March 17, 2025 • 25 mins
Celebrating Women's History Month by honoring the remarkable women who've shaped both world history and our personal journeys. From Susan B. Anthony securing our right to vote to Rosa Parks standing firm for justice in 1955 to Amelia Earhart breaking aviation barriers in 1932, these historical trailblazers remind us of the relatively recent struggles women faced for basic rights and opportunities.
But perhaps more powerful than these renowned figures are the personal heroines who've shaped our individual stories. We share touching stories about women like "Miss Shirley," who despite tremendous hardship radiates joy and embodies the phrase "I don't look like what I've been through," and "Lisa," who became a crucial mentor during those difficult adolescent years when parental guidance was automatically rejected. These women—alongside the grandmothers who prayed for us, the mothers who supported us, and the friends who spoke truth to us—have formed the backbone of our faith journeys and personal development.
The devastating power of negative words can't be overstated, especially for young women navigating their identities. Childhood comments can leave wounds we carry for decades, which is precisely why strong female mentors who speak life and truth become so crucial. They help counter the destructive messages that bombard us daily. We explore how women can better support one another, particularly in divisive areas like politics, where women who've fought twice as hard to earn their positions sometimes resort to tearing each other down rather than modeling respectful disagreement.
Ecclesiastes reminds us that "Two are better than one; if either falls, one can help the other up." This Women's History Month, let's celebrate by intentionally supporting the women in our lives, creating space for meaningful connection, and speaking words that build up rather than tear down. Your encouragement might be someone's turning point.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hey, welcome back, or welcome to the Jesus Fix it
podcast, the show where we talkabout life, the ups, the downs,
a little pop culture andeverything in between.
I'm Jess and I'm Steph.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
Every other week we dive into the things we're
asking Jesus to fix.
And let's be real, there's alot.
You can always count on us tokeep it real.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Share some laughs with us and maybe a few tears,
as we tackle the big and smallstuff with faith and honesty.
So grab your coffee and let'sget into it.
It's Women's History Month, so,guys, you are welcome.
Please stick around.
Stick around, we're going to betalking about powerful women
and let's support each other.
Yes, it's so important.
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Yes and again, guys, pleasestick around for this, because
there is a woman in your lifewho needs to be supported your
mom, your sister, your wifey,aunts, nieces daughters,
coworkers, coworkers.
Okay.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Yes, all right.
Important, influential,influential women.
I was trying to think like whatare some people that we know um
?
How about Susan B Anthony?
Speaker 1 (01:12):
yes, okay, thank you, miss Susie okay.
I probably shouldn't refer toher as Miss Susie.
Speaker 2 (01:17):
She is way more important than that but if
you're on a personal basis withher, she might might be Miss
Susie.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
I wish I could have met her and said thank you.
Because of her I can go cast myvote.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
Yes, absolutely.
How about Rosie, the RiveterRosie?
Speaker 1 (01:34):
the Riveter?
Yeah, that's not Rosa Parks.
Who is Rosie the Riveter?
Should I know Rosie the Riveter?
Speaker 2 (01:43):
Rosie the Riveter became a symbol of women's
empowerment and contributions tothe war effort.
Thank you, Rosie.
You've seen, I know you've seenher.
She's the woman with her arm up, oh with the fist, yes, the
fist, and she has the cute realbright red lipstick and the cute
little polka dot and the jacketchambray or whatever.
Yeah, that's Rosie the Riveter.
That's Rosie the Riveter.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
That's Rosie the Riveter.
I didn't know that was herofficial title.
Yeah, oh, my goodness, I feelso bad for not knowing that was
her actual title.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
It's all good.
I dressed as her one year for afun dress-up thing because I
had red lipstick.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
She's such a baddie, but she is, yeah, okay.
Well, since I mentioned her,we're just going to say Miss
Rosa Parks, yes.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
Oh, my goodness.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
Miss Rosa stood on business.
She is the epitome of don'tgrow weary from doing good.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
Oh man, that is so true.
Okay, yes, and you know, thinkabout her pivotal moment
happened in 1955.
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
It is so awesome that we can talk about her still and
it seems like 1955 was so longago.
But if you think about it, itreally wasn't.
Speaker 2 (02:54):
It really wasn't yeah .
Speaker 1 (02:56):
Yeah, thank you, miss Rosa, okay.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
How about Amelia Earhart?
Okay, miss Amelia Mm-hmm.
Yeah, breaking some majorbarriers.
Yeah, she was the first womanto fly solo across the Atlantic,
and this happened in 1932.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
Okay, that was a little while ago it was, but can
I just say, for somebody whowas afraid to even be a
passenger on a plane for thelongest time Girl, yeah, girl,
yeah yeah.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
That is amazing.
That is super cool.
I would love to have my pilot'slicense, but I've never.
I would not.
I've thought about trying tostudy for it and then I thought,
nope.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
But you know, what's so amazing is, I've never been
on a plane where there was anall-lady crew but, I've seen the
videos and pictures on Facebookwhere there have been all-women
crews for flights, and that'sso amazing because this probably
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wasn't even possible like eonsago.
Like who would have thoughtthat there was a pilot, co-pilot
and all of the flightattendants was all like.
That may not have even beenpossible without these other
women who paved the way for thatand that's yeah, that's a huge.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
I mean, you have to do your due diligence whenever
you're getting into whateverposition is, but those people
that help you out, that help youalong the way and say I believe
in you and I believe that youcan do this, yeah.
