February 10, 2025 • 48 mins
Ever had a hardware store encounter so awkward you needed a support group afterward?
We kick things off with a Home Depot misadventure involving a very enthusiastic employee, leaving us cackling all the way home and questioning why we ever leave the house. Also, quick PSA: thanks for sticking with us—because if it weren’t for you, Tisha might trade her podcast mic for a life of interpretive dance. Our show might not be the wholesome family sitcom of podcasts, but hey, we’re here for the unfiltered chaos and wouldn’t have it any other way.
Next, we take a sharp turn from power tools to power feels as we dive into Colleen Hoover’s It Ends With Us. Things get real as we chat about the heavy stuff—domestic violence, empathy, and umm, Blake Lively playing Lily in the upcoming movie. We’ve got thoughts (so many thoughts). Will she nail it? Or will this be another Hollywood “oops”? Plus, we somehow end up talking about emotional affairs, suspicious behavior after a new haircut, and why relationships are just one big soap opera, starring us.
But wait, there’s more! We shift into parenting mode, tackling teenage mood swings (help), club sports chaos (send snacks), and why positive words are like magic spells for self-worth. Between awkward pep talks and moments where patience is hanging by a thread, we find ourselves embracing the wild ride.
Whether it’s freaking out on a plane or surviving your teen’s newest slang, we’re here to remind you that life is one messy, hilarious adventure—best handled with faith, humor, and maybe a strong drink.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to Jerking Around, a podcast that makes you
feel better about yourself,because we're a mess just like
you, and Crystal makes fun of methe whole time and it's great
and it's real.
Hey guys, hey, welcome, welcome.
(00:26):
Today there's a lot of funthings to talk about.
Yeah, I guess we'll see whenthey come out, but today, you
guys, we have been so blessed torun into a lot of jerkies out
on the streets.
Yeah, so Tisha always thinksthere's two listeners.
I do feel like there is waymore than two.
Yeah, but we want you guys toknow how important it is that
you listen, because Tisha wantsto quit like every day, every
(00:47):
day.
So keep commenting, keeptelling us that you like it.
Every time I get a nice commenton my Instagram or in person, I
send it to her and our poddaddy so that she doesn't quit.
So, literally, she hasnightmares about quitting once a
week.
So keep those coming in.
I feel like you could run itwithout me, I mean.
No, she's trying to quit rightnow, but keep those comments
coming in if you think thatsomeone else.
(01:08):
It is nice, it is encouraging,yeah it is and that someone else
will benefit from this podcast.
Maybe they want I can't I'mgoing to be more appropriate
today but maybe you know theyneed help with this or that or
whatever we talk about.
They need a Chevy in their life.
Yeah, go ahead and share ourpodcast on Instagram.
It means a lot to us or any ofthe places that you watch us,
(01:29):
and if you want to give us areview, that would go a long way
.
It really helps us be seen byother new jerkies.
But thanks again.
So if you see us, tell us whatyou like, because it keeps Tisha
from quitting.
Yeah, but moving on, we've hadoh, it's been fun some people
with some of the trendy topicsthat's been new for us this
season.
Um, thanks to you know, tryingto revamp where we want to be.
(01:51):
Tisha sent me tisha hasnightmares that were too
inappropriate and I do too, butshe sent me and tyler's gonna
laugh but she sent me this greatpodcast, girls gone Gone Bible.
Yeah, and it's great, becausesometimes when we find something
all of a sudden, it's liketrending Right.
So she sends me these girls andwe I think we both shared it on
(02:11):
our page.
Yeah, it was a really greatinfo about dating and how you
date to marry Right.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
And so then we like deep dived into their podcast
and they're like number seven ontop charts, because when it's
crazy, because when we saw theyweren't and then they were all
of a sudden In like a few days.
Yeah, it was weird.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
Same with Mel.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
Robbins, Is the top chart really the top chart?
I really like them too.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
Oh, I love them.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
I feel like they have so much good like Content yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
Oh yeah, so follow Girls Gone Bible.
They she's just wanting me tobecome Girls Gone Bible and I'm
watching these girls.
Speaker 2 (02:48):
Well, I was like, look at these wholesome girls,
we should be more wholesome.
And then I listened to it lastweek Can we cut the Stabler role
play?
They don't know Stabler yet.
Oh shoot I forgot.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
Yeah, no, she, yeah Last week.
I listened at the gym thismorning and I told her because
I'll start to think it's superinappropriate and it is when I
listen.
But I was laughing out loudbecause sex is something in
marriage no one talks about whenyou don't want you.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
And the thing you did and it was like I felt like I
was like with my friends, likeyes, well, we're not trying to
be inappropriate for beinginappropriate, we're just trying
to be genuine and we are alittle sometimes we're very
inappropriate in real life.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
Yeah, like it gets awkward with a lot sometimes,
like we use the home depot guyyeah, they, yeah.
What happened with?
Speaker 2 (03:30):
him remember when you were returning the thing, and
then we should probably cut thisbecause we can't tell the story
right, yeah, we can.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
Tyler wants it, let's go, I don't remember.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
So crystal bought a fan.
The fan was broke.
So we had to go talk to the guybecause she, I'm like, just buy
the new fan, put the brokenpart in the other one and return
it.
And she's like that's not beinghonest, I'm like.
And then the guy was like, yeah, just do that, but anyways.
So we go talk to the guy andthe poor guy I don't think he's
ever been talked to like this.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
We always go after the young ones too and make it
weird was he young?
Speaker 2 (04:00):
he was like youngish, like younger than us.
Yes, oh yeah, I know I feelyoung, but I'm not, we're not.
No.
So he was like early 20s maybe,and we were talking to him and
Crystal's telling him the storyand he's kind of like oh, you
know, just return it.
And then I, why did I?
I don't know why we starttalking about I don't know where
(04:24):
it went.
Well, we know what we meanabout her kitty, because she
doesn't have a cat.
So kitty is like I don't haveany fur.
And so I said, yeah, she'salways telling me pet my kitty.
And then she's like do you likea hairless kitty or you like a
hairy kitty, you know?
So we're saying this.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
This is why we're never gonna be girls got bible
exactly they're never calling usto go on their podcast no I
don't.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
Well, I think the guy was like, because I think he
was uncomfortable about thereturn and so I was just trying
to make him laugh.
We like to make people laugh.
We do it with servers, we do itwith everybody.
I don't know if they like it,but they laugh.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
Oh, he was dying, yeah.
And then he was like I'll buyyou a fan by the end.
Yeah, yeah.
Well, I think sometimes we talkto people like a we and then it
sounds like we're together.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
I think that's where we started.
That's what it started.
It was like we're not.
And then I said, well, she'salways trying to get me to pet
her kitty and I don't know whereit came up with that.
I know it really takes youthere.
Yeah, it does.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
I just picture it.
I don't have a kitty.
Yeah, yours is a hairless.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Yeah, I'm into the hairless.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
Yeah, but you know you bible, and she was like on
her knees at her live event andI was like that's just not me
and I was telling tisha fromstopping her from yeah, because
you're on your knees a lot athome, so she doesn't want to be
on her knees, oh I can't sleep.
We're too inappropriate.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
And then she's telling me to pet her kitty no,
but yeah, you are on your kneesat home no do it, yeah, laying
down, yeah, no, anyways, beenmoving on.
I am girl's gone.
Bible is a good.
Well, this is why I'minappropriate, because when it's
just you and I and our poddaddy here, it feels like
natural.
And I can be inappropriatebecause I am inappropriate, so
(06:22):
am I.
But once it comes out, or once Istart thinking this is going to
go to everyone I know andeveryone I see, even though not
everyone listens, I start likefreaking out, they could, they
could find it.
And then I think of, like myhusband and like the people he's
doing business with, do theywant to know about this?
And am I embarrassing him, am Iembarrassing my children?
And I start spiraling and thenI'll wake up to pee in the
(06:47):
middle of the night and then Istart spiraling and I can't go
back to sleep for hours and Ihave all these crazy thoughts,
you know, the middle of thenight thoughts, oh, every time I
had so many this weekend.
So then I call Crystal and shehas to talk me off a ledge.
Speaker 1 (06:57):
I'm like we're not quitting it.
You think like we talked aboutthis too and we're gonna stop
saying like I just said it.
But God created me not to beand I love girls gone bible.
It's just not the way I'm.
I've been a Christian my wholelife so I don't really like I'm
not as you can judge me.
I've been judged so much.
(07:18):
I don't feel like I have to stayin that lane to say I, my
parents, were always Christian,very Christian, but they still,
I guess, sinned or went to thecasino or like they weren't in a
box where I felt like I had tobe one of those.
I don't know, you know, like thepeople that are in that lane,
(07:39):
they never waver in that laneand I think sometimes for me
those type of people are hard torelate because I'm not in a box
and so can I still love God andcan I still be a Christian and
have faith without, you know,being perfect, being perfect.
But I feel like the secret toour faith is that only Jesus is
(08:00):
perfect.
Right, we all have gracebecause we're imperfect, and I
think sometimes people inChristianity judge each other
and people are judging usbecause we are on this soapbox
of saying what people think orsay in private.
We're saying out loud butyou're allowed to have sex when
you're married, right?
It shouldn't be something thatwe're not allowed to talk about,
right?
My mom talked about it with mydad always and I thought it was
(08:22):
so cool that they had a healthysex life, and if you don't want
to talk about it, then don'tlisten.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
Yeah, girls Gone Bible is a great podcast.
Well, what I like about thatpodcast is it's very educational
.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
Yeah, like.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
Bible-based yeah, because I do think that the
world needs more of that, yeah,and so I think that's maybe why
it's so popular too.
I think people crave that.
Speaker 1 (08:43):
And so I crave that, I totally crave that.
You love a good and see, that'sjust not me, Like I'll mess it
up, but I can.
I know my faith and I know mystories, but I can't quote the
Bible like that.
Yeah.
And if I were to try to be that, I wouldn't be authentically
myself.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
Right, well, I think that's where it would be weird
if they're maybe being authentic, so it's perfect.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
And that's their calling.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
Yes, my calling is to live on the edge.
Yes, stay.
I don't color in the lines.
Yes and you do.
Speaker 2 (09:09):
And you like to.
I am more in the lines, kind ofgal.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
So, moving on trending topics.
So we learned a lot about GirlsGone Bible, but trending topics
, what's been so cool aboutrunning into jerkies, in in the
wild?
You know, out there Influences,yeah, out there influences.
They'll ask us like, hey, whatdo you think about this?
Or why aren't you guys talkingabout that right, which I can't
say the guy's name?
Speaker 2 (09:30):
so let's say it band, oh, justin Baldoni or whatever.
Yeah, blake Lively feud goingon in the big deal media right
now they're suing each other,for she's suing him for sexual
harassment, he's suing her fordefamation, and so it's crazy
and we're going to encourage youto pick a side, because we did.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
I've, I've seen Justin, so am I yeah, and I and
I wasn't.
I actually love Blake Livelymore than you do, yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
I loved her gossip girl era.
I was very Blake Lively, youknow, yeah, but now not so much
for me.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
It's funny because last week we planned on talking
about it but we forgot and thenlater in the day it blew up on
social media and I was soannoyed I was like we should
have talked about it.
But we're talking about it now,so she started.
It started back during themovie.
We went to see it.
First of all, it Ends With Usis the best book ever read.
It's so good.
I think I read two of her bookstwice.
(10:28):
Yeah, I think it ends and itstarts with us.
Yeah, it ends with us.
I fully read twice.
Maybe it was the only one.
It's so good.
It's the best book.
If you're above 16, I would saythere is still some.
That's why Tisha likes ColleenHoover.
There's always a little risqueand she likes to talk about the
giddy.
You know baby girl, but thereis some risque, like she likes
(10:49):
to like put the blanket over herhead.
Who you no.
Speaker 2 (10:52):
When you're reading no, no, I was like what and pet
the kitty?
I was like Colleen.
Yeah, no, I didn't know who youwere talking about.
Oh, you do.
Speaker 1 (10:59):
No, but the book theme is about abuse.
Yeah, domestic violence.
Domestic violence and like aheavy book.
But what's so cool about it isthat when you're reading it you
know it's so easy to judgepeople that it you know, right,
you're, you see, even.
You know, last night one of mycheerleaders was over the house.
(11:19):
They were working on somethingand I got on her about this boy
she's talking to, but not, andI'm like, oh good, has he picked
you up for a date, right?
She's like, well, no, I'm like,oh good, I'm like do you guys
go to church together?
She's like, yeah, I'm like, sohe picks you up for a date,
right?
She's like, well, no, I'm like,oh good, I'm like do you guys
go to church together?
She's like, yeah, I'm like, sohe picks you up and he takes you
.
She goes well, no, we see eachother there.
I'm like, yeah, he's notworking for you, right?
And Kyle's like you're beinghard, would you stay right?
(11:50):
Reading this book gives you likea.
You can understand the behindthe scenes of why you stay right
.
