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October 21, 2025 13 mins

If the internet feels too loud and your goals feel heavier than they should, this conversation will feel like a deep breath. I open up about chasing “overnight success,” getting stuck in comparison, and why forcing growth nearly smothered my creativity and connection. Instead of another productivity overhaul, I’m choosing gentle discipline, smaller promises, and slow growth that I can actually live with.

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SPEAKER_00 (00:00):
I just want to give everyone a disclaimer before

(00:02):
this episode.
I refer to 2025 using 2024probably like six times.
The only way I could think tofix this without going in and
changing each one is to giveeveryone a disclaimer that when
I say 2024, I am referring to2025.
Apologies and enjoy my blunder.

SPEAKER_01 (00:25):
I am your host, Liz Bachman, and tonight I am doing
the episode a little different.
I'm filming and recording in theevening, which I normally don't
do.
I normally record during theday.
I'm not a night owl at all, butI've been doing a lot of
reflecting on I am me and what Iwant I am me to be and the
impact that I want it to haveand the connection most

(00:46):
importantly that I want to makewith people through IME.
And I realized that I want toshare my lived experiences and I
want this to become a safe placefor people to be vulnerable and
to cry and to laugh.
And I kind of realized all thatbecause I have gotten in this
really intense striving cycle.

(01:07):
And I'm I'm quickly headingtowards burnout.
And I want this to be a success,but I want it to be an overnight
success.
And that's just not how itworks.
And in that, I'm missing the joyin the creation, right?
I'm missing who I'm talking to.
I'm missing the connectionpiece, I guess.
And I'm researching and I'mcomparing myself to these

(01:28):
YouTubers and these podcastersthat one have been doing this
for years, and two, they they'regiving all this advice and
stuff, but it's advice from thelife that they've lived.
And I'm trying to take thatadvice and research it and turn
it into my own life.
And it's not that it'snecessarily bad advice, but it's
more opinions and informationand knowledge.
And if you're an overthinkerlike me, like if we talked about

(01:49):
anything in the last episode,it's more of what I need to do
to fix me.
And ultimately, I'm not broken,and you're not broken.
I wanted to just kind of talkabout what my goals, what my
plans are for the rest of 2024and how I'm I want to get out of
this striving because I've spenta lot of my life striving,

(02:11):
trying to crack the code, so tospeak.
I've felt a lot in my life, likeI'm just outside, right?
I'm just outside of the endgroup.
I'm like trying to crack thecode to get to the end group,
whatever that is.
And I don't want to striveanymore.
And that's not me saying that Idon't have goals or dreams or
things that I want, but life ishappening all around me every

(02:33):
day and missing it because I'mso wound up and spinning my
wheels, trying to get to what?
I don't even know.
I don't know if anyone canrelate to that, but I just want
people to know I am very muchtrying to figure this out as I
go, creating these solo episodeson this platform because that's
been a huge fear of mine,honestly.

(02:55):
I've felt like I can't do thison my own.
I need to be interviewing guestsin order for this show to work.
Instead of just sharing what Ihave to say and trusting that
what I have to say is goodenough.
You don't have to be an expertin something for you to add
value to someone.
I'm not an expert in reallyanything, honestly.

(03:15):
But I know I'm good atencouraging people and I know
I'm good at caring, and I knowI'm good at relating to people.
And if people feel like theworld is too loud and the voices
are too loud and the opinions,God, the p there's so much,
right?
So much advice.
And I feel like it's too loud.
I feel like I'm spinning outwith all the advice and and how

(03:38):
we should live our lives andwhat we should do in our daily
routine and our morning routineand our evening routine.
And I know some people arereally good at filtering through
all that and taking what theywant and letting the other stuff
go.
But people like me who reallywant the right answer because
they want to live the right way,air quotes, air quotes, right?
There isn't a right way, butthey want to do everything by

(03:59):
the book.
It's exhausting, constantlygetting advice.
And it the advice contradicts,right?
I mean, we see this a greatexample is diets.
Diets contradict and and um andthey contradict each other as to
what's the best diet and what'sthe best for your body and all
that.
And so I just want I and me tobe a place where we can figure

(04:20):
it out together, where we canmess up together, where I can be
honest about what's going on inmy life because I do want to
grow and I do want to evolve.
It's not because I'm not okayright now and you're okay right
now.
So yeah.
My episodes typically I've beenlike researching them and trying
to come with like some greatwhatever, but but I don't want

