Sex tends to be an important, connective aspect of intimate relationships. But all too often, couples find that they have different sex drives or encounter other sexual issues that leave one or both partners feeling stressed or dissatisfied. This can be especially troublesome when a couple experiences great sex while dating – an indicator that sexual compatibility is high – only to face an inexplicable disconnection down the line. Over time, I've found that even when other aspects of a romantic relationship are going well, a disruption in sexual intimacy can have far-reaching effects, including reducing self-esteem, fostering resentment, and even triggering infidelity.
Today, I'm joined by Dr. Kate Balestrieri, a top-notch psychologist, certified sex therapist, and author who will help us uncover the secrets to healthy – and happy – sexual intimacy. Topics discussed include sex, sexual intimacy, trauma, connection, love languages, touch, desire discrepancy, libido, low sex drive, menopause, perimenopause, depression, self-protection, defense mechanisms, stress, guilt, blame, shame, passion, desire, fidelity agreement, infidelity, solo sex, date nights, massage, self-pleasure, intimacy, and communication.
Please note that this episode contains sensitive material; listener discretion is advised.
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Books by Dr. Carla Manly:
Joy from Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Joy-Fear-Carla-Marie-Manly/dp/1641701218
Date Smart: https://www.amazon.com/Date-Smart-Transform-Relationships-Fearlessly/dp/1641704675
Aging Joyfully: https://www.amazon.com/Aging-Joyfully-Optimal-Relationships-Fulfillment/dp/1641701412
The Joy of Imperfect Love: https://www.amazon.com/Joy-Imperfect-Love-Creating-Relationships/dp/1641709057
Oracle decks by Dr. Carla Manly:
Etsy: https://www.etsy.com/listing/1757477615/imperfect-love-reflection-oracle-cards
Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Imperfect-Love-Reflection-Orac
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