Colleen Hoover writes lovestories like you are in love
with.
I'm in love with every guy shewrites about Ryle.
They always have the cutestnames, right, ryle.
And the girls are always likeedgy, yeah, but like confident
in who they are.
So you want to be the girl butyou want to like the guy and you
(12:12):
relate to everything they'refeeling.
It's crazy.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
Yeah, she's the best writer um, yeah, so it makes you
side with the victim and seeingwhy she it's so hard he didn't
mean it.
He didn't mean it.
I was like team ryle, I'm likealice is boring, you know
totally and that no, but notreally said that and then when
we read the book again, we sawit differently.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
But that first time you're so.
So what happens in the book isshe falls in love with this guy.
She's not someone that falls inlove easily, he's a brain
surgeon.
What?
Speaker 2 (12:40):
girl doesn't want to.
Yeah, neurosurgeon, yeah, yeah,and it's like he's, he's rich,
he's cute, buff, he's.
He can't be tamed, he loves her, never loved anyone else loves
her.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
Oh, he loves and they love each other so good, yeah,
so they're so happy.
And then he acts still horribleto say.
But the first one I did feellike was an accident.
Yeah, he accidentally hit her.
We sound horrible, we can't.
But in the story youyle.
(13:10):
So all of us that have everread the book couldn't wait to
see the movie.
But what bothers me why I'mtelling you about the book is
Blake Lively hasn't read thebook.
Speaker 2 (13:19):
Yeah, he's alleging that she has not read it.
It's so wrong.
It's the best book.
Well, it's rude to like.
And how did that's?
I feel like if you're anactress, you need like research.
Yes, you should be researchingyour character, and I I feel the
most research you can do aboutthis character is to read the
novel that you're acting andit's the best novel the way she
(13:40):
writes it.
It's like a story of hero, doyou?
Speaker 1 (13:42):
really think she didn't read it.
I do, yeah, because they kepttrying to change the script and
if you've read the book and theway he wrote the movie.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
Well, that makes sense because a lot of her
interviews after she got slammedbecause she was talking about
lily and her style and heroutfits and everyone's saying
this is like a really heavysubject around representing a
woman that has sufferedgenerational domestic violence
and so was.
She was slammed saying that shewasn't taking, she wasn't
(14:13):
depicting the theme of the bookthe right way and he was, and so
I think that's why she got mad,because she looked bad.
Speaker 1 (14:20):
She looked like an idiot she did and anyone that's
read that book, the whole themeof it, and she's not 22.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
I mean, I know I try to look 22.
You did your hair like herafter the movie I know but she
doesn't look 22,.
But I know I don't either, butI'm not trying to act like it.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
I thought she looked great in the movie and there was
talk that she was carrying babyweight and that he was negative
about that and I thought shelooked great in the movie.
Speaker 2 (14:40):
I thought she was carrying baby weight.
I'm just going to say it.
It's not a shame.
Speaker 1 (14:51):
I filming for six weeks if you have to.
Oh god, I'm just saying no, Iknow, but she didn't.
She looked great in the movieand I think it's almost great
that she's not right perfectsize in the movie totally
because you love lily just asmuch you're so into lily, even
with right.
But now it's coming out he.
So she sues him for sexualharassment, which is laughable
because if you watch, like I've,Candace Owens is now chiming in
(15:11):
and she's reading the pages andpages of the lawsuits.
So you know me, I can'tsummarize it cause I'll mess it
up.
But you want more info, go toCandace Owens.
She's all over this right now.
But his lawsuit is like ahundred pages and the lawyer is
like get ready.
So he released.
I guess they said that he waslicking her neck and whispering
(15:33):
inappropriate things in her ear.
What Blake Lively's team didn'trealize is Justin Baldoni is
also the producer, Director,Director of the movie.
He let the camera roll and thesound while they were doing that
video.
So then last week he releasedthe audio and they're talking
about their marriages.
It's like the most appropriateconversation.
Speaker 2 (15:52):
I saw that in her spray tan.
Yeah, it wasn't inappropriate.
He didn't lick her neck.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
She's telling him he needs a nose job.
It was like the most innocentRight Depiction of what was.
Is that the right word?
Speaker 2 (16:02):
Yeah, maybe I found a big word.
I thought it was great though.
Speaker 1 (16:07):
Yeah, kind it's great though.
Yeah, it kind of goes, but healso now it's like he's released
another video last night, Iguess, he was yeah.
Speaker 2 (16:14):
Well, now they're saying Ryan Reynolds is the
cause of all this, because hegot jealous, because they had
chemistry, allegedly, I don'tknow, but they cornered him in
their hotel, ryan Reynolds, no.
Their penthouse, yeah, ryanReynolds, blake Lively.
And then they had Taylor Swiftthere, which is like why is
Taylor Swift?
Speaker 1 (16:30):
here.
She doesn't know anything abouta movie.
Speaker 2 (16:32):
And she's.
Why is she here?
I don't know.
I think she has a hairy?
Speaker 1 (16:37):
No, I do, and so I do , and she has all those cats,
yeah.
So, there's kitties everywhere.
Kitty there, kitty there.
Speaker 2 (16:52):
I'm not a Taylor Swift fan either, so it's fine,
but don't post that, becausewe'll be like, oh, you know,
it's like I say, post it, butyeah, so anyways.
So they were saying that theywere using their like star power
to kind of like bully him intousing Blake's ideas for the
movie.
And he was like, yeah, theseideas are.
And she sent him this weirdtext after saying she has like
forces and powers and if hedoesn't, use her stuff.
Speaker 1 (17:12):
It was kind of weird.
I'm probably saying it wrongtoo.
Speaker 2 (17:13):
No, they did something like the lion and then
he left her a voicemail at 2 am.
Now he's releasing thevoicemail.
He's so apologetic andrespectful of the voice.
Yeah, it's not looking likewhat she's alleging is accurate.
Speaker 1 (17:24):
Yesterday it's not looking good for her.
Yesterday we saw a video on theplane.
You know we've been togetherfor about 80, 90 hours
consistently because we went ona cheer trip this weekend.
But on the plane there's a videoof him.
Fans run into him at thegrocery store and he won't even
touch the girl's back Like inthe picture.
You can see his hand.
It's appropriately placed onher shoulder and he didn't even
(17:48):
like there's this much spacebetween his hand and her back.
Yeah, so we're saying, if he'sthat kind of guy, is he really?
Speaker 2 (17:54):
Yeah, or he's just like oh, I'm getting sued, I
better keep my hands up here,you know.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
But also A Simple Favor is another excellent book,
Such a good book.
And Blake Lively and AnnaKendrick are in that movie, and
now it's coming out that Blakeand Anna had beef in that movie.
Speaker 2 (18:13):
And I heard her and Blair on Gossip Girl had beef
Well.
Speaker 1 (18:15):
Blake was trying to change the storyline in A Simple
Favor 2.
Did you read that book?
Speaker 2 (18:21):
Blake.
Maybe she just needs to go,like, make her own movie.
You know, yeah, it's weird.
And why are we changing books?
It's like.
But anyways, I like.
If she's having all theseissues with people, it's like
the common denominator.
Remember, in cheer?
Yeah, it'd be like.
If you're falling in everystunt, you're the common
denominator.
How do you fight with Blair too?
Yeah, you're the commondenominator.
So if she's the issue and allthese issues, she's the issue.
Speaker 1 (18:43):
I know it's bad.
I think she thought she wouldtake him down, right.
And then my friend got in anaccident years ago and then she
was getting sued for theaccident and she was single and
young and so frustrated and theyshe ended up hiring a family
member that's a personal or a PI, and ended up that the guy was
a lawyer, so he was suing her,right.
And then the PI got involvedand my friend didn't remember
(19:05):
what happened in the accident.
It was so traumatic, right, shewas in the hospital for months.
I remember it came out that hecaused the accident Because her
family that's a PI did all theevidence, so then he sued her
and then she ended up winningthe lawsuit.
That's crazy and it's like Ithink that's what's going to
happen here.
It's like you try to save yourname because you're worried
about bad publicity, right, andlittle did you know the bad
(19:28):
publicity coming at Blake andRyan right now?
Speaker 2 (19:30):
Yeah, we'll see, unless she releases some new,
allegedly Alleged things.
Speaker 1 (19:35):
I'm team Bandone.
Speaker 2 (19:37):
For now.
Speaker 1 (19:37):
Yeah, what is Bandone ?
Is he Italian Baldone?
I think there's an L in there.
Speaking of Italians, let'sjump to Paige DeSorbo.
Yeah, ugh, paige, I love, butwhat is going on?
Speaker 2 (19:48):
Yeah, I always think, and I'll say this thoroughly
you always say a girl doesn'tleave unless she has something
on the back burner.
That's what I was going to say.
Speaker 1 (19:56):
No girl just walks out of a relationship where it's
like cut.
Like Craig said, they weren'ttalking after.
No girl is that strong.
Every guy I broke up with Iknew it was wrong but I was
still like, hey, you busy later,totally.
Yeah, I miss you.
Like it's so hard, a hundredpercent.
So when they didn't talk, I'mlike something's weird.
Why, before the holidays, sosupposedly allegedly she was
(20:17):
with this guy on New Year's.
Speaker 2 (20:24):
We talked about last week, which might not air, but
last week we talked about howshe His ex-fiance is alleging
that Paige was pursuing him andDMing him while they were
together.
Speaker 1 (20:31):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
Which she fully was.
Speaker 1 (20:33):
Fiance, I'm just disappointed and she was with
Craig.
It's so rude.
It's so rude.
I always say if you want to getout, get out Right, don't cheat
, don't have an emotional affair.
Speaker 2 (20:41):
Yeah, it was emotional.
I'm not saying she like didanything, but they were
definitely talking Right, yeah,well, we know somebody.
Well, we kind of.
Anyways, ben and I knowsomebody and the guy's wife is
leaving him and he was like alldistraught and she got a boob
job and she was going out andBen's telling me what he's
telling him and I'm like, oh,she totally has someone else.
(21:03):
You're not leaving yourmarriage with your new boobs and
all this.
If you're not, there's someoneelse, there's always someone
else.
There's someone else.
Girls don't leave that easily.
Speaker 1 (21:10):
I said it right away.
I'm like there's someone else.
They really don't.
So it's sad.
I know it's sad, but I'm teamCraig still.
I love.
Speaker 2 (21:24):
Paige and Sorbo though, but I'm team Craig.
I think they're not right.
That's horrible.
I'm just kidding.
I love Ben.
I'm not going anywhere.
Speaker 1 (21:28):
I know it's just.
I feel for Craig, like whenJessica Simpson did that years
ago when she got her.
What was that movie your BootsAre Made for Walking?
Oh, the Dukes of Hazzard.
Yeah, she got her Duke's body.
Then she was leaving.
Nick the.
Duke's body was like reallygood, though yeah, she was
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starving.
Well, I think sometimes whenyou chase fame.
Speaker 2 (21:58):
That's why we don't want to be famous, but kind of,
but not really.
Yeah, but we don't really wantto be famous.
Speaker 1 (22:00):
We just, you know, no , just rich.
No, I'm just kidding.
Speaker 2 (22:01):
She always gets mad at me when I say rich so
embarrassing I mean like if Ididn't have to worry about it
money, I think anyone wouldagree.
I don't feel like you worryabout money right now no, I mean
a little like I worry about,like the future you guys.
Speaker 1 (22:16):
You don't even know what she's like to fly with.
It's so stupid.
She's worried the whole time.
She got on the plane yesterdayand said I have a bad feeling.
I said if you had a goodfeeling I'd be worried.
I did have a bad feeling looksat the plane the whole time like
if you did see the wing flaming.
What are you gonna do?
Speaker 2 (22:30):
you gonna go out there and put it out I don't
know, and I I'm a glutton forpunishment.
You are weirdly no, yes, no, no, we're not, no, moving on,
moving on.
There's some things that stayin a friendship and they're not
discussed publicly.
Anyways, I am a glutton forpunishment.
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Stop, I know.
Speaker 1 (22:54):
I know it's a hard.
No.
Speaker 2 (22:55):
I do when I look out the window.
If I see the engine on fire, Imean, I half expect to see it
when I'm looking out, and when Isee it, what are you going to
do then, though?
I don't know, but I know it'scoming, and so you always like
to not.
Oh, it's just horrible.
I hate flying, and it's weirdbecause I'm flying all the time
for cheer and I don't get usedto it.
Speaker 1 (23:13):
I wish there was a way I need to get hypnotized.
Speaker 2 (23:16):
Have you heard of people like getting hypnotized?
Speaker 1 (23:18):
Yeah, is that godly Maybe not, I don't think so I
don't think it is either.
Speaker 2 (23:23):
I think you just pray about it.
Yeah, I.
Speaker 1 (23:26):
Worries of the devil.
I know and you're letting thedevil in, and I almost think you
like it, because you are aglutton of punishment.
I almost think you like thrivein this.
Like I'm on the plane, I'mscared.
Let me look out the window.
