March 24, 2025 • 59 mins
Sharelle, Ashley, and Alexis react to Yung Miami's trending Club Shay Shay interview, LeBron James being Dad of the Year, Phylicia Rashad speaking on women's fashion standards, Jonathan Majors saying Meagan Good “lost endorsements” from their relationship, and more!
00:00 - Introduction
04:35 - Yung Miami’s Club Shay Shay Interview
22:58 - LeBron James, Father of the Year
34:35 - Phylicia Rashad on dressing standards
48:49 - Jonathan Majors & Meagan Good are married
55:40 - Humble Baddies Mailbag
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Like get in my way, never out of my name.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
It's been like you one and the more one, so
is gonna be Baby Squad.
Speaker 1 (00:08):
Welcome back, Baddy.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
We are back here for another episode of the Humble
Baddies Podcast. And what do we have some tea for you? Yes?
I am Ashley Nicole, a less startle mere and I'm
(00:30):
sure arise alda call h tuning in all the way
from Ghana.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
Okay, mother lady, well at least you here in present.
Speaker 2 (00:43):
I am listen this This comes first, no matter what
you know. Business first, business business, and it's business there.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
What time is it there, girl?
Speaker 2 (00:59):
It is midnight, midnight in then.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
That's committment.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
Okay, appreciate you tapping in all the way from the Motherland. Yes, yes,
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Speaker 1 (01:43):
Yeah, which not going on leg.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
Well, today I did my annual ommmogram less Ladies of Age.
Unless you know breast cancer or anything like that runs
into your family, then you go sooner.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
But I had to go and get that done and
taken care of.
Speaker 2 (01:59):
And it is so uncomfortable when I tell you, like
to have.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Yourself in the machine.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
You have to be still and they take your breast
and squeeze it with like like literally squeeze it. Two
pieces of machine come down and squeeze your breast so
they can get the breast testue. I mean, we have
to do it once a year, but it's super uncomfortable
and doesn't feel good. So I'm just like, what's going on,
(02:25):
you know, But it's something that has to happen. So
in this Women's month, that's a good take care of yourself.
It's a good thing that you're doing that, Like.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
Thank you, thank you.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
And thankfully breast cancer doesn't run in my family, so
it's still precautionary. But at the same time, I need
to know what's going on with my body, so have
to stay on top of it once a year, and
you just put.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
It in my mind. I need to schedule all my
doctor's appointments.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
I'm a little behind because I've been traveling and doing
the most, but I need to schedule my appointment. So
thank you for about your mind. Yeah, I gotta skepule
my dadness. Yes, every six months. All right, y'all, So
let's begin to the tea.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
I'm ready live into it.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
First of all, have y'all seen this whole interview with
Young Miami and Shannon Sharp?
Speaker 1 (03:15):
Yes. First of all, I loved the whole interview.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
I thought she's so entertaining, and I don't.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
Know the question she was asking was like so one point.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
But the one thing that's really got the Internet in
the frenzy is she basically said that she would allow,
you know, her guide, whoever she's in a relationship with,
he has four chances to cheat, so she wouldn't leave
he cheated one time, two times, three times, she would say,
and not till the fourth time was she'd be like,
all right, I'm done. So a lot of people are like, okay,
(03:51):
that's real, Like cause you know, men gonna do what
they do, So like, why would I leave a good
man he runs out, makes a mistake or whatever.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
But a lot of people are like, nah, like that's crazy.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
Why would you like out loud say that like four
times is a lot to let me and disrespect you
like that.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
So what's y'all take on that? Well, first of all,
how old is I don't?
Speaker 2 (04:13):
I don't.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
I don't count the times.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
I mean, you know there are situations, you know, there's
temptation out there, but I look at how you.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
Move just I'm not counting the times.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
If you make your mistakes, it has to be to
a point where I'm just fed up and enough is enough.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
Like I'm not, you're not counting.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
If there's no number too resationship with someone and you know,
things happen, I'm not going to count. Oh you cheated
one time, you cheated two times, you cheated three times.
It's it's basically the respect and how you mo Like
if you just out here moving reckless and just cheating
in it, it's just known and it's just embarrassing and
it comes back to me, then that's a different story.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
But me counting to get out of a relationship, No,
I'm not. I'm not. That's just my opinion. I'm not counting.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
So it depends on how he moved. So say he
was cheating in peace and quiet. Nobody knew but you
that it's different.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
We'll talk about it, we'll speak on it.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
It's just cheating is not going to be the main
reason of why I why that's a relationship.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
But other people know about it. It's not about it.
It's not just about the cheating. Like, cheating is not
my main deal breaker.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
Cheating is not gonna be my my deal breaker in
a relationship. It has to be a little bit more
than just cheating and how you move and how the
relationship is. It's not just going to be cheated, Okay.
I think for me, it's like when I was younger,
I was tolerate more just because I was learning myself.
I was a little like not confident in how I'm
(06:05):
moving or feel like I was going to lose out
on this person or let me just ben to their rules.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
So like I feel like.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Now being older, I look at the cheating as disrespectful, habitual, distracting.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
Like very behavioral and very much of your character.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
So like depends on like of the intention of where
we're going and want to take this relationship. If we
both have this open dialogue, of this open dialogue of
just really like, what are your boundaries, what are your insecurities,
what are your deal breakers? That's what I'm set on,
and I know now going forward in these relationships that
I don't want that. I don't want to feel like
(06:44):
I have to be looking through your stuff. I don't
want to feel like I need to be hearing on
the word on the street, just all these things. I
want to be set in that situation where I'm not
even thinking about that. We should be thinking about what
we're investing in, what else are we doing, what's our
next date night, what vacation we're going on.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
You know, it's not really supposed to be about the cheating,
but you can think about it.
Speaker 2 (07:06):
You can think about that, and still somebody can still
just I mean they just go out and cheat, they
go out and have Like again, people look at at
relationships like it's so perfect. Like people can say, oh,
I couldn't do that, I wouldn't do that. Meanwhile, your
man out here having a whole other relationship, you know,
scoring off on yeah, everybody else, and you don't know it.
(07:27):
You think you have a perfect relationship. So, like you said,
you're not going to focus on cheating. That's why I
say this, it's not a number. It takes more to
end a long term relationship, especially if someone that you're
in love with. It takes more than just cheating. I
just say, what if the boundaries are but if you
go I feel like for Young Miami to make this
(07:48):
statement like four times, like I'm allowing it four times,
I feel like that means you're going into a relationship
and you're putting it out there that cheating is okay as.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
Long as you only do it three times because before time,
I'm done.
Speaker 2 (08:03):
So I just feel like that's a very like interesting
take on relationships in general, because I feel like you
get into relationships because you want to commit to somebody fully,
Like you want to commit to them in a way
where they're not dealing with anybody else, like sexually, emotionally, whatever.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
So once you make that commitment, if.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
You're going into it saying okay, well I know they
probably gonna cheat, but they only got this many times
before you know, I'll stay, like before I leave, I
feel like you're setting yourself up to have a relationship failed.
Yeah you know, And it's like saying, like you don't
deserve a relationship where you won't be cheated on where
(08:46):
the other person can't commit to you, like you don't
believe that you can attain that relationship like that, it's
not real, like you think monogamy doesn't it doesn't exist. Basically,
It's like you're setting yourself up already, you know, especially
if you're putting it out there. You went on this
(09:08):
big platform with Shannon and Sharp and you told the
world that I'm going to stay with a man until
he cheats on me for the fourth time. So it's like,
I'm sure she has a lot of men who are
interested in her, so now they hear this and they're like, okay, cool,
like that I can get with her and I can
do whatever I want. I just make sure she don't
find out four times, like you know what I mean.
Like it's just even though it's like we all go
(09:30):
into a relationship, we all want the same thing. We
all want to be able to trust in somebody. We
all want it like and I mean I'm not saying
like it's like I don't want to sound like naive
or like a hopeless romantic or whatever, but I feel
like we should still like for our own sanity and
like as women in our respect, like we shouldn't go
(09:53):
into relationships saying stuff like this, like we should believe
that we can be with somebody who's gonna respect us,
and you know, but things happen, like you said, Chiel,
like you know, people make mistakes, and I understand, like she,
they may not be like the end all be off
for people, you know what I mean, But I feel
like we still as women that then should have a
(10:14):
standard and are a gracious and if you don't want that,
then don't be in a relationship. And if you feel
like you don't deserve that, then that's a whole another thing,
and the whole like we need to go to therapy
and we need to you know what I'm saying, Like
it's a whole thing.
Speaker 1 (10:30):
I feel like it's a self love thing.
Speaker 2 (10:31):
Like I would never put that into the universe, like
I will be with a man. I just wouldn't put
that energy into the universe. Like of course, I don't
think like cheating is like the end all be all,
but like I'm not going to sit there and be like,
well he got this many times, I just feel like
that's just not the energy you should put out into
(10:52):
the world.
Speaker 1 (10:52):
That's not what you want for yourself so white and.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
Say that you know, it's to each their own and
what they can tolerate, what they want to deal with,
to how what their relationship looks like. I mean, for
me being married, being divorced, being cheated on, being whatever
the case may be, I am not tolerating it in
my situation. If I'm being intentional with you, I'm setting
those boundaries, those values, those those railings up a sap
(11:18):
like this is what I'm not tolerating because I've healed
through that already. I know where the flags are and
especially I'm just not gonna I'm not tolerating it.
Speaker 1 (11:30):
But you feel like you can find a man that's
just going to be fully faithful.
Speaker 2 (11:33):
Yeah, And going back to what accident says put that
out there, Why would I want to say I want
a portion of a man. I want a portion of
a part of a man. But it's just expectations like
I just feel like.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
I want people to live in I want them to
live in that job. People live in their truth. But
no one is perfect and dudes are going to have been.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
But what you just you so basically, if you find
out a man cheated on you, you're done. Absolutely it's
not for me, So Cheril, you don't feel like you're
being realistic if you go out into this world as
a single woman looking for a man who can commit
(12:22):
to you and you only like you feel like that's
not being realistic.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
It's not.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
I'm just being honest. It's not why super bar so,
it's not setting the barlow. It's realist, it's real. It's
majority then who wants the same things like you just
and those men. Name my man, that's that's that has
(12:51):
been straight up faithful. Name one I'll wait that has
never cheated that. No, I don't know that.
Speaker 1 (13:00):
I don't know. I can't todate man. That's not what
we're talking about, but what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (13:04):
But I do think it's realistic to want something from
somebody and.
Speaker 1 (13:12):
To other people. But the question that I asked the lexus.
Speaker 2 (13:15):
I asked the lexus was could she find a man
that will be faithful to her fully? And if he
did slip out, she's done completely. And she said she's
done completely. So basically, if if he cheats one time,
whether it's physically or emotionally, she's out. Because this man
is gonna spend time with me. He's gonna be intentional.
(13:37):
He's gonna be sent from God, and I know for
a fact he's gonna know where my heart is and
know where my mind is. And it's a lot going
on over here, you know, Like don't you know we're
penetrating souls and so once you start intertwining all that
putting my health in jeopardy, my mental health in jeopardy.
I just know this person, whoever my person is, is
(13:59):
gonna know who I am I am and know that
is the non negotiable for me because I've healed my
way through that.
Speaker 1 (14:04):
That is a that was a dark spot in my life.
So it's triggering, you know.
Speaker 2 (14:08):
So how dare that person that I'm spending time with,
that I'm building with, that I'm like want a relationship
with that I'm loving on, that I'm being romantic with.
How dare them disrespect me with one of my non
negotiables that's not my person. I feel like, especially at
our age, if you looking for somebody who wants the
same things that you want, you're putting those intentions out there.
(14:32):
I feel like there's less of a maybe less of
a chance, you know what I mean that it could happen,
But if you're going into a situation saying I know
are a man cheat, You're probably gonna end up going,
oh yeah, those are your intentions, Those are the vibes
that are creating your situation.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
In your relationship, question my thing? That right?
Speaker 2 (14:56):
My thing is not what I'm trying to get at.
What the lexis is people make mistakes. Sure her thing
was her biggest boundary. If you cheat on me, I'm
done completely. What I'm saying is people do make mistakes. No,
you don't go into a relationships saying that all men
cheat or all women cheat. No, because you're basically putting
it into existence that it happens. What I'm saying is
(15:17):
no one is perfect, and nine times out of ten,
most relationships they look for just one hundred percent like faithful.
