Building Inner Strength Like a Muscle

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Strength isn't just physical—it's something that grows inside you with every challenge you face. Today, we're diving deep into how developing your inner strength is the secret to building unshakable confidence in all areas of your life.

Have you ever noticed that the people who seem most confident have often faced the greatest challenges? That's no coincidence. Like a muscle that grows stronger through resistance training, our inner fortitude develops when we confront difficulties rather than avoid them. Whether it's going through a divorce, learning from a small kitchen accident, or facing any of life's unexpected tests, each experience builds the resilience that transforms into authentic confidence.

The journey follows a powerful four-step process: challenges that push us out of comfort, self-doubt that reveals where we need to grow, self-realization that shows us the path forward, and finally, growth that creates lasting confidence. Along this path, three emotional tools become essential: embracing failure as a teacher, setting boundaries that protect your energy, and practicing positive self-talk that rewires your mindset. Most importantly, we examine how fears—often rooted in past experiences—can block our progress unless we focus on truly meaningful outcomes.

This episode offers practical insights for anyone looking to strengthen their inner resilience, overcome self-doubt, and build the kind of confidence that withstands life's biggest tests. Share your own story of discovering inner strength with me on social media or Substack—I'd love to hear how you're growing stronger, one challenge at a time. Subscribe now and join our journey to success!

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Did you know that inner strength can be developed
like a muscle, and it's a key?
It's a key to unlockingunshakable confidence, guys, all
right, just like any muscle,anyway, you need to be patient
and understand that creatingsomething that can completely

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transform your life is along-term goal.
Okay, can completely transformyour life is a long-term goal,
okay, and this is true for yourbiceps, your heart's persistence
and for so many examples aswell, and, of course, for your
inner strength as well, okay, sohow can we cultivate inner

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strength to boost ourself-confidence and face life's
challenges, guys?
We don't know yet, but that'swhat we're going to discuss
today.
Hi, guys, my name is Fabio fromJourney to Success, and welcome
.
Today, we're going to learn howto develop and grow your inner
strength, which is crucial forboosting your self-confidence.

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But before to go forward, asalways, please subscribe, okay.
So I know this is the rightdirection to lead you guys, to
drive you, to guide you towardsyour journey to success, and
let's get started right.
As always, so many peoplestruggle with self-doubt and
insecurity.

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We know that which can holdthem back from achieving their
goals and living their bestlives.
All right, we have discussedalready many topics related to
overcoming self-doubt andinsecurity.
But we have not explored yetthe concept of inner strength.

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So how does inner strengthdevelop?
First of all, it is born fromimpactful emotional challenges.
The bigger the challenge, thestronger you become.
For example, I have a friendwho is going through a divorce
right now, dealing with a house,children, the whole package

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basically, despite everything,when she feels tired, she tries
her best to stay positive forherself and her kids okay.
When she feels sad, she doesher best to find happiness.
So she always tries her best tobe up and I'm sure that during

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moments when she thinks shecan't go on, she also realizes
she's stronger than she everthought.
See, guys, human beings arefascinating.
We are fascinating because weoften believe that we cannot
tolerate certain emotions orsituation when unfortunate

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events happen to us.
Okay, but at the end, in theend of the story, we have only
two choices here Give up, whichleads to stagnation, hoping that
something will change for thebetter.
You know, sitting on the couch,sleeping all day and
self-destructing your life seemlike the solution to all your

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problems, basically, or move on.
So the other path is becomingstronger to improve our lives
and, of course, giving up andslowing down at first is part of
the process for developing yourfuture resilience when you

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finally decide to change yourlife for the better, but as long
as you don't remain inself-destruction forever.
So that's very important.
But, as I mentioned before,we're beautiful molecules, so
sooner or later, we all want toovercome that impulse to give up
.
All right, phasing life likebeer on steroids.

