May 21, 2025 • 47 mins
Sharelle & Ashley react to Real Estate baddies, more black and brown women are buying homes, the truth about men and broken heart syndrome, & is sleeping naked healthy for you, we dive into it all and much more!
01:38 - Intro
06:21 - Real Estate Baddies
25:46 - Broken Heart Syndrome
39:34 - Is Sleeping Naked A Health Hack?
45:35 - Humble Baddies Mailbag
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Get in my way, never out of my name.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
It's been like you one in the more one, so
is gonna be baby squad?
Speaker 1 (00:08):
What's up? Welcome back? I miss you?
Speaker 2 (00:14):
I miss you. Your new name is the Chicken Lady.
Yes I am the Chicken Lady. But you know what,
I'd be so intrigued when the chicken go missing, like
I'm just she thought, I'll be scared, like an alligator
(00:36):
or something. Gonna get the chicken. Girl, Me too, an
alligator or a cat. You know, I live in the boonie,
so I'm afraid. So I'm gonna get my babies. But
they always come back home. We're gonna pray that they
don't get loose again. Pray for my baby. So what
happened up to we miss you on the last episode.
(00:57):
What's been going on? Girl? These kids be keeping me
busy child big and all the sports and all the activities.
And you know, Meg, we got all the recitals and games, playoffs, championships, graduations.
I know you getting ready for a big graduation. Thank
you Jesus boy. I was doing my holy dance, like
(01:19):
who praise God? How does it's a.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
Better sweet moment?
Speaker 2 (01:24):
But more sweet than bitter? She is very expensive and
and you know, it's very cheating. It's like she needs
to understand the value of a dollar, and I feel
like she doesn't. And it's kind of my fault because.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
I feel like.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
That's what I was about to say, sound like that's
a sexually because you know you grew up with you know,
you don't want your kids to have the lifestyle that
you grew up in. You want it to be better.
But it's like a courage because it's basically making them lazy,
and it's making them feel like everything should be given
to them.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
So that's my biggest fear with her.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
And I've been trying to teach her and tell her, like, listen,
you are about to go off to college focused on school,
but I'm gonna have to pull back on what I
give you now. Like she thinks that everything is supposed
to be hang given, like she's a princess. Everything is
princess treatment, not no more. I mean, it might be
(02:24):
a little bit of a rude awakening, but already she's
a good girl and she's a smart girl. So I
feel like she's gonna figure it out. I feel like
she I think she has some grind mentality in their
square somewhere. I mean, if she takes after you and
you see your mentality is totally different.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
She's full.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
I'm such a go getter I have I work hard
for everything. And that's the difference. Like she just she
but you don't know, I subconsciously she might have picked
up on that.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
She doesn't have to use is that now, but subconsciously,
like our children are watching us and they're observing everything.
And you watched the nice things that I get for
myself and the nice things that I do for them,
and you think that it's just simple, and I'm like,
you're not a child any.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
But I'm proud of her. You know, she's an amazing child.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
I wouldn't trade her for the world, like a lot
of and I tell her this all the time. I
am where I'm at today because of you. I you know,
I was pregnant. I had her at nineteen, and it's like,
you are the reason why I went so hard. I
went hard because of you, and I wouldn't be where
I'm at if I didn't. You know, have you in
my life at such an early age, So that's very much.
(03:48):
It's crazy. I had I had. I'm preparing for her.
She graduates at eight o'clock in the morning tomorrow. Plus
my mom is here, my stepdad is here, my dad
is here, her godmm is here. My best friend is here. Like,
it's so much going on. And plus today's Denham's birthday.
He had practice today. We took him to dinner and it's.
Speaker 3 (04:10):
Just you know, he's the big one zero. Yes, it's
been a hectic a lot, not a lot, but we
have a lot of clients that we're dealing with trying
to home. So it's been busy in a good way
for us.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
Good. I'm happy for you and I'm excited. It's a
lot of good things going on. And thank you girl.
I'm stressed free over here, baby, I'm living my best life,
stress free and working hard.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
So complaint, we see you, We see him?
Speaker 2 (04:53):
Yes, all right? So what are we talking about today?
I missed my humble baddies. What's going on today? We're
going to get into it. And you know, this is
a topic that we can relate to, not only as
you know, us being black women and homeowners, but also
us helping homeowners, especially black women, purchase homes.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
Yeah, so the first topic.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
Today is real estate batties, why more black and brown
women are bond And then black women are the fastest
growing group of entrepreneurs entrepreneurs, but where's the funding. Together,
this becomes a powerful, relevant, and juicy conversation about wealth building, independence,
and systematic barriers, all wrapped up in an unapologetic humble
(05:38):
batties flavor.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
So that has been a big thing.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
I experienced a lot of you know, minority women purchasing.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
But go ahead, I'm about to say most of my clients, I.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
Want to say most of my clients have been black women,
Like truly, they have been holding me up in the
real estate game.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
So I mean absolutely, this is definitely hitting home for.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
Me, and I honestly, I don't know why I didn't
really realize that until literally you just said that. I'm like, damn,
you're right. The black women is out here buying the houses.
These are my clients. These are the women I'm working
with every day. Like this is true. It's a lot
like I'm part of a few groups and I spoke
with a few group of women where it's like black
women in real estate, and it's basically it's a group
(06:31):
of powerful women that are teaching war women who are
entrepreneurs how to invest their money because it's not given
like you, if you don't come together and speak about it,
you won't know.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
So that's the good thing.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
I mean, it's a group they teach how to invest overseas,
how to invest here, how to become developers, how to
be GC's, and just how to recycle your money. So
it's amazing. The only hard thing about it with some women,
it's the funny. And it's not just with women. It's
just minorities. I know, there was a big, a big
(07:03):
thing with Navy Federal in regards to the loans and
you know, not allowing minorities to get qualified like they
would have better credit scores and they would just get denied.
So it's it's it's like a lot of they are
starting to crack down on it, but it's still going
(07:23):
to take a lot of time for you know, us
to be on that same page. Well, I remember that
story not too long ago about the family who was
trying to sell their home, I believe, and the praisers
they appraised it for a lower number, and then when
they I guess, took their like family photos and stuff
(07:44):
out of their appraiser, you know, for a higher number.
So I mean all across the board when it just
comes to getting you know, what we're worth, what our
homes are worth, what our properties are worth, you know,
getting the funding. You know, we're still not getting treated
equally here in the housing market. And it's really sad
to see because you know, black women for sure are
(08:06):
out here getting it. I just went to my mom's graduation,
she just got her doctoral degree, and it was nothing
but black women. Like black women are out here. They're
getting the degrees, they're getting the jobs. You know, they're
out here hustling and investing. And so you know, I
think the banks are behind, you know, the banks, all
these institutions, they are really behind on the curve. And
(08:28):
I mean, I guess it's on purpose, but I mean,
you know, we have to figure out a way.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
We have to start, you know, using black.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
Business, you know, yeah, and and sharing the information so
that you know, we can progress in this in this
in this industry.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
As far as sharing the information, that's where I say, it's.
Speaker 2 (08:47):
So so good that we come together and collab and
speak on what we're doing. I know, with me, I
noticed there was there was not one it probably was
maybe a handful of black women who are developers in
the government contract thing that that falls up under building
VA hospitals and everything. So you know what I did.
(09:09):
I took advantage of it, and I went to conferences.
I started doing my research. Now I'm in the hat,
I'm in the runnings to potentially be awarded three hospitals
to build three hospitals in the state of Florida. That
that would be amazing, that that will be a you know,
a record that's that's being broke. So I do my
(09:32):
research and I learned, and I you know, I'm not
a gatekeeper. I open up and I talk to people
and I tell people about it. And I want more,
especially minority women to know that there's so many resources
out here for us. There's so many certifications that we
have that are set aside for us that will take
us to that X level. But we have to get
out continue to get out here and learn and know
(09:53):
more about it. Absolutely, and you do really well with that.
I think just and women together putting things together, having
classes and courses so that we can learn about if
it's real estate or contract.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
Then I've seen you put together some things for the ladies.
Speaker 2 (10:11):
So thanks for leading the way on that because you
have definitely been a resource for me and I know
a lot of other womens.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
Thank you, Ashley. Okay, this is a quick fact to drop.
Speaker 2 (10:23):
One in five homes and major US CITs are now
being bought by single women, with black women leaving the
solo ownership trend. Black women making fort of new women
owned businesses the fastest growing demographic of entrepreneurs in the US.
Despite this, less than one percent of venture capital funding
(10:44):
goes to Black women. Women still face a gender pay
gap and credit discrimination, which directly impacts mortgage traits and small.
Speaker 1 (10:54):
Business loan approvals.
Speaker 2 (10:56):
Walking y'all, So many black and brown women are choosing
to buy home solo instead of waiting for marriage or partnership.
Is it an empowerment or some bible? I mean, as
a black woman, I feel like we feel empowered in
everything that we do now, So why would we not,
you know, go on our own and purchase a home?
Speaker 1 (11:19):
You know, I don't.
Speaker 2 (11:19):
I just I don't see really the correlation with marriage
and you know, waiting to purchase your own home. I
feel like you work so hard to you know, to
get with what you want and usually a home is
like your first big or major purchase, you know what
I mean. So for me, I don't know correlate like marriage.
