December 16, 2025 • 17 mins
In this episode I talk about how a survival-focused brain hands us fast, familiar thoughts that harden into identity, and how a few seconds of awareness can change the narrator of your life.
We dig into the mechanics of default thinking, why the mind prefers shortcuts, and how filtering turns first impressions into fixed labels. Then we model practical reframes across marriage, money, career, parenting, faith, and friendships, replacing sweeping labels with precise, empowering truths.
From an Islamic lens, we explore nafs, spiritual intention, and the pursuit of Truth, connecting mind management with devotion, balance, and integrity. Expect clear steps you can practice today: pause, notice the first thought, question it, and select the identity you want to strengthen. Neuroplasticity does the rest, rewiring attention and behavior until your inner life, relationships, and work reflect a grounded, self-led you.
If this resonates, share the episode with someone who’s ready to move from autopilot to intention, subscribe for more practical mind coaching rooted in faith and science, and leave a review to help others find the show. What’s the one sentence you’ll choose to practice this week?
To leave a review on Apple Podcasts, open the app and go to the show's page by searching for it or finding it in your library. Scroll down to the "Ratings & Reviews" section, tap "Write a Review," then give it a star rating, write your title and review, and tap "Send"
Mark as Played
Transcript
Episode Transcript
Available transcripts are automatically generated. Complete accuracy is not guaranteed.
SPEAKER_01 (00:04):
Welcome to Islamic Life Coach School Podcast.
Apply tools that you learn inthis podcast and your life will
be unrecognizably successful.
Now your host, Dr.
Donald Abdur.
SPEAKER_00 (00:15):
Hello, hello, hello everyone.
Peace and blessings be upon allof you.
Today we're going to be talkingabout your identity and how a
mismanaged mind offers you anidentity that is not really
yours.
What does that even mean?
A mismanaged mind is when youdon't practice thinking about
your thinking.
You simply believe whatever yourbrain offers you first.
(00:38):
The lower brain lovesefficiency, so it gives you
default thoughts that feelfamiliar.
And when these default thoughtsrun on repeat, they start to
sound like your identity.
When you don't question thesethoughts, you believe them, even
if they're completely unhelpful.
Your identity is not built fromyour DNA.
(00:59):
It's mostly built from thethoughts you rehearse every day
until they harden into yourreality.
Your identity is the literal sumof the thoughts you've been
having on repeat.
If the thoughts are I'm alwaysthe one holding this family
together, then you will show upas the overfunctioning exhausted
mother where that identity feelsfamiliar.
(01:22):
If your daily mental loop is mycolleagues don't take me
seriously, your brain will findevidence for that everywhere.
If you constantly think toyourself I've been bad with
money, you will hesitate toinvest.
You will undercharge for yourwork.
Again, you'll be findingevidence to prove that correct.
(01:44):
If you change this playlist,then the entire character of
personality that you're playingin your life will change.
But for you to change thisplaylist, you have to observe
it.
You have to be able to thinkabout your thinking.
Your default identity is createdbecause you've stopped being the
author of your life and you'rebecoming the narrator,
(02:07):
especially the narrator of theprimal brain thought, which is
the brain that functions justfor your survival, not for your
growth, not for your evolution,not for your happiness.
And these thoughts come to youin tiny microseconds where
something is happening and yourinterpretation of it.
(02:27):
These thoughts feel true, butthey're just shortcuts that your
brains gotten used to to savethe energy.
They're not necessarily thereflections of who you are,
because with some practice andneuroplasticity, those
reflections can be changed.
If you want your brain to bewired for happiness in your
(02:48):
marriage, but your braindefaults to that's not possible,
he'll never change, I'm the onlyone trying.
When you've believed thesethoughts on marriage, then you
become the woman who can't enjoyher marriage.
You don't consciously choosethis identity.
That's what the brain offers youright out the gate.
(03:10):
These thoughts are handed to youby your lower brain, by your
default interpretation.
