March 7, 2025 • 36 mins
In this episode, Sharelle and Ashley recap their trip to Nigeria, Alexis discusses her loc journey and birthday. Later, they discuss travel etiquette, whether kids belong in first class, and answer fan questions in Humble Baddies Mailbag!
02:30 - Sharelle and Ashley debrief on their trip to Africa; Alexis had her birthday in NYC
12:40 - What is travel etiquette to you?
21:34 - Don’t ask about the Humble Baddies’ hair
30:53 - Time for some advice via Humble Baddies Mail
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
What's some y'all?
Speaker 2 (00:01):
Y'all Back from the Mother Lane girl. I didn't want
to come back.
Speaker 3 (00:05):
Don't ask me about my hair, Okay, if it looked
like it's mine, it's mine. Are Yeah, it doesn't be
long distance.
Speaker 4 (00:13):
I don't know. I don't think that's gonna work.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
I get in my way, never out of my land.
Speaker 3 (00:18):
It's been like you one in the mom one, so
it is gonna be baby squad.
Speaker 1 (00:23):
We've been to go deep.
Speaker 3 (00:25):
You running on us?
Speaker 2 (00:27):
What you need?
Speaker 1 (00:28):
Baby?
Speaker 4 (00:28):
Won't you keep me company?
Speaker 1 (00:31):
Give me something to do.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
And I get on.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
I just someone for you when we get home, if
you let me put it when I at the town.
Speaker 3 (00:39):
What's up, guys, we are back with another episode of
Humble Baddies. I'm surel Risotto, I'm Ashley Nicole.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
And I'm Alexis Sodamayer and we.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
Are the Humble Baby. What's some, y'all, y'all? Back from
the Mother Lane girl.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
I didn't want to come back like you trying to.
Speaker 3 (01:00):
Yeah, you know.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
I was celebrating my forty second lap around the Sun
related thank you so much, Happy birthday, birthday, thank.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
You, thank you.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
It's pisty season, so shout out to my fellow Piscey's
out there.
Speaker 3 (01:14):
Okay, So you had a good time you were in
the NYC? I did.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
It's crazy to be back, like full circle. I go often.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
And the fact that my youngest was born there, and
there's lots of footsteps there in New York and the big.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
City, a lot of time there. Yeah, yeah, we did.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
You know, it was an investment. And you know, if
they say, if you can make it in New York,
you can make it anywhere. So the fact that our
family thrived there, they still thrive. We still have a
name there, and you know, it's just good to see
friends that are family that you just haven't seen in
a while.
Speaker 1 (01:45):
And plus it was a nice change of weather. Yeah,
and the vibes the people do. Was it snowing?
Speaker 2 (01:50):
No, no snow, no snow, But it was just chilly,
just a little chili, you know, which I like a
little brisk.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
Yes, well, we was in.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
The opposite We was in. Tell you what I mean,
are y'all jet lag like I'm jetlag?
Speaker 3 (02:06):
I'm tired.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
Yeah, we was partying.
Speaker 3 (02:08):
This one had me outside every day every night until
the sun came up.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
Wait, it wasn't. It was the promoters, and it was like, okay,
I'm not a party. I never let me write some
notes about I'm.
Speaker 3 (02:21):
Gonna tell you what you need and your packing hit
when you go there. You're gonna need Ivy hydration packet. Yeah,
because there's no sleep. You're gonna have to charge up
before you leave.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
Yeah, and just go with the flow. So it's not
a relaxation vacation.
Speaker 3 (02:39):
Coffee and champagne. Like, oh, we were urinating the whole time.
But you know what, shout out to everybody in Legos,
everybody in Ghana, y'all showed out great care of us.
Y'all really showed out, Like we're gonna hopefully we can
upload some clips. We got some clips of us. Like
when I tell you, the hospitality there was top tier,
(03:03):
it was top tier. They showed us so much love.
They were hosting dinners and I mean they really laid
out the red carpet like it was very much coming
to Africa like coming to America, but it was like
coming to Africa really. So we went to Legos and
then we also went to Accra in Ghana, and I
(03:26):
just loved Ghana, Like for me, I want to spend
more time in God we aren't going to be spending
more time. We do have some exciting news. A Lottle
Royalty has partner with a big development company over there
and we're actually going to go over there soon. So
it wasn't all play yeah, okay, okay, definitely, you know,
(03:48):
had some business meetings. We're definitely going to get into
the real estate business over there. It's a lot of
new developments happening out there, and a Lord is going
to be a part of it.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
I hear there are great business opportunities in the Motherland,
especially Ghana and Nigeria.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
People are coming back.
Speaker 3 (04:07):
As black people. We should definitely invest.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
Price points pretty reasonable to where you yes, absolutely really amazing.
Speaker 3 (04:15):
The units that we're partnering with, they're starting out at
eighty four thousand and they have a great ROI ros.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
What you get English for those that don't know.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
Return investment Okay, yes, so yeah, I mean we're we're
here to educate and you know, let everybody know. You know,
I know a lot of people don't know about you know, investing,
investing in real estate and investing in a whole nother continent,
let alone another country. So we're here, you know, send
us an email if you have questions and we would
(04:48):
love to help you know, set that up. Yes, I
love another great thing that I loved about Africa for
us to go over there and you don't have to
walk on eggs, you don't have to be a yes
man or no like you walking in. It's it's generational
wealth over there. Like you got powerful ass black men,
(05:11):
powerful as black women over there just killing them. Like
it was just so beautiful to see. It was kings
and queens running ship.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
We're basically not the minority.
Speaker 2 (05:22):
Not basically we aren't you know, Yes, yeah, it was
a beautiful thing to see.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
I love that. How was the food? The food was amazing, Yes,
it was amazing.
Speaker 3 (05:32):
The food was amazing. We went and got a massage
at a waterfall. I don't know if I don't know.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
If to say that, we're.
Speaker 3 (05:41):
Not gonna talk about that.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
Beautiful you're in nature, you're getting massage, just rest and relaxation.
I mean why it was a little different. It was
as different. The men in Ghana are very beautiful. I'm
just a scam yeah, and.
Speaker 3 (06:04):
The big musculs.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
And this is who was doing the massaging or just
in general. I just wanted my mic a little closely.
Speaker 3 (06:14):
We're talking about the messages, but in general, yeah, yeah,
they're beautiful people, beautiful country, beautiful people.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
Yeah that so everyone was warm with you guys, and
just warm and very catering.
Speaker 3 (06:25):
Yeah, everybody wanted to make sure like we had a
great time and we did well.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
Ash did you you did say the last episode that
you were looking for you know, prince.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Okay, I want to know the people, do want to know.
Speaker 3 (06:44):
The matchmaker. But we know that men are very aggression.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
It's already.
Speaker 3 (06:51):
But no, they walked up to my friends, my single
friend and was like, I want your number, give me
your number.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
So no time station, no, none of that. It was
more just very it.
Speaker 3 (07:03):
Was very straight to the very direct, assertive man.
Speaker 1 (07:09):
But did I give out my number?
Speaker 3 (07:10):
Did you?
Speaker 1 (07:11):
Did you?
Speaker 3 (07:12):
I didn't.
Speaker 1 (07:13):
There was no one that piqued your interests.
Speaker 3 (07:18):
No, okay, okay, well okay, I have to go back
because I said we had a mission.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
Yeah, Ashley did say that.
Speaker 3 (07:27):
Okay, well that.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
Was that was good.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
At least I see and we see at least you
went and like spreaking a little essence there.
Speaker 3 (07:37):
We'll be back. So it's fine.
Speaker 1 (07:39):
Yeah, and I'm gonna go this time. Are you gonna
go with us?
Speaker 2 (07:42):
For real?
Speaker 1 (07:42):
I will?
Speaker 2 (07:43):
Okay, it was just a little conflicts of interest with
my birthday everything.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
You know, maybe you may not want to come back.
You want to be there for your birthday.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
Yeah, there for your birthday.
Speaker 3 (07:56):
So next year, next year, let's make it happen.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
I love that for you all though. I love it's
so much fun.
Speaker 3 (08:06):
Like yeah, and I was telling Ashley and everyone, like
I did the ancestry DNA and I found out, like
when it does a breakdown, I'm twenty six percent Nigerian. Yeah,
I love that she's a Nija queen.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
Hmm.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
I love that. It's beautiful. But you're gonna love it. Yeah,
I can't wait. I can't wait.
Speaker 3 (08:25):
So, yeah, I need a break though. I'm tired. Okay,
but you're about to go back on vacation. I know.
I got one more trip with the kids, Like, you know,
I owe the kids.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
And it's just hard.
