S3 E21: How to Make Your Husband Less Grouchy and Survive a Bear Attack

Why are men always low-key grumpy? Plot twist: they just want attention. Yep, like giant toddlers with beards.

This episode is about reviving that girlfriend energy in your marriage—flirty texts, random compliments, and maybe even hyping up his (totally unnecessary) naked golf swing in the mirror.

We cover everything from teen sleepover drama to feeding half the neighborhood out of your pantry while your husband panics over the snack budget. Oh, and we get real about keeping our homes safe and our marriages spicy even if we’re doing it in day-old yoga pants.

Try the “be his girlfriend again” challenge this week. It’s cheaper than therapy and way more fun.

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to Jerking Around, a podcast that makes you
feel better about yourself,because we're a mess just like
you, and Crystal makes fun of methe whole time and it's great
and it's real.
Welcome to Jerkin' Around.

(00:25):
Oh boy, tisha's in a mood today, shocking.
She gets a little feisty on thedrive.
You didn't yell at anybodytoday while we were driving,
though I know I'm shocked.
Yeah, you've been a littlecalmer with your road rage.
Yeah, yeah, she didn't yell atanyone.
We've had good reflection.
On yesterday's episode Well,it'll be a week by the time this
one goes out, right.
But last, on yesterday'sepisode Well, it'll be a week by

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the time this one goes out,right.
Well, last week's episode justaired yesterday.
It was probably my favoriteepisode ever to date.
I listened to it three timesyesterday because I listened
with different people in my car,but Trisha did a great job.
She's so sweet way nicer thanboth of us put together.
I know Like she's so genuinelysweet.
I know I'm so grateful she justlike came on and shared that
Like the craziest thing happened, though Tisha and I went to a

(01:07):
movie this weekend, and it'sfunny because it looks like we
hang out a lot, but we reallydon't.
Yeah, but we do like we work.
So Tuesdays we run a lot oferrands together, cause we do
podcasts, and then we worktogether.
So we talk on the phone a lotabout work throughout the day,
but, like we usually don't plana lot of time to hang out, this
weekend I feel like we hung outa lot.
Yeah, my phone, um, and so wewent to a movie on Saturday

(01:29):
night with our husbands.
What was it called?
Again, the working man, theworking man.

Speaker 3 (01:32):
It was um what's that guy's name?
Jason Statham.
I love him.
I love him too.
What is?

Speaker 1 (01:36):
he called the chauffeur or the driver.
What's that?
What's that one where he's likealways the driver?

Speaker 3 (01:41):
I don't know but but remember the bee movie I haven't
seen the beekeeper Kyle lovesit, tisha loves it.
Oh, the beekeeper's so goodyeah.

Speaker 1 (01:48):
Kyle's like this movie's not as good as the
beekeeper it wasn't, but yeah,it was really good.
But in this one part the girlwas kidnapped and she's with the
drivers and she's Prayer Likeit was exactly the.

Speaker 3 (02:06):
She was trafficked.
And she's in the car with thekidnappers and they're in the
front seat and she's on theground and she starts saying she
had already tried to grab thewheel.
Yes, and she starts saying theLord's Prayer and Crystal and.
I look at each other and we'relike and then the guy says Said,
don't bring God into this.
Like the exact thing thathappened to Trisha.

Speaker 1 (02:24):
It's crazy.
I've never even so weird, I'venever even heard of that before.

Speaker 3 (02:27):
Like that's not something that happens in every
movie, never in a movie, neverin my life.

Speaker 1 (02:31):
God when they're like killing everyone and
trafficking it was so weird.
I was like so weird.
Yeah, it was crazy, yeah, Iknow it was crazy.
We like grabbed each other andwe're like this is out of body.
I couldn't believe it.
That's the thing with listeningto that episode, though
recording it is one thing.
Talking, I've heard this storytwice from her mouth, but like
listening to it, the craziestthing for me was that he saw

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someone behind her.
I can't get over it.
I know Like it's so crazy, butGod's plan, I mean it just makes
you think.

Speaker 3 (02:58):
Well, you know, and there was like remember that guy
that like threw that girl overthe mall like from the top floor
of the mall.

Speaker 1 (03:10):
It was like a kid, like a four-year-old, yeah it
was like a six-year-old orsomething.

Speaker 3 (03:12):
And then someone said , or she said, she like felt
people like catch her, orsomething.
I like read that.
And then there was this otherstory this kid like lost in the
wilderness and then a bear likecame and like which anyone knows
.
Bears are like not friendly, doyou?

Speaker 1 (03:27):
feel connected to bears because your son's name is
bear, kind of no but I'm Iactually have a really big fear
of bears.
They're why would you name bearbear then?

Speaker 3 (03:35):
you can't outrun a bear.

Speaker 4 (03:36):
It's like so scary you can't it can climb a tree
like it's really scary so likeyou have, to act like you're
bigger than it to scare it back.
Wait, show me how you do that.

Speaker 3 (03:46):
Yeah, you have to be like.

Speaker 4 (03:49):
And like no, that's what I've, so we're going on in
a lot.
You're this big, I know thebear's never gonna believe you.

Speaker 3 (04:03):
You're not gonna scare it, so you have to be like
oh, and so I like havepracticed before, because I'm
scared I'm going to find a bear.
Wait, you're, yes, and we'regoing on an Alaskan cruise in
June and I'm scared.

Speaker 4 (04:15):
You're not going to see a bear.

Speaker 3 (04:16):
Yes, and it's going to come for us and it's going to
come to my kids and I'm have togo.
No, I'm dead serious.

Speaker 4 (04:24):
I swear to god do you look at this in the mirror?
No, but do you?

Speaker 3 (04:29):
do it in the mirror, like I can't raise my arms
because I didn't shave myarmpits.
But, like you like, raise yourarms, and you like, yeah, yeah
you really?

Speaker 4 (04:44):
I know you and you like obsessing about this.
I'm dead serious.
Oh, my God, I've read all these.
Has Ben seen you walk inpretending you're a bear?

Speaker 3 (04:51):
No, but I've asked him about it.
I'm like so, like, is that real?
You have to like yell and he'slike, yeah, you have to scare
the bear Because it won't getyou if it thinks it's threatened
.

Speaker 1 (05:02):
I don't think it.
I think it's getting you, nomatter what.

Speaker 3 (05:05):
Wait, I get it so like for my trip.
I've gotten on all these likeFacebook groups.

Speaker 4 (05:10):
I always do that when I'm researching something oh
God, I'm dying and I read allthese like reviews.

Speaker 1 (05:13):
This is so funny.

Speaker 3 (05:14):
And, like people see a lot of bears.

Speaker 4 (05:25):
And they're like coming out of hibernation, so
obsessed with this.

Speaker 1 (05:26):
They're coming out of hibernation so well that this
is like for the next two months.
We're gonna hear about this allthe time.
I'm crying.

Speaker 3 (05:33):
But anyways, what were we talking about?
Oh so, anyways, this kid.
This kid got lost on like acamping trip and it won't.
The kid wandered off and it wasmissing for three days and then
they found the kid and theywere, and it was missing for
three days and then they foundthe kid and they were like movie
about this?
I don't think so.
And they were like what?
How?
Environment?
They oh shoot.
They were like how did yousurvive?
Because it was cold and the kidwas like a bear, came and found

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me and kept me warm.
It was like god.
That's crazy, because like thebear was the bear, is you know?
So the bear like kept the kidwarm and like the bear was the
bear, was you know?
So the bear like kept the kidwarm and like this is that was
God.

