March 18, 2025 • 65 mins
Sharelle, Ashley, and Alexis react to Kanye West and Kim Kardashian beefing, A$AP Rocky headlining Rolling Loud California, NLE Choppa attending the The Truth Awards, rules to polyamorous relationships after Ne-Yo and Nick Cannon's relationships continue to go viral, and much more!
02:30 - Rolling Loud reaction
06:30 - Kanye & Kim Kardashian beef
12:46 - NLE Choppa at The Truth Awards
18:20 - Rules for polyamorous relationships
53:42 - Humble Baddies Mailbag
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I never out of my name. You feel like you was,
and the more one so is gonna be baby squad,
what's up? What's up? What's up? Lady? Our bad we are?
Speaker 2 (00:15):
How does it feel to be doing live in house?
How y'all feeling and how you dealing? I feel it's
more of a casual vibes. I feel like we're just
kicking it, like we're just talking like facetimed girl chat.
Like I really like that. Yeah, and that's what is
tumble Baby's girl chat. We live very intimate space, intimate vibes,
(00:37):
the way we can feel that we can touch our supporters.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
So I love it.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
Yeah, so y'all got to write to us in the chat,
let us know what's on your mind. You know we're
gonna go over a few topics, but please chime in.
Speaker 1 (00:50):
Please.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
I love that. I actually do love the interaction. That's
pretty dope.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
It is.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
Let's get started off. Let's talk about this rolling loud
that okay, So let's say in California right now or
it just passed, Yeah, just passed over the weekend. And
you know usually they have it here in Miami too.
I know they do different cities. So yeah, the headliner
with Miami, Miami be lit, hasn't done we've been together
(01:20):
or yes, we had together before in that was a
good time. You know, I'm really Miami just lit. But
I felt like a Stap showed out. A Sap has
set the standard with his whole brand entrance performing on
a helicopter, just showing out, like it hasn't been done.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
Better be showing out. Travis came down.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
He arrives on a helicopter, but then drove in a
truck and then performed this last this last one in
here in Miami.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
So it's like they're just doing They trying to top
each other. Yeah, they trying to top each other, you
know the headliners.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
Yeah, those these you know, these music festivals are really interesting.
Like the kids are the ones that really low key
got me going consistently, just because they want to be
all up in the mix.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
They want to see their favorite artists.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
They want to go from place like stage to stage,
the stage, hit the food trucks up. But I like
to be in the VIP. You know, it's twenty one
and up up there. We got okay, but quick question
Brianna in the audience, Oh yeah, it was great there there,
James there, everybody was there. Okay, I heard I think party.
(02:34):
I mean no, I'd be very bluey there.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
Yeah you were.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
Don't come out and show up. That's the one thing
about these music festivals. You look up and you look
to your right, that could be a celebrity, look to
your left somebody else. Just just about music. That's the
common denominator. Is everyone viben, having a good time and
just flowing. Yeah, I'm not gonna lie. When I go
to Berlin Loud, I always end up like falling in
love with the artists that I never thought I would like,
(03:00):
because it's really about like their stage presence and like
how they go crazy with the audience and like the
mosh pits and.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
Like jumping in the crowd, crowdsurfing.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
I feel a little too old for it, but I'm
with it, and I feel like I get to learn,
like what the kids are into now. Like one year
I went and I fell in love with a little
pump who only I don't know, but she was like
day I was into it. I was very into it.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
Yeah, yeah I haven't. I haven't experienced the role in life.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
Oh we gotta go this year, then you gotta do
it the right way though, Like we be in VI.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
I p like, it's a very different situation. That's it.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
Arialla has been and I and I took my best
friend was her chefferone because I can't.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
I was gonna say, it's a lot.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
It is a lot. On the VIP part, it's not
so crazy. Yeah, you just gotta go when we go
in the VIP. Well, I had her in VIP, but
she wanted to be in the VIP with Jada Wade
and all them.
Speaker 1 (04:10):
And I'm like, that's a whole different type of VIP. Baby.
Speaker 3 (04:12):
You need yeah, you need not about Yeah, it is,
you know, it's if they have bottle service, they have
like your own food truck areas.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
It is the best way to go. And I go
with my Big three. I come the Big three, the
big kids, and they drag me there. We we get
VIP passes. But then I usually dip off and I'm
in the twenty one and up club area and then
they go and do the mash pit.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
They go in there and in the dirt. It's dirty.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
And another thing you got to realize in these these festivals,
it's a lot of drugs. It's a lot of liquor,
and it's a lot of kids, and so it's like
it's a lot of energy going on in that in
that you know, on these music festivals. So you definitely
it's better to be where the adults are and have
that good activity.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
Yeah, gonna have to check Yeah, we're gonna have to
check it out. Let's take up.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
Let's let's talk about Kanye and and miss Kim K.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
What's going on with the tea with them? Nud So.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
Km K has MK has trademarked her KI she should right, yes,
without Kanye's premier. Oh, it's without what she did. She
did not let him know that she trade. She did
not tell him that it was trademark he had he
found out. I think it was trying to put her
(05:34):
on a.
Speaker 1 (05:34):
Song or something something.
Speaker 2 (05:38):
Stop stop, I got a fruit for bight here because
you're sweet. You're sweet? Okay, So I mean, what did
he think she was gonna do? Kim is a whole
business woman. She comes from the hell like hello, like
he shouldn't be surprised.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
And his protection.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
At the end of the day, they have the public,
their public figures, the family's public, the children. We know
every north, south, East, West, we know all the names.
You know, it's very much. I feel like it's a
protection thing, but it should have been communicated. And this
is not gonna be the first or the last time
they're gonna go at it about something. He's obviously creative
(06:16):
and has his musical genius and his side of things,
but Kim is the business side of it.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
So they got to work together and figure this out.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
It looks like I feel like, right, she is a
business person, But do you feel like as a parent,
even though y'all know how we feel about Kanye, but
as a parent, do you think she should have at
least told him, Hey, this is what I'm doing, acknowledge,
gave him at least notification like I'm about to trade
(06:47):
mark our kids name, this is what I'm about to do.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
How he found out, do you think that was messed up?
How he found out.
Speaker 2 (06:52):
I think how he handled it is just as bad
as how he found out. So like him taking it
to the internet. It's like two wrongs make a right.
So if you had an issue with it, then he
should have called him up instead of going on the internet,
you know what I mean, like now up the group. Yeah,
so I don't necessarily feel like, you know, it was
right or like wrong that Kim did that, Like I
(07:15):
don't think it's right or wrong, Like she did what
she had to do, like she a mom, she a businesswoman,
Like you didn't do it, so I'm gonna do it.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
Whatever, you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (07:22):
Like I don't think it's wrong that she did it
without talking to him, but because it doesn't necessarily have
to do with like how she she's being cared for
or you know what I mean, it's like business. It's
like if she wanted to go, if she wanted to
go work at I don't know McDonald's, Like do y'all
really need to have a conversation about that? Like I
(07:43):
feel like it's like business, but this one is different
because I guess Kanye wanted to put what's her name
north on one of his tracks so but he can't
because it's trademark and.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
That's how he found out. Like do y'all feel like.
Speaker 2 (08:04):
Just I feel like we you know, we're judging it
because it's Kanye, and we already have a strong opinion
about Kanye, but as as two parents, but when you're
making big decisions like that, I feel my opinion I
would acknowledge and let hey, this is what I'm doing
for our kid. I agree with you, Charelle, especially now
that they were a big entity together and obviously we
(08:27):
know about the divorce and now separate lives.
Speaker 1 (08:31):
It has to be a conversation.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
It should have been a conversation really low key prior
to divorce. I feel like because they were public figures
and having these children, and I feel like Loki he
might have known because I feel like all the Kardashians
trademark everything because that is how they make their living.
It is name brands, it's branding, its influence, it's lifestyle.
(08:54):
So I feel like every child has a just by default.
I mean, I feel like Chris Jenner is pushing for that,
and I feel like all the men low key, the
dads know about this. I mean their their their fathers
are famous. The children are famous by their image, you know,
their name, image and likeness alone. So I feel like
(09:15):
Loki he knew about this, but we don't.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
We really don't know. It should be on.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
A creative level that the children, with permission from both parents,
should be able to have that creative you know, with
with because I mean, dad.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
Is who he is.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
You know and mom is who she is, so I
feel like this won't be the last time we're going
to hear about this. On some creative level, just letting
the kids express themselves, that's true. I just feel like
if if he would have did it and she didn't
know about it, baby.
Speaker 1 (09:48):
It would have been an ugly situation. My opinion on it.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
I feel if I would say handle it, I would
have acknowledged, hey, this is what I'm about to do,
and do it just putting it agree no out to
find out by trying to do something. But I feel like,
you know, he's taking it the way he's taking it
because it's greed on his end and he knew he
probably could make even more profit by adding her on,
(10:12):
so it kicking him.
Speaker 1 (10:14):
I think it's more.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
Than just not you know, I didn't tell you what
I did. It's messing up his coins. That's what I feel. Yeah,
well that's not about it. First then Kim, it's about
the grands. It should be about the kids. But I
know it's definitely I'm sure they're probably not even talking
(10:35):
like that. You never you just never know, like it's
hardcore parenting, you know. And then when there's other parties involved,
especially influence. Again, you got the world involved. He was
out of the group chat. We shouldn't know about this stuff.
I agree, Yeah, run into the internet. You just messed
yourself up. And yeah, and only the kids get hurt
(10:56):
at the end of the day. Again, but it's like,
you know, yeah, yeah, he's gonna do this NonStop. Right,
That's yeah, that's a tough one. It's never a dull
moment like with him or her. You know, there's always something.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
It is. Let's talk about n L E Chappe. Yeah, cho,
I have respect for him. Who don't understand what that was? Serious? Sam? Sorry,
I don't understand. You don't understand that.
Speaker 2 (11:33):
I don't know what what's going on with him because
it's something that's going.
Speaker 1 (11:36):
On with him too. But I feel like it's good.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
I feel like, you know, he he's been supporting the
l g b Q t Q community.
Speaker 1 (11:48):
Don't come from.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
Us, what is the l g l g B plus,
But but he's been supporting in a lot of people
feel like because he's been supporting heart that you know
he's homosexual or he undercovered he has expressed that. You know,
(12:11):
I'm very confident in who I am as a man.
I just support everyone, and I like that. You know,
he's not a judgmental. He has fans in that community,
and he's showing the same amount of respect and love
to that community as well as the you know, the Straits.
But he's been getting a lot of criticism in regards
(12:31):
to being undercovered, and that's not fair.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
That's not right.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
I'm gonna say, is a criticism from watch community? Is
it the black community, because you know how we are
deep in our masculinity, especially the men, very very masculine
and very much like homophobic. And I feel like what
he's doing is he's an artist. He's expressing himself and
being very much like I am straight. I've heard his songs,
(12:55):
my kids sing the songs, and he is definitely talking
about the.
Speaker 1 (12:59):
Female females, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
So I don't I don't see why you can't support others.
I mean, you never know if he has family, you
know that that could be. It's just has to be
where it's twenty twenty five. We have to be way
more open, We have to be way more tolerant of
everyone else because they're just just people at the end
of the day, and their sexual preference shouldn't even it
shouldn't matter.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
Don't get your kick.
Speaker 2 (13:23):
But yeah, I think the younger generation is more open,
more fluid, more accepting than like the older generation, like
our generation. I hate that I'm the older generation now,
but the auntie yeah, the aunties, But I feel like
the younger generation they're just a little bit more you know,
open to you know, different people's lifestyles and more accepting,
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which I think is amazing. And I think that you know,
through art like music and just creatives in general. I
think it's just really great that you know, we can bridge,
you know, all of our communities together.
Speaker 1 (14:02):
So kudos to him for you know, standing up.
Speaker 2 (14:06):
And showing support for the lgbt Q plus community. I
feel like if you are, if you are supporting them
too or not supporting them, it's a double as sword.
It's one thing or the other. Like you're either jumping
on the would you say, boom, you can't is it
you can't win for losing or is it you can't
(14:27):
which one.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
You can't do?
Speaker 2 (14:33):
Right now that you're trying to say it, right, I
know what you're saying, Like you know what's like you know,
either you say I'm not going because it's an LG,
it's a you know, gay pride or whatever, and then
you're getting bashed or getting canceled. I mean, we know
a few people have been canceled for you know, not
(14:54):
supporting and or you show up and you really are
just I'm creative, I am who I am.
Speaker 1 (15:03):
I can be very confident.
Speaker 2 (15:04):
Yeah, very confident in my sexuality and shouldn't feel any
kind of way.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
It's twenty twenty five. We got to do better.
Speaker 2 (15:11):
Yeah, yeah, never out of my name, And like.
Speaker 1 (15:16):
You was in the More One, let's get it into
with y'all, the.
Speaker 2 (15:23):
The question of the day, the topic of the month
of what's been going on in the blocks? I know
y'all seen it where free. I don't know how to
pronounce her last name, Nick Cannon's baby, mam.
Speaker 1 (15:33):
Yes you're talking about so I'm selling Sunset.
Speaker 2 (15:39):
Yet she did an interview in regards to, you know,
her relationship with Nick Cannon, and I feel like it's
starting to be the norm now these why do why
are people so interested? Though? It's my thing, like why
do we keep interviewing her about her relationship with Nick Cannon?
(16:00):
But it's not just Sarah, what what I'm speaking on
is like a lot of people are becoming open to
BALI probably were open or whatever because probably because women
feel like they'll take a piece of a man, like
they can't get everything that they're looking for from one person.
(16:25):
So I feel like they're just like, well, if he
can give me this and this. He might not can
give me everything, but he can give me a baby,
he can give me some money, a house. Okay, I
can work with that. So they go with that. M
you feel like it's just our culture because when you
really take a deep look into it, you look into
(16:45):
the Muslim community world, they have multiple wives and they're
okay with it. Isn't literate, It's not just most it is.