(11:41):
As a black woman, we're not thinking that way. You know,
we're not waiting for marriage, especially somebody a woman who's
you know, educated, that has you know, a job, can
get a mortgage. You're not waiting on no man to
purchase no house. That's what when I was single and
I purchased my first house, I wasn't thinking about, oh,
I'm always on a husband to purchase. I was excited
(12:04):
that I was able to even get to that point
at such an early age, like, wow, I'm able to
purchase accomplishment like I did this on my own. This
is amazing. Now let me go to the next one.
Let me do I can do next. It's just an accomplishment.
I don't think they had anything to do with oh,
you know, I have a point or something like that.
(12:27):
But I do think there is a conversation, you know,
that's being had regarding should you purchase a house if
you're not married? You know, say you're in a relationship
with somebody but you're not married, should you, you know,
purchase a house together? Would you purchase a house separate,
like there is that major conversation that's happening right now.
(12:52):
I mean personally, I never was in that situation because
I was with the storage, so you know, it was
what it was. But if I were a single woman
or dating seriously somebody, I think that would be something
I would really have to like consider. You know, do
(13:14):
I want to purchase a house with somebody that I'm
not married to. I think that's a legit concern, you
know what I mean, Because once you tie your finances
together in such a major way like that is a
major commitment, you.
Speaker 1 (13:27):
Know, one of the biggest purchases of your life.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
You have to be very you know, careful on who
you're about to make this purchase with. You don't know,
you know what they're hiding, financial secrets are.
Speaker 1 (13:46):
It's a lot that may unfold.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
You don't know if you know what they have going on,
regardless of what it is, so you definitely have to
be careful. I feel like if I'm in a relationship,
I would I wouldn't think of about having that.
Speaker 1 (14:01):
You didn't put a ring on my finger.
Speaker 2 (14:02):
We're not looking to get married, so in my eyes,
we're not looking to get married. So I'm still gonna
make creating, you know, build my investment over here, purchase
home we've been going on.
Speaker 1 (14:13):
As long as it's not eating our relationship, then it is.
Speaker 2 (14:16):
Well.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
So then so then would.
Speaker 2 (14:18):
You get like a prenupt so that you know, you
could keep that home just in your name for yourself,
just so happens you guys don't last. Would you make
sure that that is only your property?
Speaker 1 (14:33):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (14:33):
So is that something you would you know, if I
come into a relationship and you know, we get married,
I'm definitely gonna make sure they have their preingup.
Speaker 1 (14:41):
I'll have my prenup.
Speaker 2 (14:42):
Whatever we came into this relationship with, We're gonna lead
with whatever we put together together with.
Speaker 1 (14:49):
Then we can split that.
Speaker 2 (14:50):
But anything that I have before, you know, before we
got married, that's mine. What if he's like, okay, what
if he moves into y'all your house, right, but he
takes over the mortgage payments, then what it's still in
my house less.
Speaker 1 (15:06):
I mean, it's different.
Speaker 2 (15:08):
It's different. If you take over the mortgage tainments and
we get married, then you know, of course it becomes
both of ours. So it's to a point where, okay,
I don't know. I'm very trick. But see, and I'm
not saying you have to know all the answers, it's
just these are the questions that you have to think about, Like,
(15:30):
these are legit concerns that black women now that you
know we are out here purchasing homes and you know,
making big purchases like this on our own, this is
something that you have to think about. And I probably
would be like, you know, whatever you invest it into this,
this is still my home. Whatever you invest it into
this home, I would definitely give you your investments back
(15:53):
into it. But if we split up, you know, and
you go find your way out.
Speaker 1 (15:58):
But as a man, you shouldn't.
Speaker 2 (15:59):
Want yeah, child, and don't be like men's. It's freaking
up the men's. Don't be men's in no more. Okay,
maybe I'll heel like that's mine. When I went through
when I went through my divorce, we had we were
building a beautiful big counts and you know, I put
(16:20):
money into it just as well as he did, and
I was just so fed over everything.
Speaker 1 (16:24):
I just left.
Speaker 2 (16:26):
I didn't want nothing, even what I invested into it,
I didn't I just wanted my peace, and I left
out of it and just went and purchased my own home.
Speaker 1 (16:34):
So don't don't do that anymore. But it is.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
But I'm just being real and I regret, but I'm
just saying I regret I didn't, but I you know,
sometimes peace and happiness is more important the money and
materialistic things. Yeah, and then you got so much more
letter anywhere. Let's talk about credit. Why is it that
(17:06):
women with strong income still struggle to get favorable loans?
Have y'all experienced bias and business or real estate? I've
experienced vice in business and more from my competitors, I
reallys and what exactly as far as other you know,
(17:29):
other uh business owners who are real estate owners. And
it's more it's sad to say, but it's more hate.
Why is this young woman coming into my industry and
you know, taking over?
Speaker 1 (17:47):
Got a whole.
Speaker 2 (17:47):
Netflix show on TV about her company. She ain't did nothing,
she's brand new, she ain't sell all this when I
said so this said? And the third, why why is
she recruiting all these black when these minority women this
and they.
Speaker 1 (18:02):
Get the spotlight?
Speaker 2 (18:04):
That was the the you know what I was experiencing.
But I never experienced anything in regards to you know,
with loans or any of that. Even with my clients,
and I have helped black female who are strippers purchase
homes they got approved. I haven't had that situation entrepreneurs,
(18:26):
business owners, women who work in the corporate world. I
don't experience the hate and the discourination when it comes
to that. So I haven't experienced that. And I have
dealt with a lot of women who are single women homeowners.
Speaker 1 (18:41):
Yeah, you know, I think you just have.
Speaker 2 (18:45):
There's there's so many different people to work with in
this industry, and just because one person says no, it's
some that do show. You go find there's somebody out
there who wants to work with you. There's somebody out
there who relates to you. There's somebody out there who
wants to help you, who wants to get the job done,
who wants to get the deals done. And I think,
you know, just like anything in life, and you know,
(19:09):
black women in general, it's sense history we've had to overcome.
And unfortunately, you know, it may not always be as
easy as you know somebody else's situation. But I think
when you also work with your people, it usually comes
out better. So I always try to like, you know,
(19:30):
use black businesses and go to like use referrals like
people that I know, people that I know that are
going to look out for me and who have looked
out for my people. I think that's the best way
to go so that you don't run into situations like that.
Use your people and use someone that's experienced. That's the problem.
People be using people that don't know what they're doing.
(19:52):
It could be something so simple and easy for them
to get approved, but I haven't dealt with it, thank god.
And it seems like, you know, the discrimination is starting
to be there's an awareness and they're starting to resolve,
resulting in the you know, in the industry of the
loan financing getting you know a black women minorities approved.
(20:17):
So thank god for that. Amen. If the funding still
isn't coming, is it time we keep our knowledge and
build our own investment networks or does the system still
owe us access? I can't answer that question because I
haven't experienced that.
Speaker 1 (20:37):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:38):
I think we just have to keep educating ourselves and
don't stop at no, you know what I mean. I
do think we need to. I don't know, yes, baby, Okay,
I know I love them. Yes, girl comes say hey,
(21:00):
you might still come and say hey. Now, say hey
to everybody. Right, baby, Oh my goodness, you're so hanging.
Someone miss you outside playing basketball? All right, you gotta
go back. Get over that scratching. I don't know what
I was talking about, anyways, Listen, I hear. You know,
(21:23):
we we were independent, you know we're we're powerful. But
I'm trying to pull back that layer. I'm trying to
be you know, I done did my the you know,
empowerment and all that. I just want to be catered
to now. I want to be a queen and just
be catered to.
Speaker 1 (21:43):
That's yeah, and he said, and he deserved that.
Speaker 2 (21:46):
But I still think you have an obligation to do
what you're doing, which is opening up doors for the
women behind you, you know what I mean. So I
think you're absolutely you know, at a time in your
life where you know, you you don't necessarily got to,
you know, go through the struggle and all that. But
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everybody's looking up to you now, you know, which is
I do feel like I'm not trying to sound you know,
conceited or arrogant, but I do feel like I definitely
opened up a lot of doors when it came to
black women in her estate. You know, I was one
of the women. We have Keanu Watson and we have myself.
It's a lot of women that are out there that
(22:27):
you know, paved the way for black women in real estate,
and not just real estate but opening up those luxury
like luxury real estate selling must time million dollar home.
So shout out my black points out there killing it
and the ones that are looking up to us.
Speaker 1 (22:45):
Absolutely.
Speaker 2 (22:46):
All right, let's get into our next segment. Girl, he
died and guess why he died because she left the
truth about men and broken heart syndrome. Broken heart gosh,
(23:07):
you know I've heard of that. But like with old people,
I feel like once they get older, they really realize it.
I feel like the younger guys are not really experiencing
it and they know how to hide they and cover
it more. Yeah, I feel like old people like no,
I'm saying, like when old people like.
Speaker 1 (23:28):
They didn't do for real? What are we talking about?
Speaker 2 (23:34):
Are we really talking about? For real?
Speaker 1 (23:39):
Let me read me.
Speaker 2 (23:41):
But that's how old people like a wife, guy or something.
You know. Oh okay, let me read Okay, Okay, that's bad.
What if I told you that men. Yes, the same
man who ghosts you, cheat on you, and forget your
birthday are actually out here dying because of love.
