April 17, 2024 • 23 mins
Have you ever felt like your emotions are speaking to you, but you can't quite interpret what they're saying? Join us, Shea Pestell and Stella, on a heartfelt journey to decode the messages our emotions are sending and learn how to use them as a compass toward our most authentic selves. Amidst the ebbs and flows of our daily experiences, emotions can either erupt in a chaotic symphony or harmonize beautifully with our life's purpose. Together, we uncover the subtle distinctions between emotions and feelings, discussing how emotions are raw sensations that signal our alignment or misalignment with our true nature, while feelings are complex interpretations influenced by our thoughts and past experiences. We're sharing our most effective strategies for mindfulness, including journaling and meditation, to skillfully navigate the emotional landscape and transform it into a powerful tool for personal growth.
Our conversation takes an empowering turn as we dissect the multifaceted character of anger, revealing its potential as a constructive force when channeled appropriately. Shea, with his profound insights, walks us through the perils of an unexamined emotional life—impulsive reactions that can unravel the fabric of our relationships—and presents transformative techniques for engaging with our emotions. Ready to live a life fueled by passion rather than expectations? We shed light on making choices that resonate deeply with what excites us, unshackled by the weight of judgment. Embrace this enlightening discussion that not only celebrates emotional awareness but also guides you towards a richer, more vibrant existence, where true fulfillment stems from aligning with your best self.
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Speaker 1 (00:04):
welcome to our podcast.
Hypnotherapy for the soul.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
This is your host, shea pestle, and this is my
co-host where we explore thepower of hypnosis and connect to
inner wisdom.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
For answers through our episodes, we share behind
the scenes live sessions to helpyou tap into your inner
guidance.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
Join us on this journey of self-discovery and
utilize the power of hypnosis toconnect to your higher self.
Speaker 3 (00:35):
In this episode, my friend and co-host Stella is
going to ask me questions aboutemotions, and the perspective
you're going to receive is frommyself when I'm under deep
synabolism hypnosis, and thegeneral message in this episode
in regards to emotions is thatemotions are messengers, either
(00:58):
helping us stay in alignmentwith ourselves and also letting
us know when we're out ofalignment with ourselves.
What you don't hear in thisepisode is what it takes to get
me into this deep hypnosis,which did occur prior to the
interview.
And, as always, keep an openmind.
The truth is within you.
(01:19):
Try and feel the truthintuitively and listen to your
heart.
Gather the information thatresonates for you and feel the
truth intuitively and listen toyour heart.
Gather the information thatresonates for you and leave the
rest behind.
Without further ado, let's getinto this next episode.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
Can you tell us what are emotions?
Speaker 3 (01:44):
Emotions are basically sensation within your
body and it happens through theexperiences of your life.
Certain experiences triggerthese sensations in the body.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
Okay, and I'm just curious are they?
Are emotions then here to guideus?
Speaker 3 (02:07):
Yes, emotions are triggered by certain situations,
events, but it's like general,in general speaking, that's what
an emotion is.
It's just it originates as asensation in the body emotion is
(02:29):
?
Speaker 2 (02:29):
it's just, it originates as a sensation in the
body.
And that brings me actually tothe second question, which is
what's actually the differencebetween emotions and feelings?
Speaker 3 (02:35):
so feelings are influenced by emotions, but it's
it's generated by your mentalfocus or mental thoughts.
So someone can walk into aparty and start to have, maybe,
butterflies because they seesomeone there and it makes them
(02:56):
nervous Maybe someone from theirpast, for example and so they
associate that emotion as theirfeeling of anxiety or stress or
fear, which triggers a responseof them wanting to leave the
party.
Or the same thing can happen tosomeone else who gets
butterflies and is excited aboutthat, and they maybe thrive in
(03:21):
new situations and it excitesthem, and so they're using it in
a different way.
And that's feelings are, yeah,influenced by emotions, but it's
channeled in a different waythrough, yeah, the individual
and how they mentally use theirthoughts around it, based on
situation, based on theirworldview, based on their film
(03:43):
filters, based on how they justlabel things, how they've been
taught certain things in theirown life.
It's unique to each individual.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
It feels like our feelings, in a way, is how we
make our emotions mean, orthere's some sort of response to
emotions.
Speaker 3 (04:10):
Yeah, exactly Okay.
Mean or there are some somesort of response to emotions?
Yeah, exactly okay.
A feeling is your ownrepresentation of an emotion
based on a situation or event orcircumstance, based on who you
are as a personality and how youview and perceive your life
that's really clear.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
Thanks so much for um for explaining that.