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All of this, my friends, iswhat I call inner strength, by
the way.
So this is how inner strengthis born.
Now, how do we reach a pointwhere inner strength boosts
self-confidence?
In my opinion, this process ispretty automatic and can be

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divided into four stepsChallenges, self-doubt,
self-realization and growth.
Let me share another simpleexample to make this clearer.
When I was on vacation when wewere on vacation with my fiancé,
we were in Italy mysister-in-law she was in our
house and she called us and saidthat she burned her hand

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because she didn't know that thehandle of the pen right was not
insulated.
So she basically picked it updirectly with her hands without
any protection.
Okay, evidently mymother-in-law has pens with
insulated handles, okay, so shehad a different experience.
So, in this situation, we seethe challenges you know, know.

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So, before we talk about this,four steps.
The steps are challenges,self-doubt, self-realization and
growth.
So in this case, we have thechallenges, the strangles, the
obstacles.
So this is the first key.
So my sister-in-law was adesperate and in pain, okay,
which made her feel emotionslike self-doubt, of course.
The second key Self-doubt,insecurity, lack of confidence.

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However, she then experiencedself-realization okay, the third
key.
So she realized that from thatmoment on, she needed to use a
cloth to handle the pen.
Okay, and lastly, finally, wehave growth and empowerment the

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fourth key.
So from that day forward, shealways used a cloth to lift the
pen, which boosted herself-confidence in the kitchen.
So this is a straightforwardbut fundamental example.
It shows a pattern that can beapplied to many aspects of our
lives, guys.
So the bigger the strangle, thegreater, the bigger the

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potential for overcoming it andthe greater self-confidence can
become okay.
Let's break down this experiencefor my sister-in-law.
Still, even if she didn'trealize it, she likely
experienced these three forms ofemotions Embracing failure,
setting boundaries and positiveself-talk.
These three emotions arefundamental to building inner

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strength and her situation is,of course, there's just one
example among billions ofbillions of similar situations,
large or small, right, and thatcan happen to us every day in
our life.
So, first, emotion embracingfailure.
So when she strangled andreached out to us, she was

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literally embracing failure inthat moment.
This is the most important partof the process, because it's
when you realize that you needto learn something to move
forward.
Okay, the only way to learn isby acknowledging that you are
failing at something.
So this is step one, checkednumber two uh.

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Second, emotion settingboundaries.
So, considering the example ofmy sister-in-law's and you know
before also the example of myfriend's experience with divorce
, it's crucial to recognize theimpact of embracing failure.
Okay, only a few know thatfailure is part of the learning

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process.
A good percentage realize laterthat they learned because they
failed, while another groupthinks that learning and failure
are not two different sides ofthe same coin.
However, regardless of therelationship between failure and
the people, between failure andyou guys, the truth is that

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everyone recognizes somethingduring their failures and they
notice a breaking point, as ifsomething has cracked.
Okay, so this feeling can bescary.
However, this apparent break isjust a step before your
personal growth.

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Yes, challenge can break ourprotective shell, even if it's
temporary, but we need torebuild that shell.
How do we do that by settingboundaries.
So all of this introduction foryou know, for this second

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emotion, setting boundaries.
Here I'm going to give you thesame example.
So, during her divorce, myfriend had to set boundaries
with her ex-partner.
And of course it is, for anydivorce, right, and it is
absolutely normal.
When you need to grow, you mustbring order to your life and to

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do that, boundaries are crucial.
Guys are important.
The example of my sister-in-law.
So my sister-in-law called usand expressed her feelings by
saying guys, I didn't know, thepan was insulated.
You could say to me Now we'renot discussing if the complaint

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was right or wrong, all right,what matters is that during the
process of developing innerstrength, it's normal for the
brain to try to rebuild thatprotective shell, and part of
that involves setting boundaries, of course, something that her
brain was also doing with me andher sister.

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To facilitate the next step, thenext step is positive self-talk
.
So, third emotion, positiveself-talk.
So, third emotion, positiveself-talk.
So what?
It is?
Well, after embracing failurefirst emotion and after
establishing boundaries secondemotion the next step is to

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affirm okay, okay, come on, Ican do this, I can do it.
And this applies to what we'retalking about cooking, dealing
with a divorce, launching apodcast, pursuing success, any
kind of goal.
You know, we all at the end ofthe story, when we go through
about something, we feel thatenergy, right, we say, well, we

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can do it, I can do it, I'm good, I finally I'm going to achieve
it, I'm going to be good, andif we fail again, that's okay.
We always start the processover and over until we reach our
goals, our dreams, our life'spurpose.
Okay, it's not that beautiful,it is so beautiful, are we not

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that strong?
We are so strong.
That's the reason why I always,always, like to talk about this
kind of topics, right, one isabout resilience and, in this
case, inner strength and success.

