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Here's the truth your
perfectionism is probably
sabotaging your period.
The same traits that make yousuccessful at work, like
planning, consistency, controlthose things might be why your
hormones are a mess.
Still, I had a client who wasso committed to her perfect
routine that she ignored herbody's signals for months.
That's why, this week, I'msharing how to channel your
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perfectionist energy in a waythat actually heals and helps
your body.
Welcome to I'm Hormonal, yoursource of information about
women's hormone health and howto support your body.
Naturally, I'm your host,bridget Walton, and I'm a
certified functional hormonespecialist and menstrual cycle
coach.
I am on a mission to hold thesehormone conversations with as
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many menstruators as possible,because you deserve easier
access to accurate informationabout what's up with your unruly
menstrual cycle and with yourfertility mysteries.
Don't you think it's time thatwe figure this out once and for
all?
All right, my friend, thank youfor joining me this week and
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listening to I'm Hormonal.
I'm going to do things a littlebit different than normal.
I'm going to do two miniepisodes for you, but if you are
new here, I want to say welcome.
I'm really glad that you foundme.
If you've been here before,then I want to say thanks for
coming back, thanks for sharingyour feedback with me on
Instagram, for sharing thepodcast with other gals in your
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life.
I really, really appreciate you.
This week, as you heard in theintro, I'm going to be talking
about perfectionism.
This is something that I seeall the time with my clients.
Perhaps this is something thatyou identify with or that you
dabble in, and so I want tostart off by telling you about a
client that I have named SarahNot her real name, but we're
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going to call her Sarah andSarah's amazing.
She is like a real type, a kindof gal.
She has been tracking everymacro Before she started working
with me.
She was the kind of gal whonever missed a workout.
She came to me because, despitedoing everything perfectly, she
was still very constipated,which you'll know if you've been
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listening for a minute.
That what's going on with yourdigestive system is absolutely
critical for your hormonebalance, but that's just to say
she needed to use laxatives,like all of the time to have
bowel movements, or rather, shenever had bowel movements
without those laxatives like allof the time to have bowel
movements, or rather, she neverhad bowel movements without
those laxatives, so she waswanting to come off of her
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hormonal birth control, get herdigestion in order, and that's
kind of where we started.
But this is what we discoveredworking together, and let me say
to that in my coaching practice, where I work one-on-one with
gals, so I'm getting to know youreal well.
I see this pattern with probablyat least 90% of my
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perfectionist clients, and it'sthese habits that we think are
good.
We think that being reallyconsistent is the best thing
that you need to do.
That is the key to success, butsometimes that can backfire on
you.
So one of those things is beingoverly restrictive with food.
Now, sure, there's a time andplace for each of us where we
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need to omit a certain food, butbeing so focused on clean
eating that you're actuallyunder eating, that can be one
that really sneaks up on you.
If you want to hear more aboutundernourishing, then you can
check out last week's episodeswhere I talked about just this.
Another thing that comes up alot with my perfectionist
girlies is overexercising.
More is not always better foryour hormones, especially when
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we're thinking of your hormone,cortisol, which is your stress
hormone, and we need cortisol.
We don't want it to be super,super low.
But more isn't always better,because when your cortisol is
high, that's going to impactyour sex hormones, impact your
menstrual cycle.
Actually, this wasn't even onmy list, but I should say that
too.
Like stress, that's a big thingwith perfectionists as well,
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because you want to doeverything right, you want to be
the best performer, the highestperformer, you want to be the
top of your peer group orhowever that looks for you.
But sometimes pushing yourselfa little bit too hard, driving
those cortisol levels up right,that can be perpetuating your
inconsistent, your unpredictableperiods as well.
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Now the final thing I wanted tomention here the way that
perfectionism can backfire.
Let me know if this resonatesfor you.
I hope not, but for a lot ofthe perfectionists who I work
with, they realize through ourone-on-one work together that
they've been ignoring theirbody's signals to just overpower
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this.
I need to push through becauseI know that, for example,
exercise is good for me, so I'mgoing to do it every day.