But things happen to people, and there's some way in relationships.
The biggest thing is cheating is not the downfall in
my relationship. It takes more because things are gonna happen.
(15:37):
But I would not just end a relationship just because
you cheated. It's just more so. My question to Alexis was,
so you're non negotiable basically if he cheated on you
one time, someone that you are in loved lo he
cheated on you one time, if you're completely done, Yes,
that's not my story. I'm not agreeing with Caresha or anything.
(15:58):
That's not my portion. That's what my destiny, that's not
in my spirit.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
I'm not a cheater.
Speaker 2 (16:05):
I know that you're for it. No, it's not. It's
not an option for me. I'd rather have open dialogue
and let me decide what I'm gonna do with it.
Don't go behind my back, don't be doing the sneaky stuff.
If we locked in, we have this dialogue of what
it is that you are trying to do with me.
Alexis you know, y'all know my stance on even having
(16:26):
multiple relationships like polyamors.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
It's not for me.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
I watch someone and I know I'm gonna have someone
that's locked in with me fully now, it's just not
it's just not it's no negotiable. Like, do you all
think that emotional cheating is different than physical cheating? Yeah,
I definitely think it's different, but I think they're both wrong.
(16:55):
I feel like women tend to do like it's worse.
Speaker 1 (17:01):
I'm gonna say.
Speaker 2 (17:02):
I think physical cheating though, So it's like, yeah, if
you're if somebody, if if somebody is interested in somebody
else emotionally, like physically, they're especially for a woman because
once you get their heart in their mind, like their
body is going to follow.
Speaker 1 (17:19):
Right. So I don't feel like men can you know,
go have.
Speaker 2 (17:23):
A one off with somebody and like they don't think
about them, call them or anything after that. So yeah,
I would probably say emotional is worse, like you real said,
But yeah, what if you found out that your friends
man was cheating, would you tell your friend or would
(17:45):
you keep it to yourself? Well, we need to establish
what a friend is first of them? What type of
a friend is? Okay, this is a friend. Y'all aren't
the best of friends, but y'all, you know, y'all are
social friends. You go to dinner, you had some private
conversations before. That's none of my bussiness. I'm staying out
(18:06):
of it. Okay, what about you? Like, Oh, that's a
tough one. I feel like if we have a better
relationship friendship, then I need to say something, especially if
I broke bread with this couple, especially if I've had
you know, dialogue and we're in the same room of
just a few people I'm gonna have to say something,
especially because if I'm out and to see something inappropriate,
(18:28):
again being someone that has been married, and again with
my cheating tolerance and all this thing, I just will
feel some kind of way holding that in and we'll
take the repercussions.
Speaker 1 (18:40):
Nine times out of ten, women do go back to whoever.
Speaker 2 (18:43):
You know what I mean. So then the friend is
always the one that's asked out, so low key. If
it's not, if it's not a friend that I would
risk losing, then you know, I'll just say it, you
know what I mean. But if there's somebody that's like
my sister, I got to say something because it's violated.
Speaker 1 (18:58):
Price got to.
Speaker 2 (19:06):
If it's a best a close friend, I'm definitely saying something.
But if there's someone that's a social friend, I'm not
saying anything because I don't know what the situation is.
I don't know if they have an open relationship. I
don't know if if this person's aren't just you know,
they have a private breakup and you know we don't
know about it, so I stay out. If you're not
close to me, I'm not in your business. That's just
(19:28):
what it is. Because it's just it's too much confusing
and draw ma maad like I don't see you in
my my business and drink my water. I have definitely
seen some people's husbands out in these Miami streets, okay,
say something.
Speaker 1 (19:44):
No no, no, no no no. I am not getting
into that.
Speaker 2 (19:48):
And it wasn't like a close friend of mine, so
I didn't feel obligated at all, but I did want
to run up on him, like I see you like
I see you do you know, like we and see you,
but you for a pull up, Like I'm okay with
that little.
Speaker 1 (20:06):
I'm definitely gonna.
Speaker 2 (20:07):
Make the situation very And I just feel like if
I see you outside, you know, it's like, if you're
that bold to be outside with another woman, I feel like.
Speaker 1 (20:18):
Friend girls, she probably know, like she probably knows something,
you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (20:23):
If you have the audacity to be outside like in
our hometown with another lady, she know already.
Speaker 1 (20:30):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (20:31):
So I definitely would I wouldn't say anything, but yeah,
that is a tough situation too. Like y'all said, it
depends on the situation how close you are with that person,
because like like she said, nine times out of ten
that person is going back to them and they're.
Speaker 1 (20:48):
Like, you don't know what they could say.
Speaker 2 (20:49):
Man, theyn that you done got yourself caught up in
the mix.
Speaker 1 (20:56):
That's a close friend. Baby, I'm gonna have proof.
Speaker 2 (20:58):
Maybe y'all record, take pictures, do my little research.
Speaker 1 (21:02):
Girl, so that video record, then send a drink over.
Speaker 2 (21:05):
I gotta have the bro because because you know they're
gonna lie, So you gotta have the like, uh, you
gotta take video everything. You got to have the want
the detective work. Yeah, no, I'm letting somebody know. I
have to especially that if that's my girl, we gotta
we gotta have a discussion, you know, yes, yes, Okay, Well.
Speaker 1 (21:30):
Next topic.
Speaker 2 (21:33):
So we recently saw Lebron and Zuri hanging out together
going on a date night, and there was also Future
that was singing at his daughter's sweet sixteen.
Speaker 1 (21:47):
So, what do you guys think about like this?
Speaker 2 (21:49):
Just I think we just want to like really acknowledge
our humble daddies, daddies you know, just in general of
just like how our black men and just men in
general stepping up and just really like being a force
for their families. What do you guys I'm gonna add
one more toys because we didn't have shout out to Chad,
(22:10):
like Chad did something and you know what, that's why
you mind, That's why you my daughter. He took on
girls on a trip just daddy and daughter time. Love
that and I just just loved it. All his daughters,
they went to Dominican Republic, spent time with them, took
him on excursions like the whole nine Yards, Like he
really had the photographer there.
Speaker 1 (22:30):
I found a little chealleice.
Speaker 2 (22:32):
I was like, oh that little so much because I
was you know, I was like, okay, I see like
they were so beautiful. They was dressed alike, he had
the photographer. He just made them feel like queens.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
So he was set.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
I love a father that just set the standard. So
shout out to all the Ruddy's out there. Yes I
agree with that. Yes, kudos to Chad, like he is
a girl's dad. Like I saw him out there post
with the girls, super cute, super severe. I saw futures
(23:05):
daughters sweet sixteen.
Speaker 1 (23:07):
It was like a little mini rolling loud. He had
all the Yeah Travis next red Red, I think he performs.
Speaker 2 (23:19):
I was like, okut it like it was lit it
looked like she had the best time. So the daddies
are showing Yeah, it's necessary, you know, we need help
guys where it's necessary. Takes two to have these babies
in the first place. And so it's actually been beneficial
for me to really, like, like since I had my
(23:39):
call speaking of my kids are with their dad right
now for spring and breaks, so I have I can
do way more work at home, I can do whatever
I need to do to, I can travel, I can
move around. So it really is given me a break
low key, because we need that, we need to like
recalibrate our minds and our and our spirits and our
energy and so like, he has been helpful that he
(24:01):
takes that on. And so it's like shout out to
you know, blended families too, because it definitely takes a village.
And that's what I was I was gonna get into.
I was, I ain't mean to cut you off. The lypsis.
How would y'all feel if, Okay, some a fatherlike future
he has how many kids? That's a good question, maybe
(24:26):
say like maybe or seven, I don't know. You have
you have some fathers that go above and beyond for
some kids and then some of the kids they just
don't do anything.
Speaker 1 (24:37):
You mean, like in families they're just in general, and the.
Speaker 2 (24:41):
Blended families like that, Okay, they have like several baby mamas,
and Okay, for.
Speaker 1 (24:45):
This child, I'm gonna do all I'm gonna go all out.
Speaker 2 (24:48):
But it's very hard this child because I hate that
baby mama. I'm not even in that child's life. That's
a turnoff for me, Like in this day of like
you know, in this day he had, in this day
of just dating. If I see that you're not talking
about your children and I know you have them, like
if you're not involved, if you're not trying to schedule
(25:08):
things and really be mindful of these children, then it's
just turned off for me.
Speaker 1 (25:12):
I'm like, what's going on. That's not attractive.
Speaker 2 (25:15):
That means you have no time management, That means you
have no like regard to your blood walking on earth.
So it's an immediate red flag for me. If you
are you, you have children, and you're not talking about it,
like I want to get to know you. I want
to know who you are. Like if you have little
people walking around this earth, how involved are you? You know,
the more involved, the sexier that shit is like you know,
(25:37):
so I mama see that that you try to stoo continent,
(26:02):
not the time zone. No, No, what I was saying
is it just you can't take it out on the child.
Speaker 1 (26:10):
That's that's what I don't like, Like you.
Speaker 2 (26:13):
Knew what you was doing when you were doing what
you was doing, and then now that you know they
kept the baby, now that that child is coming into
this world without a father figure, and you're treating the
child wrong.
Speaker 1 (26:26):
Yeah, the the yes, right, yeah.
Speaker 2 (26:34):
And I feel like we see this a lot, honestly,
and it's very very unfortunate to see it. And I
feel like it's you know, always it's a big, big difference.
Speaker 1 (26:48):
It's not like some kids and it's mainly our people.
Speaker 2 (26:51):
It's unfortunate, like we see like them doing the grandest
things for some kid and then some kids getting nothing
Like It's it's.
Speaker 1 (27:00):
Crazy, and I wonder, like you know how that.
Speaker 2 (27:03):
Ultimately like like affects the children, you know what I mean,
they feel like, you know, they're less than the other kids.
Speaker 1 (27:12):
Like I'm sure like you know that's going to do
some damage some long term.
Speaker 2 (27:18):
That's it's heavy and you want to be open and
have that you just want to be open and have
that dialogue for sure about who you raising, who you're
not raising. You know, it's all rooted and stimulated from
just how you were raised too, So it's it's crucial
when you're legacy building and shout out to the future.
Speaker 1 (27:36):
My bad he has four kids. Thank you for our
check on that.
Speaker 2 (27:39):
You know, I did put him out there. I guess
the fact checking is it's for so right.
Speaker 1 (27:48):
Is that right.
Speaker 2 (27:53):
Now?
Speaker 1 (27:53):
I think, Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (27:55):
I don't know about that fact chick. Yeah, that's that's fine.
We don't have to check out.
Speaker 1 (28:02):
But but shout.
Speaker 2 (28:03):
Out to all the others out here representing because we
definitely need to see more of that. Shout out to
Big Feel he's always holding it down hate me, so
it could be doing the Humble Baddies podcast. He's, you know,
taking care of the kids right now, So shout out
to you boo. Do you all think with parents, do
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you think you it's different raising boys, Ash compared to
like us, Cherrelle.
Speaker 1 (28:32):
You and I we have we have boys and girls.
Speaker 2 (28:35):
So do you think like it's a difference of influence
with the father raising boys compared to like raising the
girls in general?
Speaker 1 (28:42):
Ash like, what do you think. I'm just curious. Is
it a difference?
Speaker 2 (28:48):
What?
Speaker 1 (28:48):
Like, what's the question?
Speaker 2 (28:53):
I just feel like I just feel like as far
as what fathers them more.
Speaker 1 (29:02):
And more linging on their girls than the boys.
Speaker 2 (29:06):
The boys, they are gonna be hard, They're gonna break,
you know, they have that's that soft spot.
Speaker 1 (29:12):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (29:13):
I feel like, you know, I am a girl's dad. No,
I'm a daddy's girl. I am a daddy girl. And
my dad was very strict on me, like he he
did not play, but I was still a daddy's girl
even up until like I was grown.
Speaker 1 (29:34):
Like, my dad was very strict on me.
Speaker 2 (29:36):
You know, like when I got pregnant, he stopped talking
to me for a month or two, you know, because
we weren't married yet.
Speaker 1 (29:44):
The same thing.