Okay, all right.
Next question I have for you ishow are feelings important in
our everyday life?
Speaker 3 (04:36):
yeah, feelings.
So, yeah, I think it'simportant.
Just what we already went overis distinguishing the difference
and then understanding just howour body responds to certain
situations.
So, like, an emotion can betriggered through an event and
and then your feelings you kindof want to be aware of, like, oh
(04:57):
, just how this goes down.
So right, you have anexperience, you have an
emotional response, and thenwhere does your mind go based on
that response?
Are you looking at it as apositive or negative?
And it's important.
This is really important,because emotions, you can view
them as messengers, right, andso if it's triggering a response
(05:20):
in you and you're immediatelygoing to the negative, and this
could be, like, just based onyour past, maybe you have some
trauma around a certainsituation, and it's not that
it's actually generically badper se, it's just you're
responding to it in a negativeway, and so you can look at it
as, oh, this is positiveactually, because it's thank you
(05:42):
for triggering this in me.
This is something I need towork on, because who says that
this is actually bad, who'ssaying that this is true?
It's you and how you've beentaught to perceive.
And so if you want to give,like, certain things positive
meanings, the reason why you'dwant this.
If you want to be biased onpositive experiences, that's
(06:06):
totally fine, because if youwant to focus in the positive
right, yeah, you will experiencepositive results.
It's physics.
But if you're subconsciouslyjust being triggered and you
don't know why, you have no idea, you're not aware and you're
just on autopilot, you're notreally in control of your life
(06:28):
because you're just on autopilot.
Your power is in how yourespond.
So to have mental clarity, tobe in the moments and to be in
the flow and to, you know, justbe in the mindfulness state is
important so that you can justbe that observer and analyze.
Oh wow, thank you.
I'm having a negative responsehere.
(06:49):
I'm not gonna push it away orget scared or try and run from
it.
Maybe I'll take my journal andI'll write it down.
I'll I'll meditate on it and seeoh oh yeah this is what I was
taught as a child and it doesn'tmake any sense.
Actually, I'm just gonna dropthis belief system and carry on
about my life and then the nexttime something like that is
(07:10):
triggered, it's actually nottriggered because I don't think
that way anymore.
So it's all good and that's howyou work on yourself.
So emotions are messengers.
Yeah, you can use it to allowyou to be aligned to yourself
and your spirit, because it's amechanism designed for that.
Speaker 2 (07:30):
Exactly.
Yeah, I love it.
Okay, thank you.
So it makes sense.
It's just for us to, I guess,have discernment of what kind of
experience we want and alsowhat kind of belief we want, and
also what is what kind ofbelief systems we already have
in place and how.
What do we want to do withthose?
(07:52):
And that leads me to the nextquestion, which is how can we
work with them to end up beingexactly where we want to be in
life?
Speaker 3 (08:06):
exactly, yes, the more, the more you do this and
just have this self-awareness,um, you'll, you'll see the
synchronicity and you'll justfeel like you're more in the
flow because you do have more.
I mean, you can't control whathappens to you, but you can
control how you respond, andthat's where our power is.
(08:28):
And so, yeah, just seeing itfor what it is, you know, first,
from a neutral perspective, ifyou, if you find yourself being
caught up in in the motion andyou're starting to generate
feelings and you're kind ofseeing this unfold based on your
subconscious and autopilot sortof mode, right, it might take
(08:51):
some time, but just take a stepback, press the pause button and
start to analyze well, why am Ifeeling this way?
Where is this coming from?
What do I have to believe to betrue about myself in this
situation in order to feel theway I do?
Speaker 2 (09:08):
and you will get an answer because you are
intelligent, your emotions andyour feelings are intelligent,
so learn to pay attention and tolisten can ask you is there any
emotion, that, or ratherfeeling I'll just say feeling
sorry that Shay is working withat the moment, so that we can
(09:35):
have an example of that.
Speaker 3 (09:38):
Jay has this feeling sometimes with what he is
working on in terms of hiscareer.
Sometimes he's got feelings ofstress, confusion, anxiety, and
this can be perceived asnegative.
But you see, he can change thisand look at it as a positive
(10:01):
thing, because when someone isconfused, that's just the
negative outlook of it.
When you're moving from aperception and focus of how you
know something to be what youreveryday life is and you're
growing into something, new it'sgoing to be confusing because
(10:21):
but that's, that's sort of anegative way of looking at it it
could be co -fusing.