Speaker 2 (23:37):
No, I hate every minute of it.
Then take a dramamine with me.
I know I say the Lord's Prayerover and over and over 50 times,
still scared.
Speaker 1 (23:48):
I know, I know, but you drive like a maniac.
You almost crashed us 50 timesthe other day.
You're texting the whole time.
Speaker 2 (23:53):
You should be scared then I know I don't, I'm not
scared, then I don't know.
Speaker 1 (23:56):
We're late for a flight.
We're running to the airport.
Speaker 2 (23:59):
I think I'm in control when I'm driving and
which is crazy because God'scontrol is way more like safe
than my control.
My control sucks, but God'scontrol is way more.
I should have more of a peacewhen God's in control, but for
me that's a really hard area.
I know we talk about this andsure.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (24:19):
So I don't actually have a hard time most of the
time lending God being control.
I always trust him.
I always feel like I give it tohim, but lately, in certain
areas, it's harder for me.
So I'm getting it.
I'm getting it how hard it isto release and trust him.
But I think we talked aboutthis weeks ago and I've still
been trying to live like thatthat sometimes good things come
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out of the pivots, and I'll saythat again.
Good things come out of thepivots.
So like when life takes you ona turn, instead of stressing
about the turn, enjoy it becausehe might be taking you
somewhere else.
Like it's God's plan, yeah.
And like sometimes, even inanything like our friendship.
We had two years of dark timeand, as much as it was hard and
I hate that that pivot foreverchanged everything.
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Like you're a different person,like we'd never have jerking
around no, no, but like you grewas a person.
Your marriage got better, youmade other friends that like
you're still so close with.
I feel like the pivot was agood thing, even though it was
something really hard.
And I feel like every time likethere's a pivot, sometimes we
don't realize God's working itout for the good, but we always
want to like maneuver it andyou've got to let go.
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But sometimes we want to makedecisions right in the middle of
a pivot and the hardest thingis, sometimes he wants us to
just sit and wait, and I don'tthink you're good at that.
I think sometimes, like in life, there's some things you want
to make decisions.
Let's like just pray in it andsit in it.
Remember, I thought about this.
Speaker 2 (25:41):
Well, I always think God doesn't care about these
things because he's like dealingwith like the people getting
murdered and all the worldissues and the people that don't
even know him in the darkcorners of the world, and so I
feel like my problems are stupid.
So I'm just like I'll solvethis Cause.
It's like minor and God doesn'tneed to be bothered with this.
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So I'll do this one and thenthe things that I can't, I can
more, like when my control runsout and I know I'm not in
control, then I can go to him.
But if it's something that Ican control, which is like 90%,
I feel like I'm in.
I'm not trusting him at all.
Speaker 1 (26:20):
I know, but little pivots, you never know where
he's guiding you.
Yeah, and I think sometimes,like you've made those pivots
and like you've taken control,and then later we're like why
did I?
What am I doing?
Yeah, why did I do that insteadof just sitting in it for a
minute and not making a rashdecision just time?
Yeah, because, like we alwaystalk about where my kid Maddie,
when we were deciding on highschool and totally in right
(26:41):
fashion of us, you know, wewanted to time that together and
go to the same high school andTisha was asking me where you
know, where are you going to goto high school?
Where are the kids going?
And I said I don't know.
God hasn't told me yet.
Yeah, and you thought that wasso stupid, totally, and I
literally prayed on it for likea year before.
Speaker 2 (26:57):
And then all of a sudden, randomly, out of nowhere
, you ran into, I ran into andCindy, who I coach with.
Speaker 1 (27:02):
We talk about that story all the time because it
was so, from God.
Yeah, it was a basketball gameI didn't really want to go to of
a friend of mine's daughter andlike I run pretty busy, it's
not like I'm just running to abasketball game on a weekday,
right, like our kids are verybusy.
So my kids with Kyle I'm notmaking it look like it, they're
our kids.
Yeah, well, it is our kids.
Yeah, it's weird, but I went tothe same area I've never run
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into her and, um, we ended uptalking and like crying had an
hour talk and in the middle ofthat she, you and I had been
talking about coaching.
It's God laid it on my heart andI was like I feel like I'm
going to coach again and I'vebeen praying about it and we
were going to go to anotherschool and then she told me that
position was opening.
But she said to me that firstnight I'd like you to coach with
me and it was at the one schoolI didn't want to go to.
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I didn't want to go to Liberty.
I thought it was.
I had my own pretense of whatit was like there.
I was like I don't want to it'sLiberty, like I don't.
But again, if that was mychoice, that wouldn't have been
where I would have picked atthat time.
I would just picked something,whereas you were just like hold
on, I'll know there's a sign andthen a very clear sign, very
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clear sign, and I look at likethe people God has put in our
life.
From that school and from thatdecision, they're God.
It's not just about where mykids go to school, it's like who
furthers their faith.
Who's furthering my faith?
Right Like the people I coachwith make me so much better of a
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person.
They fill my cup my kidsdirection.
Who you make friends with inhigh school is a big deal.
Totally, they're all Christian.
It's like crazy what he did inthat decision.
Yeah, so I think in those smallpivots, even when I found Top
Gun years ago, one of myfavorite things this weekend, we
were on a cheer trip.
This last weekend Our girls docompetitive cheerleading We've
probably talked about it andthey cheer at Top Gun All-Stars,
Peoria and we're obsessed withit.
there we're obsessed with it,and our gym owner is one of our
(28:54):
very best friends.
Yeah, he's the best I've talkedabout on here, who I admire,
and he's one of my favoritepeople I admire.
They always say he's actually ajerky now.
Yeah, but they always say youwant to be in a circle with
people that are better than you,and that's who he is to me.
Yeah, he's like someone Iaspire to be more like.
He's amazing, anyways.
So our highest level team who'sthe best team level six team
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competed.
We went and watched, and assoon as they finished, it was a
perfect routine.
As soon as they finished, theywalked through the parents and,
before they celebrate with theirparents, they pulled them over
to a huddle, they got in acircle and they thanked God it
was so cool to me and the coachprayed and he thanked God for
all the things.
Thank God for the athletes.
Then, after they finished, theywent and celebrated.
Right, and I'm like it's so.
(29:36):
Not about sports, it's notabout shooting, it's not about
the bow, it's not about the full, it's about what this program
is teaching my kids.
Right again, though, god putour kids at this gym with these
people to grow them closer tohim, and they're small decisions
, but they forever changed thetrajectory of our life.
Yeah, so trust, but speaking ofon the way, here we were
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talking about club sports and Ifelt guilty many times about how
busy we run.
You know like I don't know aboutyour week, but Monday we have
this After school.
Tuesdays are it's every nightlighter night, but usually a
practice gets put on there too,wednesday night, something
Thursday night, something Friday, saturday, sunday.
It's crazy and I think the themotto out there is that too busy
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is too busy.
You don't want your kidsrunning around, you don't want
to miss this time.
Yes and after we.
Can you know, or?
Speaker 2 (30:28):
we fill the kids with so much sports and all these
things that don't matter thatthey're too busy.
That's kind of like.
There's like both sides of thespectrum.
Speaker 1 (30:36):
And I would say that probably I was on the other side
Kevin Lehman, someone I reallyrespect, as, like a parental
leader, always says, they're nothamsters.
Don't run them on a wheel,don't keep them so busy that
they can't breathe.
Right, I don't think I'm doinggreat and not keeping them so
busy they can't breathe, butlately, with the phones and the
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video games and everything thatgoes on at home, I don't want
them sitting at home onelectronics and when we are home
, sometimes the tensions are alittle weird and I feel like
that's something people don'ttalk about.
Like what does a family nightlook like?
right because we talked about itonce that we I thought your
family nights were amazing.
You thought my family nightswere amazing.
Speaker 2 (31:18):
I'm all get out of here.
I don't care if you hate themovie, you're watching it or
you're grounded and it's likeyeah.
Speaker 1 (31:24):
So like I have this like insecurity of are we doing
enough like we've done, likegame nights times.
It's kind of awkward but we doit.
But then we'll make them watcha show with us or a movie to get
them out of their rooms.
But my kids are in their roomsa lot when we're home so I don't
really want them in their roomson social media or playing
sports.
So I don't mind keeping thembusy because I noticed that for
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me there's a healthy limit,right, there's busy enough where
I'm productive, but too busywhere I'm spinning.
And that's what last year wasRight, it was too busy, I'm
spinning, I'm missing moments,I'm missing life, I am too
distracted.
So I feel like I learned how tobe present, right, but in still
being present, I think some ofmy best memories or moments with
my kids have been through clubsports, right, and some of my
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favorite people I've met hasbeen through club sports.
Speaker 2 (32:10):
Well, like you said, so, nowadays, when kids are at
home, unless you're planning andyou're having implementing
things, which, if you do that,that's amazing.
Speaker 1 (32:20):
Yeah, and I'm not that mom, but I love it If
you're implementing like nophones, we're doing this, we're
doing this.
I love that.
Sherry Beltrama was great atthat.
Speaker 2 (32:28):
But a lot of times when kids are home it's almost
the opposite of like now.
When they're home, they'rescrolling, they're playing video
games or they're on their phoneor they're on electronics or
they're being antisocial, wherewhen they're in the club sports
and they're interacting in morereal life because now so much of
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life is virtual it's almostlike isolation.
More when they're home, becauseI feel like you know, my oldest
is not in.
He's between football and we'remaking him do track.
He's real excited, but he's inbetween.
So he had a couple months andit's like he's coming home and
playing video games and and I'mworking and and the other kids
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are at sports.
So there's not a lot for himand I to do.
We'll watch shows or whatever,but there's not a whole lot
planned at home and I'm findingthe idle time.
He's grouchier than when he wasbusier in the beginning of the
season of the year and he's alot less less social.
He was talking to friends everyday because they were in
football and now I feel likehe's almost.
It's the opposite, yeah, and youwouldn't think it would be.
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You'd think, oh, he's at homeand he's getting more missing
assignments.
He has more time in his handsweird, yeah, yeah.
So, and I do think being sobusy and learning to juggle and
balance is like a really goodskill to learn young, because as
a mom or a dad, you have tolearn to juggle work, parenting,
all the things.
So I think it's good for themto learn early on how to manage
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your time, how to manage oh, ifI have practice, I have to get
this homework done, or you know,it's just good life skills.
But I do see, like the peoplethat move to a homestead and
they they work family, they havethe rules.
I love that too.
I wish I could be like that.
I do see like the people thatmove to a homestead and they
they work family, they have therules.
Speaker 1 (34:12):
I love that too.
I wish I could be like that.
I do too and I compliment Icontemplate it daily.
Speaker 2 (34:16):
Yeah, because I'm like this world's whacked, let's
get out of here.
Speaker 1 (34:19):
You know, yeah, it's hard, yeah, I, I feel but I
don't think it has the bad namethat you say.
I always worry if it's enoughfamily time, and I think that's
a normal thing.
I think a lot of people worryand then we're fighting.
When we're all together, thekids are fighting, I'm fighting,
and then you look at otherpeople on social media and
you're like they don't look,like they're fighting.
Why are we fighting?
Why is family night so fun?
Speaker 2 (34:40):
This weekend was family time because I was with
my daughter all weekend and nota lot am I with her for three or
four days uninterrupted.
We were together the whole time.
It was a lot of family time.
I wasn't off, but it's only twoof you, right?
Speaker 1 (34:54):
So, like we don't fight, no one's fighting, yes,
no one's yelling Right, there'snot like this tension.
Speaker 2 (34:58):
But I'm saying that was through club sports that
there was family time.
Speaker 1 (35:02):
Yeah, you know what I mean?
The kids, what's their favoritetrip?
We've gone on and everybodyknows Tisha and I like to travel
because we didn't go on a lotof trips growing up, so we try
to make up for it.
We all have our reasons, um,and they always say like they're
cheer trips and I'm like right,really, I know all these places
we go, but I think it's justthe dynamic of all of it right
now it's.
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It's such a cool memory and nowthat you're fading out, because
last year my oldest it was herlast year with Top Gun, because
then I encouraged her to do highschool, to get involved in the
school, and I was like gettingso sad all year and Tisha's like
no, I'm ready, I'm like you'redumb, you know.
Speaker 2 (35:37):
Yeah, it's so busy, I'll be glad when it's done
Right, I'm all the millions ofdollars in travel.
It's millions of dollars, butthen I'm sad for you now.
Speaker 1 (35:45):
I'm so sad, because then I'm losing you.
Speaker 2 (35:47):
I know I'm so sad and I'll be traveling without you,
it's like so many cool memories.
I know.
Speaker 1 (35:53):
And even with Broxton , like with his baseball team, I
love their families.
Speaker 2 (35:58):
Yeah, I love the families.
Speaker 1 (35:59):
It's like the best families we have the best time,
so even when we played footballI love.
You've been blessed to meet alot of people, but I think the
tensions come when you'rerunning around so much that
you're not spending time withyour husband.