Speaker 1 (04:29):
And let's not forget about mom oh, thank you and
aunties who believe in us andgrandmamas who prayed.
Because I feel like I am alivetoday and doing things today
because I had a grandmama whoprayed for me.
I think I am still thrivingtoday because of my grandmama's
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prayers, so we can give it upfor those women in our lives who
believed in us, who stillbelieve in us, those women in
our lives who mentored us, thosewomen in our lives who
introduced us to Jesus.
Yeah, to have an inspirationalwoman in your life doesn't mean
they had to go out and do thesebig things that the world knows
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about.
It can be that woman in yourlife who spoke truth to you that
woman in your life who's prayedover you.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
That is an influential woman, Someone who
poured into you Jess.
Who is that person for you, oh?
Speaker 1 (05:26):
my goodness, so many.
I'm going to have to start withmy mom, of course, but
definitely on the spot it'sgoing to be You're welcome One,
one so many.
But one lady is Miss Shirleyfrom church, Okay, and she
probably doesn't even know whatan inspiration she is to me, but
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she's so mild-mannered, she'salways put together and just
somebody that you would justlook at and think, oh, she's got
it going on, not a care in theworld.
But I first met her in a smallgroup and when she started
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speaking and sharing her storyshe's been through some things,
but she's one of those peoplethat is really the epitome of I
don't look like what I've beenthrough, and just her sharing
her story and she still had asmile on her face.
She actually reminds me of mygrandma because even though
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she's been through these awfulthings and she's got like this
big story, she's still able tosmile and say, but God, and I'm
still here, and I don't, becauseshe's not expecting this, I
don't want to air all of herthings.
But I will tell you, she's beenthrough so much and still able
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to smile and say, hey, I'm stillhere, because it's so easy to
have this woe is me attitude.
It's so easy to say like I'vebeen through this, why should I
go on?
But she doesn't.
She smiles every single day.
You know what I mean.
I absolutely love that and it'sso encouraging.
And on the days when I feellike, oh my goodness, I just
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want to lay in bed, on the daysI feel like I just want to curl
up in a ball, I try to think ofher, I try to think of my
grandma, because they had somany reasons to quit going and
they just clung to their faithand they just said, but God, and
they had this joy, thatunspeakable joy we talk about.
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They had that and that justinspires me so much.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
That is wonderful.
I would love to meet this MissShirley sometime.
Speaker 1 (07:44):
Yeah, she's so, oh my goodness, just such an
inspiration, yeah, yeah, whatabout you?
Speaker 2 (07:50):
I think of when I was in middle school yeah, middle
school, some things going on inmy family, my nuclear family,
that my parents were reallypaying attention to my brother a
lot because he needed someadditional assistance.
And in our middle school youthgroup this lady came in and her
name's Lisa and she just clungto everybody and loved on people
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in a big way.
And she had just graduated fromcollege and moved to where we
were and I remember going up toher at the very first youth
meeting that I'd ever seen herat.
She had this sweatshirt on andit said Camp Bunce.
I'm like, well, what's, where'sthat?
Speaker 1 (08:28):
like that was literally me like I just walked
up to her, I'm like bunts.
Yeah, oh, I thought she saidbuns like buns of still no
something.
I mean that'd be nice, but no,I'm bunts, bunts.
Speaker 2 (08:38):
Okay, not, not bunt, but bunts.
Okay, we digress.
Okay, strong women, they'regonna tell you about their bunt
cake.
If you get that reference, youare my people okay so anyways,
walked up to her, said, what isthis, camp bunce?
And she's like, oh, that's mylast name.
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Oh, okay, it was just apersonalized sweatshirt, but it,
you know, sparked aconversation and I'm well, I
don't know like 12, 13, 14, Ithink, right around in that age
range.
And from that moment, god justsaid this is your person right
now, this is someone who youneed to have pour into you.
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I mean now, years later, I canlook back on it and see all of
these moments where Lisa was inmy life for a reason, because I
needed a strong female to helpme along, because at that age
you are not listening to yourmom.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
No, You're not.
No, she is the adversary.
Exactly, she is the ops Yep.
Speaker 2 (09:40):
Nope, nope.
So Lisa was that person for meand she was one who pushed me in
so many ways.
In great ways.
She loved and worked at campswhere she was hanging in the
trees.
That was her thing, that washer job, and she's like come on,
we're going to go hang in thetrees for a while and just do
ropes courses.
(10:00):
Oh, literally, yeah, literallyno quite literally, okay, quite
literally, and I'm like you know, I'm this chonky middle school
girl and I'm just like, okay,I'm not even sure that I can
climb up this tree because itdoesn't have a ladder, it has
staples.
I was going to say I probablywouldn't be able to.
Yeah, no, but she pushed me andlike pushed my physical
boundaries of things that Icould do, because it was helping
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me.
See, I can physically do someof these things that people were
telling me no way could youever do that because of my
physical makeup.
And she said I don't care,you're going to do this and I'm
going to help you with it.
She stretched my faith.
She was a Bible study leaderfor us and so many moments where
she just was like, look, youare a child of God, you are an
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important person, god loves you,you were made in his creation.
And I can think back on thesetimes and again, as a middle
school girl, the things that youare told that are the lies that
you are told to believe.
Having a strong female in yourlife is just so important.
And that's who Lisa was for me.
