April 17, 2024 • 25 mins
Have you ever struggled with feelings of inadequacy, constantly seeking validation from everything but the person in the mirror? Join Barchi Stela and me as we journey into the realm of self-worth, guided by the insights of hypnotherapy. In this episode, we're peeling back the layers of societal conditioning to understand how misplaced identities can mask our intrinsic value. By turning our gaze inward and tapping into the wisdom of our higher selves, we uncover the liberating truth that love and happiness are not external quests but treasures buried within us. Our conversation is a beacon for those yearning to discover their worth and for anyone who's ever wondered about the power of their own untapped potential.
This poignant episode continues as we delve into the complexities of human emotion, revealing how envy can unexpectedly be a signpost to our deepest desires and a turning point for personal growth. Barchi's expertise under hypnosis illuminates the path toward self-esteem and confidence, showing us how to navigate the transformative process of energy within ourselves. Together, we explore the significance of acting with intention, breaking free from the shackles of fear, and boldly stepping into the realm of endless possibilities that define our true essence. So, take this step with us; it's time to connect with your inner self and begin a transformative journey that is unique, profound, and undeniably yours.
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Speaker 1 (00:04):
welcome to our podcast hypnotherapy for the
soul.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
This is your host, shea pestle, and this is my co
host barchi stela, where weexplore the power of hypnosis
and connect to inner wisdom.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
For answers through our episodes, we share behind
the scenes live sessions to helpyou tap into your inner
guidance.
Speaker 2 (00:33):
Join us on this journey of self-discovery and
utilize the power of hypnosis toconnect to your higher self.
Today's episode is all aboutself-worth.
If you feel that you're notgood enough, or you believe that
you don't deserve love orhappiness and are constantly
seeking validation from others,you might want to listen to this
episode.
(00:53):
My friend and co-host, shay, isgoing to be asking me a series
of questions directed towards myhigher self.
The higher self is the part ofus that knows everything about
us and is also tapped intocollective intelligence.
For your best and most valuableexperience, I invite you to be
open while you listen, becausethat way, you can connect to
(01:16):
your inner wisdom and receiveguidance.
Just a heads up the part thatyou won't hear is where Shay
takes me into the hypnotic stateof mind, which is a state where
we can access the informationof our subconscious mind.
Okay, without further ado,let's dive in Enjoy.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Thank you so much for Barchi's Higher Self for being
with us today.
I got some questions aboutself-worth, and the first one is
why do certain people alwaysfeel like that we're not good
enough?
Speaker 2 (01:56):
The simple answer is because you don't know your true
nature, you're not aware of itand you identify with external
things.
But if you had awareness ofyour inner being and connection
with everything, there wouldn'tbe no, not just sense of
(02:16):
separation, but also perceptionthat you wouldn't need to be any
other way that you are.
Speaker 1 (02:24):
Wonderful, and why do some people have this feeling
that they don't really deservelove or happiness?
Speaker 2 (02:31):
Yeah, it's really this connection from their
source and it happens very earlyon in the process of just
socialization and, yeah, justkind of adjusting to the 3D
world.
When a person is looking andlearning from the outside
(02:53):
authorities or perceivedauthorities, and because
everyone they look at, no onehas their sense of true
self-worth or self-love or andthings are shifting now.
But you know they don't haverole models that would teach
them otherwise.
So they from the beginning,basically they are kind of set
(03:16):
up to learn things that aren'treally true and then it seems
like it's part of lifetime toshed all these personas, all
these false identities that arejust in the way of pure love and
true love.
That it's at the core of eachperson, and not just each person
(03:37):
, but every being is the samething.
With animal world, plants, Ithought, everything actually in
its core, it's this energy oflove.
So the problem is I don't wantto say a problem it's just how
things are, just thisdisconnection, and we are here
learning to connect and weconnect with other people so
(04:01):
that we can learn about themourselves and they help us
connect with our source.
So outside world is needed toto get understanding of our
internal world, if that makessense it really does.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
I've noticed that myself.
That it's a internal thing thatwe all possess is love, and
happiness is within, but thenthe illusion is the external,
and that's part of the sort ofsocietal stuff we've all been
programmed for yeah, and thereis just one thing I can add to
that.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
So there is a lot of talk about frequency and
basically what that is is justattunement to the energy that's
supporting, and it's not aboutdismissing other energies, but
it's really about creating whatone wants to expand and see more
of and it's.
(04:56):
You know, when you areconnected with that love and
whatever you see outside ofyourself that might not seem as
love, then it's really aboutworking on ourselves.
How can I shift?
How can we shift our view, howcan we shift our energy so that
everything that we see is anexpression of love?
