After months of deep research and personal transformation, I’m back with a game-changing revelation. One that will change how you experience success, leadership, and recognition as a highly sensitive, gifted, or neurodivergent leader.
In this episode, I share:
✔ The life-changing breakthrough that accelerated my transformation, in days, not years.
✔ The missing piece that explains why traditional success strategies don’t work for those of us who are Highly Sensitive or neurodivergent.
✔ How your neurobiology determines whether success feels like an uphill battle or an effortless flow.
✔ Why addressing the unconscious mind is the key to unlocking your full potential.
✔ What’s coming in Season 2, and why this new paradigm is a must-hear.
If you’ve ever felt like you’re almost reaching your fullest potential but something invisible keeps holding you back, this episode is for you.
Listen now to learn how to recalibrate your neurobiology for effortless success.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello there and welcome to season two of the
Inner Purpose podcast.
I know a lot of you who havebeen following me have been
asking me where did you go?
I kind of went radio silent fora while and there's a few
reasons for that and I'm goingto share some of them now.
I'm going to tell you kind ofwhat happened at the end of 2024
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, because there were some hugeshifts that happened and I'm
about to come back out of myradio silence with a completely
new I don't even know what tocall it.
How about?
I share the story and thenyou're going to understand
what's been going on in my world.
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So the last podcast episode in2024, in September, just after
that podcast, I went on myyearly retreat to our cabin in
the woods.
I go there every year duringmoose hunting season with my
husband because he goes andhunts moose and it's my birthday
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around that time.
So we've made it an annualevent where I go with him while
he's hunting and I take thattime for myself, off grid in the
middle of nowhere, torecalibrate during my birthday,
and it's the best gift that Ican give myself.
I look forward to it everysingle year.
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So this year we arrived the dayof my birthday and that day
there was a lunar eclipse.
Now, this is important becauseI was born on a lunar eclipse
and it's a fairly rare event tohave a lunar eclipse happen
again on the same day that youwere born.
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And it was quite an energeticlunar eclipse.
I know a lot of people felt it.
I definitely felt it.
That night something started tochange within me.
I can't tell you how.
I can't tell you exactly whatthat change was, tell you how I
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can't tell you exactly what thatchange was, except the fact
that I knew from the very coreof my being that things were
about to change drastically inamazing ways.
So I took that time in thewoods to recalibrate and sit
with myself and be in nature andbe with my husband and enjoy
that time.
And then, when I came back, Ihad already registered for a
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very intensive practitionercertification program to learn
neurolinguistic programming,timeline therapy, which are all
unconscious recalibration andreprogramming modalities.
I was excited for this programand I didn't have a whole lot of
expectations.
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I knew before I started that itwas going to be another
modality that I was learning toadd to my toolbox, because
that's the way I work is, I pullfrom multiple different
modalities that I've learned andcertified in.
Depending on how you'representing, I will use whatever
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modalities are appropriate inthat moment to get you the best
results the most efficiently,and that was my expectation
going into this program.
And then we got started and,let me tell you, it kind of blew
my mind a little bit.
We got started in a fairlynormal way and I was enjoying
what I was learning.
And then we got to the timelinetherapy portion and I knew that
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this was the piece out of allof the neuro linguistic
programming that I knew I reallywanted to learn the most
Instinctively.
It just felt like this is whyI'm here.
And so, in order to understandhow to do this technique, we
learn by doing it on each other,and once I had this experience,
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the shifts that I felt withinone week was equivalent to the
levels of shifts that I hadachieved in the previous six
years, and you know, if you'vebeen following my podcast, that
I've had some pretty significantshifts.
I did a lot of inner work and Ihad a lot of breakthroughs, I
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had awakenings, I hadrealizations.
My entire inner landscape andinner paradigm went through a
major transformation since 2018.
And then fast forward toOctober 2024 and in one day I
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had the same level of shiftwithin me.
It blew my mind a little bitand I was excited for this.
I couldn't wait to start usingthis in my work with my clients
so that they could have the sameexperience that I did.
And so as soon as I got back towork after this program, I
started incorporating this withmy clients, and every time I did
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, my clients would say, wow,that was phenomenal, that
changed everything for me.
And then having follow-ups weekslater and months later, the
things that were unfolding forthem at the rate that they were
unfolding at the rate that theywere unfolding, the fact that
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opportunities that they hadnever even imagined could happen
were unfolding for them almostlike magic.
The fact that they were nolonger feeling triggered or
bothered by other people'sreactions.
They were no longer takingthings personally.
They knew how to carrythemselves, even in difficult
situations.
They were finding that theirleadership people were looking
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to them and respecting them andfollowing them in ways that they
had never done before, and theycould see how everything was
happening for them and it becameand it is so obvious now and
they can see it and I can see itfor myself as well.
It's a complete inner paradigmshift in terms of how you see
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yourself, how you see reality,how you respond to reality and
the inner dialogue andmonologues that happen in your
mind.
And so, after I had thisexperience and I started seeing
similar experiences in myclients I had to stop and
reflect and go.
What's going on here?
And so in December, I knew Iwas going to be taking some time
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off for the holidays and so Istarted to sit with myself, and
I think what actually sparkedthis was, just before the
holiday started, a fellow friendand timeline practitioner and I
had decided to do an exchangeon each other.
So this was my secondexperience with someone doing
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timeline therapy on me, and sowe had this exchange, and then I
sat in meditation and then itwas like almost like this ding,
like the timer was ready, likeding, and something inside me
said okay, now you've got to gosit down and type.
And what came next I can't evendescribe.
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It was like my fingers weremoving and things were flowing
out of me that I can't even justyou're going to understand once
you see what's going to, what'sunfolding in terms of what I'm
going to be presenting for you.
But I started typing, and typing, and typing, and all the
thoughts in terms of puttingconnections to all the things
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that I've seen and done andresearched over the years just
started coming together.
And so I started to pull up allmy old Google Docs with lists
and lists of references fromscientific research articles
that I'd collected and theirquotes and the findings and the
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summaries.
And then, as I was pulling allof those up and referencing them
and thinking about all thedifferent analogies and examples
that I would use in my work andall the different common
patterns that I would see in myclients over and over and over
again, I started to see puzzlepieces coming together.
I started connecting the dotsand then, of course, I opened up
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tab after tab of PubMedsearches, looking at articles,
going deeper into all of thedifferent connections that I was
starting to see to make surethat they were true, to make
sure that there's science toback up everything that I was
putting together.
And it was like this snowballthat just kept getting bigger
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and bigger and bigger as I wasputting all of these pieces of
the puzzle together and I kepttelling myself, okay, I'm going
to put this aside soon and goback to my work, go back to
being on social media, goingback to sharing what it was I
was sharing before, and everytime I thought to do that, there
was something inside me thatsaid, no, no, you're not ready
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yet.
Because this is important andthis is the thing.
I had been collecting researchfor years, especially since my
health crisis, which I've talkedabout in season one, and when I
had this health crisis, nothingthat I had known to use as a
clinical naturopathic doctor wasreally helping me to get back
up on my feet again when I hadgotten to this point of being
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bed bound, and that's whatreally started this whole
journey of me discovering thiswhole inner world of inner
transformation, which has beenthe spark that started all of
the different pivots that I'vemade in my business as I put
more and more of these pieces ofthe puzzle together.
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Now, in the background of doingall of this, I had been
collecting even more researchthat I haven't been telling you
about.
You see, I have this specialinterest in diving deep into
rabbit holes of research andthen taking all kinds of
different areas of research thatare seemingly unrelated and
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connecting dots Dots that arereal dots.
However, it's almost like Ithink about some of these
problems in ways, maybe, thatother people don't, and so then
I see this one topic or thing,or the proven result of this one
scientific concept and I startasking questions Okay, well,
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what about this and what aboutthis and what about this?
And then I start going andlooking at those different
directions and getting deep intothe roots of those, and then I
can start to see thecommonalities and patterns and
how they actually fit together.
And this is something that wasconfirmed to me as I was diving
into all of this research isthat those of us who are highly
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sensitive, those of us who areneurodivergent, our brains are
actually wired to do this.
It's a gift that we havebecause of our neurobiology and
how it's built, compared to aneurotypical person, which
explains why this comes soeasily to me.
It's second nature, becausethis is how my neurobiology is
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designed, just like so manyothers that I see as clients who
are highly sensitive, who aregifted, who are neurodivergent.
More often than not, they wouldalso agree that they have
astute gifts with things likepattern recognition and
connecting dots and thinkingabout things in ways that other
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people around them don't seem tobe able to consider or see, and
sometimes they don't thinkanything of it.
They just think that everybodythinks this way, or they wonder
why other people don't thinkthis way or don't see what they
see.
And it's because we're part ofa minority group of people who
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have brains that are built inthis way, and in future episodes
, I'll share with you theneurobiology of exactly why
we're built differently and howand what the neurobiological
differences are, because ifyou're like me, you want to know
about these things.
If you're like me, it helps youto understand yourself and why
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you feel different than otherpeople, and when you understand,
that empowers you.
That makes you feel like that.
It's not something that needsto be fixed, that you can feel
in control of your neurobiologybecause you understand how it
works.
Now here I was over the holidaysputting all of this together
and I knew that I needed to comeback to social media.
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All the while of doing thisresearch, I'm still seeing my
clients.
However, I'm not being seenpublicly.
I didn't make any more podcastepisodes, if you've noticed.
I didn't make any more podcastepisodes, if you've noticed,
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during that time, and I wasn'tposting on Instagram or Facebook
or threads during that timeeither, because I was so
immersed in this research and itwas almost like it was bigger
than me.
I couldn't not.
I knew there was some intuitivenudge within me that said you
need to get deeper into this,because this is what you need to
share with others.
So you can't share with othersuntil you figure this out.
And the other piece of it is Ineeded to shut off the outside
world so that I could hearmyself, and then as well, every
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single day and every single weekthat I was putting these pieces
of the puzzle together.
It was like it was just thisconstant evolution and constant
evolving of what I was seeing.
So if I would have come out onsocial media in the midst of
this process, it would haveprobably looked very jumbled,
because what I was puttingtogether and what I was seeing
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was changing and evolving everysingle day, and so it didn't
feel correct for me to come outat that point, because every day
there was something differentthat I would have been sharing
with you.
That, at the time, didn't seemto make sense, and what was
required was for me to actuallymove through the whole process
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before I could now come out andshare everything that I put
together.
So there was a big lesson thatI learned in all of this.
At the beginning of this processin January, I was putting a lot
of pressure on myself.
I need to get back out there.
I need to start posting againbecause, well, everybody else is
right, all the otherentrepreneurs are, all else is
right, all the otherentrepreneurs are, all the other
coaches are, all the otherpractitioners are we're.
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You know, we took a break.
We took our two weeks off forthe holidays.
I've got to get back into it.
And the more I pushed myself,the more resistance I felt.
It felt hard and it felt like Iwas trying to force something
to happen, and I knewinstinctively that that wasn't
the thing that was going to beoptimal for me to do.
And so at some point duringthat month, I said okay, okay,
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michelle, you got to stoppressuring yourself.
I had to ask myself, as thoughI'm my own client, what would I
tell my client if they wereputting all this inner pressure
on themselves?
And I realized I was chasingthe cat.
I can't remember if I've giventhis analogy in a previous
podcast.
This concept of chasing the catis when you're trying to push
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and force something to happen.
