August 31, 2025 • 20 mins
Welcome to this week's Blonde Intelligence. I am your host Ms. Roni and I always seek to give you exquisite cranial repertoire. What's the difference between a true friend and someone who's just using you? Can authentic friendships exist in the cutthroat world of entertainment? These questions drive our unflinching exploration of friendship dynamics across both everyday life and the high-stakes entertainment industry.
We dive deep into the "frenemy" phenomenon—that peculiar relationship marked by public camaraderie and private rivalry. Think about those reality TV personalities who smile in your face while talking behind your back, or industry colleagues who support you only when cameras are rolling. The entertainment world magnifies these dynamics, as careers often depend on who you know and how you leverage those connections. When Jay-Z claims he and Puffy were merely "business acquaintances" rather than friends, it reveals volumes about how relationships function when fame and fortune are on the line.
The red flags of toxic friendships deserve your attention: constant criticism designed to make you feel inadequate, visible jealousy when you succeed, manipulation that positions you as the problem, attention-seeking behavior, and perhaps most telling—one-sided support where you're always giving but rarely receiving. We explore the psychology behind these dynamics and why so many of us ignore these warning signs until it's too late. Most importantly, we discuss the power of trusting your instincts. If you're constantly questioning someone's loyalty, that uncertainty itself is your answer.
Ready to evaluate your own friendships with new clarity? Listen now, and don't forget to subscribe and share your experiences in the comments. Is there someone in your life who exhibits these toxic traits? Or have you found genuine connection despite the challenges of modern relationships? We want to hear your story.
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Speaker 2 (00:07):
Welcome to this week's Blonde Intelligence.
I'm your host, BlondeIntelligence, Miss Ronnie, and I
always seek to give youexquisite friendlier repertoire.
This week I want to talk alittle bit about friendships.
Regular friendships andfriendships in the entertainment
industry.
And what brought this about wasI was listening to a review of
(00:36):
Love Hip Hop, atlanta, andsomebody brought up an old clip
of Michelle saying that Rashidais nobody's friend, and then the
situation with her and Yandyand saying that her and Yandy
wasn't friends.
And I even think about when RKelly went through what he went
(01:01):
through, how Jay-Z and PuffDaddy kind of like distanced
themselves from him and thenJay-Z saying that him and Puffy
were never friends, they werejust business acquaintances.
So I was wondering about thetypes of friendships, archetypes
(01:25):
and friendships.
Archetype is a category thatyou can put a person or a
person's actions in, so when youlike no, I ain't got no type or
I don't fool with that person,because they're the type of
person that does X, y and Z, thetype of person that does X, y
(01:47):
and Z.
So I was wondering aboutarchetypes for friends and even
some of the red flags, and ifyou're in a toxic friendship,
because it don't always have tobe a toxic relationship, but
friendships can indeed becategorized into archetypes,
particularly within theentertainment industry, where
relationships often servespecific purposes.
(02:08):
So I could see on some of theseshows where they get paid by
how much airtime they get wherethey may try to befriend a
person and get to know them alittle better so that they make
it feel together.
So I kind of feel like that'san ulterior motive, and I do
(02:29):
remember Rashida sayingsomething about I've known her
for over 15 years or somethinglike that, or so, for how many
years?
And she's only called me maybe15 times out of my life or
whatever, whatever, whatever.
But you know, if you're notmoving in the same circles,
that's one thing.
(02:50):
She was in New York, you werein Atlanta, but then when she
came to Atlanta, oh, I know her,we're going to be on this show
together.
You know, I might want to getto know her.
And so I think the issue thatcomes in with, especially with
being friends with Rashida andthe things that being said,
(03:12):
especially with people who arein the entertainment industry,
is some of these relationshipsare one-sided.
I think that sometimes peopledo look for genuine
relationships and the otherperson is only looking at what
they can get out of that person.
So, for example, the frenemyarchetype is prevalent, where
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individuals may appear asfriends but have an underlying
competitive motive.
The relationship is marked byboth public camaraderie and
private rivalry.
This dynamic illustrates howfriendships can be complex and
multifaceted, often driven byambition rather than genuine
(03:59):
affection.
And I kind of think that maybeYandy could have let Rashida go
on, except for the fact thatRashida allegedly was saying
things behind Yandy's back thatshe wouldn't say to her face.