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And I mean I remember here's afunny story she was staying with
me over a weekend time that myparents were away with my
brother and I wasn't old enoughto drive yet.
I could have stayed by myself,but I couldn't drive, so I
couldn't get anywhere.
And so she stayed with me andshe had a five speed car and I
was trying to learn how to drivea five speed and she's like,
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yeah, come on, we're gonna,we're gonna go.
I'm like I don't even have mypermit, like you know, to me the
idea was cool, but I'm like Ican't do that.
Little angelic, you know polishmy halo on the top of my head.
She's like come on, we're gonnado it.
We drove up and down thestreets and she's like, yep, now
pop the clutch, let's get outof first gear.
I'm like, okay, and then.
And then whiplash later we wereable to go a little bit.
Speaker 1 (11:47):
But it's like Definitely with the whiplash, oh
man.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
But yeah, I just think back and so fondly on her
because she was one of thosepeople that, especially at such
a pivotal time in my life, shesaid I see you and I'm going to
pour into you because you areimportant and you are worth more
than what you're seeing.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
Listening to you tell the story about literally
climbing the trees of somethingthat pretty much just about
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every inspirational woman inhistory probably heard before
they became these powerful womenthat we know you can't do this.
They were told you can't, you'renot big enough, you're not good
enough or no, this just can'tbe done.
And they took those words andlet that be their fuel.
I love that so much Becauseeven today, like think about
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somebody saying you can't do it,or think about what would
happen if today you were toldyou can't do something and you
were just like what do you mean?
I can't do it?
I am a child of God and he saysI have purpose.
What do you mean I?
Speaker 2 (13:15):
can't.
Yeah, if it is God's will forme, it is happening.
It might not look the way Iwant it to, and he says with him
all things are possible.
Yes, look the way I want it to,and he says with him all things
are possible.
Yes.
Speaker 1 (13:26):
Like imagine if the lies that were in our mind, we
said no, those lies are straightfrom Satan, you know what.
Like I wish that would fuel somany of our young women today,
because the anxiety and theself-esteem lies that just run
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so rampant in our young women'sminds today is just crazy and
it's so sad yeah because it doesinfluence you years and decades
, decades, the trauma, thetrauma.
Speaker 2 (14:03):
I remember being in third grade and I was in line
for the cafeteria with my youknow little class and there was
a kid and I remember his namebut I'm not going to say it who
turned around to me and saidwell, what are you doing here,
fat cow?
Speaker 1 (14:22):
third grade the things you remember those things
.
Look how long ago though I'mthose things.
Speaker 2 (14:25):
Look how long ago that was I'm not calling you old
, but look how long ago, thatwas Decades.
Speaker 1 (14:30):
Those things, words like that will never leave you.
Those things stick, likewhoever came up with that crazy
phrase words will never sticksand stones will break my bones.
Words will never hurt me.
Oh, my goodness.
Speaker 2 (14:44):
So far from the truth because, words hurt they do,
and that's why it is soimportant to have a female
especially for females to pourinto you and to lift you up,
because I could hear all daylong, you know like I love my
mom and she can pour into me,but I can hear from her all day
long oh, you look beautiful, youlook beautiful.
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Yeah, my best friend tells me.
I'm believing it, right.
Speaker 1 (15:08):
Right, because you feel like you know your mom, you
know that's an unconditionallove.
Right, she's going to tell you.
Speaker 2 (15:15):
It's like but, mom, you have to tell me that, you
have to say that.
Speaker 1 (15:18):
You know?
Yeah, you have to that, butit's just different when
somebody who is going to pourinto you in a different way
tells you I feel like you needthat.
Yeah, do you feel like there isa lot more of women not
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supporting each other these days?
Do you see a lot of that?
Speaker 2 (15:47):
I think it might depend.
Yeah, I think it does depend onthe situations and
circumstances.
So I follow influencers onFacebook and Instagram.
I just do.
Speaker 3 (16:00):
I'm guilty of that too.
You know, sometimes I just do.
I'm guilty of that too.
Speaker 2 (16:02):
Sometimes I am influenced, but I also am wise
enough to know they're beingpaid to do this.
However, there's one that Ifollowed and she does the
influencing and has the links toher stuff because she's the
sole provider for her family,has a couple of kids and her
husband a few years ago wasdiagnosed with ALS and within a
few years, went from a veryactive person to bedridden, to
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intubated and just recentlypassed away.
And it just happened so fast andin a few years.
And there's other influencersthat do the very same thing that
she does sells the same stuffor links whatever, and they said
we are coming alongside youstuff or links, whatever.
And they said we are comingalongside you, we want you to
take this time to grieve andstill have an opportunity for
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income.
And took over her Instagram andhave been very forward with
that, saying this is who we areand we're helping out and we're
taking this.
This is how she makes her money.
Please, if you feel led, buythe stuff, follow the links,
whatever it is, but they'reputting themselves aside.
They're putting theirbusinesses on hold to help out
this other woman that is in thisvery same industry.
Speaker 1 (17:09):
That's so amazing.
Speaker 2 (17:10):
I love that.
Speaker 1 (17:11):
I love that.
We've talked about this beforeand you know where I'm going
with this.
I see a lot of women notsupporting each other in the
political arena, and I get it.
You're on opposing teams here,and that's fine.
You can have different views.
It's going to happen.
We're not all supposed to havethe same views.
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That's just what it is, and youknow what.
