July 9, 2023 • 45 mins
Have you ever wondered how some people manage to turn their lives around and overcome challenges such as panic attacks and anxiety? How does one go from feeling constantly overwhelmed to thriving? Our podcast episode today features Stacie, a graduate of the Finally Thriving program, who shares her incredible journey of transformation. A journey that allowed her to reclaim her power, overcome severe panic attacks, a near death experience and anxiety. Join us as we delve into her story, a testament to the transformative power of self-discovery, and the importance of learning how to receive love from others.
Stacie's transformation was not overnight. It was a journey that entailed shifting to a more positive mindset and prioritizing self-care. She shares rituals that helped her, such as morning meditations and wellness dates, and how her newfound calm led her to make healthier choices. This shift in energy allowed her to love herself more and open up to possibilities she never thought possible. Stacy's story is an illuminating example of how embracing playfulness and authenticity can significantly impact our lives, and how the Finally Thriving program can help facilitate this transformation.
Lastly, Stacie and I delve into the often overlooked aspect of receiving. Many of us are so focused on giving that we forget to receive. We forget that there's a balance, a harmony between the two, especially in the healing industry. Allowing ourselves to acknowledge our wins and receive love from others can help us feel like we are enough and live in the flow of life. Tune in to our conversation to explore the Finally Thriving program and be inspired by Stacy’s journey of self-love, authenticity, and transformation. It's time for you to reclaim your power, just like Stacy did.
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Speaker 2 (00:31):
Welcome to integrate yourself, everybody.
I'm your host, alison Palau,and you can find me at
finallythrivingbookcom andallasampalaucom.
Finallythrivingbookcom is whereyou can find my book.
Get a copy of that.
You can also find my audio bookthere.
You can find a lot of resourcesfrom my book video resources,
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meditations, exercises that gowith the book and help you
integrate all of what I share inthe book.
So that's a great resource tohave there, as well as my other
website.
Allasampalaucom is my coachingwebsite And you can find all my
coaching services there.
I do one-on-one coaching forself-development through the
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Finally Thriving program.
I also offer a group program,which is the Finally Thriving
program.
It's a 12-week course andcoaching program.
We're getting ready to start anew one this August, so if you
wanna be a part of that, get intouch And we can set up a free
call and I can tell you moreabout it And it's really a
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lovely experience.
It's basically the keyprinciples that I really share
in my book And we learn how tointegrate those through a
12-week course and coachingprocess.
So you have an online coursewhere you get a module a week
and you get to integrate thatlesson each week.
It's a really fun practice thatyou get to integrate each week,
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and then we have a live groupcoaching session with me every
weekend.
Also, i have some guestspeakers that are coming in
again this time around And Ihave a third one that's coming
in.
So we're gonna be integratingall of these tools to get to
know ourselves better.
These are all ways that you canunderstand yourself better,
create more compassion foryourself, as well as the tools
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that you can use to find peacewithin your daily life, really
bring you back home to yourself,ways that you can create pure
presence in your life, andthat's what creates peace.
And it's really, when we arenot feeling natural, we're not
moving naturally, we're noteating naturally, we're not
thinking naturally, which justmeans how we're really meant to
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do it, how we're, what we'rehere to do.
And we have all these programsthat get in the way of that, in
ways that we are taught to thinkand believe about ourselves,
that kind of get in the way ofall of that.
And so when we can start towork on some of these
subconscious stories that blockus from really thriving and help
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us, you know, get out of thesurvival mode, then we can start
bringing in those tools ofself-care that really start to
integrate that state of thriving, that joy that you wanna bring
in in your life, the sense ofpeace that you wanna bring in in
your life, the sense ofpresence that you will have for
yourself and other people, whichis so valuable.
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And we work on all these skillsas well as we work on our food
relationship and work onmovement and learn how to move
energy through with movement andmeditation.
So these are all reallyimportant skills and I've got
incredible feedback about theclass.
Today is I'm highlighting one ofmy students, stacy, who had
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some incredible results from theclass.
She actually did the classtwice and she, as you'll hear
today, had some severe panicattacks.
She was having severe panicattacks and anxiety and she was
able to overcome that with thepractices and the tools and the
methods that I shared with herin the class.
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So it was pretty amazingbecause so many people right now
are dealing with that and theyreally don't have the tools to
know how to bring themselves outof that into a natural state of
thriving, really being able torelax in their lives.
So this is a big part oftoday's show.
I wanted to share one of mystudents' personal experiences
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with you so that you can reallyunderstand what this class is
all about.
And if you're interested injoining again in August, i will
leave the link to the next classregistration in the show notes
today.
Basically, it's setting up acall with me, we talk, we get
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you signed up there, i give youall the details about the class,
the commitment level, as wellas what we'll be working on and
how I can help you specifically,because that's why I really
like to talk to peopleone-on-one, so I know how I can
help them within the class,because it is a small group
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setting and I get to coachpeople on an individual basis
too within the group setting.
You also get a free sessionwith me too, so we can work on
specifically what you're dealingwith.
So if you're interested in that, set up a free discovery call
with me and we can reallyexplore that together and get
you signed up for the class inAugust.
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So, without further ado, it'smy honor and my pleasure to
introduce you to my studentStacy.
Enjoy.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
["stock to the Sound"].
Speaker 2 (06:07):
So welcome everybody.
Today I'm here with one of myfinally thriving graduates.
She's actually graduated fromboth class one and class two, so
she is a master at this work bynow, and so today she's gonna
be sharing some of herexperiences of the class and
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really how it helped andtransformed her life.
She's not only my dear friend,she's also my sister, and I feel
very honored that she even,like, considered taking a class
with me, with her big sister,and so you know, but it was just
such a, i would say, from myperspective, just such an honor
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to first be able to guide youthrough that process but also
just watch the magnificence ofyour life transform, like, and
you just like really open up toreceiving so much more that you
didn't even know or were awareof before.
So, before we get started onthis whole thing, i just wanna
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say thank you so much andcongratulations, and I'm
celebrating you today for allthat you've accomplished.
It's really this is the work,this is the real work that we're
in, that we're doing right now,right, and that we're here to
do.
We're here to really lookinside of ourselves and become
aware of what's going on, andthat's what you did, so
congratulations.
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So I just wanna start by youknow.
Oh, you're welcome.
I just wanna start by you know,giving my audience, my
listeners, people who arewatching this on Instagram, just
an idea of what experience youhad with the Finally Thriving
program by just starting withyou know the issues or problems
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or struggles you were having andwhat really prompted you to
want to take the class in thefirst place.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
Well, yeah, and it's an honor to be here too, and I
took your class because youinspire me in a lot of different
ways.
You've done a lot of workyourself, and so that really
inspired me to do the work aswell for me, so you've been a
big inspiration in my life.
So that's where I want to say,with that, thank you.
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We each have had our ownjourneys And mine has been a big
journey of learning how to beokay with myself, to love myself
, to accept myself, to allowmyself just to be who I am and
who I'm meant to be.
And prior to all of to thismoment, i really fought that a
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lot.
I pushed it down, i suppressedit, suppressed all my emotions.
I ran away, pushed away in anypossible way I could, because
everything just felt sooverwhelming to me, even the
good stuff I didn't quite knowhow to take it in.
I was one of those that was likeempathic.
I was empath, sensitive, icould feel everything,
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everybody's energy, so it wasreally overwhelming for me And I
never really quite got thetools to know how to navigate
all of those big feelings thatwere coming in when I was a
child.