Speaker 1 (06:07):
But it's just weird.
Are you sure that's a realstory?
I swear I heard.
We used to watch this Miraclesfrom Heaven.
Have you seen that movie?
Yeah, with the little girl thatfell from the tree and like
what happened.
She saw.

Speaker 3 (06:19):
She like lived in, but no inside the tree.
Remember it was like a hollowedout tree.

Speaker 1 (06:24):
Yes, no that's not the movie I'm talking about.

Speaker 3 (06:27):
Oh, I'm talking about the one oh I didn't know that
happened.

Speaker 1 (06:29):
Yeah, so this girl fell from the tree and almost
died or something.
Yeah, and like her stomach, I'mway.
It's years ago.
I watched it a lot when Lincoln, like all that was going on.

Speaker 3 (06:49):
No, she had like a day or until they like had to
get her out.
Really, it was like hollowedout.

Speaker 1 (06:51):
Didn't you see Jesus or something?
Yeah, I can't remember.
It's like a really good moviewith Jennifer.
All those movies, jenniferGarner yeah, it was really good,
so good.
Oh my gosh, but picturing youin the mirror the funniest thing
happened this weekend.
I'm gonna do it in front of themirror because I don't know
what I look like.

Speaker 3 (07:01):
Wait, you haven't been practicing in front of the
mirror.
No, Just like Just walkingaround the house.
No, just like sitting therereading my research and then, ah
you know, wait for real.

Speaker 1 (07:10):
I swear to God You're on the couch.
Do the dogs like worry?
If you're okay, probably, oh,my gosh, okay.

Speaker 3 (07:15):
So this weekend Kyle has recently gotten my husband
and he's like obsessed withTikTok now, so like when he's in
the bathroom I can hear itplaying so loud he sends me the
funniest thing it's just likehe's so funny, so he like he
sent me one that was like everyDisney, what Every Disney

(07:36):
princess is named after like adisease, and it was like Wait,
really yeah, and it was likeCinderella had OCD, like this
one had like schizophrenia.
And it was like wait, reallyyeah, and it was like Cinderella
had OCD, like this one had likeschizophrenia, like it was just
so funny, like the one he'sreally into TikTok so they.

Speaker 1 (07:52):
Friday night we went out with our friends, which
that's a story for another timetoo.
Yeah, so we went out Fridaynight for a girl's night.
We went to dinner in the casino.
So I got in big trouble but Iwas able to go.
Then he took the kids toTopgolf with their friends and
so I guess they made a TikTok ofhim somehow.
I don't know what it was.
Oh, they did.
Yeah, so he saw his swing anddidn't love it.

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So the next morning I got homelate so I ended up.
He was sleeping and he was realserious about his sleep.
I told you.
So I went and watched TV on thecouch and I fell asleep on the
couch.
So I come in in the morningbecause we have to wake up early
because Broxton has abasketball game.
So I walk in like half asleepbefore I make coffee and I look
when I turn the corner and he'sbutt naked in front of the
mirror, like with his butt out,checking his swing, and I like

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turn and see his butt and he'sjust butt naked, like looking,
and I'm like what are you doing?
What is going on?
All from seeing it.
Yeah, he's like I saw my swingin the kids' TikTok they made
and my back, my posture's bad,so I was thinking about it in
the shower.
So I got out and I wanted tocheck it but it was the like.
I was crying, like laughing.
I'm like this is married life,right?
He's so funny.
He's so funny.

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I feel like he would have a.
He's all did you see?

Speaker 3 (09:09):
I'm happy he's on there looking it up.

Speaker 1 (09:11):
Yeah, he's checking everybody on TikTok and Hudson
is really into TikTok.
It's like weird.
I don't know if it's the rightparenting, but this is where we
are.
We just let Braxton get it.
I don't think that was a smartmove.
You know, when you make aparenting decision because
you're tired and like they wearyou down, they ask you like the
wrong moment?
Yeah, and I'm like, yeah, I getit.
And then later I'm like why didI agree to that?

Speaker 3 (09:29):
yeah, I do that, maybe it's more than I'm not in
the mood to fight right now, andthen Ben's like you, let them
do this, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 1 (09:35):
I do that a lot, like I'm really picking those
battles.
They're few and far betweenthese days.
I don't know, I don't know.
Sometimes I don't know,sometimes I may be a let them
like, let them.
I haven't read the book yet,but everybody's talking about
the book.
Did you see Regina posted aboutthe book yesterday?
Mm-mm, yeah, the Let them book.
I am going to read it.
Have you read it so good?
I've heard it's so good.

Speaker 3 (09:56):
My friend Kara read it.
She said it was good.
Yeah, you keep telling me Allthe time You're like, let them.
Yeah, Do you let Ben?
I'm all let him.
That's its own book.
Yeah, that's funny.
Let them.

Speaker 1 (10:12):
That's pretty funny.

Speaker 3 (10:13):
I'm going to write a book called Let Him, yeah, let
her.

Speaker 1 (10:16):
Yeah, Like what is he going to let her do?
Yeah, but I've been lettingthem maybe too much Like maybe
I've gone too far.
Oh, yeah, I'm really into likenatural consequences, Like ah,
they'll figure it out.
But last night I was going tobed and I was like Broxton.
He went to a baseball game withKyle.
Last night they went to theDimebacks game and then when he
got home you know when you'retired I've been laying with Kyle

(10:38):
in bed more like you guys do sowhen he gets of time.
Yeah, Kyle's home, it's fun yeahit's like I was waiting and I
was really tired.
So, um, we, kyle just goes tobed.
He doesn't even barely tuckanyone in.
He's probably like you and I'mlike the good nighter, you know,
and I like to check everything,yeah.
And so Broxton was in theshower when I was ready to go to
bed, so I just yelled like goodnight.
While he's in the shower and helike really likes a back

(10:59):
scratch and like, oh, like awhole thing, oh, yeah.
So, um, I was going to bed and Ilike text him good night
because I didn't care.
And I was like, when I was downthere, I went to like check on
the girls and he was totallyplaying video games and it was
like 10, 10, yeah.
So I really should have beenlike get in bed, yeah.
But I was like yeah, I guess.
And then I went to bed and Iwas like I should really make

(11:21):
sure he's off.
But I text him get off and goto bed.
And he said, okay, good night.
But I'm like he probably isn't,yeah, but then I'm like he'll
be tired and then he'll learn,yeah.
But then like, is it?
Is that just lazy parenting?
It's, you know?
I don't know.
I I mean, I just feel bad.
I was way stricter with Maddie.
Yeah, like you wear down you dowear down.

Speaker 3 (11:41):
I posted that thing like did you see?
It was like the last kidgetting away with stuff and the
first kid's like I never wouldhave gotten away with this.
I feel like you do wear down.