But they weren't capturing whattheir body was really trying to
tell them.
They were so committed to theirplan that then they're really
overriding what their bodyactually needs right, because
your body is going to changethroughout your menstrual cycle,
throughout the month.
This is something that a lot ofus learn too late in life.
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I mean, I have been hostingthis podcast for almost two
years now.
This is my profession.
How old am I?
I'm 32.
And I don't think I learnedthat your cycle really had
different phases until I was 25,right?
We kind of collectively insociety are coming online like
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waking up to this reality, tothis little tidbit that we're
not going to be the same everyday of the month, every week of
the month, that your body needssomething different at different
times in your cycle.
And this is also to say that,especially if you're trying to
fix something about your period,especially if you have missing
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periods altogether, if you havereally unpredictable or
inconsistent periods, that isgoing to be a time in your life
as well when you need to maybego against the grain of what is
kind of quote, unquote healthy,what isunquote the best thing
for your long-term health,because your body is really
asking you for somethingspecific to bring you back into
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balance.
Now I want to address somethingthat maybe you're thinking here
, because if you're picking upwhat I'm putting down, you're
thinking, okay, bridget, butyou're telling me to do less,
like that feels wrong and, trustme, I get it because it'll feel
uncomfortable at first.
It will feel uncomfortable tosay, wait, if I do less, if I do
fewer HIIT classes, if I eatmore, if I really prioritize
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relaxation, you're saying that'swhat's going to do it.
But it'll feel uncomfortableand you know what comes along
with change almost every time isa little bit of discomfort.
So I say that to say if youfeel a little bit uncomfortable,
just a little bit, if you feellike you are uncomfortable doing
something new, a lot of timesthat comes with discomfort I
would encourage you to take alittle look-see at that and
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register it not necessarily as abad thing, right, it doesn't
have to be a bad thing.
I also want to mention too andI'm kind of thinking of cortisol
again specifically.
But cortisol is one of thosehormones that can be kind of
confusing to make an assumptionabout when we say, okay, well,
when I'm working with Sarah, isher cortisol high or is it low?
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Is it doing okay?
What can we deduce about hercortisol?
Because it is such an importanthormone for your hormonal
health and for your menstrualcycle health.
But anyway, just saying okay,what are we making assumptions
about when it comes to yourcortisol and how can we verify
that?
Now, that's why, with myone-on-one clients, more often
than not we will use some typeof functional lab testing.
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We'll either use a GI map forthose gals who are really
focusing on their gut health.
Alternatively, sometimes we'lluse a Dutch test when we want to
take a deeper look into yourhormones and hormone balance,
like cortisol.
I had another client who I wasworking with recently and we
learned something reallyinteresting through her Dutch
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test what was going on with hercortisol and cortisone.
Because even though she waslike, hey, bridget, luckily, you
know, things are going well,I'm not very stressed.
I think she reported her stressas kind of a four out of ten.
She's like no, I feel stresswise pretty good.
It's just that her cycle wasgetting a little bit crazy.
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It was coming further andfurther apart.
So we're trying to figure outwhy.
Well, what we saw in her testresults was that her cortisol
levels were super low, likesuper, super low.
We were, we were shocked.
She was shocked because we'relike you, didn't?
You know?
You have good energy levelsthroughout the day.
You're feeling like you havekind of what you need as far as
fuel in the tank.
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Yet what we can see through thispanel is that your adrenal
glands are not producing a wholelot of cortisol.
So I say that to say that's oneof the really good things, one
of the really supportive thingsabout taking a look at
functional testing, because wewould have never been able to
guess that, or that's just notsomething we would have said,
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huh, okay.
Well, let's really get focusedon how we can support your
adrenal glands and help themhave the nutrients that they
need, the food in your diet thatwill best support your adrenal
glands, and especially since thehormones that your adrenal
glands make those kind of,cascade down and turn into your
sex hormones.
So using functional lab testingcan be really helpful for that.
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And just bringing this back,you're like okay, bridget, you
went down a little rabbit holehere.
