October 1, 2024 • 28 mins
Kyle Goodknight introduces Blanka Falk, who shares her inspiring transition from tax consultant to mental trainer for mothers. They discuss the challenges of balancing motherhood with a career and the profound transformation that comes with becoming a mother. Blanka delves into the importance of bonding with your baby and offers methods to support mothers during this journey. She emphasizes nurturing relationships with spouses during parenthood and explains the role of a mental mother coach. Blanka highlights the significance of trusting maternal intuition and inner knowledge. The episode wraps up with ways to connect with Blanka and a call to action for listeners.
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As women, we got everything.
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And we have to look inside.
And this is the beauty of it.
If you can get connected to your intuition, ifyou can get into your gut feeling, you will
know.
And trust me, you will know.
Yeah.
I mean, yeah.
It's difficult.
We are slowly outside.
We are so distracted.
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We are so used to get information from theoutside.
Yeah.
So we will forget about our insight and thateverything is inside of us.
Hello, everybody, and
welcome back to the ignition path podcast.
My name is Kyle Goodnight.
I am your host, and I appreciate you coming andlistening to all of the content that I create
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in bringing these amazing people to you to hearabout their entrepreneurial path and what jobs
they do now or what the what what businessesthey have created.
This is a place where we can share and and andtalk about our
paths to becoming an entrepreneur.
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So today, I have Blanca Falcon today with me.
She is a coach and and a and a small businessowner that she's created an amazing course for
motherhood she's gonna tell you all about it.
But for now, Blanca, go ahead and tell us whoyou are and the the the German pronunciation of
your last name, of course, because I said itthe way I would say it as an American folk.
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But as we discussed in our pre call, you know,so how go ahead and tell us who you are and how
you pronounce your name and and your language,and then we'll go on and and and get the show
on the road.
Oh, thank you, Kyle.
Thank you so much.
Yes.
My name is Blanca Falk.
I'm from Germany.
And I'm a mental trainer for mothers.
So I'm an author, I'm a podcaster, and I'm amother of 4.
And this is the root cause why I do what I do.
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That's awesome.
So tell us a little bit more about your path.
You know, the ignition path podcast is allabout, all all of our entrepreneurs that come
on, including myself.
I've told people my story and where where, howI've become a podcasting coach and a voice over
coach and a voice over actor.
And And but I'm a full time paramedic.
So that's my path was I've always wanted to bean entrepreneur, and now I do things on the
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side that that help other business owners, youknow, basically present their message to the
world through podcasting.
So tell us about your path.
What did you do before you became this, thisthis mental mother coach or whatever you said.
I like that.
Wait.
Wait.
So so sometimes we come up with new phrasesduring my podcast just because of my fumble
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mouth, so a a mental mother coach.
There you go.
You can you m m MMC.
There you go.
You that's free.
You can have that.
Use that for your marketing.
Yeah.
And it yo, what are you?
Well, I'm an MMC coach.
What is that?
A mental mother coach.
You know?
Go ahead.
Well, yeah, actually, I was a tax consultant
before.
Okay.
So, I was in, yeah, doing all the stuffaccounting and,
consulting and everything with taxes.
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Oh, tax consultant.
Okay.
I thought you said tax.
Like like What?
I know.
I I pronounce it.
Different.
Well, I I mean, the way you pronounce it, itcould have been tech consultant, like
technology or tech.
So you're a so so Like law?
Yeah.
Yeah.
So do you do did you do, like, did you do taxesfor people?
Were you in a were you a true accountant like aCPA?
What they call them here?
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Okay.
Yeah.
I would.
That that's something you could totally do justonce a year.
You still do that or no?
No.
I didn't
do because I was it was pregnant with my firstbaby.
Okay.
I wanted to do the career there, and I wantedto follow this.
And I thought, okay.
I like to go
international and head my, yeah, my thoughtsaround this.
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And then I, yes, and at the same time, I wantedto have family and, got pregnant, got my first
baby, and I thought, no problem at all.
I can do both, but I couldn't.
So.
Yeah.
I mean, I've I've got 2 children myself thatare both, were essentially empty nesters.
My daughter's in college, and my son is postcollege and in his career, he still lives with
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us, but he has freedom to do it every once.
So we don't it it's not like we keep tabs onhim.
So he he lives with us for economical reasonsfor him, you know, until he gets, some money
saved up, but, for the most part, we're emptynesters.
We're not held back by, you know, making surethat we have to be take the kids to hockey or
cheerleading, all the stuff that we did withour kids.
But, so tell me more about when you made thetransition from being a tax consultant and into
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this new business, tell me about that process,that path.
Like, when did Yeah.
When was the day that you were like, I'm done.
Oh, the process was really because ofmotherhood.
I had to figure out something else.
So but the first time when when I became amother, there was no way to do anything except
for motherhood.
So for me, it was this way, but this was goodbecause I could find what's my path in life.
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And my path in life was actually to help othermothers.
For this, I had to learn.
And I was learning four times.
With 4 children.
It still got
a little easier, didn't it, or did you have adid you have a problem child in the middle?
Well, no, it's they are now between 9 and 19.
So there was a range between.
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Yeah.
And, yes.
So, I really did.
I dove dive dove.
Yeah.
Sure.
Yeah.
Into this.
And, that's really, figuring out so manythings.
And, the first thing was really the transitionfrom not being a mother to become a mother.
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And this transition is the help for others.
For me, that I would say it's a mental trainingfor mothers because biology just makes you a
mother if you give birth to a child.
From the inner side, no one is talking about,but there is a transition.
There is a transformation inside of
you.
Absolutely.
And the My wife is my wife is a totallydifferent person after kids.