Speaker 3 (08:34):
So I gotta take the kids on their little spring
break trip. Yeah, and then I'm setting my ass down
because my mother like that. Yeah, I gotta take mine too.
They don't start spring breaking until two more weeks from now.
Speaker 2 (08:45):
So this is the first year that I have three
of my babies, or there's just it's three different schedules.
So nobody's going on a group trip. It'll be more
individualized because they're overlapping ones. One's on spring break now,
then I have a sided coming in next weekend. Then
(09:05):
she's a good week, and then after that is are
the boys. So it's just all over the place. So
all of March is spring break. Somebody's on spring break.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
Well, that's amazing.
Speaker 3 (09:15):
That is It's a blessing, right, it is blessing. They're
wearing me out though they are.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
It's never a done moment with them because on spring break,
do you feel like you have to put them in activities,
keep them busy or is that a time for everyone
to rest.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
You got to keep them busy.
Speaker 3 (09:32):
I feel like I'm always trying to keep them busy,
but I feel like for spring break it is a
time for us to do something different, like get together,
do something different, get out the house, you know, go
on a trip something, even if it's not like far,
just get them out of their environment.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
Show them something different.
Speaker 3 (09:50):
I feel like, you know, I can speak on myself
be growing up as a child, I wasn't able to
travel the world. So just showing them the world, giving
them an exce parents said, I didn't have. I love that.
It's better than just giving them money or hand for
their time or put them in a summer camp, like
let's go, let's go, let me show you the world.
Speaker 2 (10:12):
Hands on education. You just cannot get that back in
those core memories that they'll take forever.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
It is. It's amazing to always travel with your children.
Speaker 3 (10:21):
But Chad, he reached out to me, you know, we're
still nothing like that, but we still are a family
at the end of the day, and he was like,
have the baby ready. So Serenity's getting her hair done
and the sisters are shopping.
Speaker 1 (10:34):
He's taking all his girls on a trip a daddy
daughter spring breaks.
Speaker 3 (10:39):
So Serenity and her sisters where their dad leaves tomorrow
to go to Dominican Republic. You wanted to make it
a competition, you take them to d R. I'm taking
the girls to Dubai jump So and Arianna both graduate
(11:02):
in May, so their trip for me will be going
to Dubam.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
That would be fun, all the girls, the older girls.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
Yeah, I love that. Now, now when you travel, are
the kids in first class?
Speaker 1 (11:14):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (11:14):
No, baby they gonna be in economy, but mama gonna
be in first class. Mama gonna be at the head,
and they could be at the tail. Do your kids
travel first class too?
Speaker 1 (11:23):
They got kicked out a long time ago. They don't
liquor first. They don't drink the liquor, they don't eat
the food.
Speaker 2 (11:32):
And I mean it's funny because they were like, why
are you in first I'm like, wait, what, Especially the
boys when they met me in Japan, it was so
tight in the back.
Speaker 1 (11:43):
I was like, look, I don't know what to tell you.
Speaker 3 (11:45):
And the old enough now, like they don't need to
be like right sitting right next to the past class.
I was thirty years old. It was like, no, it's
a privilege. Yes, y'all gotta work for this. I'm gonna
make sure y'all get there. Yes, y'all maybe in the
back of the plane, but y'all got.
Speaker 1 (12:02):
To work for you.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
And you're right, I don't have to be under them.
They're all stuff efficient. All the iPads are charged, the
phones are charged, they sleep, they can watch whatever.
Speaker 3 (12:10):
They want't nobody's stealing.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
Yes, So like, what do you guys think of travel etiquette?
I know, speaking of like traveling and these airplanes, it's
real scary right now?
Speaker 3 (12:22):
Do you feel like it's a real thing?
Speaker 2 (12:24):
You know, travel etiquette is we might start teaching some
lessons the travel.
Speaker 3 (12:29):
But did y'all see and I felt like that happened
to me where I seen a news article where the
plane had to turn around because the guy was excessively farting.
That is how much do you have to be fighting
for them to turn it down? Plane enough?
Speaker 1 (12:44):
Too? Are sick? Yeah, from the smell. That's horrible.
Speaker 3 (12:49):
That's all. Now I have let out a part or
two Ashley. I'm sorry, but we're family. When I was
texting you and b T, I was like, oh, y'all, like,
I guess the food.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
So we was on the plane, on the plane, you
know the altitude.
Speaker 3 (13:10):
I had that listen. I had the blanket seal because
I was like, oh, my stomach is it was?
Speaker 1 (13:17):
Where can you have let it out? Something?
Speaker 3 (13:19):
Taking malaria, the malaria pills, making yes.
Speaker 2 (13:25):
You're eating at weird times and the playing around that
is something.
Speaker 3 (13:29):
So you let one I had They was the solid ones.
Speaker 1 (13:33):
So I was like, oh my god.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
It's the silent killers you got. No one knows everybody
that I think.
Speaker 3 (13:41):
Everybody's afforded one good little I'm saying because that's like
a little yeah with Chad and I used to be
on the plane and it was one time where I
had bad gas and the people was looking at.
Speaker 2 (13:58):
They're not gonna think that it's the woman and she's
so cute, but she's saying, I'm looking at it.
Speaker 1 (14:05):
I'm like, you think that's funny.
Speaker 2 (14:08):
It's that's that is the farting to me is when
people take their shoes off and their feet smell.
Speaker 3 (14:14):
Oh yeah, that's nasty.
Speaker 2 (14:16):
I was sitting next to a guy going from like
cross country and it's already a long flight and we
were on those in those kind of like the pods
to where it.
Speaker 1 (14:27):
Was two the right next.
Speaker 2 (14:29):
So I was like, he, and it's long, where you
want to rest because if it's like most likely if
it's a red eye, you know.
Speaker 3 (14:37):
So at first, at first, I was like, you're gonna
make me sick.
Speaker 1 (14:41):
I was like, is it?
Speaker 2 (14:42):
It has to be him, you know, because at first
you just just this overwhelming foot odor. Then I looked
and I was like, yeah, I think it is. So
I was like I tapped him. I was like, sir,
do you mind, like, you know, covering up your feet,
and he was like.
Speaker 1 (15:00):
He looked at me and he was just like kind
of gave me the shoulder and kind of like.
Speaker 2 (15:03):
Turned, No he didn't because I was. But then he
did end up covering up his feet with the blanket.
But no, that that funk penetrated.
Speaker 1 (15:14):
It had it had to be fungused. It had to
be something.
Speaker 2 (15:17):
But I feel like people think they're at home when
they're on the plane and you forget it's a share space.
And not only is the share space, it's a tiny
shared space and you don't pay all this money to
sit and you know, first it seems to be uncomfortable.
Speaker 1 (15:31):
It's just not it's not cool.
Speaker 3 (15:33):
It was a crying baby on my way back from Africa.
It was and the long leg, the long leg, that's tough.
It is tough because I remember them days flying with
my baby and they will be crying and I was
just like, damn, I remember them days. But I feel
like you should always be like the type of person
(15:55):
because I will never forget this. There was this one
flight my baby was crying, crying, crying, and this old
white man was like, let me help you, let me
help you. With your baby. And I was like no,
like because you're just like I got my baby. I'm good.
And he was like, just let me help me. And
I was like no, no, no, I'm good. And then my
baby just kept crying, kept crying. So finally he just
(16:17):
took my baby. He didn't say nothing to me, he
just grabbed him. And when I tell you, my baby,
he just this was Philip when he was little. He
just stopped crying just like that and went to sleep
in that man's arm.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
And I looked at that man.
Speaker 3 (16:31):
I was like, oh my god, like thank you so much.
I'm gonna starting to cry because I really was having
like a old time.
Speaker 1 (16:37):
Yeah, because you try to like, oh what people are
looking at you?
Speaker 3 (16:41):
So I always feel like people should remember, like, you know,
the mom is probably going through it right now. Like
I always look for like the moms who like need
a help a hand with their strollers and like, cause
they got so much going on. Where you're traveling there,
that's a lot, you know. Yeah, But in that moment
in Africa, for a second, I was like I just
want to go to sleep, of course, and then you
(17:03):
remember that used to be you, that used to be
so don't forget. And I was like, okay, just put
your headphones in. Girls, your headphones.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
In and go to sleep.
Speaker 3 (17:12):
I do as we're gonna create. We're gonna help Ashley create.
Allowed for headphones the whole time we was in Africa
because the music is loud. Ear plugs, yes, because I have.
Speaker 1 (17:27):
So it's like it's.
Speaker 3 (17:28):
Too loud for me in the I'm old, you're not old. Okay,
well I don't know, but I do not. I can't
do the loud noises in the club. So if you
ever see me in the club or something in my ear,
just ignore it.