Again, this is the brain that'smore interested in keeping you
safe rather than helping youcreate happiness.
And when that identity isformed, then the brain will
fiercely protect it.
It will filter every single oneof your experience to match it.
(03:30):
If he forgets to text back, itwill say, see, I told you if
he's tired and quiet, you knowthat he's not interested in you.
If he tries to help but forgetsor does it clumsily, then you
keep telling yourself this isnever gonna work out.
So suddenly, what is not sosuddenly, your entire emotional
(03:50):
experience looks like it's beencurated to support your default
identity.
And if you choose to go by thosesentences, you have to know that
you're not consciously choosingyour personality.
The brain will go to work toprove the thoughts it's
thinking, even if those are thethoughts that you're not
consciously aware of.
(04:12):
A default identity forms anytime when you accept the first
thought your brain offers, whenit repeats it enough times, and
you assume that these thoughtsreflect the truth as it exists
outside of you.
And it happens in every arena.
Money, I'm not good withfinances, career, I'm not
(04:32):
leadership material.
Parenting, I'm too impatient tobe a good mom.
Faith, I'm having trouble withmy spirituality.
Friendships, I'm always the oneleft out.
None of these are inherentgenetically programmed identity.
None of these are handed to youby nature.
(04:52):
They are just thought habitsrunning on a loop unchecked, and
when left unchecked, they becomeyour character.
And this is where mindmanagement becomes
revolutionary.
This is when you start toquestion the default thoughts
and you start to replace themwith something that actually
helps you, the whole defaultidentity collapses, and a self
(05:16):
determined identity begins toform in its place.
If you continue to identify withthe behaviors that come from a
mismanaged mind, then it's likeyou letting the glitchy part of
your brain being the PR managerof your whole firm.
And then you sit there wonderwhy your life feels like a
chaotic mess.
(05:36):
When you take your worst momentand you make them into your
identity, you are handing yourpower to the lowest functioning
version of yourself.
That's the nafs, mostly nafsalarmara.
Meaning if you yelled once andyou suddenly a person with a bad
temper, or if you freeze duringconflict and you suddenly
(05:57):
identify as a person who's weak,these are all identities created
from a mismanaged mind.
The danger is that throughneuroplasticity all of these get
wired into your brain, and thenyour brain goes to work in
building more and more evidencein terms of neural pathways to
support this identity.
(06:18):
Your mind is a self-fulfillingprophecy generator by design.
Any unexamined belief that youadopt in any micro moment about
yourself, that is the firstsuggestion by your brain.
If you decide to stop, questionit, and rewrite that thought,
then you're on your way tobecoming a more evolved identity
(06:39):
of yourself.
So now I'm going to give you afew examples of what the
contrast looks like between adefault identity and a higher
brain identity, something thatyou intentionally choose.
Default identity can be I'm tooemotional.
The higher brain identity willbe I feel overwhelmed today and
(07:02):
I can learn to support myselfbetter.
Default identity is my marriageis broken.
Higher brain identity says yes,we're struggling right now and
I'm learning how to leademotionally.
Default identity says I'm justan angry person.
Higher brain says I reacted fromanger today and I have the
(07:24):
option to practice a differentresponse next time.
Default says I'm bad with money.
Higher brain says I haven'tlearned money skills yet and I'm
ready to start shifting that.
Default says there's always aproblem.
Higher brain says there's apattern here I want to
(07:45):
understand so that I can show updifferently.
Default says I'm an anxiousperson.
Higher brain says my nervoussystem is activated and I'm
learning how to regulate it.
The evolved identity has rangeand depth.
It expands your life and itallows you to grow.
(08:05):
It elevates your entireexperience of being alive.
How your higher brain identitygets created is that you create
a space between the stimulus andthe response.
And that's not created by force,that's not created by shaming
yourself for being in thedefault identity.
It's created by awareness andrepetition.
(08:27):
It is a bit of a delayedreaction, even if it's
microseconds.
