July 10, 2024 • 59 mins
What happens when you combine a decade-long struggle with chronic illness, a global pandemic, and a relentless quest for healing? Lindsay Troumbly's journey from battling endometriosis to discovering her path to wellness offers profound insights and transformative lessons. Through a candid conversation, Lindsay shares how she transitioned from relying solely on Western medicine to embracing holistic practices like yoga, meditation, and personal development work. Her story, particularly her pivotal introspective work in 2020, highlights the power of tuning into one's intuition to unlock new levels of healing and self-awareness.
In this episode, we delve deep into the concept of self-responsibility and awareness for managing chronic conditions. Lindsay explains the importance of addressing both physical and emotional deficiencies and toxicity to reduce inflammation and promote overall well-being. We explore how shadow work—bringing subconscious traumas into conscious awareness—can be a powerful tool for healing, along with the critical role of maintaining energetic boundaries, especially for empathic individuals. Lindsay’s insights shed light on how a holistic detox of mind, body, and spirit can lead to a more connected and fulfilling life.
Finally, Lindsay guides us through the importance of authentic living and the wisdom of human design for making intuitive choices. She discusses how societal conditioning often steers us away from our true paths and emphasizes the necessity of breaking free to live in alignment with our unique blueprints. We touch on the balance between recognizing personal limits and maintaining mental and physical health. Lindsay’s inspiring journey and practical advice offer a roadmap for anyone looking to transform pain into purpose and live a more authentic, balanced life.
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Michelle Dowker (00:00):
Today I had a deep and juicy conversation with
Lindsay Trombley.
Her and I have been on verysimilar paths over the years and
today she shares her personalstory about how she navigated
through the depths ofendometriosis and how it led her
to go from trying to justmanage her symptoms to the inner
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healing journey that has gottenher to where she is today.
And she's also speaking abouther career pivot journey from
being in corporate to working asa coach and then going back
into corporate because therewere some lessons there for her
to learn, to bolster her to thenext level of her evolution.
(00:48):
And now she's stepping backinto coaching where she supports
women to alchemize their paininto powerful purpose.
Her and I have very similarvisions and outlooks and
perspectives and I hope that youenjoy the conversation that we
had today.
Lindsay, thank you so much forbeing here today.
(01:09):
Now.
You and I have been on parallelpaths for quite a number of
years now and I know you've gonethrough quite a journey and
quite a number of pivots in yourwork and in your personal inner
growth and healing.
Tell me a little bit about yourstory and how you got to where
you are now and what you're upto.
Lindsey Troumbley (01:30):
Oh geez, so we'll start back in 2013.
So it's been about a decade now.
I have gone through a severebattle with endometriosis and
2013 was my last surgery.
So I had researched a lot onwho is the best endometriosis
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surgeons and I had actuallygotten in contact with one of
them and fortunately, in mystate, I didn't have to travel
too far.
But after that surgery I didn'thave to travel too far.
But after that surgery I wasstill having pain, and so I was
like, you know, I've gotten tothe end of what Western medicine
can you know give me at thispoint?
(02:15):
And I just started really on myjourney to heal my physical
pain.
That was it.
It was just like I just want tonot be in pain anymore.
And the journey unfolded, mygoodness.
So it started as like physicalhealth exercising.
I had been on the endometriosisdiet for four years before my
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last surgery, so I continued to,you know, eat well, but I was
also able to exercise now that Ihad gotten that surgery.
I was doing yoga and meditationand then, in fast forward to
2017, I moved to personaldevelopment, inner work.
So I was doing a lot of mindsetwork, a lot of practicing of
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reading self-help books andmindset books and stuff.
And then in 2020 was like thebig bang, the big healing that I
did and I jumped into justreally healing my energy.
I was isolated like everybodyelse and in that isolation time
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I actually realized that I'm anintrovert.
I did not know this.
I was always working in thepublic, I was always going 100
miles an hour all the time and,yeah, I was tired and I was
burnt out a lot, but I didn'trealize that wasn't the normal,
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and so when I was forced to bein isolation, I was forced to do
a lot of introspective workthat I hadn't done.
So that's when I got into likethe shadow work, like my
abandonment wounds with myfather that I never realized
were affecting me up until thispoint.
(04:10):
And doing all of that it waslike I was unlocking these gates
into my intuition, like I'vealways been intuitive, but I at
this point it's like I describeit as like a radio dial, and if
you just dial it like a littlebit one way or the other, you're
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going to get a way clear signal, and that's how I feel now.
I feel like I'm just likebalance and I'm connected and my
head and my heart does notbattle each other anymore and my
life has improved in everysingle direction.
So my endometriosis hasimproved, my physical health has
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improved, my mental health hasimproved, my wealth, I make more
money now, I have betterrelationships in my life, and
it's all been like through thejourney of connecting to my
intuition, and I know thatsounds crazy, but I also feel
like we can all do this, butwe're guided away from doing it.
(05:15):
So if you think about oh, Ihave a physical health issue,
you go to an outside source forthat, not inside.
But when you study the laws ofthe universe, everything as
within, so without, and soeverything has to start from
within.
And if you can't trust yourself, who are you going to trust?
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So then you keep gettingmanipulated along the way and
you keep questioning yourselfand you keep doubting yourself
and you keep, you know, going inthese circles and really all it
is is you're in your ownfreaking way.
So once you can get out of yourway, once you can detox your
body and get all the crap out ofyour body that's literally
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chemically manipulating yourmind Once you can program your
mindset to be in a place ofabundance and gratitude, once
you can clear your energy spaceso that you can recognize and
set boundaries, bothenergetically and physically,
and just come to a harmonicbalance.
(06:24):
It's like you're connected toeverything and synchronicities
come in and opportunities comein, and all of these things that
you never saw before, you seenow.
It's crazy.
I love it.
It's been an amazing whirlwindof a journey.
I was coaching women withendometriosis in 2020.
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I had a podcast, all the things, but they weren't quite ready
for my work.
They weren't quite in alignmentwith the holistic health that I
was teaching because of whatwe're taught, right, we're
taught to trust doctors, we'retaught to take drugs and get
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surgeries, and that is the beall, end all.
And when you have a chronicdisease like endometriosis in
your program to think thatthere's nothing else that can be
done, your program to thinkthat there's nothing else that
can be done, then you're in thisvictim mentality of not taking
things upon yourself and notlooking within yourself, and so
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you feel like just hopeless andhelpless.
And then here's me and I comealong and I'm like, hey, like
there is another way, and I didit and you can too.
And, my goodness, thegaslighting was just so intense
after a while and I just kind ofran out of resources, the
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pandemic was ending, and so Iwent back to corporate world.
And let me tell you, the realflex of doing all of this work
is when you can go back'm thetype of person that I realize
that everything's happening forus.
(08:29):
And so I look back now and Irealize like, even though I'm an
entrepreneurial spirit and I'ma coach and I'm an intuitive and
I'm a healer and I'm like allthese things and I want to use
all that to impact people in myown way and that's my purpose
and my path that I had to goback to that corporate
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environment to strengthen mycharacter development so that I
could actually deal with theentrepreneur journey, because
it's not easy.
There's a lot of failures,there's a lot of there's a lot
of failures, there's a lot ofhardship, there's a lot that
goes into it.
And now I'm like okay, I'mready, let's do this thing.
So that's where I'm at.
Michelle Dowker (09:14):
Oh my goodness, Amazing.
It's like we speak the samelanguage.
Lindsey Troumbley (09:20):
We're soul sisters, for sure.
Michelle Dowker (09:22):
You know, thinking back to you know, as
you're telling your story, youknow I could relate so much to
what you were saying aboutshifting your diet and doing.
You know, taking supplements orwhatever can be helpful to a
degree and it sounds like foryou you kind of recognize
there's something more here,there's something deeper there's
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something more here, there'ssomething deeper.
Lindsey Troumbley (09:51):
Yeah, I'm very curious person and I'm also
very stubborn, so that was mypath forward into I'm gonna
figure this out, if it takes methe rest of my life, because the
doctors are telling me I'mgonna have this for the rest of
my life anyways, so why not atleast just try, you know?
And so my mom said that two ofmy first words were what's that?
(10:11):
And followed by why.
And I've literally neverchanged.
Like I was like what's that,why, what's that why?
And what I did was I basicallyI joke to people and I'm like,
okay, I could have twodoctorates by now for the amount
of time and research and studythat I put into, like just
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learning and implementing andthis didn't work for me.
Throw that out, okay, startthis, bring this back in.
You know, and building thisprogram that I had basically
taught women with endometriosisin my coaching is a mind, body,
spirit detox, if you want to putit simple, but there's a lot of
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stuff that goes into that.
But what I realized is thatbasically you just have to clear
out all the crap, like you haveto get out of your own way.
That's what you need to do.
And like your body and yourmind and your soul are all
connected, and we're not taughtthat, right.
(11:18):
Like allopathic Westernmedicine teaches you to only
focus on the body, and then youonly focus on the part of the
body that is acting up.
So you have these symptoms andyou focus on those.
Well, endometriosis istechnically a reproductive
disease, right, but as we'vegone on and studied, we have
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found out that it's actually anentire body inflammation disease
, right, and so when you cancontrol the inflammation, you
can control the disease.
Well, inflammation is a symptom, it's not a cause, and so then
you have to think about what isactually causing that
inflammation, and the two thingsthat I've found in all my
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studying is that inflammation iscaused by two things deficiency
and toxicity, or deficiencycaused by toxicity.
So the number one thing thatcauses all of this inflammation
and all of these symptoms inyour body, in your mental health
, in your physical health, inyour energetic health, is
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toxicity.
So if you get rid of thetoxicity, you get rid of
everything, and what happens is,as you keep detoxing further
and further in, as you keepdetoxing further and further in.
So, as I said, first it wasphysical for me, and then it was
mental and then it wasspiritual.
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Once you can get rid of all thestuff, you're so connected.
You're like this kind of likeantenna that's now connected to
the universe and you recognizeit and you realize it.
