker 1 (03:45):
It was good.

Speaker 2 (03:47):
Well, I just added ten more mouths to feed to
my household.

Speaker 1 (03:52):
Ten. Yeah, I got ten babies. Oh no, we got
over there.

Speaker 2 (04:00):
Fifty dollars, no eggs, no mom exactly, officially a chicken lady.
I got me ten baby chicken. Yes, and I'm so happy.
I feel like a new mom.

Speaker 1 (04:14):
I think I think I.

Speaker 2 (04:15):
Might be a little jealous, actually are you? Yeah, Well,
I'm gonna have to come over.

Speaker 1 (04:23):
She always wanted to.

Speaker 2 (04:24):
She made a sitter in a couple of weeks, so it's, oh, no,
help take care of my chickens.

Speaker 1 (04:31):
Because Charelle is trying to steal me away.

Speaker 2 (04:34):
So yeah, I want to come through and pat my
chickens because I want my chickens to be happy, loving chickens,
like you know, like a fair exchange. You're a part
of the family, you know what I mean. I'm not
just gonna be taking their eggs. They are you know
what I mean. Are they for eggs? Yes, they're for eggs.
So I got ten baby chicks that are all like too,

(04:57):
around two weeks old, but so they won't lay eggs
to like August.

Speaker 1 (05:02):
Oh wow, that's fast. That's fast. Y'all want eggs tomorrow.

Speaker 2 (05:07):
Well, I'm saying, if they're babies now and then in
August they can have baby.

Speaker 1 (05:12):
They can have babies.

Speaker 2 (05:13):
It's a long time to be feeding and they're not
giving me no eggs back. But you know, it is
what it is. I'll let them grow and develop or whatever.
You have one rooster, No, I didn't get any roosters. Well,
actually I don't know if any of them will turn
out to be roosters. But you don't need a rooster.
You don't need so okay, so I'm learning I didn't know.
The chickens just actually don't give us eggs without yeah,

(05:38):
so the hens will lay, they just won't be fertilized.
And you only need a rooster if you want to
have fertilized eggs. Baby, yeah are allowed right now, like
and like ignore, yeah, they but it's real cute right now.

Speaker 1 (05:53):
It's gonna get louder later.

Speaker 2 (05:55):
But you should have brought tell filled them to brain
ones so we can see it.

Speaker 1 (05:59):
They're not here. They're not here.

Speaker 2 (06:00):
When they get here, they will girl my kids happy.
It's like black boy joy over here. Like it is
so beautiful to see them like excited about something that's
not you know, an iPad and not a video game,
not her road book.

Speaker 1 (06:19):
So like to see them outside.

Speaker 2 (06:21):
Enjoying like nature and enjoying something that is a passion
of mine. Just I'm about to serenity and now are
going to come over tomorrow so she could go with, Yeah, everybody,
I'm gonna start charging people though, ten dollars a pet.
You want to pet my babies, t let's starting a

(06:43):
little pet. Speaking of babies and pregnancy, let's talk about
our girl, Coyn Litray. She has been in the block
for you know, responding to a fan. Her birthday is
coming up. She's gonna be twenty eight years old. She
looks amazing, she looks great. She asked for advice on it.
She asked her fans to give her advice uppen into

(07:06):
this new chapter, and one of the fans clapped back,
came and said basically something about you you should have
a better choice of choosing your child's paper, daddy. But her,
I'm so she was asking, you know, she was asking

(07:27):
for advice, and that was what they said back to her.

Speaker 1 (07:29):
That was, yeah, no, that's messed up, because.

Speaker 2 (07:36):
How come, how come it's always the lady who was
like it's her fault, Like it's her fault that you know,
she chose wrong or the situation didn't work out. I
think that's a very judgmental way to go about it.
The comment was, don't get pregnant by dudes that don't
really care about you. I guess that should have been
last year's advice too, next time next, I mean, and

(08:01):
how it's fun already know that I feel like my man,
we know, but you know, we'd be falling in love
or we just having fun or whatever the case may be.

Speaker 1 (08:10):
But it's both.

Speaker 2 (08:11):
It goes both ways, and it doesn't matter, like once
you realize like you have sex and there's a baby coming.
It doesn't matter on both parts. Everybody has to step
up to the occasion. So we can't like blame the
lady on what the man is and ain't and what
he's capable or ready or.

Speaker 1 (08:30):
Not ready to do. Right.

Speaker 2 (08:32):
I feel like us as whenmen we get everyone like
that's just people in general. You give everyone a clean slate,
a fair chance, because every experience is different. Right, So
her going into this, she's a woman where emotional creatures.
She's thinking like, you know, I mean, you know, they

(08:53):
don't show their true colors all at once, Like they're
not a wine and dining when you first meet. So
she's thinking like, Okay, you know, I love him, we're
about to have a baby. But things, you know, the
truth really comes out in her situation. But I feel
like we all go through those things, or we all
have experienced that. So for that fan to try to
judge her based off of, you know, because she still

(09:16):
we all be knowing better though, I feel like we
really all like growing up, you know, we all know better,
Like don't mess with that boy, don't mess with him,
don't talk to him.

Speaker 1 (09:25):
This is the kind of man you should be with
blah blah blah blah.

Speaker 2 (09:28):
But until you're like in that situation, yes, but like
you can't be judging people because like we all do
things that we know better, should do better and do it.
Don't touch the pot it's hot, but you're gonna go
there and like put you in here, let me touch That.

Speaker 1 (09:46):
Is exactly exactly. I've learned that.

Speaker 2 (09:49):
When you tell somebody not to do something, that's when
they want to do it and more exactly, and you
don't want to like who goes into a situation and
be like, yeah, you know I'm gonna get prays and
I know he gonna leave.

Speaker 1 (10:01):
Like who's even thinking like that?

Speaker 2 (10:03):
And you know, in shame on the fans for really
going down on her right now, this is a sensitive
time with her body, her mind, her soul, everything is new.
This is her first pregnay. So it's just like the
audacity is at an all time high. No one is
choosing not to be with their partner that they had
they conceiving with. Do things happen, absolutely, So I hope

(10:24):
she focuses on this last leg of her journey, her
last trimester, and really focuses on her health and really
her labor because that's really about to happen, you know.

Speaker 1 (10:33):
Like that's a whole new life is about to change
for her.

Speaker 2 (10:37):
And this is the last thing she should be dealing with,
is people having their opinion on who you chose as
the father of this child. Again, no one chooses to
not have that person in their life, you know what
I mean, until it happens, and then you got to
figure that out.

Speaker 1 (10:51):
So it is what it is. That's more reason.

Speaker 2 (10:55):
You know, it's tough that she probably thought that, you know,
she was gonna be with someone and they were going
to bring the childliness world together. But things happen. And
I loved her response. She did not clap back. She said,
if I knew better, I do better. But we learned
to become better. So she was gracious in her response.
And it's showing that, you know, I'm going into a

(11:15):
new year and I don't have to clap back.

Speaker 1 (11:18):
I'm giving y'all grapes because I have favor.

Speaker 2 (11:21):
Things about especially like you need to keep your mental together,
Like when you're pregnant, we ain't got time to be
going on internet fighting with people, and so you are
like going through a hormonally like that baby, Well they
feel everything. Like I feel like, whatever, if you're stressed out,
your baby can sense that, so, you know, good for

(11:41):
her for not feeding into the bs. Why do we
wouldn't always get that blame though, of like they chose
the wrong partner because we're that way. I feel like
we're always taught like you should, lady should do like
like be like this, do like this, don't talk to
the bad boys, you know, like we're kind of raised
that way, whereas boys are raised to like, oh you

(12:03):
lost your virginity great, like oh, like you know, like
the whole different.

Speaker 1 (12:09):
You know.

Speaker 2 (12:09):
Yeah, it's different for how men and women are raised
and how they're brought up and what's acceptable when they
make when they make choices, how they're for see, how
they're exactly exactly. So I mean, it's unfortunate that it's
like that, but it's it just it is It's always
been like that.

Speaker 1 (12:28):
I feel like since the beginning of.

Speaker 2 (12:30):
Time, like that stigma of dinner and all that, Like
it's just been that way.

Speaker 1 (12:36):
Yeah, that's a good point. You're right.

Speaker 2 (12:38):
We're we're taught to like really be humble about it,
keep your virginity, not you know, just really hold on
to it as much as possible.

Speaker 1 (12:48):
Where the men or boys are like, you know what.