So I just kind of learned howto endure and I learned ways to
protect myself, and they werealways healthy ways.
Especially when I became anadult I learned that blocking
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yourself and protecting yourselfand muting your voice and
suppressing your emotions wasnot healthy.
But I did that as a childbecause it was just what.
I knew what to do.
It was just a learned habit forme And I just for me.
I had a whole life of justresponding to life from a
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fear-based place, from anxiety,seeing everything that could go
wrong And I think a lot of itwas my environment and what I
picked up and the kind of energythat I learned how to be around
.
So I just carried that with mefor probably far too long, until
the point where my body justcouldn't function that way
(10:20):
anymore And it was sort of likeit reminded me of the book at
Gabor Monta when the body saysno, you check out from the body
enough, you push it away, youact like it doesn't exist, you
fight against it, you resist.
Eventually it's going to comeout in one way or the other.
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So I did a lot of healing.
I don't want to negate all thestuff that I did prior to that,
but I still had some work to doAnd the body showed me that I
had some really big major lifeevents, one of which was a
health issue, was a major healthissue that just really awakened
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me in so many ways and reallymade me look at myself and say
I'm not living the life I wantto live.
I'm tired of living this way.
I'm tired of feeling like Ihave to hide and hide myself and
pretend like I'm somebody.
I'm not just to be okay in theworld.
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I wanted to be my authenticself And that was one of the
reasons why I sought out whatyou did, because what you do in
Finally Thriving is.
It's all about reconnectingwith yourself.
It's all about that selfdiscovery journey, which I loved
.
I loved that you allow us tocome to those moments on our own
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, in our own ways.
It's not a protocol, it's notlike you got to all do it this
way, and I love theopen-endedness of it.
So it allowed me to really lookat myself and to be able to
realize that I needed to make amajor lifestyle shift.
I had so much stress in my life, i was living with so much
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stress, putting so much pressureon myself for everything, and I
just needed to learn how tolighten up and just have fun and
enjoy my life a little bit more.
And sometimes it takes a reallybig event to get to that point
where you realize that you needto make a change.
And for others it may not be ashuge, but for me it was like I
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needed a major wake-up callbecause I was just so stuck in
my old patterns I couldn't shakethem, i couldn't change them.
They were really familiar forme, even though they weren't
healthy.
So when it's something thatyou're used to doing and used to
being for over 40 years, thenit's really hard to create
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change.
Sometimes It can be verydifficult, so I just took it
step by step.
They realized it was a process,it was a practice And when I
experienced the major healthchallenge I started having.
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Well, prior to that I had that.
Prior to that I was havingpanic attacks, but my panic
attacks got worse after that.
It was very traumatic.
It was a very traumatic event.
It was very scary.
I can look at it now and saythat it was an awakening, but at
the time it felt like a majorcrisis and felt like my whole
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life was being turned upsidedown and I had no control over
it.
And that was another thing withme is I had to completely
surrender and let go of control.
I could not control this.
I could not control what mybody was doing and what was
happening in that movement.
I had to surrender completelyAnd so that event afterwards I
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still had a lot to process.
When I got out of it thankgoodness I was able to get out
of it I'm doing much better.
I still had a lot of trauma toprocess from that, and so I was
still experiencing panic attacks, especially when it was really
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uncomfortable when I was, mostlywhen I was driving with my son,
and I realized that's what Iused to feel before I was
diagnosed with my health issue.
I used to have issues when Iwas driving with him, and so it
triggered some old stuff for me,and so I had to work through
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that.
I had to work through.
I realized that I was stillresisting change.
I was still resisting myself.
I didn't want this to happen tome.
I just wanted to feel better.
I just wanted to be okay.
But I had to go through theprocess of what that meant for
me and I had to turn inward, andso that was another lovely
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thing that I loved.
What you did is because I gotto.
Really I had an opportunity tonot reach outside of myself and
say you, tell me what to do,tell me what to take, tell me
how to heal, tell me, you know Ihad to go within.
There was not going to be anyother answer to that, and your
program really helped me gowithin and help me realize that
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all the answers were withinmyself.
And so I had to start listeningto my body.
I had to start honoring my bodyin order to feel safe in my
body again.
You know, i was not going tofeel safe until it felt like I
was going to be there for it,until it felt like I was going
to show up and be a more lovingand nurturing presence to myself
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.
So those things had to happen.
I had to realize that, again,it was all within me.
I had to get silent and stillwith myself and realize that I
had been pushing and suppressingall of these really hard and
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comfortable emotions for so long, and now I need to let them
come up and I need to feel themand I need to express them.
I needed to cry if I needed to.
I needed to feel sad or excitedif I needed to feel all of it,
and I needed to let it go.
I needed to just allow myselfto be human, because, really
because being human is havingemotions.
Speaker 2 (16:44):
Absolutely.
I could not lock it all in myhead anymore.
So yeah.
Speaker 1 (16:49):
So the trauma really, you know those panic attacks
where I think a way to push metowards myself again.
At the beginning I would bescared by them because it just
kind of mirrored what I wasgoing through in my health, my
prior health challenge.
I thought that I wasexperiencing that experience
again.
So it triggered some memoriesfor me and it brought me into a
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fearful place.
But then I decided, you know,next time this happens.
You know, i remember oneparticular time when I was in
one of your classes and I hadlearned how to talk to myself in
a more loving way.
You know, you had talked aboutlooking at everything, from a
glass half full or even a glassthat's overflowing.
You know, you change yourperspective, you change your
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perception.
So I said I'm not going to getafraid of this, i'm not going to
look at it as something to pushaway from.
I'm going to move towards itthis time.
I've never done that in my life, not very often.
I've usually just pushed itaway, but I'm going to just see
what happens.
I'm going to move towards itthis time.
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What could it hurt?
You know it's not going to hurtanything, just to try something
different.
And so I remember one time inthe car it started to crop up,
it feel it was going to come on,and my usual would be like, oh
yeah, i get scared and pushagainst it.
This time I just put my hand onmy heart and said I'm here, i'm
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here for you, i'm here for you.
Know, i see you fear.
I'm here, i'm here, i love you,you know we're going to, we're
okay, you know, taking a fewdeep breaths just soothing
myself, loving myself from theloving way.
And it didn't even come on.
Wow, no more panic attack.
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And I was so excited It's justso excited because I felt at
home, i felt like a caged animal, i felt like I was afraid to go
anywhere, i was afraid to doanything because I was afraid I
was going to have another panicattack because it was happening
in the car when I was goingplaces.
So, and it felt really limitingto live that way, but I said
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I'm going to do it anyway, i'mgoing to try.
And so the more I did it andthe more I got into the car and
drove places and the more Icould sense that it was
happening, i could tune into mybody and I could feel it coming
on and I could attend to myself,and I could be there for myself
and I can turn towards myself,and that's, i think that's what
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I needed all along.
You know what I mean.
I was able to give myself whatI needed all along, like parent
myself.
You know, be that parent that Ineeded to help me navigate this
really uncomfortable emotion inthat moment, and I was able to
do that.
I was able to be my ownco-regulator and just bring
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myself back down, and now I'mnot having them at all anymore.
It's just amazing.
Speaker 2 (19:51):
So no more panic attacks.
Speaker 1 (19:53):
So far, so far.
Speaker 2 (19:55):
That's amazing.