That's fine.
But I still think you don'thave to go for the jugular.
Speaker 2 (17:43):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (17:43):
Stick to the facts.
Yes, stick to the facts.
Stick to the facts.
You don't have to like go super, super low like that, like
where did that even come from?
Especially as women like I'velike seen, like some of the um,
what are the hearings or the,you know the things like they'll
when they're in in Congress andthey'll post some of the
proceedings and they're goingback and forth and I'm just
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sitting there watching thesewomen on opposing sides go at
each other's necks, and I'msitting here thinking, and I'm
like both of you probably had towork so stinking hard to get to
where you are.
Yeah, because you're women, youprobably had to work twice as
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hard and in the political arena.
Speaker 2 (18:28):
It's still just an old school boys club.
It really is.
Speaker 1 (18:32):
You know, say what you want.
But you know we're right.
But look where you are.
You can have opposing views.
You can both state your facts,state your point.
You can even state your facts,state your point.
You can even get a littleheated, because that's how we
are we're passionate, we'repassionate, we're emotional
beings.
Speaker 2 (18:50):
That's just how we're wired, yeah.
Speaker 1 (18:51):
You can be passionate , but you don't have to be mean,
you don't have to be nasty.
I've seen them startname-calling each other.
Yeah, you don't got to do that.
No, because at the end of theday, you are still women who've
had to fight your way to get towhere you are, mm-hmm.
And you can still be respectful.
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So I really hate that.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
In the political arena it is like a catfight
Mm-hmm, I really hate that Idon't watch a ton of it because
I can get so engrossed in it andit's like then I find myself
taking sides based on not thefacts, but based on how
personalities are coming out,and but there's easy to do, and
it is.
It's easy to do that.
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There's one um proceeding thatI remember, and it was
confirmation for the SupremeCourt, and I'm going to butcher
her name because I don't havethe full.
It was Amy.
Comer can't bear it maybe.
I think yeah yeah, yeah.
Something like that.
And I just remember that shehad one piece of paper and all
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the questions for days of theproceedings and at the end they
were like, okay, you know, doyou have anything else to say?
She was just cool, calm,collected the whole time, like
no tonal change, which isn'talways fun.
It's fun to have tones whenyou're talking, because then you
get things like this but shejust was very straight-laced,
seemed like again from what Iwatched, and then when they said
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anything else to say, she heldup the piece of paper and there
were.
There was nothing on it, it wasblank.
This is my, my recollection ofit.
It was blank and it was likeeverything every question she
had, every answer she had, everycase she had as a fact.
She knew her stuff, that shehad nothing written on that
piece of paper to go back andsay here's my reference of just
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because she knew that and shewas just so calm and collected
the whole time and it's likethat I find myself really
respecting, because she wasgetting people coming at her,
being emotional and being up anddown and all over the place and
she is just like this is me,I'm going off of fact, this is
where I'm at and this is why Iand she was just like this is me
, I'm going off of fact.
This is where I'm at and thisis why I should be confirmed,
because I'll cite this case.
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I cite this case.
I'm whatever it was, you know,it's just like you know also.
Speaker 1 (21:11):
I guess this is the pettiness in me, though.
But, also, you know, the calmeryou are in the you know when
you're not the one who'sclapping back that just makes
your opponent or other peoplemore Right.
Speaker 2 (21:25):
They want to get an emotional rise out of you?
Yes, exactly, they go into rest, and so that's why I respected
her all the more.
You weren't seeing crazy eyesand hands going everywhere.
She just sat there and wasLarry the Cucumber, except she
didn't sing the silly songs.
Speaker 1 (21:43):
I just wish you know we could just be more respectful
of each other.
I mean not just women all theway around, I guess, but
especially as women.
Another thing using socialmedia as a tool for empowerment
instead of as a tool to teareach other down, because I see
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that still a lot where you willrun to social media just to
gotta be a keyboard crusader.
Speaker 2 (22:13):
I have unfollowed or muted people so much here.
It's just it is it's needing toprotect my peace.
If I'm going to social media, Iam of the old school mentality
that this is just where youcatch up with your friends and
you find out what's going on intheir life and you see the cute
pinterest type mom pictures thatI'm never gonna be and I don't
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care because that's not me, youknow but it's like, oh good, I
respect you for that.
or find out that your, yourfriend, just built an Airbnb and
is now renting it out and you'dlove to remind them that you're
your friend so that you can geta discount on it.
Speaker 1 (22:47):
Yes, but seriously, there is a lot of power in women
supporting other women and Ipray that this month is just a
reminder of that and there'salso power in modern day
sisterhood and just advocatingfor each other.
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I have a verse that I want toshare Ecclesiastes.
Oh, there are a couple ofverses, verses Ecclesiastes 4, 9
, and 10.
Two are better than one.
Speaker 2 (23:23):
if either of them falls down, one can help the
other up you often hear that twois better than one in a
marriage ceremony, but it is sotrue.
With sisterhood, yes, and likethe, a cord of three cannot be
easily broken.
A couple more friends thatyou're with you know when talk
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about prayer, Prayer is so, soimportant, and when you get two
or more gathered together, Jesusis going to come alongside you.
And I mean it is just amazing,Like even if you've got, when
you have everything in the worldgoing on and we women, we're so
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busy and like sometimes we wearit as a pride badge.
Speaker 1 (24:09):
Oh, my goodness.
