JB Podcast - Redefining Fatherhood: A Deep Dive with Daddy University's Joel Austin - Jimmy Bonds Podcast

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Again, family, we are here. We have a special guest. Just arrived in the studio.
Glad that he's here with us. Glad we're going to have this discussion.
But, family, our guest tonight is a distinguished gentleman.
He's actually the president and CEO of Daddy University.
If you don't know about Daddy University, by the end of this episode,

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I guarantee you will know about Daddy University.
So, you know, with all our guests, we got to give them an introduction,
right, fam? Go ahead and do the introduction, man. Everybody do the introduction?
You want to give them an introduction?
You ready? Go for it. Make it.
Okay. Y'all ready? Get to South Friday. I'm ready. Get to South Friday.
All right, let's pop it off.
There you go. Miss Jo Austin is president and CEO of Daddy University,

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which is an organization whose mission is to provide fathers with the expert
knowledge and resources they need to be fathers they want to be for their children.
Daddy University Incorporated is the largest running male parenting company
in the United States and has been in existence since 2004.
They have enrolled over 10,000 dads, completed over 30 programs,

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and over 1,000 training sessions.
Mr. Austin is an undeniable force in propelling parenting education to the forefront
of family and community agendas, and he has been recognized as the authority
on fatherhood information and training.
He is a U.S. Army veteran, a graduate of Cheney University, and a West Philly native.

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Mr. Austin is an educator, a coordinator, a facilitator, a life skills instructor,
a trailblazer, a public speaker, a veteran, a president and a CEO, a husband and a father.
I like to describe him as wise, empathetic, proactive, innovative,

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revolutionary, involved, appreciative, reliable, experienced,
realistic and aware.
Ladies and gentlemen, let me introduce you to the CEO and president of DADDY University, Mr. Joe T.
Austin. What's up, Austin?

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Welcome to the show, fam. Welcome to the show. We're the ultimate enemy.
Fight the power. You know what I mean? We got to, man. This is what you've done.
This is who you are. These are things that you've accomplished.
You know, sometimes we take our careers for granted. And we don't we don't think
about a lot of times what we do. We just do. Yeah.
And when you go back and realize all the things that's what you've accomplished,

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but the impact you've made in the community is vital.
It's vital, particularly with fathers, particularly with fathers.
So, Sister T, I know you got a question. Go right ahead. So I want to make sure I heard some things.
So did I hear correctly? Did I hear you say Cheney University?
University love it i

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love it training university in the building training university in
the building i see well and then i want to say thank you for your services because
you say he was in the service yes thank you for your service he was a u.s military
vet u.s army vet shall i say shout out to the army shout out to the army shout
out to all of our serving members right now shout Shout out to all of them. We appreciate you.

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Okay. So I'll do it this way and then I'll kind of go from there.
So can you tell me, Mr. Austin, what you would describe...
The best way or description of Dade University for people who have no idea what it is?
Dade University is a male parenting education company.

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We teach fathers how to be better fathers. The difference with us is that we already see power.
We already see greatness in them. We always see their benefit.
And we just want to approve and help them approve. So we don't see the failure
as others or the negativity.

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We see this is your situation.
Do you want help and do you want instruction? And that's how we connect because
we see people in the same empathetic and compassionate about your situation.
I have fathers that are locked up that are more in tune to what their kids do

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on a daily basis than some that are right down the street.
So it's not your situation. It's your level of love.
Okay. So you want to say like maybe is it almost like, and I'll use my co-host
Jimmy over here, but suppose Jimmy is stressed and he needs somebody to talk to.

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Which does daddy university offer support for some for a father who may be frustrated
with being like a single parent you're talking about that phone call we had the other day,
that was personal business,
i'm just saying that there are a lot of there are a lot of single dads out there

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not jimmy not jimmy who are frustrated and you know they need somebody to talk
to or they need a place, you know, where they can kind of get it off their chest and a little guidance.
Does Dade University offer that kind of support?
Yes. Let me, I'm not a vain or arrogant person. So sometimes my company pushes me.

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So first, we run the Father's Club.
The Father's Club is every other week. It's an educational support group where
you can come, just let it out.
Okay. And we understand. We also have run the National Fatherhood Conference for like 12 years.
We are currently planning the 12th annual Daddy and Daughter Dance.

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We run a program called Doulos for Dads, where we have trained and hired at
least eight black male doulas that work with moms in maternal and paternal care.
And in 2020, we started our own fraternity, which is called Delta Alpha Delta
Fraternity Dad, where it's a social service where fathers get together.

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Because I realized that even in a barbershop, we weren't talking about fatherhood. Okay.
We weren't having these open discussions of the who, what, when,
and where, what was going on, you know, the good, the positive.
Dads, they have a superpower, which they just make it happen.
They just do it, which is a good thing and a bad thing because they don't advertise a lot.

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They eat last sometimes to make sure other people have more.
And it's just their job. And they never wear a T-shirt that says, I ate last.
It's just what they do, which is a good and bad thing because it's time for
us to rewrite the narrative that that was my sandwich.

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But I mean, I guess what you're saying is dads need love to support,
loyalty, appreciation, encouragement, love.
I think it is. And yeah, I said it's the hardest job in the world, parenting.
It is. And it is the absolute most unselfish job in the world.
You literally sometimes put your dreams and goals on hold just to make sure

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somebody has a sandwich.
Right. Just to make sure your kids are smiling at the end of the day.
We did the first daddy and daughter dance.
I had 40 people show up and I thought that was amazing.
Yeah. The last time we had to dance was pre-COVID. We stopped selling tickets at 650.
I'm talking about Blackfathers, West Philly, North Philly, pulling up in limos,

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eight-year-old girls with pearls, and I know they was real.
With butterfly wings, proud and boisterous.
And if they'd have got a helicopter, they would dance in the middle of the floor
with this 5, 6, 7, 8-year-old.
I've seen 55-year-old, and I'm going to say girls, come in with their 80-year-old daddy.

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Like, this is still happening. Wow.
We had a class, a workshop.
I keep bringing it up because everybody told me it would fail on mostly Black
men in West Philly at the West Philly Y, how to do your daughter's hair.
And I set the tables and chairs up for like 15, and 45 showed up.

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And some of the guys that showed up, they was a little rough.
I ain't going to be honest with you.
Where my wallet at? You had tattooed faces and you had motorcycles pulling up.
You got these six foot four football players trying to do a corn roll.
Love it. And they don't care. They don't care. Like, this is my daughter.

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This is, she need to look good.
That's my masculinity is to protect her and provide for her.
So people look at it as a dangerous thing, but you flip it around.
It's a beautiful thing. Yeah.
You think mom did this? No. Thank you, dad, for always making my hair look good.
Thank you, dad. I appreciate you.
I think God made barrettes for us.

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Man, I'm going to talk to you about something that I saw a video of and,
you know, on your on your data university YouTube page.
Oh, and what and what hit me was your personal experience.
Something that you shared personally now you know normally i wait later on in
the show but this hit so hard i was like we gotta talk about this so you know

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i ain't bring no tissues no no,
but you talked about co-parenting yes
and why that needs
to be healthy and why that needs to be a communicative
thing where we we make sure we communicate no matter how much
we don't like each other you know the story you
shared i i would rather you share the

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story about this experience but what
you said was profound you said your son got in the car and he
wasn't feeling good yes and so like any
father you would give him medicine right and not
knowing that you and your ex-wife were not
communicating at the time not talking at all and what happened was you gave

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for medicine not knowing that she had given him medicine yes so he ended up
getting a double dosage and giving up a chop yes can you talk to us about that
just we were not talking i realized.
After we separated and divorced in relationships
i can not talk to her i have the i'm an adult i could not call i cannot pick

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up the phone i had control over my space what eventually started I started to
realize I could not get away from her because half of her DNA was in my sons.
Every single thing I disliked or got on my nerves that she did was happening
three, we had three boys, so it was happening triple.

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So you can disconnect from an adult, but you can't disconnect from those,
those feelings, those emotions, those things they do.
So I had to literally learn how to, you know.
Talk with them for us to have the same language. And that helped me eventually co-parent more.
But what happened was I was not talking to her. I would text and say, I'm outside.

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She would put my son in the car, my son sniffing.
You heard most of the story. So I give him NyQuil. She had already given him
medication later on that night.
And he was out of it, almost eyes rolling, And then we had to rush them in.
So we end up both at the hospital looking at each other like this is,
yeah, this is, this is, this is our fault.

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Yeah. This is our fault. And she could not say, well, you shouldn't have.
And I, cause she didn't text and say, I already gave him that.
So we were at that level and we realized at that point, this is,
we're going to kill somebody. Yeah.
And I mean, you talk about it, like, you know, I don't get, I'm not the best
friends with my ex-wife right now. Shout out to Max's wife.

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But, you know, she called. I got to answer. Yeah.
She called. I got to answer whether whether they're with her or not.
She calls. I got to answer because most likely it's about them.
And as much as I don't want to talk as much as I'd rather not have conversations,
I still got to have them. That's just realistic. That's mature.
That's, you know, being a father. That's being a father.

