April 8, 2025 • 16 mins
Our brains resist change as an energy-saving mechanism, defaulting to negative self-talk to prevent the resource-intensive process of neuroplasticity.
• Default brain circuitry (nafs) creates resistance by telling us we're broken or incapable
• Change requires breaking down neural pathways and rebuilding new ones, which consumes energy
• When attempting change, the brain offers frightening "truths" that aren't revelations but defense mechanisms
• Spiritual growth often feels difficult because our brains resist new interpretations, even positive ones
• Three-step solution: stop giving default thoughts special treatment, borrow a regulated nervous system through coaching, and shift in small incremental degrees
• Walking through the "panic zone" of the brain without believing its stories is key to transformation
• Small consistent changes compound over time like shifting a ship's course by one degree
Remember to ask yourself: What three things do you want to change but keep putting off? What story does your brain tell when you attempt change? Is your brain resisting because the path is wrong or because it's new?
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
Welcome to Islamic Life Coach School Podcast.
Apply tools that you learn inthis podcast and your life will
be unrecognizably successful.
Now your host, dr Kamal Aftar.
Hello, hello, hello everyone.
Peace and blessings be upon allof you.
In today's world, change is theonly constant, and it does not
have to feel like a bite.
That is going to be the topicof today's podcast.
(00:27):
While change is happeningconstantly around us, we're also
constantly fighting it, andmade me wonder why that is.
Why are people resistant tochange?
Are they assuming that changeis going to be for the worse?
Are they assuming that there'sno change that could ever be for
the better?
What if change is for thebetter?
Why wouldn't people assume that?
(00:47):
Well, the answer to all of thatis because of our default brain
.
It's wired to assume the worst.
That's the first scenario itpresents.
But most of the women that Icoach have a logical
understanding that change isinevitable.
They also understand that somechange might have to come from
within them to be able to changetheir outlook on their life and
(01:08):
their circumstances.
But then universally, I see ahesitation to change, even women
who are very eager to adapt allof whatever self-help industry
has to offer.
They're willing to askquestions, but change is always
difficult for them.
Willing to ask questions, butchange is always difficult for
them.
So I'm going to give you someexamples to see if what relates,
(01:29):
and you can expand it toinclude other examples in your
life.
Let's say you've been taughtcertain things in your
spirituality that certainscriptures only have this one
strict interpretation.
But you know there are otherpossibilities out there, but you
can't get yourself to believethem.
Why is that?
Or you know that certain habitsin your husband, your children,
(01:49):
trigger you, but you also knowthat there are loving and
lovable people, but you can'tchange your triggers.
Why is that?
You know that you might have avery restricted mindset around
money.
You know that money flows whereabundance grows.
Allah SWT says give charity andI will multiply and give it
back to you, but yet you feelfrustrated, restricted and
(02:12):
you're very narrow in yourability to give.
Why is that?
And for most of thesesituations, there takes a
different outlook for you to beable to feel differently about
them, or for you to be able tofeel differently about them, or
for you to be able to create adifferent outcome from them.
So first, before I move on, letme continue to lay a very simple
basic understanding yourthoughts create your feelings
(02:35):
and your feelings create youraction.
Your feelings create theomission of your actions as well
, and the cumulative effect ofthis action in action is a
result that you're living inyour life.
Your restricted mindset aroundmoney creates a restricted
spectrum of feelings aroundmoney, or around any topic about
finance for that matter.
(02:56):
That, in turn, creates minimalproductive action towards
abundance of money, and thatcreates lack of money as a
result.
You know from multiple reels onyour Instagram that creating
abundance around money and thatcreates lack of money as a
result.
You know from multiple reels onyour Instagram that creating
abundance around money creates afree flow of money towards you
in your life, but yet you'reunable to create that change.
This is the example we'reworking with.
(03:18):
Women want change.
They know something's off,they're motivated to create the
change.
They're smart and intelligent,they ask questions, but yet.
So now let's move into why thatactually is.
Let's move into answering allof those whys.
Change costs energy, and yourbrain is the most efficient
(03:40):
energy-saving machine.
It does not want to spend anycalories breaking down old
thoughts and building new ones.
That process of neuroplasticityis messy, it's slow and it's
energy-consuming.
So instead the brain sends outemergency sirens You're not good
with money, you're a bad mom,your spirituality is fake.
(04:02):
Not because any of that is true, but because those thoughts are
well rehearsed and they keepyou from making the neural
upgrades, because any level ofneural upgrades requires the
brain to spend energy, which ithates to do.