It's like if you try to pet acat and you're chasing it down
to give it attention, it'slikely not going to let you pet
it, but if you actually sit back, lean back into the flow of
what you're doing, the cat willcome to you.
And I had to remember that formyself not to chase the cat, and
so I allowed myself to take aslong as I needed to move through
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this and figure out all thepuzzle pieces and immerse myself
in what I was doing, because Iknew this was important.
And so here we are in March,and I finally feel like I'm
ready to start coming out withwhat it is that I put together.
And I realize, now that I'veput all these puzzle pieces
together, how huge this is.
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It's bigger than me, and whatI've put together is something
that isn't talked about.
The research is there.
Everything that I'm going toshare with you is backed by
science.
It's proven.
However, I guarantee you,especially if you're
neurodivergent, highly sensitive, gifted, and you're ambitious
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and you know that you're herefor more success, for more
fulfillment you know that you'rehere to make a big impact and
make a meaningful difference.
This information changeseverything.
I can't stress that enough.
I have so much to share withyou I can't fit it all into one
podcast, so I'm not even goingto try.
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Essentially, I have six yearsof research I've been collecting
, that I finally assimilated andit confirms everything that I
had already intuitively knownfrom all of the work I've been
doing with my clients and thepatterns that I've been seeing
over and over and over again andthe results that my clients get
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over and over and over again.
Now I have the science toexplain exactly what's going on
and it's almost like a secrethack for those of us who are
neurodivergent, who are highlysensitive, who are gifted, to
actually step into this level ofthriving success without it
feeling like a slag, withoutoverworking, without burning out
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, without feeling overwhelmed,without resorting to people
pleasing and masking and all ofthe coping mechanisms and
survival behaviors that we sooften adopt, as I've spoken
about several times in seasonone of this podcast.
Over the years, I knew from theresearch that I'd been putting
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together that there wassomething that was deeper than
physical symptoms.
This was the first stage of myresearch epiphanies.
At the first stage when I wasdoing all the research to better
understand autoimmunity andendometriosis, after everything
that I had tried as anaturopathic doctor wasn't
working, I saw with clarity thatthe nervous system is a root
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for all of your physiologicalsymptoms, how your body
functions, how your mindfunctions, your emotions, your
physical symptoms, how yourhormones respond, how your
metabolism works, how yourimmune system functions all of
it is impacted by your nervoussystem, and I've been talking
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about that for years, and I'vealso talked about the fact that
your nervous system is a bridge.
That nervous system is thebridge between your inner
emotional terrain and all ofyour physiological symptoms and
emotional symptoms, and this isthe thing that is still true.
Your nervous system is thebridge, and what I'm seeing now
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is what's on the other side ofthat bridge.
I've spoken highly about thefact that our inner emotional
terrain is the thing thatimpacts your nervous system, but
what I've put together recentlyexplains exactly what it is and
exactly how to shift it topositively impact everything
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downstream, including yournervous system, including your
body physiology, including yourthoughts, your actions, your
behaviors, how you show up inthe world with your leadership,
with your work, whether or notyou're showing up, feeling
confident, showing up withauthority, showing up and
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sharing your ideas, showing upand being connected to your
creativity and your patternrecognition and your innovative
thinking gifts to their fullestpotential.
And then how people respond toyou based on how you show up and
how you respond to them.
Based on how they show up andwhat they say and how they
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respond because of their owninner emotional terrain and
their own inner projections andtheir own reactions to change
and things that are different.
And this root the other side ofthe bridge, the other side of
the nervous system bridge isyour unconscious mind and the
neurobiology that's associatedwith that, and I was able to put
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together so many pieces of thepuzzle to understand what's
actually going on.
And having this experience withthe timeline therapy and going
into the research to understandwhat that actually did for me
and why that actually worked sowell and so profoundly and so
efficiently, explains the nextlevel, deeper of everything, and
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the deepest level, especiallyfor those of us who are highly
sensitive, who are gifted, whoare neurodivergent about how to
actually thrive, because theresearch shows that we do have
that capacity and that when weare put in the right conditions,
we will thrive over and aboveour neurotypical peers.
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And I've talked about that inseason one when I talked about
vantage sensitivity, and nowI've taken all of that to the
next level and I'm so freakingexcited to share this with you
so that you can understand foryourself how to leverage your
neurobiology to work for youinstead of against you, because
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that's one key piece of thiswhole story is that those of us
who are wired this way are wiredfor something called
differential susceptibility, andwhat that means is, when you
are in negatively supportiveconditions, you're going to
struggle, it's going to be hard.
Your inner neurobiology takesthings in more deeply than your
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neurotypical peers, your lesssensitive peers, and so when you
do have a negatively supportiveenvironment starting with your
neurobiology, negativelysupportive environment, starting
with your neurobiology,starting with the inner thought
loops and the filters that youare perceiving reality through,
based on how you wereconditioned in your
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developmental years that willimpact what you're seeing.
It impacts whether or not youare filtering reality for
survival or for thriving,whether you are filtering
reality for threat or forsuccess.
And because your unconsciousmind and the associated
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neurobiology that's associatedwith your unconscious mind is
more deeply affected and moredeeply programmed than your
neurotypical peers, when you'reoperating from programming that
was negative.
What that means is you'veexperienced, especially in your
developmental years, all kindsof messages You're too sensitive
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, you're too much, you're notenough, you're broken, you need
to be fixed, you need to be likethe rest of us, you don't fit
in, you don't belong, you needto be somebody else.
All of these types of messagesactually impact your unconscious
mind, especially in yourdevelopmental years, before the
age of seven, because thosefirst seven years of life your
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conscious mind hasn't comeonline yet.
You're operating solely fromyour unconscious mind, and so
what that means is all of thosemessages will land in your
unconscious mind and set up yourfilters, your unconscious mind.
There's all kinds of differentneurobiological pieces of the
puzzle here that will impact howyou perceive things.
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It filters information.
So say, for example, yourreticular activating system is
one piece of the puzzle here andthat acts like a filter.
All the information that'scoming in, that you see, that
you touch, that you feel, thatyou taste everything coming in.
There's millions of bits ofinformation that are coming at
us at any one given moment andwe can't possibly take all of
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that in for our brain to process.
It would be overwhelming, it'stoo much.
Our unconscious mind,especially the reticular
activating system, acts like afilter so that we don't become
overwhelmed.
Otherwise it's kind of like atidal wave coming into the front
door.
It's just too much.
And so that reticularactivating system on average
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filters through about 128 bitsof those millions of pieces of
information at any given moment.
For those of us who are highlysensitive, we tend to let more
bits of information through thatfilter than the average person.
And now that filter will beprogrammed according to the
behaviors and the messages thathave been modeled to you,
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especially in thosedevelopmental years.
And so if you've received allof those messages which research
shows for most of us who arehighly sensitive, who are
neurodivergent, statistics showthat in general we receive
significantly more negativemessages from our caregivers,
from our teachers, from adultswho are modeling to us, than our
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neurotypical peers.
And all of that impacts yourunconscious mind and impacts
those filters, and yourreticular activating system then
is programmed to expectrejection, to expect criticism,
to expect threat, to expect thatyou're not going to feel safe.
And that's the way it's goingto be looking at the world and
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filtering all the informationthat's coming in from the
outside.
Which means that when yourreticular activating system is
filtering in this way, even ifthings around you are going.
Well, you're not going to seeit that way, or not see it fully
that way, because you're notcapable of fully seeing that
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reality because of how you'refiltering your reality.
It's kind of like here's a bitof an analogy.
So I was in the army many yearsago.
I was a medical assistant.
When we're out in the field forfield exercises, we're not
allowed to use white lightbecause the frequency of white
light travels far and in orderto be the safest, so that we are
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not detected by the enemy, thatwe need to use frequencies of
light that travel a shorterdistance.
So when we're out on fieldexercises, we all have
flashlights and we have a redfilter that we put on those
flashlights, because red lighttravels a shorter distance than
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white light.
Now, me as a medical assistantthis is the thing If someone is
injured in the field at nightand they're bleeding, if I'm
using a flashlight that has ared filter, I cannot see the
blood.
And so me, as a medicalassistant, I was the only person
that has permission to takethat red filter off to check for
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bleeding.
So when that light is goingthrough a red filter, I cannot
see blood.
And it's a bit of the sameconcept with this reticular
activating system.
It's filtering through acertain filter, like a red
filter, for example, and ifyou're filtering through that
filter, you're not going to beable to see certain things, like
I couldn't see the blood withthe red filter.
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I'm going to go into moredetail about that another time
and know that there's so manycomponents to this and I'm so
excited to share all of themwith you and I hope that you're
going to find these asinteresting as I do.
The thing here is that it'sabsolutely possible to reprogram
your unconscious mind to clearthose filters that are filtering
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for rejection and filtering forthreat, and recalibrating your
unconscious mind and thenshowing it new filters based on
positive support, based onwhat's actually aligned for you,
based on filtering for successand thriving, because those of
us with differential sensitivitywe are more negatively impacted
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by a negatively supportiveenvironment and we are more
positively impacted by apositively supportive
environment when we're givensupport and encouragement.
We will more positively beimpacted by that than our
neurotypical peers and it willactually allow us to thrive even
more than our neurotypicalpeers.
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We will gain more of a benefitfrom a positively supportive
environment than those of us whoare not wired for differential
susceptibility and for vantagesensitivity.
Now the thing is, if you try topositively support yourself and
your unconscious mind is stillwired for threat and rejection
and you're trying to use yourconscious mind to shift all of
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this and to give yourselfpositive support, so maybe you
do the affirmations and themantras and you try to do some
mindset shifts and you go totherapy and all of these are
helpful.
However, you might notice thatyou do them and they don't stick
, and this is the reason why.
So 95% of our actions, ourchoices, our behaviors, our
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decisions come from and areruled by and driven by, the
unconscious mind, and theunconscious mind is what drives
the conscious mind.
So your thoughts from yourconscious mind are actually
driven by how your unconsciousmind is programmed and how it's
filtering and how it's operatinglike an operating system.
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And if you haven't touched yourunconscious mind, if you
haven't addressed thatconditioning, the survival-based
conditioning that's rulingeverything else downstream, then
anything you try that's goingto address your conscious mind
is only going to take you so farand it's likely not going to be
permanent.
And this is why nervous systemregulation it's such a popular
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topic right now and I'm notknocking it.
It's important.
Nervous system regulationtechniques, nervous system
support techniques, supportingyour vagus nerve all of these
things can absolutely be helpful, especially in moments of high
stress, high pressure.
However, if you do thesenervous system regulation
techniques and you're notactually addressing the deeper
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level of your unconscious mindand the neurobiology that's
associated with your unconsciousmind, then what happens is,
when you stop the nervous systemregulation techniques, you just
feel like you just kind of wentback to square one again, and
that's because your unconsciousmind is actually what's driving
your nervous system.
It's what tells your nervoussystem to go into fight or
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flight response or freezeresponse or fawn response, and
so, yeah, you can work at thelevel of the nervous system, and
it is very important,especially at the beginning when
I work with somebody.
However, it doesn't address thedriver of the nervous system,
that other side of the bridge.
Right, the nervous system isthe bridge and so the driver is
the unconscious mind and yourassociated neurobiology that's
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associated with your unconsciousmind.
And when you address that whichis the work that I do then I've
noticed this time and timeagain is my clients don't need
to rely on those nervous systemregulation techniques anymore
because their set point changesthe way their operating system
that's driving their nervoussystem changes, and this is the
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deeper root.
