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Are you ready to become the ultimate support system for your pregnant partner? Get ready to unlock the secrets of navigating the thrilling journey of parenthood in our latest episode of "Instructions Not Included." From understanding the ups and downs of the first trimester to bonding with your baby during the "honeymoon phase" of the second trimester, we cover it all. As the arrival date approaches, learn how to stay engaged and supportive through the challenges of the third trimester. Whether it's morning sickness, feeling the baby’s kicks, or preparing for labor, we'll guide you every step of the way.
But it doesn’t stop there—being a new dad is more than just waiting for the baby to arrive. We emphasize the importance of easing your partner’s physical and emotional burdens through thoughtful actions like extra chores, back rubs, foot massages, and being an empathetic listener. You'll also discover the significance of encouraging healthy habits without criticism and the power of humor to lighten the mood. Plus, we present some reflective questions for dads-to-be, helping you navigate your own anticipations and fears about fatherhood. Tune in for invaluable insights and practical advice as you prepare for the incredible journey ahead.
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Claude (00:44):
This is Instructions, not Included.
So welcome, welcome everyone.
Welcome Welcome.
I'm so glad to be here.
I'm your host, Claude, and letme tell you, parenting and
parenthood has its ups and downs.
It's one heck of a ride.
It's a thrill.
If you have any kids, you knowI'm talking about.
(01:04):
For those who don't have anykids, welcome.
This here is for you.
This is why we're here, this isexactly why we're here, and
that's to navigate, helpnavigate you guys, through the
twists and turns, and we'regonna do this together, you know
.
And then this is especially forthose dads to be, those new
dads, you know, out there thatmight be feeling just a little,
(01:27):
a little lost in this wholepregnancy process.
I just want you to know that we, over here, sweetface,
sweetface, but we are here foryou.
So today's episode is all aboutunderstanding your partner's
journey, partner's journey.
We'll be diving into thetrimesters of pregnancy, the
(01:49):
physical changes she'llexperience or may experience and
, most importantly, how you, you, my guys out there, you, you
guys, could be the best damnsupport system that a mom-to ask
for.
And yo, I'm here for you.
So let's get it,Hey, hey, we're going to talk
(02:18):
trimester, talk real quick,right?
So let's start with the basics,all right.
Pregnancy is broken down intothree trimesters.
So that first trimester is fromweek one through 12.
This is when a party getsstarted right that week one
(02:39):
through 12, you might experienceit's going to be that morning
sickness, you know, and thenthat morning sickness might
become a morning, noon and nightthing.
So you know what I'm saying.
Be prepared, be prepared withsome crackers, be prepared with
some some, uh, maybe some gingertea, um, and a whole lot of
love and empathy.
Be prepared, fellas.
(02:59):
Uh, you may experience some ofthat sickness yourself.
I know I did.
When my wife was pregnant.
I felt like I was pregnant Somemornings I was throwing up more
than she was.
But you know, sometimes, youknow, you just got to suck it up
, you got to be strong.
She's the one carrying the babyand I can say, you know, my
(03:22):
wife, she was sick a lot, awhole lot, and it was scary, you
know.
And when you're going throughthat process, you definitely
want to.
Just, you know you got to, yougot to keep in mind it, all
that's affecting the baby, allthat's affecting your baby, you
(03:42):
know.
In that second trimester andthat's weeks 13 through 28.
Some people call it thehoneymoon phase.
Ok, and that's because thatduring the pregnancy, that
morning sickness it might easeup a little bit.
(04:04):
Your partner might beexperiencing, you know, maybe a
surge of energy, and this isgreat.
This is great, and it's alsowhen you start seeing that she's
feeling better.
It's a great time to bond withyour kid.
You know it's a great time tobond with your baby.
To bond with your kid.
(04:24):
You know it's a great time tobond with your baby.
You know whether you're um,whether you're talking to her
belly, whether you're singing,um, you know, whether you just
resting your hands on the belly,trying to feel that kick.
What I like to do is, um, Iused to like to do this thing
where I would get behind my wife.
