#016 - Letting go of kids' things can be hard. The good news is that we don't have to part with things that genuinely bring us joy, but when it comes to the rest, we could end up projecting our own patterns of clinging to the past onto our kids. Keeping too much stuff often comes from a place of love, but if we get stuck wishing our kids would stay little, we might be missing out on the awesome people they’re still becoming right now.
To that end, here's what I have for you in today's episode:
- A few things to consider when it comes to whether and to what extent to involve kids in the decluttering process
- A couple clarity questions to help break down our own resistance and unpack what's really going on internally when we try to part with kids' stuff
- The potential consequences of clutter on relationships
- Several positive parenting opportunities we get from including kids in decluttering
- Practical tips for getting kids started with decluttering, including some sample conversation starters and clarity questions we can ask to help them make their own decluttering decisions
- And last but not least, a couple ways to hold onto our happiest memories in a meaningful way without holding onto all the stuff
This episode is designed to give you practical strategies and quick wins when it comes to decluttering kids' stuff, and I truly hope you find them as helpful as I have!
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Last but not least, here are the earlier episodes mentioned in today's show:
Episode 7: A Practical Decluttering Plan
Episode 14: A Decluttering Quick Win for Goal Momentum
Episode 15: Decluttering for Cash on OfferUp
Thanks so much for tuning in!
~ Jenn
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