It’s Not You, It’s Your Trauma - Trauma, PTSD, Abuse, Anxiety & Recovery - Joe Ryan

It’s Not You, It’s Your Trauma - Trauma, PTSD, Abuse, Anxiety & Recovery - Joe Ryan

Joe delves into the complexities of trauma and its impact on behaviors, emotions, and relationships. He emphasizes the importance of being authentically courageous and vulnerable. Joe shares his expertise and personal experiences to help listeners understand and overcome their struggles. The podcast provides a supportive and empathetic space for individuals to learn, reflect, and take steps towards a more authentic and fulfilling life. For access to all episodes and bonus content, subscribe at https://joeryan.com/subscribe

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February 18, 2025 16 mins

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It’s Not You - It’s Your Codependency 


Years ago, I was trapped in a cycle of disappointments and betrayals, constantly searching outside myself to fill the voids left by my upbringing. It was a painful realization...

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It’s Not You – It’s Your Reluctance to Change


Gaslighting isn't just a word—it's a way of life for some people. They thrive in toxic relationships where happiness hinges on external validation. They lack sel...

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December 3, 2024 27 mins

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It’s Not You—It’s Our Childhood Experiences

Growing up, many of us felt the sting of neglect and carried the silent burden of our caregivers' unmet needs. This often molded us into perfectionists, constructin...

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October 15, 2024 30 mins

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It’s Not You—It’s Your Lack of Boundaries

True progress in your healing journey isn’t measured by avoiding what hurt you but by how you handle returning to places that once caused you the most pain. It’s ti...

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October 10, 2024 52 secs

Joe Ryan will host a sixty-minute Q&A session via Zoom once a month with limited spots to ensure full participation. If you'd like to join the discussion, please fill out the form below to receive an email notification when registration opens one week before the next scheduled session.
Topics: Trauma, False Self, Family Systems, Addiction,
Anxiety, Shame, Emotional Incest, Setting Boundaries


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September 5, 2024 26 mins

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It’s not you - it’s your family system.

 

But it’s you, too. It’s time to talk about the necessity of weaning off external validation and learning to live a life aligned with one’s true self. 

 

To heal, ...

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In the most recent episode of "It's Not You, It's Your Trauma," Joe Ryan delves into toxic relationships. These relationships, characterized by emotional unavailability, abuse, and negle...

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May 15, 2024 30 mins

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Anger and hate are both related to unmet needs. When we feel angry, it's because we want something that we're not getting. And when we feel hate, it's because we have deep needs that are not b...

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May 2, 2024 16 mins

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If you grew up in a family system that was shame-based, you may feel weighed down by shame. Shame shields us from pain and neglect, but it's also a burden. Shame-based family systems are harsh and jud...

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April 2, 2024 31 mins

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Many of us are emotionally stuck at a point where we feel that our self-worth is completely dependent on our mother's love and acceptance. This can lead to a deep wound when we don't receive the love...

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March 4, 2024 33 mins

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Have you ever had a moment that felt like a key turning in a lock, opening doors to rooms within yourself you didn't know existed? That's what Joe Ryan's latest podcast episode feels like—a ra...

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January 16, 2024 20 mins

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The terrible two in children is a vital step in their emotional development. It is a psychological birth that starts separation and independence from caregivers. 


At this stage, the child goes from h...

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November 14, 2023 22 mins

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After a long hiatus, Joe is back with a new perspective, insight, and positivity that he is ready to share! Deciding to focus on genuinely caring for himself for a while, Joe is ready to share some of the more i...

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October 26, 2023 21 mins

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Family System Revisited builds off the Family Shame Episode (Episode 69), in which Joe elaborates on the pressures of family expectations and the toll it takes on a...

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April 19, 2023 14 mins

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“Making the Right Choice” directly solves issues you currently experience in your own life with a simple message… "You Can’t Do This Work Alone"


In this episode, Joe talks about the important changes he made in his li...

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March 8, 2023 8 mins

Can I Recover On My Own?


Joe Ryan is a Certified Peer Support Specialist who knows trauma because he’s lived it and learned to live beyond it.  Joe has been on a lifelong journey to overcome trauma, shame, and the demons that plagued him from early in life. Joe is turning his mission outward, helping others conquer their traumatic experiences through his podcast (“It’s Not You, It’s Your Trauma“) and one-on-one coaching.

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February 7, 2023 8 mins

Joe Ryan is a Certified Peer Support Specialist who knows trauma because he’s lived it and learned to live beyond it.  Joe has been on a lifelong journey to overcome trauma, shame, and the demons that plagued him from early in life. Joe is turning his mission outward, helping others conquer their traumatic experiences through his podcast (“It’s Not You, It’s Your Trauma“) and one-on-one coaching.

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How do we sit with our pain? How do we learn to grieve loss, innocence, self-respect, and pride…all while learning to empower ourselves to live our daily lives?

In this episode, Joe discusses how we need to treat the pain we feel every day the same way we would grieve something even more devasting, like a death of a friend, ...

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December 7, 2022 1 min
A new episode will be out in a few days. Until then, you can listen to my interview on the Adult Child Podcast. In the interview, we discuss navigating dating with CPTSD, attraction vs. attachment, the importance of developing an unshakable sense of self., setting boundaries with family members, and the importance of sitting with our feelings. Listen On Apple Listen On Spotify
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November 1, 2022 26 mins

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Grief…dealing with heartbreak and loss. Most of us have grieved the loss of a loved one… a pet loss, a friend, a parent, or a romantic relationship. The process doesn't have a timeline, and all five stages are not linear, yet they are all intertwined. It’s a big bucket of emotions… grief, sadness, anger, guilt, anxiety, confusio...

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