November 6, 2025 • 24 mins
Feeling like your prayers, goals, and dreams keep getting stuck? You might be manifesting from lack, not alignment. This episode is your wake-up call to stop forcing, start flowing, and step into blessings that are meant for you.
Hazel sits down at the intersection of faith, gratitude, and growth to explore the real meaning of manifestation — beyond vision boards and Instagram quotes. From Beyoncé’s resilience to Tasha Cobbs’ faith through depression, this conversation uncovers how even the strongest people face misalignment on their journey to purpose.
Inside this episode, you’ll discover:
- The true definition of manifestation — and why most people get it wrong
- How to spot when you’re manifesting from fear instead of faith
- Why protecting your peace is more important than proving your worth
- The bridge between belief and follow-through
- Three alignment tools Hazel personally uses when life feels heavy
- Powerful real-life examples from Beyoncé, Tasha Cobbs, Mariah Carey, and more
This episode is for anyone who has ever:
- Felt frustrated that their prayers or dreams aren’t showing up
- Wondered if they’re “doing it wrong” or missing a step
- Wanted to manifest with faith, not fear
- Needed practical tools to stay aligned while holding blessings
Reflection Prompts:
- Am I asking for what aligns with my peace — or what validates my pain?
- Who around me supports my growth — and who silently resists it?
Affirmations:
💭 I no longer manifest from fear — I manifest from faith
💭 I’m becoming the kind of person who can hold what I’ve prayed for
💭 What’s aligned with me will always find its way back
If you’ve been praying, hoping, or waiting for life to feel easier — this episode is your roadmap. It’s time to stop forcing, start flowing, and receive what’s meant for you.
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SPEAKER_00 (00:59):
And nuggets that'll help you to grow and glow.
SPEAKER_01 (01:12):
Hey, hey, hey, you are now tuned in to the It's the
Human Experience podcast.
I'm your host, Hazel Brown.
Today I wanted to really pause.
Yes, we're pausing again.
We're talking real time, theexperiences that we're feeling
right now, today, in the worldthat we're living in.
(01:33):
And so I sound like a littlereporter, but if you're anything
like me, you're somewherebetween the intersection of
noise, reflection, gratitude,and faith.
And it has me in a chokehole,y'all.
Like really, it does.
Because I feel like we don'teven know how we're supposed to
measure success at this point.
Everything just feels sorelative.
(01:56):
And under these currentcircumstances we're living
through, I just keep thinking ifyou've got good health, shelter,
love, and a peace of mind, likethat's wealth.
And maybe that's always beenwealth, but yeah, sorry for
that.
But we definitely measuredwealth and success a little bit
different in the previous years.
(02:18):
But nowadays you really have tothink about that.
And it almost makes me want tohave like a good old reset cry.
Y'all know what a reset cry is?
Child, I love a good reset cry.
That reset cry to where I just,oh God, I just don't know.
I just cannot.
Oh my god, forget it.
Oh Lord.
(02:38):
And then you just have thatsense of release, and you're
like, okay, I'm good to go now.
I need one of those.
I keep thinking about peoplelike Beyonce who performs
through pain, goes through thegrowth process and reinvents
herself like nothing everhappened.
Talk about making it look easyfrom the outside looking in.
And I am not a beehive girly,but I do love her resilience.
(03:01):
And then there's people likeTasha Cobbs, who I do love, like
I am a Tasha Cobbs girly, wholike truly like sings through
depression and still believes inGod for the plan for her voice
that has also helped to shape somany of our lives.
Like I definitely listen toTasha Cobbs all the time when I
need a kid through something.
And I realize that that's notperfection, it's really faith
(03:25):
emotion.
And that's why it's a part of myintersection.
Because it's still somethingthat I look to.
And listen, I thought I kind ofhad that level of faith, but
man, some days I'm lookingaround like, what is this
economic separation we'rewatching in real time?
Like the middle class isslipping, these prices are
(03:47):
climbing.
And if you don't have the gritor alignment, it like will
swallow you.
And we're not gonna have that.
Like, we're not gonna do that.
Because here's what I know everytime you doubt yourself and
still show up, every time youlose something and still choose
to believe there's more coming,you're manifesting real
alignment in real time, andthat's what it means to be
(04:08):
human.
AF.
But what does manifest evenmean?
You know, because I'm back todefining stuff.
I feel like when I first startedthe podcast, I used to
absolutely define things, andthen I stopped.
Like, why did I stop?
So we're gonna go back to thebasics.
We're going back to the basics,but rewind, let's figure out
what manifest even means.
Because I feel like early on inthe podcast, I would always
(04:31):
define things, and then somehowI moved away from that.
But we're kind of going back tothat because it's really
important to make sure we're onthe same page.
So we kind of throw out termslike I'm manifesting this, I'm
manifesting that.