Speaker 2 (29:45):
Yeah, he had these expectations of me, you know what
I'm saying. So, but I do feel like having that
strong father's presence in my life really did shape the
woman that I am today. And it shaped like, you know,
my preference in men. So and then now that I'm
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a boy's mom, and you know, my husband is very
hands on what my children, I can see, you know
how his presence him being, you know, because a lot
of people, you know, they have their fathers around or
their husband's around helping with their children or whatever, but
they're just kind of there. They're not really like fully present,
(30:26):
Like the mom is very much like the default parent
or whatever they call it.
Speaker 1 (30:31):
But like Phil is very very.
Speaker 2 (30:33):
Hands on, and I can and I can see how
kid's presence in their life is, you know, shaping them
into the young men that they are.
Speaker 1 (30:41):
So I do think like having a man, a man
in the.
Speaker 2 (30:45):
Household absolutely like makes a difference in like raising your children.
And I know it personally from you know, being raised
by a two parent household and now raising my own
children and a two parent household. But when it comes
to like, you know, the difference between raisin boys and girls,
(31:06):
all I got is boys right now. And thank god
y'all because I just feel like I wouldn't know what
to do, how where to start and raising a little.
Speaker 1 (31:12):
Girl, and y'all are doing it amazing.
Speaker 2 (31:15):
Like y'all daughters are beautiful, they're so smart, they're so respectful.
You know, they're everything that I would want a daughter
to be.
Speaker 1 (31:24):
Because in this crazy.
Speaker 2 (31:26):
World that we're living in right now, and all these
outside influences, Like, I just don't know how I would,
you know, maneuver and do everything. So kudos to y'all
because y'all are the best moms.
Speaker 1 (31:40):
Y'all.
Speaker 2 (31:40):
Children are amazing, and y'all don't always have somebody else
to help you and support you in the way that
you need, you know, the typical way, you know, So
y'all are killing it. So y'all tell me, y'all, I
would have to get get notes from y'all on how
it is raising young women these It's definitely not easy,
(32:03):
but this I feel like, look, would you say feel
and Fox raising Serenity.
Speaker 1 (32:17):
I know it's a cute thing.
Speaker 2 (32:19):
It is so cute when Serenity comes over. The boys
absolutely into different little boys. I'm like, oh, y'all do
know how to be gentle?
Speaker 1 (32:27):
Oh, I'll be giving her.
Speaker 2 (32:31):
They've be giving her a hand, like Mom, we want
a sister. They're like, let's do some practice. They can't
hand all they want. But it's not happening over here. Okay,
honey is locked up, Okay, playing them game. Yeah, the
baby making factory is shut down over here. Okay, absolutely not.
(32:56):
So y'all bring your daughters over. So we can get
our little daughter time in because that's all we're gonna
get that.
Speaker 1 (33:04):
I I love it, I love it. I love it.
Speaker 2 (33:08):
Well, speaking of darters, did you see where Felicia Rashad
was on the Breakfast Club and you see that.
Speaker 1 (33:16):
They were I said, that was a great interview, Yes
it was.
Speaker 2 (33:22):
Did you see where she was talking about how there's
an influx of how there's a nudity with our young
queens and.
Speaker 1 (33:31):
The influence on Hollywood.
Speaker 2 (33:33):
So, since we're talking about the ladies and growing them
up in a certain kind of way, what are you guys'
thoughts on that? You know, I feel like she's like
the auntie, Like not even the auntie. I feel like
she's grandma, honestly, not saying because she oh, but like
she still has that old school like mentality, old school
(33:54):
like upbreaking that's kind of like we don't get that
as much anymore, but she's like one of the last
few left that's like here and what we listen to
and we respect and reappreciate. And so I think she's
just coming from like that old school style of like
we should be covered and we should you know, there's
a certain way that a lady acts and talks, and
(34:16):
you know there's something that we all can like take
from that because we're slowly like getting away from all
of that. And you know, I myself, you know, I
like to be naked most of the time when I
go out, like my face and you know what I'm saying.
I like to show a little ADS and tds here,
and are you saying you know, I only like pushing
(34:39):
the limits with my outfits, you know what I'm saying.
But I feel like that part of me is coming
from a like woman empowerment.
Speaker 1 (34:49):
So I feel like maybe she might be old school
in her thinking.
Speaker 2 (34:53):
You know, I feel like now women feel you know,
powerful and strong and confident enough to come out and
wear whatever they want to wear. And Noah doesn't mean
like we're out here having sex with everybody.
Speaker 1 (35:05):
It's just we're confident in who we are.
Speaker 2 (35:07):
We like how you know, we look, We love our bodies,
and we're confident in it. So I think there's truth
and a lot of wisdom and what she was speaking on.
But I also think, you know, we're in a new
day and age, and we're taking control of our bodies
and our choices. And you know, I don't think there's
(35:29):
anything that's true, Ashley, I'm with you on that. I
feel like there's a there's a point where strong you
can you can still be sexy, show some skin and
be classy with it.
Speaker 1 (35:47):
But then there's there's.
Speaker 3 (35:49):
That point when you get to bianka Kanye White's uh,
Kanye whatever his name, Kanye's wife, Like, I would never
go to that line, but to show.
Speaker 1 (36:00):
Skin, show legs.
Speaker 2 (36:01):
I like showing, you know, my body, my curves and everything,
but still in a respectful way.
Speaker 1 (36:07):
There's lefts to it. Yeah, I agree, you.
Speaker 2 (36:12):
Know, I tell my children and really my daughters specifically,
because they show their bodies more often obviously than the
boys do. But I feel like, you know, we're in
the age of female empowerment, self love, self empowerment, improvement, health, journeys,
whatever it is to make you confident, and so I
(36:32):
feel like their generation is very old school and very
much set in their ways, and they're like a little
it's a little bit of I don't want to say
jealousy because I don't want to give them that, but
it's almost like, whoo, they can talk with they how
they want to talk because they were basically censored.
Speaker 1 (36:48):
We can move how we want to move, we can
wear what we want to wear, we can travel.
Speaker 2 (36:51):
We don't. We're choosing not to have children, we're choosing
not to get married. So we're just in these stages
of really ooh, of really just projecting our authentic selves.
Speaker 1 (37:01):
And that's trickling down to my children because it's like they're.
Speaker 2 (37:04):
So much more confident than I was at that age
to where they.
Speaker 1 (37:09):
Know what they're wearing.
Speaker 2 (37:10):
And then also when you're adding like spirituality or religion
to it, they're so smart where they know, well, I
want to be more modest around this person because it's older, older,
like the elders are around, or I'm in this setting,
or it's more professional or whatever the case may be.
So it's about teaching them about balance and really much
(37:30):
how to carry themselves. But I love that both, you know,
my daughters and my sons are very confident in who
they are their bodies because it's hard out here. Social
media has made it extremely difficult for our children. That's
the difference too in the generation my mom my mom
is like she can see the on face. She's a facebooker,
(37:52):
so like Facebook is more like postuff. These are the
this is the family and this is graduation, whereas like
Instagram is instagratation.
Speaker 1 (38:00):
You can buy things, enhance things in the quickness.
Speaker 2 (38:04):
And so it's like we see that being able to
touch both generations. But our younger ones are very much
in the space of just more open, more honest about
who they are. And it's the colors, it's the tex
it's the piercings, it's all these things, and they're the rebels.
Speaker 1 (38:20):
You know what I'm saying. And I'm here to embrace it.
I love it. Express yourself.
Speaker 2 (38:26):
Yeah, you know, now I agree, But I feel she
feels like she has this flitty and responsibility to speak
with wisdom and comfortableness whole you know, like she's always
been like the black representative, Like everybody looks to her,
you know, as an example, as a role model, you
(38:50):
know what I mean. Like she's there is that weight
of generating our kids don't know who that is, Yeah, exactly.
So I mean times are changing, you know, we can
still respect her her views and take something away from it.
But yeah, she's just part of that old school mindset
(39:12):
and there's nothing wrong with that. I think we need
to keep that.
Speaker 1 (39:16):
You know, what else, what else? What else?
Speaker 2 (39:26):
We else? But yeah, you're raising boys. So is there
what if they brought home a girl ash that you know,
just came and had like you know, a little brawlt
on and you know it a little short or something, and.
Speaker 1 (39:42):
You know, if they brought a girl like that to
the crib, you know.
Speaker 2 (39:49):
I feel like I think it depends because right now
I'm very much in control of who they're around. You know,
I'm very much in control of like who their friends
are and everything. So I know that's not always going
to be the case, but I try to, you know,
(40:09):
steer them in a direction of like, these are the
kind of women that you should be interested in.
Speaker 1 (40:16):
And you know, I honestly am.
Speaker 2 (40:19):
I feel like I would be open to arrange marriages me.
Speaker 1 (40:23):
Okay, I'm trying not to go that fart.
Speaker 2 (40:26):
You know, the family, you know this little girl, you
know their background, and we're making agreement with the family, like,
hey you got a daughter, you know what I'm saying,
so all about like right now, I'm just trying to
steer them in the direction of like this is what
you know, what I'm saying, you should be going for us,
But I hold that may not be like realistically, what happens.
(40:50):
So you know, I wouldn't judge the girl, but it's
hard on yours. I'm trying, I swear to God, I'm
trying to be that mom like I don't want to.
Speaker 1 (41:02):
Like I feel like I went through some tough times
with my mother a lot.
Speaker 2 (41:05):
So I'm very much being as conscious and like intentional
about how I treat my future son's interests, love interests
or whatever. But I definitely am trying to do my
part while I can to like steer them in the
direction of where I want them to do.
Speaker 1 (41:22):
Yeah, I feel we have to. That's rearing. They home
somebody and they opposite.
Speaker 2 (41:32):
Maybe possibly, But if they've by home somebody in like
a skimpy outfit, I mean I would I would try
to show them that.
Speaker 1 (41:43):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (41:43):
I would be nice to the girl, but I might
explain to them why this choice may not be the best.
Speaker 1 (41:51):
Is there something wrong with that? You're gonna base it
off clothes? I mean no, I wouldn't be to uphold.
Speaker 2 (42:00):
But if she's like fast and she's wearing them clothes,
then yeah, I'm gonna be like she does. I would
mean too, that's layers. So you're right, Yeah, leave it
up to my daughters. They'd be like we heard, or
we that's not a good one. You know. Mine to
chime in and added little two cents, I don't know.
(42:25):
I like I said, I'm gonna be old school with it.
I want to know who your mama is, who your
daddy is, who your auntie is, where church you go to?
Speaker 1 (42:31):
You know what I'm saying?
Speaker 2 (42:31):
Like what she could say, Well, miss why miss Willer,
you wear it?
Speaker 1 (42:36):
I think you wear like that family history.
Speaker 2 (42:39):
I'm gonna be like, I'm grown and I'm very You're
trying to get.
Speaker 1 (42:45):
To where I'm at, So you know what I mean.
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (42:49):
I feel like she better not say that to me.
I feel like that's disrespectful. You don't talk to a
growing up like that. First of all, I don't like that,
so she already out mm hm. Next I might be bad,
Lord Jesus, I might be bad with them.
Speaker 1 (43:03):
I don't know. We'll see. I'm gonna let y'all know,
but I'm trying not to be. I'm trying not to be.
Speaker 2 (43:10):
Do you think Hollywood has made it hurt on our
young girls, like where they have to wear and just
a little pressure of like instant fast fashion, and oh
my god, I can't imagine being like a young teenage
girl right now. Like when we was in high school,
Like you know, we tried it, like we might change
our shirts, yeah you know.
Speaker 1 (43:33):
But now you gotta have like the thirty inch bus down.
Speaker 2 (43:36):
You gotta have makeup, you gotta have lashes, you gotta
have nails like.
Speaker 1 (43:41):
You gotta have a body. You gotta have a buke exactly.
So listen, listen, y'all. It's not the same.
Speaker 2 (43:50):
When I was in school, I snuck some close to
my backpack that change. It was this little sport with
this low tied up top. My teacher called my mom
so fast. My mom came up there and told my
behind up. I was in third grade.
Speaker 1 (44:03):
She was like, I better than this. I thought.
Speaker 2 (44:06):
I was trying to dress like a lord cheek you're
great relica.
