October 14, 2025 • 20 mins
What if the fastest way out of your head isn’t more thinking—but less noise? We explore how to quiet the constant digital pull, hear your own signals, and turn tiny steps into real momentum. This is a practical, no-fluff guide for anyone who plans endlessly, crowdsources every decision, and still feels stuck.
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SPEAKER_00 (00:01):
Hey everybody, welcome back to IM Me.
I am your host, Liz Bachman, andtoday we are talking about
something so precious andbeautiful and wonderful.
And I relate to it heavilybecause I am a A student when it
comes to overthinking.
So today, yes, I wanted to talkabout overthinking and learning
to trust yourself.
(00:21):
Today's episode is just allthings overthinkers, because I
have done a lot of work aroundoverthinking, of course, as
always figuring this out, butthere's things that I do that
help me because if you're anoverthinker, you know when
you're overthinking, when you'rein that noggin, you're not
getting anything done.
Of course, as always, if youlike the show, enjoy the show,
(00:42):
then like, follow, comment,subscribe, all the things
because you know I'm a smallcreator and it helps your girl
out.
So let's dive into this.
I'm not gonna say I neveroverthink, but there are things
that I've learned that helpalleviate this overthinking so
that I can get back to the taskat hand.
And I just want to share withyou today the stuff that I have
(01:04):
done and am doing that helps menot only stop overthinking, but
just trust myself in this wholeentire process.
So let's dive into it, shall we?
What I wanted to like kick thisoff with was hacking your
environment.
I think a lot of times I'mspinning out, I don't know what
to do.
And what it really is is I'mjust so overstimulated and
(01:26):
distracted by the bajilliondistractions that we have in
this digital age that we're in.
And our brains are not meant totake that much in.
But the really beautiful thingabout that is you can hack your
environment to help you.
I know you have heard the sayingthat your phone has an off
switch.
(01:46):
Sometimes that is not probablefor people.
Sometimes people don't want todo that.
I get it.
I rarely turn my phone off.
I don't even really turn it offat night.
I do put it on sleep mode.
Anyway, we're getting off topichere.
But the things that I do, one isgrayscale mode.
I have an iPhone, it's prettysimple.
I'll I'll try and find a couplelinks to put in the description
(02:07):
on how to get an Android and aniPhone into grayscale mode.
But what that essentially is, isit turns your phone into like
black and white.
And when there's not as muchcolors, it's a lot easier to not
be as interested or distractedby the notifications coming
through.
The muted tones mute your brain.
You're not nearly as worriedabout it.
(02:27):
Also, if you struggle with doomscrolling or wasting time online
on social media, grayscale yourphone because I can go ahead and
tell you it is not nearly asenjoyable to watch content in
black and white.
Another one, get one of thewidgets or the app that will
keep you from hopping on thesesocial media platforms.
There's nothing wrong with that.
(02:48):
These platforms want us to spendas much time as possible on
them.
So don't feel bad if you'reconstantly picking up your phone
and going to whatever socialmedia platform of your choosing.
It's really easy to beatourselves up over that.
It's literally the point.
There's so many people that haveput time and energy and effort
into making sure that we stay onthe app as long as possible,
(03:09):
whichever app you pick yourpoison.
I don't care, TikTok, YouTube,Instagram, Snapchat, whatever it
is.
It's literally designed to workagainst us.
So help yourself out, find anapp that works for you.
I'll link the one I use.
It's really cute.
Oh, Focus Friends, I think iswhat it's called.
And it's cute.
The little guy knits scarves andmittens while your apps are shut
(03:30):
down.
And if you want to get on yourapp, you have to go and stop him
from knitting.
But the issue is it makes himsad.
So that one helps me.
But if that's not your thing,find another one.
There's so many out there thatwill keep you from getting on
your social media.
And the last thing I do withhacking my environment is the
focus modes on your phone.
I'm not sure how this translatesto Android.
(03:51):
I apologize, but I know there'sgotta be some way it translates.
I a lot of times won't even putmy phone in do not disturb.
I'll put my phone in sleep mode.
I'm not sure exactly thedifference in between the two,
but it feels more intense for methan the DD.
Yeah, silence yournotifications.
If you're worried that peopleare gonna contact you and you
need to get back to them, letthem know that you need a couple
(04:13):
hours to work on the stuff thatyou want to work on.
I cannot express enough how thedistractions feed into the
overthinking constantly.
We are not meant to take thismuch information in, which ends
up making us think about eitherthings in the past or things in
the future.
It just triggers us over andover and over again.
And we can't be in the presentmoment to actually get what we
(04:36):
want to get done, done, whichjust feeds the overthinking loop
all over again because then atthe end of the day we go to bed
and we are overthinking becausewe didn't do as much as we
wanted to do that day because wewasted the day or whatever you
want to call it.
