Sometimes there’s nothing more frustrating than dealing with a frustrated child. In part 2 of our 3 part series with Mary, mother of six-year-old Oliver and a newborn baby James, Leslie explores just how exhausting being stuck in the frustration loop with your child can be—and how to break out of it. They also get into bedtime, setting limits, and parenting guilt.
Time Stamps
- 0:36 Low frustration tolerance
- 3:03 Letting go of expectations is about accepting the moment in order to move forward. Remember: it’s supposed to be hard
- 11:54 “I need him to” is a dangerous thing to say
- 23:09 The tough job of being a parent
- 23:12 Bearing witness to your child’s discomfort or pain
- 23:19 The guilt of doing it good enough
- 23:47 The definition of guilt; we don’t need the extra burden of it
- 25:36 When to give in, when to ignore and when to set limits - these are confusing choices all parents face.
- 30:41 Assessing is important: there’s a cause for all behavior
- 33:13 Kids may need to be active to actually calm down their neurological system before bed: compression, getting wrapped up in a blanket, hugging a teddy bear, etc
- 39:25 Allow the misbehavior to communicate what’s going on
- 39:47 Take a guess at why your child misbehaved: scared of nightmares, not wanting to end the day, feeling stimulated in his body and need to release tension of the day, wanting to be closer to mom.
Leslie-ism: Learn as you go, learn from the past, and learn from mistakes.
Resources:
- Sign up here to be a parent guest on Is My Child a Monster? Podcast
- Leslie's Video of Using the STOP Skill to Deal with a Low Frustration Tolerance
For a full transcript of this episode and more information about the host visit https://lesliecohenrubury.com/podcasts/ . You can also follow Leslie’s work on Facebook and Instagram. Join the conversation with your own questions and parenting experiences.
Credits: Is My Child a Monster? is produced by Alletta Cooper, AJ Moultrié, Camila Salazar, and Leslie Cohen-Rubury. Theme music is by L-Ray Music. Graphics and Website Design by Brien O’Reilly. Transcriptions by Eric Rubury. A special thanks to everyone who contributes their wisdom and support to make this possible.
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