Speaker 2 (36:12):
I saw a clip and I've shared it.
Yeah, that's almost the timethat suffers.
It's not the kid time, becauseyou're all about the kids.
It's like the connecting withyour spouse, because if you have
more than one or two kids,you're dividing, and I think
that's where the club scores gowrong.
Speaker 1 (36:25):
With the family?
Yeah, Because even last night Iwas gone with Tisha.
It's so sounding like we'retogether, but I was gone with
Tisha for a couple of days andHudson, my middle daughter.
So when I got home Maddie hadfriends over.
They were working on a project.
Broxton really wanted myattention, Kyle really wanted my
attention, and then I wasbehind on work because we were
on a plane.
So I felt so pulled.
But I've been trying to chooseKyle first, because they always
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say it's God husband, then kids.
Speaker 2 (36:47):
Well, and the kids will be happier seeing you guys
together.
Speaker 1 (36:50):
Yeah, someone posted that your kids, what they want
for you most, is to see youchoose each other first.
Speaker 2 (36:55):
And that makes them the most secure.
So you're like helping theirself-esteem and their psyche by
seeing a strong family, yeah.
Speaker 1 (37:04):
Marriage unit yeah yeah but I always feel guilty
sometimes Because, Broxton, Iwant to watch a show with him
too.
Speaking of a show, Night Agent.
Have you watched that?
Speaker 2 (37:12):
Yeah, season two's out.
Yeah, ben's, he put it on lastnight.
I was kind of distracted, butyeah, you can't be, and the guy
grew a beard.
I'm like no.
Speaker 1 (37:19):
No, no, no, that's only the beginning.
He shaves it and he's back yeah.
Not even by the end of theepisode he's back.
Yeah, because that was kind oflike.
Speaker 2 (37:34):
you know, I was into it and then I was like, ooh the
beard, Do you guys play NightAgent?
No, but maybe we will.
Speaker 1 (37:54):
I kitty, it's shaved.
Oh only hairless cats aroundhere, boy, oh boy, oh boy.
Speaking of, though, when we'reon our trips we were talking in
the car.
We try not to talk on the wayhere but something that's new as
your kids get older especiallyour daughters is the attitude
you get of not being cool.
There's this all of a sudden,when you go from the kids
wanting to spend time with youto you're not cool anymore.
Speaker 2 (38:13):
Which I'm like.
You kind of do think I'm coolbecause you're still stealing
all my clothes, but you act likeI'm the giant, a giant idiot.
It's so, and I don't feel likeboys do that.
Maybe they do, that's thejerkies, but like I feel like my
boys do not think I'm an idiotwhatsoever.
Speaker 1 (38:24):
I feel like they'll have their stage where they're
not as clingy with their mom.
But I don't think it's like acompetition.
I think with girls there's thislevel of like I'm.
It's like the way they growaway from you, right?
Speaker 2 (38:35):
they want to establish their own identity yes
and they don't want to be inyour shadow.
They don't want to be like youfor a minute right, because my
daughter and I I feel like we'vealways had a really great
relationship so close.
She's always been sassy butlike I don't know, she now acts
like I'm a giant idiot.
Speaker 1 (38:48):
See, and I don't see that you're not close and all
this stuff you're talking about?
Speaker 2 (38:51):
Well, she's just mean .
Speaker 1 (38:53):
Yeah, and it's.
Speaker 2 (38:54):
She says some things and I'm it's.
I'm having a hard time with itand Crystal's like you're too
sensitive and I think I'm justnot used to it.
Speaker 1 (39:02):
I think it's good to lock it down.
I I think like sometimes likeus not being cool.
Speaker 2 (39:08):
that's not really, which I don't feel like being
cool, but she makes me feelstupid all the time yeah, there
they go together.
Speaker 1 (39:13):
That's what it is.
That's what it is.
Speaker 2 (39:13):
It's like not like I'm trying to be, I'm the cool
mom, but like, don't make mefeel like an idiot when I'm just
standing there paying formillions of dollars of things
for you and taking you on yourstupid cheer trips.
They're not stupid, but youknow what I mean.
Yeah, I'm, I'm feeling like you.
You're making me feel like anidiot when I'm just here for you
and I do not like that feeling.
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It enrages me, in fact.
Speaker 1 (39:34):
Clearly yeah.
But I think sometimes it'simportant to know it's not so
personal as much as it's themgrowing.
Speaker 2 (39:41):
Right.
Speaker 1 (39:41):
And she's not trying to hurt you, she's not trying to
do all that.
She still can't disrespect foryou outwardly Totally.
But I think sometimes kids arejust growing in their own way.
They can't disrespect.
But I think there's a period,like I told Tisha last year,
eighth grade with my oldest Ididn't sounds bad, but like I
didn't enjoy time with her likeI used to.
Speaker 2 (40:00):
That's how I'm feeling now and we're in eighth
grade.
Maybe it's an eighth gradething.
Speaker 1 (40:04):
It's an eighth grade, maybe transition, and I'm
looking forward to next year.
But, last year I went.
You're usually one of myfavorite people to be with and
right now I like want to get youout of the car.
Yeah, You're making me feellike an idiot.
Speaker 2 (40:13):
That's how I feel.
24-7.
Speaker 1 (40:15):
Yes, like she used to make me feel good, and then I
felt like an idiot, like I feltlike insecure.
Speaker 2 (40:19):
And we'd like laugh.
Yeah, like you know, like it'sreally weird.
I'm like where's my sweetdaughter?
Bring her back, you know.
Speaker 1 (40:30):
I think it's just a phase and I think, the more you
I have, I have someone in mylife that's super close to me
that I went to dinner with andshe told me once your kids are
going to go away, you're goingto think you've lost them.
You're going to think wherethey go.
I don't even know these people.
She's like you need to justsustain it.
They come back, she's like.
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But let them grow.
Don't take it personal, don'toveranalyze it.
It's just them growing andthey'll.
And I think it's so importantto not overly react that's one
of Kevin Lehman's things isdon't overly react.
Right, be in control.
You know like what you did.
Take their phone.
If they disrespect, take it, doan immediate consequence, but
don't make it so personal.
Speaker 2 (41:08):
Right.
Well, I do that Sometimesthey're not happy, and my
obviously, as a mom, you wantyour kids to be happy.
So when I notice my oldest andmy daughter, if I notice them
unhappy or like moody and justkind of seeming meh, I
immediately want to fix theirproblem, especially my oldest.
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I'm like what's wrong?
And he's like nothing.
I'm just tired and I'm like, ohno, well, you seem grouchy, you
seem like you're upset, youseem.
And then I finally had toremind myself and if he's not
happy it's fine.
I was not happy for a lot ofchildhood and nobody cared, but
it was good.
You're not going to be happyall the time.
I think that's an Americanculture thing.
Speaker 1 (41:46):
Yeah, like you've got to be happy and you got to
change your attitude and you gotto it's.
You actually grow a lot throughunhappy times.
Totally Like the last year wasamazing for me.
Yeah, with my dad I wasn'thappy a lot, totally, and it was
so much growth right and Iappreciate things so much
differently.
Yeah, but no one was gonna makeme change my attitude about my
loss no.
Speaker 2 (42:05):
so now when I'm like seeing him unhappy I'm, or my
daughter, I just kind of likeignore it and try to act like
it's no big deal because they'rethen they're fine five minutes
later.
It's just kind of a.
It's the hormones too, I thinkit's just all of it.
And as as a teenager I wasremember when Darlene on
Roseanne, I like watchedRoseanne and I was like, oh,
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darlene wore all black and wasunhappy and then she got
whatever she wanted.
So I was like I'm going to beDarlene.
So I started wearing all blackand reading my book all the time
and my family was like, yeah,yeah, okay, so we're going on,
you know.
And then no one cared.
So then you came back, yeah.
So I was like, well, this sucks, you know.
But I tried it for like a month.
I was like I'm not talking toanyone, darlene wouldn't talk in
the show and she just wouldn'ttalk to anyone and engage.
(42:47):
And it's actually really smartthat they put that in a show,
because kids do do weird things,they do.
And so I was like I'm not goingto the wedding.
She's like okay, honey, we'llsee you later.
And I was like, oh, cause, Ithought it was.
I was mad.
She was getting married.
You know, it was like the fifthtime or something, and I was
(43:15):
like, well, I'm going to showher and then I'm going to be
Darlene, and it's no one caredif I was happy and I think it
was good for me to figure thingsout on my own.
Speaker 1 (43:24):
you know, oh God, I had a mullet and was the fat kid
in the corner and no one cared.
No one cared.
Yeah, I'm all mom.
They all said they're going tothat I'm like butter the most
fattening thing in the world andthey said so you're going to
gymnastics?
Yeah, and I'm like mom shenever fed into feeling sorry.
Speaker 2 (43:41):
Yeah, that's how I am now.
I'm trying to be with the kidsNever fed in.
Speaker 1 (43:45):
Yeah, but something interesting that you're
reminding me of what we talkedabout this weekend and that we
want to remind our kids about islike we are and you've taught
me this before and I want to sayit again your kids are what you
say, they are Right, and so wehave to be careful, when we are
disappointed or we arefrustrated with them, that we're
not telling them they'resomeone else Right.
(44:05):
So you told me once, Like whyare you depressed?
Speaker 2 (44:08):
or something or even like sometimes.
Speaker 1 (44:09):
I was listening to our podcast this morning and we
were talking you were telling astory about our wonderful
clients and how they don't.
They don't talk bad to eachother, but they call their kids
dumbass.
Speaker 2 (44:24):
But where we?
Speaker 1 (44:24):
didn't say is like they were joking.
Oh, he was kidding, not likeyou dumbass, he was using it as
an example.
It was funny, but I do thinksometimes we got to be careful
not to call them names or sayyou are this.
You know, we do it, naturally,but you always taught me.
One kid's dad always saidyou're going to be in jail one
day if you don't get your stufftogether and if you don't get
(44:45):
good grades.
And he went to jail.
And this weekend I had anepiphany where someone in my
life always makes fun of mycoaching, to be honest, and my
old coaching and I had ran intoone of my cheerleaders who's
also jerky.
You know who you are and we hadthe best talks and she reminded
me of so much of who I was thatI literally forgot.
Right, and it was like so crazythat I started to identify as
this other thing.
Yeah, not identifying in aweird way, but you are who
people tell you.
You are Right.
(45:06):
So it's so important, even whenour kids are bugging us and
even when that we're soempowering them that they are
good, even when they're beingnasty.
Right, you know, you are like.
Maybe not, you're a brat, I'mlike ooh, yeah.
Yeah, but, like, I know you'regoing through some things right
now, but you're still great,right, like, and you'll figure
it out and empower them.
I did call her that Instead oflike, call it.
Take it personal, right,because that's how the devil
works through things.
(45:26):
Yeah Is like.
Divide you guys, make you guysseparate, right, tell her she's
these bad things, but you wantto be a mom.
That's never, ever Like.
Even I said my parents, nomatter how good or bad I was at
anything, they always acted likeI was the best at it.
Right, I was literally deadlast in cross country and
they're like you did it, youknow.
And they looked at each other.
(45:46):
In swim team, I was pulling onthe lane lines and sinking,
literally, and they were likeyou did it.
They wouldn't critique me, theywouldn't say what I could have
done better.
They never did that to me.
They always told me I was greatand like my brother and I have
confidence of.
Like a donkey.
Yeah, does donkey haveconfidence?
I'm all I don't know, Maybethey do An elephant.
Speaker 2 (46:05):
We have good confidence.
Yeah, a jackass, no, no, I dothink like I've seen those
things that say, like you're, Isay like a lot, but I've seen
those things that say you're,what you tell your kids becomes
their inner voice, and I thinkit's so important and it's not
even kids, because the personyou were talking about wasn't
even your parent.
So it's just so important.
Whoever we're interacting with,we speak life.
(46:26):
Yeah, like the girls gone.
Speaker 1 (46:28):
Bible Exactly let's speak life into people.
But I think, even infrustration, be careful at how
you say who you are Like, evenif they're disrespecting us.
Not you're so disrespectfullike If they're disrespecting us
not you're so disrespectfulLike those words really hurt me
and I know you're better thanthat, right, remind them to go
back.
But even in anything like eventhe girls I coach, even my
(46:49):
husband, you know he's the onethat gets the most of my
everybody else.
He always says everybody in theworld gets all the great
crystal.
And then you're so done withthe great crystal that at home
I'm done with you, I'm done withyou, I'm done with you, I'm
done with you Right.
And I sometimes say you'realways grouchy, that's not nice,
right, you know you're alwaysmake everything a problem.
Those aren't kind words.
Like I'm not breathing lifeinto him.
No, and they always say likeyou can tell a really successful
(47:09):
great man by who his wife wasRight, and like Don Wilson, his
wife was always.
Like you can tell he's soconfident because of who his
wife is Right.
And I even see with you and BenI think you've made Ben better
in so many ways because you dobuild his confidence?