You're going from one belief toanother.
You're going from who you arenow to see and be and do things
totally differently.
You're upgrading who you are asa being right, so to go from
this to that, you're co-fusingtwo different roles and so the
(10:46):
negative sort of experience.
It might trigger some emotionsof like, fear, anxiety, which
could be feelings of like oh, Idon't know what I'm doing, I'm
confused.
Am I doing this right?
I have self-doubts, blah, blah,blah.
Right, it's just a matter ofhim just taking a step back
(11:07):
again, just looking at that andbeing like no, you got this.
Maybe talk to people who are inthe same boat and, right, be in
the right environment, do someself-care affirmations and, yeah
, challenge yourself withcourage to step through those
gates of fear yeah because onthe other side it's actually.
(11:29):
It's amazing, right, becauseit's just an illusion most fears
unless your actual body is indanger and like.
So fear can be a good thing forsurvival, but people have fear
for things that aren't anythingto do with, like your existence
and survival.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
Exactly, and this actually leads me to another
question, which is why do welabel certain emotions as good
or bad?
Speaker 3 (12:00):
well, of course, not everyone wants to just like be
sad all the time or likedepressed or angry right, but
like we can use those emotionsas a positive thing except
crying can be good, like it's anemotional release, like to
release that you're sheddingaway whatever doesn't serve you
(12:21):
anymore, like you're having apositive emotional response to
something that is quote-unquotesad, so this is good.
And then, on the other side,right, you've, you've done the
healing because you've had anemotional release, you've
released what doesn't belonganymore.
And then, for example, if yousee something imagine if you are
(12:42):
out driving and you see someonewho is hitting a dog and you
get so angry and you get so madand maybe you get out of your
car and you go attack the guythat's doing that to the dog
that response maybe isn't thebest response, that anger isn't
any good.
Or you use that anger to callthe police report animal abuse.
(13:05):
And then you you keep onthinking about it and you're
just so angry that people dothis.
And then you go and getinvolved at an animal rescue
shelter and you realize thatthis is actually what you've
always wanted to do and to be avoice for animals, because you
love animals so much.
And that's why you just got soangry, because now you have made
a stand and then now you'vecreated your own non-profit and
(13:28):
many people come to you for helpand advice, and you have saved
many animals.
And this is your life now,because that's what you've
actually meant to be, and thatwas all based on anger.
Is anger bad?
Speaker 2 (13:40):
No, yeah, and on this example it's really good.
So it's really what makes methink is what we do with
something.
It's not how we label it, buthow we want to utilize every
emotion as an energy and dosomething with it.
(14:00):
So thank you for that.
Speaker 3 (14:02):
Of course.
Speaker 2 (14:03):
And if someone isn't in tune with their feelings,
what can happen?
Speaker 3 (14:08):
well, yeah, they can just end up like how I mentioned
, like maybe just reacting right, so like if you're angry and
then you react in a bad way andlike you can damage
relationships, you can all sortsof things like that can happen,
where you're just on autopilotand you just feel like you're a
victim to life and circumstancesand you don't really feel like
(14:31):
you have any control.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
And many people do do have that, because we haven't
been taught this emotionalintelligence and understanding
emotions exactly that's aproblem and, since you mentioned
that, I would actually love ifyou would share what are some of
the techniques to work withfeelings in order to live a more
(14:53):
enjoyable or fulfilling life.
Speaker 3 (14:57):
Yeah, same as we have mentioned before just again.
We have mentioned before justagain just seeing it for what it
is.
It's a messenger.
Emotion is in, a messengercoming through your body.
It's just a response and it'striggered by a belief system,
your worldviews, your perception, and how you want to use your
feelings and to generate it andchannel it is up to you and
(15:21):
that's your power to respond.
And so just get into a habit oflike being aware of how you
feel throughout your day.
What is being triggered,doesn't matter negative or
positive, and start, start.
Start doing the work, going indepth, understanding why you're
feeling a certain way and andalways asking the question how
(15:42):
can this benefit me?
How can I turn this into apositive thing?
Does this work for me?
Does this make sense?
Is this my belief?
Does this belief system workfor me in my life or is it silly
and I need to drop it?
And maybe using a journal right,or just meditating and asking
these questions, or justmeditating and asking these
(16:04):
questions, you can work withfeelings so that you can just be
aligned with who you are andwhat makes sense to your life
and letting everything go thatdoesn't belong to you and the
best feeling to try to stayaligned with and focused on is
your passion, your excitement,because that is your spirit
(16:24):
speaking through you, tellingyou follow me, this is your
direction in life.