Speaker 1 (19:57):
No more panic attacks , completely, And it's just,
it's amazing And it's it's.
The whole process has just beenwonderful.
I mean, this is, I think, thebiggest thing that I've gotten.
One of the biggest things wasjust learning how to turn
towards myself in a more lovingway, to make myself a priority.
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You're really good about that.
And the family thriving programis.
It's all about reconnectingwith your authenticity.
You know, when we're young,it's all about the attachment
It's all about we're going to doanything to stay attached
because that keeps us safe, Evenif we have to disregard our
values.
We have to mute our voice,whatever we have to do to stay
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in our parents' graces oranybody else or whoever's
raising us, to keep thatattachment, because that's how
we stay alive, That's how wesurvive right, Survival right.
And then you realize that it'stime to reclaim your
authenticity.
Everything, everything I kindof put aside to you survive.
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Now I can reclaim.
So, I was able to step into myown power, you know, put myself
first, which is it's even hardto say that still sometimes,
because I was always somebodywho would just put everybody
else first for myself.
So I had to do that.
I had to reclaim who I was andwho I am authentically and honor
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that.
I'm still trying to discoverwho that is, but I know more
than I did before, you know, andI got to really look at my
values and desires in your classand be able to fine tune what
really lit me up, what you knowand what I really enjoyed doing,
or what I would like to do orhow I would like to move forward
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in my life.
So it was really.
It was very positive and fun, itwas very good.
It was fun to visualize, youknow, those different things And
so And I really love how it wasabout getting more in touch
with my ways of expressionmyself, you know, and you did it
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in such a fun way.
I loved all the exercises andplayful things that we got to do
, because I have been totallycarrying a serious stick for so
long.
It's like I have these big,huge boulders on my shoulders.
I'm just like, oh, i got youknow, this is the way I got to
live life.
Speaker 2 (22:23):
It's like the suffering of life.
Speaker 1 (22:25):
Yeah, it's going to be the serious endeavor to live
life And it's like, no, itdoesn't have to be complicated,
it doesn't have to be serious,it can actually be fun, it can
be a fun adventure, it can beplayful, you can wake up and be
excited about your life.
I mean, you know, it's verypossible.
So I loved all the exercisesand practices that you did to
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help build that up again withinme, because I didn't really know
how to play.
You know, i really had toconnect that to myself.
You know I didn't really have achance to do really what I
wanted to do when I was little,really really explore my values
and desires.
I just kind of had to do whateverybody else in the family was
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doing.
So this was a great time to justthink what I actually wanted to
do, you know, and we got to doit in such fun, playful ways.
You know dancing and singingand breathwork and taking
ourselves out on wellness datesand doing something over the
vision board And just all thefun ways, interactive ways, that
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you had us explore ourplayfulness and our weight, you
know how we could expressourselves was just.
It made it so much more fun.
You know.
It brought that lightness inthat I needed.
Speaker 2 (23:43):
Yeah, yeah, and you and I have talked about the
energy of suppressing what meets.
That is a non, not able to beable to express yourself, which
creates a lot of pressure.
It's like a pressure cooker,right.
And once you can, like you said, which was, oh my God, it's so
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beautiful And you just expressthat whole thing so beautifully,
that's like in real time, likehow far you've come, amazing.
I mean, when you start to learnhow, because it's like, like
you said, we go through lifethinking we have to fix it from
the outside, but when we startto learn the tools to actually
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do that from the inside, theneverything in our external world
changes And that's the, that'sthe manifestation.
The practical manifestationsteps is to look inward first,
and it takes courage to do that,to go that to that, to a place
of awareness, but you did thatand then you began to build the
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trust in your own body by justallowing and acknowledging first
that those exist.
You know, we talked about thatthe other day too, i had a great
conversation with you andtalking about like sometimes you
know, everything wants to knowthat it exists, that every
energy in the world wants toknow it exists, by just
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acknowledging that it existsSometimes really just allows it
to move through.
So you're not holding on to it,right, because it just wants to
know that it's there.
You know, in a way, if youthink about it, and so by
acknowledging it and then youknow, giving it compassion and
love and helping that emotionmove, learning the skills to do
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that, like you did.
As we heal our inner child,right, and all the ways that we
suppressed ourselves when wewere younger and brought into
our adulthood, then you areletting yourself, you're
liberating yourself to be morecreative and allowing that
creative expression to come outwithout judgment or attachment,
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and so I really enjoyed watchingyou go through that process.
And now look at you You're justexpressing yourself with full
authenticity and so much clarityand inspiration.
This is so beautiful, stacey.
Speaker 1 (26:10):
Thank you.
Yeah, you're totally right.
It's so much simpler than wemake it.
It took me a really long timeto realize that I would be doing
way too much.
In the healing realm I would dotoo much.
It's always just like as manythings as I could do more was
better, and it really wasn't.
It was just kind of muddlingprocess, and getting away in the
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way of it was actually anotherform of distraction away from
myself you know, and now, I justsimply sit still and listen to
my body and to myself.
I make it a lot more of a simplepractice than I did before, and
now I'm starting to hear mybody speak to me, speaking back
to me.
Now It's telling me what itneeds, you know, just because
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I've decided to sit with it andbe with it, and it's excited
that, if you said it wants to beacknowledged, it wants to be
heard, it's here to support me,so it wants to be part of the
process, it wants to beacknowledged, it wants to be,
you know.
And so ever since you know Ihad that major scare with my
health, it's like I havecelebrated my body.
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I talk to my body every day, itell I thank my body for
supporting the health andwellness.
Every single day, icongratulate it.
I just say yeah way to go.
You know when I when I make itfrom a panic attack I didn't
have one I'd be like awesome,nervous system, you did great.
You know, like I would becongratulating my nervous system
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and saying how proud I was ofit and saying you know, nice,
you know we were able to staysafe and calm, you know, and
just celebrating that win withmyself and with my body And you
know, and so far, some of thethings that my body has been
able to tell me, which has beenprofound was my, you know my
heart told me you know you'reputting too much pressure on
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yourself.
My diaphragm told me you're,you're, you are.
You know, closing off yourbreath.
You know you are.
And then you know my throat hasbeen told me you know you have
a voice.
So I've heard these messagespop into my head from my body,
helping me.
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You know it's like it's thereto help me, it's there to you
know it's there for me.
So you know, i think one of themost important things is to
know that it's there for you.
It's, it's not against you.
If you're experiencing panicattacks, if you're experiencing
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a really some really big healthissues in your life that are
challenging you physically,sometimes our tendency is to say
what's wrong with me, why is mybody doing this, and to kind of
push against it and resist it.
But really what it needs islike how can I be there for you?
How can I bring, kind of bringmore of that love there for you?
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You know and really listen towhat your body is trying to tell
you, because it's there for areason.
It's trying to tell yousomething that you need that
could help you maybe shiftwhatever you're feeling And
whatever is going on.
And, of course, one of the oneof the biggest things I needed
to do to honor how I was feeling, even if it felt uncomfortable,
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like you said, that suppression, you can only hold on to it for
so long.
You can only in it.
It's, it's, it's just not theway to live.
It's not the way to live andit's definitely not thriving.
It doesn't fit into thatcategory, you know, but I do.
I just, yeah, it's been soprofound Everything that you
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have provided and put out therefor everybody.
I love to be able to.
I think the idea of being ableto be in a community and connect
with others really helped me.
It helped hold me accountable,it helped me take responsibility
, it gave me a place to go and aplace to open up.