Help yourself out.
Hack that environment, girl.
The other thing that I wasreally important to me was stop
outsourcing my intuition.
What do I mean by that?
(04:56):
I realized when I would startreally overthinking something, I
would almost always immediatelyreach out to a friend or my mom
or my sister to get their inputon it.
And the issue with that is thatI then am completely telling
myself I don't trust myself.
When you're constantly going tosomeone else for answers,
(05:17):
whenever you start overthinkinga situation, you are literally
telling your brain that you donot trust it.
You do not trust it to make theright choice.
Our bodies know what we want.
Deep down, we have an intuition.
Every single one of us do.
It is hardwired into our DNA.
Yours might be a little dustyright now.
We might need to clear that boxoff, you know, and start
(05:38):
trusting that gut again.
But you have that intuition andyour body is going to tell you
if something's a hell yes or ahell no.
We start overthinking andspinning out, and then we just
run and we want the answer forsomeone else.
And sometimes we're not meant tohave the answer in that moment.
We're meant to sit with whateverit is for a little bit of time
so that then we can come up witha solution on our own.
(06:00):
If you are a human design girlylike myself, this is where our
authority comes in.
Your authority is your uniqueway of making aligned decisions.
It really does matter that yourmind and your body are aligned.
And if you're like, oh, that'sbullshit, that's woo-woo, fine,
whatever.
But that stuff does matter.
And a lot of times when we'reasking other people's opinions,
we haven't even given our bodythe moment to answer it for us,
(06:24):
which is part of the issue andwhat puts us out of alignment
with ourselves.
And when it comes to humandesign and your authority, some
people are sacral, and that isyou're very gut-driven.
Your gut knows if it's a yes orno.
Other people are swenick and getthese little whispery hints of
instinct.
Maybe it's not as much of apunch, but it's like a gentle
(06:45):
whisper in the back of theirhead as to what they need to do.
And some people are emotionalauthorities and they need to
feel it out.
But like I said, none of thiscan happen if you're always
going to someone else first.
Go to yourself first.
I still think it's very muchimportant to talk through
things, but if you don't haveany type of concrete idea of
what you're feeling first,you're gonna go into that and
(07:09):
just like a piece of paper inthe ocean, get taught, I don't
know why a piece of paper tossedaround by everybody's opinions.
And it's probably just gonnamake you overthink more and feel
more confused and have no ideawhat to do.
The meditating, the deepbreathing on whatever it is, the
journaling, getting all thatshit out of your head, do that
first.
And those are things for areason because it helps us
(07:29):
center ourselves so that then wehave an idea of what direction
we're leaning in and trust yourbody when it gives you the
answer.
It's really easy for us to getup in our head and our body's
like, this is gonna be a nah forme, dog.
And for whatever reason, mostlikely fear.
But we decide to go against ourbody because we think that this
solution we came up with in ourhead, even though it's against
(07:52):
everything in us, like we'rescreaming, no, I don't want
that.
We go along with that decisionand it ends up just breeding
more misery because we end upoverthinking more down the road
to try and get out of thedecision we made.
I would just finish that up withsaying, This is how you learn to
trust yourself by going to yourintuition first.
It's not about you getting itright or being perfect, but
(08:13):
trust that your intuition isgonna guide you.
Maybe it doesn't work out, maybein three months it doesn't work
out, but you know at least atthe end of the day, you trusted
yourself.
You will learn from that andkeep moving forward.
There isn't a right or wronganswer when it comes to learning
to trust yourself.
This one gets my clients, itgets me.
Imperfect action will alwaystrump a perfect plan because
(08:37):
action is always going to bemore important than planning.
And overthinkers, man, we getstuck in the planning, don't we?
We love to live there.
You know why?
Because it's safe.
If we plan, if we cross every Tand dot every I and never do
anything, it's a way for us tofeel like we're doing something
without actually doing anything.
(08:59):
And then we get really freakingfrustrated because nothing is
happening when in actuality, allthat we've done is try to make a
perfect plan.
You gotta get off the bench,kid.
You gotta get on the field.
You gotta fail.
You gotta mess up.
I know it's scary.
I'm not gonna say it's not.
I get scared, but you takingsmall action steps consistently,
(09:21):
even if they're the wrong actionsteps, air quotes, it's going to
get you where you need to go.
A perfect plan is never gonnaget you where you need to go
because there's no such thing asa perfect plan, and all you're
doing is spending all your timeon a plan that's never gonna
come to fruition.
If I've learned anything fromcreating content thus far, it's
that it's messy.
I mean, it's it's the same thingI've learned from acting.