Speaker 2 (12:51):
Go do you so sow you're old, so you're wild
oats or whatever the term is, and just go out
there and be reckless with it. But at the same
time you forget that when you reckless with and now
you're bringing life into it, you know.

Speaker 1 (13:03):
So it should be both. That's what I teach my children,
you know, like.

Speaker 2 (13:08):
You know, it's not we're not bringing any babies up
in this house, you know what I mean?

Speaker 1 (13:12):
And it goes both ways. It's it's the boys and
the girls.

Speaker 2 (13:15):
They both have to be taught to respect their bodies
things like that.

Speaker 1 (13:18):
So yeah, like that goes back. So we was all taught.
I mean, I was taught. And look what don't touch
don't touch the hot puts touch it.

Speaker 2 (13:31):
He was over there, like, how do y'all feel about
the back response? Well, she was very grateful about it.
But do you feel like, you know, I know we've
all been in comments and clap back and our emotions
get involved.

Speaker 1 (13:50):
What do you guys, what do y'all think about that
we'll be going in these comments sometimes.

Speaker 2 (13:57):
How do y'all still because we're on the other side
of that too, you know what I mean, like we
should explain, like what are your thoughts on people having
their opinion on what we have to say or what
we believe or our experience.

Speaker 1 (14:09):
What do y'all think about that? Just in general? I mean, I.

Speaker 2 (14:12):
Feel like if they can type it out, they can
get a clap back with it. So I'm gonna give
my response when I have the time. That's sometimes like
I'm done working and on board, and some just say,
go on social media and you read some of this stuff.

Speaker 1 (14:26):
Let me get you together right now.

Speaker 2 (14:28):
But there's other times where I'm just too busy and
I'm like, these people have no life. This is what
they do for a living, just sit here and just
try to get to you. But I have to learn
that it's not worth, you know, stooping down to that
energy to respond.

Speaker 1 (14:46):
That's right, Yeah, that's now.

Speaker 2 (14:48):
I You know, for the most part, I think I
do pretty good at ignoring the trolls, you know what
I'm saying, But you know, i'd be having a step
in there, and you know, I sometimes most of the
time I want to like not explain myself, but I
want to have a conversation because what you just said

(15:10):
was dumb as hell, and I can't just leave.

Speaker 1 (15:11):
It there, you know, I can't that.

Speaker 2 (15:13):
Like I'm not going after people who are saying dumb
stuff or calling me names like I'm not. But if
it's really about something and there's a you got me
completely misunderstood, and it's about something that I worth explaining
or talking about.

Speaker 1 (15:24):
Then I don't mind going in.

Speaker 2 (15:26):
And I feel like, you know, some people you do
have to use a curse worder to sometimes because they
be adding like fools and they understand. But you know,
I think I do really good at not doing that,
not like going in there, because people are crazy these days, and.

Speaker 1 (15:45):
Like I've like at one of my.

Speaker 2 (15:48):
Open houses, I had a like stalker come, Like, people
really are crazy. So I just don't want to make
the crazier people crazier and like.

Speaker 1 (15:58):
Try to confine me. You know what I'm saying. I'm
a little scared of them.

Speaker 2 (16:00):
So for the most part, you know, I think we
should just ignore those people and keep it moving like
Cooy did. Yeah, I never I never experienced it until
we had that open house and that lady, Yeah it's correct.

Speaker 1 (16:21):
Looking for this lady came to my open house pulled.

Speaker 2 (16:26):
She backed up, like waiting for me to come out,
asking everybody coming out, are you actually?

Speaker 1 (16:32):
Are you Ashley? So it's the end, we're leaving.

Speaker 2 (16:35):
It's just me and Cherrelle and two of my other
friends there, and she's like, are you actually I'm thinking
it's like an agent girl, it's a stucker. She's like, Hey,
my name is so and so and I heard you
got a problem with me.

Speaker 1 (16:52):
And I'm like, oh my god, who are you? What's
your name? Look? I don't know because I'm like, oh
waitit wait, what's happening.

Speaker 2 (16:58):
And she's it's like, yeah, like I heard you got
a problem with me.

Speaker 1 (17:02):
You're you a realtor?

Speaker 3 (17:03):
Right?

Speaker 2 (17:03):
I know who you are? You trying to be like me?
You copy everything? I like, just crazy, just talking crazy.

Speaker 1 (17:08):
She said.

Speaker 2 (17:08):
I wanted her to die and she I said how
what are you talking about? Like you're clearly confused. She
like scrolled to some pictures us. She showed me on
my Instagram and it had Humble Batties but our face
our bodies covered the It was a Humble Batties picture,
but our face covered all the other letters except for
the D, I, E and baddie And she said that

(17:32):
that picture was me saying I wanted her to die.

Speaker 1 (17:37):
So yeah, listen, our things were in the car.

Speaker 2 (17:43):
You cannot do that. You can't roll up on nobody
like that. And I told her, I said, we had
to calm her down because she was really like upset
and like I don't know what she was gonna do.

Speaker 1 (17:54):
Like it was a moment, you know what I mean.

Speaker 2 (17:56):
And so people really are crazy out here, so we
have to be careful. Yeah, you know, like we are
being very transparent or on social media, you know, doing
our podcast, we're on TV, you know, and like to
engage with people.

Speaker 1 (18:11):
But some people when there's.

Speaker 2 (18:14):
There's I never witnessed that type of That was a
very scary moment.

Speaker 1 (18:21):
And I'm so scary because what if I was for
myself it was.

Speaker 2 (18:26):
It's also comfortable in your business too, Like at the
end of the day, you are working, you are, you know,
navigating your space, and someone coming in there and want
to put this energy out there is really disrespectful. So yeah,
I say all that to say, keep it cute with
these people, because people don't don't have it all.

Speaker 1 (18:46):
They internalize it.

Speaker 2 (18:48):
Yeah, I think that's why I like I choose not
to really internalize the comments. I know people are definitely
going to have an opinion, and we do, everyone does.

Speaker 1 (18:58):
But I there's lines that.

Speaker 2 (19:00):
Get crossed when you start talking about children, family members,
and then I get a little defensive. Like when I
start reading comments about my people too, you know, I
start to like internalize it, you know, about like I start, yeah,
I don't like that, you know, I feel like I
have to like the lion Ne's and me has to
come out. But I feel like I try not to

(19:20):
just go into social media like knowing that people are
going to comment because they are, so I try not
to just put that in my in my spirit, just
because you can't please everybody, you know, I have learned
that make sure that I engage more with the people
who are showing love, you know, Like I'm trying to
like comment back respond people positivity. Yeah, exactly, the positivity,

(19:45):
and then let everything else go.

Speaker 1 (19:48):
Yeah, because it's instant.

Speaker 2 (19:50):
It's an instant comment, instant gratification, very much instant. You know.
We gotta go home, we gotta raise kids, we gotta
feed them, we gotta work, we got to do all
these other things.

Speaker 1 (19:59):
So I get that. I get that.

Speaker 2 (20:03):
Yeah, So sometimes it's just it's better shout out to
our girl boy because she she responded very well.

Speaker 1 (20:10):
And you just I know, it's mature, very mature.

Speaker 2 (20:15):
It's tempting it at times where you just want to
clap back before.

Speaker 1 (20:19):
People just feel like they know your whole life story.

Speaker 2 (20:21):
They it's like they're living your life and they be
dead as loud and wrong.

Speaker 1 (20:26):
But it's like loud and wrong.

Speaker 2 (20:29):
It's like you can't entertain that. Just you know, move
Greggy gracefully. Let's let's move like Poy from from now on.
And I'm gonna take my advice. Let's move like POI
don't see Sarrel, they'll see let's see. I see it
when I believe it. I mean, I believe it when
I see that part. Why should we move on to

(20:51):
our next topic? This is a good one. What would
you have told what good advice would you have told
your twenty one year old self?

Speaker 1 (20:59):
M oh oh, when we're.

Speaker 2 (21:05):
Talking about babies and men and stuff, my advice would
be to any young lady, don't have sex with a man.

Speaker 1 (21:13):
You wouldn't be prepared to have a babyl first. Yeah,
I like that. At the end of the day, sex
is for making babies period. It ain't for pleasure to
wait im.

Speaker 4 (21:27):
I was like, wait a minute, if you're done, what
if you're done making what if you're done with reproduction
and you just want to get that good feeling.

Speaker 1 (21:38):
But I'm just.