And for those of us who arehighly sensitive, gifted
neurodivergent, we are moredeeply impacted by changing the
state of our unconscious mind,both negatively and positively.
So what that means is, if youdo recalibrate your unconscious
mind and the neurobiologyassociated with it, so that
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you're no longer operating fromthat survival-based state and
then you are able to show yourunconscious mind a more
positively supportive way ofperceiving things, which I like
to call vantage success mode,then what happens is that you
are naturally biologically wiredto benefit from that, to the
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point where this is actually howyou launch into that thriving,
which helps not only you, but ithelps everybody who's impacted
by the work that you do,especially if you are a leader,
a visionary, a thought leader,somebody who is involved in
helping other people, involvedin making important decisions,
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somebody who's involved increating solutions.
When you operate from thisvantage success mode, this level
of thriving, the studies showthat you have greater access to
all of your gifts.
They come even more naturally,which means that you can solve
bigger problems, which meansthat your productivity improves
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even more so, and it means thatyou have greater resilience, no
matter what's going on aroundyou, and it means that you're no
longer filtering for thingslike rejection.
And especially there's so manypeople who are highly sensitive
or neurodivergent who doexperience rejection,
sensitivity, dysphoria, and soif we're rejected and we're
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criticized it can impact usdeeply, almost to the point
where it feels like we can'tcontrol it, and it impacts how
we feel and our emotions and howwe respond and how we think
about ourselves.
And this is because of thatreticular activating system that
is filtering for rejection andwhen we see proof of it, then
activates a whole other set ofneurobiological things, like
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your default mode network, whichis kind of like your inner
dialogue mode and how youperceive yourself and identify
with yourself.
When the reticular activatingsystem is picking up the
rejection, even if it isn'trejection, even if it's neutral
or ambiguous, your reticularactivating system will interpret
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it as rejection.
If it's not a clear acceptance,and then that triggers your
default mode network to startgetting into rumination and
thought loops, negative thoughtloops.
That's when you start thinkinglike did I do something wrong?
That's when you start thinkinglike did I do something wrong?
What's wrong with me?
Oh, I'm not good enough, I needto change.
I need to fix myself.
Why can't I just be likeeverybody else?
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Why are they rejecting me?
I'm a bad person, all thesethings, that rumination is
actually controlled by thatdefault mode network, and
unconscious mind recalibrationhelps with these things and so
many other things.
It helps to quiet down thatdefault mode network and studies
show that that helps you tobreak free from those ruminating
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thought loops and actuallyaccess deeper levels of your
unconscious mind, which studiesshow can be considered your
higher self.
And your higher self, which isthe deepest level of your
unconscious mind, is where youhave connection to the greatest
level of intuitive hits andanswers and solutions, beyond
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anything that you could havelogically imagined, because
you're connecting to somethingmore deep than your conscious
mind.
You're connecting to thedeepest level of your
unconscious mind, which istheorized that this deepest
level of your unconscious mindis also connected to everybody
else's deepest level of theirunconscious mind, right, that
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collective connection.
So all of this to say thesepast few months of me being
radio silent is this everythingthat I'm talking about now is a
result of everything that Ipieced together over these past
few months, of all the researchthat I finally took the time to
organize for myself, and I seenow how important it is that I
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did this, not only for me butfor you, because this is not
only interesting and helpful.
I think it's important andnecessary now more than ever.
There are so many people who arehighly sensitive, gifted
neurodivergent, who aren'taccessing their fullest
potential because they don'tknow how to leverage their
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neurobiology.
And so many of us know that weare here for more.
We're here for something deepand meaningful, transformative,
important, to create change, tolead people, to help people.
And if you're like myself andso many of my clients, you know
this to be true.
It's wired in you.
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You can't just stay at thesuperficial and you can't just
stay at a status quo job whereyou're just doing something for
the sake of making money.
And it's actually because ofyour neurobiology and the way
that you're wired.
It's instinctual.
You can't not.
And you also, because of thisneurobiology, you need to be
doing whatever you're doing,aligned with your values, with
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integrity, with authenticity,with honesty, with transparency.
It's actually within yourneurobiology that you are more
sensitive to injustice than thegeneral population and you can't
not listen to that.
You already know.
If you try to ignore thesethings, it's kind of like
putting this big, high energydog into this tiny room and not
letting to ignore these things.
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It's kind of like putting thisbig, high energy dog into this
tiny room and not letting it out.
Eventually it's going todestroy the room, and that's
what it feels like on the insideif you ignore these things, if
you try to work against thesethings.
And this is what happens whenyou work against your
neurobiology, when you don'tunderstand how you're wired and
when you're still operating fromsurvival mode with your
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unconscious mind.
And this is why it's soimportant to understand this
deeper root of your unconsciousmind, because nervous system
regulation is only going to getyou so far.
Affirmations and mindset shiftsand therapy are helpful, but
they're only going to get you sofar.
And when you address this deeperlevel of your unconscious mind,
then all of the above workbetter and more efficiently and
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more quickly.
And when you do that and whenyou recalibrate your unconscious
mind to a more positivelysupportive environment within
yourself, starting with yourneurobiology, that's when
everything opens up.
That's when you no longer feellike you're struggling as a
highly sensitive orneurodivergent person, because I
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know there's so many of us whohave felt like it's so
challenging that it's a grind toachieve the level of success
that we want to achieve, to dothe things that we want to do,
to actually feel like we'rebeing recognized for the work
and the brilliance that our workprovides, to actually have
people take us seriously,especially because we are so
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forward thinking compared to somany people.
Because of our neurobiology,because this is how we think,
because of how we're wired, weare connected to more deep
thought.
We are connected to moreout-of-the-box thinking.
We are connected to moreintuitive thought.
We are connected to more out ofthe box thinking.
We are connected to moreintuitive thinking and thinking
in ways, in non-linear ways thatmost people don't, and this is
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our advantage.
These are our gifts, and theyare gifts that actually the
world needs more than ever rightnow.
If you haven't noticed, we'regoing through some big changes
in humanity and society, and Icould go.
I'll do another podcast episodeone day about exactly what's
happening.
What's going on from what I'mobserving in the science and
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with astrology Kind of confirmsthe patterns of what's actually
going on, for now to know thatwe are in this process of big
transformation.
One reference that I'll mentionhere is something called the
fourth turning, and some of youmight already know about this.
So William Strauss and NeilHowe had come up with this
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theory called the fourth turning.
There are four cycles that asociety goes through and then it
will repeat itself.
These four cycles usuallyhappen over the course of 80 to
100 years, and the last time wehad a fourth turning was between
around the time of the GreatDepression and the Second World
War.
And what happens in the fourthturning?
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It's a time of collapse of anold way of how society operates
collapse of an old way of howsociety operates and then it's
followed with a new cycle ofregeneration at a higher level
than it was before.
And right now we're in anotherfourth turning and things are
starting to collapse so thatthey can be reordered and
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renewed and regenerated in a newway that's at a higher level
than where we're operating now.
We can't control that.
It happens in cycles, over andover and over again, and history
proves this.
So right now we're in this hugetime of change, collapse, and
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certain things that are nolonger working are falling apart
, including how we operate, howsystems work, institutions, how
people connect with each other.
There's a lot of things thatare going on that we're seeing
more and more, and we're havingthese things illuminated to us
about what's not helpful now andwhen we experience change.
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Carl Jung suggested that thesolutions to the biggest
problems that humanity hascannot be solved with logic
alone.
They need to be created throughdeveloping a higher level of
consciousness, because logicalone is not going to provide
the solutions, because logicalone is based on what we
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already know, and we need tofind solutions and new ways of
operating and doing things basedon this higher level order that
we're about to step in.
Once, this fourth turning movesback into a first turning, and
those of us who are highlysensitive, gifted neurodivergent
, we're actually designed to beleading this.
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Because of our neurobiology,we're able to think outside the
box, we're sensing things beforethey happen, we're able to come
up with innovative solutionsthat no one has ever considered,
and we're able to lead otherswith compassion and integrity
through this change, especiallythe ones that are suffering the
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most, and this is going to helpall of us move forward through
this change into the next era.
So we need people that arewired in this way to step up in
their leadership to theirfullest potential, to help all
of us move through this era ofchange, this fourth turning, and
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there's many other ways todescribe this, based on
different social change theory,and I'll get into that in
another podcast.
The reason why I'm saying allof this is not to convince you
or try to motivate you, but toconfirm to you because I know,
if you're like me, you'vealready known this instinctually
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and I'm confirming this to you,to validate to you that, yeah,
what you've been sensing is realand science proves it, and this
is what I've been puttingtogether.
So, those of us who are in thisplace and wired this way and
designed this way no-transcript,it's not.
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It's actually designed for thisera in humanity and
civilization more than ever, andthose of us who are leaders,
who are built this way, we needto recalibrate our unconscious
mind so we're no longeroperating from the survival
place that we had beenprogrammed to be perceiving life
through, because of theneurotypical society who had
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convinced us that we are wrongfor operating in this way, being
who we are, thinking in theways that we think, and the
thing is is that there are somethings about us that don't match
how neurotypicals function interms of their neurobiology and,
because of that, if we forceourselves to operate in the same
way as they do and because ofthat, if we force ourselves to
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operate in the same way as theydo because that's what we were
modeled, we're going to struggleBecause that's not how we're
wired.
We need to figure out the waythat works for us, based on how
we're wired, not howneurotypicals are wired, and
then not be hard on ourselves,because we don't function in the
same way as neurotypicals Togive ourselves the
accommodations andpicals to giveourselves the accommodations
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and give ourselves permission tosupport ourselves in the way
that we need and to think in theways that we think, and to
follow our own inner calling inthe way that our inner knowing
is telling us that we need to dothings.
Because you have the answers.
They are within you, they'refound at the deepest level of
your unconscious mind, yourhigher self.
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They're there and you haveaccess to them.
However, the filters arepreventing you from accessing
them.
You need to clear those filtersand then develop the
understanding of this newsuccess mode, as I like to call
it, or vantage success mode, andI like to use the analogy of
exemplars that show you anexample of what that way of
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operating is like.
Like tuning a guitar, you needto have a guitar tuner to show
you what the tune note soundslike in order to tune your
guitar string to that note, andthat's another piece of the work
that I do, and that's anotherpiece of the work that I do and
that's another piece for you toconsider.
So one piece of the work hereis looking at the unconscious
mind, recalibration, to clearout all those old filters based
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on survival mode, and then lookat the exemplars to help you
tune to the note that youactually want to tune to, which
is that more positivelysupportive note, so that you can
leverage the advantages of yourneurobiology in terms of the
vantage success, because you'redesigned to flourish once you do
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and then figure out your ownunique way in terms of your
leadership, your thoughtleadership and your operating
system, not somebody else's,because when you try to force
yourself to operate withsomebody else's operating system
, that's what holds you back.
When you compare yourself towhat other people are doing and
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how other people are functioningand how other people are doing
it, you're internally workingagainst your neurobiology.
And when you work against yourneurobiology, it causes you to
struggle even more.
And when you work against yourneurobiology, it causes you to
struggle even more, it holds youback, it prevents you from
accessing the full potential ofwhat you can, and I know there's
so many people out there whoare struggling as a highly
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sensitive person orneurodivergent person trying to
operate in a neurotypical world.
I get it, I've been there, Ifeel it.
And there's another way, and Iknow this all got started
actually when I posted somethingabout how there's this third
way.