Speaker 1 (16:55):
I know what you're saying.
Speaker 2 (16:56):
There are some cultures that are like, if you can
afford to take care of X, Y and Z so
many wives and the children, then you should be multiple.
What does it be fruitful and multiply? You know that
ticket to another another level. I have multiple.
Speaker 1 (17:11):
Wives, they have multiple times, so that's considered what.
Speaker 2 (17:17):
If I could polygamy? Polygamy right, So it's been going
to do and they won.
Speaker 1 (17:26):
They one. Now we're not used to it. I'm not
used to it. I couldn't be enough.
Speaker 2 (17:31):
I was just about to ask y'all, well, why why
can't you do it? Cherrelle, I'm curious so much your
thoughts are I don't.
Speaker 1 (17:40):
I'm not sharing my men, like I just can't share
my men.
Speaker 2 (17:44):
But what if you have other men on the side,
and I just I can't. It's hard for me to
maintain multiple men.
Speaker 1 (17:52):
I can't care what you what if would you do
how they're doing it?
Speaker 2 (17:56):
Like?
Speaker 1 (17:56):
Would you be the one woman with multiple men?
Speaker 2 (17:58):
Though?
Speaker 1 (17:58):
Could you do that?
Speaker 2 (18:00):
I just said I can't balance multiple men. Well you
need to run the multi task, honey. Oh, I don't
though what you're doing.
Speaker 1 (18:11):
I can try it. My thing is this, I don't know,
actually don't.
Speaker 2 (18:18):
And I just feel like men are so open to
doing it, but they can't handle it if they are
the one of many, you know what I mean, Like
if they just had to be with they had to
be one of the husbands. I agree with you as
I feel like they can't handle it. I feel like
they can't do it, and I feel like we need
to see the other side of it. We need to
(18:38):
see a woman who has five husbands and where they're
all in agreeance, like, yeah, I'm Tuesday and Thursday and
whatever whatever, But what need.
Speaker 1 (18:48):
You be in a relationship?
Speaker 2 (18:51):
And if a man came to you and say, you
know what, I have to have multiple women. I love you,
but I need another woman, you take that and you
really like him. I feel like I'm low key dealing
with that now in dating, just in general being single.
Speaker 1 (19:08):
I mean in my other my other relationships.
Speaker 2 (19:11):
I was in an open relationship and didn't know I
was in one, so at least there's some dialogue and
some communication.
Speaker 1 (19:18):
But I said that because I'm dating, I'm.
Speaker 2 (19:20):
Not already date dating, not already dating multiple people at
the same time. And when you're with them, you already
feel like, you know, you really like him. You're the
only one, like you're not thinking about you know when
he leaves and who he's with when he's gone. You
don't know who he's dating. And you know what I
mean with us, right? Who are you texting good morning?
Is it a mass text in the morning to everyone
(19:42):
that you're talking to because you're doing so many energy
you know what I.
Speaker 1 (19:52):
Was like, Wait, it's funny when you said the mastick.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
I was on this flight coming back and it was
a how profile individuals sitting in front of me, and
I can see them texts and like they didn't have
a screen, or that they.
Speaker 1 (20:06):
Would copy and paste the same thing to.
Speaker 2 (20:09):
Like twelve dealer or sounds like, oh dang, that's the
kind of like people watching.
Speaker 1 (20:14):
I like that that's exhausted, just say, like.
Speaker 2 (20:22):
Me. But he might be he might be a polugamist
or just just living his best life, you know what
I mean. Like I look at it like this.
Speaker 1 (20:33):
I want open dialogue.
Speaker 2 (20:36):
I mean, I agree with Charrelle like and y'all, like
I feel like man can't handle it. You know, if
you're saying this is what it is, it starts from
the beginning. Hey, I'm dating other people, if that's the conversation.
I'm dating with intention, or I'm dating for one partner.
I mean, I prefer one partner. My pH balance prefers
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one partner. My mental, my heart, my time prefers one partner.
Because it's already a lot juggling this pie of like
work and family and friends and children and all these things.
And so I don't need all these other energies because
I believe in soul ties. I believe in you know,
mixing energies and other people's energies coming into your relationship
(21:21):
and really coming into your spirit.
Speaker 1 (21:23):
And I don't have time for that, Like I don't.
Speaker 2 (21:26):
I don't want to be getting tested over and over
again because you know, you over.
Speaker 1 (21:31):
Here doing this and doing that.
Speaker 2 (21:33):
I appreciate the honesty because again it's the other way around.
It becomes cheating if it's not verbalized, you know what
I mean. But at the same time, it's not for me.
I just don't think I can spread all this love.
And I feel like my value is just enough to
where you you know, I feel I love myself so
much that you shouldn't want to share. You shouldn't want
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me to be out there being shared, you know, lock
the shit down. I think right now, there's this whole
thing with men, like they feel like, I mean, they
should feel like they are a price right, but they
feel like things have shifted, you.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
Know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (22:12):
I feel like there's this whole thing about a high
value man, and they feel like if they're high value man,
then you know, they have a lot to offer, and
they have a lot of resources, and so therefore they
should be allowed to have multiple women because they can
afford it. And that just makes them, you know, an
(22:34):
eligible person to be with multiple women.
Speaker 1 (22:39):
So I don't know. I think because women.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
Are allowing this mindset of the man being like the
prize and we have to be out here trying to
get them and chase them. I feel like it's really
just changed, like the whole dynamic up dating.
Speaker 1 (23:01):
And I don't know.
Speaker 2 (23:03):
It's like, I agree, the women are the men. Now,
that's what what your color said.
Speaker 1 (23:11):
It was the what is this? What's the football player?
Speaker 2 (23:15):
Cam Newton? No, Brandon Marshall, he said, oh, he did
say that. What did he say? He said, the women
are the women are the men the nim Yeah, the
women are the new niggas.
Speaker 1 (23:27):
That's with me, Yeah, the new n word.
Speaker 2 (23:30):
And because he got flewed out, Yeah, because he got
flewed out by an a lister actress.
Speaker 1 (23:38):
You know, it's like the tables have turned.
Speaker 2 (23:40):
The men going to be wined and dined, they want
to be flued out. It's just a different dynamic these days. No,
I want to be courted. I want to be Let
me be the queen that I am. You know, let
me know you're interested and show some effort. That's sexy
and I'm not competing. I feel again, two people have
(24:00):
to be in love with themselves to want to share
that love and really negotiate their peace with someone else.
And I don't have time to be splitting it up
and dividing it up and all that.
Speaker 1 (24:11):
It's too much. Yella is out here flying around I
hear me. Oh that's right, that's another one.
Speaker 2 (24:17):
Yeah, every day he's out like posting pictures. I don't remember, right,
not either too, Like why are they so like flashy
with it?
Speaker 1 (24:27):
Like why is it a show? You know?
Speaker 2 (24:29):
Why do we need to know that it's with different
ten different women?
Speaker 1 (24:34):
Do they all date each other? Because they all be together?
Speaker 2 (24:37):
And one that's a great question, cherrelle, what type of
relationship is that?
Speaker 1 (24:41):
Is that the like where he's the main and then
they have I don't know you call it all they
talk out together? What do these said? It's called what?
Speaker 2 (24:56):
Then that's a lot of that's a lot of going.
That's a lot to handle. That is a lot. Maybe
it's like that too. Maybe it's like they're just trying
to be cool. I don't know, but Neil, I don't
think I have been approached to be like like this
(25:17):
is my partner, this is my fiance. This is my person,
but I'm allowed to date other people and date other women.
I should say, what was it? It's maybe about six
six seven months ago. A friend of mine was like,
(25:40):
just so, I mean I like I like listening to
I like listening to people, and really, you know, understanding
where their mind is.
Speaker 1 (25:52):
Did you think that you have a little thought process?
And was like maybe I couldn't know, did it? No?
Speaker 2 (25:59):
No, I didn't like him enough. Okay, what if you
really really like? I think that wouldn't be my person.
I feel like I my values, my religion, just my spirituality,
and really just my life experience. I'm not for everybody,
and everybody's not for me, and I don't want to
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deal with another female if you don't want to deal
with them, Like how oh we saw that show me?
Speaker 1 (26:29):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (26:30):
Yeah? The actor he said he's ethically non monogamous. You know.
So he's saying, like every woman in his life serves
a purpose and has like a role, and like one
woman might not be as available because they have a career,
or they live somewhere else or something, so they're not
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as available, and so then he has this other girl
who isn't as busy so she serves a purpose. And
then like he has a woman he wants to have
kids with, you know, so it's like each woman serves
a purpose. But I don't think any of the women
really have to deal with each other. And that's going
back to like Nick Cannon and Breed too, Like I
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feel like, but I don't never see Nick.
Speaker 1 (27:14):
With other his other baby mamas. I always see him
with Breath. I see him with the other ones. I know,
one of them. I have to be with the other
ones because he's still making babies with and he's.
Speaker 2 (27:22):
With them, Like I see him in the pictures. I
see him like bring his baby number like eights or seven,
I don't know, but he had more after her.
Speaker 1 (27:33):
And yeah, so.
Speaker 2 (27:35):
I'm saying, like I see every time I'm on social media,
I just always see him. I feel like she's doing that. Yeah,
she's into this. She's about that life, you know what
I mean. She's on reality TV. She's doing her thing
or whatever. I mean, I don't know. She's definitely the
one doing the interviews. You see Mariah Riah ain't having no. No,
(27:57):
Mariah is not a part of that count. She is
like she was the first and he was the only wife.
But you know, to each their own. Again, it's just
not my passion, my portion or my testimony is not
my thing. Free statement was has defended there they have
an arrangement, not a relationship, and arrangement stating that she
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is happy with their dynamic and does not feel the
need for exclusivity and that's good for her buying.
Speaker 1 (28:27):
To herself for now, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (28:30):
It's like, I got to make the best of this situation,
and I'm gonna make it look amazing, because why would
you come in these interviews and be like it's horrible.
I hate it, you know, like she's going to say that.
I feel like she's going to say whatever she has
to say to get by.
Speaker 1 (28:50):
I think I get to in my head.
Speaker 2 (28:52):
You know, if the many you walk out the door,
you're adding all this extra pressure to me.
Speaker 1 (28:57):
I don't want and we are emotional creatures.
Speaker 2 (29:00):
Like we get we get only it's that time, after
that time of the month we start, you know, ovulating.
When we start ovulating, you know, we won't want it
bad and what if we can't get it from him.
Speaker 1 (29:13):
I feel like that we're having somebody on the side.
I wonder if I wonder has that been asked?
Speaker 2 (29:20):
They don't, you know, no, like all of all us
fair like he can do him you she he knows,
she knows that he's going to go to see these
babies and be an active father. I'm sure that's what's
attracted to her too. But like, I don't know. I
don't know as Yeah, I don't think they got to
be exclusive back right, I don't know, but.
Speaker 1 (29:42):
They don't want you out there. They want you to know.
Speaker 2 (29:45):
I know Nel said that about his situation that I
can't oh what you said. Yeah, that they have to
be exclusive to him, that's every man. But I don't
think Nick Cannon. He's never said anything like that. I
think think Nick wants his women to be exclusive. You
don't see anyone else. Maybe they're not allowed to publicly
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because you can't be that. I just walk around with
a clown face baby, because I ain't no way, no way.
Speaker 1 (30:20):
Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (30:22):
Ain't no amount of money in the world that's gonna
have me looking like Boo Boo the fool while you
out here with everything.
Speaker 1 (30:29):
And I don't want it. I don't want it.
Speaker 2 (30:31):
I feel like, you know, we got to go back
to the times of being courted and being loved on
and being you know, put on a pedestal and really
like men should be, you know, fighting for our attention
and really like it's like the lions, you know what
I mean, Like let me go and impress her and
really be like choose this woman that I want to
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pour into because we are way more I feel like complex,
Like men are very like simple, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (31:01):
So we it's a lot of work and if we want.
Speaker 2 (31:04):
To be fulfilled in so many different ways, they need
to focus. But I feel like these new age women
are making the bark for these men. Yeah, the bar
is very low, like the standard is not there anything.
So how change these men to go back to Gorton?
To go back to because they these women is oh,
(31:27):
let me sit up.
Speaker 1 (31:27):
I'm sorry.
Speaker 3 (31:30):
It's somebodyse are just making it so easily.
Speaker 1 (31:35):
It's hard for others.
Speaker 2 (31:37):
Starts at home, like with our young people at home,
like me teaching my sons like what kind of lady
to be interested in, how to be a gentleman, how
to me and like it really just it's really about
having like examples and representation of families and marriages and
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having them around certain company, and they got to see
it in their face to boom that I'm saying. If
you don't see it, then you're just gonna think, oh, well,
I've seen all these broken up relationships and families and
I already know he probably gonna cheat on me. So
let me just you know, I feel like, if you
don't believe it, that you can have a man that
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is going to give you everything that you want and need,
and you can have a whole, you know, relationship that
you know, come fronts you and fulfills you in all
the ways that you need. If you don't believe that
that could happen for you, then of course you're gonna
go out here and be with a man who says, well,
I'm gonna be with five other girls.
Speaker 1 (32:42):
Yeah you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (32:44):
I like that. Thus, start with self. Starts at home.
It starts with having those examples. I like that a lot,
and teaching your little boys like I teach Dannam open
the door, say it's you know, ladies, verse just do
lead small things because now you just you just see
my grandfather, even my dad, they opened the door for
their wife for you know, for women. They allow the
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woman to go first. These men are starting to act
like that exactly. That's what I'm saying. First and a
lot of these guys didn't have that at home, and
it's showing now.