(30:13):
And I think that was a reallyimportant component of what you
did was we all had differentthings going on, but we could
all connect in a way based onhow we were feeling.
We all had some sort of commonconnection at some point.
Or we could say, oh, i reallyunderstand what you're saying,
or we can congratulate eachother.
We could praise each other.
(30:35):
You know, it's that again, it'sthat co-regulation piece, it's
that piece of having somebodyelse, somebody else's support
that also adds to your ownself-discovery journey.
It really helps give it thatextra boost.
You know that you need Andthat's what I also loved was
being able to not just take itall on my own.
I was somebody who would justwanna read a book and try to
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figure it out on my own.
You know another way ofcomplicating it, but once I
started opening up to supportfrom others, that also made such
a huge, huge difference.
Not going only inward, it's acombination of going inward but
also opening up and receiving.
(31:19):
You know it's both, so it'llallow both of those to happen.
You know it's the ebb and flow,you know it's not one or the
other.
If I paid attention to myselfway too much and went inward too
much, then I guess thatprobably wouldn't be very
healthy either.
So I think it's a little bit ofboth and whatever you need at
that moment that you you know.
Speaker 2 (31:42):
Yeah, that's why we learn how to receive in the
class too, because I feel likethat was an important component
that gets missed many times.
You know, it's more of thatfeminine aspect of health and
wealth and everything in life,you know, and connection and
relationships learning, you know.
(32:04):
You first like learn how to goin and become aware of things
that are going on, and then youlearn how to receive the love
and support from others, whichis very important, out of love
and compassion instead of fear,like you were saying earlier.
So I love that you're talkingabout that harmony between the
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giving and receiving, because,yes, that's a big takeaway that
I really love to see my studentstake away from the class and
start to integrate into theirlives, because it just feels
more balanced right, becausemany of us are, you know,
especially if we've been in thehealing industry for years.
We're like givers.
(32:45):
You know we're giving, giving,giving so much of ourself and
then not really giving enough toourselves, like you were doing
as well.
So well, this is a bit amazing.
I want to just kind of likeclose up with your your biggest
takeaways and like how you'reintegrating it into your life
(33:05):
now, like how was it?
how was your life changed on aday-to-day basis from being
taking it?
And I'll say also that lastgroup was a magical group, i
mean, they were just somespecial people in there.
But how have you, like, whathave you done, like, how are you
integrating it in your dailylife?
(33:26):
How are you, what are youfinding that is transformative
or different than what you wereexperiencing before?
You've said much of that intoday's talk, but I wanted to
just give maybe some lastthoughts about that.
Speaker 1 (33:43):
You know, yeah, i think the biggest one is to come
back around to turning towardsmyself, you know, having a more
with more love and nurturing andcompassion, and finding ways to
honor that through the thingsthat I love to do or what light
me up, giving myself time andspace to just do that and
(34:05):
putting myself as a priority,you know.
and so in the mornings, one ofmy things that I do is I make
sure, before I get up, because Ihave a meditation and I have a
meditation practice and I justcheck in with myself and I give
myself that sacred time you know, So that's a really big thing
And I learned that in your classas well is to create a ritual
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or rhythm routine for yourselfeach and every day, like I'm
something that you could do justfor yourself and make time and
space for that, even if it'sjust for a little while, it
doesn't have to be anything bigor long in a day, it could just
be, you know, checking in withyourself and being with yourself
for that moment.
And, yeah, and I try toincorporate the wellness dates.
(34:53):
You know, take my self out ondates like just go outside.
Nature is a date for me.
I go outside in nature a lot,so that's very soothing and
grounding for me and somethingthat fills me up.
And I, you know, create.
I like to create nature,mandalas and art.
So from the materials I foundin the ground, you know, i just
put my feet on the ground andjust really connect with that
(35:15):
whole experience.
So that's a really, that's awellness date that I'll take
myself on often.
So, yeah, i just, and so nowthat I've made this a consistent
part of my life checking inwith myself, loving myself,
grounding myself with theserituals and routines I feel like
that's helped my nervous systemcalm down.
(35:38):
I remember saying one time inyour program I would just do
anything to feel safe.
Remember that.
So I would just do anything tofeel safe because I was really
having a hard time And that'sand you helped me set up the
energy for that.
You helped me put it out therein the universe in the right way
.
You know what would it take forme to feel safe.
(36:00):
You know, kind of put it outthere in a ferment and just, and
instead of saying I don't feelsafe or focusing on what I don't
have, we started focusing onwhat we do have.
So, switching that year frombeing normally a more of a
negative thinking person, iswitched my gear to be more of a
positive thinking person andreally set up the time of the
day and what I did.
(36:21):
Look at it the other way, youknow, look at it from a more
positive direction, and I thinkthat just really helped my
nervous system settle down.
It helped it to feel safe again.
It helped it to feel nurturedand loved And it's just amazing
that I can feel like that againtoday, like myself.
Speaker 2 (36:41):
Yeah, that's incredible, Oh my gosh.
So now it sounds like you'realso able to, from that calm
place, make better choices inyour life.
make, even have betterdiscernment around what you
really want and what you want tocreate.
Speaker 1 (36:56):
So it's important.
I mean I had to get myself tothe calm space.
I wasn't going to be able toforce it.
It was a process.
I mean it took me a couple ofyears to get to that place from
the big event, major life eventsthat happened.
So it took time and time againto show it up.
It's not, it didn't just happenovernight.
You know and I'm still workingon it still a practice.
(37:17):
It'll be always a practice.
It's a lifetime practice, butI'm enjoying it more.
It's not a chore, It's notsomething I feel like I have to
do.
I don't feel like I'm fixingmyself or that I'm broken
anymore, But there's anythingwrong with me.
Where I'm coming from adifferent place Now, it's
because I enjoy it.
It's fun taking care of myself,It's enjoyable.
(37:38):
I love myself now.
I didn't used to love myself,So I have loved myself.
And so it's shifted everything.
It's completely shifted theenergy, you know, and opened up
so much more than I thought waspossible.
So I'm getting all.
I get a little emotional fromit.
(37:58):
That's amazing.
Speaker 2 (37:59):
I know I'm feeling the chill bumps.
Thank you so much, Stacey, forsharing your journey and your
story.
Well, thank you for coming onAnd I love you so much and keep
doing it.
Speaker 1 (38:14):
All right, I'll keep doing it All right, bye, All
right, love you.
Speaker 2 (38:18):
Love you too.
Ride that way in the flow ofyour life, Don't you know?
(39:06):
ride that way in the flow ofyour life, Don't you know?
Creating a calm dispositionsets the stage for you to
(39:28):
receive what the world has tooffer.
When you're able to receivewhat the world has to offer, you
automatically build trust thatyou will receive what you want
in your life.
Why is this important?
Ride that way in the flow ofyour life, Don't you know?
(39:57):
Ride that way in the flow ofyour life, Don't you know?
You could say our ability toreceive depends on what we learn
(40:20):
from our parents, What we didor didn't get, and our level of
trust that we'll be taking careof and in the universe's
abundance.
Many of us grew up inhouseholds that weren't
perfectly nurturing, so ourability to receive was
compromised.
Receiving became something weneeded to learn how to do on our
(40:42):
own, and for some of us, we'restill learning.
If you're not allowing yourselfto take in the goodness life
has to offer by acknowledgingyour wins and receiving love
from others, you will always besearching, searching, searching
and never feel like you're doingenough, enough, enough enough.