Speaker 1 (11:50):
I think you learn that like that stuff doesn't
matter, like I worry, or you'rejust tired, yeah, you know.
But like when you have anewborn and you're like I'm so
glad there wasn't social mediaback then, yeah, when I had
babies you did, with Fox, hadsocial media.
But you know, you'd ask yourfriends is your kid sitting up?
And theirs was sitting up atfour months and mine's eight
months and isn't sitting up, andyou like stress, it's weird.

(12:11):
And then you're like, oh, yoursis walking, mine's not walking.
Great.
So if I would have saw everykid walking on social media, I
would have been like holdingthem up, let's go, yeah.
But then you learn likeeventually they're gonna walk,
yeah, eventually they're gonna.

Speaker 3 (12:22):
Well, I think with the first one, like it's easier
to hold off for the first, butonce the first has it or the
second has it, it's easy to givethe third.
Yeah, like I feel like thingshappen younger for the ones
after yeah.
I feel like CJ didn't get a, aniPhone until eighth grade, and
so I'm like Bear got one insixth grade yeah, you know it,

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and then I think Ken got one insixth grade too.
It's just like it changed withthe first.
I feel like you can hold outlonger because it's like the
first, yeah, and you haven'tdone it yet.
Yeah and then the, the next one.
It's like well, that wasn'tthat big of a deal, they're fine
.
So you just kind of yeah, youknow, but it's not always, I
don't know the best?
I don't know yeah, bear waslike can?
I was like can I have TikTok?
Everyone has TikTok.

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I'm like no, but yeah, I'm sureit'll wear me down next year,
you know.

Speaker 1 (13:07):
Good for you.
Yeah, I, I, um, I'm holdingstrong on Snapchat, but I did
give in on TikTok.
Oops, well, I think, causeKyle's on it so much.
What's happening is Kyle'ssending him videos and he can't
see him, so he's like.
I was like yeah, okay, and Kylewas like now he has TikTok.
I'm like you're the one sendinghim all the TikToks.

Speaker 3 (13:24):
I thought it was getting banned, and so they
extended it again.

Speaker 1 (13:27):
Yeah, because it was supposed to be banned the other
day because Hudson was sostressed.
Yeah, I know, letting thegovernment parent our kids.
I know, that's what you believein.
I'm like, hey, can you aboutthat?
Does the 5 am workouts?
She just moved into this house.
She's an influencer on socialmedia and I'm so obsessed with

(13:48):
her right now and I don't knowher at all.
Yeah, and I was checking to seeif she had any hate, because
you know we have some.
Yeah, because I was listeningto Paige, I was listening to
Giggly Squad and Paige DeSorbowas talking about how much hate

(14:09):
she has right now.
She is getting a lot.
Yeah, um, she's like I justwant one day without like a huge
thing about me and I was likesee, we're pages for, about
people think we don't like men,but she really doesn't like men
and doesn't get lit up.

Speaker 3 (14:13):
I know why is that?
That's what's so annoying.
I love men, or my husband, youknow.

Speaker 1 (14:16):
I'm like yeah, I'm not a hoe you know today, yeah,
um no, I, she was on a podcast.
I told Tisha this morning,giggly I was listening, because
I listen sometimes and she wentto a bachelorette party this
weekend and she was so proudthat they didn't talk about guys
all weekend and I'm like I waskind of thinking it's kind of
boring.

Speaker 3 (14:33):
What are you talking about?

Speaker 1 (14:34):
Yeah, like, I like talking about guys.
Well, especially when you'rethat age, getting married,
you're like excited guys, likethis weekend we talked about, we
all went out for a girl's nightand um, you know it was.
We left the casino.
At what?
10 or 10 yeah, it wasn't latebut our husbands weren't
thrilled when we were on our wayhome, like all of them were
pretty short with us, one ofthem said stop texting, I'm

(14:55):
going to both, actually, and i'shusbands both said stop texting
, I'm going to bed.
Yeah, they weren't thrilled,yeah, and then ben was had a
sleepover and he was yellingabout them.

Speaker 3 (15:04):
Oh, yeah, he was mad Cause I said Ken could have a
sleepover and then he's like Idon't mind if it's boys, but he
doesn't like to like, tell thegirls what to do.

Speaker 1 (15:11):
It's awkward for a guy with the girls.

Speaker 3 (15:12):
Yeah and I get that Like he's uncomfortable, so like
they were wanting to go to thepark at, and so he was like
spiraling, yeah.
So he was like get home, so inthe car we're all getting in
trouble.

Speaker 1 (15:25):
So we were talking about that.
We're like, oh, they're allgetting in trouble, but Paige,
yeah, she doesn't like men andshe's not getting lit up for it.
So does Brooke have haters?
Oh, no, brooke, don't do that.
I read them and they're likeBrooke, so happy for you.
I love you so much, really.
Well, it was weird.
It's all just me.

Speaker 3 (15:41):
You're like the only one hater is Tisha.
Did you hate on Brooke?
No, but I don't love her.
She's dumb, but I wouldn't everlike post.
No, it's okay.

Speaker 4 (15:51):
I just think it Like why can't everyone think it?

Speaker 3 (15:53):
Everyone's thinking it.

Speaker 1 (16:00):
Just don't type it out.
Well, what happened was down toearth.
She had like a normal house.
It was cute, yeah, but it waslike normal.
It was like her shower was likenormal.
It's like normal life.
Mom of four boys, that's herthing.
Yeah, mom of four boys.
And this is our day atDisneyland, remember?
Yeah, so every day is mom offour boys.
Well, four, almost five now,because she's pregnant.
What if it's a girl?
She's not finding out.

Speaker 3 (16:22):
What is she going to say?
Mom of four boys and one girl,you know Like.

Speaker 4 (16:31):
She's just going to.
She'll probably just like youknow she probably has.

Speaker 1 (16:35):
Like, because she's so type A, she probably has like
five options already lined up.
Yeah, Like mom of two B and a,c, yeah, you know.
Yeah, c, g, I'm all your face,you idiot, what?
Anyways?
So this is the part I thoughtwas weird.
Well, there's a few things.
So she's homeschooled her boys,that's like her big thing.
But they're in Texas.

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Their house is still being donebecause the house was completed
but now they have designers sothey're adding all the design
finishes, like the shiplap andthe colors and the.
She had them redo the laundry,the entry tile to like the
checkered tile, which makes mecurious.
But yeah, then, um, likethey're doing all the fancy
stuff but they're living in iton air mattresses while because

(17:17):
their furniture doesn't get herefor a week.
But sometimes I'm like you havea lot of money, like why
couldn't we get the furniturethere?
Totally, you know, like we have.

Speaker 3 (17:26):
It's like a fake problem to have like content.

Speaker 1 (17:29):
No, I don't think so.
I think she was supposed to.
Okay, so this is the thing.
She was supposed to be in anAirbnb.
Yeah, she was supposed to be inan Airbnb, but they moved out
early because they to be in theAirbnb until the furniture got
there and they got sick of theAirbnb and moved into the house.
Maybe that was for content,though?
Yeah, Because then she's in thehouse like filming.

Speaker 3 (17:51):
Yeah, it's like a reality show, yeah, like a
made-up problem, because what'sher problem?
Nothing, you know Really.
Well, what's her other problem?

