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What do you do when the problem isn’t just your in-laws—but your partner’s refusal to set limits with them?

In today’s episode of Is It Me or Is It Them? we’re talking about one of the most painful and confusing dynamics that shows up in relationships: when your partner won’t back you up, won’t speak up, and won’t protect the boundaries that matter to you.

You’re not imagining it. You’re not being too sensitive.

You’re no...

In today’s episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on a cultural trend that might seem harmless, but actually functions as a form of social control: the "Karen" meme.

While it may have started as a way to call out rude or entitled behaviour, it’s morphed into something much darker—something that often punishes women for speaking up, setting boundaries, or simply taking up space. Especially as they age.

Drawing on personal ex...

Welcome back to Is It Me or Is It Them? After a short break, I’m so glad to be back with you—and today, we’re diving into something that comes up all the time in relationships: the fear of speaking up.

You might think the problem is that you don’t know how to say it. But what if the real issue is that you don’t think you’re allowed to?

In this episode, we’ll explore:

• Why many people struggle to voice their needs, even when...

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Today we explore two reasons why  the heavy burden many women feel when juggling responsibilities in their personal and professional lives. The conversation dives into the cultural expectations that lead to overfunctioning, how these beliefs impact relationships and why over-working becomes a stress management tool you probably don't even notice you're using.

• Discussing the overwhelming mental loa...

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The episode dives deep into the often-overlooked dynamic where one partner assumes a parental role over the other. We explore the roots of this behavior, how it can backfire, and actionable ways to restore balance in relationships.

 
• The pitfalls of becoming a caretaker rather than a partner
• How societal expectations play into relationship dynamics
• Strategies for breaking the cycle of over-functioni...

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We all know that building healthy relationships requires open communication- but what when they don't want to hear what you have to say?  What about those times when it just seems to cause or fight- or worse- leaves you feeling dismissed and ignored?

When it doesn't feel it's okay to say what you need to say, you can develop a habit of biting your tongue, stuffing down your needs, and just trying harder ...

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Are you feeling the anxiety & stress that's all around us right now? Me too. That's why I decided to put some energy into the things I can control - and I'm inviting you to do the same by channelling your anxiety into your purpose. 

This conversation is a call to action for those with a yearning to share their ideas—whether it's writing a book, launching a business, or starting a nonprofit. 

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Can a simple act of validation shift our relationships, both personally and professionally? Join me, April Boyd, as I share insights from my facilitator training session on the "Is it Me or Is it Them" podcast. We'll explore why acknowledging emotions is a critical ingredient in creating genuine connections, helping others and avoiding conflict.

 Whether you're consoling a grieving friend, having a ...

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Is it just a rough patch or a sign of a deeper relationship issue? This is the question I should have been asking during my first marriage and today I'm finally going to share my story. Join me, April Boyd, as I unravel the complexities of relationship dynamics, unpacking the difference between temporary stressors and recurring patterns that may indicate something more serious. Through my personal experiences, I ...

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When things feel frightening and uncertain in the world around me, I try to go back to what I know for sure. One thing I know for sure is that we need more do-gooders in this world.  

We need people who care about other people.

We need people who are willing to give more than they take.

We need people who want to use their gifts & energy to help others.

So if you have ever had the urge to create something, start a p...

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Is it needy to want to feel appreciated?  Or just a basic relationship need? in relationships?  The episode discusses over-giving tendencies, our need for affirmation, and helps you know when you need to speak up- or just validate yourself.  Whether you are dealing with a co-worker, client or spouse, this episode is going to help you know when you just need to be content and confident in what you have to offer- and wh...

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Are you in a relationship someone who doesn't seem to carry their weight? Ever found yourself wondering if the trade-offs in your relationship are worth it? Today we're unpacking some of the difficult decisions and dynamics of life with an under-functioning partner. 

Listen in to learn:

• how to tell the difference between your needs & wants.
• decision-making tips for knowing when to st...

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In this episode of Is It Me or Is It Them?, therapist & coach April Boyd explores the tension and frustration that arise in relationships when someone doesn't get you- and doesn't seem to want to.  Whether you're navigating challenging dynamics with family, in-laws, or friends, this conversation sheds light on how to stop chasing external validation and reclaim your sense of peace and agency.

What Yo...

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If I had to pick the one question that has made the biggest difference in my life, my self-esteem and my social circle- this might be the one.  

This episode invites you to reflect on your relationships, work and life with one really simple check in.

Listen in to hear:

•Why we stay stuck in unhealthy relationships & friendships
• How accepting unacceptable behaviour can weigh us down...

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Ever wonder why some individuals persistently disregard your boundaries, or don't seem to care if they are having a negative impact on you?

Setting boundaries with difficult people can transform your relationships and preserve your emotional well-being and so today I'm sharing 5 important boundary reminders that are going to help you:

** feel less guilty for setting limits or saying no 

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Have you been feeling unmotivated, a bit burnt out or low energy lately?  Have you been feeling like you just don't want to do anything?  Sick of working so hard?  You're not the only one. Join me, April Boyd, as I share personal reflections on our latest episode about embracing the season of rest. 

This episode is a heartfelt invitation to recognize that personal growth doesn't always demand g...

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There seems to be so much advice that tells us to "talk it out," but what we seem to overlook is that talking it out comes with very real risks.  There's a reason so many of us try so hard to avoid conflict and keep the peace- and it's not because of a lack of communication skills or self-confidence.  While communication is great and necessary for healthy relationships, not all the relationships in...

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Ever find yourself holding back with your friends?   Like maybe you shy away of sharing your accomplishments, or you downplay your gifts, hide your true ambitions, or basically just feel like you have to dial parts of yourself down when you're with them?

Listen into the episode as I share how confidence and competition sometimes impact our connections with other women and why we all need a safe place whe...