But I also feel like you andRashida had too many
(04:21):
conversations about how you werefeeling about her being a
friend to you.
I had that situation before Ihad a friend and I would tell
him all the time to me you'renot a good friend because these
are the things that I do for you, but you don't do that for me.
Or if somebody is speakingnegatively about me and I'm not
(04:43):
there and you know that the shitis not true, you don't speak up
and say anything.
So I kind of feel what Yandywas saying about.
Um, she said I had stank breathand smell like a BBL or
something like that.
I feel like Rashida was likereally out of place for that,
because if Zell swag has notsaid that she got stank breath
(05:07):
and a funky BBL or whatever,then it's not true on that show,
because I look for the truth tocome from Zell, because Zell
tell it how it is, but there aresome red flags in toxic
relationships not relationships,friendships Red flags
indicating types ofrelationships, including
(05:27):
manipulation and lack of support.
In the entertainment industry,we often see friendship that are
transactional, where oneindividual uses another for
personal gain.
For instance, the relationshipbetween certain search social
media influencers can besuperficial, where connections
(05:50):
are based on follower counts andbrand collaborations rather
than authentic emotional bonds.
Psychological studies indicatethat friendships foster growth
and positivity.
When they devolve into jealousyand competition, they can
become harmful.
So if you have a friend thattalks behind your back with
(06:11):
their group of friends, thenobviously that's not a good
friend.
But when they come back to youand smile all in your face and
act like they didn't know whathappened, such as how Rashida
done when, um, the girls werecoming to confront Mendeecees, I
(06:34):
don't even feel like that was aconfrontation.
I feel like they just wanted tohave beef with Yandy just
because and a lot of that to mewhen women coming up out of
nowhere having beef with a womanfor no reason, especially on
these types of shows, it'sbecause I think naturally women
get jealous of other women andthat's what it was.
(06:58):
You wrote to hate that otherwoman based on what this man is
saying, and there's always twosides to every story.
But I'm not even looking at justrelationship, I'm just looking
at just genuine friendship.
And I feel like when a personis trying to have a genuine
friendship with someoneespecially when it's music
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acting or any of those thingsinvolved music acting or any of
those things involved and you'rein a competitive environment to
begin with, trying to get reach, trying to get airtime, trying
to get all this I do think thatpeople may, I would say, cut a
person to try to get ahead, andI just feel like that never
(07:43):
works.
What did he say?
When you play dirty, you neverwin.
So you know, and I've seen itthroughout my life People try to
cut you, don't worry about yourfriendship, don't honor your
feelings, even when you saysomething to them, and for me,
that just gives you the cutoff.
Hey, you don't have to believewhat I say.
Hey, I'm telling you that yourother little groups of friends
(08:07):
are saying and doing this.
And if you're going to be ajellyback and I call a jellyback
, I got that from one of thetarot readers A jellyback is a
person who don't have a spine,don't stand up for themselves,
would not stand up for others,would know that they're being
mistreated and just sit back andlet it happen.
Those are toxic, toxicfriendships.
(08:30):
But toxic or jealousindividuals with a friendship
often exhibit behaviors that canbe detrimental to the
relationship.
And here are some signs to lookout for.
So I haven't went through theseto see if Rashida fit the bill
on it or not, but let's just see.
(08:51):
When Jay-Z said he's notfriends with Puffy, when Rashida
says she's not real friendswith Yandy and even other
superficial no, keep making medance, baby.
My hand and neck won't be nothreat.
We cool as long as you don't dothis.
(09:26):
Constant criticism If you'rearound somebody, they may
frequently criticize you,whether it's about your behavior
, your appearance or yourperformance, making you feel
like you're not good enough.
So if you're in a friendshipwith somebody and they always
have something to say and try tomake you feel like you're not
good enough or they're betterthan you, then you're probably
in a toxic, jealous friendship.
Jealousy they may show youjealousy when you receive good
news or when you have a positiveexperience, indicating that
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they are not happy with yoursuccess.
So you can be like hey, Iposted this or this right here
happened to me can be like hey,I posted this or this right here
happened to the other.
If you have a friend that havea dry response, you may be in a
toxic and jealous relationship.
Oh, I keep saying relationshipFriendship, even though
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friendship is a relationshipManipulative behavior.