Not in a bad way.
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Nope.
Not enough.
Not enough.
No.
But it's like her sleep patterns are different.
Alright.
You know, her temperament is different.
You know, thing, you know, that, like, just sheand I put such an important role on us as
parents.
We I mean, I lost I I wouldn't say I lostfriends during the raising of our kids, but I
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had friends stop calling me because I kept ontelling them, nope.
Sorry.
I gotta do this with the kids or nope.
I can't come.
I can't, you know, And that that's good andbad.
You know, now my wife is out there doing, doingher friend's weekends where I still sprinkled
in my friend's weekends as as I raised my kids,but it was always because I just knew I had a
hell of a mom, you know, a hell of a mother athome taking care of my kids because I, you
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know, I don't know if I don't know if she knowsthis, but I married her because she was so
great with kids.
And there is a transformation.
So talk a little bit more about that.
So, you know, explain to people how you helppeople inside of that because one thing we
don't get as and it's, you know, being in themedical field, I see all kinds of, you know,
I've seen I've I've delivered a baby.
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I've seen births.
I've seen parents.
I've seen I've seen the the the troubles of ofabused children come into the ER.
And it's like, you don't get a playbook.
You have to, like, adopting a dog sometimes isharder than having
a baby.
For someone, and you don't get any training.
You know what I mean?
So so I guess is it is it is it safe to saythat you're willing you're basically built
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something around new mothers or existingmothers
that are struggling with the the transition
they're feeling inside and and why it'shappening to help them through that process
before or after the child.
Yes.
Right.
That's it.
Because you feel suddenly you get this hugeresponsibility for a new baby, for a new human
human being, and this is can just feeloverwhelming.
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And, there are so many things that you have tolet go from your past life to accept the new
life, and this process is not easy at all.
There are so many women.
I know that they just say, okay.
Let me get my my past life back.
I want this back, but it doesn't suit becauseyour sleeping rhythm is different.
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You have to take care.
You have to learn new things.
You have to make so many decisions around thatyou haven't thought about before, and you were
only responsible for yourself, not for someoneelse.
And now you have to be that 247.
And there is no break.
There is no oh, let me take a time out.
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I'll and you can't give it back.
So
Right.
That's it.
And this can just be very difficult.
To let go?
Because you are so used with your past lifethat everything goes like you wanted, and now
it doesn't.
The baby doesn't function like you wanted to.
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It doesn't sleep.
When you want, it doesn't
Well, then You know,
all the things.
Of course, it's a this is a fault of mybattery.
In your in your way.
Oh my gosh.
It's so true.
So how do you find people that you can serviceand and give this support to?
Well, actually the first time was that I wrotea book.
So it's, help.
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I become a mother.
It's in German.
So it's not help.
I become a mother, but the translation is this.
Okay.
So it's.
And with that, it's the German part.
And, so I I thought I could reach out to peoplewith the book.
But writing a book and becoming a best seller,if you even if you write a good book, a good
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writer is not a bet a best seller.
So there, I've had to make some adjustmentswith this, and I thought, okay.
What can I do more?
To help mothers because just only get give thema book
and say, okay.
Here are some examples.
Here are my experiences because I wrote down
my experiences where I struggled with and how Isolved it just to be to get to give them an an
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inspiration and to encourage them to really gothrough this because it's like I said, it's not
easy.
And, then I thought, okay.
I have to do more.
So, actually, I was, I was trying to figure outwhat can I do?
So I offered a metal training for mothers.
This, I promoted with, master classes.
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Yes.
And you're right.
I was going into groups, into breastfeedinggroups.
I was, yes, doing some readings with my book toreach out to people in this area.
And, yes.
And one thing is my podcast.
It's called new motherhood.
It's all sales.
So I get I go from different sides to to getthis topic and to go out with to say, hey, here
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is a hell helping hand.
And if you want, you can reach out to me.
That's awesome.
Now with your book that are are you gonnatranslate it into English?
So you have it.
Yeah.
I mean, okay.
Yes.
It is already, but not published.
So I have to figure out how to how to get thisstarted.
Is that something you can put out easel easilywith an ebook?
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Like, you could, you know, if someone if we puta link in, they could get an e copy of it
somehow.
It's not ready for this.
It's just translated.
Okay.
So what'll happen, everybody listening is theGerman version, she'll we'll have a link to
that in the description.
When the English version becomes available.
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So if you're listening to this podcast onYouTube or or Amazon or any of the the places
that you listen to your podcast on, thedescription notes has all of Blanca's contact
information and the things that she wants forpeople to go find.
If you don't see the English version, it's nottranslated yet.
If you do see their English version, she hasgiven it to me.
So so, you know, one real quick thing or just alittle backslide, and then we'll we'll I'll ask
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another question.
So I know we're doing a podcast swap.
I'm gonna come on your podcast and talk aboutmy experience watching my wife be a mother and
and whatnot.
So You just said that you went intobreastfeeding.
So remember this.
We're not gonna go into this story now becauseit'll this will be a promotion for your
podcast.
So if you wanna hear this story, you need tocome and listen to to to subscribe the blankets
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podcast too.
And come and listen to our episode because shewill ask me, what did you mean about you taught
your wife how to breastfeed?
There's a there's a funny story behind it andhow I did it.
And, it wasn't sexual or anything gross.
It's funny.
So come to Blanka's episode with me on it, andI will tell that story on that episode.
Now you've got a teaser.
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So so the next question I have, Blanca, is so,you know, what would be a takeaway for you to
tell some or, you know, if someone watchingthis, what would be a takeaway for them from
what you offer and why it's different than justthem going at it alone?