But that microsecond gap whereyou pause and reflect, that is
where your higher brain wakes upand offers you an alternative to
the very first default thoughtthat came to your mind.
So the first step is you createthe space between the stimulus
(08:48):
and the response.
The second step is you noticethe first thought your brain
throws at you and you don't justaccept it at face value.
The next step is you ask aquestion to wake up your higher
brain.
What's the full truth here?
Who do I want to be right now?
And then you choose a thoughtthat aligns with your higher
(09:08):
identity, something and someonethat you want to be, and you go
to practice it.
That way your brain is going tostart to rewire itself through
neuroplasticity with yourhigher, most evolved self, and
then your entire identityshifts.
And this is how you train yourlower napsy self to become the
(09:30):
intern, and your higher brainbecomes the main boss, the
narrator of your life.
And this is the appropriatehierarchy how you're supposed to
live your life.
And this is the process of theskia to naps.
And the identity you start tolive from after that is that
you're no longer a woman that isshaped by fear or conditioned by
(09:50):
culture or her past experiences.
You become a woman who is shapedby intention, values, faith,
self-leadership.
Okay, so now allow me to presenta scenario, and this might or
might not have been true.
As a physician, when your nursedisappears for a full week
without notice and then strollback in next week, your lower
(10:14):
brain identities will fireinstantly.
It will hand you a wholenarrative before you even have a
chance to slow down.
How can she do this?
She doesn't care.
She's unprofessional.
This is dangerous.
I had to do double of the workbecause of her, and the identity
becomes somebody who's alwayscleaning up after others.
Now, honestly speaking, thesearen't right and wrong thoughts.
(10:38):
They will feel justifiable,meaning a physician would feel a
surge of anger if she was leftalone in the clinic to handle
patients and the clinical dutiesall by herself.
The problem begins when thelower brain identity decides
that it is justifiable that thisanger automatically means that
you act unprofessionally towardsher.
(11:00):
This is the version of you thatreacts.
You're not in a leadershipposition in that moment.
If you yell, if you shame, ifyou can't discipline from calm,
then you become the physicianwho loses it on her staff.
Not because that's who you are,but because that's the default
identity your unmanaged mindcreated.
(11:23):
Now, the higher brain identitydoes not silence this anger.
It sees the same facts and feelsthe same frustration, but it
slows down enough to choose aresponse instead of reacting to
the situation.
The higher brain says, My angermakes sense and my job is
accountability for my staff.
(11:44):
The way I respond teaches herhow to show up, and you can
totally fire her if that'swithin your jurisdiction,
because she broke thestipulations of the contract.
But you're going to do that froman identity of a professional
grounded physician.
Not to punish her, not so thatshe can learn a lesson, but so
(12:04):
that you create clear boundariesand expectations, especially
when it comes to expectations atyour work and safety of your
patients.
You address anyunprofessionalism without
becoming unprofessionalyourself.
You express the seriousness ofthe situation without making it
personal.
So the arc here is simple andlife changing.
(12:27):
The lower brain says I'mfurious, so I react and
therefore risk beingunprofessional.
Higher brain says I'm furiousand I lead, and I channel that
energy in doing the right thing.
Default identities are born in asplit second when you believe
the first interpretation yourmind throws at you.
(12:48):
This is dangerous, spiritually,mentally, emotionally dangerous,
because all of this depends onyour primal survival system
doing what it does best,reacting, predicting danger,
labeling you in the mostlimiting way possible.
Your highest soulfulintelligence does not create
(13:09):
sentences about you or about thesituation that keep you small,
and this takes a microsecondlonger to kick into place.
Your evolved identity, theidentity that comes from your
higher brain, speaks from yourvalues and your highest version
of yourself.
This is the version of you thatis always seeking the truth with
(13:29):
the capital T.
And that truth happens to beAllah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
This is why you must dedicateyourself to identifying what
default behaviors are youcalling your personality.
That default behavior is justyour nervous system doing the
bare minimum to protect you.
It's not the fullest expressionof who you are.