I notice online that there'sthese two camps.
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There's this one camp which isall about, you know, high
sensitivity and neurodivergenceas a superpower and they fail to
address, maybe, the nuances andthe challenges of being highly
sensitive and neurodivergent.
And then there's this othercamp that yells at the people
who are saying it's a superpowerand saying no, it's not a
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superpower, it's a disabilityand it sucks, and so they're
seeing the challenges and it canfeel like a challenge,
especially when yourneurobiology is working against
you and you are working againstyour neurobiology, and
especially when you're operatingwith your unconscious mind
that's calibrated to threat, torejection, to criticism, to all
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the programming that made youfeel like how you are and how
you're built is wrong.
That made you feel like how youare and how you're built is
wrong and now you're trying towork against how you're built to
try to fit into a societythat's not built for how you're
wired.
It's going to make you feelworse and the science proves it.
It's going to make you feellike life is hard, like success
is hard, like you have to pushthe ball uphill all the freaking
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time.
I get it and I see over and overand over and over and over
again through all the years thatI've been doing this work, that
once you understand how you'rebuilt and work with how you're
built and leverage thatneurobiology and the capacity
that you have to thrive when youdo these things, it changes
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everything from the inside out.
It changes how you see reality,it changes how you respond to
reality, it changes how you feelabout yourself and all of that
changes how you feel physically,your energy.
It changes how you feel withall of your symptoms right,
because now that bridge that'simpacted by your unconscious
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mind, your nervous system is nolonger always on high alert and
so you feel better.
Your digestion's better, yourimmune system's better, your
autoimmune symptoms are better,pain becomes more tolerable or
goes away, hormones recalibrateand improve, metabolism improves
.
There's so many things thathappen here, and the point isn't
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here in terms of like.
Well, this is how you cure yourautoimmunity, for example.
That comes as a byproduct ofthis deeper root.
That comes as a byproduct ofyour nervous system no longer
being on high alert and highthreat, your nervous system
being more optimally regulatedin terms of having a wider
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window of tolerance and beingable to come back into your
regulated set point afterdisruptions more quickly, more
easily and not being thrown offand derailed for days comes from
the deeper source of yourunconscious mind and the
unconscious neurobiologyassociated with it and how that
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was programmed like an operatingsystem.
And so it's time for anoperating system upgrade Wipe
out the old so that you canprogram in a new which will
optimize everything, becausethat's how you're biologically
designed.
And I see this over and overand over and over and over again
.
And now I have the science toexplain exactly why I've been
noticing what I've been noticingall these years, and then this
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additional certification that Igot in timeline therapy to
recalibrate your unconsciousmind, I can see how more quickly
my clients have these hugetransformations, how more
quickly my clients have thesehuge transformations.
Transformations that tookmonths are happening in days and
weeks now it's blowing my mindand it's blowing my mind what's
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happening within me and look atwhat I'm coming out with now.
Because I've had this experienceand I know with certainty that
everything that transpired overthe past few months is a result
of me having had thisunconscious recalibration and
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because I already have a greatdeal of baseline knowledge about
all the other stuff that'sassociated with your unconscious
mind and your nervous system,I've been able to take this and
run with it and because of allthe other modalities that I have
in my methodology you know thetimeline therapy and conscious
mind recalibration is just onepiece of the puzzle here.
It's an important piece and Isee now that this is like the
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first thing that needs to happento have everything else work
better and faster and moreefficiently and effectively.
And I can see now, combinedwith all of my other modalities,
how much this creates mindblowing shifts in people.
They become more confident,they trust themselves fully and
these things aren't things thatthey're trying to do.
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It's not like they're like, butI need to work on my confidence
.
It's a natural byproduct ofrecalibrating your unconscious
mind and what I'm also seeing,as I was mentioning earlier, so
many of us who are highlysensitive and neurodivergent.
There's so many of us who doexperience rejection, sensitive
dysphoria, and I've seen overand over again on social media
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people asking how do I resolvethis?
How do I get over this?
It's running my life and I getit.
I've been there and this is thething, and the studies prove
this to be true.
When you recalibrate yourunconscious mind, it's not that
you're working directly on therejection, sensitivity,
dysphoria.
You're working on shifting howyour unconscious mind is
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filtering and operating right.
You clear the filter that'sfiltering for rejection and you
recalibrate your default modenetwork for all of those
internal loops that create thatlike inner mind monkey over
analysis and overwhelmingthoughts that come up.
If you do sense the rejection,all of that shifts and when that
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shifts, then that rejectionsensitivity shifts as well.
And I've seen that over and overand over and over and over
again through the years thatI've been doing this work.
And now I have the science toexplain why.
That is Because I took the timefinally to organize all of it
and put it together for you.
And I'm not done.
There's still a lot to puttogether, but I've taken, I've
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been able to put enough togethernow that I can like confidently
say all right, now I'm ready tocome back out and share what
I've figured out for you, andyou're going to see this
continue to evolve as I put morepieces of the puzzle together
and as science catches up tothis, because really we've only
scratched the surface on all ofthis in terms of what we know in
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the science.
So it's going to be thisconstantly evolving and growing
thing.
However, I can say withassuredness now what I know to
be true, that's backed byscience, that no one's talking
about in this way, and this issuch an important key and piece
of the puzzle that changes thelives of so many people that
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I've been working with.
I see it over and over and overagain and it's changed my life,
and so I want to get this out toyou, because if you're highly
sensitive, you're neurodivergent, you're gifted and you know
there's this like invisiblebarrier that's been keeping you
back from your full potential.
You know there's more that youwant to be doing, but all those
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survival mechanisms and copingmechanisms keep coming out.
You're afraid of sayingsomething that's going to
trigger people and so, becauseof that, you hold back, you play
small, or, if you say somethingthat does trigger people, you
backtrack or over-explainyourself or try to do whatever
you can to smooth over thesituation, even if it means
compromising your own prioritiesand compromising yourself.
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And because of all of this, youdoubt yourself.
You don't fully trust yourintuition because whenever
you've tried to trust yourintuition which, by the way, is
very accurate, however, you'vebeen conditioned to believe that
you were wrong.
Because other people don't getit, because other people don't
understand you, they don'tunderstand how you're built.
Other people don't get itbecause other people don't
understand you.
They don't understand howyou're built, they don't
understand your forward thinkingthoughts, because other people
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are telling you that you're toodifferent, too weird, too
sensitive, you're overthinkingthings, you're over analyzing
things, you're making things up.
You're not, but because you'vebeen told over and over again
that you are, you don't trustfully your own intuition and
because of all of theunconscious conditioning that's
been causing you to filter forthreat and rejection and causing
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you to think negatively aboutyourself, because that's what
had been modeled to you youdon't have that deeper access to
the deepest level of yourunconscious mind and you don't
fully trust it.
Ask me how I know I've gonethrough all of this.
I'm speaking from personalexperience and I know you know
that, and this is why I'm sopassionate about this, because
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all of this has changed my lifeand it's continuing to change my
life.
And this next, this last littlepiece that happened to me in
2024 has taken me to the nextlevel of what I'm here to do,
what my purpose and mission is.
I know that I'm here for fellowsensitive, gifted,
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neurodivergent, visionaryleaders who are here to make a
difference, and I'm here to helpyou leverage your neurobiology
so that you can be leading fromyour fullest potential, so you
can make that impact anddifference.
You know that you're here tomake and you can achieve that
next level of success andrecognition without having to
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push so hard, so that you canachieve all of this in a way
that feels effortless, becauseyou're aligned with your flow,
because you're in that place ofWu Wei-wei, effortless action,
that flow state which scienceproves is a thing, and doing
everything that I'm talkingabout here helps you get into
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that flow state and helps you tothrive over and above your
neurotypical peers, so that youcan lead from your highest
potential and fullest potentialand have the success, the
recognition, make thosemeaningful differences, while
also being recognized for yourleadership, so that you can be
that highly respected, soughtafter thought leader.
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That's making a difference andleaving a legacy that you know
that you want to make.
And all of that happens when youget to this deeper root.
It changes how you see things,how you show up, how you act,
whether or not you are actuallysharing your most innovative
thoughts, and how you share themin a way that speaks with
command and authority andconfidence.
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Not because you're forcing it,not because you're faking it
until you make it, but becauseyour unconscious, entire
neurobiology shifts to a spacewhere it just becomes second
nature to feel confident, tofeel at ease with yourself and
to feel at peace from the insideout and to be fully satisfied
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with what you're doing, becauseyou're doing it your way,
because you are aligned withyour flow and doing what you
know inherently you're here tobe doing, and if you're with me,
you know what I'm talking about.
So this is a little preview ofwhat's to come for season two
and what's to come on my socialmedia and my emails that I send
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out.
I'm about to share with you,likely a whole bunch of new
perspectives that you had neverconsidered about yourself as a
highly sensitive, gifted orneurodivergent person.
That's going to change the gamefor you in terms of your
success, in terms of yoursatisfaction, in terms of your
energy, in terms of your work,in terms of what you're here to
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do, what you're here to do, howyou're here to do it.
And it's a completely differentperspective than probably
anything that you've ever beenmodeled or shown or explained or
taught before.
And that's because of my giftof being able to put together
the pattern, since the patternsconnect the dots and put things
together and think in ways andask questions that likely no one
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else has ever asked.
And I see now that that's mygift.
And the more I've beenconnecting and recalibrating my
own unconscious mind, the moreI've been connecting with these
gifts and they are gettingbigger and more powerful and
more innate and natural.
And I know now that these giftswithin me are designed to help
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put together something that'sgoing to help you, especially if
you're designed like me.
That's my current purpose,that's my inner purpose right
now.
This whole podcast is called theinner purpose podcast.
Well, here we go.
My inner purpose is to help youcalibrate your neurobiology so
that you can be living yourinner purpose, because that's
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actually how you thrive.
This is not a nice to have.
This is actually how you'reneurologically built and because
you're actually neurologicallybuilt this way, why would you
want to waste it?
You have choices.
You can continue to feel likeyou're hitting an invisible wall
and only working at maybe 50,60, 70% of your fullest
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potential.
You can choose to work againstyour neurobiology and try to fit
yourself into a box of how theneurotypical world works which,
by the way, a lot of how theneurotypical world works doesn't
even really work for a lot ofneurotypicals or you can take
advantage of your own uniqueneurobiological wiring, because
when you do, that's actuallywhen you can make the biggest
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difference.
That's when you're going tostep into your inner purpose, in
your flow, in your success,with your recognition, and have
it flow effortlessly, withconfidence, with ease, and enjoy
it with satisfaction.
Be at peace with yourself, notfight against yourself.
And if you're listening to this,you already know all this.
You've already known all ofthis instinctively, but maybe
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you may not have been able toput words to this, maybe you
didn't understand exactly themechanisms behind it and maybe
you needed someone to confirmthis to you, what you
instinctively knew.
Well, here I am confirming it.
It's a thing and I hear this alot when I see my clients is,
when I explain so much of this,they're like, wow, it's like
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you're giving me validation tobe me.
It's like you're giving mepermission to actually follow
what I always knew this wholetime.
And I love the fact that I cangive them this validation and
give them this permission andhelp them to feel seen and heard
and understood, sometimes forthe first time in their lives,
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and I don't want to be thepractitioner who they rely on to
give them the validation andpermission.
That's only the first step.
The next step is to show themhow to give themselves the
permission going forward,because that's what changes
everything.