Can you repeat this?
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Because I I don't I can't get the the core ofit.
Sure.
What
do you want me?
So basically, something that you would tell amother listening to this with that is maybe
struggling or doesn't realize that they'regoing to get ready to if they're not pregnant
yet or if they're in the middle of pregnancy.
What is something that you would tell them thatwould make them want to reach out and and hear
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what you have to say?
So, essentially, a a piece of advice aboutgoing after motherhood alone or going after
motherhood with some coaching and some and someand some, guidance.
Yes.
Because if you become a mother, your thoughtsare running wild.
Before it might be that you get anxious Becauseof the birth, because of what's happening after
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this, because of not knowing, there is noinstruction how to handle a baby.
So you have to figure out, and this can makeyou nervous.
And, yes, it's probably better to fix someoneat your site who went through all those things
and can guide you through with your thoughtsand with the practical tips.
So It makes it easier.
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It makes it more comfortable,
and you can get a better bonding to your baby.
And that's what we all want.
We want to have a deep relationship to our kidsbecause if they grew
up and come into puberty, There is anotherstep, and you don't but if you have got the
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bonding process from the beginning, it doesn'tmatter.
It really doesn't matter.
And I I have got now three kids inside of this.
I have no problems.
Yeah.
Puberty was, that was and it's different for,do you have boys and girls,
or do
you have all
boys?
Okay.
So it's and it's it's a whole another thingwhen you have another, you okay.
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Your first child, boy.
Okay.
Great.
And you deal with all the stuff that you'redoing with a boy, then you have a girl and you
realize it's totally different.
Completely different.
I mean, maybe the diaper changes are the same,maybe a little bit, but, like, other than that,
it's completely different as they grow up andand just the, you know, just the the stuff that
you have to create and things you have to learnwith having a boy compared to having a girl,
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because I've got one of each, and they're 3years apart.
So it was that good, nice little pause.
Know that that just because you learn how toraise the first child, the second child can be
completely different, and you still may needmeat or more coaching inside of that second
child until you till you get the until you getthe the tools and the things that you need.
So tell us a little bit about what you teachjust if you don't mind a little bit of a
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coaching session.
What would you teach someone about there?
Because in the mental health field that I'm apart of as well with my first responder stuff,
right now, the big buzzword is self care.
Like, okay, don't forget about self care.
And that's one thing that I feel like my wifeand I didn't do while we raised our kids.
We took we put all of our time and effort intoour children.
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And that's that's that's great.
And and, you know, we were happy with it.
It didn't there was no animosity from that.
There was no negativity from that.
So what would you teach?
What?
Is there anything inside of your lessons thatthat you teach a new mother self care?
So she does have that that respite of, and thatbreak and something that her spouse knows.
So so share a little bit about what you talkabout that.
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You don't have to go into depth and give awayall your secrets, but, you know, just the
general concept of that.
Well, and the there are no secrets.
I and I don't like to have secrets around thisbecause If I can get this out, everything is
good.
So there is one thing I really would recommendis to really to be grateful.
And to remind yourself to be grateful everyday, start with this, and you can do this
again.
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Whilst you are breastfeeding, just watch
your baby and just say some things.
Why are you grateful for what are you grateful?
And this gratitude practice, just bring yourthoughts in another position, and you can just
follow another path with this, and it'swonderful because your baby is getting
your emotions.
And if you can
fill this up with positivity, it will stay.
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And this is a wonderful
part, I think, to really to get the bondingprocess and to get positivity inside of the
family and to raise your
energy up.
And another thing is really self care isimportant.
I didn't do this Like you did?
I I didn't do this with the first one.
And, we both
my husband and I, we were both full time,parents.
Nothing else.
Always late.
I think that Just okay.
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Where where we said, okay.
We come at 3 o'clock.
No.
We were there at 6 o'clock.
And still, we're busy with one shot.
So
I can't imagine it was 4.
We didn't miss anything.
I know that there were voices coming andsaying,
okay, but you have to look at yourself, and itwas okay for us.
Yeah.
He just said, it just was okay.
We we didn't There was nothing missing.
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And with the second one, there is a there was a
little, okay, challenge now.
How can we deal with this?
And if he
gets more, well, actually, my husband wastelling me, You need more children.
I thought, what?
Can't handle it.
But he was right.
So, actually, yes, we got 4.
And, it is okay.
And this the challenge was
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really to to find the point when it's dropping.
And if you feel okay, I have to look aftermyself first here because if I just give There
is nothing more in the evening or whenever.
So take 10 minutes.
Take 10 minutes every day to do somemeditation, to read a book just for you to
listen to some music just
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just you.
And, these 10 minutes per day, you can you canadd this wherever you want to have it.
You can handle you just you can say, okay.
I do this in the morning after waking up, oryou can say, okay.
No.
It doesn't suit.
I take this as a break in
the middle of the day.
Just take this time for yourself.
And, because this
is important.
Yeah.
You're not fall down.
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Well, great.
Thank you so much for that takeaway because Ialways like to make sure that we offer some
sort of value to people when they're listening,you know, inside of what my guests offer.
So, when you were talking a little bit there,it brought up another question.
So I hope you don't mind if I ask you anotherquestion.
When it comes to your spouse, you know, I'm,you know, I was a I was a dedicated father.
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I did the same, you know, we focused a lot.
We did pass the baby.
We both worked at the hospital back then whenthey were little, and we would literally pass
the baby in the hallway after our shift.
Because we would work opposite shifts, sosomeone could always be home with a baby.
We never had a babysitter.
And once in a blue moon, our my in laws wouldwatch them, which they live 10 minutes away.
So, my mom and my mom had been gone.