Speaker 3 (24:09):
And let's not do that , but we do.
This is true, we do.
Speaker 2 (24:13):
And so instead of, oh , how's it going?
Oh, I'm just so busy.
You know what?
I'm so thankful that I've gotkids that are in sports, that I
can take them to this, but alsoI am making time for me and my
girls not my children girls, myladies, my gals, you know
spending time with them and evenif it is just here, is a quick
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we've got five minutes let'shave a phone call with getting
everybody in on it and let'sjust pray for each other real
quick.
Speaker 1 (24:41):
How about that be our Jesus fix it for the week.
I love that.
Speaker 3 (24:46):
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I'm Jess and I'm Steph.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
Every other week we dive into the things we're
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And let's be real, there's alot.
You can always count on us tokeep it real.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Share some laughs with us and maybe a few tears,
as we tackle the big and smallstuff with faith and honesty.
So grab your coffee and let'sget into it.
It's Women's History Month, so,guys, you are welcome.
Please stick around.
Stick around, we're going to betalking about powerful women
and let's support each other.
Yes, it's so important.
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Yes and again, guys, pleasestick around for this, because
there is a woman in your lifewho needs to be supported your
mom, your sister, your wifey,aunts, nieces daughters,
coworkers, coworkers.
Okay.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Yes, all right.
Important, influential,influential women.
I was trying to think like whatare some people that we know um
?
How about Susan B Anthony?
Speaker 1 (01:12):
yes, okay, thank you, miss Susie okay.
I probably shouldn't refer toher as Miss Susie.
Speaker 2 (01:17):
She is way more important than that but if
you're on a personal basis withher, she might might be Miss
Susie.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
I wish I could have met her and said thank you.
Because of her I can go cast myvote.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
Yes, absolutely.
How about Rosie, the RiveterRosie?
Speaker 1 (01:34):
the Riveter?
Yeah, that's not Rosa Parks.
Who is Rosie the Riveter?
Should I know Rosie the Riveter?
Speaker 2 (01:43):
Rosie the Riveter became a symbol of women's
empowerment and contributions tothe war effort.
Thank you, Rosie.
You've seen, I know you've seenher.
She's the woman with her arm up, oh with the fist, yes, the
fist, and she has the cute realbright red lipstick and the cute
little polka dot and the jacketchambray or whatever.
Yeah, that's Rosie the Riveter.
That's Rosie the Riveter.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
That's Rosie the Riveter.
I didn't know that was herofficial title.
Yeah, oh, my goodness, I feelso bad for not knowing that was
her actual title.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
It's all good.
I dressed as her one year for afun dress-up thing because I
had red lipstick.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
She's such a baddie, but she is, yeah, okay.
Well, since I mentioned her,we're just going to say Miss
Rosa Parks, yes.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
Oh, my goodness.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
Miss Rosa stood on business.
She is the epitome of don'tgrow weary from doing good.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
Oh man, that is so true.
Okay, yes, and you know, thinkabout her pivotal moment
happened in 1955.
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
It is so awesome that we can talk about her still and
it seems like 1955 was so longago.
But if you think about it, itreally wasn't.
Speaker 2 (02:54):
It really wasn't yeah .
Speaker 1 (02:56):
Yeah, thank you, miss Rosa, okay.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
How about Amelia Earhart?
Okay, miss Amelia Mm-hmm.
Yeah, breaking some majorbarriers.
Yeah, she was the first womanto fly solo across the Atlantic,
and this happened in 1932.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
Okay, that was a little while ago it was, but can
I just say, for somebody whowas afraid to even be a
passenger on a plane for thelongest time Girl, yeah, girl,
yeah yeah.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
That is amazing.
That is super cool.
I would love to have my pilot'slicense, but I've never.
I would not.
I've thought about trying tostudy for it and then I thought,
nope.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
But you know, what's so amazing is, I've never been
on a plane where there was anall-lady crew but, I've seen the
videos and pictures on Facebookwhere there have been all-women
crews for flights, and that'sso amazing because this probably
(03:59):
wasn't even possible like eonsago.
Like who would have thoughtthat there was a pilot, co-pilot
and all of the flightattendants was all like.
That may not have even beenpossible without these other
women who paved the way for thatand that's yeah, that's a huge.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
I mean, you have to do your due diligence whenever
you're getting into whateverposition is, but those people
that help you out, that help youalong the way and say I believe
in you and I believe that youcan do this, yeah.
Speaker 1 (04:29):
And let's not forget about mom oh, thank you and
aunties who believe in us andgrandmamas who prayed.
Because I feel like I am alivetoday and doing things today
because I had a grandmama whoprayed for me.
I think I am still thrivingtoday because of my grandmama's
(04:49):
prayers, so we can give it upfor those women in our lives who
believed in us, who stillbelieve in us, those women in
our lives who mentored us, thosewomen in our lives who
introduced us to Jesus.
Yeah, to have an inspirationalwoman in your life doesn't mean
they had to go out and do thesebig things that the world knows
(05:13):
about.
It can be that woman in yourlife who spoke truth to you that
woman in your life who's prayedover you.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
That is an influential woman, Someone who
poured into you Jess.
Who is that person for you, oh?
Speaker 1 (05:26):
my goodness, so many.
I'm going to have to start withmy mom, of course, but
definitely on the spot it'sgoing to be You're welcome One,
one so many.