Speaker 1 (23:58):
Like, oh, I guess they actually died.
Speaker 2 (24:01):
There's a real thing called broken heart syndrome, and new
research shows me and are dying from it twice the
rate of women.
Speaker 1 (24:09):
Wow, I didn't know they was really dying.
Speaker 2 (24:12):
See, I told you, I've your wine and you're healing
crystals because this one is about to get deep, spicy,
and maybe a little said Lord have mercy, So go
ahead and tell me you because I've never experienced this,
well the only time. I've never heard it with like
no younger people, but like you know, older people say
they're in a nursing home or you know, just old
(24:33):
and they've been together their whole lives or whatever, and
you know their soulmates and say, like the wife passes away.
I've heard a lot of stories where like the husband
all of a sudden gets sick and die too because
it's like their soulmate has passed away, and like they
die from like a broken heart, from being like lonely,
(24:54):
like this was their other half. So I've heard it
in that since before, But I don't know how about
younger people with the broken house and yep, going out
and out of my family because you know, my great
my great I was alive when my great grandfather was
and my great grandmother on both sides, my on my
(25:16):
mom's side, my mom's dad's side, my grandmother, my great
grandmother died first and my grandfather lived to be ninety
eight years old, so she died at like seventy something,
so he lived the extra twenty years after she died.
But everything else, the male died first and the women
(25:37):
are still living. But I feel like sometimes the women
may it's easier for the woman because it's easier for
them to find another man.
Speaker 1 (25:48):
For the man, it's hard for them to find another
woman because they own.
Speaker 2 (25:53):
Do you think so? I feel like I thought it
was the other way around. I thought old man be
always with a little young ya.
Speaker 1 (25:58):
In the eighties and.
Speaker 2 (26:00):
These late seventies eighties, I thought, because the woman's like
they sexual appetite gets Listen, I'm about to tell you
all little story, and I am not loud about your
great grandma.
Speaker 1 (26:15):
I'm not even finished the I ain't gonna say, my.
Speaker 2 (26:19):
Girl, it's not it's not my grandma, but it's somebody
in the it's somebody close.
Speaker 1 (26:26):
You know that. I know it's one of my friends.
Give money of your friends.
Speaker 2 (26:31):
Grandma she was eighty something years old and she still
goes to the sex store and they have these conversations
about what they're going to get, what size, and how
they use it and girl.
Speaker 1 (26:47):
On my on my life. I'm not lying.
Speaker 2 (26:50):
I was like, I hope to be like, but she
looked so young and refreshed. I'm like, oh my goodness,
I am shocked. Probably is because she probably likes like
she she used that thing faithfully and she got different sizes.
Speaker 1 (27:08):
She knows.
Speaker 2 (27:08):
She's very experienced, like she can have sex parties and
tell you about the toys, but only with toys start
would men.
Speaker 1 (27:17):
I don't think she. I don't think she messed with me.
Speaker 2 (27:20):
Like I don't even need no man passed away, So
she just she get her enjoyment from her toys. Okay.
I ain't mad at it. I ain't mad at it
at all. Okay, are these young men? Are they they
got broken hearted syndrome? Is that a thing or is
it just an old man thing?
Speaker 1 (27:40):
I think it's just the old man thing.
Speaker 2 (27:42):
I don't I don't think I never heard of a
young man having broken heart syndrome. The only thing I
have heard where when they heard, they cry, but they
move on fast.
Speaker 1 (27:53):
They'll say, can move without you. I'm sorry.
Speaker 2 (27:57):
Now. They do be real pitiful when they heart broken.
I mean, girls, today's come out. They it's every excuse.
Oh I'm gonna cure myself from the hospital.
Speaker 1 (28:10):
Oh I want to marry you now right now.
Speaker 2 (28:13):
I'm sorry. Then in a whole other relationship exactly. Oh
I guess what happened all right, Well let's see if
(28:34):
sure can connect that. See bring back I don't see it. Yeah, see,
(29:02):
somebody ain't like you're talking about just now and cut
you out. So somebody came in and was like we finish,
shut that down right now, right now, right now. They said,
not today, move on. But it's crazy, Yeah, it really is.
I mean I feel like men really turn into little
(29:24):
babies anytime they get sick, broken hearted. They just really
act like little kids, like just pitiful.
Speaker 1 (29:33):
Yes, they do. It's they come up with every scenario of.
Speaker 2 (29:39):
Why pool they sorry, they're gonna change our promise.
Speaker 1 (29:44):
So do you think.
Speaker 2 (29:45):
Men feel heartbreak deeper because they're not taught how to
express their heartbreak, Yes, I feel like how to deal
with heartbreak, Like no, I feel like they're taught how
to be a man, and if you cry and if
you express yourself, you're not a man. So I feel
(30:08):
like those create those things create layers to you know,
for them to it's hard for them to express how
they really feel. And another thing like they're not taught
to open up. Yeah, because if you if you open
up your punk, you know you you did you that,
you know? I mean I think one people are not
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nobody's really taught how to deal with heartbreak too. I
think men don't know how to take accountability a lot
of times, and so that finds out as heartbreak. But
really it's like, oh my god, I can't. I can't
take accountability for these things that have you know, I've
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caused the relationship or whatever. So it just comes out
in that real pitiful, childish ass way when really they
just probably took accountability that would takeke a low off
of them, you know what I mean, But they don't.
They can't even they haven't learned to do that. So
it could be that, yeah, and are dying from heartbreak.
(31:10):
Should we stop calling them emotionally unavailable? Or is that
still fair? I mean no, you can say I'm gonna
still call you emotionally unavailable. You need to figure it
out before you die. And that ain't my problem, you
know what I'm saying, Like you need to get in
(31:30):
touch to your emotions, don't. You can't be like deeply
in love with me to the point where you only
can show your You can only be emotionally available once
it's heart right.
Speaker 1 (31:45):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (31:45):
I think that's the thing, Like if they were emotionally available,
they would know how to deal with a heartbreak because
they know, Okay, you know, I gave it my all,
I express myself and it's not gonna work. But you
let everything build up and it it takes a toll
on you and you stressed out to the point where
you you.
Speaker 1 (32:03):
Go and fit s feet on them. Yeah. Well that's
just reminded me though.
Speaker 2 (32:16):
I was one time I feel like my eye was
heartbroken with Phils. We had broke up for like two
weeks and girl was pitiful. I'm not gonna lie, but
he was more pitiful, I realized. But like in my
little tube, like I went. I was living in LA
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and I literally came home because I was just homesick.
Speaker 1 (32:40):
I needed to be home and my parents.
Speaker 2 (32:43):
I was riding in the car with him and like
Eric Kabad song came on and I was like, oh
my god, turn it off. I can't even listen to this.
I was really pitiful, Like I couldn't listen to certain songs,
I couldn't eat certain foods, like everything. Just I was
really really pitiful. But then what we got back together,
when we was like trying to like figure out what
we was gonna do, girl, I realized he was more pitiful.
(33:05):
Oh yeah, they do listen. And the thing about it
is they be they be front and they be acting like, oh,
you know, blood all good. They don't even jump into
a whole new relationship. You need to stop it stopping.
Uh huh, all right, you're playing hard all that time.
Speaker 1 (33:27):
Stopping you know you still you still you still hurt?
Speaker 2 (33:30):
Boo boom, very hurt, very hurt. Would you feel guilty
if an ex died of a broken heart over you?
I mean, can we really determine that they die from
a broken heart?
Speaker 1 (33:43):
We won't know. I don't think we would know.
Speaker 2 (33:47):
Well. The condition is called broken heart syndrome, also known
as to cut the bowl cardio myopathy. It's a real,
medically documented condition that mimics a heart attack. It's often
triggered by intense emotional or physical stress. I could break up,
the death of a lovement, or even public humiliation. So
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it's the whole definition for it in the medical book.
So obviously they can, you know, you know, rule that out.
It's how they died.
Speaker 1 (34:17):
That's so it's a scary situation. I don't know.
Speaker 2 (34:22):
I feel like, you know, I probably would feel a
little guilty if they pass away right after we break up,
because I mean, it's a natural feeling like damn, I
was just with this person, and you may feel like
you didn't get enough closure or something, so you will
I know, I probably would have.
Speaker 1 (34:40):
A guilty constrance.
Speaker 2 (34:43):
It would hurt not me feeling like I'm the reason
why they died, but it will be some guilt on
me because I felt maybe I feel like there wasn't
any closure. Yeah, I mean, I guess may of a
broken heart is pretty fitful, I must say. But okay,
(35:04):
moving on, let's get into segment three. The naked truth
can sleeping in the buff boost your health? All right, batties,
let's talk about something that's equal parts bold biological and
well fare. New studies suggests that that sleeping without clothes
might actually do more than just free your body from
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tight waist bands and tangled pajama pants. Research shows that
dish in the night where can help regulate hormones, lower
stress levels by reducing cortisol, and even boost your metabolism,
leading to potential fat loss while you sleep. But hold up,
is this real science or just another trending wellness claim?
Are people really seeing health benefits from sleeping oh natural?
(35:46):
Or are we all just getting more comfortable with our
bodies and calling it biohacking from hormone balance to hotter
sex lives. Yet we're going there. We're stripping this topic
down and getting into the bed with the fat like
sleeping naked, you do? I always sleep nekked, first of all.