Speaker 2 (21:38):
Saying you just in your mind, you're you're engaging in
an act where it's a possibility that a child can
be conceived.

Speaker 1 (21:48):
So just always keep that in mind. And I feel
like that's smart.

Speaker 2 (21:51):
That keeps you from having sex with boys like that
keeps you from true living your body away way.

Speaker 1 (22:00):
Yeah real, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 2 (22:02):
Just take a second and be like, does he deserve
my body? Can I have a child? If if I
were to get pregnant today, would he be the kind
of guy that I want to have a relationship with
for the next eighteen years?

Speaker 1 (22:16):
And could than eighteen let's be one hundred.

Speaker 2 (22:20):
Right, but I mean for sure the next eighteen years.
So it's like, I think, if you think about who
you're having sex with in that way, it might it might,
you know, say a few times.

Speaker 1 (22:36):
You know, it's interesting you said twenty one.

Speaker 2 (22:38):
I was actually pregnant with Array at twenty one, and
so it was like bittersweet. So what I would tell
my twenty one year old self is just you wait,
because it actually worked out for me obviously because she
was the first of four and you know, so it's
like that that story happened, and I wouldn't change anything
about it. But it was also a different situation. We

(23:01):
had financial assistance, we had help, you know what I mean,
we could have. It was It's a different, different way
of life. But at the same time, I tell my
kids this now because my oldest array of B twenty,
I'm like, look, you can't afford a child. You can't
afford it. It's just is what it is. You know,
it's a different situation and you're selfish.

Speaker 1 (23:22):
You like to go shopping, you like to go.

Speaker 2 (23:24):
Do your thing, have fun and be a twenty year
one year old self. Like I couldn't even go drink
at twenty one. Turning twenty one, you know how it's like, oh,
let's go celebrate you're now twenty one because I was pregnant,
so you know which I don't again, don't regret anything.

Speaker 1 (23:40):
My path is my path.

Speaker 2 (23:41):
But like just at twenty one, it's such that precious
age of you just don't know shit. You know, you're
really figuring things out, so figuring those adventures, have those adventures,
you know, That's what I would say.

Speaker 1 (23:53):
What about you, Rob, Well, did you tell your twenty
one year old self?

Speaker 2 (23:57):
Will tell my twenty one year old self to you know,
slow down and live life, slow down, but still live life.

Speaker 3 (24:05):
You know.

Speaker 1 (24:05):
I was married at twenty one, so it was different
for me.

Speaker 2 (24:08):
I felt like I had to do everything so fast
that I didn't get to enjoy, you know, my my
younger adulthoods because I was the early mom, and I
would probably that's the main advice. I would say, yeah, yeah,
I like that.

Speaker 1 (24:28):
Twenty one. We feel like we've grown though too.

Speaker 2 (24:31):
Oh I can buy alcohol, I can drink, I can
do even though we were drinking earlier than twenty one.

Speaker 1 (24:37):
You know, definitely think you're grown. I'm grown.

Speaker 2 (24:42):
Example, at twenty one, I was a homeowner at twenty one.

Speaker 1 (24:46):
It's like I'm in the military. You can do nothing.
I got a military id all.

Speaker 3 (24:53):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (24:53):
I feel like I grew up fast too in my twenties,
just being a mother and traveling and having homes and
just really access and privilege so young too. It's just
it was a lot. It's a whirlwind, you know, But
I was far away. I didn't have any family. I
was in the whole North Carolina all my family and
the Alabama so it was just like me, you know,
my child, and.

Speaker 1 (25:14):
Yeah I'm a full grown adult.

Speaker 2 (25:17):
Yeah yeah, yeah, but yeah yeah, okay, that was a
great question, by the way, that is, yes, all right,
let's get.

Speaker 1 (25:24):
In to y'all. We got our our little star, all right, son,
how do you say his name? Yo shan? Yes, your son?
Have fun? Or yo shan? Yes? Fine? I think your son?
All right? Don't kill them guys. Your son's name?

Speaker 2 (25:42):
Your son snaps after fans crash his Mommy slash Son
carnival date with Ari Fletcher. M These can't be tiring,
these people coming into their lives.

Speaker 1 (25:54):
If I don't know if y'all y'all paid a ticture.

Speaker 2 (25:56):
But he has a big personality, like he speaks, he
says whatever he wants to say. He just expresses hisself
very well. But apparently he don't play about his moment
and his time. So what happened was the two stepped
out for a fun night at the carnival, But what

(26:17):
was supposed to be a chill Mommy's Son day quickly
turned into a full on public.

Speaker 1 (26:24):
Reaction whatever.

Speaker 2 (26:26):
They shud a clip on her ig story showing the
two walking through the fair, but things took a turn
when a growing crowd of fans started trailing them. The
energy was loud that the fact that was real and
extra screams.

Speaker 1 (26:39):
Your son screamed out. I can't do this. Old videos
already played it.

Speaker 2 (26:47):
He said, I can't do this, Like y'all gonna let
these children be children kids alone. But you know what
I say, Ari probably need to pull back from showing
so much of his person on you know, social media
on because at the end of the day, these kids
are still kids, I agree, And people become fans, they

(27:10):
even become fans.

Speaker 1 (27:12):
Well, I was gonna say, she.

Speaker 2 (27:14):
Just needs to not post where she is, to not
not posting her son, like I mean, that's a personal
choice too, but I feel like if she never posted
where she's at, and she's at a very public place
like the fairs, like or the carnivals, you know, it's
a out in the open type environment, it's almost like
she was looking for the attention.

Speaker 1 (27:36):
Like I don't know what I'm saying, Like if you
post posting.

Speaker 2 (27:39):
Your peoples where there are, you know, there's a million
people there around it's kind of like, well, what did
you expect?

Speaker 1 (27:48):
You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 2 (27:51):
But I think that comes with like, you know, this
day and age, like celebrities, they have to stay relevant,
so they're always posting or whatever. And I get that,
but I think, you know, if you have your kids around,
you should like respect their you know, their energy, their
spaith and you know, they don't want to be the celebrity.

Speaker 1 (28:09):
They're not the celebrity.

Speaker 2 (28:10):
So you know, I think maybe next time, don't do that,
because you know that he doesn't like that. He wants
his mommy's time, you know what I mean. It can
be very much traumatized. And going back to what we
were talking about a little bit earlier too, with people
just pulling up on you.

Speaker 1 (28:29):
You know, if you.

Speaker 2 (28:30):
Post them where you are in real time, like hey guys,
I'm at the fair, you know, and then obviously people
are pulling up or they're going to be at the
same location, they're going to notice that you're aren't look
for you, and you know, you're really putting it in.
It becomes mentally taxing too on everyone that's around you,
especially these children. He obviously is reacting and it's triggering

(28:53):
for him.

Speaker 1 (28:53):
So you know, as a mom, I'm sure she.

Speaker 2 (28:57):
Was very much like a little taken aback, because if
he's emotional about it, that means he's screaming out for
like I need some help, like this is this is
too much? And I would try to, you know, choose
some places that are a lot more like you know,
exclusive and really not so much like out there and open.
Obviously you want to take your children to the carnival,

(29:17):
but if it's a hat, it's friends, it's security, it's
it's the way you move, and you know, you know,
seeing Ari, you know, And I don't want to blame
her for anything, but she's very much a public figure
and people see her, and.

Speaker 1 (29:31):
So I would tone it down.

Speaker 2 (29:33):
I would be an opposite of what I usually wear,
so people don't really know it's me, you know. I
would try to like really suppress that and really try
to do that because we've had to do that before,
you know, like just there's a way that you have
to teach your kids how to maneuver living in New York.
You go down the street, I have to wear a
hat and lip gloss just because there's paparazzi on the
corner looking just for something, you know. And it's just

(29:55):
a way that you have to teach our children because
they didn't ask to be put in these situations. But
you know of pub public persona, But there's ways that
you have to still teach these children how to you know, understand,
like these are people people will come up to you
and I would have had to remove them from the
situation just to protect my child.

Speaker 1 (30:15):
That's a tough one. Yeah, you have to be mind.

Speaker 2 (30:19):
Even if she didn't post it, she's like a high
profile individual and still he has a big personality. So
when people see the public, they're gonna want their fan shop,
They're gonna want to come up to you, but they're
not thinking like, at the end of the day, this
is still a little child. Respect that it happens with serenity.
We'll be in the airport and they'd be like, frich Fry, Hey,

(30:40):
rich Fried, frich Fried, frich Fry.