You can use it as your compassand so, right, any given
situation it could be.
You wake up, you have a freemorning and you can decide what
you want for breakfast, whatexcites you most, most, and just
get in the habit of, when youhave a choice to make, always
(16:46):
choose the one that has the mostexcitement attached to it, and
just if you get in the habit ofjust doing that, naturally
you're going to be in the rightplace, the right time, the right
people, and you're going to bein the flow of your life.
You're going to haveopportunities knock on your door
that are great for you becauseyou've accepted that you yeah,
you are in control.
(17:06):
You're, you're allowing yourspirit to guide you in your life
, following your excitement.
And so where people can messthis up is that they start to
judge.
Oh, I was really excited aboutyou know, working on cars, but
now I had this opportunity whereit turned, this passion turned
into something else I don't knowanymore.
(17:26):
So don't, don't judge whereyour passion can turn into and
don't have any expectationsright of the results.
Just do do what you want to do,based on the highest level of
excitement and if you have aninsistence on an outcome that
will actually close doors.
So don't have any expectationsbeing like I'm going to do this
(17:47):
because this needs to happen.
Well, no, just do it becausethat is your passion, that
you're meant to do that, becausethat is your highest amount of
joy and that's your spiritsaying follow me.
So don't have any assumptionsor expectations and just follow
it as far as it can take youuntil it turns into something
(18:08):
else, and don't judge one thatmay change and just continue.
Speaker 2 (18:14):
Yeah, this is such a beautiful message.
Thank you so much.
I would just like to know ifthere are any last words of
wisdom that you feel likesharing before we wrap up.
Speaker 3 (18:30):
Yeah, if you make the decision to be more aware of
this within your life, youremotions and feelings, what
triggers you, and using this asa tool, a permission slip for
you to be aligned to your bestself right If you want to live
your best life, this is theeasiest tool and it's
(18:50):
essentially everything because,yeah, it's how you can live your
best life.
This is like the best way thankyou.
Speaker 2 (18:57):
So following our passion, being in touch with our
feeling and, yeah, releasingall the expectations of the
outcome.
Thank you, thank you, she'shigher self for, yeah, just for
this beautiful session today.
Speaker 3 (19:16):
Of course, my pleasure.
Speaker 2 (19:21):
All right, shay, welcome back.
Speaker 3 (19:27):
I'm wondering how are you feeling after this session?
I feel good, just calm andrested, I feel like Also, just
like everything kind of slowsdown.
Speaker 2 (19:33):
It's always nice leaving the critical mind, just
being connected to your higherself yeah, I assure you, it
feels like during our everydaylives we are just caught up in
these stories and fears andwhatever.
You know, all these ideas thatour mind comes up with, and then
, with the session, it feelslike there is a higher
(19:55):
perspective and you can seewhat's going on, right yeah, you
feel like puts things inperspective, some truth on
things.
Stuff that is silly is justforgot yeah, it is, and it seems
like we all have this well ofwisdom within us and just with
that practice we give it voiceso that it becomes louder.
(20:19):
And how I see it is almost likethere is this integration of
this higher knowing with yourconscious self, so that it's not
just about mind, but there isalso, it kind of evokes, this
inner knowing.
Speaker 3 (20:35):
so when you're maybe going forward, I imagine when
you'll experience a certainemotion that you're not so fond
of, you can then lean on thisinner knowing that you now have
even more awareness of yeah,like with information that was
shared today, my conscious mindknows this stuff, but then it's
nice to have a reminder about itbecause, like the feeling again
(20:58):
, what I got from all thisinformation, it's almost
everything you know, oreverything you need to know,
packaged for your everyday life,to be living your best life.
If you want, you can choose.
Yeah, yeah or if you want to goon the emotional roller coaster.
You're not knowing what'shappening to you and feel like a
victim of circumstance, and Imean that's fine too.
(21:20):
It's a choice, it's just anexperience, everything all right
.
Speaker 2 (21:25):
so, yeah, I'm excited to hear how you will apply
everything going forward,especially in your business, as
we were told that that's one ofyour struggles from time to time
, so that's exciting.
Speaker 3 (21:38):
Yeah, exactly, I tell myself my awareness or my
higher mind to like okay, stayfocused.
Now If a emotion is triggered,right, I get to have the choice
to channel the feeling and togive it a positive meaning.
Yeah, because, like, awarenessis key.
Right, because the only way todo this is to be aware.