But do we even know where itcame from?
I'm gonna go back because itactually goes back to like Latin
manifestus.
(04:53):
I'm trying to read at thispoint, and it means to make
clear.
So, like not wishing forsomething or hoping your Amazon
package gets there tomorrow, butit really means becoming
evidence of what you believe.
Our grandparents didn't call itmanifestation, they probably
just called it faith.
And you know, I like to call itfaith too, because that's
(05:16):
exactly what it is.
You're like borrowing faith, thesize of a mustard seed, if you
will.
And they spoke things intoexistence pray without seeing,
work the land, trusted theprocess.
When I say work the land, likeplanting the seeds, all the
things, watering, all the thingswe talk about all the time,
right?
And they trust the process thatthey will actually bear fruit
(05:38):
and they will see it in the nextseason come to fruition.
They didn't just want better,they prepared for better.
So when we're talking aboutmanifesting, it's seeing what
you want, believing in what youwant, but still working through
it.
So when we talk about like aBeyoncé in terms of going
through her pain, growingthrough her pain, she is
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continuing to plant the seeds,work the land, and trust the
process.
She's not just wanting better,she's preparing for better.
So when we talk aboutmanifesting, we're talking about
the same thing, turningconviction into reality, not
just a vision board, but fromtrue alignment, because we're
doing the things necessary tomake sure that things actually
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happen.
And I really want to sit in thata little bit because you know,
in our current state, for me,right, maybe a year ago, maybe
two years ago, what alignmentand preparing and putting things
into existence meant is meanssomething completely different
to me now.
And it's based on everythingthat's happening.
(06:45):
So it's all relative, if youwill.
So maybe a year, two, threeyears ago, I can work for 18
hours a day, right?
I can work eight hours in mynine to five, and I could work a
whole nother 10 hours in mybusiness, right?
And I can get six hours of sleepand be fine, right?
(07:06):
And maybe one hour, two hourscomes back to being a wife, a
mom, and all the things, right?
A friend or whatever I gotta do.
And you know, but the point is Ican do that.
But in these days, maybe I onlyhave two hours to give to my
business.
Maybe I only have one hour togive to myself.
Whatever the case may be, giveyourself grace and realize
(07:26):
things are relative.
Because the reality is whenthings change, like the
environment, worldly thingsshift, you have to remember that
it's going to affect yousubconsciously, even if you feel
like it doesn't.
So you're like, okay, God, it'shappening in the moment.
And instead of like just reallycelebrating where you are, we're
(07:49):
focused on where we think weshould be.
And I know that this is commonfor most people because when I
think about where I think Ishould be current day today, we
always feel like we should befurther, especially when we feel
like we have been further in thepast, right?
I feel like the things that Iused to be able to do three
years ago, five years ago, sevenyears ago, ten years ago, was a
(08:14):
lot more advanced and better forwhere I feel like I am today.
And it's crazy from the outsidelooking in, people look at me as
though I am doing things morethan I was doing five, seven,
ten years ago.
Where for me, it's like, yeah,no, I feel like my craft has
just been perfected, right?
(08:35):
I'm just stronger in the thingsthat I used to do three, five,
and seven years ago, but I'm notfurther.
And that really goes to theplanting the seeds part of it,
right?
The fact that you are better,you are a better steward of the
thing, you are good in the waythat you can stand things up
compared to your initial seasonof planting the seed, right?
(08:56):
Year 10, you can do so muchmore, you can do such a better
job.
And I really wanted to sit inthat because the other day I saw
a trend on social media, likekind of comparing 2020 to 2025,
and it had me go back a littlebit to like 2019, and I kind of
created a real the semi-drafts.
And you know, if you've heardprevious episodes, I got issues
(09:18):
with the drafts and not puttingit out, but that's a whole
nother story.
We we're not gonna touch onthat.
But what we are gonna touch onis the fact that when I look at
2019, I was in Tampa, I wasdoing small meetup events,
right?
Then I moved to Vegas in 2019,continued doing these meetup
events, and so when I kind oflooked at the progress of my
events and seeing all of thesepeople and the support, the
(09:42):
conversations, I see how muchit's expanded, right?
And when I think about the factthat from the middle of 2020
through 2023, there's a bigpause in in-person events.
So you have to think toyourself, like during that time,
that wasn't even happening.
And I had a few little virtualmeetups, but nothing to talk
(10:05):
about.
But I share that to say that ifI just look at what my
expectations are versus the factthat when you compare what it
was in 2019 to what it is todayin 2025, and then factor in a
gap, you actually should bereally, really proud of where
(10:25):
you are.
And I share that example for youto reflect and look at yourself
in a five-year increment.