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No matter what it is, like it or not, she always going to be in my life, regardless of the fact.
She always going to be there. Like you said, half of that DNA is your son.
So if I don't coexist with her in some way, shape or form, it's going to be
disastrous on not just our relationship in terms of co-parenting,
but also our children, how it affects them and have a negative outcome,

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not a positive outcome, a negative outcome.
So always find it vital that you have to communicate whether you like to or
not absolutely i remember picking up the phone one day holding the phone to
my ear answering the phone talking then i put the phone down and before i put
it down my son said tell mama said hello so i said to him how,
do you even know who's on the phone he's like i can tell how about the way you

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talk and that is mom wow and we know yeah you know you know the tone you know
yeah you know that tone Yeah, and at that, I was like, wow. You're talking to
a business partner that you don't like.
And you look at the phone like. It checks in. Really? Yeah. Really? Like, for real?

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Cell phone company. And then I really realized, wow.
Not only am I not doing this well or she's not doing this well,
but they know, even though we were keeping up the act, they knew and they can feel my emotions.
And they knew who I talked to just by my face. They know.

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Because we're black. Let's keep it real.
People have been hiding stuff from us a long time. We got uncles.
They wasn't really uncles.
I mean, the goldfish died. They'd be like, oh, we swam away.
Way you know we just make up sure that's
yeah um cousins i
don't know what they came from i'm telling you we make up

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stuff like yeah me and the mom are good and
and yeah and then we meet each other at chucky cheese we smile
and everything and and we thought we were
doing a good job but we weren't we're doing a terrible job of hiding truths
from people who again have our dna and are chromosomes and they are connected
yeah are you gonna have somebody from your twin like and then now some kids

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ain't stupid now them kids smart they they'll tell you outright.
My daughter was trying to pull something out between the devs and i'm not gonna
say that yeah yeah no i'm not gonna say that let me not say that watch what
i say because it could come back to bite you so i had to watch my tone and watch
what i was saying in my tone i was like Like, okay, all right.
No, no, just don't worry about that. Just be quiet. All right, I got you.

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At a very young age, even five or six, they have enough common sense to know
if my dad's not sugar honey iced tea, because she told me my dad's not sugar honey iced tea.
If my mom's a female animal, because she told me my mom's a female animal,
that makes me half sugar or either half.

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Right, exactly. Exactly. And even at a really young age, that means I must not be already.
So that's how I'm starting out in kindergarten as half. Right.
Yeah. I mean, that's a vital aspect, man. I mean, the, you, you remember as
a child, you remember the interactions.

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You say what?
But as a, as a child, you remember the interactions of your parents.
You remember them not getting along.
You remember them arguing, Remember the bad times, more than even the good times,
particularly if they're separated. So I always find that you have to,
You got to watch what you say. Your kids are like sponges.
You influence them on a daily basis. More than even the teachers would do.

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You influence them on a daily basis.
So you have to watch what you say. You have to set that tone.
But, you know, when we had a conversation the other day, we were talking about superheroes. Yeah.
And how fathers a lot of times, and you've had fathers within your programs
pretty much give you the, I got it. I'm good.
I'm cool, bro. I'm good. I don't need no help. Why am I here?

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I don't need no, come on, man.
I'm here to talk about this. I got this covered. I wake up every morning.
I know exactly what I'm doing.
And it has it has a thing of ego with it. Right.
So can you talk about how ego sometimes blocks our success in terms of being better fathers?
This concept of when you even start with I and children, it is idiotic and asinine,

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specifically if you are biopic, black and brown.
We do not come from at all I's when it comes to raising children.
We have, this has been put on us, this idea of that I as a mother and I as a
father have to raise this child. It's stupid.
It's stupid. It's, yeah, it is a, we like, we literally say,

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I'm doing this on my own and send our kids to the school district for eight and nine hours.
So it's, it's, it's not an eye and it's never going to be an eye.
And no one has ever been raised by themselves.
You can call yourself single, anything you want, but I got knowledge from the guy with the shoe store.
I got guys, a knowledge from teachers.

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I got my coaches. I got in-depth knowledge from friends and family members I've met.
Like we are literally raising these, you know, especially in these urban communities in villages.
So try your best to take away the eye and realize that they're getting knowledge
from a lot of other people.
Um, they're getting knowledge from her, you, and then family and so forth. But this concept of.

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I have so many stories. I've been running Father's Club for over six years.
I've heard almost every story from every man.
And within five minutes, I can tell sometimes what's really,
really wrong in your relationship.
And one of the things is this superhero Superman complex that has been thrown

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on us and thrown on our black women, too, that the word of empowerment is supposed
to be an independent empowerment so that you can help out the family,
not that you have to do everything on your own.
So I let them know that Superman has an ice castle that he flies to and says,
forget about you, forget about Gotham, forget about New York,

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like, I'm out, that he even has to take time out.
He also has a, he's also bipolar.
Every now and then he get rid of this cape. He just put on a suit and some glasses
and chill out at a coffee shop, sipping at the bar.
Like he's also and you as
a father have to actually stop being a father you

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have to stop being a husband sometimes and sometimes you just got to be a man
yeah that's okay to do it is i am telling you you need to do that you could
do that because i press an iron my cape it is okay to say enough is enough okay
and here's the other thing I mean,
some of the times our Black women don't let us relax because they're scared

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of us being called or assuming that we are the worst word in the Black language.
And the worst word in the Black language is, he's lazy.
So even when you're sitting around sometimes, she's like, well,
can you just get this light? And can you just put this table together?
And can you just do that? Because God forbid she or anyone thinks her man's

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lazy. But if you've done it for six days in a week,
Most of us on this planet believe that even the creator of the planet said,
I'm going to chill on one day, like after these clouds, if he could take a day off, I could go fishing.
Or sometimes just invite your friends over and sit in a room and talk about

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something, everything, anything else besides business.
There are times you got black and brown men black and brown women hiding in bathrooms,
locking the door in bathrooms to get
15 minutes yeah let me tell you something call your neighbor call aunt suzy
call uncle jim call me i already got kids say yo hold on to my kids i'm going

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to the cigar lounge next week i tell you i'm going to go watch the game that's
it this is a this is in Village. And guess what?
My kids and your kids doing the same thing on the same game,
eating the same popcorn.
It ain't even that big of a deal. They'd be like, alright, does he have soda?
What would they find out? You tell us what you need.

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There are a lot of people willing to do this swap and that's what Villagers are for.
But please, please get rid of this Superman image and realize,
how much he rested, how much he chilled, and how much he needed time to himself
to recharge because you can wear yourself out. You end up arguing with your kids.
You ask your kids for the salt and pepper. They ask you the pepper,

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they pass you the pepper and salt and you got to add it to. So see,
that's why you don't listen.
No, listen. Time I turned around. I did that to my kids yesterday.
Ketchup and mustard. I asked for mustard and ketchup, you don't.
I had to let, I let my kids have yesterday like, yo.
Yell out go sit down and do something with
yourself and they just bawled out crying like daddy why are

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you yelling out i'm so careful because i had to let it
be like yo y'all driving me nuts but he's right he's right i'm i'm i'm on seven
days a week i'm taking a day off ty yes i'm taking a day off i agree and kids
can cook not mine cooking is mad cooking is mad it is.

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Listen, we was chopping onions, old school.
Oh, he going back now. I'm right there with you. You're going to sit there and
stir. That's what you're going to do with dumb grades.
Snap peas. Snap peas.
All right, now, I do have a question. Absolutely.
I heard you mention the village.

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Yes. Now, with the fathers that you have helped in the past,
how often did you hear them mention the word village?
Does a village even exist anymore from the dads that you've come across?
The village does exist. The village is comprised of sisters,

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brothers, uncles, aunts, cousins.
And sometimes for some of us, the village is very close. Some of us in our community,
we, even our dads do this thing called, they call hover, which means even if
we break up, I'll move six blocks away, like, you know.
Our village, your cousin doesn't live super far sometimes in this rural environment.

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So when you say village, it also is extended to coworkers and people that you hang with.
It's silly that someone can have a four-year-old and an eight-year-old.
I'm comfortable with them at work, and they have a four-year-old and eight-year-old
and think, well, I'm afraid my four-year-old and my eight-year-old might.

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Those aren't villages but these people need to swap guess what all you're doing
is going to chuck e cheese can i just bring them to you and 50 for sucky cheese
expensive yeah peach is terrible no no when you hungry that joke is crazy i
mean great cheese of chuck that's a different place.

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But yeah they don't actually say the word village and another thing i i'm glad
you brought that up I had talked to my dads about being nurturers.
And they said they weren't nurturers.
And so then I started asking questions like, do you do the hair?
And someone was like, yes. Do you read them books? I was like,

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yes. And when you read them books, where are they sitting at?
Are they sitting on my lap or on my chest?
Or do you do this and do you do that? Do you hold them? Do you kiss foreheads?
And I said, that's a nurturer. But they felt that that was a mom's job.
Oh, no. But in reality, it's a parent's job.
But they didn't consider themselves that because that word doesn't seem to be

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masculine enough. I get that. I get that.
Again, Dad, thank you for all of the hugs and kisses and the encouragement.
Dad, I appreciate you. Thumbs up, Dad. Telling.
I'm going to tell you a quick story. A friend of mine, she's on a daycare with my son girl, right?
So every morning, every morning I drop him off. We do our prayer.
He knows the prayer, right?
By the time we get to the door, I say, squad deep. He say, squad deep.