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My mom passed away a few months before my sonwas born.
So, like, 9 months before my son was born, mymy mom passed away.
So my mom never got to meet my kids, and mywife never get to have the conversations with
with my mom about motherhood.
Now and her mom, that's just not what they do.
You know?
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And that's actually that's actually a secondquestion I wanna ask after this.
So so let's let's go back to that when it comesto moms and your mom and whatnot.
And and why can't we just learn off of what mymom tells me?
So and I wanna get into that a little bit.
But, first, answer the question about what youand your spouse did to stay connected during
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that time.
It was kind of, we
do this together.
You know?
And so if we if I was breastfeeding, he wasjust holding me.
You know, he was just there with me, and we wedid everything together.
Yeah.
That's why we didn't have time for anythingelse.
We had time to make 3 more babies.
Come on now.
No.
I'm just kidding.
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But this is, it was just, you know, if therewas nothing if if you there is a deeper
connection to your spouse.
If you have got another level, not just because
you have got the same hobby or you have got, Idon't know, why people are together, why people
get married.
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Yeah.
There are so many who get divorced, and I I'malways wondering, okay, why?
That you were just asking about, the connectionor the health Yeah.
That was, yeah, there was a connection.
The the the the
the sales connection.
I think and you mentioned it too.
It's the communication.
Right?
Yeah.
That's right.
Yeah.
You got the right communication.
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And if you can say, if you can talk about whatare you expecting, what am I expecting, where
is the middle?
How can we deal with it?
Everything is fine.
Yeah.
Yep.
Yeah.
Exactly.
Because you always find a way if you want.
Yeah.
And and its support, you know, you know, tojust finish up on that, you know, when when I'm
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willing to go do something, and I don't have toshe didn't have to tell me what to do, you
know, don't get me wrong.
She was raising 2 children, honestly.
I mean, even I was twenty eight when I had myfirst child and, unfortunately, my wife got
stuck with raising 2 children, twenty eightyear old and a newborn.
So, you know, so there's some there's somehonesty in that.
You know, she we were still we were stillgrowing as a couple, you know, because we had
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our baby in the 1st year.
We got it.
We got, we conceived in the 1st year.
We didn't have the baby until our 2nd year ofmarriage.
We had dated for 6 years prior to that, but wenever lived together.
So it was one of those things where, you know,there was things that I had to learn about her,
that she had to learn about me, that she hadto, you know, get me into the right mindset of
being a husband, you know, like, you know,things that were that were I I knew things from
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my watching my parents, and she knew thingsfrom watching her parents.
And it was just one of those things where wherethere was there's a whole another learning
curve with marriage, let alone, with a new babyinvolved.
So The the so that kind of leads to and thefamily dynamic that we were just spoke about.
This that leads to my last question here iswhat would you say to someone that may think,
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you know, well, why do I need, you know, amental mother coach?
When I've got my mom, my mom was a great mom,and I'll just ask her questions or or worse,
you know, like, maybe you didn't think your momraised you the right way and you want to
ignore, but then your mom is wants to be a partof the baby.
And, you know, so So what would you say to youryour, your students that that have a either a
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strong bond with their mother or a not so goodbond with their mother and why you need that
third party?
Yes.
What?
I will I would always say Each way isindividual.
So if this your way to go to do the same thingsthat your mom did with you, it's okay.
So and if you can learn
from her, it's great.
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But, if you say, okay, she did something Idon't like, and, there is something missing, or
I I would love to make a change here, or sheisn't aware what she did, and she can't tell
you.
She she knows what she did what
she didn't,
but, unconsciously, so you can't learn fromher.
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Mhmm.
Because you're not observing her.
Having her baby, you're now adult.
And, you can just listen to her what she'sspeaking.
And, actually, if I asked my mom, she forgot alot of things.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
There's that.
Yeah.
So I was thinking, okay.
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Where do I get
this information now?
Very cool.
Here's the thing.
We always think we need some information fromthe outside, but as women, we got everything.
And we have to look inside.
And this is the beauty of it.
If you can get connected to your intuition, ifyou can get into your gut feeling, you will
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know.
And trust me, you will know.
Yeah.
I mean, yeah.
It's difficult.
We are still on the outside.
We are so distracted.
We are so used to get information from theoutside.
Yeah.
So we will forget about our insight and thateverything is inside of us.
Yep.
Great.
And you help them find that and bring that tolight.
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That's amazing.
That's great.
I'd it's a great service.
It's a great it's a great concept.
You know, there needs to be more people likeyou.
There's plenty of mothers out there that thatneed this help that need that support.
Well, now that brings us to the end of ourshow, Blanca.
I thank you so much for coming on.
The last thing I wanna ask is just how dopeople get ahold of you?
Tell me.
I I know all the information will be down inthe description, but just go ahead and share,
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you know, verbally if people are only listeningto this on the audio version.
So they hear where to find you and to getconnected with you.
Yes.
Well, there will be master classes still, and Iwill run them, I think, once a month.
And, so and they are promoted on my socialmedias, on Instagram, I've got the renew
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motherboard.
It's the title of my podcast and the title ofmy Instagram account.
So you can find me on LinkedIn with my name,Blanca Falk, and on Facebook too.
And reach out to me.
Yep.
Thanks so much, Blanca, so much for coming onthe ignition path podcast and and sharing your
story and sharing some some takeaways with ouraudience that that are definitely well needed.
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And there's so much more I know that are insideof there, and I can't wait to be on your
podcast.
And like I Come to her podcast.
Some come to her podcast if you wanna laughabout a story.
So so I've got a good one.
Yeah.
It's it's a good one.
So alright.