Since change is expensive tothe brain, the brain panics.
What is happening is, as soonas you try to upgrade your level
(04:25):
of thinking, brain starts totell a terrifying story,
filtered only through yourdefault circuitry, which is the
nups, the unrefined version ofyourself.
When the brain senses a slighthint, a slightest possibility of
improvement towards an upgrade,it turns into a boogeyman.
It starts to tell you ahorrible story about yourself,
(04:48):
and then the subconscious fearthat what if I find out some
horrible truth about myself?
Blocks the change even beforeit starts.
So this is what I tell allthese women the thought that
there's something horribly wrongwith you, this thought that the
brain presents on your way tochange.
It's not some ultimate truththat you've discovered.
(05:09):
It's just the first defensemechanism that your brain throws
to stop you from changing.
And, in all honesty, it'sabsolutely genius, because the
brain knows how to shut all ofthis change down very fast.
Okay, so let's keep up with theexample of your relationship
with money.
The other very helpfulexplanation for this resistance
(05:30):
to change phenomena is that onceyou embark on this journey of
trying to figure out, okay, whatexactly is it that's keeping me
from financial independence,once you start asking this level
of question, it will create afundamental change in your
thinking.
The very first thing that thebrain offers you as an answer is
that because you're incapable,you're not good with money,
(05:52):
you're not good with math,you're not smart enough to
handle money affairs, you can'tbe trusted with money, etc.
Etc.
On and on it goes.
So the overarching theme hereis you might understand your
need for change in your life.
You also understand that youhave to start the process by
changing your outlook on life.
But the very first explanationthat your mind offers as to why
(06:15):
it's not happening is thatyou're broken.
Brain says you don't have thecapacity for that level of love
because of your childhood.
Brain says you don't know howto be a good boss, how to be a
good businesswoman, becausethere's nothing close to a
leadership quality in you.
The brain says that you'rehaving a hard time as a parent
because your kids don't trustyou.
(06:36):
All of your discipline methodshave failed and your kids are
glued to the screen becauseyou're a bad mother.
This is the quote-unquote proofthat the brain offers to halt
the change.
This is the first line ofself-defense in order to keep
you from going down the road ofneuroplasticity, of
self-improvement, of changingthe brain at the cellular level.
(06:59):
But, like we discussed, thebrain does not like to spend
energy on changing.
It does not like to spendresources on how you're going to
be able to think differently.
It would rather just continueto turn out the same old, stale
thoughts about money, about yourparenting, about your love life
, about your success level andabout your spirituality.
(07:21):
So, all of the elaboratestories based on the evidence
from the path or projections onthe future, the creative thought
patterns about your brokenness,they're not ultimate truth.
This is the quality of the nafs, the primal brain.
The very first explanation anunevolved brain offers as an
answer to everything in lifeComes through the default
(07:44):
circuitry.
This is why change feels like afight.
This is why, no matter how muchyou believe change is important
, you are usually unable to doit by yourself.
In the Quran, Allah says who isit that will lend to Allah a
good loan which Allah willmultiply many times over?
Surah 2, ayah 245.
(08:06):
You might know that you mightbelieve it with every bone in
your body, but when it's time todonate, to invest in yourself,
to spend from a place of trust,you freeze.
That is not hypocrisy.
That is your default brain'sneural wiring.
That is your nafs saying don'tmove, don't change, don't let go
(08:27):
.
And this is especially truewhen it comes to the
interpretation of the deen.
You know that there are gentler, more mercy-centered
interpretations of certainverses or of the teachings of
the Quran and Sunnah, but youdon't let yourself believe them.
Why?
Because then you'd have tochange, and change always feels
(08:48):
dangerous at first, even whenit's divine.
This very simple neurobiologicalexplanation of resistance to
change tells you that changerequires breaking down of
previous building blocks andusing those building blocks to
create new structures.
This is the process ofneuroplasticity.
This is the process of creatingnew dendritic connections
(09:11):
within the neurons of the brain,and this construction requires
energy In the name of efficiency.
It will avoid neuroplasticity,and the higher your processing
power, the more you're able tothink, the more intelligent your
brain is.
It will get very creative,based on all of that potential
that you have, and tell you verycreative stories.
(09:32):
It will give you multiple otherdirections to go into, except
for the one you actually need togo to to create change.
But in this case, your brain,your lower brain, is just
protecting you from your owngreatness.
Because how many times have youprayed for a better life but
instead subconsciously blockedthe answer?