(41:07):
Ride that way in the flow ofyour life, Don't you know?
(41:39):
Ride that way way of your life.
Ride that way way.
(42:14):
Ride that way way.
Ride that way way, Ride thatway way.
Welcome to integrate yourself, everybody.
I'm your host, alison Palau,and you can find me at
finallythrivingbookcom andallasampalaucom.
Finallythrivingbookcom is whereyou can find my book.
Get a copy of that.
You can also find my audio bookthere.
You can find a lot of resourcesfrom my book video resources,
(00:54):
meditations, exercises that gowith the book and help you
integrate all of what I share inthe book.
So that's a great resource tohave there, as well as my other
website.
Allasampalaucom is my coachingwebsite And you can find all my
coaching services there.
I do one-on-one coaching forself-development through the
(01:16):
Finally Thriving program.
I also offer a group program,which is the Finally Thriving
program.
It's a 12-week course andcoaching program.
We're getting ready to start anew one this August, so if you
wanna be a part of that, get intouch And we can set up a free
call and I can tell you moreabout it And it's really a
(01:36):
lovely experience.
It's basically the keyprinciples that I really share
in my book And we learn how tointegrate those through a
12-week course and coachingprocess.
So you have an online coursewhere you get a module a week
and you get to integrate thatlesson each week.
It's a really fun practice thatyou get to integrate each week,
(01:59):
and then we have a live groupcoaching session with me every
weekend.
Also, i have some guestspeakers that are coming in
again this time around And Ihave a third one that's coming
in.
So we're gonna be integratingall of these tools to get to
know ourselves better.
These are all ways that you canunderstand yourself better,
create more compassion foryourself, as well as the tools
(02:22):
that you can use to find peacewithin your daily life, really
bring you back home to yourself,ways that you can create pure
presence in your life, andthat's what creates peace.
And it's really, when we arenot feeling natural, we're not
moving naturally, we're noteating naturally, we're not
thinking naturally, which justmeans how we're really meant to
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do it, how we're, what we'rehere to do.
And we have all these programsthat get in the way of that, in
ways that we are taught to thinkand believe about ourselves,
that kind of get in the way ofall of that.
And so when we can start towork on some of these
subconscious stories that blockus from really thriving and help
(03:10):
us, you know, get out of thesurvival mode, then we can start
bringing in those tools ofself-care that really start to
integrate that state of thriving, that joy that you wanna bring
in in your life, the sense ofpeace that you wanna bring in in
your life, the sense ofpresence that you will have for
yourself and other people, whichis so valuable.
(03:31):
And we work on all these skillsas well as we work on our food
relationship and work onmovement and learn how to move
energy through with movement andmeditation.
So these are all reallyimportant skills and I've got
incredible feedback about theclass.
Today is I'm highlighting one ofmy students, stacy, who had
(03:54):
some incredible results from theclass.
She actually did the classtwice and she, as you'll hear
today, had some severe panicattacks.
She was having severe panicattacks and anxiety and she was
able to overcome that with thepractices and the tools and the
methods that I shared with herin the class.
(04:15):
So it was pretty amazingbecause so many people right now
are dealing with that and theyreally don't have the tools to
know how to bring themselves outof that into a natural state of
thriving, really being able torelax in their lives.
So this is a big part oftoday's show.
I wanted to share one of mystudents' personal experiences
(04:36):
with you so that you can reallyunderstand what this class is
all about.
And if you're interested injoining again in August, i will
leave the link to the next classregistration in the show notes
today.
Basically, it's setting up acall with me, we talk, we get
(04:58):
you signed up there, i give youall the details about the class,
the commitment level, as wellas what we'll be working on and
how I can help you specifically,because that's why I really
like to talk to peopleone-on-one, so I know how I can
help them within the class,because it is a small group
(05:18):
setting and I get to coachpeople on an individual basis
too within the group setting.
You also get a free sessionwith me too, so we can work on
specifically what you're dealingwith.
So if you're interested in that, set up a free discovery call
with me and we can reallyexplore that together and get
you signed up for the class inAugust.
(05:40):
So, without further ado, it'smy honor and my pleasure to
introduce you to my studentStacy.
Enjoy.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
["stock to the Sound"].
Speaker 2 (06:07):
So welcome everybody.
Today I'm here with one of myfinally thriving graduates.
She's actually graduated fromboth class one and class two, so
she is a master at this work bynow, and so today she's gonna
be sharing some of herexperiences of the class and
(06:27):
really how it helped andtransformed her life.
She's not only my dear friend,she's also my sister, and I feel
very honored that she even,like, considered taking a class
with me, with her big sister,and so you know, but it was just
such a, i would say, from myperspective, just such an honor
(06:48):
to first be able to guide youthrough that process but also
just watch the magnificence ofyour life transform, like, and
you just like really open up toreceiving so much more that you
didn't even know or were awareof before.
So, before we get started onthis whole thing, i just wanna
(07:10):
say thank you so much andcongratulations, and I'm
celebrating you today for allthat you've accomplished.
It's really this is the work,this is the real work that we're
in, that we're doing right now,right, and that we're here to
do.
We're here to really lookinside of ourselves and become
aware of what's going on, andthat's what you did, so
congratulations.
(07:31):
So I just wanna start by youknow.
Oh, you're welcome.
I just wanna start by you know,giving my audience, my
listeners, people who arewatching this on Instagram, just
an idea of what experience youhad with the Finally Thriving
program by just starting withyou know the issues or problems
(07:56):
or struggles you were having andwhat really prompted you to
want to take the class in thefirst place.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
Well, yeah, and it's an honor to be here too, and I
took your class because youinspire me in a lot of different
ways.
You've done a lot of workyourself, and so that really
inspired me to do the work aswell for me, so you've been a
big inspiration in my life.
So that's where I want to say,with that, thank you.
(08:27):
We each have had our ownjourneys And mine has been a big
journey of learning how to beokay with myself, to love myself
, to accept myself, to allowmyself just to be who I am and
who I'm meant to be.
And prior to all of to thismoment, i really fought that a
(08:49):
lot.
I pushed it down, i suppressedit, suppressed all my emotions.
I ran away, pushed away in anypossible way I could, because
everything just felt sooverwhelming to me, even the
good stuff I didn't quite knowhow to take it in.
I was one of those that was likeempathic.
I was empath, sensitive, icould feel everything,
(09:10):
everybody's energy, so it wasreally overwhelming for me And I
never really quite got thetools to know how to navigate
all of those big feelings thatwere coming in when I was a
child.
So I just kind of learned howto endure and I learned ways to
protect myself, and they werealways healthy ways.
Especially when I became anadult I learned that blocking
(09:31):
yourself and protecting yourselfand muting your voice and
suppressing your emotions wasnot healthy.
But I did that as a childbecause it was just what.
I knew what to do.
It was just a learned habit forme And I just for me.
I had a whole life of justresponding to life from a
(09:54):
fear-based place, from anxiety,seeing everything that could go
wrong And I think a lot of itwas my environment and what I
picked up and the kind of energythat I learned how to be around
.
So I just carried that with mefor probably far too long, until
the point where my body justcouldn't function that way
(10:20):
anymore And it was sort of likeit reminded me of the book at
Gabor Monta when the body saysno, you check out from the body
enough, you push it away, youact like it doesn't exist, you
fight against it, you resist.