(05:16):
And then also understandingwhat's our place in this world
where we can shift things andwhat is not really up to us to
shift, also having thisdiscernment.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
That's also very important how would one be more
aware and have that discernment,would you say?
Speaker 2 (05:34):
if you want to have more of it yeah okay.
So the easiest way is attendingto things that you just feel
naturally drawn to.
There's's so many things topick, but pay attention to where
your energy feels, you know,where your energy wants to flow,
because if something isdraining, that might not be your
(05:56):
battle, because your energysystem is just not equipped to
handle that situation.
And it's not to say thatthere's something wrong with it,
because it's really.
You can't fight every battle.
It's just a reality, becausethink of the nature Some animals
can live in the sea and someanimals can live in the air and
(06:19):
some in the earth, and it's thesame with their battles.
They're just living their liveswhere they're at.
So, and it's the same with yourenergy.
So check more where you feelyou can make a change based on
how your energy expands, and ifsomething is draining, just have
that as a sign that it mightnot be right now where you want
(06:42):
to focus on.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
Perfect.
Thank you for that.
So why would one constantlyseek validation from others,
even though that they've learnedthe hard way and they know?
That is just, you know,disillusional.
Continue doing this.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
So that is just a pattern of conditioning, it's
just how you're brought up andbecause that is something that
provided us with safety when wewere young.
But going forward now, this isalso one of the patterns that we
can change and maybe startingto see validation from us, from
(07:22):
ourselves.
So that can be a good step,instead of focusing on others
and even giving them the powerof validating us.
It's, in a way, doesn't makesense, because every creation is
perfect by itself.
Like you can't validate ananimal, for example.
(07:43):
I mean you can, but it won'tchange because by itself that's
perfect creation and you areperfect creation and no one like
who can be outside authority,that can say, well, you are
perfect, you're good, you'rethis, you're that.
Like no one can take that placefor you.
What you can do is just assesswho you want to be and then and
(08:08):
also be mindful of yourcharacter and if your values and
your morals align to youractions, and this is where you
can validate yourself or youractions, and also be kind to
yourself, be kind to the partsthat were acting out because of
(08:28):
our past programming, and that'ssomething that we can change.
The mind just needs anotherpattern.
That's all there is, becausethis is how mind works, so
reintroduction to anotherpattern is needed to shift that
perspective amazing, that makessense yeah, and you're.
You guys are doing that inhypnotherapy.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
That's just one way, and there are so many other ways
yeah, so there's like the way Isee it, it's like just tools
that we get to choose to help usbecome our best selves, but
who's really doing that isourselves.
Is that right?
Speaker 2 (09:04):
yeah, and it's not really best self.
It's more about your authenticself.
Right, it's because it's notbetter, it's just more in
alignment.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
Like authentic expression.
Okay, and how can one overcomenegative thoughts and beliefs
about their selves?
Speaker 2 (09:24):
Oh, there are so many ways.
I guess it really starts withself-awareness and there are
many practices such asmeditation, journaling, yoga,
whatever suits for someone, andit's really a personal choice.
And then it's about introducingagain new pattern and just new
perception, like even askingyourself if something isn't
(09:48):
working, how can I change that?
Or how am I still holding on tothis if it doesn't give me the
results I need?
And then finding, ideally,everyone would would have a
supportive person that theycould really lean on, which
would just reflect back withfull compassion what they see.
(10:14):
Because the the thing is, humanswe are, we have these blind
spots and we are not aware ofand, because of unawareness, we
just think that.
You know, sometimes we havethis, we are at mercy of
situations that are beyond ourcontrol.
But if we had awareness of ourblind spots, we would have even
(10:37):
more compassion for ourselvesand would be able to make more
informed decisions.
So having external help isreally the just the fastest way
of shifting, and it doesn't haveto be, you know, you don't have
to work with someone all thetime.
Obviously, you need to enjoylife.
(10:57):
That's also another thing, justcommitting to enjoy more and
you know, because that'sexpanding things that you want
to experience more, whether love, whether play, creativity,
whatever that is, and this isalso how habits will just fall
off slowly.
Speaker 1 (11:15):
Awesome, thank you.
And why would maybe onestruggle to set boundaries and
say no to others?
Speaker 2 (11:23):
It really all comes down to again this conditioning
how we had, as children, had tosurvive, and for a lot of people
, setting boundaries didn'tresult in feeling safe or loved.
So that is very old pattern.
So if you're experiencing that,just have compassion for it,
(11:47):
because there is a part of youthat really wants you to be safe
, just to survive really, andyou know setting boundaries to
other people it's not safe atall.