Okay, I think I'm done for now.
I have so much to say, but Ithink we've done enough for this
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podcast episode.
I look forward to coming backand sharing with you all the
things that I'm finding, all thenew perspectives that are
probably going to shift how youthink about yourself and your
neurobiology in ways you'd neverconsidered.
So if that interests you, stickaround and I'll talk to you in
the next podcast episode.
Thank you for being here.
Hello there and welcome to season two of the
Inner Purpose podcast.
I know a lot of you who havebeen following me have been
asking me where did you go?
I kind of went radio silent fora while and there's a few
reasons for that and I'm goingto share some of them now.
I'm going to tell you kind ofwhat happened at the end of 2024
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, because there were some hugeshifts that happened and I'm
about to come back out of myradio silence with a completely
new I don't even know what tocall it.
How about?
I share the story and thenyou're going to understand
what's been going on in my world.
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So the last podcast episode in2024, in September, just after
that podcast, I went on myyearly retreat to our cabin in
the woods.
I go there every year duringmoose hunting season with my
husband because he goes andhunts moose and it's my birthday
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around that time.
So we've made it an annualevent where I go with him while
he's hunting and I take thattime for myself, off grid in the
middle of nowhere, torecalibrate during my birthday,
and it's the best gift that Ican give myself.
I look forward to it everysingle year.
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So this year we arrived the dayof my birthday and that day
there was a lunar eclipse.
Now, this is important becauseI was born on a lunar eclipse
and it's a fairly rare event tohave a lunar eclipse happen
again on the same day that youwere born.
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And it was quite an energeticlunar eclipse.
I know a lot of people felt it.
I definitely felt it.
That night something started tochange within me.
I can't tell you how.
I can't tell you exactly whatthat change was, tell you how I
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can't tell you exactly what thatchange was, except the fact
that I knew from the very coreof my being that things were
about to change drastically inamazing ways.
So I took that time in thewoods to recalibrate and sit
with myself and be in nature andbe with my husband and enjoy
that time.
And then, when I came back, Ihad already registered for a
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very intensive practitionercertification program to learn
neurolinguistic programming,timeline therapy, which are all
unconscious recalibration andreprogramming modalities.
I was excited for this programand I didn't have a whole lot of
expectations.
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I knew before I started that itwas going to be another
modality that I was learning toadd to my toolbox, because
that's the way I work is, I pullfrom multiple different
modalities that I've learned andcertified in.
Depending on how you'representing, I will use whatever
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modalities are appropriate inthat moment to get you the best
results the most efficiently,and that was my expectation
going into this program.
And then we got started and,let me tell you, it kind of blew
my mind a little bit.
We got started in a fairlynormal way and I was enjoying
what I was learning.
And then we got to the timelinetherapy portion and I knew that
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this was the piece out of allof the neuro linguistic
programming that I knew I reallywanted to learn the most
Instinctively.
It just felt like this is whyI'm here.
And so, in order to understandhow to do this technique, we
learn by doing it on each other,and once I had this experience,
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the shifts that I felt withinone week was equivalent to the
levels of shifts that I hadachieved in the previous six
years, and you know, if you'vebeen following my podcast, that
I've had some pretty significantshifts.
I did a lot of inner work and Ihad a lot of breakthroughs, I
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had awakenings, I hadrealizations.
My entire inner landscape andinner paradigm went through a
major transformation since 2018.
And then fast forward toOctober 2024 and in one day I
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had the same level of shiftwithin me.
It blew my mind a little bitand I was excited for this.
I couldn't wait to start usingthis in my work with my clients
so that they could have the sameexperience that I did.
And so as soon as I got back towork after this program, I
started incorporating this withmy clients, and every time I did
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, my clients would say, wow,that was phenomenal, that
changed everything for me.
And then having follow-ups weekslater and months later, the
things that were unfolding forthem at the rate that they were
unfolding at the rate that theywere unfolding, the fact that
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opportunities that they hadnever even imagined could happen
were unfolding for them almostlike magic.
The fact that they were nolonger feeling triggered or
bothered by other people'sreactions.
They were no longer takingthings personally.
They knew how to carrythemselves, even in difficult
situations.
They were finding that theirleadership people were looking
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to them and respecting them andfollowing them in ways that they
had never done before, and theycould see how everything was
happening for them and it becameand it is so obvious now and
they can see it and I can see itfor myself as well.
It's a complete inner paradigmshift in terms of how you see
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yourself, how you see reality,how you respond to reality and
the inner dialogue andmonologues that happen in your
mind.
And so, after I had thisexperience and I started seeing
similar experiences in myclients I had to stop and
reflect and go.
What's going on here?
And so in December, I knew Iwas going to be taking some time
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off for the holidays and so Istarted to sit with myself, and
I think what actually sparkedthis was, just before the
holiday started, a fellow friendand timeline practitioner and I
had decided to do an exchangeon each other.
So this was my secondexperience with someone doing
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timeline therapy on me, and sowe had this exchange, and then I
sat in meditation and then itwas like almost like this ding,
like the timer was ready, likeding, and something inside me
said okay, now you've got to gosit down and type.
And what came next I can't evendescribe.
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It was like my fingers weremoving and things were flowing
out of me that I can't even justyou're going to understand once
you see what's going to, what'sunfolding in terms of what I'm
going to be presenting for you.
But I started typing, and typing, and typing, and all the
thoughts in terms of puttingconnections to all the things
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that I've seen and done andresearched over the years just
started coming together.
And so I started to pull up allmy old Google Docs with lists
and lists of references fromscientific research articles
that I'd collected and theirquotes and the findings and the
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summaries.
And then, as I was pulling allof those up and referencing them
and thinking about all thedifferent analogies and examples
that I would use in my work andall the different common
patterns that I would see in myclients over and over and over
again, I started to see puzzlepieces coming together.
I started connecting the dotsand then, of course, I opened up
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tab after tab of PubMedsearches, looking at articles,
going deeper into all of thedifferent connections that I was
starting to see to make surethat they were true, to make
sure that there's science toback up everything that I was
putting together.
And it was like this snowballthat just kept getting bigger
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and bigger and bigger as I wasputting all of these pieces of
the puzzle together and I kepttelling myself, okay, I'm going
to put this aside soon and goback to my work, go back to
being on social media, goingback to sharing what it was I
was sharing before, and everytime I thought to do that, there
was something inside me thatsaid, no, no, you're not ready
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yet.
Because this is important andthis is the thing.
I had been collecting researchfor years, especially since my
health crisis, which I've talkedabout in season one, and when I
had this health crisis, nothingthat I had known to use as a
clinical naturopathic doctor wasreally helping me to get back
up on my feet again when I hadgotten to this point of being
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bed bound, and that's whatreally started this whole
journey of me discovering thiswhole inner world of inner
transformation, which has beenthe spark that started all of
the different pivots that I'vemade in my business as I put
more and more of these pieces ofthe puzzle together.
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Now, in the background of doingall of this, I had been
collecting even more researchthat I haven't been telling you
about.
You see, I have this specialinterest in diving deep into
rabbit holes of research andthen taking all kinds of
different areas of research thatare seemingly unrelated and
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connecting dots Dots that arereal dots.
However, it's almost like Ithink about some of these
problems in ways, maybe, thatother people don't, and so then
I see this one topic or thing,or the proven result of this one
scientific concept and I startasking questions Okay, well,
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what about this and what aboutthis and what about this?
And then I start going andlooking at those different
directions and getting deep intothe roots of those, and then I
can start to see thecommonalities and patterns and
how they actually fit together.
And this is something that wasconfirmed to me as I was diving
into all of this research isthat those of us who are highly
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sensitive, those of us who areneurodivergent, our brains are
actually wired to do this.
It's a gift that we havebecause of our neurobiology and
how it's built, compared to aneurotypical person, which
explains why this comes soeasily to me.
It's second nature, becausethis is how my neurobiology is
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designed, just like so manyothers that I see as clients who
are highly sensitive, who aregifted, who are neurodivergent.
More often than not, they wouldalso agree that they have
astute gifts with things likepattern recognition and
connecting dots and thinkingabout things in ways that other
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people around them don't seem tobe able to consider or see, and
sometimes they don't thinkanything of it.
They just think that everybodythinks this way, or they wonder
why other people don't thinkthis way or don't see what they
see.
And it's because we're part ofa minority group of people who
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have brains that are built inthis way, and in future episodes
, I'll share with you theneurobiology of exactly why
we're built differently and howand what the neurobiological
differences are, because ifyou're like me, you want to know
about these things.
If you're like me, it helps youto understand yourself and why
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you feel different than otherpeople, and when you understand,
that empowers you.
That makes you feel like that.
It's not something that needsto be fixed, that you can feel
in control of your neurobiologybecause you understand how it
works.
Now here I was over the holidaysputting all of this together
and I knew that I needed to comeback to social media.
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All the while of doing thisresearch, I'm still seeing my
clients.
However, I'm not being seenpublicly.
I didn't make any more podcastepisodes, if you've noticed.
I didn't make any more podcastepisodes, if you've noticed,
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during that time, and I wasn'tposting on Instagram or Facebook
or threads during that timeeither, because I was so
immersed in this research and itwas almost like it was bigger
than me.
I couldn't not.
I knew there was some intuitivenudge within me that said you
need to get deeper into this,because this is what you need to
share with others.
So you can't share with othersuntil you figure this out.
And the other piece of it is Ineeded to shut off the outside
world so that I could hearmyself, and then as well, every
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single day and every single weekthat I was putting these pieces
of the puzzle together.
It was like it was just thisconstant evolution and constant
evolving of what I was seeing.
So if I would have come out onsocial media in the midst of
this process, it would haveprobably looked very jumbled,
because what I was puttingtogether and what I was seeing
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was changing and evolving everysingle day, and so it didn't
feel correct for me to come outat that point, because every day
there was something differentthat I would have been sharing
with you.
That, at the time, didn't seemto make sense, and what was
required was for me to actuallymove through the whole process
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before I could now come out andshare everything that I put
together.
So there was a big lesson thatI learned in all of this.
At the beginning of this processin January, I was putting a lot
of pressure on myself.
I need to get back out there.
I need to start posting againbecause, well, everybody else is
right, all the otherentrepreneurs are, all else is
right, all the otherentrepreneurs are, all the other
coaches are, all the otherpractitioners are we're.
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You know, we took a break.
We took our two weeks off forthe holidays.
I've got to get back into it.
And the more I pushed myself,the more resistance I felt.
It felt hard and it felt like Iwas trying to force something
to happen, and I knewinstinctively that that wasn't
the thing that was going to beoptimal for me to do.
And so at some point duringthat month, I said okay, okay,
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michelle, you got to stoppressuring yourself.
I had to ask myself, as thoughI'm my own client, what would I
tell my client if they wereputting all this inner pressure
on themselves?
And I realized I was chasingthe cat.
I can't remember if I've giventhis analogy in a previous
podcast.
This concept of chasing the catis when you're trying to push
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and force something to happen.
It's like if you try to pet acat and you're chasing it down
to give it attention, it'slikely not going to let you pet
it, but if you actually sit back, lean back into the flow of
what you're doing, the cat willcome to you.
And I had to remember that formyself not to chase the cat, and
so I allowed myself to take aslong as I needed to move through
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this and figure out all thepuzzle pieces and immerse myself
in what I was doing, because Iknew this was important.
And so here we are in March,and I finally feel like I'm
ready to start coming out withwhat it is that I put together.