They may try to manipulate thesituation to make you feel
guilty or inferior, even if thesituation is not your fault.
I even call that playing thevictim manipulative behavior.
Oh, this right here happened tome.
(10:31):
Or they took money out of mypocket and the reason why is
because it is oh, it wasn'tbecause you didn't stab him in
the back 27,000 times.
It was everything alwayssomebody else's fault.
Everything of why this didn'tpan out or why this didn't make
it is everybody else's fault.
(10:53):
It's not.
Let me go back to the drawingboard and see why I went wrong
so I can strengthen this area ofweakness.
So manipulative behavior, and alot of manipulative behavior
that I see is what Carly reads,in my opinion, because I feel
like that Carly is not a goodactress Now, when she being
(11:14):
messy and she laughing about itand all that.
I think that's the real Carly,but I'm scared that I might be
locked up Because I broke in hishouse and I did this right here
.
Why are you breaking inpeople's houses?
In a relationship for me, aperson can show me that they
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don't want me and I don't feelthe same way, no more.
So if I did love you the wayyou treat me and make me not
love you anymore.
And that's where people comeinto the toxicity.
But let's keep moving,attention seeking.
They may seek your attention bymaking themselves the victim or
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constantly pointing out theirown achievements, making you
feel less important.
And, as I said before, it was amanipulative behavior, the
victimization, always being avictim.
And he talked to me like thisand I done, won such and such
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and such and such, and I wassigned here and I was done there
.
And it's like if you haveaccomplishments and people
messing with you, you don't haveto say anything.
You let yourself shine withouteven saying a word.
Then you have one-sided support,and I don't want to be picking
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on people from Love Hip Hop, butthat was a lot of what people
were saying about Ciara that shewant people to come out and
support her, but when it's timefor her to go out and support
other people, but when it's timefor her to go out and support
other people that she wouldn'tbe there.
Now that was what KK said onthe show.
I do think that Tiara is agenuine friend to people and
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she's been working on that, butI do think that she also looked
down on people.
But a one-sided support theymay give you all the support and
attention while you are doingall the giving, creating an
imbalance in the friendship.
Recognizing these signs canhelp you identify and address
toxic or jealous behavior withinyour friendship.
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If you notice these behaviors,it may be time to assess the
friendship and consider ways toimprove the dynamic.
I know I had a friend one time.
Every time I did something, shewanted to do it too, and I was
like I got to be looking at thisrole because we so cool.
I don't think that she wouldtry to be in competition with me
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.
Being young first, getting outinto the world, you have to
learn to budget.
Now, as you get older and makemore money, your budget gets a
little bigger and you decide,hey, my budget is bigger but I'm
going to cut costs to make mysavings bigger, and I think that
some people don't get to that.
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But the one side of support isoh, I'm always going to your
events, I'm always buying yourmerchandise, I'm always giving
you a light, and I can't get youto do this and I felt like I
had.
I was in a lot of relationshipswith one side of support when
you needed something, you wouldcall me, but when I needed
something or needed you to showme genuine support, then it
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wasn't there.
So don't be surprised when aperson quit talking to you or
don't have anything else to giveyou or they don't know you
anymore.
Then that person's feelingsbecome that victim and I don't
know why we used to do such andsuch.
Let's think about the lastinteraction.
Who's going to stay around toget kicked over and over again,
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unless you are a jelly bag?
But let me move back.
While archetypes can help usunderstand friendship dynamics,
it is critical to recognize thesigns of toxicity, especially in
environments like theentertainment industry, where
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authenticity is oftencompromised and constantly
criticizing a person and youjust roll with what they say and
you never even think about whatare the ulterior motives of
this.
What would this person gain bycutting this person right here?
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And if you're the person that'sin the middle and you don't
question it or do your ownresearch, then you'll get taken
advantage of every time.
And I just think that with theYandy situation, I feel like if
she asked Rashida too many times, was she being loyal?
How about you trust your owninstinct and if you have to
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question it, you don't need togo in?
Hey, I just need to know this.
Fall back and watch andeverything will reveal itself.
So that's all I have to say forthis week about having
friendships period.
Can they fall into categories?
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That friendships in theentertainment industry is
different than friendships withregular people, although they go
through the same things that ifyou have a friendship in the
entertainment industry, you gotto look at is there motives or
is there gain?
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What is it to being that personwanting to be your friend?