Yeah, I try to build hisconfidence, you know, and I
think I've done that for Kyle,but I think some other areas I
could do a better job.
But even I see it between theboys, the dads and the sons,
(47:29):
like he'll be, like you know youcan't be lazy and you're being,
they're telling them who theyare.
Yeah, and you want to alwaysmake sure, if you're going to
tell them who they are, tellthem something great, right,
like Girls Gone Bible, mm-hmm.
So I think we get some outthere.
Make sure you breathe life intopeople and don't pet anyone
else's kitty but your own.
(47:50):
Yep, welcome to Jerking Arounda podcast that makes you feel
better about yourself, becausewe're a mess just like you and
Crystal makes mess just like youand crystal makes fun of me,
and it's great and it's real.
Welcome to Jerking Around, a podcast that makes you
feel better about yourself,because we're a mess just like
you, and Crystal makes fun of methe whole time and it's great
and it's real.
Hey guys, hey, welcome, welcome.
(00:26):
Today there's a lot of funthings to talk about.
Yeah, I guess we'll see whenthey come out, but today, you
guys, we have been so blessed torun into a lot of jerkies out
on the streets.
Yeah, so Tisha always thinksthere's two listeners.
I do feel like there is waymore than two.
Yeah, but we want you guys toknow how important it is that
you listen, because Tisha wantsto quit like every day, every
(00:47):
day.
So keep commenting, keeptelling us that you like it.
Every time I get a nice commenton my Instagram or in person, I
send it to her and our poddaddy so that she doesn't quit.
So, literally, she hasnightmares about quitting once a
week.
So keep those coming in.
I feel like you could run itwithout me, I mean.
No, she's trying to quit rightnow, but keep those comments
coming in if you think thatsomeone else.
(01:08):
It is nice, it is encouraging,yeah it is and that someone else
will benefit from this podcast.
Maybe they want I can't I'mgoing to be more appropriate
today but maybe you know theyneed help with this or that or
whatever we talk about.
They need a Chevy in their life.
Yeah, go ahead and share ourpodcast on Instagram.
It means a lot to us or any ofthe places that you watch us,
(01:29):
and if you want to give us areview, that would go a long way
.
It really helps us be seen byother new jerkies.
But thanks again.
So if you see us, tell us whatyou like, because it keeps Tisha
from quitting.
Yeah, but moving on, we've hadoh, it's been fun some people
with some of the trendy topicsthat's been new for us this
season.
Um, thanks to you know, tryingto revamp where we want to be.
(01:51):
Tisha sent me tisha hasnightmares that were too
inappropriate and I do too, butshe sent me and tyler's gonna
laugh but she sent me this greatpodcast, girls gone Gone Bible.
Yeah, and it's great, becausesometimes when we find something
all of a sudden, it's liketrending Right.
So she sends me these girls andwe I think we both shared it on
(02:11):
our page.
Yeah, it was a really greatinfo about dating and how you
date to marry Right.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
And so then we like deep dived into their podcast
and they're like number seven ontop charts, because when it's
crazy, because when we saw theyweren't and then they were all
of a sudden In like a few days.
Yeah, it was weird.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
Same with Mel.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
Robbins, Is the top chart really the top chart?
I really like them too.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
Oh, I love them.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
I feel like they have so much good like Content yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
Oh yeah, so follow Girls Gone Bible.
They she's just wanting me tobecome Girls Gone Bible and I'm
watching these girls.
Speaker 2 (02:48):
Well, I was like, look at these wholesome girls,
we should be more wholesome.
And then I listened to it lastweek Can we cut the Stabler role
play?
They don't know Stabler yet.
Oh shoot I forgot.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
Yeah, no, she, yeah Last week.
I listened at the gym thismorning and I told her because
I'll start to think it's superinappropriate and it is when I
listen.
But I was laughing out loudbecause sex is something in
marriage no one talks about whenyou don't want you.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
And the thing you did and it was like I felt like I
was like with my friends, likeyes, well, we're not trying to
be inappropriate for beinginappropriate, we're just trying
to be genuine and we are alittle sometimes we're very
inappropriate in real life.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
Yeah, like it gets awkward with a lot sometimes,
like we use the home depot guyyeah, they, yeah.
What happened with?
Speaker 2 (03:30):
him remember when you were returning the thing, and
then we should probably cut thisbecause we can't tell the story
right, yeah, we can.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
Tyler wants it, let's go, I don't remember.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
So crystal bought a fan.
The fan was broke.
So we had to go talk to the guybecause she, I'm like, just buy
the new fan, put the brokenpart in the other one and return
it.
And she's like that's not beinghonest, I'm like.
And then the guy was like, yeah, just do that, but anyways.
So we go talk to the guy andthe poor guy I don't think he's
ever been talked to like this.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
We always go after the young ones too and make it
weird was he young?
Speaker 2 (04:00):
he was like youngish, like younger than us.
Yes, oh yeah, I know I feelyoung, but I'm not, we're not.
No.
So he was like early 20s maybe,and we were talking to him and
Crystal's telling him the storyand he's kind of like oh, you
know, just return it.
And then I, why did I?
I don't know why we starttalking about I don't know where
(04:24):
it went.
Well, we know what we meanabout her kitty, because she
doesn't have a cat.
So kitty is like I don't haveany fur.
And so I said, yeah, she'salways telling me pet my kitty.
And then she's like do you likea hairless kitty or you like a
hairy kitty, you know?
So we're saying this.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
This is why we're never gonna be girls got bible
exactly they're never calling usto go on their podcast no I
don't.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
Well, I think the guy was like, because I think he
was uncomfortable about thereturn and so I was just trying
to make him laugh.
We like to make people laugh.
We do it with servers, we do itwith everybody.
I don't know if they like it,but they laugh.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
Oh, he was dying, yeah.
And then he was like I'll buyyou a fan by the end.
Yeah, yeah.
Well, I think sometimes we talkto people like a we and then it
sounds like we're together.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
I think that's where we started.
That's what it started.
It was like we're not.
And then I said, well, she'salways trying to get me to pet
her kitty and I don't know whereit came up with that.
I know it really takes youthere.
Yeah, it does.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
I just picture it.
I don't have a kitty.
Yeah, yours is a hairless.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Yeah, I'm into the hairless.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
Yeah, but you know you bible, and she was like on
her knees at her live event andI was like that's just not me
and I was telling tisha fromstopping her from yeah, because
you're on your knees a lot athome, so she doesn't want to be
on her knees, oh I can't sleep.
We're too inappropriate.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
And then she's telling me to pet her kitty no,
but yeah, you are on your kneesat home no do it, yeah, laying
down, yeah, no, anyways, beenmoving on.
I am girl's gone.
Bible is a good.
Well, this is why I'minappropriate, because when it's
just you and I and our poddaddy here, it feels like
natural.
And I can be inappropriatebecause I am inappropriate, so
(06:22):
am I.
But once it comes out, or once Istart thinking this is going to
go to everyone I know andeveryone I see, even though not
everyone listens, I start likefreaking out, they could, they
could find it.
And then I think of, like myhusband and like the people he's
doing business with, do theywant to know about this?
And am I embarrassing him, am Iembarrassing my children?
And I start spiraling and thenI'll wake up to pee in the
(06:47):
middle of the night and then Istart spiraling and I can't go
back to sleep for hours and Ihave all these crazy thoughts,
you know, the middle of thenight thoughts, oh, every time I
had so many this weekend.
So then I call Crystal and shehas to talk me off a ledge.
Speaker 1 (06:57):
I'm like we're not quitting it.
You think like we talked aboutthis too and we're gonna stop
saying like I just said it.
But God created me not to beand I love girls gone bible.
It's just not the way I'm.
I've been a Christian my wholelife so I don't really like I'm
not as you can judge me.
I've been judged so much.
(07:18):
I don't feel like I have to stayin that lane to say I, my
parents, were always Christian,very Christian, but they still,
I guess, sinned or went to thecasino or like they weren't in a
box where I felt like I had tobe one of those.
I don't know, you know, like thepeople that are in that lane,
(07:39):
they never waver in that laneand I think sometimes for me
those type of people are hard torelate because I'm not in a box
and so can I still love God andcan I still be a Christian and
have faith without, you know,being perfect, being perfect.
But I feel like the secret toour faith is that only Jesus is
(08:00):
perfect.
Right, we all have gracebecause we're imperfect, and I
think sometimes people inChristianity judge each other
and people are judging usbecause we are on this soapbox
of saying what people think orsay in private.
We're saying out loud butyou're allowed to have sex when
you're married, right?
It shouldn't be something thatwe're not allowed to talk about,
right?
My mom talked about it with mydad always and I thought it was
(08:22):
so cool that they had a healthysex life, and if you don't want
to talk about it, then don'tlisten.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
Yeah, girls Gone Bible is a great podcast.
Well, what I like about thatpodcast is it's very educational
.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
Yeah, like.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
Bible-based yeah, because I do think that the
world needs more of that, yeah,and so I think that's maybe why
it's so popular too.
I think people crave that.
Speaker 1 (08:43):
And so I crave that, I totally crave that.
You love a good and see, that'sjust not me, Like I'll mess it
up, but I can.
I know my faith and I know mystories, but I can't quote the
Bible like that.
Yeah.
And if I were to try to be that, I wouldn't be authentically
myself.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
Right, well, I think that's where it would be weird
if they're maybe being authentic, so it's perfect.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
And that's their calling.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
Yes, my calling is to live on the edge.
Yes, stay.
I don't color in the lines.
Yes and you do.
Speaker 2 (09:09):
And you like to.
I am more in the lines, kind ofgal.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
So, moving on trending topics.
So we learned a lot about GirlsGone Bible, but trending topics
, what's been so cool aboutrunning into jerkies, in in the
wild?
You know, out there Influences,yeah, out there influences.
They'll ask us like, hey, whatdo you think about this?
Or why aren't you guys talkingabout that right, which I can't
say the guy's name?
Speaker 2 (09:30):
so let's say it band, oh, justin Baldoni or whatever.
Yeah, blake Lively feud goingon in the big deal media right
now they're suing each other,for she's suing him for sexual
harassment, he's suing her fordefamation, and so it's crazy
and we're going to encourage youto pick a side, because we did.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
I've, I've seen Justin, so am I yeah, and I and
I wasn't.
I actually love Blake Livelymore than you do, yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
I loved her gossip girl era.
I was very Blake Lively, youknow, yeah, but now not so much
for me.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
It's funny because last week we planned on talking
about it but we forgot and thenlater in the day it blew up on
social media and I was soannoyed I was like we should
have talked about it.
But we're talking about it now,so she started.
It started back during themovie.
We went to see it.
First of all, it Ends With Usis the best book ever read.
It's so good.
I think I read two of her bookstwice.
(10:28):
Yeah, I think it ends and itstarts with us.
Yeah, it ends with us.
I fully read twice.
Maybe it was the only one.
It's so good.
It's the best book.
If you're above 16, I would saythere is still some.
That's why Tisha likes ColleenHoover.
There's always a little risqueand she likes to talk about the
giddy.
You know baby girl, but thereis some risque, like she likes
(10:49):
to like put the blanket over herhead.
Who you no.
Speaker 2 (10:52):
When you're reading no, no, I was like what and pet
the kitty?
I was like Colleen.
Yeah, no, I didn't know who youwere talking about.
Oh, you do.
Speaker 1 (10:59):
No, but the book theme is about abuse.
Yeah, domestic violence.
Domestic violence and like aheavy book.
But what's so cool about it isthat when you're reading it you
know it's so easy to judgepeople that it you know, right,
you're, you see, even.
You know, last night one of mycheerleaders was over the house.
(11:19):
They were working on somethingand I got on her about this boy
she's talking to, but not, andI'm like, oh good, has he picked
you up for a date, right?
She's like, well, no, I'm like,oh good, I'm like do you guys
go to church together?
She's like, yeah, I'm like, sohe picks you up for a date,
right?
She's like, well, no, I'm like,oh good, I'm like do you guys
go to church together?
She's like, yeah, I'm like, sohe picks you up and he takes you
.
She goes well, no, we see eachother there.
I'm like, yeah, he's notworking for you, right?
And Kyle's like you're beinghard, would you stay right?
(11:50):
Reading this book gives you likea.
You can understand the behindthe scenes of why you stay right
.
Colleen Hoover writes lovestories like you are in love
with.
I'm in love with every guy shewrites about Ryle.
They always have the cutestnames, right, ryle.
And the girls are always likeedgy, yeah, but like confident
in who they are.
So you want to be the girl butyou want to like the guy and you
(12:12):
relate to everything they'refeeling.
It's crazy.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
Yeah, she's the best writer um, yeah, so it makes you
side with the victim and seeingwhy she it's so hard he didn't
mean it.
He didn't mean it.
I was like team ryle, I'm likealice is boring, you know
totally and that no, but notreally said that and then when
we read the book again, we sawit differently.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
But that first time you're so.
So what happens in the book isshe falls in love with this guy.