Speaker 1 (44:10):
Oh my god, but I can't dress like that.
Speaker 2 (44:13):
I just I wanted I wanted to. I was trying
to be like one of the little other girls that
I was not the other girl.
Speaker 1 (44:19):
My teacher was not because she was.
Speaker 2 (44:21):
She was like, she was like your mama, I know
I know that, Alix. Your mama raised you better than
this she called my mom. My mom came up there
and told my behind up. Well, it's more than.
Speaker 1 (44:34):
Just the clothes. Now, you gotta have everything.
Speaker 2 (44:37):
You gotta have the designer outfits, the designer bags, the jewelry,
you gotta have the band cleafs and the cardiers. You
gotta have everything now.
Speaker 1 (44:47):
So, I mean.
Speaker 2 (44:51):
Music has done it has a big influence of that,
like the music industry in general. Now I think it's
social media. Yeah, you know, it's going influencing. Yeah, everybody
making it like all these things are so attainable and
you should have this, and you know the social media. Yeah,
(45:16):
we are holding men and are we holding social media?
Do you think we're holding the boys at a different
standard than the females?
Speaker 1 (45:27):
Hmmmm?
Speaker 2 (45:29):
I mean I think I think boys and men have
their own things too, like that they're pressured by and
to do and to attain and all that. But I
think it I think it's probably harder on the girls
just from hearing like my friends dealing with like their
teenage daughters and the things they go through. I think
boys are a little bit more simpler, but they do
(45:51):
have their things. But I think it's mostly like harder
on the girls. I think, you know, boys still want
to be cool, you know. I think there's still like
a lot of bullying and stuff that could happen.
Speaker 1 (46:05):
But I don't know. I feel like it's hard to
be a teenage girl right now.
Speaker 2 (46:10):
I don't like my son. I don't like my son
and the I'm sorry, I didn't mean to cut you off.
I was saying, I don't like my son's in like
hoodies all year round. It'll be hot outside. They an
the scooters with.
Speaker 1 (46:23):
These hoods, the hood down here or.
Speaker 2 (46:26):
The poosh I sys they call it when they have
like the ski mask.
Speaker 1 (46:30):
Oh yeah, my son loves that too. I have to
get on him like not wearing that. Yeah, it's hot outside.
Speaker 2 (46:36):
We're in Miami, and also we're in a Stanley ground state.
Speaker 1 (46:41):
And would you say, is that would you say real?
I think she.
Speaker 2 (46:51):
I think she might have frozen up on us in
the other time zone over there, right, But yeah, you know, so,
I I think I do hold a standard with my
boys a certain way, just for like things like that,
just in the streets and how they cared themselves. I
want to make sure they have eye contact things like that.
I guess that would be the only difference.
Speaker 1 (47:10):
I don't have.
Speaker 2 (47:10):
Oh I worry about them not wearing certain things. Besides that,
are you about to say real? We still can't.
Speaker 1 (47:22):
That's okay, okay, so let's move on.
Speaker 2 (47:27):
I want to talk about Megan Good and Jonathan Major.
Speaker 1 (47:33):
I to not and our officially married are Yeah. So
I mean, I feel like all of this happened pretty fast.
Speaker 2 (47:43):
Like it was like when we found out they were together,
we were like, oh, okay, interesting because he was going
through the whole legal battles with the white Lady and everything,
and it was a whole thing, and he lost all
of his deals he had, like movies coming out and
he major like meals that got taken from him, and
(48:03):
it was a whole thing. And Megan Major she's not
megabig well she is Megan Majors now Good hista, Yeah.
She was right by his side through it all, and
who was all kind of like cine eying it like
this is cute, but it's also weird, right, you know,
(48:25):
like people were questioning, like, you know why because he
had said some weird things, like their whole relationship was
kind of like under scrutiny. Then they got engaged all
of a sudden and now they're married. Yeah, So he
was recently doing some interviews and said that because she
decided to stand by his side through all of his
(48:47):
legal troubles, that she lost a lot of endorsements. And well,
let's talk about that. I mean, how how do you
feel about, you know, potentially potentially intentionally potentially, you know,
messing up like some business deals that you have gone through.
Speaker 1 (49:09):
For somebody, like for a love interests?
Speaker 2 (49:12):
Like how far would you go standing by somebody's side?
Do you agree that she should have been there through
it all? Or should she have waited till he was
done with all his legal issues? Should they have kept
their relationship private until all of that was done?
Speaker 1 (49:28):
Like what do y'all think about that?
Speaker 2 (49:33):
I would have kept the relationship provident until it was
all done, especially with the situation.
Speaker 1 (49:41):
Megan is Megan? Megan is that girl.
Speaker 2 (49:43):
So I feel like, you know, now that they're married,
people go through things, people have done things, and people
rebound from them. And she chose love for money, and
I feel like it's it's it's a genuine relationship and
(50:03):
it's only up from here for them. I look at
it like this, I mean, you can't help when you fall. Yes,
you can't help when you fall in love with somebody.
I mean, whether it was fast or not, I don't know.
They should have definitely kept their relationship private. But at
the same time, she was supporting him, showing up to trial,
(50:25):
you know, right there, just supporting him and being vocal
about it.
Speaker 1 (50:28):
And that's what a wife is essentially.
Speaker 2 (50:30):
It's through sickness and health richer for poor to death
do us part. So she's definitely obviously has made an
influence on him and got him through a difficult time.
Speaker 1 (50:40):
And it's somebody you.
Speaker 2 (50:42):
Know that you want to invest your time in and
your last name in, and really being having the union
of a marriage. They went through such a just a
like a turbulent time early and that probably is what
made him more attracted her and ready to like lock
it down just because he was like, yo, she stood
by me when I was at the lowest. And that's
(51:03):
the testament to her too, of the fact that she
is willing.
Speaker 1 (51:06):
To bring this man up, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (51:09):
So like, I'm sure that was the ultimate for both
of them, to be like, you know what, I got
your back. I'm doing these things more than a friend,
you know what. I mean, and then so we built
this foundation. It definitely was a little tough, but we
went through it, we got through it, and here we are.
Speaker 1 (51:25):
So I mean, I think it's.
Speaker 2 (51:27):
Beautiful, you know, and it's a definitely, definitely definite, like
a weird way. But at the same time, I get
it as far as you know, you just take your
love with the good and the bad and the ugly.
But about messing up the coins, it's tough though, you
know what I mean, But should get it back, I
would say, I would say, you know, I really feel
(51:49):
like their relationship has been so public from the start,
and I feel like it was a little unnecessary. I
just think that he was going through so much, you know,
in the public.
Speaker 1 (52:08):
Like I don't know, I feel like I wouldn't have come.
Speaker 2 (52:13):
Out in public with him, Like I feel like they
could have accept it private. Yeah, I feel like I
would have kept it private because I just don't understand
why they needed to go public. Like their relationship moved
really really fast, and so to me, it's like he's
(52:33):
clinging on to her in a time that he really needs.
Speaker 1 (52:36):
Somebody to cling on to.
Speaker 2 (52:40):
Yeah, And I'm not saying like their relationship isn't real
or nothing like that, but it's just clouded by so much,
you know, and everybody's just I don't know. I just
feel like I would want our love to not be
overshadowed by all the other things that he had gone on,
and then on top of that, to like lose business
(53:03):
endorsements and deals and stuff like that. On top of that,
to me, it just doesn't make sense. Like I feel
like we have to be smart, Like, yes, we can be.
Speaker 1 (53:11):
In love, you know what I mean, but.
Speaker 2 (53:13):
Like we should still be smart about what we're doing
and who we're attaching ourselves to publicly, Like like you said, Shrah,
like she's that girl, like she's.
Speaker 1 (53:22):
Making good, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (53:23):
Like I just don't understand why you would attach yourself
to him so publicly so fast.
Speaker 1 (53:32):
You just don't understand it.
Speaker 2 (53:34):
But I wish them well, you know, I think there
are beautiful couple. But yeah, I just I just I
don't really understand that part of it. Like they could
have just quietly been dating this whole time, and then
once we forgot about all that he did and said
and because legal troubles, they could have came out and
(53:57):
started dating and blah blah, blah blah blah. But that's
the book to them, you know, it is what it is.
Congrats to the newly led. Hopefully we'll see a little baby,
you know, maybe.
Speaker 1 (54:11):
Soon. So yeah, so okay, now I want to talk
about well, well, you know, I.
Speaker 2 (54:19):
Think we have a for a humble batty's mail. Actually,
I don't mean to cut you off though. What you're thinking?
You want to have one more topic and then we
have humble batties with younger tie are grateful?
Speaker 1 (54:29):
Do you want to do humble batties? Go ahead, I got.
Speaker 2 (54:35):
It, all right, I'll read it then, all right, all right,
This is from an anonymous batty out in Jacksonville, Florida. Okay, Jacksonville, Hey, ladies,
So I have my eyes on.
Speaker 1 (54:50):
This guy, and let me tell you he's the whole package.
Speaker 2 (54:55):
He's smart, loves God, and he's giving full on sex
the vibes.
Speaker 1 (55:02):
I first routed him on Hinge, but lost his profile.
Speaker 2 (55:07):
However, I did some digging and found him on Instagram.
Now here's the question. Should I slide into his d MS?
And if yes, what should I say without sounding too desperate?
What's the move?
Speaker 1 (55:26):
At ease? Please help? Anonymous? Well, Charrelle is the queen
of sliding in. So well did you hear? Did you
hear a little bit? It's serving so ghetto over here.
Speaker 2 (55:41):
Well, long story short, we have an anonymous from Jacksonville.
Speaker 1 (55:44):
If she saw this guy but they lost.
Speaker 2 (55:48):
She doesn't have his contact, so she's found on Instagram
and slid in the dms.
Speaker 1 (55:52):
What should she do or say so she doesn't sound
so desperate? What's the move?
Speaker 2 (56:01):
Hat big kid, that's the funny hat, big cad or
just la like no pick Chris out there, or just
be professional or say you know, hey, how have you been?
Oh my goodness, I haven't seen you in fred I'll
have you been? And either he gonna respond or he gang?
Speaker 1 (56:21):
So shoot your shot? Yeah, shoot your shot? Is that
what you said? You shot? People got you out of
the waiting for a man? Shoot your shot? Yeah? I mean, girl,
(56:42):
you may't did that yet.
Speaker 2 (56:44):
Like, come on, if you want Higgins, you gotta be
sighted in people's dms. Like I feel like you do
that first before you get on hinge. Yes, because it's
right there in front of you. You know it's in
your hand. Compared to Hinge. You gotta answer some questions
and load of profile. Instagram is already there, so I mean,
what a Hinge. It's like it's like a dating service,
(57:09):
dating app, I'm sorry, like a social dating app. Okay, yeah,
Hinge like a Hinge, like connect hinge bring it together?
Speaker 1 (57:24):
Well, is it free or do you have to pay?
For sure?
Speaker 2 (57:28):
I'm sure there's packages and like levels to it, like
VI I P or some I have no clue.
Speaker 1 (57:33):
I can only speak for like RAYA or things like that.
Speaker 2 (57:36):
I'm not familiar with Hinge, but you can connect on
their you know what I mean. But it's definitely I
feel like Instagram is your number one way of connecting.
Speaker 1 (57:46):
You know.
Speaker 2 (57:46):
I might be wrong on those stats. I'm not sure,
but it's super easy. You have an advertisement, you see
the profile, you got a little information on them, and
if you ran into them somewhere in public like public,
you can low key that was just like your your
first initial. Now you can be in the comfort of
your home and go and hit him.
Speaker 1 (58:04):
Sliding the dms like like real, did you know what
I mean? It's going down and.
Speaker 2 (58:12):
Ms sliding them bed dms can get you in trouble.
I mean, you never know. There's lessons in life. There's
lessons and loves.
Speaker 1 (58:23):
That's true. That's true. Well ahead, that's sliding them dms
and see how they mean. That's right.
Speaker 2 (58:29):
I think you shouldn't be like, hey, I saw you
here and here and here. Connect the dots and then
you know, hopefully he can backtrack of his memory and
y'all can lock in. So good luck to you, Anonymous
from Jacksonville. Well, speaking of sliding in and in messaging
and all that kind of stuff, y'all can message us
(58:50):
for some more humble body mail at contact at humblebaddies
dot com. And we are here for all of your tea,
your questions, your concerns, some shout outs or whatever.