But this is just to say thatwhen we're thinking of
perfectionists, if you feel likethis resonates with you and you
want to do everything the rightway, you're really putting your
100% in all the time that can,after a while, have an impact on
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your adrenal glands what'sgoing on and that just impacts
everything else when it comes toyour hormones.
So hopefully that makes sense,because if you are a
perfectionist and if you'remultitasking, come back to me,
my friend.
But if you're a perfectionist,I really want to of your stress
levels.
Take care of your stress levels.
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Take care of your stress levelsso that they're not getting out
of control and you're nothaving these second and third
order impacts of too much stress.
I want to wrap up this episodewith three
perfectionist-friendly startertips so you can just dip your
toes in the water a little bitand start to implement, or just
think about implementing, acouple of ideas that will help
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you to, yes, support yourhormone balance, but also to do
so in a way that isn't superrigid it doesn't have to be the
same exact thing every day andyou can really start to see how
your body responds to thesechanges.
So the first thing that I haveto offer for you is seed cycling
.
Seed cycling is this practiceof rotating through different
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seeds, incorporating them intoyour diet, depending on where
you're at in your menstrualcycle.
So if you're somebody who has apretty predictable cycle length
, you know it's about 27 daysevery month, it's about 32 days
every month.
Whatever that looks like foryou.
If you can estimate that great,in the first half of your cycle
you'll incorporate about atablespoon of pumpkin seed and a
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tablespoon of flax seeds eachday in that first half, then
move into the second half ofyour cycle and that's when
you'll incorporate about atablespoon of sunflower seeds
and a tablespoon of sesame seedsor tahini for those last two
weeks, that last half of thecycle.
This is a good way to helpsupport your natural hormone
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production as well as yourhormone elimination processes,
naturally.
And so if you are aperfectionist who loves to have
something clear that you canincorporate, yet something that
is still flexible right, becauseit's not the same seeds all
month long I know you got thatThen this could be a good
starting point for you andsomething exciting to start
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seeing how does your bodyrespond and start making
decisions based on where you'reat in your cycle.
So incorporate that if thatfeels good for you.
Now, a second thing I want tosuggest here would be to focus
on incorporating a savorybreakfast.
If you've been listening for ahot minute and you have yet to
incorporate your savorybreakfast, today is the day.
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Today is the day.
I'm looking at you, I'm makingeye contact with you.
If you haven't incorporatedyour savory breakfast, I guess
tomorrow is the day to start it.
Ditch the smoothie or at leastmake it a super protein, heavy
and fat forward smoothie, butlike let's get some real food.
Remember you don't have to eat.
Just quote unquote breakfastfoods for breakfast, you can eat
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whatever you want.
We're adults, we can dowhatever we want here, but
getting in this breakfast thathas a bunch of protein, a bunch
of good healthy fats, that'sgoing to support your blood
sugar levels throughout the day.
That's going to give you theenergy that you need to stay
consistent, stay focusedthroughout your workday, which
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your perfectionist brain willlove.
Now the third and finalrecommendation that I've got for
you is to do a clean skincareaudit.
Your skin is going to absorbeverything, including endocrine
disrupting chemicals that can bein products which can impact
your cycle of regularity,because they make your body a
little bit confused and thinkthat basically, you have more
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estrogens in your system thanwhat you actually do.
So download an app like Yuka,y-u-k-a, or Think Dirty, figure
out what's the system that worksfor you, where you can pretty
much use it to scan barcodes inthe store.
Just make sure that you'repicking beauty products or
skincare products anything thatgoes on your skin and make sure
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that it doesn't have any ofthese pesky chemicals in it that
could be, you know, reallyholding you back from the
progress and the transformationthat you want to see in your
period.
So that is about all for today,just starting out this
conversation on perfectionism.
When you come back forThursday's episode, I'm going to
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talk more about this how toimplement these practices
imperfectly, because that's thesecret sauce.
When it comes to health, aswith many things in life, there
aren't a whole lot of thingsthat you have to do absolutely
perfectly right.
100% perfection is not neededin order to see a big
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transformation in your hormonesand in your gut health.
So come back on Thursday forthat.
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