June 24, 2025 • 57 mins
The pursuit of authenticity often requires breaking free from everything you've been taught to believe about yourself. In this soul-stirring conversation with viral sensation Khian KB, we journey from small-town limitations to global recognition, uncovering what it truly means to step into your power.
Khian opens up about the jarring reality behind social media stardom—having two million followers while struggling financially—and how understanding the business side of creativity ultimately transformed his career. "I had to learn the game," he shares, revealing how brands initially tried to underpay him despite the massive visibility he provided. This raw transparency offers a crucial perspective for aspiring creators navigating similar waters.
Beyond the numbers, our conversation delves into the emotional and spiritual dimensions of Khian's evolution. After living 17 years in the closet, dimming his light to make others comfortable, Khian describes the liberation that came from embracing his truth. "I broke out of that darkness and ever since, it feels like the world is my playground," he reflects. His spiritual awakening, including a pivotal moment when his house burned down, becoming the catalyst that forced him to relocate and pursue his dreams, demonstrates how setbacks often serve as divine redirections.
Fashion emerges as a powerful theme throughout our discussion. For Khian, clothing isn't just fabric—it's a language that allows him to honor both his masculinity and femininity without constraint. "Fashion is fun," he insists, challenging the notion that we should limit our self-expression based on others' perceptions. His parting wisdom resonates deeply: take baby steps outside your comfort zone, practice being uncomfortable, and remember that growth happens when you're pushed beyond familiar boundaries.
Ready to embrace your authentic self? Listen now and discover why, in Khian's words, "What other people think about you is not your business." Then join our community of freedom-seekers who are learning to shine brightly without apology.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Yeah, shine like glitter.
Let the light in your life getbigger.
I'm in the sky, high, I'm thewinner, big and bright like a
diamond.
I'm a shaker, I'm a shaker.
You welcome, hello, hello,hello, welcome back to In the
(00:23):
Passenger Seat with yourpositivity queen.
It's your girl, alethea Crimins.
What's good, everybody.
Did you miss me?
I know that you did.
I know that you did.
I hope that your week wasfilled with all types of
wonderfulness.
Okay, because I know that minewas, and we had a good day.
On what Purpose?
And we were great in that.
What Face?
(00:44):
Okay, y'all know I already gota show ready for y'all.
Listen, before I introduce thisguest, before I bring my guest
up, let me just cue this clip,because if you do not know who
he is yet, this moment righthere is going to be the one
(01:06):
because, baby, he had theinternet on lock.
Okay, on lock, and my spirit onfire.
Speaker 2 (01:17):
Excuse me, you guys are in my way.
Go a little bit that way.
Oh my god, excuse me, go alittle bit that way, that's just
scary.
Oh my god, jesus, don't recordme, ma'am, I charge.
How much?
Uh, too much for you.
Oh my god, be honest, sir.
This made your day.
Alright, give me a smile.
There we are, darling.
That's what it's all about.
I'm gonna be honest.
(01:44):
You guys shouldn't be in here.
You know that.
That's why you're looking likethat, and it's fine, it's fine.
Excuse me, you guys are in myway.
Yo, thank you so so much.
How is everyone today?
Speaker 3 (01:59):
Don't care, no way.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Can you do me a favor ?
You're tall.
Get that off the top shelf.
Don't say the name, becausethis is not an ad.
Don't get smart with me,darling.
Thank you.
Now you guys take it easy.
Speaker 3 (02:14):
You're in my way.
You're in my way, Sorry in themood Excuse me.
Speaker 1 (02:20):
Okay, do you see what I mean?
Iconic, iconic, iconic.
Okay.
So today in the passenger seat,it's going to be a whole vibe,
a whole, entire vibe.
Hailing from a small town inGeorgia, he said no, thank you
to limiting belief and carvedout his own lane in media.
(02:41):
Okay, content creation andexpression.
He went from comedy videos tocollabs with Disney, airbnb,
spotify.
Baby, we are talking about awhole brand, and he was even
nominated for the Queer Tease.
Okay, baby, he is not new tothis.
(03:04):
He is true to this.
Okay, let's welcome to in thepassenger seat and no, aka that
was such a beautiful intro.
Speaker 3 (03:16):
I was just smiling so hard, I was just like like I'm
because you are iconic like I.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
I need you to know and understand that you are an
icon and if nobody has not toldyou I, I will tell you that you
are a freaking icon I appreciatethat so much.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
That means a lot like I've come a long way in my
journey.
So to be living in these daysand just like just in my energy
and doing what I love, and justlike seeing the, the positive
response to doing what I love,it's like that that feels good.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
So yeah, I'm still like.
I was just like, oh, like, letme get a moment, hold on, I need
a moment, get your moment, getyour take, take a moment, take
your moment because you deserveit, and a lot of times we don't
get our moments, so I wanted togive you your flowers right now.
Speaker 3 (04:17):
I appreciate that.
I appreciate that so much.
It's hard out here for us.
We gotta work a little harder.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
It's hard out here, you know, for for us it's hard,
you know, we gotta, we gottawork a little harder.
It's hard out here for a pimpwe do, because you know, a lot
of times people will try to tryto do what you do.
Um, you know people that umdon't look like us and try to do
the same thing that you do, andso it's harder because you have
(04:46):
to work 10, 20 times as hard.
Yeah, just to, oh, yeah, get tothat level.
Speaker 3 (04:52):
Oh honey, you are preaching to the choir but you
learn a lot when you work hardfor it.
So you know it's alwayslongevity and like working hard
and even though you know thingsmay be harder for you, it's
always longevity and likeworking hard and even though you
know things may be harder foryou, it's just working hard.
Like with me, like with socialmedia.
It took me so long to be ableto quit a job like I sacrificed
(05:16):
so much for social media and Ihad two million followers and
was broke.
Million followers and was broke.
You know, like I had all thesefollowers, all these views and
was broke like you know.
You, if you know, you know youcan't like depend on the creator
fund, you know you cannot.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
Because people see the two million followers, three
million followers and think, ohmy god, like they must be
making money.
But our money does not comefrom that.
Like you can't live off of that.
Like our money comes from branddeals, our money comes from
getting bookings yeah,definitely 100, and I remember I
(05:55):
was.
Speaker 3 (05:55):
So I was like, okay.
So in the midst of it I waslike you know what, I do have
two million followers, like it'sokay, like brands were even
ripping me off with the branddeals.
They were trying to pay me onlylike $500, or you know what I
mean $1,000.
And I'm making them go viral,I'm giving them millions of
(06:16):
views and they only paying like$1,500, $1,000.
So it's like it took me aminute to learn the game,
because you know, like with me,I learned how to get people's
attention, learned how to getthe views, but I didn't
understand the business at first.
And you don't understand thebusiness and show business they
will.
Or like I feel like withanything, if you don't
(06:36):
understand the business, youwill get ripped off, like you
know.
And it's just back to what wewere saying, with it being
harder.
Or my strategy was I was like Ineed to become marketable and I
don't know if I should say this, but it's like at first I had
(06:59):
to be, I had to look marketable,I had to up my content, plug in
more things I had to show andthis is like the.
This is the.
This is the kind of weird thingabout it.
Like you have to show thesebrands that hey, you can work
with me, like you.
Can you know what I mean?
Like I don't know, it's just,it's just layers to it.
(07:24):
And then like people trying tostart social media and they're
doing it for the money.
And I always tell people do itbecause you love it, because the
money is not always gonna bethere even no matter how big it
is, you know, like.
So like you gotta do it becauseyou love it.
Like you can't be discouragedbecause of views, because of
money, because of just you justgotta do it because you love it,
(07:45):
it's in you.
It gotta be discouraged becauseof views, because of money,
because of just you just gottado it because you love it, it's
in you, it gotta be in you, itgotta be something in you.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
Views views go up and down, like you never know what
the like algorithm will do, likeeven me, like I'm like at some
points I'm like way up there andright now the engagement is
there, but the numbers are notyeah and you can't let yourself
(08:13):
get like oh well, you know andsometimes it's hard because
social media plays a very uhmental oh yeah yeah, it's, it's
very mental because if if wewould let the numbers and things
get to us, it would reallyaffect us mentally and just like
(08:36):
how you quit, quit your job.
I've taught for 15 years and Icouldn't balance teaching and
this world anymore, so I had tokind of take a leap and have
faith in myself.
Speaker 3 (08:56):
Oh yeah, to know that I could do this oh yeah, and
that's all it take is that faithand that work and that, just
like you know, that like I don'tknow.
It's a feeling you can'texplain, that you got to have,
like, you just got to have thatdrive, that flame, like, and
nothing can take that away fromyou, because it's just like a
(09:19):
calling.
It's like God is telling youyou're more.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
Yeah, it's a calling, and that is the word God is
telling you.
You're more.
Yeah, it's a calling and thatis the word God is telling you
that you are more.
You are more than what youthink you are.
You are more than what you'resettling for.
You are more.
So go out there and be more.
And we both come from smalltowns, oh yeah.
(09:42):
So from you, coming from asmall town in Georgia, like, did
you ever imagine that you wouldbe where you are now working
with Disney, walking red carpets, like building a global
platform?
Like did you ever think, ohyeah, this, this will be, be my
life one day?
Speaker 3 (10:03):
You want me to be completely honest.
I always knew this is howstrong-minded, how strong-willed
, how I like, I knew I was gonnabe where I am today.
That's how like I'm delusional.
You gotta be a littledelusional, you gotta you do you
, gotta you gotta already bethere you gotta already think
like you're there you
Speaker 1 (10:24):
know, I'll say that all the time.
Speaker 3 (10:25):
I say that all the time you know, it's like you're
mentally there but you'rewaiting on the physical reality
to catch up to what you feelinside.
So it's just like I always knewI was gonna be where I am.
But when you're there, it's adifferent feeling.
It's like you knew you wasgonna be here, but it's like
dang, I'm really here, like Ireally did it.
You know what I mean, like I,you knew you was going to be
here, but it's like, dang, I'mreally here, like I really did
(10:45):
it.
You know what I mean, like youknow.
And then you just startappreciating that journey and
like you just, and then you justwant more, you want.
You know, if I can do this, Ican do that.
And then you know let's getthis started and let's let's
venture out into this.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
And this, this, this.
This is why I now have my ownpodcast, because it's like, well
, if I can do this, then I canhave a podcast, and so, off my
podcast, I now also have a likemagazine, so it's like, um, I'm
built like I'm you gotta do.
I'm building this.
It's like, well, if I, if Icould do this and I could do
that, and if I could do that andI could do this.
So it's like you always have todare yourself to go one level
(11:30):
up, like you have to believethat you can go one level up,
but what can I do next?
What can?
Speaker 3 (11:37):
I do next.
But I feel like, for the peoplelistening that are like, are
trying to do a lot of things, Ialso believe in making sure that
that one cup is full.
That's what I believe in.
I think let's say TikTok, right, make sure your TikTok stuff is
(12:02):
booming.
Make sure cup number one isbooming.
Your TikTok stuff is booming.
Make sure cup number one isbooming.
When that start picking up this,that and the third, that cup
start overfilling, use thatexcess water that's falling out
of that cup to put into anothercup.
Because what happened, what Iused to do is I used to fill 20
cups at one time and it's justspreading out your energy
(12:26):
instead of putting a lot of yourenergy into one thing, building
that one thing and then goingon to another thing, building
that thing and then like,because you know it, it is
harder to maintain a lot ofother things when you dive into
a whole bunch.
So I just I believe in likefilling that, filling the cups
first, like making sureeverything's good, making sure
(12:47):
you know, like I don't know,like that's just what I believe
in and I don't know that.
I feel like that's what took meso long to venture out into
other things, because I wantedto make sure my TikTok stuff was
good.
I wanted to make sure, if Ifocus on this, this isn't, my
TikTok isn't going to go down orlike.