So all of this synchronicity,that's where you recognize it,
(13:14):
like there is not a day thatgoes by now that I don't see
angel numbers, and usually it'slike multiple times a day, and
every time you see that it makesyou pause and just reflect on
that moment and it's like thankyou for this reminder or thank
you for this and the people thatcome into my life and the
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opportunities that come into mylife.
We're all connected and you'reconnected and the number one law
of the universe is as within,so without.
And so once you can realizelike I'm in my own way, I'm the
only one that can fix myself,then everything changes.
Michelle Dowker (13:59):
Beautiful.
I have so many questions.
Lindsey Troumbley (14:02):
Fire away girl.
Michelle Dowker (14:03):
Two things, a couple of things that come up.
So, first of all, what do youthink about?
When you mentioned toxicity,the first thing that came to
mind is what about emotionaltoxicity?
Lindsey Troumbley (14:15):
Yeah, everything.
So when you don't eat right, italso affects your mental health
, right?
And when you are brought up,however you're brought up, you
have traumas in your life thatactually affect your emotional
health.
Until you get rid of thosetraumas, but what we don't
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realize is most of it'ssubconscious.
So until we bring that into theconscious, we can't get rid of
it.
It's just like these people andthese things and these patterns
that keep showing up in yourlife and you don't understand
why.
And you feel like a victim.
And that's where the victimmentality comes in is like why
do these things keep happeningto me?
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Why do I keep attracting toxicmen in my life?
Why do I keep attracting, youknow, toxic people that just
want to be energy vampires anddrain me of my life force, right
?
But then you realize, like, asyou do, shadow work that's what
shadow work is all about.
For me is like that emotionaltrauma that you've been carrying
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around for years and years.
Shadow work is just a fancyword for awareness.
To me, it's just bringing whatyou are not aware of into
awareness so that you can sitwith that, process it and then
move through it.
Michelle Dowker (15:38):
Yeah, absolutely.
Lindsey Troumbley (15:40):
But yeah, emotional toxicity is.
But yeah, emotional toxicity is.
You can't be in physical painwithout it affecting your
emotional health.
You just you can't like it'sjust this cycle that you get in.
And the longer you deal with achronic disease and the more
you're told like you're notgoing to get better or there's
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nothing wrong with you or it'sin your head or you know, and
the people in your life don'tunderstand what's going on, like
you don't look sick on theoutside right and so you're
carrying like all this emotionalbaggage around and it's just
part of your norm.
So you don't realize like I canget rid of this, I can get rid
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of this, I can let go of thisand I can separate using
energetic boundaries.
That's something that I teachthat this is your crap and this
is my crap and I don't have tolike bring your crap into my
crap and get it mixed together.
(16:43):
For me.
I'm an empathic person, so myentire life I didn't have
boundaries.
I didn't understand what thosewere.
My mom treated me like herchild counselor as she went
through multiple abusiverelationships and toxic
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relationships and instead of of,I mean she did go to counselors
.
It didn't really last very long, but I was her counselor.
She would come to me and dumpon me and you know I was a kid
but I wanted to help my hurtingmother.
I wanted to help my hurtingmother, I wanted to make her
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pain go away, and so I took on alot of that.
But I didn't realize it wasn'tnormal, like that was just my
relationship with my mom.
So as I grew up I didn'trealize that wasn't normal and
so I took on everyone's pain andeveryone's emotions.
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And that stores in your body andit causes disease.
It's a causation of disease,and so when you get rid of that,
your body is actually able toheal at a more rapid pace.
So a lot of people don'trealize.
But every organ in your body isable of regeneration.
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Every cell in your body is ableof regeneration.
The time that it takes to do sois different for each thing,
but it can't do it if it'sblocked.
So whether that's an energeticblock or whether that's like a
parasite that's eating your youknow nutrients and you're not
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getting those absorbed into yourbody, or whatever it is like,
if you clear it out the bodywill heal.
Michelle Dowker (18:42):
Absolutely.
The body has an impressiveability to heal itself, as long
as you give it the rightconditions.
Lindsey Troumbley (18:50):
Exactly yeah.
Michelle Dowker (18:52):
Now you've gone through this amazing inner
healing journey.
You've takenself-responsibility for not only
your health but your life.
You've manifested so muchgoodness because of this self
responsibility that you've takenand this realization of the
truth, of how it really works.
Lindsey Troumbley (19:14):
The one thing that keeps coming back to that
is being aware.
A lot of us like, when we're invictim mentality, it's not our
fault.
You know it's not our fault.
You know it's not my fault thatthis keeps happening to me.
It's not my fault that I don'thave money, it's not my fault
that I don't have therelationships that I want.
(19:35):
But there's only one commondenominator in all that right,
you.
If once you realize, like, forit was the awareness of the
patterns first.
So it was the awareness ofthese things keep happening to
me.
And then it was yeah, I can'tcontrol other people, but I can
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control me.
So if I'm the only commondenominator in this situation
and I can't, I like to controlstuff.
Common denominator in thissituation and I can't, I like to
control stuff.
If I can't control other peoplebut I can control myself, then
what is it within me that'scausing this?
So every causation has areaction, right, and so when you
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can take self-responsibilityfor your part in that, then
everything changes because yourealize, like, I have so much
more control.
I'm not a victim anymore.
I'm empowered to figure it out.
I'm empowered to end the toxicrelationships.
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I'm empowered to end the youknow cycles that have kept me in
victim mentality, but a lot ofpeople don't want to and that's
like another thing that I had torealize in coaching is a lot I
can help a lot of these womenbecause of the victim mentality
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but they didn't want to get outof it.
It's like if you take the stepto get out of it is one thing,
but if you're not willing totake that step, you can bring a
horse to water but you can'tmake him drink, type of thing,
you know.
Michelle Dowker (21:16):
Absolutely.
That's something that I'venoticed along my journey as well
.
You know, everyone's at adifferent place on their path
and their journey and noteverybody is ready for change,
because change can feel hard,it's unfamiliar, it can look
scary.
Sometimes it's like the pain ofstaying where you are needs to
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get so great that you're willingto finally move forward in that
change and and be willing toface the pain of the
unfamiliarity absolutely.
Lindsey Troumbley (21:52):
I think pain is our biggest opportunity for
growth.
It's like alchemizing that paininto power, and that's one of
my things that I say I do is Itake you from pain.
You learn how to alchemize thatinto your strengths.
What are my strengths?
What is my power?
Because everybody has that, andfor me it's been intuition and
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realizing how intuitive of aperson I am and how, when I can
connect to that and let thatguide me, my life is in flow
when I'm in my head.
I'm very analytical person too,so I'm a manifesting generator
in human design and I have a lotof open channels.
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So I'm very open minded, whichis a good thing, but it also
made me very prone to beingindoctrinated and programmed.
What I basically realized isthat my head and my heart would
always be battling each other,like in any major decision that
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I had to take in my life, and soit was.
Either I did nothing because Icouldn't decide what to do, or I
picked the logical Becausethat's what made sense.
You would make the pros and thecons list you would go over in
your head of, like, this is whatmakes the most sense.
So this is what I did, and italways came full circle to bite
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me in the ass.
So then again you realize thepatterns, right, you realize
like, okay, I did this beforeand now I'm here, so a good
example of that would be.
My purpose is to help peopleevolve and so change for me.
I've always been prettyadaptable to it, but I wanted to
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be a psychologist back inschool and I talked myself out
of it because the money the timeI went back to school when I
was 25.
And so I really just wanted tolike, get in, get out and get
into the world and start makingmoney.
So I was comparing myself toall my friends that had already
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graduated college.
They were already doing all thethings that I wanted to be
doing buying houses, you know,getting married, doing the
things, the typical white picketfence life, which now I also
know is not my path.
But you know, you learn.
So I chose to go to school foradvertising and become an
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advertising executive and I waslike I just want to make a bunch
of money.
Whatever is going to get methere, the quickest way is what
I'm going to do.
And then I hated every job Ihad, like I was, I'm gonna do
this and I did like I worked mybutt off in college to intern,
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to stack my resume, to make surethat, when I was done with
college, I was gonna get thebest jobs at the best companies,
and it wasn't wrong.
I did those things.
I worked for 3M, I worked forBest Buy, I worked for Target,
and I hated every one of thosejobs, sitting in a cubicle all
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day long, nine to five, and Ididn't realize that was the
problem, though.
So I just kind of kept switchingcompanies and switching roles,
thinking that you know, it'sjust this or it's just that, and
now I'm a coach.
So it's like it's come a fullcircle, and if I just would have
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went to college to be apsychologist, like my intuition
told me to, I probably wouldn'thave had to jump through all
those hoopsops and now, at 38years old, realize what I want
to do with my life.
It's the awareness of thepatterns and then realizing,
like I'm gonna follow myintuition now, because every
time I don't, I still end up atthe same place.
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It just takes me twice as longto get there.
I have to go through twice asmany obstacles, so so now that I
do that, my life is so mucheasier.
Michelle Dowker (26:13):
That's the thing, right, especially, you
know, with all the socialconditioning that's out there.
You know that, like you touchedupon, right, the white picket
fence and the cubicle job andall the things are what society
says you should be doing andshould be achieving.
And it sounds like your logicalbrain was saying, well, of
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course, this is what I need tobe doing, versus your heart that
was saying, well, wait a second, that's I want to be doing this
.
Lindsey Troumbley (26:43):
And yeah, and so you've come to this
realization that your intuition,or your heart, is probably
telling you more of the truththan maybe your intellect an age
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of literally being bombarded byinformation 24-7, whether it's
social media, whether it's justthe internet in general, or it's
your friends, or it's yourfamily, or it's the TV, or it's
the news or whatever it is.
And so if you can't trustyourself, who are you gonna
trust?
Who are you gonna trust?
And when you can't trustyourself, like I said, you get
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manipulated because you absorball this information and then
you just get overwhelmed and youcan't figure out, like, what to
do with it all, and so you justgo with the most popular thing,
right, right, like what iseverybody else doing?
And then I'm just gonna.
I'm just gonna go that route.
The healing, the real healing,is who was I before the world
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told me who to be?
Your intuition is your soulcompass.
That's what I call it.
It's like that directconnection to your soul.
I don't know if I want to godown this rabbit hole, but we're
programmed to not listen tothat.