(09:44):
I prep for these videos, I writescripts for these videos, and
then I get in here and it allgoes out the window to an extent
because I've done the prep work,but I also just want to be here
with the people that I'm talkingto, right?
So I have to let my script go.
And some people maybe verbatimneed to read a script, and that
works really freaking great forthem.
That's awesome.
(10:05):
I don't want that to be this.
I want to sit here and have afreaking conversation with you.
Great example.
This is my point and theseimperfect actions.
I tried to like film this videolast week, and the filming
equipment was just not freakingworking for me.
So I ended up just releasing itas a podcast episode instead of
a podcast episode and a YouTubevideo.
(10:25):
And while that was frustrating,this week I prepped and I have
better filming going on, andhopefully I will learn from this
week to next week.
Also, like with my scripts andmy ideas and the things that I
want to talk about on my channeland on my platform and my
podcast, whatever you're ongetting this content.
I want that stuff to be good.
I put a lot more work into thisweek's script because I care
(10:48):
about making sure that I'mgiving people my best foot
forward content and actuallyhelping them when they walk away
from this content.
Some of these videos I want themto leave an impact and I want
them to help because it's shitthat I've been through.
I don't know if it can help youanyway.
Isn't that the whole point ofthis?
Why would I spend 10 hours aweek on a YouTube channel if
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it's not gonna help someone orconnect with someone or
resonate?
Wow, I got way, way off on atangent there.
But my point in all that issaying take a step, jump off the
deep end into the are theseanalogies or metaphors?
I don't know, jump, jump intothe swimming pool, sink or swim,
do.
I heard someone talk about thissimilarly 10 years ago, and I
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was so scared 10 years ago at memaking a YouTube channel, even
though it's something I'm likecontent creation is something I
want to do.
I've said that for years to myfamily, my friends.
And it's like, dude, justfucking do the thing.
Stop talking about it.
Don't you dare get in your headif you start taking actions.
It's really easy for us to startbeating ourselves up because
(11:50):
we're like, why didn't I do thisfive years ago?
Why didn't I do this 10 yearsago?
Who the hell cares?
Do it now.
Do it now because time is gonnago by no matter what.
Five years, if you really wantto do content or if you have a
business idea you want to start,or if you want to move
somewhere, or whatever yourthing is, if you don't start now
taking those actions, five yearsfrom now, you will be in the
(12:12):
same spot, making your plan,writing your list, doing the
content calendar, watching theYouTube videos.
Take a step.
My dad always says to me, youcan only eat the elephant one
bite at a time.
And I know he didn't come upwith that, but he says it to me
because I get so far in my headsometimes.
My mom will be like, I can seethe smoke coming out of your
ears.
When in actuality, I can't doanything more than what I can do
(12:37):
right now.
Stop waiting for the answerbecause it is impossible for you
to know it.
It is impossible for you to knowwhat will happen with whatever
it is that you want in yourlife.
I have no idea how my YouTubechannel and my podcast is gonna
play out.
All I know is what I cancontrol.
And the beautiful, beautiful,beautiful thing about actually
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taking an action step, gettingout of the freaking learning
phase is momentum buildsclarity.
It is impossible not to.
The more you try, the more youwill realize the stuff that you
like and the stuff that youdon't like.
Do you know how many peoplestarted creating content and
then their channels have morphedinto comp something completely
different than from what it was10 years ago?
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You are going to change, you aregoing to evolve.
It will morph into somethingdifferent.
So stop looking for the answerand just do something.
That was tough.
I say it to myself as much as Isay it to you, but I feel like
you needed a little bit of thetough love, you know?
Segueing beautifully from that,because I wrote a kick-ass
script for today's video.
Reward yourself for taking theaction.
(13:43):
Sounds so simple, right?
How many times do we not rewardourselves for taking the action?
Whether it's pulling out thecamera equipment, whether it's
I'm using content creation.
This seems to be the example I'mgoing with, but whatever your
thing is.
For me, let's use contentcreation because that's what I'm
doing.
That's what I'm sitting heredoing.
But how many times do weactually do something and then
we don't give ourselves any typeof reward or pat on the back or
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nothing, nothing to our brainfor doing the thing that we want
to do, and then we're just like,yeah, you do what you're
supposed to do.
Who wants to be treated likethat?
I mean, think about a kid on asports team.
If they like soccer, I grew upplaying soccer.
If they went and scored a goaland they were like, Yeah, so
excited.
They want their coach and theirteammates to give them high
(14:27):
fives and cheer them on and behappy for them.
And they score the goal and theycome back and everyone's like,
yeah, that's what you'resupposed to do.
Why are you looking at us forsome type of praise?
That kid's probably not gonnawork too damn hard to make
another goal.
I wouldn't.
So actually reward yourself.
It's what's gonna teach yourbrain that productivity is a
good thing.