Speaker 1 (17:41):
And it was super loud.
Speaker 3 (17:43):
So what I do if I don't have if I
don't have my ear plugs, I will get a tissue
and then I like get a little piece and I
ball it up in my hand. I put it in
my mouth so it can get a little wet, and
then I roll it up in my hand and then
I stuff them in my ears and it makes here
and you hear if you try to talk to me
in the club. But no, no, y'all can't hear you.
As soon as I put them in, I can hear you,
(18:05):
but I can't hear what like, So much loud, and
I know people be looking at me like I'm crazy,
and I know it's annoying, but I gotta do it.
Speaker 1 (18:14):
So actually going too with her own line of clubs.
Speaker 3 (18:17):
Yeah, y'all better said, y'all gonna be thanking me when
y'all older, y'all can hear y'all go into the club
every night.
Speaker 2 (18:24):
I'm just gonna put those maxes on, turn that noise
cancelation and just max out.
Speaker 1 (18:30):
Never out of my name.
Speaker 2 (18:32):
It's like you and the.
Speaker 3 (18:33):
Mom next I say something different, booths, but you see this.
Did you take your locks out?
Speaker 1 (18:39):
I did?
Speaker 2 (18:41):
Oh my goodness, I'm in this hair journey of right now. Well,
I would say it's been it's been over a year
of me having the locks, which I love. It's something
that I didn't know I was missing, you know, like
in just my vibe, just my extra like a little layer.
But I'm in the age of where they are locked,
(19:01):
so I was. I'm in a lock reformation.
Speaker 1 (19:05):
Phase right now.
Speaker 2 (19:07):
So it took hours to take out the locks. And
now I got a deep condition and had to cover
up these grades and I'm getting them all relocked permanently tomorrow.
Speaker 3 (19:20):
Oh my goodness, are you going to add extensions or are
you just going to use.
Speaker 1 (19:24):
Your Yeah, I'm add these extensions.
Speaker 2 (19:26):
But like my hair grew so much, I had so
much new growth, and they've already started locking. So it's
just like a big step being forty two and only
a week old, Like so much is going on, you
know where I'm just like, you know, it's time, and
that's your crown, you know, it's very very sacred, and so.
Speaker 1 (19:46):
Like I love how I feel in them. I love
my vis thank you, thank you, thank you. So it's
just my essence right now.
Speaker 2 (19:55):
And so I just wanted to make sure I was
doing it the right way, the correct way. And so
now I'm locking locking in literally and my boys, my
boys have them for years. My oldest just cut his
two years ago, and then my baby still has them.
Speaker 1 (20:09):
So I'm just gonna be like them and just rock out.
Speaker 3 (20:12):
One day, lock my hair up, to come on, my
whole family can be yes, all right, you're the only
one locked up. So one day when I get like,
I don't know what age so long, it's so I'm
gonna lock it though. To be doing this when I'm
older in age, and I like it, I go I
just especially living here in Mia. Eventually I want to
(20:33):
cut all my hair off and go short.
Speaker 1 (20:34):
You should go right back to try it.
Speaker 2 (20:38):
I short hair before, like, we need we need a picture,
we need some evidence because I got a question.
Speaker 1 (20:45):
I got a question.
Speaker 3 (20:46):
Okay, So what do you guys feel about men feeling
like they have a say so what their woman does
with their hair? Do they do you do? Do we
need to get permission for them to make a big
hair change, if we want to do a big chop,
if we want to lock up. How do you feel
(21:06):
about that? I think I say yes. You know what's
funny conversation No, before we go into this. So I
was on a plane coming back from Africa and this
guy was sitting next to me and we were having
a conversation. We was talking about everything, and he was like,
is that your real hair? And I was like, no,
I have extensions. And he was looking at it and
(21:27):
he was like, I hate I hate women who wear
the lace front. He said, it's okay, but if if
it looks crazy, I don't like it. And the other
thing I don't like is the smell of the smell,
because you know, some hair thinks it has like a
particular smell, a horrible smell, and I said, I understand
(21:50):
where you're coming from, like that was his pet peep.
I said, I totally understand where you're coming from because
I hate that smell too, and I hate seeing when
the lace fronts are just lift in and it ain't
done right now. Okay, So I feel you with with
your man. If they don't like that, I feel like
you should take key to what they're saying. That's just
(22:14):
like I don't know. I feel like, Okay, so like
if he met me with my hair like that and
he liked me enough to come and say hello and
want to take me down blah blah blah blah, then
I feel like then he gotta deal with it. But
I feel like if he met me and I was
natural and then maybe I switched over, then we can
have a conversation about it. But I don't think he
(22:36):
necessarily has to say in it, like you can let
me know. I don't prefer that, but that's fine because
I like this, So I think that's.
Speaker 4 (22:43):
What I know.
Speaker 3 (22:44):
But I feel like what I was taking from your
question is, Okay, what if you Okay, your man met
you met me, you just met him on the plane.
So that's why I was saying that. But what if
this is your man and you want to do a
big change, You're gonna do a big.
Speaker 1 (22:57):
Change because it has to be a big change has
to be I.
Speaker 3 (23:00):
Would consult with Hey, babe, I think I think I'm
gonna try this.
Speaker 1 (23:03):
What do you think about it? I like their opinion.
Speaker 2 (23:06):
I think that's a good way to approach it. Like,
especially that's your man. You know, y'all have this dialogue,
y'all are friends. You have the conversation and going off
of how he met you, that's what attracted to him
to you in the first place. So what a big
change like that comes sometimes a life change too, you know,
because something could have triggered the haircut. It could have
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been anything, because it is it's it's a moment of
your spirituality, your soul switching off because you want to
change something and to your all point, like my swag
switched up a little bit with the locks and the vibes.
So like low key, the right partner would have to
handle that, you know what I'm saying. If that's the case.
But low key, I was talking to one of my
(23:49):
friends about it. I was like, what do you think
of it, like, you know, if I he was like, don't.
Speaker 1 (23:54):
Cut the locks.
Speaker 2 (23:55):
He was like, you need to consult your man if
you're going to cut them locks off, because that's just dope.
Like I was like, I kind of get that, you know,
but I would definitely have that conversation.
Speaker 1 (24:04):
But I know that's what like is part of your vibe.
Speaker 2 (24:07):
Or your your your essence, so it is a part
of who you are.
Speaker 3 (24:11):
You know how you stand about them locks being gone temporarily, Let's.
Speaker 1 (24:16):
Be back tomorrow, don't worry. Did you face someone not yet?
Speaker 3 (24:24):
Well, I mean, but you know, i'd be talking about
your friend. They'd be like, let me go back to this.
Somebody coming in and was like, let me go back
to this Texas.
Speaker 2 (24:35):
You'll never know, you never you would never know. But
you know, it's good to have friends everywhere.
Speaker 4 (24:39):
Guys.
Speaker 1 (24:40):
You know, let's just say this.
Speaker 3 (24:44):
Every time we talk about their friend and then don't
get rid. That's buggy.
Speaker 2 (24:49):
You change.
Speaker 1 (24:50):
We're talking about hair. Okay, you brought.
Speaker 2 (24:54):
A friend up, a friend, like you know that means
going to be back in.
Speaker 1 (25:04):
So you can put all.
Speaker 3 (25:10):
Okay, well, yes, I don't know. I'm thinking about like
if he'll ever cut his locks, because I met him,
I've only known him with locks.
Speaker 1 (25:18):
Yeah, it goes both ways, even with the guys. Can
you imagine that.
Speaker 2 (25:21):
I cannot because they have facial hair changes changes. I
can't imagine him to grow a beard or not to
grow beard, to go bald or not to be bald.
Speaker 1 (25:30):
Or I can't see chat with any hair real hair either. No,
because but can't he grow hair. He can't grow hair.
Speaker 3 (25:40):
I used to be I used to be barber.
Speaker 1 (25:44):
So he's choosing to be balds. We look better balls. Okay,
I don't think he would look right. You like ball
guys I liked.
Speaker 3 (25:52):
When we were together. I like that bald head man.
Speaker 2 (25:55):
But okay, but yeah, so I think it's also for
men and me into I think you should consult if
it's a big change.
Speaker 3 (26:03):
Yeah, but I don't like a man asking if my
hair is real or not. I feel like that's rude,
especially for you as a black woman exactly.
Speaker 2 (26:12):
But you felt okay with that man asking that. What
on the plane he was like, is this your real hair?
Speaker 1 (26:19):
I didn't think too much of it. I was like,
I mean, I got some extensions in here.
