April 17, 2025 • 12 mins
Have you ever felt like you're giving everything you've got, yet still being overlooked? The frustration isn't necessarily because you're doing something wrong—you might be doing exactly the right thing, just in the completely wrong place.
This episode dives deep into the costly nature of misalignment in our lives. When we operate in spaces that weren't designed for our expansion, we end up shrinking ourselves, dimming our light, and minimizing our gifts. Through vulnerable personal stories, including being in the wrong tier of a professional membership and even losing a job, we explore how these seemingly negative experiences can become catalysts for tremendous growth when we finally find alignment.
The truth is painfully simple: many of us are "planting seeds in soil that had no intention of growing anything but comfort." We seek validation from rooms that don't understand our language, our light, or our capabilities. But the moment we give ourselves permission to leave these spaces—whether they're jobs, relationships, or communities—everything shifts. Opportunities flow, growth accelerates, and we find ourselves surrounded by people who genuinely see us.
This episode challenges you to audit the spaces you occupy and honestly assess whether they reflect your worth and support your growth. Are you dimming your light to fit in? Are you surrounded by people whose frequency matches your aspirations? Remember, you're not behind—you're just overdue for finding the right table. Your light deserves space to shine. Subscribe now and join a community where evolution isn't just safe; it's celebrated.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to.
It's the Human ExperiencePodcast Hosted by Hazel Brown, a
healthcare leader, wife, momand career coach.
If you're big on authenticity,personal development,
perseverance and transparency,you're in the right place.
Get ready to be uplifted,inspired and empowered as you
(00:23):
become fearless in pursuit ofthe life you desire and deserve.
Our goal is to help you levelup by creating a safe space to
learn and reflect, whilelistening to transparent stories
from our host or successfulprofessionals and business
owners who've agreed to sharethe parts of success that
typically gets X'd out on socialmedia, because that's the part
(00:46):
you need to see and hear theprocess.
Go ahead and subscribe.
You don't want to miss out onthese transparent stories and
discussions that reveal highs,lows, aha moments and nuggets
that'll help you to grow andglow.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
Hey, hey, hey.
You are now tuned in to theit's the Human Experience
podcast.
Welcome back.
It's the space where evolutionis not only safe but it's
celebrated.
We're not playing over here.
If episode 74 hit somethingdeep for you, today we're going
even deeper.
And if you haven't tuned into 74, I need you to go back, because
(01:36):
sometimes I hate to say it, I'mgoing to say it with love
You're not behind.
You're just in the wrong rooms,in the wrong spaces, sitting at
the wrong tables, and sometimesyou're just at the wrong level.
That table, that space, thatlevel was never meant for you,
(01:58):
but it's still your calling, andso I just want to start with
you're not behind, you're justin the wrong space.
You're just in the wrong room.
You might just be at the wronglevel and, let's be honest, that
is misalignment, andmisalignment is costly, and I
need you to make sure thatyou're not missing opportunities
(02:19):
, minimizing your gifts,shrinking in rooms and spaces
that were made to make thathappen for you.
Because you were made to expand, honey, let's talk about that.
You were made to expandSeriously.
Have you ever felt like youwere giving everything you had
and you're still beingoverlooked?
(02:40):
Like you were pouring from afull cup but no one's sipping it
, no one's buying the sauce, noone is really realizing what you
embody and what your valuetruly is.
And it's not always aboutworking harder, it's about
elevating into your environmentand I really want to sit in that
.
(03:00):
Recently I had a conversationbecause I was a part of a
membership.
I'd been a part of thismembership for a year Really
fancy name, really things thatmake you think okay, this is a
place for me.
I didn't use it.
I didn't use any component ofthis membership and in hindsight
I thought, because this was anassociation that was going to
(03:23):
allow me to be aroundlike-minded women, it was going
to help to propel me to the nextlevel.
But what I recognized is I wasin the wrong tier of their
membership.
I am the person who creates.
I am the person who pours intoother people.
I am the person that createsthat safe space to other people.