We're gonna have a positive loopwith it, versus productivity
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being a negative thing andhaving a negative loop with it.
When you finish something, yourbrain literally gives you a hit
of dopamine.
The little neurotransmitter thatgoes, hmm, that felt nice.
I felt really good about that.
That is your body's built-inmotivation.
And what's crazy is this goesback to our ancestors.
They had to go and hunt andgather and collect food to
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survive.
The wild thing is that we'vetaken this beautiful ancient
system of productivity and we'vebastardized it into this hustle
culture mentality that we havetoday.
Now, when we hear productive orproductivity or anything like
that, I don't know how you feel,but it feels like work.
Even the word work feels likeshit, work?
I don't want to work, I don'twant to be lazy.
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And the thing is, humans aremeant to be productive.
The way, the same way we'remeant to be social, we're meant
to be productive.
It is in our DNA to beproductive.
We are not meant to be sedentaryand sit in a chair and rot.
But that is what we have turnedour system into this toxic grind
culture, be productive, working40 hours a week at a job that
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you hate, so you can afford yourrent and your iced coffee and to
have food to survive, becauseour body craves to have our
needs met.
And the switch up is thatproductivity in and of itself is
not bad.
It just feels really bad whenit's not in alignment with what
you want to be productive at.
When you're being productive atthe thing that you want to do,
whether it's working out,creating recipes, I don't know
(16:16):
why that came up, creatingcontent, whatever it is,
creating music, art, creating,good God, we need to create
more.
I don't care if you say you'renot an artist, you are an
artist, humans are meant tocreate.
That's a completely differentvideo.
But my God, create something,please.
When you are creating, let's usecreating instead of
productivity.
And when you are doing that, youare in alignment with yourself,
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which in turn comes in alignmentwith your biology.
And if you want to get out ofyour freaking head, create
something that you want tocreate just for the sake of
creating it.
Overthinkers, and I am talkingabout myself, we spend so much
of our energy spinning the F outover what we cannot control.
And it's exhausting.
(16:57):
It will drain you.
And the more we do that, themore we're just ruining our
self-trust.
And proof builds self-trust.
And how we get that is by one,focusing on what you can control
and two, making yourselfconsistent and accountable to
it.
And accountability can besomething like something I told
my client today is putting asticky note on the wall for 30
(17:20):
days.
Put a sticky note on the wall.
And every day you do the thing,take the sticky note off.
It's building small wins.
Your brain needs the wins.
Pick one thing to work on forthe next 30 days.
And whatever you just picked,half it, or maybe make it a
fourth of that because what dooverthinkers do?
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We are going to choose thebiggest thing.
Like, I'm gonna lose 30 poundsin the next 30 days.
First of all, not healthy.
Let's not do that.
You know, it's something soextreme.
And I'm saying this because I dothis.
That's what I that's what I wantyou to get.
Like, I am talking to you aboutthis because I relate to this.
I'm gonna post every single day.
Okay, why can't you say I'mgonna post half that?
(18:03):
I'm gonna post 15 times in thenext 30 days, or half it again.
I'm gonna post eight times.
It's twice per week.
And I'm not talking long formcontent, I'm talking short form
content.
The small wins.
And if all of those feel toodamn big, one of the best ones I
have ever heard, and this isjust to build some self-trust
for yourself, to be consistentand to prove that you can do
something.
(18:23):
Commit to drinking aneight-ounce glass of water first
thing in the morning, the firstthing you do every morning, and
then you can go and check itoff.
That is your win for the day.
That is it.
Everything else is icing on topof that cake because you drank
your water first thing in themorning.
Your brain needs those winsbecause it's gonna build
self-trust that you followthrough on the things that you
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say you're gonna follow throughon.
I get this.
Boy, oh boy, I have toconstantly remind myself to come
back to the present momentbecause when you're
overthinking, you're not in thepresent moment.
You are either in the future,worried about the future, or you
are letting the past controlyour current state.
It's just true.
It's true, and it's what I do,and it's what so many other
(19:05):
people do, and it keeps us fromdoing what we actually say we
want.
And I talked about this in thelast video.
I will talk about it again inthe next one probably, but
visualize.
People visualize.
Visualizing literally isrehearsal for your brain.
There's a reason so manysuccessful people do it because
it is you showing your brainyou're gonna do the thing before
you even do the thing.
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Take a couple minutes, sit downand picture yourself doing
whatever.
If you have something that yousay, I want to do this every
day, and you don't do it,visualize yourself doing it.
It works, it's been done forthousands of years, and there is
a reason.
I really hope this episode washelpful.
The reason I'm so passionateabout this is because I get
this.
I can really get in my headabout stuff, and a lot of us
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can.