She's not someone that falls inlove easily, he's a brain
surgeon.
What?
Speaker 2 (12:40):
girl doesn't want to.
Yeah, neurosurgeon, yeah, yeah,and it's like he's, he's rich,
he's cute, buff, he's.
He can't be tamed, he loves her, never loved anyone else loves
her.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
Oh, he loves and they love each other so good, yeah,
so they're so happy.
And then he acts still horribleto say.
But the first one I did feellike was an accident.
Yeah, he accidentally hit her.
We sound horrible, we can't.
But in the story youyle.
(13:10):
So all of us that have everread the book couldn't wait to
see the movie.
But what bothers me why I'mtelling you about the book is
Blake Lively hasn't read thebook.
Speaker 2 (13:19):
Yeah, he's alleging that she has not read it.
It's so wrong.
It's the best book.
Well, it's rude to like.
And how did that's?
I feel like if you're anactress, you need like research.
Yes, you should be researchingyour character, and I I feel the
most research you can do aboutthis character is to read the
novel that you're acting andit's the best novel the way she
(13:40):
writes it.
It's like a story of hero, doyou?
Speaker 1 (13:42):
really think she didn't read it.
I do, yeah, because they kepttrying to change the script and
if you've read the book and theway he wrote the movie.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
Well, that makes sense because a lot of her
interviews after she got slammedbecause she was talking about
lily and her style and heroutfits and everyone's saying
this is like a really heavysubject around representing a
woman that has sufferedgenerational domestic violence
and so was.
She was slammed saying that shewasn't taking, she wasn't
(14:13):
depicting the theme of the bookthe right way and he was, and so
I think that's why she got mad,because she looked bad.
Speaker 1 (14:20):
She looked like an idiot she did and anyone that's
read that book, the whole themeof it, and she's not 22.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
I mean, I know I try to look 22.
You did your hair like herafter the movie I know but she
doesn't look 22,.
But I know I don't either, butI'm not trying to act like it.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
I thought she looked great in the movie and there was
talk that she was carrying babyweight and that he was negative
about that and I thought shelooked great in the movie.
Speaker 2 (14:40):
I thought she was carrying baby weight.
I'm just going to say it.
It's not a shame.
Speaker 1 (14:51):
I filming for six weeks if you have to.
Oh god, I'm just saying no, Iknow, but she didn't.
She looked great in the movieand I think it's almost great
that she's not right perfectsize in the movie totally
because you love lily just asmuch you're so into lily, even
with right.
But now it's coming out he.
So she sues him for sexualharassment, which is laughable
because if you watch, like I've,Candace Owens is now chiming in
(15:11):
and she's reading the pages andpages of the lawsuits.
So you know me, I can'tsummarize it cause I'll mess it
up.
But you want more info, go toCandace Owens.
She's all over this right now.
But his lawsuit is like ahundred pages and the lawyer is
like get ready.
So he released.
I guess they said that he waslicking her neck and whispering
(15:33):
inappropriate things in her ear.
What Blake Lively's team didn'trealize is Justin Baldoni is
also the producer, Director,Director of the movie.
He let the camera roll and thesound while they were doing that
video.
So then last week he releasedthe audio and they're talking
about their marriages.
It's like the most appropriateconversation.
Speaker 2 (15:52):
I saw that in her spray tan.
Yeah, it wasn't inappropriate.
He didn't lick her neck.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
She's telling him he needs a nose job.
It was like the most innocentRight Depiction of what was.
Is that the right word?
Speaker 2 (16:02):
Yeah, maybe I found a big word.
I thought it was great though.
Speaker 1 (16:07):
Yeah, kind it's great though.
Yeah, it kind of goes, but healso now it's like he's released
another video last night, Iguess, he was yeah.
Speaker 2 (16:14):
Well, now they're saying Ryan Reynolds is the
cause of all this, because hegot jealous, because they had
chemistry, allegedly, I don'tknow, but they cornered him in
their hotel, ryan Reynolds, no.
Their penthouse, yeah, ryanReynolds, blake Lively.
And then they had Taylor Swiftthere, which is like why is
Taylor Swift?
Speaker 1 (16:30):
here.
She doesn't know anything abouta movie.
Speaker 2 (16:32):
And she's.
Why is she here?
I don't know.
I think she has a hairy?
Speaker 1 (16:37):
No, I do, and so I do , and she has all those cats,
yeah.
So, there's kitties everywhere.
Kitty there, kitty there.
Speaker 2 (16:52):
I'm not a Taylor Swift fan either, so it's fine,
but don't post that, becausewe'll be like, oh, you know,
it's like I say, post it, butyeah, so anyways.
So they were saying that theywere using their like star power
to kind of like bully him intousing Blake's ideas for the
movie.
And he was like, yeah, theseideas are.
And she sent him this weirdtext after saying she has like
forces and powers and if hedoesn't, use her stuff.
Speaker 1 (17:12):
It was kind of weird.
I'm probably saying it wrongtoo.
Speaker 2 (17:13):
No, they did something like the lion and then
he left her a voicemail at 2 am.
Now he's releasing thevoicemail.
He's so apologetic andrespectful of the voice.
Yeah, it's not looking likewhat she's alleging is accurate.
Speaker 1 (17:24):
Yesterday it's not looking good for her.
Yesterday we saw a video on theplane.
You know we've been togetherfor about 80, 90 hours
consistently because we went ona cheer trip this weekend.
But on the plane there's a videoof him.
Fans run into him at thegrocery store and he won't even
touch the girl's back Like inthe picture.
You can see his hand.
It's appropriately placed onher shoulder and he didn't even
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like there's this much spacebetween his hand and her back.
Yeah, so we're saying, if he'sthat kind of guy, is he really?
Speaker 2 (17:54):
Yeah, or he's just like oh, I'm getting sued, I
better keep my hands up here,you know.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
But also A Simple Favor is another excellent book,
Such a good book.
And Blake Lively and AnnaKendrick are in that movie, and
now it's coming out that Blakeand Anna had beef in that movie.
Speaker 2 (18:13):
And I heard her and Blair on Gossip Girl had beef
Well.
Speaker 1 (18:15):
Blake was trying to change the storyline in A Simple
Favor 2.
Did you read that book?
Speaker 2 (18:21):
Blake.
Maybe she just needs to go,like, make her own movie.
You know, yeah, it's weird.
And why are we changing books?
It's like.
But anyways, I like.
If she's having all theseissues with people, it's like
the common denominator.
Remember, in cheer?
Yeah, it'd be like.
If you're falling in everystunt, you're the common
denominator.
How do you fight with Blair too?
Yeah, you're the commondenominator.
So if she's the issue and allthese issues, she's the issue.
Speaker 1 (18:43):
I know it's bad.
I think she thought she wouldtake him down, right.
And then my friend got in anaccident years ago and then she
was getting sued for theaccident and she was single and
young and so frustrated and theyshe ended up hiring a family
member that's a personal or a PI, and ended up that the guy was
a lawyer, so he was suing her,right.
And then the PI got involvedand my friend didn't remember
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what happened in the accident.
It was so traumatic, right, shewas in the hospital for months.
I remember it came out that hecaused the accident Because her
family that's a PI did all theevidence, so then he sued her
and then she ended up winningthe lawsuit.
That's crazy and it's like Ithink that's what's going to
happen here.
It's like you try to save yourname because you're worried
about bad publicity, right, andlittle did you know the bad
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publicity coming at Blake andRyan right now?
Speaker 2 (19:30):
Yeah, we'll see, unless she releases some new,
allegedly Alleged things.
Speaker 1 (19:35):
I'm team Bandone.
Speaker 2 (19:37):
For now.
Speaker 1 (19:37):
Yeah, what is Bandone ?
Is he Italian Baldone?
I think there's an L in there.
Speaking of Italians, let'sjump to Paige DeSorbo.
Yeah, ugh, paige, I love, butwhat is going on?
Speaker 2 (19:48):
Yeah, I always think, and I'll say this thoroughly
you always say a girl doesn'tleave unless she has something
on the back burner.
That's what I was going to say.
Speaker 1 (19:56):
No girl just walks out of a relationship where it's
like cut.
Like Craig said, they weren'ttalking after.
No girl is that strong.
Every guy I broke up with Iknew it was wrong but I was
still like, hey, you busy later,totally.
Yeah, I miss you.
Like it's so hard, a hundredpercent.
So when they didn't talk, I'mlike something's weird.
Why, before the holidays, sosupposedly allegedly she was
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with this guy on New Year's.
Speaker 2 (20:24):
We talked about last week, which might not air, but
last week we talked about howshe His ex-fiance is alleging
that Paige was pursuing him andDMing him while they were
together.
Speaker 1 (20:31):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
Which she fully was.
Speaker 1 (20:33):
Fiance, I'm just disappointed and she was with
Craig.
It's so rude.
It's so rude.
I always say if you want to getout, get out Right, don't cheat
, don't have an emotional affair.
Speaker 2 (20:41):
Yeah, it was emotional.
I'm not saying she like didanything, but they were
definitely talking Right, yeah,well, we know somebody.
Well, we kind of.
Anyways, ben and I knowsomebody and the guy's wife is
leaving him and he was like alldistraught and she got a boob
job and she was going out andBen's telling me what he's
telling him and I'm like, oh,she totally has someone else.
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You're not leaving yourmarriage with your new boobs and
all this.
If you're not, there's someoneelse, there's always someone
else.
There's someone else.
Girls don't leave that easily.
Speaker 1 (21:10):
I said it right away.
I'm like there's someone else.
They really don't.
So it's sad.
I know it's sad, but I'm teamCraig still.
I love.
Speaker 2 (21:24):
Paige and Sorbo though, but I'm team Craig.
I think they're not right.
That's horrible.
I'm just kidding.
I love Ben.
I'm not going anywhere.
Speaker 1 (21:28):
I know it's just.
I feel for Craig, like whenJessica Simpson did that years
ago when she got her.
What was that movie your BootsAre Made for Walking?
Oh, the Dukes of Hazzard.
Yeah, she got her Duke's body.
Then she was leaving.
Nick the.
Duke's body was like reallygood, though yeah, she was
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starving.
Well, I think sometimes whenyou chase fame.
Speaker 2 (21:58):
That's why we don't want to be famous, but kind of,
but not really.
Yeah, but we don't really wantto be famous.
Speaker 1 (22:00):
We just, you know, no , just rich.
No, I'm just kidding.
Speaker 2 (22:01):
She always gets mad at me when I say rich so
embarrassing I mean like if Ididn't have to worry about it
money, I think anyone wouldagree.
I don't feel like you worryabout money right now no, I mean
a little like I worry about,like the future you guys.
Speaker 1 (22:16):
You don't even know what she's like to fly with.
It's so stupid.
She's worried the whole time.
She got on the plane yesterdayand said I have a bad feeling.
I said if you had a goodfeeling I'd be worried.
I did have a bad feeling looksat the plane the whole time like
if you did see the wing flaming.
What are you gonna do?
Speaker 2 (22:30):
you gonna go out there and put it out I don't
know, and I I'm a glutton forpunishment.
You are weirdly no, yes, no, no, we're not, no, moving on,
moving on.
There's some things that stayin a friendship and they're not
discussed publicly.
Anyways, I am a glutton forpunishment.
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Stop, I know.
Speaker 1 (22:54):
I know it's a hard.
No.
Speaker 2 (22:55):
I do when I look out the window.
If I see the engine on fire, Imean, I half expect to see it
when I'm looking out, and when Isee it, what are you going to
do then, though?
I don't know, but I know it'scoming, and so you always like
to not.
Oh, it's just horrible.
I hate flying, and it's weirdbecause I'm flying all the time
for cheer and I don't get usedto it.
Speaker 1 (23:13):
I wish there was a way I need to get hypnotized.
Speaker 2 (23:16):
Have you heard of people like getting hypnotized?
Speaker 1 (23:18):
Yeah, is that godly Maybe not, I don't think so I
don't think it is either.
Speaker 2 (23:23):
I think you just pray about it.
Yeah, I.
Speaker 1 (23:26):
Worries of the devil.
I know and you're letting thedevil in, and I almost think you
like it, because you are aglutton of punishment.
I almost think you like thrivein this.
Like I'm on the plane, I'mscared.
Let me look out the window.
Speaker 2 (23:37):
No, I hate every minute of it.
Then take a dramamine with me.
I know I say the Lord's Prayerover and over and over 50 times,
still scared.
Speaker 1 (23:48):
I know, I know, but you drive like a maniac.
You almost crashed us 50 timesthe other day.
You're texting the whole time.
Speaker 2 (23:53):
You should be scared then I know I don't, I'm not
scared, then I don't know.
Speaker 1 (23:56):
We're late for a flight.
We're running to the airport.
Speaker 2 (23:59):
I think I'm in control when I'm driving and
which is crazy because God'scontrol is way more like safe
than my control.
My control sucks, but God'scontrol is way more.
I should have more of a peacewhen God's in control, but for
me that's a really hard area.