(36:09):
I like when i'm you know, in a relationship and
I'm cuddled up. I don't like having clothes on because
sometimes it needs to be easy access if I want
something three o'clock in the morning, too, a little booty up,
boom boom, and then you.
Speaker 1 (36:23):
Ain't even gotta get up.
Speaker 2 (36:25):
And I don't like being hot, like I like for
it to be cold, and I like to be wrapped
up in blankets, but I like to be neked. And
if I want to get up and go to the
bathroom at two o'clock in the morning, three o'clock in
the morning, I ain't gotta have crust all.
Speaker 1 (36:39):
In my eyes.
Speaker 2 (36:39):
I'm walking to the bathroom, I ain't got to pull
down my pants. I just sit right on the toilet,
wipe myself and jump right back in bed.
Speaker 1 (36:48):
Yeah, I feel you. I mean, I love that sounds amazing.
Speaker 2 (36:52):
I sleep naked, but I don't always want to. Bill
don't let me get into bed with clothes one, but
I try it. I be trying. First of all. I
like to sleep with a broad one because I don't
think I be feeling everywhere.
Speaker 1 (37:09):
First to me, we are basically.
Speaker 2 (37:14):
I feel like I sweat more with no clothes on
when I sleep, and we keep our bedroom very very cold.
But I feel like when I have when I don't
have no clothes on, I just be sweating. But I
like it because I feel like I'm losing weight. I'm like,
I'm sweating, you are You're burning calories when when all
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that is going on, I just I love it. Like
but Phil don't let me sleep in if I if
I can, he's ripping them off as soon as I
get into bed. But I hate sleeping with brals on.
Oh I like for them to brief be free. Yeah,
I mean I be in like I have comfortable sleep
war like bras so they don't feel like nothing. But yeah,
(37:56):
sometimes I just want to feel like put together, other
like everything so being and it's like, yeah, but you
know it's not happening. It is, but it is. I'm married,
you know, got no no options there. All right, so
let's talk about it. It's sleeping naked actually healthy or
(38:19):
is it just an excuse for people to feel sexy
at night? Do you think people are really looking at
it to see if it's damn healthy? No, No, I
don't think so. But I mean there are health benefits.
So if they have things, if they are health benefits,
they are amazing. The health benefit for me is easy,
excess need sleeping naked to my man. It's it's easy.
(38:44):
I mean I feel like maybe it could health your relationship.
You know, if you get in the bad naked with
your man every night, you know you can lead to
more sex, which leads to a healthier relationship.
Speaker 1 (38:56):
Exactly.
Speaker 2 (38:58):
Yeah, there we go, and sleeping without clothes really burn
fat or is it just wishful and naked thinking.
Speaker 1 (39:05):
I think it's a because I'd be happy.
Speaker 2 (39:08):
It may burn a few cars, it may burn a
few calories. If you high, you may feel like you're
in a little saunas or steam room or whatever whatever
it is you swim up.
Speaker 1 (39:18):
But I don't like to sweat.
Speaker 2 (39:20):
Like if I'm sweating the ac is going down, I
might maybe not be in.
Speaker 1 (39:26):
A cold sweat because my room be cold. I don't know.
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (39:32):
I don't think we look at it sleeping nked. We
looked at it for the health benefits. We look at
it for the sex benefits. Yeah, that was the next question.
Does it improve your sex life? I think it does
for sure. Yeah. You're getting in the bed with a
momo on and what the hell is this? And your
bun and on what is the and your mouthguard? And like, girl, no,
(39:56):
you're doing too much? Yeah. Like people now, okay, Now,
when I say I like to get into bed with plozon,
I literally meant like a little sleep bra and some
little panties. Now, the people who be going to bed
when a whole a full lace pajama set or silk
pajama set.
Speaker 1 (40:13):
How I don't understand.
Speaker 2 (40:14):
That, Like you're getting into bed with a full outfit
on that I can do sometimes I like to, you know,
I like to wake up two o'clock in the morning,
do some a few little tricks or whatever. It's a
lot of benefits. And it's you know, to sleeping naked. Okay, period,
(40:35):
It's say, does sleeping naked together increased intimacy or just
create more opportunities for late night arguments over covers?
Speaker 1 (40:44):
Anybody?
Speaker 2 (40:45):
Are you damn posts? Yeah? All right, that was a
cute little segment. I will be sleeping naked tonight. Don't worry, Phil,
no worries. Yeah, filled hit all your your clothes, your pajamas,
Yeah it will. He does that, all right. So now
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we got some questions from our humble baddies. I love
when they right to us and ask us question. All right,
question number one? If you had to leave the US,
what are the top two places you would move to?
Oh we already answered that. Oh your last song you
can answer. You can answer where would you move to?
Speaker 3 (41:27):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (41:30):
Well, now that I'm being educated and I visited Africa,
I think I would love to choose an African country,
but there's so many countries I haven't been to yet,
so I don't want to say which one yet.
Speaker 1 (41:47):
But I just feel like if I had.
Speaker 2 (41:49):
The opportunity to move somewhere, it should be an African
country because that's the motherland.
Speaker 1 (41:55):
I said the same thing. I got to pick another one,
another one.
Speaker 2 (42:00):
Hmmm. Probably probably like Italy because I love the food.
I used to live there when I was a baby,
and I just love it. It's such a beautiful country.
Speaker 1 (42:15):
Yep.
Speaker 2 (42:16):
Okay, So did y'all do all these questions? Yeah, let's
get to the humble battiest man. All right, humble batty's mouth.
You got it, Go ahead, let's see. But yeah, I
gotta pull it back up because you know we had
a little tick.
Speaker 1 (42:36):
You want me to do it? Yeah, read it and
now I answer it. Okay. Hey, ladies, So I've been in.
Speaker 2 (42:43):
This weird situation for about six months now, and I
really need some real talk from y'all. I'm twenty nine,
recently started dating this amazing guy. He's emotionally available, rare, consistent,
and actually wants to build something real. We've been together
for about four months now and things are moving in
a healthy direction except for one issue.
Speaker 1 (43:04):
My ex, who.
Speaker 2 (43:05):
I was with for almost five years, still pays all
my major bills. I'm talking rent, phone, Carno, and even
health insurance. He says he doesn't want me to struggle
and that he still cares, and even though we're not together,
and no, we're not sleeping together, it's truly just financial.
He sends the money like cockwork and keeps it very platonic.
(43:28):
I've told him, my new man. I've told my new
man about it, and he is not okay with it.
He feels like it's a form of control, that no
man is doing all that out of pure kindness. He
told me straight up, you can't build a future with
me while being financially tied to her past. I get it,
but here's the thing. I'm not rich. My new man
is still getting on his feet, so the lifestyle I'm
(43:49):
used to is completely different when I'm with him. I
love being with him, but I'm scared of letting go
of a life where I don't have to worry about money.
Is that wrong? So I guess my question is what
would you do? Would you cut off your ex and
have to worry about money or stay financially secure. Be honest,
I can take it. Maya from Nashville, Tennessee.
Speaker 1 (44:10):
I wouldn't.
Speaker 2 (44:11):
I mean if she was being first of all, he's
what do you call it, basically she's being held in
that spot like he's making her lazy because she's not
going to change if he continue. If there's no relationship
between them and he's financially taking care of her, not well,
am I complaining?
Speaker 1 (44:32):
No?
Speaker 2 (44:33):
I mean I have somebody taking care of me financially
and it's nothing more than that. But I'm not going
to get into a serious relationship with someone if I
have somebody financially taking care of me, because it's disrespect
for that man who you're in a relationship with. It's
a lot of disrespect. So I wouldn't you have to
choose one. If you're going to continue to get financial
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help from this man, which I'm sure you are, then
you need to cut off TIS because it's not fair
for this man to be able to deal with that.
That's kind of like the situation and I was selling
legs about it. If it's kind of like the situation
we was talking about on Monday, Like I wouldn't want
if I'm in a relationship. I wouldn't want someone to
have financial ties over if I'm in a relationship with you.
(45:18):
It's just not respectful. There's boundaries that have to be set.
And for this man, he's financially taking care of you.
It may not be the same thing, but it's still
someone there. Even if they're overlooking or they're taking care
of it's disrespect It's going to create controversy and you
have to choose one. It's not fair for the man. Yeah,
(45:39):
I agree. I mean anything that keeps you tied to
your ex, I think you know, you shouldn't be moving on,
Like if you're still tied to them in any kind
of way, whether it's financially emotionally. I mean, you know,
when you have children with somebody that that's always going
to be a connection. But I have a choice, Like
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children is not a choice, you know, but if you
have a choice to be connected with them, then you
have to make the choice to either you know, be
connected to that person and not deal with anybody else,
or you know, cut them off so you can move
on fully. And yeah, I don't I agree with the man.
I agree with him. I think you know, she shouldn't
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be trying to be financially taken care of by somebody
else that is disrespectful like you said, so, Maya, I
don't know, girl. You need to think about what you
really want and if it's moving on from your past,
then you gotta cut ties with that.
Speaker 1 (46:37):
X yep A, all right you guys, Maya.
Speaker 2 (46:41):
Hopefully we answered your question. That is it for Humble Batties.
Thank y'all for tuning in. I'm sure where Risotto on Instagram.
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(47:04):
back and watch us on Monday.
Speaker 1 (47:05):
We'll be back.