Speaker 1 (59:03):
And you know, I think we want to wrap it up, ladies.
Huh there you don't over there?
Speaker 2 (59:08):
Yes, so much for tuning in. Thanks Charille for joining
us all the way.
Speaker 1 (59:14):
From the mothers in. All right, until next time, we're
signing out. Love you guys, Frank your care
Like get in my way, never out of my name.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
It's been like you one and the more one, so
is gonna be Baby Squad.
Speaker 1 (00:08):
Welcome back, Baddy.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
We are back here for another episode of the Humble
Baddies Podcast. And what do we have some tea for you? Yes?
I am Ashley Nicole, a less startle mere and I'm
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Okay, mother lady, well at least you here in present.
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Speaker 1 (01:43):
Yeah, which not going on leg.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
Well, today I did my annual ommmogram less Ladies of Age.
Unless you know breast cancer or anything like that runs
into your family, then you go sooner.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
But I had to go and get that done and
taken care of.
Speaker 2 (01:59):
And it is so uncomfortable when I tell you, like
to have.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Yourself in the machine.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
You have to be still and they take your breast
and squeeze it with like like literally squeeze it. Two
pieces of machine come down and squeeze your breast so
they can get the breast testue. I mean, we have
to do it once a year, but it's super uncomfortable
and doesn't feel good. So I'm just like, what's going on,
(02:25):
you know, But it's something that has to happen. So
in this Women's month, that's a good take care of yourself.
It's a good thing that you're doing that, Like.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
Thank you, thank you.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
And thankfully breast cancer doesn't run in my family, so
it's still precautionary. But at the same time, I need
to know what's going on with my body, so have
to stay on top of it once a year, and
you just put.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
It in my mind. I need to schedule all my
doctor's appointments.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
I'm a little behind because I've been traveling and doing
the most, but I need to schedule my appointment. So
thank you for about your mind. Yeah, I gotta skepule
my dadness. Yes, every six months. All right, y'all, So
let's begin to the tea.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
I'm ready live into it.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
First of all, have y'all seen this whole interview with
Young Miami and Shannon Sharp?
Speaker 1 (03:15):
Yes. First of all, I loved the whole interview.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
I thought she's so entertaining, and I don't.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
Know the question she was asking was like so one point.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
But the one thing that's really got the Internet in
the frenzy is she basically said that she would allow,
you know, her guide, whoever she's in a relationship with,
he has four chances to cheat, so she wouldn't leave
he cheated one time, two times, three times, she would say,
and not till the fourth time was she'd be like,
all right, I'm done. So a lot of people are like, okay,
(03:51):
that's real, Like cause you know, men gonna do what
they do, So like, why would I leave a good
man he runs out, makes a mistake or whatever.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
But a lot of people are like, nah, like that's crazy.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
Why would you like out loud say that like four
times is a lot to let me and disrespect you
like that.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
So what's y'all take on that? Well, first of all,
how old is I don't?
Speaker 2 (04:13):
I don't.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
I don't count the times.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
I mean, you know there are situations, you know, there's
temptation out there, but I look at how you.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
Move just I'm not counting the times.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
If you make your mistakes, it has to be to
a point where I'm just fed up and enough is enough.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
Like I'm not, you're not counting.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
If there's no number too resationship with someone and you know,
things happen, I'm not going to count. Oh you cheated
one time, you cheated two times, you cheated three times.
It's it's basically the respect and how you mo Like
if you just out here moving reckless and just cheating
in it, it's just known and it's just embarrassing and
it comes back to me, then that's a different story.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
But me counting to get out of a relationship, No,
I'm not. I'm not. That's just my opinion. I'm not counting.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
So it depends on how he moved. So say he
was cheating in peace and quiet. Nobody knew but you
that it's different.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
We'll talk about it, we'll speak on it.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
It's just cheating is not going to be the main
reason of why I why that's a relationship.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
But other people know about it. It's not about it.
It's not just about the cheating. Like, cheating is not
my main deal breaker.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
Cheating is not gonna be my my deal breaker in
a relationship. It has to be a little bit more
than just cheating and how you move and how the
relationship is. It's not just going to be cheated, Okay.
I think for me, it's like when I was younger,
I was tolerate more just because I was learning myself.
I was a little like not confident in how I'm
(06:05):
moving or feel like I was going to lose out
on this person or let me just ben to their rules.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
So like I feel like.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Now being older, I look at the cheating as disrespectful, habitual, distracting.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
Like very behavioral and very much of your character.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
So like depends on like of the intention of where
we're going and want to take this relationship. If we
both have this open dialogue, of this open dialogue of
just really like, what are your boundaries, what are your insecurities,
what are your deal breakers? That's what I'm set on,
and I know now going forward in these relationships that
I don't want that. I don't want to feel like
(06:44):
I have to be looking through your stuff. I don't
want to feel like I need to be hearing on
the word on the street, just all these things. I
want to be set in that situation where I'm not
even thinking about that. We should be thinking about what
we're investing in, what else are we doing, what's our
next date night, what vacation we're going on.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
You know, it's not really supposed to be about the cheating,
but you can think about it.
Speaker 2 (07:06):
You can think about that, and still somebody can still
just I mean they just go out and cheat, they
go out and have Like again, people look at at
relationships like it's so perfect. Like people can say, oh,
I couldn't do that, I wouldn't do that. Meanwhile, your
man out here having a whole other relationship, you know,
scoring off on yeah, everybody else, and you don't know it.
(07:27):
You think you have a perfect relationship. So, like you said,
you're not going to focus on cheating. That's why I
say this, it's not a number. It takes more to
end a long term relationship, especially if someone that you're
in love with. It takes more than just cheating. I
just say, what if the boundaries are but if you
go I feel like for Young Miami to make this
(07:48):
statement like four times, like I'm allowing it four times,
I feel like that means you're going into a relationship
and you're putting it out there that cheating is okay as.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
Long as you only do it three times because before time,
I'm done.
Speaker 2 (08:03):
So I just feel like that's a very like interesting
take on relationships in general, because I feel like you
get into relationships because you want to commit to somebody fully,
Like you want to commit to them in a way
where they're not dealing with anybody else, like sexually, emotionally, whatever.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
So once you make that commitment, if.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
You're going into it saying okay, well I know they
probably gonna cheat, but they only got this many times
before you know, I'll stay, like before I leave, I
feel like you're setting yourself up to have a relationship failed.
Yeah you know, And it's like saying, like you don't
deserve a relationship where you won't be cheated on where
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the other person can't commit to you, like you don't
believe that you can attain that relationship like that, it's
not real, like you think monogamy doesn't it doesn't exist. Basically,
It's like you're setting yourself up already, you know, especially
if you're putting it out there. You went on this
(09:08):
big platform with Shannon and Sharp and you told the
world that I'm going to stay with a man until
he cheats on me for the fourth time. So it's like,
I'm sure she has a lot of men who are
interested in her, so now they hear this and they're like, okay, cool,
like that I can get with her and I can
do whatever I want. I just make sure she don't
find out four times, like you know what I mean.
Like it's just even though it's like we all go
(09:30):
into a relationship, we all want the same thing. We
all want to be able to trust in somebody. We
all want it like and I mean I'm not saying
like it's like I don't want to sound like naive
or like a hopeless romantic or whatever, but I feel
like we should still like for our own sanity and
like as women in our respect, like we shouldn't go
(09:53):
into relationships saying stuff like this, like we should believe
that we can be with somebody who's gonna respect us,
and you know, but things happen, like you said, Chiel,
like you know, people make mistakes, and I understand, like she,
they may not be like the end all be off
for people, you know what I mean, But I feel
like we still as women that then should have a
(10:14):
standard and are a gracious and if you don't want that,
then don't be in a relationship. And if you feel
like you don't deserve that, then that's a whole another thing,
and the whole like we need to go to therapy
and we need to you know what I'm saying, Like
it's a whole thing.
Speaker 1 (10:30):
I feel like it's a self love thing.
Speaker 2 (10:31):
Like I would never put that into the universe, like
I will be with a man. I just wouldn't put
that energy into the universe. Like of course, I don't
think like cheating is like the end all be all,
but like I'm not going to sit there and be like,
well he got this many times, I just feel like
that's just not the energy you should put out into
(10:52):
the world.
Speaker 1 (10:52):
That's not what you want for yourself so white and.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
Say that you know, it's to each their own and
what they can tolerate, what they want to deal with,
to how what their relationship looks like. I mean, for
me being married, being divorced, being cheated on, being whatever
the case may be, I am not tolerating it in
my situation. If I'm being intentional with you, I'm setting
those boundaries, those values, those those railings up a sap
(11:18):
like this is what I'm not tolerating because I've healed
through that already. I know where the flags are and
especially I'm just not gonna I'm not tolerating it.
Speaker 1 (11:30):
But you feel like you can find a man that's
just going to be fully faithful.
Speaker 2 (11:33):
Yeah, And going back to what accident says put that
out there, Why would I want to say I want
a portion of a man. I want a portion of
a part of a man. But it's just expectations like
I just feel like.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
I want people to live in I want them to
live in that job. People live in their truth. But
no one is perfect and dudes are going to have been.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
But what you just you so basically, if you find
out a man cheated on you, you're done. Absolutely it's
not for me, So Cheril, you don't feel like you're
being realistic if you go out into this world as
a single woman looking for a man who can commit
(12:22):
to you and you only like you feel like that's
not being realistic.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
It's not.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
I'm just being honest. It's not why super bar so,
it's not setting the barlow. It's realist, it's real. It's
majority then who wants the same things like you just
and those men. Name my man, that's that's that has
(12:51):
been straight up faithful. Name one I'll wait that has
never cheated that. No, I don't know that.
Speaker 1 (13:00):
I don't know. I can't todate man. That's not what
we're talking about, but what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (13:04):
But I do think it's realistic to want something from
somebody and.
Speaker 1 (13:12):
To other people. But the question that I asked the lexus.
Speaker 2 (13:15):
I asked the lexus was could she find a man
that will be faithful to her fully? And if he
did slip out, she's done completely. And she said she's
done completely. So basically, if if he cheats one time,
whether it's physically or emotionally, she's out. Because this man
is gonna spend time with me. He's gonna be intentional.
(13:37):
He's gonna be sent from God, and I know for
a fact he's gonna know where my heart is and
know where my mind is. And it's a lot going
on over here, you know, Like don't you know we're
penetrating souls and so once you start intertwining all that
putting my health in jeopardy, my mental health in jeopardy.
I just know this person, whoever my person is, is
(13:59):
gonna know who I am I am and know that
is the non negotiable for me because I've healed my
way through that.
Speaker 1 (14:04):
That is a that was a dark spot in my life.
So it's triggering, you know.
Speaker 2 (14:08):
So how dare that person that I'm spending time with,
that I'm building with, that I'm like want a relationship
with that I'm loving on, that I'm being romantic with.
How dare them disrespect me with one of my non
negotiables that's not my person. I feel like, especially at
our age, if you looking for somebody who wants the
same things that you want, you're putting those intentions out there.
(14:32):
I feel like there's less of a maybe less of
a chance, you know what I mean that it could happen,
But if you're going into a situation saying I know
are a man cheat, You're probably gonna end up going,
oh yeah, those are your intentions, Those are the vibes
that are creating your situation.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
In your relationship, question my thing? That right?
Speaker 2 (14:56):
My thing is not what I'm trying to get at.
What the lexis is people make mistakes. Sure her thing
was her biggest boundary. If you cheat on me, I'm
done completely. What I'm saying is people do make mistakes. No,
you don't go into a relationships saying that all men
cheat or all women cheat. No, because you're basically putting
it into existence that it happens. What I'm saying is
(15:17):
no one is perfect, and nine times out of ten,
most relationships they look for just one hundred percent like faithful.
But things happen to people, and there's some way in relationships.
The biggest thing is cheating is not the downfall in
my relationship. It takes more because things are gonna happen.
(15:37):
But I would not just end a relationship just because
you cheated. It's just more so. My question to Alexis was,
so you're non negotiable basically if he cheated on you
one time, someone that you are in loved lo he
cheated on you one time, if you're completely done, Yes,
that's not my story. I'm not agreeing with Caresha or anything.