Speaker 1 (18:04):
gets me to like think of things.
Because I buy in, sometimes I'mthe idiot, sometimes that's so
rude.
No, I'm like, look at this day.
She's like picture the tripodpicture and I'm like, yeah,
you're right, changes the wholevibe.

Speaker 3 (18:10):
Yeah, yeah, like you're picturing, I always think
everybody's lying.
Ben calls me like okay,detective, because I always you
do think everyone's lying andthey are 90.

Speaker 1 (18:17):
I'm not lying yeah do you think I'm lying?
No, I'm not really a liar no,no.

Speaker 3 (18:22):
That's why I'm friends with you.

Speaker 1 (18:23):
I feel like Because I am not a liar, but I feel like
90% of people are lying aboutthings.
So you think they left theAirbnb to have?

Speaker 3 (18:27):
content Not 90%, but yeah I think, you think most
people.
Well, sometimes I'm a very likeit has to add up, so when
things don't make sense or don'tadd up.
But you have to admit I'vecaught so many people lying and.
Remember when someone was onher.

(18:49):
Never mind, I can't.

Speaker 1 (18:52):
Okay.

Speaker 3 (18:52):
Yeah, oh, but I'm all that's made up Like maybe not
lying, but like exaggerating.
Yeah, making up things.

Speaker 1 (19:02):
So she's in the house and it's like every day I get
to see things get done and Ilove seeing houses come to life.

Speaker 3 (19:08):
She probably moved in so they could video all that.

Speaker 1 (19:10):
Yeah, and it does make them look like they're
roughing it, you know.
Yeah, like on the airmattresses, pregnant.
So now she's back into aroutine because she didn't have
a routine at the Airbnb.
So now she has her treadmill.
Because she works out everymorning at 5 am.
She treats being a stay-at-homemom like a business.
So the treadmill came, but notthe furniture.
Yes, the treadmills, all hermoving stuff came.
But moving stuff came, but itlooks like they didn't bring any

(19:30):
furniture because they'rebuying all new furniture.
So like their clothes are therenow, like their dishes are
unpacked, but the furnitureisn't there.
They're still on air mattresses, right.
So they put together the babycrib.
But you're so type A, likesomething doesn't add up to me
because like I'm type A, like mybaby room was set, yeah, like
I'm weirdly type A, yeah, but Ido think by the last kid, you're

(19:51):
A fifth kid yeah, you're right,you're just like that doesn't
matter, but I'm like why?
even put together a crib.
Yeah, anyways, but it's allpaid for advertising.
You can tell this crib is thebest by baby and me.
But okay, so this is the part Iwas going to.

(20:12):
Da, da, da, she like tells youall this.
So she's at her OB appointmentand it's her last OB appointment
.
So she's like last OBappointment and the boys are in
the OB appointment and there wassomething about it that was
like weird to me.
They're like not young, like Idon't really like I'm naked
around Broxton still.
Yeah, like it, not like, butit's like I'm getting more

(20:33):
uncomfortable with it.

Speaker 3 (20:34):
Well, and I think naked getting in the shower is a
little different than like.
Well, she had to pee in the cupIn a stirrup.
No, even peeing in the cup.

Speaker 1 (20:41):
When I'm peeing in the cup, you're like in it.
Yeah, so like the she's in thething with the boys and I in the
stirrups, you know, and I'mlike at the end they're checking

(21:01):
you.
Yeah, so are they doing thelube, you know, and like
checking her with the boyscentimeters and the sun's all.

Speaker 3 (21:08):
Yeah, you know so that.

Speaker 2 (21:09):
So that's why I checked it here, you gotta hear
moments like this, feel likethey'll never come until they
suddenly do.
Today was my 39 weekappointment, my final checkup
before we meet our fifth baby.
I wanted feeling so many thingsexcitement, nerves, that
surreal sense of knowingeverything is about to change.

(21:30):
I did all the usual things pinacup step on the scale, blood
pressure gown on.
But there was nothing usualabout it.
It was the last time I'd hearthis heartbeat before hearing my
baby's cry and at the very sametime, we've been racing to
finish our dream home, but younever know, like it could just
be the editing and then theywere out.

Speaker 3 (21:47):
You know they're not out, they're in the room.

Speaker 1 (21:49):
You think, know they're not out, they're in the
room.
You think, yeah, there's noadult.
They're up sticking four boys,yeah, in the hall of an ob, like
tripping a pregnant person.
Yeah, running, you know who'svideoing though oh, do you think
her husband?

Speaker 3 (22:01):
or like a nanny?

Speaker 1 (22:02):
I mean, it's just weird, like who's videoing we
know influencers that never showtheir nanny and they have a
nanny.

Speaker 3 (22:06):
It's such a lie, that's what I'm saying, like
it's weird, like who wasvideoing all that?
She's like putting it in thething like, oh, you're right see
unagi.

Speaker 1 (22:17):
Anyways, I thought someone would light her up about
the boys being in there.
Yeah, and they were like you'reamazing, brooke, we can't wait
to meet the baby.
I love you so much.
Yeah, and I'm like we just saidthat we play dead and we're lit
up.

Speaker 3 (22:27):
I know, and then it's all you're gonna die.

Speaker 4 (22:32):
I get the weirdest comments still about the Justin
Bieber reel in the middle of thenight it's horrible they're all
just kill yourself and I'm likegoing to bed and I'm like it's
like so weird, it's awful, yeah,no, oh my gosh, my friend.
I think I've said this on there.

Speaker 3 (22:47):
My friend sent me this, this like a meme, and it
was like prepare your kids forsocial media by hanging all
their artwork on the fridge andthen telling them how horrible
it is.

Speaker 1 (22:57):
It's the truth, though, like it's the truth,
it's awful.
Oh my gosh, I saw this saddeststory on Instagram.
It was a mom like they weredivorced and the son it was like
14 cute kid too.
He went to go to his dad's forthe weekend.
Did you see this too, um?
so she like said good night orwhatever.
He went to go to his dad's forthe weekend.
Did you see this?
No, did you?
So she like said goodnight orwhatever.
He was like with his dad andshe talked to him during the day

(23:17):
and then at like 2 in themorning he sent her something
that said Mom, I will alwayslove you.
Or Mom, goodnight I love you.
Something that was a littleweird.
At 2 a next morning she's liketext him good morning, you know
you.
Okay.
Then called him at like, sotext him at like seven, calls
him at nine, calls him at ten,doesn't answer and he said the
dad's yeah.
So at like 11 she calls the dadand um, no, the dad didn't

(23:42):
something didn't answer.
She drove over there, found himhe had killed himself because
someone in the middle of thenight, like late at night, he
was texting with somebody aboutlike um, a bot or whatever, like
dating, like texting, so likehe met someone online and they
had been texting back and forthand they asked for like a nude

(24:02):
and he sent it.
And as soon as he sent it theysaid we're going to ruin your
life, give us this money.
And he's like I don't have themoney, I don't like.
My parents don't even have thatkind of money.
And then he said they said youmight as well kill yourself.
And he did.
Oh my God, isn't that the mostawful, awful thing?
And her kid is the most normalkid that just went to her dad's
for the night.

Speaker 3 (24:21):
See, those stories make me be like you can't have a
phone.