So I mean, I even look at itwith the, the direct situation
and the, the rumors that if yougo work with him or he collab
with you, that he's basicallytaken from you and leaves you
with nothing.
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That's would be considered oneside of support.
As long as I can take yourstyle, as long as I can take
your lyrics, then yeah, we cool.
But once everybody know andyou're dried up and I need to
move on to the next, I may notbe your friend anymore.
So I just want people to lookat motives.
If somebody's always bringingyou a bone, why are they
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bringing you a bone?
Are you in a jealous friendshipwhere a person always feel like
they're competing with you,where they always have to get
with the crowd to go against you?
Are they really applauding youor are they laughing at you?
And I just think that, withYandy having to question Rashida
so many times that she shouldhave trusted herself and fell
(17:55):
back Because when K Michelle sawthat Rashida wasn't a friend to
her, it wasn't that you wasgoing to be frenemies.
No, I know I watched aninterview and they were asking K
Michelle if her and Rashidaever worked things out.
She was like hell.
No, that's a lot like how I am.
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If you cut me, I'm not going tokeep letting you come back in
my face and cut me.
How about you stay over there?
And if you try to box me inhere, hey, I don't have to be a
part of your little groupbecause there's a whole other
world out there and you staywithin your little group.
I don't have to be a part ofyour little group because
there's a whole other world outthere and you stay within your
little group, and I don't thinkthat people understand that when
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they're trying to bemanipulative in friendships, but
I feel like everything alwayscomes out in the wash, and even
people digging up old socialmedia stuff going back, looking
at things.
Whatever the truth is, thetruth is going to come out and I
don't think that you have toworry about it.
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And, as they say, truefriendships stand the test of
time.
But if you're in a friendshipand I consider them a good
friend and you've only reallybeen getting to know them for
three or four months, then it'sokay to be like, hey, we might
not be cool, we can just youknow when we see each other, we
speak, but no, I'm not going tocome over your house.
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No, you're not going to comeover mine.
No, I'm not going to call andcheck on you and see how you're
doing.
Keep it superficial if that'sreally what it is.
But I think that where peopleget it misconstrued with Rashida
is Rashida's best friend isKirk.
Whether you like theirrelationship or not, that's who
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her best friend is.
That's who her loyalty is too.
And when women get in arelationship and be in a
relationship that long.
Most of the time their man istheir best friend.
So just trying to be friendswith somebody because she
married, I'm married, you knowthat's the messy shit right
there, because when one personis unhappy, if they're a
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manipulative friend, they'regonna try to cause problems in
your relationship too.
So I just want everybody tolook at that in toxicity in your
own friendships and I guess Ipundit a question Can there
really be any real authenticrelationships in the
entertainment industry?
But that's all I got for youtoday and I will talk to you
(20:28):
next week.
Bye.
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Welcome to this week's Blonde Intelligence.
I'm your host, BlondeIntelligence, Miss Ronnie, and I
always seek to give youexquisite friendlier repertoire.
This week I want to talk alittle bit about friendships.
Regular friendships andfriendships in the entertainment
industry.
And what brought this about wasI was listening to a review of
(00:36):
Love Hip Hop, atlanta, andsomebody brought up an old clip
of Michelle saying that Rashidais nobody's friend, and then the
situation with her and Yandyand saying that her and Yandy
wasn't friends.
And I even think about when RKelly went through what he went
(01:01):
through, how Jay-Z and PuffDaddy kind of like distanced
themselves from him and thenJay-Z saying that him and Puffy
were never friends, they werejust business acquaintances.
So I was wondering about thetypes of friendships, archetypes
(01:25):
and friendships.
Archetype is a category thatyou can put a person or a
person's actions in, so when youlike no, I ain't got no type or
I don't fool with that person,because they're the type of
person that does X, y and Z, thetype of person that does X, y
(01:47):
and Z.
So I was wondering aboutarchetypes for friends and even
some of the red flags, and ifyou're in a toxic friendship,
because it don't always have tobe a toxic relationship, but
friendships can indeed becategorized into archetypes,
particularly within theentertainment industry, where
relationships often servespecific purposes.
(02:08):
So I could see on some of theseshows where they get paid by
how much airtime they get wherethey may try to befriend a
person and get to know them alittle better so that they make
it feel together.