You know what I mean.
Oh, cause, you know I don't.
I hope you get where I'm comingfrom.
Speaker 1 (13:08):
No, I know, I, I, I get it because and I've, I've,
I've feel like I was meant totalk to you because it's like
you know when, when, when youtry to feel several cups, it's
like certain things go lacking.
Speaker 3 (13:27):
Oh, yeah, exactly.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
Certain things go lacking.
All of your cups are like thisfull and it's like well, why
can't I fill one cup?
Because, like you, keep pouringinto all these cups, yeah.
So it's like you'll never haveone cup that's full, exactly,
and I love how you said let thatone cup overflow and then let
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that overflow be the thing thatfills up your other cup.
I've been listening.
God makes no mistakes you weremeant to be on this podcast
today because I needed you tospeak.
To speak, okay, oh she got avoice hold on y'all.
Speaker 3 (14:09):
She got a voice oh, that, that's your next cup is
singing yep, oh, I can't wait tocome to a performance.
I've been waiting, oh.
Speaker 1 (14:22):
Lord, not speaking it over my life.
Come on now, okay.
Speaker 3 (14:27):
Go ahead.
Hey, there you go.
God says sing, you sung.
I said let me tell yousomething, stop, stop, stop.
Speaker 1 (14:37):
I mean I do a little ooze and I stop.
Speaker 3 (14:42):
No, listen, no, no, I heard that, look, I'm envious
of people that can sing, becauseif I could sing, like I'm
envious of people that don'treally use their voice and can
sing.
I'm like, what is you doing?
Like, use that, but I get itbecause I can draw, I can play
the piano and I don't feel likedoing it like I don't want to
(15:02):
perform piano, I just like toplay it, so I get it.
But you know singing I can't doso.
I'm like y'all need to besinging using that voice.
Speaker 2 (15:12):
I'm like.
Speaker 3 (15:12):
I'm like the NBA y'all need to be using that,
because if I had it, I'd beusing it, you know, like I don't
know, because I'd be trying tosing, like in the shower, like I
love Beyonce, I love like helloby Beyonce, I love, like you
know, uh, what's the song?
Um, how I go, I don't know, butit's just very emotional.
(15:33):
It's very like I feel like hermusic is very deep and her voice
is so amazing and I'll betrying to sing beyonce and um to
me I sound good, but when Irecord myself, because listen
I'm delusional, I'm delusionalas hell I'll until I record
myself.
That's why I stopped recordingmyself.
(15:54):
I just let myself be delusional, because when you record
yourself you're like what, likewho?
I think I'm never singing again.
I've never.
I think you should sing for me,but I feel like, no matter what
I think, I think you have anamazing voice.
From what I've heard, I doCause like you already got the
(16:18):
voice.
Like do some Some vocalcoaching, or something Like not
vocal coaching, but like getvocal lessons.
I don't know, I'm sure Beyoncego to vocal lessons Every day,
or something Like not vocalcoaching, but like get vocal
lessons.
I don't know, I'm sure Beyoncego to vocal lessons every day or
something.
Oh yes, honey, like you know,like.
Speaker 1 (16:32):
Not you trying to give me the thing and just be a
singer.
Speaker 3 (16:37):
No, I'm just saying use that talent you know, use
everything.
Well, you know, my like introsong is is me now I gotta, now I
gotta spin it back and listento it.
I'm gonna call you.
I'm like can I get yourautograph?
Speaker 1 (16:52):
like you're good at like 20 things, I just want your
autograph you get on my nerves,you get on my nerves, so okay,
so you talk about breaking freefrom, like, traditional thinking
.
Oh yeah, and what?
What was that moment that madeyou say like I'm going to just
(17:14):
live differently, even if theydon't get it, I'm, I'm gonna do
it you know I I lived 17 yearsof my life in the closet.
Speaker 3 (17:26):
I hid myself.
I dimmed my light.
For other people like I waspeople pleasing, I dimmed my
light, so other people couldn'tbe happy, you know.
So, living my life in the closet, not not even knowing I'm gay.
I just know I'm different.
I never really explored that,that you know, that that layer
of my mind for real, becauseit's like I was taught.
(17:48):
That's wrong, you know, and Ihad, like a, you know, my dad.
I was scared of my dad growingup so I just kept it.
You know, I was just like I'mnot, I'm not that, I'm just
different.
You know, I'm just weird.
And I hid myself for 17 years,came out.
Well, let me backtrack when Iwas 17, I met a best friend,
(18:10):
jarrell, and he was openly gayand we was working together.
And that's how we met.
And at this time I knew I wasgay.
I just didn't want to come out.
I thought I was going to thegrave with it.
But, to fast forward the story,he showed me what freedom
looked like because he was hewas.
(18:31):
He's very, very feminine, likevery talks like a girl, get his
hair done like a girl, like veryfeminine, and I needed that
around me, like he.
He helped me evolve in a waylike that.
You know, I just needed to befeel free and he allowed me to
feel free because no matter whatI did in his face.
(18:52):
He wouldn't call it, you know,he wouldn't call it weird.
Speaker 1 (18:55):
Weird or different.
Speaker 3 (18:57):
Exactly or different.
But I was already doing YouTubearound this time and I was
asking God, I'm like why, why amI not doing good?
Like I take hours to edit?
I was already doing YouTubearound this time and I was
asking God, I'm like why, why amI not doing good?
Like I take hours to edit.
I was writing scripts.
I was just like I was.
I was on my grind, like I'vealways been on my grind, but
like I was like why am I notgetting the, the views, the, the
, and you know, I wasn't livingmy truth.
(19:19):
My energy wasn't flowing forreal, so fast forward again.
Energy wasn't flowing for real,so fast forward again.
I went through a phase in mylife of like spiritual awakening
and I remember I was meditatingand I was sitting on the couch.
I was like God, if you're real,you should give me a sign.
And I went to the grocery storeand this lady, just randomly we
(19:42):
were checking out she justrandomly said God loves you.
That's when I woke up to God.
I allow God in my life.
I started meditating.
I started like getting you know,like searching within, cause I
also have a lot of traumagrowing up, like with, like you
know, there's a lot of stuffgoing on in my life, so it's
just like I've never really hadthe chance to sit with myself
and be like, how do I feel, like, how am I Like?
(20:02):
Am I okay, you know?
So I finally started doing thatinner work.
You know, moved to Georgia,started doing that inner work
and when I really got to thepoint where I was like, you know
what, I'm gonna live my life,no matter what yes, no matter
what Like I broke out of thatdarkness and ever since it just
(20:26):
feels like the world is myplayground.
Like, once you get out of that,like you know, like the
spiritual side, like we're inthe matrix, nothing around you.
Really, you know what I meanLike we all need.
Speaker 1 (20:37):
Definitely, sometimes you have to find yourself by
yourself, exactly yourself byyourself, and exactly that that
journey is is hard because, justjust like you said, like you
have to dig deep within.
But within is where all thetrauma is, within is where all
that pain is.
But the key is, yes, that painhappened to you, but but it
(21:01):
cannot become you Exactly that'sthe thing it's not letting that
pain become who you are.
Listen, I as well as the world,we are glad that you said I'm
going to do my own thing and youfound yourself.
Oh definitely, we are very happyabout it.
(21:24):
So wait, let's talk about thiswalk the walk.
It was the moment, like whatwas going through your head when
you in, when you actuallystarted doing the the walk, and
what, what was going throughyour head when it blew up, like,
(21:45):
did you know that this wasgoing to be life-changing with
with this walk?
Speaker 3 (21:50):
I didn't.
I didn't.
You know, it was just like aviral moment I was with.
I was with some of my collegefriends I didn't go to college,
but they were in college and wewere at her dorm and you know
I'm filming videos like not forme but for them, but we were
just chilling and I was justmaking goofy content Like.
I was just like very free.
(22:11):
You know, I didn't care what Iposted, I'm just having fun
doing what I love to do.
And I was like I know aboutthat trend that's like don't
come in here with that BS.
And the guy like dancing comingin with the BS.
So I was like, okay, I'm gonnado this walk.
I vogue.
At the time I was like new tovogue.
Speaker 1 (22:28):
I'm like getting into vogue and dancing and all that
like trying to free my body Iknew that you were a vulgar
because I was like ain't no way,he can just duck along, just
just just cause I wouldn't sayI'm a boker, but I do vogue a
little bit Like I like to feelmy tuna a little bit.
Speaker 3 (22:46):
You know, it's just in me, you know.
Yes, you know, I haven't evenwent to my first ball yet, but
I'm going to go.
When I go to New York, I'mgoing, I don't care.
Okay, yeah, but it felt like Idon't know, it was just a viral
moment at first.
I just kept doing it Like thiswas before the Bob right.
(23:08):
So I'm just doing the vlog andI'm just like making skits out
of it and it was just consistentviews and I was just like, oh,
they love it and I love it andlove.
So why not keep going?
You know?
Speaker 1 (23:20):
And I kept going, going in like stores and all
kind of stuff.
Speaker 3 (23:24):
It just I was just like, listen, it evolved, like
just evolved.
Like I was just like, oh, wecan do this and we can do it.
And my friends helped me andI'm just like, okay, because,
like cameraman, you get so closewith the cameraman, now he
creative.
I'm like, oh, you, finna, gethired, okay.
Speaker 1 (23:42):
Okay, but when?
So what was the moment that itchanged from oh, but this is
this like cute little you knowskits to where Edno was born?
Speaker 3 (23:54):
Okay.
So I wore my hair down.
I got curly hair, I got a lotof hair and I had, like the Edno
uniform.
I used to wear it because Ithought it was cute.
Okay, edno just came around andjust took that from me, it's
fine.
But I used to just wear thatbecause it was cute and I wore
it.
I was doing the walk, had myhair down, got my hair down and
(24:16):
somebody commented Edna Mode andI was like, hmm, let me go on
Amazon and get that wig.
Speaker 1 (24:24):
So, baby, and when you put on that wig on like it
was the worst and they say itwas history, history.
Speaker 3 (24:35):
It takes a lot.
It took a lot to be able to dothat.
You know what I mean.
It took some I don't give afuck energy Like.
I'm having fun, I'm gonna havefun and live my life and you
know, I'm gonna, just I'm gonnado it, fuck it.
Speaker 1 (24:49):
So, like you've, you've managed to stay in your
own lane Like no copying anybody, no gimmicks.
Like you are just you.
How do you stay grounded andlike authentic in this world
that's constantly trying to putyou in a box?
Speaker 3 (25:10):
taking time off social media.
I feel like that's importantfor me, like stepping away, like
when I get to scrolling toomuch, or just like you know.
You know like I just got tostep away Because, like, if my
mind ain't right, my work, theenergy I output ain't going to
be right.
So I just got to make sure mymind is right, make sure my mind
is grounded.
And it's so hard, it's so hard,Like in this business.
Speaker 1 (25:33):
it's so hard.
This takes a toll on you, sohard.
Speaker 3 (25:35):
Oh my God, like I'm trying to get myself out of a
little hold right now, like you,I'm like, but just like
recentering, like never losingyourself, cause it's so easy to
lose yourself in this business.
You're seeing everybody else,you're, you're observing
everybody else.
(25:56):
You're trying to make thisamount of money.
You trying to, you know, get inthe algorithm how you used to
be.
I don't know, you know, it'sjust like different things can
just deter.
It's just a lot.
Speaker 1 (26:07):
You know, I feel like we can have a whole podcast
just focus just talking aboutthat, because but I, I, I know
one thing about you, justlistening to you, that I love
and that I admire is that howyou bring God into everything
that you do.
In fact, you said that God isyour biggest inspiration and you
(26:29):
can feel that in your work.
So how has your faith guidedyou through the highs and lows
of your journey?
Speaker 3 (26:42):
faith guided you through the highs and lows of
your journey.