(04:40):
to do that.
I I want to be vulnerable andshare and talk with you because
there's people out there thatare going through the same exact
stuff, and that's what I cangive.
I can give my vulnerability andmy honesty, and I can give you
my attention and let you knowyou're not alone.
So I'm gonna keep trying to bemore authentic, more and more
authentic in these theseepisodes.
And as time goes on, I knowthose layers will peel back more

(05:02):
and more.
But one thing I wanted to talkabout and just kind of how I
want to end 2024 because we'retowards the end of October.
I keep saying 2024.
Sorry, 2025.
I even did that in my notesearlier when I was like writing
notes for this episode.
But I just want to talk abouthow I want to wrap up 2025
because a lot of times we we getto the end of the year and we
just kind of are like, yeah, I'mjust gonna rock out, enjoy the

(05:24):
holidays, and then January 1st,I'm gonna kickstart it.
And I don't want to do that.
I don't check out.
I have a lot of things that I'mdoing right now.
And and I would rather finish2025 strong and and feeling
really good going into 2026 uhversus feeling like I just kind
of like checked out in Octoberand I'll check back in in

(05:45):
January.
I definitely have fallen offwith some discipline.
And I know discipline is not ourfavorite word, it's it's not my
favorite word, but I'm trying toshift my energy and how I feel
about that word.
I don't think discipline is abad thing.
I know like you hear thatsaying, like discipline's the
ultimate form of self-love.
So I'm trying to shift how Iapproach discipline.
And also I can really, if I'mnot air quotes disciplined or

(06:08):
I'm not following through onsomething, I can really beat
myself up over that, right?
And I think also giving myselfsome grace.
Recently I learned about, Idon't know if anyone else has
heard this, but like the two-dayrule.
And I thought that was reallycool.
So essentially what it is is iflike you say, I want to do some
form of movement or I want topractice the piano, I'm using my
own examples for the next 30days.
I want to practice the pianoevery day.

(06:30):
If you miss one day, that'sokay.
You just can't miss two days.
And I think that's reallyhelpful when we're trying to
string together consecutive daysof implementing something
because it's really easy to likemiss one day.
Life happens, right?
Maybe one day a lot of stuff wasgoing on in your life that was
outside of your control and youdidn't get to the gym or you
didn't do the the thing that youwanted to do, journal or

(06:51):
practice the piano or whatever.
And then you're like, well, Ibroke my streak, screw it.
The two-day thing is greatbecause it's like this built-in
thing in our brain where it'sit's like, no, I missed a day,
but I'm I didn't miss two days,so it's okay.
So I'll just jump back ontomorrow.
So I don't know, it's somethingthat I'm trying, and maybe that
would help someone else if theyhaven't heard about that.
But the the big things I'm doingending this year is one, I'm

(07:14):
trying to calm the F downbecause I have gotten into this
crazy, like feeling this intensepressure and anxiety that I'm
putting on myself to make I amme grow.
And that's not healthy, and italso completely ruins the
creativity and the expressionand the connection of I am me.
So I'm trying to actually takesome pressure off.
I want the longevity in this.
So if I want the longevity inthis, then I have to go slow,

(07:38):
right?
That slowness is what will buildlongevity in this, and I can
learn to fall in love with thisprocess in different ways.
The other things I'm doing toend this year is one, trying to
set reasonable expectationsbecause I am great at being
like, I want to do this, this,this, this, this, this, this.
And it's like, babes, win.
You you have a 40-hour job.
I'm doing these videos, whichtakes up time.

(08:00):
I'm working out, I have afamily, I have friends, you
know.
So it's it's also like settingrealistic goals for myself.
I'll give people my things thatI'm trying to do.
I call them like mynon-negotiables that I'm trying
to do daily.
This is not for other people totake these and make them theirs.
Sit down and ask yourself whatwhat would be good for you?
What, how do you want to end2025?

(08:22):
I am trying to do better daily.
I'm trying to have some type ofjournaling.
It doesn't necessarily have tobe at a time of day.
I think that just sets me up forfailure and I immediately feel
negative and bad about that.
I don't have to journal firstthing in the morning.
I don't have to journal lastthing before I go to bed, just
at some point in the day, ifI'll stop and just journal my

(08:42):
thoughts.
I know other people might belike, oh, there's a reason you
should journal in the morningand at night, no, I don't care,
honestly.
I this is about what works forme.
The other thing though isvisualization.
I talked in a few episodes back,the four mantras that I'm
visualizing, and that doesreally help.
I can tell it's helping merewire my brain and the the

(09:03):
story, right?
We all have a narrative that wefeed ourselves and the story
that I've been feeding myselffor a long time, really trying
to uproot that and change thatand shift that.
And the visualizations really dohelp.
So I do try to do those in themorning because of the theta,
beta waves, whatever.
I don't know.
I y'all know what I'm talkingabout, right?
Like our way, our brain waves bespecial in the morning and the
evening.