So that takes focus andmindfulness to do this.
Speaker 2 (22:03):
Okay, thank you, Shay , for doing that, and I hope
this provided some insight andclarity, excitement and also
inspiration to explore and toconnect your higher self or,
yeah, just your inner wisdom,whoever is listening.
Speaker 3 (22:21):
Yeah, my pleasure, it was fun.
Speaker 2 (22:25):
It is All right, thank you.
Speaker 1 (22:28):
Thank you for listening to Hypnotherapy for
the Soul, brought to you bymyself, shea Pestel and my
friend and co-host, stella,where we share with.
(22:48):
Thank you, please follow us athypnotherapyforthesoulcom,
patreon and our socials LinkedIn, facebook, instagram.
See you in the next episode.
welcome to our podcast.
Hypnotherapy for the soul.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
This is your host, shea pestle, and this is my
co-host where we explore thepower of hypnosis and connect to
inner wisdom.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
For answers through our episodes, we share behind
the scenes live sessions to helpyou tap into your inner
guidance.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
Join us on this journey of self-discovery and
utilize the power of hypnosis toconnect to your higher self.
Speaker 3 (00:35):
In this episode, my friend and co-host Stella is
going to ask me questions aboutemotions, and the perspective
you're going to receive is frommyself when I'm under deep
synabolism hypnosis, and thegeneral message in this episode
in regards to emotions is thatemotions are messengers, either
(00:58):
helping us stay in alignmentwith ourselves and also letting
us know when we're out ofalignment with ourselves.
What you don't hear in thisepisode is what it takes to get
me into this deep hypnosis,which did occur prior to the
interview.
And, as always, keep an openmind.
The truth is within you.
(01:19):
Try and feel the truthintuitively and listen to your
heart.
Gather the information thatresonates for you and feel the
truth intuitively and listen toyour heart.
Gather the information thatresonates for you and leave the
rest behind.
Without further ado, let's getinto this next episode.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
Can you tell us what are emotions?
Speaker 3 (01:44):
Emotions are basically sensation within your
body and it happens through theexperiences of your life.
Certain experiences triggerthese sensations in the body.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
Okay, and I'm just curious are they?
Are emotions then here to guideus?
Speaker 3 (02:07):
Yes, emotions are triggered by certain situations,
events, but it's like general,in general speaking, that's what
an emotion is.
It's just it originates as asensation in the body emotion is
(02:29):
?
Speaker 2 (02:29):
it's just, it originates as a sensation in the
body.
And that brings me actually tothe second question, which is
what's actually the differencebetween emotions and feelings?
Speaker 3 (02:35):
so feelings are influenced by emotions, but it's
it's generated by your mentalfocus or mental thoughts.
So someone can walk into aparty and start to have, maybe,
butterflies because they seesomeone there and it makes them
(02:56):
nervous Maybe someone from theirpast, for example and so they
associate that emotion as theirfeeling of anxiety or stress or
fear, which triggers a responseof them wanting to leave the
party.
Or the same thing can happen tosomeone else who gets
butterflies and is excited aboutthat, and they maybe thrive in
(03:21):
new situations and it excitesthem, and so they're using it in
a different way.
And that's feelings are, yeah,influenced by emotions, but it's
channeled in a different waythrough, yeah, the individual
and how they mentally use theirthoughts around it, based on
situation, based on theirworldview, based on their film
(03:43):
filters, based on how they justlabel things, how they've been
taught certain things in theirown life.
It's unique to each individual.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
It feels like our feelings, in a way, is how we
make our emotions mean, orthere's some sort of response to
emotions.
Speaker 3 (04:10):
Yeah, exactly Okay.
Mean or there are some somesort of response to emotions?
Yeah, exactly okay.
A feeling is your ownrepresentation of an emotion
based on a situation or event orcircumstance, based on who you
are as a personality and how youview and perceive your life
that's really clear.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
Thanks so much for um for explaining that.
Okay, all right.
Next question I have for you ishow are feelings important in
our everyday life?
Speaker 3 (04:36):
yeah, feelings.
So, yeah, I think it'simportant.
Just what we already went overis distinguishing the difference
and then understanding just howour body responds to certain
situations.
So, like, an emotion can betriggered through an event and
and then your feelings you kindof want to be aware of, like, oh
(04:57):
, just how this goes down.
So right, you have anexperience, you have an
emotional response, and thenwhere does your mind go based on
that response?
Are you looking at it as apositive or negative?
And it's important.