I don't see when I one, when Ifound God, that was one thing I
was like I knew.
I always felt somebody aroundme.
I know it was you, god.
You know like I've never feltalone.
I've never.
I've always felt like somebodyor something, or just a feeling
is around me, protecting me whenI'm going through dark times.
Just a feeling is around me,protecting me when I'm going
through dark times, but like myfaith, also mixed with like
spirituality, like keepingmyself focused, keeping my
(27:07):
energy right, keeping my Because, like you know, if you're not
right, sometimes God can't getthrough to you.
So you got to make sure thetemple is right.
Speaker 1 (27:12):
Listen, you know.
Come on, my pastor, preach,preach, preach, preach.
Speaker 3 (27:15):
The antenna's got to be able to catch the signals.
So it's like just making suremy mind is right and just like
you know, when God is tellingyou to move, because, like I
don't know, I don't know, butwith me, god will tell me to
move and I won't listen, I'mlike, no, I'm scared.
I'm scared and he'll dosomething and make you move.
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He burnt my house down.
He did.
That's what forced me to new orno, that's what forced me to
atlanta.
And that's when I reallystarted, like you know, because
and he was like, okay, because Iwas going to atlanta I was like
venturing out, doing somenetworking, collabing.
But then I come back toTaylorsville and stay for a
(27:59):
couple weeks and just like, andGod is like, what are you doing?
You need to be out there.
Still, why are you in the nest?
You scared.
Speaker 1 (28:07):
You uncomfortable.
Speaker 3 (28:08):
You supposed to be uncomfortable?
Get back out there.
Speaker 1 (28:11):
I was just about to say, like sometimes God will
make us uncomfortable becauselisten, because this is where
you need to be Exactly.
He wants you to grow, but weare like starting our own growth
, staying where it's comfortable, but comfortable is not always
(28:34):
what you need.
Like you need to beuncomfortable, like you need to
get out that nest, because likeI love how you said that Because
in order for a baby bird to fly, that mama bird will push it,
that mama bird will push thatwhole little baby bird out that
nest Because that's the only waythat she knows that it will fly
(28:57):
.
And sometimes God will do thesame thing.
He will push you so that youcan fly, literally.
You gotta do it, you have to doit.
Speaker 3 (29:11):
You got to, and then eventually you'll get used to
being in uncomfortablesituations, to the point where
it don't even phase you, likeyou know you're uncomfortable,
but you're like this is exactlywhere I need to be to grow.
Because you grow so much whenyou're uncomfortable, like you
just grow so much and it's justlike you just appreciate the
uncomfortable moments, like it'sjust they turn into beautiful
(29:33):
moments, like the outcome iseven more beautiful, like I
don't know, it's just I love me.
Speaker 1 (29:50):
We done brought the podcast to church now, okay,
okay let me just tell you this Iam looking at you and I'm
loving your whole aesthetic,your whole vibe, and I love that
.
I know that you love dressingup.
How has fashion played a partin your identity, in your
(30:13):
creativity?
What has fashion done for you?
Speaker 3 (30:20):
fashion for me.
It made me look at myself indifferent lenses.
It it helped me feel morebetter like I don't know, like
clothes to me, like what I haveon depicts on it, like it
changes my mood, like if I'mlooking good, but mind you, but
(30:45):
mind you, you also got to feelgood when you're not looking
good.
Working on it, come on workingon it.
Speaker 1 (30:53):
All these little sermons, honey, come on.
All these little sermons, theselittle sermons.
Speaker 3 (30:59):
You know.
So for me, you know, when Iwear clothes that I feel good.
I also like to, I like to weara masculine look, sometimes to
embrace my masculinity.
You know, like you, know I liketo wear some feminine stuff to
embrace my femininity, you know,and it's just like I just have
fun with it.
Speaker 1 (31:19):
You know, I don't even even have, I don't think I
have a personal style, I justlike clothes like I'm just
because fashion is fun, like,yeah, don't, don't make fashion
so serious, it's not fashion,it's fun.
Fashion is self-expression.
So, however you feel in thatmoment, dress the part and don't
(31:39):
worry about who's looking,who's not looking.
What other people think aboutyou is not your fucking business
, it's not.
Speaker 3 (31:47):
Just let them think, child, listen, just dress
because you're dressing for youand not the world yeah, I feel
like it's so hard for people andI want my thing is, I want to
inspire people to be more likeoutgoing, but it's so hard.
I feel like a lot of peopleneed examples, like they need
(32:08):
like a best friend, that's likethat, or like they need a I
don't know, but it's it's somany people in that cocoon
that's scared to wear certainstuff or scared to step out
their comfort zone and it's justlike it's so free on the other
side, Like even my friends, likeI be telling them like it's
free.
It's free on the other side,just live Like.
Speaker 1 (32:31):
And you, you've been showing different sides of
yourself outside of you know,like you, you've been showing
different sides of yourselfoutside of you know, like you've
been showing different sides ofyourself outside of your work.
What has that experience beenlike?
Like revealing that you're notjust her, yeah, that you're KB,
(32:54):
honey.
Like this is me, exactly,exactly this is me.
Yeah, like look, look, look atme exactly.
Speaker 3 (33:02):
I feel like, um, it's been, it's been fun.
They've been taking it well.
Like my, my fear in thebeginning was I was gonna get
known for just this rightbecause, like before I had some,
I had some consistent views.
You know, I had like 700 000.
I was just, you know, talkingshit with my best friend like
tag.
That one friend like I was.
I was that content creator.
So like I'm kind of used to it,you know.
(33:26):
But now in my career it's kindof like how can I show myself
without losing the?
I don't even know how to put it.
How can I show myself withoutbeing too much?
I don't even know how to put it.
How can I show myself withoutbeing too much?
Like I don't want them to thinkI'm changing content or
whatever?
Speaker 2 (33:44):
Okay, okay, you know.
Speaker 3 (33:46):
So it's kind of like finding that balance and finding
that lane to the point where Ican do skits with just me doing
skits, with Edno doing skits,solely just Edno, you know it's
been fun that two can exist atthe same time, exactly.
So it's fun, I feel like,because I don't really look at
(34:09):
the views, I know when I dostuff like that it ain't going
to hit, it ain't going to bemillions, so I don't really it
don't bother me too much.
I'm also saying that because Igot some.
I got some deals on the way, soI'm confident and shit.
I'm confident.
I'm like I don't care about theviews, like I'm going to get
paid anyway.
(34:29):
I'm just kidding.
Speaker 1 (34:35):
But anyway.
So, speaking of brand deals,like you have with everything
that you've built, brand deals,viral content, like you just
fashion, just you building youwhat's next on your dream list,
(34:55):
like Like what's on your visionboard?
Speaker 3 (34:59):
See, my thing is, I'm so free and like I might get an
idea out of nowhere.
God might just give me an idea,my antenna's on, he might just
drop me an idea, and I'm just,like I'm finna, do that.
Like I'm finna, I was finna, Iwas finna, expose something, but
(35:19):
I can't say that yet.
But I'll take that and let youknow what it is.
Speaker 1 (35:24):
Well, when you're ready to come on back, because
we gonna be ready for it, okay,but look, I'm gonna give you my
number after the show, so likeyou can be like listen.
Speaker 3 (35:35):
We locked in.
Speaker 1 (35:36):
Listen, we locked the show so like you can be like I
got, yeah, we locked it like Icouldn't say it.
Speaker 3 (35:43):
But listen, bitch, but yeah, so I don't know it's,
I'm just so free, like whatever,whatever ideas I have, you know
, I just I just put it out there.
Right now I'm focusing onshowing more me, um, being a
little bit more consistent withposting and just like just
having more fun.
I did get stuck in the loop ofa creator where I'm like it felt
like work, like it felt like Ihad, so I had to step back and
(36:06):
just be like I have to rememberto have fun with it, the way
that you are speaking to myspirit.
Speaker 1 (36:13):
I'm, I'm, I'm telling you this, this was this, like
you were meant to.
Because you have been likedropping things that I needed to
hear Speaking of, which we havenow come to my favorite segment
of the podcast oh, God, I'mnervous.
(36:34):
I'm nervous.
So this is where you, myviewers, send in questions for
myself and my guests to answer.
So let's get into the AskAlethea question.
Okay, today's question isAlethea how do you create
(36:58):
boundaries with friends who turntheir back on you, especially
when it feels like jealousy isinvolved?
I will let you take the centerstage first.
Kb, kb.
Speaker 3 (37:14):
Just get on, you don't need that energy.
Just go Run Far, don't stoprunning.
Get away, just get on, don't lether energy get to you, it'll
disrupt what you got going on.
No, you don't want to be aroundnobody like that.
Surround yourself with peoplethat bring light, that give you
(37:36):
confidence, hype you up, thatshow you love.
A lot of I found out.
A lot of people don't know whata true friend feel like and I'm
sorry for a lot of people.
But at least be that truefriend to yourself you got
yourself.
Come on, talk to yourself likejust cause I had to go through
phases where I'm like I lovemyself but I'm not showing
(37:56):
myself.
I love myself Like I'm not.
You know I'm not putting intime for me Like I'm not.
I go on dates by myself just toshow myself love.
I don't care.
So you just show yourself love.
Forget those friends that youknow.
Sometimes you got to find a newcircle.
Sometimes you got to go where,you got to go in a different
(38:16):
location to look for friendssometimes you just have to else
that shit and let it go oh yeah,I mean look, first of all,
jealousy is a mirror and it'snot your problem.
Speaker 1 (38:30):
Sometimes people don't.
People are jealous of youbecause you expose everything
that they are not and they don'tlike how they feel around you.
They don't like how they feelaround you but guess what?
That's not your burden.
You cannot carry other people'sburdens that they don't even
(38:53):
want to carry themselves.
Speaker 2 (38:55):
Talk to them.
Speaker 1 (38:57):
I'm just saying Betray betrayal often comes from
the like people that areclosest to you.
Most of the time, people willsit in the front row while
you're winning, until you startwinning big oh yeah or bigger,
bigger than them, and then it'slike oh yeah but that's when you
(39:22):
have set us, set a boundary.
You have to set a boundarybecause who do I love more?
Who do I love more?
Because self-love is the bestlove and, just like you said,
you have to give that love toyourself.
And if they can't give you that, that friendship, that love,
(39:45):
that that you require as afriend, baby, also that shit and
let it go.
Else of that shit, and let itgo because it does not mean you
any good.
Stop explaining yourself, stopshrinking.
Stop shrinking so that they cangrow.
Stop checking on people thatjust ghosted you.
(40:07):
Let them go.
This is my challenge.
This is my challenge Becauseyour peace is non-refundable.
Challenge of the week is write alist of people that make you
feel seen, heard, supported,celebrate it.
(40:29):
Write a list of all thosepeople and if they are not on
that list, they no longer getthat VIP access to your life.
Okay, cut them off, not at all.
If they are not on that list,then they no longer get that
access.
So that is what I want you todo this week Make a list.
Make a list of everybody inyour life that actually treats
(40:54):
you like you should, and ifthese people are not on your
list.
Then, baby, you know what yougot to do.
Speaker 3 (41:02):
You got to.
Speaker 1 (41:04):
It ain't nothing to cut that bitch off.
Speaker 3 (41:07):
I feel like some people's problem is they don't
understand that they're worthmore, because I heard I might
mess up the saying, but it'slike people will treat you.
You'll allow people to treatyou how you feel about yourself.
Speaker 1 (41:22):
Ooh, get out of these people's business.
Speaker 3 (41:28):
Get out of these people's business.
I'm just saying you know themboyfriends don't be shit.
I be looking at the girl likethat's how you Now let me talk
to you, like how you feelingabout yourself, like you good,
like, because if you loveyourself like if you really
there you're not going to allownobody to disrespect you.
Thanks.