On the previous episode, wetalked about the fact that when
you do vision casting, youshould look ahead in five years,
10 years, and think about whatyou want, and then you should
work to make it happen, right?
(10:46):
Bring that to life, manifest it,believe it, and bring it into
your current day reality.
But you should also think toyourself, hey, if I was to pass
in five to ten years, is thiswhat I would really want?
And then we also are now talkingabout if we look back at five
years ago to where we are todayand measure that success in
(11:10):
terms of it being relative, weshould be a little bit more
proud of where we are, but manytimes we're just thinking about
where we want to be.
So I wanted to make sure I tiethat in because I feel like many
times we're not looking at that,we're really not celebrating our
wins by looking at, man, I'vecome so far, I've done so much.
(11:31):
I remember when this was a babyseed and didn't know if this was
gonna grow.
But being able to look andrealize, man, I've actually made
this grow.
And if I keep at it, I couldactually continue to make it
flourish and grow and reallylook at the impact that you're
making in your life and thelives of others and all the
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things.
And so I wanted to sit in thatreally, really deep because I
know if I'm over here, like,yeah, I ain't nowhere.
I know you're over there too,thinking you're nowhere,
especially with the noise,especially with the glass
ceilings that are being createdinternally and externally,
(12:15):
internally, in terms of areasthat you've previously felt like
an expert in.
It may no longer feel likeyou're an expert in that area,
whether it be because of AI,whether because of different
things that have come into play,not because AI is necessarily
taking over the thing, but youhave to have a learning curve
when it comes to bringing AI inthe mix or whatever the case may
(12:38):
be, right?
All the worldly problems thatkind of creates that internal
glass ceiling, but thenexternally, different factors
that happen, that maybe thingsare not being done in a certain
location anymore by a certainset of people, or whatever the
case may be.
We're not gonna sit in that fortoo long, but I just wanted to
make sure we're able to sit intowhat could potentially be making
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you feel like you're not as faras you should be because as
things shift, you have to shift,and we just have to remember
that hey, child, look in themirror and remember who you are.
Remember who you are.
And I think for me, I justrealized that sometimes it
wasn't that I wasn't aligned, itwas that I maybe I'm afraid of
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taking it a step further, andand it might be interesting to
admit to yourself that sometimeswe're afraid of taking things a
step further, afraid to losesomething that, you know, I may
feel like I'm not ready for yet,right?
To lose your comfort of whereyou are when I think about what
you're not ready for yet.
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I think the important thing tocall out here is that you cannot
call in abundance while you'reliving in survival mode, when
you're coming from a place ofscarcity.
And most of us start manifestingfrom need, not belief, right?
And so, an example that I couldshare with you is recently back
in August, so maybe not asrecent, but recent enough.
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I was on a job hunt, I wasapplying for jobs, doing all the
things.
I had got my number one, made itto the fourth interview, super,
super happy.
Got to the fourth interview, andI feel like something shifted in
my mindset, right?
I feel like interview one, two,three, it was mine.
So I knew it.
I was closing the deal.
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I manifested, I knew it washappening.
When it was happening, I didn'tfeel like it was a shock.
I knew it was happening, Imanifested it.
I belonged there, but after thethird interview, I feel like I
let it slip away in my mind,right?
It slipped away in my mindbefore it slipped away in
reality.
And so I look back in retrospectand I recognize that I let it
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slip away in my mind.
And when I think about like theinterview, I'm like, okay, this
maybe was off.
This was off.
And I'm like, hey, did I not doa good job at sealing it up a
little bit better?
I know I have all the skillsnecessary for it.
I know I'm not the kind ofperson to apply to a job if I'm
not interested, if I don't feellike I can make an impact, if I
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don't feel like it's a line.
But I feel like I had torecognize that they don't know
who I am in terms of mycharacter.
And so you always have to showwho you are in an interview.
You cannot just assume that it'syours until it's yours, right?
And so I feel like in reality Idrop the ball, but in my
mindset, I drop the ball.
(15:34):
And so I wanted to share thatlike openly, transparently, and
all the ease, because so manytimes we do that ourselves,
right?
We think it's ours before it'sours, and we don't close the
deal the way we should close thedeal.
And so we can't assume thatsomething is going to come to us
when you're in a space ofsurviving or working on
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something from need, not belief,right?
Because I feel like when I say,if I get this, then I'll feel
secure.
No, no, no, we can't say that,right?
If I get that, then I'll finallybe happy.
Like, no, that's not true.
That's chasing peace instead ofcreating it.
(16:19):
Alignment sounds different.
It's like I am already enough.
This next chapter is justexpansion, like it's a steady,
soft, secure state of mind.
So for me, it's like when Ithink about that interview, if I
was more focused on showing whoI am and that feeling like
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people know who you are and whatyou're capable of, they don't
know you.
And I have to show that examplefull true.