(13:50):
If you mistake your defaultidentity for your destiny, you
will live your entire life as aconstricted, under-resourced
version of yourself.
Your higher brain is the voiceof your soul.
It's guiding you towardsbecoming the best version of
yourself.
And all you have to do is slowdown enough to listen to it and
then adapt it as your trueidentity.
(14:13):
The unexamined default identitywill seem to leak into every
corner of your life.
And this does not happen becauseyou're flawed.
This happens because you'venever thought to zoom out and
challenge the default thought.
You've never given yourself thepermission because you've never
been taught that you can giveyour evolved internal lens a
(14:35):
chance to narrate your life.
And this is the entire work ofmind management.
Reclaiming the power to questionand reinterpret, and therefore
rebuilding an identity that isnot running your life on
autopilot.
Your higher brain identity,those are the thoughts that
expand you.
(14:55):
They're the emotions that guideyou, and your actions become
strategic.
Your marriage, your work, yourfaith, your sense of self all
shift towards empowerment.
When you can believe your higherbrain identity that says I'm
capable of creating emotionalsafety in my marriage, your
(15:16):
brain will rise to meet thatidentity.
It will scan for moments ofpossibility.
It will regulate you and it willcreate microbehaviors that
support healing, likeintentional communication or
alternative interpretations, orclearer, firmer, respectful
boundaries.
Your whole life experience willshift because now your brain is
(15:40):
tasked with completing adifferent assignment, to live as
a woman who's capable of livinga peaceful life.
And this is why healing in mycoaching program is so profound.
We are never out to change thecircumstances.
We are just changing theidentity that interpret the
circumstances.
When you shift from your defaultidentity to your higher brain
(16:03):
identity, your entire lifereorganizes around the new
version of you.
You not only start feelingbetter, which is a huge win in
itself, you become a woman whois closer to her faith and
closer to her truest identity.
That is seeking Allah subhanahuwa ta'ala.
With that I pray to Allah, OAllah, guide me to see myself
(16:26):
with truth and replace mydefault thoughts with wisdom.
Strengthen my higher self so Ichoose who I am with intention.
Let my identity be rooted in thesoul you created, and make me a
woman who rises above oldstories.
Ya Allah, let every shift I makebe a step towards a version of
(16:50):
me that is closest to you.
Amin Yarabul Amin.
Please keep me in your du'as, Iwill talk to you guys next time.
Welcome to Islamic Life Coach School Podcast.
Apply tools that you learn inthis podcast and your life will
be unrecognizably successful.
Now your host, Dr.
Donald Abdur.
SPEAKER_00 (00:15):
Hello, hello, hello everyone.
Peace and blessings be upon allof you.
Today we're going to be talkingabout your identity and how a
mismanaged mind offers you anidentity that is not really
yours.
What does that even mean?
A mismanaged mind is when youdon't practice thinking about
your thinking.
You simply believe whatever yourbrain offers you first.
(00:38):
The lower brain lovesefficiency, so it gives you
default thoughts that feelfamiliar.
And when these default thoughtsrun on repeat, they start to
sound like your identity.
When you don't question thesethoughts, you believe them, even
if they're completely unhelpful.
Your identity is not built fromyour DNA.
(00:59):
It's mostly built from thethoughts you rehearse every day
until they harden into yourreality.
Your identity is the literal sumof the thoughts you've been
having on repeat.
If the thoughts are I'm alwaysthe one holding this family
together, then you will show upas the overfunctioning exhausted
mother where that identity feelsfamiliar.
(01:22):
If your daily mental loop is mycolleagues don't take me
seriously, your brain will findevidence for that everywhere.
If you constantly think toyourself I've been bad with
money, you will hesitate toinvest.
You will undercharge for yourwork.
Again, you'll be findingevidence to prove that correct.
(01:44):
If you change this playlist,then the entire character of
personality that you're playingin your life will change.
But for you to change thisplaylist, you have to observe
it.