Speaker 1 (30:41):
And I'm like, just you know, hey, keep it moving.

Speaker 2 (30:45):
Like so I try to tell Chad, like, let's not
post the kids too much. I don't post my kids
a lot. You don't see them on my social media
because it's too much until they're ready to make the
decision of they want to be on social media like that,
then out loud.

Speaker 1 (30:59):
But let them be kids. Let the kids be kids.

Speaker 2 (31:02):
I know another child, what's her name, Kim's daughter, North North,
North North be going in on her fans, y'all remember
when she was shot birds at the people and remind
some bind statements. These kids want to be kids. Let
these kids be kids.

Speaker 1 (31:21):
They do want to be kids.

Speaker 2 (31:23):
But it's like unfortunately, I mean, I think people have
to understand too, like this is there. These are people's jobs,
this is how they you know, make an income. And
there's they're also parents. There's also they're wearing many hats,
you know. So like there's a time and a place
where you just don't want to be a celebrity. Sometimes
you just want to take your child to the carnival.

Speaker 1 (31:42):
You just want to go to the grocery store, things
like that.

Speaker 2 (31:45):
I feel like people have to also respect when they
see people like fans and celebrity earth. I'm sorry, when
you see a celebrity or whatever out and they're with
their people, like the family or on a date or
things like that, respectfully give them their space. I know,
it's like it's shocking you, like, oh, they expect to
see X, Y and Z. But it has to be
a mutual respect of like they're doing regular stuff. They

(32:06):
are not working right now. They're not the wolverine from
X Men. They are not you know, the basketball player
that's dribbling down the court right now.

Speaker 1 (32:13):
They are having their father right now.

Speaker 2 (32:15):
They are getting groceries because they got to cook food tonight.
Like it has to be some kind of like social
awareness of when you see celebrities people like this, this
is a one thing a life time and like, let
me go ahead.

Speaker 1 (32:28):
They're not thinking.

Speaker 2 (32:29):
About you know, family orware not No, all they thinking
about e. Let you get back close to be Like
I'm gonna be right up there, he say. But at
the end of the day, I don't blame it on
the fans. I blame it on at the end, it's

(32:51):
it's our responsibility as parents to make sure, you know,
our kids are are comfortable, you know, because we are
public figures. So just I think as parents, we just
need to be more self aware of when we're going
in these big crowd how to protect our.

Speaker 1 (33:10):
Kids and you know, let them be kids and enjoy themselves.

Speaker 2 (33:13):
So maybe if we're going to go out in a
busy time frame, like I always if I'm going to
a fundable with my kids, I like to go when
it's because I want to wild lines. I ain't got
talking lines. I ain't got time to be paying these
extra fees to skip the line, and you only can
skip certain ones.

Speaker 1 (33:27):
I'm gonna go when it's low.

Speaker 2 (33:29):
Key quiet and the kids can't have a good time,
So just be cautious and and think about the child.

Speaker 5 (33:37):
M h.

Speaker 2 (33:37):
That's right. Yeah, well clearly he's upset. I would be
up to people on it. When your son got a
big personality, I need him on money too.

Speaker 1 (33:50):
He's gonna tell you like it is.

Speaker 2 (33:53):
Yeah, it's it's toughing you how to be mindful of
Like you know, that's a good big personality because he's
speaking up for himself and he's being very vocal about it.
You know some kids they just like shut down. Yeah,
so I think that's that's good. That definitely has awareness
right wherever his boundaries at such a such an age
like that.

Speaker 1 (34:12):
For sure. I've been really mindful about like sharing my
location too.

Speaker 2 (34:16):
You know, I don't post until I leave just for
those reasons, And it's tough because when you you want
to really have a good time and being the moment.
So that's what I've been trying to be more conscious
of that, just really enjoying the moment and really just
enjoying where I'm at, who I'm with, and not really
just like posting so much anymore about that, you know,

(34:38):
I just want to keep those memories intact now, very protective,
protected over it. Yeah, that's smart. Later it's always the
best way to go.

Speaker 1 (34:50):
Yeah, for sure.

Speaker 2 (34:52):
My question to you guys is at what point does
thing stop being fun?

Speaker 3 (34:56):
Like?

Speaker 2 (34:57):
Do you think celebrities ever wish they could go back
to being regular people at times? Yeah, I mean I'm
sure it gets old, not being able to just do
like regular normal everyday stuff, not being able to just
go to the grocery store and get your own food,
you know, just not being able to be outside like

(35:17):
I can't imagine, you know, without people like being in
your face. But I think it comes with the territory,
you know. So I think it's just one of those
things that they probably just have to like suck up
to the job or chalk up to the job, you know.

Speaker 1 (35:34):
Yeah, I believe it's a lot in balance too.

Speaker 2 (35:37):
You know, what are the other hobbies, What other places
can you go and do things where you can really
be yourself and not have to deal with people. I
feel like that's when you have to start getting more
private and being like maneuver a little bit differently, just
like private rooms or just those kind of things. It's
definitely I don't think there's a regret because obviously, if
this is your this is your job, you know, and

(36:00):
this is your craft or your art, and obviously you're
a public figure because of that celebrity.

Speaker 1 (36:06):
You can't help it, you know what I mean.

Speaker 2 (36:07):
You can't not do your passion, you cannot follow, not
follow your dreams just.

Speaker 1 (36:11):
Because it becomes too much.

Speaker 2 (36:13):
And then people do they retire, they stop, they pivot,
they go and do something else, which is all great,
but I feel like, you know, you just have to
learn how to maneuver a little differently, you know, whether
it's security, whether it's privacy, of different ways of travel,
just those things where you can still center yourself and
your being to where you want to still do your job,

(36:34):
but then also you can still be you be yourself
on the other side of it, I really like it
when I see, like there's certain celebrities like I don't know,
I can't think of them them right now, but like
who you see them outside, like they're not afraid to
like go out, and like you know, they don't necessarily

(36:55):
have a whole bunch of security with them, but you
might see them out at the grocery store.

Speaker 1 (36:59):
You might see them out with their friends for dinner.

Speaker 2 (37:01):
Like I like that because it's like I feel like
when you try to, like if you're a celebrity, you
try to just be mysterious, you know, like nobody knows
where you are, like what you do, if you're not
like the human being, you're not out to you with
your family, you know, like regular normal everyday stuff, Like
it humanizes you to like for us to see you out,

(37:23):
you know, being a regular person. Yeah, and I think
that kind of too. I mean, if they don't get
you know, bogged down with fans. But I feel like
just seeing people out more often, being doing normal things
could probably help, you know.

Speaker 1 (37:40):
But yeah, I mean it come with the job, so
you can't complain that's true. I get that. I get that.

Speaker 2 (37:49):
What do y'all think about even just kids in general,
growing up in the public eye like that, because he
didn't ask to be here, like to deal with it,
but he has to by default. What are you guys
thoughts on that with children? And you know, do they
have to have the same thought process?

Speaker 1 (38:07):
Do they have to have the same caution you know,
he didn't ask to he didn't ask.

Speaker 2 (38:12):
I feel like with the kids, you can just read,
read them and tell Like with my kids, you know,
one likes to be in the public or the other
one don't. Very low key, so don't pressurrate, don't force
it up on them.

Speaker 1 (38:28):
You can't help that you are in the public eye.

Speaker 2 (38:30):
But I mean you just talk with your kids and
you ask them and respect their wishes. Even though they're
you know, they're young, they do have have views point
of views at their early age, and they'll let you
know how they feel.

Speaker 1 (38:44):
Yeah, I'm line to tell me in a minute.

Speaker 2 (38:48):
Delete delete, delete, But they can affect their mental like
you're forcing it up on them. So many kids, like
these Disney kids who were who were great stars and
you know they put stuff and.

Speaker 1 (39:00):
Now or letting no brown. Yeah, like a lot of
them are just.

Speaker 2 (39:08):
With a whole different route what we expected as a chap.
How they were as you know, young young children. So
it's just you just have to be careful because you
don't know what the world, what society can do to
cause their mental space to go a different route, and
like now they just.

Speaker 1 (39:26):
Yeah boom. So I agree, be careful. I agree, it's
a lot. Yeah, it's a lot.

Speaker 2 (39:45):
Let's talk about Aria, right, Let's talk about our girl
Erica about.