For example, people will come tome and ask me, how come I didn't
make them a speaker at my event?
But then you go on their socialmedia page, they have nothing
that they're speaking.
They have nothing thatdemonstrates what their values
(16:59):
are, what things are importantto them.
You don't even know if they cancaptivate you on a little reel,
let alone a whole audience.
You can't tell if they'retransparent, you can't tell if
they're just doing it forperformance and to show that
they're the thing.
They're not believing in theirself enough to demonstrate it on
their page, but they want you toput them on your stage.
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Yeah, that's not how it works.
And so it's the same conceptwith my interview, is that you
have to play full out.
And that's what we have to do inlife.
If we are going to be chasinganything, we have to play full
out.
We have to stop once we catchthe ball.
We have to catch.
Why do I ever talk aboutfootball sports and all the
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things?
And I know nothing becauseclearly you might not stop when
you catch the ball.
I know that, right?
You gotta actually get to what,like wherever you go.
Listen, we're gonna change thesubject because I don't know
enough about football to runthis analogy all the way
through.
The point is you don't stopuntil you win the game.
And so many of us drop the ballbefore we ever win the game.
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And it's not because we didn'thave the endurance, it's not
because we didn't have theresources, it's not because it
was too much noise, it's becausewe stopped before it was time to
stop.
And I need you to stop stoppingbefore the time to stop.
It is okay to pause, it is okayto cool down, it's okay to get
maintenance, but it's not okayto give up on you.
(18:26):
Like I said before, what you mayhave been able to do three and
five years ago by givingsomething 12 hours, eight hours,
six hours in your currentcapacity, you might not be able
to give it that, but you cangive it two minutes, you can
give it five minutes, you cangive it 15 minutes and work your
way back up.
Stop giving up on your dream,work the land, keep growing
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through the pain.
None of these people and thesethings and these ideas that you
have are bigger than you.
It's that you're allowing yourdoubt, your lack to be bigger
than you.
When you move from lack, you'retrying to prove yourself.
When you move from alignment,you're protecting your peace.
Like the real flex isn't gettingwhat you want, it's staying at
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peace.
It's being at peace while it'son the way, while it's on the
way.
And I could share that throughmy events, I could share that in
my last year of life.
When I talked about the amountof peace that I have felt, it is
because you are in alignment.
And guys, here is the catcher.
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Even when you've been inalignment for a while, moments
of doubt, moments of noise,moments of distraction, moments
of confusion still can creep in.
It's such a muscle that you haveto work every day, every hour,
sometimes, depending on thenoise and the chaos that's going
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on around you.
Ask yourself, am I asking forwhat aligns with my peace or for
what validates my pain?
Even when you've been good, evenwhen you know the formula, you
still have to work the muscle.
So if right now you're in aplace of doubt, you're in a
place of unknown, you're in aplace of I can't go, it's okay.
(20:14):
It is normal to get to a pointwhere you need to reset, you
need to replenish your cup, youneed to pour back into you.
It is okay.
Give what you can, don't expectthe same you because you're
living in a differentenvironment, a different time.
Different energy is being exudedonto you and out of you to do
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what you can.
And I try to be as transparentas I can so that you can
recognize that it's not justyou, it is completely human AF,
right?
It is completely human AF.
And I think something that weneed to recognize is often these
are cycles that repeat itselfbecause there were seasons in my
life when everything I spokeover my life started showing up
(20:59):
the clients, the doors, therecognition.
Yet I was exhausted.
Like that was back in 2016.
I was over-delivering,over-explaining, trying to
figure out who I was, going totherapy, trying to make sure
that I loved my life, right?
I showed up in the driver's seatof my life.
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And until I did that, I justwasn't, and belief became the
bridge.
Tapping into the Holy Spirit andyour inner voice is the bridge.
You can't receive through faithand maintain through fear.
It just doesn't work that way.
When you start your stretchingseason, your alignment has to
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shift.
Because the more you heal, it'strue, the less noise you can
tolerate.
Because the more you need toalign, the fewer people will
understand your pace.
And that silent isn't rejection,it's redirection.
Who around you supports yourgrowth?
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Who silently resists it?
Make sure that you're creatingspaces that allow you to be
human AI.
I had to sit in that quiet spaceand face myself.
Like, who is Hazel?
Am I chasing a version ofsuccess that's mine's?
That alignment really is allabout growing and glowing and
(22:27):
being confident.
But sometimes alignment is likecrying on your floor and still
getting up tomorrow or later.
Like, we think about justdifferent people who move the
needle and built a legacy forthemselves, and you can't skip
your way through misalignment.
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You have to move through it.
It's not magic, it is a muscle.
Every time you show up tired butfaithful, you are building.
Every time you take a pause andthen you keep going, you're
moving along with traction.
