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Have you ever felt like your basic needs were overshadowing your aspirations for personal growth? Join me, Hazel Brown, as I share the lessons I've learned from navigating the delicate balance between survival and self-actualization. Drawing from Maslow's hierarchy of needs, this episode is a heartfelt exploration of my own journey—overcoming financial and health challenges to pursue my dreams. I discuss the profound impact of having a supportive environment and the courage it takes to walk away from toxicity, all while striving for success and happiness.

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to.
It's the Human ExperiencePodcast Hosted by Hazel Brown, a
healthcare leader, wife, momand career coach.
If you're big on authenticity,personal development,
perseverance and transparency,you're in the right place.
Get ready to be uplifted,inspired and empowered as you

(00:23):
become fearless in pursuit ofthe life you desire and deserve.
Our goal is to help you levelup by creating a safe space to
learn and reflect, whilelistening to transparent stories
from our host or successfulprofessionals and business
owners who've agreed to sharethe parts of success that
typically gets x'd out on socialmedia, because that's the part

(00:46):
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that'll help you to grow andglow.

Speaker 2 (01:13):
Hey, hey, hey.
You are now tuned in to theit's the Human Experience
Podcast.
I'm your host, hazel Brown.
Today I wanted to talk to youguys about some things as I was
reflecting on Mazel's hierarchyof needs and the thought process
around how, as human beings, weneed basic needs fulfilled,

(01:36):
such as shelter, food security,feeling safe connections,
knowing that that is somethingthat I absolutely have used in
my life, and understanding theprinciples of how we are all
connected and our wants andneeds and how they're
interrelated.
It is very difficult for one tofunction and focus on fulfilling

(02:02):
their goals and becoming theirhighest self when their most
basic needs, such as shelter,food, are not met.
It is also difficult, as we goup a level in focusing on
creating healthy connections,when things such as the security
, financial security, healthsecurity, personal well-being

(02:25):
and all the things are not met.
It's kind of hard for one tofocus on creating strong
relationships and bonds withothers Outside of the connection
piece.
I need to focus on gettingmyself together before I can
focus on trying to be the bestversion of myself, or a
friendship or a relationship orwhatever the case may be.
That is understood, but I feellike there has been many times

(02:51):
where I wasn't at my best, in afinancial situation, even in a
health situation, but I stillshow up for my goals.
Sometimes you got to pushthrough this stuff right.
I've been on both sides.
There have been moments in mylife where whatever was in front
of me was so hard.
It felt like in that momentthat I was not thinking about a

(03:14):
goal, I was not thinking aboutgetting things done right, I
wasn't thinking aboutfulfillment, I wasn't thinking
about happiness.
I was strictly trying to figureout how to get through what it
is I was going through.
I think from that standpoint itled me to understand the other
side.
Right?
How can someone expect you toshow up for that connection,

(03:40):
expect you to show up to goafter your goals, expect you to
become your highest self whenyou don't feel safe, you don't
feel secure, you're in a toxicrelationship, your friendships
are full of negativity, there'slots of judging, there's lots of
competing, there's lots of nocheerleading and within that

(04:02):
frame, that is a circle that youhave, and so within that circle
, it then tends to manifest inyour life because you start to
feel like, oh my God, maybe Ican't do it.
Oh my God, maybe they're right9 times out of 10.
You're already telling yourselfyou can't do it.
You're already telling yourselfyou're not enough.

(04:24):
If you're in that circle andframework where the people
around you are so negative,their limiting beliefs start to
become your own, if you didn'teven already have them right,
and so I want you to be mindfulof knowing that you can remove
yourself from circumstances,relationships, situations, jobs,

(04:46):
cities, places and things thatdon't serve you.
I wanted to go there because Ifeel like, for me, I would be
remiss if I didn't remind youthat you have one life to live.
Every day is your ability toenjoy the life that you have in

(05:08):
the present moment, and becauseyou don't necessarily get
another life, you have to makesure you're living it in a way
that serves you the most.
It doesn't mean that, throughthose connections and
relationships, you won'tencounter an argument here and
there.
Hence I said here and there.