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She opens the door, let him in. I give him a hug and I kiss him on the cheek.
Regular, right? I do that for
not because kissing your son is looked at in any kind of homosexual way.
I do it so my son can understand that his father loves him right she looked

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at me and she like god get all that kissing stuff out of here you should have
done that before you got here,
and i say to myself nah i'm gonna do it right here because this is his ritual
every day this is what he needs to remember the last thing he the last thing
he needs to remember daddy did was give me a kiss on the cheek so i could start
my day in school and at four i'd rather him have that memory because i didn't
have that memory my father didn't do that to me he didn't drop me off at school.

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So I look at it as I'm replacing or I'm making up for what my dad didn't do
and giving my son more nurturing and more love in that process.
Now, some people might view that as, you know, you make him soft,
but I view it as my son is my son. I do the same thing with my daughter.
So I don't differentiate how I love on both of them. You know what I mean?

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But because he's my son, somebody like, oh, you know, you got to make him tough. You know what I mean?
And I don't know. believe in that. I'd rather him be who he is and grow up naturally
and grow up without the stigmas and having to be somebody he doesn't have to be.
You know? As long as he's a good person. That's all that matters to me.
This is the natural progress of parenting in generations.

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My grandfather was a rotary phone.
No doubt. He's a rotary phone. My father was a flip phone.
I'm a smartphone. It's supposed Supposed to progress. I'm not supposed to be the exact same way.
My father didn't know how to use a washing machine, dryer, any of that.

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He was kept from that because that was woman's work.
But my mom was like, oh, heck no. You know, there's a lot of boys in here.
What are we going to do? We're going to learn the laundry.
We're going to learn how to sew and knit. So I'm not aware of soft because in
my current situation, my wife is able to leave on a business trip and all she

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has to do is pack her clothes.
Food. I know how to cook. I know how to clean. I know how to, my kids are tight.
They know what they need to do. I'll hand out chores in a second.
So this, this whole switch on, I don't understand soft.
I think soft is anybody that doesn't pull a plow by them, by themselves.

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Ourselves like but i do need to be soft i
can't go through life i'll end up single if
i just saying it's my way i'm stronger than you
i'm bigger than you because i'm not always that
bigger and stronger yeah so we're just saying this is okay to be
nurturing no i'm not saying it's okay i'm
saying you have to be it's you have to be nurturing

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you have to sit down and then you have to do
something our parents didn't do well yeah i'm talking about your
parents our parents did not do
this one thing well that hopefully this next generation
is it is listening to the kids yes
they did not do it i i said it
yeah i'm talking about you mama and them as soon as

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we came in and said hey such and such they'd be like sit down because our
kids are like good amount they're right they have an extra imagination but if
you look into that you can also let them know this is why we're not going to
do so and so like I run my house with a dip diplomatic I call it a democratic.

(31:29):
Diplomat. Yeah. I'm sorry. Democratic dictatorship.
Got you. I have a democratic dictatorship and I am the dictator.
So we go to the store and I say, you can pick out any of these seven sneakers.
Democratically, your choice.
Dictatorship means just these seven because my pocket said this is seven right

(31:51):
here, not the eight, not the nine.
And we can go back and forth on the seven. Even if the seven is purple with
wings, that's one of your picks. It's in my price range fine.
So you can have this type of control still, this womanly control,
this masculine control without losing it. But also at the same time, you can hear somebody.
Well, why do you want purple sneaks? Or sometimes I have to say,

(32:13):
if you get the purple, none of your stuff match.
And then you can only wear that. And I'm not buying a second pair for a long time. So you sure?
And they're like, oh, maybe I should get the white ones because they match.
So our parents didn't do listening well. And guess what? You can sit at the dinner table.
My youngest is the daughter, so I don't even know how she breathes.

(32:35):
Sometimes she's just going about her day. If I say, how was your day? That's a lot. Man.
I'd be like, just stop. But you catch things, and then they ask questions,
and they want to know what you did in this. And I think softer than slavery is good.

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Softer than that is good. Softer than being treated one way is good.
If listening is soft, then I dare somebody to come tell me I'm soft.
Yeah. See, that's what I'm saying. Don't tell me I'm soft.
Brother Ty. Ty, you got a question? I know you got something, brother.
I want to rewind it back a little bit. it, what was the event or cause that

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brought on Daddy University?
And when you started it, what were your expectations?
Oh man, that's a good question.
I did not plan on starting it. I have a business major from Cheney University.
This was not my plan. I had my first son, Amir.

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I left while I was in the hospital. And I'm going to have to be a little arrogant.
I was married at the time, and I had graduated college, and I was living in
my own house in Chester with my car.
I come from West Philly, so those are big deals. Yeah, for sure.
I was better than the black man. Sure.

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And that's just old me. So when I get to the hospital, I'm at the gynecologist
visits. I'm at the Lamaze classes.
I'm in it. Like I'm signing this, what you need. The whole nine months, I'm in it.
I learned this brand new word called cesarean an hour before the cesarean.
And I felt like all of you guys failed me.

(34:24):
I felt you all failed me. You all thought I was stupid. You treated me like an Uber driver.
And I want to say, like, everybody has this great story. When they started a
company, I started mine. I was pissed.
I was pissed. I remember going to a Gansh Galak OBGYN visit,

(34:45):
and they said, I signed in Mr. Austin. She signed in Mrs. Austin.
Got a ring on it. Beyonce dead drawing.
So I thought I was going to be treated better. Yeah. Because you married.
Because, you know, I did. I'm not like the. You did the right thing.
Yeah. You know, seven out of eight kids don't know.
No, I'm not eight. You don't know what the big daddy situation. Right. Right. Right.

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I waited in there and they called in, called her in, and they said,
we'll be right back for you.
20 minutes goes by. They come back and get me. And they're telling me how the
visit was. And I said to the OBGYN, why did you,
not get me with her. And they said, well, we wanted her to have her privacy.
So I said, I'm not sure how you know how a baby's getting there,

(35:32):
but. Yeah, I'm a part of this.
I privatized, like I had. I put some work in, bro.
I seen, I seen, I did, I did, I seen, did, did before you seen, did, did.
A lot before, because I didn't just three point shoot that.
Like, so it's little things like that. So by the time I had my son,

(35:54):
I walked out of the hospital with two infants.
He was an infant. And at the mom, after the surgery, she was literally an infant
with no guidance, with no preparation.
And I felt like I was the dumbest person in the house now.
On top of that, four years later, I had my second son.

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And my first son gets invited to a class at the hospital, a big brother's big
sister's class. Oh, you're a big brother. It was cute.
It was 8 o'clock in the morning. I'm sitting in this class, all these little
kids. They teach them how to help mom, how to help dad. It was cute.
But I found myself taking notes. And at that time, I thought,
with a college degree, I know less than my son there.

(36:40):
No one ever took me and said, this is how you do. So Daddy University got started
on research and saying, this is how you're important to this and this is how you can help with this.
And then we had a little website and then we started selling these daddy bags.
They were diaper bags for men.
And I started finding that I was more than a paycheck.
I found out statistically, I'm all of that.

(37:04):
I felt that I started reading more about it that I even increased reading levels.
I have superpowers of my own and me
and mom we're supposed to be the Avengers and it totally
changed my look on fatherhood because I
was taught wait till they're 11 throw my baseball
and a football and pick up and the other thing is that I worked I had a my wife

(37:28):
was a professional so this whole child rearing thing it gets dropped on you
and you learn about it and then you start learning that you like it like I liked
it I'm like, I'm the one getting dirty.
Like, we outside, I'm like, I don't know how these kids got dirty. But I'm the one.
You see, look, you see my jean knees? You all the dirt on my jean knees?

(37:50):
These kids, yeah, they wrong. Mud pies everywhere.
Like, I'm all up in it. And I started to like it, and I liked it. They liked it.
And it got started from, I don't know if it was anger or disrespect,
but you did not see me for who I actually was.
And so now I'm going to show you
who I am. And I'm going to say this real quick. Real quick. I got you, T.

(38:13):
That was my experience as well. And I took my ex-wife to Abington Hospital and
had to force them to let me back there.
And I noticed they didn't do that to the white dads. They did that to the black
dads. Like you said, you weren't a ring.
Because I'm like you. I want to do everything the right way.

(38:34):
She ain't going to be no baby mama. I ain't going to be no baby daddy.
We are going to get married. And when we get married and we have kids and let that be.
But when we had kids or when she got pregnant, I'm like you.
I'm at every doctor's appointment. I'm driving her to every doctor's appointment.
I don't really care about what nobody thinks. I'm at every single situation.
And when she gave birth they tried to kick me out of the room my daughter was injured at birth,

(38:58):
the doctors this was the doctor's fault and I went so crazy in that room that
they was going to arrest me Ty, Ty know what I'm talking about that they was
going to arrest me so it made me it made me view it as.
It takes two to make a baby but I only focus on one they only give all the resources
to one they didn't teach me how to be a father they didn't teach me what I what

(39:20):
I was going to have to expect.
They didn't tell me, well, you know, she had a cesarean and her blood pressure is going to go high.
So she might have a stroke or she might get sick or something might happen.
They didn't give me any of these prenotions, nor did they tell me,
you know, when your daughter, when she's born, cause she was injured,
you're going to have to take her up to St.
Christopher's. You're going to have to take her to Shriners.
You're going to have to take her, you're going to have to do OT.