You know, when she was pregnant, I'd, you know, get up real
close and put my stomach likeright around, I mean, put my
(04:47):
hands, my hands, big hands, putmy hands right around her belly,
you know, and just get behindher and kind of take a little
weight off.
You know, I ask, I would askher, you know, if it's cool I
hold the baby.
You know what I'm saying.
Get up real close.
This was my time I was able toget my little feel on too.
(05:08):
You know what I'm sayingBecause you know you be missing
it.
But this is a good moment, thisis a good way to do it.
I'm trying to tell your handsup under that belly and you just
lift up, you hold the baby alittle bit and then, in all
silence, you just breathe andyou feel the baby kicking.
(05:43):
You know you feel the babykicking.
You know you feel a baby moving.
You get that connection.
You get that one on oneconnection with your baby.
Man, it's amazing.
It's amazing and that's that.
That's you know.
Around that second trimester,that's the time you really want
to like connect.
I recall, like the music I waslistening to, you know, and I
(06:07):
like to listen to a little.
You know different stuff hereand there, not too much like
when she was a baby, when mydaughters were in the womb, I
wasn't doing a whole lot of youknow.
I mean I was still listening torap.
Don't get me wrong, I was stilllistening to a lot of you know,
I mean I was still listening torap.
Don't get me wrong, I was stilllistening to a lot of, you know
, loud music, but there's someof that soft, some of that
(06:27):
sensual or just relaxing either.
Or you know, some of that musicis just calming as well.
You know, those sounds arealways great to you know.
Put a little speaker on thebelly and jam out.
You know what I'm saying.
Let the baby just relax to it.
You know what I'm saying.
So, whatever the type of musicthat you like to jam out, to
(06:49):
just put it on there, you know.
But just understand, that'syour time to connect.
You really want to connect.
And after that comes the thirdtrimester.
Now the third trimester.
All right, fellas, payattention.
Now Third trimester is week 29to 40.
All right, and some of us mightcall this the home stretch.
(07:12):
Right, this is the home stretch.
But keep in mind, fatigue mightreturn and that's along with
some aches and pains.
Baby's getting bigger, a lotbigger, you know, and hopefully
y'all done, did some 3D40ultrasounds and all that by this
time.
You know, hopefully y'all done,took a whole lot of pictures.
But third trimester is the timewhere it's about to happen.
(07:39):
Where it's about to happen,it's about to happen.
So you know, those nestinginstincts kick in, you know.
Just be prepared, all right, beprepared for a whole lot of
decorating, be prepared for yourpartner, getting the nursery
together and, like I said, itjust depends.
Every relationship is different, right, every pregnancy is
(08:04):
unique, right, but there aresome common changes.
You know that, that all womenare going to experience while
pregnant.
You know.
Some of those common changesare morning sickness, food
aversions, you know.
So be patient and understanding, all right, be as patient and
(08:32):
understanding as you can.
Try to help out with some of theduties.
You know, if you don't normallycook, try, try, doing some
cooking, you know what I'msaying.
Or just getting some goodtakeout, some things that you
think that you know she mighthave a taste for.
But ask because she may nothave a taste for certain things.
You know, uh, you may think youknow and you may know, but
(08:55):
during that pregnancy processsome things may change, uh, so,
uh, some of the things that shemight like, she may not be
craving, it may be some of thethings that you never think
she'd crave, that she's craving,like I know, during the time
that my wife was pregnant, um,corn dogs, man, it was like corn
(09:16):
dogs from uh, sonic, that washer thing.
You know what I'm saying.
It was like, uh, that was shehad to have.
You know, uh, and and shedidn't keep food down a lot
either, cause she a lot of timesshe was sick.
But, fellas, just keep in mind,if you, if y'all do live
together, do some extra choresaround the house chores around
(09:38):
the house, it's not unnoticed,it doesn't.
You know, it's not like theydon't.
They don't see it Now, they maynot acknowledge it, but it's
not like they don't see it.
And the thing is you're notdoing it for them to see it,
you're not doing it just for apraise, you're doing it to take
(10:01):
some of the weight off of ofyour partner and also for the
health of your child.
