How to Be in Right Relationship With Anti-racism, Anti-bias, and Anti-oppressive Educators Without Wallowing in Self-contempt

Why does the pupil have contempt for their anti-racism or anti-bias educator? James-Olivia explores that questions as she shares why some students who desire to be anti-racist, anti-bias, and anti-oppressive end up with deep resentment towards their educator. James-Olivia offers some tips on how to stay in right relationship and what is really going on when contempt builds.

James-Olivia Chu Hillman facilitates and mediates uncomfortable, necessary, life-changing conversations with those who want more joy and connection and less suffering in their most important relationships—with themselves, their loved ones, their organizations, and the world.

James-Olivia comes to the work of relational life & leadership coaching and facilitation with the lived experience of moving through life in the United States as a multi-racial and sometimes white-presenting “other” with multiple, intersecting privileged and marginalized identities. They bring relentless compassion, an unusual perspective, and an eclectic variety of tools to the conversation of expanding our lives and leadership beyond personal growth and into relational development. James-Olivia believes that our freedoms are bound to one another.

Here’s what you’ll learn:

• How being of Chinese and German Jewish descent has shaped James-Olivia’s work in this world
• The influence of music and how it kept James-Olivia connected to community in a way religious services at her church could not
• The parable of choirs and why it’s an apt metaphor as to why we need to take breaks while doing the inner work
• What the United States’ political process lacks and how this missing trait influences American culture
• How the way someone reacts is not a violation of your boundaries (James-Olivia provides a beautiful reframe on an example Leesa shared)
• The concept of contempt and why this shows up in relationships that were once positive, nurturing, and supportive
• The strange labels some put on Black, Indigenous, and Women of Color (BIWOC) who are anti-racism, anti-bias, and anti-oppressive educators
• Why expecting validation, gold stars, or high fives for doing the inner work is the wrong expectation (and what this assumption truly reveals)
• What you can give birth to and leave for future generations if you are voluntarily or involuntarily childfree (and why having no biological children is not an excuse to become a better ancestor)
• This episode’s sponsored message features Sarah Turino, a wellness advocate, who has been a patron in the Inner Field Trip community on Patreon since 2018.

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