I know we talk about this andsure.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (24:19):
So I don't actually have a hard time most of the
time lending God being control.
I always trust him.
I always feel like I give it tohim, but lately, in certain
areas, it's harder for me.
So I'm getting it.
I'm getting it how hard it isto release and trust him.
But I think we talked aboutthis weeks ago and I've still
been trying to live like thatthat sometimes good things come
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out of the pivots, and I'll saythat again.
Good things come out of thepivots.
So like when life takes you ona turn, instead of stressing
about the turn, enjoy it becausehe might be taking you
somewhere else.
Like it's God's plan, yeah.
And like sometimes, even inanything like our friendship.
We had two years of dark timeand, as much as it was hard and
I hate that that pivot foreverchanged everything.
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Like you're a different person,like we'd never have jerking
around no, no, but like you grewas a person.
Your marriage got better, youmade other friends that like
you're still so close with.
I feel like the pivot was agood thing, even though it was
something really hard.
And I feel like every time likethere's a pivot, sometimes we
don't realize God's working itout for the good, but we always
want to like maneuver it andyou've got to let go.
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But sometimes we want to makedecisions right in the middle of
a pivot and the hardest thingis, sometimes he wants us to
just sit and wait, and I don'tthink you're good at that.
I think sometimes, like in life, there's some things you want
to make decisions.
Let's like just pray in it andsit in it.
Remember, I thought about this.
Speaker 2 (25:41):
Well, I always think God doesn't care about these
things because he's like dealingwith like the people getting
murdered and all the worldissues and the people that don't
even know him in the darkcorners of the world, and so I
feel like my problems are stupid.
So I'm just like I'll solvethis Cause.
It's like minor and God doesn'tneed to be bothered with this.
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So I'll do this one and thenthe things that I can't, I can
more, like when my control runsout and I know I'm not in
control, then I can go to him.
But if it's something that Ican control, which is like 90%,
I feel like I'm in.
I'm not trusting him at all.
Speaker 1 (26:20):
I know, but little pivots, you never know where
he's guiding you.
Yeah, and I think sometimes,like you've made those pivots
and like you've taken control,and then later we're like why
did I?
What am I doing?
Yeah, why did I do that insteadof just sitting in it for a
minute and not making a rashdecision just time?
Yeah, because, like we alwaystalk about where my kid Maddie,
when we were deciding on highschool and totally in right
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fashion of us, you know, wewanted to time that together and
go to the same high school andTisha was asking me where you
know, where are you going to goto high school?
Where are the kids going?
And I said I don't know.
God hasn't told me yet.
Yeah, and you thought that wasso stupid, totally, and I
literally prayed on it for likea year before.
Speaker 2 (26:57):
And then all of a sudden, randomly, out of nowhere
, you ran into, I ran into andCindy, who I coach with.
Speaker 1 (27:02):
We talk about that story all the time because it
was so, from God.
Yeah, it was a basketball gameI didn't really want to go to of
a friend of mine's daughter andlike I run pretty busy, it's
not like I'm just running to abasketball game on a weekday,
right, like our kids are verybusy.
So my kids with Kyle I'm notmaking it look like it, they're
our kids.
Yeah, well, it is our kids.
Yeah, it's weird, but I went tothe same area I've never run
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into her and, um, we ended uptalking and like crying had an
hour talk and in the middle ofthat she, you and I had been
talking about coaching.
It's God laid it on my heart andI was like I feel like I'm
going to coach again and I'vebeen praying about it and we
were going to go to anotherschool and then she told me that
position was opening.
But she said to me that firstnight I'd like you to coach with
me and it was at the one schoolI didn't want to go to.
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I didn't want to go to Liberty.
I thought it was.
I had my own pretense of whatit was like there.
I was like I don't want to it'sLiberty, like I don't.
But again, if that was mychoice, that wouldn't have been
where I would have picked atthat time.
I would just picked something,whereas you were just like hold
on, I'll know there's a sign andthen a very clear sign, very
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clear sign, and I look at likethe people God has put in our
life.
From that school and from thatdecision, they're God.
It's not just about where mykids go to school, it's like who
furthers their faith.
Who's furthering my faith?
Right Like the people I coachwith make me so much better of a
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person.
They fill my cup my kidsdirection.
Who you make friends with inhigh school is a big deal.
Totally, they're all Christian.
It's like crazy what he did inthat decision.
Yeah, so I think in those smallpivots, even when I found Top
Gun years ago, one of myfavorite things this weekend, we
were on a cheer trip.
This last weekend Our girls docompetitive cheerleading We've
probably talked about it andthey cheer at Top Gun All-Stars,
Peoria and we're obsessed withit.
there we're obsessed with it,and our gym owner is one of our
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very best friends.
Yeah, he's the best I've talkedabout on here, who I admire,
and he's one of my favoritepeople I admire.
They always say he's actually ajerky now.
Yeah, but they always say youwant to be in a circle with
people that are better than you,and that's who he is to me.
Yeah, he's like someone Iaspire to be more like.
He's amazing, anyways.
So our highest level team who'sthe best team level six team
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competed.
We went and watched, and assoon as they finished, it was a
perfect routine.
As soon as they finished, theywalked through the parents and,
before they celebrate with theirparents, they pulled them over
to a huddle, they got in acircle and they thanked God it
was so cool to me and the coachprayed and he thanked God for
all the things.
Thank God for the athletes.
Then, after they finished, theywent and celebrated.
Right, and I'm like it's so.
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Not about sports, it's notabout shooting, it's not about
the bow, it's not about the full, it's about what this program
is teaching my kids.
Right again, though, god putour kids at this gym with these
people to grow them closer tohim, and they're small decisions
, but they forever changed thetrajectory of our life.
Yeah, so trust, but speaking ofon the way, here we were
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talking about club sports and Ifelt guilty many times about how
busy we run.
You know like I don't know aboutyour week, but Monday we have
this After school.
Tuesdays are it's every nightlighter night, but usually a
practice gets put on there too,wednesday night, something
Thursday night, something Friday, saturday, sunday.
It's crazy and I think the themotto out there is that too busy
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is too busy.
You don't want your kidsrunning around, you don't want
to miss this time.
Yes and after we.
Can you know, or?
Speaker 2 (30:28):
we fill the kids with so much sports and all these
things that don't matter thatthey're too busy.
That's kind of like.
There's like both sides of thespectrum.
Speaker 1 (30:36):
And I would say that probably I was on the other side
Kevin Lehman, someone I reallyrespect, as, like a parental
leader, always says, they're nothamsters.
Don't run them on a wheel,don't keep them so busy that
they can't breathe.
Right, I don't think I'm doinggreat and not keeping them so
busy they can't breathe, butlately, with the phones and the
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video games and everything thatgoes on at home, I don't want
them sitting at home onelectronics and when we are home
, sometimes the tensions are alittle weird and I feel like
that's something people don'ttalk about.
Like what does a family nightlook like?
right because we talked about itonce that we I thought your
family nights were amazing.
You thought my family nightswere amazing.
Speaker 2 (31:18):
I'm all get out of here.
I don't care if you hate themovie, you're watching it or
you're grounded and it's likeyeah.
Speaker 1 (31:24):
So like I have this like insecurity of are we doing
enough like we've done, likegame nights times.
It's kind of awkward but we doit.
But then we'll make them watcha show with us or a movie to get
them out of their rooms.
But my kids are in their roomsa lot when we're home so I don't
really want them in their roomson social media or playing
sports.
So I don't mind keeping thembusy because I noticed that for
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me there's a healthy limit,right, there's busy enough where
I'm productive, but too busywhere I'm spinning.
And that's what last year wasRight, it was too busy, I'm
spinning, I'm missing moments,I'm missing life, I am too
distracted.
So I feel like I learned how tobe present, right, but in still
being present, I think some ofmy best memories or moments with
my kids have been through clubsports, right, and some of my
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favorite people I've met hasbeen through club sports.
Speaker 2 (32:10):
Well, like you said, so, nowadays, when kids are at
home, unless you're planning andyou're having implementing
things, which, if you do that,that's amazing.
Speaker 1 (32:20):
Yeah, and I'm not that mom, but I love it If
you're implementing like nophones, we're doing this, we're
doing this.
I love that.
Sherry Beltrama was great atthat.
Speaker 2 (32:28):
But a lot of times when kids are home it's almost
the opposite of like now.
When they're home, they'rescrolling, they're playing video
games or they're on their phoneor they're on electronics or
they're being antisocial, wherewhen they're in the club sports
and they're interacting in morereal life because now so much of
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life is virtual it's almostlike isolation.
More when they're home, becauseI feel like you know, my oldest
is not in.
He's between football and we'remaking him do track.
He's real excited, but he's inbetween.
So he had a couple months andit's like he's coming home and
playing video games and and I'mworking and and the other kids
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are at sports.
So there's not a lot for himand I to do.
We'll watch shows or whatever,but there's not a whole lot
planned at home and I'm findingthe idle time.
He's grouchier than when he wasbusier in the beginning of the
season of the year and he's alot less less social.
He was talking to friends everyday because they were in
football and now I feel likehe's almost.
It's the opposite, yeah, and youwouldn't think it would be.
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You'd think, oh, he's at homeand he's getting more missing
assignments.
He has more time in his handsweird, yeah, yeah.
So, and I do think being sobusy and learning to juggle and
balance is like a really goodskill to learn young, because as
a mom or a dad, you have tolearn to juggle work, parenting,
all the things.
So I think it's good for themto learn early on how to manage
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your time, how to manage oh, ifI have practice, I have to get
this homework done, or you know,it's just good life skills.
But I do see, like the peoplethat move to a homestead and
they they work family, they havethe rules.
I love that too.
I wish I could be like that.
I do see like the people thatmove to a homestead and they
they work family, they have therules.
Speaker 1 (34:12):
I love that too.
I wish I could be like that.
I do too and I compliment Icontemplate it daily.
Speaker 2 (34:16):
Yeah, because I'm like this world's whacked, let's
get out of here.
Speaker 1 (34:19):
You know, yeah, it's hard, yeah, I, I feel but I
don't think it has the bad namethat you say.
I always worry if it's enoughfamily time, and I think that's
a normal thing.
I think a lot of people worryand then we're fighting.
When we're all together, thekids are fighting, I'm fighting,
and then you look at otherpeople on social media and
you're like they don't look,like they're fighting.
Why are we fighting?
Why is family night so fun?
Speaker 2 (34:40):
This weekend was family time because I was with
my daughter all weekend and nota lot am I with her for three or
four days uninterrupted.
We were together the whole time.
It was a lot of family time.
I wasn't off, but it's only twoof you, right?
Speaker 1 (34:54):
So, like we don't fight, no one's fighting, yes,
no one's yelling Right, there'snot like this tension.
Speaker 2 (34:58):
But I'm saying that was through club sports that
there was family time.
Speaker 1 (35:02):
Yeah, you know what I mean?
The kids, what's their favoritetrip?
We've gone on and everybodyknows Tisha and I like to travel
because we didn't go on a lotof trips growing up, so we try
to make up for it.
We all have our reasons, um,and they always say like they're
cheer trips and I'm like right,really, I know all these places
we go, but I think it's justthe dynamic of all of it right
now it's.
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It's such a cool memory and nowthat you're fading out, because
last year my oldest it was herlast year with Top Gun, because
then I encouraged her to do highschool, to get involved in the
school, and I was like gettingso sad all year and Tisha's like
no, I'm ready, I'm like you'redumb, you know.
Speaker 2 (35:37):
Yeah, it's so busy, I'll be glad when it's done
Right, I'm all the millions ofdollars in travel.
It's millions of dollars, butthen I'm sad for you now.
Speaker 1 (35:45):
I'm so sad, because then I'm losing you.
Speaker 2 (35:47):
I know I'm so sad and I'll be traveling without you,
it's like so many cool memories.
I know.
Speaker 1 (35:53):
And even with Broxton , like with his baseball team, I
love their families.
Speaker 2 (35:58):
Yeah, I love the families.
Speaker 1 (35:59):
It's like the best families we have the best time,
so even when we played footballI love.
You've been blessed to meet alot of people, but I think the
tensions come when you'rerunning around so much that
you're not spending time withyour husband.
Speaker 2 (36:12):
I saw a clip and I've shared it.
Yeah, that's almost the timethat suffers.
It's not the kid time, becauseyou're all about the kids.
It's like the connecting withyour spouse, because if you have
more than one or two kids,you're dividing, and I think
that's where the club scores gowrong.
Speaker 1 (36:25):
With the family?
Yeah, Because even last night Iwas gone with Tisha.
It's so sounding like we'retogether, but I was gone with
Tisha for a couple of days andHudson, my middle daughter.
So when I got home Maddie hadfriends over.
They were working on a project.
Broxton really wanted myattention, Kyle really wanted my
attention, and then I wasbehind on work because we were
on a plane.
So I felt so pulled.
But I've been trying to chooseKyle first, because they always
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say it's God husband, then kids.