(03:47):
I am the person that createsthat safe space.
So, being that person, I was inan environment.
In the portion of the membershipI was in, I was supposed to
soak up what was being given,but I had already created
programs, processes, experiencesand been a part of making
change and trainings and things,not only in my nine to five but
also in my own business.
So I very much felt like it wasa waste of money, time, energy
(04:12):
and everything.
So I share that story because,fast forward a year later and
just kind of dismissing thatmembership and knowing that I'm
not going to waste my time withthat, they called me and asked
me why haven't you consideredbeing a part of the membership
where you're actually providingthe influence, you're actually
(04:34):
helping people get to the nextlevel, you're actually using
your voice to make change andimpact?
And I said, wow, all of thistime I've been a part of
something that I knew I wasmeant to be a part of, but I was
at the wrong level.
I was at the wrong level.
I was in the right place, butat the wrong level, at the wrong
(04:56):
table.
How does that look for you?
What I've learned from walkinginto spaces that couldn't hold
me and I want you to reflect ontoday is sometimes your
frustration isn't because you'redoing the wrong thing.
It's because you're doing theright thing in the wrong place.
Let's be real.
(05:17):
There's been times before thatwhere I felt like I was being
overlooked and I'm going to takeyou back.
The truth is, I was plantingseeds in soil that had no
intention of growing anythingbut comfort.
I've been in a space to where Iprovided so much value and I
(05:37):
was able to do all the things.
And when I lost my job yes,guys, I lost my job I lost my
nine to five the day afterelection day.
I'll talk more about that inthe next episode.
I just wanted to share what I'verecognized is that sometimes
we're in spaces that have nointention of growing anything
(06:00):
but the comfort within us.
Sometimes we're seekingexternal validation from rooms
that didn't even understand ourlanguage.
They don't understand our light, they don't understand our
power and our capabilities, andthe minute you leave these rooms
, the minute I gave permissionto myself to level up,
(06:23):
everything shifts.
When I say everything shifts,the podcast has grown like no
one's business.
I shared with you in previousepisodes that we were ranked 63
out of top 100 podcasts.
Opportunities continues to flowwhen you are in alignment.
(06:43):
I started having conversationswith people who saw me, they got
me, they saw the light and theyunderstood the vision.
But that would not havehappened if I didn't come out of
the wrong place, both in theexample of the membership and in
the example of my past role,because if I go deeper into the
(07:07):
past role, like I said, you'llhear about it a little bit in
the next episode, but for thisepisode, I want you to know that
it's always that people seeyour light.
You're just not in a space tobe able to shine it.
So it's your job to make surethat you see when you need to
get into a space that allows youto shine your light, so that
(07:29):
you can stop dimming your light.
And I'll say that that takes alot of discernment, because it's
always not the perfect time toshine your light.
Sometimes you could be in aseason that it's time to keep
your light dim.
It's time to get the tools thatyou need so you could be even
sharper and brighter in yournext season.
(07:49):
But only you know thatinternally, and when you need to
shift and sometimes when yourdiscernment is not where it
needs to be, god will shift youout of it and I need you to be
okay with that shift.
I need you to be okay withrealizing when you are being
released, when your time is nolonger a thing in that season,
(08:11):
in that space, in thatrelationship, in that job, in
that space, in that relationship, in that job, in that
environment, in thatneighborhood, in that friendship
, in whatever that looks likefor you.
Don't waste another season in aspace that's not built for your
expansion.
You deserve to expand, youdeserve to evolve, you deserve
to show up unapologetically asyou and not dim your light.
(08:33):
So there's something that Iwant you to sit with.
I want you to sit with thisquestion Am I in alignment with
the level my purpose requires?
And I'm not asking you aquestion that's too deep.
It's a real question If you aresupposed to be doing the thing
or being the thing, which meansyou're not doing anything, but
(08:54):
you're being still, you're beingquiet, you're reflecting and
figuring out who you are andwhere you want to go in that
still season, you don't need tobe busy and booked.