Fantastic.
Thank you, everybody.
Don't forget the like, share.
Subscribe.
If you hear this and you have a you know amother in your that needs to hear this and
needs to know about blank and her services,don't hesitate to hit that share button and
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push it right to them.
So thank you so much, Blanca, for coming on.
Take care.
Thank you.
Thank you for listening to ignition path,fueling the entrepreneurial fire.
As women, we got everything.
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And we have to look inside.
And this is the beauty of it.
If you can get connected to your intuition, ifyou can get into your gut feeling, you will
know.
And trust me, you will know.
Yeah.
I mean, yeah.
It's difficult.
We are slowly outside.
We are so distracted.
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We are so used to get information from theoutside.
Yeah.
So we will forget about our insight and thateverything is inside of us.
Hello, everybody, and
welcome back to the ignition path podcast.
My name is Kyle Goodnight.
I am your host, and I appreciate you coming andlistening to all of the content that I create
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in bringing these amazing people to you to hearabout their entrepreneurial path and what jobs
they do now or what the what what businessesthey have created.
This is a place where we can share and and andtalk about our
paths to becoming an entrepreneur.
And don't forget to like, share, subscribe.
If you hear a message in here that
someone else that you know needs hear thismessage, please don't be shy and just hit that
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share button and ship it right off to them.
So today, I have Blanca Falcon today with me.
She is a coach and and a and a small businessowner that she's created an amazing course for
motherhood she's gonna tell you all about it.
But for now, Blanca, go ahead and tell us whoyou are and the the the German pronunciation of
your last name, of course, because I said itthe way I would say it as an American folk.
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But as we discussed in our pre call, you know,so how go ahead and tell us who you are and how
you pronounce your name and and your language,and then we'll go on and and and get the show
on the road.
Oh, thank you, Kyle.
Thank you so much.
Yes.
My name is Blanca Falk.
I'm from Germany.
And I'm a mental trainer for mothers.
So I'm an author, I'm a podcaster, and I'm amother of 4.
And this is the root cause why I do what I do.
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That's awesome.
So tell us a little bit more about your path.
You know, the ignition path podcast is allabout, all all of our entrepreneurs that come
on, including myself.
I've told people my story and where where, howI've become a podcasting coach and a voice over
coach and a voice over actor.
And And but I'm a full time paramedic.
So that's my path was I've always wanted to bean entrepreneur, and now I do things on the
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side that that help other business owners, youknow, basically present their message to the
world through podcasting.
So tell us about your path.
What did you do before you became this, thisthis mental mother coach or whatever you said.
I like that.
Wait.
Wait.
So so sometimes we come up with new phrasesduring my podcast just because of my fumble
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mouth, so a a mental mother coach.
There you go.
You can you m m MMC.
There you go.
You that's free.
You can have that.
Use that for your marketing.
Yeah.
And it yo, what are you?
Well, I'm an MMC coach.
What is that?
A mental mother coach.
You know?
Go ahead.
Well, yeah, actually, I was a tax consultant
before.
Okay.
So, I was in, yeah, doing all the stuffaccounting and,
consulting and everything with taxes.
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Oh, tax consultant.
Okay.
I thought you said tax.
Like like What?
I know.
I I pronounce it.
Different.
Well, I I mean, the way you pronounce it, itcould have been tech consultant, like
technology or tech.
So you're a so so Like law?
Yeah.
Yeah.
So do you do did you do, like, did you do taxesfor people?
Were you in a were you a true accountant like aCPA?
What they call them here?
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Okay.
Yeah.
I would.
That that's something you could totally do justonce a year.
You still do that or no?
No.
I didn't
do because I was it was pregnant with my firstbaby.
Okay.
I wanted to do the career there, and I wantedto follow this.
And I thought, okay.
I like to go
international and head my, yeah, my thoughtsaround this.
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And then I, yes, and at the same time, I wantedto have family and, got pregnant, got my first
baby, and I thought, no problem at all.
I can do both, but I couldn't.
So.
Yeah.
I mean, I've I've got 2 children myself thatare both, were essentially empty nesters.
My daughter's in college, and my son is postcollege and in his career, he still lives with
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us, but he has freedom to do it every once.
So we don't it it's not like we keep tabs onhim.
So he he lives with us for economical reasonsfor him, you know, until he gets, some money
saved up, but, for the most part, we're emptynesters.
We're not held back by, you know, making surethat we have to be take the kids to hockey or
cheerleading, all the stuff that we did withour kids.
But, so tell me more about when you made thetransition from being a tax consultant and into
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this new business, tell me about that process,that path.
Like, when did Yeah.
When was the day that you were like, I'm done.
Oh, the process was really because ofmotherhood.
I had to figure out something else.
So but the first time when when I became amother, there was no way to do anything except
for motherhood.
So for me, it was this way, but this was goodbecause I could find what's my path in life.
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And my path in life was actually to help othermothers.
For this, I had to learn.
And I was learning four times.
With 4 children.
It still got
a little easier, didn't it, or did you have adid you have a problem child in the middle?
Well, no, it's they are now between 9 and 19.
So there was a range between.
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Yeah.
And, yes.
So, I really did.
I dove dive dove.
Yeah.
Sure.
Yeah.
Into this.
And, that's really, figuring out so manythings.
And, the first thing was really the transitionfrom not being a mother to become a mother.
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And this transition is the help for others.
For me, that I would say it's a mental trainingfor mothers because biology just makes you a
mother if you give birth to a child.
From the inner side, no one is talking about,but there is a transition.
There is a transformation inside of
you.
Absolutely.
And the My wife is my wife is a totallydifferent person after kids.
Not in a bad way.