But one lady is Miss Shirleyfrom church, Okay, and she
probably doesn't even know whatan inspiration she is to me, but
(05:49):
she's so mild-mannered, she'salways put together and just
somebody that you would justlook at and think, oh, she's got
it going on, not a care in theworld.
But I first met her in a smallgroup and when she started
(06:09):
speaking and sharing her storyshe's been through some things,
but she's one of those peoplethat is really the epitome of I
don't look like what I've beenthrough, and just her sharing
her story and she still had asmile on her face.
She actually reminds me of mygrandma because even though
(06:32):
she's been through these awfulthings and she's got like this
big story, she's still able tosmile and say, but God, and I'm
still here, and I don't, becauseshe's not expecting this, I
don't want to air all of herthings.
But I will tell you, she's beenthrough so much and still able
(06:55):
to smile and say, hey, I'm stillhere, because it's so easy to
have this woe is me attitude.
It's so easy to say like I'vebeen through this, why should I
go on?
But she doesn't.
She smiles every single day.
You know what I mean.
I absolutely love that and it'sso encouraging.
And on the days when I feellike, oh my goodness, I just
(07:16):
want to lay in bed, on the daysI feel like I just want to curl
up in a ball, I try to think ofher, I try to think of my
grandma, because they had somany reasons to quit going and
they just clung to their faithand they just said, but God, and
they had this joy, thatunspeakable joy we talk about.
(07:36):
They had that and that justinspires me so much.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
That is wonderful.
I would love to meet this MissShirley sometime.
Speaker 1 (07:44):
Yeah, she's so, oh my goodness, just such an
inspiration, yeah, yeah, whatabout you?
Speaker 2 (07:50):
I think of when I was in middle school yeah, middle
school, some things going on inmy family, my nuclear family,
that my parents were reallypaying attention to my brother a
lot because he needed someadditional assistance.
And in our middle school youthgroup this lady came in and her
name's Lisa and she just clungto everybody and loved on people
(08:14):
in a big way.
And she had just graduated fromcollege and moved to where we
were and I remember going up toher at the very first youth
meeting that I'd ever seen herat.
She had this sweatshirt on andit said Camp Bunce.
I'm like, well, what's, where'sthat?
Speaker 1 (08:28):
like that was literally me like I just walked
up to her, I'm like bunts.
Yeah, oh, I thought she saidbuns like buns of still no
something.
I mean that'd be nice, but no,I'm bunts, bunts.
Speaker 2 (08:38):
Okay, not, not bunt, but bunts.
Okay, we digress.
Okay, strong women, they'regonna tell you about their bunt
cake.
If you get that reference, youare my people okay so anyways,
walked up to her, said, what isthis, camp bunce?
And she's like, oh, that's mylast name.
(08:59):
Oh, okay, it was just apersonalized sweatshirt, but it,
you know, sparked aconversation and I'm well, I
don't know like 12, 13, 14, Ithink, right around in that age
range.
And from that moment, god justsaid this is your person right
now, this is someone who youneed to have pour into you.
(09:20):
I mean now, years later, I canlook back on it and see all of
these moments where Lisa was inmy life for a reason, because I
needed a strong female to helpme along, because at that age
you are not listening to yourmom.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
No, You're not.
No, she is the adversary.
Exactly, she is the ops Yep.
Speaker 2 (09:40):
Nope, nope.
So Lisa was that person for meand she was one who pushed me in
so many ways.
In great ways.
She loved and worked at campswhere she was hanging in the
trees.
That was her thing, that washer job, and she's like come on,
we're going to go hang in thetrees for a while and just do
ropes courses.
(10:00):
Oh, literally, yeah, literallyno quite literally, okay, quite
literally, and I'm like you know, I'm this chonky middle school
girl and I'm just like, okay,I'm not even sure that I can
climb up this tree because itdoesn't have a ladder, it has
staples.
I was going to say I probablywouldn't be able to.
Yeah, no, but she pushed me andlike pushed my physical
boundaries of things that Icould do, because it was helping
(10:22):
me.
See, I can physically do someof these things that people were
telling me no way could youever do that because of my
physical makeup.
And she said I don't care,you're going to do this and I'm
going to help you with it.
She stretched my faith.
She was a Bible study leaderfor us and so many moments where
she just was like, look, youare a child of God, you are an
(10:44):
important person, god loves you,you were made in his creation.
And I can think back on thesetimes and again, as a middle
school girl, the things that youare told that are the lies that
you are told to believe.
Having a strong female in yourlife is just so important.
And that's who Lisa was for me.
(11:04):
And I mean I remember here's afunny story she was staying with
me over a weekend time that myparents were away with my
brother and I wasn't old enoughto drive yet.
I could have stayed by myself,but I couldn't drive, so I
couldn't get anywhere.
And so she stayed with me andshe had a five speed car and I
was trying to learn how to drivea five speed and she's like,
(11:25):
yeah, come on, we're gonna,we're gonna go.
I'm like I don't even have mypermit, like you know, to me the
idea was cool, but I'm like Ican't do that.
Little angelic, you know polishmy halo on the top of my head.
She's like come on, we're gonnado it.
We drove up and down thestreets and she's like, yep, now
pop the clutch, let's get outof first gear.
I'm like, okay, and then.
And then whiplash later we wereable to go a little bit.
