From Brokenness to Breakthrough: Confronting Your Pain as a Path to Growth

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The crack is where the light enters. This profound truth forms the foundation of our exploration into pain's transformative potential. Most of us instinctively flee from discomfort, building elaborate systems of avoidance, denial, and emotional walls. Yet what if our wounds aren't obstacles but gateways to our most authentic selves?

True maturity isn't measured by age or achievements but forged through facing what hurts. When we stop running and start asking "What is this pain teaching me?" everything shifts. We explore how avoidance becomes our shield, keeping us busy so we never sit with our wounds. We examine how denial convinces us we're fine while our bodies and souls remember everything. And we confront how fear of vulnerability builds walls that isolate us from the very connections that could heal us.

The journey from pain to power begins with radical honesty and practical steps: unfiltered journaling, professional guidance, embodiment practices like yoga, inner child healing, storytelling, and supportive community. These tools help transform suffering into wisdom. We witness this transformation through Rhian Mannings' remarkable story—after losing both her one-year-old son and husband within five days, she eventually founded a charity supporting over 1,300 grieving families. Her journey exemplifies how brokenness, when faced with courage, can become the foundation for profound purpose.

If you're carrying something heavy right now, remember: you're not weak for feeling pain—you're human. Beyond that pain lies a seed of power and unshakable maturity waiting to grow. Share your journey in the comments: what challenge led to your greatest growth? And share this episode with someone who might need these words today.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
The crack is the place where the light enters you
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Hi guys, my name is Fabio fromJourney to Success, and welcome.
Most of us are taught to runfrom pain right To the night or
distract ourselves until itdisappears.
But what if pain is not theenemy?

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What if it is the teacher?
Pain can make us feel broken,guys, whether physical or
emotional, it doesn't matter.
It forces us to confront partsof ourselves we would rather
ignore.
And in that confrontation, youknow, in the discomfort, the

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breakdown, the grief, lies aninvitation, an invitation to
grow, to evolve, to rise.
So transforming pain into poweris not just about reflecting
back, okay, it's more aboutbreaking through, using, of
course, our strangles as fuel tobecome wiser, stronger,
stronger and more aligned withwho we truly are.

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So this process is the path totrue maturity.
You know, not the kind ofmaturity that comes with age
guys, titles, all appearances,but the kind of maturity that is
forged in fire, real maturity.
You know, maturity where it'sborn, when we stop blaming the

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world and start asking all right, all right, so what are you
teaching me in this situationright now?
Tell me, today we're going very, very deep into the darkness,
into the discomfort, and deepinto the darkness, into the
discomfort and finally into thelight, light that only pain can
show.
Okay, but before to go forward,as always, please subscribe.

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So I know this is the rightdirection to lead you guys, to
drive you, to guide you towardsyour journey to success.
And let's get started right asalways, towards your journey to
success.
And let's get started right asalways.
So let's discuss the commonstruggles people face when
dealing with pain, such asavoidance, denial and fear of

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vulnerability.
So, before we can transformpain into power, of course we
have to understand how weusually deal with it, and the
truth is most of us don't dealwith it at all.
We avoid it, we deny it.
Okay, we burn it under businesssubstance scrolling, you know.

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Or fake smiles, so let's talkabout avoidance first.
Avoidance becomes our shield.
You know?
Or fake smiles, so let's talkabout avoidance first.
Avoidance becomes our shield.
You know, we stay busy, so wedon't have to sit in silence
with our wounds.
But unprocessed pain doesn'tdisappear, guys.
It actually plagues slowly.
It shows up in ourrelationships, our health, our

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self-worth.
Then we have the denial.
Denial is another survivaltactic.
We convince ourselves we'refine, that what happened didn't
really affect us.
But deep down.
The body remembers, the soulremembers, and the longer we

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deny it, the louder the paineventually screams, Okay.
Then there is the fear ofvulnerability, so the belief
that if we let others see ourbrokenness, they will reject us.