(39:40):
You're going to have to do PT. They never told me none of this.
I had to learn all of this.
Not, not necessarily just the hard way, but with no guidance whatsoever. Okay.
So the one thing that, you know, the people out there, they're listening and,
you know, they were like, well, he did mention Lamar's class and what I will say is Lamar's class is.

(40:04):
Not necessarily dad-oriented. You know, it's all about the mom,
making sure that the mom is comfortable, making sure that the mom can have a successful birth.
But that's pretty much what Lamaze class is.
You know, so for people out there who are clueless and they were like,
well, you know, aren't they supposed to learn all of those things in Lamaze class?

(40:25):
Nope. None of those things happen in Lamaze class. So the gentleman that you
hear speaking from experience is very true there.
And even today, when you go to Lamar's class, you know, with your wife,
it's still the same situation.
You would have thought by now things would have changed and things are still

(40:46):
the same. is very all about the mom, is very all about the baby,
but they don't prepare, you know, the dads.
And they sit there and say, well, you know, here's this parent guidebook, read it.
You know what I mean? Here's this month issue on parent guide and,
you know, just kind of send you on your way.
So I apologize for, you know what I mean?

(41:09):
Because it is very, it is very one-sided. So thank you, Mr.
Austin, for, you know, having, you know, letting the dads have a voice and saying
to the dads that you too are important when it comes down to all of the things
that come with having a baby.
You know what I mean? Before and after, you know, dads are important. Dads do matter.

(41:33):
Thank you. So we have to literally start there. Even if we talk about dads and
mental health and things like that, one quote that I have is that,
at that university, we don't work with men.
We work with fathers, and you need to know the difference.
Men drive down the street 95 miles per hour. Fathers be creeping. Yeah.

(41:56):
Different mentality 2021 i became
a certified postpartum doula okay see
i do low actually because that's the male version that is so awesome it it it
changed a lot which is why we started doulos for dads where we're in the community
in maternal and paternal health we came from village and when i say village

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everybody was involved in having a baby in a black community,
These tribes, we call them visitative tribes, everybody delivered, men, women.
When we got here, we were under more of an English rule, which is this is a
men's work, and they separate it between men's work and women's work,
where tribal, it's not that big of a separation.

(42:41):
There's things you do, but you bring it all back to the same table.
So we have to get out of a mentality of this is how they taught us to be separate.
And when it comes to children, we got to be a little bit more focused on together.
I had this one guy, and when I became certified, I was doing it virtually.
So one of the issues is the mom was not sleeping.

(43:04):
The mom was not sleeping well in the hospital. And he worked,
and he worked as a mechanic, and he was going to get the other kids and dropping
them off. So that's the background.
You got to do all of this to make sure she's cool. But she still wasn't sleeping.
So he was in the hospital room and, and I said, can you, do you have an undershirt
underneath your overalls?
And he said, yeah. So I said, can you zip it down and take your overalls?

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He was like, yo man, like, I don't know. What's up? Like what kind of video call is this?
So he's in the hospital room with her and I said, just trust me.
Just trust me. And he took overalls.
I said, now can you take your t-shirt off? And he's like, what?
This sweaty old thing. I said, yeah.
You just go ahead and just trust me. So he took the t-shirt off,
dirty, sweaty t-shirt off, zipped his overalls back up. He's like,

(43:49):
what do you want me to do now?
I said, I want you to grab the pillow, the hospital pillow, and put your t-shirt over it.
And he did. And he was like, I don't get it. She slept that night.
They don't understand the intimacy between me and her. The intimacy is that's her smell.
That's not his smell. That's her smell. That's the smell that she's used to
on her pillow or used to be beside her on her pillow.
And she slept like a log. and you keep separating moms and children from fathers

(44:15):
and you end up with the separation instead of saying they have some commonalities,
they have some intimacies.
If something's going wrong, maternal help, I can look at her and say something's wrong.
I know something's wrong. She's not right. I don't care what she says.
And also fathers, we're the best snitches in the world. I'm a snitch.

(44:35):
I ask questions like, Like, is cherry vanilla ice cream considered a fruit salad?
That's what she ate. That's exactly what she ate. Doctor be like,
no, that is not the right.
Because my baby's in there. My son's in there. My new daughter's in there.
I need you on some get right.

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So they don't understand the intimacy. And it's time for us to look at this
community by saying he needs to help. And with my clients, my dads are in charge
of the pregnancy, which means they are in charge of making sure she has fresh water.
They're in charge of getting her to and from appointments.
I don't care if you got an Uber. They're in charge of making sure you get to
all the appointments. They're in charge of nutrition.

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If she wants McDonald's, she's not getting fries. You get apple slices.
They're in charge of trying to balance that. They're in charge of making sure
that she's eating right, that the other kids are taken to aunt's house when
they need to and she gets a break. They're in charge of asking her the first
questions. Did you sleep?
Did you nap? Like, they're in charge of this instead of distant from it.

(45:38):
That's women's. Right, the nurse. Yeah, or just, yeah. I had to.
No, you get back to this closeness for us.
No, it's critical you're talking about it. I had to, my ex-wife was head of
the station of diabetes.
So we had to go to a nutritionist. When I, you know, she didn't make any of her meals.
I made all her meals. I cooked everything for, you know, I had to do all that

(46:01):
because of her diagnosis.
And for me, gestational diabetes? What? What do I know about that?
So I'm like, I had to really learn how many carbs she can have every day,
what's allowed, what's not allowed.
So this is a whole different, you know, you become a dietician in a way.
Like, yeah, I got to keep you on this diet.

(46:23):
You know what I mean? So you're right. You are in charge of the pregnancy.
To see. You are in charge.
She's carrying, but everything on the outside you're in charge of.
And I mean, you're in charge of that, too. You know, her body,
how she feels and that kind of thing.
She can only tell you how she feels. But everything else on the outside,
you got to, let me take care of this. Let me take care of that.

(46:44):
Let me take care of this. And you can.
Man, I was that dad. Like, that was me. I had to learn, like, quick.
As quickly as I could. And you never thought that you could because we all want
to be fathers. I want to be a pop.
But you have no clue what comes along with that, man. You got to move slow and think fast.
Yes. Move slow and think fast. Really, you have to adapt quickly.

(47:05):
You have to, and not just learning, because learning can be like you read a
book. Oh, I learned that. It's cool. No, you have to adapt. You have to adjust.
You have to, even whatever worked before the first three months,
whatever worked the first three months might not work the second three months.
Right. So you have to make sure that you have some things in place so you can adjust.
And when you're going to sleep. But one of the first things you got to do is

(47:29):
get realized there's a disease specifically amongst black men in the community.
It's a rare disease called agonitis.
Agonitis is almost terminal.
You have guys holding up cars with one hand. Oh, I got it. I got it. This.
Are you OK? I don't know. I got it. I got it. I got it. I got it.

(47:51):
I got it. These my kids. I got it. I got it. But those are my nephews.
Like, and you don't see that power, so you almost have to have a strong conversation
with yourself that I got it is good for a man.
A man should be able to say, I got it, this car. I got it, made my meal.

(48:13):
Fatherhood, you have to almost get rid of all that and say, you hand it to the
school, you hand it to the daycare, you hand it to grandmom,
and you really have to say, now that this fruit is here, I don't know.
What I don't know. And I definitely, I know how to raise me,
but I have no idea how to raise half of her.

(48:34):
So I don't got to this. This is a brand new language.
And these kids change languages every year. Yep. Yeah. They change,
literally use, they change their language.
So you gotta learn German when they 14, you gotta switch to Italian.
They change their focus and goals.
And you have to go to another father and say, am I crazy?

(48:59):
You have to go to Ty and say, am I doing this wrong? And Ty is able to say,
hey, I can tell you what I did with my kids.
I'm not going to tell you what to do. Have you met Ty's kids?
Ty got some good kids. Ty got some good kids. Well, listen, we're going to take
a quick break. Make sure we do our Radio Idea at 9 o'clock.

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You're listening to WPEB Radio, 88.1 FM, 95.1 FM, West Philadelphia. here.
We're going to continue our conversation with Mr. Joe Austin, CEO, Daddy University.
Before we go to break, I just want to read this quote. I think it's very important.
None of us are raising children or kids or babies.
Instead, all of us are raising someone's father, someone's mother,

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someone's wife, someone's husband.
Joe Austin, CEO, Daddy University. Family, remember you can call us with your
comments or your questions at 215-472-0881. Again, that's 215-472-0881.
You can also email us at jimmybondspodcasts at gmail.com.
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at gmail.com You know If T
is over in the corner Trying to hold back her
laughter and tears it is a great show for
me i'm going to tell you that right there okay but we
are kicking it kicking it with our man our brother this
is joel austin ceo and president of daddy
university founder i should say you you

(51:34):
know you spoke about something
of course you know doing my research i'm looking at some of these youtube videos
that you made and one thing that you talked about
was was father's rights and knowing the
father's rights and one of the titles of
the video was represent yourself in custody court and why
is that so important now i'm gonna tell you

(51:56):
my brother right here to my left has schooled me hardcore on custody court you
know i got my man shout out to my man terrence henry shout out to him he talks
to me all the time about his challenges with custody court Can you talk a little
bit about just necessarily like not not your experience,
but what you have gained and understand about this process.