This is really important,because emotions, you can view
them as messengers, right, andso if it's triggering a response
(05:20):
in you and you're immediatelygoing to the negative, and this
could be, like, just based onyour past, maybe you have some
trauma around a certainsituation, and it's not that
it's actually generically badper se, it's just you're
responding to it in a negativeway, and so you can look at it
as, oh, this is positiveactually, because it's thank you
(05:42):
for triggering this in me.
This is something I need towork on, because who says that
this is actually bad, who'ssaying that this is true?
It's you and how you've beentaught to perceive.
And so if you want to give,like, certain things positive
meanings, the reason why you'dwant this.
If you want to be biased onpositive experiences, that's
(06:06):
totally fine, because if youwant to focus in the positive
right, yeah, you will experiencepositive results.
It's physics.
But if you're subconsciouslyjust being triggered and you
don't know why, you have no idea, you're not aware and you're
just on autopilot, you're notreally in control of your life
(06:28):
because you're just on autopilot.
Your power is in how yourespond.
So to have mental clarity, tobe in the moments and to be in
the flow and to, you know, justbe in the mindfulness state is
important so that you can justbe that observer and analyze.
Oh wow, thank you.
I'm having a negative responsehere.
(06:49):
I'm not gonna push it away orget scared or try and run from
it.
Maybe I'll take my journal andI'll write it down.
I'll I'll meditate on it and seeoh oh yeah this is what I was
taught as a child and it doesn'tmake any sense.
Actually, I'm just gonna dropthis belief system and carry on
about my life and then the nexttime something like that is
(07:10):
triggered, it's actually nottriggered because I don't think
that way anymore.
So it's all good and that's howyou work on yourself.
So emotions are messengers.
Yeah, you can use it to allowyou to be aligned to yourself
and your spirit, because it's amechanism designed for that.
Speaker 2 (07:30):
Exactly.
Yeah, I love it.
Okay, thank you.
So it makes sense.
It's just for us to, I guess,have discernment of what kind of
experience we want and alsowhat kind of belief we want, and
also what is what kind ofbelief systems we already have
in place and how.
What do we want to do withthose?
(07:52):
And that leads me to the nextquestion, which is how can we
work with them to end up beingexactly where we want to be in
life?
Speaker 3 (08:06):
exactly, yes, the more, the more you do this and
just have this self-awareness,um, you'll, you'll see the
synchronicity and you'll justfeel like you're more in the
flow because you do have more.
I mean, you can't control whathappens to you, but you can
control how you respond, andthat's where our power is.
(08:28):
And so, yeah, just seeing itfor what it is, you know, first,
from a neutral perspective, ifyou, if you find yourself being
caught up in in the motion andyou're starting to generate
feelings and you're kind ofseeing this unfold based on your
subconscious and autopilot sortof mode, right, it might take
(08:51):
some time, but just take a stepback, press the pause button and
start to analyze well, why am Ifeeling this way?
Where is this coming from?
What do I have to believe to betrue about myself in this
situation in order to feel theway I do?
Speaker 2 (09:08):
and you will get an answer because you are
intelligent, your emotions andyour feelings are intelligent,
so learn to pay attention and tolisten can ask you is there any
emotion, that, or ratherfeeling I'll just say feeling
sorry that Shay is working withat the moment, so that we can
(09:35):
have an example of that.
Speaker 3 (09:38):
Jay has this feeling sometimes with what he is
working on in terms of hiscareer.
Sometimes he's got feelings ofstress, confusion, anxiety, and
this can be perceived asnegative.
But you see, he can change thisand look at it as a positive
(10:01):
thing, because when someone isconfused, that's just the
negative outlook of it.
When you're moving from aperception and focus of how you
know something to be what youreveryday life is and you're
growing into something, new it'sgoing to be confusing because
(10:21):
but that's, that's sort of anegative way of looking at it it
could be co -fusing.
You're going from one belief toanother.
You're going from who you arenow to see and be and do things
totally differently.
You're upgrading who you are asa being right, so to go from
this to that, you're co-fusingtwo different roles and so the
(10:46):
negative sort of experience.
It might trigger some emotionsof like, fear, anxiety, which
could be feelings of like oh, Idon't know what I'm doing, I'm
confused.
Am I doing this right?
I have self-doubts, blah, blah,blah.
Right, it's just a matter ofhim just taking a step back
(11:07):
again, just looking at that andbeing like no, you got this.
Maybe talk to people who are inthe same boat and, right, be in
the right environment, do someself-care affirmations and, yeah
, challenge yourself withcourage to step through those
gates of fear yeah because onthe other side it's actually.