So it's really as simple asthat just recognizing that, not
beating oneself up when thatoccurs and then also deciding
(12:09):
what you want to do with it, andalso knowing that not setting
boundaries is not justdetrimental for for yourself,
but also for the other party,because they have their
learnings to do as well.
So if you are acting on behalfof yourself, with the intention
(12:31):
for your highest good, you areacting for others as well.
Even if your rational minddoesn't understand, it's still
for the highest self of others.
So, yeah, I hope that makessense.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
Definitely, would you say that setting boundaries is
based on self-care.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
Yeah, it's actually an act of love also for other
people, not just for yourself,Act of love for creation.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
It makes sense because as we grow, we learn
more about ourselves and we needto teach others how to be
treated, because that's whatboundaries really are right.
Speaker 2 (13:15):
Yeah, just kind of where do we want to, how do we
want to exist in space?
And they don't have to benegative.
It's just about introduction ofenergies.
So that's my energy and this ishow my energy works best, and
just teaching other people howactually your energy works and
(13:36):
what you need to thrive.
Speaker 1 (13:38):
that's basically what boundary is okay, I think
you've already mentioned this,but maybe is there anything else
to say about how can someonelearn to accept themselves more?
Speaker 2 (13:51):
um, maybe try this one.
Ask yourself, or look yourselfin the mirror and just really
stare in your eyes and just be.
Who's that, looking beyond allthese words and you know they
can be anything, these opinions,judgments, whatever but who's
witnessing all that and thenconnecting with your heart and
(14:16):
just asking what if what I seeis really perfect creation and
nothing is wrong with it?
Like why wouldn't I just lovethis beautiful creation that I
see, that I witness?
Just ask yourself this question.
Because why wouldn't you bedeserving of love if you're
loved?
It just doesn't make sense.
(14:37):
It's not even a point ofdeserving, it's just being.
Speaker 1 (14:41):
I love that.
So how can one learn toprioritize themselves more and
have more value or feel morevalued?
Speaker 2 (14:52):
Okay, more value or feel more valued.
Okay, a value is really a termthat it's, I guess, just used in
this 3d world, because ifsomething is valuable, then that
applies that certain thingsaren't valuable, which is not
really true because things areor they are not.
It's just, it's just as simpleas that.
(15:13):
So everything has value.
If you want to speak thatlanguage sometimes it just
doesn't seem so if you want to,I wouldn't even say, prioritize
yourself, but just be in tune ofwhat wants to be created
through you and what is the bestexpression of that.
(15:35):
What you can do is value that.
Value your energy, your source.
For example, everyone values gasbecause they can move around,
they can put in a car and justgo places, and you, everyone,
(15:55):
has this energy in them.
You know creative energy,energy of love and all of that,
but we don't see it as valuablefor some reason and we take it
for granted.
But what if this energy canhave its higher expression and
that can be creation ofsomething that your soul really
(16:18):
wants to create?
And wouldn't that be cool ifyou were to tune into yourself,
connect with what that creationis and then just enjoy it?
And it's not really about evenvalue.
But if you want to, you canvalue that, you can value
everything that's coming throughyou and I guess, just learn not
(16:40):
to label it that much, becausethe less you label, the less.
The more you just allow thingsto be, to exist, the more you
will just be content withwhatever you are putting out
there or whatever you are, justwhatever.
It doesn't even have to beaction, creation, it just being
(17:03):
is knowing and alignment witheverything.
So it's, I guess it's justshifting perspective.
Did I answer your question?
Speaker 1 (17:15):
yeah, and I think that kind of goes into the next
question, which is aboutcomparison.
And how can someone's, you know, eventually stop comparing
themselves to others?
And I think you kind of touchedon that with like sort of the
yeah, the illusion of that likevalue and non-value, and yeah
(17:38):
and we can't know what is bestfor others, how others shouldn't
be.
Speaker 2 (17:44):
And obviously here on this plane, we do compare, but
ultimately we can, instead ofseeing it as as a bad thing, we
can even look at things asassessment.
Okay, do I like this energy?
What is intriguing, for example, if there is jealousy in oh you
know they have that and I don't.
(18:04):
So that just tells yousomething that you would like
some of that too, and instead offocusing on them, or it's just
everything outside is just amessage for you that you can act
on or not.
It's really up to you.
So how do you want to work withyour energy?
How do you want to utilize yourgifts?
Because it's not really aboutothers, it's always about you.
(18:27):
Instead of again projectingthings outward or even giving
attention and all the power out,just pulling it in, pulling all
this energy back and just belike okay, so what do I want to
create?
How do I want to be?
Where is my place in this world?