When in actuality, if we couldjust come back to ourselves and
trust our intuition and do ourthing and actually take steps,
we would be unstoppable.
Truly, I believe that.
So if you're an overthinker likeme, or you struggle with
overthinking, we got this.
Anyway, I love you.
Thank you for listening to thisepisode or watching this
episode, however, you consumedit.
I hope you have a beautiful restof your day, and I will see you
(20:08):
all in the next one.
Hey everybody, welcome back to IM Me.
I am your host, Liz Bachman, andtoday we are talking about
something so precious andbeautiful and wonderful.
And I relate to it heavilybecause I am a A student when it
comes to overthinking.
So today, yes, I wanted to talkabout overthinking and learning
to trust yourself.
(00:21):
Today's episode is just allthings overthinkers, because I
have done a lot of work aroundoverthinking, of course, as
always figuring this out, butthere's things that I do that
help me because if you're anoverthinker, you know when
you're overthinking, when you'rein that noggin, you're not
getting anything done.
Of course, as always, if youlike the show, enjoy the show,
(00:42):
then like, follow, comment,subscribe, all the things
because you know I'm a smallcreator and it helps your girl
out.
So let's dive into this.
I'm not gonna say I neveroverthink, but there are things
that I've learned that helpalleviate this overthinking so
that I can get back to the taskat hand.
And I just want to share withyou today the stuff that I have
(01:04):
done and am doing that helps menot only stop overthinking, but
just trust myself in this wholeentire process.
So let's dive into it, shall we?
What I wanted to like kick thisoff with was hacking your
environment.
I think a lot of times I'mspinning out, I don't know what
to do.
And what it really is is I'mjust so overstimulated and
(01:26):
distracted by the bajilliondistractions that we have in
this digital age that we're in.
And our brains are not meant totake that much in.
But the really beautiful thingabout that is you can hack your
environment to help you.
I know you have heard the sayingthat your phone has an off
switch.
(01:46):
Sometimes that is not probablefor people.
Sometimes people don't want todo that.
I get it.
I rarely turn my phone off.
I don't even really turn it offat night.
I do put it on sleep mode.
Anyway, we're getting off topichere.
But the things that I do, one isgrayscale mode.
I have an iPhone, it's prettysimple.
I'll I'll try and find a couplelinks to put in the description
(02:07):
on how to get an Android and aniPhone into grayscale mode.
But what that essentially is, isit turns your phone into like
black and white.
And when there's not as muchcolors, it's a lot easier to not
be as interested or distractedby the notifications coming
through.
The muted tones mute your brain.
You're not nearly as worriedabout it.
(02:27):
Also, if you struggle with doomscrolling or wasting time online
on social media, grayscale yourphone because I can go ahead and
tell you it is not nearly asenjoyable to watch content in
black and white.
Another one, get one of thewidgets or the app that will
keep you from hopping on thesesocial media platforms.
There's nothing wrong with that.
(02:48):
These platforms want us to spendas much time as possible on
them.
So don't feel bad if you'reconstantly picking up your phone
and going to whatever socialmedia platform of your choosing.
It's really easy to beatourselves up over that.
It's literally the point.
There's so many people that haveput time and energy and effort
into making sure that we stay onthe app as long as possible,
(03:09):
whichever app you pick yourpoison.
I don't care, TikTok, YouTube,Instagram, Snapchat, whatever it
is.
It's literally designed to workagainst us.
So help yourself out, find anapp that works for you.
I'll link the one I use.
It's really cute.
Oh, Focus Friends, I think iswhat it's called.
And it's cute.
The little guy knits scarves andmittens while your apps are shut
(03:30):
down.
And if you want to get on yourapp, you have to go and stop him
from knitting.
But the issue is it makes himsad.
So that one helps me.
But if that's not your thing,find another one.
There's so many out there thatwill keep you from getting on
your social media.
And the last thing I do withhacking my environment is the
focus modes on your phone.
I'm not sure how this translatesto Android.
(03:51):
I apologize, but I know there'sgotta be some way it translates.
I a lot of times won't even putmy phone in do not disturb.
I'll put my phone in sleep mode.
I'm not sure exactly thedifference in between the two,
but it feels more intense for methan the DD.
Yeah, silence yournotifications.
If you're worried that peopleare gonna contact you and you
need to get back to them, letthem know that you need a couple
(04:13):
hours to work on the stuff thatyou want to work on.
I cannot express enough how thedistractions feed into the
overthinking constantly.
We are not meant to take thismuch information in, which ends
up making us think about eitherthings in the past or things in
the future.
It just triggers us over andover and over again.
And we can't be in the presentmoment to actually get what we
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want to get done, done, whichjust feeds the overthinking loop
all over again because then atthe end of the day we go to bed
and we are overthinking becausewe didn't do as much as we
wanted to do that day because wewasted the day or whatever you
want to call it.