You need to be sitting in yourfeelings, your thoughts and what
makes sense to you in your nextlevel of life thoughts and what
makes sense to you in your nextlevel of life.
Now, if you're in your actionseason, you need to be doing the
(09:15):
things that are required tomake the dream manifest into
reality and if you know thatthis was given to you by God and
you know that this is the HolySpirit working, then you're not
being dramatic, you're notasking for too much, you're
asking for alignment.
You're not asking for too much.
You're asking for alignment.
(09:35):
You're asking to call into thethings that align with your
frequency and where you are inthis world.
If the people around you aretapped into fear and limitation
and negativity, then that'sgoing to come through for you.
So you have to make sure thatyou're not in the wrong rooms,
you're not with the wrong peopleand you find the frequency that
matches your future.
And if that means leaving thetable, leaving the job, leaving
(09:58):
the relationship, leaving thething, the friendship, the place
, all the things, then leave it.
Build your own, set thatintention and know that you have
one life.
Elevate your standard, changethe rooms you enter, be
comfortable leaving these roomsand watch your level shift and
your whole life shift.
What I'm asking you to do is toreally audit the spaces you're
(10:22):
in, ask if they reflect yourworth, your growth and your
future.
You're not behind.
You're just overdue for theright table, the right room, the
right levels and shameless plug.
But this podcast, it's the HumanExperience Podcast it's one of
(10:43):
those tables.
It's a place where the truth ishonored, healing is welcome,
legacy is built.
And listen, if you've been to aworkplace therapy experience
event, you know that it is thesame concept, but just an
in-person experience where we'refinding our place in who we are
, not in what we do for work.
We're helping each other win,we're pushing each other forward
(11:04):
, we're unapologetic about whowe are, the gifts that we were
given and the places that we'reheaded, and we're supporting
each other to make it happen.
If this hits home for you, Ineed you to share this with
someone who needs that reminderthat their time isn't up.
Their time is now.
They are just getting started.
I need you to protect yourenergy, trust the timing of your
(11:27):
life and keep showing upbecause the right rooms are
already being prepared for yourarrival.
So I need you to stand up inthat truth and know who and
whose you are and go make ithappen for yourself.
I am rooting for you.
I need you to root for you anddo the work.
Now.
Let's go.
Speaker 1 (11:48):
We hope you caught all those gems.
So here for all of it.
Be sure to subscribe so thatyou don't miss a gem.
Write a review so that we knowto keep bringing you episodes
like this.
And check us out online atitsthehumanexperiencecom to keep
up with us.
Keep growing and glowing.
Catch you on the next episode.
Welcome to.
It's the Human ExperiencePodcast Hosted by Hazel Brown, a
healthcare leader, wife, momand career coach.
If you're big on authenticity,personal development,
perseverance and transparency,you're in the right place.
Get ready to be uplifted,inspired and empowered as you
(00:23):
become fearless in pursuit ofthe life you desire and deserve.
Our goal is to help you levelup by creating a safe space to
learn and reflect, whilelistening to transparent stories
from our host or successfulprofessionals and business
owners who've agreed to sharethe parts of success that
typically gets X'd out on socialmedia, because that's the part
(00:46):
you need to see and hear theprocess.
Go ahead and subscribe.
You don't want to miss out onthese transparent stories and
discussions that reveal highs,lows, aha moments and nuggets
that'll help you to grow andglow.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
Hey, hey, hey.
You are now tuned in to theit's the Human Experience
podcast.
Welcome back.
It's the space where evolutionis not only safe but it's
celebrated.
We're not playing over here.
If episode 74 hit somethingdeep for you, today we're going
even deeper.
And if you haven't tuned into 74, I need you to go back, because
(01:36):
sometimes I hate to say it, I'mgoing to say it with love
You're not behind.
You're just in the wrong rooms,in the wrong spaces, sitting at
the wrong tables, and sometimesyou're just at the wrong level.