So keep that in mind.
During this time she'sdefinitely going to experience
some body aches.
So, um, you know, a good backrow could go a long way.
You know, rubbing them feetcould go a long way, um, rubbing
(10:24):
them tired muscles.
You got to understand she'swalking around and she's
carrying your child and in somecases it may be two, three
babies in there, four, you know,depending on.
You know, if your wife is, youknow, having twins or triplets
or quadruplets.
So the more you have in the oven, I think, the more you should
(10:45):
be cautious.
And what I mean by cautious isnot just afraid, or you know
what I mean by that is knowingthat all of those things are
going to change within her.
Some things are going to changewithin you.
So, believe it or not, if youare connected, you you may feel
(11:09):
that, you know.
But when she's going throughthe, the fatigue and those
muscles being tired, a good,like I said, a good back rub, a
good foot rub, all of that stuff, you know, would definitely
help because that going throughall of that with her muscles and
the weight gain, you know, allof that is completely normal and
(11:31):
healthy.
Um, encourage her to to makehealthy food choices.
You can do that, uh, don't getyourself in trouble, but you can
do that, um, by offeringhealthy food choices.
But I definitely would recommendavoid criticizing how her body
looks, you know, or any uh slycomments or anything like that.
(11:54):
Uh, I don't recommend it, youknow, just because it could go
internally, and what's internal,of course, could affect the
baby as well.
The main thing is, look, thatthat both of them, your partner
and your child, are both beinglook, you know, being taken care
of and that they both, you know, are healthy.
(12:17):
So it's up to you to do thebest that you can, you know, and
this one is the support systemsuperhero.
So now, now, dads, this iswhere you shine.
All right, this part, right here, this is where you shine, you
know, because your, your, yourpartner is going to be going
(12:39):
through a lot of physically andemotionally, um, situations, and
here's some way to be, you know, as supportive as you can be.
This, here I'm talking aboutinstruction, is not included.
Being here is a good way, youknow.
So, but for for your lady, foryour partner, be a good listener
(13:03):
, lend an ear.
You know I would say, uh,validate her feelings.
Um, if you have to, sometimesshe might just break out crying.
So offer a shoulder to cry on.
You know, if she's crying, um,be there.
If it's, if it's not to sayanything, if it's just for a hug
, I would say, be there for her.
(13:25):
Um.
The other thing is, you know,if you can make her laugh,
that's always good, right?
You know whether you'rewatching a good comedy, or you
got a good joke, or just youknow whether it's you practicing
your dad jokes or whateveranything to make her laugh, and
that's a great.
(13:45):
You know feeling for her, andI'm sure when she's laughing,
the baby's probably laughing too.
You know what I'm saying, so Iwould definitely say anything
that can make her laugh would begreat.
I would also say during thisprocess like do some research,
man, learn, educate yourselfabout pregnancy, how to prepare
(14:10):
for parenthood, how y'all coulddo it together, you know,
educate yourself.
Another thing communicateopenly.
Communication is key.
Talk to talk.
You can talk about anything.
You could talk about youranxieties, your hopes, your
expectations.
(14:30):
You know, open communication iskey.
All right, dads, I want y'all toremember look, you're not just
a sperm donor.
All right, you're an activepartner in this.
All right, you're an activepartner in this.
All right, you're an activepartner in this adventure.
Be there for your partner, ok,understand her journey and
(14:57):
whatever you can do, like, trythe best that you can to offer
that unwavering support, allright.
So before we close out, I justgot a few questions that I want
to ask the dads, all right?
So before we close out, I justgot a few questions that I want
to ask the dads.
Questions for the dads.
What surprised you most aboutyour partner's pregnancy, good
(15:18):
or bad?
What surprised you the mostabout your partner's pregnancy?
For my dads to be?
This is question number two.
What are you looking forward tothe most about fatherhood?
What are you looking forward tothe most about fatherhood?
And my last and final questionwhat are some of the biggest
(15:40):
fears or anxieties aboutbecoming a dad?
About becoming a dad, what aresome of the biggest fears or
anxieties about becoming a dad?