Help yourself out.
Hack that environment, girl.
The other thing that I wasreally important to me was stop
outsourcing my intuition.
What do I mean by that?
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I realized when I would startreally overthinking something, I
would almost always immediatelyreach out to a friend or my mom
or my sister to get their inputon it.
And the issue with that is thatI then am completely telling
myself I don't trust myself.
When you're constantly going tosomeone else for answers,
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whenever you start overthinkinga situation, you are literally
telling your brain that you donot trust it.
You do not trust it to make theright choice.
Our bodies know what we want.
Deep down, we have an intuition.
Every single one of us do.
It is hardwired into our DNA.
Yours might be a little dustyright now.
We might need to clear that boxoff, you know, and start
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trusting that gut again.
But you have that intuition andyour body is going to tell you
if something's a hell yes or ahell no.
We start overthinking andspinning out, and then we just
run and we want the answer forsomeone else.
And sometimes we're not meant tohave the answer in that moment.
We're meant to sit with whateverit is for a little bit of time
so that then we can come up witha solution on our own.
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If you are a human design girlylike myself, this is where our
authority comes in.
Your authority is your uniqueway of making aligned decisions.
It really does matter that yourmind and your body are aligned.
And if you're like, oh, that'sbullshit, that's woo-woo, fine,
whatever.
But that stuff does matter.
And a lot of times when we'reasking other people's opinions,
we haven't even given our bodythe moment to answer it for us,
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which is part of the issue andwhat puts us out of alignment
with ourselves.
And when it comes to humandesign and your authority, some
people are sacral, and that isyou're very gut-driven.
Your gut knows if it's a yes orno.
Other people are swenick and getthese little whispery hints of
instinct.
Maybe it's not as much of apunch, but it's like a gentle
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whisper in the back of theirhead as to what they need to do.
And some people are emotionalauthorities and they need to
feel it out.
But like I said, none of thiscan happen if you're always
going to someone else first.
Go to yourself first.
I still think it's very muchimportant to talk through
things, but if you don't haveany type of concrete idea of
what you're feeling first,you're gonna go into that and
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just like a piece of paper inthe ocean, get taught, I don't
know why a piece of paper tossedaround by everybody's opinions.
And it's probably just gonnamake you overthink more and feel
more confused and have no ideawhat to do.
The meditating, the deepbreathing on whatever it is, the
journaling, getting all thatshit out of your head, do that
first.
And those are things for areason because it helps us
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center ourselves so that then wehave an idea of what direction
we're leaning in and trust yourbody when it gives you the
answer.
It's really easy for us to getup in our head and our body's
like, this is gonna be a nah forme, dog.
And for whatever reason, mostlikely fear.
But we decide to go against ourbody because we think that this
solution we came up with in ourhead, even though it's against
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everything in us, like we'rescreaming, no, I don't want
that.
We go along with that decisionand it ends up just breeding
more misery because we end upoverthinking more down the road
to try and get out of thedecision we made.
I would just finish that up withsaying, This is how you learn to
trust yourself by going to yourintuition first.
It's not about you getting itright or being perfect, but
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trust that your intuition isgonna guide you.
Maybe it doesn't work out, maybein three months it doesn't work
out, but you know at least atthe end of the day, you trusted
yourself.
You will learn from that andkeep moving forward.
There isn't a right or wronganswer when it comes to learning
to trust yourself.
This one gets my clients, itgets me.
Imperfect action will alwaystrump a perfect plan because
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action is always going to bemore important than planning.
And overthinkers, man, we getstuck in the planning, don't we?
We love to live there.
You know why?
Because it's safe.
If we plan, if we cross every Tand dot every I and never do
anything, it's a way for us tofeel like we're doing something
without actually doing anything.
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And then we get really freakingfrustrated because nothing is
happening when in actuality, allthat we've done is try to make a
perfect plan.
You gotta get off the bench,kid.
You gotta get on the field.
You gotta fail.
You gotta mess up.
I know it's scary.
I'm not gonna say it's not.
I get scared, but you takingsmall action steps consistently,
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even if they're the wrong actionsteps, air quotes, it's going to
get you where you need to go.
A perfect plan is never gonnaget you where you need to go
because there's no such thing asa perfect plan, and all you're
doing is spending all your timeon a plan that's never gonna
come to fruition.
If I've learned anything fromcreating content thus far, it's
that it's messy.
I mean, it's it's the same thingI've learned from acting.
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I prep for these videos, I writescripts for these videos, and
then I get in here and it allgoes out the window to an extent
because I've done the prep work,but I also just want to be here
with the people that I'm talkingto, right?
So I have to let my script go.
And some people maybe verbatimneed to read a script, and that
works really freaking great forthem.