(09:54):
Because it came dressed aschange, change that had to go
through the zone of panic ofyour brain, the zone where
you're comfortable but actuallyexhausted at the same time,
because you're constantlyfighting that internal battle.
The solution and a practical wayto create change without
fighting is you stop giving yourdefault thoughts special
(10:16):
treatment.
You're a bad mom is a thought.
It's not divine revelation,it's not a billable diagnosis,
just a sentence in your brainmade up to keep you in the old
loop.
You don't have to fight it, youjust notice it and you keep
walking.
That was the first step.
This is when we're not givingour default thoughts more
(10:39):
airtime than they deserve.
The second step is you borrow aregulated nervous system, and
this is where coaching comes in.
Your brain needs a steady placeand pace to rewire itself.
That's why women tell me, kamal, I feel so calm around you.
It's not magic, it'sco-regulation and it's powerful.
(11:00):
Step three is you shift in smalldegrees.
You don't take full turns.
Change is like turning a shipIf you shift one degree at a
time, you'll end up in a wholenew continent, in a whole new
direction.
There are no battles, nobreakdowns, just consistency in
one different direction.
Start with one thought, upgradeone feeling, upgrade one new
(11:26):
action.
And this is exactly what we doinside my coaching container,
the Empowered Muslim Woman.
We don't chase change like awar, we don't fight like
warriors, we don't resist it andwe don't fight our natural
neural wiring.
We just let it happen.
We go through change like aprayer steady, loving and
(11:48):
aligned.
So the next time your brain saysyou're broken, you're incapable
, you can't handle this or anyof the other nonsense, any
meaning you assigned to theworld always comes through the
default pathway.
It includes the meaning you'retrying to assign to the change
in your life.
And this default pathway, thatis the nafs, is your basic
(12:10):
out-of-the-box setting, and thepurpose of every Muslim woman in
the world is to evolve throughthis level of thinking.
The purpose is not to fight it,the purpose is not to hold your
nafs against you.
It's not to blame yourcircumstances.
The purpose is that when youfeel like there's a constriction
in your life and you want tocreate a change, you will walk
(12:32):
through the panic zone of thebrain, knowing full well that
it's the defense mechanism, andyou yourself will not panic.
You yourself will not believeany of those thoughts.
The panic zone will sound likethe brain is telling you a whole
bunch of undiscovered truthsabout yourself.
But they're just scare tactics.
They're designed to have youretreat back into your comfort
(12:54):
zone.
The panic zone, made up of allof its stories, is the function
of the nafs, and moving throughit makes the life on earth
better for a Muslim woman and,in my opinion, it makes life so
much more rewarding in theafterlife, inshallah.
When the brain offers youpainful truths, you say thank
you, brain.
(13:14):
I'm moving forward now,building something bigger, now
different.
Now you have the option tosimply not believe your own
brain.
Most women think that theirparticular brain is failing them
when they don't see the changethat they're hoping for, when
your brain is actually defendingyour current identity.
That means every time you'reavoiding change, avoiding
(13:37):
walking through the panic zone,you're actively agreeing to stay
small.
And I don't mean change has tobe big to stay small.
And I don't mean change has tobe big.
I don't mean that it has tocome with creating a nationwide
revolution.
Maybe you want to write morebecause that's your creative
outlet.
Maybe you want to dowatercolors more.
Maybe you want to createdigital graphics, but your ego's
(13:59):
default setting keeps tellingyou that no one is interested in
your work.
That is the panic zone truththat I'm telling you about.
It will say you don't have anaudience.
It will say you're not creative.
This is expected.
These are not hard truths aboutyour creativity.
These are just thoughts.
They're thrown against you as aweapon by your nafs to keep you
(14:21):
from creating your dreams.
Coming over this design is thework that we're put on this
planet to do.
So would you rather stayexhausted in your comfort zone
because of the mind battles thatyou're constantly fighting, or
be uncomfortable in yourevolution?
Answer to yourself what are thethree things?
(14:41):
You know you want to change,but keep putting it off?
What's the story that yourbrain tells you as soon as you
start to try the change?
Is your brain resisting becausethe path is wrong or because
the path is new.
When you have the answer tothese questions, come back to
the three steps to create yourchange.
(15:02):
Step one stop giving defaultthoughts extra special treatment
.
Step two borrow a regulatednervous system.
Step three shift in smalldegrees, not in complete
revolutions.
With that, I pray to Allah,subhanahu wa ta'ala.
Ya Allah, guide me through thenoise of my thoughts when my
(15:27):
mind tells me I'm broken.