That table, that space, thatlevel was never meant for you,
(01:58):
but it's still your calling, andso I just want to start with
you're not behind, you're justin the wrong space.
You're just in the wrong room.
You might just be at the wronglevel and, let's be honest, that
is misalignment, andmisalignment is costly, and I
need you to make sure thatyou're not missing opportunities
(02:19):
, minimizing your gifts,shrinking in rooms and spaces
that were made to make thathappen for you.
Because you were made to expand, honey, let's talk about that.
You were made to expandSeriously.
Have you ever felt like youwere giving everything you had
and you're still beingoverlooked?
(02:40):
Like you were pouring from afull cup but no one's sipping it
, no one's buying the sauce, noone is really realizing what you
embody and what your valuetruly is.
And it's not always aboutworking harder, it's about
elevating into your environmentand I really want to sit in that
.
(03:00):
Recently I had a conversationbecause I was a part of a
membership.
I'd been a part of thismembership for a year Really
fancy name, really things thatmake you think okay, this is a
place for me.
I didn't use it.
I didn't use any component ofthis membership and in hindsight
I thought, because this was anassociation that was going to
(03:23):
allow me to be aroundlike-minded women, it was going
to help to propel me to the nextlevel.
But what I recognized is I wasin the wrong tier of their
membership.
I am the person who creates.
I am the person who pours intoother people.
I am the person that createsthat safe space to other people.
(03:47):
I am the person that createsthat safe space.
So, being that person, I was inan environment.
In the portion of the membershipI was in, I was supposed to
soak up what was being given,but I had already created
programs, processes, experiencesand been a part of making
change and trainings and things,not only in my nine to five but
also in my own business.
So I very much felt like it wasa waste of money, time, energy
(04:12):
and everything.
So I share that story because,fast forward a year later and
just kind of dismissing thatmembership and knowing that I'm
not going to waste my time withthat, they called me and asked
me why haven't you consideredbeing a part of the membership
where you're actually providingthe influence, you're actually
(04:34):
helping people get to the nextlevel, you're actually using
your voice to make change andimpact?
And I said, wow, all of thistime I've been a part of
something that I knew I wasmeant to be a part of, but I was
at the wrong level.
I was at the wrong level.
I was in the right place, butat the wrong level, at the wrong
(04:56):
table.
How does that look for you?
What I've learned from walkinginto spaces that couldn't hold
me and I want you to reflect ontoday is sometimes your
frustration isn't because you'redoing the wrong thing.
It's because you're doing theright thing in the wrong place.
Let's be real.
(05:17):
There's been times before thatwhere I felt like I was being
overlooked and I'm going to takeyou back.
The truth is, I was plantingseeds in soil that had no
intention of growing anythingbut comfort.
I've been in a space to where Iprovided so much value and I
(05:37):
was able to do all the things.
And when I lost my job yes,guys, I lost my job I lost my
nine to five the day afterelection day.
I'll talk more about that inthe next episode.
I just wanted to share what I'verecognized is that sometimes
we're in spaces that have nointention of growing anything
(06:00):
but the comfort within us.
Sometimes we're seekingexternal validation from rooms
that didn't even understand ourlanguage.
They don't understand our light, they don't understand our
power and our capabilities, andthe minute you leave these rooms
, the minute I gave permissionto myself to level up,
(06:23):
everything shifts.
When I say everything shifts,the podcast has grown like no
one's business.
I shared with you in previousepisodes that we were ranked 63
out of top 100 podcasts.
Opportunities continues to flowwhen you are in alignment.
(06:43):
I started having conversationswith people who saw me, they got
me, they saw the light and theyunderstood the vision.
But that would not havehappened if I didn't come out of
the wrong place, both in theexample of the membership and in
the example of my past role,because if I go deeper into the
(07:07):
past role, like I said, you'llhear about it a little bit in
the next episode, but for thisepisode, I want you to know that
it's always that people seeyour light.
You're just not in a space tobe able to shine it.