I want to thank y'all forjoining me for this first
episode of Instructions NotIncluded, and we got a lot more
(16:04):
to cover in these upcoming weeks.
You know, from from newborncare to navigating the family
dynamics.
Look just, we got a lot, sodon't miss out.
Thank you all for joining me.
Please like and subscribe Untilnext time.
(16:25):
We'll see you on the next one.
Baby bump buddies, I and I.
That's why we say I and I, soit's a unity thing.
No, I unity.
We are all one Sweet face baby.
This is Instructions, not Included.
So welcome, welcome everyone.
Welcome Welcome.
I'm so glad to be here.
I'm your host, Claude, and letme tell you, parenting and
parenthood has its ups and downs.
It's one heck of a ride.
It's a thrill.
If you have any kids, you knowI'm talking about.
(01:04):
For those who don't have anykids, welcome.
This here is for you.
This is why we're here, this isexactly why we're here, and
that's to navigate, helpnavigate you guys, through the
twists and turns, and we'regonna do this together, you know
.
And then this is especially forthose dads to be, those new
dads, you know, out there thatmight be feeling just a little,
(01:27):
a little lost in this wholepregnancy process.
I just want you to know that we, over here, sweetface,
sweetface, but we are here foryou.
So today's episode is all aboutunderstanding your partner's
journey, partner's journey.
We'll be diving into thetrimesters of pregnancy, the
(01:49):
physical changes she'llexperience or may experience and
, most importantly, how you, you, my guys out there, you, you
guys, could be the best damnsupport system that a mom-to ask
for.
And yo, I'm here for you.
So let's get it,Hey, hey, we're going to talk
(02:18):
trimester, talk real quick,right?
So let's start with the basics,all right.
Pregnancy is broken down intothree trimesters.
So that first trimester is fromweek one through 12.
This is when a party getsstarted right that week one
(02:39):
through 12, you might experienceit's going to be that morning
sickness, you know, and thenthat morning sickness might
become a morning, noon and nightthing.
So you know what I'm saying.
Be prepared, be prepared withsome crackers, be prepared with
some some, uh, maybe some gingertea, um, and a whole lot of
love and empathy.
Be prepared, fellas.
(02:59):
Uh, you may experience some ofthat sickness yourself.
I know I did.
When my wife was pregnant.
I felt like I was pregnant Somemornings I was throwing up more
than she was.
But you know, sometimes, youknow, you just got to suck it up
, you got to be strong.
She's the one carrying the babyand I can say, you know, my
(03:22):
wife, she was sick a lot, awhole lot, and it was scary, you
know.
And when you're going throughthat process, you definitely
want to.
Just, you know you got to, yougot to keep in mind it, all
that's affecting the baby, allthat's affecting your baby, you
(03:42):
know.
In that second trimester andthat's weeks 13 through 28.
Some people call it thehoneymoon phase.
Ok, and that's because thatduring the pregnancy, that
morning sickness it might easeup a little bit.
(04:04):
Your partner might beexperiencing, you know, maybe a
surge of energy, and this isgreat.
This is great, and it's alsowhen you start seeing that she's
feeling better.
It's a great time to bond withyour kid.
You know it's a great time tobond with your baby.
To bond with your kid.
(04:24):
You know it's a great time tobond with your baby.
You know whether you're um,whether you're talking to her
belly, whether you're singing,um, you know, whether you just
resting your hands on the belly,trying to feel that kick.
What I like to do is, um, Iused to like to do this thing
where I would get behind my wife.
You know, when she was pregnant, I'd, you know, get up real
close and put my stomach likeright around, I mean, put my
(04:47):
hands, my hands, big hands, putmy hands right around her belly,
you know, and just get behindher and kind of take a little
weight off.
You know, I ask, I would askher, you know, if it's cool I
hold the baby.
You know what I'm saying.
Get up real close.
This was my time I was able toget my little feel on too.
(05:08):
You know what I'm sayingBecause you know you be missing
it.
But this is a good moment, thisis a good way to do it.