Speaker 1 (39:49):
Let's put it up. Yeah, yeah, yeah, my grand Erica,
about let's year about ericab.

Speaker 2 (39:59):
Own and don't I saw a picture with her and
she had a big ass.

Speaker 1 (40:04):
Was that her ass? Or was that that was BBL?
It was you.

Speaker 2 (40:11):
Think it was shade because we saw that, we saw
that fun. You said what I said, was it bol
shade or a bold statement? Or you think she was
just having fun? I mean I think it's passive pettiness.
I mean that's just the pisces.

Speaker 1 (40:33):
To make like they said she was shaving the b BL.

Speaker 2 (40:38):
Trend because it was enormous, you know, you know, you know,
you know, I don't fault anything when you do with
your body. But some people just get outrageous and they
got bad bad.

Speaker 1 (40:55):
B bll them. Yes, I done. Especially live in Miami.
Guys like the b b these BBL killing y, what's
that sound good? Bobbie looking like a aunt booty. It's

(41:16):
out controls. No, it really is crazy.

Speaker 2 (41:20):
But I mean, you know, Erica bad comes from you know,
a different generation. You know, she comes from the natural
body soul. Fine, yeah, so of course, like that's not
her thing. Of course, like she's like, that's what you'll like,
you know, let me, let me make fun of it
or whatever, because that's not her style, that's not her essence.

Speaker 5 (41:42):
You know what I mean, I call doctor, you know
she's telling them to called doctor Miami.

Speaker 1 (41:52):
It's that thing. Baby.

Speaker 2 (41:55):
I've been hearing a lot, but you know, I've been
hearing a lot of like negative stuff about BBA. It's like,
I feel like they're still very popular, but now I
feel like there's a trend of people who are like you,
they don't want them, they.

Speaker 1 (42:07):
Don't like them, and you're starting to take them out.

Speaker 2 (42:10):
Yeah. I feel like social media kind of impacted that
and really low key, let's let's let's take it all
the way to like the Kardashians, especially Kim you know
that curvy look that very much like enhanced look. And
you know, we've been we've been tugging, tugging, some curves
and some heavy weight a long time since before time.

(42:31):
You know, I'm the healthiest and curviust I've ever been
in my life right now, and I.

Speaker 1 (42:39):
Wasn't trading for the world, you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 2 (42:42):
So it's like, thank you so much, you know, but
it's just like, you know, I know what I have
back there.

Speaker 1 (42:49):
I love the muscle memory.

Speaker 2 (42:54):
But you know, I just feel like it's it's become
it's glamorized, and it became very much like I want
one of those too, because I'll have I'll have you
know this more attention. But do you feel like social
media has impacted the surge of bdls? And now do
you think social media will impact like maybe the resurgence
of it, like just almost like the decline, I should say,

(43:15):
not the resurgence, but the decline of it. Honestly, I
think it's social media. It's men. That's all men talking men.
They want big asses like that's what they want, that's
what they like, that's what they glorify. So it's like
you have all these women like Dane, you know, he
want we do we try to get what the men want,

(43:38):
like we want their attention. So we're gonna do things,
you know what, A lot of women are gonna do
things like Okay, this is what he likes, so this
is what I'm gonna get. So sure it's not women
trying to, you know, one of the other ones. People
like competition, make sure of everything. Yeah, I feel like
women do a lot for women now, Like women want

(43:59):
to have the best bbl the best body, the best weed,
the best nails.

Speaker 1 (44:04):
I don't, I don't. I mean, we know men like women.
I feel like men are going to.

Speaker 2 (44:11):
Like women regardless, Like if we got a big ass,
we got a little ass, if we you know, like
everyone has their own preferences, then our men are going
to stick their thing in anything. So I mean, I
don't necessarily feel like it's a we're doing it for

(44:32):
them men. I feel like we're doing it because, like
you said, like kind of competition with other women, like oh,
let me get the best body, let me get the
best hair, the best like the best of everything, you know,
so I can look better than that girl, not because
I want to get that man, you know what I mean,
Because in the same breath, they're like, you know, these

(44:53):
men ain't worth it. Anyway. So it's like we're not
doing all this the man. But this is what men
talk about. What I'm saying is they talk about they
like big gasses. So if you don't have a big gass,
we're gonna be like these men talking about big gasses.
That's all they talk about having sex, and they still
they're still having sex. But it's gloring for little booties
like me. Not everybody can get a booty either. It's

(45:17):
bloring fine, it's gloring fine, big gasses.

Speaker 1 (45:19):
So what people gonna do? What women are gonna do?
Even man ship some of these men.

Speaker 2 (45:24):
They are, I'm like, god, yeah, so like it's a
competition more so though everybody want to have the best everything,
the best everything, especially when you have access to it,
you're just like, let me go and enhance it just
to make me feel better. I think it becomes an
issue when you're starting to do everything like you just
I think.

Speaker 1 (45:43):
It's like, you know, women are to always compare.

Speaker 2 (45:47):
We're always comparing ourselves to what we don't and do have,
Like I want what she got, you know, we always
want what we don't have to you know what I mean,
Like I want a big ass, not really, but you know,
a little something, but not enough to get a DVL.

Speaker 1 (46:01):
Okay, everybody wants to ask, but I don't want.

Speaker 2 (46:03):
Enough to get a little bit saying I'm gonna eat
these gummy bears and hopefully.

Speaker 6 (46:09):
Man what I mean.

Speaker 2 (46:11):
But I really think it's like a comparison thing. It's like,
you know, what does she got? Okay, she got that. Okay,
I'm gonna get everyone, you know, mm hmm my body
and the lips everything everything. Yeah, you know, But at

(46:32):
the end of the day, I feel like it's like
we still again, we were born with a lot of
this already.

Speaker 1 (46:37):
You know.

Speaker 2 (46:38):
I heard about the bbl s thinking the people thinking
how there's.

Speaker 1 (46:46):
A very distinct smell of very distinct actually not that
way time out. Yeah, I know people been I mean,
I've never seen a smell. They said, you have.

Speaker 2 (47:00):
Bad one, Like if you have that, yeah, I think
it's from people not getting the massages that you're supposed
to get, the olymphinted drainage and too much fucking too
much ass and they don't know how to wash they
ass after they don't got all this booty. No, but
they said it's a specific from the BBL ones. They're

(47:23):
not thinking it's about the natural big booty girls. They said,
the BBL. I'm telling you, these new bbls booty, big buddies,
they ain't used to all that booty back there, so.

Speaker 1 (47:34):
They don't trying to reach back then and wash they.

Speaker 2 (47:38):
No, But they also said, though it's because of the
fat cells and they're not getting the lymphatic drainage or
something like that.

Speaker 1 (47:44):
And then it starts thinking or some shit. I don't know. Wow,
we need to find out. I don't know. I may
not get a BBL. But there's this thing I saw.
What did you see?

Speaker 5 (48:04):
What the hell?

Speaker 1 (48:11):
They break your ribs and and then you wear a
course set and it makes you sense like.

Speaker 2 (48:19):
Centrils, so sense your waist, send your waist to make.

Speaker 1 (48:24):
Your butt figger. But no, it has nothing to do
with your butt. My butts gonna be my But you
don't have a waist.

Speaker 2 (48:32):
Yes, but I'm like straight up and down, have like
a curby body, so my hips are like my ribs.

Speaker 1 (48:40):
Listen, Okay, I know what I'm talking about. I know
my body. Okay, doing that that, well, it looks a
little intriguing on my ribs.

Speaker 2 (48:53):
That ain't nothing to make you just look like not
adding nothing in my body. They're not taking nothing. Now,
it's just like you just said they.

Speaker 1 (49:01):
Were removing real remove.

Speaker 2 (49:03):
They don't take them out, No, they just break them.
They just pop them out a little bit, and then
you would.

Speaker 1 (49:12):
Have all alone.

Speaker 2 (49:13):
That sounds painful, that does you would trust a doctor
to go in and break your ribs.

Speaker 1 (49:22):
I'm gonna be sleep. I'm gonna be sleep.

Speaker 4 (49:25):
You know.

Speaker 1 (49:26):
It's just that's okay.

Speaker 2 (49:29):
So the bitches is going to all the other countries
getting fucking bbls and y'all, I can't go get a
little broken rib too. I don't even got their ribs broke.
I don't know nobody personally exactly, but I would.

Speaker 1 (49:51):
You gonna be the test dummy? Okay?