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Nope.
Not enough.
Not enough.
No.
But it's like her sleep patterns are different.
Alright.
You know, her temperament is different.
You know, thing, you know, that, like, just sheand I put such an important role on us as
parents.
We I mean, I lost I I wouldn't say I lostfriends during the raising of our kids, but I
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had friends stop calling me because I kept ontelling them, nope.
Sorry.
I gotta do this with the kids or nope.
I can't come.
I can't, you know, And that that's good andbad.
You know, now my wife is out there doing, doingher friend's weekends where I still sprinkled
in my friend's weekends as as I raised my kids,but it was always because I just knew I had a
hell of a mom, you know, a hell of a mother athome taking care of my kids because I, you
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know, I don't know if I don't know if she knowsthis, but I married her because she was so
great with kids.
And there is a transformation.
So talk a little bit more about that.
So, you know, explain to people how you helppeople inside of that because one thing we
don't get as and it's, you know, being in themedical field, I see all kinds of, you know,
I've seen I've I've delivered a baby.
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I've seen births.
I've seen parents.
I've seen I've seen the the the troubles of ofabused children come into the ER.
And it's like, you don't get a playbook.
You have to, like, adopting a dog sometimes isharder than having
a baby.
For someone, and you don't get any training.
You know what I mean?
So so I guess is it is it is it safe to saythat you're willing you're basically built
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something around new mothers or existingmothers
that are struggling with the the transition
they're feeling inside and and why it'shappening to help them through that process
before or after the child.
Yes.
Right.
That's it.
Because you feel suddenly you get this hugeresponsibility for a new baby, for a new human
human being, and this is can just feeloverwhelming.
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And, there are so many things that you have tolet go from your past life to accept the new
life, and this process is not easy at all.
There are so many women.
I know that they just say, okay.
Let me get my my past life back.
I want this back, but it doesn't suit becauseyour sleeping rhythm is different.
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You have to take care.
You have to learn new things.
You have to make so many decisions around thatyou haven't thought about before, and you were
only responsible for yourself, not for someoneelse.
And now you have to be that 247.
And there is no break.
There is no oh, let me take a time out.
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I'll and you can't give it back.
So
Right.
That's it.
And this can just be very difficult.
To let go?
Because you are so used with your past lifethat everything goes like you wanted, and now
it doesn't.
The baby doesn't function like you wanted to.
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It doesn't sleep.
When you want, it doesn't
Well, then You know,
all the things.
Of course, it's a this is a fault of mybattery.
In your in your way.
Oh my gosh.
It's so true.
So how do you find people that you can serviceand and give this support to?
Well, actually the first time was that I wrotea book.
So it's, help.
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I become a mother.
It's in German.
So it's not help.
I become a mother, but the translation is this.
Okay.
So it's.
And with that, it's the German part.
And, so I I thought I could reach out to peoplewith the book.
But writing a book and becoming a best seller,if you even if you write a good book, a good
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writer is not a bet a best seller.
So there, I've had to make some adjustmentswith this, and I thought, okay.
What can I do more?
To help mothers because just only get give thema book
and say, okay.
Here are some examples.
Here are my experiences because I wrote down
my experiences where I struggled with and how Isolved it just to be to get to give them an an
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inspiration and to encourage them to really gothrough this because it's like I said, it's not
easy.
And, then I thought, okay.
I have to do more.
So, actually, I was, I was trying to figure outwhat can I do?
So I offered a metal training for mothers.
This, I promoted with, master classes.
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Yes.
And you're right.
I was going into groups, into breastfeedinggroups.
I was, yes, doing some readings with my book toreach out to people in this area.
And, yes.
And one thing is my podcast.
It's called new motherhood.
It's all sales.
So I get I go from different sides to to getthis topic and to go out with to say, hey, here
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is a hell helping hand.
And if you want, you can reach out to me.
That's awesome.
Now with your book that are are you gonnatranslate it into English?
So you have it.
Yeah.
I mean, okay.
Yes.
It is already, but not published.
So I have to figure out how to how to get thisstarted.
Is that something you can put out easel easilywith an ebook?
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Like, you could, you know, if someone if we puta link in, they could get an e copy of it
somehow.
It's not ready for this.
It's just translated.
Okay.
So what'll happen, everybody listening is theGerman version, she'll we'll have a link to
that in the description.
When the English version becomes available.
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So if you're listening to this podcast onYouTube or or Amazon or any of the the places
that you listen to your podcast on, thedescription notes has all of Blanca's contact
information and the things that she wants forpeople to go find.
If you don't see the English version, it's nottranslated yet.
If you do see their English version, she hasgiven it to me.
So so, you know, one real quick thing or just alittle backslide, and then we'll we'll I'll ask
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another question.
So I know we're doing a podcast swap.
I'm gonna come on your podcast and talk aboutmy experience watching my wife be a mother and
and whatnot.
So You just said that you went intobreastfeeding.
So remember this.
We're not gonna go into this story now becauseit'll this will be a promotion for your
podcast.
So if you wanna hear this story, you need tocome and listen to to to subscribe the blankets
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podcast too.
And come and listen to our episode because shewill ask me, what did you mean about you taught
your wife how to breastfeed?
There's a there's a funny story behind it andhow I did it.
And, it wasn't sexual or anything gross.
It's funny.
So come to Blanka's episode with me on it, andI will tell that story on that episode.
Now you've got a teaser.
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So so the next question I have, Blanca, is so,you know, what would be a takeaway for you to
tell some or, you know, if someone watchingthis, what would be a takeaway for them from
what you offer and why it's different than justthem going at it alone?
Can you repeat this?