I need you to believe you areworthy before it arrives.
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Prepare your heart so that youdon't panic when it comes.
Because guess what?
Trouble don't last always.
I'm trying to think of the song.
Trouble don't last always.
I can't think of the song.
You know what?
Whatever.
Forget the song.
But I need you to know troubledoes not last always.
Protect your peace.
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Stop explaining your alignmentto people who benefit from your
confusion because it's a wholething.
And just keep moving like it'salready yours.
Faith is in the follow-through.
You don't have to force what'scoming.
Just do the things you know youneed to do.
I want to talk to you guys aboutsome affirmations because I'm in
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the process of creating someaffirmation cards.
So I want you to say these threeaffirmations with me.
I no longer manifest from fear,I manifest from faith.
I'm becoming the kind of personwho can hold what I prayed for.
What's aligned with me willalways find its way back to me.
You are not behind yourbecoming.
(24:10):
Take a breath, trust theprocess, and remember the world
doesn't need you to be perfect.
It just needs you to be humanAF.
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SPEAKER_01 (01:12):
Hey, hey, hey, you are now tuned in to the It's the
Human Experience podcast.
I'm your host, Hazel Brown.
Today I wanted to really pause.
Yes, we're pausing again.
We're talking real time, theexperiences that we're feeling
right now, today, in the worldthat we're living in.
(01:33):
And so I sound like a littlereporter, but if you're anything
like me, you're somewherebetween the intersection of
noise, reflection, gratitude,and faith.
And it has me in a chokehole,y'all.
Like really, it does.
Because I feel like we don'teven know how we're supposed to
measure success at this point.
Everything just feels sorelative.
(01:56):
And under these currentcircumstances we're living
through, I just keep thinking ifyou've got good health, shelter,
love, and a peace of mind, likethat's wealth.
And maybe that's always beenwealth, but yeah, sorry for
that.
But we definitely measuredwealth and success a little bit
different in the previous years.
(02:18):
But nowadays you really have tothink about that.
And it almost makes me want tohave like a good old reset cry.
Y'all know what a reset cry is?
Child, I love a good reset cry.
That reset cry to where I just,oh God, I just don't know.
I just cannot.
Oh my god, forget it.
Oh Lord.
(02:38):
And then you just have thatsense of release, and you're
like, okay, I'm good to go now.
I need one of those.
I keep thinking about peoplelike Beyonce who performs
through pain, goes through thegrowth process and reinvents
herself like nothing everhappened.
Talk about making it look easyfrom the outside looking in.
And I am not a beehive girly,but I do love her resilience.
(03:01):
And then there's people likeTasha Cobbs, who I do love, like
I am a Tasha Cobbs girly, wholike truly like sings through
depression and still believes inGod for the plan for her voice
that has also helped to shape somany of our lives.
Like I definitely listen toTasha Cobbs all the time when I
need a kid through something.
And I realize that that's notperfection, it's really faith
(03:25):
emotion.
And that's why it's a part of myintersection.
Because it's still somethingthat I look to.
And listen, I thought I kind ofhad that level of faith, but
man, some days I'm lookingaround like, what is this
economic separation we'rewatching in real time?
Like the middle class isslipping, these prices are
(03:47):
climbing.
And if you don't have the gritor alignment, it like will
swallow you.
And we're not gonna have that.
Like, we're not gonna do that.
Because here's what I know everytime you doubt yourself and
still show up, every time youlose something and still choose
to believe there's more coming,you're manifesting real
alignment in real time, andthat's what it means to be
(04:08):
human.
AF.
But what does manifest evenmean?
You know, because I'm back todefining stuff.
I feel like when I first startedthe podcast, I used to
absolutely define things, andthen I stopped.
Like, why did I stop?
So we're gonna go back to thebasics.
We're going back to the basics,but rewind, let's figure out
what manifest even means.
Because I feel like early on inthe podcast, I would always
(04:31):
define things, and then somehowI moved away from that.
But we're kind of going back tothat because it's really
important to make sure we're onthe same page.
So we kind of throw out termslike I'm manifesting this, I'm
manifesting that.
But do we even know where itcame from?
I'm gonna go back because itactually goes back to like Latin
manifestus.
(04:53):
I'm trying to read at thispoint, and it means to make
clear.
So, like not wishing forsomething or hoping your Amazon
package gets there tomorrow, butit really means becoming
evidence of what you believe.
Our grandparents didn't call itmanifestation, they probably
just called it faith.
And you know, I like to call itfaith too, because that's
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exactly what it is.
You're like borrowing faith, thesize of a mustard seed, if you
will.
And they spoke things intoexistence pray without seeing,
work the land, trusted theprocess.
When I say work the land, likeplanting the seeds, all the
things, watering, all the thingswe talk about all the time,
right?