And I realize, now that I'veput all these puzzle pieces
together, how huge this is.
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It's bigger than me, and whatI've put together is something
that isn't talked about.
The research is there.
Everything that I'm going toshare with you is backed by
science.
It's proven.
However, I guarantee you,especially if you're
neurodivergent, highly sensitive, gifted, and you're ambitious
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and you know that you're herefor more success, for more
fulfillment you know that you'rehere to make a big impact and
make a meaningful difference.
This information changeseverything.
I can't stress that enough.
I have so much to share withyou I can't fit it all into one
podcast, so I'm not even goingto try.
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Essentially, I have six yearsof research I've been collecting
, that I finally assimilated andit confirms everything that I
had already intuitively knownfrom all of the work I've been
doing with my clients and thepatterns that I've been seeing
over and over and over again andthe results that my clients get
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over and over and over again.
Now I have the science toexplain exactly what's going on
and it's almost like a secrethack for those of us who are
neurodivergent, who are highlysensitive, who are gifted, to
actually step into this level ofthriving success without it
feeling like a slag, withoutoverworking, without burning out
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, without feeling overwhelmed,without resorting to people
pleasing and masking and all ofthe coping mechanisms and
survival behaviors that we sooften adopt, as I've spoken
about several times in seasonone of this podcast.
Over the years, I knew from theresearch that I'd been putting
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together that there wassomething that was deeper than
physical symptoms.
This was the first stage of myresearch epiphanies.
At the first stage when I wasdoing all the research to better
understand autoimmunity andendometriosis, after everything
that I had tried as anaturopathic doctor wasn't
working, I saw with clarity thatthe nervous system is a root
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for all of your physiologicalsymptoms, how your body
functions, how your mindfunctions, your emotions, your
physical symptoms, how yourhormones respond, how your
metabolism works, how yourimmune system functions all of
it is impacted by your nervoussystem, and I've been talking
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about that for years, and I'vealso talked about the fact that
your nervous system is a bridge.
That nervous system is thebridge between your inner
emotional terrain and all ofyour physiological symptoms and
emotional symptoms, and this isthe thing that is still true.
Your nervous system is thebridge, and what I'm seeing now
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is what's on the other side ofthat bridge.
I've spoken highly about thefact that our inner emotional
terrain is the thing thatimpacts your nervous system, but
what I've put together recentlyexplains exactly what it is and
exactly how to shift it topositively impact everything
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downstream, including yournervous system, including your
body physiology, including yourthoughts, your actions, your
behaviors, how you show up inthe world with your leadership,
with your work, whether or notyou're showing up, feeling
confident, showing up withauthority, showing up and
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sharing your ideas, showing upand being connected to your
creativity and your patternrecognition and your innovative
thinking gifts to their fullestpotential.
And then how people respond toyou based on how you show up and
how you respond to them.
Based on how they show up andwhat they say and how they
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respond because of their owninner emotional terrain and
their own inner projections andtheir own reactions to change
and things that are different.
And this root the other side ofthe bridge, the other side of
the nervous system bridge isyour unconscious mind and the
neurobiology that's associatedwith that, and I was able to put
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together so many pieces of thepuzzle to understand what's
actually going on.
And having this experience withthe timeline therapy and going
into the research to understandwhat that actually did for me
and why that actually worked sowell and so profoundly and so
efficiently, explains the nextlevel, deeper of everything, and
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the deepest level, especiallyfor those of us who are highly
sensitive, who are gifted, whoare neurodivergent about how to
actually thrive, because theresearch shows that we do have
that capacity and that when weare put in the right conditions,
we will thrive over and aboveour neurotypical peers.
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And I've talked about that inseason one when I talked about
vantage sensitivity, and nowI've taken all of that to the
next level and I'm so freakingexcited to share this with you
so that you can understand foryourself how to leverage your
neurobiology to work for youinstead of against you, because
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that's one key piece of thiswhole story is that those of us
who are wired this way are wiredfor something called
differential susceptibility, andwhat that means is, when you
are in negatively supportiveconditions, you're going to
struggle, it's going to be hard.
Your inner neurobiology takesthings in more deeply than your
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neurotypical peers, your lesssensitive peers, and so when you
do have a negatively supportiveenvironment starting with your
neurobiology, negativelysupportive environment, starting
with your neurobiology,starting with the inner thought
loops and the filters that youare perceiving reality through,
based on how you wereconditioned in your
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developmental years that willimpact what you're seeing.
It impacts whether or not youare filtering reality for
survival or for thriving,whether you are filtering
reality for threat or forsuccess.
And because your unconsciousmind and the associated
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neurobiology that's associatedwith your unconscious mind is
more deeply affected and moredeeply programmed than your
neurotypical peers, when you'reoperating from programming that
was negative.
What that means is you'veexperienced, especially in your
developmental years, all kindsof messages You're too sensitive
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, you're too much, you're notenough, you're broken, you need
to be fixed, you need to be likethe rest of us, you don't fit
in, you don't belong, you needto be somebody else.
All of these types of messagesactually impact your unconscious
mind, especially in yourdevelopmental years, before the
age of seven, because thosefirst seven years of life your
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conscious mind hasn't comeonline yet.
You're operating solely fromyour unconscious mind, and so
what that means is all of thosemessages will land in your
unconscious mind and set up yourfilters, your unconscious mind.
There's all kinds of differentneurobiological pieces of the
puzzle here that will impact howyou perceive things.
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It filters information.
So say, for example, yourreticular activating system is
one piece of the puzzle here andthat acts like a filter.
All the information that'scoming in, that you see, that
you touch, that you feel, thatyou taste everything coming in.
There's millions of bits ofinformation that are coming at
us at any one given moment andwe can't possibly take all of
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that in for our brain to process.
It would be overwhelming, it'stoo much.
Our unconscious mind,especially the reticular
activating system, acts like afilter so that we don't become
overwhelmed.
Otherwise it's kind of like atidal wave coming into the front
door.
It's just too much.
And so that reticularactivating system on average
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filters through about 128 bitsof those millions of pieces of
information at any given moment.
For those of us who are highlysensitive, we tend to let more
bits of information through thatfilter than the average person.
And now that filter will beprogrammed according to the
behaviors and the messages thathave been modeled to you,
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especially in thosedevelopmental years.
And so if you've received allof those messages which research
shows for most of us who arehighly sensitive, who are
neurodivergent, statistics showthat in general we receive
significantly more negativemessages from our caregivers,
from our teachers, from adultswho are modeling to us, than our
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neurotypical peers.
And all of that impacts yourunconscious mind and impacts
those filters, and yourreticular activating system then
is programmed to expectrejection, to expect criticism,
to expect threat, to expect thatyou're not going to feel safe.
And that's the way it's goingto be looking at the world and
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filtering all the informationthat's coming in from the
outside.
Which means that when yourreticular activating system is
filtering in this way, even ifthings around you are going.
Well, you're not going to seeit that way, or not see it fully
that way, because you're notcapable of fully seeing that
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reality because of how you'refiltering your reality.
It's kind of like here's a bitof an analogy.
So I was in the army many yearsago.
I was a medical assistant.
When we're out in the field forfield exercises, we're not
allowed to use white lightbecause the frequency of white
light travels far and in orderto be the safest, so that we are
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not detected by the enemy, thatwe need to use frequencies of
light that travel a shorterdistance.
So when we're out on fieldexercises, we all have
flashlights and we have a redfilter that we put on those
flashlights, because red lighttravels a shorter distance than
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white light.
Now, me as a medical assistantthis is the thing If someone is
injured in the field at nightand they're bleeding, if I'm
using a flashlight that has ared filter, I cannot see the
blood.
And so me, as a medicalassistant, I was the only person
that has permission to takethat red filter off to check for
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bleeding.
So when that light is goingthrough a red filter, I cannot
see blood.
And it's a bit of the sameconcept with this reticular
activating system.
It's filtering through acertain filter, like a red
filter, for example, and ifyou're filtering through that
filter, you're not going to beable to see certain things, like
I couldn't see the blood withthe red filter.
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I'm going to go into moredetail about that another time
and know that there's so manycomponents to this and I'm so
excited to share all of themwith you and I hope that you're
going to find these asinteresting as I do.
The thing here is that it'sabsolutely possible to reprogram
your unconscious mind to clearthose filters that are filtering
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for rejection and filtering forthreat, and recalibrating your
unconscious mind and thenshowing it new filters based on
positive support, based onwhat's actually aligned for you,
based on filtering for successand thriving, because those of
us with differential sensitivitywe are more negatively impacted
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by a negatively supportiveenvironment and we are more
positively impacted by apositively supportive
environment when we're givensupport and encouragement.
We will more positively beimpacted by that than our
neurotypical peers and it willactually allow us to thrive even
more than our neurotypicalpeers.
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We will gain more of a benefitfrom a positively supportive
environment than those of us whoare not wired for differential
susceptibility and for vantagesensitivity.
Now the thing is, if you try topositively support yourself and
your unconscious mind is stillwired for threat and rejection
and you're trying to use yourconscious mind to shift all of
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this and to give yourselfpositive support, so maybe you
do the affirmations and themantras and you try to do some
mindset shifts and you go totherapy and all of these are
helpful.
However, you might notice thatyou do them and they don't stick
, and this is the reason why.
So 95% of our actions, ourchoices, our behaviors, our
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decisions come from and areruled by and driven by, the
unconscious mind, and theunconscious mind is what drives
the conscious mind.
So your thoughts from yourconscious mind are actually
driven by how your unconsciousmind is programmed and how it's
filtering and how it's operatinglike an operating system.
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And if you haven't touched yourunconscious mind, if you
haven't addressed thatconditioning, the survival-based
conditioning that's rulingeverything else downstream, then
anything you try that's goingto address your conscious mind
is only going to take you so farand it's likely not going to be
permanent.
And this is why nervous systemregulation it's such a popular
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topic right now and I'm notknocking it.
It's important.
Nervous system regulationtechniques, nervous system
support techniques, supportingyour vagus nerve all of these
things can absolutely be helpful, especially in moments of high
stress, high pressure.
However, if you do thesenervous system regulation
techniques and you're notactually addressing the deeper
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level of your unconscious mindand the neurobiology that's
associated with your unconsciousmind, then what happens is,
when you stop the nervous systemregulation techniques, you just
feel like you just kind of wentback to square one again, and
that's because your unconsciousmind is actually what's driving
your nervous system.
It's what tells your nervoussystem to go into fight or
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flight response or freezeresponse or fawn response, and
so, yeah, you can work at thelevel of the nervous system, and
it is very important,especially at the beginning when
I work with somebody.
However, it doesn't address thedriver of the nervous system,
that other side of the bridge.
Right, the nervous system isthe bridge and so the driver is
the unconscious mind and yourassociated neurobiology that's
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associated with your unconsciousmind.
And when you address that whichis the work that I do then I've
noticed this time and timeagain is my clients don't need
to rely on those nervous systemregulation techniques anymore
because their set point changesthe way their operating system
that's driving their nervoussystem changes, and this is the
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deeper root.
And for those of us who arehighly sensitive, gifted
neurodivergent, we are moredeeply impacted by changing the
state of our unconscious mind,both negatively and positively.