Speaker 1 (24:25):
You can't have a yeah , and he was like a great would.
He looked very confident, butit's like really scary, like a
split second decision whenespecially for young kids.

Speaker 3 (24:33):
Their brains aren't developed yet to like have the,
the like mental capacity to know, like, okay, this is gonna pass
, like think logically, you knownude, going out like to the
whole world.

Speaker 1 (24:45):
that would make you like at least before, when I got
made fun of, which I did a lotas a kid I could move schools
and start over.

Speaker 3 (24:52):
Yeah, you can't get away from it, these days and
like a nude is different thanlike a normal.
Making fun of yeah, that's likeTotally, I know, isn't that sad
, it's so scary, oh, that'sawful, I know.

Speaker 1 (25:05):
And then on social media I saw another really great
kid that went to like the mall,it was like during the day, it
was like four boys, they wereall hanging out and he was like
a stud athlete, really good kid.
They were at their friend'shouse and I think, um, I think
he hurt something or he was inpain and they were like here,
just take a percocet.
Like if you never had one,it'll take it.
Da, da, da takes the percocet.

(25:26):
Was it spliced?
Yeah, he, um, his heart stops.
The kids all get scared andleave.
And then his sister couldn'tget a whole.
Oh, his sister saw a picture onsocial media of him passed out,
called the parents, called theambulance and if they would have
, like, intervened right awayand not ran scared, they could
have saved his life.
But he died just because hedidn't know it was laced like

(25:48):
one pill.
Do you know what I'm saying?
Like one pill.
Think of all the bad things youdid and could have died.
I'm just kidding, but like youknow what I'm saying, like it's
like, and it wasn't even.
It was like in pain.
It wasn't like trying to likeroll.
Remember rolling ecstasy backwhen we're they called it
rolling.
Do you remember that?
Yeah, ecstasy was like a bigthing when we were young.

Speaker 3 (26:10):
Yeah, there was like a big ecstasy thing.
We weren't but others weredoing.

Speaker 1 (26:14):
My boyfriend was actually at the time, so was
mine.
I'm all he's so loving.
Tonight he's so open with hisfeelings.
Mine was like the biggest drugdealer.
I had no idea he was at churchwith me every Sunday.
And then someone on the side Ididn't believe it though, yeah.
And then my one friend's like Ibought it from him on Friday.
And I was like wait, you sureit's him.
And he had like a very distinctlook and they're like yeah.

(26:35):
And I was like nah, he's aChristian, he goes to church
with me on Sundays.
And they're like I bought itfrom him.
And then it was him.
It was bad.
And then I saw him at a club.
Remember we went to insomnia.
This is horrible.
So insomnia.
Back in the day you weren'tallowed to be there if you were
under 18, from like 10 to 12.

Speaker 4 (26:55):
But you could be there at 1.
Yeah, it was weird, like whydoes that make sense?
No, it doesn't make any sense.
Underage can be there at like 1am to 3.

Speaker 1 (27:02):
But if you're under, if you're not 21, you can't be
there till 1.
Yeah, remember, we went.
Whose parents are letting us?
Go we stayed up and went and Isaw him there with all these
people around him.

Speaker 3 (27:12):
Yeah, I remember I was like he's a drug dealer and
we like saw him and then welaughed, remember, yeah.

Speaker 1 (27:16):
Yeah, and I think he shoved me in the hall, oh, and I
still like.
Anyways, back the dating, thedating era.
I have some, you know, with thecheerleaders and with like
family.
We have a lot of like dating inour lives these days.
Like I, the girls are coming tome for dating advice because
it's like an area I love to talkabout.

Speaker 3 (27:34):
I wish we could take like callers.
Well, I think we should bringsome in or we could take callers
.

Speaker 2 (27:39):
Yeah, cause you know cause everyone calls us for
advice.

Speaker 1 (27:41):
They do and we like are given advice a lot, I know
Keep calling us too.

Speaker 3 (27:45):
I'm not trying to act like I have it all figured out,
but I feel like in that area Imade enough mistakes.
I do have something.

Speaker 1 (27:50):
Well, that's what I tell, like the girls, I'm like
I'm not telling you this becauseI didn't do it.
I did it and like I got menowhere, so let me help you not
do it, but they're theylistening.
Is is hard, but yeah, we'regiving a lot of dating advice
right now, but we were talkingabout, like you know, making him
what you want or finding theone that just is yes, I think
that's like a really hard topic,especially when you're younger

(28:11):
because you're not developed yet, so you're thinking one day
he's going to be this.

Speaker 3 (28:15):
Well, and there are those very, very few scenarios
where I feel like the guy was anidiot and then he figured it
out.

Speaker 1 (28:22):
I feel like more people than I thought would
marry who I thought was an idiotand they're still married.
Like there was some I'm likethis is never gonna last, yeah,
and they're lasting.
And then there's some that Ithought were the most picture
perfect couple that didn't makeit like not long, right.
So I don't know if that's likewe didn't see everything or life
or what, but like some people Ireally thought would make it

(28:44):
are making it way longer than Ithought.
And then other people I thoughtwere so perfect I see that on
social media all the time yousee like the perfect couple and
then all of a sudden they'redivorced, yeah.
Cause it's, but I believe theywere perfect, cause I buy into
all that stuff and I'm like,look, they're matching Halloween
costumes.

Speaker 3 (28:57):
Yeah, and I'm like this is weird, why are they so
showy?

Speaker 1 (29:00):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (29:01):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (29:02):
Are you showy?

Speaker 3 (29:03):
No, I don't feel like we are.

Speaker 1 (29:05):
Do you?

Speaker 3 (29:05):
No, Some people are like compared to how I am in
real life, I feel like I'm waymore about him than I am.
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (29:11):
Sometimes I feel bad.
I'm like do people wonder ifI'm still married?
Like I don't post Kyle enough,but it's very awkward.
Like I could never be, like heis my rock and like I don't
think I could talk to him likethat.
Yeah, I just don't talk likethat in general though I'm not
very mushy.

Speaker 3 (29:27):
I feel like you can be about like inspirational
things, like coaching or likeyeah, but I'm not like saying
well, I do talk about the girlsLike.

Speaker 1 (29:34):
They make me very proud, yeah.

Speaker 3 (29:36):
But you wouldn't say that about Kyle.

Speaker 1 (29:38):
No.

Speaker 3 (29:38):
You wouldn't post that yeah.

Speaker 1 (29:39):
No, speaking of husbands, we had a talk this
weekend about grouchy men.
I hope we don't get lit up forthis, but men are grouchy, like
a lot of them.
And like are grouchy like a lotof them and like it's fine.
Yeah, remember you said I gotthe secret, I figured it out.
Yeah, like so, kyle, I okay.
So my dad was like my dad wasmore the grouchy one.
My mom was like the yes girl.

(30:00):
Yeah, so I'm maybe more the yesgirl, my Kyle's more like my
dad.
Like no, no, no.
And my dad would say no.
And then my mom would be likeBob, come on, let the kids have
fun.
Yeah, and then they would comeover and then he'd come out
yelling go to bed.
Yeah, remember him alwaysyelling at us.
He was always yelling at us andI wasn't like offended by it as
a kid.
Right like my dad walked onwater.