Speaker 1 (11:47):
But it's like Definitely with the whiplash, oh
man.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
But yeah, I just think back and so fondly on her
because she was one of thosepeople that, especially at such
a pivotal time in my life, shesaid I see you and I'm going to
pour into you because you areimportant and you are worth more
than what you're seeing.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
Listening to you tell the story about literally
climbing the trees of somethingthat pretty much just about
(12:32):
every inspirational woman inhistory probably heard before
they became these powerful womenthat we know you can't do this.
They were told you can't, you'renot big enough, you're not good
enough or no, this just can'tbe done.
And they took those words andlet that be their fuel.
I love that so much Becauseeven today, like think about
(12:54):
somebody saying you can't do it,or think about what would
happen if today you were toldyou can't do something and you
were just like what do you mean?
I can't do it?
I am a child of God and he saysI have purpose.
What do you mean I?
Speaker 2 (13:15):
can't.
Yeah, if it is God's will forme, it is happening.
It might not look the way Iwant it to, and he says with him
all things are possible.
Yes, look the way I want it to,and he says with him all things
are possible.
Yes.
Speaker 1 (13:26):
Like imagine if the lies that were in our mind, we
said no, those lies are straightfrom Satan, you know what.
Like I wish that would fuel somany of our young women today,
because the anxiety and theself-esteem lies that just run
(13:48):
so rampant in our young women'sminds today is just crazy and
it's so sad yeah because it doesinfluence you years and decades
, decades, the trauma, thetrauma.
Speaker 2 (14:03):
I remember being in third grade and I was in line
for the cafeteria with my youknow little class and there was
a kid and I remember his namebut I'm not going to say it who
turned around to me and saidwell, what are you doing here,
fat cow?
Speaker 1 (14:22):
third grade the things you remember those things
.
Look how long ago though I'mthose things.
Speaker 2 (14:25):
Look how long ago that was I'm not calling you old
, but look how long ago, thatwas Decades.
Speaker 1 (14:30):
Those things, words like that will never leave you.
Those things stick, likewhoever came up with that crazy
phrase words will never sticksand stones will break my bones.
Words will never hurt me.
Oh, my goodness.
Speaker 2 (14:44):
So far from the truth because, words hurt they do,
and that's why it is soimportant to have a female
especially for females to pourinto you and to lift you up,
because I could hear all daylong, you know like I love my
mom and she can pour into me,but I can hear from her all day
long oh, you look beautiful, youlook beautiful.
(15:04):
Yeah, my best friend tells me.
I'm believing it, right.
Speaker 1 (15:08):
Right, because you feel like you know your mom, you
know that's an unconditionallove.
Right, she's going to tell you.
Speaker 2 (15:15):
It's like but, mom, you have to tell me that, you
have to say that.
Speaker 1 (15:18):
You know?
Yeah, you have to that, butit's just different when
somebody who is going to pourinto you in a different way
tells you I feel like you needthat.
Yeah, do you feel like there isa lot more of women not
(15:43):
supporting each other these days?
Do you see a lot of that?
Speaker 2 (15:47):
I think it might depend.
Yeah, I think it does depend onthe situations and
circumstances.
So I follow influencers onFacebook and Instagram.
I just do.
Speaker 3 (16:00):
I'm guilty of that too.
You know, sometimes I just do.
I'm guilty of that too.
Speaker 2 (16:02):
Sometimes I am influenced, but I also am wise
enough to know they're beingpaid to do this.
However, there's one that Ifollowed and she does the
influencing and has the links toher stuff because she's the
sole provider for her family,has a couple of kids and her
husband a few years ago wasdiagnosed with ALS and within a
few years, went from a veryactive person to bedridden, to
(16:26):
intubated and just recentlypassed away.
And it just happened so fast andin a few years.
And there's other influencersthat do the very same thing that
she does sells the same stuffor links whatever, and they said
we are coming alongside youstuff or links, whatever.
And they said we are comingalongside you, we want you to
take this time to grieve andstill have an opportunity for
(16:47):
income.
And took over her Instagram andhave been very forward with
that, saying this is who we areand we're helping out and we're
taking this.
This is how she makes her money.
Please, if you feel led, buythe stuff, follow the links,
whatever it is, but they'reputting themselves aside.
They're putting theirbusinesses on hold to help out
this other woman that is in thisvery same industry.
Speaker 1 (17:09):
That's so amazing.
Speaker 2 (17:10):
I love that.
Speaker 1 (17:11):
I love that.
We've talked about this beforeand you know where I'm going
with this.
I see a lot of women notsupporting each other in the
political arena, and I get it.
You're on opposing teams here,and that's fine.
You can have different views.
It's going to happen.
We're not all supposed to havethe same views.
(17:34):
That's just what it is, and youknow what.
That's fine.
But I still think you don'thave to go for the jugular.
Speaker 2 (17:43):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (17:43):
Stick to the facts.
Yes, stick to the facts.
Stick to the facts.
You don't have to like go super, super low like that, like
where did that even come from?
Especially as women like I'velike seen, like some of the um,
what are the hearings or the,you know the things like they'll
when they're in in Congress andthey'll post some of the
proceedings and they're goingback and forth and I'm just
(18:05):
sitting there watching thesewomen on opposing sides go at
each other's necks, and I'msitting here thinking, and I'm
like both of you probably had towork so stinking hard to get to
where you are.
Yeah, because you're women, youprobably had to work twice as
(18:27):
hard and in the political arena.
Speaker 2 (18:28):
It's still just an old school boys club.
It really is.