Speaker 3 (26:24):
Yeah, I don't like that, but you know, I'm old
school when it comes to that, Like you shouldn't. I'm
like I like back in the day when like we
didn't know what you had going on in your head.
But now it's like everybody, it's like a flex to
be like I got that thirty inch bus down blah
blah blah.
Speaker 2 (26:38):
Because it's an accessory. You know, we've embraced hair culture.
Now we've embraced locks.
Speaker 3 (26:44):
And I'm not mad.
Speaker 1 (26:46):
I don't know. I love journey.
Speaker 3 (26:47):
Yeah, like, don't worry about it, don't your hair is beautiful.
Speaker 1 (26:50):
Don't worry about it, sweetheart. Don't worry about sweetheart.
Speaker 3 (26:52):
Don't you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (26:54):
Yeah, yeah, I understand what you're saying.
Speaker 3 (26:57):
Yeah, I don't know. I guess I'm old school, But
don't tell you what I got going on in here.
It's for all y'all want to know. And no, you
can't touch it.
Speaker 1 (27:06):
But you know, you know, especially let me just be
one hundred.
Speaker 2 (27:09):
You know, we prep for a trip for the protection
of our hair. So whether it's braids, whether it's a
deep condition or something, we're gonna switch it up for convenience,
you know. So I feel like, you know, they shouldn't
be asking. No one should be asking like why you
got that?
Speaker 3 (27:26):
Why are you doing that?
Speaker 4 (27:27):
Right now?
Speaker 3 (27:28):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (27:29):
So, Ashley don't like a lot of people asking about
don't ask me about my hair.
Speaker 3 (27:33):
Okay. If it looked like it's mine, it's mine, period. Okay,
don't ask me, no question. And if you ask me,
it's mine because I bought it, period.
Speaker 1 (27:41):
And that's that.
Speaker 3 (27:42):
And the locks up and you can't so you can't
touch it, period.
Speaker 1 (27:49):
And do not ask a woman about their hair.
Speaker 2 (27:52):
No, let her come to you.
Speaker 3 (27:56):
All right, y'all, Now it's time for our favorite time
is the Humble Batty's Mail time?
Speaker 2 (28:03):
Ye?
Speaker 1 (28:03):
All right?
Speaker 3 (28:04):
Who do we have today? This week's male is from Dominique. Dominique,
she says, y'all, I'm stuck. So I'm currently going through
a divorce and guess who else is my high school sweetheart.
We recently connected after six years and the vibes are
(28:24):
still there. It's like no time has passed. Now here's
the dilemma. We both want to give this a real
shot once our divorces are finalized. But he's in the military,
which means we would be starting off this relationship long distance.
And let me tell you I hate long distance, but
I've loved this man for twelve years. So what do
(28:47):
I do? Do I dive in and make it work?
Or am I setting myself up for heartbreak? Help me out,
humble Batties.
Speaker 2 (28:55):
Domini, Well, I'm gonna tell you like this girl, you
are just coming out of a relationship, right. Oh she
put the cards down for this because I just got
out of a relationship, and go ahead and what nothinga
uh huh No, I was no saying Actually with Charlie,
(29:18):
go go okay, okay, listen, honey, Dominique, focus on you,
heal you do.
Speaker 3 (29:29):
Whatever it is to make sure that you're happy, because
what you don't want to do is get into another relationship.
I don't know why you guys are ending your relationship
going through a divorce, but you need that healing time
and that's on some serious like find out what makes
you happy. And because you don't want to bring whatever
it is from your previous relationship, it had to be
(29:49):
something because y'all are going through a divorce into this
new relationship. If he's been your high school sweetheart and
you still have feelings, take it slow, like you could
communicate with him. You still can date him and date others,
but find out what it is that you want, because
it may seem like it's happy and butterflies right now,
but it can be right. It can be something to
(30:13):
like a temporary void. So you don't want to make
you want to make sure it's not that temporary void.
So focus on you. Do you date a little bit,
and then we'll see where it leads to. That's my opinion.
Speaker 1 (30:26):
I agree and disagree.
Speaker 4 (30:28):
Y'all know.
Speaker 2 (30:28):
I'm the hopeless romantic. I feel being a divorcite. I
feel like people do have an expiration date, and I
also believe in divine divine timing. I agree with you
saying you need to heal and you also need to
focus on yourself, because that's one thing they do have
(30:50):
in common, is one they're familiar with each other, but
it's a different stage in life. They have both been
through traumatic events, meaning like a marriage and a divorce
and military y'all both know how that is. So that
can also be taxing on just the mental and just
really just an additive.
Speaker 1 (31:10):
Of with the healing journey and age shit.
Speaker 2 (31:12):
So you're adding that and plus you're you're adding still
trauma from the previous relationship, if there was infidelity, if
there was financial reasons, whatever the cause of divorce between
those parties were.
Speaker 1 (31:24):
So I agree with healing, but.
Speaker 2 (31:26):
I also believe in again the timing is perfect in
their own way, so they can heal together.
Speaker 3 (31:33):
I feel like I like both these answers. I feel
like you can't go wrong with any either one of
these answers. But I feel like with some of these questions,
you know, y'all be knowing the answers, I feel like, right,
and y'all just what, you're still married. We don't have
married the voice. I don't married the voice like.
Speaker 2 (31:53):
I don't like y'all be known with we have some
life experience, but this is my husband Colin. See we
have some life experience on that way. So, yes, I'm
filming my mad work.
Speaker 3 (32:05):
They we're filming.
Speaker 1 (32:06):
We're filming.
Speaker 3 (32:08):
Answer the question. I feel answer the question. Yes, can
you answer this question? We have a question from a
humble baddy. Can you answer it? The question? Is this
girl Dominique, she just got a divorce, but she reconnected
with her old high school sweetheart after six years.
Speaker 1 (32:27):
You're both going through divorce.
Speaker 3 (32:28):
They're both going through a divorce and they just rekindled.
But he's in the military and they wouldn't get in
a relationship. But it's but it's gonna be long term
because he's in the military. What should she long distance?
Speaker 1 (32:39):
Put it?
Speaker 3 (32:39):
Put it towards some mikes it.
Speaker 4 (32:46):
What are they going to be long distance?
Speaker 3 (32:48):
Said, yeah, it gonna be long distance.
Speaker 4 (32:51):
I don't know. I don't think that's gonna work.
Speaker 3 (32:54):
Yeah, that's what I said. I said. They be writing
these questions knowing to answer. They just want us to
sign some bullshit. That's the answer. Okay, thank you, babe,
love you. I'm gonna call you in about ten minutes.
It can be done. Okay, all right, okay, bye bye.
Speaker 1 (33:08):
I respect. Yeah, you know it ain't gonna work.
Speaker 3 (33:11):
It's temporary healing because they both need to heal. I
agree and see what they really want. It feels good
and it sounds good for the moment. Yeah, but it's
not gonna work.
Speaker 1 (33:23):
Maybe they can heal together.
Speaker 3 (33:24):
Dominique, it's not gonna work. We don't know.
Speaker 1 (33:26):
If it's not gonna work, Dominique.
Speaker 3 (33:28):
Dominique, go and but.
Speaker 2 (33:30):
I say, data, mall a ma do all that, top one,
But this ain't it.
Speaker 3 (33:38):
Just know that okay, and that's okay. It's okay girl,
you see me over here and heaven we can't co
sign everything all of us, okay, But anyways, thank you
for writing us over here at the Humble Batties. Thank you.
We appreciate you and all your questions. If y'all have
advice that y'all need, please feel free to write us.
As always, thank you for sending in your message. If
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you're facing a situation or need advice on something happening
in your life, we'd love to hear from you.
Speaker 1 (34:06):
Yes, and where can they contact?
Speaker 3 (34:08):
Send us an email at contact at Humblebatties dot com
and we may feature your submission on the show period.
So we look forward to hearing from you guys. All right,
you guys, That is it for another episode of Humble Batties.
Make sure you follow us at Humble Batties on Instagram,
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Say your sap chat, okay, and then you can also
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(34:53):
I'll be putting some tea on that and on my
Twitter Charille Risutto underscore period. Hey, so you can find
me at Ashley no Cola on Instagram, on Snap I'm
ash three underscore, Nicole. I think I'm actually no call
on Twitter, but I ain't masterve Twitter yet, y'all gotta
work with me on that one.
Speaker 1 (35:12):
And you can find me just on Instagram. That's where
I'm at. Come see me.
Speaker 2 (35:18):
We gonna etomar and then I'll be on Snap with
them and then I'll have some good tea on there
that'll go away in twenty four hours.
Speaker 4 (35:26):
Why not?