That's awesome.
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I don't want that to be this.
I want to sit here and have afreaking conversation with you.
Great example.
This is my point and theseimperfect actions.
I tried to like film this videolast week, and the filming
equipment was just not freakingworking for me.
So I ended up just releasing itas a podcast episode instead of
a podcast episode and a YouTubevideo.
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And while that was frustrating,this week I prepped and I have
better filming going on, andhopefully I will learn from this
week to next week.
Also, like with my scripts andmy ideas and the things that I
want to talk about on my channeland on my platform and my
podcast, whatever you're ongetting this content.
I want that stuff to be good.
I put a lot more work into thisweek's script because I care
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about making sure that I'mgiving people my best foot
forward content and actuallyhelping them when they walk away
from this content.
Some of these videos I want themto leave an impact and I want
them to help because it's shitthat I've been through.
I don't know if it can help youanyway.
Isn't that the whole point ofthis?
Why would I spend 10 hours aweek on a YouTube channel if
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it's not gonna help someone orconnect with someone or
resonate?
Wow, I got way, way off on atangent there.
But my point in all that issaying take a step, jump off the
deep end into the are theseanalogies or metaphors?
I don't know, jump, jump intothe swimming pool, sink or swim,
do.
I heard someone talk about thissimilarly 10 years ago, and I
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was so scared 10 years ago at memaking a YouTube channel, even
though it's something I'm likecontent creation is something I
want to do.
I've said that for years to myfamily, my friends.
And it's like, dude, justfucking do the thing.
Stop talking about it.
Don't you dare get in your headif you start taking actions.
It's really easy for us to startbeating ourselves up because
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we're like, why didn't I do thisfive years ago?
Why didn't I do this 10 yearsago?
Who the hell cares?
Do it now.
Do it now because time is gonnago by no matter what.
Five years, if you really wantto do content or if you have a
business idea you want to start,or if you want to move
somewhere, or whatever yourthing is, if you don't start now
taking those actions, five yearsfrom now, you will be in the
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same spot, making your plan,writing your list, doing the
content calendar, watching theYouTube videos.
Take a step.
My dad always says to me, youcan only eat the elephant one
bite at a time.
And I know he didn't come upwith that, but he says it to me
because I get so far in my headsometimes.
My mom will be like, I can seethe smoke coming out of your
ears.
When in actuality, I can't doanything more than what I can do
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right now.
Stop waiting for the answerbecause it is impossible for you
to know it.
It is impossible for you to knowwhat will happen with whatever
it is that you want in yourlife.
I have no idea how my YouTubechannel and my podcast is gonna
play out.
All I know is what I cancontrol.
And the beautiful, beautiful,beautiful thing about actually
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taking an action step, gettingout of the freaking learning
phase is momentum buildsclarity.
It is impossible not to.
The more you try, the more youwill realize the stuff that you
like and the stuff that youdon't like.
Do you know how many peoplestarted creating content and
then their channels have morphedinto comp something completely
different than from what it was10 years ago?
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You are going to change, you aregoing to evolve.
It will morph into somethingdifferent.
So stop looking for the answerand just do something.
That was tough.
I say it to myself as much as Isay it to you, but I feel like
you needed a little bit of thetough love, you know?
Segueing beautifully from that,because I wrote a kick-ass
script for today's video.
Reward yourself for taking theaction.
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Sounds so simple, right?
How many times do we not rewardourselves for taking the action?
Whether it's pulling out thecamera equipment, whether it's
I'm using content creation.
This seems to be the example I'mgoing with, but whatever your
thing is.
For me, let's use contentcreation because that's what I'm
doing.
That's what I'm sitting heredoing.
But how many times do weactually do something and then
we don't give ourselves any typeof reward or pat on the back or
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nothing, nothing to our brainfor doing the thing that we want
to do, and then we're just like,yeah, you do what you're
supposed to do.
Who wants to be treated likethat?
I mean, think about a kid on asports team.
If they like soccer, I grew upplaying soccer.
If they went and scored a goaland they were like, Yeah, so
excited.
They want their coach and theirteammates to give them high
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fives and cheer them on and behappy for them.
And they score the goal and theycome back and everyone's like,
yeah, that's what you'resupposed to do.
Why are you looking at us forsome type of praise?
That kid's probably not gonnawork too damn hard to make
another goal.
I wouldn't.
So actually reward yourself.
It's what's gonna teach yourbrain that productivity is a
good thing.
We're gonna have a positive loopwith it, versus productivity
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being a negative thing andhaving a negative loop with it.
When you finish something, yourbrain literally gives you a hit
of dopamine.
The little neurotransmitter thatgoes, hmm, that felt nice.
I felt really good about that.
That is your body's built-inmotivation.