I'm trying to tell your handsup under that belly and you just
lift up, you hold the baby alittle bit and then, in all
silence, you just breathe andyou feel the baby kicking.
(05:43):
You know you feel the babykicking.
You know you feel a baby moving.
You get that connection.
You get that one on oneconnection with your baby.
Man, it's amazing.
It's amazing and that's that.
That's you know.
Around that second trimester,that's the time you really want
to like connect.
I recall, like the music I waslistening to, you know, and I
(06:07):
like to listen to a little.
You know different stuff hereand there, not too much like
when she was a baby, when mydaughters were in the womb, I
wasn't doing a whole lot of youknow.
I mean I was still listening torap.
Don't get me wrong, I was stilllistening to a lot of you know,
I mean I was still listening torap.
Don't get me wrong, I was stilllistening to a lot of, you know
, loud music, but there's someof that soft, some of that
(06:27):
sensual or just relaxing either.
Or you know, some of that musicis just calming as well.
You know, those sounds arealways great to you know.
Put a little speaker on thebelly and jam out.
You know what I'm saying.
Let the baby just relax to it.
You know what I'm saying.
So, whatever the type of musicthat you like to jam out, to
(06:49):
just put it on there, you know.
But just understand, that'syour time to connect.
You really want to connect.
And after that comes the thirdtrimester.
Now the third trimester.
All right, fellas, payattention.
Now Third trimester is week 29to 40.
All right, and some of us mightcall this the home stretch.
(07:12):
Right, this is the home stretch.
But keep in mind, fatigue mightreturn and that's along with
some aches and pains.
Baby's getting bigger, a lotbigger, you know, and hopefully
y'all done, did some 3D40ultrasounds and all that by this
time.
You know, hopefully y'all done,took a whole lot of pictures.
But third trimester is the timewhere it's about to happen.
(07:39):
Where it's about to happen,it's about to happen.
So you know, those nestinginstincts kick in, you know.
Just be prepared, all right, beprepared for a whole lot of
decorating, be prepared for yourpartner, getting the nursery
together and, like I said, itjust depends.
Every relationship is different, right, every pregnancy is
(08:04):
unique, right, but there aresome common changes.
You know that, that all womenare going to experience while
pregnant.
You know.
Some of those common changesare morning sickness, food
aversions, you know.
So be patient and understanding, all right, be as patient and
(08:32):
understanding as you can.
Try to help out with some of theduties.
You know, if you don't normallycook, try, try, doing some
cooking, you know what I'msaying.
Or just getting some goodtakeout, some things that you
think that you know she mighthave a taste for.
But ask because she may nothave a taste for certain things.
You know, uh, you may think youknow and you may know, but
(08:55):
during that pregnancy processsome things may change, uh, so,
uh, some of the things that shemight like, she may not be
craving, it may be some of thethings that you never think
she'd crave, that she's craving,like I know, during the time
that my wife was pregnant, um,corn dogs, man, it was like corn
(09:16):
dogs from uh, sonic, that washer thing.
You know what I'm saying.
It was like, uh, that was shehad to have.
You know, uh, and and shedidn't keep food down a lot
either, cause she a lot of timesshe was sick.
But, fellas, just keep in mind,if you, if y'all do live
together, do some extra choresaround the house chores around
(09:38):
the house, it's not unnoticed,it doesn't.
You know, it's not like theydon't.
They don't see it Now, they maynot acknowledge it, but it's
not like they don't see it.
And the thing is you're notdoing it for them to see it,
you're not doing it just for apraise, you're doing it to take
(10:01):
some of the weight off of ofyour partner and also for the
health of your child.
So keep that in mind.
During this time she'sdefinitely going to experience
some body aches.
So, um, you know, a good backrow could go a long way.
You know, rubbing them feetcould go a long way, um, rubbing
(10:24):
them tired muscles.
You got to understand she'swalking around and she's
carrying your child and in somecases it may be two, three
babies in there, four, you know,depending on.
You know, if your wife is, youknow, having twins or triplets
or quadruplets.
So the more you have in the oven, I think, the more you should
(10:45):
be cautious.