(05:30):
It should not be every day, itshould not be every week, it
should not be every month, hereand there, and whatever feels
comfortable for you I knowyou're probably like Hazel, what
do you mean?
Whatever feels comfortable foryou, let's rewind and sit there.
Some people love drama, right,and you know who you are, and if

(05:54):
you're one of those peoplewhere you enjoy that argument
every now and then, then maybeevery week is cool for you.
And you have to know that foryourself.
If you're the kind of personwhere you prioritize peace, you
prioritize being around peoplethat value you, they're gonna
correct you but at the same time, they see your worth, they know

(06:17):
who you are, they haveself-actualized you, then you
may want that peace to where.
I'm not going through this,that and the third every day,
every week, every month, like,give me once a quarter and I'm
good with that.
I want you to really analyzewhat makes sense for you in

(06:38):
terms of too much toxicity inyour relationship, whether it be
a partner, it be a familymember, it be a bestie, it be an
associate, it be your coworkers, it be your neighbors, I don't
care who it is.
I want you to take some timeand think about what are your

(06:59):
circles like Really, think aboutwhat the future looks like for
you and decide what needs tohappen to create the foundation
for yourself where you can showup stronger with peace.
You can show up healthy from amental standpoint, from a
financial standpoint and from anoverall well-being standpoint

(07:21):
when you think about your healthand wellness.
We're looking at social media,we're looking at this person,
we're looking at how others dothings, and I think it's very
important that we, as human,take some time to reflect on who
we are, who we wanna be andwhat kind of life we wanna live.

(07:41):
And, most importantly, whatkind of life we're currently
living.
And how does that life align tothe life that we see for
ourselves, that we know that weare deserving of?
And in that situation there'swhere you're gonna make a
decision Do I push througheverything that I'm going

(08:02):
through so I can go after mygoals or do I need to sit in
this and clean it up Becausethis is not okay.
There's no pushing throughright now because the
circumstances that I'm currentlydealing with.
It requires some cleanup.
We can't push through the muckbecause it's just too much muck
Like I need to get them to sendme a whole big old dumpster to

(08:22):
clean up some of these people,these things, these situations,
all of the hoarding that we'redoing in our life.
Because during my reflection, Irealized that too many times,
aside from going through themuck and it being difficult to
push through it, it beingdifficult to see the vision and

(08:45):
how things can come to fruition,I think what happens is we're
thinking that other people aresupposed to help us reach
self-actualization, they'resupposed to supply our basic
needs.
They're supposed to make surethat we feel safe.
They're supposed to make surethat we feel loved and our

(09:08):
connections are full.
They're supposed to help usreach our goals.
They're supposed to show up forus, but I would be remiss if I
didn't let you know that theperson responsible for supplying
your basic needs is you.
The person responsible formaking sure that you feel safe

(09:32):
is you.
The person responsible formaking sure that the connections
are pure, strong, full of love,genuine, authentic, real, all
the things right.
Is you.
The person responsible forhelping you get to the next
level, to use your magic, to useyour gifts, to show up as your

(09:58):
full self is you, though.
It is extremely important toanalyze your circle, to look at
the way that you're living youreveryday life and how it aligns
with your future self and withthe gifts that you were born
with, with you using all of yourinner challenges, goals, wisdom

(10:23):
, knowing to get to the nextlevel.
How does that align with whereyou want to go and what you want
to be, and who you want to doit with?
That's where that reflectioncomes in to, where you're
looking at everyone, everything,the spaces and places that

(10:44):
you're showing up in.
But, most importantly, you wantto analyze you and how you're
showing up for you.
I feel like, strictly myopinion, I could be dead wrong,
but I want you to realize thatmany times the reason why we're

(11:05):
not where we need to be outsideof what has happened to us that
we had no control over.
I was born into poverty.
I was born in without a silverspoon.
I was the first in my family togo to college.
I had to figure it all out onmy own.