(11:29):
It's amazing, right, becauseit's just an illusion most fears
unless your actual body is indanger and like.
So fear can be a good thing forsurvival, but people have fear
for things that aren't anythingto do with, like your existence
and survival.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
Exactly, and this actually leads me to another
question, which is why do welabel certain emotions as good
or bad?
Speaker 3 (12:00):
well, of course, not everyone wants to just like be
sad all the time or likedepressed or angry right, but
like we can use those emotionsas a positive thing except
crying can be good, like it's anemotional release, like to
release that you're sheddingaway whatever doesn't serve you
(12:21):
anymore, like you're having apositive emotional response to
something that is quote-unquotesad, so this is good.
And then, on the other side,right, you've, you've done the
healing because you've had anemotional release, you've
released what doesn't belonganymore.
And then, for example, if yousee something imagine if you are
(12:42):
out driving and you see someonewho is hitting a dog and you
get so angry and you get so madand maybe you get out of your
car and you go attack the guythat's doing that to the dog
that response maybe isn't thebest response, that anger isn't
any good.
Or you use that anger to callthe police report animal abuse.
(13:05):
And then you you keep onthinking about it and you're
just so angry that people dothis.
And then you go and getinvolved at an animal rescue
shelter and you realize thatthis is actually what you've
always wanted to do and to be avoice for animals, because you
love animals so much.
And that's why you just got soangry, because now you have made
a stand and then now you'vecreated your own non-profit and
(13:28):
many people come to you for helpand advice, and you have saved
many animals.
And this is your life now,because that's what you've
actually meant to be, and thatwas all based on anger.
Is anger bad?
Speaker 2 (13:40):
No, yeah, and on this example it's really good.
So it's really what makes methink is what we do with
something.
It's not how we label it, buthow we want to utilize every
emotion as an energy and dosomething with it.
(14:00):
So thank you for that.
Speaker 3 (14:02):
Of course.
Speaker 2 (14:03):
And if someone isn't in tune with their feelings,
what can happen?
Speaker 3 (14:08):
well, yeah, they can just end up like how I mentioned
, like maybe just reacting right, so like if you're angry and
then you react in a bad way andlike you can damage
relationships, you can all sortsof things like that can happen,
where you're just on autopilotand you just feel like you're a
victim to life and circumstancesand you don't really feel like
(14:31):
you have any control.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
And many people do do have that, because we haven't
been taught this emotionalintelligence and understanding
emotions exactly that's aproblem and, since you mentioned
that, I would actually love ifyou would share what are some of
the techniques to work withfeelings in order to live a more
(14:53):
enjoyable or fulfilling life.
Speaker 3 (14:57):
Yeah, same as we have mentioned before just again.
We have mentioned before justagain just seeing it for what it
is.
It's a messenger.
Emotion is in, a messengercoming through your body.
It's just a response and it'striggered by a belief system,
your worldviews, your perception, and how you want to use your
feelings and to generate it andchannel it is up to you and
(15:21):
that's your power to respond.
And so just get into a habit oflike being aware of how you
feel throughout your day.
What is being triggered,doesn't matter negative or
positive, and start, start.
Start doing the work, going indepth, understanding why you're
feeling a certain way and andalways asking the question how
(15:42):
can this benefit me?
How can I turn this into apositive thing?
Does this work for me?
Does this make sense?
Is this my belief?
Does this belief system workfor me in my life or is it silly
and I need to drop it?
And maybe using a journal right,or just meditating and asking
these questions, or justmeditating and asking these
(16:04):
questions, you can work withfeelings so that you can just be
aligned with who you are andwhat makes sense to your life
and letting everything go thatdoesn't belong to you and the
best feeling to try to stayaligned with and focused on is
your passion, your excitement,because that is your spirit
(16:24):
speaking through you, tellingyou follow me, this is your
direction in life.
You can use it as your compassand so, right, any given
situation it could be.
You wake up, you have a freemorning and you can decide what
you want for breakfast, whatexcites you most, most, and just
get in the habit of, when youhave a choice to make, always
(16:46):
choose the one that has the mostexcitement attached to it, and
just if you get in the habit ofjust doing that, naturally
you're going to be in the rightplace, the right time, the right
people, and you're going to bein the flow of your life.
You're going to haveopportunities knock on your door
that are great for you becauseyou've accepted that you yeah,
you are in control.
(17:06):
You're, you're allowing yourspirit to guide you in your life
, following your excitement.