Speaker 2 (47:06):
Love you
Get in my way, never out of my name.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
It's been like you one in the more one, so
is gonna be baby squad?
Speaker 1 (00:08):
What's up? Welcome back? I miss you?
Speaker 2 (00:14):
I miss you. Your new name is the Chicken Lady.
Yes I am the Chicken Lady. But you know what,
I'd be so intrigued when the chicken go missing, like
I'm just she thought, I'll be scared, like an alligator
(00:36):
or something. Gonna get the chicken. Girl, Me too, an
alligator or a cat. You know, I live in the boonie,
so I'm afraid. So I'm gonna get my babies. But
they always come back home. We're gonna pray that they
don't get loose again. Pray for my baby. So what
happened up to we miss you on the last episode.
(00:57):
What's been going on? Girl? These kids be keeping me
busy child big and all the sports and all the activities.
And you know, Meg, we got all the recitals and games, playoffs, championships, graduations.
I know you getting ready for a big graduation. Thank
you Jesus boy. I was doing my holy dance, like
(01:19):
who praise God? How does it's a.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
Better sweet moment?
Speaker 2 (01:24):
But more sweet than bitter? She is very expensive and
and you know, it's very cheating. It's like she needs
to understand the value of a dollar, and I feel
like she doesn't. And it's kind of my fault because.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
I feel like.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
That's what I was about to say, sound like that's
a sexually because you know you grew up with you know,
you don't want your kids to have the lifestyle that
you grew up in. You want it to be better.
But it's like a courage because it's basically making them lazy,
and it's making them feel like everything should be given
to them.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
So that's my biggest fear with her.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
And I've been trying to teach her and tell her, like, listen,
you are about to go off to college focused on school,
but I'm gonna have to pull back on what I
give you now. Like she thinks that everything is supposed
to be hang given, like she's a princess. Everything is
princess treatment, not no more. I mean, it might be
(02:24):
a little bit of a rude awakening, but already she's
a good girl and she's a smart girl. So I
feel like she's gonna figure it out. I feel like
she I think she has some grind mentality in their
square somewhere. I mean, if she takes after you and
you see your mentality is totally different.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
She's full.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
I'm such a go getter I have I work hard
for everything. And that's the difference. Like she just she
but you don't know, I subconsciously she might have picked
up on that.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
She doesn't have to use is that now, but subconsciously,
like our children are watching us and they're observing everything.
And you watched the nice things that I get for
myself and the nice things that I do for them,
and you think that it's just simple, and I'm like,
you're not a child any.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
But I'm proud of her. You know, she's an amazing child.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
I wouldn't trade her for the world, like a lot
of and I tell her this all the time. I
am where I'm at today because of you. I you know,
I was pregnant. I had her at nineteen, and it's like,
you are the reason why I went so hard. I
went hard because of you, and I wouldn't be where
I'm at if I didn't. You know, have you in
my life at such an early age, So that's very much.
(03:48):
It's crazy. I had I had. I'm preparing for her.
She graduates at eight o'clock in the morning tomorrow. Plus
my mom is here, my stepdad is here, my dad
is here, her godmm is here. My best friend is here. Like,
it's so much going on. And plus today's Denham's birthday.
He had practice today. We took him to dinner and it's.
Speaker 3 (04:10):
Just you know, he's the big one zero. Yes, it's
been a hectic a lot, not a lot, but we
have a lot of clients that we're dealing with trying
to home. So it's been busy in a good way
for us.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
Good. I'm happy for you and I'm excited. It's a
lot of good things going on. And thank you girl.
I'm stressed free over here, baby, I'm living my best life,
stress free and working hard.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
So complaint, we see you, We see him?
Speaker 2 (04:53):
Yes, all right? So what are we talking about today?
I missed my humble baddies. What's going on today? We're
going to get into it. And you know, this is
a topic that we can relate to, not only as
you know, us being black women and homeowners, but also
us helping homeowners, especially black women, purchase homes.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
Yeah, so the first topic.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
Today is real estate batties, why more black and brown
women are bond And then black women are the fastest
growing group of entrepreneurs entrepreneurs, but where's the funding. Together,
this becomes a powerful, relevant, and juicy conversation about wealth building, independence,
and systematic barriers, all wrapped up in an unapologetic humble
(05:38):
batties flavor.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
So that has been a big thing.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
I experienced a lot of you know, minority women purchasing.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
But go ahead, I'm about to say most of my clients, I.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
Want to say most of my clients have been black women,
Like truly, they have been holding me up in the
real estate game.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
So I mean absolutely, this is definitely hitting home for.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
Me, and I honestly, I don't know why I didn't
really realize that until literally you just said that. I'm like, damn,
you're right. The black women is out here buying the houses.
These are my clients. These are the women I'm working
with every day. Like this is true. It's a lot
like I'm part of a few groups and I spoke
with a few group of women where it's like black
women in real estate, and it's basically it's a group
(06:31):
of powerful women that are teaching war women who are
entrepreneurs how to invest their money because it's not given
like you, if you don't come together and speak about it,
you won't know.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
So that's the good thing.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
I mean, it's a group they teach how to invest overseas,
how to invest here, how to become developers, how to
be GC's, and just how to recycle your money. So
it's amazing. The only hard thing about it with some women,
it's the funny. And it's not just with women. It's
just minorities. I know, there was a big, a big
(07:03):
thing with Navy Federal in regards to the loans and
you know, not allowing minorities to get qualified like they
would have better credit scores and they would just get denied.
So it's it's it's like a lot of they are
starting to crack down on it, but it's still going
(07:23):
to take a lot of time for you know, us
to be on that same page. Well, I remember that
story not too long ago about the family who was
trying to sell their home, I believe, and the praisers
they appraised it for a lower number, and then when
they I guess, took their like family photos and stuff
(07:44):
out of their appraiser, you know, for a higher number.
So I mean all across the board when it just
comes to getting you know, what we're worth, what our
homes are worth, what our properties are worth, you know,
getting the funding. You know, we're still not getting treated
equally here in the housing market. And it's really sad
to see because you know, black women for sure are
(08:06):
out here getting it. I just went to my mom's graduation,
she just got her doctoral degree, and it was nothing
but black women. Like black women are out here. They're
getting the degrees, they're getting the jobs. You know, they're
out here hustling and investing. And so you know, I
think the banks are behind, you know, the banks, all
these institutions, they are really behind on the curve. And
(08:28):
I mean, I guess it's on purpose, but I mean,
you know, we have to figure out a way.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
We have to start, you know, using black.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
Business, you know, yeah, and and sharing the information so
that you know, we can progress in this in this
in this industry.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
As far as sharing the information, that's where I say, it's.
Speaker 2 (08:47):
So so good that we come together and collab and
speak on what we're doing. I know, with me, I
noticed there was there was not one it probably was
maybe a handful of black women who are developers in
the government contract thing that that falls up under building
VA hospitals and everything. So you know what I did.
(09:09):
I took advantage of it, and I went to conferences.
I started doing my research. Now I'm in the hat,
I'm in the runnings to potentially be awarded three hospitals
to build three hospitals in the state of Florida. That
that would be amazing, that that will be a you know,
a record that's that's being broke. So I do my
(09:32):
research and I learned, and I you know, I'm not
a gatekeeper. I open up and I talk to people
and I tell people about it. And I want more,
especially minority women to know that there's so many resources
out here for us. There's so many certifications that we
have that are set aside for us that will take
us to that X level. But we have to get
out continue to get out here and learn and know
(09:53):
more about it. Absolutely, and you do really well with that.
I think just and women together putting things together, having
classes and courses so that we can learn about if
it's real estate or contract.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
Then I've seen you put together some things for the ladies.
Speaker 2 (10:11):
So thanks for leading the way on that because you
have definitely been a resource for me and I know
a lot of other womens.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
Thank you, Ashley. Okay, this is a quick fact to drop.
Speaker 2 (10:23):
One in five homes and major US CITs are now
being bought by single women, with black women leaving the
solo ownership trend. Black women making fort of new women
owned businesses the fastest growing demographic of entrepreneurs in the US.
Despite this, less than one percent of venture capital funding
(10:44):
goes to Black women. Women still face a gender pay
gap and credit discrimination, which directly impacts mortgage traits and small.
Speaker 1 (10:54):
Business loan approvals.
Speaker 2 (10:56):
Walking y'all, So many black and brown women are choosing
to buy home solo instead of waiting for marriage or partnership.
Is it an empowerment or some bible? I mean, as
a black woman, I feel like we feel empowered in
everything that we do now, So why would we not,
you know, go on our own and purchase a home?
Speaker 1 (11:19):
You know, I don't.
Speaker 2 (11:19):
I just I don't see really the correlation with marriage
and you know, waiting to purchase your own home. I
feel like you work so hard to you know, to
get with what you want and usually a home is
like your first big or major purchase, you know what
I mean. So for me, I don't know correlate like marriage.
(11:41):
As a black woman, we're not thinking that way. You know,
we're not waiting for marriage, especially somebody a woman who's
you know, educated, that has you know, a job, can
get a mortgage. You're not waiting on no man to
purchase no house. That's what when I was single and
I purchased my first house, I wasn't thinking about, oh,
I'm always on a husband to purchase. I was excited
(12:04):
that I was able to even get to that point
at such an early age, like, wow, I'm able to
purchase accomplishment like I did this on my own. This
is amazing. Now let me go to the next one.