Speaker 1 (33:17):
It's show now that they're older and they're dating, it's showing. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (33:22):
Yeah, it's just too many options and so much access.
Speaker 1 (33:27):
Is the access has gotten easier too.
Speaker 2 (33:30):
You know, you could be at home scrolling and set
up a date the next day instead of just walking
down the street, you know and just really bumping into somebody.
It's just too easy. It's psychly. They don't have to
put effort. Now they can just double tap. I like
you double tap and now you know, and it becomes
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very transactional to it's latten to be, and it becomes
super transactional to where it's like, you know what, it
becomes quantity over quality.
Speaker 1 (34:02):
That's that too. You know, it's just a lot of
layers to that.
Speaker 2 (34:06):
But I bet men would say that it's like that
because women just want money and stuff. So they're like, well,
I can give you money, that's easy, you know what
I mean. So it becomes a transaction. Yeah, I think
now they ain't giving you no standards here. This is
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basically you want the money. I want this not just.
Speaker 1 (34:31):
A transaction and get out of hand.
Speaker 2 (34:35):
It's just becoming nasty, just nasty out there, just nasty.
Speaker 1 (34:42):
So how do you go about like changing it?
Speaker 2 (34:45):
Like you like someone and you see potential in them,
but they have those flaws of they.
Speaker 1 (34:51):
Don't know Tomai, you got a change it? No not.
I'm talking about just being able to for a man
being a man again, like doing things. Hmm, that's tough
about it. A question changing a man. I feel like
a man is going to changing a man.
Speaker 2 (35:13):
I'm just saying, like changing, not changing that man as
a person, but changing his ways to to be able
to put the woman first, like doing little small things,
learning my lovelength.
Speaker 1 (35:26):
That starts with intention.
Speaker 2 (35:27):
That's that to me, that's the first con like one
of the first conversations if you if I'm being approached
one thing, like I think it starts with like we're
we're all old school. We prefer a man to approach us,
you know what I mean? Special if we're out and
you know, it starts with that. And then when you
have to start to have these conversations where are you
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in life?
Speaker 1 (35:49):
Where do you see yourself? Intention?
Speaker 2 (35:51):
That's when you can start to like decipher who you're
gonna really start to invest in, because I feel like
men start to know early on if this is someone
that they really start to like, just like you know
what I mean, And it starts with it's just really
about intention and conversation and really like, this is where
I'm mat in life, this is what I see really
happening for me, And if I like him, then it progresses.
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If it doesn't, then you know, it starts to naturally
fall back, because you know, when you get in the
space of knowing your worth and knowing your value, you're
not dealing with the bullshit. You're not dealing with the
little the red flags and just the nuances that would
turn you off. Like I feel like, once you get
in the space of being married, being divorced, dating multiple
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people and just understanding who you are, you can choose
who's not gonna not gonna go further on in the stage,
you know what I mean, because then we we know
we're wasting time. I don't have time for that, you know,
I gotta like you gotta it's some some things, but
it's intention.
Speaker 1 (36:55):
I think it's I.
Speaker 2 (36:56):
Think sometimes guys can be a little slow, so I
don't think that there's anything wrong with a man who
doesn't like come already knowing like how to please you,
because everybody is different, every woman is different, everybody thinks differently.
So when it comes to like you were saying cherrill,
(37:18):
like changing a man or showing him like how do
you get him to do the things or whatever, like
I think it's just starts with like communication, you know
what I mean, and like giving him hints like I
would say, because men gonna do what they want to do,
you know.
Speaker 1 (37:34):
What I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (37:35):
And I feel like if they really really like you,
they're going to really like pay attention.
Speaker 1 (37:39):
So I don't like to like.
Speaker 2 (37:42):
Tell a man aka Phil because I don't like to
tell him what to do, but I like to like hint,
you know what I'm saying, Like I'm it's a big hint,
you know, Like I pretty much lay it out without
telling him, you know what I'm saying, because I want
him to pick it up on his own and like
really be intentional about making a decision to do this
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to please be, you know what I'm saying. And I
feel like they don't start picking up on the hips
and they don't like you, so I think it's just
like putting it out there, like this is what I like,
but not telling a man what to do, because if
you have to tell him what to do, I feel
like he don't really like you.
Speaker 1 (38:21):
Like that, he's just doing what you're saying.
Speaker 2 (38:23):
Yeah, go out through the emotions or whatever. The check
off list.
Speaker 1 (38:27):
I like that. Ash, that's a great point. I have
a puestion. This is a one that I have seen happen.
Speaker 2 (38:37):
Do you think a person can genuinely love more than
one person at the same time?
Speaker 1 (38:42):
Yes? Have you ever in a situation before? Have I
been in that situation before? No? In love, not love,
but be in love.
Speaker 2 (38:55):
I think people can be in love with multiple people
at once. I'm saying a couple, just because there's different
types of love. There's different types of like you can
still not be over someone.
Speaker 1 (39:08):
Too, like sexually intimately, Like what do you mean like
being in love?
Speaker 2 (39:17):
Like there's different types of love like I love you,
but being in love like I love you to the
point where I want to spend the rest of my
life with you type love.
Speaker 1 (39:28):
Yeah, I do. I feel like you could be in
love with two people at once. I do.
Speaker 2 (39:34):
I don't never want to cull it on either. I
just think, like you, I think you can you know
that is it gets real tricky when that happens. But
at the same time, I like, look at us, we
love all of our children, We love our you know,
like I know that's unconditional in a different kind of way.
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But if you have a bond with someone, if you're friends,
if you have this you know, maybe intimate relatelationship, right,
but that's a different type of love, like you're gonna love.
We're gonna love, of course, because it's different. But being
in love intimately physically, that's a that's a Oh, it
takes a lot.
Speaker 1 (40:15):
I agree.
Speaker 2 (40:16):
I don't think I can be in love. I can
be in love with two people at the same time.
I think sometimes that happens because like you get caught
up in the idea of being in love with somebody,
you know what I mean, And if that happens, like
if you fall in love with two people, I feel like.
Speaker 1 (40:37):
It's not it's not really love.
Speaker 2 (40:39):
It's the idea of love because if you really really
in love with somebody, like in love, like, how could
you fall in love with somebody else unless it's like
one of those freak accidents, like you fell in love
with somebody and then like they went on a trip
and they disappeared.
Speaker 1 (40:54):
And then you met somebody else and they came back.
Speaker 2 (40:57):
That's like a movie though, you know what I'm saying, Like,
are just dating two people and then you fall in
love with both of them at the same time. I
feel like, and that's why to your point, that's what
I'm thinking, Like, you can still in love with somebody
and it just didn't work out, or it's long distance
or something like that, and you know, if life happens
and you just so that's how I feel like that
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you can still be in love with somebody.
Speaker 1 (41:22):
More than one person. Right.
Speaker 2 (41:25):
What's your take on emotional cheating and is it worse
than physical cheating?
Speaker 1 (41:37):
Wow? I know I feel like, dang, that's pretty that's
the tough Okay.
Speaker 2 (41:44):
I think all the times to be like, emotional cheating
mostly be like seems like like the women in the
relationship usually does the emotion cheating, right, and then it's
usually the man that does the physical cheating. So I
would say the emotional is probably worse because women we
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lead with our emotions and like once we emotionally like gone, then.
Speaker 1 (42:13):
The body is going.
Speaker 2 (42:15):
I agree, you know what I'm saying, Like, if it's
a physical thing, I feel like you just got one
off and move on. So for me, I would say
that emotional is worse, but both are both equally, I
think wrong.
Speaker 1 (42:33):
I agree with you, Ashley.
Speaker 2 (42:35):
I feel like emotional is way worse just because now
the heart, the mind, the soul, everything is attached to that,
whereas physical it could be a one off. It could
be I fucked up or slipped up, or it was
a mistake, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (42:53):
Whenever, So I just feel like.
Speaker 2 (42:56):
And that might be a little easier to get over
than emotional, because when you're emotionally tired to somebody, there
are feelings there are your mind is involved, your heart
is involved, and that can be very tricky and scary.
Speaker 1 (43:11):
I was.
Speaker 2 (43:11):
I did a podcast with this couple they were amazing
out of Atlanta, and the husband spoke on it about you.
Speaker 1 (43:19):
Know, when men cheat, Men are cheat with the intent
to fall in love, like they're cheating.
Speaker 2 (43:25):
They're cheating because it's the ego thing or they want
to feel like they still have it. But when a
woman cheat, the man is hard for that man to
forgive that woman because they know emotions are attached. So
he was like, it's not the same, it's not on
the same total.
Speaker 1 (43:41):
Hole, both of them are wrong.
Speaker 2 (43:44):
But when a woman even emotionally, so I feel like
emotionally they don't even have to lay with that person
physically cheating, just being attached to a man, their feelings
and their attention are starting to drift away. And when
they start drifting drifting away, it's pretty much over for that.
Speaker 1 (44:04):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (44:05):
Yeah, some holes out there who will just bust one
off real quick. So I don't want to just put
that on the man do the hose be hoing and right,
You're right, Ashley, I just had to put that out
there because we can't you know what I'm saying. Yeah,
it is something that I could cheat with no let
and that's to turn off for me. If I find
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out you got a situation, you know, I'm like, no,
I don't want to. I don't want to try to
penetrate that. I don't want no parts of it. I
don't like it.
Speaker 1 (44:35):
Yeah, that's true.
Speaker 2 (44:36):
You know, it's just not my thing and you become
instantly unattractive. What y'all think about people having like work
husbands and work vibes and stuff I'll be hearing about that.
Speaker 1 (44:48):
Is that cheating or is that like just.
Speaker 2 (44:51):
It depends because I have you know, I have seen
situations when Chad and I was in a relationship and
he was close to females, but it.
Speaker 1 (45:01):
Was like I know who they were, they were comfortable.
Speaker 2 (45:04):
But then you sometimes have to watch that too because
you don't know they can play the role and then
not saying that that happened in our situation, but it
has happened before.
Speaker 1 (45:13):
What was it? Was it? I don't even want to
put one of the celebrities.
Speaker 2 (45:20):
The lady was booking the flights and doing everything all
in the face, smiling and behind her back she was
she kneels and.
Speaker 1 (45:30):
They don't want to.
Speaker 2 (45:34):
But it had its public knowledge or whatever. You're right,
that happens all the time, you know what I mean. Unfortunately,
I'm gonna say I don't I don't trust it. Yeah, turkey,
I'm gonna be the assistant. I'm gonna be the everything
you need, what you need. I booked the flights, I
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washed the clothes, taking to the queen what you need,
make the reservations. Gosh, okay, But I feel like like
I mean, I have guy friends, and I don't want
a relationship to be like someone in a relationship when
that becomes super serious, to be like you got to
cut them off. I know my boundaries. I also know
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I don't want him to be uncomfortable. But I'm gonna
be like, that's actually my guy friend. Like there's nothing sexual,
there's nothing anything going on, but actually that's a friend
that has built. But if you started dating somebody and
they have that work life or whatever, and as far
as you know, it is just work related, but it
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still makes you a little uncomfortable. Are you gonna just
suck it up and deal with it, or you're gonna
speak up and say, hey, I'm a little uncomfortable with
your situation.
Speaker 1 (46:49):
Definitely have to say it makes.
Speaker 2 (46:50):
You well, unless it shouldn't make you uncomfortable, unless they
they give you reasons to make them make you feel
that's true, right, because but I don't have like any
concrete like it's like they're super close. They have the chemistry, okay,
because they've known each other for years, they've been working
together for years, but they're like, you know, they're really close.
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She knows everything about him, she books everything, blah blah,
blah blah blah. So there's not anything that you know
specifically that's wrong, but it's just like the intuition.
Speaker 1 (47:23):
Type of feeling.
Speaker 2 (47:25):
I feel like those are insecurity issues or jealousy and
unless for me, until you give me a wrestling to
put our in type of way, then I'm not gonna
put it on you. I'm not gonna put that in
there until you have a reason to feel that way.
I'm not going to make you feel uncomfortable because you
have a friend. This person could have been friends before
I even came in a picture. I'm not going to
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make you feel uncomfortable or make you feel like you
have to sneak around to talk to your friend or
be with your friend because I feel uncomfortable for no
reason because you're friends with you know, a pretty female
or just a female in general. I have male friends
and it's just not right, Like, until you give me
a reason to feel that way, then that's when I'm
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gonna start acting the food. But and I agree with you, Cherrelle,
because it's like until you find out, like you know,
something shady is going on, or you find out that
they are booking flights for other women or whatever, then
there's the issue. But other than that, to me, everyone
starts with a clean slate until you prove me wrong
that you can't be trusted. And I would definitely say something.
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I'm not biting my tongue. If it's something that's super
uncomfortable for me, I got to talk about it.
Speaker 1 (48:34):
I want to know what's up.
Speaker 2 (48:36):
And if my intuition kicks in and then I find
out some more stuff, then you we got a problem. Yeah,
you know, but I just don't. It gets tricky, you know,
because you got the ladies are in and out, especially
the guys.
Speaker 1 (48:52):
They you know a.
Speaker 2 (48:53):
Lot of men they just have staff or they have
these ladies around and they bring in this energy. You know,
it can it can get a little tricky, but you
gotta trust got too.
Speaker 1 (49:06):
Never out of my name.
Speaker 2 (49:08):
It's been like you one and numbre one. There's some
we're some good conversations. We gotta get over to Humble
Batty's mail. But let us know how y'all feel about
these topics, about this situation. Could you handle your husband
or wife having a work husband having multiple ex friends.
Speaker 1 (49:29):
Let us know how.
Speaker 2 (49:30):
Y'all feel about it, and so then we're gonna get
into the Humble Batty Mail What we got?