Yeah, it's just that it's notabout others, and if you want to
(18:51):
see others, what you can maybebetter shift is how can I
co-create?
Because others?
They seem separate on thisplane, but we are all.
We all want to expand, we allwant to contribute.
So they're not enemies.
No one is against you.
It's more about how can Ico-create this with others and
(19:13):
even finding people that can dothat with you and expand and
even multiply your energy andyour efforts just because there
is more of you, so comparisoncan be just again shifted around
, this changing perspective ofassessment and then taking
responsibility for my part anddoing something with it.
Speaker 1 (19:38):
That's awesome.
I like that and I think yeah.
The next question you'vealready touched on again.
I just see how all this is sortof connected together.
The last one is how can onebuild self-esteem and confidence
?
Maybe you can just recap oneverything you've already said.
Speaker 2 (19:58):
I actually wanted to give a short answer, which is
have self-awareness to informyou and then, from being
informed, you can make informeddecisions.
And informed decisions can leadto informed actions and those
might feel scary, but takingactions that will be in
(20:20):
alignment with you will feelreally good.
They will expand just yourenergy, your place in this world
, and it won't be even aboutself-esteem that much, but it
will just actually.
It will build your self, senseof self in a way.
So really take these actions.
(20:40):
Regard regarding of the fear, sothe war, you act in the way
that you want to go and notfight the fear, but just be
acknowledging and act anyway.
That's how you can do it,because it's not something to be
thought mentally, it's reallyto experience.
So, yeah, and you have thiscapacity in you, you have all
(21:04):
the strength, you have power.
You can even lean onconnections, on support.
Yeah, just embrace that.
Don't see yourself as thislimiting person.
You don't, don't let your fearsdefine you or any outside
labels, but we connect more withyour heart and act from it and
(21:26):
and this is just naturally howyou will build that sense of
self-esteem.
Speaker 1 (21:31):
It's beautiful.
Thank you so much much you'reso welcome.
Thank you is there anythingelse you want to touch on?
Speaker 2 (21:37):
no, just that.
Know that you are beautiful,unlimited being, and allow
yourself to be that.
Yeah, don't limit yourself,don't put yourself in boxes.
Just try it out and see whatthat feels being unlimited
definitely awesome.
Speaker 1 (21:55):
Thank you so much thank you.
Speaker 2 (22:11):
Okay, stella, please tell me how you feel after this
session.
What was it like for you?
How my mind is kind of stubborn, I mean in real life.
I mean in real life, ineveryday life.
It's just.
(22:31):
It's so funny, you know how myconcept that I have my ego is.
It seems like it's kind ofstrong.
So I have different concepts.
When I'm hearing my higher self, I'm like, oh okay, it's a
little bit different to what Iusually think about things.
So it's, it's, it's wonderfulactually, how to have this
revelation and just shift inperspective.
Yeah, how was it for you?
Speaker 1 (22:50):
That's awesome.
It was good.
I, yeah, same thing.
That's what I always experiencewhen I go under.
You know like the human cellhas these limitations, and then
you know, I just like hearingeverything that you're saying.
It's like we have.
I have that wisdom in myselftoo, and the listener has this
wisdom in their selves too, andit's that's the beauty about it
(23:13):
and that's where our self-worthcomes in.
Like, stop looking externallyfor validation, stop looking for
needing things to get thiswealth of information or
knowledge to be.
You know your authentic self.
Speaker 2 (23:29):
Exactly.
Yeah, it almost feels like whenI was in it that why is this?
Even a theme Like, why do weeven have to talk about it?
It's just, it's not relevant.
You know, on that level, likeself-worth is not relevant be,
create, love, live life and join.
(23:50):
You know why is this?
Why is that thing even relevant?
Speaker 1 (23:54):
that's how I felt yeah, I guess it's just the
human conditioning and like, andwe're all at a certain level
within our development, you know, and it's like some of us may
come across these limitationsmore than others.
It's not, yeah, it doesn'treally matter, but it's like
these are tools that we can alluse because we all experience it
(24:16):
.
No one's perfect.
Speaker 2 (24:18):
Exactly no one is and we all are in our ways.
Yeah, exactly no one is and weall are in our ways.
Yeah, we just.
It almost feels like we arejust these bundles of energy.
And there are certain patterns,as I see them as this energy,
you know, floating around, justobscuring our view, and we are
(24:39):
just transforming these patternsso that they kind of serve us
better.
And when we do that, we aremore and more just in our
limelight, we let our true selfshine through, and that's what
it is.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (24:58):
Definitely, that's just part of the human
experience and that's yeah, it'snot bad or good, just is
exactly, yeah.