Let me do I can do next. It's just an accomplishment.
I don't think they had anything to do with oh,
you know, I have a point or something like that.
(12:27):
But I do think there is a conversation, you know,
that's being had regarding should you purchase a house if
you're not married? You know, say you're in a relationship
with somebody but you're not married, should you, you know,
purchase a house together? Would you purchase a house separate,
like there is that major conversation that's happening right now.
(12:52):
I mean personally, I never was in that situation because
I was with the storage, so you know, it was
what it was. But if I were a single woman
or dating seriously somebody, I think that would be something
I would really have to like consider. You know, do
(13:14):
I want to purchase a house with somebody that I'm
not married to. I think that's a legit concern, you
know what I mean, Because once you tie your finances
together in such a major way like that is a
major commitment, you.
Speaker 1 (13:27):
Know, one of the biggest purchases of your life.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
You have to be very you know, careful on who
you're about to make this purchase with. You don't know,
you know what they're hiding, financial secrets are.
Speaker 1 (13:46):
It's a lot that may unfold.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
You don't know if you know what they have going on,
regardless of what it is, so you definitely have to
be careful. I feel like if I'm in a relationship,
I would I wouldn't think of about having that.
Speaker 1 (14:01):
You didn't put a ring on my finger.
Speaker 2 (14:02):
We're not looking to get married, so in my eyes,
we're not looking to get married. So I'm still gonna
make creating, you know, build my investment over here, purchase
home we've been going on.
Speaker 1 (14:13):
As long as it's not eating our relationship, then it is.
Speaker 2 (14:16):
Well.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
So then so then would.
Speaker 2 (14:18):
You get like a prenupt so that you know, you
could keep that home just in your name for yourself,
just so happens you guys don't last. Would you make
sure that that is only your property?
Speaker 1 (14:33):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (14:33):
So is that something you would you know, if I
come into a relationship and you know, we get married,
I'm definitely gonna make sure they have their preingup.
Speaker 1 (14:41):
I'll have my prenup.
Speaker 2 (14:42):
Whatever we came into this relationship with, We're gonna lead
with whatever we put together together with.
Speaker 1 (14:49):
Then we can split that.
Speaker 2 (14:50):
But anything that I have before, you know, before we
got married, that's mine. What if he's like, okay, what
if he moves into y'all your house, right, but he
takes over the mortgage payments, then what it's still in
my house less.
Speaker 1 (15:06):
I mean, it's different.
Speaker 2 (15:08):
It's different. If you take over the mortgage tainments and
we get married, then you know, of course it becomes
both of ours. So it's to a point where, okay,
I don't know. I'm very trick. But see, and I'm
not saying you have to know all the answers, it's
just these are the questions that you have to think about, Like,
(15:30):
these are legit concerns that black women now that you
know we are out here purchasing homes and you know,
making big purchases like this on our own, this is
something that you have to think about. And I probably
would be like, you know, whatever you invest it into this,
this is still my home. Whatever you invest it into
this home, I would definitely give you your investments back
(15:53):
into it. But if we split up, you know, and
you go find your way out.
Speaker 1 (15:58):
But as a man, you shouldn't.
Speaker 2 (15:59):
Want yeah, child, and don't be like men's. It's freaking
up the men's. Don't be men's in no more. Okay,
maybe I'll heel like that's mine. When I went through
when I went through my divorce, we had we were
building a beautiful big counts and you know, I put
(16:20):
money into it just as well as he did, and
I was just so fed over everything.
Speaker 1 (16:24):
I just left.
Speaker 2 (16:26):
I didn't want nothing, even what I invested into it,
I didn't I just wanted my peace, and I left
out of it and just went and purchased my own home.
Speaker 1 (16:34):
So don't don't do that anymore. But it is.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
But I'm just being real and I regret, but I'm
just saying I regret I didn't, but I you know,
sometimes peace and happiness is more important the money and
materialistic things. Yeah, and then you got so much more
letter anywhere. Let's talk about credit. Why is it that
(17:06):
women with strong income still struggle to get favorable loans?
Have y'all experienced bias and business or real estate? I've
experienced vice in business and more from my competitors, I
reallys and what exactly as far as other you know,
(17:29):
other uh business owners who are real estate owners. And
it's more it's sad to say, but it's more hate.
Why is this young woman coming into my industry and
you know, taking over?
Speaker 1 (17:47):
Got a whole.
Speaker 2 (17:47):
Netflix show on TV about her company. She ain't did nothing,
she's brand new, she ain't sell all this when I
said so this said? And the third, why why is
she recruiting all these black when these minority women this
and they.
Speaker 1 (18:02):
Get the spotlight?
Speaker 2 (18:04):
That was the the you know what I was experiencing.
But I never experienced anything in regards to you know,
with loans or any of that. Even with my clients,
and I have helped black female who are strippers purchase
homes they got approved. I haven't had that situation entrepreneurs,
(18:26):
business owners, women who work in the corporate world. I
don't experience the hate and the discourination when it comes
to that. So I haven't experienced that. And I have
dealt with a lot of women who are single women homeowners.
Speaker 1 (18:41):
Yeah, you know, I think you just have.
Speaker 2 (18:45):
There's there's so many different people to work with in
this industry, and just because one person says no, it's
some that do show. You go find there's somebody out
there who wants to work with you. There's somebody out
there who relates to you. There's somebody out there who
wants to help you, who wants to get the job done,
who wants to get the deals done. And I think,
you know, just like anything in life, and you know,
(19:09):
black women in general, it's sense history we've had to overcome.
And unfortunately, you know, it may not always be as
easy as you know somebody else's situation. But I think
when you also work with your people, it usually comes
out better. So I always try to like, you know,
(19:30):
use black businesses and go to like use referrals like
people that I know, people that I know that are
going to look out for me and who have looked
out for my people. I think that's the best way
to go so that you don't run into situations like that.
Use your people and use someone that's experienced. That's the problem.
People be using people that don't know what they're doing.
(19:52):
It could be something so simple and easy for them
to get approved, but I haven't dealt with it, thank god.
And it seems like, you know, the discrimination is starting
to be there's an awareness and they're starting to resolve,
resulting in the you know, in the industry of the
loan financing getting you know a black women minorities approved.
(20:17):
So thank god for that. Amen. If the funding still
isn't coming, is it time we keep our knowledge and
build our own investment networks or does the system still
owe us access? I can't answer that question because I
haven't experienced that.
Speaker 1 (20:37):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:38):
I think we just have to keep educating ourselves and
don't stop at no, you know what I mean. I
do think we need to. I don't know, yes, baby, Okay,
I know I love them. Yes, girl comes say hey,
(21:00):
you might still come and say hey. Now, say hey
to everybody. Right, baby, Oh my goodness, you're so hanging.
Someone miss you outside playing basketball? All right, you gotta
go back. Get over that scratching. I don't know what
I was talking about, anyways, Listen, I hear. You know,
(21:23):
we we were independent, you know we're we're powerful. But
I'm trying to pull back that layer. I'm trying to
be you know, I done did my the you know,
empowerment and all that. I just want to be catered
to now. I want to be a queen and just
be catered to.
Speaker 1 (21:43):
That's yeah, and he said, and he deserved that.
Speaker 2 (21:46):
But I still think you have an obligation to do
what you're doing, which is opening up doors for the
women behind you, you know what I mean. So I
think you're absolutely you know, at a time in your
life where you know, you you don't necessarily got to,
you know, go through the struggle and all that. But
(22:07):
everybody's looking up to you now, you know, which is
I do feel like I'm not trying to sound you know,
conceited or arrogant, but I do feel like I definitely
opened up a lot of doors when it came to
black women in her estate. You know, I was one
of the women. We have Keanu Watson and we have myself.
It's a lot of women that are out there that
(22:27):
you know, paved the way for black women in real estate,
and not just real estate but opening up those luxury
like luxury real estate selling must time million dollar home.
So shout out my black points out there killing it
and the ones that are looking up to us.
Speaker 1 (22:45):
Absolutely.
Speaker 2 (22:46):
All right, let's get into our next segment. Girl, he
died and guess why he died because she left the
truth about men and broken heart syndrome. Broken heart gosh,
(23:07):
you know I've heard of that. But like with old people,
I feel like once they get older, they really realize it.
I feel like the younger guys are not really experiencing
it and they know how to hide they and cover
it more. Yeah, I feel like old people like no,
I'm saying, like when old people like.
Speaker 1 (23:28):
They didn't do for real? What are we talking about?
Speaker 2 (23:34):
Are we really talking about? For real?
Speaker 1 (23:39):
Let me read me.
Speaker 2 (23:41):
But that's how old people like a wife, guy or something.
You know. Oh okay, let me read Okay, Okay, that's bad.
What if I told you that men. Yes, the same
man who ghosts you, cheat on you, and forget your
birthday are actually out here dying because of love.
Speaker 1 (23:58):
Like, oh, I guess they actually died.
Speaker 2 (24:01):
There's a real thing called broken heart syndrome, and new
research shows me and are dying from it twice the
rate of women.
Speaker 1 (24:09):
Wow, I didn't know they was really dying.