(52:19):
Particularly in Philadelphia, because it's horrific in Philly.
It is. But I tell you, it's trash.
It is trash in Philly. It is. It is bad.
Our family court system is just set up. I do not think it's set up to help families
at all. I don't think it helps families at all.
It doesn't offer the services that is needed. It is horrible.

(52:43):
I deter anyone from getting involved in the family court system.
Family court system is set up to mean domestic relations, which is child support,
and it's separate from custody in Philadelphia.
So those are two different things. What happens is you end up becoming a responsible
adult in support court. You are responsible.

(53:07):
You can work. You are a king. You are amazing male in support court.
You are able to get all this done. You're even able to work strong enough to
provide these monies for your family.
Once you get to custody court, you are a joker. You are a loser.
You can't even change a diaper. You're not supportive.
So we'll give you less of that time. What has to happen for,

(53:30):
and please understand, I'm not talking about men in custody or support.
I'm talking about women as well.
My mothers are paying child support and being hauled in at an alarming rate.
Yes, they are. It is not the way it used to be. Yeah.
Because it does come down to it, the business of family.
And the business of family for Philadelphia Family Court is that the more separate

(53:53):
I can get you, the more money they can make.
And it's basically what it is. So there are so many of my clients and people
at that university that literally spend college tuitions that should be,
mom and dad should be putting towards tuitions or just getting custody.
I am not only the president, I'm a client.
So I was in custody and child support for over 15 years.

(54:18):
I ended up winning what, so I'm sorry, I take that back. There is no winning.
There is no winning. There is just compliance and what's comfortable.
I ended up with every single weekend for the entire year and the entire summer with my boys.
So that was my compromise that we got to.

(54:41):
But there is no when and it needs to be reformed.
And it doesn't need to be going away. It needs to be reformed.
You need to be able to address them in the exact same court at the exact same time.
There does need to be care, but there has to be some care with the weight of support.
And it has to be care with quality time because we've found out specifically

(55:02):
in the Black community, no one's getting rich and no one's able to really,
really do a great job of taking care of these kids with the child support they get.
Because when you take away people who are spending time, you have to pay someone to spend that time.
So the afterschool places end up getting it, the mentoring programs ended up getting.
The money that I give to her goes to someone to care for her.

(55:25):
And I can't care for them because I have to keep working to pay.
So the system is designed to fail the Black family.
So what we do in my office is I bring in mom, I bring in dad,
and we make an agreement right here and there what's going to happen.
We have it notarized and it's a document.
It's a custody and a support document.

(55:46):
It's whatever he's comfortable or she's comfortable with providing,
And a lot of times we don't get into the money of it because specifically most
of the black mothers I've talked to, the money is not as important as the time, the quality time.
And when I need you, I need you to be there.
When I need you for school clothes, I need, I don't need any ifs,
ands, or buts. You know what's coming.

(56:07):
When I need you for this, when I need you for lunch, when I need you to take
them all to Disney World or something, that's what I need, and I need your help and support.
So the money, the $400,000, $500,000, it's not enough to raise Black boys and girls in the city.
If it was enough, we wouldn't be having shootings on the bus.
So it is not working. Yeah. I had to go through that system as well when I was younger.

(56:31):
And I agree with you because I was somewhat clueless when I got to court and
no I mean I was clueless but I was also arrogant that's my child no that's that's
all I knew that was my child and oh Mr.
Richardson how much do you make you got it right there on the computer man stop
playing with me let's get this over with that's that's how I looked at it right

(56:54):
so they said it was going to take what it was going to take I'm said but wait
a minute she's keeping me from my child? What about my child?
Oh, you got to go to custody court. I'm like, wait, why we got two separate
courts for one child? That made no sense to me.
And so going through that process, and I'm researching and I'm finding out that
the Philadelphia court system was the biggest, it's the biggest family court system in America.

(57:16):
And it's built on separating families.
That's what they do. That's their mission to separate families.
They keep families apart. It's the biggest court system in Philadelphia.
That was my research on them about 22 years ago.
If it's changed since then, I really don't know, but I know they're built to
separate families and keep families apart.

(57:39):
Cause like you said, there's no, there's no structure in place to help out those
families, it's just, you're going to pay this and that's that,
you know? And then we get to custody.
Custody is really the meat of it. That's really should be in,
we have laws that say that custody should be spilled out this way.

(57:59):
But unfortunately the court judge gets like maybe four minutes to give a character reference of you.
And if you're not, if you don't dress right, if you don't act right,
if you cough wrong, if you this,
family court, and I'm going to end with this, is the only court in America where

(58:22):
you can perjure and there is no penalty whatsoever.
You are allowed to perjure, which is to lie on the stand.
And there is still no action, no fine, no punishment.
It is the only court where you can do that. I can say, Jimmy set my house on

(58:43):
fire. That's why he can't have the kids.
And there's no penalty for that. Okay.
Now, my question is totally opposite, totally different, changing the subject. So, sorry.
No, no, you're good. Okay. You said, who's that?
Now, I was listening to what you were saying earlier, and...

(59:07):
I'm trying to figure out, do you show the fathers or do you guide the fathers
into how to balance everything that's going on?
Because, you know, I'm thinking about work, nutrition, after school programs,

(59:28):
time for yourself, take care of yourself as well as take care of the kids. You know what I mean?
Just trying to balance bills, balance everything. Do you, is that part of what
Daddy University kind of? I would say yes and no.
We're not particularly focused on balancing a dad.

(59:50):
What we have done is said we are redefining fatherhood.
Okay. We are redoing fatherhood and we're getting away from a father's job is to provide.
And when they said provide, they meant financial. Right. And we are tearing
that down to say, Dad, financial is the last thing your kids worry about.

(01:00:13):
They can care less about how much money you make.
I was running late for work. I told my son, yo, y'all got to get ready or I'm
going to be late. They were like, what happens if you're late?
I can get fired. They'd be like, oh, you spend more time with us?
We're talking about kids who play with the box. We bought the toy.
Right. They don't care about the toy. They care about the box. The box is so exciting.

(01:00:37):
So what we have done is said, I'm going to bring them all in and educate them
on nutrition, on how to cook a meal.
I'm going to educate them on some of the budgetary things and how some of these
laws are and how the same laws that they use, you can use.
I'm going to teach you about maternal health and paternal health,
what you bring to the table. We also teach about your power.

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Fathers have a superpower that a lot of people don't realize.
It helps reading levels, math levels, phonics in children, and it can expand certain things.
It's something that we have that none of our mothers have. It's called an Adam's apple.
And as I talk, the Adam's apple moves around and it reverberates.
And because it reverberates, children hear the vowels and the A-E-I-O-U better

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than they do with the mom. So what I say to my dads is, no, mom no longer reads at bedtime.
You read at bedtime. Your kids will be smarter. Like, that's how important this is.
And when you start raising people's level of education on things,
then some of those other issues kind of solve themselves.
I do know how to cook a meal. I do know how to do this. I can get this house

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together on my own. And I can be a better partner. And I can be more supportive.
And we also go through communication with youth. We will also go to communication
with teens so that you're not parenting kids.
A a rotary phone you can't
just you can't parent that flip phone you have
to parent which means i have to do

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things that my parents didn't do for me to connect better with my he was then
15 now 18 year old son he was all anime no he was all anime and he was one of
those and i'm like well i don't know him he'll know me i ended up having to
sit down and watch anime so i It has to start coming down to his level,
which masculinity, when you're a man, says,

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no, you come up to where I am.
So I just start sitting down asking questions like, why is there a chicken with a man's head on it?
Like I'm asking. And then we end up rapping about the deeper side of anime that he saw.
And so then I'm saying, well, now you can come with me. And why do you like football so much?

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And he's asking questions. So now there's a lot of communication that generationally wasn't done.
But now I can come down to my daughter's level
and my son's level and then they'll come up
to mind and now we got a relationship so the education
used to be if you're a man and you found out you're becoming a father get a

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job and that's all we did for you that's that's it that was supposed to fix
everything and now the education is learn everything oh and if you get
a job that's good yeah I mean the reason why I asked is because you
often find moms you know screaming oh
I'm so stressed I'm so stressed you know and then you
come across you know a two-parent household

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where you know the wife is
always frustrated with the husband because they feel that the husband is not
balancing you know the work and the spending time with the kids and you know
what I mean and it's either a they're working and then when they're off from
work they're You're resting because their next concern is going back to work, you know.

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And so for moms, it sometimes gets stressful because if dad is resting on his
days off and then when he's working, he's working, everything just falls on us.
Be careful as a woman when you're
choosing because some of those same characteristics was why you chose him.
He was working all the time and providing for you and doing X, Y, and Z.
That's a characteristic you liked in the dating.

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It's not something that's. And that's the reason why I say, you know,
as part of, you know, Daddy University, you know, showing the fellas how to balance it out.
It can't just be strictly, I'm just going to work to provide for the family.
Like you have to, I mean, are you saying to them, you know, we get it.
You have to work, but also part of working, you have a family and outside of

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providing with your family is showing up for your family. So you have to go back to that.
Real quick, 1950, 1938, most women, half of the women did not have children in the hospital.
By 1958, 90% of women had children in the hospitals.
Between that time, this new invention came out called aspirin.