You have to be able to thinkabout your thinking.
Your default identity is createdbecause you've stopped being the
author of your life and you'rebecoming the narrator,
(02:07):
especially the narrator of theprimal brain thought, which is
the brain that functions justfor your survival, not for your
growth, not for your evolution,not for your happiness.
And these thoughts come to youin tiny microseconds where
something is happening and yourinterpretation of it.
(02:27):
These thoughts feel true, butthey're just shortcuts that your
brains gotten used to to savethe energy.
They're not necessarily thereflections of who you are,
because with some practice andneuroplasticity, those
reflections can be changed.
If you want your brain to bewired for happiness in your
(02:48):
marriage, but your braindefaults to that's not possible,
he'll never change, I'm the onlyone trying.
When you've believed thesethoughts on marriage, then you
become the woman who can't enjoyher marriage.
You don't consciously choosethis identity.
That's what the brain offers youright out the gate.
(03:10):
These thoughts are handed to youby your lower brain, by your
default interpretation.
Again, this is the brain that'smore interested in keeping you
safe rather than helping youcreate happiness.
And when that identity isformed, then the brain will
fiercely protect it.
It will filter every single oneof your experience to match it.
(03:30):
If he forgets to text back, itwill say, see, I told you if
he's tired and quiet, you knowthat he's not interested in you.
If he tries to help but forgetsor does it clumsily, then you
keep telling yourself this isnever gonna work out.
So suddenly, what is not sosuddenly, your entire emotional
(03:50):
experience looks like it's beencurated to support your default
identity.
And if you choose to go by thosesentences, you have to know that
you're not consciously choosingyour personality.
The brain will go to work toprove the thoughts it's
thinking, even if those are thethoughts that you're not
consciously aware of.
(04:12):
A default identity forms anytime when you accept the first
thought your brain offers, whenit repeats it enough times, and
you assume that these thoughtsreflect the truth as it exists
outside of you.
And it happens in every arena.
Money, I'm not good withfinances, career, I'm not
(04:32):
leadership material.
Parenting, I'm too impatient tobe a good mom.
Faith, I'm having trouble withmy spirituality.
Friendships, I'm always the oneleft out.
None of these are inherentgenetically programmed identity.
None of these are handed to youby nature.
(04:52):
They are just thought habitsrunning on a loop unchecked, and
when left unchecked, they becomeyour character.
And this is where mindmanagement becomes
revolutionary.
This is when you start toquestion the default thoughts
and you start to replace themwith something that actually
helps you, the whole defaultidentity collapses, and a self
(05:16):
determined identity begins toform in its place.
If you continue to identify withthe behaviors that come from a
mismanaged mind, then it's likeyou letting the glitchy part of
your brain being the PR managerof your whole firm.
And then you sit there wonderwhy your life feels like a
chaotic mess.
(05:36):
When you take your worst momentand you make them into your
identity, you are handing yourpower to the lowest functioning
version of yourself.
That's the nafs, mostly nafsalarmara.
Meaning if you yelled once andyou suddenly a person with a bad
temper, or if you freeze duringconflict and you suddenly
(05:57):
identify as a person who's weak,these are all identities created
from a mismanaged mind.
The danger is that throughneuroplasticity all of these get
wired into your brain, and thenyour brain goes to work in
building more and more evidencein terms of neural pathways to
support this identity.
(06:18):
Your mind is a self-fulfillingprophecy generator by design.
Any unexamined belief that youadopt in any micro moment about
yourself, that is the firstsuggestion by your brain.
If you decide to stop, questionit, and rewrite that thought,
then you're on your way tobecoming a more evolved identity
(06:39):
of yourself.
So now I'm going to give you afew examples of what the
contrast looks like between adefault identity and a higher
brain identity, something thatyou intentionally choose.
Default identity can be I'm tooemotional.
The higher brain identity willbe I feel overwhelmed today and
(07:02):
I can learn to support myselfbetter.
Default identity is my marriageis broken.