Speaker 3 (35:27):
All right, y'all, thank you so much for tuning in
to Humble Batties. We'll see you next time. Love you,
We love y'all.
Speaker 1 (36:01):
To stop.
Speaker 2 (36:03):
Stopping from the sack tot to the
What's some y'all?
Speaker 2 (00:01):
Y'all Back from the Mother Lane girl. I didn't want
to come back.
Speaker 3 (00:05):
Don't ask me about my hair, Okay, if it looked
like it's mine, it's mine. Are Yeah, it doesn't be
long distance.
Speaker 4 (00:13):
I don't know. I don't think that's gonna work.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
I get in my way, never out of my land.
Speaker 3 (00:18):
It's been like you one in the mom one, so
it is gonna be baby squad.
Speaker 1 (00:23):
We've been to go deep.
Speaker 3 (00:25):
You running on us?
Speaker 2 (00:27):
What you need?
Speaker 1 (00:28):
Baby?
Speaker 4 (00:28):
Won't you keep me company?
Speaker 1 (00:31):
Give me something to do.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
And I get on.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
I just someone for you when we get home, if
you let me put it when I at the town.
Speaker 3 (00:39):
What's up, guys, we are back with another episode of
Humble Baddies. I'm surel Risotto, I'm Ashley Nicole.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
And I'm Alexis Sodamayer and we.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
Are the Humble Baby. What's some, y'all, y'all? Back from
the Mother Lane girl.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
I didn't want to come back like you trying to.
Speaker 3 (01:00):
Yeah, you know.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
I was celebrating my forty second lap around the Sun
related thank you so much, Happy birthday, birthday, thank.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
You, thank you.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
It's pisty season, so shout out to my fellow Piscey's
out there.
Speaker 3 (01:14):
Okay, So you had a good time you were in
the NYC? I did.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
It's crazy to be back, like full circle. I go often.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
And the fact that my youngest was born there, and
there's lots of footsteps there in New York and the big.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
City, a lot of time there. Yeah, yeah, we did.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
You know, it was an investment. And you know, if
they say, if you can make it in New York,
you can make it anywhere. So the fact that our
family thrived there, they still thrive. We still have a
name there, and you know, it's just good to see
friends that are family that you just haven't seen in
a while.
Speaker 1 (01:45):
And plus it was a nice change of weather. Yeah,
and the vibes the people do. Was it snowing?
Speaker 2 (01:50):
No, no snow, no snow, But it was just chilly,
just a little chili, you know, which I like a
little brisk.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
Yes, well, we was in.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
The opposite We was in. Tell you what I mean,
are y'all jet lag like I'm jetlag?
Speaker 3 (02:06):
I'm tired.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
Yeah, we was partying.
Speaker 3 (02:08):
This one had me outside every day every night until
the sun came up.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
Wait, it wasn't. It was the promoters, and it was like, okay,
I'm not a party. I never let me write some
notes about I'm.
Speaker 3 (02:21):
Gonna tell you what you need and your packing hit
when you go there. You're gonna need Ivy hydration packet. Yeah,
because there's no sleep. You're gonna have to charge up
before you leave.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
Yeah, and just go with the flow. So it's not
a relaxation vacation.
Speaker 3 (02:39):
Coffee and champagne. Like, oh, we were urinating the whole time.
But you know what, shout out to everybody in Legos,
everybody in Ghana, y'all showed out great care of us.
Y'all really showed out, Like we're gonna hopefully we can
upload some clips. We got some clips of us. Like
when I tell you, the hospitality there was top tier,
(03:03):
it was top tier. They showed us so much love.
They were hosting dinners and I mean they really laid
out the red carpet like it was very much coming
to Africa like coming to America, but it was like
coming to Africa really. So we went to Legos and
then we also went to Accra in Ghana, and I
(03:26):
just loved Ghana, Like for me, I want to spend
more time in God we aren't going to be spending
more time. We do have some exciting news. A Lottle
Royalty has partner with a big development company over there
and we're actually going to go over there soon. So
it wasn't all play yeah, okay, okay, definitely, you know,
(03:48):
had some business meetings. We're definitely going to get into
the real estate business over there. It's a lot of
new developments happening out there, and a Lord is going
to be a part of it.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
I hear there are great business opportunities in the Motherland,
especially Ghana and Nigeria.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
People are coming back.
Speaker 3 (04:07):
As black people. We should definitely invest.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
Price points pretty reasonable to where you yes, absolutely really amazing.
Speaker 3 (04:15):
The units that we're partnering with, they're starting out at
eighty four thousand and they have a great ROI ros.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
What you get English for those that don't know.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
Return investment Okay, yes, so yeah, I mean we're we're
here to educate and you know, let everybody know. You know,
I know a lot of people don't know about you know, investing,
investing in real estate and investing in a whole nother continent,
let alone another country. So we're here, you know, send
us an email if you have questions and we would
(04:48):
love to help you know, set that up. Yes, I
love another great thing that I loved about Africa for
us to go over there and you don't have to
walk on eggs, you don't have to be a yes
man or no like you walking in. It's it's generational
wealth over there. Like you got powerful ass black men,
(05:11):
powerful as black women over there just killing them. Like
it was just so beautiful to see. It was kings
and queens running ship.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
We're basically not the minority.
Speaker 2 (05:22):
Not basically we aren't you know, Yes, yeah, it was
a beautiful thing to see.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
I love that. How was the food? The food was amazing, Yes,
it was amazing.
Speaker 3 (05:32):
The food was amazing. We went and got a massage
at a waterfall. I don't know if I don't know.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
If to say that, we're.
Speaker 3 (05:41):
Not gonna talk about that.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
Beautiful you're in nature, you're getting massage, just rest and relaxation.
I mean why it was a little different. It was
as different. The men in Ghana are very beautiful. I'm
just a scam yeah, and.
Speaker 3 (06:04):
The big musculs.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
And this is who was doing the massaging or just
in general. I just wanted my mic a little closely.
Speaker 3 (06:14):
We're talking about the messages, but in general, yeah, yeah,
they're beautiful people, beautiful country, beautiful people.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
Yeah that so everyone was warm with you guys, and
just warm and very catering.
Speaker 3 (06:25):
Yeah, everybody wanted to make sure like we had a
great time and we did well.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
Ash did you you did say the last episode that
you were looking for you know, prince.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Okay, I want to know the people, do want to know.
Speaker 3 (06:44):
The matchmaker. But we know that men are very aggression.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
It's already.
Speaker 3 (06:51):
But no, they walked up to my friends, my single
friend and was like, I want your number, give me
your number.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
So no time station, no, none of that. It was
more just very it.
Speaker 3 (07:03):
Was very straight to the very direct, assertive man.
Speaker 1 (07:09):
But did I give out my number?
Speaker 3 (07:10):
Did you?
Speaker 1 (07:11):
Did you?
Speaker 3 (07:12):
I didn't.
Speaker 1 (07:13):
There was no one that piqued your interests.
Speaker 3 (07:18):
No, okay, okay, well okay, I have to go back
because I said we had a mission.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
Yeah, Ashley did say that.
Speaker 3 (07:27):
Okay, well that.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
Was that was good.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
At least I see and we see at least you
went and like spreaking a little essence there.
Speaker 3 (07:37):
We'll be back. So it's fine.
Speaker 1 (07:39):
Yeah, and I'm gonna go this time. Are you gonna
go with us?
Speaker 2 (07:42):
For real?
Speaker 1 (07:42):
I will?
Speaker 2 (07:43):
Okay, it was just a little conflicts of interest with
my birthday everything.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
You know, maybe you may not want to come back.
You want to be there for your birthday.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
Yeah, there for your birthday.
Speaker 3 (07:56):
So next year, next year, let's make it happen.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
I love that for you all though. I love it's
so much fun.
Speaker 3 (08:06):
Like yeah, and I was telling Ashley and everyone, like
I did the ancestry DNA and I found out, like
when it does a breakdown, I'm twenty six percent Nigerian. Yeah,
I love that she's a Nija queen.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
Hmm.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
I love that. It's beautiful. But you're gonna love it. Yeah,
I can't wait. I can't wait.
Speaker 3 (08:25):
So, yeah, I need a break though. I'm tired. Okay,
but you're about to go back on vacation. I know.
I got one more trip with the kids, Like, you know,
I owe the kids.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
And it's just hard.
Speaker 3 (08:34):
So I gotta take the kids on their little spring
break trip. Yeah, and then I'm setting my ass down
because my mother like that. Yeah, I gotta take mine too.
They don't start spring breaking until two more weeks from now.
Speaker 2 (08:45):
So this is the first year that I have three
of my babies, or there's just it's three different schedules.