(41:49):
You're going to be preciouswith your time, your energy, so
honey you heard it from bothends.
Speaker 1 (41:57):
I hope that that answered your question, and if
you have an ex-alethia that youwant to ask me, feel free to DM
me or send me an email atpimpingpositivity at gmailcom.
Okay, so listen, we have a game, oh, a game, okay, game.
(42:20):
Okay, I'm ready.
It is a rapid fire time, okay,so you cannot think about it.
You just got.
It's basically a like this orthat, would you do this or would
you do that like?
Would you like your ex's pics?
Or would you comment cutecouple, just to be petty, I
(42:42):
wouldn't do it neither Shit.
Oh, no See, I am petty, so I'dprobably be like cute cute.
Speaker 3 (42:53):
I'm not, I don't know .
I feel like I'm crazy, like Imight do some crazy shit, and
then I'll probably leave youalone, like I'll just leave.
You know, I feel like I'm crazy, I might do some crazy shit and
then I'll probably leave youalone.
Speaker 1 (43:04):
I'll just leave you alone.
I'm like okay, crazy shit, likeI'm busting windows.
Speaker 3 (43:08):
I ain't going to say too much, because something
might happen in the future andthey're going to use this as
evidence.
It's premeditated.
He said it in the podcast.
Speaker 1 (43:18):
Well, look, moving on .
Okay, would you wear sandalswith sock at a red carpet or
show up in, or show up in Crocsto a black tie gala?
Which one?
Which one?
I wear Crocs to a black tiegala.
(43:39):
Which one?
Which one?
Speaker 3 (43:42):
I wear Crocs.
Speaker 1 (43:45):
Okay, Because socks and sandals is my pet peeve Like
what that's crazy.
But your face said it all.
Speaker 3 (43:56):
I was like, oh, red carpet.
As soon as you said red carpet,I was like, oh.
I was like, oh, red carpet.
As soon as you said red carpet,I was like, oh.
I was like, oh, I'm going tohave nightmares of that.
Speaker 1 (44:05):
Oh, okay.
Would you rather be stuck in agroup chat full of your
ex-friends or stuck in anelevator with your ex and their
new boo?
Speaker 3 (44:20):
A group chat with my ex-friends.
I'm so jealous.
No, I'm no, I can't do that.
Speaker 1 (44:34):
Okay, okay.
Would you rather be the way?
Speaker 3 (44:41):
I'm too crazy for that.
No, I'm gonna be cool at first.
I'll be waiting at the elevator.
On the elevator, like oh, westuck.
I'm gonna do a deep breath.
They're going to be keying inthe background, so listen like
what.
Speaker 2 (45:03):
This, that's who you.
You know how we are.
This is who you chose.
Speaker 1 (45:11):
well, what, what?
What did I not do right?
Okay, because clearly, becauseclearly you wasn't going for
looks, because please what'sthem shoes you got on?
Speaker 3 (45:22):
no, I'm not gonna talk to you.
Speaker 1 (45:25):
I can't stand you right now.
Would you rather be known for abad lace front or a viral ugly
cry meme?
Speaker 3 (45:41):
A bad lace front, you would rather be known for I
would Like, I feel like withcomedy I don't care Like.
Have you seen my?
Speaker 1 (45:50):
bob when I first started.
Speaker 3 (45:52):
If you seen my bob when it first started, it was
lean, it was crazy.
Speaker 1 (45:58):
No, because your bob be bobbing.
Speaker 3 (46:01):
Yeah, I do now, but in the beginning it was rough.
So like it's just comedy.
Like they loved it.
They liked when the wig flewoff, like it was comedy.
Like I'll turn it into comedy.
I'll make a skit and be likehow girls be when they feel like
.
They feel like they look good.
It's really how they be.
Look, I'll just make it funny.
Speaker 2 (46:18):
I don't care, I don't mean myself.
Speaker 3 (46:21):
But ugly crying is crazy.
I don't cry like that, uh-uh.
Speaker 1 (46:26):
Okay, would you rather show up in church in club
clothes or show up in a clublike you dress for church?
Speaker 3 (46:42):
I would go to a club in church clothes.
Speaker 1 (46:46):
Would you really?
I won't, I don't care, I'm sonot caring Like I do not, and I
love you for that.
I love you for that.
Speaker 3 (46:54):
Like you for that like I don't want to see.
My thing is, I'm not big onchurch.
I would, I don't want todisrespect church like that,
like that that feels like I'llbe disrespecting, like I don't
know, that feels disrespectfulto show.
But he did say come as you are,so if I'm leaving the club to
go to church or brunch orwhatever, I'm coming as I am.
Speaker 1 (47:17):
As I am Last one, would you rather, on a first
date, accidentally call themyour ex's name or let out a loud
fart in the middle of laughing?
Speaker 3 (47:36):
A first date.
Oh God, we're going to breakthe ice, we're going to fart in
front of them Because I feellike if they we're going to
break the ice, like if you loveme, you can handle a little funk
, like that is what love is.
It is what love is.
It is what love is.
But I don't know, I'm new, Idon't know, because what if he
(47:59):
don't want to eat it no more?
Oh well, like imagine if he wasthinking about eating it all
day and then I just let one outhe don't think about it while he
eat it, he don't think about it, he don't like this nigga okay
(48:20):
like that's so.
He gonna watch me take a shot.
He gonna help me bathe to makesure it's I don't know, like
it's just me, it's all in myhead, it's just I'm not there
yet it's crazy.
Speaker 1 (48:34):
You're gonna help me, babe.
Oh my god, okay, this.
I love this part of the show.
This is the final part of theshow, but before we get to that,
tell everybody where they canfind all things you so you can
find me on TikTok, instagram andon YouTube.
Speaker 3 (48:55):
It's kian kb.
K-h-i-a-n dot kb.
I also like to tell people easyway.
Just look up edna mode, I'llpop up.
You know me, darling, but I'msurprised.
I'm just now bringing the voiceout.
But, um know, and yeah, that'swhere you can find me.
(49:16):
I'm also doing a meet and greetwhen, where I'm not supposed to
be.
Just stay tuned on my Instagram.
Speaker 1 (49:25):
Okay, I'd have gave a little safety.
We all more family.
I don't know, I might get introuble, but I love that you did
not bring the voice out untilthe end, because one thing about
my podcast is I don't want whatyou're known for to come on
(49:51):
here Because that's been talkedabout, talked about, talked
about, talked about.
Speaker 3 (49:54):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (49:55):
I want to know he on.
Speaker 3 (49:57):
And I appreciate that .
Speaker 1 (49:59):
That's who I wanted to come on here.
That's who I want the world toknow.
I want the world to know yououtside of the character.
Speaker 3 (50:08):
Oh yeah, and I appreciate that because you know
it's kind of hard out here foryou know.
So a lot of people want to justsee you be what you're known
for.
So I appreciate you allowing meto be you know, or just a lot,
opening that door to know who Iam and like giving me space to
show who I am, you know ofcourse that that is what this is
(50:32):
all about Just getting to knowwho you are.
We're going to have to run thisback.
We need to.
Okay, I like talking to you.
It's been an hour already, Iknow, make it another hour, tell
production.
Huh, I'll cash out fromsomething, huh.
Speaker 1 (50:49):
Cash out from something too.
Speaker 3 (50:50):
I'll cash out from a little extra.
Speaker 1 (50:57):
Keep it rolling for 30 more minutes.
I love you so much Like I swear, like I legit need to get your
number because G like you are avibe and I knew that you would
be.
I knew that when I met you atthe Queer Tees that you would be
a vibe.
I knew you was going to be avibe, queer Tees that you would
be a vibe.
Speaker 2 (51:14):
Oh yeah, I knew you was going to be a vibe too.
Speaker 3 (51:17):
Like I was just like oh, her energy is okay and
always, always, always,Literally.
Like I just felt your aura.
Like you put off the I know alot of people probably tell you
this but you put off an aurathat like makes people gravitate
towards you.
That like makes peoplegravitate towards you, like it's
just like I felt that energyand I was like, okay, she's
(51:38):
human, she's human, she's notout here on no fake shit, she's
human, like she's-.
Not at all, you carry love and Ifelt that Very positive energy
so I had to hop on here.
Speaker 1 (51:51):
I had to Well listen speaking of love and positive
vibes.
Our last segment is called Passit On, and that is where you
give a message from your hearteither something that you've
heard or just something from youto either our viewers or my
(52:14):
next guest.
So what message would you liketo pass on?
Speaker 3 (52:20):
Let's do a message for the viewers.
So I feel like, okay, it'sgoing to get deep With me.
It took a lot to find who I am.
You know.
I feel like even no matter ifI'm gay or whatever, I still
feel like a lot of, you know,heteros or just regular people
(52:42):
have the same struggles offinding who they are in this
world and they let outsidethings depict.
You know who they are and I'dsay, go within, spend some time
with yourself, figure out whatyou like.
It's baby steps, a lot ofthings, you know.
It ain't going to happenovernight.
Just practice loving yourself,introducing yourself to new
(53:04):
stuff, new ideas.
Stop scrolling so much and putthat energy I don't know like
read a good book, like a, amental, you know something
that'll help, that that justbuilds or like adds or or just
empowers you, and just every day, just just get out your comfort
(53:24):
zone, try.
You ain't gotta like wear apink miniskirt to to walmart,
but you can do little things,like when you find yourself
being a little scared to docertain stuff, put your little
toe out there.
See how it feel.
You know what I mean.
Then put a leg out there.
It ain't that bad.
Speaker 1 (53:43):
Baby steps yes.
Speaker 3 (53:46):
Just go all in, just practice.
That Practice beinguncomfortable.
Take risks, have faith.
Take risks Because when youbelieve and stay, stay, have
faith, have faith, always havefaith, cause when you take these
risks, it's going to be onlyyou and your faith.
Try to evolve yourself Always.
Try to grow your mind, expandyour horizon.
(54:08):
No matter what you do, try tobe the best at it.
If you want to be a doctor, thebest doctor, be the doctor they
want to.
They want to call you becauseyou're so good.
Like it's people you, a doctorin atlanta and people in
california want to come see youbecause you're just that good of
(54:28):
a doctor like you know what Imean.
Like just be a, just be thebest at whatever, or strive to
be just the best.
Speaker 2 (54:36):
And it ain't about the number one, spot it ain't.
Speaker 3 (54:39):
I'm not saying try to be number one.
Speaker 1 (54:40):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (54:41):
I'm just saying try to be the best you can be, you
know.
Speaker 1 (54:45):
Baby.
Speaker 3 (54:47):
And that's.
I hope that made sense.
Speaker 1 (54:50):
Yes, it did, and that is how you pass it on.
Kiant, listen, you are a force.
You are a force.
You are so impactful.
You are a joy spreader.
Like that.
That is what you are, and yourenergy and your vibe, like you,
can feel it through the screen.
(55:11):
Oh, I'm so happy that you aresitting in the passenger seat
with me and I hope that youreturn in all of your fabulosity
.
Speaker 3 (55:22):
I got to return.
We got to do a part two, we gotto.
Speaker 1 (55:25):
Yes, and hopefully I can go to wherever you are.
Or if you are ever in Louisianaagain, come visit me, baby.
Speaker 3 (55:34):
Yeah, I got you, I don't know when the next time
I'll be in Louisiana, but when Icome I'll definitely hit you up
, because I don't have nothingto do in Louisiana?
Well, not, not now.
You can do me okay, I can comeover there and be like girl what
you doing, okay, okay, oh, evenbetter.
Now I'm gonna know you alwayscook I'm gonna just call you
(55:58):
gonna give me the address.
I'm gonna pop up knock, knock,knock it's 7 pm.
Is dinner ready okay, I'm gonnacome in with no and shit oh my
god, listen I.