Speaker 1 (49:37):
Okay, This is from Tiffany from Maryland.
Speaker 2 (49:42):
Hey Tiffany, heyte Tiffany, Hey Humble Baddies. I absolutely love
your show and I'm always excited when a new episode drops.
Speaker 1 (49:52):
I'm hoping you can give me some advice.
Speaker 2 (49:55):
I've been dating this amazing guy for about a year now,
and we've really fallen for each other. Everything has been
going great, but recently he told me that his job
is relocating him to Dallas, Texas. We both live in
Maryland right now, so this would be a big change.
Speaker 1 (50:13):
He asked me how I feel about moving to Dallas
with him.
Speaker 2 (50:18):
We're not engaged, but our relationships has been strong and
I feel like he's serious about us. The thing is,
I have my family and my friends here in Maryland.
While I don't have kids or any major ties holding
me back. It still feels like a huge step to
move with someone. Do you think I should take the
leap and go with him or would it be better
(50:39):
to let him settle in first see how things go
before I make a move. I'm worried that if I
stay behind, he could meet someone new and move on
and I'd be left wondering what could have been. I
really love to hear your thoughts on what you do
in my situation. Thanks so much for reading my letter
and please keep making amazing episodes.
Speaker 1 (50:59):
Can't wait to see you on tour.
Speaker 2 (51:01):
Oh well, run than Tiffany for Maryland ladies.
Speaker 1 (51:07):
Oh what do y'all think about that? Well? I am
a hopeless romantic girl.
Speaker 2 (51:14):
So I say, pack yo shit, Yeah, okay, pack it
up and go. I mean, if nothing is holding you back,
like if your work situation, you know, if you're gonna
be good to go, like there's nothing hunding you back,
then why not go? Like he sounds like he's ready
to make a big step with you, and I feel
(51:35):
like if you're hesitating, then like do you even really
like him?
Speaker 1 (51:40):
Like that? Like what are you doing? Because you know,
if everything's going.
Speaker 2 (51:43):
Well with y'all and he's about to move, he's getting
a new job, like things are on the up and
up for him and he wants you to be a
part of that. Telling him no to me would be
like a major setback, And I if I were him,
I would look at you like not like.
Speaker 1 (51:58):
I wouldn't like.
Speaker 2 (51:59):
You anymore, But it wouldn't make me feel like you're
not as serious about me as I am with you,
especially in this day and age of dating and dating school.
Ain't that well, girl, I don't know. I would really
think hard about it, but I would pack my stuff
and see how I feel.
Speaker 1 (52:16):
And if it don't work, are you always move back?
Speaker 2 (52:20):
Well, that's a b I would probably slowly transition.
Speaker 1 (52:25):
I would pack up and leave.
Speaker 2 (52:27):
I'll, you know, keep my place, go there, see how
it is, because it's a lot you don't know how
it is. Lettaly's person may be all good, you know,
while y'all going back and forth, y'all like each other
the butterflies. But I need to experience how it is
living with you for a couple of days, for a week,
they go back home, you know, set then.
Speaker 1 (52:49):
It feels with three weeks than a month.
Speaker 2 (52:52):
I just can't. I just can't pack it up and
just go. So Tiffany, my recommendation is to take it slow,
slow Chloyd studies. I'm with Ash and I'm with you, Charrelle.
I'm a hopeless romantic too. But at the same time,
like she, Tiffany doesn't have anything tying or down like
(53:14):
right now, like it's hard dating already locally, you know,
trying to have your life and have children.
Speaker 1 (53:22):
And work and all that kind of stuff.
Speaker 2 (53:23):
But if you have nothing tying you down, I say,
I like how Charrelle said, gradually go, you know, absence
makes the heart grow fonder, and so it's like it
gets sexier when it's like, yeah, I'm coming in this weekend,
I'll see you after months or whatever, or you know,
just pack a bag and really have like really start
to slowly transition to it.
Speaker 1 (53:43):
So I'm like, you know, show up, give that energy.
Speaker 2 (53:46):
It's sexy to meet up like you know, halfway or
whatever on the road or however that may be. So
if that's the if that's where your heart is, go
follow it. But at the same time, be conscious and
know that just in can you can fall back, or
you can go and make a move because you're starting,
you know, and say, you're moving to this new city.
(54:07):
This is where his job is. He's gonna have built
in people at work. Anyway, You're gonna have to start
over finding people to be social with and to really
find your own identity in a new city. And you know,
it's that can be tough in itself, and really your
job or whatever else, it would be hard, you know.
Speaker 1 (54:26):
So it's just it's a lot of factors.
Speaker 2 (54:28):
But I say, go for it, but take your time,
take your time to girl, and.
Speaker 1 (54:34):
Don't feel like he might find something else. Don't take
too much time toify. I don't think.
Speaker 2 (54:39):
I don't think you should put that pressure on myself, like, oh,
he might find someone else not meant to be if
they're supposed to be together, yeah, exactly, if it's meant
to be.
Speaker 1 (54:48):
Yeah, But I think he don't for him to ask too.
That is, you know, when he.
Speaker 2 (54:56):
Put that ring on the girl and he like, baby,
I'm ready to bring you. I'm ready to change that
last thing. Then I will pack up all my ship
and then there's no hesitation.
Speaker 1 (55:07):
Like I got station.
Speaker 2 (55:08):
But it's hard because you don't know how people are,
you don't know dealing with and it really changes when
you actually in that same household with that person. Tweets
seven that's a that's a badest, you know because the
first year, so they were there to call it like
the newly welled stage and you have your representation representative representatives.
(55:33):
You know, it can be a little tricky because you're right,
you don't know there's not. There's not like not heavy
situations that might arise. It's not financial yet, it's not
a lot of real life experiences where you haven't seen
this person for who they really are.
Speaker 1 (55:48):
That could be tough.
Speaker 2 (55:51):
That is so true, But you know in your heart,
I say, pray about it and make him put a
ring on.
Speaker 1 (55:58):
It system for you.
Speaker 2 (56:00):
Fully relocate at least some kind of something, right, some
breaking case of emergency, some kind of security.
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Speaker 2 (57:16):
And I'm just on Instagram right now at Alexis Underscore.
Speaker 1 (57:21):
Side of Man.
Speaker 2 (57:23):
We gotta get we gotta get those socials. Gotta get
a socials up. You might be missing, so somebody probably
trying to date you and everything?
Speaker 1 (57:33):
Well, what else do I need to be on? Y'all?
What's y'all think? What's y'all think? Because it's not Facebook.
Speaker 2 (57:38):
Snapchat, snap all the dating apps, I'm gonna come home.
Speaker 1 (57:45):
But I like I like it. I like in person?
What dated that?
Speaker 2 (57:50):
Right?
Speaker 1 (57:50):
Elect?
Speaker 2 (57:51):
You need to invite? I think somebody looking for looking
for I think I might can set you up on
what's good?
Speaker 1 (58:02):
You did say? Do I need to to Riah if
you mind?
Speaker 2 (58:07):
Now you're talking. That's why I had to go back
to rya. What is the dating appen day app? But
for like it's attaches to your Instagram. You you get
referred and it's pretty much low key like this is you.
Speaker 1 (58:19):
You are who you say you are.
Speaker 2 (58:21):
But you can be friends or you can also be
there for like I guess, romance or whatever, or hooking up.
That's what it's just turning into, more like hook up. Hey, y'all,
let's take some questions from the from the viewers real quick.
Speaker 1 (58:34):
Yes, that would be lovely. You think it's not? Everybody?
M hmm, okay, what a question? First question? You got
a mash I'm looking.
Speaker 2 (58:55):
Maybe y'all put y'all put the questions in the chat.
Somebody said UNC needs to hit legs up.
Speaker 1 (59:06):
Hey hey, hey, we on the same team. Were on
the same team.
Speaker 2 (59:10):
I'm wrong now that might be that might be something
Uncle out.
Speaker 1 (59:19):
That is there is.
Speaker 2 (59:24):
Oh no, oh no, hey, hold baddies, please bring the
Lord to Old Cally.
Speaker 1 (59:32):
It's a lot of land to develop our family.
Speaker 2 (59:34):
People wanted to see. Not okay, somebody must say, know
what's your stance on fifty to fifty fifty fifty?
Speaker 1 (59:42):
In her relationship? Oh?
Speaker 2 (59:44):
I know, gabar Un used to something about she said,
did she say that she was tired of us? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (59:49):
She said she's done with that. I'm trying to tell
her when.
Speaker 2 (59:53):
She first said it, like, I mean, okay, I can't
do fifty fifty because sometimes that times out of ten,
it's gonna be twenty eighty and you're gonna be carrying
to eighty and I'm gona be caring. Then Yeah, I'm
gonna put in what I want to put in when
I feel like it, you know what I'm saying, Like
I like to have to play money, like my money
(01:00:13):
is to play money, like I want. I want to
be frivolous, you know what I mean, And you know,
just do something extra that's do with my money, you
know what I'm saying. I feel like I want Phil
to be smart with his money. You know he's very frugal.
You know, we got our financial advisors. I know you
know everything is set where these so like my money,
(01:00:35):
we could just you.
Speaker 1 (01:00:36):
Know, ask you a question.
Speaker 2 (01:00:39):
Question when you go shopping, do you sneak and bring
your your bag saying and hot the bag, put the
stuff in there like I do. Let my my boxes
that I order, like to the house, like I try
to be home when when the FedEx men's home, I
mean when the FedEx fan comes to the house, because
I don't want him to be like, yeah, you got
(01:01:01):
another package.
Speaker 1 (01:01:02):
Run pregnant, Run pregnant.
Speaker 2 (01:01:04):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (01:01:05):
But because I don't, you know, I don't even.
Speaker 2 (01:01:07):
Shop at them all that much, no more give care
clients in that course, because I heard feel.
Speaker 1 (01:01:11):
Okay, feeling a chat. Next you get inswered the question
fifty to fifty.
Speaker 2 (01:01:20):
No, I don't want to go fifty to fifty. I
don't mind having just in case, but I don't want
to go fifty to fifty. I have my household. Obviously,
you have kids. So that's my situation. Whoever I end
up with, they have a household and their kids or
whatever the case may be.
Speaker 1 (01:01:37):
I don't know. They got their bills.
Speaker 2 (01:01:39):
But if we come together like vacations and things like that,
I don't expect to do go.
Speaker 1 (01:01:45):
Fifty to fifty on that. Yeah, I agree.
Speaker 2 (01:01:49):
I think fifty to fifty is just a weird concept
in general, like why are we even I don't know.
It's just it's very like, I don't know, like almost
same as like transactional. When you're thinking about it, it's
like I'm gonna do this, like you gotta do this
we're roommate.
Speaker 1 (01:02:08):
I don't like it.
Speaker 2 (01:02:09):
We're not even and it can be it can get
a little tricky too, because I know what the gap situation.
Speaker 1 (01:02:13):
I know.
Speaker 2 (01:02:14):
She was saying, like, you know, she she has her
own and everything and has her empire, but.
Speaker 1 (01:02:27):
Certain weight. But you know, so I just think I
think I think too.
Speaker 2 (01:02:38):
Gabrielle Union was saying, like, because you know, it gets
tricky when you're like taking care of other households and
stuff like that. So I just think, you know, each
household is different, but when we're just talking about it
in general, I think it just feels very I don't know,
(01:02:59):
it doesn't feel it doesn't to have that conversation with
your man and he's like, where's your half, where's your
half of the mortgage?
Speaker 1 (01:03:08):
Where's your half?
Speaker 2 (01:03:12):
Yeah, it's very weird because I mean traditionally, like a
man is supposed to provide for the household, he's supposed
to you know what I mean, Just like traditionally a
woman is supposed to do certain things. So I feel
like you want the traditional you know, lifestyle and relationship.
The fifty fifty z don't fit in there very well.
Speaker 1 (01:03:35):
I feel it's taking notes.
Speaker 2 (01:03:36):
So he got the ears what he said, then go,
He said, he gonna put another camera on the opposite
side in your closet, in your personal closet.
Speaker 1 (01:03:47):
Don't joking.
Speaker 2 (01:03:49):
I watch you, right, He's sorry big saying he don't watch.
Comment like subscribe, Okay, shout out to Phil, Phil, do
be be eating as soon as the episode dropped, Love
that day. Even though we're not together, but my best
(01:04:11):
friend be supported. He'd be supporting us. He'd be posting
on his page. I'll be like, okay, it's shoot. He
posted us today going loud.
Speaker 1 (01:04:21):
But I said, we love that. We supportive all love them.
But let's oh no, maybe there's one in the in
the chat over there. I don't know.
Speaker 2 (01:04:30):
Okay, let's see where my supporters at in the end
the chat. You know what I'm saying, Where y'all.
Speaker 1 (01:04:38):
Alive, Where y'all live. Let's let's say, well, her supporter.
Speaker 2 (01:04:44):
She needs her supporter so she can brag about two
where y'all let fellas well?
Speaker 1 (01:04:49):
They said, uh, might we're your supporter y'all?
Speaker 2 (01:04:52):
Before we go is I'm Saint Patrick's day and none
of us were green, So I'm pinching y'all through the
street A.
Speaker 1 (01:05:00):
I'm not irish. So was that how I work? I
don't know.
Speaker 2 (01:05:05):
I got a little bit. Maybe I don't work. Wait,
not this same Pastrog's day. I'm gonna pitch out through
the screen.
Speaker 1 (01:05:15):
Ain't to be doing Oh no she didn't.
Speaker 2 (01:05:20):
It's too late. Everything any day Irish? I mean, don't, don't,
don't drink too much.
Speaker 1 (01:05:33):
Until next time.
Speaker 2 (01:05:34):
We'll catch out again Wednesday, ap Make sure y'all subscribe,
tune in to humble Baddy's podcast, and so then, thank you,
thanks for watching.
