Changing Your Factory Settings ft. Author Jen Pastiloff | Episode 14 | ILYSM

On this episode of ILYSM, we welcome the incredible Proof of Life author and TED Talk speaker, Jen Pastiloff, for a conversation about resilience, honesty, and belonging. We talk about what it feels like to have your last words to a loved one be the wrong ones, the pressure to hide sobriety, and how self-doubt can take root in our daily lives. Jen shares openly about living with deafness, how abandonment shaped her, and the difficulty of not always being able to express what’s inside. Reed admits he hasn’t read a book all year, Tyler opens up about pretending to be sober to keep the peace, and together we reflect on the idea of “factory default settings,” our shortening attention spans, and how to take self-doubt out of our lexicon.

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