So nobody's going on a group trip. It'll be more
individualized because they're overlapping ones. One's on spring break now,
then I have a sided coming in next weekend. Then
(09:05):
she's a good week, and then after that is are
the boys. So it's just all over the place. So
all of March is spring break. Somebody's on spring break.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
Well, that's amazing.
Speaker 3 (09:15):
That is It's a blessing, right, it is blessing. They're
wearing me out though they are.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
It's never a done moment with them because on spring break,
do you feel like you have to put them in activities,
keep them busy or is that a time for everyone
to rest.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
You got to keep them busy.
Speaker 3 (09:32):
I feel like I'm always trying to keep them busy,
but I feel like for spring break it is a
time for us to do something different, like get together,
do something different, get out the house, you know, go
on a trip something, even if it's not like far,
just get them out of their environment.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
Show them something different.
Speaker 3 (09:50):
I feel like, you know, I can speak on myself
be growing up as a child, I wasn't able to
travel the world. So just showing them the world, giving
them an exce parents said, I didn't have. I love that.
It's better than just giving them money or hand for
their time or put them in a summer camp, like
let's go, let's go, let me show you the world.
Speaker 2 (10:12):
Hands on education. You just cannot get that back in
those core memories that they'll take forever.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
It is. It's amazing to always travel with your children.
Speaker 3 (10:21):
But Chad, he reached out to me, you know, we're
still nothing like that, but we still are a family
at the end of the day, and he was like,
have the baby ready. So Serenity's getting her hair done
and the sisters are shopping.
Speaker 1 (10:34):
He's taking all his girls on a trip a daddy
daughter spring breaks.
Speaker 3 (10:39):
So Serenity and her sisters where their dad leaves tomorrow
to go to Dominican Republic. You wanted to make it
a competition, you take them to d R. I'm taking
the girls to Dubai jump So and Arianna both graduate
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in May, so their trip for me will be going
to Dubam.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
That would be fun, all the girls, the older girls.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
Yeah, I love that. Now, now when you travel, are
the kids in first class?
Speaker 1 (11:14):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (11:14):
No, baby they gonna be in economy, but mama gonna
be in first class. Mama gonna be at the head,
and they could be at the tail. Do your kids
travel first class too?
Speaker 1 (11:23):
They got kicked out a long time ago. They don't
liquor first. They don't drink the liquor, they don't eat
the food.
Speaker 2 (11:32):
And I mean it's funny because they were like, why
are you in first I'm like, wait, what, Especially the
boys when they met me in Japan, it was so
tight in the back.
Speaker 1 (11:43):
I was like, look, I don't know what to tell you.
Speaker 3 (11:45):
And the old enough now, like they don't need to
be like right sitting right next to the past class.
I was thirty years old. It was like, no, it's
a privilege. Yes, y'all gotta work for this. I'm gonna
make sure y'all get there. Yes, y'all maybe in the
back of the plane, but y'all got.
Speaker 1 (12:02):
To work for you.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
And you're right, I don't have to be under them.
They're all stuff efficient. All the iPads are charged, the
phones are charged, they sleep, they can watch whatever.
Speaker 3 (12:10):
They want't nobody's stealing.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
Yes, So like, what do you guys think of travel etiquette?
I know, speaking of like traveling and these airplanes, it's
real scary right now?
Speaker 3 (12:22):
Do you feel like it's a real thing?
Speaker 2 (12:24):
You know, travel etiquette is we might start teaching some
lessons the travel.
Speaker 3 (12:29):
But did y'all see and I felt like that happened
to me where I seen a news article where the
plane had to turn around because the guy was excessively farting.
That is how much do you have to be fighting
for them to turn it down? Plane enough?
Speaker 1 (12:44):
Too? Are sick? Yeah, from the smell. That's horrible.
Speaker 3 (12:49):
That's all. Now I have let out a part or
two Ashley. I'm sorry, but we're family. When I was
texting you and b T, I was like, oh, y'all, like,
I guess the food.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
So we was on the plane, on the plane, you
know the altitude.
Speaker 3 (13:10):
I had that listen. I had the blanket seal because
I was like, oh, my stomach is it was?
Speaker 1 (13:17):
Where can you have let it out? Something?
Speaker 3 (13:19):
Taking malaria, the malaria pills, making yes.
Speaker 2 (13:25):
You're eating at weird times and the playing around that
is something.
Speaker 3 (13:29):
So you let one I had They was the solid ones.
Speaker 1 (13:33):
So I was like, oh my god.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
It's the silent killers you got. No one knows everybody
that I think.
Speaker 3 (13:41):
Everybody's afforded one good little I'm saying because that's like
a little yeah with Chad and I used to be
on the plane and it was one time where I
had bad gas and the people was looking at.
Speaker 2 (13:58):
They're not gonna think that it's the woman and she's
so cute, but she's saying, I'm looking at it.
Speaker 1 (14:05):
I'm like, you think that's funny.
Speaker 2 (14:08):
It's that's that is the farting to me is when
people take their shoes off and their feet smell.
Speaker 3 (14:14):
Oh yeah, that's nasty.
Speaker 2 (14:16):
I was sitting next to a guy going from like
cross country and it's already a long flight and we
were on those in those kind of like the pods
to where it.
Speaker 1 (14:27):
Was two the right next.
Speaker 2 (14:29):
So I was like, he, and it's long, where you
want to rest because if it's like most likely if
it's a red eye, you know.
Speaker 3 (14:37):
So at first, at first, I was like, you're gonna
make me sick.
Speaker 1 (14:41):
I was like, is it?
Speaker 2 (14:42):
It has to be him, you know, because at first
you just just this overwhelming foot odor. Then I looked
and I was like, yeah, I think it is. So
I was like I tapped him. I was like, sir,
do you mind, like, you know, covering up your feet,
and he was like.
Speaker 1 (15:00):
He looked at me and he was just like kind
of gave me the shoulder and kind of like.
Speaker 2 (15:03):
Turned, No he didn't because I was. But then he
did end up covering up his feet with the blanket.
But no, that that funk penetrated.
Speaker 1 (15:14):
It had it had to be fungused. It had to
be something.
Speaker 2 (15:17):
But I feel like people think they're at home when
they're on the plane and you forget it's a share space.
And not only is the share space, it's a tiny
shared space and you don't pay all this money to
sit and you know, first it seems to be uncomfortable.
Speaker 1 (15:31):
It's just not it's not cool.
Speaker 3 (15:33):
It was a crying baby on my way back from Africa.
It was and the long leg, the long leg, that's tough.
It is tough because I remember them days flying with
my baby and they will be crying and I was
just like, damn, I remember them days. But I feel
like you should always be like the type of person
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because I will never forget this. There was this one
flight my baby was crying, crying, crying, and this old
white man was like, let me help you, let me
help you. With your baby. And I was like no,
like because you're just like I got my baby. I'm good.
And he was like, just let me help me. And
I was like no, no, no, I'm good. And then my
baby just kept crying, kept crying. So finally he just
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took my baby. He didn't say nothing to me, he
just grabbed him. And when I tell you, my baby,
he just this was Philip when he was little. He
just stopped crying just like that and went to sleep
in that man's arm.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
And I looked at that man.
Speaker 3 (16:31):
I was like, oh my god, like thank you so much.
I'm gonna starting to cry because I really was having
like a old time.
Speaker 1 (16:37):
Yeah, because you try to like, oh what people are
looking at you?
Speaker 3 (16:41):
So I always feel like people should remember, like, you know,
the mom is probably going through it right now. Like
I always look for like the moms who like need
a help a hand with their strollers and like, cause
they got so much going on. Where you're traveling there,
that's a lot, you know. Yeah, But in that moment
in Africa, for a second, I was like I just
want to go to sleep, of course, and then you
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remember that used to be you, that used to be
so don't forget. And I was like, okay, just put
your headphones in. Girls, your headphones.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
In and go to sleep.
Speaker 3 (17:12):
I do as we're gonna create. We're gonna help Ashley create.
Allowed for headphones the whole time we was in Africa
because the music is loud. Ear plugs, yes, because I have.
Speaker 1 (17:27):
So it's like it's.
Speaker 3 (17:28):
Too loud for me in the I'm old, you're not old. Okay,
well I don't know, but I do not. I can't
do the loud noises in the club. So if you
ever see me in the club or something in my ear,
just ignore it.
Speaker 1 (17:41):
And it was super loud.
Speaker 3 (17:43):
So what I do if I don't have if I
don't have my ear plugs, I will get a tissue
and then I like get a little piece and I
ball it up in my hand. I put it in
my mouth so it can get a little wet, and
then I roll it up in my hand and then
I stuff them in my ears and it makes here
and you hear if you try to talk to me
in the club. But no, no, y'all can't hear you.