Speaker 1 (56:13):
If you have enjoyed this episode as much as I have,
look, click like, subscribe,comment, all the things.
But listen, take a deep breath,repeat after me.
I am enough, I am, I am worthy.
Speaker 2 (56:36):
I am worthy.
Speaker 1 (56:37):
I am valuable.
Speaker 2 (56:40):
I am valuable.
Speaker 1 (56:41):
All by my damn self.
Speaker 3 (56:43):
All by my damn self.
Speaker 1 (56:45):
Yes, now, as you go out there and be exactly who you
are, do not let anybody makeyou think that you cannot be
enough, that you cannot beworthy, that you cannot be
valuable all by yourself,because being you is your
superpower.
Okay, so, as you go out thereand be great in their face, keep
(57:08):
being safe and it's like I knowyou can be and, as always, you
have a good day on purpose here.
You're welcome.
Don't go nowhere.
Yeah, shine like glitter.
Let the light in your life getbigger.
I'm in the sky, high, I'm thewinner, big and bright like a
diamond.
I'm a shaker, I'm a shaker.
You welcome, hello, hello,hello, welcome back to In the
(00:23):
Passenger Seat with yourpositivity queen.
It's your girl, alethea Crimins.
What's good, everybody.
Did you miss me?
I know that you did.
I know that you did.
I hope that your week wasfilled with all types of
wonderfulness.
Okay, because I know that minewas, and we had a good day.
On what Purpose?
And we were great in that.
What Face?
(00:44):
Okay, y'all know I already gota show ready for y'all.
Listen, before I introduce thisguest, before I bring my guest
up, let me just cue this clip,because if you do not know who
he is yet, this moment righthere is going to be the one
(01:06):
because, baby, he had theinternet on lock.
Okay, on lock, and my spirit onfire.
Speaker 2 (01:17):
Excuse me, you guys are in my way.
Go a little bit that way.
Oh my god, excuse me, go alittle bit that way, that's just
scary.
Oh my god, jesus, don't recordme, ma'am, I charge.
How much?
Uh, too much for you.
Oh my god, be honest, sir.
This made your day.
Alright, give me a smile.
There we are, darling.
That's what it's all about.
I'm gonna be honest.
(01:44):
You guys shouldn't be in here.
You know that.
That's why you're looking likethat, and it's fine, it's fine.
Excuse me, you guys are in myway.
Yo, thank you so so much.
How is everyone today?
Speaker 3 (01:59):
Don't care, no way.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Can you do me a favor ?
You're tall.
Get that off the top shelf.
Don't say the name, becausethis is not an ad.
Don't get smart with me,darling.
Thank you.
Now you guys take it easy.
Speaker 3 (02:14):
You're in my way.
You're in my way, Sorry in themood Excuse me.
Speaker 1 (02:20):
Okay, do you see what I mean?
Iconic, iconic, iconic.
Okay.
So today in the passenger seat,it's going to be a whole vibe,
a whole, entire vibe.
Hailing from a small town inGeorgia, he said no, thank you
to limiting belief and carvedout his own lane in media.
(02:41):
Okay, content creation andexpression.
He went from comedy videos tocollabs with Disney, airbnb,
spotify.
Baby, we are talking about awhole brand, and he was even
nominated for the Queer Tease.
Okay, baby, he is not new tothis.
(03:04):
He is true to this.
Okay, let's welcome to in thepassenger seat and no, aka that
was such a beautiful intro.
Speaker 3 (03:16):
I was just smiling so hard, I was just like like I'm
because you are iconic like I.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
I need you to know and understand that you are an
icon and if nobody has not toldyou I, I will tell you that you
are a freaking icon I appreciatethat so much.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
That means a lot like I've come a long way in my
journey.
So to be living in these daysand just like just in my energy
and doing what I love, and justlike seeing the, the positive
response to doing what I love,it's like that that feels good.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
So yeah, I'm still like.
I was just like, oh, like, letme get a moment, hold on, I need
a moment, get your moment, getyour take, take a moment, take
your moment because you deserveit, and a lot of times we don't
get our moments, so I wanted togive you your flowers right now.
Speaker 3 (04:17):
I appreciate that.
I appreciate that so much.
It's hard out here for us.
We gotta work a little harder.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
It's hard out here, you know, for for us it's hard,
you know, we gotta, we gottawork a little harder.
It's hard out here for a pimpwe do, because you know, a lot
of times people will try to tryto do what you do.
Um, you know people that umdon't look like us and try to do
the same thing that you do, andso it's harder because you have
(04:46):
to work 10, 20 times as hard.
Yeah, just to, oh, yeah, get tothat level.
Speaker 3 (04:52):
Oh honey, you are preaching to the choir but you
learn a lot when you work hardfor it.
So you know it's alwayslongevity and like working hard
and even though you know thingsmay be harder for you, it's
always longevity and likeworking hard and even though you
know things may be harder foryou, it's just working hard.
Like with me, like with socialmedia.
It took me so long to be ableto quit a job like I sacrificed
(05:16):
so much for social media and Ihad two million followers and
was broke.
Million followers and was broke.
You know, like I had all thesefollowers, all these views and
was broke like you know.
You, if you know, you know youcan't like depend on the creator
fund, you know you cannot.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
Because people see the two million followers, three
million followers and think, ohmy god, like they must be
making money.
But our money does not comefrom that.
Like you can't live off of that.
Like our money comes from branddeals, our money comes from
getting bookings yeah,definitely 100, and I remember I
(05:55):
was.
Speaker 3 (05:55):
So I was like, okay.
So in the midst of it I waslike you know what, I do have
two million followers, like it'sokay, like brands were even
ripping me off with the branddeals.
They were trying to pay me onlylike $500, or you know what I
mean $1,000.
And I'm making them go viral,I'm giving them millions of
(06:16):
views and they only paying like$1,500, $1,000.
So it's like it took me aminute to learn the game,
because you know, like with me,I learned how to get people's
attention, learned how to getthe views, but I didn't
understand the business at first.
And you don't understand thebusiness and show business they
will.
Or like I feel like withanything, if you don't
(06:36):
understand the business, youwill get ripped off, like you
know.
And it's just back to what wewere saying, with it being
harder.
Or my strategy was I was like Ineed to become marketable and I
don't know if I should say this, but it's like at first I had
(06:59):
to be, I had to look marketable,I had to up my content, plug in
more things I had to show andthis is like the.
This is the.
This is the kind of weird thingabout it.
Like you have to show thesebrands that hey, you can work
with me, like you.
Can you know what I mean?
Like I don't know, it's just,it's just layers to it.
(07:24):
And then like people trying tostart social media and they're
doing it for the money.
And I always tell people do itbecause you love it, because the
money is not always gonna bethere even no matter how big it
is, you know, like.
So like you gotta do it becauseyou love it.
Like you can't be discouragedbecause of views, because of
money, because of just you justgotta do it because you love it,
(07:45):
it's in you.
It gotta be discouraged becauseof views, because of money,
because of just you just gottado it because you love it, it's
in you, it gotta be in you, itgotta be something in you.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
Views views go up and down, like you never know what
the like algorithm will do, likeeven me, like I'm like at some
points I'm like way up there andright now the engagement is
there, but the numbers are notyeah and you can't let yourself
(08:13):
get like oh well, you know andsometimes it's hard because
social media plays a very uhmental oh yeah yeah, it's, it's
very mental because if if wewould let the numbers and things
get to us, it would reallyaffect us mentally and just like
(08:36):
how you quit, quit your job.
I've taught for 15 years and Icouldn't balance teaching and
this world anymore, so I had tokind of take a leap and have
faith in myself.
Speaker 3 (08:56):
Oh yeah, to know that I could do this oh yeah, and
that's all it take is that faithand that work and that, just
like you know, that like I don'tknow.
It's a feeling you can'texplain, that you got to have,
like, you just got to have thatdrive, that flame, like, and
nothing can take that away fromyou, because it's just like a
(09:19):
calling.
It's like God is telling youyou're more.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
Yeah, it's a calling, and that is the word God is
telling you.
You're more.
Yeah, it's a calling and thatis the word God is telling you
that you are more.
You are more than what youthink you are.
You are more than what you'resettling for.
You are more.
So go out there and be more.
And we both come from smalltowns, oh yeah.
(09:42):
So from you, coming from asmall town in Georgia, like, did
you ever imagine that you wouldbe where you are now working
with Disney, walking red carpets, like building a global
platform?
Like did you ever think, ohyeah, this, this will be, be my
life one day?
Speaker 3 (10:03):
You want me to be completely honest.
I always knew this is howstrong-minded, how strong-willed
, how I like, I knew I was gonnabe where I am today.
That's how like I'm delusional.
You gotta be a littledelusional, you gotta you do you
, gotta you gotta already bethere you gotta already think
like you're there you
Speaker 1 (10:24):
know, I'll say that all the time.
Speaker 3 (10:25):
I say that all the time you know, it's like you're
mentally there but you'rewaiting on the physical reality
to catch up to what you feelinside.
So it's just like I always knewI was gonna be where I am.
But when you're there, it's adifferent feeling.
It's like you knew you wasgonna be here, but it's like
dang, I'm really here, like Ireally did it.
You know what I mean, like I,you knew you was going to be
here, but it's like, dang, I'mreally here, like I really did
(10:45):
it.
You know what I mean, like youknow.
And then you just startappreciating that journey and
like you just, and then you justwant more, you want.
You know, if I can do this, Ican do that.
And then you know let's getthis started and let's let's
venture out into this.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
And this, this, this.
This is why I now have my ownpodcast, because it's like, well
, if I can do this, then I canhave a podcast, and so, off my
podcast, I now also have a likemagazine, so it's like, um, I'm
built like I'm you gotta do.
I'm building this.
It's like, well, if I, if Icould do this and I could do
that, and if I could do that andI could do this.
So it's like you always have todare yourself to go one level
(11:30):
up, like you have to believethat you can go one level up,
but what can I do next?
What can?
Speaker 3 (11:37):
I do next.
But I feel like, for the peoplelistening that are like, are
trying to do a lot of things, Ialso believe in making sure that
that one cup is full.
That's what I believe in.
I think let's say TikTok, right, make sure your TikTok stuff is
(12:02):
booming.
Make sure cup number one isbooming.
Your TikTok stuff is booming.
Make sure cup number one isbooming.
When that start picking up this,that and the third, that cup
start overfilling, use thatexcess water that's falling out
of that cup to put into anothercup.
Because what happened, what Iused to do is I used to fill 20
cups at one time and it's justspreading out your energy
(12:26):
instead of putting a lot of yourenergy into one thing, building
that one thing and then goingon to another thing, building
that thing and then like,because you know it, it is
harder to maintain a lot ofother things when you dive into
a whole bunch.
So I just I believe in likefilling that, filling the cups
first, like making sureeverything's good, making sure
(12:47):
you know, like I don't know,like that's just what I believe
in and I don't know that.
I feel like that's what took meso long to venture out into
other things, because I wantedto make sure my TikTok stuff was
good.
I wanted to make sure, if Ifocus on this, this isn't, my
TikTok isn't going to go down orlike.
You know what I mean.
Oh, cause, you know I don't.
I hope you get where I'm comingfrom.
Speaker 1 (13:08):
No, I know, I, I, I get it because and I've, I've,
I've feel like I was meant totalk to you because it's like
you know when, when, when youtry to feel several cups, it's
like certain things go lacking.
Speaker 3 (13:27):
Oh, yeah, exactly.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
Certain things go lacking.
All of your cups are like thisfull and it's like well, why
can't I fill one cup?
Because, like you, keep pouringinto all these cups, yeah.
So it's like you'll never haveone cup that's full, exactly,
and I love how you said let thatone cup overflow and then let
(13:49):
that overflow be the thing thatfills up your other cup.
I've been listening.
God makes no mistakes you weremeant to be on this podcast
today because I needed you tospeak.