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Because I I don't I can't get the the core ofit.
Sure.
What
do you want me?
So basically, something that you would tell amother listening to this with that is maybe
struggling or doesn't realize that they'regoing to get ready to if they're not pregnant
yet or if they're in the middle of pregnancy.
What is something that you would tell them thatwould make them want to reach out and and hear
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what you have to say?
So, essentially, a a piece of advice aboutgoing after motherhood alone or going after
motherhood with some coaching and some and someand some, guidance.
Yes.
Because if you become a mother, your thoughtsare running wild.
Before it might be that you get anxious Becauseof the birth, because of what's happening after
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this, because of not knowing, there is noinstruction how to handle a baby.
So you have to figure out, and this can makeyou nervous.
And, yes, it's probably better to fix someoneat your site who went through all those things
and can guide you through with your thoughtsand with the practical tips.
So It makes it easier.
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It makes it more comfortable,
and you can get a better bonding to your baby.
And that's what we all want.
We want to have a deep relationship to our kidsbecause if they grew
up and come into puberty, There is anotherstep, and you don't but if you have got the
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bonding process from the beginning, it doesn'tmatter.
It really doesn't matter.
And I I have got now three kids inside of this.
I have no problems.
Yeah.
Puberty was, that was and it's different for,do you have boys and girls,
or do
you have all
boys?
Okay.
So it's and it's it's a whole another thingwhen you have another, you okay.
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Your first child, boy.
Okay.
Great.
And you deal with all the stuff that you'redoing with a boy, then you have a girl and you
realize it's totally different.
Completely different.
I mean, maybe the diaper changes are the same,maybe a little bit, but, like, other than that,
it's completely different as they grow up andand just the, you know, just the the stuff that
you have to create and things you have to learnwith having a boy compared to having a girl,
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because I've got one of each, and they're 3years apart.
So it was that good, nice little pause.
Know that that just because you learn how toraise the first child, the second child can be
completely different, and you still may needmeat or more coaching inside of that second
child until you till you get the until you getthe the tools and the things that you need.
So tell us a little bit about what you teachjust if you don't mind a little bit of a
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coaching session.
What would you teach someone about there?
Because in the mental health field that I'm apart of as well with my first responder stuff,
right now, the big buzzword is self care.
Like, okay, don't forget about self care.
And that's one thing that I feel like my wifeand I didn't do while we raised our kids.
We took we put all of our time and effort intoour children.
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And that's that's that's great.
And and, you know, we were happy with it.
It didn't there was no animosity from that.
There was no negativity from that.
So what would you teach?
What?
Is there anything inside of your lessons thatthat you teach a new mother self care?
So she does have that that respite of, and thatbreak and something that her spouse knows.
So so share a little bit about what you talkabout that.
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You don't have to go into depth and give awayall your secrets, but, you know, just the
general concept of that.
Well, and the there are no secrets.
I and I don't like to have secrets around thisbecause If I can get this out, everything is
good.
So there is one thing I really would recommendis to really to be grateful.
And to remind yourself to be grateful everyday, start with this, and you can do this
again.
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Whilst you are breastfeeding, just watch
your baby and just say some things.
Why are you grateful for what are you grateful?
And this gratitude practice, just bring yourthoughts in another position, and you can just
follow another path with this, and it'swonderful because your baby is getting
your emotions.
And if you can
fill this up with positivity, it will stay.
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And this is a wonderful
part, I think, to really to get the bondingprocess and to get positivity inside of the
family and to raise your
energy up.
And another thing is really self care isimportant.
I didn't do this Like you did?
I I didn't do this with the first one.
And, we both
my husband and I, we were both full time,parents.
Nothing else.
Always late.
I think that Just okay.
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Where where we said, okay.
We come at 3 o'clock.
No.
We were there at 6 o'clock.
And still, we're busy with one shot.
So
I can't imagine it was 4.
We didn't miss anything.
I know that there were voices coming andsaying,
okay, but you have to look at yourself, and itwas okay for us.
Yeah.
He just said, it just was okay.
We we didn't There was nothing missing.
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And with the second one, there is a there was a
little, okay, challenge now.
How can we deal with this?
And if he
gets more, well, actually, my husband wastelling me, You need more children.
I thought, what?
Can't handle it.
But he was right.
So, actually, yes, we got 4.
And, it is okay.
And this the challenge was
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really to to find the point when it's dropping.
And if you feel okay, I have to look aftermyself first here because if I just give There
is nothing more in the evening or whenever.
So take 10 minutes.
Take 10 minutes every day to do somemeditation, to read a book just for you to
listen to some music just
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just you.
And, these 10 minutes per day, you can you canadd this wherever you want to have it.
You can handle you just you can say, okay.
I do this in the morning after waking up, oryou can say, okay.
No.
It doesn't suit.
I take this as a break in
the middle of the day.
Just take this time for yourself.
And, because this
is important.
Yeah.
You're not fall down.
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Well, great.
Thank you so much for that takeaway because Ialways like to make sure that we offer some
sort of value to people when they're listening,you know, inside of what my guests offer.
So, when you were talking a little bit there,it brought up another question.
So I hope you don't mind if I ask you anotherquestion.
When it comes to your spouse, you know, I'm,you know, I was a I was a dedicated father.
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I did the same, you know, we focused a lot.
We did pass the baby.
We both worked at the hospital back then whenthey were little, and we would literally pass
the baby in the hallway after our shift.
Because we would work opposite shifts, sosomeone could always be home with a baby.
We never had a babysitter.
And once in a blue moon, our my in laws wouldwatch them, which they live 10 minutes away.
So, my mom and my mom had been gone.
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My mom passed away a few months before my sonwas born.