And so where people can messthis up is that they start to
judge.
Oh, I was really excited aboutyou know, working on cars, but
now I had this opportunity whereit turned, this passion turned
into something else I don't knowanymore.
(17:26):
So don't, don't judge whereyour passion can turn into and
don't have any expectationsright of the results.
Just do do what you want to do,based on the highest level of
excitement and if you have aninsistence on an outcome that
will actually close doors.
So don't have any expectationsbeing like I'm going to do this
(17:47):
because this needs to happen.
Well, no, just do it becausethat is your passion, that
you're meant to do that, becausethat is your highest amount of
joy and that's your spiritsaying follow me.
So don't have any assumptionsor expectations and just follow
it as far as it can take youuntil it turns into something
(18:08):
else, and don't judge one thatmay change and just continue.
Speaker 2 (18:14):
Yeah, this is such a beautiful message.
Thank you so much.
I would just like to know ifthere are any last words of
wisdom that you feel likesharing before we wrap up.
Speaker 3 (18:30):
Yeah, if you make the decision to be more aware of
this within your life, youremotions and feelings, what
triggers you, and using this asa tool, a permission slip for
you to be aligned to your bestself right If you want to live
your best life, this is theeasiest tool and it's
(18:50):
essentially everything because,yeah, it's how you can live your
best life.
This is like the best way thankyou.
Speaker 2 (18:57):
So following our passion, being in touch with our
feeling and, yeah, releasingall the expectations of the
outcome.
Thank you, thank you, she'shigher self for, yeah, just for
this beautiful session today.
Speaker 3 (19:16):
Of course, my pleasure.
Speaker 2 (19:21):
All right, shay, welcome back.
Speaker 3 (19:27):
I'm wondering how are you feeling after this session?
I feel good, just calm andrested, I feel like Also, just
like everything kind of slowsdown.
Speaker 2 (19:33):
It's always nice leaving the critical mind, just
being connected to your higherself yeah, I assure you, it
feels like during our everydaylives we are just caught up in
these stories and fears andwhatever.
You know, all these ideas thatour mind comes up with, and then
, with the session, it feelslike there is a higher
(19:55):
perspective and you can seewhat's going on, right yeah, you
feel like puts things inperspective, some truth on
things.
Stuff that is silly is justforgot yeah, it is, and it seems
like we all have this well ofwisdom within us and just with
that practice we give it voiceso that it becomes louder.
(20:19):
And how I see it is almost likethere is this integration of
this higher knowing with yourconscious self, so that it's not
just about mind, but there isalso, it kind of evokes, this
inner knowing.
Speaker 3 (20:35):
so when you're maybe going forward, I imagine when
you'll experience a certainemotion that you're not so fond
of, you can then lean on thisinner knowing that you now have
even more awareness of yeah,like with information that was
shared today, my conscious mindknows this stuff, but then it's
nice to have a reminder about itbecause, like the feeling again
(20:58):
, what I got from all thisinformation, it's almost
everything you know, oreverything you need to know,
packaged for your everyday life,to be living your best life.
If you want, you can choose.
Yeah, yeah or if you want to goon the emotional roller coaster.
You're not knowing what'shappening to you and feel like a
victim of circumstance, and Imean that's fine too.
(21:20):
It's a choice, it's just anexperience, everything all right
.
Speaker 2 (21:25):
so, yeah, I'm excited to hear how you will apply
everything going forward,especially in your business, as
we were told that that's one ofyour struggles from time to time
, so that's exciting.
Speaker 3 (21:38):
Yeah, exactly, I tell myself my awareness or my
higher mind to like okay, stayfocused.
Now If a emotion is triggered,right, I get to have the choice
to channel the feeling and togive it a positive meaning.
Yeah, because, like, awarenessis key.
Right, because the only way todo this is to be aware.
So that takes focus andmindfulness to do this.
Speaker 2 (22:03):
Okay, thank you, Shay , for doing that, and I hope
this provided some insight andclarity, excitement and also
inspiration to explore and toconnect your higher self or,
yeah, just your inner wisdom,whoever is listening.
Speaker 3 (22:21):
Yeah, my pleasure, it was fun.
Speaker 2 (22:25):
It is All right, thank you.
Speaker 1 (22:28):
Thank you for listening to Hypnotherapy for
the Soul, brought to you bymyself, shea Pestel and my
friend and co-host, stella,where we share with.
(22:48):
Thank you, please follow us athypnotherapyforthesoulcom,
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See you in the next episode.
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