To speak, okay, oh she got avoice hold on y'all.
Speaker 3 (14:09):
She got a voice oh, that, that's your next cup is
singing yep, oh, I can't wait tocome to a performance.
I've been waiting, oh.
Speaker 1 (14:22):
Lord, not speaking it over my life.
Come on now, okay.
Speaker 3 (14:27):
Go ahead.
Hey, there you go.
God says sing, you sung.
I said let me tell yousomething, stop, stop, stop.
Speaker 1 (14:37):
I mean I do a little ooze and I stop.
Speaker 3 (14:42):
No, listen, no, no, I heard that, look, I'm envious
of people that can sing, becauseif I could sing, like I'm
envious of people that don'treally use their voice and can
sing.
I'm like, what is you doing?
Like, use that, but I get itbecause I can draw, I can play
the piano and I don't feel likedoing it like I don't want to
(15:02):
perform piano, I just like toplay it, so I get it.
But you know singing I can't doso.
I'm like y'all need to besinging using that voice.
Speaker 2 (15:12):
I'm like.
Speaker 3 (15:12):
I'm like the NBA y'all need to be using that,
because if I had it, I'd beusing it, you know, like I don't
know, because I'd be trying tosing, like in the shower, like I
love Beyonce, I love like helloby Beyonce, I love, like you
know, uh, what's the song?
Um, how I go, I don't know, butit's just very emotional.
(15:33):
It's very like I feel like hermusic is very deep and her voice
is so amazing and I'll betrying to sing beyonce and um to
me I sound good, but when Irecord myself, because listen
I'm delusional, I'm delusionalas hell I'll until I record
myself.
That's why I stopped recordingmyself.
(15:54):
I just let myself be delusional, because when you record
yourself you're like what, likewho?
I think I'm never singing again.
I've never.
I think you should sing for me,but I feel like, no matter what
I think, I think you have anamazing voice.
From what I've heard, I doCause like you already got the
(16:18):
voice.
Like do some Some vocalcoaching, or something Like not
vocal coaching, but like getvocal lessons.
I don't know, I'm sure Beyoncego to vocal lessons Every day,
or something Like not vocalcoaching, but like get vocal
lessons.
I don't know, I'm sure Beyoncego to vocal lessons every day or
something.
Oh yes, honey, like you know,like.
Speaker 1 (16:32):
Not you trying to give me the thing and just be a
singer.
Speaker 3 (16:37):
No, I'm just saying use that talent you know, use
everything.
Well, you know, my like introsong is is me now I gotta, now I
gotta spin it back and listento it.
I'm gonna call you.
I'm like can I get yourautograph?
Speaker 1 (16:52):
like you're good at like 20 things, I just want your
autograph you get on my nerves,you get on my nerves, so okay,
so you talk about breaking freefrom, like, traditional thinking
.
Oh yeah, and what?
What was that moment that madeyou say like I'm going to just
(17:14):
live differently, even if theydon't get it, I'm, I'm gonna do
it you know I I lived 17 yearsof my life in the closet.
Speaker 3 (17:26):
I hid myself.
I dimmed my light.
For other people like I waspeople pleasing, I dimmed my
light, so other people couldn'tbe happy, you know.
So, living my life in the closet, not not even knowing I'm gay.
I just know I'm different.
I never really explored that,that you know, that that layer
of my mind for real, becauseit's like I was taught.
(17:48):
That's wrong, you know, and Ihad, like a, you know, my dad.
I was scared of my dad growingup so I just kept it.
You know, I was just like I'mnot, I'm not that, I'm just
different.
You know, I'm just weird.
And I hid myself for 17 years,came out.
Well, let me backtrack when Iwas 17, I met a best friend,
(18:10):
jarrell, and he was openly gayand we was working together.
And that's how we met.
And at this time I knew I wasgay.
I just didn't want to come out.
I thought I was going to thegrave with it.
But, to fast forward the story,he showed me what freedom
looked like because he was hewas.
(18:31):
He's very, very feminine, likevery talks like a girl, get his
hair done like a girl, like veryfeminine, and I needed that
around me, like he.
He helped me evolve in a waylike that.
You know, I just needed to befeel free and he allowed me to
feel free because no matter whatI did in his face.
(18:52):
He wouldn't call it, you know,he wouldn't call it weird.
Speaker 1 (18:55):
Weird or different.
Speaker 3 (18:57):
Exactly or different.
But I was already doing YouTubearound this time and I was
asking God, I'm like why, why amI not doing good?
Like I take hours to edit?
I was already doing YouTubearound this time and I was
asking God, I'm like why, why amI not doing good?
Like I take hours to edit.
I was writing scripts.
I was just like I was.
I was on my grind, like I'vealways been on my grind, but
like I was like why am I notgetting the, the views, the, the
, and you know, I wasn't livingmy truth.
(19:19):
My energy wasn't flowing forreal, so fast forward again.
Energy wasn't flowing for real,so fast forward again.
I went through a phase in mylife of like spiritual awakening
and I remember I was meditatingand I was sitting on the couch.
I was like God, if you're real,you should give me a sign.
And I went to the grocery storeand this lady, just randomly we
(19:42):
were checking out she justrandomly said God loves you.
That's when I woke up to God.
I allow God in my life.
I started meditating.
I started like getting you know,like searching within, cause I
also have a lot of traumagrowing up, like with, like you
know, there's a lot of stuffgoing on in my life, so it's
just like I've never really hadthe chance to sit with myself
and be like, how do I feel, like, how am I Like?
(20:02):
Am I okay, you know?
So I finally started doing thatinner work.
You know, moved to Georgia,started doing that inner work
and when I really got to thepoint where I was like, you know
what, I'm gonna live my life,no matter what yes, no matter
what Like I broke out of thatdarkness and ever since it just
(20:26):
feels like the world is myplayground.
Like, once you get out of that,like you know, like the
spiritual side, like we're inthe matrix, nothing around you.
Really, you know what I meanLike we all need.
Speaker 1 (20:37):
Definitely, sometimes you have to find yourself by
yourself, exactly yourself byyourself, and exactly that that
journey is is hard because, justjust like you said, like you
have to dig deep within.
But within is where all thetrauma is, within is where all
that pain is.
But the key is, yes, that painhappened to you, but but it
(21:01):
cannot become you Exactly that'sthe thing it's not letting that
pain become who you are.
Listen, I as well as the world,we are glad that you said I'm
going to do my own thing and youfound yourself.
Oh definitely, we are very happyabout it.
(21:24):
So wait, let's talk about thiswalk the walk.
It was the moment, like whatwas going through your head when
you in, when you actuallystarted doing the the walk, and
what, what was going throughyour head when it blew up, like,
(21:45):
did you know that this wasgoing to be life-changing with
with this walk?
Speaker 3 (21:50):
I didn't.
I didn't.
You know, it was just like aviral moment I was with.
I was with some of my collegefriends I didn't go to college,
but they were in college and wewere at her dorm and you know
I'm filming videos like not forme but for them, but we were
just chilling and I was justmaking goofy content Like.
I was just like very free.
(22:11):
You know, I didn't care what Iposted, I'm just having fun
doing what I love to do.
And I was like I know aboutthat trend that's like don't
come in here with that BS.
And the guy like dancing comingin with the BS.
So I was like, okay, I'm gonnado this walk.
I vogue.
At the time I was like new tovogue.
Speaker 1 (22:28):
I'm like getting into vogue and dancing and all that
like trying to free my body Iknew that you were a vulgar
because I was like ain't no way,he can just duck along, just
just just cause I wouldn't sayI'm a boker, but I do vogue a
little bit Like I like to feelmy tuna a little bit.
Speaker 3 (22:46):
You know, it's just in me, you know.
Yes, you know, I haven't evenwent to my first ball yet, but
I'm going to go.
When I go to New York, I'mgoing, I don't care.
Okay, yeah, but it felt like Idon't know, it was just a viral
moment at first.
I just kept doing it Like thiswas before the Bob right.
(23:08):
So I'm just doing the vlog andI'm just like making skits out
of it and it was just consistentviews and I was just like, oh,
they love it and I love it andlove.
So why not keep going?
You know?
Speaker 1 (23:20):
And I kept going, going in like stores and all
kind of stuff.
Speaker 3 (23:24):
It just I was just like, listen, it evolved, like
just evolved.
Like I was just like, oh, wecan do this and we can do it.
And my friends helped me andI'm just like, okay, because,
like cameraman, you get so closewith the cameraman, now he
creative.
I'm like, oh, you, finna, gethired, okay.
Speaker 1 (23:42):
Okay, but when?
So what was the moment that itchanged from oh, but this is
this like cute little you knowskits to where Edno was born?
Speaker 3 (23:54):
Okay.
So I wore my hair down.
I got curly hair, I got a lotof hair and I had, like the Edno
uniform.
I used to wear it because Ithought it was cute.
Okay, edno just came around andjust took that from me, it's
fine.
But I used to just wear thatbecause it was cute and I wore
it.
I was doing the walk, had myhair down, got my hair down and
(24:16):
somebody commented Edna Mode andI was like, hmm, let me go on
Amazon and get that wig.
Speaker 1 (24:24):
So, baby, and when you put on that wig on like it
was the worst and they say itwas history, history.
Speaker 3 (24:35):
It takes a lot.
It took a lot to be able to dothat.
You know what I mean.
It took some I don't give afuck energy Like.
I'm having fun, I'm gonna havefun and live my life and you
know, I'm gonna, just I'm gonnado it, fuck it.
Speaker 1 (24:49):
So, like you've, you've managed to stay in your
own lane Like no copying anybody, no gimmicks.
Like you are just you.
How do you stay grounded andlike authentic in this world
that's constantly trying to putyou in a box?
Speaker 3 (25:10):
taking time off social media.
I feel like that's importantfor me, like stepping away, like
when I get to scrolling toomuch, or just like you know.
You know like I just got tostep away Because, like, if my
mind ain't right, my work, theenergy I output ain't going to
be right.
So I just got to make sure mymind is right, make sure my mind
is grounded.
And it's so hard, it's so hard,Like in this business.
Speaker 1 (25:33):
it's so hard.
This takes a toll on you, sohard.
Speaker 3 (25:35):
Oh my God, like I'm trying to get myself out of a
little hold right now, like you,I'm like, but just like
recentering, like never losingyourself, cause it's so easy to
lose yourself in this business.
You're seeing everybody else,you're, you're observing
everybody else.
(25:56):
You're trying to make thisamount of money.
You trying to, you know, get inthe algorithm how you used to
be.
I don't know, you know, it'sjust like different things can
just deter.
It's just a lot.
Speaker 1 (26:07):
You know, I feel like we can have a whole podcast
just focus just talking aboutthat, because but I, I, I know
one thing about you, justlistening to you, that I love
and that I admire is that howyou bring God into everything
that you do.
In fact, you said that God isyour biggest inspiration and you
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can feel that in your work.
So how has your faith guidedyou through the highs and lows
of your journey?
Speaker 3 (26:42):
faith guided you through the highs and lows of
your journey.
I don't see when I one, when Ifound God, that was one thing I
was like I knew.
I always felt somebody aroundme.
I know it was you, god.
You know like I've never feltalone.
I've never.
I've always felt like somebodyor something, or just a feeling
is around me, protecting me whenI'm going through dark times.
Just a feeling is around me,protecting me when I'm going
through dark times, but like myfaith, also mixed with like
spirituality, like keepingmyself focused, keeping my
(27:07):
energy right, keeping my Because, like you know, if you're not
right, sometimes God can't getthrough to you.
So you got to make sure thetemple is right.
Speaker 1 (27:12):
Listen, you know.
Come on, my pastor, preach,preach, preach, preach.
Speaker 3 (27:15):
The antenna's got to be able to catch the signals.