So what that means is, if youdo recalibrate your unconscious
mind and the neurobiologyassociated with it, so that
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you're no longer operating fromthat survival-based state and
then you are able to show yourunconscious mind a more
positively supportive way ofperceiving things, which I like
to call vantage success mode,then what happens is that you
are naturally biologically wiredto benefit from that, to the
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point where this is actually howyou launch into that thriving,
which helps not only you, but ithelps everybody who's impacted
by the work that you do,especially if you are a leader,
a visionary, a thought leader,somebody who is involved in
helping other people, involvedin making important decisions,
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somebody who's involved increating solutions.
When you operate from thisvantage success mode, this level
of thriving, the studies showthat you have greater access to
all of your gifts.
They come even more naturally,which means that you can solve
bigger problems, which meansthat your productivity improves
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even more so, and it means thatyou have greater resilience, no
matter what's going on aroundyou, and it means that you're no
longer filtering for thingslike rejection.
And especially there's so manypeople who are highly sensitive
or neurodivergent who doexperience rejection,
sensitivity, dysphoria, and soif we're rejected and we're
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criticized it can impact usdeeply, almost to the point
where it feels like we can'tcontrol it, and it impacts how
we feel and our emotions and howwe respond and how we think
about ourselves.
And this is because of thatreticular activating system that
is filtering for rejection andwhen we see proof of it, then
activates a whole other set ofneurobiological things, like
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your default mode network, whichis kind of like your inner
dialogue mode and how youperceive yourself and identify
with yourself.
When the reticular activatingsystem is picking up the
rejection, even if it isn'trejection, even if it's neutral
or ambiguous, your reticularactivating system will interpret
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it as rejection.
If it's not a clear acceptance,and then that triggers your
default mode network to startgetting into rumination and
thought loops, negative thoughtloops.
That's when you start thinkinglike did I do something wrong?
That's when you start thinkinglike did I do something wrong?
What's wrong with me?
Oh, I'm not good enough, I needto change.
I need to fix myself.
Why can't I just be likeeverybody else?
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Why are they rejecting me?
I'm a bad person, all thesethings, that rumination is
actually controlled by thatdefault mode network, and
unconscious mind recalibrationhelps with these things and so
many other things.
It helps to quiet down thatdefault mode network and studies
show that that helps you tobreak free from those ruminating
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thought loops and actuallyaccess deeper levels of your
unconscious mind, which studiesshow can be considered your
higher self.
And your higher self, which isthe deepest level of your
unconscious mind, is where youhave connection to the greatest
level of intuitive hits andanswers and solutions, beyond
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anything that you could havelogically imagined, because
you're connecting to somethingmore deep than your conscious
mind.
You're connecting to thedeepest level of your
unconscious mind, which istheorized that this deepest
level of your unconscious mindis also connected to everybody
else's deepest level of theirunconscious mind, right, that
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collective connection.
So all of this to say thesepast few months of me being
radio silent is this everythingthat I'm talking about now is a
result of everything that Ipieced together over these past
few months, of all the researchthat I finally took the time to
organize for myself, and I seenow how important it is that I
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did this, not only for me butfor you, because this is not
only interesting and helpful.
I think it's important andnecessary now more than ever.
There are so many people who arehighly sensitive, gifted
neurodivergent, who aren'taccessing their fullest
potential because they don'tknow how to leverage their
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neurobiology.
And so many of us know that weare here for more.
We're here for something deepand meaningful, transformative,
important, to create change, tolead people, to help people.
And if you're like myself andso many of my clients, you know
this to be true.
It's wired in you.
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You can't just stay at thesuperficial and you can't just
stay at a status quo job whereyou're just doing something for
the sake of making money.
And it's actually because ofyour neurobiology and the way
that you're wired.
It's instinctual.
You can't not.
And you also, because of thisneurobiology, you need to be
doing whatever you're doing,aligned with your values, with
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integrity, with authenticity,with honesty, with transparency.
It's actually within yourneurobiology that you are more
sensitive to injustice than thegeneral population and you can't
not listen to that.
You already know.
If you try to ignore thesethings, it's kind of like
putting this big, high energydog into this tiny room and not
letting to ignore these things.
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It's kind of like putting thisbig, high energy dog into this
tiny room and not letting it out.
Eventually it's going todestroy the room, and that's
what it feels like on the insideif you ignore these things, if
you try to work against thesethings.
And this is what happens whenyou work against your
neurobiology, when you don'tunderstand how you're wired and
when you're still operating fromsurvival mode with your
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unconscious mind.
And this is why it's soimportant to understand this
deeper root of your unconsciousmind, because nervous system
regulation is only going to getyou so far.
Affirmations and mindset shiftsand therapy are helpful, but
they're only going to get you sofar.
And when you address this deeperlevel of your unconscious mind,
then all of the above workbetter and more efficiently and
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more quickly.
And when you do that and whenyou recalibrate your unconscious
mind to a more positivelysupportive environment within
yourself, starting with yourneurobiology, that's when
everything opens up.
That's when you no longer feellike you're struggling as a
highly sensitive orneurodivergent person, because I
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know there's so many of us whohave felt like it's so
challenging that it's a grind toachieve the level of success
that we want to achieve, to dothe things that we want to do,
to actually feel like we'rebeing recognized for the work
and the brilliance that our workprovides, to actually have
people take us seriously,especially because we are so
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forward thinking compared to somany people.
Because of our neurobiology,because this is how we think,
because of how we're wired, weare connected to more deep
thought.
We are connected to moreout-of-the-box thinking.
We are connected to moreintuitive thought.
We are connected to more out ofthe box thinking.
We are connected to moreintuitive thinking and thinking
in ways, in non-linear ways thatmost people don't, and this is
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our advantage.
These are our gifts, and theyare gifts that actually the
world needs more than ever rightnow.
If you haven't noticed, we'regoing through some big changes
in humanity and society, and Icould go.
I'll do another podcast episodeone day about exactly what's
happening.
What's going on from what I'mobserving in the science and
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with astrology Kind of confirmsthe patterns of what's actually
going on, for now to know thatwe are in this process of big
transformation.
One reference that I'll mentionhere is something called the
fourth turning, and some of youmight already know about this.
So William Strauss and NeilHowe had come up with this
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theory called the fourth turning.
There are four cycles that asociety goes through and then it
will repeat itself.
These four cycles usuallyhappen over the course of 80 to
100 years, and the last time wehad a fourth turning was between
around the time of the GreatDepression and the Second World
War.
And what happens in the fourthturning?
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It's a time of collapse of anold way of how society operates
collapse of an old way of howsociety operates and then it's
followed with a new cycle ofregeneration at a higher level
than it was before.
And right now we're in anotherfourth turning and things are
starting to collapse so thatthey can be reordered and
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renewed and regenerated in a newway that's at a higher level
than where we're operating now.
We can't control that.
It happens in cycles, over andover and over again, and history
proves this.
So right now we're in this hugetime of change, collapse, and
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certain things that are nolonger working are falling apart
, including how we operate, howsystems work, institutions, how
people connect with each other.
There's a lot of things thatare going on that we're seeing
more and more, and we're havingthese things illuminated to us
about what's not helpful now andwhen we experience change.
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Carl Jung suggested that thesolutions to the biggest
problems that humanity hascannot be solved with logic
alone.
They need to be created throughdeveloping a higher level of
consciousness, because logicalone is not going to provide
the solutions, because logicalone is based on what we
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already know, and we need tofind solutions and new ways of
operating and doing things basedon this higher level order that
we're about to step in.
Once, this fourth turning movesback into a first turning, and
those of us who are highlysensitive, gifted neurodivergent
, we're actually designed to beleading this.
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Because of our neurobiology,we're able to think outside the
box, we're sensing things beforethey happen, we're able to come
up with innovative solutionsthat no one has ever considered,
and we're able to lead otherswith compassion and integrity
through this change, especiallythe ones that are suffering the
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most, and this is going to helpall of us move forward through
this change into the next era.
So we need people that arewired in this way to step up in
their leadership to theirfullest potential, to help all
of us move through this era ofchange, this fourth turning, and
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there's many other ways todescribe this, based on
different social change theory,and I'll get into that in
another podcast.
The reason why I'm saying allof this is not to convince you
or try to motivate you, but toconfirm to you because I know,
if you're like me, you'vealready known this instinctually
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and I'm confirming this to you,to validate to you that, yeah,
what you've been sensing is realand science proves it, and this
is what I've been puttingtogether.
So, those of us who are in thisplace and wired this way and
designed this way no-transcript,it's not.
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It's actually designed for thisera in humanity and
civilization more than ever, andthose of us who are leaders,
who are built this way, we needto recalibrate our unconscious
mind so we're no longeroperating from the survival
place that we had beenprogrammed to be perceiving life
through, because of theneurotypical society who had
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convinced us that we are wrongfor operating in this way, being
who we are, thinking in theways that we think, and the
thing is is that there are somethings about us that don't match
how neurotypicals function interms of their neurobiology and,
because of that, if we forceourselves to operate in the same
way as they do and because ofthat, if we force ourselves to
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operate in the same way as theydo because that's what we were
modeled, we're going to struggleBecause that's not how we're
wired.
We need to figure out the waythat works for us, based on how
we're wired, not howneurotypicals are wired, and
then not be hard on ourselves,because we don't function in the
same way as neurotypicals Togive ourselves the
accommodations andpicals to giveourselves the accommodations
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and give ourselves permission tosupport ourselves in the way
that we need and to think in theways that we think, and to
follow our own inner calling inthe way that our inner knowing
is telling us that we need to dothings.
Because you have the answers.
They are within you, they'refound at the deepest level of
your unconscious mind, yourhigher self.
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They're there and you haveaccess to them.
However, the filters arepreventing you from accessing
them.
You need to clear those filtersand then develop the
understanding of this newsuccess mode, as I like to call
it, or vantage success mode, andI like to use the analogy of
exemplars that show you anexample of what that way of
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operating is like.
Like tuning a guitar, you needto have a guitar tuner to show
you what the tune note soundslike in order to tune your
guitar string to that note, andthat's another piece of the work
that I do, and that's anotherpiece of the work that I do and
that's another piece for you toconsider.
So one piece of the work hereis looking at the unconscious
mind, recalibration, to clearout all those old filters based
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on survival mode, and then lookat the exemplars to help you
tune to the note that youactually want to tune to, which
is that more positivelysupportive note, so that you can
leverage the advantages of yourneurobiology in terms of the
vantage success, because you'redesigned to flourish once you do
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and then figure out your ownunique way in terms of your
leadership, your thoughtleadership and your operating
system, not somebody else's,because when you try to force
yourself to operate withsomebody else's operating system
, that's what holds you back.
When you compare yourself towhat other people are doing and
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how other people are functioningand how other people are doing
it, you're internally workingagainst your neurobiology.
And when you work against yourneurobiology, it causes you to
struggle even more.
And when you work against yourneurobiology, it causes you to
struggle even more, it holds youback, it prevents you from
accessing the full potential ofwhat you can, and I know there's
so many people out there whoare struggling as a highly
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sensitive person orneurodivergent person trying to
operate in a neurotypical world.
I get it, I've been there, Ifeel it.
And there's another way, and Iknow this all got started
actually when I posted somethingabout how there's this third
way.
I notice online that there'sthese two camps.
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There's this one camp which isall about, you know, high
sensitivity and neurodivergenceas a superpower and they fail to
address, maybe, the nuances andthe challenges of being highly
sensitive and neurodivergent.