So, like, 9 months before my son was born, mymy mom passed away.
So my mom never got to meet my kids, and mywife never get to have the conversations with
with my mom about motherhood.
Now and her mom, that's just not what they do.
You know?
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And that's actually that's actually a secondquestion I wanna ask after this.
So so let's let's go back to that when it comesto moms and your mom and whatnot.
And and why can't we just learn off of what mymom tells me?
So and I wanna get into that a little bit.
But, first, answer the question about what youand your spouse did to stay connected during
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that time.
It was kind of, we
do this together.
You know?
And so if we if I was breastfeeding, he wasjust holding me.
You know, he was just there with me, and we wedid everything together.
Yeah.
That's why we didn't have time for anythingelse.
We had time to make 3 more babies.
Come on now.
No.
I'm just kidding.
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But this is, it was just, you know, if therewas nothing if if you there is a deeper
connection to your spouse.
If you have got another level, not just because
you have got the same hobby or you have got, Idon't know, why people are together, why people
get married.
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Yeah.
There are so many who get divorced, and I I'malways wondering, okay, why?
That you were just asking about, the connectionor the health Yeah.
That was, yeah, there was a connection.
The the the the
the sales connection.
I think and you mentioned it too.
It's the communication.
Right?
Yeah.
That's right.
Yeah.
You got the right communication.
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And if you can say, if you can talk about whatare you expecting, what am I expecting, where
is the middle?
How can we deal with it?
Everything is fine.
Yeah.
Yep.
Yeah.
Exactly.
Because you always find a way if you want.
Yeah.
And and its support, you know, you know, tojust finish up on that, you know, when when I'm
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willing to go do something, and I don't have toshe didn't have to tell me what to do, you
know, don't get me wrong.
She was raising 2 children, honestly.
I mean, even I was twenty eight when I had myfirst child and, unfortunately, my wife got
stuck with raising 2 children, twenty eightyear old and a newborn.
So, you know, so there's some there's somehonesty in that.
You know, she we were still we were stillgrowing as a couple, you know, because we had
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our baby in the 1st year.
We got it.
We got, we conceived in the 1st year.
We didn't have the baby until our 2nd year ofmarriage.
We had dated for 6 years prior to that, but wenever lived together.
So it was one of those things where, you know,there was things that I had to learn about her,
that she had to learn about me, that she hadto, you know, get me into the right mindset of
being a husband, you know, like, you know,things that were that were I I knew things from
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my watching my parents, and she knew thingsfrom watching her parents.
And it was just one of those things where wherethere was there's a whole another learning
curve with marriage, let alone, with a new babyinvolved.
So The the so that kind of leads to and thefamily dynamic that we were just spoke about.
This that leads to my last question here iswhat would you say to someone that may think,
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you know, well, why do I need, you know, amental mother coach?
When I've got my mom, my mom was a great mom,and I'll just ask her questions or or worse,
you know, like, maybe you didn't think your momraised you the right way and you want to
ignore, but then your mom is wants to be a partof the baby.
And, you know, so So what would you say to youryour, your students that that have a either a
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strong bond with their mother or a not so goodbond with their mother and why you need that
third party?
Yes.
What?
I will I would always say Each way isindividual.
So if this your way to go to do the same thingsthat your mom did with you, it's okay.
So and if you can learn
from her, it's great.
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But, if you say, okay, she did something Idon't like, and, there is something missing, or
I I would love to make a change here, or sheisn't aware what she did, and she can't tell
you.
She she knows what she did what
she didn't,
but, unconsciously, so you can't learn fromher.
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Mhmm.
Because you're not observing her.
Having her baby, you're now adult.
And, you can just listen to her what she'sspeaking.
And, actually, if I asked my mom, she forgot alot of things.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
There's that.
Yeah.
So I was thinking, okay.
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Where do I get
this information now?
Very cool.
Here's the thing.
We always think we need some information fromthe outside, but as women, we got everything.
And we have to look inside.
And this is the beauty of it.
If you can get connected to your intuition, ifyou can get into your gut feeling, you will
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know.
And trust me, you will know.
Yeah.
I mean, yeah.
It's difficult.
We are still on the outside.
We are so distracted.
We are so used to get information from theoutside.
Yeah.
So we will forget about our insight and thateverything is inside of us.
Yep.
Great.
And you help them find that and bring that tolight.
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That's amazing.
That's great.
I'd it's a great service.
It's a great it's a great concept.
You know, there needs to be more people likeyou.
There's plenty of mothers out there that thatneed this help that need that support.
Well, now that brings us to the end of ourshow, Blanca.
I thank you so much for coming on.
The last thing I wanna ask is just how dopeople get ahold of you?
Tell me.
I I know all the information will be down inthe description, but just go ahead and share,
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you know, verbally if people are only listeningto this on the audio version.
So they hear where to find you and to getconnected with you.
Yes.
Well, there will be master classes still, and Iwill run them, I think, once a month.
And, so and they are promoted on my socialmedias, on Instagram, I've got the renew
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motherboard.
It's the title of my podcast and the title ofmy Instagram account.
So you can find me on LinkedIn with my name,Blanca Falk, and on Facebook too.
And reach out to me.
Yep.
Thanks so much, Blanca, so much for coming onthe ignition path podcast and and sharing your
story and sharing some some takeaways with ouraudience that that are definitely well needed.
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And there's so much more I know that are insideof there, and I can't wait to be on your
podcast.
And like I Come to her podcast.
Some come to her podcast if you wanna laughabout a story.
So so I've got a good one.
Yeah.
It's it's a good one.
So alright.
Fantastic.
Thank you, everybody.
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