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So what are we going to do?
We build walls, okay.
We put masks, we aim forperfection instead of
authenticity, and in the process, we isolate ourselves from the
very connection we desire.
So these responses are, ofcourse, are human.

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Okay, we're human beings, sothey're protective responses.
But they also keep us stuck,guys, trapped in cycles of
silent suffering.
Okay.
So the first step toward healingis not to fix the pain, guys,

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it is to face it.
Of course, to face pain, facingpain, of course, is never easy,
but it is possible.
Of course it's possible andmore than that, it is
transformational.
So let's look at how people doit.

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Think of someone like ofra whofaced a childhood trauma, abuse,
rejection.
She could have let thissituation define her right, but
instead she did her work, shedid therapy.
Uh, deep self-reflection and alifelong pursuit of healing
leather to become not justsuccessful but wise.
Louis O's is a podcaster Ireally admire who opened up

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about being sexually abused as achild.
So for years he masked the painwith ego and aggression, until
he realized that healing meantbecoming vulnerable, so that one
shift changed his life, okay,and his work as well.
So these stories, guys, remindus that pain doesn't have to

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break you.
It can build you if you'rewilling to go through, of course
.
And psychologists talk aboutsomething called post-traumatic
growth as well, the idea thatafter trauma, people can emerge
with deeper empathy, clarity andstrength.
So that's also a good advantagefor you.

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You.
There is this doctor, dr BrenéBrown, that is an expert of
vulnerability and he saysvulnerability is the birthplace
of innovation, creativity andchange.

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So, in other words, change.
So, in other words, when youembrace your pain, right, you
have to understand that as soonas you embrace, it's not going
to be weaknesses anymore.
It's not weaknesses anymore, itis, let's say, a gateway, you
know, a window to make you grow.

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Now here are a few actionableways that you can begin to
confront your pain today.
Okay, the first one isjournaling, and especially
journaling with honesty.
So write, guys, write withoutfilters.
Okay, ask yourself what am Iavoiding?
What still hurts?
What does this pain want me tounderstand?

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Okay, then we have therapy orcoaching.
So sometimes we need a guide, askilled, professional person
who can help you to handle youremotions and shape your story.
We talked in the previousepisode, guys, about how much
important it is to ask help.
Then we have mindfulembodiments.

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What is mindful embodiments?
It's about practices like yoga,you know, breath work,
something that reconnects withyour body.
Okay, because healing is notjust intellectual, it's also
physical.
Then we have the inner childwork.
So you have to revisit theyounger you, who first

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experienced the damage.
Okay, I know, it is difficult,I know that, but that's also
very, very important.
And sharing your story, that's,maybe it's the most difficult
things, but whether it's withone person or on a stage right,
your voice matters, guys.
Unfortunate stories lose itspower to shame you the moment

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you speak it.
And finally, we have thecommunity.
Healing accelerates whereyou're surrounded by people who
see you, where you're surroundedby people who see you, who
support you and remind you thatyou're not alone, all right.
So now, how do we move frompain to power?

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It starts with extreme honesty,of course.
You can't heal something if youpretend you have nothing to
heal.
Of course you can't healsomething if you pretend you
have nothing to heal, of course.
So true maturity begins themoment you stop running and
start listening.
Okay, when you ask yourselfwhat is this pain trying to
teach me?
Maybe it's teaching youboundaries.

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Maybe it's inviting you to slowdown, to let it go, you know,
to speak it up.
Whatever the lesson, painbecomes powerful when it's
processed with purpose.
That means tricky points,sitting with uncomfortable
emotions instead of pretendingto be tough and rejecting them.

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So reject these emotions.
Number two sharing your storyright.
Sharing your story with someonesafe instead of carrying it
alone.
And number three, we haveseeking growth, not just
temporary relief.
And here is the truth, guysVulnerability is strength.

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It takes courage to open up.
I know that To admit you'restrangling, it takes a lot of
courage, especially to ask forhelp, but that's where
connection begins, right, that'swhere healing begins.
So true maturity is aboutintegration, incorporating your
past pain into present wisdom.