And what I mean by cautious isnot just afraid, or you know
what I mean by that is knowingthat all of those things are
going to change within her.
Some things are going to changewithin you.
So, believe it or not, if youare connected, you you may feel
(11:09):
that, you know.
But when she's going throughthe, the fatigue and those
muscles being tired, a good,like I said, a good back rub, a
good foot rub, all of that stuff, you know, would definitely
help because that going throughall of that with her muscles and
the weight gain, you know, allof that is completely normal and
(11:31):
healthy.
Um, encourage her to to makehealthy food choices.
You can do that, uh, don't getyourself in trouble, but you can
do that, um, by offeringhealthy food choices.
But I definitely would recommendavoid criticizing how her body
looks, you know, or any uh slycomments or anything like that.
(11:54):
Uh, I don't recommend it, youknow, just because it could go
internally, and what's internal,of course, could affect the
baby as well.
The main thing is, look, thatthat both of them, your partner
and your child, are both beinglook, you know, being taken care
of and that they both, you know, are healthy.
(12:17):
So it's up to you to do thebest that you can, you know, and
this one is the support systemsuperhero.
So now, now, dads, this iswhere you shine.
All right, this part, right here, this is where you shine, you
know, because your, your, yourpartner is going to be going
(12:39):
through a lot of physically andemotionally, um, situations, and
here's some way to be, you know, as supportive as you can be.
This, here I'm talking aboutinstruction, is not included.
Being here is a good way, youknow.
So, but for for your lady, foryour partner, be a good listener
(13:03):
, lend an ear.
You know I would say, uh,validate her feelings.
Um, if you have to, sometimesshe might just break out crying.
So offer a shoulder to cry on.
You know, if she's crying, um,be there.
If it's, if it's not to sayanything, if it's just for a hug
, I would say, be there for her.
(13:25):
Um.
The other thing is, you know,if you can make her laugh,
that's always good, right?
You know whether you'rewatching a good comedy, or you
got a good joke, or just youknow whether it's you practicing
your dad jokes or whateveranything to make her laugh, and
that's a great.
(13:45):
You know feeling for her, andI'm sure when she's laughing,
the baby's probably laughing too.
You know what I'm saying, so Iwould definitely say anything
that can make her laugh would begreat.
I would also say during thisprocess like do some research,
man, learn, educate yourselfabout pregnancy, how to prepare
(14:10):
for parenthood, how y'all coulddo it together, you know,
educate yourself.
Another thing communicateopenly.
Communication is key.
Talk to talk.
You can talk about anything.
You could talk about youranxieties, your hopes, your
expectations.
(14:30):
You know, open communication iskey.
All right, dads, I want y'all toremember look, you're not just
a sperm donor.
All right, you're an activepartner in this.
All right, you're an activepartner in this.
All right, you're an activepartner in this adventure.
Be there for your partner, ok,understand her journey and
(14:57):
whatever you can do, like, trythe best that you can to offer
that unwavering support, allright.
So before we close out, I justgot a few questions that I want
to ask the dads, all right?
So before we close out, I justgot a few questions that I want
to ask the dads.
Questions for the dads.
What surprised you most aboutyour partner's pregnancy, good
(15:18):
or bad?
What surprised you the mostabout your partner's pregnancy?
For my dads to be?
This is question number two.
What are you looking forward tothe most about fatherhood?
What are you looking forward tothe most about fatherhood?
And my last and final questionwhat are some of the biggest
(15:40):
fears or anxieties aboutbecoming a dad?
About becoming a dad, what aresome of the biggest fears or
anxieties about becoming a dad?
I want to thank y'all forjoining me for this first
episode of Instructions NotIncluded, and we got a lot more
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to cover in these upcoming weeks.
You know, from from newborncare to navigating the family
dynamics.
Look just, we got a lot, sodon't miss out.
Thank you all for joining me.
Please like and subscribe Untilnext time.
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We'll see you on the next one.
Baby bump buddies, I and I.
That's why we say I and I, soit's a unity thing.
No, I unity.
We are all one Sweet face baby.
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