(11:27):
I had to figure it out.
I've seen some things, beenthrough some rough situations,
and none of that was my fault.
But am I going to use thosecircumstances and things to stop
me from living out the lifethat I know I'm deserving of
living?
Am I going to use all of thethings that has happened to me

(11:52):
and decide that, oh my God, thishappened to me because I'm in a
victim mindset, or am I goingto learn from it and understand
that God is too intentional?
There is something I wassupposed to learn from that.
There is something that he'strying to teach me, especially
if this lesson keeps repeating,I'm not picking it up fast

(12:13):
enough.
I'm not learning.
I'm not understanding what itis he's trying to show me and,
knowing the God I serve, I knowthat, no matter what it is I'm
going through, no matter thefeels, whether they're good
feels or bad feels, he's toointentional.
I'm supposed to learn from this.

(12:33):
I'm supposed to use this tolift someone else up.
I'm supposed to understand thatthis situation happens in other
people too, and worse.
I'm not supposed to be likepoor me and you can for a second
, but I want you to rememberthat does nothing, it's not
productive, it provides noresults, and so I deflect.

(12:57):
But I wanted to make sure I satthere because I wouldn't do you
a good service if we just talkedabout looking at your circles,
betting on yourself, and notaddressing the fact that, yeah,
we go through some stuff, butmake a decision.
Are those things going to beused to hold you down?
Are you going to break throughit and understand that you're

(13:19):
not alone?
Get out a network, starttalking to some folks while
you're at home, pull up Google,research some of your favorite
folks and look at their storiesand what they've gone through
and ask yourself, man, if theyovercame that.
I probably need to stopcomplaining about my little

(13:43):
stuff Like I wasn't even in thecar, homeless, I've complained
about a shelter.
I want you to start goingthrough a process where you no
longer feel sorry for yourselfand you start to realize like I
can and I will.
I understand that things happen.
I understand that things arenot seemingly straight up, like

(14:07):
we're going to go through someups, downs, up, down, down, down
, up, down, up down.
It's going to happen.
But I always say it's not ananomaly to you.
Everyone's going through thehuman experience.
I want you to pick things upand understand that you can.
You are born with thatgreatness within.
You are deserving of living thelife, re-evaluate your life and

(14:32):
move forward, embedding onyourself and becoming the person
that you know your destined tobe.
If you hadn't already listenedto episode four, go back and
listen to it, because we'retalking through Maslow's
hierarchy of needs.
But I wanted to provide you adifferent perspective as I
reflected on episode four.

(14:52):
While, true, we need all thosethings around our basic
necessities, feeling safe, thoseconnections and moving into
self-actualization, it is veryimportant for us to analyze our
circles and analyze our self andmake sure that we're giving our

(15:12):
self that safe space, we arecreating those connections
necessary, we are providing ourbasic needs and making sure we
are well, personally,financially, from a health and
wellness perspective All thosethings.
It is very important that youreally understand that in this
one life, every day is yourchance to bed on yourself.

(15:33):
Every day is your chance tofeel fulfilled.
Every day is your chance to behappy and be thankful and
grateful in the things that youhave today.
In the life that you have today, it is not always simply
achieving this or achieving that.
That mindfulness and loving thelife that you're currently

(15:55):
living is very important inorder for you to love the life
that you are working on building.
I don't know who this messagewas for, but I hope it provided
everything that you needed tokeep going, to keep growing, to
keep bedding on yourself andbecoming the person that you
know you're destined to be.
Make sure you scroll up to thetop and hit that follow button.

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Rate it Five stars, of course.
Leave me some comments on yourtakeaways, after reflecting and
thinking about your originalthoughts about Maslow's
hierarchy of needs, where youare today, how your circle's
contributing to where you aretoday in terms of your mindset,

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how you're contributing, moreimportantly to where you are
today in terms of you bedding onyourself, feeling fulfilled and
going after your goals, beinghappy and grateful for the life
that you have today and thatyou're building.
I want to hear your business.
I'm telling you, I want to hearyours.
Leave me a comment, send me amessage.

(17:01):
I love when you guys reach outto me.
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You can find me at redefiningthe future.
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On Instagram, I'm also onLinkedIn.
I'm everywhere.
Guys Just reach out to me.
What you see is what you get.
I walk the walk, talk the talkand just know that I'm rooting

(17:23):
for you.
Keep bedding on yourself,growing and glowing.
Let's go.

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