Because if we did, if everybodyrealized the power that they
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have by connecting to their souland what that would do for
their life, society would notexist the way it exists right
now, and I'll just leave it likethat.
Michelle Dowker (28:40):
Well, I mean, I think things are changing in
this world.
I think more and more peopleare waking up to maybe there's a
different way than the waywe've been programmed and
conditioned to believe that weneed to be operating.
Lindsey Troumbley (28:58):
Absolutely like me and you, and I find that
it's definitely time for themasses to wake up, or whatever
you want to call it.
And I think the blessing of thepandemic was that's what
happened, that we were forcedinto this situation of isolation
, and during that time a lot ofpeople were able to do a lot of
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healing, a lot of priorityrealization, spending time with
family, working remotely, andafter you do that, you kind of
realize like I don't want to goback to life the way that it was
before.
Michelle Dowker (29:39):
I know I've had a lot of conversations with
many people who have indicatedthat the pandemic was kind of a
turning point for them, rightOpen their eyes to themselves
and who they are, who they wantto be, and it doesn't seem to
fit the molded box of the whitepicket fence work in the cubicle
(30:01):
.
Lindsey Troumbley (30:03):
People want freedom.
They want freedom, they want tolive their lives on their terms
and I think this illusion thatwe had freedom before is
crumbling and people arerealizing, like I didn't have
freedom, I'm literally stuck atmy job, x amount of hours a week
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, like I'm dictated on how muchmoney I can make, I'm dictated
on how much time a year I canhave to take off to travel and
spend time with my family.
And they want.
That illusion is crumbling.
So now it's like there's somany other opportunities to
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build a business online or to,you know, work remotely now that
people are like, why wouldn't Ido that if that's what I can do
?
Michelle Dowker (30:59):
So much is shifting.
Now you mentioned about livinglife on your terms.
It's funny that you bring thatup, because that's something
that you know in my work isguiding people to do their
business on their terms.
One of the things that youmentioned earlier in your
journey was that you didn'trealize that you're an introvert
, and you were all over theplace and you were showing up
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and doing all the things and go,go, go, doing all the things
and go, go, go.
Now that you see that you arean introvert, how has anything
changed in terms of how youoperate?
Lindsey Troumbley (31:46):
Oh, 100%, like now that I'm aware of my
energy and that it needs thatbalance, I prioritize that.
So I I do spend a lot more timeat home.
I do spend a lot more timerecharging than I used to.
I never really gave myself thatopportunity before and so I was
always like go, go, go and thentired and then burnt out
(32:06):
feeling and stressed out and allof these things.
And now I'm like I'm aware whenI'm getting stressed out or
burned out, and then I take thattime to make sure that I can
get back into balance again andmy body will tell me it, my
mental health will tell me it.
And that's the thing is, I'mnot 100% cured of endometriosis,
(32:31):
I'm not 100% healed, but Irecognize when I need to do what
I need to do to get back intobalance again.
And when I can do that, thenthings start to calm down again.
Michelle Dowker (32:50):
So it sounds like you've got this awareness
and discernment.
I love those words, by the way.
Yeah Right To recognize whatyour body is trying to say,
where your limits are andrespecting them and giving
yourself the permission to dowhat you need to do to maintain
balance.
Lindsey Troumbley (33:12):
Yeah, 100%.
And that is all also connectedto my intuition.
The way that I operate and livenow is intuitively.
So I eat intuitively, Iexercise intuitively, I rest
intuitively.
I go out in nature intuitively,I exercise intuitively, I rest
intuitively, I go out in natureintuitively.
(33:33):
Everything that I do and how Ishow up in the world is guided
by my intuition, even inbusiness, like I don't, I have a
strategy, but it's intuitiveand strategy alignment.
If it doesn't align with myintuition, then I don't move
forward.
Michelle Dowker (33:54):
I love it because you know structure and
strategy is important, but italso needs to be aligned
intuitively with you and who youare and how you operate.
Lindsey Troumbley (34:07):
And your authenticity is what's going to
make you successful, notfollowing what everybody else is
doing.
It's hard sometimes torecognize and realize that,
especially when you feel likeyou are different than most
people.
But that is your superpowerpeople.
(34:32):
But that is your superpower,that's how you stand out in the
world.
And not everybody is a leader,Not everybody is a changemaker.
But when you realize that thatis your purpose, like it is mine
and it is yours, then you needto follow that authenticity to
get you there, instead of hiringthe business coach that's
helped x amount of people orwhatever it is strategy wise
(34:56):
like that person.
If they don't align with theway I do things, it's not going
to make me successful, eventhough they've helped x amount
of people, even though they'vehelped X amount of people with
(35:31):
this cookie cutter method.
If I feel like and that's whatI learned in corporate too is if
I feel like I can do somethingmore efficient or more effective
, then I leaders right.
If we were all just leaders,that wouldn't work.
But whatever it is thatresonates with you and your
authentic expression, that'swhat you need to follow.
Michelle Dowker (35:43):
I love that you touched on something really
important, because this is areal commonality.
I know I've experienced thismyself and I know a lot of my
clients experience this feelinglike you don't fit in right,
feeling like you're differentfrom the people around you, or
feeling like you know you don'tbelong in some way.
(36:04):
You know historically thatfeeling of not fitting in.
I don't know if you'veexperienced this for yourself,
but I know when I was younger Iwas trying to figure out how I
can fit in and change myself sothat I could belong with other
people.
But I've come to thisrealization and I'm sure you
have as well that we're notdesigned to fit in.
(36:27):
We're designed to shine ourlight in this unique way, to
show another way, to show theway for the people who are
aligned, to learn from us sothat they can connect to their
own unique light.
Lindsey Troumbley (36:42):
Yes, 100%.
I love that.
I 100% did that.
I was friends with everybody.
I was the chameleon.
I never, you know, put myself ina box, but I always tried to
follow the mold that I wastaught to follow, that I was
taught to follow.
(37:03):
My parents were like, you know,get good grades, go to college,
work hard.
And then I did those things andit was like well, where's the
success?
And I didn't feel fulfilled.
And then I got into Stuff likehuman design.
And well, first it wasastrology Was what led me to
(37:27):
human design.
I grew up thinking astrology waslike some voodoo crap.
You know, I was like whatever,I don't get it.
I would read my horoscope forfun, in like the magazines, and
I would be like this does notdescribe me at all, whatever.
But then I found the patternapp and I don't know if you've
(37:48):
ever used it, but it's like yourastrological chart, like the
time, the day, the minute thatyou were born into the patterns
of your life.
And that's when I was like boom, like I read this and it
resonated with me and I was likethese are patterns of mine,
(38:09):
like these are the patterns I'vebeen showing up.
And so I realized like this, itsaid things to me like you're
different, you're not like otherpeople.
You need to follow your owndesign.
You need to follow your owndesign.
You need to follow your ownpath.
And then I got into humandesign and I realized like my
(38:33):
sole purpose in this lifetime onthis planet is to help raise
collective consciousness bychange and using my intuition to
change.
So now I have to go first.
I have to be that visionary, Ihave to make those leaps,
(38:55):
because that is what I'm here todo.
So I would advise everyone tolook into that stuff, to use it
as a roadmap and to intuitivelysit with it and be like does
this align with me?
And, if it does, to follow thatstrategy along with your
(39:17):
intuition, and I promise youthat your life will feel more in
alignment.
Michelle Dowker (39:23):
Do you want to know how to use your human
design to make the most accurateand aligned intuitive decisions
according to your personaldesign?
If so, you don't want to missepisode 13 in season one, where
I describe exactly how to usethe aspects of your human design
to understand how to make themost aligned intuitive decisions
(39:48):
for you.
You can also sign up for thefree intuitive business
breakthrough five-part trainingseries, and in this training
series is included thisparticular podcast lesson that
is going to teach youstep-by-step how to connect to
your human design chart to makethe most accurate decisions
according to your design.
(40:09):
Absolutely, I agree with you100%.
I mean, I know for me, I use ablend of human design and
astrology to understand myselfand help my clients understand
themselves, and I mean astrologygoes so much deeper than your
sun sign or even your big three,like that's just the
(40:31):
superficial, topical stuff yeah,yeah, and that's what people
don't realize like I'm a Virgosun, gemini moon, capricorn
rising.
Lindsey Troumbley (40:42):
so it does like explain why I need balance
and why, like the Gemini moon,mood, part of me is like this
witty, whimsical, airy part ofme and then, like the Capricorn,
is like work, work, work.
But when you get into like thenitty-gritty of the aspects of
your chart and all of thesethings and what I love about
(41:06):
human design is it takes yourchart and it also brings in
energy, the chi and thepersonality dynamics.
So it's not just like you fitinto these categories, it's like
this is your unique blueprint,design for your life.
(41:27):
And if you even take the basicsof it your authority and
listening to how you shouldfollow that, it will change.
But the deeper that you getinto it, the more intricate that
you get into your gates andyour channels and all of these
things like it will blow yourmind.
(41:47):
It really will.
Michelle Dowker (41:49):
Absolutely.
I couldn't agree more.
And it can take a lifetime totruly understand all the aspects
of your human design chart, andevery aspect of it tells you
something about yourself Really.
When you know yourself, whenyou truly know, know yourself
like that's when you connectback to you and that's when you
(42:10):
can truly trust your intuitionand what your inner knowing is
really trying to show you andwhat your soul is directing you
towards yes, yeah, absolutely.
Lindsey Troumbley (42:22):
I was going to say my entire purpose is to
teach people how to live in anauthentic expression, and most
people are not, because theydon't even realize who they are.
And it's sad because they don'trealize who they are because
(42:46):
they are trying to fit in orthey're wearing masks or they're
not good at boundaries or allthis stuff that we've.
All of that will ultimatelylead you back to.
This is who I am and I cantrust in it.
Michelle Dowker (43:17):
I love it.
Such an important foundationalkey that unlocks everything.
Lindsey Troumbley (43:26):
Literally everything Right, yeah, yeah,
because we're connected to theuniverse and we're literally
from the womb programmed tothink otherwise.