(30:20):
He's still in my headcompletely walks on water, the
best dad there ever was.
Like very few errors did hemake to me, but like he was
totally the strict one and liketotally the no man.
Right, like I would call thehouse sign and be like hey, dad
is mom there and he's like whatdo you want?

Speaker 3 (30:35):
yeah, and it wasn't even nice like intervening.

Speaker 1 (30:38):
The call, yeah, because he knows I'm like dad, I
just need to talk to mom realquick.
Can you put her on?
He's like no, you can talk tome.
What do you want?
And I was like dad, it's myperiod.
It's bleeding everywhere.
Can I talk to mom?
Oh god, here and I'd be likemom.
Can I go to Susie's?
She's like sure.
And then like every time,because if I said period, he was
off the phone, yeah, but hewould not.
He would say no, and but Iwasn't offended.
But like when Kyle's nasty tothe kids, I'm like protective.

(31:00):
Yeah, like you're so rude.
Why are you talking to themlike that?

Speaker 3 (31:03):
you know my, my dad is married to his.
My stepmom passed away.
Um, they're married forever.
And then he married someone newlater in life.
They married a few years nowand so I was talking to her and
she said I wish I would have.
Now that she has grown kids andher kids are great and good,
she goes, I wish I would havelet him be harder on the kids,

(31:24):
really, yes, and she said thatto me and I was like because I
think I was like complaining oryeah, I was like she saw
something.
Yes, and she goes.

Speaker 1 (31:30):
You know, I wish I was like complaining, or yeah, I
was like, oh, she saw something.

Speaker 3 (31:32):
Yes, and she goes.
You know, I wish I would havelet him be harder on the kids
and I was like, oh, wow.
So that's crazy, that likelater in life she's saying that
Really yes.

Speaker 1 (31:40):
Yeah, because now that I'm thinking, even talking
to you like my dad was alwayslike yelling at us.
Yeah, like you just said, hewas yelling at you.

Speaker 3 (31:47):
Yeah, I didn't care.
Everybody's like oh Bob, herehe goes.
Yeah, we'd like laugh.
Remember, we were like shakingand he's like stop laughing down
there.
He'd be like you guys need torest and we were just like
laughing in the room my dad wasBen.

Speaker 1 (31:56):
Yeah, he's so, ben, like you need to rest before
practice, so we had to go laydown yeah, we're like laying
everything, just like Kyle.

Speaker 3 (32:13):
Yeah.
So when we got home from thecasino, ken had asked earlier to
have a sleepover and I said yes, because I'm thinking I'd
rather him be at my house yeah,100%, as she gets older too, so
I get home.
They'd gone to a movie, so theydidn't have dinner, but they
just't being loud, they werejust like talking, but like our

(32:35):
windows right there.
So like he's like, and I'mthinking they're just in the hot
tub, like they're not doinganything wrong who cares?
So I was getting done with him,though you know I may have said
some not nice things.

Speaker 1 (32:47):
Tell the truth.
I love these stories.
It no because it makes me feelway better about myself.
Tell me no.
So what did you say?
It?

Speaker 3 (32:53):
was after he already complained they're in the hot
tub.
So then they come in andthey're like hey, can we, can we
do our dash Taco Bell In yourroom?
Who walked in?

Speaker 1 (33:06):
Well, I walked out to check on him.

Speaker 3 (33:07):
Because he's yelling, it's late and it's a Friday, so
I'm like it's fine.
And he's like and so I go outthere.
And I'm like hey, you guys needto be quiet.
And Ken's like mom, can we getTaco Bell?
And he hears it.
And he's like no, it's doordashing.
So I'm like shh, you know, I'mlike ignoring him and so I water

(33:36):
.
So they're like laughinghysterically because they're
jumping in the water.
So he's like raging, raging.
Well, he told you to be quiet.
So then I'm door dashing canes.
It's like the wheels are off,you know, and like again I'm
like, oh, I'm glad they're hereand they're just door dashing
like they're not trying to sneakout or do drugs or anything
weird, you know, yeah.
But so I go back in the room andhe's like so mad and I just had
it with him.
At this point I'm just likeshut up, you know.

Speaker 4 (33:53):
And so he goes.
I can't tell it.
It's like people are gonna belike you're now.
Now the tiktokers are reallylike your marriage is doomed.

Speaker 1 (34:01):
Yeah, they're all like I'll sleep with him yeah,
exactly, I was like oh well,that's great.

Speaker 3 (34:05):
At least I don't know , I'm just kidding, I'm totally
kidding.
So I walk back in and I'm likehe's like I can't believe you're
doing this, you know, and I'mlike kidding.
So I walk back in and I'm likehe's like I can't believe you're
doing this, you know, and I'mlike doing DoorDash and then I
go, he goes, they're loud and Ijust I finally had had enough.
Yeah, you had enough.
And so I just said just shutthe fuck up.

Speaker 4 (34:25):
And he couldn't believe it.
And then I said it like threetimes Because I don't feel like
I had the impact you can't do itanymore.
Yes, I just was like shut up.
And I said it just like thatand he looked at me and I go,
shut them up.
And he goes and he couldn'tbelieve it and I go, literally
just shut them.

(34:45):
And then he was like I will not, I will not shut up.
And I was like shut up.
You know like I just was likeGod.
If I have to hear his voice foranother minute, I'm going to
just bang my head against thiswall.

Speaker 1 (35:04):
No, but it feels like that sometimes, like I'm trying
to understand it, I'm like,okay, I was trying to be
supportive, but shut the fuck up, god.

Speaker 3 (35:13):
They're just, it was nothing.
And it's a Friday night, I know.

Speaker 1 (35:16):
I feel like that sometimes too.
It's like we got to pick ourbattles, yeah, so then the next
morning, you know.

Speaker 3 (35:22):
So I do this thing where, like, I know, I'm wrong.

Speaker 2 (35:24):
So then you get more mad at him.

Speaker 3 (35:26):
Yeah, I flip it.
I try to flip it.
Like well, like I'm gonnaforgive you, and like I messed
up, you know.

Speaker 1 (35:37):
So the next morning he's like making my coffee and
he's like, yeah, here you go.
Should I shut the?

Speaker 3 (35:39):
and I was like he's really good at making it a joke.
He always makes me laugh in themorning when like something's
like yeah, I'm mad did you saysorry?
yeah, and so I.
Well, at first I tried not to.
I was like, yeah, and lastnight you were out of control
and he's like.
And then I knew I'm like Ibetter just give in.
I was like, yeah, and lastnight you were out of control
and he's like.
And then I knew I'm like Ibetter just give in.
So I was like, sorry, I justcouldn't listen to it anymore.

Speaker 1 (35:57):
Well, I think you were getting like I can always
understand.
You're like okay, this is thebeginning of this, so we have to
have a house where people arecomfortable, Otherwise, they'll
go at other people's houses Likewho knows what weird things are
going on.
No, I get like that with Kyletoo.
Like, but if I didn't have aKyle, we wouldn't have our house

(36:20):
, we wouldn't have any nicethings, we would be on the
street because I'd spend all ofour money.
No, you're responsible, like,about things, so I would have
not enough to upgrade it.
You know, I'd be like I'd stillbe at 40, 30, you know, in my
first house and, um, not thatthat was bad, but we just we

(36:42):
would never moved because Iwould have never saved any money
.
Um, but, like, you have to havethat counterpart, and I do
believe that God puts us withour counterpart, but why does it
make it so hard sometimes, like, I'm pro man and I'm pro-my
husband.
but like we were talking aboutit this weekend like all the
guys were grouchy, and then ourother friend's like is it weird,
my husband's too grouchy.