And they trust the process thatthey will actually bear fruit
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and they will see it in the nextseason come to fruition.
They didn't just want better,they prepared for better.
So when we're talking aboutmanifesting, it's seeing what
you want, believing in what youwant, but still working through
it.
So when we talk about like aBeyoncé in terms of going
through her pain, growingthrough her pain, she is
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continuing to plant the seeds,work the land, and trust the
process.
She's not just wanting better,she's preparing for better.
So when we talk aboutmanifesting, we're talking about
the same thing, turningconviction into reality, not
just a vision board, but fromtrue alignment, because we're
doing the things necessary tomake sure that things actually
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happen.
And I really want to sit in thata little bit because you know,
in our current state, for me,right, maybe a year ago, maybe
two years ago, what alignmentand preparing and putting things
into existence meant is meanssomething completely different
to me now.
And it's based on everythingthat's happening.
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So it's all relative, if youwill.
So maybe a year, two, threeyears ago, I can work for 18
hours a day, right?
I can work eight hours in mynine to five, and I could work a
whole nother 10 hours in mybusiness, right?
And I can get six hours of sleepand be fine, right?
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And maybe one hour, two hourscomes back to being a wife, a
mom, and all the things, right?
A friend or whatever I gotta do.
And you know, but the point is Ican do that.
But in these days, maybe I onlyhave two hours to give to my
business.
Maybe I only have one hour togive to myself.
Whatever the case may be, giveyourself grace and realize
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things are relative.
Because the reality is whenthings change, like the
environment, worldly thingsshift, you have to remember that
it's going to affect yousubconsciously, even if you feel
like it doesn't.
So you're like, okay, God, it'shappening in the moment.
And instead of like just reallycelebrating where you are, we're
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focused on where we think weshould be.
And I know that this is commonfor most people because when I
think about where I think Ishould be current day today, we
always feel like we should befurther, especially when we feel
like we have been further in thepast, right?
I feel like the things that Iused to be able to do three
years ago, five years ago, sevenyears ago, ten years ago, was a
(08:14):
lot more advanced and better forwhere I feel like I am today.
And it's crazy from the outsidelooking in, people look at me as
though I am doing things morethan I was doing five, seven,
ten years ago.
Where for me, it's like, yeah,no, I feel like my craft has
just been perfected, right?
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I'm just stronger in the thingsthat I used to do three, five,
and seven years ago, but I'm notfurther.
And that really goes to theplanting the seeds part of it,
right?
The fact that you are better,you are a better steward of the
thing, you are good in the waythat you can stand things up
compared to your initial seasonof planting the seed, right?
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Year 10, you can do so muchmore, you can do such a better
job.
And I really wanted to sit inthat because the other day I saw
a trend on social media, likekind of comparing 2020 to 2025,
and it had me go back a littlebit to like 2019, and I kind of
created a real the semi-drafts.
And you know, if you've heardprevious episodes, I got issues
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with the drafts and not puttingit out, but that's a whole
nother story.
We we're not gonna touch onthat.
But what we are gonna touch onis the fact that when I look at
2019, I was in Tampa, I wasdoing small meetup events,
right?
Then I moved to Vegas in 2019,continued doing these meetup
events, and so when I kind oflooked at the progress of my
events and seeing all of thesepeople and the support, the
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conversations, I see how muchit's expanded, right?
And when I think about the factthat from the middle of 2020
through 2023, there's a bigpause in in-person events.
So you have to think toyourself, like during that time,
that wasn't even happening.
And I had a few little virtualmeetups, but nothing to talk
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about.
But I share that to say that ifI just look at what my
expectations are versus the factthat when you compare what it
was in 2019 to what it is todayin 2025, and then factor in a
gap, you actually should bereally, really proud of where
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you are.
And I share that example for youto reflect and look at yourself
in a five-year increment.
On the previous episode, wetalked about the fact that when
you do vision casting, youshould look ahead in five years,
10 years, and think about whatyou want, and then you should
work to make it happen, right?
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Bring that to life, manifest it,believe it, and bring it into
your current day reality.
But you should also think toyourself, hey, if I was to pass
in five to ten years, is thiswhat I would really want?
And then we also are now talkingabout if we look back at five
years ago to where we are todayand measure that success in
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terms of it being relative, weshould be a little bit more
proud of where we are, but manytimes we're just thinking about
where we want to be.
So I wanted to make sure I tiethat in because I feel like many
times we're not looking at that,we're really not celebrating our
wins by looking at, man, I'vecome so far, I've done so much.
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I remember when this was a babyseed and didn't know if this was
gonna grow.
But being able to look andrealize, man, I've actually made
this grow.
And if I keep at it, I couldactually continue to make it
flourish and grow and reallylook at the impact that you're
making in your life and thelives of others and all the
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things.
