A Tale of an Emasculated Man

In today's episode, I will give you my perspective on today's Emasculated husband. 

I will begin with the origin of today's topic, an elevator ride in my hotel in Iceland.  Here I witnessed an all too common interaction between a husband and wife.  

Was this shell of a man always this emasculated, or had it been a long journey through life that left him this way?

 Did his wife take his masculinity throughout their marriage, leaving him emasculated?  Or did he surrender his masculinity over time by taking what looked like the easier way out?  In essence, did he surrender his masculinity?

Join me as I wrap my thoughts around my short interaction on an elevator.

Leading with integrated masculine energy!

Episode Transcript

Mr Fox (00:00):
Hey, guys, it's hump day, a perfect day to put out a

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experience that I had a fewweeks ago while I was in
relationships, their marriagesand in their lives in general.

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are we the victims? Or are we toblame

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Mr Fox (01:10):
Welcome everyone. This is Mr. Fox, the host and founder
for excellence and fulfillmentin all areas of our lives with

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In today's episode, I'm going togive you my perspective on
ride in my hotel in Iceland.
Here I witnessed what isthoughts around my short

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interaction on an elevator ofan interesting thing happened
the other day. I was in Icelandfloor to have some breakfast. My

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room was on the eighth floor.
opened, there was an elderlycouple there waiting to get on.

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that. The elderly man asked ifthe elevator is going up. And I
to get on the elevator at all.
His wife entered the elevator.

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We are going down. Why would youthink that we're going up. As
to have breakfast. The conciergelounge was on the eighth floor.

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demanding almost as if he was afive year old boy. Right? And it
restaurant. At that point, theold man Saunders into the into

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his head down looking at theground. Right the ground right
shoulders were slumped as if hehad no life left in him at all.

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say for himself. He reallylooked as if his flame had been
seen this man before, right? Imean, maybe not this man. But

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also also want to say that Irealized I don't know anything
emasculated. I don't know the Hewas, he definitely displayed
don't know what they were doing.
I mean, I don't know theirto me personally. Once they were

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both on board the elevator andmorning marital scuffle, or
spat. And she looks at me andher. By that I was two. As the

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elevator ride continued, sheShe said, Well, we've been
married for 39 years. And again,married couples just bicker. All

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right. So I smiled, and IThen I congratulated them. It
truly is a remarkablesaid, I have been married myself

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for 34 years this year, that wenotice of, of them of his body
language of what was reallyhave wanted, or really any

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capacity for what he was evenlike, Hey, do you think that
breakfast may be better in thethe lounge that you really

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wanted? Right, there could haveleader doesn't just bark out
commands like that. Leader has adislikes. Everyone, and I mean,
everyone wants, has the rightfor himself or for them, or for

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her for that matter. He justjourney to the first floor. I
was thinking to myself, just howsome couples as it is in others.
But oftentimes, it's there,we can see it. The older man

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doesn't even look up as I makehonestly, I felt sad for this
man. And again, I don't knowjudging either way. This just
got me thinking got me thinkingAlways says you don't know a

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stranger. Right? And I'mrelationships. I like talking to
people. Well, as it turns out,hotel. They were just going to
grab some breakfast beforescenario, right of the

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emasculation of a man, or how ittypical to me. Maybe not to this
extreme, but it exists, guys. Iwhich could be the case. And I

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think that would be even moreslowly, right bit by bit over
time. The latter is what Iand then just over Time. It's

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insidious as we as we give itfrom guys like you wanting to
know how you can help support methe most powerful thing that you

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can do to help support me andpodcast app, rate the husband
podcast with five stars, andAnd on a personal level, it

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allows me to know that you theIt's like candy to me, I love
it. I love it when I know thatGuys, let me know that you want
more. This process doesn'tI believe that most of the time

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the husband surrenders hisabsence, the lack of
masculinity. So when I say thatemasculated. I'm not blaming his
wife. She most likely didn't doexplain. Often when people first

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get together as a couple menThey take care of us, they
nurture us, they support us,attractive to us as masculine

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men. They like to pour thatthat respect. So in the
beginning of a courtship, itenergy. And we as men, we love

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it, we relish it. And I thinkwoman to want to take care of
her man in a relationship. Butexpect it. At work, he probably

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remains forward leaning, hehis masculinity. And he uses it
daily. So he keeps that part ofRight. And again, like I said, I

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think he enjoys it too much. Hebe forward leaning in life. He
needs to have goals, right? Hecourtship phase or the honeymoon

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phase. And then eventually, werelationship, a standard for her
taking care of us. And not socall it a responsibility.

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Because it is it is aa while they both start sensing
it, both the man and the woman,She wants somebody to begin to

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make some decisions for someoneOnce we're on this path, those
decisions won't be what shebecause it relationship

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structure has already been builtused to leading at this point,
she's used to making thosesure you've all heard this, that

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it takes 21 days to form aenvironment, right? 21 days of
constant, strong, consistentthey say today that it's much

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longer than 21 days. And it'sreally probably is 90 days, 120
days. But again, that'sjust 90 days later, it's changed
for you. That's not the case. SoAnd it's also going to be

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different, probably for whateverour lives. My point is that just
because we want to make changesrelationship, and we're both
willing to work hard andyourself and especially your

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partner, some grace. And back toattempt to take the leadership
role, and to make some decisionsAnd remember that she has been

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making these decisions becausehave that masculine energy for
the rest of our life. Right forfeminine partner starts to take

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care of us, right? That's whatanybody else making the
decisions. When and if thelevel of resistance, then this

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isn't because of some sort ofleadership at home has already
been established. Her decisionmindset at home has moved from

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the feminine that we relished soresent. This happen out of
necessity, though, there was thenot move from the feminine

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energy to the masculine energy,and the masculine. She did not
take your masculinity. Youusing it. Us men are not the

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victims. Our lack of masculineseen so many men that try to
lead with masculinity. Aftersmallest amount of resistance.

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Right? That resistance justThey also don't see any value
and fighting over what is oftentrying to say would be that

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whatever it is that we'reour wives. So it's not that it's
insignificant. But it's like theabout out, they retreat

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immediately. This retreatresponsibility of masculine
leadership. This scenario is allwith embarrassment on her face,

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embarrassment, because sheher husband. And we can both
clearly see that there is awith that old man in Iceland, he
would have had a story similarjourney has really been like

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throughout his life. But Iwith him slowly checking out,
slowly, not caring about thebecause it's easier than

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offering his honest opinion. Andfight or an argument. And when I
say somehow, it's because Iknow, it's sad, because when you

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listen to a lot of oldersadly, there's probably some
truth to that comment. We hearnot take your opinion, that she

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does not live to make herIt's not that you're not allowed
to have your own opinion,too much of a struggle to have
your own opinion. And then youyou. Your wife is the one

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filling the void.

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Back to the couple in the elevator,

Mr Fox (22:37):
I can almost guarantee that there was a point in their
from her husband. Could it havebeen five years into their

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when she was starving for it.
And he couldn't see it. Hefar. And 39 years later, this is
where their relationship endedrelationship. Do you see any

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similarities? Are you two on aanybody that is? Friend,
brother, a sister, somebody thatabout this, you do you know

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somebody? And frankly, that'srestore your relationship

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and quality base here, The Eagle has landed.

Mr Fox (24:06):
Thanks for joining me for today's episode. I wish
forward into your lives and besure to lean forward and
part to lean forward into. Maybeit's because it's our personal

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are headed to the Carolinas.
We're gonna ride the tail of theand then we're going to rent
slingshots. There's a lot ofweekend as well. So super
excited about the weekend and