Speaker 3 (36:57):
I'm like no, they're all grouchy, yeah well we were
hiking the next day and I wastelling her and I do think
they're more grouchy whenthey're younger, I feel but that

(37:18):
wasn't my comfort zone, likeI'm a high school girl, that's
like I taught, I've coached.

Speaker 1 (37:22):
Yeah, see, I feel like this is my era, so I really
want my say, and like his momwas very good with kids that
were younger, so I like kind oftook his lead more Like do you
think this is okay?
And he's like, no, they need togo in their bed.
And I'm like, okay, they needto eat their dinner.
And I was like, okay, they needto eat when.
Now it's like Now I'm like myturn you shush.
Yeah, maybe that's why, becausewe didn't argue as much when

(37:45):
they were little.
This is harder for me now.
Like when they were little, wedidn't argue, yeah, about
parenting as much as we do now.

Speaker 3 (37:55):
Well, the parenting.

Speaker 1 (37:56):
So I was like an only child so I always was with my
friends because there wasnothing going on at home.
It was just like me and myparents.
So like I was always had peopleover or I was doing things.
My brother, excuse me, hadmoved out, so like it wasn't

(38:19):
like if I stayed home there wasno family life.
It was boring, yeah.
So like I was always out where.
If he was home, it was like hisfriends were there because his
siblings are all his age.
It was like fun.
So I'm always like let them go.
Like he didn't do sleepovers.

Speaker 3 (38:32):
Well, I think he's just not naturally as out like
not outgoing.
But like you're very regimented, I'm very-spirited, yeah well
and I think you always lovehaving all the kids over and you
don't care about my house ifthere's sleepovers every night
like that's where I feel likehe's more, like it's a school
night why is there a sleepover,you know?

(38:52):
So I think it's just thedifference.
My dad yelled about that tooand it didn't matter.

Speaker 1 (38:56):
Yeah, it's fine, he totally yells, but we still have
sleepovers yeah, that's where Ithink it's just the ground he
gets like so worried about likekids eating our food in our
pantry.
We bought that food and I'mlike I would have never had a
treat in my life if I didn't eatsomeone else's pantry.
Yeah, you know like we haveenough money to buy some more
groceries, like you know.
Yeah, like it's dumb to me.
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (39:16):
That is a dumb.

Speaker 1 (39:17):
I love you, kyle, because he does listen.
I love you, but I'm trying toget help here.
Yeah, you know, but he's likethat's our.
You know it's going to beexpensive to fill the pantry.

Speaker 3 (39:24):
Well, this is where I think I feel like Kyle comes
with a more scarcity mindset.

Speaker 2 (39:29):
Yeah, he does In life .

Speaker 3 (39:30):
He does, so he's very like we're going to be out.
He's not like I.
I think he's more like hey,groceries are expensive, this is
true.
We're feeding the neighborhood,this is true.
He's not wrong.
But I feel like you're morelike yeah, who cares?
Like let's feed the kids.

Speaker 1 (39:48):
Half of the things I buy my kids don't even like.
I'm buying them for whoeverwants to have them Right Like
Star Crunches.

Speaker 3 (39:56):
Yeah, my kids her house.
They come out.
Bears pockets are like I'm like, what's in your pockets?
He's got like eight packs ofgushers.
I'm like this is not okay, likeI should start vending Kyle's
probably.

Speaker 1 (40:05):
Like kids can't come over no, I know no, but I think
the grouchy I think when we weretalking about our husbands this
weekend and how they were allgrouchy went out because they
were all with the kids.
I think it's a very normalthing and I did say your husband
used to be way grouchier and Isaw, I figured.

Speaker 3 (40:20):
she said I figured out.
I'm like the husband whisperer.
Yeah, like you have fixed it.

Speaker 1 (40:24):
I fixed it, but you're very good at being a
girlfriend, whereas Dr LauraSchlesinger always talks about
being the girlfriend.
Um, this one influencer Ifollow posted like it was kind
of awkward for me.
She posted like her hair up inthis cute outfit, he was hugging

(40:47):
her, she was kissing him and Iwas like, yeah, oops, I stay in
that first one way too long.
Like I don't get as dressed upand I think a lot of that's like
right now I have the holidayweight.
The holidays were a few monthsago, but it's like your clothes
are a little tighter, so gettingready is kind of depressing.
Like it's like oh God, findingan outfit.
You know, it's like your owninsecurity, even like feeling
sexy sometimes.

(41:08):
Yeah, if you're like notfeeling good about your body,
you're like when they'retouching you're like what are
they feeling?
Is it a role?

Speaker 3 (41:13):
Yeah, Like you're not , like I'm just trying to like
I'm focused on the dishes andthis and that, but like you
really have to lean into that.
I feel like I realized that heloves my attention.
So I was like, okay, if I givehim attention, it goes so much
farther, farther, yeah, and thenhe's like a lot in a, he's in a

(41:36):
better mood, he's way more so Ithink, as my kids got older,
when they were younger, I didnot do this at all.
I was all about the kids.
Yeah, I was like the kids, thekids, the kids, and he got
whatever was left over and itwas grouchy.
And I think that's a mistakethat you make, especially when
they're young and they need youfor everything and it's like
your first go.
Because you're making the meals, you're making the snacks.

(41:57):
My friend when we were hikingshe's a jerky, she listens.
Um, I'm like as they get olderit gets better because you don't
have to do so much.

Speaker 1 (42:04):
So now I feel like I my number one more than the kids
is like giving him attention,so I feel like walk me through
your day.

Speaker 3 (42:16):
So in the morning I feel like you're good.

Speaker 1 (42:19):
I feel like people are going to be like this lady's
weird, like who cares what theythink you're?

Speaker 3 (42:23):
talking to your friend here trying to learn.
So he wakes up in the morning,so I know his love language is
touching and so he makes mycoffee.
So I have to be happy he makesmy coffee.
So he's really big on me beinglike thanks for the coffee.
I have to like acknowledge thecoffee.
Yeah, I would want that tooyeah.
And so then I always do thisthing where I like hold my shirt
out like this, meaning put, putyour hands down my shirt.
And then he like Every singleday, almost every single day, I

(42:45):
would say five days out of theweek, and I say, oh, good
morning, like, and he like putshis hand down my shirt and gives
a little like you know, yeah,and it's not like we're going to
go do it, yeah, but it's likeI'm like giving yeah, like you
want him to touch you, yes, butdo you?
Yeah.
I mean, I don't mind it, yeah,it's two seconds, you know yeah.
So then we get ready and thenhe's making the sandwiches.

(43:07):
I'm always like, honey, can youmake sandwiches?
You know, I do the little IES,I flirt.

Speaker 1 (43:11):
Every day you say this yes.