As soon as I put them in, I can hear you,
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but I can't hear what like, So much loud, and
I know people be looking at me like I'm crazy,
and I know it's annoying, but I gotta do it.
Speaker 1 (18:14):
So actually going too with her own line of clubs.
Speaker 3 (18:17):
Yeah, y'all better said, y'all gonna be thanking me when
y'all older, y'all can hear y'all go into the club
every night.
Speaker 2 (18:24):
I'm just gonna put those maxes on, turn that noise
cancelation and just max out.
Speaker 1 (18:30):
Never out of my name.
Speaker 2 (18:32):
It's like you and the.
Speaker 3 (18:33):
Mom next I say something different, booths, but you see this.
Did you take your locks out?
Speaker 1 (18:39):
I did?
Speaker 2 (18:41):
Oh my goodness, I'm in this hair journey of right now. Well,
I would say it's been it's been over a year
of me having the locks, which I love. It's something
that I didn't know I was missing, you know, like
in just my vibe, just my extra like a little layer.
But I'm in the age of where they are locked,
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so I was. I'm in a lock reformation.
Speaker 1 (19:05):
Phase right now.
Speaker 2 (19:07):
So it took hours to take out the locks. And
now I got a deep condition and had to cover
up these grades and I'm getting them all relocked permanently tomorrow.
Speaker 3 (19:20):
Oh my goodness, are you going to add extensions or are
you just going to use.
Speaker 1 (19:24):
Your Yeah, I'm add these extensions.
Speaker 2 (19:26):
But like my hair grew so much, I had so
much new growth, and they've already started locking. So it's
just like a big step being forty two and only
a week old, Like so much is going on, you
know where I'm just like, you know, it's time, and
that's your crown, you know, it's very very sacred, and so.
Speaker 1 (19:46):
Like I love how I feel in them. I love
my vis thank you, thank you, thank you. So it's
just my essence right now.
Speaker 2 (19:55):
And so I just wanted to make sure I was
doing it the right way, the correct way. And so
now I'm locking locking in literally and my boys, my
boys have them for years. My oldest just cut his
two years ago, and then my baby still has them.
Speaker 1 (20:09):
So I'm just gonna be like them and just rock out.
Speaker 3 (20:12):
One day, lock my hair up, to come on, my
whole family can be yes, all right, you're the only
one locked up. So one day when I get like,
I don't know what age so long, it's so I'm
gonna lock it though. To be doing this when I'm
older in age, and I like it, I go I
just especially living here in Mia. Eventually I want to
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cut all my hair off and go short.
Speaker 1 (20:34):
You should go right back to try it.
Speaker 2 (20:38):
I short hair before, like, we need we need a picture,
we need some evidence because I got a question.
Speaker 1 (20:45):
I got a question.
Speaker 3 (20:46):
Okay, So what do you guys feel about men feeling
like they have a say so what their woman does
with their hair? Do they do you do? Do we
need to get permission for them to make a big
hair change, if we want to do a big chop,
if we want to lock up. How do you feel
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about that? I think I say yes. You know what's
funny conversation No, before we go into this. So I
was on a plane coming back from Africa and this
guy was sitting next to me and we were having
a conversation. We was talking about everything, and he was like,
is that your real hair? And I was like, no,
I have extensions. And he was looking at it and
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he was like, I hate I hate women who wear
the lace front. He said, it's okay, but if if
it looks crazy, I don't like it. And the other
thing I don't like is the smell of the smell,
because you know, some hair thinks it has like a
particular smell, a horrible smell, and I said, I understand
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where you're coming from, like that was his pet peep.
I said, I totally understand where you're coming from because
I hate that smell too, and I hate seeing when
the lace fronts are just lift in and it ain't
done right now. Okay, So I feel you with with
your man. If they don't like that, I feel like
you should take key to what they're saying. That's just
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like I don't know. I feel like, Okay, so like
if he met me with my hair like that and
he liked me enough to come and say hello and
want to take me down blah blah blah blah, then
I feel like then he gotta deal with it. But
I feel like if he met me and I was
natural and then maybe I switched over, then we can
have a conversation about it. But I don't think he
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necessarily has to say in it, like you can let
me know. I don't prefer that, but that's fine because
I like this, So I think that's.
Speaker 4 (22:43):
What I know.
Speaker 3 (22:44):
But I feel like what I was taking from your
question is, Okay, what if you Okay, your man met
you met me, you just met him on the plane.
So that's why I was saying that. But what if
this is your man and you want to do a
big change, You're gonna do a big.
Speaker 1 (22:57):
Change because it has to be a big change has
to be I.
Speaker 3 (23:00):
Would consult with Hey, babe, I think I think I'm
gonna try this.
Speaker 1 (23:03):
What do you think about it? I like their opinion.
Speaker 2 (23:06):
I think that's a good way to approach it. Like,
especially that's your man. You know, y'all have this dialogue,
y'all are friends. You have the conversation and going off
of how he met you, that's what attracted to him
to you in the first place. So what a big
change like that comes sometimes a life change too, you know,
because something could have triggered the haircut. It could have
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been anything, because it is it's it's a moment of
your spirituality, your soul switching off because you want to
change something and to your all point, like my swag
switched up a little bit with the locks and the vibes.
So like low key, the right partner would have to
handle that, you know what I'm saying. If that's the case.
But low key, I was talking to one of my
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friends about it. I was like, what do you think
of it, like, you know, if I he was like, don't.
Speaker 1 (23:54):
Cut the locks.
Speaker 2 (23:55):
He was like, you need to consult your man if
you're going to cut them locks off, because that's just dope.
Like I was like, I kind of get that, you know,
but I would definitely have that conversation.
Speaker 1 (24:04):
But I know that's what like is part of your vibe.
Speaker 2 (24:07):
Or your your your essence, so it is a part
of who you are.
Speaker 3 (24:11):
You know how you stand about them locks being gone temporarily, Let's.
Speaker 1 (24:16):
Be back tomorrow, don't worry. Did you face someone not yet?
Speaker 3 (24:24):
Well, I mean, but you know, i'd be talking about
your friend. They'd be like, let me go back to this.
Somebody coming in and was like, let me go back
to this Texas.
Speaker 2 (24:35):
You'll never know, you never you would never know. But
you know, it's good to have friends everywhere.
Speaker 4 (24:39):
Guys.
Speaker 1 (24:40):
You know, let's just say this.
Speaker 3 (24:44):
Every time we talk about their friend and then don't
get rid. That's buggy.
Speaker 2 (24:49):
You change.
Speaker 1 (24:50):
We're talking about hair. Okay, you brought.
Speaker 2 (24:54):
A friend up, a friend, like you know that means
going to be back in.
Speaker 1 (25:04):
So you can put all.
Speaker 3 (25:10):
Okay, well, yes, I don't know. I'm thinking about like
if he'll ever cut his locks, because I met him,
I've only known him with locks.
Speaker 1 (25:18):
Yeah, it goes both ways, even with the guys. Can
you imagine that.
Speaker 2 (25:21):
I cannot because they have facial hair changes changes. I
can't imagine him to grow a beard or not to
grow beard, to go bald or not to be bald.
Speaker 1 (25:30):
Or I can't see chat with any hair real hair either. No,
because but can't he grow hair. He can't grow hair.
Speaker 3 (25:40):
I used to be I used to be barber.
Speaker 1 (25:44):
So he's choosing to be balds. We look better balls. Okay,
I don't think he would look right. You like ball
guys I liked.
Speaker 3 (25:52):
When we were together. I like that bald head man.
Speaker 2 (25:55):
But okay, but yeah, so I think it's also for
men and me into I think you should consult if
it's a big change.
Speaker 3 (26:03):
Yeah, but I don't like a man asking if my
hair is real or not. I feel like that's rude,
especially for you as a black woman exactly.
Speaker 2 (26:12):
But you felt okay with that man asking that. What
on the plane he was like, is this your real hair?
Speaker 1 (26:19):
I didn't think too much of it. I was like,
I mean, I got some extensions in here.
Speaker 3 (26:24):
Yeah, I don't like that, but you know, I'm old
school when it comes to that, Like you shouldn't. I'm
like I like back in the day when like we
didn't know what you had going on in your head.
But now it's like everybody, it's like a flex to
be like I got that thirty inch bus down blah
blah blah.
Speaker 2 (26:38):
Because it's an accessory. You know, we've embraced hair culture.
Now we've embraced locks.
Speaker 3 (26:44):
And I'm not mad.
Speaker 1 (26:46):
I don't know. I love journey.