Speaker 2 (24:12):
See, I told you, I've your wine and you're healing
crystals because this one is about to get deep, spicy,
and maybe a little said Lord have mercy, So go
ahead and tell me you because I've never experienced this,
well the only time. I've never heard it with like
no younger people, but like you know, older people say
they're in a nursing home or you know, just old
(24:33):
and they've been together their whole lives or whatever, and
you know their soulmates and say, like the wife passes away.
I've heard a lot of stories where like the husband
all of a sudden gets sick and die too because
it's like their soulmate has passed away, and like they
die from like a broken heart, from being like lonely,
(24:54):
like this was their other half. So I've heard it
in that since before, But I don't know how about
younger people with the broken house and yep, going out
and out of my family because you know, my great
my great I was alive when my great grandfather was
and my great grandmother on both sides, my on my
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mom's side, my mom's dad's side, my grandmother, my great
grandmother died first and my grandfather lived to be ninety
eight years old, so she died at like seventy something,
so he lived the extra twenty years after she died.
But everything else, the male died first and the women
(25:37):
are still living. But I feel like sometimes the women
may it's easier for the woman because it's easier for
them to find another man.
Speaker 1 (25:48):
For the man, it's hard for them to find another
woman because they own.
Speaker 2 (25:53):
Do you think so? I feel like I thought it
was the other way around. I thought old man be
always with a little young ya.
Speaker 1 (25:58):
In the eighties and.
Speaker 2 (26:00):
These late seventies eighties, I thought, because the woman's like
they sexual appetite gets Listen, I'm about to tell you
all little story, and I am not loud about your
great grandma.
Speaker 1 (26:15):
I'm not even finished the I ain't gonna say, my.
Speaker 2 (26:19):
Girl, it's not it's not my grandma, but it's somebody
in the it's somebody close.
Speaker 1 (26:26):
You know that. I know it's one of my friends.
Give money of your friends.
Speaker 2 (26:31):
Grandma she was eighty something years old and she still
goes to the sex store and they have these conversations
about what they're going to get, what size, and how
they use it and girl.
Speaker 1 (26:47):
On my on my life. I'm not lying.
Speaker 2 (26:50):
I was like, I hope to be like, but she
looked so young and refreshed. I'm like, oh my goodness,
I am shocked. Probably is because she probably likes like
she she used that thing faithfully and she got different sizes.
Speaker 1 (27:08):
She knows.
Speaker 2 (27:08):
She's very experienced, like she can have sex parties and
tell you about the toys, but only with toys start
would men.
Speaker 1 (27:17):
I don't think she. I don't think she messed with me.
Speaker 2 (27:20):
Like I don't even need no man passed away, So
she just she get her enjoyment from her toys. Okay.
I ain't mad at it. I ain't mad at it
at all. Okay, are these young men? Are they they
got broken hearted syndrome? Is that a thing or is
it just an old man thing?
Speaker 1 (27:40):
I think it's just the old man thing.
Speaker 2 (27:42):
I don't I don't think I never heard of a
young man having broken heart syndrome. The only thing I
have heard where when they heard, they cry, but they
move on fast.
Speaker 1 (27:53):
They'll say, can move without you. I'm sorry.
Speaker 2 (27:57):
Now. They do be real pitiful when they heart broken.
I mean, girls, today's come out. They it's every excuse.
Oh I'm gonna cure myself from the hospital.
Speaker 1 (28:10):
Oh I want to marry you now right now.
Speaker 2 (28:13):
I'm sorry. Then in a whole other relationship exactly. Oh
I guess what happened all right, Well let's see if
(28:34):
sure can connect that. See bring back I don't see it. Yeah, see,
(29:02):
somebody ain't like you're talking about just now and cut
you out. So somebody came in and was like we finish,
shut that down right now, right now, right now. They said,
not today, move on. But it's crazy, Yeah, it really is.
I mean I feel like men really turn into little
(29:24):
babies anytime they get sick, broken hearted. They just really
act like little kids, like just pitiful.
Speaker 1 (29:33):
Yes, they do. It's they come up with every scenario of.
Speaker 2 (29:39):
Why pool they sorry, they're gonna change our promise.
Speaker 1 (29:44):
So do you think.
Speaker 2 (29:45):
Men feel heartbreak deeper because they're not taught how to
express their heartbreak, Yes, I feel like how to deal
with heartbreak, Like no, I feel like they're taught how
to be a man, and if you cry and if
you express yourself, you're not a man. So I feel
(30:08):
like those create those things create layers to you know,
for them to it's hard for them to express how
they really feel. And another thing like they're not taught
to open up. Yeah, because if you if you open
up your punk, you know you you did you that,
you know? I mean I think one people are not
(30:30):
nobody's really taught how to deal with heartbreak too. I
think men don't know how to take accountability a lot
of times, and so that finds out as heartbreak. But
really it's like, oh my god, I can't. I can't
take accountability for these things that have you know, I've
(30:50):
caused the relationship or whatever. So it just comes out
in that real pitiful, childish ass way when really they
just probably took accountability that would takeke a low off
of them, you know what I mean, But they don't.
They can't even they haven't learned to do that. So
it could be that, yeah, and are dying from heartbreak.
(31:10):
Should we stop calling them emotionally unavailable? Or is that
still fair? I mean no, you can say I'm gonna
still call you emotionally unavailable. You need to figure it
out before you die. And that ain't my problem, you
know what I'm saying, Like you need to get in
(31:30):
touch to your emotions, don't. You can't be like deeply
in love with me to the point where you only
can show your You can only be emotionally available once
it's heart right.
Speaker 1 (31:45):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (31:45):
I think that's the thing, Like if they were emotionally available,
they would know how to deal with a heartbreak because
they know, Okay, you know, I gave it my all,
I express myself and it's not gonna work. But you
let everything build up and it it takes a toll
on you and you stressed out to the point where
you you.
Speaker 1 (32:03):
Go and fit s feet on them. Yeah. Well that's
just reminded me though.
Speaker 2 (32:16):
I was one time I feel like my eye was
heartbroken with Phils. We had broke up for like two
weeks and girl was pitiful. I'm not gonna lie, but
he was more pitiful, I realized. But like in my
little tube, like I went. I was living in LA
(32:37):
and I literally came home because I was just homesick.
Speaker 1 (32:40):
I needed to be home and my parents.
Speaker 2 (32:43):
I was riding in the car with him and like
Eric Kabad song came on and I was like, oh
my god, turn it off. I can't even listen to this.
I was really pitiful, Like I couldn't listen to certain songs,
I couldn't eat certain foods, like everything. Just I was
really really pitiful. But then what we got back together,
when we was like trying to like figure out what
we was gonna do, girl, I realized he was more pitiful.
(33:05):
Oh yeah, they do listen. And the thing about it
is they be they be front and they be acting like, oh,
you know, blood all good. They don't even jump into
a whole new relationship. You need to stop it stopping.
Uh huh, all right, you're playing hard all that time.
Speaker 1 (33:27):
Stopping you know you still you still you still hurt?
Speaker 2 (33:30):
Boo boom, very hurt, very hurt. Would you feel guilty
if an ex died of a broken heart over you?
I mean, can we really determine that they die from
a broken heart?
Speaker 1 (33:43):
We won't know. I don't think we would know.
Speaker 2 (33:47):
Well. The condition is called broken heart syndrome, also known
as to cut the bowl cardio myopathy. It's a real,
medically documented condition that mimics a heart attack. It's often
triggered by intense emotional or physical stress. I could break up,
the death of a lovement, or even public humiliation. So
(34:07):
it's the whole definition for it in the medical book.
So obviously they can, you know, you know, rule that out.
It's how they died.
Speaker 1 (34:17):
That's so it's a scary situation. I don't know.
Speaker 2 (34:22):
I feel like, you know, I probably would feel a
little guilty if they pass away right after we break up,
because I mean, it's a natural feeling like damn, I
was just with this person, and you may feel like
you didn't get enough closure or something, so you will
I know, I probably would have.
Speaker 1 (34:40):
A guilty constrance.
Speaker 2 (34:43):
It would hurt not me feeling like I'm the reason
why they died, but it will be some guilt on
me because I felt maybe I feel like there wasn't
any closure. Yeah, I mean, I guess may of a
broken heart is pretty fitful, I must say. But okay,
(35:04):
moving on, let's get into segment three. The naked truth
can sleeping in the buff boost your health? All right, batties,
let's talk about something that's equal parts bold biological and
well fare. New studies suggests that that sleeping without clothes
might actually do more than just free your body from
(35:24):
tight waist bands and tangled pajama pants. Research shows that
dish in the night where can help regulate hormones, lower
stress levels by reducing cortisol, and even boost your metabolism,
leading to potential fat loss while you sleep. But hold up,
is this real science or just another trending wellness claim?
Are people really seeing health benefits from sleeping oh natural?
(35:46):
Or are we all just getting more comfortable with our
bodies and calling it biohacking from hormone balance to hotter
sex lives. Yet we're going there. We're stripping this topic
down and getting into the bed with the fat like
sleeping naked, you do? I always sleep nekked, first of all.
(36:09):
I like when i'm you know, in a relationship and
I'm cuddled up. I don't like having clothes on because
sometimes it needs to be easy access if I want
something three o'clock in the morning, too, a little booty up,
boom boom, and then you.
Speaker 1 (36:23):
Ain't even gotta get up.