So it's like just making suremy mind is right and just like
you know, when God is tellingyou to move, because, like I
don't know, I don't know, butwith me, god will tell me to
move and I won't listen, I'mlike, no, I'm scared.
I'm scared and he'll dosomething and make you move.
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He burnt my house down.
He did.
That's what forced me to new orno, that's what forced me to
atlanta.
And that's when I reallystarted, like you know, because
and he was like, okay, because Iwas going to atlanta I was like
venturing out, doing somenetworking, collabing.
But then I come back toTaylorsville and stay for a
(27:59):
couple weeks and just like, andGod is like, what are you doing?
You need to be out there.
Still, why are you in the nest?
You scared.
Speaker 1 (28:07):
You uncomfortable.
Speaker 3 (28:08):
You supposed to be uncomfortable?
Get back out there.
Speaker 1 (28:11):
I was just about to say, like sometimes God will
make us uncomfortable becauselisten, because this is where
you need to be Exactly.
He wants you to grow, but weare like starting our own growth
, staying where it's comfortable, but comfortable is not always
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what you need.
Like you need to beuncomfortable, like you need to
get out that nest, because likeI love how you said that Because
in order for a baby bird to fly, that mama bird will push it,
that mama bird will push thatwhole little baby bird out that
nest Because that's the only waythat she knows that it will fly
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.
And sometimes God will do thesame thing.
He will push you so that youcan fly, literally.
You gotta do it, you have to doit.
Speaker 3 (29:11):
You got to, and then eventually you'll get used to
being in uncomfortablesituations, to the point where
it don't even phase you, likeyou know you're uncomfortable,
but you're like this is exactlywhere I need to be to grow.
Because you grow so much whenyou're uncomfortable, like you
just grow so much and it's justlike you just appreciate the
uncomfortable moments, like it'sjust they turn into beautiful
(29:33):
moments, like the outcome iseven more beautiful, like I
don't know, it's just I love me.
Speaker 1 (29:50):
We done brought the podcast to church now, okay,
okay let me just tell you this Iam looking at you and I'm
loving your whole aesthetic,your whole vibe, and I love that
.
I know that you love dressingup.
How has fashion played a partin your identity, in your
(30:13):
creativity?
What has fashion done for you?
Speaker 3 (30:20):
fashion for me.
It made me look at myself indifferent lenses.
It it helped me feel morebetter like I don't know, like
clothes to me, like what I haveon depicts on it, like it
changes my mood, like if I'mlooking good, but mind you, but
(30:45):
mind you, you also got to feelgood when you're not looking
good.
Working on it, come on workingon it.
Speaker 1 (30:53):
All these little sermons, honey, come on.
All these little sermons, theselittle sermons.
Speaker 3 (30:59):
You know.
So for me, you know, when Iwear clothes that I feel good.
I also like to, I like to weara masculine look, sometimes to
embrace my masculinity.
You know, like you, know I liketo wear some feminine stuff to
embrace my femininity, you know,and it's just like I just have
fun with it.
Speaker 1 (31:19):
You know, I don't even even have, I don't think I
have a personal style, I justlike clothes like I'm just
because fashion is fun, like,yeah, don't, don't make fashion
so serious, it's not fashion,it's fun.
Fashion is self-expression.
So, however you feel in thatmoment, dress the part and don't
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worry about who's looking,who's not looking.
What other people think aboutyou is not your fucking business
, it's not.
Speaker 3 (31:47):
Just let them think, child, listen, just dress
because you're dressing for youand not the world yeah, I feel
like it's so hard for people andI want my thing is, I want to
inspire people to be more likeoutgoing, but it's so hard.
I feel like a lot of peopleneed examples, like they need
(32:08):
like a best friend, that's likethat, or like they need a I
don't know, but it's it's somany people in that cocoon
that's scared to wear certainstuff or scared to step out
their comfort zone and it's justlike it's so free on the other
side, Like even my friends, likeI be telling them like it's
free.
It's free on the other side,just live Like.
Speaker 1 (32:31):
And you, you've been showing different sides of
yourself outside of you know,like you, you've been showing
different sides of yourselfoutside of you know, like you've
been showing different sides ofyourself outside of your work.
What has that experience beenlike?
Like revealing that you're notjust her, yeah, that you're KB,
(32:54):
honey.
Like this is me, exactly,exactly this is me.
Yeah, like look, look, look atme exactly.
Speaker 3 (33:02):
I feel like, um, it's been, it's been fun.
They've been taking it well.
Like my, my fear in thebeginning was I was gonna get
known for just this rightbecause, like before I had some,
I had some consistent views.
You know, I had like 700 000.
I was just, you know, talkingshit with my best friend like
tag.
That one friend like I was.
I was that content creator.
So like I'm kind of used to it,you know.
(33:26):
But now in my career it's kindof like how can I show myself
without losing the?
I don't even know how to put it.
How can I show myself withoutbeing too much?
I don't even know how to put it.
How can I show myself withoutbeing too much?
Like I don't want them to thinkI'm changing content or
whatever?
Speaker 2 (33:44):
Okay, okay, you know.
Speaker 3 (33:46):
So it's kind of like finding that balance and finding
that lane to the point where Ican do skits with just me doing
skits, with Edno doing skits,solely just Edno, you know it's
been fun that two can exist atthe same time, exactly.
So it's fun, I feel like,because I don't really look at
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the views, I know when I dostuff like that it ain't going
to hit, it ain't going to bemillions, so I don't really it
don't bother me too much.
I'm also saying that because Igot some.
I got some deals on the way, soI'm confident and shit.
I'm confident.
I'm like I don't care about theviews, like I'm going to get
paid anyway.
(34:29):
I'm just kidding.
Speaker 1 (34:35):
But anyway.
So, speaking of brand deals,like you have with everything
that you've built, brand deals,viral content, like you just
fashion, just you building youwhat's next on your dream list,
(34:55):
like Like what's on your visionboard?
Speaker 3 (34:59):
See, my thing is, I'm so free and like I might get an
idea out of nowhere.
God might just give me an idea,my antenna's on, he might just
drop me an idea, and I'm just,like I'm finna, do that.
Like I'm finna, I was finna, Iwas finna, expose something, but
(35:19):
I can't say that yet.
But I'll take that and let youknow what it is.
Speaker 1 (35:24):
Well, when you're ready to come on back, because
we gonna be ready for it, okay,but look, I'm gonna give you my
number after the show, so likeyou can be like listen.
Speaker 3 (35:35):
We locked in.
Speaker 1 (35:36):
Listen, we locked the show so like you can be like I
got, yeah, we locked it like Icouldn't say it.
Speaker 3 (35:43):
But listen, bitch, but yeah, so I don't know it's,
I'm just so free, like whatever,whatever ideas I have, you know
, I just I just put it out there.
Right now I'm focusing onshowing more me, um, being a
little bit more consistent withposting and just like just
having more fun.
I did get stuck in the loop ofa creator where I'm like it felt
like work, like it felt like Ihad, so I had to step back and
(36:06):
just be like I have to rememberto have fun with it, the way
that you are speaking to myspirit.
Speaker 1 (36:13):
I'm, I'm, I'm telling you this, this was this, like
you were meant to.
Because you have been likedropping things that I needed to
hear Speaking of, which we havenow come to my favorite segment
of the podcast oh, God, I'mnervous.
(36:34):
I'm nervous.
So this is where you, myviewers, send in questions for
myself and my guests to answer.
So let's get into the AskAlethea question.
Okay, today's question isAlethea how do you create
(36:58):
boundaries with friends who turntheir back on you, especially
when it feels like jealousy isinvolved?
I will let you take the centerstage first.
Kb, kb.
Speaker 3 (37:14):
Just get on, you don't need that energy.
Just go Run Far, don't stoprunning.
Get away, just get on, don't lether energy get to you, it'll
disrupt what you got going on.
No, you don't want to be aroundnobody like that.
Surround yourself with peoplethat bring light, that give you
(37:36):
confidence, hype you up, thatshow you love.
A lot of I found out.
A lot of people don't know whata true friend feel like and I'm
sorry for a lot of people.
But at least be that truefriend to yourself you got
yourself.
Come on, talk to yourself likejust cause I had to go through
phases where I'm like I lovemyself but I'm not showing
(37:56):
myself.
I love myself Like I'm not.
You know I'm not putting intime for me Like I'm not.
I go on dates by myself just toshow myself love.
I don't care.
So you just show yourself love.
Forget those friends that youknow.
Sometimes you got to find a newcircle.
Sometimes you got to go where,you got to go in a different
(38:16):
location to look for friendssometimes you just have to else
that shit and let it go oh yeah,I mean look, first of all,
jealousy is a mirror and it'snot your problem.
Speaker 1 (38:30):
Sometimes people don't.
People are jealous of youbecause you expose everything
that they are not and they don'tlike how they feel around you.
They don't like how they feelaround you but guess what?
That's not your burden.
You cannot carry other people'sburdens that they don't even
(38:53):
want to carry themselves.
Speaker 2 (38:55):
Talk to them.
Speaker 1 (38:57):
I'm just saying Betray betrayal often comes from
the like people that areclosest to you.
Most of the time, people willsit in the front row while
you're winning, until you startwinning big oh yeah or bigger,
bigger than them, and then it'slike oh yeah but that's when you
(39:22):
have set us, set a boundary.
You have to set a boundarybecause who do I love more?
Who do I love more?
Because self-love is the bestlove and, just like you said,
you have to give that love toyourself.
And if they can't give you that, that friendship, that love,
(39:45):
that that you require as afriend, baby, also that shit and
let it go.
Else of that shit, and let itgo because it does not mean you
any good.
Stop explaining yourself, stopshrinking.
Stop shrinking so that they cangrow.
Stop checking on people thatjust ghosted you.
(40:07):
Let them go.
This is my challenge.
This is my challenge Becauseyour peace is non-refundable.
Challenge of the week is write alist of people that make you
feel seen, heard, supported,celebrate it.
(40:29):
Write a list of all thosepeople and if they are not on
that list, they no longer getthat VIP access to your life.
Okay, cut them off, not at all.
If they are not on that list,then they no longer get that
access.
So that is what I want you todo this week Make a list.
Make a list of everybody inyour life that actually treats
(40:54):
you like you should, and ifthese people are not on your
list.
Then, baby, you know what yougot to do.
Speaker 3 (41:02):
You got to.
Speaker 1 (41:04):
It ain't nothing to cut that bitch off.
Speaker 3 (41:07):
I feel like some people's problem is they don't
understand that they're worthmore, because I heard I might
mess up the saying, but it'slike people will treat you.
You'll allow people to treatyou how you feel about yourself.
Speaker 1 (41:22):
Ooh, get out of these people's business.
Speaker 3 (41:28):
Get out of these people's business.
I'm just saying you know themboyfriends don't be shit.
I be looking at the girl likethat's how you Now let me talk
to you, like how you feelingabout yourself, like you good,
like, because if you loveyourself like if you really
there you're not going to allownobody to disrespect you.
Thanks.
(41:49):
You're going to be preciouswith your time, your energy, so
honey you heard it from bothends.
Speaker 1 (41:57):
I hope that that answered your question, and if
you have an ex-alethia that youwant to ask me, feel free to DM
me or send me an email atpimpingpositivity at gmailcom.
Okay, so listen, we have a game, oh, a game, okay, game.
(42:20):
Okay, I'm ready.
It is a rapid fire time, okay,so you cannot think about it.
You just got.
It's basically a like this orthat, would you do this or would
you do that like?
Would you like your ex's pics?
Or would you comment cutecouple, just to be petty, I
(42:42):
wouldn't do it neither Shit.
Oh, no See, I am petty, so I'dprobably be like cute cute.
Speaker 3 (42:53):
I'm not, I don't know .