(09:23):
Anyway, so I either do it firstthing in the morning or I do do
it last thing before I go tobed.
And that does feel really good.
It does zen me the f out when Ido those visualizations.
I'm also trying to practicepiano daily.
Like I said, giving myself thattwo-day rule.
Piano is something that like II'm very beginner at piano, but
uh it's something that I reallywant to get a lot better at.

(09:48):
And I've been pretty likeconsistent and by pretty
consistent, like four days aweek I've been like practicing
piano, but I would like to getwhere I'm spending like 20, 30
minutes daily, and there'sreally not a reason I can't be.
Um, and I am gonna steal the 75hard one.
Um, I'm not doing the 75 hard,but I do want to read uh 10

(10:08):
pages of a book a day.
Again, I don't put a time onthat.
There's just a lot of books anda lot of stuff that I do want to
learn.
And whereas binging uh bingingvideos trying to learn stuff
from people's advice versusreading a book that was well
researched and thought out andfounded, and it's slower and

(10:29):
it's it slows us down, right?
It's also not technology.
It's it's sitting with apaperback book.
There's just it's a completelydifferent energy for me reading
10 pages of a hard copy orpaperback book versus watching a
YouTube video on that sameinformation.
And the, oh, and then the lastthing, the last thing that I'm

(10:50):
trying to do is movement.
I am really proud of myself.
Um, this past year, I I'veweight trained my whole life,
but I've started really fallingin love with movement.
And I think like I'm 30 and Idon't, I'm not old at all.
I'm not claiming old or anythinglike that.
Like I am young, but my bodyresponds differently, right,
than it used to.
It doesn't bounce back as easilyas it did at 18, obviously.

(11:13):
So falling in love withdifferent types of movement and
moving in different ways andwalking, and not so much about
taxing my body and destroying mybody, but trying to just move my
body for like 30 minutes to anhour every day.
And I've noticed there's there'sa huge, huge difference in my
mood when movements involved inmy day and movements not.

(11:33):
I get kind of grumpy, not gonnalie, get a little crotchety when
there's no movement.
So yeah, all these things thatI'm trying to implement daily
and hold myself accountable to,what's really beautiful about
them, my non-negotiables, is I'mstill implementing them with the
two-day rules.
So if I miss a day, I don't feellike a failure because I'm like,
oh, well, I'll do it tomorrow.

(11:54):
It gives myself a little cushionbecause sometimes it doesn't
happen.
Life happens.
And I think with discipline andtrying to shift my approach to
have gentle discipline withmyself.
Like I want to be a disciplinedperson because I do love myself
and I want those things formyself, but not to the extent
that I'm trying to get it rightand I'm destroying myself in the

(12:16):
process.
Anyway, yeah, this like idea ofgentle discipline, which will
lead to consistency, it's juststuff that makes me feel good
and accomplished.
It's stuff that I can control,that I can do.
It doesn't have anything to dowith stuff that's outside of my
control.
And that's just that's the stuffthat I've kind of like set up
for myself on how to in 2024.

(12:38):
Of course, the other thing is Istill want to consistently for
the rest of this year,consistently post one episode a
week on this podcast slashYouTube platform, however you
consume this content at somepoint.
That'll be whatever.
It's always fun to piece theseepisodes back together and
editing.
I don't know if what I said justwas of any value, but I always

(13:01):
want this to feel connected andlike you and I are just
together.
And if you have things that youwant to do before the end of
2024, like a daily goal, pleasehit me up, let me know.
Cause like I'm interested.
I want to know your goals andyour plans and your dreams and
your ambitions because that'sthe point of this, right?
The whole point of this I am meplatform is cheering each other

(13:22):
on and growing together.
And yeah, those are the people Iwant to attract into this
platform or into this whatever,this ether.
Anyway, I hope this episode wasbeneficial.
I hope that you felt connectedand that it felt safe and you
felt held in some type of way asyou listen to this episode.
I can't wait to talk toeverybody in the next one.
I love you guys, and I hopeeveryone has a beautiful evening

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or rest of their day!
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