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At that time, when you rolled into the hospital, your wife would be taken to
the left, and then we would go to the right in this storks club.
In the storks clubs, men get to hang out in the storks club.
They could drink in the hospital and smoke in this one room in the hospital.
They could chill. And that was all the way until 1980.
And 1980 was the first time after some movements of revolution that fathers

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married men, because a lot of our hospitals in Philly were still Catholic,
were allowed into labor and delivery in like 1980. That was like 43 years ago.
So a lot of men that you're dealing with right now were raised by men that never
saw a diaper, or never saw a birth, never saw this, and raised us to that separation.

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So the cure, the secret, women get ready.
If you want Black men to do anything for you, you would have to do something
that a lot of Black women don't do well in, which is appreciate them for it.
Appreciation is a drug for us.
If you have to say, I love to, thank you for putting that diaper on.

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Thank you for doing such and such you have to appreciate them
and encourage them and we love it we
love it we are drawn to it like flies to the
bug the light we if you keep doing it if you if i go play out in the yard with
the kids and i come back in and you kiss the heck out of me and smack me on

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the butt says i like it when you and the kids have fun like that i'm out there
for three Three hours the next time. I'm out there for four hours the next time.
We are not used to, Black men are not used to being living and growing in a
society of appreciation for us.
Okay. Even from sometimes our cameras.
Go ahead, see my bag. I'm going to come back to that. So that's the secret.

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Use it if you want, but that's the secret. Okay.
And there are some ladies out there, they're probably going to get frustrated
behind what you just said because they're like. Instagram, daddy, you and I.
You know, the reason why I say they probably would get frustrated because they'd
be like, well, nobody says thank you, mom, for, you know, making the meal.

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Thank you, mom, for changing the diaper. Thank you, mom.
So if, you know, if nobody is giving the mom the appreciation that she deserves that.
When dad does it, how come it's such a big deal? How come I have to say thank
you, dad? Because you're a little bit more gift-oriented.
Oh, are we really? Yes.
You guys do love and enjoy gifts a little bit, almost on the same level.

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We're not gift-oriented from you.
We're appreciation-oriented. It's almost like the love language, but there's a primary.
Sometimes a lot of your primaries are gifts. If this is broke and I fix it,
that's kind of a gift. If the cream is not done and I put it together for you, those are gifts.
Those are action or those are acts of service.
You guys like that a little bit more than nice diaper.

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Because I don't want to hear about the diaper because I ain't got no ring.
But, you know, so it's this.
He said it. Still ain't got no ring. You just appreciate me for everything,
huh? But I don't see your appreciation here.
So you guys like gifts and acts of service much more than good diaper. We like great diaper.

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You have mothers right now who dads
are putting a diaper on backwards and saying you didn't do a good job.
It is idiotic. First of all, thank you for trying to put the diaper on the baby.
Because, listen, I have kids.
Pee and poop has never cared which side that Velcro's on.
I promise you, it will still come out. It has never said, oh, no, no, no.

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This ain't on right. Right.
What are we talking about here? Because the best tool in the world is if it
doesn't, if he doesn't put it on correctly, this baby will show you on your
best carpet that you did not put it together correctly.
And then that makes you tighten more and makes you learn it.

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But we can't be pushing down and unappreciating people who are trying.
So the secret sauce is if you can do it, you can do it. If you don't want to
do it, then welcome to your life.
I'm going to tell you, I'm going to tell you a quick story. You talk about appreciation piece.
I remember telling my ex-wife, like having an argument with her and being like,

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yo, I'm doing all this stuff.
I'm doing this. I used to go to, I used to take my son, take my daughter to
school with my son strapped to my chest and get in an Uber and do it twice a day.
Come home, feed him, all that kind of stuff, even before she got home.
And I would always be like, you know, I'm doing all this stuff.
Look, I'm literally being a father. Like, I'm in this, y'all. I'm here.

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You know what you should be telling me? You want a parade?
That's what you're supposed to do. What you're supposed to do.
That's what you're supposed to do. You're supposed to do that.
And you just said something that was key.
If I ever got a verbal appreciation from that, if I ever got,
hey, I'm thankful that you did this.

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I had to learn how to cook being that dad.
That's when I learned how to cook. I want to do a survey right now.
I would love to survey 100,000, specifically black and brown women in Philly,
and find out who appreciates.
And then once we find out that 50,000 appreciate on a daily basis,
I want to find out how many of them are married.
And I would say right here on the radio, 100% of them are married.

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I think it is a—and listen, I shouldn't even be telling y'all women this.
It is a—you can get a man just by a black man. You just appreciate great dinner,
great this, great that, great such and such. Thank you. We don't need the presents.
We don't need the watches and the cologne. We come from a background where black

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women do not appreciate and applaud their black men to other people.
And black men do not appreciate and applaud their black women to other people
because we're so scared they're going to be snatched from a plantation. Yeah.
I'm so scared if I tell one of my friends they're going to snatch them up.
So he he all right and she all
right but now so at least now social media is saying

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no i'm in love yeah and i'm in love with it nothing you
can do about it yeah and and that's much better but you got
to get it on the habit of saying thank you especially thank you because if you
sit around other ones sometimes you be sitting there like man my husband doesn't
cook at all and then you meet somebody like tyrone yeah you know me major flavor

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about this salmon you name it Name it, I'll flame it. Name it, I'll flame it.
And you don't say, oh, it's just good dinner? Seriously? Your last man made you tuna fish au gratin.
Still in the king. And he don't get props? No, but we're not used to parading Black men around.

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How great you are, how amazing you are.
And we're not used to when we have to do that more with our Black women.
And that's when it's going to come together for longer.
See, I love this, man. My worst clients are the people who come to me who have
a child by someone and they've had a child by him, and they are still strangers.

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My worst clients are two people who have a child together and they're still
strangers. It doesn't mean we've been going together three months or maybe weeks.
We don't know each other. So now I'm supposed to give you something of essence,
and I don't even know you.
And that's when this conflict comes. and the family court says,
all right, if y'all wanna be together.

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The last time I was in court, long time ago, I sat there with my,
she was now my ex-wife, and I said, do you realize, and.
1998, two Negroes are still going up to this big white building and asking the
master, because when you go to court, family court, you speak in front of the master judge,

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and we're still asking massa what we's going to do with our kids and letting massa decide,
what we gets to do and who gets to see our kids.
And this is 2000 and something. So So we have to get out of the mentality.
What you need to do is go to grandma, his grandma, go to her grandma,

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go to your pastor, a ma'am, a rabbi, and say, all right, let's work this out.
I don't really know her, but whatever she want to work and I'm ready to work
out. I'll do this week. She do that week.
Grandma, you do the weekends. Let's bring this family back together.
Yeah, that's real. That's real. Ty, what you got, boy?
So moving forward with Daddy University, what can we expect?

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So we are expanding our Doulos for Dads program.
We're still training specifically black and brown males to be doulas,
to work in postpartum. Postpartum comes in around the third trimester and kind
of gets your life back together, teaches you how to adjust to life with the
baby. We are in Philadelphia now.
We are expanding to Delaware.

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So we have two in June.
Our fraternity is now starting to recruit and we're going to end up with chapters
across America where we have these guys come together in a fraternity fashion
servicing because we also need to start publicizing this redefining of dads. Yeah.
We came out of these fathers from this pimp area where I don't want you to know

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how many kids I got, where now it's like I'm proud as heck. I'm in the room.
You've got guys, father, this, father, that, I'm proud.
My hoodie says somebody's fine as daddy. T, what's good? What you got, T?
No, no, no. Like he answered all my questions. You know, I just,
I, you know, for me, I just, you know, I think it's important for dads to kind

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of balance their, you know, their, their lifestyles. You know what I mean?
Moms get stressed, so do dads, you know, and you should be able to balance a
little time for yourself, balance some time for the kids, have some time,
you know, to concentrate on work, you know, things of that nature.
So, I mean, I guess if moms have to do it, dads do too.

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The mental health part of it is I always like to try to get my dads to realize you already got this.
They are half your DNA, half your chromosomes. So most of the jokes you like,
most of the movies you like, most of the food you like, they already like.
Like, don't get too stressed on this money thing and don't get too stressed
on this because they are so simple.
They are very, very simple. And then be patient. Try to listen.
And then really, really have as much fun as this as you can.

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It is fun. I took my kids to feed the ducks in the park.
But I already knew. So I threw the bread on them. It's hilarious.
Because them ducks, boy, they chase,
boy, they cross the highway for that bread. Man, have fun with this.
So enjoy this and then teach as much as you can because money is the last thing on there.

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I know providing is good, but providing quality time keeps violence down, keeps pregnancy down.
Just the peace of you raises socially responsible kids.
And our parents only have one job. Your one job is to raise a self-resilient

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child, a child that can thrive on their self.
They can cook, clean, they can provide for themselves, a self-providing child. Let me ask you this.
What type of advice do you give the fathers who have been absent prior years
or prior times, whether it be, you know, I hate to say this,
whether it be incarceration or just separation in general?