Speaker 1 (01:05:45):
It like you was and the mother was. So is
gonna be.
Speaker 2 (01:05:49):
Baby squad shoes running on us.
Speaker 3 (01:05:55):
You need
I never out of my name. You feel like you was,
and the more one so is gonna be baby squad,
what's up? What's up? What's up? Lady? Our bad we are?
Speaker 2 (00:15):
How does it feel to be doing live in house?
How y'all feeling and how you dealing? I feel it's
more of a casual vibes. I feel like we're just
kicking it, like we're just talking like facetimed girl chat.
Like I really like that. Yeah, and that's what is
tumble Baby's girl chat. We live very intimate space, intimate vibes,
(00:37):
the way we can feel that we can touch our supporters.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
So I love it.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
Yeah, so y'all got to write to us in the chat,
let us know what's on your mind. You know we're
gonna go over a few topics, but please chime in.
Speaker 1 (00:50):
Please.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
I love that. I actually do love the interaction. That's
pretty dope.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
It is.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
Let's get started off. Let's talk about this rolling loud
that okay, So let's say in California right now or
it just passed, Yeah, just passed over the weekend. And
you know usually they have it here in Miami too.
I know they do different cities. So yeah, the headliner
with Miami, Miami be lit, hasn't done we've been together
(01:20):
or yes, we had together before in that was a
good time. You know, I'm really Miami just lit. But
I felt like a Stap showed out. A Sap has
set the standard with his whole brand entrance performing on
a helicopter, just showing out, like it hasn't been done.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
Better be showing out. Travis came down.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
He arrives on a helicopter, but then drove in a
truck and then performed this last this last one in
here in Miami.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
So it's like they're just doing They trying to top
each other. Yeah, they trying to top each other, you
know the headliners.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
Yeah, those these you know, these music festivals are really interesting.
Like the kids are the ones that really low key
got me going consistently, just because they want to be
all up in the mix.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
They want to see their favorite artists.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
They want to go from place like stage to stage,
the stage, hit the food trucks up. But I like
to be in the VIP. You know, it's twenty one
and up up there. We got okay, but quick question
Brianna in the audience, Oh yeah, it was great there there,
James there, everybody was there. Okay, I heard I think party.
(02:34):
I mean no, I'd be very bluey there.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
Yeah you were.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
Don't come out and show up. That's the one thing
about these music festivals. You look up and you look
to your right, that could be a celebrity, look to
your left somebody else. Just just about music. That's the
common denominator. Is everyone viben, having a good time and
just flowing. Yeah, I'm not gonna lie. When I go
to Berlin Loud, I always end up like falling in
love with the artists that I never thought I would like,
(03:00):
because it's really about like their stage presence and like
how they go crazy with the audience and like the
mosh pits and.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
Like jumping in the crowd, crowdsurfing.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
I feel a little too old for it, but I'm
with it, and I feel like I get to learn,
like what the kids are into now. Like one year
I went and I fell in love with a little
pump who only I don't know, but she was like
day I was into it. I was very into it.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
Yeah, yeah I haven't. I haven't experienced the role in life.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
Oh we gotta go this year, then you gotta do
it the right way though, Like we be in VI.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
I p like, it's a very different situation. That's it.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
Arialla has been and I and I took my best
friend was her chefferone because I can't.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
I was gonna say, it's a lot.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
It is a lot. On the VIP part, it's not
so crazy. Yeah, you just gotta go when we go
in the VIP. Well, I had her in VIP, but
she wanted to be in the VIP with Jada Wade
and all them.
Speaker 1 (04:10):
And I'm like, that's a whole different type of VIP. Baby.
Speaker 3 (04:12):
You need yeah, you need not about Yeah, it is,
you know, it's if they have bottle service, they have
like your own food truck areas.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
It is the best way to go. And I go
with my Big three. I come the Big three, the
big kids, and they drag me there. We we get
VIP passes. But then I usually dip off and I'm
in the twenty one and up club area and then
they go and do the mash pit.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
They go in there and in the dirt. It's dirty.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
And another thing you got to realize in these these festivals,
it's a lot of drugs. It's a lot of liquor,
and it's a lot of kids, and so it's like
it's a lot of energy going on in that in
that you know, on these music festivals. So you definitely
it's better to be where the adults are and have
that good activity.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
Yeah, gonna have to check Yeah, we're gonna have to
check it out. Let's take up.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
Let's let's talk about Kanye and and miss Kim K.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
What's going on with the tea with them? Nud So.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
Km K has MK has trademarked her KI she should right, yes,
without Kanye's premier. Oh, it's without what she did. She
did not let him know that she trade. She did
not tell him that it was trademark he had he
found out. I think it was trying to put her
(05:34):
on a.
Speaker 1 (05:34):
Song or something something.
Speaker 2 (05:38):
Stop stop, I got a fruit for bight here because
you're sweet. You're sweet? Okay, So I mean, what did
he think she was gonna do? Kim is a whole
business woman. She comes from the hell like hello, like
he shouldn't be surprised.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
And his protection.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
At the end of the day, they have the public,
their public figures, the family's public, the children. We know
every north, south, East, West, we know all the names.
You know, it's very much. I feel like it's a
protection thing, but it should have been communicated. And this
is not gonna be the first or the last time
they're gonna go at it about something. He's obviously creative
(06:16):
and has his musical genius and his side of things,
but Kim is the business side of it.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
So they got to work together and figure this out.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
It looks like I feel like, right, she is a
business person, But do you feel like as a parent,
even though y'all know how we feel about Kanye, but
as a parent, do you think she should have at
least told him, Hey, this is what I'm doing, acknowledge,
gave him at least notification like I'm about to trade
(06:47):
mark our kids name, this is what I'm about to do.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
How he found out, do you think that was messed up?
How he found out.
Speaker 2 (06:52):
I think how he handled it is just as bad
as how he found out. So like him taking it
to the internet. It's like two wrongs make a right.
So if you had an issue with it, then he
should have called him up instead of going on the internet,
you know what I mean, like now up the group. Yeah,
so I don't necessarily feel like, you know, it was
right or like wrong that Kim did that, Like I
(07:15):
don't think it's right or wrong, Like she did what
she had to do, like she a mom, she a businesswoman,
Like you didn't do it, so I'm gonna do it.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
Whatever, you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (07:22):
Like I don't think it's wrong that she did it
without talking to him, but because it doesn't necessarily have
to do with like how she she's being cared for
or you know what I mean, it's like business. It's
like if she wanted to go, if she wanted to
go work at I don't know McDonald's, Like do y'all
really need to have a conversation about that? Like I
(07:43):
feel like it's like business, but this one is different
because I guess Kanye wanted to put what's her name
north on one of his tracks so but he can't
because it's trademark and.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
That's how he found out. Like do y'all feel like.
Speaker 2 (08:04):
Just I feel like we you know, we're judging it
because it's Kanye, and we already have a strong opinion
about Kanye, but as as two parents, but when you're
making big decisions like that, I feel my opinion I
would acknowledge and let hey, this is what I'm doing
for our kid. I agree with you, Charelle, especially now
that they were a big entity together and obviously we
(08:27):
know about the divorce and now separate lives.
Speaker 1 (08:31):
It has to be a conversation.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
It should have been a conversation really low key prior
to divorce. I feel like because they were public figures
and having these children, and I feel like Loki he
might have known because I feel like all the Kardashians
trademark everything because that is how they make their living.
It is name brands, it's branding, its influence, it's lifestyle.
(08:54):
So I feel like every child has a just by default.
I mean, I feel like Chris Jenner is pushing for that,
and I feel like all the men low key, the
dads know about this. I mean their their their fathers
are famous. The children are famous by their image, you know,
their name, image and likeness alone. So I feel like
(09:15):
Loki he knew about this, but we don't.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
We really don't know. It should be on.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
A creative level that the children, with permission from both parents,
should be able to have that creative you know, with
with because I mean, dad.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
Is who he is.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
You know and mom is who she is, so I
feel like this won't be the last time we're going
to hear about this. On some creative level, just letting
the kids express themselves, that's true. I just feel like
if if he would have did it and she didn't
know about it, baby.
Speaker 1 (09:48):
It would have been an ugly situation. My opinion on it.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
I feel if I would say handle it, I would
have acknowledged, hey, this is what I'm about to do,
and do it just putting it agree no out to
find out by trying to do something. But I feel like,
you know, he's taking it the way he's taking it
because it's greed on his end and he knew he
probably could make even more profit by adding her on,
(10:12):
so it kicking him.
Speaker 1 (10:14):
I think it's more.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
Than just not you know, I didn't tell you what
I did. It's messing up his coins. That's what I feel. Yeah,
well that's not about it. First then Kim, it's about
the grands. It should be about the kids. But I
know it's definitely I'm sure they're probably not even talking
(10:35):
like that. You never you just never know, like it's
hardcore parenting, you know. And then when there's other parties involved,
especially influence. Again, you got the world involved. He was
out of the group chat. We shouldn't know about this stuff.
I agree, Yeah, run into the internet. You just messed
yourself up. And yeah, and only the kids get hurt
(10:56):
at the end of the day. Again, but it's like,
you know, yeah, yeah, he's gonna do this NonStop. Right,
That's yeah, that's a tough one. It's never a dull
moment like with him or her. You know, there's always something.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
It is. Let's talk about n L E Chappe. Yeah, cho,
I have respect for him. Who don't understand what that was? Serious? Sam? Sorry,
I don't understand. You don't understand that.
Speaker 2 (11:33):
I don't know what what's going on with him because
it's something that's going.
Speaker 1 (11:36):
On with him too. But I feel like it's good.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
I feel like, you know, he he's been supporting the
l g b Q t Q community.
Speaker 1 (11:48):
Don't come from.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
Us, what is the l g l g B plus,
But but he's been supporting in a lot of people
feel like because he's been supporting heart that you know
he's homosexual or he undercovered he has expressed that. You know,
(12:11):
I'm very confident in who I am as a man.
I just support everyone, and I like that. You know,
he's not a judgmental. He has fans in that community,
and he's showing the same amount of respect and love
to that community as well as the you know, the Straits.
But he's been getting a lot of criticism in regards
(12:31):
to being undercovered, and that's not fair.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
That's not right.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
I'm gonna say, is a criticism from watch community? Is
it the black community, because you know how we are
deep in our masculinity, especially the men, very very masculine
and very much like homophobic. And I feel like what
he's doing is he's an artist. He's expressing himself and
being very much like I am straight. I've heard his songs,
(12:55):
my kids sing the songs, and he is definitely talking
about the.
Speaker 1 (12:59):
Female females, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
So I don't I don't see why you can't support others.
I mean, you never know if he has family, you
know that that could be. It's just has to be
where it's twenty twenty five. We have to be way
more open, We have to be way more tolerant of
everyone else because they're just just people at the end
of the day, and their sexual preference shouldn't even it
shouldn't matter.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
Don't get your kick.
Speaker 2 (13:23):
But yeah, I think the younger generation is more open,
more fluid, more accepting than like the older generation, like
our generation. I hate that I'm the older generation now,
but the auntie yeah, the aunties, But I feel like
the younger generation they're just a little bit more you know,
open to you know, different people's lifestyles and more accepting,
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which I think is amazing. And I think that you know,
through art like music and just creatives in general. I
think it's just really great that you know, we can bridge,
you know, all of our communities together.
Speaker 1 (14:02):
So kudos to him for you know, standing up.
Speaker 2 (14:06):
And showing support for the lgbt Q plus community. I
feel like if you are, if you are supporting them
too or not supporting them, it's a double as sword.
It's one thing or the other. Like you're either jumping
on the would you say, boom, you can't is it
you can't win for losing or is it you can't
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which one.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
You can't do?
Speaker 2 (14:33):
Right now that you're trying to say it, right, I
know what you're saying, Like you know what's like you know,
either you say I'm not going because it's an LG,
it's a you know, gay pride or whatever, and then
you're getting bashed or getting canceled. I mean, we know
a few people have been canceled for you know, not
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supporting and or you show up and you really are
just I'm creative, I am who I am.
Speaker 1 (15:03):
I can be very confident.
Speaker 2 (15:04):
Yeah, very confident in my sexuality and shouldn't feel any
kind of way.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
It's twenty twenty five. We got to do better.
Speaker 2 (15:11):
Yeah, yeah, never out of my name, And like.
Speaker 1 (15:16):
You was in the More One, let's get it into
with y'all, the.
Speaker 2 (15:23):
The question of the day, the topic of the month
of what's been going on in the blocks? I know
y'all seen it where free. I don't know how to
pronounce her last name, Nick Cannon's baby, mam.
Speaker 1 (15:33):
Yes you're talking about so I'm selling Sunset.
Speaker 2 (15:39):
Yet she did an interview in regards to, you know,
her relationship with Nick Cannon, and I feel like it's
starting to be the norm now these why do why
are people so interested? Though? It's my thing, like why
do we keep interviewing her about her relationship with Nick Cannon?
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But it's not just Sarah, what what I'm speaking on
is like a lot of people are becoming open to
BALI probably were open or whatever because probably because women
feel like they'll take a piece of a man, like
they can't get everything that they're looking for from one person.
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So I feel like they're just like, well, if he
can give me this and this. He might not can
give me everything, but he can give me a baby,
he can give me some money, a house. Okay, I
can work with that. So they go with that. M
you feel like it's just our culture because when you
really take a deep look into it, you look into
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the Muslim community world, they have multiple wives and they're
okay with it. Isn't literate, It's not just most it is.
Speaker 1 (16:55):
I know what you're saying.
Speaker 2 (16:56):
There are some cultures that are like, if you can
afford to take care of X, Y and Z so
many wives and the children, then you should be multiple.