Eventually it's going to comeout in one way or the other.
(10:40):
So I did a lot of healing.
I don't want to negate all thestuff that I did prior to that,
but I still had some work to doAnd the body showed me that I
had some really big major lifeevents, one of which was a
health issue, was a major healthissue that just really awakened
(11:03):
me in so many ways and reallymade me look at myself and say
I'm not living the life I wantto live.
I'm tired of living this way.
I'm tired of feeling like Ihave to hide and hide myself and
pretend like I'm somebody.
I'm not just to be okay in theworld.
(11:23):
I wanted to be my authenticself And that was one of the
reasons why I sought out whatyou did, because what you do in
Finally Thriving is.
It's all about reconnectingwith yourself.
It's all about that selfdiscovery journey, which I loved
.
I loved that you allow us tocome to those moments on our own
(11:50):
, in our own ways.
It's not a protocol, it's notlike you got to all do it this
way, and I love theopen-endedness of it.
So it allowed me to really lookat myself and to be able to
realize that I needed to make amajor lifestyle shift.
I had so much stress in my life, i was living with so much
(12:13):
stress, putting so much pressureon myself for everything, and I
just needed to learn how tolighten up and just have fun and
enjoy my life a little bit more.
And sometimes it takes a reallybig event to get to that point
where you realize that you needto make a change.
And for others it may not be ashuge, but for me it was like I
(12:37):
needed a major wake-up callbecause I was just so stuck in
my old patterns I couldn't shakethem, i couldn't change them.
They were really familiar forme, even though they weren't
healthy.
So when it's something thatyou're used to doing and used to
being for over 40 years, thenit's really hard to create
(13:02):
change.
Sometimes It can be verydifficult, so I just took it
step by step.
They realized it was a process,it was a practice And when I
experienced the major healthchallenge I started having.
(13:22):
Well, prior to that I had that.
Prior to that I was havingpanic attacks, but my panic
attacks got worse after that.
It was very traumatic.
It was a very traumatic event.
It was very scary.
I can look at it now and saythat it was an awakening, but at
the time it felt like a majorcrisis and felt like my whole
(13:45):
life was being turned upsidedown and I had no control over
it.
And that was another thing withme is I had to completely
surrender and let go of control.
I could not control this.
I could not control what mybody was doing and what was
happening in that movement.
I had to surrender completelyAnd so that event afterwards I
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still had a lot to process.
When I got out of it thankgoodness I was able to get out
of it I'm doing much better.
I still had a lot of trauma toprocess from that, and so I was
still experiencing panic attacks, especially when it was really
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uncomfortable when I was, mostlywhen I was driving with my son,
and I realized that's what Iused to feel before I was
diagnosed with my health issue.
I used to have issues when Iwas driving with him, and so it
triggered some old stuff for me,and so I had to work through
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that.
I had to work through.
I realized that I was stillresisting change.
I was still resisting myself.
I didn't want this to happen tome.
I just wanted to feel better.
I just wanted to be okay.
But I had to go through theprocess of what that meant for
me and I had to turn inward, andso that was another lovely
(15:16):
thing that I loved.
What you did is because I gotto.
Really I had an opportunity tonot reach outside of myself and
say you, tell me what to do,tell me what to take, tell me
how to heal, tell me, you know Ihad to go within.
There was not going to be anyother answer to that, and your
program really helped me gowithin and help me realize that
(15:39):
all the answers were withinmyself.
And so I had to start listeningto my body.
I had to start honoring my bodyin order to feel safe in my
body again.
You know, i was not going tofeel safe until it felt like I
was going to be there for it,until it felt like I was going
to show up and be a more lovingand nurturing presence to myself
(16:02):
.
So those things had to happen.
I had to realize that, again,it was all within me.
I had to get silent and stillwith myself and realize that I
had been pushing and suppressingall of these really hard and
(16:23):
comfortable emotions for so long, and now I need to let them
come up and I need to feel themand I need to express them.
I needed to cry if I needed to.
I needed to feel sad or excitedif I needed to feel all of it,
and I needed to let it go.
I needed to just allow myselfto be human, because, really
because being human is havingemotions.
Speaker 2 (16:44):
Absolutely.
I could not lock it all in myhead anymore.
So yeah.
Speaker 1 (16:49):
So the trauma really, you know those panic attacks
where I think a way to push metowards myself again.
At the beginning I would bescared by them because it just
kind of mirrored what I wasgoing through in my health, my
prior health challenge.
I thought that I wasexperiencing that experience
again.
So it triggered some memoriesfor me and it brought me into a
(17:15):
fearful place.
But then I decided, you know,next time this happens.
You know, i remember oneparticular time when I was in
one of your classes and I hadlearned how to talk to myself in
a more loving way.
You know, you had talked aboutlooking at everything, from a
glass half full or even a glassthat's overflowing.
You know, you change yourperspective, you change your
(17:37):
perception.
So I said I'm not going to getafraid of this, i'm not going to
look at it as something to pushaway from.
I'm going to move towards itthis time.
I've never done that in my life, not very often.
I've usually just pushed itaway, but I'm going to just see
what happens.
I'm going to move towards itthis time.
(17:57):
What could it hurt?
You know it's not going to hurtanything, just to try something
different.
And so I remember one time inthe car it started to crop up,
it feel it was going to come on,and my usual would be like, oh
yeah, i get scared and pushagainst it.
This time I just put my hand onmy heart and said I'm here, i'm
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here for you, i'm here for you.
Know, i see you fear.
I'm here, i'm here, i love you,you know we're going to, we're
okay, you know, taking a fewdeep breaths just soothing
myself, loving myself from theloving way.
And it didn't even come on.
Wow, no more panic attack.
(18:40):
And I was so excited It's justso excited because I felt at
home, i felt like a caged animal, i felt like I was afraid to go
anywhere, i was afraid to doanything because I was afraid I
was going to have another panicattack because it was happening
in the car when I was goingplaces.
So, and it felt really limitingto live that way, but I said
(19:01):
I'm going to do it anyway, i'mgoing to try.
And so the more I did it andthe more I got into the car and
drove places and the more Icould sense that it was
happening, i could tune into mybody and I could feel it coming
on and I could attend to myself,and I could be there for myself
and I can turn towards myself,and that's, i think that's what
(19:24):
I needed all along.
You know what I mean.
I was able to give myself whatI needed all along, like parent
myself.
You know, be that parent that Ineeded to help me navigate this
really uncomfortable emotion inthat moment, and I was able to
do that.
I was able to be my ownco-regulator and just bring
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myself back down, and now I'mnot having them at all anymore.
It's just amazing.
Speaker 2 (19:51):
So no more panic attacks.
Speaker 1 (19:53):
So far, so far.
Speaker 2 (19:55):
That's amazing.
Speaker 1 (19:57):
No more panic attacks , completely, And it's just,
it's amazing And it's it's.
The whole process has just beenwonderful.
I mean, this is, I think, thebiggest thing that I've gotten.
One of the biggest things wasjust learning how to turn
towards myself in a more lovingway, to make myself a priority.
(20:17):
You're really good about that.
And the family thriving programis.
It's all about reconnectingwith your authenticity.
You know, when we're young,it's all about the attachment
It's all about we're going to doanything to stay attached
because that keeps us safe, Evenif we have to disregard our
values.
We have to mute our voice,whatever we have to do to stay
(20:39):
in our parents' graces oranybody else or whoever's
raising us, to keep thatattachment, because that's how
we stay alive, That's how wesurvive right, Survival right.