So it's your job to make surethat you see when you need to
get into a space that allows youto shine your light, so that
(07:29):
you can stop dimming your light.
And I'll say that that takes alot of discernment, because it's
always not the perfect time toshine your light.
Sometimes you could be in aseason that it's time to keep
your light dim.
It's time to get the tools thatyou need so you could be even
sharper and brighter in yournext season.
(07:49):
But only you know thatinternally, and when you need to
shift and sometimes when yourdiscernment is not where it
needs to be, god will shift youout of it and I need you to be
okay with that shift.
I need you to be okay withrealizing when you are being
released, when your time is nolonger a thing in that season,
(08:11):
in that space, in thatrelationship, in that job, in
that space, in that relationship, in that job, in that
environment, in thatneighborhood, in that friendship
, in whatever that looks likefor you.
Don't waste another season in aspace that's not built for your
expansion.
You deserve to expand, youdeserve to evolve, you deserve
to show up unapologetically asyou and not dim your light.
(08:33):
So there's something that Iwant you to sit with.
I want you to sit with thisquestion Am I in alignment with
the level my purpose requires?
And I'm not asking you aquestion that's too deep.
It's a real question If you aresupposed to be doing the thing
or being the thing, which meansyou're not doing anything, but
(08:54):
you're being still, you're beingquiet, you're reflecting and
figuring out who you are andwhere you want to go in that
still season, you don't need tobe busy and booked.
You need to be sitting in yourfeelings, your thoughts and what
makes sense to you in your nextlevel of life thoughts and what
makes sense to you in your nextlevel of life.
Now, if you're in your actionseason, you need to be doing the
(09:15):
things that are required tomake the dream manifest into
reality and if you know thatthis was given to you by God and
you know that this is the HolySpirit working, then you're not
being dramatic, you're notasking for too much, you're
asking for alignment.
You're not asking for too much.
You're asking for alignment.
(09:35):
You're asking to call into thethings that align with your
frequency and where you are inthis world.
If the people around you aretapped into fear and limitation
and negativity, then that'sgoing to come through for you.
So you have to make sure thatyou're not in the wrong rooms,
you're not with the wrong peopleand you find the frequency that
matches your future.
And if that means leaving thetable, leaving the job, leaving
(09:58):
the relationship, leaving thething, the friendship, the place
, all the things, then leave it.
Build your own, set thatintention and know that you have
one life.
Elevate your standard, changethe rooms you enter, be
comfortable leaving these roomsand watch your level shift and
your whole life shift.
What I'm asking you to do is toreally audit the spaces you're
(10:22):
in, ask if they reflect yourworth, your growth and your
future.
You're not behind.
You're just overdue for theright table, the right room, the
right levels and shameless plug.
But this podcast, it's the HumanExperience Podcast it's one of
(10:43):
those tables.
It's a place where the truth ishonored, healing is welcome,
legacy is built.
And listen, if you've been to aworkplace therapy experience
event, you know that it is thesame concept, but just an
in-person experience where we'refinding our place in who we are
, not in what we do for work.
We're helping each other win,we're pushing each other forward
(11:04):
, we're unapologetic about whowe are, the gifts that we were
given and the places that we'reheaded, and we're supporting
each other to make it happen.
If this hits home for you, Ineed you to share this with
someone who needs that reminderthat their time isn't up.
Their time is now.
They are just getting started.
I need you to protect yourenergy, trust the timing of your
(11:27):
life and keep showing upbecause the right rooms are
already being prepared for yourarrival.
So I need you to stand up inthat truth and know who and
whose you are and go make ithappen for yourself.
I am rooting for you.
I need you to root for you anddo the work.
Now.
Let's go.
Speaker 1 (11:48):
We hope you caught all those gems.
So here for all of it.
Be sure to subscribe so thatyou don't miss a gem.
Write a review so that we knowto keep bringing you episodes
like this.
And check us out online atitsthehumanexperiencecom to keep
up with us.
Keep growing and glowing.
Catch you on the next episode.
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