What does it be fruitful and multiply? You know that
ticket to another another level. I have multiple.
Speaker 1 (17:11):
Wives, they have multiple times, so that's considered what.
Speaker 2 (17:17):
If I could polygamy? Polygamy right, So it's been going
to do and they won.
Speaker 1 (17:26):
They one. Now we're not used to it. I'm not
used to it. I couldn't be enough.
Speaker 2 (17:31):
I was just about to ask y'all, well, why why
can't you do it? Cherrelle, I'm curious so much your
thoughts are I don't.
Speaker 1 (17:40):
I'm not sharing my men, like I just can't share
my men.
Speaker 2 (17:44):
But what if you have other men on the side,
and I just I can't. It's hard for me to
maintain multiple men.
Speaker 1 (17:52):
I can't care what you what if would you do
how they're doing it?
Speaker 2 (17:56):
Like?
Speaker 1 (17:56):
Would you be the one woman with multiple men?
Speaker 2 (17:58):
Though?
Speaker 1 (17:58):
Could you do that?
Speaker 2 (18:00):
I just said I can't balance multiple men. Well you
need to run the multi task, honey. Oh, I don't
though what you're doing.
Speaker 1 (18:11):
I can try it. My thing is this, I don't know,
actually don't.
Speaker 2 (18:18):
And I just feel like men are so open to
doing it, but they can't handle it if they are
the one of many, you know what I mean, Like
if they just had to be with they had to
be one of the husbands. I agree with you as
I feel like they can't handle it. I feel like
they can't do it, and I feel like we need
to see the other side of it. We need to
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see a woman who has five husbands and where they're
all in agreeance, like, yeah, I'm Tuesday and Thursday and
whatever whatever, But what need.
Speaker 1 (18:48):
You be in a relationship?
Speaker 2 (18:51):
And if a man came to you and say, you
know what, I have to have multiple women. I love you,
but I need another woman, you take that and you
really like him. I feel like I'm low key dealing
with that now in dating, just in general being single.
Speaker 1 (19:08):
I mean in my other my other relationships.
Speaker 2 (19:11):
I was in an open relationship and didn't know I
was in one, so at least there's some dialogue and
some communication.
Speaker 1 (19:18):
But I said that because I'm dating, I'm.
Speaker 2 (19:20):
Not already date dating, not already dating multiple people at
the same time. And when you're with them, you already
feel like, you know, you really like him. You're the
only one, like you're not thinking about you know when
he leaves and who he's with when he's gone. You
don't know who he's dating. And you know what I
mean with us, right? Who are you texting good morning?
Is it a mass text in the morning to everyone
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that you're talking to because you're doing so many energy
you know what I.
Speaker 1 (19:52):
Was like, Wait, it's funny when you said the mastick.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
I was on this flight coming back and it was
a how profile individuals sitting in front of me, and
I can see them texts and like they didn't have
a screen, or that they.
Speaker 1 (20:06):
Would copy and paste the same thing to.
Speaker 2 (20:09):
Like twelve dealer or sounds like, oh dang, that's the
kind of like people watching.
Speaker 1 (20:14):
I like that that's exhausted, just say, like.
Speaker 2 (20:22):
Me. But he might be he might be a polugamist
or just just living his best life, you know what
I mean. Like I look at it like this.
Speaker 1 (20:33):
I want open dialogue.
Speaker 2 (20:36):
I mean, I agree with Charrelle like and y'all, like
I feel like man can't handle it. You know, if
you're saying this is what it is, it starts from
the beginning. Hey, I'm dating other people, if that's the conversation.
I'm dating with intention, or I'm dating for one partner.
I mean, I prefer one partner. My pH balance prefers
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one partner. My mental, my heart, my time prefers one partner.
Because it's already a lot juggling this pie of like
work and family and friends and children and all these things.
And so I don't need all these other energies because
I believe in soul ties. I believe in you know,
mixing energies and other people's energies coming into your relationship
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and really coming into your spirit.
Speaker 1 (21:23):
And I don't have time for that, Like I don't.
Speaker 2 (21:26):
I don't want to be getting tested over and over
again because you know, you over.
Speaker 1 (21:31):
Here doing this and doing that.
Speaker 2 (21:33):
I appreciate the honesty because again it's the other way around.
It becomes cheating if it's not verbalized, you know what
I mean. But at the same time, it's not for me.
I just don't think I can spread all this love.
And I feel like my value is just enough to
where you you know, I feel I love myself so
much that you shouldn't want to share. You shouldn't want
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me to be out there being shared, you know, lock
the shit down. I think right now, there's this whole
thing with men, like they feel like, I mean, they
should feel like they are a price right, but they
feel like things have shifted, you.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
Know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (22:12):
I feel like there's this whole thing about a high
value man, and they feel like if they're high value man,
then you know, they have a lot to offer, and
they have a lot of resources, and so therefore they
should be allowed to have multiple women because they can
afford it. And that just makes them, you know, an
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eligible person to be with multiple women.
Speaker 1 (22:39):
So I don't know. I think because women.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
Are allowing this mindset of the man being like the
prize and we have to be out here trying to
get them and chase them. I feel like it's really
just changed, like the whole dynamic up dating.
Speaker 1 (23:01):
And I don't know.
Speaker 2 (23:03):
It's like, I agree, the women are the men. Now,
that's what what your color said.
Speaker 1 (23:11):
It was the what is this? What's the football player?
Speaker 2 (23:15):
Cam Newton? No, Brandon Marshall, he said, oh, he did
say that. What did he say? He said, the women
are the women are the men the nim Yeah, the
women are the new niggas.
Speaker 1 (23:27):
That's with me, Yeah, the new n word.
Speaker 2 (23:30):
And because he got flewed out, Yeah, because he got
flewed out by an a lister actress.
Speaker 1 (23:38):
You know, it's like the tables have turned.
Speaker 2 (23:40):
The men going to be wined and dined, they want
to be flued out. It's just a different dynamic these days. No,
I want to be courted. I want to be Let
me be the queen that I am. You know, let
me know you're interested and show some effort. That's sexy
and I'm not competing. I feel again, two people have
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to be in love with themselves to want to share
that love and really negotiate their peace with someone else.
And I don't have time to be splitting it up
and dividing it up and all that.
Speaker 1 (24:11):
It's too much. Yella is out here flying around I
hear me. Oh that's right, that's another one.
Speaker 2 (24:17):
Yeah, every day he's out like posting pictures. I don't remember, right,
not either too, Like why are they so like flashy
with it?
Speaker 1 (24:27):
Like why is it a show? You know?
Speaker 2 (24:29):
Why do we need to know that it's with different
ten different women?
Speaker 1 (24:34):
Do they all date each other? Because they all be together?
Speaker 2 (24:37):
And one that's a great question, cherrelle, what type of
relationship is that?
Speaker 1 (24:41):
Is that the like where he's the main and then
they have I don't know you call it all they
talk out together? What do these said? It's called what?
Speaker 2 (24:56):
Then that's a lot of that's a lot of going.
That's a lot to handle. That is a lot. Maybe
it's like that too. Maybe it's like they're just trying
to be cool. I don't know, but Neil, I don't
think I have been approached to be like like this
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is my partner, this is my fiance. This is my person,
but I'm allowed to date other people and date other women.
I should say, what was it? It's maybe about six
six seven months ago. A friend of mine was like,
(25:40):
just so, I mean I like I like listening to
I like listening to people, and really, you know, understanding
where their mind is.
Speaker 1 (25:52):
Did you think that you have a little thought process?
And was like maybe I couldn't know, did it? No?
Speaker 2 (25:59):
No, I didn't like him enough. Okay, what if you
really really like? I think that wouldn't be my person.
I feel like I my values, my religion, just my spirituality,
and really just my life experience. I'm not for everybody,
and everybody's not for me, and I don't want to
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deal with another female if you don't want to deal
with them, Like how oh we saw that show me?
Speaker 1 (26:29):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (26:30):
Yeah? The actor he said he's ethically non monogamous. You know.
So he's saying, like every woman in his life serves
a purpose and has like a role, and like one
woman might not be as available because they have a career,
or they live somewhere else or something, so they're not
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as available, and so then he has this other girl
who isn't as busy so she serves a purpose. And
then like he has a woman he wants to have
kids with, you know, so it's like each woman serves
a purpose. But I don't think any of the women
really have to deal with each other. And that's going
back to like Nick Cannon and Breed too, Like I
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feel like, but I don't never see Nick.
Speaker 1 (27:14):
With other his other baby mamas. I always see him
with Breath. I see him with the other ones. I know,
one of them. I have to be with the other
ones because he's still making babies with and he's.
Speaker 2 (27:22):
With them, Like I see him in the pictures. I
see him like bring his baby number like eights or seven,
I don't know, but he had more after her.
Speaker 1 (27:33):
And yeah, so.
Speaker 2 (27:35):
I'm saying, like I see every time I'm on social media,
I just always see him. I feel like she's doing that. Yeah,
she's into this. She's about that life, you know what
I mean. She's on reality TV. She's doing her thing
or whatever. I mean, I don't know. She's definitely the
one doing the interviews. You see Mariah Riah ain't having no. No,
(27:57):
Mariah is not a part of that count. She is
like she was the first and he was the only wife.
But you know, to each their own. Again, it's just
not my passion, my portion or my testimony is not
my thing. Free statement was has defended there they have
an arrangement, not a relationship, and arrangement stating that she
(28:20):
is happy with their dynamic and does not feel the
need for exclusivity and that's good for her buying.
Speaker 1 (28:27):
To herself for now, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (28:30):
It's like, I got to make the best of this situation,
and I'm gonna make it look amazing, because why would
you come in these interviews and be like it's horrible.
I hate it, you know, like she's going to say that.
I feel like she's going to say whatever she has
to say to get by.
Speaker 1 (28:50):
I think I get to in my head.
Speaker 2 (28:52):
You know, if the many you walk out the door,
you're adding all this extra pressure to me.
Speaker 1 (28:57):
I don't want and we are emotional creatures.
Speaker 2 (29:00):
Like we get we get only it's that time, after
that time of the month we start, you know, ovulating.
When we start ovulating, you know, we won't want it
bad and what if we can't get it from him.
Speaker 1 (29:13):
I feel like that we're having somebody on the side.
I wonder if I wonder has that been asked?
Speaker 2 (29:20):
They don't, you know, no, like all of all us
fair like he can do him you she he knows,
she knows that he's going to go to see these
babies and be an active father. I'm sure that's what's
attracted to her too. But like, I don't know. I
don't know as Yeah, I don't think they got to
be exclusive back right, I don't know, but.
Speaker 1 (29:42):
They don't want you out there. They want you to know.
Speaker 2 (29:45):
I know Nel said that about his situation that I
can't oh what you said. Yeah, that they have to
be exclusive to him, that's every man. But I don't
think Nick Cannon. He's never said anything like that. I
think think Nick wants his women to be exclusive. You
don't see anyone else. Maybe they're not allowed to publicly
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because you can't be that. I just walk around with
a clown face baby, because I ain't no way, no way.
Speaker 1 (30:20):
Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (30:22):
Ain't no amount of money in the world that's gonna
have me looking like Boo Boo the fool while you
out here with everything.
Speaker 1 (30:29):
And I don't want it. I don't want it.
Speaker 2 (30:31):
I feel like, you know, we got to go back
to the times of being courted and being loved on
and being you know, put on a pedestal and really
like men should be, you know, fighting for our attention
and really like it's like the lions, you know what
I mean, Like let me go and impress her and
really be like choose this woman that I want to
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pour into because we are way more I feel like complex,
Like men are very like simple, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (31:01):
So we it's a lot of work and if we want.
Speaker 2 (31:04):
To be fulfilled in so many different ways, they need
to focus. But I feel like these new age women
are making the bark for these men. Yeah, the bar
is very low, like the standard is not there anything.
So how change these men to go back to Gorton?
To go back to because they these women is oh,
(31:27):
let me sit up.
Speaker 1 (31:27):
I'm sorry.
Speaker 3 (31:30):
It's somebodyse are just making it so easily.
Speaker 1 (31:35):
It's hard for others.
Speaker 2 (31:37):
Starts at home, like with our young people at home,
like me teaching my sons like what kind of lady
to be interested in, how to be a gentleman, how
to me and like it really just it's really about
having like examples and representation of families and marriages and
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having them around certain company, and they got to see
it in their face to boom that I'm saying. If
you don't see it, then you're just gonna think, oh, well,
I've seen all these broken up relationships and families and
I already know he probably gonna cheat on me. So
let me just you know, I feel like, if you
don't believe it, that you can have a man that
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is going to give you everything that you want and need,
and you can have a whole, you know, relationship that
you know, come fronts you and fulfills you in all
the ways that you need. If you don't believe that
that could happen for you, then of course you're gonna
go out here and be with a man who says, well,
I'm gonna be with five other girls.
Speaker 1 (32:42):
Yeah you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (32:44):
I like that. Thus, start with self. Starts at home.
It starts with having those examples. I like that a lot,
and teaching your little boys like I teach Dannam open
the door, say it's you know, ladies, verse just do
lead small things because now you just you just see
my grandfather, even my dad, they opened the door for
their wife for you know, for women. They allow the
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woman to go first. These men are starting to act
like that exactly. That's what I'm saying. First and a
lot of these guys didn't have that at home, and
it's showing now.
Speaker 1 (33:17):
It's show now that they're older and they're dating, it's showing. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (33:22):
Yeah, it's just too many options and so much access.
Speaker 1 (33:27):
Is the access has gotten easier too.
Speaker 2 (33:30):
You know, you could be at home scrolling and set
up a date the next day instead of just walking
down the street, you know and just really bumping into somebody.