Speaker 2 (25:09):
So, yeah, I hope this was inspiring for anyone
listening and I hope that theywere also able to connect to
their heart or whatever.
Was you know, present or waslistening and uh, yeah, thank
you for tuning in.
Speaker 1 (25:26):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (25:30):
Thank you for listening to Hypnosis for the
Soul podcast brought to you bymyself, barji Stila and my
friend and co-host Shay, wherewe share new ideas from a unique
perspective while being underhypnosis.
Please follow us on socialmedia and, if you want to join
our community on Patreon, we arethere as well.
(25:52):
See you there.
welcome to our podcast hypnotherapy for the
soul.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
This is your host, shea pestle, and this is my co
host barchi stela, where weexplore the power of hypnosis
and connect to inner wisdom.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
For answers through our episodes, we share behind
the scenes live sessions to helpyou tap into your inner
guidance.
Speaker 2 (00:33):
Join us on this journey of self-discovery and
utilize the power of hypnosis toconnect to your higher self.
Today's episode is all aboutself-worth.
If you feel that you're notgood enough, or you believe that
you don't deserve love orhappiness and are constantly
seeking validation from others,you might want to listen to this
episode.
(00:53):
My friend and co-host, shay, isgoing to be asking me a series
of questions directed towards myhigher self.
The higher self is the part ofus that knows everything about
us and is also tapped intocollective intelligence.
For your best and most valuableexperience, I invite you to be
open while you listen, becausethat way, you can connect to
(01:16):
your inner wisdom and receiveguidance.
Just a heads up the part thatyou won't hear is where Shay
takes me into the hypnotic stateof mind, which is a state where
we can access the informationof our subconscious mind.
Okay, without further ado,let's dive in Enjoy.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Thank you so much for Barchi's Higher Self for being
with us today.
I got some questions aboutself-worth, and the first one is
why do certain people alwaysfeel like that we're not good
enough?
Speaker 2 (01:56):
The simple answer is because you don't know your true
nature, you're not aware of itand you identify with external
things.
But if you had awareness ofyour inner being and connection
with everything, there wouldn'tbe no, not just sense of
(02:16):
separation, but also perceptionthat you wouldn't need to be any
other way that you are.
Speaker 1 (02:24):
Wonderful, and why do some people have this feeling
that they don't really deservelove or happiness?
Speaker 2 (02:31):
Yeah, it's really this connection from their
source and it happens very earlyon in the process of just
socialization and, yeah, justkind of adjusting to the 3D
world.
When a person is looking andlearning from the outside
(02:53):
authorities or perceivedauthorities, and because
everyone they look at, no onehas their sense of true
self-worth or self-love or andthings are shifting now.
But you know they don't haverole models that would teach
them otherwise.
So they from the beginning,basically they are kind of set
(03:16):
up to learn things that aren'treally true and then it seems
like it's part of lifetime toshed all these personas, all
these false identities that arejust in the way of pure love and
true love.
That it's at the core of eachperson, and not just each person
(03:37):
, but every being is the samething.
With animal world, plants, Ithought, everything actually in
its core, it's this energy oflove.
So the problem is I don't wantto say a problem it's just how
things are, just thisdisconnection, and we are here
learning to connect and weconnect with other people so
(04:01):
that we can learn about themourselves and they help us
connect with our source.
So outside world is needed toto get understanding of our
internal world, if that makessense it really does.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
I've noticed that myself.
That it's a internal thing thatwe all possess is love, and
happiness is within, but thenthe illusion is the external,
and that's part of the sort ofsocietal stuff we've all been
programmed for yeah, and thereis just one thing I can add to
that.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
So there is a lot of talk about frequency and
basically what that is is justattunement to the energy that's
supporting, and it's not aboutdismissing other energies, but
it's really about creating whatone wants to expand and see more
of and it's.
(04:56):
You know, when you areconnected with that love and
whatever you see outside ofyourself that might not seem as
love, then it's really aboutworking on ourselves.
How can I shift?
How can we shift our view, howcan we shift our energy so that
everything that we see is anexpression of love?
(05:16):
And then also understandingwhat's our place in this world
where we can shift things andwhat is not really up to us to
shift, also having thisdiscernment.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
That's also very important how would one be more
aware and have that discernment,would you say?
Speaker 2 (05:34):
if you want to have more of it yeah okay.
So the easiest way is attendingto things that you just feel
naturally drawn to.
There's's so many things topick, but pay attention to where
your energy feels, you know,where your energy wants to flow,
because if something isdraining, that might not be your
(05:56):
battle, because your energysystem is just not equipped to
handle that situation.