And so I wanted to sit in thatreally, really deep because I
know if I'm over here, like,yeah, I ain't nowhere.
I know you're over there too,thinking you're nowhere,
especially with the noise,especially with the glass
ceilings that are being createdinternally and externally,
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internally, in terms of areasthat you've previously felt like
an expert in.
It may no longer feel likeyou're an expert in that area,
whether it be because of AI,whether because of different
things that have come into play,not because AI is necessarily
taking over the thing, but youhave to have a learning curve
when it comes to bringing AI inthe mix or whatever the case may
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be, right?
All the worldly problems thatkind of creates that internal
glass ceiling, but thenexternally, different factors
that happen, that maybe thingsare not being done in a certain
location anymore by a certainset of people, or whatever the
case may be.
We're not gonna sit in that fortoo long, but I just wanted to
make sure we're able to sit intowhat could potentially be making
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you feel like you're not as faras you should be because as
things shift, you have to shift,and we just have to remember
that hey, child, look in themirror and remember who you are.
Remember who you are.
And I think for me, I justrealized that sometimes it
wasn't that I wasn't aligned, itwas that I maybe I'm afraid of
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taking it a step further, andand it might be interesting to
admit to yourself that sometimeswe're afraid of taking things a
step further, afraid to losesomething that, you know, I may
feel like I'm not ready for yet,right?
To lose your comfort of whereyou are when I think about what
you're not ready for yet.
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I think the important thing tocall out here is that you cannot
call in abundance while you'reliving in survival mode, when
you're coming from a place ofscarcity.
And most of us start manifestingfrom need, not belief, right?
And so, an example that I couldshare with you is recently back
in August, so maybe not asrecent, but recent enough.
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I was on a job hunt, I wasapplying for jobs, doing all the
things.
I had got my number one, made itto the fourth interview, super,
super happy.
Got to the fourth interview, andI feel like something shifted in
my mindset, right?
I feel like interview one, two,three, it was mine.
So I knew it.
I was closing the deal.
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I manifested, I knew it washappening.
When it was happening, I didn'tfeel like it was a shock.
I knew it was happening, Imanifested it.
I belonged there, but after thethird interview, I feel like I
let it slip away in my mind,right?
It slipped away in my mindbefore it slipped away in
reality.
And so I look back in retrospectand I recognize that I let it
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slip away in my mind.
And when I think about like theinterview, I'm like, okay, this
maybe was off.
This was off.
And I'm like, hey, did I not doa good job at sealing it up a
little bit better?
I know I have all the skillsnecessary for it.
I know I'm not the kind ofperson to apply to a job if I'm
not interested, if I don't feellike I can make an impact, if I
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don't feel like it's a line.
But I feel like I had torecognize that they don't know
who I am in terms of mycharacter.
And so you always have to showwho you are in an interview.
You cannot just assume that it'syours until it's yours, right?
And so I feel like in reality Idrop the ball, but in my
mindset, I drop the ball.
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And so I wanted to share thatlike openly, transparently, and
all the ease, because so manytimes we do that ourselves,
right?
We think it's ours before it'sours, and we don't close the
deal the way we should close thedeal.
And so we can't assume thatsomething is going to come to us
when you're in a space ofsurviving or working on
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something from need, not belief,right?
Because I feel like when I say,if I get this, then I'll feel
secure.
No, no, no, we can't say that,right?
If I get that, then I'll finallybe happy.
Like, no, that's not true.
That's chasing peace instead ofcreating it.
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Alignment sounds different.
It's like I am already enough.
This next chapter is justexpansion, like it's a steady,
soft, secure state of mind.
So for me, it's like when Ithink about that interview, if I
was more focused on showing whoI am and that feeling like
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people know who you are and whatyou're capable of, they don't
know you.
And I have to show that examplefull true.
For example, people will come tome and ask me, how come I didn't
make them a speaker at my event?
But then you go on their socialmedia page, they have nothing
that they're speaking.
They have nothing thatdemonstrates what their values
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are, what things are importantto them.
You don't even know if they cancaptivate you on a little reel,
let alone a whole audience.
You can't tell if they'retransparent, you can't tell if
they're just doing it forperformance and to show that
they're the thing.
They're not believing in theirself enough to demonstrate it on
their page, but they want you toput them on your stage.
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Yeah, that's not how it works.
And so it's the same conceptwith my interview, is that you
have to play full out.
And that's what we have to do inlife.
If we are going to be chasinganything, we have to play full
out.
We have to stop once we catchthe ball.
We have to catch.
Why do I ever talk aboutfootball sports and all the
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things?
And I know nothing becauseclearly you might not stop when
you catch the ball.
I know that, right?
You gotta actually get to what,like wherever you go.