So I kind of feel like that'san ulterior motive, and I do
(02:29):
remember Rashida sayingsomething about I've known her
for over 15 years or somethinglike that, or so, for how many
years?
And she's only called me maybe15 times out of my life or
whatever, whatever, whatever.
But you know, if you're notmoving in the same circles,
that's one thing.
(02:50):
She was in New York, you werein Atlanta, but then when she
came to Atlanta, oh, I know her,we're going to be on this show
together.
You know, I might want to getto know her.
And so I think the issue thatcomes in with, especially with
being friends with Rashida andthe things that being said,
(03:12):
especially with people who arein the entertainment industry,
is some of these relationshipsare one-sided.
I think that sometimes peopledo look for genuine
relationships and the otherperson is only looking at what
they can get out of that person.
So, for example, the frenemyarchetype is prevalent, where
(03:36):
individuals may appear asfriends but have an underlying
competitive motive.
The relationship is marked byboth public camaraderie and
private rivalry.
This dynamic illustrates howfriendships can be complex and
multifaceted, often driven byambition rather than genuine
(03:59):
affection.
And I kind of think that maybeYandy could have let Rashida go
on, except for the fact thatRashida allegedly was saying
things behind Yandy's back thatshe wouldn't say to her face.
But I also feel like you andRashida had too many
(04:21):
conversations about how you werefeeling about her being a
friend to you.
I had that situation before Ihad a friend and I would tell
him all the time to me you'renot a good friend because these
are the things that I do for you, but you don't do that for me.
Or if somebody is speakingnegatively about me and I'm not
(04:43):
there and you know that the shitis not true, you don't speak up
and say anything.
So I kind of feel what Yandywas saying about.
Um, she said I had stank breathand smell like a BBL or
something like that.
I feel like Rashida was likereally out of place for that,
because if Zell swag has notsaid that she got stank breath
(05:07):
and a funky BBL or whatever,then it's not true on that show,
because I look for the truth tocome from Zell, because Zell
tell it how it is, but there aresome red flags in toxic
relationships not relationships,friendships Red flags
indicating types ofrelationships, including
(05:27):
manipulation and lack of support.
In the entertainment industry,we often see friendship that are
transactional, where oneindividual uses another for
personal gain.
For instance, the relationshipbetween certain search social
media influencers can besuperficial, where connections
(05:50):
are based on follower counts andbrand collaborations rather
than authentic emotional bonds.
Psychological studies indicatethat friendships foster growth
and positivity.
When they devolve into jealousyand competition, they can
become harmful.
So if you have a friend thattalks behind your back with
(06:11):
their group of friends, thenobviously that's not a good
friend.
But when they come back to youand smile all in your face and
act like they didn't know whathappened, such as how Rashida
done when, um, the girls werecoming to confront Mendeecees, I
(06:34):
don't even feel like that was aconfrontation.
I feel like they just wanted tohave beef with Yandy just
because and a lot of that to mewhen women coming up out of
nowhere having beef with a womanfor no reason, especially on
these types of shows, it'sbecause I think naturally women
get jealous of other women andthat's what it was.
(06:58):
You wrote to hate that otherwoman based on what this man is
saying, and there's always twosides to every story.
But I'm not even looking at justrelationship, I'm just looking
at just genuine friendship.
And I feel like when a personis trying to have a genuine
friendship with someoneespecially when it's music
(07:21):
acting or any of those thingsinvolved music acting or any of
those things involved and you'rein a competitive environment to
begin with, trying to get reach, trying to get airtime, trying
to get all this I do think thatpeople may, I would say, cut a
person to try to get ahead, andI just feel like that never
(07:43):
works.
What did he say?
When you play dirty, you neverwin.
So you know, and I've seen itthroughout my life People try to
cut you, don't worry about yourfriendship, don't honor your
feelings, even when you saysomething to them, and for me,
that just gives you the cutoff.
Hey, you don't have to believewhat I say.
Hey, I'm telling you that yourother little groups of friends
(08:07):
are saying and doing this.
And if you're going to be ajellyback and I call a jellyback
, I got that from one of thetarot readers A jellyback is a
person who don't have a spine,don't stand up for themselves,
would not stand up for others,would know that they're being
mistreated and just sit back andlet it happen.
Those are toxic, toxicfriendships.