Like that, we're just this,this separate human living this
life, and we have it's like asurvival of the fittest and we
(43:47):
have to do what we can tosurvive.
But when we realize that we areconnected, you start realizing
that not only are you connectedto you, but you're connected to
everyone else, and then you wantto change the world.
You care about other peoplemore, you're more compassionate
towards other people, towardscreatures, even Like I try not
(44:10):
to even kill bugs anymore, youknow, because you just realize,
like that the earth is a livingbeing in itself and everything
is energy and we're allconnected by that.
Energy is energy and we're allconnected by that energy.
(44:31):
And whether I call it God,whether whatever you want to
call it, it all is, that's allit is, it just all is.
When you realize, like what youdo and how you live your life
does have an impact and a rippleeffect, it's like life changing
effect.
Michelle Dowker (44:51):
It's like life changing.
That's been coming up a lot forme lately in my world and
conversations with others.
Is this ripple effect.
I think we had a bit of aconversation about that.
I think I posted somethingabout.
It can seem like overwhelmingto think how am I, who am I, to
heal the world?
But it really starts with you,connecting back with you and
then creating that ripple effectthrough leadership.
Lindsey Troumbley (45:13):
I mean, this podcast is a pretty good example
of that.
Right.
We connected to ourselves.
We are now connecting to eachother and, through this dialogue
and conversation, whoeverlistens to this is connected to
us, and then they will go outand take the tidbits of
(45:37):
intuitive information that theygathered from this and connect
to others and share.
And so it's it's.
You see it all around you.
You just really have to focuson that instead of focusing on
the fear and negativity that'sin the world.
Michelle Dowker (45:55):
Mm, hmm, what you focus on is what will
amplify.
Lindsey Troumbley (46:00):
Yeah, trust me, I am not about light and
love and positivity all the time, because that is not real.
We are not all light, we arenot all love.
We are complex, we are dynamic,we are light and dark.
We all have our shadows, and soI am about balance and
(46:24):
awareness.
And when you're in your shadows, how can I process that?
How can I work through that?
It's never wrong to be in yourauthenticity.
It's only wrong if you perceiveit to be wrong.
So many people are like, well,I have to be this, or people
(46:47):
won't like me, or impostersyndrome, or being a
perfectionist or being a peoplepleaser, and that all is not
being in your authenticity.
Right, you're trying to dosomething or be something for
someone else.
You're never gonna feelconnected or fulfilled when
you're in that place becauseyou're not being in your
(47:10):
authenticity.
Michelle Dowker (47:12):
Yeah, you're not being who you're meant to be
, who you're designed to be.
Lindsey Troumbley (47:16):
Yes.
Michelle Dowker (47:18):
Yeah, oh, that's a whole other topic on
its own.
Lindsey Troumbley (47:22):
I know right, we could go down so many like
different gravel holes with thisand like but my goodness, we
might have to have anotherdiscussion.
Absolutely.
I'm totally down for that.
Michelle Dowker (47:35):
Because it is.
Lindsey Troumbley (47:36):
It's just like.
The one nugget that I wantpeople to take away from this is
is you are in control of yourlife, of your health of your
being and that that comes fromknowing who you are, and for me
(47:57):
it's connecting to my intuition.
That's how I have unlocked allof these things, but I also have
the intuitive gate in my humandesign, so that is how I have to
live my life.
It's not the same for everybodyand that's why I use all these
modalities to help people figureout, like, how to connect to
(48:20):
who they are.
But it happens authenticallywhen you detox the being, like
when you clear out all thisstuff, you don't have to try to
be somebody else.
It just you, just are now.
Because you're not trying topeople, please, you're not
trying to like put on a mask,because you realize in doing all
(48:43):
those things it was all atrauma response.
All of those things that youwere doing was not who you are,
it was who you were told to beor who you felt you should be.
So when you no longer feelthose things anymore, then the
only thing left is just you andyour authentic vulnerability and
(49:05):
your authentic expression.
Michelle Dowker (49:08):
Yeah, and I mean, once you see it, you can't
unsee it.
Lindsey Troumbley (49:13):
Oh yeah.
There's absolutely no way Icould go back to being all those
things that I once was, nowLike.
I am not a people pleaseranymore.
I have boundaries.
Now I speak my mind and indoing so you have to realize
that not everyone's gonna likeyou anymore.
(49:34):
Like you automatically polarizeyourself by being authentic,
but what that does is it allowsyou to connect with people that
actually appreciate who you areat your authentic core, instead
of trying to be all these thingsfor all these people that
(49:55):
really don't appreciate you atyour authentic core.
So, even though you might nothave as many friends or you
might, you know, trigger peopleor piss people off more than you
used to, you're also attractingin people that are inspired by
your authenticity, that are thatfeel that you're empowering
(50:17):
them to be in their authenticity.
Trying to make everybody likeyou and trying to appeal to
everybody and trying to not pisspeople off is how you really
get out of alignment withyourself.
Michelle Dowker (50:35):
Yeah, I term it .
It's a survival mechanism.
Yeah, and the thing is, is thatwhat helps you to survive isn't
what allows you to thrive?
Lindsey Troumbley (50:45):
Yeah, little rhyme there, love it.
Michelle Dowker (50:50):
And I don't know about you, but you know,
once you connect to your truthand your authentic self and
you're operating like from thisplace of interconnection, if you
try to work against that or ifyou try to like go back to your
old ways, or if you're trying tolike be someone that you're not
, your, your system, in one wayor another, is going to tell you
(51:10):
, give you messages, whether itbe symptoms or not feeling well
or, you know, emotionally orphysically there's going to be
signs like you can't not ignoreit yeah, and that's what I talk
about by being in balance.
Lindsey Troumbley (51:26):
Is I 100% get out of balance sometimes
because I do work too hard or Ido have stress or whatever, but
my body lets me know.
One of the first signs thatwill happen for me is my
sciatica will flare up from myendo or my sacral will feel off,
(51:49):
my gut will feel like it's justnot properly moving the way
that it's supposed to be, and itall goes back to we're not
taught to recognize these things.
So, like people that arechronically ill and they're not
living a life in alignment, areare essentially out of balance,
(52:10):
but they don't realize that andthey don't realize how to get
back into balance again.
So when you actually do connectwith yourself and you do get to
that point where I am soattuned with my body now that
the moment I do something I'mnot supposed to do, it lets me
(52:31):
know and I know that this iswhat I did wrong, right?
So if I have one too manydrinks, if I, you know, don't
get enough rest, and Iautomatically realize that that.
But people that are eating thestandard American diet with all
these chemicals and everythingand not only are they eating
(52:54):
that or Western diet, canada, towhere all of this food is
altering their chemical balancein their body.
You have no idea.
Was it the donut that I ate, oris it the pizza that I ate?
Was it the soda that I drank?
I teach people to intuitivelyeat by paying attention to what
(53:18):
is occurring in their body afterthey put that food in their
body.
First you do have to track it,but after a while it just
becomes intuitive, it justbecomes.
I don't have to count mycalories or my macros, I don't
have to diet, I don't have topay that much attention because
I just intuitively know what mybody likes and what it doesn't
(53:43):
and I feed it what it likes andI avoid what it doesn't.
For the most part, for the mostpart, I I cheat sometimes and
then I regret it, but you know,I'm human.
Michelle Dowker (53:53):
so well, you live and learn right right oh, I
love it moderation right right,okay.
So you've gone through thisjourney and you've made pivots
and changes to what you're doingwhere you're at, and I know
you're in the middle of a pivotright now from corporate and
(54:15):
back into coaching.
Lindsey Troumbley (54:17):
Yep, here I am again, the long road.
Michelle Dowker (54:22):
Yeah, when you're at now.
Who would you say is yourdreamiest client that you enjoy
working with the most?
Lindsey Troumbley (54:33):
Somebody that wants to alchemize their pain
into power, somebody that'swilling to do the work, because
I realize now that I can labelmyself a healer or a coach or
whatever, but I don't heal them.
They heal them.
So if they're not ready to dothe work, I'm not going to take
(54:55):
them on as a client becausethey're not going to get the
results that they want.
And then they're going to blameme for that right.
When I sit down and I haveconversations with people and
they're dealing with a chronicdisease or they're dealing with
some kind of severe pain intheir life whether it's physical
, emotional but I can tell thatthey're not ready or that they
(55:18):
don't want to be, I will nottake them on.
Michelle Dowker (55:23):
Discernment.
Lindsey Troumbley (55:24):
Yes.
Michelle Dowker (55:25):
So important.
Lindsey Troumbley (55:27):
Yeah, whoever my intuition tells me to work
with, that's who I work with.
Michelle Dowker (55:32):
Excellent.
Now, if there was someone outthere that's listening to your
story, wondering might Lindsaybe the person for me?
What would be a word of adviceor a nugget of wisdom that you
could share with them?
Lindsey Troumbley (55:48):
I would say to clear out the crap and follow
your soul compass.
Listen to your intuition.
If you catch me on social mediaand you resonate with a post
that I made, reach out.
We can have a conversation.
You can feel into whether I'mthe person for you, your coach,
(56:13):
your mentor, whatever you wantto call it.
You need to be in alignmentwith them.
I know that my ideal client issomebody that resonates and
connects with me and we align.
I'm not trying to push anybody,I'm not trying to chase anybody
, but if I am and we are inalignment, you better believe
(56:36):
I'm going to do everything in mypower to get you to where you
want to be.
Michelle Dowker (56:42):
I love that.
I resonate so much with that.
And where's the best placewhere you can be found on the
socials?
Lindsey Troumbley (56:50):
I'm very active on Facebook, Lindsay
Trombley.
I also have Instagram.
I also have LinkedIn.
I'm pretty out there.
You can find me.
Michelle Dowker (57:00):
So I'll link some of those things in the show
notes for people.
Lindsey Troumbley (57:04):
Awesome.
Michelle Dowker (57:05):
Yeah, this has been a wonderful conversation,
lindsay, I agree.
Lindsey Troumbley (57:11):
I love chatting with like-minded people
and people that are just intheir authentic expression and
trying to make change in theworld, and I absolutely feel
like we're in alignment on that.
So I didn't have anythingprepared for today.