(15:58):
That's not my portion. That's what my destiny, that's not
in my spirit.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
I'm not a cheater.
Speaker 2 (16:05):
I know that you're for it. No, it's not. It's
not an option for me. I'd rather have open dialogue
and let me decide what I'm gonna do with it.
Don't go behind my back, don't be doing the sneaky stuff.
If we locked in, we have this dialogue of what
it is that you are trying to do with me.
Alexis you know, y'all know my stance on even having
(16:26):
multiple relationships like polyamors.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
It's not for me.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
I watch someone and I know I'm gonna have someone
that's locked in with me fully now, it's just not
it's just not it's no negotiable. Like, do you all
think that emotional cheating is different than physical cheating? Yeah,
I definitely think it's different, but I think they're both wrong.
(16:55):
I feel like women tend to do like it's worse.
Speaker 1 (17:01):
I'm gonna say.
Speaker 2 (17:02):
I think physical cheating though, So it's like, yeah, if
you're if somebody, if if somebody is interested in somebody
else emotionally, like physically, they're especially for a woman because
once you get their heart in their mind, like their
body is going to follow.
Speaker 1 (17:19):
Right. So I don't feel like men can you know,
go have.
Speaker 2 (17:23):
A one off with somebody and like they don't think
about them, call them or anything after that. So yeah,
I would probably say emotional is worse, like you real said,
But yeah, what if you found out that your friends
man was cheating, would you tell your friend or would
(17:45):
you keep it to yourself? Well, we need to establish
what a friend is first of them? What type of
a friend is? Okay, this is a friend. Y'all aren't
the best of friends, but y'all, you know, y'all are
social friends. You go to dinner, you had some private
conversations before. That's none of my bussiness. I'm staying out
(18:06):
of it. Okay, what about you? Like, Oh, that's a
tough one. I feel like if we have a better
relationship friendship, then I need to say something, especially if
I broke bread with this couple, especially if I've had
you know, dialogue and we're in the same room of
just a few people I'm gonna have to say something,
especially because if I'm out and to see something inappropriate,
(18:28):
again being someone that has been married, and again with
my cheating tolerance and all this thing, I just will
feel some kind of way holding that in and we'll
take the repercussions.
Speaker 1 (18:40):
Nine times out of ten, women do go back to whoever.
Speaker 2 (18:43):
You know what I mean. So then the friend is
always the one that's asked out, so low key. If
it's not, if it's not a friend that I would
risk losing, then you know, I'll just say it, you
know what I mean. But if there's somebody that's like
my sister, I got to say something because it's violated.
Speaker 1 (18:58):
Price got to.
Speaker 2 (19:06):
If it's a best a close friend, I'm definitely saying something.
But if there's someone that's a social friend, I'm not
saying anything because I don't know what the situation is.
I don't know if they have an open relationship. I
don't know if if this person's aren't just you know,
they have a private breakup and you know we don't
know about it, so I stay out. If you're not
close to me, I'm not in your business. That's just
(19:28):
what it is. Because it's just it's too much confusing
and draw ma maad like I don't see you in
my my business and drink my water. I have definitely
seen some people's husbands out in these Miami streets, okay,
say something.
Speaker 1 (19:44):
No no, no, no no no. I am not getting
into that.
Speaker 2 (19:48):
And it wasn't like a close friend of mine, so
I didn't feel obligated at all, but I did want
to run up on him, like I see you like
I see you do you know, like we and see you,
but you for a pull up, Like I'm okay with
that little.
Speaker 1 (20:06):
I'm definitely gonna.
Speaker 2 (20:07):
Make the situation very And I just feel like if
I see you outside, you know, it's like, if you're
that bold to be outside with another woman, I feel like.
Speaker 1 (20:18):
Friend girls, she probably know, like she probably knows something,
you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (20:23):
If you have the audacity to be outside like in
our hometown with another lady, she know already.
Speaker 1 (20:30):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (20:31):
So I definitely would I wouldn't say anything, but yeah,
that is a tough situation too. Like y'all said, it
depends on the situation how close you are with that person,
because like like she said, nine times out of ten
that person is going back to them and they're.
Speaker 1 (20:48):
Like, you don't know what they could say.
Speaker 2 (20:49):
Man, theyn that you done got yourself caught up in
the mix.
Speaker 1 (20:56):
That's a close friend. Baby, I'm gonna have proof.
Speaker 2 (20:58):
Maybe y'all record, take pictures, do my little research.
Speaker 1 (21:02):
Girl, so that video record, then send a drink over.
Speaker 2 (21:05):
I gotta have the bro because because you know they're
gonna lie, So you gotta have the like, uh, you
gotta take video everything. You got to have the want
the detective work. Yeah, no, I'm letting somebody know. I
have to especially that if that's my girl, we gotta
we gotta have a discussion, you know, yes, yes, Okay, Well.
Speaker 1 (21:30):
Next topic.
Speaker 2 (21:33):
So we recently saw Lebron and Zuri hanging out together
going on a date night, and there was also Future
that was singing at his daughter's sweet sixteen.
Speaker 1 (21:47):
So, what do you guys think about like this?
Speaker 2 (21:49):
Just I think we just want to like really acknowledge
our humble daddies, daddies you know, just in general of
just like how our black men and just men in
general stepping up and just really like being a force
for their families. What do you guys I'm gonna add
one more toys because we didn't have shout out to Chad,
(22:10):
like Chad did something and you know what, that's why
you mind, That's why you my daughter. He took on
girls on a trip just daddy and daughter time. Love
that and I just just loved it. All his daughters,
they went to Dominican Republic, spent time with them, took
him on excursions like the whole nine Yards, Like he
really had the photographer there.
Speaker 1 (22:30):
I found a little chealleice.
Speaker 2 (22:32):
I was like, oh that little so much because I
was you know, I was like, okay, I see like
they were so beautiful. They was dressed alike, he had
the photographer. He just made them feel like queens.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
So he was set.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
I love a father that just set the standard. So
shout out to all the Ruddy's out there. Yes I
agree with that. Yes, kudos to Chad, like he is
a girl's dad. Like I saw him out there post
with the girls, super cute, super severe. I saw futures
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daughters sweet sixteen.
Speaker 1 (23:07):
It was like a little mini rolling loud. He had
all the Yeah Travis next red Red, I think he performs.
Speaker 2 (23:19):
I was like, okut it like it was lit it
looked like she had the best time. So the daddies
are showing Yeah, it's necessary, you know, we need help
guys where it's necessary. Takes two to have these babies
in the first place. And so it's actually been beneficial
for me to really, like, like since I had my
(23:39):
call speaking of my kids are with their dad right
now for spring and breaks, so I have I can
do way more work at home, I can do whatever
I need to do to, I can travel, I can
move around. So it really is given me a break
low key, because we need that, we need to like
recalibrate our minds and our and our spirits and our
energy and so like, he has been helpful that he
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takes that on. And so it's like shout out to
you know, blended families too, because it definitely takes a village.
And that's what I was I was gonna get into.
I was, I ain't mean to cut you off. The lypsis.
How would y'all feel if, Okay, some a fatherlike future
he has how many kids? That's a good question, maybe
(24:26):
say like maybe or seven, I don't know. You have
you have some fathers that go above and beyond for
some kids and then some of the kids they just
don't do anything.
Speaker 1 (24:37):
You mean, like in families they're just in general, and the.
Speaker 2 (24:41):
Blended families like that, Okay, they have like several baby mamas,
and Okay, for.
Speaker 1 (24:45):
This child, I'm gonna do all I'm gonna go all out.
Speaker 2 (24:48):
But it's very hard this child because I hate that
baby mama. I'm not even in that child's life. That's
a turnoff for me, Like in this day of like
you know, in this day he had, in this day
of just dating. If I see that you're not talking
about your children and I know you have them, like
if you're not involved, if you're not trying to schedule
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things and really be mindful of these children, then it's
just turned off for me.
Speaker 1 (25:12):
I'm like, what's going on. That's not attractive.
Speaker 2 (25:15):
That means you have no time management, That means you
have no like regard to your blood walking on earth.
So it's an immediate red flag for me. If you
are you, you have children, and you're not talking about it,
like I want to get to know you. I want
to know who you are. Like if you have little
people walking around this earth, how involved are you? You know,
the more involved, the sexier that shit is like you know,
(25:37):
so I mama see that that you try to stoo continent,
(26:02):
not the time zone. No, No, what I was saying
is it just you can't take it out on the child.
Speaker 1 (26:10):
That's that's what I don't like, Like you.
Speaker 2 (26:13):
Knew what you was doing when you were doing what
you was doing, and then now that you know they
kept the baby, now that that child is coming into
this world without a father figure, and you're treating the
child wrong.
Speaker 1 (26:26):
Yeah, the the yes, right, yeah.
Speaker 2 (26:34):
And I feel like we see this a lot, honestly,
and it's very very unfortunate to see it. And I
feel like it's you know, always it's a big, big difference.
Speaker 1 (26:48):
It's not like some kids and it's mainly our people.
Speaker 2 (26:51):
It's unfortunate, like we see like them doing the grandest
things for some kid and then some kids getting nothing
Like It's it's.
Speaker 1 (27:00):
Crazy, and I wonder, like you know how that.
Speaker 2 (27:03):
Ultimately like like affects the children, you know what I mean,
they feel like, you know, they're less than the other kids.
Speaker 1 (27:12):
Like I'm sure like you know that's going to do
some damage some long term.
Speaker 2 (27:18):
That's it's heavy and you want to be open and
have that you just want to be open and have
that dialogue for sure about who you raising, who you're
not raising. You know, it's all rooted and stimulated from
just how you were raised too, So it's it's crucial
when you're legacy building and shout out to the future.
Speaker 1 (27:36):
My bad he has four kids. Thank you for our
check on that.
Speaker 2 (27:39):
You know, I did put him out there. I guess
the fact checking is it's for so right.
Speaker 1 (27:48):
Is that right.
Speaker 2 (27:53):
Now?
Speaker 1 (27:53):
I think, Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (27:55):
I don't know about that fact chick. Yeah, that's that's fine.
We don't have to check out.
Speaker 1 (28:02):
But but shout.
Speaker 2 (28:03):
Out to all the others out here representing because we
definitely need to see more of that. Shout out to
Big Feel he's always holding it down hate me, so
it could be doing the Humble Baddies podcast. He's, you know,
taking care of the kids right now, So shout out
to you boo. Do you all think with parents, do
(28:27):
you think you it's different raising boys, Ash compared to
like us, Cherrelle.
Speaker 1 (28:32):
You and I we have we have boys and girls.
Speaker 2 (28:35):
So do you think like it's a difference of influence
with the father raising boys compared to like raising the
girls in general?
Speaker 1 (28:42):
Ash like, what do you think. I'm just curious. Is
it a difference?
Speaker 2 (28:48):
What?
Speaker 1 (28:48):
Like, what's the question?
Speaker 2 (28:53):
I just feel like I just feel like as far
as what fathers them more.
Speaker 1 (29:02):
And more linging on their girls than the boys.
Speaker 2 (29:06):
The boys, they are gonna be hard, They're gonna break,
you know, they have that's that soft spot.
Speaker 1 (29:12):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (29:13):
I feel like, you know, I am a girl's dad. No,
I'm a daddy's girl. I am a daddy girl. And
my dad was very strict on me, like he he
did not play, but I was still a daddy's girl
even up until like I was grown.
Speaker 1 (29:34):
Like, my dad was very strict on me.
Speaker 2 (29:36):
You know, like when I got pregnant, he stopped talking
to me for a month or two, you know, because
we weren't married yet.
Speaker 1 (29:44):
The same thing.
Speaker 2 (29:45):
Yeah, he had these expectations of me, you know what
I'm saying. So, but I do feel like having that
strong father's presence in my life really did shape the
woman that I am today. And it shaped like, you know,
my preference in men. So and then now that I'm
(30:06):
a boy's mom, and you know, my husband is very
hands on what my children, I can see, you know
how his presence him being, you know, because a lot
of people, you know, they have their fathers around or
their husband's around helping with their children or whatever, but
they're just kind of there. They're not really like fully present,
(30:26):
Like the mom is very much like the default parent
or whatever they call it.