And it's not to say thatthere's something wrong with it,
because it's really.
You can't fight every battle.
It's just a reality, becausethink of the nature Some animals
can live in the sea and someanimals can live in the air and
(06:19):
some in the earth, and it's thesame with their battles.
They're just living their liveswhere they're at.
So, and it's the same with yourenergy.
So check more where you feelyou can make a change based on
how your energy expands, and ifsomething is draining, just have
that as a sign that it mightnot be right now where you want
(06:42):
to focus on.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
Perfect.
Thank you for that.
So why would one constantlyseek validation from others,
even though that they've learnedthe hard way and they know?
That is just, you know,disillusional.
Continue doing this.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
So that is just a pattern of conditioning, it's
just how you're brought up andbecause that is something that
provided us with safety when wewere young.
But going forward now, this isalso one of the patterns that we
can change and maybe startingto see validation from us, from
(07:22):
ourselves.
So that can be a good step,instead of focusing on others
and even giving them the powerof validating us.
It's, in a way, doesn't makesense, because every creation is
perfect by itself.
Like you can't validate ananimal, for example.
(07:43):
I mean you can, but it won'tchange because by itself that's
perfect creation and you areperfect creation and no one like
who can be outside authority,that can say, well, you are
perfect, you're good, you'rethis, you're that.
Like no one can take that placefor you.
What you can do is just assesswho you want to be and then and
(08:08):
also be mindful of yourcharacter and if your values and
your morals align to youractions, and this is where you
can validate yourself or youractions, and also be kind to
yourself, be kind to the partsthat were acting out because of
(08:28):
our past programming, and that'ssomething that we can change.
The mind just needs anotherpattern.
That's all there is, becausethis is how mind works, so
reintroduction to anotherpattern is needed to shift that
perspective amazing, that makessense yeah, and you're.
You guys are doing that inhypnotherapy.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
That's just one way, and there are so many other ways
yeah, so there's like the way Isee it, it's like just tools
that we get to choose to help usbecome our best selves, but
who's really doing that isourselves.
Is that right?
Speaker 2 (09:04):
yeah, and it's not really best self.
It's more about your authenticself.
Right, it's because it's notbetter, it's just more in
alignment.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
Like authentic expression.
Okay, and how can one overcomenegative thoughts and beliefs
about their selves?
Speaker 2 (09:24):
Oh, there are so many ways.
I guess it really starts withself-awareness and there are
many practices such asmeditation, journaling, yoga,
whatever suits for someone, andit's really a personal choice.
And then it's about introducingagain new pattern and just new
perception, like even askingyourself if something isn't
(09:48):
working, how can I change that?
Or how am I still holding on tothis if it doesn't give me the
results I need?
And then finding, ideally,everyone would would have a
supportive person that theycould really lean on, which
would just reflect back withfull compassion what they see.
(10:14):
Because the the thing is, humanswe are, we have these blind
spots and we are not aware ofand, because of unawareness, we
just think that.
You know, sometimes we havethis, we are at mercy of
situations that are beyond ourcontrol.
But if we had awareness of ourblind spots, we would have even
(10:37):
more compassion for ourselvesand would be able to make more
informed decisions.
So having external help isreally the just the fastest way
of shifting, and it doesn't haveto be, you know, you don't have
to work with someone all thetime.
Obviously, you need to enjoylife.
(10:57):
That's also another thing, justcommitting to enjoy more and
you know, because that'sexpanding things that you want
to experience more, whether love, whether play, creativity,
whatever that is, and this isalso how habits will just fall
off slowly.
Speaker 1 (11:15):
Awesome, thank you.
And why would maybe onestruggle to set boundaries and
say no to others?
Speaker 2 (11:23):
It really all comes down to again this conditioning
how we had, as children, had tosurvive, and for a lot of people
, setting boundaries didn'tresult in feeling safe or loved.
So that is very old pattern.
So if you're experiencing that,just have compassion for it,
(11:47):
because there is a part of youthat really wants you to be safe
, just to survive really, andyou know setting boundaries to
other people it's not safe atall.
So it's really as simple asthat just recognizing that, not
beating oneself up when thatoccurs and then also deciding
(12:09):
what you want to do with it, andalso knowing that not setting
boundaries is not justdetrimental for for yourself,
but also for the other party,because they have their
learnings to do as well.
So if you are acting on behalfof yourself, with the intention
(12:31):
for your highest good, you areacting for others as well.
Even if your rational minddoesn't understand, it's still
for the highest self of others.