Remind me that I am yourcreation, still unfolding.
When fear whispers that I'm notcapable, anchor me in your
promise that you are enough forme.
Ya Allah, soften the grip of myego on me.
Give me the courage to walkthrough discomfort with grace.
O Allah, let every resistancethat my mind and my body offers
(15:48):
be a reminder of your greatness,and let every step I take
towards betterment be a steptowards you.
Ameen, ya Rabbul Alameen,please keep me in your du'as.
I will talk to you guys nexttime.
Welcome to Islamic Life Coach School Podcast.
Apply tools that you learn inthis podcast and your life will
be unrecognizably successful.
Now your host, dr Kamal Aftar.
Hello, hello, hello everyone.
Peace and blessings be upon allof you.
In today's world, change is theonly constant, and it does not
have to feel like a bite.
That is going to be the topicof today's podcast.
(00:27):
While change is happeningconstantly around us, we're also
constantly fighting it, andmade me wonder why that is.
Why are people resistant tochange?
Are they assuming that changeis going to be for the worse?
Are they assuming that there'sno change that could ever be for
the better?
What if change is for thebetter?
Why wouldn't people assume that?
(00:47):
Well, the answer to all of thatis because of our default brain
.
It's wired to assume the worst.
That's the first scenario itpresents.
But most of the women that Icoach have a logical
understanding that change isinevitable.
They also understand that somechange might have to come from
within them to be able to changetheir outlook on their life and
(01:08):
their circumstances.
But then universally, I see ahesitation to change, even women
who are very eager to adapt allof whatever self-help industry
has to offer.
They're willing to askquestions, but change is always
difficult for them.
Willing to ask questions, butchange is always difficult for
them.
So I'm going to give you someexamples to see if what relates,
(01:29):
and you can expand it toinclude other examples in your
life.
Let's say you've been taughtcertain things in your
spirituality that certainscriptures only have this one
strict interpretation.
But you know there are otherpossibilities out there, but you
can't get yourself to believethem.
Why is that?
Or you know that certain habitsin your husband, your children,
(01:49):
trigger you, but you also knowthat there are loving and
lovable people, but you can'tchange your triggers.
Why is that?
You know that you might have avery restricted mindset around
money.
You know that money flows whereabundance grows.
Allah SWT says give charity andI will multiply and give it
back to you, but yet you feelfrustrated, restricted and
(02:12):
you're very narrow in yourability to give.
Why is that?
And for most of thesesituations, there takes a
different outlook for you to beable to feel differently about
them, or for you to be able tofeel differently about them, or
for you to be able to create adifferent outcome from them.
So first, before I move on, letme continue to lay a very simple
basic understanding yourthoughts create your feelings
(02:35):
and your feelings create youraction.
Your feelings create theomission of your actions as well
, and the cumulative effect ofthis action in action is a
result that you're living inyour life.
Your restricted mindset aroundmoney creates a restricted
spectrum of feelings aroundmoney, or around any topic about
finance for that matter.
(02:56):
That, in turn, creates minimalproductive action towards
abundance of money, and thatcreates lack of money as a
result.
You know from multiple reels onyour Instagram that creating
abundance around money and thatcreates lack of money as a
result.
You know from multiple reels onyour Instagram that creating
abundance around money creates afree flow of money towards you
in your life, but yet you'reunable to create that change.
This is the example we'reworking with.
(03:18):
Women want change.
They know something's off,they're motivated to create the
change.
They're smart and intelligent,they ask questions, but yet.
So now let's move into why thatactually is.
Let's move into answering allof those whys.
Change costs energy, and yourbrain is the most efficient
(03:40):
energy-saving machine.
It does not want to spend anycalories breaking down old
thoughts and building new ones.
That process of neuroplasticityis messy, it's slow and it's
energy-consuming.
So instead the brain sends outemergency sirens You're not good
with money, you're a bad mom,your spirituality is fake.
(04:02):
Not because any of that is true, but because those thoughts are
well rehearsed and they keepyou from making the neural
upgrades, because any level ofneural upgrades requires the
brain to spend energy, which ithates to do.
Since change is expensive tothe brain, the brain panics.
What is happening is, as soonas you try to upgrade your level
(04:25):
of thinking, brain starts totell a terrifying story,
filtered only through yourdefault circuitry, which is the
nups, the unrefined version ofyourself.
When the brain senses a slighthint, a slightest possibility of
improvement towards an upgrade,it turns into a boogeyman.