Speaker 1 (30:31):
But like Phil is very very.
Speaker 2 (30:33):
Hands on, and I can and I can see how
kid's presence in their life is, you know, shaping them
into the young men that they are.
Speaker 1 (30:41):
So I do think like having a man, a man
in the.
Speaker 2 (30:45):
Household absolutely like makes a difference in like raising your children.
And I know it personally from you know, being raised
by a two parent household and now raising my own
children and a two parent household. But when it comes
to like, you know, the difference between raisin boys and girls,
(31:06):
all I got is boys right now. And thank god
y'all because I just feel like I wouldn't know what
to do, how where to start and raising a little.
Speaker 1 (31:12):
Girl, and y'all are doing it amazing.
Speaker 2 (31:15):
Like y'all daughters are beautiful, they're so smart, they're so respectful.
You know, they're everything that I would want a daughter
to be.
Speaker 1 (31:24):
Because in this crazy.
Speaker 2 (31:26):
World that we're living in right now, and all these
outside influences, Like, I just don't know how I would,
you know, maneuver and do everything. So kudos to y'all
because y'all are the best moms.
Speaker 1 (31:40):
Y'all.
Speaker 2 (31:40):
Children are amazing, and y'all don't always have somebody else
to help you and support you in the way that
you need, you know, the typical way, you know, So
y'all are killing it. So y'all tell me, y'all, I
would have to get get notes from y'all on how
it is raising young women these It's definitely not easy,
(32:03):
but this I feel like, look, would you say feel
and Fox raising Serenity.
Speaker 1 (32:17):
I know it's a cute thing.
Speaker 2 (32:19):
It is so cute when Serenity comes over. The boys
absolutely into different little boys. I'm like, oh, y'all do
know how to be gentle?
Speaker 1 (32:27):
Oh, I'll be giving her.
Speaker 2 (32:31):
They've be giving her a hand, like Mom, we want
a sister. They're like, let's do some practice. They can't
hand all they want. But it's not happening over here. Okay,
honey is locked up, Okay, playing them game. Yeah, the
baby making factory is shut down over here. Okay, absolutely not.
(32:56):
So y'all bring your daughters over. So we can get
our little daughter time in because that's all we're gonna
get that.
Speaker 1 (33:04):
I I love it, I love it. I love it.
Speaker 2 (33:08):
Well, speaking of darters, did you see where Felicia Rashad
was on the Breakfast Club and you see that.
Speaker 1 (33:16):
They were I said, that was a great interview, Yes
it was.
Speaker 2 (33:22):
Did you see where she was talking about how there's
an influx of how there's a nudity with our young
queens and.
Speaker 1 (33:31):
The influence on Hollywood.
Speaker 2 (33:33):
So, since we're talking about the ladies and growing them
up in a certain kind of way, what are you guys'
thoughts on that? You know, I feel like she's like
the auntie, Like not even the auntie. I feel like
she's grandma, honestly, not saying because she oh, but like
she still has that old school like mentality, old school
(33:54):
like upbreaking that's kind of like we don't get that
as much anymore, but she's like one of the last
few left that's like here and what we listen to
and we respect and reappreciate. And so I think she's
just coming from like that old school style of like
we should be covered and we should you know, there's
a certain way that a lady acts and talks, and
(34:16):
you know there's something that we all can like take
from that because we're slowly like getting away from all
of that. And you know, I myself, you know, I
like to be naked most of the time when I
go out, like my face and you know what I'm saying.
I like to show a little ADS and tds here,
and are you saying you know, I only like pushing
(34:39):
the limits with my outfits, you know what I'm saying.
But I feel like that part of me is coming
from a like woman empowerment.
Speaker 1 (34:49):
So I feel like maybe she might be old school
in her thinking.
Speaker 2 (34:53):
You know, I feel like now women feel you know,
powerful and strong and confident enough to come out and
wear whatever they want to wear. And Noah doesn't mean
like we're out here having sex with everybody.
Speaker 1 (35:05):
It's just we're confident in who we are.
Speaker 2 (35:07):
We like how you know, we look, We love our bodies,
and we're confident in it. So I think there's truth
and a lot of wisdom and what she was speaking on.
But I also think, you know, we're in a new
day and age, and we're taking control of our bodies
and our choices. And you know, I don't think there's
(35:29):
anything that's true, Ashley, I'm with you on that. I
feel like there's a there's a point where strong you
can you can still be sexy, show some skin and
be classy with it.
Speaker 1 (35:47):
But then there's there's.
Speaker 3 (35:49):
That point when you get to bianka Kanye White's uh,
Kanye whatever his name, Kanye's wife, Like, I would never
go to that line, but to show.
Speaker 1 (36:00):
Skin, show legs.
Speaker 2 (36:01):
I like showing, you know, my body, my curves and everything,
but still in a respectful way.
Speaker 1 (36:07):
There's lefts to it. Yeah, I agree, you.
Speaker 2 (36:12):
Know, I tell my children and really my daughters specifically,
because they show their bodies more often obviously than the
boys do. But I feel like, you know, we're in
the age of female empowerment, self love, self empowerment, improvement, health, journeys,
whatever it is to make you confident, and so I
(36:32):
feel like their generation is very old school and very
much set in their ways, and they're like a little
it's a little bit of I don't want to say
jealousy because I don't want to give them that, but
it's almost like, whoo, they can talk with they how
they want to talk because they were basically censored.
Speaker 1 (36:48):
We can move how we want to move, we can
wear what we want to wear, we can travel.
Speaker 2 (36:51):
We don't. We're choosing not to have children, we're choosing
not to get married. So we're just in these stages
of really ooh, of really just projecting our authentic selves.
Speaker 1 (37:01):
And that's trickling down to my children because it's like they're.
Speaker 2 (37:04):
So much more confident than I was at that age
to where they.
Speaker 1 (37:09):
Know what they're wearing.
Speaker 2 (37:10):
And then also when you're adding like spirituality or religion
to it, they're so smart where they know, well, I
want to be more modest around this person because it's older, older,
like the elders are around, or I'm in this setting,
or it's more professional or whatever the case may be.
So it's about teaching them about balance and really much
(37:30):
how to carry themselves. But I love that both, you know,
my daughters and my sons are very confident in who
they are their bodies because it's hard out here. Social
media has made it extremely difficult for our children. That's
the difference too in the generation my mom my mom
is like she can see the on face. She's a facebooker,
(37:52):
so like Facebook is more like postuff. These are the
this is the family and this is graduation, whereas like
Instagram is instagratation.
Speaker 1 (38:00):
You can buy things, enhance things in the quickness.
Speaker 2 (38:04):
And so it's like we see that being able to
touch both generations. But our younger ones are very much
in the space of just more open, more honest about
who they are. And it's the colors, it's the tex
it's the piercings, it's all these things, and they're the rebels.
Speaker 1 (38:20):
You know what I'm saying. And I'm here to embrace it.
I love it. Express yourself.
Speaker 2 (38:26):
Yeah, you know, now I agree, But I feel she
feels like she has this flitty and responsibility to speak
with wisdom and comfortableness whole you know, like she's always
been like the black representative, Like everybody looks to her,
you know, as an example, as a role model, you
(38:50):
know what I mean. Like she's there is that weight
of generating our kids don't know who that is, Yeah, exactly.
So I mean times are changing, you know, we can
still respect her her views and take something away from it.
But yeah, she's just part of that old school mindset
(39:12):
and there's nothing wrong with that. I think we need
to keep that.
Speaker 1 (39:16):
You know, what else, what else? What else?
Speaker 2 (39:26):
We else? But yeah, you're raising boys. So is there
what if they brought home a girl ash that you know,
just came and had like you know, a little brawlt
on and you know it a little short or something, and.
Speaker 1 (39:42):
You know, if they brought a girl like that to
the crib, you know.
Speaker 2 (39:49):
I feel like I think it depends because right now
I'm very much in control of who they're around. You know,
I'm very much in control of like who their friends
are and everything. So I know that's not always going
to be the case, but I try to, you know,
(40:09):
steer them in a direction of like, these are the
kind of women that you should be interested in.
Speaker 1 (40:16):
And you know, I honestly am.
Speaker 2 (40:19):
I feel like I would be open to arrange marriages me.
Speaker 1 (40:23):
Okay, I'm trying not to go that fart.
Speaker 2 (40:26):
You know, the family, you know this little girl, you
know their background, and we're making agreement with the family, like,
hey you got a daughter, you know what I'm saying,
so all about like right now, I'm just trying to
steer them in the direction of like this is what
you know, what I'm saying, you should be going for us,
But I hold that may not be like realistically, what happens.
(40:50):
So you know, I wouldn't judge the girl, but it's
hard on yours. I'm trying, I swear to God, I'm
trying to be that mom like I don't want to.
Speaker 1 (41:02):
Like I feel like I went through some tough times
with my mother a lot.
Speaker 2 (41:05):
So I'm very much being as conscious and like intentional
about how I treat my future son's interests, love interests
or whatever. But I definitely am trying to do my
part while I can to like steer them in the
direction of where I want them to do.
Speaker 1 (41:22):
Yeah, I feel we have to. That's rearing. They home
somebody and they opposite.
Speaker 2 (41:32):
Maybe possibly, But if they've by home somebody in like
a skimpy outfit, I mean I would I would try
to show them that.
Speaker 1 (41:43):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (41:43):
I would be nice to the girl, but I might
explain to them why this choice may not be the best.
Speaker 1 (41:51):
Is there something wrong with that? You're gonna base it
off clothes? I mean no, I wouldn't be to uphold.
Speaker 2 (42:00):
But if she's like fast and she's wearing them clothes,
then yeah, I'm gonna be like she does. I would
mean too, that's layers. So you're right, Yeah, leave it
up to my daughters. They'd be like we heard, or
we that's not a good one. You know. Mine to
chime in and added little two cents, I don't know.
(42:25):
I like I said, I'm gonna be old school with it.
I want to know who your mama is, who your
daddy is, who your auntie is, where church you go to?
Speaker 1 (42:31):
You know what I'm saying?
Speaker 2 (42:31):
Like what she could say, Well, miss why miss Willer,
you wear it?
Speaker 1 (42:36):
I think you wear like that family history.
Speaker 2 (42:39):
I'm gonna be like, I'm grown and I'm very You're
trying to get.
Speaker 1 (42:45):
To where I'm at, So you know what I mean.
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (42:49):
I feel like she better not say that to me.
I feel like that's disrespectful. You don't talk to a
growing up like that. First of all, I don't like that,
so she already out mm hm. Next I might be bad,
Lord Jesus, I might be bad with them.
Speaker 1 (43:03):
I don't know. We'll see. I'm gonna let y'all know,
but I'm trying not to be. I'm trying not to be.
Speaker 2 (43:10):
Do you think Hollywood has made it hurt on our
young girls, like where they have to wear and just
a little pressure of like instant fast fashion, and oh
my god, I can't imagine being like a young teenage
girl right now. Like when we was in high school,
Like you know, we tried it, like we might change
our shirts, yeah you know.
Speaker 1 (43:33):
But now you gotta have like the thirty inch bus down.
Speaker 2 (43:36):
You gotta have makeup, you gotta have lashes, you gotta
have nails like.
Speaker 1 (43:41):
You gotta have a body. You gotta have a buke exactly.
So listen, listen, y'all. It's not the same.
Speaker 2 (43:50):
When I was in school, I snuck some close to
my backpack that change. It was this little sport with
this low tied up top. My teacher called my mom
so fast. My mom came up there and told my
behind up. I was in third grade.
Speaker 1 (44:03):
She was like, I better than this. I thought.
Speaker 2 (44:06):
I was trying to dress like a lord cheek you're
great relica.
Speaker 1 (44:10):
Oh my god, but I can't dress like that.
Speaker 2 (44:13):
I just I wanted I wanted to. I was trying
to be like one of the little other girls that
I was not the other girl.
Speaker 1 (44:19):
My teacher was not because she was.
Speaker 2 (44:21):
She was like, she was like your mama, I know
I know that, Alix. Your mama raised you better than
this she called my mom. My mom came up there
and told my behind up. Well, it's more than.
Speaker 1 (44:34):
Just the clothes. Now, you gotta have everything.