Listen, we're gonna change thesubject because I don't know
enough about football to runthis analogy all the way
through.
The point is you don't stopuntil you win the game.
And so many of us drop the ballbefore we ever win the game.
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And it's not because we didn'thave the endurance, it's not
because we didn't have theresources, it's not because it
was too much noise, it's becausewe stopped before it was time to
stop.
And I need you to stop stoppingbefore the time to stop.
It is okay to pause, it is okayto cool down, it's okay to get
maintenance, but it's not okayto give up on you.
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Like I said before, what you mayhave been able to do three and
five years ago by givingsomething 12 hours, eight hours,
six hours in your currentcapacity, you might not be able
to give it that, but you cangive it two minutes, you can
give it five minutes, you cangive it 15 minutes and work your
way back up.
Stop giving up on your dream,work the land, keep growing
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through the pain.
None of these people and thesethings and these ideas that you
have are bigger than you.
It's that you're allowing yourdoubt, your lack to be bigger
than you.
When you move from lack, you'retrying to prove yourself.
When you move from alignment,you're protecting your peace.
Like the real flex isn't gettingwhat you want, it's staying at
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peace.
It's being at peace while it'son the way, while it's on the
way.
And I could share that throughmy events, I could share that in
my last year of life.
When I talked about the amountof peace that I have felt, it is
because you are in alignment.
And guys, here is the catcher.
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Even when you've been inalignment for a while, moments
of doubt, moments of noise,moments of distraction, moments
of confusion still can creep in.
It's such a muscle that you haveto work every day, every hour,
sometimes, depending on thenoise and the chaos that's going
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on around you.
Ask yourself, am I asking forwhat aligns with my peace or for
what validates my pain?
Even when you've been good, evenwhen you know the formula, you
still have to work the muscle.
So if right now you're in aplace of doubt, you're in a
place of unknown, you're in aplace of I can't go, it's okay.
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It is normal to get to a pointwhere you need to reset, you
need to replenish your cup, youneed to pour back into you.
It is okay.
Give what you can, don't expectthe same you because you're
living in a differentenvironment, a different time.
Different energy is being exudedonto you and out of you to do
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what you can.
And I try to be as transparentas I can so that you can
recognize that it's not justyou, it is completely human AF,
right?
It is completely human AF.
And I think something that weneed to recognize is often these
are cycles that repeat itselfbecause there were seasons in my
life when everything I spokeover my life started showing up
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the clients, the doors, therecognition.
Yet I was exhausted.
Like that was back in 2016.
I was over-delivering,over-explaining, trying to
figure out who I was, going totherapy, trying to make sure
that I loved my life, right?
I showed up in the driver's seatof my life.
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And until I did that, I justwasn't, and belief became the
bridge.
Tapping into the Holy Spirit andyour inner voice is the bridge.
You can't receive through faithand maintain through fear.
It just doesn't work that way.
When you start your stretchingseason, your alignment has to
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shift.
Because the more you heal, it'strue, the less noise you can
tolerate.
Because the more you need toalign, the fewer people will
understand your pace.
And that silent isn't rejection,it's redirection.
Who around you supports yourgrowth?
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Who silently resists it?
Make sure that you're creatingspaces that allow you to be
human AI.
I had to sit in that quiet spaceand face myself.
Like, who is Hazel?
Am I chasing a version ofsuccess that's mine's?
That alignment really is allabout growing and glowing and
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being confident.
But sometimes alignment is likecrying on your floor and still
getting up tomorrow or later.
Like, we think about justdifferent people who move the
needle and built a legacy forthemselves, and you can't skip
your way through misalignment.
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You have to move through it.
It's not magic, it is a muscle.
Every time you show up tired butfaithful, you are building.
Every time you take a pause andthen you keep going, you're
moving along with traction.
I need you to believe you areworthy before it arrives.
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Prepare your heart so that youdon't panic when it comes.
Because guess what?
Trouble don't last always.
I'm trying to think of the song.
Trouble don't last always.
I can't think of the song.
You know what?
Whatever.
Forget the song.
But I need you to know troubledoes not last always.
Protect your peace.
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Stop explaining your alignmentto people who benefit from your
confusion because it's a wholething.
And just keep moving like it'salready yours.
Faith is in the follow-through.
You don't have to force what'scoming.
Just do the things you know youneed to do.
I want to talk to you guys aboutsome affirmations because I'm in
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the process of creating someaffirmation cards.
So I want you to say these threeaffirmations with me.
I no longer manifest from fear,I manifest from faith.
I'm becoming the kind of personwho can hold what I prayed for.
What's aligned with me willalways find its way back to me.
You are not behind yourbecoming.
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Take a breath, trust theprocess, and remember the world
doesn't need you to be perfect.
It just needs you to be humanAF.
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