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What do you tell these fathers when they want to show up again yeah they want
to come back to their child's life like what kind of advice do you give them oh that's the easy one,
Cause the benefit is they're always waiting for you.
I don't care what they said. I don't care what they say.
I will never want to see you in my life. They're always waiting for you.

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So what you now have to use is one of the most powerful tools that you have is called consistency.
To come back, you have to say, I want to see you on Thursday and then show up.
And then you keep showing up and you may get turned away, but you keep showing
up until somebody says, man, get out of my face. And I told you I want to see
you, but well, I'm just going to sit here on the porch for 10 minutes and you just keep trying.

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But when you finally get the child to say, I'm willing to listen to you,
please, please tell your entire truth.
Half of them already know. So please tell them the entire truth.
Tell them how stupid you were, how idiotic you were, how you thought these streets
loved you, how you thought such and such, how you did this because you thought

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it'd be better and how you thought you could make a better life and how wrong you were.
And then go from there because they pretty much know a good part of the truth.
But please tell them that full, full story.
And pretty much what he's saying is Own your messiness. Own the mess. Own your mess.
Own it. That's real. And then try to do your best to accept that person because

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that person, again, you got half your DNA from them. You can learn some lessons.
If they had an addiction issue, you need to just drink three beers and stop.
You know, that kind of thing. Let me take something from how they made a mistake.
The beauty of being a parent is you get to live your life over how many children

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you have. You have two kids.
You get to live your life over and say, don't go.
I say, GPS. No, don't. It's too much. I done been there. I done that.
And they may go anyway, but you'd be like, all right, reroute,
because you done went wrong.
But the beauty is you get to live over and say, I'm going to kiss somebody on
the forehead because I haven't been kissed on the forehead. Guess what's all right?

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Yeah. That's real. That's real. Ty, what you got, man?
This Daddy's Daughter Dance. The thing is huge, man. I'm just saying.
You got to check out the website because the pictures on there are phenomenal.
The reason why I keep on asking because I might want to take my dad.
You should. I have 55, 60.
Go ahead, Sobs. As far as tickets, I mean, how can anyone purchase tickets?

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Anyone can purchase tickets. They are on ddd12.eventbrite.com.
Ddd12.eventbrite.com. They're on sale right now. I would say get them early
because this year we're only doing 300.
Sometimes I have grandfathers with a table to 10. And Big Daddy bring them all.

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All they need is ddd12.eventbrite.com. Gotcha.
That's nice. And they dress up. It's a dress up. It's like Shrek in a prom in the Oscars.
Girls be coming in wings. And also we do, still do workshops in the city.

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Every now and then we rent out theater.
We rented out a theater for Little Mermaid.
People don't know because that's also a single dad movie. He had 12 daughters.
Little Mermaid. It is. It is. People are like, okay. It is. Yeah.
And that last one, Ariel, you know, so we invite the whole family out to try

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to bring back what's important.
And, you know, Ty, like the paycheck is a paycheck, but at the end of the day,
no one remembers that. No.
You will not be remembered for your paycheck. I promise you.
And your job will replace you in a heartbeat.
But your kids, your kids know how long you worked.
They know how long you were at work, but.
Even though your job, you're like, just pay you for 40 hours.

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Yep. They know that's where you were.
They know that's where you were. See, you got anything? You got something you
want to finish out with? Okay. Do you know how to add braids when you do hair?
Do I know? No, I do not. I know how much they cost, but I don't know how to
actually do it. So at the Daddy University, you teach other fathers how to braid

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hair and how to cornrow hair, but you don't know how to do it? Not me.
No. We connect. We collaborate.
Yes. My daughter has natural hair and I'm so happy. But I get down on some barrettes.
You know what? We should do a hair contest. Yes, please do it.
We should do a hair contest.

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I'm telling you, I know some brothers that are too proud to tell people that
they do their daughter's hair. I think you had other ones that put it all over Instagram.
Yeah, but every morning people are like, oh, I like your hair,
Shanice. They were like, deep down inside, appreciation.
Yeah, they think they're all giggly, like, yeah, yeah, yeah.
I had a friend do it. They was in that joint.

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Because you have to get down to the basis of it.
A young black girl. But that's quality time, too. It's quality time.
It is touch. Touch is good. It is nurturing.
Not only that, a young black girl sent to school with her hair not done.
You might as well stay around because she's going to be in the principal's office in about 10 minutes.

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Because what's going to happen, somebody's going to say the wrong thing.
So you might as well just park in the parking lot. She'll be right back out.
So it's these little things that are important to her.
And if you can make things important to her. And then the same thing goes for sons.
Talking about styles, talking about what other people are doing, why you want to do it.
And then there were some haircuts that I had. Some of my fathers were like,

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I don't want to give them that haircut. And I'm like, well, be honest with you,
we're talking two weeks.
You're absolutely talking to some of these kids a week like we you blown out
of this trouble in a week.
So, yeah, instead of the old routine or the old phone, it'd be a smartphone.

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So can you can you plug some of your stuff for us? You know,
Daddy University website, social media, all that good stuff.
So on our Daddy University website, there is this thing document called Ages
and Stages is there to help our dads. It is a hidden document from us,
but it really, really breaks down what kids do at what stage and how you can
help promote them to the next stage.

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They're going to jump around and jump around, so you have to start to dive in
yourself to take them to a park.
We have advertisement and content on there about strollers, which stroller is
best, and contact us for information.
We put a lot of our events that are going to be coming up this year.
We're definitely doing the Daddy and Daughter Dance. Again, we are at www.daddyuniv.

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It's www.daddyuniv Instagram, www.daddyuniv Twitter, Facebook.
We're not hard to find at all.
That's one of our other events. We have other events going on in other states.
We are currently working in Arkansas.
We're working in Mississippi, Delaware County, and Delaware.

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Literally doing everything we did in Philly for 20 years. Everybody else wants now. Yeah.
They want the father's club. And we still do father's club every two weeks where
we have a different topic, kind of like this.
But then we start breaking it down. And there's a part of sharing.
And the best part of it is you're able to walk in and say, yeah,
I want to kill my kids sometimes.
And everybody just shakes their head like, yeah, I get it. And let's move on.

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But you don't actually do it. Ty, you should be shaking your head.
My son has a lot of me in him. He know it too. The best part about my kids is
that they remind me of me. The worst part about my kids.
Oh, I hate that. I see my son all the time. I'd be like, yeah, I did the same.

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Bro, come home, take off all his clothes, run around in his underwear for the
next six hours. That was me. That's what I did. I remember.
I told my son, I went in his book bag one time. Just everything everywhere.
All unorganized. So I left with my office.
Where the hell did I? Get it.

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You know where it come from. Give me a minute. You know where it come from. It's a real hair sucker.
You know exactly where it come from. There's half of you over there.
You know. Bless you. There's half of you.
My son, real quick. My son, he said, Dad, I need a shirt from school.
So I'm thinking just a regular, you know, school shirt.
Hey, here's the money, man. Go ahead. Whatever. So he come back two days later,
pulls out a dashiki. Damn, look, here it comes.

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I'm like, okay, all right. No, all right, fine. I'm like, all right.
So he puts it on. And so I like to do, I got like tons of characters,
right? So my son kind of like plays along with me.
So he has this really good Jamaican voice.
So he puts his dashiki on and starts talking in his Jamaican voice.
And I'm like, no, no, you're messing up the culture. Right, right,
right. You're messing up. I'm Rafiki the dashiki and he's just going in his Jamaican voice.

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But I'm like, that's me, man. Yeah, all day. All day.
All day. You already know. You already know, man. It's like the knee calling the elbow ass shit.
My daughter goes to a school that they actually wear Daishigi.
She goes to Imhotep. Shout out to Imhotep.
Yeah, for sure. For sure. We went to 11th grade, went to go get her a new Daishigi.
So she was like, oh, I'm still a medium. I'm still a medium.

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What happened is she, let's just say she grew over the summer,
you know, and, and yeah, she was filling it out. Okay.
So she was trying to convince me because I'm a dad, like, oh no, I'm still a medium.
But the reality is you, you know, you grew, you know, you want the attention.
I know you want the medium because that medium can't take the joy of just showing all your essence.

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Yeah. You're fitting. You're right. Football players walk away.
So I was like, well, this is what we're going to do. I'm going to get the largest
just in case, because your mom may not like X, Y, and Z. Right.
But I also realized, and I said it to her, which dads don't say,
that your body has changed.

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And I realized your body has changed. She was like, caught, like, whoa, hold me.
It's funny, because now you're able to be more real instead of this whole,
we came from be quiet. I mean, what I said is what I said, why are you still standing here?
So sometimes I have these conversations about why I'm not giving you steak.

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I'm eating steak and you're not because you don't appreciate it.
But we are able to have this dialogue, but in the end you want to do what the
cheese chores anyway, but get it out, get off your chest.
Cause I want you in that kind of relationship where you listen to your wife
and that you learn to listen to your husband and not just over-talk and over-

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So, yeah, you can try it. I'm just going to sit back there. Eventually,
we're going to take it back to the store. You can try it out. Have fun with it now.
Speaking of that, you know, please, you have to extend our apologies to your
wife because she was supposed to come on the show a long time ago. Yeah.
And we had technical difficulties on the day she was supposed to come on. Oh.