So, yeah, I hope that makessense.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
Definitely, would you say that setting boundaries is
based on self-care.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
Yeah, it's actually an act of love also for other
people, not just for yourself,Act of love for creation.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
It makes sense because as we grow, we learn
more about ourselves and we needto teach others how to be
treated, because that's whatboundaries really are right.
Speaker 2 (13:15):
Yeah, just kind of where do we want to, how do we
want to exist in space?
And they don't have to benegative.
It's just about introduction ofenergies.
So that's my energy and this ishow my energy works best, and
just teaching other people howactually your energy works and
(13:36):
what you need to thrive.
Speaker 1 (13:38):
that's basically what boundary is okay, I think
you've already mentioned this,but maybe is there anything else
to say about how can someonelearn to accept themselves more?
Speaker 2 (13:51):
um, maybe try this one.
Ask yourself, or look yourselfin the mirror and just really
stare in your eyes and just be.
Who's that, looking beyond allthese words and you know they
can be anything, these opinions,judgments, whatever but who's
witnessing all that and thenconnecting with your heart and
(14:16):
just asking what if what I seeis really perfect creation and
nothing is wrong with it?
Like why wouldn't I just lovethis beautiful creation that I
see, that I witness?
Just ask yourself this question.
Because why wouldn't you bedeserving of love if you're
loved?
It just doesn't make sense.
(14:37):
It's not even a point ofdeserving, it's just being.
Speaker 1 (14:41):
I love that.
So how can one learn toprioritize themselves more and
have more value or feel morevalued?
Speaker 2 (14:52):
Okay, more value or feel more valued.
Okay, a value is really a termthat it's, I guess, just used in
this 3d world, because ifsomething is valuable, then that
applies that certain thingsaren't valuable, which is not
really true because things areor they are not.
It's just, it's just as simpleas that.
(15:13):
So everything has value.
If you want to speak thatlanguage sometimes it just
doesn't seem so if you want to,I wouldn't even say, prioritize
yourself, but just be in tune ofwhat wants to be created
through you and what is the bestexpression of that.
(15:35):
What you can do is value that.
Value your energy, your source.
For example, everyone values gasbecause they can move around,
they can put in a car and justgo places, and you, everyone,
(15:55):
has this energy in them.
You know creative energy,energy of love and all of that,
but we don't see it as valuablefor some reason and we take it
for granted.
But what if this energy canhave its higher expression and
that can be creation ofsomething that your soul really
(16:18):
wants to create?
And wouldn't that be cool ifyou were to tune into yourself,
connect with what that creationis and then just enjoy it?
And it's not really about evenvalue.
But if you want to, you canvalue that, you can value
everything that's coming throughyou and I guess, just learn not
(16:40):
to label it that much, becausethe less you label, the less.
The more you just allow thingsto be, to exist, the more you
will just be content withwhatever you are putting out
there or whatever you are, justwhatever.
It doesn't even have to beaction, creation, it just being
(17:03):
is knowing and alignment witheverything.
So it's, I guess it's justshifting perspective.
Did I answer your question?
Speaker 1 (17:15):
yeah, and I think that kind of goes into the next
question, which is aboutcomparison.
And how can someone's, you know, eventually stop comparing
themselves to others?
And I think you kind of touchedon that with like sort of the
yeah, the illusion of that likevalue and non-value, and yeah
(17:38):
and we can't know what is bestfor others, how others shouldn't
be.
Speaker 2 (17:44):
And obviously here on this plane, we do compare, but
ultimately we can, instead ofseeing it as as a bad thing, we
can even look at things asassessment.
Okay, do I like this energy?
What is intriguing, for example, if there is jealousy in oh you
know they have that and I don't.
(18:04):
So that just tells yousomething that you would like
some of that too, and instead offocusing on them, or it's just
everything outside is just amessage for you that you can act
on or not.
It's really up to you.
So how do you want to work withyour energy?
How do you want to utilize yourgifts?
Because it's not really aboutothers, it's always about you.
(18:27):
Instead of again projectingthings outward or even giving
attention and all the power out,just pulling it in, pulling all
this energy back and just belike okay, so what do I want to
create?
How do I want to be?
Where is my place in this world?
Yeah, it's just that it's notabout others, and if you want to
(18:51):
see others, what you can maybebetter shift is how can I
co-create?
Because others?
They seem separate on thisplane, but we are all.
We all want to expand, we allwant to contribute.
So they're not enemies.
No one is against you.
It's more about how can Ico-create this with others and
(19:13):
even finding people that can dothat with you and expand and
even multiply your energy andyour efforts just because there
is more of you, so comparisoncan be just again shifted around
, this changing perspective ofassessment and then taking
responsibility for my part anddoing something with it.
Speaker 1 (19:38):
That's awesome.