It starts to tell you ahorrible story about yourself,
(04:48):
and then the subconscious fearthat what if I find out some
horrible truth about myself?
Blocks the change even beforeit starts.
So this is what I tell allthese women the thought that
there's something horribly wrongwith you, this thought that the
brain presents on your way tochange.
It's not some ultimate truththat you've discovered.
(05:09):
It's just the first defensemechanism that your brain throws
to stop you from changing.
And, in all honesty, it'sabsolutely genius, because the
brain knows how to shut all ofthis change down very fast.
Okay, so let's keep up with theexample of your relationship
with money.
The other very helpfulexplanation for this resistance
(05:30):
to change phenomena is that onceyou embark on this journey of
trying to figure out, okay, whatexactly is it that's keeping me
from financial independence,once you start asking this level
of question, it will create afundamental change in your
thinking.
The very first thing that thebrain offers you as an answer is
that because you're incapable,you're not good with money,
(05:52):
you're not good with math,you're not smart enough to
handle money affairs, you can'tbe trusted with money, etc.
Etc.
On and on it goes.
So the overarching theme hereis you might understand your
need for change in your life.
You also understand that youhave to start the process by
changing your outlook on life.
But the very first explanationthat your mind offers as to why
(06:15):
it's not happening is thatyou're broken.
Brain says you don't have thecapacity for that level of love
because of your childhood.
Brain says you don't know howto be a good boss, how to be a
good businesswoman, becausethere's nothing close to a
leadership quality in you.
The brain says that you'rehaving a hard time as a parent
because your kids don't trustyou.
(06:36):
All of your discipline methodshave failed and your kids are
glued to the screen becauseyou're a bad mother.
This is the quote-unquote proofthat the brain offers to halt
the change.
This is the first line ofself-defense in order to keep
you from going down the road ofneuroplasticity, of
self-improvement, of changingthe brain at the cellular level.
(06:59):
But, like we discussed, thebrain does not like to spend
energy on changing.
It does not like to spendresources on how you're going to
be able to think differently.
It would rather just continueto turn out the same old, stale
thoughts about money, about yourparenting, about your love life
, about your success level andabout your spirituality.
(07:21):
So, all of the elaboratestories based on the evidence
from the path or projections onthe future, the creative thought
patterns about your brokenness,they're not ultimate truth.
This is the quality of the nafs, the primal brain.
The very first explanation anunevolved brain offers as an
answer to everything in lifeComes through the default
(07:44):
circuitry.
This is why change feels like afight.
This is why, no matter how muchyou believe change is important
, you are usually unable to doit by yourself.
In the Quran, Allah says who isit that will lend to Allah a
good loan which Allah willmultiply many times over?
Surah 2, ayah 245.
(08:06):
You might know that you mightbelieve it with every bone in
your body, but when it's time todonate, to invest in yourself,
to spend from a place of trust,you freeze.
That is not hypocrisy.
That is your default brain'sneural wiring.
That is your nafs saying don'tmove, don't change, don't let go
(08:27):
.
And this is especially truewhen it comes to the
interpretation of the deen.
You know that there are gentler, more mercy-centered
interpretations of certainverses or of the teachings of
the Quran and Sunnah, but youdon't let yourself believe them.
Why?
Because then you'd have tochange, and change always feels
(08:48):
dangerous at first, even whenit's divine.
This very simple neurobiologicalexplanation of resistance to
change tells you that changerequires breaking down of
previous building blocks andusing those building blocks to
create new structures.
This is the process ofneuroplasticity.
This is the process of creatingnew dendritic connections
(09:11):
within the neurons of the brain,and this construction requires
energy In the name of efficiency.
It will avoid neuroplasticity,and the higher your processing
power, the more you're able tothink, the more intelligent your
brain is.
It will get very creative,based on all of that potential
that you have, and tell you verycreative stories.
(09:32):
It will give you multiple otherdirections to go into, except
for the one you actually need togo to to create change.
But in this case, your brain,your lower brain, is just
protecting you from your owngreatness.
Because how many times have youprayed for a better life but
instead subconsciously blockedthe answer?
(09:54):
Because it came dressed aschange, change that had to go
through the zone of panic ofyour brain, the zone where
you're comfortable but actuallyexhausted at the same time,
because you're constantlyfighting that internal battle.
The solution and a practical wayto create change without
fighting is you stop giving yourdefault thoughts special
(10:16):
treatment.
You're a bad mom is a thought.
It's not divine revelation,it's not a billable diagnosis,
just a sentence in your brainmade up to keep you in the old
loop.