And then there's this othercamp that yells at the people
who are saying it's a superpowerand saying no, it's not a
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superpower, it's a disabilityand it sucks, and so they're
seeing the challenges and it canfeel like a challenge,
especially when yourneurobiology is working against
you and you are working againstyour neurobiology, and
especially when you're operatingwith your unconscious mind
that's calibrated to threat, torejection, to criticism, to all
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the programming that made youfeel like how you are and how
you're built is wrong.
That made you feel like how youare and how you're built is
wrong and now you're trying towork against how you're built to
try to fit into a societythat's not built for how you're
wired.
It's going to make you feelworse and the science proves it.
It's going to make you feellike life is hard, like success
is hard, like you have to pushthe ball uphill all the freaking
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time.
I get it and I see over and overand over and over and over
again through all the years thatI've been doing this work, that
once you understand how you'rebuilt and work with how you're
built and leverage thatneurobiology and the capacity
that you have to thrive when youdo these things, it changes
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everything from the inside out.
It changes how you see reality,it changes how you respond to
reality, it changes how you feelabout yourself and all of that
changes how you feel physically,your energy.
It changes how you feel withall of your symptoms right,
because now that bridge that'simpacted by your unconscious
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mind, your nervous system is nolonger always on high alert and
so you feel better.
Your digestion's better, yourimmune system's better, your
autoimmune symptoms are better,pain becomes more tolerable or
goes away, hormones recalibrateand improve, metabolism improves
.
There's so many things thathappen here, and the point isn't
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here in terms of like.
Well, this is how you cure yourautoimmunity, for example.
That comes as a byproduct ofthis deeper root.
That comes as a byproduct ofyour nervous system no longer
being on high alert and highthreat, your nervous system
being more optimally regulatedin terms of having a wider
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window of tolerance and beingable to come back into your
regulated set point afterdisruptions more quickly, more
easily and not being thrown offand derailed for days comes from
the deeper source of yourunconscious mind and the
unconscious neurobiologyassociated with it and how that
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was programmed like an operatingsystem.
And so it's time for anoperating system upgrade Wipe
out the old so that you canprogram in a new which will
optimize everything, becausethat's how you're biologically
designed.
And I see this over and overand over and over and over again
.
And now I have the science toexplain exactly why I've been
noticing what I've been noticingall these years, and then this
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additional certification that Igot in timeline therapy to
recalibrate your unconsciousmind, I can see how more quickly
my clients have these hugetransformations, how more
quickly my clients have thesehuge transformations.
Transformations that tookmonths are happening in days and
weeks now it's blowing my mindand it's blowing my mind what's
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happening within me and look atwhat I'm coming out with now.
Because I've had this experienceand I know with certainty that
everything that transpired overthe past few months is a result
of me having had thisunconscious recalibration and
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because I already have a greatdeal of baseline knowledge about
all the other stuff that'sassociated with your unconscious
mind and your nervous system,I've been able to take this and
run with it and because of allthe other modalities that I have
in my methodology you know thetimeline therapy and conscious
mind recalibration is just onepiece of the puzzle here.
It's an important piece and Isee now that this is like the
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first thing that needs to happento have everything else work
better and faster and moreefficiently and effectively.
And I can see now, combinedwith all of my other modalities,
how much this creates mindblowing shifts in people.
They become more confident,they trust themselves fully and
these things aren't things thatthey're trying to do.
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It's not like they're like, butI need to work on my confidence
.
It's a natural byproduct ofrecalibrating your unconscious
mind and what I'm also seeing,as I was mentioning earlier, so
many of us who are highlysensitive and neurodivergent.
There's so many of us who doexperience rejection, sensitive
dysphoria, and I've seen overand over again on social media
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people asking how do I resolvethis?
How do I get over this?
It's running my life and I getit.
I've been there and this is thething, and the studies prove
this to be true.
When you recalibrate yourunconscious mind, it's not that
you're working directly on therejection, sensitivity,
dysphoria.
You're working on shifting howyour unconscious mind is
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filtering and operating right.
You clear the filter that'sfiltering for rejection and you
recalibrate your default modenetwork for all of those
internal loops that create thatlike inner mind monkey over
analysis and overwhelmingthoughts that come up.
If you do sense the rejection,all of that shifts and when that
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shifts, then that rejectionsensitivity shifts as well.
And I've seen that over and overand over and over and over
again through the years thatI've been doing this work.
And now I have the science toexplain why.
That is Because I took the timefinally to organize all of it
and put it together for you.
And I'm not done.
There's still a lot to puttogether, but I've taken, I've
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been able to put enough togethernow that I can like confidently
say all right, now I'm ready tocome back out and share what
I've figured out for you, andyou're going to see this
continue to evolve as I put morepieces of the puzzle together
and as science catches up tothis, because really we've only
scratched the surface on all ofthis in terms of what we know in
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the science.
So it's going to be thisconstantly evolving and growing
thing.
However, I can say withassuredness now what I know to
be true, that's backed byscience, that no one's talking
about in this way, and this issuch an important key and piece
of the puzzle that changes thelives of so many people that
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I've been working with.
I see it over and over and overagain and it's changed my life,
and so I want to get this out toyou, because if you're highly
sensitive, you're neurodivergent, you're gifted and you know
there's this like invisiblebarrier that's been keeping you
back from your full potential.
You know there's more that youwant to be doing, but all those
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survival mechanisms and copingmechanisms keep coming out.
You're afraid of sayingsomething that's going to
trigger people and so, becauseof that, you hold back, you play
small, or, if you say somethingthat does trigger people, you
backtrack or over-explainyourself or try to do whatever
you can to smooth over thesituation, even if it means
compromising your own prioritiesand compromising yourself.
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And because of all of this, youdoubt yourself.
You don't fully trust yourintuition because whenever
you've tried to trust yourintuition which, by the way, is
very accurate, however, you'vebeen conditioned to believe that
you were wrong.
Because other people don't getit, because other people don't
understand you, they don'tunderstand how you're built.
Other people don't get itbecause other people don't
understand you.
They don't understand howyou're built, they don't
understand your forward thinkingthoughts, because other people
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are telling you that you're toodifferent, too weird, too
sensitive, you're overthinkingthings, you're over analyzing
things, you're making things up.
You're not, but because you'vebeen told over and over again
that you are, you don't trustfully your own intuition and
because of all of theunconscious conditioning that's
been causing you to filter forthreat and rejection and causing
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you to think negatively aboutyourself, because that's what
had been modeled to you youdon't have that deeper access to
the deepest level of yourunconscious mind and you don't
fully trust it.
Ask me how I know I've gonethrough all of this.
I'm speaking from personalexperience and I know you know
that, and this is why I'm sopassionate about this, because
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all of this has changed my lifeand it's continuing to change my
life.
And this next, this last littlepiece that happened to me in
2024 has taken me to the nextlevel of what I'm here to do,
what my purpose and mission is.
I know that I'm here for fellowsensitive, gifted,
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neurodivergent, visionaryleaders who are here to make a
difference, and I'm here to helpyou leverage your neurobiology
so that you can be leading fromyour fullest potential, so you
can make that impact anddifference.
You know that you're here tomake and you can achieve that
next level of success andrecognition without having to
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push so hard, so that you canachieve all of this in a way
that feels effortless, becauseyou're aligned with your flow,
because you're in that place ofWu Wei-wei, effortless action,
that flow state which scienceproves is a thing, and doing
everything that I'm talkingabout here helps you get into
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that flow state and helps you tothrive over and above your
neurotypical peers, so that youcan lead from your highest
potential and fullest potentialand have the success, the
recognition, make thosemeaningful differences, while
also being recognized for yourleadership, so that you can be
that highly respected, soughtafter thought leader.
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That's making a difference andleaving a legacy that you know
that you want to make.
And all of that happens when youget to this deeper root.
It changes how you see things,how you show up, how you act,
whether or not you are actuallysharing your most innovative
thoughts, and how you share themin a way that speaks with
command and authority andconfidence.
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Not because you're forcing it,not because you're faking it
until you make it, but becauseyour unconscious, entire
neurobiology shifts to a spacewhere it just becomes second
nature to feel confident, tofeel at ease with yourself and
to feel at peace from the insideout and to be fully satisfied
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with what you're doing, becauseyou're doing it your way,
because you are aligned withyour flow and doing what you
know inherently you're here tobe doing, and if you're with me,
you know what I'm talking about.
So this is a little preview ofwhat's to come for season two
and what's to come on my socialmedia and my emails that I send
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out.
I'm about to share with you,likely a whole bunch of new
perspectives that you had neverconsidered about yourself as a
highly sensitive, gifted orneurodivergent person.
That's going to change the gamefor you in terms of your
success, in terms of yoursatisfaction, in terms of your
energy, in terms of your work,in terms of what you're here to
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do, what you're here to do, howyou're here to do it.
And it's a completely differentperspective than probably
anything that you've ever beenmodeled or shown or explained or
taught before.
And that's because of my giftof being able to put together
the pattern, since the patternsconnect the dots and put things
together and think in ways andask questions that likely no one
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else has ever asked.
And I see now that that's mygift.
And the more I've beenconnecting and recalibrating my
own unconscious mind, the moreI've been connecting with these
gifts and they are gettingbigger and more powerful and
more innate and natural.
And I know now that these giftswithin me are designed to help
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put together something that'sgoing to help you, especially if
you're designed like me.
That's my current purpose,that's my inner purpose right
now.
This whole podcast is called theinner purpose podcast.
Well, here we go.
My inner purpose is to help youcalibrate your neurobiology so
that you can be living yourinner purpose, because that's
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actually how you thrive.
This is not a nice to have.
This is actually how you'reneurologically built and because
you're actually neurologicallybuilt this way, why would you
want to waste it?
You have choices.
You can continue to feel likeyou're hitting an invisible wall
and only working at maybe 50,60, 70% of your fullest
(01:00:28):
potential.
You can choose to work againstyour neurobiology and try to fit
yourself into a box of how theneurotypical world works which,
by the way, a lot of how theneurotypical world works doesn't
even really work for a lot ofneurotypicals or you can take
advantage of your own uniqueneurobiological wiring, because
when you do, that's actuallywhen you can make the biggest
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difference.
That's when you're going tostep into your inner purpose, in
your flow, in your success,with your recognition, and have
it flow effortlessly, withconfidence, with ease, and enjoy
it with satisfaction.
Be at peace with yourself, notfight against yourself.
And if you're listening to this,you already know all this.
You've already known all ofthis instinctively, but maybe
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you may not have been able toput words to this, maybe you
didn't understand exactly themechanisms behind it and maybe
you needed someone to confirmthis to you, what you
instinctively knew.
Well, here I am confirming it.
It's a thing and I hear this alot when I see my clients is,
when I explain so much of this,they're like, wow, it's like
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you're giving me validation tobe me.
It's like you're giving mepermission to actually follow
what I always knew this wholetime.
And I love the fact that I cangive them this validation and
give them this permission andhelp them to feel seen and heard
and understood, sometimes forthe first time in their lives,
(01:01:57):
and I don't want to be thepractitioner who they rely on to
give them the validation andpermission.
That's only the first step.
The next step is to show themhow to give themselves the
permission going forward,because that's what changes
everything.
Okay, I think I'm done for now.
I have so much to say, but Ithink we've done enough for this
(01:02:18):
podcast episode.
I look forward to coming backand sharing with you all the
things that I'm finding, all thenew perspectives that are
probably going to shift how youthink about yourself and your
neurobiology in ways you'd neverconsidered.
So if that interests you, stickaround and I'll talk to you in
the next podcast episode.
Thank you for being here.
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