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Failure, that is part of success, because it's part of us, and
you really should realize howmuch strong you are.
So, anyway, to develop trueconfidence and build inner

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strength, we often need toconfront the usual thing at the
end of the story, right, always,around the corner, always there
are fears.
Fears fear of cooking, fear oflaunching a podcast, fear of
breaking up, fear of divorce,fear of showing someone your
feelings, fear of everything,basically.
So the current fears we haveoften arise from past

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experiences, first of all, andthese fears can arise from
patterns we observe in ourfamilies, in our friends, or
even from genes that influenceus in certain ways.
It's not science fiction, it'ssomething that I don't remember
where I read it, maybe I watchedsomething but it has been

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scientifically proven that theemotions of our progenitors are
part of our genes.
I think it was an episode ofLewis Hose, I think, who was a
guest.
Yes, I guess he was a guest.
And anyway, these fears are partof us, guys, whether we know

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the source or not, whether welike it or not.
They're part of us.
They attempt to influence ourpresent by warning us about the
future and lastly, unfortunately, they interfere with our inner
strength, and it's a disaster.
It's not good, Because the morewe nourish these fears, the

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more they prevent us fromreaching our goals.
Okay, fears, guys, are likelike seeds in a vast garden.
Okay, we care for them, wewater them, but the result is
not a beautiful flower or abunch of lovely roses.
It doesn't work like that.
Instead, we often end up withthorny weeds that block our

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growth and inner strength.
So how to overcome in this caseand make sure that our inner
strength grows stronger andfaster than ever?
Two fundamental points.
First of all, you need to focus.
You know, overcoming your fearsand developing your inner
strength requires focus, guys,the same focus you have when

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committing to a diet or studyingfor an exam.
Focus is crucial, first of all.
The second point is to valuethe outcome.
Let me give you another example,still involving my
sister-in-law.
I think I'm going to make herlisten to this episode.
So what is the example?

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Well, I hope she will join usfor this Halloween experience in
Amsterdam.
So there is this Halloweenexperience in Amsterdam, and I
love it, which is not that scary.
It's not that scary, I wouldn'tsay not at all, but I don't

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know from zero up.
Then it's a scary tree,honestly, maybe less tree.
It's beautiful.
It's called the AmsterdamDungeon.
I don't know if you know it.
Three, it's beautiful.
It's called the AmsterdamDungeon.
I don't know if you know it.
You can look it up.
It's absolutely wonderful.
I love it, even if they do thesame things every year, honestly
.
However, this year there is anew scene with Jack the Reaper,

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so I really want to go, butanyway, let's stay on the topic.
Sorry, the point is she doesn'twant to come with us.
So, regardless of what I sayabout the fact that it is not a
horrific experience andeverything.
Okay, she doesn't want to come.
The reason is evidently thatshe had an experience where an
actor scared her while she waswalking near the entrance scared

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her while she was walking nearthe entrance.
See, here you can already seehow our fears are connected,
mainly originating from pastexperiences.
First of all, but especially inthis case, she knows that.
So my sister-in-law knows thatovercoming this fear is not

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going to add much value to herlife.
Okay, you know when I say toyou the second point is to value
the outcome.
Consciently or subconsciously,we always try to value the
outcome.
All right, how much the outcomecan give to us, and so what?

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I will say, yeah, that sheknows that overcoming this fear
is not going to add much valueto her life.
For sure, and, yes, she mighthave a nice time with us.
But that positive experience isnot enough to motivate her to
face her fear.
Okay, so she's comfortable withher decision and that's fine.

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I mean, I'm still trying toconvince her because I'm
stubborn.
But sticking to our topic, thisreaction is normal.
Why is it normal?
Because overcoming fears, toreinforce your inner strength,
requires a lot of energy a lot.
So if your purpose is notstrong enough and you prefer to

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save that energy for overcomingmore significant fears or
pursuing meaningful goals,that's perfectly okay, that's
fine, and you shouldn't feelguilty about it.
All right, and you shouldn'tforce this feeling.
However, suppose your purposeis something worth achieving.