(08:30):
But toxic or jealousindividuals with a friendship
often exhibit behaviors that canbe detrimental to the
relationship.
And here are some signs to lookout for.
So I haven't went through theseto see if Rashida fit the bill
on it or not, but let's just see.
(08:51):
When Jay-Z said he's notfriends with Puffy, when Rashida
says she's not real friendswith Yandy and even other
superficial no, keep making medance, baby.
My hand and neck won't be nothreat.
We cool as long as you don't dothis.
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Constant criticism If you'rearound somebody, they may
frequently criticize you,whether it's about your behavior
, your appearance or yourperformance, making you feel
like you're not good enough.
So if you're in a friendshipwith somebody and they always
have something to say and try tomake you feel like you're not
good enough or they're betterthan you, then you're probably
in a toxic, jealous friendship.
Jealousy they may show youjealousy when you receive good
news or when you have a positiveexperience, indicating that
(09:49):
they are not happy with yoursuccess.
So you can be like hey, Iposted this or this right here
happened to me can be like hey,I posted this or this right here
happened to the other.
If you have a friend that havea dry response, you may be in a
toxic and jealous relationship.
Oh, I keep saying relationshipFriendship, even though
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friendship is a relationshipManipulative behavior.
They may try to manipulate thesituation to make you feel
guilty or inferior, even if thesituation is not your fault.
I even call that playing thevictim manipulative behavior.
Oh, this right here happened tome.
(10:31):
Or they took money out of mypocket and the reason why is
because it is oh, it wasn'tbecause you didn't stab him in
the back 27,000 times.
It was everything alwayssomebody else's fault.
Everything of why this didn'tpan out or why this didn't make
it is everybody else's fault.
(10:53):
It's not.
Let me go back to the drawingboard and see why I went wrong
so I can strengthen this area ofweakness.
So manipulative behavior, and alot of manipulative behavior
that I see is what Carly reads,in my opinion, because I feel
like that Carly is not a goodactress Now, when she being
(11:14):
messy and she laughing about itand all that.
I think that's the real Carly,but I'm scared that I might be
locked up Because I broke in hishouse and I did this right here
.
Why are you breaking inpeople's houses?
In a relationship for me, aperson can show me that they
(11:36):
don't want me and I don't feelthe same way, no more.
So if I did love you the wayyou treat me and make me not
love you anymore.
And that's where people comeinto the toxicity.
But let's keep moving,attention seeking.
They may seek your attention bymaking themselves the victim or
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constantly pointing out theirown achievements, making you
feel less important.
And, as I said before, it was amanipulative behavior, the
victimization, always being avictim.
And he talked to me like thisand I done, won such and such
(12:21):
and such and such, and I wassigned here and I was done there
.
And it's like if you haveaccomplishments and people
messing with you, you don't haveto say anything.
You let yourself shine withouteven saying a word.
Then you have one-sided support,and I don't want to be picking
(12:46):
on people from Love Hip Hop, butthat was a lot of what people
were saying about Ciara that shewant people to come out and
support her, but when it's timefor her to go out and support
other people, but when it's timefor her to go out and support
other people that she wouldn'tbe there.
Now that was what KK said onthe show.
I do think that Tiara is agenuine friend to people and
(13:08):
she's been working on that, butI do think that she also looked
down on people.
But a one-sided support theymay give you all the support and
attention while you are doingall the giving, creating an
imbalance in the friendship.
Recognizing these signs canhelp you identify and address
toxic or jealous behavior withinyour friendship.
(13:28):
If you notice these behaviors,it may be time to assess the
friendship and consider ways toimprove the dynamic.
I know I had a friend one time.
Every time I did something, shewanted to do it too, and I was
like I got to be looking at thisrole because we so cool.
I don't think that she wouldtry to be in competition with me
(13:52):
.
Being young first, getting outinto the world, you have to
learn to budget.
Now, as you get older and makemore money, your budget gets a
little bigger and you decide,hey, my budget is bigger but I'm
going to cut costs to make mysavings bigger, and I think that
some people don't get to that.
(14:13):
But the one side of support isoh, I'm always going to your
events, I'm always buying yourmerchandise, I'm always giving
you a light, and I can't get youto do this and I felt like I
had.
I was in a lot of relationshipswith one side of support when
you needed something, you wouldcall me, but when I needed
something or needed you to showme genuine support, then it
(14:37):
wasn't there.