And then you realize that it'stime to reclaim your
authenticity.
Everything, everything I kindof put aside to you survive.
(21:00):
Now I can reclaim.
So, I was able to step into myown power, you know, put myself
first, which is it's even hardto say that still sometimes,
because I was always somebodywho would just put everybody
else first for myself.
So I had to do that.
I had to reclaim who I was andwho I am authentically and honor
(21:22):
that.
I'm still trying to discoverwho that is, but I know more
than I did before, you know, andI got to really look at my
values and desires in your classand be able to fine tune what
really lit me up, what you knowand what I really enjoyed doing,
or what I would like to do orhow I would like to move forward
(21:44):
in my life.
So it was really.
It was very positive and fun, itwas very good.
It was fun to visualize, youknow, those different things And
so And I really love how it wasabout getting more in touch
with my ways of expressionmyself, you know, and you did it
(22:07):
in such a fun way.
I loved all the exercises andplayful things that we got to do
, because I have been totallycarrying a serious stick for so
long.
It's like I have these big,huge boulders on my shoulders.
I'm just like, oh, i got youknow, this is the way I got to
live life.
Speaker 2 (22:23):
It's like the suffering of life.
Speaker 1 (22:25):
Yeah, it's going to be the serious endeavor to live
life And it's like, no, itdoesn't have to be complicated,
it doesn't have to be serious,it can actually be fun, it can
be a fun adventure, it can beplayful, you can wake up and be
excited about your life.
I mean, you know, it's verypossible.
So I loved all the exercisesand practices that you did to
(22:47):
help build that up again withinme, because I didn't really know
how to play.
You know, i really had toconnect that to myself.
You know I didn't really have achance to do really what I
wanted to do when I was little,really really explore my values
and desires.
I just kind of had to do whateverybody else in the family was
(23:07):
doing.
So this was a great time to justthink what I actually wanted to
do, you know, and we got to doit in such fun, playful ways.
You know dancing and singingand breathwork and taking
ourselves out on wellness datesand doing something over the
vision board And just all thefun ways, interactive ways, that
(23:30):
you had us explore ourplayfulness and our weight, you
know how we could expressourselves was just.
It made it so much more fun.
You know.
It brought that lightness inthat I needed.
Speaker 2 (23:43):
Yeah, yeah, and you and I have talked about the
energy of suppressing what meets.
That is a non, not able to beable to express yourself, which
creates a lot of pressure.
It's like a pressure cooker,right.
And once you can, like you said, which was, oh my God, it's so
(24:05):
beautiful And you just expressthat whole thing so beautifully,
that's like in real time, likehow far you've come, amazing.
I mean, when you start to learnhow, because it's like, like
you said, we go through lifethinking we have to fix it from
the outside, but when we startto learn the tools to actually
(24:26):
do that from the inside, theneverything in our external world
changes And that's the, that'sthe manifestation.
The practical manifestationsteps is to look inward first,
and it takes courage to do that,to go that to that, to a place
of awareness, but you did thatand then you began to build the
(24:47):
trust in your own body by justallowing and acknowledging first
that those exist.
You know, we talked about thatthe other day too, i had a great
conversation with you andtalking about like sometimes you
know, everything wants to knowthat it exists, that every
energy in the world wants toknow it exists, by just
(25:07):
acknowledging that it existsSometimes really just allows it
to move through.
So you're not holding on to it,right, because it just wants to
know that it's there.
You know, in a way, if youthink about it, and so by
acknowledging it and then youknow, giving it compassion and
love and helping that emotionmove, learning the skills to do
(25:29):
that, like you did.
As we heal our inner child,right, and all the ways that we
suppressed ourselves when wewere younger and brought into
our adulthood, then you areletting yourself, you're
liberating yourself to be morecreative and allowing that
creative expression to come outwithout judgment or attachment,
(25:51):
and so I really enjoyed watchingyou go through that process.
And now look at you You're justexpressing yourself with full
authenticity and so much clarityand inspiration.
This is so beautiful, stacey.
Speaker 1 (26:10):
Thank you.
Yeah, you're totally right.
It's so much simpler than wemake it.
It took me a really long timeto realize that I would be doing
way too much.
In the healing realm I would dotoo much.
It's always just like as manythings as I could do more was
better, and it really wasn't.
It was just kind of muddlingprocess, and getting away in the
(26:33):
way of it was actually anotherform of distraction away from
myself you know, and now, I justsimply sit still and listen to
my body and to myself.
I make it a lot more of a simplepractice than I did before, and
now I'm starting to hear mybody speak to me, speaking back
to me.
Now It's telling me what itneeds, you know, just because
(26:56):
I've decided to sit with it andbe with it, and it's excited
that, if you said it wants to beacknowledged, it wants to be
heard, it's here to support me,so it wants to be part of the
process, it wants to beacknowledged, it wants to be,
you know.
And so ever since you know Ihad that major scare with my
health, it's like I havecelebrated my body.
(27:17):
I talk to my body every day, itell I thank my body for
supporting the health andwellness.
Every single day, icongratulate it.
I just say yeah way to go.
You know when I when I make itfrom a panic attack I didn't
have one I'd be like awesome,nervous system, you did great.
You know, like I would becongratulating my nervous system
(27:37):
and saying how proud I was ofit and saying you know, nice,
you know we were able to staysafe and calm, you know, and
just celebrating that win withmyself and with my body And you
know, and so far, some of thethings that my body has been
able to tell me, which has beenprofound was my, you know my
heart told me you know you'reputting too much pressure on
(27:59):
yourself.
My diaphragm told me you're,you're, you are.
You know, closing off yourbreath.
You know you are.
And then you know my throat hasbeen told me you know you have
a voice.
So I've heard these messagespop into my head from my body,
helping me.
(28:19):
You know it's like it's thereto help me, it's there to you
know it's there for me.
So you know, i think one of themost important things is to
know that it's there for you.
It's, it's not against you.
If you're experiencing panicattacks, if you're experiencing
(28:41):
a really some really big healthissues in your life that are
challenging you physically,sometimes our tendency is to say
what's wrong with me, why is mybody doing this, and to kind of
push against it and resist it.
But really what it needs islike how can I be there for you?
How can I bring, kind of bringmore of that love there for you?
(29:04):
You know and really listen towhat your body is trying to tell
you, because it's there for areason.
It's trying to tell yousomething that you need that
could help you maybe shiftwhatever you're feeling And
whatever is going on.
And, of course, one of the oneof the biggest things I needed
to do to honor how I was feeling, even if it felt uncomfortable,
(29:27):
like you said, that suppression, you can only hold on to it for
so long.
You can only in it.
It's, it's, it's just not theway to live.
It's not the way to live andit's definitely not thriving.
It doesn't fit into thatcategory, you know, but I do.
I just, yeah, it's been soprofound Everything that you
(29:52):
have provided and put out therefor everybody.
I love to be able to.
I think the idea of being ableto be in a community and connect
with others really helped me.
It helped hold me accountable,it helped me take responsibility
, it gave me a place to go and aplace to open up.
(30:13):
And I think that was a reallyimportant component of what you
did was we all had differentthings going on, but we could
all connect in a way based onhow we were feeling.
We all had some sort of commonconnection at some point.
Or we could say, oh, i reallyunderstand what you're saying,
or we can congratulate eachother.
We could praise each other.