Speaker 3 (26:47):
Yeah, like, don't worry about it, don't your hair is beautiful.
Speaker 1 (26:50):
Don't worry about it, sweetheart. Don't worry about sweetheart.
Speaker 3 (26:52):
Don't you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (26:54):
Yeah, yeah, I understand what you're saying.
Speaker 3 (26:57):
Yeah, I don't know. I guess I'm old school, But
don't tell you what I got going on in here.
It's for all y'all want to know. And no, you
can't touch it.
Speaker 1 (27:06):
But you know, you know, especially let me just be
one hundred.
Speaker 2 (27:09):
You know, we prep for a trip for the protection
of our hair. So whether it's braids, whether it's a
deep condition or something, we're gonna switch it up for convenience,
you know. So I feel like, you know, they shouldn't
be asking. No one should be asking like why you
got that?
Speaker 3 (27:26):
Why are you doing that?
Speaker 4 (27:27):
Right now?
Speaker 3 (27:28):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (27:29):
So, Ashley don't like a lot of people asking about
don't ask me about my hair.
Speaker 3 (27:33):
Okay. If it looked like it's mine, it's mine, period. Okay,
don't ask me, no question. And if you ask me,
it's mine because I bought it, period.
Speaker 1 (27:41):
And that's that.
Speaker 3 (27:42):
And the locks up and you can't so you can't
touch it, period.
Speaker 1 (27:49):
And do not ask a woman about their hair.
Speaker 2 (27:52):
No, let her come to you.
Speaker 3 (27:56):
All right, y'all, Now it's time for our favorite time
is the Humble Batty's Mail time?
Speaker 2 (28:03):
Ye?
Speaker 1 (28:03):
All right?
Speaker 3 (28:04):
Who do we have today? This week's male is from Dominique. Dominique,
she says, y'all, I'm stuck. So I'm currently going through
a divorce and guess who else is my high school sweetheart.
We recently connected after six years and the vibes are
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still there. It's like no time has passed. Now here's
the dilemma. We both want to give this a real
shot once our divorces are finalized. But he's in the military,
which means we would be starting off this relationship long distance.
And let me tell you I hate long distance, but
I've loved this man for twelve years. So what do
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I do? Do I dive in and make it work?
Or am I setting myself up for heartbreak? Help me out,
humble Batties.
Speaker 2 (28:55):
Domini, Well, I'm gonna tell you like this girl, you
are just coming out of a relationship, right. Oh she
put the cards down for this because I just got
out of a relationship, and go ahead and what nothinga
uh huh No, I was no saying Actually with Charlie,
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go go okay, okay, listen, honey, Dominique, focus on you,
heal you do.
Speaker 3 (29:29):
Whatever it is to make sure that you're happy, because
what you don't want to do is get into another relationship.
I don't know why you guys are ending your relationship
going through a divorce, but you need that healing time
and that's on some serious like find out what makes
you happy. And because you don't want to bring whatever
it is from your previous relationship, it had to be
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something because y'all are going through a divorce into this
new relationship. If he's been your high school sweetheart and
you still have feelings, take it slow, like you could
communicate with him. You still can date him and date others,
but find out what it is that you want, because
it may seem like it's happy and butterflies right now,
but it can be right. It can be something to
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like a temporary void. So you don't want to make
you want to make sure it's not that temporary void.
So focus on you. Do you date a little bit,
and then we'll see where it leads to. That's my opinion.
Speaker 1 (30:26):
I agree and disagree.
Speaker 4 (30:28):
Y'all know.
Speaker 2 (30:28):
I'm the hopeless romantic. I feel being a divorcite. I
feel like people do have an expiration date, and I
also believe in divine divine timing. I agree with you
saying you need to heal and you also need to
focus on yourself, because that's one thing they do have
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in common, is one they're familiar with each other, but
it's a different stage in life. They have both been
through traumatic events, meaning like a marriage and a divorce
and military y'all both know how that is. So that
can also be taxing on just the mental and just
really just an additive.
Speaker 1 (31:10):
Of with the healing journey and age shit.
Speaker 2 (31:12):
So you're adding that and plus you're you're adding still
trauma from the previous relationship, if there was infidelity, if
there was financial reasons, whatever the cause of divorce between
those parties were.
Speaker 1 (31:24):
So I agree with healing, but.
Speaker 2 (31:26):
I also believe in again the timing is perfect in
their own way, so they can heal together.
Speaker 3 (31:33):
I feel like I like both these answers. I feel
like you can't go wrong with any either one of
these answers. But I feel like with some of these questions,
you know, y'all be knowing the answers, I feel like, right,
and y'all just what, you're still married. We don't have
married the voice. I don't married the voice like.
Speaker 2 (31:53):
I don't like y'all be known with we have some
life experience, but this is my husband Colin. See we
have some life experience on that way. So, yes, I'm
filming my mad work.
Speaker 3 (32:05):
They we're filming.
Speaker 1 (32:06):
We're filming.
Speaker 3 (32:08):
Answer the question. I feel answer the question. Yes, can
you answer this question? We have a question from a
humble baddy. Can you answer it? The question? Is this
girl Dominique, she just got a divorce, but she reconnected
with her old high school sweetheart after six years.
Speaker 1 (32:27):
You're both going through divorce.
Speaker 3 (32:28):
They're both going through a divorce and they just rekindled.
But he's in the military and they wouldn't get in
a relationship. But it's but it's gonna be long term
because he's in the military. What should she long distance?
Speaker 1 (32:39):
Put it?
Speaker 3 (32:39):
Put it towards some mikes it.
Speaker 4 (32:46):
What are they going to be long distance?
Speaker 3 (32:48):
Said, yeah, it gonna be long distance.
Speaker 4 (32:51):
I don't know. I don't think that's gonna work.
Speaker 3 (32:54):
Yeah, that's what I said. I said. They be writing
these questions knowing to answer. They just want us to
sign some bullshit. That's the answer. Okay, thank you, babe,
love you. I'm gonna call you in about ten minutes.
It can be done. Okay, all right, okay, bye bye.
Speaker 1 (33:08):
I respect. Yeah, you know it ain't gonna work.
Speaker 3 (33:11):
It's temporary healing because they both need to heal. I
agree and see what they really want. It feels good
and it sounds good for the moment. Yeah, but it's
not gonna work.
Speaker 1 (33:23):
Maybe they can heal together.
Speaker 3 (33:24):
Dominique, it's not gonna work. We don't know.
Speaker 1 (33:26):
If it's not gonna work, Dominique.
Speaker 3 (33:28):
Dominique, go and but.
Speaker 2 (33:30):
I say, data, mall a ma do all that, top one,
But this ain't it.
Speaker 3 (33:38):
Just know that okay, and that's okay. It's okay girl,
you see me over here and heaven we can't co
sign everything all of us, okay, But anyways, thank you
for writing us over here at the Humble Batties. Thank you.
We appreciate you and all your questions. If y'all have
advice that y'all need, please feel free to write us.
As always, thank you for sending in your message. If
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you're facing a situation or need advice on something happening
in your life, we'd love to hear from you.
Speaker 1 (34:06):
Yes, and where can they contact?
Speaker 3 (34:08):
Send us an email at contact at Humblebatties dot com
and we may feature your submission on the show period.
So we look forward to hearing from you guys. All right,
you guys, That is it for another episode of Humble Batties.
Make sure you follow us at Humble Batties on Instagram,
Humble Batties Podcast on Instagram, subscribe to us on YouTube,
(34:31):
Humble Batties Podcast on all platforms. Say your Snapchat, y'all.
We've been trying to get our snapchat. Yeah, don't forget.
Say your sap chat, okay, and then you can also
follow me at Charrell Risutto underscore on Instagram. On my
Snapchat Charill dot Risotto. Make sure y'all follow me because
(34:53):
I'll be putting some tea on that and on my
Twitter Charille Risutto underscore period. Hey, so you can find
me at Ashley no Cola on Instagram, on Snap I'm
ash three underscore, Nicole. I think I'm actually no call
on Twitter, but I ain't masterve Twitter yet, y'all gotta
work with me on that one.
Speaker 1 (35:12):
And you can find me just on Instagram. That's where
I'm at. Come see me.
Speaker 2 (35:18):
We gonna etomar and then I'll be on Snap with
them and then I'll have some good tea on there
that'll go away in twenty four hours.
Speaker 4 (35:26):
Why not?
Speaker 3 (35:27):
All right, y'all, thank you so much for tuning in
to Humble Batties. We'll see you next time. Love you,
We love y'all.
Speaker 1 (36:01):
To stop.
Speaker 2 (36:03):
Stopping from the sack tot to the
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