I was just like let's come,let's flow with it, and, yeah,
(57:32):
it's been an amazingconversation.
Thanks so much for having me onyour podcast.
Michelle Dowker (57:37):
Yeah, it's been my absolute pleasure and I have
a feeling we might have to haveanother conversation.
Lindsey Troumbley (57:43):
I am down for as many conversations as you
want to have, absolutely.
Michelle Dowker (57:49):
Wonderful.
Today I had a deep and juicy conversation with
Lindsay Trombley.
Her and I have been on verysimilar paths over the years and
today she shares her personalstory about how she navigated
through the depths ofendometriosis and how it led her
to go from trying to justmanage her symptoms to the inner
(00:25):
healing journey that has gottenher to where she is today.
And she's also speaking abouther career pivot journey from
being in corporate to working asa coach and then going back
into corporate because therewere some lessons there for her
to learn, to bolster her to thenext level of her evolution.
(00:48):
And now she's stepping backinto coaching where she supports
women to alchemize their paininto powerful purpose.
Her and I have very similarvisions and outlooks and
perspectives and I hope that youenjoy the conversation that we
had today.
Lindsay, thank you so much forbeing here today.
(01:09):
Now.
You and I have been on parallelpaths for quite a number of
years now and I know you've gonethrough quite a journey and
quite a number of pivots in yourwork and in your personal inner
growth and healing.
Tell me a little bit about yourstory and how you got to where
you are now and what you're upto.
Lindsey Troumbley (01:30):
Oh geez, so we'll start back in 2013.
So it's been about a decade now.
I have gone through a severebattle with endometriosis and
2013 was my last surgery.
So I had researched a lot onwho is the best endometriosis
(01:53):
surgeons and I had actuallygotten in contact with one of
them and fortunately, in mystate, I didn't have to travel
too far.
But after that surgery I didn'thave to travel too far.
But after that surgery I wasstill having pain, and so I was
like, you know, I've gotten tothe end of what Western medicine
can you know give me at thispoint?
(02:15):
And I just started really on myjourney to heal my physical
pain.
That was it.
It was just like I just want tonot be in pain anymore.
And the journey unfolded, mygoodness.
So it started as like physicalhealth exercising.
I had been on the endometriosisdiet for four years before my
(02:39):
last surgery, so I continued to,you know, eat well, but I was
also able to exercise now that Ihad gotten that surgery.
I was doing yoga and meditationand then, in fast forward to
2017, I moved to personaldevelopment, inner work.
So I was doing a lot of mindsetwork, a lot of practicing of
(03:03):
reading self-help books andmindset books and stuff.
And then in 2020 was like thebig bang, the big healing that I
did and I jumped into justreally healing my energy.
I was isolated like everybodyelse and in that isolation time
(03:28):
I actually realized that I'm anintrovert.
I did not know this.
I was always working in thepublic, I was always going 100
miles an hour all the time and,yeah, I was tired and I was
burnt out a lot, but I didn'trealize that wasn't the normal,
(03:49):
and so when I was forced to bein isolation, I was forced to do
a lot of introspective workthat I hadn't done.
So that's when I got into likethe shadow work, like my
abandonment wounds with myfather that I never realized
were affecting me up until thispoint.
(04:10):
And doing all of that it waslike I was unlocking these gates
into my intuition, like I'vealways been intuitive, but I at
this point it's like I describeit as like a radio dial, and if
you just dial it like a littlebit one way or the other, you're
(04:30):
going to get a way clear signal, and that's how I feel now.
I feel like I'm just likebalance and I'm connected and my
head and my heart does notbattle each other anymore and my
life has improved in everysingle direction.
So my endometriosis hasimproved, my physical health has
(04:52):
improved, my mental health hasimproved, my wealth, I make more
money now, I have betterrelationships in my life, and
it's all been like through thejourney of connecting to my
intuition, and I know thatsounds crazy, but I also feel
like we can all do this, butwe're guided away from doing it.
(05:15):
So if you think about oh, Ihave a physical health issue,
you go to an outside source forthat, not inside.
But when you study the laws ofthe universe, everything as
within, so without, and soeverything has to start from
within.
And if you can't trust yourself, who are you going to trust?
(05:39):
So then you keep gettingmanipulated along the way and
you keep questioning yourselfand you keep doubting yourself
and you keep, you know, going inthese circles and really all it
is is you're in your ownfreaking way.
So once you can get out of yourway, once you can detox your
body and get all the crap out ofyour body that's literally
(06:02):
chemically manipulating yourmind Once you can program your
mindset to be in a place ofabundance and gratitude, once
you can clear your energy spaceso that you can recognize and
set boundaries, bothenergetically and physically,
and just come to a harmonicbalance.
(06:24):
It's like you're connected toeverything and synchronicities
come in and opportunities comein, and all of these things that
you never saw before, you seenow.
It's crazy.
I love it.
It's been an amazing whirlwindof a journey.
I was coaching women withendometriosis in 2020.
(06:46):
I had a podcast, all the things, but they weren't quite ready
for my work.
They weren't quite in alignmentwith the holistic health that I
was teaching because of whatwe're taught, right, we're
taught to trust doctors, we'retaught to take drugs and get
(07:11):
surgeries, and that is the beall, end all.
And when you have a chronicdisease like endometriosis in
your program to think thatthere's nothing else that can be
done, your program to thinkthat there's nothing else that
can be done, then you're in thisvictim mentality of not taking
things upon yourself and notlooking within yourself, and so
(07:33):
you feel like just hopeless andhelpless.
And then here's me and I comealong and I'm like, hey, like
there is another way, and I didit and you can too.
And, my goodness, thegaslighting was just so intense
after a while and I just kind ofran out of resources, the
(07:55):
pandemic was ending, and so Iwent back to corporate world.
And let me tell you, the realflex of doing all of this work
is when you can go back'm thetype of person that I realize
that everything's happening forus.
(08:29):
And so I look back now and Irealize like, even though I'm an
entrepreneurial spirit and I'ma coach and I'm an intuitive and
I'm a healer and I'm like allthese things and I want to use
all that to impact people in myown way and that's my purpose
and my path that I had to goback to that corporate
(08:52):
environment to strengthen mycharacter development so that I
could actually deal with theentrepreneur journey, because
it's not easy.
There's a lot of failures,there's a lot of there's a lot
of failures, there's a lot ofhardship, there's a lot that
goes into it.
And now I'm like okay, I'mready, let's do this thing.
So that's where I'm at.
Michelle Dowker (09:14):
Oh my goodness, Amazing.
It's like we speak the samelanguage.
Lindsey Troumbley (09:20):
We're soul sisters, for sure.
Michelle Dowker (09:22):
You know, thinking back to you know, as
you're telling your story, youknow I could relate so much to
what you were saying aboutshifting your diet and doing.
You know, taking supplements orwhatever can be helpful to a
degree and it sounds like foryou you kind of recognize
there's something more here,there's something deeper there's
(09:48):
something more here, there'ssomething deeper.
Lindsey Troumbley (09:51):
Yeah, I'm very curious person and I'm also
very stubborn, so that was mypath forward into I'm gonna
figure this out, if it takes methe rest of my life, because the
doctors are telling me I'mgonna have this for the rest of
my life anyways, so why not atleast just try, you know?
And so my mom said that two ofmy first words were what's that?
(10:11):
And followed by why.
And I've literally neverchanged.
Like I was like what's that,why, what's that why?
And what I did was I basicallyI joke to people and I'm like,
okay, I could have twodoctorates by now for the amount
of time and research and studythat I put into, like just
(10:33):
learning and implementing andthis didn't work for me.
Throw that out, okay, startthis, bring this back in.
You know, and building thisprogram that I had basically
taught women with endometriosisin my coaching is a mind, body,
spirit detox, if you want to putit simple, but there's a lot of
(10:56):
stuff that goes into that.
But what I realized is thatbasically you just have to clear
out all the crap, like you haveto get out of your own way.
That's what you need to do.
And like your body and yourmind and your soul are all
connected, and we're not taughtthat, right.
(11:18):
Like allopathic Westernmedicine teaches you to only
focus on the body, and then youonly focus on the part of the
body that is acting up.
So you have these symptoms andyou focus on those.
Well, endometriosis istechnically a reproductive
disease, right, but as we'vegone on and studied, we have
(11:41):
found out that it's actually anentire body inflammation disease
, right, and so when you cancontrol the inflammation, you
can control the disease.
Well, inflammation is a symptom, it's not a cause, and so then
you have to think about what isactually causing that
inflammation, and the two thingsthat I've found in all my
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studying is that inflammation iscaused by two things deficiency
and toxicity, or deficiencycaused by toxicity.
So the number one thing thatcauses all of this inflammation
and all of these symptoms inyour body, in your mental health
, in your physical health, inyour energetic health, is
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toxicity.
So if you get rid of thetoxicity, you get rid of
everything, and what happens is,as you keep detoxing further
and further in, as you keepdetoxing further and further in.
So, as I said, first it wasphysical for me, and then it was
mental and then it wasspiritual.
(12:54):
Once you can get rid of all thestuff, you're so connected.
You're like this kind of likeantenna that's now connected to
the universe and you recognizeit and you realize it.
So all of this synchronicity,that's where you recognize it,
(13:14):
like there is not a day thatgoes by now that I don't see
angel numbers, and usually it'slike multiple times a day, and
every time you see that it makesyou pause and just reflect on
that moment and it's like thankyou for this reminder or thank
you for this and the people thatcome into my life and the
(13:35):
opportunities that come into mylife.
We're all connected and you'reconnected and the number one law
of the universe is as within,so without.
And so once you can realizelike I'm in my own way, I'm the
only one that can fix myself,then everything changes.
Michelle Dowker (13:59):
Beautiful.
I have so many questions.
Lindsey Troumbley (14:02):
Fire away girl.
Michelle Dowker (14:03):
Two things, a couple of things that come up.
So, first of all, what do youthink about?
When you mentioned toxicity,the first thing that came to
mind is what about emotionaltoxicity?
Lindsey Troumbley (14:15):
Yeah, everything.
So when you don't eat right, italso affects your mental health
, right?