It's just too easy. It's psychly. They don't have to
put effort. Now they can just double tap. I like
you double tap and now you know, and it becomes
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very transactional to it's latten to be, and it becomes
super transactional to where it's like, you know what, it
becomes quantity over quality.
Speaker 1 (34:02):
That's that too. You know, it's just a lot of
layers to that.
Speaker 2 (34:06):
But I bet men would say that it's like that
because women just want money and stuff. So they're like, well,
I can give you money, that's easy, you know what
I mean. So it becomes a transaction. Yeah, I think
now they ain't giving you no standards here. This is
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basically you want the money. I want this not just.
Speaker 1 (34:31):
A transaction and get out of hand.
Speaker 2 (34:35):
It's just becoming nasty, just nasty out there, just nasty.
Speaker 1 (34:42):
So how do you go about like changing it?
Speaker 2 (34:45):
Like you like someone and you see potential in them,
but they have those flaws of they.
Speaker 1 (34:51):
Don't know Tomai, you got a change it? No not.
I'm talking about just being able to for a man
being a man again, like doing things. Hmm, that's tough
about it. A question changing a man. I feel like
a man is going to changing a man.
Speaker 2 (35:13):
I'm just saying, like changing, not changing that man as
a person, but changing his ways to to be able
to put the woman first, like doing little small things,
learning my lovelength.
Speaker 1 (35:26):
That starts with intention.
Speaker 2 (35:27):
That's that to me, that's the first con like one
of the first conversations if you if I'm being approached
one thing, like I think it starts with like we're
we're all old school. We prefer a man to approach us,
you know what I mean? Special if we're out and
you know, it starts with that. And then when you
have to start to have these conversations where are you
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in life?
Speaker 1 (35:49):
Where do you see yourself? Intention?
Speaker 2 (35:51):
That's when you can start to like decipher who you're
gonna really start to invest in, because I feel like
men start to know early on if this is someone
that they really start to like, just like you know
what I mean, And it starts with it's just really
about intention and conversation and really like, this is where
I'm mat in life, this is what I see really
happening for me, And if I like him, then it progresses.
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If it doesn't, then you know, it starts to naturally
fall back, because you know, when you get in the
space of knowing your worth and knowing your value, you're
not dealing with the bullshit. You're not dealing with the
little the red flags and just the nuances that would
turn you off. Like I feel like, once you get
in the space of being married, being divorced, dating multiple
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people and just understanding who you are, you can choose
who's not gonna not gonna go further on in the stage,
you know what I mean, because then we we know
we're wasting time. I don't have time for that, you know,
I gotta like you gotta it's some some things, but
it's intention.
Speaker 1 (36:55):
I think it's I.
Speaker 2 (36:56):
Think sometimes guys can be a little slow, so I
don't think that there's anything wrong with a man who
doesn't like come already knowing like how to please you,
because everybody is different, every woman is different, everybody thinks differently.
So when it comes to like you were saying cherrill,
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like changing a man or showing him like how do
you get him to do the things or whatever, like
I think it's just starts with like communication, you know
what I mean, and like giving him hints like I
would say, because men gonna do what they want to do,
you know.
Speaker 1 (37:34):
What I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (37:35):
And I feel like if they really really like you,
they're going to really like pay attention.
Speaker 1 (37:39):
So I don't like to like.
Speaker 2 (37:42):
Tell a man aka Phil because I don't like to
tell him what to do, but I like to like hint,
you know what I'm saying, Like I'm it's a big hint,
you know, Like I pretty much lay it out without
telling him, you know what I'm saying, because I want
him to pick it up on his own and like
really be intentional about making a decision to do this
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to please be, you know what I'm saying. And I
feel like they don't start picking up on the hips
and they don't like you, so I think it's just
like putting it out there, like this is what I like,
but not telling a man what to do, because if
you have to tell him what to do, I feel
like he don't really like you.
Speaker 1 (38:21):
Like that, he's just doing what you're saying.
Speaker 2 (38:23):
Yeah, go out through the emotions or whatever. The check
off list.
Speaker 1 (38:27):
I like that. Ash, that's a great point. I have
a puestion. This is a one that I have seen happen.
Speaker 2 (38:37):
Do you think a person can genuinely love more than
one person at the same time?
Speaker 1 (38:42):
Yes? Have you ever in a situation before? Have I
been in that situation before? No? In love, not love,
but be in love.
Speaker 2 (38:55):
I think people can be in love with multiple people
at once. I'm saying a couple, just because there's different
types of love. There's different types of like you can
still not be over someone.
Speaker 1 (39:08):
Too, like sexually intimately, Like what do you mean like
being in love?
Speaker 2 (39:17):
Like there's different types of love like I love you,
but being in love like I love you to the
point where I want to spend the rest of my
life with you type love.
Speaker 1 (39:28):
Yeah, I do. I feel like you could be in
love with two people at once. I do.
Speaker 2 (39:34):
I don't never want to cull it on either. I
just think, like you, I think you can you know
that is it gets real tricky when that happens. But
at the same time, I like, look at us, we
love all of our children, We love our you know,
like I know that's unconditional in a different kind of way.
(39:54):
But if you have a bond with someone, if you're friends,
if you have this you know, maybe intimate relatelationship, right,
but that's a different type of love, like you're gonna love.
We're gonna love, of course, because it's different. But being
in love intimately physically, that's a that's a Oh, it
takes a lot.
Speaker 1 (40:15):
I agree.
Speaker 2 (40:16):
I don't think I can be in love. I can
be in love with two people at the same time.
I think sometimes that happens because like you get caught
up in the idea of being in love with somebody,
you know what I mean, And if that happens, like
if you fall in love with two people, I feel like.
Speaker 1 (40:37):
It's not it's not really love.
Speaker 2 (40:39):
It's the idea of love because if you really really
in love with somebody, like in love, like, how could
you fall in love with somebody else unless it's like
one of those freak accidents, like you fell in love
with somebody and then like they went on a trip
and they disappeared.
Speaker 1 (40:54):
And then you met somebody else and they came back.
Speaker 2 (40:57):
That's like a movie though, you know what I'm saying, Like,
are just dating two people and then you fall in
love with both of them at the same time. I
feel like, and that's why to your point, that's what
I'm thinking, Like, you can still in love with somebody
and it just didn't work out, or it's long distance
or something like that, and you know, if life happens
and you just so that's how I feel like that
(41:18):
you can still be in love with somebody.
Speaker 1 (41:22):
More than one person. Right.
Speaker 2 (41:25):
What's your take on emotional cheating and is it worse
than physical cheating?
Speaker 1 (41:37):
Wow? I know I feel like, dang, that's pretty that's
the tough Okay.
Speaker 2 (41:44):
I think all the times to be like, emotional cheating
mostly be like seems like like the women in the
relationship usually does the emotion cheating, right, and then it's
usually the man that does the physical cheating. So I
would say the emotional is probably worse because women we
(42:08):
lead with our emotions and like once we emotionally like gone, then.
Speaker 1 (42:13):
The body is going.
Speaker 2 (42:15):
I agree, you know what I'm saying, Like, if it's
a physical thing, I feel like you just got one
off and move on. So for me, I would say
that emotional is worse, but both are both equally, I
think wrong.
Speaker 1 (42:33):
I agree with you, Ashley.
Speaker 2 (42:35):
I feel like emotional is way worse just because now
the heart, the mind, the soul, everything is attached to that,
whereas physical it could be a one off. It could
be I fucked up or slipped up, or it was
a mistake, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (42:53):
Whenever, So I just feel like.
Speaker 2 (42:56):
And that might be a little easier to get over
than emotional, because when you're emotionally tired to somebody, there
are feelings there are your mind is involved, your heart
is involved, and that can be very tricky and scary.
Speaker 1 (43:11):
I was.
Speaker 2 (43:11):
I did a podcast with this couple they were amazing
out of Atlanta, and the husband spoke on it about you.
Speaker 1 (43:19):
Know, when men cheat, Men are cheat with the intent
to fall in love, like they're cheating.
Speaker 2 (43:25):
They're cheating because it's the ego thing or they want
to feel like they still have it. But when a
woman cheat, the man is hard for that man to
forgive that woman because they know emotions are attached. So
he was like, it's not the same, it's not on
the same total.
Speaker 1 (43:41):
Hole, both of them are wrong.
Speaker 2 (43:44):
But when a woman even emotionally, so I feel like
emotionally they don't even have to lay with that person
physically cheating, just being attached to a man, their feelings
and their attention are starting to drift away. And when
they start drifting drifting away, it's pretty much over for that.
Speaker 1 (44:04):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (44:05):
Yeah, some holes out there who will just bust one
off real quick. So I don't want to just put
that on the man do the hose be hoing and right,
You're right, Ashley, I just had to put that out
there because we can't you know what I'm saying. Yeah,
it is something that I could cheat with no let
and that's to turn off for me. If I find
(44:25):
out you got a situation, you know, I'm like, no,
I don't want to. I don't want to try to
penetrate that. I don't want no parts of it. I
don't like it.
Speaker 1 (44:35):
Yeah, that's true.
Speaker 2 (44:36):
You know, it's just not my thing and you become
instantly unattractive. What y'all think about people having like work
husbands and work vibes and stuff I'll be hearing about that.
Speaker 1 (44:48):
Is that cheating or is that like just.
Speaker 2 (44:51):
It depends because I have you know, I have seen
situations when Chad and I was in a relationship and
he was close to females, but it.
Speaker 1 (45:01):
Was like I know who they were, they were comfortable.
Speaker 2 (45:04):
But then you sometimes have to watch that too because
you don't know they can play the role and then
not saying that that happened in our situation, but it
has happened before.
Speaker 1 (45:13):
What was it? Was it? I don't even want to
put one of the celebrities.
Speaker 2 (45:20):
The lady was booking the flights and doing everything all
in the face, smiling and behind her back she was
she kneels and.
Speaker 1 (45:30):
They don't want to.
Speaker 2 (45:34):
But it had its public knowledge or whatever. You're right,
that happens all the time, you know what I mean. Unfortunately,
I'm gonna say I don't I don't trust it. Yeah, turkey,
I'm gonna be the assistant. I'm gonna be the everything
you need, what you need. I booked the flights, I
(45:55):
washed the clothes, taking to the queen what you need,
make the reservations. Gosh, okay, But I feel like like
I mean, I have guy friends, and I don't want
a relationship to be like someone in a relationship when
that becomes super serious, to be like you got to
cut them off. I know my boundaries. I also know
(46:17):
I don't want him to be uncomfortable. But I'm gonna
be like, that's actually my guy friend. Like there's nothing sexual,
there's nothing anything going on, but actually that's a friend
that has built. But if you started dating somebody and
they have that work life or whatever, and as far
as you know, it is just work related, but it
(46:40):
still makes you a little uncomfortable. Are you gonna just
suck it up and deal with it, or you're gonna
speak up and say, hey, I'm a little uncomfortable with
your situation.
Speaker 1 (46:49):
Definitely have to say it makes.
Speaker 2 (46:50):
You well, unless it shouldn't make you uncomfortable, unless they
they give you reasons to make them make you feel
that's true, right, because but I don't have like any
concrete like it's like they're super close. They have the chemistry, okay,
because they've known each other for years, they've been working
together for years, but they're like, you know, they're really close.
(47:11):
She knows everything about him, she books everything, blah blah,
blah blah blah. So there's not anything that you know
specifically that's wrong, but it's just like the intuition.
Speaker 1 (47:23):
Type of feeling.
Speaker 2 (47:25):
I feel like those are insecurity issues or jealousy and
unless for me, until you give me a wrestling to
put our in type of way, then I'm not gonna
put it on you. I'm not gonna put that in
there until you have a reason to feel that way.
I'm not going to make you feel uncomfortable because you
have a friend. This person could have been friends before
I even came in a picture. I'm not going to
(47:46):
make you feel uncomfortable or make you feel like you
have to sneak around to talk to your friend or
be with your friend because I feel uncomfortable for no
reason because you're friends with you know, a pretty female
or just a female in general. I have male friends
and it's just not right, Like, until you give me
a reason to feel that way, then that's when I'm
(48:07):
gonna start acting the food. But and I agree with you, Cherrelle,
because it's like until you find out, like you know,
something shady is going on, or you find out that
they are booking flights for other women or whatever, then
there's the issue. But other than that, to me, everyone
starts with a clean slate until you prove me wrong
that you can't be trusted. And I would definitely say something.
(48:29):
I'm not biting my tongue. If it's something that's super
uncomfortable for me, I got to talk about it.
Speaker 1 (48:34):
I want to know what's up.
Speaker 2 (48:36):
And if my intuition kicks in and then I find
out some more stuff, then you we got a problem. Yeah,
you know, but I just don't. It gets tricky, you know,
because you got the ladies are in and out, especially
the guys.
Speaker 1 (48:52):
They you know a.
Speaker 2 (48:53):
Lot of men they just have staff or they have
these ladies around and they bring in this energy. You know,
it can it can get a little tricky, but you
gotta trust got too.
Speaker 1 (49:06):
Never out of my name.
Speaker 2 (49:08):
It's been like you one and numbre one. There's some
we're some good conversations. We gotta get over to Humble
Batty's mail. But let us know how y'all feel about
these topics, about this situation. Could you handle your husband
or wife having a work husband having multiple ex friends.
Speaker 1 (49:29):
Let us know how.
Speaker 2 (49:30):
Y'all feel about it, and so then we're gonna get
into the Humble Batty Mail What we got?
Speaker 1 (49:37):
Okay, This is from Tiffany from Maryland.
Speaker 2 (49:42):
Hey Tiffany, heyte Tiffany, Hey Humble Baddies. I absolutely love
your show and I'm always excited when a new episode drops.
Speaker 1 (49:52):
I'm hoping you can give me some advice.