Speaker 2 (49:55):
I said, well no, because I'm smart. I said, you
know what, I'm gonna come back to this in a
year or two. So I so then she thought about it,
so they can get good at it and thinking about it,
and well on them, and then I'll and then I'll revisit.
Someone said the corset surgery is usually done on today
women who don't want to have any more.

Speaker 1 (50:16):
Kids, called corset me surgery. That's you you that it
sounds like you. I don't want more kids either, but
I'm scared to sound like the day Canny.

Speaker 2 (50:27):
I'm a good candidate. The course set, that's what it's
called out. So it gives you this sense waste of
a corset.

Speaker 1 (50:33):
Okay, so I have.

Speaker 2 (50:34):
Scens trying to be like irregularly small. I'm just trying
to get a little shaped like nothing like that.

Speaker 1 (50:44):
Little coke bottle.

Speaker 2 (50:46):
They said, somebody said, allegedly Janet Jackson got it done. Okay,
so Janet send me a doctor, please share, share the
humble battery you are. I find out what doctor she
went to because Janet went to them, then okay, they're
good enough.

Speaker 1 (51:04):
I may not for that. I don't know. That's that's
some there's some different for everyone doing what.

Speaker 2 (51:11):
They need to do for themselves. Whatever makes your confidence go.
But I feel like there's extremes to everything. Yeah, just
a couple of rips now thinking about it, me.

Speaker 1 (51:24):
Too, like I need mine, I want that. Yeah, I
love all this chunky chalk chalk crazy.

Speaker 2 (51:38):
Yeah, let's okay, enough about the b BL talk, because
actually that said she want the corset.

Speaker 1 (51:43):
The b BL state, the BBL, thet they got the
b BL booty juice. They just said anything in the
chat that is still going to find out about that.
The juices boy juice. Yeah, it's thing. It's a thing apparent.
I can't wait to find that out. I love it

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reporting on what the people said.

Speaker 2 (52:05):
Okay, y'all we all grew up in the church, right, yep,
all the good old good good. It's it's against except
for pastor, pastor, pastor, you know he's pastor or reverend?

Speaker 1 (52:20):
Is he any any of that? The singer, he got
some good hits. He started the best of me, but
we ain't see the best of him.

Speaker 2 (52:32):
When he.

Speaker 1 (52:35):
Ain't saying the best in the U.

Speaker 2 (52:37):
And Marvin Seth when he told the people the lot
and told the bushes to lock the dome y'all behind
down because y'all ain't going nowhere but out to eat
to feed y'all solves, I need y'all to empty y'all money,
and don dates we know until we raised all this money,

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he's definitely spelling profit wrong. It's stead of a pH
put an F in their profit in cross.

Speaker 1 (53:05):
And the ones that's post signing where his foolishness and
and so that was by him. So they were trying
to get money for him, or this is for for
the building fund, or this is for the building fund.

Speaker 3 (53:23):
You know, you.

Speaker 2 (53:29):
Know obviously in the church's love like I got appreciation.

Speaker 1 (53:38):
It's the love of friend. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (53:41):
I mean my grandfather used to be he passed away.
He was a presiding elder. I grew up in the
church and not that's a big deal.

Speaker 1 (53:49):
One time.

Speaker 2 (53:51):
And all my years of growing up being on the
usher board, being in the choir, being you know, vacation
Bible school, everything, did we have like five offerings? There's
new churches they make it. They locked those, they putting
in security. It ain't even an usher garden that it's
the security. And you ain't going nowhere to you take
you got about six offerings. Now, you've never seen nothing

(54:14):
like that a day of my life. And I grew
up in the South. I know, half of my family
was Baptist, half was Methodist, am me and we had
and when we took up offerings, we had a benevolent offering.

Speaker 1 (54:27):
And all yes.

Speaker 6 (54:30):
And then you had a sign anyway, right listen, I'm
gonna tell you how how how.

Speaker 1 (54:43):
Our church operated.

Speaker 2 (54:44):
You had a sign up there of how much what's
collected each each Sunday service Sunday.

Speaker 1 (54:50):
Right, that's great. You're saying you good on him even
on time. God, yes he is. When that money said
they started passing around, but it was tax where where ifing?
And oh yes.

Speaker 2 (55:08):
When people when church members really need they bill pay
and you know, my granddaddy would actually cut checks to
to make sure that the church members, you know, their
lights were on if they need to pay or whatever.
Now it's like, y'all just want these people to spend
they rent money.

Speaker 1 (55:26):
They it's the first of the magga everything. Yeah, it's
kind of still ten percent, right is it?

Speaker 2 (55:34):
Ten percent is a tightening percentage, And you know, I
don't know still in church taxes, they paid no taxes,
but we're starting to see pastors with the suits, with
the Gucci, the sindyduct everything, the jets, private jets and
these these megachurches.

Speaker 1 (55:51):
But it's like, you know, we're paying for a lot,
you know, the smoke, the graphics.

Speaker 2 (56:00):
I'm like, I'm gonna tell you, I went to go
support one of my friends at a church in Florida,
and you know, the church was amazing, but it was
pastor traveling from all up north, and you gotta be
careful with them up North passages.

Speaker 1 (56:12):
They be you know, they be funneling money from the
from the street people, not the up North, some of
the up North. Not everybody, not not everybody.

Speaker 2 (56:23):
But one of the pastors got up there to speak,
and he had this big pinky ring go. He was
decked out, and I said, I have still have this
text message. I text the group that I was with.
I said, don't trust him, and if he comes lay
his hands on y'all, let this man touch y'all because
he ain't right. Because he had had a big shiny pickering.

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I said, he's not right.

Speaker 1 (56:49):
It's something about him.

Speaker 2 (56:56):
Wait before So after church, the pastor trying to touch
people like his sayings, and I said, I don't.

Speaker 1 (57:01):
I'm sorry.

Speaker 2 (57:02):
You know, I don't let people everybody lay their hands
on me. I was taught not to let everybody put
their hands on you. So two muths later, fast forward,
the pastor is.

Speaker 1 (57:12):
Locked up by the faith. No he ain't. I swear
to God PPP fraud PPP from the churches and PPP
fraud uh uh thing. And you don't have to pay taxes.

Speaker 2 (57:29):
You don't have to pay keep And I feel like
the the the pastor, like the leader of the church.
I feel like shit kind of separate themselves from the
money part of it. Like in the church I grew
up in, it was like the trustees they did everything,

(57:51):
you know what I mean, Like so it was no confusion.

Speaker 1 (57:55):
It wasn't one person that was in charge of all
the money. It wasn't you know what I mean.

Speaker 2 (57:59):
It was like a board of trustees who was in
charge of collecting the money and you know why they
they handled all of that. My dad was a trustee actually,
and my mom was like she was the what was
my mom the secretary of the church. So we was
a church you know, all day every day too. But

(58:19):
fast forward to churches that I go to now regularly,
they don't even take up the offering. It's you do
it on your own. So you can do it online,
you can put it in the boxer in the hall,
you know, on your own. But it's all done on
your every now and then they'll take up like you know,
a special offering for something or whatever, but your everyday

(58:40):
ties that you do, like that's on you.

Speaker 1 (58:43):
And I really like that because when we.

Speaker 2 (58:45):
Moved to Florida and we were looking for a church,
like We went to a lot of churches and they
were really like pressing us to give because you know,
they knew Phil played football, you know, so they like, okay,
big big money.

Speaker 1 (58:56):
They okay.

Speaker 2 (58:58):
So now they started preaching about getting the seven baby
them scriptures. Hey, they gotta give the same We don't
heard the same damn thing every sermon they time out giving.
So there's one hundred people in here, I need you conscious,
I need so I seed for five thousand, I need

(59:20):
twenty of y'all a sea for two hundred, and I
need the rest of y'all seat for one hundred dollars.

Speaker 1 (59:27):
All the scenes are sown, and then they put in
the program.

Speaker 2 (59:31):
They put in the program, who put what like, oh,
they're the ten thousand dollar donors.

Speaker 5 (59:36):
You know.

Speaker 2 (59:36):
It was bragging rights too to be in the pamphlet,
you know that you donated so much or gave this much.

Speaker 1 (59:44):
You know. So I feel like it was also a
little bit of a clout.

Speaker 2 (59:46):
That's probably one of our first examples of clout back
in the day too, like going to church, but I
feel like you still have to be members of whatever
your religion is. They still take up funds for everything,
you know, even at the temple. You have to pay
for services and Shabbat dinners and people who are under.