And when you are brought up,however you're brought up, you
have traumas in your life thatactually affect your emotional
health.
Until you get rid of thosetraumas, but what we don't
(14:36):
realize is most of it'ssubconscious.
So until we bring that into theconscious, we can't get rid of
it.
It's just like these people andthese things and these patterns
that keep showing up in yourlife and you don't understand
why.
And you feel like a victim.
And that's where the victimmentality comes in is like why
do these things keep happeningto me?
(14:57):
Why do I keep attracting toxicmen in my life?
Why do I keep attracting, youknow, toxic people that just
want to be energy vampires anddrain me of my life force, right
?
But then you realize, like, asyou do, shadow work that's what
shadow work is all about.
For me is like that emotionaltrauma that you've been carrying
(15:20):
around for years and years.
Shadow work is just a fancyword for awareness.
To me, it's just bringing whatyou are not aware of into
awareness so that you can sitwith that, process it and then
move through it.
Michelle Dowker (15:38):
Yeah, absolutely.
Lindsey Troumbley (15:40):
But yeah, emotional toxicity is.
But yeah, emotional toxicity is.
You can't be in physical painwithout it affecting your
emotional health.
You just you can't like it'sjust this cycle that you get in.
And the longer you deal with achronic disease and the more
you're told like you're notgoing to get better or there's
(16:01):
nothing wrong with you or it'sin your head or you know, and
the people in your life don'tunderstand what's going on, like
you don't look sick on theoutside right and so you're
carrying like all this emotionalbaggage around and it's just
part of your norm.
So you don't realize like I canget rid of this, I can get rid
(16:23):
of this, I can let go of thisand I can separate using
energetic boundaries.
That's something that I teachthat this is your crap and this
is my crap and I don't have tolike bring your crap into my
crap and get it mixed together.
(16:43):
For me.
I'm an empathic person, so myentire life I didn't have
boundaries.
I didn't understand what thosewere.
My mom treated me like herchild counselor as she went
through multiple abusiverelationships and toxic
(17:03):
relationships and instead of of,I mean she did go to counselors
.
It didn't really last very long, but I was her counselor.
She would come to me and dumpon me and you know I was a kid
but I wanted to help my hurtingmother.
I wanted to help my hurtingmother, I wanted to make her
(17:24):
pain go away, and so I took on alot of that.
But I didn't realize it wasn'tnormal, like that was just my
relationship with my mom.
So as I grew up I didn'trealize that wasn't normal and
so I took on everyone's pain andeveryone's emotions.
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And that stores in your body andit causes disease.
It's a causation of disease,and so when you get rid of that,
your body is actually able toheal at a more rapid pace.
So a lot of people don'trealize.
But every organ in your body isable of regeneration.
(18:09):
Every cell in your body is ableof regeneration.
The time that it takes to do sois different for each thing,
but it can't do it if it'sblocked.
So whether that's an energeticblock or whether that's like a
parasite that's eating your youknow nutrients and you're not
(18:33):
getting those absorbed into yourbody, or whatever it is like,
if you clear it out the bodywill heal.
Michelle Dowker (18:42):
Absolutely.
The body has an impressiveability to heal itself, as long
as you give it the rightconditions.
Lindsey Troumbley (18:50):
Exactly yeah.
Michelle Dowker (18:52):
Now you've gone through this amazing inner
healing journey.
You've takenself-responsibility for not only
your health but your life.
You've manifested so muchgoodness because of this self
responsibility that you've takenand this realization of the
truth, of how it really works.
Lindsey Troumbley (19:14):
The one thing that keeps coming back to that
is being aware.
A lot of us like, when we're invictim mentality, it's not our
fault.
You know it's not our fault.
You know it's not my fault thatthis keeps happening to me.
It's not my fault that I don'thave money, it's not my fault
that I don't have therelationships that I want.
(19:35):
But there's only one commondenominator in all that right,
you.
If once you realize, like, forit was the awareness of the
patterns first.
So it was the awareness ofthese things keep happening to
me.
And then it was yeah, I can'tcontrol other people, but I can
(19:57):
control me.
So if I'm the only commondenominator in this situation
and I can't, I like to controlstuff.
Common denominator in thissituation and I can't, I like to
control stuff.
If I can't control other peoplebut I can control myself, then
what is it within me that'scausing this?
So every causation has areaction, right, and so when you
(20:19):
can take self-responsibilityfor your part in that, then
everything changes because yourealize, like, I have so much
more control.
I'm not a victim anymore.
I'm empowered to figure it out.
I'm empowered to end the toxicrelationships.
(20:39):
I'm empowered to end the youknow cycles that have kept me in
victim mentality, but a lot ofpeople don't want to and that's
like another thing that I had torealize in coaching is a lot I
can help a lot of these womenbecause of the victim mentality
(21:00):
but they didn't want to get outof it.
It's like if you take the stepto get out of it is one thing,
but if you're not willing totake that step, you can bring a
horse to water but you can'tmake him drink, type of thing,
you know.
Michelle Dowker (21:16):
Absolutely.
That's something that I'venoticed along my journey as well
.
You know, everyone's at adifferent place on their path
and their journey and noteverybody is ready for change,
because change can feel hard,it's unfamiliar, it can look
scary.
Sometimes it's like the pain ofstaying where you are needs to
(21:39):
get so great that you're willingto finally move forward in that
change and and be willing toface the pain of the
unfamiliarity absolutely.
Lindsey Troumbley (21:52):
I think pain is our biggest opportunity for
growth.
It's like alchemizing that paininto power, and that's one of
my things that I say I do is Itake you from pain.
You learn how to alchemize thatinto your strengths.
What are my strengths?
What is my power?
Because everybody has that, andfor me it's been intuition and
(22:17):
realizing how intuitive of aperson I am and how, when I can
connect to that and let thatguide me, my life is in flow
when I'm in my head.
I'm very analytical person too,so I'm a manifesting generator
in human design and I have a lotof open channels.
(22:38):
So I'm very open minded, whichis a good thing, but it also
made me very prone to beingindoctrinated and programmed.
What I basically realized isthat my head and my heart would
always be battling each other,like in any major decision that
(22:59):
I had to take in my life, and soit was.
Either I did nothing because Icouldn't decide what to do, or I
picked the logical Becausethat's what made sense.
You would make the pros and thecons list you would go over in
your head of, like, this is whatmakes the most sense.
So this is what I did, and italways came full circle to bite
(23:25):
me in the ass.
So then again you realize thepatterns, right, you realize
like, okay, I did this beforeand now I'm here, so a good
example of that would be.
My purpose is to help peopleevolve and so change for me.
I've always been prettyadaptable to it, but I wanted to
(23:49):
be a psychologist back inschool and I talked myself out
of it because the money the timeI went back to school when I
was 25.
And so I really just wanted tolike, get in, get out and get
into the world and start makingmoney.
So I was comparing myself toall my friends that had already
(24:13):
graduated college.
They were already doing all thethings that I wanted to be
doing buying houses, you know,getting married, doing the
things, the typical white picketfence life, which now I also
know is not my path.
But you know, you learn.
So I chose to go to school foradvertising and become an
(24:34):
advertising executive and I waslike I just want to make a bunch
of money.
Whatever is going to get methere, the quickest way is what
I'm going to do.
And then I hated every job Ihad, like I was, I'm gonna do
this and I did like I worked mybutt off in college to intern,
(24:56):
to stack my resume, to make surethat, when I was done with
college, I was gonna get thebest jobs at the best companies,
and it wasn't wrong.
I did those things.
I worked for 3M, I worked forBest Buy, I worked for Target,
and I hated every one of thosejobs, sitting in a cubicle all
(25:17):
day long, nine to five, and Ididn't realize that was the
problem, though.
So I just kind of kept switchingcompanies and switching roles,
thinking that you know, it'sjust this or it's just that, and
now I'm a coach.
So it's like it's come a fullcircle, and if I just would have
(25:38):
went to college to be apsychologist, like my intuition
told me to, I probably wouldn'thave had to jump through all
those hoopsops and now, at 38years old, realize what I want
to do with my life.
It's the awareness of thepatterns and then realizing,
like I'm gonna follow myintuition now, because every
time I don't, I still end up atthe same place.
(26:01):
It just takes me twice as longto get there.
I have to go through twice asmany obstacles, so so now that I
do that, my life is so mucheasier.
Michelle Dowker (26:13):
That's the thing, right, especially, you
know, with all the socialconditioning that's out there.
You know that, like you touchedupon, right, the white picket
fence and the cubicle job andall the things are what society
says you should be doing andshould be achieving.
And it sounds like your logicalbrain was saying, well, of
(26:34):
course, this is what I need tobe doing, versus your heart that
was saying, well, wait a second, that's I want to be doing this
.
Lindsey Troumbley (26:43):
And yeah, and so you've come to this
realization that your intuition,or your heart, is probably
telling you more of the truththan maybe your intellect an age
(27:12):
of literally being bombarded byinformation 24-7, whether it's
social media, whether it's justthe internet in general, or it's
your friends, or it's yourfamily, or it's the TV, or it's
the news or whatever it is.
And so if you can't trustyourself, who are you gonna
trust?
Who are you gonna trust?
And when you can't trustyourself, like I said, you get
(27:33):
manipulated because you absorball this information and then
you just get overwhelmed and youcan't figure out, like, what to
do with it all, and so you justgo with the most popular thing,
right, right, like what iseverybody else doing?
And then I'm just gonna.
I'm just gonna go that route.
The healing, the real healing,is who was I before the world
(27:59):
told me who to be?
Your intuition is your soulcompass.
That's what I call it.
It's like that directconnection to your soul.
I don't know if I want to godown this rabbit hole, but we're
programmed to not listen tothat.
Because if we did, if everybodyrealized the power that they
(28:24):
have by connecting to their souland what that would do for
their life, society would notexist the way it exists right
now, and I'll just leave it likethat.
Michelle Dowker (28:40):
Well, I mean, I think things are changing in
this world.
I think more and more peopleare waking up to maybe there's a
different way than the waywe've been programmed and
conditioned to believe that weneed to be operating.
