It's A Mess, Sis!

It's A Mess, Sis!

A therapeutic conversation geared towards black queer women who have discovered that the life script is not enough! Come join us and if you vibe, we tribe!

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June 15, 2023 62 mins

Hello, Hello!

Welcome back to the conversation. This Episode is all about being “weird”. We define it, discuss the impact of “being weird” in our lives, like the good, bad, ugly, and weird. Then round it out with how we cope.

We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal...

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Mother's Day just passed and we used our recording time to not only discuss our beautiful mothers but also to explore how we are "Mothering" ourselves in life and carrying on their work.

So, join us.... as we have conversation about “Mothering” and  what it means to be a mother to oneself,  the impact of stepping into that maternal role as we learn to care for ourselves and conclude with how we are coping an...

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May 4, 2023 48 mins

Y'all are back!!!...and we love y'all for that!... 

This episode we have conversation about “healing” and “ambition” (define), how the two correlate (aka impact), and how we (cope) moving forward.

We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or just reflect…or just kee...

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 Question: If the World was Ending, Would You Want to Know?

 

This episode we  have conversation about “knowing” talk about the impact and how we cope with having so much access to information, knowledge, and each other. 

We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this conversation with us, with others, with yourself, so feel free to pause where you see fit to give you time to write, journal, or ...

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Back with a lighter conversation for you all!

We've all done it. Thought about something unsavoryr...illegal... a crime and said "no, I could never, it would cost too much, it's too much of a risk...but what if it wasn't? What if you had a real "Get out of Jail" card?

That's what we talk about in this episode...if there were no consequences, what crime would we commit, why, and w...

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What do y'all think?

As the title implies, this week we talk about Black "Excellence" vs "Mediocrity" and find our selves on opposite sides of the spectrum. So give us a listen, hit us up on social media, and join the  conversation!


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BOOM, you're suddenly 25, 29, or 32...or whatever age and you look up and ask yourself, "Damn, where did my friends go?"

This is your episode.


Alot of us spend our years going through "Growing Pains" at different stages in our lives. When we are children, we go through physical growing pains from our bodys shifting and changing, as teens we tackle independence and sense of self as we ...

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Ever hear of Pride and Prejuidice? Well today we bring you "Failure and Punishment"...LOL.

Seriously,  this episode we are talking about.....failure in our lives and the ways in which we punish ourselves, and the impact of it all.

This is a topic I think everyone actively avoids in both  action and thought. Even in describing this episode, I feel like I am failing to fully capture the weight of this them...

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February 9, 2023 58 mins

Hey Everyone!

We're a week late and a few dollars short (we literally forgot to record and post last week)...and you know what?... we accept that!

And that is what our episode is all about.

ACCEPTANCE.

This episode we seek to explore our definitions or acceptance, analyze how acceptance shows up in our lives, and how we intend to cope. So listen in and feel free to contact us using the info ...

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January 19, 2023 69 mins

“Freedom is never given voluntarily by the oppressor; it must be demanded by the oppressed." - MLK
 
You know when you open something with an MLK quote...or a quote in general, we are about to be on 10!
 
On this MLK day (when recorded), we decided to discuss one of the pillars of Dr. King's movement and that was...FREEDOM.
 
Or maybe this topic came up because we found ourselves at work one d...

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Here's to Another Year Y'all! ( Entering Year 4...We 80 episodes DEEP!!!!)

And back with our favorite recurring episode where we set our INTENTIONS for the new year, discuss last year's intentions, and share how we intend to cope in going forward. We welcome you to listen in and join us in setting intentions of your own!

We make each section clearly know so that you can follow along and have this co...

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Since Time is Money, and talk is cheap... Let's get straight to the point...

This conversation we talk about money, the perceptions of it, where those perceptions came from and what money is really about for us personally.

Give us a listen, and let us know your thoughts using our contacts below!
 
 OH, and if you vibe...we tribe!

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December 7, 2022 50 mins

We're Back!

And grateful to be back!  This episode our conversation centers around what what it means to be grateful, what we are grateful for and how gratitude has been a powerful tool in our lives. And by now you should know that we organize every episode by DIC'ing it down which stands for Define, Impact, and Cope...and if you don't know, now you know!

Give us a listen, give us your input (using ...

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Hey Y'all

Back w/ another conversation. This time the topic comes from one of listeners wanting to hear us DIC down and explore the our thoughts on the perceptions and  expectations of black men in relationships and under societal gender norms. For example ( via the abyss that is the twitter verse): Does a black man sleeping on his stomach make him less of a protector? Does  having a nose ring/ septum piercing mean he...

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Time to break the shackles off my feet so I can HEAL or whatever MARY MARY said... This really should have been the title but we were playing...

Randomness aside

This episode is about breaking generational curses, cycles, etc so that we can break free of trauma and usher in the lives we desire.

The agenda for this episode: 

As always, is to DIC’ it down, which stands for:

Define, Impact,  and Cope

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October 12, 2022 62 mins

Hey Everybody!

So, we've all felt guilt about something, right? 

But,

What do you do with it? Do you just let it consume you? What's the right amount of time to feel guilty before you move on? Do you avoid it? What does it REALLY mean?  Is it valid ? Can it be helpful? How do you release it?

These are questions we tackle in this week's conversation centers on "Guilt".<...

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I don't know if it's mercury being in microbraids, or what, but there seems to be this feeling of change in the air? Have you felt that you are on the verge of beginning something, or even starting something...again?Do you have a desire to start something? Are you figuring out how to resume with like anew following changes in your life? or something that makes you feel like you are embarking on new beginnings?

G...

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Hey Hey Y'all

Back with another episode and this one is all about Monogamy...which was often confused with "Monotony" throughout the conversation...Could it have been a Fruedian Slip...possibly...how about you give the conversation a listen and find out!

The agenda for this episode: THE DIC
 
“Is always to DIC’ it down. Define, Impact, Cope". 

This episode explores the definition of Mono...

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Is "Quiet Quitting" the way? or is it just a way to get fired?

"Quiet Quitting" is the new term taking over Tik Tok, Twitter, Linked in, CNN, all the media sites for everyone's likes. Some deem it the perfect merger between life and work and others chalk it up to a vow of inadquacy that will do more harm than good.

So what do we think? That is what this episode is all about. Is "Quiet...

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August 18, 2022 85 mins

Well, well, wel...come BACK!

Have you ever felt ...distracted? Fidgety? Unfocused? Uninterested?  Described as flighty or immature?  and recently felt like your life and personality traits have been read for filth by a tik tok or instagram influencers with no credentials outside of a blue check serving as their only source of validity..? and yet it has made you question...

Do I have it?

ADHD that is....

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