So don't be surprised when aperson quit talking to you or
don't have anything else to giveyou or they don't know you
anymore.
Then that person's feelingsbecome that victim and I don't
know why we used to do such andsuch.
Let's think about the lastinteraction.
Who's going to stay around toget kicked over and over again,
(15:00):
unless you are a jelly bag?
But let me move back.
While archetypes can help usunderstand friendship dynamics,
it is critical to recognize thesigns of toxicity, especially in
environments like theentertainment industry, where
(15:21):
authenticity is oftencompromised and constantly
criticizing a person and youjust roll with what they say and
you never even think about whatare the ulterior motives of
this.
What would this person gain bycutting this person right here?
(15:44):
And if you're the person that'sin the middle and you don't
question it or do your ownresearch, then you'll get taken
advantage of every time.
And I just think that with theYandy situation, I feel like if
she asked Rashida too many times, was she being loyal?
How about you trust your owninstinct and if you have to
(16:06):
question it, you don't need togo in?
Hey, I just need to know this.
Fall back and watch andeverything will reveal itself.
So that's all I have to say forthis week about having
friendships period.
Can they fall into categories?
(16:30):
That friendships in theentertainment industry is
different than friendships withregular people, although they go
through the same things that ifyou have a friendship in the
entertainment industry, you gotto look at is there motives or
is there gain?
(16:50):
What is it to being that personwanting to be your friend?
So I mean, I even look at itwith the, the direct situation
and the, the rumors that if yougo work with him or he collab
with you, that he's basicallytaken from you and leaves you
with nothing.
(17:10):
That's would be considered oneside of support.
As long as I can take yourstyle, as long as I can take
your lyrics, then yeah, we cool.
But once everybody know andyou're dried up and I need to
move on to the next, I may notbe your friend anymore.
So I just want people to lookat motives.
If somebody's always bringingyou a bone, why are they
(17:33):
bringing you a bone?
Are you in a jealous friendshipwhere a person always feel like
they're competing with you,where they always have to get
with the crowd to go against you?
Are they really applauding youor are they laughing at you?
And I just think that, withYandy having to question Rashida
so many times that she shouldhave trusted herself and fell
(17:55):
back Because when K Michelle sawthat Rashida wasn't a friend to
her, it wasn't that you wasgoing to be frenemies.
No, I know I watched aninterview and they were asking K
Michelle if her and Rashidaever worked things out.
She was like hell.
No, that's a lot like how I am.
(18:18):
If you cut me, I'm not going tokeep letting you come back in
my face and cut me.
How about you stay over there?
And if you try to box me inhere, hey, I don't have to be a
part of your little groupbecause there's a whole other
world out there and you staywithin your little group.
I don't have to be a part ofyour little group because
there's a whole other world outthere and you stay within your
little group, and I don't thinkthat people understand that when
(18:39):
they're trying to bemanipulative in friendships, but
I feel like everything alwayscomes out in the wash, and even
people digging up old socialmedia stuff going back, looking
at things.
Whatever the truth is, thetruth is going to come out and I
don't think that you have toworry about it.
(18:59):
And, as they say, truefriendships stand the test of
time.
But if you're in a friendshipand I consider them a good
friend and you've only reallybeen getting to know them for
three or four months, then it'sokay to be like, hey, we might
not be cool, we can just youknow when we see each other, we
speak, but no, I'm not going tocome over your house.
(19:21):
No, you're not going to comeover mine.
No, I'm not going to call andcheck on you and see how you're
doing.
Keep it superficial if that'sreally what it is.
But I think that where peopleget it misconstrued with Rashida
is Rashida's best friend isKirk.
Whether you like theirrelationship or not, that's who
(19:41):
her best friend is.
That's who her loyalty is too.
And when women get in arelationship and be in a
relationship that long.
Most of the time their man istheir best friend.
So just trying to be friendswith somebody because she
married, I'm married, you knowthat's the messy shit right
there, because when one personis unhappy, if they're a
(20:04):
manipulative friend, they'regonna try to cause problems in
your relationship too.
So I just want everybody tolook at that in toxicity in your
own friendships and I guess Ipundit a question Can there
really be any real authenticrelationships in the
entertainment industry?
But that's all I got for youtoday and I will talk to you
(20:28):
next week.
Bye.
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