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And we have had a hard time trying to reschedule it, that kind of thing.
So she comes back and be like, well, Jimmy was supposed to have it first.
Please tell her we're sorry. We apologize. We apologize. Sorry. This is Austin.
Listen. They know they want it first.
You know how I run this.

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We apologize. You better be ready when I get home. Oh, my gosh.
That's what I'm saying. When she waiting at the door, don't put your hands up.
Am I short, too? Oh, gosh. Guys, they the worst ones.
How tall are you? I'm 5'1". Uh-oh. You don't want none of this smoke.
You don't want none of this smoke. Don't slide over there now.

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You don't move, don't move. Don't slide over.
Kneecaps.
Hit you low. Low. They want you up top. Hit you low.
But, you know, you know, Brother Joe, I got to tell you, man, this has been amazing.
You know, more than just informative. it's it's been relatable and eye-opening

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and understanding and i mean you got two dads in here,
talk about these type of things on the regular, on the regular.
And, you know, luckily I have a good brother I can call and talk to about things I go through.
You got a couple of them that I can call and talk to, but now, now all of us do neither.

(01:29:25):
Not all of us want to share that information at times.
So, you know, I greatly appreciate, I think the team holy,
but me personally, I greatly appreciate you coming on and just sharing what
it is that daddy university does the resources it provides
the workshops the tools the insight
the the the safe spaces in

(01:29:47):
order to to communicate what they're experiencing and find solutions for those
things that they might be having challenges with and you know i'm so solution-based
i'll be just i got a problem what's the solution a lot of times it steps to
get to that solution and i i just i really
gratefully thank you for coming on tonight and just expressing all that you

(01:30:10):
that you know your knowledge your wisdom the truth like you know what I mean
straight up like straight up that's that's really all I can say I mean T I know
I'm speaking for me but I let you speak for yourself.
But you know I'm sure T sat over there from her perspective as a woman and saw
it a little bit differently you know saw some things for herself so I mean T

(01:30:31):
go ahead I'm sorry sis I ain't gonna No, no, you're fine.
No, I just want to say to all of the dads out there that are listening,
there is a place for you to go.
You know, we have a gentleman here who was saying, come to us and we will show you some things.
Come to us and we will, you know, let you get it off your chest.
We are here for you. So, fellas, don't be shy and you're not alone.

(01:30:54):
And, you know, shout out to all the dads out there that really want to be dads
and really want to show up and let people know that, you know,
fatherhood is a serious thing.
Yeah. You're not alone. We have somebody. We have their outlets out here for
you. So don't be discouraged. Keep on pushing.
Yeah, it's going to get it's going to get tough. It's going to get rough, but be encouraged.

(01:31:19):
Appreciate that. Appreciate time. What you got, Bull? I'm thankful for you coming
out this evening. and then let you know what you have to finish.
See, Ty been to his house already and cooked for him. So Ty already been in the mix.
I think they promised me. Small world. Small world. I'm on the phone with...
Joe said you just promised him food. I thought that was going to be...
Joe looking for the plates.

(01:31:41):
T, you put it out there. We had our meeting on Monday. T was like,
you're going to bring some plates, right, Ty? You're going to bring some extra
food, right? Oh, I'm sorry. Go ahead, Ty.
I'm talking... I'm having a conversation with Joe on Monday.
And I'm like yo man I didn't let you talk to my partner man this would be great
I didn't get him on the phone,
Later on in the conversation, she's like, yeah, yeah, I know your partner,

(01:32:02):
too. Tyrone? Yeah, he's been in my house twice, cooked already for me.
Yeah, yeah, he's great. Yeah, he's fantastic. Did a birthday party. God, you know, right?
I'm like, yo, small world, this is crazy. You know Ty?
You heard me? I'm like, yo, you know Ty? He's like, yeah, I know Ty.
I'm like, come on. It's funny. It's hard sometimes.
And I have to be honest, to receive accolades.

(01:32:23):
I sit here and twiddle my fingers because it just, again, is not the norm for me.
Yeah. Especially when you're just sitting around with friends doing something that you like.
And every now and then someone says, I want to give you an award. I'm like, for what?
I was just doing it because this is the right thing to do.
I sat around, and I don't come from an upper. I come from the lower.

(01:32:48):
I didn't know, so I started learning this stuff.
And now we sit around talking about the same problems.
Like, my YouTube videos aren't about, hey, you should be better.
Mine are like, yo, I was almost, you know, messed up. I almost did this,
and this is a job you can't wing no more.
You should come in with some type of knowledge.

(01:33:10):
So ask questions. Get rid of the I did of this, and yell out to somebody if
you're not doing well, and complain.
Complain about it. Don't hold it on your shoulders. Complain.
Say your daughter's driving you crazy. Guess what? It's all right.
You'll find acceptance. You'll find like, yeah, yeah, yeah. So,

(01:33:30):
and then realize you're not done.
My youngest is my 17 year old daughter, but I have no idea what it's like to
have an 18 year old. And then when she gets 19 year old, that's different.
So I need to rely on people. And then other people who have a 14 year old come
to me. So that's how this village works.
Not that I know specific things about a daughter, but I do know what happened

(01:33:54):
to me was you need to, but my daughter cost me like $2,000 because when she
was 15, the favorite color was purple.
And we talked about the room was colored purple. The dolls were purple.
And then 16, she was like, yeah, no. Nah.
They do. They change up quick on you. They change up real quick on you.

(01:34:17):
You be like, hey. And they be like, is that purple? Nah, we done with that.
Dad, you know my favorite color is yellow now, right?
I done switched up on you, Pop. Her room is spa blue now because that's what you need.
But know that she's going to change. You're going to change and we're supposed to change.
But this job never changed and you have to look for the goal. The goal is your legacy.

(01:34:41):
The goal is when you're sitting around at 70 years old, people are just going
to stop by your house just to chill with you.
And that's probably the greatest parenting gift you can ever get. Yeah.
That's real. And then the goal also, I have personal goals.
I want to go to my son's house and I want to use nine ice cubes and leave one.

(01:35:01):
But it's going to happen. I want to go to my son's house and drink most of the
juice and leave it just to drop.
Like, I want to open the refrigerator and just look in it.
And then I want to open the door because it's hot. And then put the heat on
because it's cold. And then I just want to leave it to you.
I'm going to leave one piece of lunch meat and wrap it back in rolls of toilet

(01:35:26):
paper just used down to one.
And for somebody, I have a dream time.
I was just saying that I wanted something to break and say, I don't know how that happened.
You need to have dreams.

(01:35:46):
I think we all can relate to that. I think that's a cosign. The corner or the juice?
The corner. The corner.
Dad, I want to make sure I can save you some. The corner? The corner.
It's a shot glass of juice. Not even a shot. Half a shot.

(01:36:09):
It's a swallow. It's a swallow. one hot dog oh man and no rolls why don't you
just eat both of them like why you why you just leave that one like.
This has been fun this has been amazing we have to have you back
that's a that's a given I know that's a given we gotta have you back we was

(01:36:33):
talking about it you know I know you about to go out of town and you know head
out of town but we gotta have you back we have to I think this conversation about fathers,
about parenting, not just fathers, but parenting is vital.
We did a podcast. Remember that podcast we did about parenting?
Remember that one? Co-parenting. Co-parenting, parenting.

(01:36:53):
So we focus a lot on that. I think really because it's our personal lives as well.
You know, it's our everyday lives. It's what we all have to live. T has children.
T has a daughter. I have a kid and two grandkids.
So she has. The grands are, I like them. Yeah. Let's see, you like them, huh?
Ty got two, I got two. So we all parents sitting in here.

(01:37:14):
We all have experience with this parenting thing. I say experience,
I mean, just we're working every year.
I have one, two, and two. That made me feel bad.
I said I ain't having no more. I ain't having no more. I currently have 11.

(01:37:35):
So, I think that set the alarm off. You set the alarm off.
You did it. You did it. You set it off. You set it off.
So, we wanted to... We have an emergency broadcaster right here. I think we're clear.
Well, with that being said, family, we want to thank Mr. Austin for coming on.

(01:37:55):
CEO, president of DADDY University, Mr. Joe Lawson, just came here and dropped
some bars, dropped some dollars, told some truth.
And family, I guarantee you, like, this is the type of stuff that we love talking
about. We love sharing with our audience.
And I am humbly grateful. The team's humbly grateful, bro. So thank you.
I'll be back. You got to be. You got to be.
With that being said, family, remember, you can call us with your comments,

(01:38:16):
your questions at 215-472-0881. one. Again, that's 215-472-0881.
You can also email us at jimmybondspodcasts at gmail.com.
Again, that's jimmybondspodcasts at gmail.com. It's J-I-M-M-Y-B-O-N-D-S podcast at gmail.com.
And as always, family, remember to call somebody that you know,

(01:38:37):
somebody you talked to recently, somebody you might have talked to recently.
Call them and tell them that you love them because you never know when you might get another chance.
So until the next episode, so you can find me on Good Hope Road.
Screaming, stay up, don't sleep in your dreams. My man Ty, my sister T.
Good night. My brother Joe, Austin in the building. I'm Jimmy Bonds. We out. Peace.

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