You don't have to fight it, youjust notice it and you keep
walking.
That was the first step.
This is when we're not givingour default thoughts more
(10:39):
airtime than they deserve.
The second step is you borrow aregulated nervous system, and
this is where coaching comes in.
Your brain needs a steady placeand pace to rewire itself.
That's why women tell me, kamal, I feel so calm around you.
It's not magic, it'sco-regulation and it's powerful.
(11:00):
Step three is you shift in smalldegrees.
You don't take full turns.
Change is like turning a shipIf you shift one degree at a
time, you'll end up in a wholenew continent, in a whole new
direction.
There are no battles, nobreakdowns, just consistency in
one different direction.
Start with one thought, upgradeone feeling, upgrade one new
(11:26):
action.
And this is exactly what we doinside my coaching container,
the Empowered Muslim Woman.
We don't chase change like awar, we don't fight like
warriors, we don't resist it andwe don't fight our natural
neural wiring.
We just let it happen.
We go through change like aprayer steady, loving and
(11:48):
aligned.
So the next time your brain saysyou're broken, you're incapable
, you can't handle this or anyof the other nonsense, any
meaning you assigned to theworld always comes through the
default pathway.
It includes the meaning you'retrying to assign to the change
in your life.
And this default pathway, thatis the nafs, is your basic
(12:10):
out-of-the-box setting, and thepurpose of every Muslim woman in
the world is to evolve throughthis level of thinking.
The purpose is not to fight it,the purpose is not to hold your
nafs against you.
It's not to blame yourcircumstances.
The purpose is that when youfeel like there's a constriction
in your life and you want tocreate a change, you will walk
(12:32):
through the panic zone of thebrain, knowing full well that
it's the defense mechanism, andyou yourself will not panic.
You yourself will not believeany of those thoughts.
The panic zone will sound likethe brain is telling you a whole
bunch of undiscovered truthsabout yourself.
But they're just scare tactics.
They're designed to have youretreat back into your comfort
(12:54):
zone.
The panic zone, made up of allof its stories, is the function
of the nafs, and moving throughit makes the life on earth
better for a Muslim woman and,in my opinion, it makes life so
much more rewarding in theafterlife, inshallah.
When the brain offers youpainful truths, you say thank
you, brain.
(13:14):
I'm moving forward now,building something bigger, now
different.
Now you have the option tosimply not believe your own
brain.
Most women think that theirparticular brain is failing them
when they don't see the changethat they're hoping for, when
your brain is actually defendingyour current identity.
That means every time you'reavoiding change, avoiding
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walking through the panic zone,you're actively agreeing to stay
small.
And I don't mean change has tobe big to stay small.
And I don't mean change has tobe big.
I don't mean that it has tocome with creating a nationwide
revolution.
Maybe you want to write morebecause that's your creative
outlet.
Maybe you want to dowatercolors more.
Maybe you want to createdigital graphics, but your ego's
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default setting keeps tellingyou that no one is interested in
your work.
That is the panic zone truththat I'm telling you about.
It will say you don't have anaudience.
It will say you're not creative.
This is expected.
These are not hard truths aboutyour creativity.
These are just thoughts.
They're thrown against you as aweapon by your nafs to keep you
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from creating your dreams.
Coming over this design is thework that we're put on this
planet to do.
So would you rather stayexhausted in your comfort zone
because of the mind battles thatyou're constantly fighting, or
be uncomfortable in yourevolution?
Answer to yourself what are thethree things?
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You know you want to change,but keep putting it off?
What's the story that yourbrain tells you as soon as you
start to try the change?
Is your brain resisting becausethe path is wrong or because
the path is new.
When you have the answer tothese questions, come back to
the three steps to create yourchange.
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Step one stop giving defaultthoughts extra special treatment
.
Step two borrow a regulatednervous system.
Step three shift in smalldegrees, not in complete
revolutions.
With that, I pray to Allah,subhanahu wa ta'ala.
Ya Allah, guide me through thenoise of my thoughts when my
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mind tells me I'm broken.
Remind me that I am yourcreation, still unfolding.
When fear whispers that I'm notcapable, anchor me in your
promise that you are enough forme.
Ya Allah, soften the grip of myego on me.
Give me the courage to walkthrough discomfort with grace.
O Allah, let every resistancethat my mind and my body offers
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be a reminder of your greatness,and let every step I take
towards betterment be a steptowards you.
Ameen, ya Rabbul Alameen,please keep me in your du'as.
I will talk to you guys nexttime.
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