Higher brain identity says yes,we're struggling right now and
I'm learning how to leademotionally.
Default identity says I'm justan angry person.
Higher brain says I reacted fromanger today and I have the
(07:24):
option to practice a differentresponse next time.
Default says I'm bad with money.
Higher brain says I haven'tlearned money skills yet and I'm
ready to start shifting that.
Default says there's always aproblem.
Higher brain says there's apattern here I want to
(07:45):
understand so that I can show updifferently.
Default says I'm an anxiousperson.
Higher brain says my nervoussystem is activated and I'm
learning how to regulate it.
The evolved identity has rangeand depth.
It expands your life and itallows you to grow.
(08:05):
It elevates your entireexperience of being alive.
How your higher brain identitygets created is that you create
a space between the stimulus andthe response.
And that's not created by force,that's not created by shaming
yourself for being in thedefault identity.
It's created by awareness andrepetition.
(08:27):
It is a bit of a delayedreaction, even if it's
microseconds.
But that microsecond gap whereyou pause and reflect, that is
where your higher brain wakes upand offers you an alternative to
the very first default thoughtthat came to your mind.
So the first step is you createthe space between the stimulus
(08:48):
and the response.
The second step is you noticethe first thought your brain
throws at you and you don't justaccept it at face value.
The next step is you ask aquestion to wake up your higher
brain.
What's the full truth here?
Who do I want to be right now?
And then you choose a thoughtthat aligns with your higher
(09:08):
identity, something and someonethat you want to be, and you go
to practice it.
That way your brain is going tostart to rewire itself through
neuroplasticity with yourhigher, most evolved self, and
then your entire identityshifts.
And this is how you train yourlower napsy self to become the
(09:30):
intern, and your higher brainbecomes the main boss, the
narrator of your life.
And this is the appropriatehierarchy how you're supposed to
live your life.
And this is the process of theskia to naps.
And the identity you start tolive from after that is that
you're no longer a woman that isshaped by fear or conditioned by
(09:50):
culture or her past experiences.
You become a woman who is shapedby intention, values, faith,
self-leadership.
Okay, so now allow me to presenta scenario, and this might or
might not have been true.
As a physician, when your nursedisappears for a full week
without notice and then strollback in next week, your lower
(10:14):
brain identities will fireinstantly.
It will hand you a wholenarrative before you even have a
chance to slow down.
How can she do this?
She doesn't care.
She's unprofessional.
This is dangerous.
I had to do double of the workbecause of her, and the identity
becomes somebody who's alwayscleaning up after others.
Now, honestly speaking, thesearen't right and wrong thoughts.
(10:38):
They will feel justifiable,meaning a physician would feel a
surge of anger if she was leftalone in the clinic to handle
patients and the clinical dutiesall by herself.
The problem begins when thelower brain identity decides
that it is justifiable that thisanger automatically means that
you act unprofessionally towardsher.
(11:00):
This is the version of you thatreacts.
You're not in a leadershipposition in that moment.
If you yell, if you shame, ifyou can't discipline from calm,
then you become the physicianwho loses it on her staff.
Not because that's who you are,but because that's the default
identity your unmanaged mindcreated.
(11:23):
Now, the higher brain identitydoes not silence this anger.
It sees the same facts and feelsthe same frustration, but it
slows down enough to choose aresponse instead of reacting to
the situation.
The higher brain says, My angermakes sense and my job is
accountability for my staff.
(11:44):
The way I respond teaches herhow to show up, and you can
totally fire her if that'swithin your jurisdiction,
because she broke thestipulations of the contract.
But you're going to do that froman identity of a professional
grounded physician.
Not to punish her, not so thatshe can learn a lesson, but so
(12:04):
that you create clear boundariesand expectations, especially
when it comes to expectations atyour work and safety of your
patients.
You address anyunprofessionalism without
becoming unprofessionalyourself.
You express the seriousness ofthe situation without making it
personal.
So the arc here is simple andlife changing.