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Ah, that's the point.
What if the purpose issomething worth achieving,
something meaningful in yourlife?
In that case, remember to befocused and go forward, because

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evidently it's somethingimportant for you.
It's not, like you know, anhorror experience.
And, uh, I also recommend yourevisit this episode, listen to
it a couple of times to studymore valid points the moment you

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try to face your fears, tolisten at my episode or episodes
like mine.
Okay, Now let's break down whatwe talk about today, as always.
First, we discussed what innerstrength is.
Okay, it's a muscle.

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It's like a muscle.
You grow it by facingchallenges and it's key to
building confidence.
Okay, patience and consistencyare essential.
Important because it's along-term process, guys, just
like training your body.
Okay, then we explore how innerstrength develops.

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So it's born from emotionalchallenges.
The bigger the challenge, thestronger you become.
I share examples such as, youknow, my friend going through
divorce and my sister-in-lawlearning from a small but
meaningful experience in thekitchen.
This showed that even everydaystruggles teach us resilience
and self-confidence.
Okay, next, we broke down theprocess into four steps.

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First, we have challenges.
This is where it all starts.
Life will test you withstruggles, obstacles, everything
, unexpected situations.
Challenges push you out of yourcomfort zone and show you what
you are truly capable of.
The bigger the challenge, themore potential there is to grow.

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Self-doubt Number two whenfacing challenges, it's natural
to feel fear, guys.
It's natural to feel insecurity, uncertainty.
These moments are importantbecause they reveal areas where
you need to strengthen yourself.
So feeling doubt is notweakness, it's sign.

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It's a sign that growth ishappening.
Number three self-realization.
After facing a challenge andexperiencing doubt, you start
seeing lessons and solutions.
So you recognize what you needto change, what boundaries to
set and how to improve overall.

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And this is the turning pointwhere strangles begins to become
empowerment.
And then we have the grow.
So, finally, you take actionbased on what you learn.
You implement challenges withconfidence and notice that each
challenge makes you stronger.
Guys, grow as an assistant.
Remember that it's the resultof consistently applying lessons

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from every strangle.
Okay, after that, we talkedabout three key tools to develop
inner strength actively, guys.
First, embracing failures.
Okay, more than the key tools,there are emotions.
These are emotions that youautomatically must face during

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this process to boost your innerstrength.
So the first one is embracingfailure.
So accept that mistakes arepart of the journey and each
failure is a lesson that teachesyou how to do better next time.
Without failure, guys, realgrowth cannot happen okay.
Number two setting boundaries.
So protect your energy andcreate structure in your life.

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Okay.
Boundaries, guys.
Help you focus on what matters,avoid unnecessary stress and,
especially, maintain mental andemotional strength while facing
challenges.
And then the third one, thethird motion is the positive
self-talk.
So what you tell yourselfshapes your confidence.

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So affirm your abilities,remind yourself of progress and
celebrate small wins Okay,that's very important.
Same things like I can do this,this, or I'm growing stronger.
Rewire your mindset and, ofcourse, boost and reinforce your
inner strength.

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Finally, lastly, we coveredfears.
They often come from pastexperiences or patterns in our
families, friends, you knowgenes, evidently, and fears can
block growth.
But with focus and valuingmeaningful outcomes, we can

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overcome them and strengthen ourinner resilience.
Okay, so the full story abouthow to build and improve your
inner strength.
It's pretty clear Facechallenges, learn from failure,
set boundaries and use positiveself-talk.
So focus on what truly mattersand your inner strength and

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confidence, trust me, will grow.
Okay, now I want to hear fromyou how do you face challenges
in your life, guys?
What is one moment where youdiscover your own inner strength
and grow more confident?
Send me a message on below, asalways, share your story or

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I would love to know.
I would love, I would love toknow.
Sorry, I would love, love toknow.
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reminder that they are strongerthan they think.
Thank you so much for beinghere on Journey to Success.
Remember, together we arebuilding inner strength and
confidence, one challenge at atime.
I'll see you in the nextepisode.
Cheers, guys.