Lindsey Troumbley (28:58):
Absolutely like me and you, and I find that
it's definitely time for themasses to wake up, or whatever
you want to call it.
And I think the blessing of thepandemic was that's what
happened, that we were forcedinto this situation of isolation
, and during that time a lot ofpeople were able to do a lot of
(29:19):
healing, a lot of priorityrealization, spending time with
family, working remotely, andafter you do that, you kind of
realize like I don't want to goback to life the way that it was
before.
Michelle Dowker (29:39):
I know I've had a lot of conversations with
many people who have indicatedthat the pandemic was kind of a
turning point for them, rightOpen their eyes to themselves
and who they are, who they wantto be, and it doesn't seem to
fit the molded box of the whitepicket fence work in the cubicle
(30:01):
.
Lindsey Troumbley (30:03):
People want freedom.
They want freedom, they want tolive their lives on their terms
and I think this illusion thatwe had freedom before is
crumbling and people arerealizing, like I didn't have
freedom, I'm literally stuck atmy job, x amount of hours a week
(30:27):
, like I'm dictated on how muchmoney I can make, I'm dictated
on how much time a year I canhave to take off to travel and
spend time with my family.
And they want.
That illusion is crumbling.
So now it's like there's somany other opportunities to
(30:48):
build a business online or to,you know, work remotely now that
people are like, why wouldn't Ido that if that's what I can do
?
Michelle Dowker (30:59):
So much is shifting.
Now you mentioned about livinglife on your terms.
It's funny that you bring thatup, because that's something
that you know in my work isguiding people to do their
business on their terms.
One of the things that youmentioned earlier in your
journey was that you didn'trealize that you're an introvert
, and you were all over theplace and you were showing up
(31:23):
and doing all the things and go,go, go, doing all the things
and go, go, go.
Now that you see that you arean introvert, how has anything
changed in terms of how youoperate?
Lindsey Troumbley (31:46):
Oh, 100%, like now that I'm aware of my
energy and that it needs thatbalance, I prioritize that.
So I I do spend a lot more timeat home.
I do spend a lot more timerecharging than I used to.
I never really gave myself thatopportunity before and so I was
always like go, go, go and thentired and then burnt out
(32:06):
feeling and stressed out and allof these things.
And now I'm like I'm aware whenI'm getting stressed out or
burned out, and then I take thattime to make sure that I can
get back into balance again andmy body will tell me it, my
mental health will tell me it.
And that's the thing is, I'mnot 100% cured of endometriosis,
(32:31):
I'm not 100% healed, but Irecognize when I need to do what
I need to do to get back intobalance again.
And when I can do that, thenthings start to calm down again.
Michelle Dowker (32:50):
So it sounds like you've got this awareness
and discernment.
I love those words, by the way.
Yeah Right To recognize whatyour body is trying to say,
where your limits are andrespecting them and giving
yourself the permission to dowhat you need to do to maintain
balance.
Lindsey Troumbley (33:12):
Yeah, 100%.
And that is all also connectedto my intuition.
The way that I operate and livenow is intuitively.
So I eat intuitively, Iexercise intuitively, I rest
intuitively.
I go out in nature intuitively,I exercise intuitively, I rest
intuitively, I go out in natureintuitively.
(33:33):
Everything that I do and how Ishow up in the world is guided
by my intuition, even inbusiness, like I don't, I have a
strategy, but it's intuitiveand strategy alignment.
If it doesn't align with myintuition, then I don't move
forward.
Michelle Dowker (33:54):
I love it because you know structure and
strategy is important, but italso needs to be aligned
intuitively with you and who youare and how you operate.
Lindsey Troumbley (34:07):
And your authenticity is what's going to
make you successful, notfollowing what everybody else is
doing.
It's hard sometimes torecognize and realize that,
especially when you feel likeyou are different than most
people.
But that is your superpowerpeople.
(34:32):
But that is your superpower,that's how you stand out in the
world.
And not everybody is a leader,Not everybody is a changemaker.
But when you realize that thatis your purpose, like it is mine
and it is yours, then you needto follow that authenticity to
get you there, instead of hiringthe business coach that's
helped x amount of people orwhatever it is strategy wise
(34:56):
like that person.
If they don't align with theway I do things, it's not going
to make me successful, eventhough they've helped x amount
of people, even though they'vehelped X amount of people with
(35:31):
this cookie cutter method.
If I feel like and that's whatI learned in corporate too is if
I feel like I can do somethingmore efficient or more effective
, then I leaders right.
If we were all just leaders,that wouldn't work.
But whatever it is thatresonates with you and your
authentic expression, that'swhat you need to follow.
Michelle Dowker (35:43):
I love that you touched on something really
important, because this is areal commonality.
I know I've experienced thismyself and I know a lot of my
clients experience this feelinglike you don't fit in right,
feeling like you're differentfrom the people around you, or
feeling like you know you don'tbelong in some way.
(36:04):
You know historically thatfeeling of not fitting in.
I don't know if you'veexperienced this for yourself,
but I know when I was younger Iwas trying to figure out how I
can fit in and change myself sothat I could belong with other
people.
But I've come to thisrealization and I'm sure you
have as well that we're notdesigned to fit in.
(36:27):
We're designed to shine ourlight in this unique way, to
show another way, to show theway for the people who are
aligned, to learn from us sothat they can connect to their
own unique light.
Lindsey Troumbley (36:42):
Yes, 100%.
I love that.
I 100% did that.
I was friends with everybody.
I was the chameleon.
I never, you know, put myself ina box, but I always tried to
follow the mold that I wastaught to follow, that I was
taught to follow.
(37:03):
My parents were like, you know,get good grades, go to college,
work hard.
And then I did those things andit was like well, where's the
success?
And I didn't feel fulfilled.
And then I got into Stuff likehuman design.
And well, first it wasastrology Was what led me to
(37:27):
human design.
I grew up thinking astrology waslike some voodoo crap.
You know, I was like whatever,I don't get it.
I would read my horoscope forfun, in like the magazines, and
I would be like this does notdescribe me at all, whatever.
But then I found the patternapp and I don't know if you've
(37:48):
ever used it, but it's like yourastrological chart, like the
time, the day, the minute thatyou were born into the patterns
of your life.
And that's when I was like boom, like I read this and it
resonated with me and I was likethese are patterns of mine,
(38:09):
like these are the patterns I'vebeen showing up.
And so I realized like this, itsaid things to me like you're
different, you're not like otherpeople.
You need to follow your owndesign.
You need to follow your owndesign.
You need to follow your ownpath.
And then I got into humandesign and I realized like my
(38:33):
sole purpose in this lifetime onthis planet is to help raise
collective consciousness bychange and using my intuition to
change.
So now I have to go first.
I have to be that visionary, Ihave to make those leaps,
(38:55):
because that is what I'm here todo.
So I would advise everyone tolook into that stuff, to use it
as a roadmap and to intuitivelysit with it and be like does
this align with me?
And, if it does, to follow thatstrategy along with your
(39:17):
intuition, and I promise youthat your life will feel more in
alignment.
Michelle Dowker (39:23):
Do you want to know how to use your human
design to make the most accurateand aligned intuitive decisions
according to your personaldesign?
If so, you don't want to missepisode 13 in season one, where
I describe exactly how to usethe aspects of your human design
to understand how to make themost aligned intuitive decisions
(39:48):
for you.
You can also sign up for thefree intuitive business
breakthrough five-part trainingseries, and in this training
series is included thisparticular podcast lesson that
is going to teach youstep-by-step how to connect to
your human design chart to makethe most accurate decisions
according to your design.
(40:09):
Absolutely, I agree with you100%.
I mean, I know for me, I use ablend of human design and
astrology to understand myselfand help my clients understand
themselves, and I mean astrologygoes so much deeper than your
sun sign or even your big three,like that's just the
(40:31):
superficial, topical stuff yeah,yeah, and that's what people
don't realize like I'm a Virgosun, gemini moon, capricorn
rising.
Lindsey Troumbley (40:42):
so it does like explain why I need balance
and why, like the Gemini moon,mood, part of me is like this
witty, whimsical, airy part ofme and then, like the Capricorn,
is like work, work, work.
But when you get into like thenitty-gritty of the aspects of
your chart and all of thesethings and what I love about
(41:06):
human design is it takes yourchart and it also brings in
energy, the chi and thepersonality dynamics.
So it's not just like you fitinto these categories, it's like
this is your unique blueprint,design for your life.
(41:27):
And if you even take the basicsof it your authority and
listening to how you shouldfollow that, it will change.
But the deeper that you getinto it, the more intricate that
you get into your gates andyour channels and all of these
things like it will blow yourmind.
(41:47):
It really will.
Michelle Dowker (41:49):
Absolutely.
I couldn't agree more.
And it can take a lifetime totruly understand all the aspects
of your human design chart, andevery aspect of it tells you
something about yourself Really.
When you know yourself, whenyou truly know, know yourself
like that's when you connectback to you and that's when you
(42:10):
can truly trust your intuitionand what your inner knowing is
really trying to show you andwhat your soul is directing you
towards yes, yeah, absolutely.
Lindsey Troumbley (42:22):
I was going to say my entire purpose is to
teach people how to live in anauthentic expression, and most
people are not, because theydon't even realize who they are.
And it's sad because they don'trealize who they are because
(42:46):
they are trying to fit in orthey're wearing masks or they're
not good at boundaries or allthis stuff that we've.
All of that will ultimatelylead you back to.
This is who I am and I cantrust in it.
Michelle Dowker (43:17):
I love it.
Such an important foundationalkey that unlocks everything.
Lindsey Troumbley (43:26):
Literally everything Right, yeah, yeah,
because we're connected to theuniverse and we're literally
from the womb programmed tothink otherwise.
Like that, we're just this,this separate human living this
life, and we have it's like asurvival of the fittest and we
(43:47):
have to do what we can tosurvive.
But when we realize that we areconnected, you start realizing
that not only are you connectedto you, but you're connected to
everyone else, and then you wantto change the world.
You care about other peoplemore, you're more compassionate
towards other people, towardscreatures, even Like I try not
(44:10):
to even kill bugs anymore, youknow, because you just realize,
like that the earth is a livingbeing in itself and everything
is energy and we're allconnected by that.