(12:27):
The lower brain says I'mfurious, so I react and
therefore risk beingunprofessional.
Higher brain says I'm furiousand I lead, and I channel that
energy in doing the right thing.
Default identities are born in asplit second when you believe
the first interpretation yourmind throws at you.
(12:48):
This is dangerous, spiritually,mentally, emotionally dangerous,
because all of this depends onyour primal survival system
doing what it does best,reacting, predicting danger,
labeling you in the mostlimiting way possible.
Your highest soulfulintelligence does not create
(13:09):
sentences about you or about thesituation that keep you small,
and this takes a microsecondlonger to kick into place.
Your evolved identity, theidentity that comes from your
higher brain, speaks from yourvalues and your highest version
of yourself.
This is the version of you thatis always seeking the truth with
(13:29):
the capital T.
And that truth happens to beAllah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
This is why you must dedicateyourself to identifying what
default behaviors are youcalling your personality.
That default behavior is justyour nervous system doing the
bare minimum to protect you.
It's not the fullest expressionof who you are.
(13:50):
If you mistake your defaultidentity for your destiny, you
will live your entire life as aconstricted, under-resourced
version of yourself.
Your higher brain is the voiceof your soul.
It's guiding you towardsbecoming the best version of
yourself.
And all you have to do is slowdown enough to listen to it and
then adapt it as your trueidentity.
(14:13):
The unexamined default identitywill seem to leak into every
corner of your life.
And this does not happen becauseyou're flawed.
This happens because you'venever thought to zoom out and
challenge the default thought.
You've never given yourself thepermission because you've never
been taught that you can giveyour evolved internal lens a
(14:35):
chance to narrate your life.
And this is the entire work ofmind management.
Reclaiming the power to questionand reinterpret, and therefore
rebuilding an identity that isnot running your life on
autopilot.
Your higher brain identity,those are the thoughts that
expand you.
(14:55):
They're the emotions that guideyou, and your actions become
strategic.
Your marriage, your work, yourfaith, your sense of self all
shift towards empowerment.
When you can believe your higherbrain identity that says I'm
capable of creating emotionalsafety in my marriage, your
(15:16):
brain will rise to meet thatidentity.
It will scan for moments ofpossibility.
It will regulate you and it willcreate microbehaviors that
support healing, likeintentional communication or
alternative interpretations, orclearer, firmer, respectful
boundaries.
Your whole life experience willshift because now your brain is
(15:40):
tasked with completing adifferent assignment, to live as
a woman who's capable of livinga peaceful life.
And this is why healing in mycoaching program is so profound.
We are never out to change thecircumstances.
We are just changing theidentity that interpret the
circumstances.
When you shift from your defaultidentity to your higher brain
(16:03):
identity, your entire lifereorganizes around the new
version of you.
You not only start feelingbetter, which is a huge win in
itself, you become a woman whois closer to her faith and
closer to her truest identity.
That is seeking Allah subhanahuwa ta'ala.
With that I pray to Allah, OAllah, guide me to see myself
(16:26):
with truth and replace mydefault thoughts with wisdom.
Strengthen my higher self so Ichoose who I am with intention.
Let my identity be rooted in thesoul you created, and make me a
woman who rises above oldstories.
Ya Allah, let every shift I makebe a step towards a version of
(16:50):
me that is closest to you.
Amin Yarabul Amin.
Please keep me in your du'as, Iwill talk to you guys next time.
Popular Podcasts
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace. I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!
Dateline NBC
Current and classic episodes, featuring compelling true-crime mysteries, powerful documentaries and in-depth investigations. Follow now to get the latest episodes of Dateline NBC completely free, or subscribe to Dateline Premium for ad-free listening and exclusive bonus content: DatelinePremium.com
Stuff You Should Know
If you've ever wanted to know about champagne, satanism, the Stonewall Uprising, chaos theory, LSD, El Nino, true crime and Rosa Parks, then look no further. Josh and Chuck have you covered.