Speaker 2 (44:37):
You gotta have the designer outfits, the designer bags, the jewelry,
you gotta have the band cleafs and the cardiers. You
gotta have everything now.
Speaker 1 (44:47):
So, I mean.
Speaker 2 (44:51):
Music has done it has a big influence of that,
like the music industry in general. Now I think it's
social media. Yeah, you know, it's going influencing. Yeah, everybody
making it like all these things are so attainable and
you should have this, and you know the social media. Yeah,
(45:16):
we are holding men and are we holding social media?
Do you think we're holding the boys at a different
standard than the females?
Speaker 1 (45:27):
Hmmmm?
Speaker 2 (45:29):
I mean I think I think boys and men have
their own things too, like that they're pressured by and
to do and to attain and all that. But I
think it I think it's probably harder on the girls
just from hearing like my friends dealing with like their
teenage daughters and the things they go through. I think
boys are a little bit more simpler, but they do
(45:51):
have their things. But I think it's mostly like harder
on the girls. I think, you know, boys still want
to be cool, you know. I think there's still like
a lot of bullying and stuff that could happen.
Speaker 1 (46:05):
But I don't know. I feel like it's hard to
be a teenage girl right now.
Speaker 2 (46:10):
I don't like my son. I don't like my son
and the I'm sorry, I didn't mean to cut you off.
I was saying, I don't like my son's in like
hoodies all year round. It'll be hot outside. They an
the scooters with.
Speaker 1 (46:23):
These hoods, the hood down here or.
Speaker 2 (46:26):
The poosh I sys they call it when they have
like the ski mask.
Speaker 1 (46:30):
Oh yeah, my son loves that too. I have to
get on him like not wearing that. Yeah, it's hot outside.
Speaker 2 (46:36):
We're in Miami, and also we're in a Stanley ground state.
Speaker 1 (46:41):
And would you say, is that would you say real?
I think she.
Speaker 2 (46:51):
I think she might have frozen up on us in
the other time zone over there, right, But yeah, you know, so,
I I think I do hold a standard with my
boys a certain way, just for like things like that,
just in the streets and how they cared themselves. I
want to make sure they have eye contact things like that.
I guess that would be the only difference.
Speaker 1 (47:10):
I don't have.
Speaker 2 (47:10):
Oh I worry about them not wearing certain things. Besides that,
are you about to say real? We still can't.
Speaker 1 (47:22):
That's okay, okay, so let's move on.
Speaker 2 (47:27):
I want to talk about Megan Good and Jonathan Major.
Speaker 1 (47:33):
I to not and our officially married are Yeah. So
I mean, I feel like all of this happened pretty fast.
Speaker 2 (47:43):
Like it was like when we found out they were together,
we were like, oh, okay, interesting because he was going
through the whole legal battles with the white Lady and everything,
and it was a whole thing, and he lost all
of his deals he had, like movies coming out and
he major like meals that got taken from him, and
(48:03):
it was a whole thing. And Megan Major she's not
megabig well she is Megan Majors now Good hista, Yeah.
She was right by his side through it all, and
who was all kind of like cine eying it like
this is cute, but it's also weird, right, you know,
(48:25):
like people were questioning, like, you know why because he
had said some weird things, like their whole relationship was
kind of like under scrutiny. Then they got engaged all
of a sudden and now they're married. Yeah, So he
was recently doing some interviews and said that because she
decided to stand by his side through all of his
(48:47):
legal troubles, that she lost a lot of endorsements. And well,
let's talk about that. I mean, how how do you
feel about, you know, potentially potentially intentionally potentially, you know,
messing up like some business deals that you have gone through.
Speaker 1 (49:09):
For somebody, like for a love interests?
Speaker 2 (49:12):
Like how far would you go standing by somebody's side?
Do you agree that she should have been there through
it all? Or should she have waited till he was
done with all his legal issues? Should they have kept
their relationship private until all of that was done?
Speaker 1 (49:28):
Like what do y'all think about that?
Speaker 2 (49:33):
I would have kept the relationship provident until it was
all done, especially with the situation.
Speaker 1 (49:41):
Megan is Megan? Megan is that girl.
Speaker 2 (49:43):
So I feel like, you know, now that they're married,
people go through things, people have done things, and people
rebound from them. And she chose love for money, and
I feel like it's it's it's a genuine relationship and
(50:03):
it's only up from here for them. I look at
it like this, I mean, you can't help when you fall. Yes,
you can't help when you fall in love with somebody.
I mean, whether it was fast or not, I don't know.
They should have definitely kept their relationship private. But at
the same time, she was supporting him, showing up to trial,
(50:25):
you know, right there, just supporting him and being vocal
about it.
Speaker 1 (50:28):
And that's what a wife is essentially.
Speaker 2 (50:30):
It's through sickness and health richer for poor to death
do us part. So she's definitely obviously has made an
influence on him and got him through a difficult time.
Speaker 1 (50:40):
And it's somebody you.
Speaker 2 (50:42):
Know that you want to invest your time in and
your last name in, and really being having the union
of a marriage. They went through such a just a
like a turbulent time early and that probably is what
made him more attracted her and ready to like lock
it down just because he was like, yo, she stood
by me when I was at the lowest. And that's
(51:03):
the testament to her too, of the fact that she
is willing.
Speaker 1 (51:06):
To bring this man up, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (51:09):
So like, I'm sure that was the ultimate for both
of them, to be like, you know what, I got
your back. I'm doing these things more than a friend,
you know what. I mean, and then so we built
this foundation. It definitely was a little tough, but we
went through it, we got through it, and here we are.
Speaker 1 (51:25):
So I mean, I think it's.
Speaker 2 (51:27):
Beautiful, you know, and it's a definitely, definitely definite, like
a weird way. But at the same time, I get
it as far as you know, you just take your
love with the good and the bad and the ugly.
But about messing up the coins, it's tough though, you
know what I mean, But should get it back, I
would say, I would say, you know, I really feel
(51:49):
like their relationship has been so public from the start,
and I feel like it was a little unnecessary. I
just think that he was going through so much, you know,
in the public.
Speaker 1 (52:08):
Like I don't know, I feel like I wouldn't have come.
Speaker 2 (52:13):
Out in public with him, Like I feel like they
could have accept it private. Yeah, I feel like I
would have kept it private because I just don't understand
why they needed to go public. Like their relationship moved
really really fast, and so to me, it's like he's
(52:33):
clinging on to her in a time that he really needs.
Speaker 1 (52:36):
Somebody to cling on to.
Speaker 2 (52:40):
Yeah, And I'm not saying like their relationship isn't real
or nothing like that, but it's just clouded by so much,
you know, and everybody's just I don't know. I just
feel like I would want our love to not be
overshadowed by all the other things that he had gone on,
and then on top of that, to like lose business
(53:03):
endorsements and deals and stuff like that. On top of that,
to me, it just doesn't make sense. Like I feel
like we have to be smart, Like, yes, we can be.
Speaker 1 (53:11):
In love, you know what I mean, but.
Speaker 2 (53:13):
Like we should still be smart about what we're doing
and who we're attaching ourselves to publicly, Like like you said, Shrah,
like she's that girl, like she's.
Speaker 1 (53:22):
Making good, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (53:23):
Like I just don't understand why you would attach yourself
to him so publicly so fast.
Speaker 1 (53:32):
You just don't understand it.
Speaker 2 (53:34):
But I wish them well, you know, I think there
are beautiful couple. But yeah, I just I just I
don't really understand that part of it. Like they could
have just quietly been dating this whole time, and then
once we forgot about all that he did and said
and because legal troubles, they could have came out and
(53:57):
started dating and blah blah, blah blah blah. But that's
the book to them, you know, it is what it is.
Congrats to the newly led. Hopefully we'll see a little baby,
you know, maybe.
Speaker 1 (54:11):
Soon. So yeah, so okay, now I want to talk
about well, well, you know, I.
Speaker 2 (54:19):
Think we have a for a humble batty's mail. Actually,
I don't mean to cut you off though. What you're thinking?
You want to have one more topic and then we
have humble batties with younger tie are grateful?
Speaker 1 (54:29):
Do you want to do humble batties? Go ahead, I got.
Speaker 2 (54:35):
It, all right, I'll read it then, all right, all right,
This is from an anonymous batty out in Jacksonville, Florida. Okay, Jacksonville, Hey, ladies,
So I have my eyes on.
Speaker 1 (54:50):
This guy, and let me tell you he's the whole package.
Speaker 2 (54:55):
He's smart, loves God, and he's giving full on sex
the vibes.
Speaker 1 (55:02):
I first routed him on Hinge, but lost his profile.
Speaker 2 (55:07):
However, I did some digging and found him on Instagram.
Now here's the question. Should I slide into his d MS?
And if yes, what should I say without sounding too desperate?
What's the move?
Speaker 1 (55:26):
At ease? Please help? Anonymous? Well, Charrelle is the queen
of sliding in. So well did you hear? Did you
hear a little bit? It's serving so ghetto over here.
Speaker 2 (55:41):
Well, long story short, we have an anonymous from Jacksonville.
Speaker 1 (55:44):
If she saw this guy but they lost.
Speaker 2 (55:48):
She doesn't have his contact, so she's found on Instagram
and slid in the dms.
Speaker 1 (55:52):
What should she do or say so she doesn't sound
so desperate? What's the move?
Speaker 2 (56:01):
Hat big kid, that's the funny hat, big cad or
just la like no pick Chris out there, or just
be professional or say you know, hey, how have you been?
Oh my goodness, I haven't seen you in fred I'll
have you been? And either he gonna respond or he gang?
Speaker 1 (56:21):
So shoot your shot? Yeah, shoot your shot? Is that
what you said? You shot? People got you out of
the waiting for a man? Shoot your shot? Yeah? I mean, girl,
(56:42):
you may't did that yet.
Speaker 2 (56:44):
Like, come on, if you want Higgins, you gotta be
sighted in people's dms. Like I feel like you do
that first before you get on hinge. Yes, because it's
right there in front of you. You know it's in
your hand. Compared to Hinge. You gotta answer some questions
and load of profile. Instagram is already there, so I mean,
what a Hinge. It's like it's like a dating service,
(57:09):
dating app, I'm sorry, like a social dating app. Okay, yeah,
Hinge like a Hinge, like connect hinge bring it together?
Speaker 1 (57:24):
Well, is it free or do you have to pay?
For sure?
Speaker 2 (57:28):
I'm sure there's packages and like levels to it, like
VI I P or some I have no clue.
Speaker 1 (57:33):
I can only speak for like RAYA or things like that.
Speaker 2 (57:36):
I'm not familiar with Hinge, but you can connect on
their you know what I mean. But it's definitely I
feel like Instagram is your number one way of connecting.
Speaker 1 (57:46):
You know.
Speaker 2 (57:46):
I might be wrong on those stats. I'm not sure,
but it's super easy. You have an advertisement, you see
the profile, you got a little information on them, and
if you ran into them somewhere in public like public,
you can low key that was just like your your
first initial. Now you can be in the comfort of
your home and go and hit him.
Speaker 1 (58:04):
Sliding the dms like like real, did you know what
I mean? It's going down and.
Speaker 2 (58:12):
Ms sliding them bed dms can get you in trouble.
I mean, you never know. There's lessons in life. There's
lessons and loves.
Speaker 1 (58:23):
That's true. That's true. Well ahead, that's sliding them dms
and see how they mean. That's right.
Speaker 2 (58:29):
I think you shouldn't be like, hey, I saw you
here and here and here. Connect the dots and then
you know, hopefully he can backtrack of his memory and
y'all can lock in. So good luck to you, Anonymous
from Jacksonville. Well, speaking of sliding in and in messaging
and all that kind of stuff, y'all can message us
(58:50):
for some more humble body mail at contact at humblebaddies
dot com. And we are here for all of your tea,
your questions, your concerns, some shout outs or whatever.
Speaker 1 (59:03):
And you know, I think we want to wrap it up, ladies.
Huh there you don't over there?
Speaker 2 (59:08):
Yes, so much for tuning in. Thanks Charille for joining
us all the way.
Speaker 1 (59:14):
From the mothers in. All right, until next time, we're
signing out. Love you guys, Frank your care
Hosts And Creators
Ashley Wheeler
Alexis Stoudemire
Sharelle Rosado
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