I feel like I'm crazy, like Imight do some crazy shit, and
then I'll probably leave youalone, like I'll just leave.
You know, I feel like I'm crazy, I might do some crazy shit and
then I'll probably leave youalone.
Speaker 1 (43:04):
I'll just leave you alone.
I'm like okay, crazy shit, likeI'm busting windows.
Speaker 3 (43:08):
I ain't going to say too much, because something
might happen in the future andthey're going to use this as
evidence.
It's premeditated.
He said it in the podcast.
Speaker 1 (43:18):
Well, look, moving on .
Okay, would you wear sandalswith sock at a red carpet or
show up in, or show up in Crocsto a black tie gala?
Which one?
Which one?
I wear Crocs to a black tiegala.
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Which one?
Which one?
Speaker 3 (43:42):
I wear Crocs.
Speaker 1 (43:45):
Okay, Because socks and sandals is my pet peeve Like
what that's crazy.
But your face said it all.
Speaker 3 (43:56):
I was like, oh, red carpet.
As soon as you said red carpet,I was like, oh.
I was like, oh, red carpet.
As soon as you said red carpet,I was like, oh.
I was like, oh, I'm going tohave nightmares of that.
Speaker 1 (44:05):
Oh, okay.
Would you rather be stuck in agroup chat full of your
ex-friends or stuck in anelevator with your ex and their
new boo?
Speaker 3 (44:20):
A group chat with my ex-friends.
I'm so jealous.
No, I'm no, I can't do that.
Speaker 1 (44:34):
Okay, okay.
Would you rather be the way?
Speaker 3 (44:41):
I'm too crazy for that.
No, I'm gonna be cool at first.
I'll be waiting at the elevator.
On the elevator, like oh, westuck.
I'm gonna do a deep breath.
They're going to be keying inthe background, so listen like
what.
Speaker 2 (45:03):
This, that's who you.
You know how we are.
This is who you chose.
Speaker 1 (45:11):
well, what, what?
What did I not do right?
Okay, because clearly, becauseclearly you wasn't going for
looks, because please what'sthem shoes you got on?
Speaker 3 (45:22):
no, I'm not gonna talk to you.
Speaker 1 (45:25):
I can't stand you right now.
Would you rather be known for abad lace front or a viral ugly
cry meme?
Speaker 3 (45:41):
A bad lace front, you would rather be known for I
would Like, I feel like withcomedy I don't care Like.
Have you seen my?
Speaker 1 (45:50):
bob when I first started.
Speaker 3 (45:52):
If you seen my bob when it first started, it was
lean, it was crazy.
Speaker 1 (45:58):
No, because your bob be bobbing.
Speaker 3 (46:01):
Yeah, I do now, but in the beginning it was rough.
So like it's just comedy.
Like they loved it.
They liked when the wig flewoff, like it was comedy.
Like I'll turn it into comedy.
I'll make a skit and be likehow girls be when they feel like
.
They feel like they look good.
It's really how they be.
Look, I'll just make it funny.
Speaker 2 (46:18):
I don't care, I don't mean myself.
Speaker 3 (46:21):
But ugly crying is crazy.
I don't cry like that, uh-uh.
Speaker 1 (46:26):
Okay, would you rather show up in church in club
clothes or show up in a clublike you dress for church?
Speaker 3 (46:42):
I would go to a club in church clothes.
Speaker 1 (46:46):
Would you really?
I won't, I don't care, I'm sonot caring Like I do not, and I
love you for that.
I love you for that.
Speaker 3 (46:54):
Like you for that like I don't want to see.
My thing is, I'm not big onchurch.
I would, I don't want todisrespect church like that,
like that that feels like I'llbe disrespecting, like I don't
know, that feels disrespectfulto show.
But he did say come as you are,so if I'm leaving the club to
go to church or brunch orwhatever, I'm coming as I am.
Speaker 1 (47:17):
As I am Last one, would you rather, on a first
date, accidentally call themyour ex's name or let out a loud
fart in the middle of laughing?
Speaker 3 (47:36):
A first date.
Oh God, we're going to breakthe ice, we're going to fart in
front of them Because I feellike if they we're going to
break the ice, like if you loveme, you can handle a little funk
, like that is what love is.
It is what love is.
It is what love is.
But I don't know, I'm new, Idon't know, because what if he
(47:59):
don't want to eat it no more?
Oh well, like imagine if he wasthinking about eating it all
day and then I just let one outhe don't think about it while he
eat it, he don't think about it, he don't like this nigga okay
(48:20):
like that's so.
He gonna watch me take a shot.
He gonna help me bathe to makesure it's I don't know, like
it's just me, it's all in myhead, it's just I'm not there
yet it's crazy.
Speaker 1 (48:34):
You're gonna help me, babe.
Oh my god, okay, this.
I love this part of the show.
This is the final part of theshow, but before we get to that,
tell everybody where they canfind all things you so you can
find me on TikTok, instagram andon YouTube.
Speaker 3 (48:55):
It's kian kb.
K-h-i-a-n dot kb.
I also like to tell people easyway.
Just look up edna mode, I'llpop up.
You know me, darling, but I'msurprised.
I'm just now bringing the voiceout.
But, um know, and yeah, that'swhere you can find me.
(49:16):
I'm also doing a meet and greetwhen, where I'm not supposed to
be.
Just stay tuned on my Instagram.
Speaker 1 (49:25):
Okay, I'd have gave a little safety.
We all more family.
I don't know, I might get introuble, but I love that you did
not bring the voice out untilthe end, because one thing about
my podcast is I don't want whatyou're known for to come on
(49:51):
here Because that's been talkedabout, talked about, talked
about, talked about.
Speaker 3 (49:54):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (49:55):
I want to know he on.
Speaker 3 (49:57):
And I appreciate that .
Speaker 1 (49:59):
That's who I wanted to come on here.
That's who I want the world toknow.
I want the world to know yououtside of the character.
Speaker 3 (50:08):
Oh yeah, and I appreciate that because you know
it's kind of hard out here foryou know.
So a lot of people want to justsee you be what you're known
for.
So I appreciate you allowing meto be you know, or just a lot,
opening that door to know who Iam and like giving me space to
show who I am, you know ofcourse that that is what this is
(50:32):
all about Just getting to knowwho you are.
We're going to have to run thisback.
We need to.
Okay, I like talking to you.
It's been an hour already, Iknow, make it another hour, tell
production.
Huh, I'll cash out fromsomething, huh.
Speaker 1 (50:49):
Cash out from something too.
Speaker 3 (50:50):
I'll cash out from a little extra.
Speaker 1 (50:57):
Keep it rolling for 30 more minutes.
I love you so much Like I swear, like I legit need to get your
number because G like you are avibe and I knew that you would
be.
I knew that when I met you atthe Queer Tees that you would be
a vibe.
I knew you was going to be avibe, queer Tees that you would
be a vibe.
Speaker 2 (51:14):
Oh yeah, I knew you was going to be a vibe too.
Speaker 3 (51:17):
Like I was just like oh, her energy is okay and
always, always, always,Literally.
Like I just felt your aura.
Like you put off the I know alot of people probably tell you
this but you put off an aurathat like makes people gravitate
towards you.
That like makes peoplegravitate towards you, like it's
just like I felt that energyand I was like, okay, she's
(51:38):
human, she's human, she's notout here on no fake shit, she's
human, like she's-.
Not at all, you carry love and Ifelt that Very positive energy
so I had to hop on here.
Speaker 1 (51:51):
I had to Well listen speaking of love and positive
vibes.
Our last segment is called Passit On, and that is where you
give a message from your hearteither something that you've
heard or just something from youto either our viewers or my
(52:14):
next guest.
So what message would you liketo pass on?
Speaker 3 (52:20):
Let's do a message for the viewers.
So I feel like, okay, it'sgoing to get deep With me.
It took a lot to find who I am.
You know.
I feel like even no matter ifI'm gay or whatever, I still
feel like a lot of, you know,heteros or just regular people
(52:42):
have the same struggles offinding who they are in this
world and they let outsidethings depict.
You know who they are and I'dsay, go within, spend some time
with yourself, figure out whatyou like.
It's baby steps, a lot ofthings, you know.
It ain't going to happenovernight.
Just practice loving yourself,introducing yourself to new
(53:04):
stuff, new ideas.
Stop scrolling so much and putthat energy I don't know like
read a good book, like a, amental, you know something
that'll help, that that justbuilds or like adds or or just
empowers you, and just every day, just just get out your comfort
(53:24):
zone, try.
You ain't gotta like wear apink miniskirt to to walmart,
but you can do little things,like when you find yourself
being a little scared to docertain stuff, put your little
toe out there.
See how it feel.
You know what I mean.
Then put a leg out there.
It ain't that bad.
Speaker 1 (53:43):
Baby steps yes.
Speaker 3 (53:46):
Just go all in, just practice.
That Practice beinguncomfortable.
Take risks, have faith.
Take risks Because when youbelieve and stay, stay, have
faith, have faith, always havefaith, cause when you take these
risks, it's going to be onlyyou and your faith.
Try to evolve yourself Always.
Try to grow your mind, expandyour horizon.
(54:08):
No matter what you do, try tobe the best at it.
If you want to be a doctor, thebest doctor, be the doctor they
want to.
They want to call you becauseyou're so good.
Like it's people you, a doctorin atlanta and people in
california want to come see youbecause you're just that good of
(54:28):
a doctor like you know what Imean.
Like just be a, just be thebest at whatever, or strive to
be just the best.
Speaker 2 (54:36):
And it ain't about the number one, spot it ain't.
Speaker 3 (54:39):
I'm not saying try to be number one.
Speaker 1 (54:40):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (54:41):
I'm just saying try to be the best you can be, you
know.
Speaker 1 (54:45):
Baby.
Speaker 3 (54:47):
And that's.
I hope that made sense.
Speaker 1 (54:50):
Yes, it did, and that is how you pass it on.
Kiant, listen, you are a force.
You are a force.
You are so impactful.
You are a joy spreader.
Like that.
That is what you are, and yourenergy and your vibe, like you,
can feel it through the screen.
(55:11):
Oh, I'm so happy that you aresitting in the passenger seat
with me and I hope that youreturn in all of your fabulosity
.
Speaker 3 (55:22):
I got to return.
We got to do a part two, we gotto.
Speaker 1 (55:25):
Yes, and hopefully I can go to wherever you are.
Or if you are ever in Louisianaagain, come visit me, baby.
Speaker 3 (55:34):
Yeah, I got you, I don't know when the next time
I'll be in Louisiana, but when Icome I'll definitely hit you up
, because I don't have nothingto do in Louisiana?
Well, not, not now.
You can do me okay, I can comeover there and be like girl what
you doing, okay, okay, oh, evenbetter.
Now I'm gonna know you alwayscook I'm gonna just call you
(55:58):
gonna give me the address.
I'm gonna pop up knock, knock,knock it's 7 pm.
Is dinner ready okay, I'm gonnacome in with no and shit oh my
god, listen I.
Speaker 1 (56:13):
If you have enjoyed this episode as much as I have,
look, click like, subscribe,comment, all the things.
But listen, take a deep breath,repeat after me.
I am enough, I am, I am worthy.
Speaker 2 (56:36):
I am worthy.
Speaker 1 (56:37):
I am valuable.
Speaker 2 (56:40):
I am valuable.
Speaker 1 (56:41):
All by my damn self.
Speaker 3 (56:43):
All by my damn self.
Speaker 1 (56:45):
Yes, now, as you go out there and be exactly who you
are, do not let anybody makeyou think that you cannot be
enough, that you cannot beworthy, that you cannot be
valuable all by yourself,because being you is your
superpower.
Okay, so, as you go out thereand be great in their face, keep
(57:08):
being safe and it's like I knowyou can be and, as always, you
have a good day on purpose here.
You're welcome.
Don't go nowhere.
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