(30:35):
You know, it's that again, it'sthat co-regulation piece, it's
that piece of having somebodyelse, somebody else's support
that also adds to your ownself-discovery journey.
It really helps give it thatextra boost.
You know that you need Andthat's what I also loved was
being able to not just take itall on my own.
I was somebody who would justwanna read a book and try to
(30:58):
figure it out on my own.
You know another way ofcomplicating it, but once I
started opening up to supportfrom others, that also made such
a huge, huge difference.
Not going only inward, it's acombination of going inward but
also opening up and receiving.
(31:19):
You know it's both, so it'llallow both of those to happen.
You know it's the ebb and flow,you know it's not one or the
other.
If I paid attention to myselfway too much and went inward too
much, then I guess thatprobably wouldn't be very
healthy either.
So I think it's a little bit ofboth and whatever you need at
that moment that you you know.
Speaker 2 (31:42):
Yeah, that's why we learn how to receive in the
class too, because I feel likethat was an important component
that gets missed many times.
You know, it's more of thatfeminine aspect of health and
wealth and everything in life,you know, and connection and
relationships learning, you know.
(32:04):
You first like learn how to goin and become aware of things
that are going on, and then youlearn how to receive the love
and support from others, whichis very important, out of love
and compassion instead of fear,like you were saying earlier.
So I love that you're talkingabout that harmony between the
(32:25):
giving and receiving, because,yes, that's a big takeaway that
I really love to see my studentstake away from the class and
start to integrate into theirlives, because it just feels
more balanced right, becausemany of us are, you know,
especially if we've been in thehealing industry for years.
We're like givers.
(32:45):
You know we're giving, giving,giving so much of ourself and
then not really giving enough toourselves, like you were doing
as well.
So well, this is a bit amazing.
I want to just kind of likeclose up with your your biggest
takeaways and like how you'reintegrating it into your life
(33:05):
now, like how was it?
how was your life changed on aday-to-day basis from being
taking it?
And I'll say also that lastgroup was a magical group, i
mean, they were just somespecial people in there.
But how have you, like, whathave you done, like, how are you
integrating it in your dailylife?
(33:26):
How are you, what are youfinding that is transformative
or different than what you wereexperiencing before?
You've said much of that intoday's talk, but I wanted to
just give maybe some lastthoughts about that.
Speaker 1 (33:43):
You know, yeah, i think the biggest one is to come
back around to turning towardsmyself, you know, having a more
with more love and nurturing andcompassion, and finding ways to
honor that through the thingsthat I love to do or what light
me up, giving myself time andspace to just do that and
(34:05):
putting myself as a priority,you know.
and so in the mornings, one ofmy things that I do is I make
sure, before I get up, because Ihave a meditation and I have a
meditation practice and I justcheck in with myself and I give
myself that sacred time you know, So that's a really big thing
And I learned that in your classas well is to create a ritual
(34:27):
or rhythm routine for yourselfeach and every day, like I'm
something that you could do justfor yourself and make time and
space for that, even if it'sjust for a little while, it
doesn't have to be anything bigor long in a day, it could just
be, you know, checking in withyourself and being with yourself
for that moment.
And, yeah, and I try toincorporate the wellness dates.
(34:53):
You know, take my self out ondates like just go outside.
Nature is a date for me.
I go outside in nature a lot,so that's very soothing and
grounding for me and somethingthat fills me up.
And I, you know, create.
I like to create nature,mandalas and art.
So from the materials I foundin the ground, you know, i just
put my feet on the ground andjust really connect with that
(35:15):
whole experience.
So that's a really, that's awellness date that I'll take
myself on often.
So, yeah, i just, and so nowthat I've made this a consistent
part of my life checking inwith myself, loving myself,
grounding myself with theserituals and routines I feel like
that's helped my nervous systemcalm down.
(35:38):
I remember saying one time inyour program I would just do
anything to feel safe.
Remember that.
So I would just do anything tofeel safe because I was really
having a hard time And that'sand you helped me set up the
energy for that.
You helped me put it out therein the universe in the right way
.
You know what would it take forme to feel safe.
(36:00):
You know, kind of put it outthere in a ferment and just, and
instead of saying I don't feelsafe or focusing on what I don't
have, we started focusing onwhat we do have.
So, switching that year frombeing normally a more of a
negative thinking person, iswitched my gear to be more of a
positive thinking person andreally set up the time of the
day and what I did.
(36:21):
Look at it the other way, youknow, look at it from a more
positive direction, and I thinkthat just really helped my
nervous system settle down.
It helped it to feel safe again.
It helped it to feel nurturedand loved And it's just amazing
that I can feel like that againtoday, like myself.
Speaker 2 (36:41):
Yeah, that's incredible, Oh my gosh.
So now it sounds like you'realso able to, from that calm
place, make better choices inyour life.
make, even have betterdiscernment around what you
really want and what you want tocreate.
Speaker 1 (36:56):
So it's important.
I mean I had to get myself tothe calm space.
I wasn't going to be able toforce it.
It was a process.
I mean it took me a couple ofyears to get to that place from
the big event, major life eventsthat happened.
So it took time and time againto show it up.
It's not, it didn't just happenovernight.
You know and I'm still workingon it still a practice.
(37:17):
It'll be always a practice.
It's a lifetime practice, butI'm enjoying it more.
It's not a chore, It's notsomething I feel like I have to
do.
I don't feel like I'm fixingmyself or that I'm broken
anymore, But there's anythingwrong with me.
Where I'm coming from adifferent place Now, it's
because I enjoy it.
It's fun taking care of myself,It's enjoyable.
(37:38):
I love myself now.
I didn't used to love myself,So I have loved myself.
And so it's shifted everything.
It's completely shifted theenergy, you know, and opened up
so much more than I thought waspossible.
So I'm getting all.
I get a little emotional fromit.
(37:58):
That's amazing.
Speaker 2 (37:59):
I know I'm feeling the chill bumps.
Thank you so much, Stacey, forsharing your journey and your
story.
Well, thank you for coming onAnd I love you so much and keep
doing it.
Speaker 1 (38:14):
All right, I'll keep doing it All right, bye, All
right, love you.
Speaker 2 (38:18):
Love you too.
Ride that way in the flow ofyour life, Don't you know?
(39:06):
ride that way in the flow ofyour life, Don't you know?
Creating a calm dispositionsets the stage for you to
(39:28):
receive what the world has tooffer.
When you're able to receivewhat the world has to offer, you
automatically build trust thatyou will receive what you want
in your life.
Why is this important?
Ride that way in the flow ofyour life, Don't you know?
(39:57):
Ride that way in the flow ofyour life, Don't you know?
You could say our ability toreceive depends on what we learn
(40:20):
from our parents, What we didor didn't get, and our level of
trust that we'll be taking careof and in the universe's
abundance.
Many of us grew up inhouseholds that weren't
perfectly nurturing, so ourability to receive was
compromised.
Receiving became something weneeded to learn how to do on our
(40:42):
own, and for some of us, we'restill learning.
If you're not allowing yourselfto take in the goodness life
has to offer by acknowledgingyour wins and receiving love
from others, you will always besearching, searching, searching
and never feel like you're doingenough, enough, enough enough.
(41:07):
Ride that way in the flow ofyour life, Don't you know?
(41:39):
Ride that way way of your life.
Ride that way way.
(42:14):
Ride that way way.
Ride that way way, Ride thatway way.
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