And what's crazy is this goesback to our ancestors.
They had to go and hunt andgather and collect food to
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survive.
The wild thing is that we'vetaken this beautiful ancient
system of productivity and we'vebastardized it into this hustle
culture mentality that we havetoday.
Now, when we hear productive orproductivity or anything like
that, I don't know how you feel,but it feels like work.
Even the word work feels likeshit, work?
I don't want to work, I don'twant to be lazy.
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And the thing is, humans aremeant to be productive.
The way, the same way we'remeant to be social, we're meant
to be productive.
It is in our DNA to beproductive.
We are not meant to be sedentaryand sit in a chair and rot.
But that is what we have turnedour system into this toxic grind
culture, be productive, working40 hours a week at a job that
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you hate, so you can afford yourrent and your iced coffee and to
have food to survive, becauseour body craves to have our
needs met.
And the switch up is thatproductivity in and of itself is
not bad.
It just feels really bad whenit's not in alignment with what
you want to be productive at.
When you're being productive atthe thing that you want to do,
whether it's working out,creating recipes, I don't know
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why that came up, creatingcontent, whatever it is,
creating music, art, creating,good God, we need to create
more.
I don't care if you say you'renot an artist, you are an
artist, humans are meant tocreate.
That's a completely differentvideo.
But my God, create something,please.
When you are creating, let's usecreating instead of
productivity.
And when you are doing that, youare in alignment with yourself,
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which in turn comes in alignmentwith your biology.
And if you want to get out ofyour freaking head, create
something that you want tocreate just for the sake of
creating it.
Overthinkers, and I am talkingabout myself, we spend so much
of our energy spinning the F outover what we cannot control.
And it's exhausting.
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It will drain you.
And the more we do that, themore we're just ruining our
self-trust.
And proof builds self-trust.
And how we get that is by one,focusing on what you can control
and two, making yourselfconsistent and accountable to
it.
And accountability can besomething like something I told
my client today is putting asticky note on the wall for 30
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days.
Put a sticky note on the wall.
And every day you do the thing,take the sticky note off.
It's building small wins.
Your brain needs the wins.
Pick one thing to work on forthe next 30 days.
And whatever you just picked,half it, or maybe make it a
fourth of that because what dooverthinkers do?
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We are going to choose thebiggest thing.
Like, I'm gonna lose 30 poundsin the next 30 days.
First of all, not healthy.
Let's not do that.
You know, it's something soextreme.
And I'm saying this because I dothis.
That's what I that's what I wantyou to get.
Like, I am talking to you aboutthis because I relate to this.
I'm gonna post every single day.
Okay, why can't you say I'mgonna post half that?
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I'm gonna post 15 times in thenext 30 days, or half it again.
I'm gonna post eight times.
It's twice per week.
And I'm not talking long formcontent, I'm talking short form
content.
The small wins.
And if all of those feel toodamn big, one of the best ones I
have ever heard, and this isjust to build some self-trust
for yourself, to be consistentand to prove that you can do
something.
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Commit to drinking aneight-ounce glass of water first
thing in the morning, the firstthing you do every morning, and
then you can go and check itoff.
That is your win for the day.
That is it.
Everything else is icing on topof that cake because you drank
your water first thing in themorning.
Your brain needs those winsbecause it's gonna build
self-trust that you followthrough on the things that you
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say you're gonna follow throughon.
I get this.
Boy, oh boy, I have toconstantly remind myself to come
back to the present momentbecause when you're
overthinking, you're not in thepresent moment.
You are either in the future,worried about the future, or you
are letting the past controlyour current state.
It's just true.
It's true, and it's what I do,and it's what so many other
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people do, and it keeps us fromdoing what we actually say we
want.
And I talked about this in thelast video.
I will talk about it again inthe next one probably, but
visualize.
People visualize.
Visualizing literally isrehearsal for your brain.
There's a reason so manysuccessful people do it because
it is you showing your brainyou're gonna do the thing before
you even do the thing.
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Take a couple minutes, sit downand picture yourself doing
whatever.
If you have something that yousay, I want to do this every
day, and you don't do it,visualize yourself doing it.
It works, it's been done forthousands of years, and there is
a reason.
I really hope this episode washelpful.
The reason I'm so passionateabout this is because I get
this.
I can really get in my headabout stuff, and a lot of us
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can.
When in actuality, if we couldjust come back to ourselves and
trust our intuition and do ourthing and actually take steps,
we would be unstoppable.
Truly, I believe that.
So if you're an overthinker likeme, or you struggle with
overthinking, we got this.
Anyway, I love you.
Thank you for listening to thisepisode or watching this
episode, however, you consumedit.
I hope you have a beautiful restof your day, and I will see you
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all in the next one.
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