Speaker 1 (01:00:04):
Privileged and things like that. So it doesn't matter church temple.
So today's.

Speaker 2 (01:00:13):
I just feel like from me growing up, from when
I was a child, church is totally different. I don't
consider a lot of these churches churches. I feel like
a lot of pastors have taken advantage of what it
is to really and service, you know, the Lord and
the community. I feel like they have turned it into
a business and profitable business. Yeah, he's the gospel singer.

(01:00:38):
He's worth four million dollars, asking and shutting the doors
like that.

Speaker 1 (01:00:42):
I know, and you and you work for the people
were they will be like, I gotta pay the church.
I gotta pay the church.

Speaker 2 (01:00:54):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (01:00:54):
Yeah, people will give they all and and m and
let their rent go. And they know that.

Speaker 2 (01:01:05):
So they're praying on those people, on those vulnerable, vulnerable
people who you know, then you get praying in the
wrong way, praying with a p R E Y instead
of praying. Yeah, it's not it's not cool.

Speaker 1 (01:01:20):
It's not cool. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (01:01:22):
I didn't like that, and I see it happen a lot,
and I the door though he maybe he got the stunt,
So maybe he was trying to get all this attention,
like we're talking about him now, so maybe he's pulling
like a stunt and he wanted to be blasted all
over the internet right now so we could be talking
about him. This happened and over it happened over the summer.

(01:01:43):
It's just not coming we circulated going viral. Yeah, I
wonder why it's just now coming out.

Speaker 1 (01:01:49):
No telling him.

Speaker 2 (01:01:50):
I don't know.

Speaker 1 (01:01:50):
He put it out, he sent it to the blogs.
You think, I mean people do that. Why is it
just now coming out like something something as I don't know.

Speaker 2 (01:02:11):
I don't know, but it just you won't catch me
coming to a church. That's that's forcing the congregation to
pay and you ain't leaving it too. And then for
me also it's the thing of like if I don't see,
like if I know, like this church is pulling in
a lot of money, and I don't see y'all actually
doing stuff for the community. But a nice new car

(01:02:35):
and a nice house, and you know where is the
money going? Are you in the community, Are you helping
these people?

Speaker 1 (01:02:42):
That is the church running right? Mm hm.

Speaker 5 (01:02:49):
Hm.

Speaker 2 (01:02:50):
It's not the same. It's definitely not the same. Yeah, well,
do you all feel like you frequent church as much
as you like?

Speaker 5 (01:02:58):
Do you?

Speaker 2 (01:02:58):
I mean, do you all go to church as much
as you did growing up in it because you were
kind of not really I don't want to say forced,
but you know, when you have your families involved with
the church, you had to go.

Speaker 1 (01:03:09):
It just became the way of life.

Speaker 2 (01:03:11):
Do you feel like that was a little too much
in your childhood to wear trickles to where you are
now where you might not go as much, like maybe
had that little that energy from childhood of having to
go to now where you can choose to go. I
don't think you know me because, like I said, my
grandfather was a presiding elther. We were PK grandkids. I

(01:03:32):
enjoyed going to church. We went to Sunday School. Actually,
some of my cousins learned how to read just going
to Sunday School. So I enjoyed it.

Speaker 1 (01:03:40):
The morale was there.

Speaker 2 (01:03:41):
It taught us how to be, you know, be very respectful,
get closer to God. And I made the choice to
get closer to God. I actually spoke in the sermon.
I enjoyed church. I enjoyed going as a child. I
felt like what change me from going high I used
to go so much as a child and a young
adult was the changes in the in the church as

(01:04:05):
I traveled. The church in the South is totally different
from when I moved up north or when I moved
down south of Florida. It wasn't the same, and I
felt like it it started slowly evolving into a business.
We didn't get the same like that you know when
you in a good church, you can just feel it. Yes,
I didn't have that same feeling from when I was

(01:04:25):
in the churches from the South. I felt like it
was just let me see say what I need to say,
and they just emphasized this on when it was time
to gather offerings. Not all churches. I do have some
amazing churches. If I'm in Tampa, my number one church
is Love First. Shout out to Pastor Joe Cousins. He
was on wat Surgeons, but he I feel like I was.

(01:04:49):
I'm back when I was a little child in those
church church homes. When I'm when I'm going to Love First.
So it's not every church, but it's hard to find
a good church, feel or you where you need to be.

Speaker 5 (01:05:02):
M M.

Speaker 1 (01:05:04):
Yeah, I feel the same way.

Speaker 2 (01:05:07):
I'm from Georgia and before that we lived in South Carolina,
so I'm used to like a very southern back this
church experience, and I just really haven't gotten that pretty
much since I left home.

Speaker 1 (01:05:22):
But I can't.

Speaker 2 (01:05:23):
I honestly, truthfully cannot blame that on why I don't
go to church as much as I used to. And
I really am convicted about it, Like I think about,
you know, oh, I got it, like the family we
need to go to church every week every week, and
so on my brain like we need to go to
church in Tennis there because like I know, like I
can watch it online, I can on TV.

Speaker 1 (01:05:45):
I kind of get a little lax with it.

Speaker 2 (01:05:47):
I'm like, Okay, it's okay, Ash, Like, don't about you
can just watch it on TV, you know, And sometimes
I do, but most times I don't. So it's like
I really feel like that's the goal of mine this
year is to get back to going to church more
because I am I do come from a family where
we believe in going to church and spend it with

(01:06:08):
the Lord in his house.

Speaker 1 (01:06:10):
That's right. So you know, even though.

Speaker 2 (01:06:12):
Church is different and might look different, I haven't done
my part I can't say one hundred percent that I've
gone out and looked for whatever it is I feel
is missing, you know. But I think it's important, you know, regardless,
to have like my children in the church, because I,
like Cheril Is saying, feel like I have very distinct
memories there. I feel like it's definitely shaped who I am,

(01:06:36):
my relationship with the Lord, and it's kept me, you know.

Speaker 1 (01:06:40):
So I think it's important and I just need to
do better. Yeah, I agree with you, Ash.

Speaker 2 (01:06:46):
It's very much becomes more convenient now just to go
ahead and click a leak, you know, even if you're
not in the same city with that same passage that
you like, or you like a sermon, you can go
now on YouTube and grab a sermon that you missed
and you'll get the word, but you're in the comfort
of your home.

Speaker 1 (01:07:02):
I feel like covid really made that happen, you know where.

Speaker 2 (01:07:06):
It made that access to your favorite pastor more accessible,
which is great. Like my mom lives here in Miami,
but she streams a pastor from Chicago that she likes,
and every every Sunday morning she she's in the comfort
of her home watching a sermon and taking you know
her notes and then sending me sending me this and

(01:07:26):
that from the pastors, like it was a good service today.
So it's still there rooted in it, like cause just
being having that religious anchor in your spirit, you know,
we can't get away from. So I think it's great
for the children to have some kind of sense of
purpose and sense of peace where whatever your religion is,
that you can fall back on and just have that

(01:07:46):
comfort in your spirit and your soul.

Speaker 1 (01:07:49):
So whatever way you can get to.

Speaker 2 (01:07:51):
It, get to it, you know, whether it's online, going
to a church, or getting some notes, clicking on the link,
whatever the case may be. You know, like I want
my kids to have like the old school vacation Bible
school like experience that I feel like, you know, if
you went there, like it was to the end of

(01:08:13):
the week trip. Yeah, you're working during the day, your
boyfriend that week during Yeah, it was the time.

Speaker 1 (01:08:24):
Like these are experienced that I want for my kids,
you know what I mean.

Speaker 2 (01:08:28):
Look at us like we're blushing and having nostalgia moments now,
just like tapping back into our childhood because of that
sense of community, kids running around and you you're breaking
out in these sessions and having good talks. And I
remember that because we used to have the little pamphlets
and you learn your scripture and and then talk about
it and you understood it better.

Speaker 1 (01:08:48):
Even think like Easter Sunday speeches like it's Eastern Eastern speech,
Like you know, remember you had the little thing you.

Speaker 2 (01:09:00):
Found, you better not messed up like the outfit to yes,
being in the choir, just crazy dance, all the praise dance.

Speaker 1 (01:09:13):
I still with some of my praise dance, all the
praise dancing.

Speaker 2 (01:09:19):
Then when they had like Children's not Children's Church, but
like when the children.