Energy is energy and we're allconnected by that energy.
(44:31):
And whether I call it God,whether whatever you want to
call it, it all is, that's allit is, it just all is.
When you realize, like what youdo and how you live your life
does have an impact and a rippleeffect, it's like life changing
effect.
Michelle Dowker (44:51):
It's like life changing.
That's been coming up a lot forme lately in my world and
conversations with others.
Is this ripple effect.
I think we had a bit of aconversation about that.
I think I posted somethingabout.
It can seem like overwhelmingto think how am I, who am I, to
heal the world?
But it really starts with you,connecting back with you and
then creating that ripple effectthrough leadership.
Lindsey Troumbley (45:13):
I mean, this podcast is a pretty good example
of that.
Right.
We connected to ourselves.
We are now connecting to eachother and, through this dialogue
and conversation, whoeverlistens to this is connected to
us, and then they will go outand take the tidbits of
(45:37):
intuitive information that theygathered from this and connect
to others and share.
And so it's it's.
You see it all around you.
You just really have to focuson that instead of focusing on
the fear and negativity that'sin the world.
Michelle Dowker (45:55):
Mm, hmm, what you focus on is what will
amplify.
Lindsey Troumbley (46:00):
Yeah, trust me, I am not about light and
love and positivity all the time, because that is not real.
We are not all light, we arenot all love.
We are complex, we are dynamic,we are light and dark.
We all have our shadows, and soI am about balance and
(46:24):
awareness.
And when you're in your shadows, how can I process that?
How can I work through that?
It's never wrong to be in yourauthenticity.
It's only wrong if you perceiveit to be wrong.
So many people are like, well,I have to be this, or people
(46:47):
won't like me, or impostersyndrome, or being a
perfectionist or being a peoplepleaser, and that all is not
being in your authenticity.
Right, you're trying to dosomething or be something for
someone else.
You're never gonna feelconnected or fulfilled when
you're in that place becauseyou're not being in your
(47:10):
authenticity.
Michelle Dowker (47:12):
Yeah, you're not being who you're meant to be
, who you're designed to be.
Lindsey Troumbley (47:16):
Yes.
Michelle Dowker (47:18):
Yeah, oh, that's a whole other topic on
its own.
Lindsey Troumbley (47:22):
I know right, we could go down so many like
different gravel holes with thisand like but my goodness, we
might have to have anotherdiscussion.
Absolutely.
I'm totally down for that.
Michelle Dowker (47:35):
Because it is.
Lindsey Troumbley (47:36):
It's just like.
The one nugget that I wantpeople to take away from this is
is you are in control of yourlife, of your health of your
being and that that comes fromknowing who you are, and for me
(47:57):
it's connecting to my intuition.
That's how I have unlocked allof these things, but I also have
the intuitive gate in my humandesign, so that is how I have to
live my life.
It's not the same for everybodyand that's why I use all these
modalities to help people figureout, like, how to connect to
(48:20):
who they are.
But it happens authenticallywhen you detox the being, like
when you clear out all thisstuff, you don't have to try to
be somebody else.
It just you, just are now.
Because you're not trying topeople, please, you're not
trying to like put on a mask,because you realize in doing all
(48:43):
those things it was all atrauma response.
All of those things that youwere doing was not who you are,
it was who you were told to beor who you felt you should be.
So when you no longer feelthose things anymore, then the
only thing left is just you andyour authentic vulnerability and
(49:05):
your authentic expression.
Michelle Dowker (49:08):
Yeah, and I mean, once you see it, you can't
unsee it.
Lindsey Troumbley (49:13):
Oh yeah.
There's absolutely no way Icould go back to being all those
things that I once was, nowLike.
I am not a people pleaseranymore.
I have boundaries.
Now I speak my mind and indoing so you have to realize
that not everyone's gonna likeyou anymore.
(49:34):
Like you automatically polarizeyourself by being authentic,
but what that does is it allowsyou to connect with people that
actually appreciate who you areat your authentic core, instead
of trying to be all these thingsfor all these people that
(49:55):
really don't appreciate you atyour authentic core.
So, even though you might nothave as many friends or you
might, you know, trigger peopleor piss people off more than you
used to, you're also attractingin people that are inspired by
your authenticity, that are thatfeel that you're empowering
(50:17):
them to be in their authenticity.
Trying to make everybody likeyou and trying to appeal to
everybody and trying to not pisspeople off is how you really
get out of alignment withyourself.
Michelle Dowker (50:35):
Yeah, I term it .
It's a survival mechanism.
Yeah, and the thing is, is thatwhat helps you to survive isn't
what allows you to thrive?
Lindsey Troumbley (50:45):
Yeah, little rhyme there, love it.
Michelle Dowker (50:50):
And I don't know about you, but you know,
once you connect to your truthand your authentic self and
you're operating like from thisplace of interconnection, if you
try to work against that or ifyou try to like go back to your
old ways, or if you're trying tolike be someone that you're not
, your, your system, in one wayor another, is going to tell you
(51:10):
, give you messages, whether itbe symptoms or not feeling well
or, you know, emotionally orphysically there's going to be
signs like you can't not ignoreit yeah, and that's what I talk
about by being in balance.
Lindsey Troumbley (51:26):
Is I 100% get out of balance sometimes
because I do work too hard or Ido have stress or whatever, but
my body lets me know.
One of the first signs thatwill happen for me is my
sciatica will flare up from myendo or my sacral will feel off,
(51:49):
my gut will feel like it's justnot properly moving the way
that it's supposed to be, and itall goes back to we're not
taught to recognize these things.
So, like people that arechronically ill and they're not
living a life in alignment, areare essentially out of balance,
(52:10):
but they don't realize that andthey don't realize how to get
back into balance again.
So when you actually do connectwith yourself and you do get to
that point where I am soattuned with my body now that
the moment I do something I'mnot supposed to do, it lets me
(52:31):
know and I know that this iswhat I did wrong, right?
So if I have one too manydrinks, if I, you know, don't
get enough rest, and Iautomatically realize that that.
But people that are eating thestandard American diet with all
these chemicals and everythingand not only are they eating
(52:54):
that or Western diet, canada, towhere all of this food is
altering their chemical balancein their body.
You have no idea.
Was it the donut that I ate, oris it the pizza that I ate?
Was it the soda that I drank?
I teach people to intuitivelyeat by paying attention to what
(53:18):
is occurring in their body afterthey put that food in their
body.
First you do have to track it,but after a while it just
becomes intuitive, it justbecomes.
I don't have to count mycalories or my macros, I don't
have to diet, I don't have topay that much attention because
I just intuitively know what mybody likes and what it doesn't
(53:43):
and I feed it what it likes andI avoid what it doesn't.
For the most part, for the mostpart, I I cheat sometimes and
then I regret it, but you know,I'm human.
Michelle Dowker (53:53):
so well, you live and learn right right oh, I
love it moderation right right,okay.
So you've gone through thisjourney and you've made pivots
and changes to what you're doingwhere you're at, and I know
you're in the middle of a pivotright now from corporate and
(54:15):
back into coaching.
Lindsey Troumbley (54:17):
Yep, here I am again, the long road.
Michelle Dowker (54:22):
Yeah, when you're at now.
Who would you say is yourdreamiest client that you enjoy
working with the most?
Lindsey Troumbley (54:33):
Somebody that wants to alchemize their pain
into power, somebody that'swilling to do the work, because
I realize now that I can labelmyself a healer or a coach or
whatever, but I don't heal them.
They heal them.
So if they're not ready to dothe work, I'm not going to take
(54:55):
them on as a client becausethey're not going to get the
results that they want.
And then they're going to blameme for that right.
When I sit down and I haveconversations with people and
they're dealing with a chronicdisease or they're dealing with
some kind of severe pain intheir life whether it's physical
, emotional but I can tell thatthey're not ready or that they
(55:18):
don't want to be, I will nottake them on.
Michelle Dowker (55:23):
Discernment.
Lindsey Troumbley (55:24):
Yes.
Michelle Dowker (55:25):
So important.
Lindsey Troumbley (55:27):
Yeah, whoever my intuition tells me to work
with, that's who I work with.
Michelle Dowker (55:32):
Excellent.
Now, if there was someone outthere that's listening to your
story, wondering might Lindsaybe the person for me?
What would be a word of adviceor a nugget of wisdom that you
could share with them?
Lindsey Troumbley (55:48):
I would say to clear out the crap and follow
your soul compass.
Listen to your intuition.
If you catch me on social mediaand you resonate with a post
that I made, reach out.
We can have a conversation.
You can feel into whether I'mthe person for you, your coach,
(56:13):
your mentor, whatever you wantto call it.
You need to be in alignmentwith them.
I know that my ideal client issomebody that resonates and
connects with me and we align.
I'm not trying to push anybody,I'm not trying to chase anybody
, but if I am and we are inalignment, you better believe
(56:36):
I'm going to do everything in mypower to get you to where you
want to be.
Michelle Dowker (56:42):
I love that.
I resonate so much with that.
And where's the best placewhere you can be found on the
socials?
Lindsey Troumbley (56:50):
I'm very active on Facebook, Lindsay
Trombley.
I also have Instagram.
I also have LinkedIn.
I'm pretty out there.
You can find me.
Michelle Dowker (57:00):
So I'll link some of those things in the show
notes for people.
Lindsey Troumbley (57:04):
Awesome.
Michelle Dowker (57:05):
Yeah, this has been a wonderful conversation,
lindsay, I agree.
Lindsey Troumbley (57:11):
I love chatting with like-minded people
and people that are just intheir authentic expression and
trying to make change in theworld, and I absolutely feel
like we're in alignment on that.
So I didn't have anythingprepared for today.
I was just like let's come,let's flow with it, and, yeah,
(57:32):
it's been an amazingconversation.
Thanks so much for having me onyour podcast.
Michelle Dowker (57:37):
Yeah, it's been my absolute pleasure and I have
a feeling we might have to haveanother conversation.
Lindsey Troumbley (57:43):
I am down for as many conversations as you
want to have, absolutely.
Michelle Dowker (57:49):
Wonderful.
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