Speaker 2 (36:25):
And I don't like being hot, like I like for
it to be cold, and I like to be wrapped
up in blankets, but I like to be neked. And
if I want to get up and go to the
bathroom at two o'clock in the morning, three o'clock in
the morning, I ain't gotta have crust all.
Speaker 1 (36:39):
In my eyes.
Speaker 2 (36:39):
I'm walking to the bathroom, I ain't got to pull
down my pants. I just sit right on the toilet,
wipe myself and jump right back in bed.
Speaker 1 (36:48):
Yeah, I feel you. I mean, I love that sounds amazing.
Speaker 2 (36:52):
I sleep naked, but I don't always want to. Bill
don't let me get into bed with clothes one, but
I try it. I be trying. First of all. I
like to sleep with a broad one because I don't
think I be feeling everywhere.
Speaker 1 (37:09):
First to me, we are basically.
Speaker 2 (37:14):
I feel like I sweat more with no clothes on
when I sleep, and we keep our bedroom very very cold.
But I feel like when I have when I don't
have no clothes on, I just be sweating. But I
like it because I feel like I'm losing weight. I'm like,
I'm sweating, you are You're burning calories when when all
(37:34):
that is going on, I just I love it. Like
but Phil don't let me sleep in if I if
I can, he's ripping them off as soon as I
get into bed. But I hate sleeping with brals on.
Oh I like for them to brief be free. Yeah,
I mean I be in like I have comfortable sleep
war like bras so they don't feel like nothing. But yeah,
(37:56):
sometimes I just want to feel like put together, other
like everything so being and it's like, yeah, but you
know it's not happening. It is, but it is. I'm married,
you know, got no no options there. All right, so
let's talk about it. It's sleeping naked actually healthy or
(38:19):
is it just an excuse for people to feel sexy
at night? Do you think people are really looking at
it to see if it's damn healthy? No, No, I
don't think so. But I mean there are health benefits.
So if they have things, if they are health benefits,
they are amazing. The health benefit for me is easy,
excess need sleeping naked to my man. It's it's easy.
(38:44):
I mean I feel like maybe it could health your relationship.
You know, if you get in the bad naked with
your man every night, you know you can lead to
more sex, which leads to a healthier relationship.
Speaker 1 (38:56):
Exactly.
Speaker 2 (38:58):
Yeah, there we go, and sleeping without clothes really burn
fat or is it just wishful and naked thinking.
Speaker 1 (39:05):
I think it's a because I'd be happy.
Speaker 2 (39:08):
It may burn a few cars, it may burn a
few calories. If you high, you may feel like you're
in a little saunas or steam room or whatever whatever
it is you swim up.
Speaker 1 (39:18):
But I don't like to sweat.
Speaker 2 (39:20):
Like if I'm sweating the ac is going down, I
might maybe not be in.
Speaker 1 (39:26):
A cold sweat because my room be cold. I don't know.
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (39:32):
I don't think we look at it sleeping nked. We
looked at it for the health benefits. We look at
it for the sex benefits. Yeah, that was the next question.
Does it improve your sex life? I think it does
for sure. Yeah. You're getting in the bed with a
momo on and what the hell is this? And your
bun and on what is the and your mouthguard? And like, girl, no,
(39:56):
you're doing too much? Yeah. Like people now, okay, Now,
when I say I like to get into bed with plozon,
I literally meant like a little sleep bra and some
little panties. Now, the people who be going to bed
when a whole a full lace pajama set or silk
pajama set.
Speaker 1 (40:13):
How I don't understand.
Speaker 2 (40:14):
That, Like you're getting into bed with a full outfit
on that I can do sometimes I like to, you know,
I like to wake up two o'clock in the morning,
do some a few little tricks or whatever. It's a
lot of benefits. And it's you know, to sleeping naked. Okay, period,
(40:35):
It's say, does sleeping naked together increased intimacy or just
create more opportunities for late night arguments over covers?
Speaker 1 (40:44):
Anybody?
Speaker 2 (40:45):
Are you damn posts? Yeah? All right, that was a
cute little segment. I will be sleeping naked tonight. Don't worry, Phil,
no worries. Yeah, filled hit all your your clothes, your pajamas,
Yeah it will. He does that, all right. So now
(41:07):
we got some questions from our humble baddies. I love
when they right to us and ask us question. All right,
question number one? If you had to leave the US,
what are the top two places you would move to?
Oh we already answered that. Oh your last song you
can answer. You can answer where would you move to?
Speaker 3 (41:27):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (41:30):
Well, now that I'm being educated and I visited Africa,
I think I would love to choose an African country,
but there's so many countries I haven't been to yet,
so I don't want to say which one yet.
Speaker 1 (41:47):
But I just feel like if I had.
Speaker 2 (41:49):
The opportunity to move somewhere, it should be an African
country because that's the motherland.
Speaker 1 (41:55):
I said the same thing. I got to pick another one,
another one.
Speaker 2 (42:00):
Hmmm. Probably probably like Italy because I love the food.
I used to live there when I was a baby,
and I just love it. It's such a beautiful country.
Speaker 1 (42:15):
Yep.
Speaker 2 (42:16):
Okay, So did y'all do all these questions? Yeah, let's
get to the humble battiest man. All right, humble batty's mouth.
You got it, Go ahead, let's see. But yeah, I
gotta pull it back up because you know we had
a little tick.
Speaker 1 (42:36):
You want me to do it? Yeah, read it and
now I answer it. Okay. Hey, ladies, So I've been in.
Speaker 2 (42:43):
This weird situation for about six months now, and I
really need some real talk from y'all. I'm twenty nine,
recently started dating this amazing guy. He's emotionally available, rare, consistent,
and actually wants to build something real. We've been together
for about four months now and things are moving in
a healthy direction except for one issue.
Speaker 1 (43:04):
My ex, who.
Speaker 2 (43:05):
I was with for almost five years, still pays all
my major bills. I'm talking rent, phone, Carno, and even
health insurance. He says he doesn't want me to struggle
and that he still cares, and even though we're not together,
and no, we're not sleeping together, it's truly just financial.
He sends the money like cockwork and keeps it very platonic.
(43:28):
I've told him, my new man. I've told my new
man about it, and he is not okay with it.
He feels like it's a form of control, that no
man is doing all that out of pure kindness. He
told me straight up, you can't build a future with
me while being financially tied to her past. I get it,
but here's the thing. I'm not rich. My new man
is still getting on his feet, so the lifestyle I'm
(43:49):
used to is completely different when I'm with him. I
love being with him, but I'm scared of letting go
of a life where I don't have to worry about money.
Is that wrong? So I guess my question is what
would you do? Would you cut off your ex and
have to worry about money or stay financially secure. Be honest,
I can take it. Maya from Nashville, Tennessee.
Speaker 1 (44:10):
I wouldn't.
Speaker 2 (44:11):
I mean if she was being first of all, he's
what do you call it, basically she's being held in
that spot like he's making her lazy because she's not
going to change if he continue. If there's no relationship
between them and he's financially taking care of her, not well,
am I complaining?
Speaker 1 (44:32):
No?
Speaker 2 (44:33):
I mean I have somebody taking care of me financially
and it's nothing more than that. But I'm not going
to get into a serious relationship with someone if I
have somebody financially taking care of me, because it's disrespect
for that man who you're in a relationship with. It's
a lot of disrespect. So I wouldn't you have to
choose one. If you're going to continue to get financial
(44:54):
help from this man, which I'm sure you are, then
you need to cut off TIS because it's not fair
for this man to be able to deal with that.
That's kind of like the situation and I was selling
legs about it. If it's kind of like the situation
we was talking about on Monday, Like I wouldn't want
if I'm in a relationship. I wouldn't want someone to
have financial ties over if I'm in a relationship with you.
(45:18):
It's just not respectful. There's boundaries that have to be set.
And for this man, he's financially taking care of you.
It may not be the same thing, but it's still
someone there. Even if they're overlooking or they're taking care
of it's disrespect It's going to create controversy and you
have to choose one. It's not fair for the man. Yeah,
(45:39):
I agree. I mean anything that keeps you tied to
your ex, I think you know, you shouldn't be moving on,
Like if you're still tied to them in any kind
of way, whether it's financially emotionally. I mean, you know,
when you have children with somebody that that's always going
to be a connection. But I have a choice, Like
(46:01):
children is not a choice, you know, but if you
have a choice to be connected with them, then you
have to make the choice to either you know, be
connected to that person and not deal with anybody else,
or you know, cut them off so you can move
on fully. And yeah, I don't I agree with the man.
I agree with him. I think you know, she shouldn't
(46:22):
be trying to be financially taken care of by somebody
else that is disrespectful like you said, so, Maya, I
don't know, girl. You need to think about what you
really want and if it's moving on from your past,
then you gotta cut ties with that.
Speaker 1 (46:37):
X yep A, all right you guys, Maya.
Speaker 2 (46:41):
Hopefully we answered your question. That is it for Humble Batties.
Thank y'all for tuning in. I'm sure where Risotto on Instagram.
Follow us at Humble Baddy's Looking Box, Humble Batty's Podcast,
Subscribe to us on YouTube and follow us on Instagram
ash where they can find you. I'm asking you know
who on Instagram. You guys follow me and please come
(47:04):
back and watch us on Monday.
Speaker 1 (47:05):
We'll be back.
Speaker 2 (47:06):
Love you
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