Speaker 1 (01:09:25):
Sunday Sunday Sundays, I was used to be on third Fundays.

Speaker 2 (01:09:31):
I used to like to do the announcement, good morning
ladies and gentlemen, uh, brothers and sisters passing so and so.

Speaker 1 (01:09:40):
That was my thing. I used to like that was
my love part. I sound special, but but yeah, I
missed that.

Speaker 2 (01:09:47):
You know, it's not just about it, it's it's a
lot of it's a lot of memories, a lot of
things that like obviously shaped all of us because we
are here.

Speaker 1 (01:09:58):
It just sucks like I.

Speaker 2 (01:10:00):
Feel like my you know, my kids can't experience what
we experienced but I'm truly grateful because I still keep
you know, God in them in their lives.

Speaker 1 (01:10:09):
We do pray together.

Speaker 2 (01:10:10):
I pray together with my kids, and it just shows
like we come from a strong background, you know, just
being close to guy and putting God first. I was excited.
My daughter got up Sunday she called me. She was like, Mama,
just left church. Can you send me some money to Gaza.
She had her two friends with her, and I was
just like.

Speaker 1 (01:10:31):
Yes, I'm proud of you.

Speaker 2 (01:10:32):
Yes, yeah, going to church on your own with their kids,
going to church on your own.

Speaker 1 (01:10:38):
I'm sure that's amazing, right because right now I have
to like.

Speaker 2 (01:10:43):
We had, we had the van coming to pick us up.
I was like, girl, you have the good life. You
got your car drop. We used to have to wait
on the vand to come get us and take us
back home and see there all day long. Oh and
then you know when they used to have the singings,

(01:11:05):
know when they used to have the like the anniversaries,
like oh yeah, the past, the anniversary, you said, church
all day, and then when they used to by other
churches to come and sing.

Speaker 1 (01:11:19):
That's the singings. You have a single with a different
I love that the music, not the sing, because they
don't you better I fall asleep either. Yes, all that
church and oh my grandma gave me that look.

Speaker 2 (01:11:38):
She had the glasses and she rolled her eyes and
that closed ivy still wolling, m you better get your
act together. And candy, remember the little they was shaped
like peppermints, but they taste like cinnamon. Yeah.

Speaker 1 (01:11:58):
No, it was the strawberry. Every one.

Speaker 2 (01:12:04):
What the watermelon? Strawberry or watermelon? And then sometimes you
get the lucky ones. They had the chewy stuff in
the middle part on the outside.

Speaker 1 (01:12:16):
Why why did we all live the same life? And
you know you got mad when you saw that.

Speaker 2 (01:12:20):
It was like if the bottom stuck at the purse too,
because you're like, you didn't even eat this one, like
you know.

Speaker 1 (01:12:25):
It's been sitting there a long time. But yeah, the pinch.
I used to like when they would let us dismiss,
like the young, the little kids.

Speaker 2 (01:12:32):
They can dismiss and go to like children's shirts, you know,
out of you know now that they've done certain parts
of the surf because they can't.

Speaker 1 (01:12:39):
Sit, you know, that's what stomach.

Speaker 2 (01:12:43):
My stomach will start to start rumbling. So I would
look forward to like brunch afterwards too.

Speaker 1 (01:12:48):
That was always good.

Speaker 2 (01:12:50):
Yeah, we had Sunday pemo because you know what was
on the crock pot that's been simmering and marinate and
real good.

Speaker 3 (01:12:59):
And so when you come back, yeah, I definitely want
to eat afterwards. What was your what was your favorite
old school church song? One, Oh His Eyes on the Sparrow. Okay,
I had to think that's a good.

Speaker 1 (01:13:19):
Yonder going with my group mines. Was your grace person? Okay?

Speaker 2 (01:13:32):
Mine was There's a Bomb in Gilead? Remember that one
that there is a bomb.

Speaker 1 (01:13:38):
And yes, that's.

Speaker 2 (01:13:44):
Like one of my favorites from back then. That was
the good old days, y'all. Let us know what your
favorite old school Southern gospel song was, and who had
the best old school gospel song out.

Speaker 1 (01:13:57):
Of us three I got o. Let me think of
one before we go. Your Grace and Mercy. That's a
good one. That's why. Addition, no Grace and Man see, I.

Speaker 2 (01:14:15):
Like I like, well it's not really old, but it's
like stand stand, I love all these I love all
these good the good spiritual hymns.

Speaker 1 (01:14:27):
Yeah, that's that good music. It's that good music. Guys. Okay,
all right, yeah, well is it Humble baddies, I think
it might be all right. Who's got it? I got
it right here. I'm gonna want me to speak on it.
Go yeah, go ahead.

Speaker 2 (01:14:47):
Okay, Hey, humble baddies, this is from Kayla from Dallas, Texas.

Speaker 1 (01:14:57):
Okay, Hey Kaylay Kayla, Hey, humble bad.

Speaker 2 (01:15:01):
Love y'all so much, and I need your help because
this situation is messy. I've been dating this guy for
eight months and everything's been going great. At first, I
kept him to myself, but about three months ago I
finally introduced him to my family and friends.

Speaker 1 (01:15:20):
All good, right, wrong? This past weekend he hit me
with the we need to talk texts.

Speaker 2 (01:15:28):
Naturally, I started panicking, thinking the worst, and guess what,
it kind of was the worst because he used to
date one of my close friends. Now he swears it
was not that serious. But the gag is he met
her three months ago and said nothing until now. I
feel like he should have told me the second he

(01:15:49):
realized they knew each other.

Speaker 1 (01:15:50):
So what do I do? Bad ease?

Speaker 2 (01:15:52):
Do I keep it moving and stay with him? Or
is this a red flag that means it's time to go?
Would you feel betrayed or my overreacting I think she's
overreacting a little bit, like to just let it go.
I would first communicate and see what's going on before
I just let it go. Just communicate and find out

(01:16:13):
what what happened. I'm confused. So, okay, so she was dating.
They've been dating for eight months and then he just
met her three months ago, so he's dating. So like
you say, like, hey, guys, you know, she never told
her friend that she was dating this guy, and so
now she introduced him to everyone, like, hey, y'all, this

(01:16:34):
is my bool. You know, we've been rocking. And then
he was like, we need to talk because he actually
really know friend. I mean, I feel like he's trying
to be open, you know, and have a conversation. So
he's trying. It's not like I don't feel like he's
trying to be sneaky. She probably had to like muster
up his confidence to say something. So I don't think

(01:16:57):
you know that she needs to run or anything. I
don't it gets a red flag. It might be a
yellow flag caution slow up. Yeah, yeah, but you know
see how he moves after this, and then also like
follow up, like ask all the questions.

Speaker 1 (01:17:11):
Okay, so where did y'all meet, How did y'all meet?
Blah blah? Who else have you talked to?

Speaker 4 (01:17:16):
Like?

Speaker 1 (01:17:17):
Who else you know? Who are you? Who else are
you dating?

Speaker 2 (01:17:19):
Like, just have enough follow up questions and make sure
you get the answers so you can move accordingly.

Speaker 1 (01:17:26):
That's yeah, Yeah, I like that, yeah, because it's a
big step.

Speaker 2 (01:17:29):
When you start to meet the family and friends, obviously
that means he is serious. But then I'm glad he
did communicate and you didn't find out way later, you
know what I mean. So I feel like that's a
good thing that he did step up. He was very like,
we need to talk, which is scary for everybody. It's
not just whenever you get that test, we need to talk.
Your heart starts to be fast. You start internalizing things.

(01:17:51):
So I feel like you definitely showed it, like a
great example of communication, Like, look, we have talked before,
and I feel like, you know, sometimes it's tough to hear,
but you got to hear it.

Speaker 1 (01:18:04):
You have to understand it, you.

Speaker 2 (01:18:05):
Know, because you don't want to now go be out
another time and then like you see this person and
no one knew except for those two. That's when it
becomes a red flag and very much shady. So I'm
glad he did say something. That way, they can move
forward with it, or she can say how she feels
about it, or she can say that it bothers her,
whatever the case may be. But at least it's been

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it's on the table. Yeah, good, well, that's a great answers.

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What was her name again?

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Alexis Kayla Kayla Calen Dallas, Tayla from Dallas. We hope
you take our advice. I think you know we gave something.
You shouldn't give it up this quick like communication.

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Y'all talk it out. It's not the end. It's not
not a bad guy. Yeah, but yeah, good luck with that, Kayla,
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