Speaker 3 (43:27):
He's not just making them honey sandwiches or you
know, and I flirt a little andthen he, when he leaves, I see
him off, you know, I give himsome rub and some a kiss.
Yeah, like get off the couch,yes, well, like by that time I'm
getting ready.
Or like making the lunches,cause he makes a sandwich, but
then I pack all the lunches andsnacks and all that.
So then I'm doing the kidsgetting ready myself, but I
stopped giving him attention.
Love you, have a good day, youknow, yeah.
And then I feel like when hegets home I just very am like
giving him attention.
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (43:44):
Yeah, and it's such a simple thing to do and it's
like it's not a whole.
So when he gets home, what doyou do?

Speaker 3 (43:48):
Like I acknowledge that he's home.
I always make sure the house,the kitchen is clean.
So do you get up, like ifyou're on, you know, and like I
just very much give himattention now?
Yeah, and like all throughoutthe day I'll give him attention.
Do you like text him during theday?
Yeah, I'll text him things youknow.

Speaker 1 (44:04):
Like what.

Speaker 3 (44:05):
Like I love you, I can't wait to see you tonight,
let's watch our show.
Like just like I'm like hethinks that, like he's on the
forefront of my brain all day.
Yeah, you know, and I am busytoo and there's some days it

(44:25):
doesn't happen, but I feel likeI very much make an effort to
like give him so much attentionand then he is just like so
happy.
Yeah, it's weird and he's wayless grouchy.

Speaker 1 (44:32):
Yeah, my friend, my other friend said this too.

Speaker 3 (44:44):
Her husband.
She'd be like then I get to gowatch my shows and then he says
yes to things and it's likewe're do it wrong, you know, and
it's not always about sex,because sometimes you're not in
the mood.
Well, that's, I think myproblem is like, sometimes I
worry, it's going to lead tothat.

Speaker 1 (44:49):
And then I have to say no.
I'd never want to say no.
I never want to say no to thoserude people.
Um, don't you know like startit.
Then I have to say no.
So I think I worry about thattoo much.
Yeah, you know.

Speaker 3 (45:03):
I think it's just like knowing what they like, and
doing it.

Speaker 1 (45:09):
I know Kyle would love if I woke up in the morning
.
He loves having a friend in themorning.
Yeah, and I am not a morningperson, I don't want to talk to
anybody.
Yeah, and he wants to like do a, do a lot of feeling, do a lot
of like yay, let's talk aboutour day.
Yeah, so it's like, oh gosh,but I think I should wake up.
Yeah, if I woke up with him, itwould just like be beside
himself.

Speaker 3 (45:25):
That's what it's weird, because I feel like Ben
is like he used to be reallynasty.
Yeah, he did.

Speaker 1 (45:30):
It's like a different person.
It is like a different person.

Speaker 3 (45:42):
Like I have two dogs now said no, he was like a
harder no than Kyle.
Yeah, like it's a fulltransformation.
Anything I want, I got, I getit.

Speaker 4 (45:46):
It's weird, it's like a magic genie, you know.

Speaker 3 (45:47):
Rub him and you know but like yeah, I'm not
manipulative, like it.

Speaker 1 (45:53):
I mean no, I think you're just working at it more.
I think when we're dating,we're more like working at it.
We want them happy, so you'relike more, like thinking what
could I do for him?
Yeah, and you know, and it's sosimple.

Speaker 4 (46:04):
It's so simple.

Speaker 2 (46:05):
Kyle's like better at that because he's more you.

Speaker 1 (46:06):
Yeah, so Kyle like does more stuff like that for me
than I do for him.

Speaker 3 (46:14):
And I have to remember he wants that back.
That's why he something, ohyeah.

Speaker 1 (46:17):
He totally needs my attention.

Speaker 3 (46:19):
But like there's times when I'm telling him shut
up, I'm not like always like oh,love you, no, no no.

Speaker 1 (46:24):
Yeah, it's real and like I do see people on social
media that post things thatthey're like oh, I love you, and
it's like after 15 years, somaybe that's their husband's
love language.

Speaker 3 (46:36):
Yeah, maybe they really like getting that post on
social media, totally Maybe.
That's why they do it because,I see that I'm like ah, fake you
know, but they're lying, againthey're lying.
I'm like no, you're not doingthat but maybe that's why they
do it.

Speaker 1 (46:47):
Maybe that's their husband's love language.

Speaker 3 (46:48):
Yeah, like they love being boasted like on Sunday he
woke up and he gets really badmigraines.
He woke up, he had a badmigraine, so like I knew he was
in bed still with me at like 720.
I was like why is he in bed?
He like like never sleeps in.
So then I like smelledpeppermint.
I'm like what the hell's goingon?
And he had like the peppermintoil cause he was nauseous from
his migraine and so I was like,oh honey, do you need anything,

(47:08):
you know?
So I was like nursing him backto health, you know.
And then, like I went and tookI had to go take bear, I picked
up Broxton, I was taking theboys and then I came back and he
was like feeling a littlebetter and I was like, oh, do
you need a nurse, you know?
And I came over and I said letme nurse you back to health and

(47:28):
I was giving him like someattention.

Speaker 4 (47:29):
And then he was like fine, you know, I'm like this is
so easy, it's so simple, menaren't that complicated you're
right, they're not, they're notthey just need attention.

Speaker 1 (47:35):
I think it's important we remember to be the
girlfriend.
Yes, yes, it's like so hard Ihave to remind myself every day
don't be the hag wife.
No, because I think I am.
Sometimes I'm just like grouchyand I do that too, but I'm not
grouchy to everybody else.
So I need to do better.
I'm just tired by then, youknow, but I got to be the
girlfriend more.
It's better that way and dressup yeah, yeah, dress up no, not

(47:55):
like weirdly, but like get readylike go out and get ready,
because he always says like whenyou go to work you know you get
all, yeah, but like even on adate night, like you know, make
sure you get dressed and stuff,like really treat it like a
girlfriend, work for it still.

Speaker 3 (48:08):
Just like anything in life, I know you have to work
at it to make it good.

Speaker 1 (48:11):
Yeah for sure, for sure, I'm going to do that.
I was like no, it's fine, whathappened?
I was like I'm taking them out,they're too big, because my
kids are like mom, they're sobig I know, are you going to?

Speaker 3 (48:44):
No, he couldn't sleep all anyways.
All right, so moving on.
No lessons.
Tisha doesn't want us to giveany lessons.
The lesson is be a girlfriend.
Let's do an experiment thisweek you be a girlfriend to him.
If I said something with IES,he would die no, but you do it,
and do it in his way yeah, yourturf looks amazing no, but I
feel like Kyle.
It's more like giving him a sayand doing the I know, I did
give him a things that he caresabout, that you we're gonna go
get the real ID tomorrow, Can'twait.

Speaker 1 (49:04):
He's like I'm getting all the paperwork ready yeah.

Speaker 3 (49:06):
And you could be like I'm excited to get the real ID,
Want to get lunch too.

Speaker 1 (49:10):
Like something like that.
Yeah, that's true, he's goingto listen to this, but yeah, I
agree.

Speaker 3 (49:14):
You're right, I know he hasn't listened the last
couple.

Speaker 1 (49:24):
He's jerking around again.
He's like I got rekt today, allright, see you next week.
All right, next week, welcometo jerking around.
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