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So it's not about pretending tohave it all together.
It's not about that.
It's about showing up.
Okay, show all the scars thatyou have.
In this case, you can alsochoose to grow naturally,
because your pain doesn'tdisqualify you.
It qualifies you to lead tolove, to live more deeply.

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Okay, I would like to tell you astory now and in 2012, there
was this woman, rihanna manningsI think that was her name it is
is her name and faced anunbelievable tragedy.
All right, so her one-year-oldson, george, suddenly died from

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pneumonia and influenza and justfive days later, overwhelmed by
grief, her husband, paul, tookhis own life and nothing she
left to care, you know, fortheir two surviving children.
So Rihanna was in shock, ofcourse, about all this situation

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However, you know, with a lotof struggles and so many years,
then she, she said that shestand up and really and
especially, recognize there is abig gap in terms of support
available to familiesexperiencing this kind of loss.

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So she want to make adifference.
To make a difference, shefounded Two Wish Upon a Star, a
charity, a famous charitydedicated to providing immediate
support to families in Galas,where they live, you know, who
have lost a child, and youngpeople you know like to end the

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situation like she couldn't do,and through her effort, the
organization guys has impactedover 1,300 individuals, offering
them the support and resourcesshe wished had been available to
her.
So Rian's journey symbolizesthe concept of post-traumatic

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growth, where individuals findnew meaning and purpose
following profound loss.
So, while she continues tonavigate her grief.
Rian has found joy in life'ssmall moments and today she's
married.
She has remarried, embodyingher resilience and the human

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capacity to transform pain intoa purposeful action.
And I think, of course, this isa beautiful story.
When I read it I was totallyshocked about it.
Now let's make a recap.
What did we do?
Today?
We have taken a deep dive intothe role, uncomfortable but

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transformative nature of pain.
We begin with the truth.
Most people avoid the fact thatyou know pain is inevitable,
but suffering is optional whenwe choose to face it with
intention.
And then we explore how so manyof us respond to pain with
avoidance, denial and fear ofvulnerability.

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But when we do that, we createobstacles, obstacles that slow
our growth and positiveachievements.
Okay, then we discover the truematurity.
Doesn't come from age or titles,of course.
It comes from doing the innerwork, especially when it comes
from pain, guys, from sittingwith our damage, you know, with

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our vows asking what they arehere to teach us and choosing
growth over comfort.
We understood how pain, whenprocessed with purpose, of
course, becomes power.
And we realize this with a true, real story.
So the story of RihannaManning's real life

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transformation.
We saw how grief can buildpurpose, how brokenness can lead
to service and how scars canbecome a sign of strength.
At the end, we explorepractical ways to begin this
journey, guys.
So, with these six points so wehave honest journaling, therapy

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or coaching, embodimentpractices, you know, like yoga,
and so on inner child healing,sharing our stories that's very
important and building safe,supportive communities All of
these points to one true thatpain is not the end of your
story.
Perhaps is the beginning of adeeper one.
So if you are listening rightnow and carrying something heavy

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, know this, guys you are notweak for heartache.
You're human.
That's it.
You're just a human being, likeme, like anyone else in this
world, and there is a seedbeyond that pain, a seed of
power, wisdom and unshakablematurity, just waiting to grow.

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Okay, you just have to stoprunning and just go through it.
Okay.
Now I would like to hear fromyou what is the biggest
challenge you have faced thathas finally led to your personal
growth, guys?
How did you face it and whatlessons did you take from that
experience?
Don't hesitate to comment belowand share this episode with

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someone who might need to hearit more than us.
While I deeply appreciate thefollow as always, sharing this
with others who need this isactually what truly makes a
difference.
Thank you for listening toJourney to Success.
Remember every step you take,no matter how small, brings you

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closer to the person you aremeant to become.
I'm grateful for each of youguys and I'll see you in the
next episode.
Cheers.