Speaker 2 (36:47):
Well, and the kids will be happier seeing you guys
together.
Speaker 1 (36:50):
Yeah, someone posted that your kids, what they want
for you most, is to see youchoose each other first.
Speaker 2 (36:55):
And that makes them the most secure.
So you're like helping theirself-esteem and their psyche by
seeing a strong family, yeah.
Speaker 1 (37:04):
Marriage unit yeah yeah but I always feel guilty
sometimes Because, Broxton, Iwant to watch a show with him
too.
Speaking of a show, Night Agent.
Have you watched that?
Speaker 2 (37:12):
Yeah, season two's out.
Yeah, ben's, he put it on lastnight.
I was kind of distracted, butyeah, you can't be, and the guy
grew a beard.
I'm like no.
Speaker 1 (37:19):
No, no, no, that's only the beginning.
He shaves it and he's back yeah.
Not even by the end of theepisode he's back.
Yeah, because that was kind oflike.
Speaker 2 (37:34):
you know, I was into it and then I was like, ooh the
beard, Do you guys play NightAgent?
No, but maybe we will.
Speaker 1 (37:54):
I kitty, it's shaved.
Oh only hairless cats aroundhere, boy, oh boy, oh boy.
Speaking of, though, when we'reon our trips we were talking in
the car.
We try not to talk on the wayhere but something that's new as
your kids get older especiallyour daughters is the attitude
you get of not being cool.
There's this all of a sudden,when you go from the kids
wanting to spend time with youto you're not cool anymore.
Speaker 2 (38:13):
Which I'm like.
You kind of do think I'm coolbecause you're still stealing
all my clothes, but you act likeI'm the giant, a giant idiot.
It's so, and I don't feel likeboys do that.
Maybe they do, that's thejerkies, but like I feel like my
boys do not think I'm an idiotwhatsoever.
Speaker 1 (38:24):
I feel like they'll have their stage where they're
not as clingy with their mom.
But I don't think it's like acompetition.
I think with girls there's thislevel of like I'm.
It's like the way they growaway from you, right?
Speaker 2 (38:35):
they want to establish their own identity yes
and they don't want to be inyour shadow.
They don't want to be like youfor a minute right, because my
daughter and I I feel like we'vealways had a really great
relationship so close.
She's always been sassy butlike I don't know, she now acts
like I'm a giant idiot.
Speaker 1 (38:48):
See, and I don't see that you're not close and all
this stuff you're talking about?
Speaker 2 (38:51):
Well, she's just mean .
Speaker 1 (38:53):
Yeah, and it's.
Speaker 2 (38:54):
She says some things and I'm it's.
I'm having a hard time with itand Crystal's like you're too
sensitive and I think I'm justnot used to it.
Speaker 1 (39:02):
I think it's good to lock it down.
I I think like sometimes likeus not being cool.
Speaker 2 (39:08):
that's not really, which I don't feel like being
cool, but she makes me feelstupid all the time yeah, there
they go together.
Speaker 1 (39:13):
That's what it is.
That's what it is.
Speaker 2 (39:13):
It's like not like I'm trying to be, I'm the cool
mom, but like, don't make mefeel like an idiot when I'm just
standing there paying formillions of dollars of things
for you and taking you on yourstupid cheer trips.
They're not stupid, but youknow what I mean.
Yeah, I'm, I'm feeling like you.
You're making me feel like anidiot when I'm just here for you
and I do not like that feeling.
(39:34):
It enrages me, in fact.
Speaker 1 (39:34):
Clearly yeah.
But I think sometimes it'simportant to know it's not so
personal as much as it's themgrowing.
Speaker 2 (39:41):
Right.
Speaker 1 (39:41):
And she's not trying to hurt you, she's not trying to
do all that.
She still can't disrespect foryou outwardly Totally.
But I think sometimes kids arejust growing in their own way.
They can't disrespect.
But I think there's a period,like I told Tisha last year,
eighth grade with my oldest Ididn't sounds bad, but like I
didn't enjoy time with her likeI used to.
Speaker 2 (40:00):
That's how I'm feeling now and we're in eighth
grade.
Maybe it's an eighth gradething.
Speaker 1 (40:04):
It's an eighth grade, maybe transition, and I'm
looking forward to next year.
But, last year I went.
You're usually one of myfavorite people to be with and
right now I like want to get youout of the car.
Yeah, You're making me feellike an idiot.
Speaker 2 (40:13):
That's how I feel.
24-7.
Speaker 1 (40:15):
Yes, like she used to make me feel good, and then I
felt like an idiot, like I feltlike insecure.
Speaker 2 (40:19):
And we'd like laugh.
Yeah, like you know, like it'sreally weird.
I'm like where's my sweetdaughter?
Bring her back, you know.
Speaker 1 (40:30):
I think it's just a phase and I think, the more you
I have, I have someone in mylife that's super close to me
that I went to dinner with andshe told me once your kids are
going to go away, you're goingto think you've lost them.
You're going to think wherethey go.
I don't even know these people.
She's like you need to justsustain it.
They come back, she's like.
(40:50):
But let them grow.
Don't take it personal, don'toveranalyze it.
It's just them growing andthey'll.
And I think it's so importantto not overly react that's one
of Kevin Lehman's things isdon't overly react.
Right, be in control.
You know like what you did.
Take their phone.
If they disrespect, take it, doan immediate consequence, but
don't make it so personal.
Speaker 2 (41:08):
Right.
Well, I do that Sometimesthey're not happy, and my
obviously, as a mom, you wantyour kids to be happy.
So when I notice my oldest andmy daughter, if I notice them
unhappy or like moody and justkind of seeming meh, I
immediately want to fix theirproblem, especially my oldest.
(41:29):
I'm like what's wrong?
And he's like nothing.
I'm just tired and I'm like, ohno, well, you seem grouchy, you
seem like you're upset, youseem.
And then I finally had toremind myself and if he's not
happy it's fine.
I was not happy for a lot ofchildhood and nobody cared, but
it was good.
You're not going to be happyall the time.
I think that's an Americanculture thing.
Speaker 1 (41:46):
Yeah, like you've got to be happy and you got to
change your attitude and you gotto it's.
You actually grow a lot throughunhappy times.
Totally Like the last year wasamazing for me.
Yeah, with my dad I wasn'thappy a lot, totally, and it was
so much growth right and Iappreciate things so much
differently.
Yeah, but no one was gonna makeme change my attitude about my
loss no.
Speaker 2 (42:05):
so now when I'm like seeing him unhappy I'm, or my
daughter, I just kind of likeignore it and try to act like
it's no big deal because they'rethen they're fine five minutes
later.
It's just kind of a.
It's the hormones too, I thinkit's just all of it.
And as as a teenager I wasremember when Darlene on
Roseanne, I like watchedRoseanne and I was like, oh,
(42:25):
darlene wore all black and wasunhappy and then she got
whatever she wanted.
So I was like I'm going to beDarlene.
So I started wearing all blackand reading my book all the time
and my family was like, yeah,yeah, okay, so we're going on,
you know.
And then no one cared.
So then you came back, yeah.
So I was like, well, this sucks, you know.
But I tried it for like a month.
I was like I'm not talking toanyone, darlene wouldn't talk in
the show and she just wouldn'ttalk to anyone and engage.
(42:47):
And it's actually really smartthat they put that in a show,
because kids do do weird things,they do.
And so I was like I'm not goingto the wedding.
She's like okay, honey, we'llsee you later.
And I was like, oh, cause, Ithought it was.
I was mad.
She was getting married.
You know, it was like the fifthtime or something, and I was
(43:15):
like, well, I'm going to showher and then I'm going to be
Darlene, and it's no one caredif I was happy and I think it
was good for me to figure thingsout on my own.
Speaker 1 (43:24):
you know, oh God, I had a mullet and was the fat kid
in the corner and no one cared.
No one cared.
Yeah, I'm all mom.
They all said they're going tothat I'm like butter the most
fattening thing in the world andthey said so you're going to
gymnastics?
Yeah, and I'm like mom shenever fed into feeling sorry.
Speaker 2 (43:41):
Yeah, that's how I am now.
I'm trying to be with the kidsNever fed in.
Speaker 1 (43:45):
Yeah, but something interesting that you're
reminding me of what we talkedabout this weekend and that we
want to remind our kids about islike we are and you've taught
me this before and I want to sayit again your kids are what you
say, they are Right, and so wehave to be careful, when we are
disappointed or we arefrustrated with them, that we're
not telling them they'resomeone else Right.
(44:05):
So you told me once, Like whyare you depressed?
Speaker 2 (44:08):
or something or even like sometimes.
Speaker 1 (44:09):
I was listening to our podcast this morning and we
were talking you were telling astory about our wonderful
clients and how they don't.
They don't talk bad to eachother, but they call their kids
dumbass.
Speaker 2 (44:24):
But where we?
Speaker 1 (44:24):
didn't say is like they were joking.
Oh, he was kidding, not likeyou dumbass, he was using it as
an example.
It was funny, but I do thinksometimes we got to be careful
not to call them names or sayyou are this.
You know, we do it, naturally,but you always taught me.
One kid's dad always saidyou're going to be in jail one
day if you don't get your stufftogether and if you don't get
(44:45):
good grades.
And he went to jail.
And this weekend I had anepiphany where someone in my
life always makes fun of mycoaching, to be honest, and my
old coaching and I had ran intoone of my cheerleaders who's
also jerky.
You know who you are and we hadthe best talks and she reminded
me of so much of who I was thatI literally forgot.
Right, and it was like so crazythat I started to identify as
this other thing.
Yeah, not identifying in aweird way, but you are who
people tell you.
You are Right.
(45:06):
So it's so important, even whenour kids are bugging us and
even when that we're soempowering them that they are
good, even when they're beingnasty.
Right, you know, you are like.
Maybe not, you're a brat, I'mlike ooh, yeah.
Yeah, but, like, I know you'regoing through some things right
now, but you're still great,right, like, and you'll figure
it out and empower them.
I did call her that Instead oflike, call it.
Take it personal, right,because that's how the devil
works through things.
(45:26):
Yeah Is like.
Divide you guys, make you guysseparate, right, tell her she's
these bad things, but you wantto be a mom.
That's never, ever Like.
Even I said my parents, nomatter how good or bad I was at
anything, they always acted likeI was the best at it.
Right, I was literally deadlast in cross country and
they're like you did it, youknow.
And they looked at each other.
(45:46):
In swim team, I was pulling onthe lane lines and sinking,
literally, and they were likeyou did it.
They wouldn't critique me, theywouldn't say what I could have
done better.
They never did that to me.
They always told me I was greatand like my brother and I have
confidence of.
Like a donkey.
Yeah, does donkey haveconfidence?
I'm all I don't know, Maybethey do An elephant.
Speaker 2 (46:05):
We have good confidence.
Yeah, a jackass, no, no, I dothink like I've seen those
things that say, like you're, Isay like a lot, but I've seen
those things that say you're,what you tell your kids becomes
their inner voice, and I thinkit's so important and it's not
even kids, because the personyou were talking about wasn't
even your parent.
So it's just so important.
Whoever we're interacting with,we speak life.
(46:26):
Yeah, like the girls gone.
Speaker 1 (46:28):
Bible Exactly let's speak life into people.
But I think, even infrustration, be careful at how
you say who you are Like, evenif they're disrespecting us.
Not you're so disrespectfullike If they're disrespecting us
not you're so disrespectfulLike those words really hurt me
and I know you're better thanthat, right, remind them to go
back.
But even in anything like eventhe girls I coach, even my
(46:49):
husband, you know he's the onethat gets the most of my
everybody else.
He always says everybody in theworld gets all the great
crystal.
And then you're so done withthe great crystal that at home
I'm done with you, I'm done withyou, I'm done with you, I'm
done with you Right.
And I sometimes say you'realways grouchy, that's not nice,
right, you know you're alwaysmake everything a problem.
Those aren't kind words.
Like I'm not breathing lifeinto him.
No, and they always say likeyou can tell a really successful
(47:09):
great man by who his wife wasRight, and like Don Wilson, his
wife was always.
Like you can tell he's soconfident because of who his
wife is Right.
And I even see with you and BenI think you've made Ben better
in so many ways because you dobuild his confidence?
Yeah, I try to build hisconfidence, you know, and I
think I've done that for Kyle,but I think some other areas I
could do a better job.
But even I see it between theboys, the dads and the sons,
(47:29):
like he'll be, like you know youcan't be lazy and you're being,
they're telling them who theyare.
Yeah, and you want to alwaysmake sure, if you're going to
tell them who they are, tellthem something great, right,
like Girls Gone Bible, mm-hmm.
So I think we get some outthere.
Make sure you breathe life intopeople and don't pet anyone
else's kitty but your own.
(47:50):
Yep, welcome to Jerking Arounda podcast that makes you feel
better about yourself, becausewe're a mess just like you and
Crystal makes mess just like youand crystal makes fun of me,
and it's great and it's real.
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