Speaker 1 (18:32):
You know, say what you want.
But you know we're right.
But look where you are.
You can have opposing views.
You can both state your facts,state your point.
You can even state your facts,state your point.
You can even get a littleheated, because that's how we
are we're passionate, we'repassionate, we're emotional
beings.
Speaker 2 (18:50):
That's just how we're wired, yeah.
Speaker 1 (18:51):
You can be passionate , but you don't have to be mean,
you don't have to be nasty.
I've seen them startname-calling each other.
Yeah, you don't got to do that.
No, because at the end of theday, you are still women who've
had to fight your way to get towhere you are, mm-hmm.
And you can still be respectful.
(19:12):
So I really hate that.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
In the political arena it is like a catfight
Mm-hmm, I really hate that Idon't watch a ton of it because
I can get so engrossed in it andit's like then I find myself
taking sides based on not thefacts, but based on how
personalities are coming out,and but there's easy to do, and
it is.
It's easy to do that.
(19:37):
There's one um proceeding thatI remember, and it was
confirmation for the SupremeCourt, and I'm going to butcher
her name because I don't havethe full.
It was Amy.
Comer can't bear it maybe.
I think yeah yeah, yeah.
Something like that.
And I just remember that shehad one piece of paper and all
(20:02):
the questions for days of theproceedings and at the end they
were like, okay, you know, doyou have anything else to say?
She was just cool, calm,collected the whole time, like
no tonal change, which isn'talways fun.
It's fun to have tones whenyou're talking, because then you
get things like this but shejust was very straight-laced,
seemed like again from what Iwatched, and then when they said
(20:23):
anything else to say, she heldup the piece of paper and there
were.
There was nothing on it, it wasblank.
This is my, my recollection ofit.
It was blank and it was likeeverything every question she
had, every answer she had, everycase she had as a fact.
She knew her stuff, that shehad nothing written on that
piece of paper to go back andsay here's my reference of just
(20:44):
because she knew that and shewas just so calm and collected
the whole time and it's likethat I find myself really
respecting, because she wasgetting people coming at her,
being emotional and being up anddown and all over the place and
she is just like this is me,I'm going off of fact, this is
where I'm at and this is why Iand she was just like this is me
, I'm going off of fact.
This is where I'm at and thisis why I should be confirmed,
because I'll cite this case.
(21:05):
I cite this case.
I'm whatever it was, you know,it's just like you know also.
Speaker 1 (21:11):
I guess this is the pettiness in me, though.
But, also, you know, the calmeryou are in the you know when
you're not the one who'sclapping back that just makes
your opponent or other peoplemore Right.
Speaker 2 (21:25):
They want to get an emotional rise out of you?
Yes, exactly, they go into rest, and so that's why I respected
her all the more.
You weren't seeing crazy eyesand hands going everywhere.
She just sat there and wasLarry the Cucumber, except she
didn't sing the silly songs.
Speaker 1 (21:43):
I just wish you know we could just be more respectful
of each other.
I mean not just women all theway around, I guess, but
especially as women.
Another thing using socialmedia as a tool for empowerment
instead of as a tool to teareach other down, because I see
(22:06):
that still a lot where you willrun to social media just to
gotta be a keyboard crusader.
Speaker 2 (22:13):
I have unfollowed or muted people so much here.
It's just it is it's needing toprotect my peace.
If I'm going to social media, Iam of the old school mentality
that this is just where youcatch up with your friends and
you find out what's going on intheir life and you see the cute
pinterest type mom pictures thatI'm never gonna be and I don't
(22:34):
care because that's not me, youknow but it's like, oh good, I
respect you for that.
or find out that your, yourfriend, just built an Airbnb and
is now renting it out and you'dlove to remind them that you're
your friend so that you can geta discount on it.
Speaker 1 (22:47):
Yes, but seriously, there is a lot of power in women
supporting other women and Ipray that this month is just a
reminder of that and there'salso power in modern day
sisterhood and just advocatingfor each other.
(23:09):
I have a verse that I want toshare Ecclesiastes.
Oh, there are a couple ofverses, verses Ecclesiastes 4, 9
, and 10.
Two are better than one.
Speaker 2 (23:23):
if either of them falls down, one can help the
other up you often hear that twois better than one in a
marriage ceremony, but it is sotrue.
With sisterhood, yes, and likethe, a cord of three cannot be
easily broken.
A couple more friends thatyou're with you know when talk
(23:44):
about prayer, Prayer is so, soimportant, and when you get two
or more gathered together, Jesusis going to come alongside you.
And I mean it is just amazing,Like even if you've got, when
you have everything in the worldgoing on and we women, we're so
(24:05):
busy and like sometimes we wearit as a pride badge.
Speaker 1 (24:09):
Oh, my goodness.
Speaker 3 (24:09):
And let's not do that , but we do.
This is true, we do.
Speaker 2 (24:13):
And so instead of, oh , how's it going?
Oh, I'm just so busy.
You know what?
I'm so thankful that I've gotkids that are in sports, that I
can take them to this, but alsoI am making time for me and my
girls not my children girls, myladies, my gals, you know
spending time with them and evenif it is just here, is a quick
(24:33):
we've got five minutes let'shave a phone call with getting
everybody in on it and let'sjust pray for each other real
quick.
Speaker 1 (24:41):
How about that be our Jesus fix it for the week.
I love that.
Speaker 3 (24:46):
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