Speaker 2 (49:55):
I've been dating this amazing guy for about a year now,
and we've really fallen for each other. Everything has been
going great, but recently he told me that his job
is relocating him to Dallas, Texas. We both live in
Maryland right now, so this would be a big change.
Speaker 1 (50:13):
He asked me how I feel about moving to Dallas
with him.
Speaker 2 (50:18):
We're not engaged, but our relationships has been strong and
I feel like he's serious about us. The thing is,
I have my family and my friends here in Maryland.
While I don't have kids or any major ties holding
me back. It still feels like a huge step to
move with someone. Do you think I should take the
leap and go with him or would it be better
(50:39):
to let him settle in first see how things go
before I make a move. I'm worried that if I
stay behind, he could meet someone new and move on
and I'd be left wondering what could have been. I
really love to hear your thoughts on what you do
in my situation. Thanks so much for reading my letter
and please keep making amazing episodes.
Speaker 1 (50:59):
Can't wait to see you on tour.
Speaker 2 (51:01):
Oh well, run than Tiffany for Maryland ladies.
Speaker 1 (51:07):
Oh what do y'all think about that? Well? I am
a hopeless romantic girl.
Speaker 2 (51:14):
So I say, pack yo shit, Yeah, okay, pack it
up and go. I mean, if nothing is holding you back,
like if your work situation, you know, if you're gonna
be good to go, like there's nothing hunding you back,
then why not go? Like he sounds like he's ready
to make a big step with you, and I feel
(51:35):
like if you're hesitating, then like do you even really
like him?
Speaker 1 (51:40):
Like that? Like what are you doing? Because you know,
if everything's going.
Speaker 2 (51:43):
Well with y'all and he's about to move, he's getting
a new job, like things are on the up and
up for him and he wants you to be a
part of that. Telling him no to me would be
like a major setback, And I if I were him,
I would look at you like not like.
Speaker 1 (51:58):
I wouldn't like.
Speaker 2 (51:59):
You anymore, But it wouldn't make me feel like you're
not as serious about me as I am with you,
especially in this day and age of dating and dating school.
Ain't that well, girl, I don't know. I would really
think hard about it, but I would pack my stuff
and see how I feel.
Speaker 1 (52:16):
And if it don't work, are you always move back?
Speaker 2 (52:20):
Well, that's a b I would probably slowly transition.
Speaker 1 (52:25):
I would pack up and leave.
Speaker 2 (52:27):
I'll, you know, keep my place, go there, see how
it is, because it's a lot you don't know how
it is. Lettaly's person may be all good, you know,
while y'all going back and forth, y'all like each other
the butterflies. But I need to experience how it is
living with you for a couple of days, for a week,
they go back home, you know, set then.
Speaker 1 (52:49):
It feels with three weeks than a month.
Speaker 2 (52:52):
I just can't. I just can't pack it up and
just go. So Tiffany, my recommendation is to take it slow,
slow Chloyd studies. I'm with Ash and I'm with you, Charrelle.
I'm a hopeless romantic too. But at the same time,
like she, Tiffany doesn't have anything tying or down like
(53:14):
right now, like it's hard dating already locally, you know,
trying to have your life and have children.
Speaker 1 (53:22):
And work and all that kind of stuff.
Speaker 2 (53:23):
But if you have nothing tying you down, I say,
I like how Charrelle said, gradually go, you know, absence
makes the heart grow fonder, and so it's like it
gets sexier when it's like, yeah, I'm coming in this weekend,
I'll see you after months or whatever, or you know,
just pack a bag and really have like really start
to slowly transition to it.
Speaker 1 (53:43):
So I'm like, you know, show up, give that energy.
Speaker 2 (53:46):
It's sexy to meet up like you know, halfway or
whatever on the road or however that may be. So
if that's the if that's where your heart is, go
follow it. But at the same time, be conscious and
know that just in can you can fall back, or
you can go and make a move because you're starting,
you know, and say, you're moving to this new city.
(54:07):
This is where his job is. He's gonna have built
in people at work. Anyway, You're gonna have to start
over finding people to be social with and to really
find your own identity in a new city. And you know,
it's that can be tough in itself, and really your
job or whatever else, it would be hard, you know.
Speaker 1 (54:26):
So it's just it's a lot of factors.
Speaker 2 (54:28):
But I say, go for it, but take your time,
take your time to girl, and.
Speaker 1 (54:34):
Don't feel like he might find something else. Don't take
too much time toify. I don't think.
Speaker 2 (54:39):
I don't think you should put that pressure on myself, like, oh,
he might find someone else not meant to be if
they're supposed to be together, yeah, exactly, if it's meant
to be.
Speaker 1 (54:48):
Yeah, But I think he don't for him to ask too.
That is, you know, when he.
Speaker 2 (54:56):
Put that ring on the girl and he like, baby,
I'm ready to bring you. I'm ready to change that
last thing. Then I will pack up all my ship
and then there's no hesitation.
Speaker 1 (55:07):
Like I got station.
Speaker 2 (55:08):
But it's hard because you don't know how people are,
you don't know dealing with and it really changes when
you actually in that same household with that person. Tweets
seven that's a that's a badest, you know because the
first year, so they were there to call it like
the newly welled stage and you have your representation representative representatives.
(55:33):
You know, it can be a little tricky because you're right,
you don't know there's not. There's not like not heavy
situations that might arise. It's not financial yet, it's not
a lot of real life experiences where you haven't seen
this person for who they really are.
Speaker 1 (55:48):
That could be tough.
Speaker 2 (55:51):
That is so true, But you know in your heart,
I say, pray about it and make him put a
ring on.
Speaker 1 (55:58):
It system for you.
Speaker 2 (56:00):
Fully relocate at least some kind of something, right, some
breaking case of emergency, some kind of security.
Speaker 1 (56:10):
Yeah, right, Well that Humble Batties mail y'all.
Speaker 2 (56:14):
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Speaker 1 (57:13):
On Underscore on Instagram and Charrel Result on Twitter.
Speaker 2 (57:16):
And I'm just on Instagram right now at Alexis Underscore.
Speaker 1 (57:21):
Side of Man.
Speaker 2 (57:23):
We gotta get we gotta get those socials. Gotta get
a socials up. You might be missing, so somebody probably
trying to date you and everything?
Speaker 1 (57:33):
Well, what else do I need to be on? Y'all?
What's y'all think? What's y'all think? Because it's not Facebook.
Speaker 2 (57:38):
Snapchat, snap all the dating apps, I'm gonna come home.
Speaker 1 (57:45):
But I like I like it. I like in person?
What dated that?
Speaker 2 (57:50):
Right?
Speaker 1 (57:50):
Elect?
Speaker 2 (57:51):
You need to invite? I think somebody looking for looking
for I think I might can set you up on
what's good?
Speaker 1 (58:02):
You did say? Do I need to to Riah if
you mind?
Speaker 2 (58:07):
Now you're talking. That's why I had to go back
to rya. What is the dating appen day app? But
for like it's attaches to your Instagram. You you get
referred and it's pretty much low key like this is you.
Speaker 1 (58:19):
You are who you say you are.
Speaker 2 (58:21):
But you can be friends or you can also be
there for like I guess, romance or whatever, or hooking up.
That's what it's just turning into, more like hook up. Hey, y'all,
let's take some questions from the from the viewers real quick.
Speaker 1 (58:34):
Yes, that would be lovely. You think it's not? Everybody?
M hmm, okay, what a question? First question? You got
a mash I'm looking.
Speaker 2 (58:55):
Maybe y'all put y'all put the questions in the chat.
Somebody said UNC needs to hit legs up.
Speaker 1 (59:06):
Hey hey, hey, we on the same team. Were on
the same team.
Speaker 2 (59:10):
I'm wrong now that might be that might be something
Uncle out.
Speaker 1 (59:19):
That is there is.
Speaker 2 (59:24):
Oh no, oh no, hey, hold baddies, please bring the
Lord to Old Cally.
Speaker 1 (59:32):
It's a lot of land to develop our family.
Speaker 2 (59:34):
People wanted to see. Not okay, somebody must say, know
what's your stance on fifty to fifty fifty fifty?
Speaker 1 (59:42):
In her relationship? Oh?
Speaker 2 (59:44):
I know, gabar Un used to something about she said,
did she say that she was tired of us? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (59:49):
She said she's done with that. I'm trying to tell
her when.
Speaker 2 (59:53):
She first said it, like, I mean, okay, I can't
do fifty fifty because sometimes that times out of ten,
it's gonna be twenty eighty and you're gonna be carrying
to eighty and I'm gona be caring. Then Yeah, I'm
gonna put in what I want to put in when
I feel like it, you know what I'm saying, Like
I like to have to play money, like my money
(01:00:13):
is to play money, like I want. I want to
be frivolous, you know what I mean, And you know,
just do something extra that's do with my money, you
know what I'm saying. I feel like I want Phil
to be smart with his money. You know he's very frugal.
You know, we got our financial advisors. I know you
know everything is set where these so like my money,
(01:00:35):
we could just you.
Speaker 1 (01:00:36):
Know, ask you a question.
Speaker 2 (01:00:39):
Question when you go shopping, do you sneak and bring
your your bag saying and hot the bag, put the
stuff in there like I do. Let my my boxes
that I order, like to the house, like I try
to be home when when the FedEx men's home, I
mean when the FedEx fan comes to the house, because
I don't want him to be like, yeah, you got
(01:01:01):
another package.
Speaker 1 (01:01:02):
Run pregnant, Run pregnant.
Speaker 2 (01:01:04):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (01:01:05):
But because I don't, you know, I don't even.
Speaker 2 (01:01:07):
Shop at them all that much, no more give care
clients in that course, because I heard feel.
Speaker 1 (01:01:11):
Okay, feeling a chat. Next you get inswered the question
fifty to fifty.
Speaker 2 (01:01:20):
No, I don't want to go fifty to fifty. I
don't mind having just in case, but I don't want
to go fifty to fifty. I have my household. Obviously,
you have kids. So that's my situation. Whoever I end
up with, they have a household and their kids or
whatever the case may be.
Speaker 1 (01:01:37):
I don't know. They got their bills.
Speaker 2 (01:01:39):
But if we come together like vacations and things like that,
I don't expect to do go.
Speaker 1 (01:01:45):
Fifty to fifty on that. Yeah, I agree.
Speaker 2 (01:01:49):
I think fifty to fifty is just a weird concept
in general, like why are we even I don't know.
It's just it's very like, I don't know, like almost
same as like transactional. When you're thinking about it, it's
like I'm gonna do this, like you gotta do this
we're roommate.
Speaker 1 (01:02:08):
I don't like it.
Speaker 2 (01:02:09):
We're not even and it can be it can get
a little tricky too, because I know what the gap situation.
Speaker 1 (01:02:13):
I know.
Speaker 2 (01:02:14):
She was saying, like, you know, she she has her
own and everything and has her empire, but.
Speaker 1 (01:02:27):
Certain weight. But you know, so I just think I
think I think too.
Speaker 2 (01:02:38):
Gabrielle Union was saying, like, because you know, it gets
tricky when you're like taking care of other households and
stuff like that. So I just think, you know, each
household is different, but when we're just talking about it
in general, I think it just feels very I don't know,
(01:02:59):
it doesn't feel it doesn't to have that conversation with
your man and he's like, where's your half, where's your
half of the mortgage?
Speaker 1 (01:03:08):
Where's your half?
Speaker 2 (01:03:12):
Yeah, it's very weird because I mean traditionally, like a
man is supposed to provide for the household, he's supposed
to you know what I mean, Just like traditionally a
woman is supposed to do certain things. So I feel
like you want the traditional you know, lifestyle and relationship.
The fifty fifty z don't fit in there very well.
Speaker 1 (01:03:35):
I feel it's taking notes.
Speaker 2 (01:03:36):
So he got the ears what he said, then go,
He said, he gonna put another camera on the opposite
side in your closet, in your personal closet.
Speaker 1 (01:03:47):
Don't joking.
Speaker 2 (01:03:49):
I watch you, right, He's sorry big saying he don't watch.
Comment like subscribe, Okay, shout out to Phil, Phil, do
be be eating as soon as the episode dropped, Love
that day. Even though we're not together, but my best
(01:04:11):
friend be supported. He'd be supporting us. He'd be posting
on his page. I'll be like, okay, it's shoot. He
posted us today going loud.
Speaker 1 (01:04:21):
But I said, we love that. We supportive all love them.
But let's oh no, maybe there's one in the in
the chat over there. I don't know.
Speaker 2 (01:04:30):
Okay, let's see where my supporters at in the end
the chat. You know what I'm saying, Where y'all.
Speaker 1 (01:04:38):
Alive, Where y'all live. Let's let's say, well, her supporter.
Speaker 2 (01:04:44):
She needs her supporter so she can brag about two
where y'all let fellas well?
Speaker 1 (01:04:49):
They said, uh, might we're your supporter y'all?
Speaker 2 (01:04:52):
Before we go is I'm Saint Patrick's day and none
of us were green, So I'm pinching y'all through the
street A.
Speaker 1 (01:05:00):
I'm not irish. So was that how I work? I
don't know.
Speaker 2 (01:05:05):
I got a little bit. Maybe I don't work. Wait,
not this same Pastrog's day. I'm gonna pitch out through
the screen.
Speaker 1 (01:05:15):
Ain't to be doing Oh no she didn't.
Speaker 2 (01:05:20):
It's too late. Everything any day Irish? I mean, don't, don't,
don't drink too much.
Speaker 1 (01:05:33):
Until next time.
Speaker 2 (01:05:34):
We'll catch out again Wednesday, ap Make sure y'all subscribe,
tune in to humble Baddy's podcast, and so then, thank you,
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