I like that and I think yeah.
The next question you'vealready touched on again.
I just see how all this is sortof connected together.
The last one is how can onebuild self-esteem and confidence
?
Maybe you can just recap oneverything you've already said.
Speaker 2 (19:58):
I actually wanted to give a short answer, which is
have self-awareness to informyou and then, from being
informed, you can make informeddecisions.
And informed decisions can leadto informed actions and those
might feel scary, but takingactions that will be in
(20:20):
alignment with you will feelreally good.
They will expand just yourenergy, your place in this world
, and it won't be even aboutself-esteem that much, but it
will just actually.
It will build your self, senseof self in a way.
So really take these actions.
(20:40):
Regard regarding of the fear, sothe war, you act in the way
that you want to go and notfight the fear, but just be
acknowledging and act anyway.
That's how you can do it,because it's not something to be
thought mentally, it's reallyto experience.
So, yeah, and you have thiscapacity in you, you have all
(21:04):
the strength, you have power.
You can even lean onconnections, on support.
Yeah, just embrace that.
Don't see yourself as thislimiting person.
You don't, don't let your fearsdefine you or any outside
labels, but we connect more withyour heart and act from it and
(21:26):
and this is just naturally howyou will build that sense of
self-esteem.
Speaker 1 (21:31):
It's beautiful.
Thank you so much much you'reso welcome.
Thank you is there anythingelse you want to touch on?
Speaker 2 (21:37):
no, just that.
Know that you are beautiful,unlimited being, and allow
yourself to be that.
Yeah, don't limit yourself,don't put yourself in boxes.
Just try it out and see whatthat feels being unlimited
definitely awesome.
Speaker 1 (21:55):
Thank you so much thank you.
Speaker 2 (22:11):
Okay, stella, please tell me how you feel after this
session.
What was it like for you?
How my mind is kind of stubborn, I mean in real life.
I mean in real life, ineveryday life.
It's just.
(22:31):
It's so funny, you know how myconcept that I have my ego is.
It seems like it's kind ofstrong.
So I have different concepts.
When I'm hearing my higher self, I'm like, oh okay, it's a
little bit different to what Iusually think about things.
So it's, it's, it's wonderfulactually, how to have this
revelation and just shift inperspective.
Yeah, how was it for you?
Speaker 1 (22:50):
That's awesome.
It was good.
I, yeah, same thing.
That's what I always experiencewhen I go under.
You know like the human cellhas these limitations, and then
you know, I just like hearingeverything that you're saying.
It's like we have.
I have that wisdom in myselftoo, and the listener has this
wisdom in their selves too, andit's that's the beauty about it
(23:13):
and that's where our self-worthcomes in.
Like, stop looking externallyfor validation, stop looking for
needing things to get thiswealth of information or
knowledge to be.
You know your authentic self.
Speaker 2 (23:29):
Exactly.
Yeah, it almost feels like whenI was in it that why is this?
Even a theme Like, why do weeven have to talk about it?
It's just, it's not relevant.
You know, on that level, likeself-worth is not relevant be,
create, love, live life and join.
(23:50):
You know why is this?
Why is that thing even relevant?
Speaker 1 (23:54):
that's how I felt yeah, I guess it's just the
human conditioning and like, andwe're all at a certain level
within our development, you know, and it's like some of us may
come across these limitationsmore than others.
It's not, yeah, it doesn'treally matter, but it's like
these are tools that we can alluse because we all experience it
(24:16):
.
No one's perfect.
Speaker 2 (24:18):
Exactly no one is and we all are in our ways.
Yeah, exactly no one is and weall are in our ways.
Yeah, we just.
It almost feels like we arejust these bundles of energy.
And there are certain patterns,as I see them as this energy,
you know, floating around, justobscuring our view, and we are
(24:39):
just transforming these patternsso that they kind of serve us
better.
And when we do that, we aremore and more just in our
limelight, we let our true selfshine through, and that's what
it is.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (24:58):
Definitely, that's just part of the human
experience and that's yeah, it'snot bad or good, just is
exactly, yeah.
Speaker 2 (25:09):
So, yeah, I hope this was inspiring for anyone
listening and I hope that theywere also able to connect to
their heart or whatever.
Was you know, present or waslistening and uh, yeah, thank
you for tuning in.
Speaker 1 (25:26):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (25:30):
Thank you for listening to Hypnosis for the
Soul podcast brought to you bymyself, barji Stila and my
friend and co-host Shay, wherewe share new ideas from a unique
perspective while being underhypnosis.
Please follow us on socialmedia and, if you want to join
our community on Patreon, we arethere as well.
(25:52):
See you there.
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