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Have you ever wondered how something as simple as thankfulness could dramatically impact your mental health? Turns out, science backs what wisdom traditions have taught for centuries—gratitude transforms lives from the inside out.
Gratitude isn't just a pleasant emotion; it's a powerful practice that rewires your brain. Studies show a single act of gratitude can boost happiness by 10% and reduce depressive symptoms by 35%. The catch? These benefits fade within months unless you make gratitude consistent. I share my personal method of writing down five things I'm grateful for daily, demonstrating how even seemingly insignificant observations—like appreciating the walls that shelter you or finding joy in a memento on your desk—can shift your entire perspective.
Through a revealing personal story about staying true to myself during a company-wide reduction announcement, I explore how authentic self-expression connects deeply with gratitude. When colleagues were uncomfortable with my relaxed approach during this tense situation, it highlighted something profound—protecting your genuine identity is essential for cultivating gratitude. As my fiancée wisely reminded me, "No matter what people think or say about you, you must protect your identity because that's what makes us unique."
Gratitude works by shifting focus from what's absent to what's present. It helps reframe negativity and stress without denying pain's existence. Instead, it offers a different lens through which to view challenges, finding meaning even in discomfort. Regular practice strengthens your mind and body—improving sleep, supporting immune health, and building emotional resilience.
What are you grateful for today? Share your thoughts in the comments, and pass this message to someone ready to shift from stress to strength. Because gratitude isn't just something you feel—it's a way of living that opens your eyes to what's already good in your life.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Did you know that studies, guys, indicate that
engaging in gratitude can helpwith stress and anxiety?
In fact, guys, the sameresearch has demonstrated that
just one act of gratitude canlead to an instant 10% boost in
happiness and a 35% decrease indepressive symptoms.
(00:22):
Okay, also, these benefits tendto reduce within three to six
months, showing the importanceof always practicing gratitude.
Hi guys, my name is Fabio fromJourney to Success, and Welcome.
Today we introduce the conceptof gratitude and how it can
(00:44):
transform your life.
But before to go forward, asalways, please subscribe.
So I know this is the rightdirection to lead you, guys, to
drive you, to guide you towardsyour journey to success.
And let's get started, allright, so let's introduce first
the concept of gratitude.
What is gratitude and why is itso important?
(01:05):
Right, gratitude, first of all,is an emotion, and it is an
emotion similar to appreciation.
And with gratitude, you noticethe beautiful aspects of our
lives.
And when we adopt an attitudeof gratitude, okay, we embrace
life, we acknowledge that, ingeneral, life is good and
(01:26):
contains elements that make itbeneficial.
So it doesn't matter ifsomething good happens in your
life or something wrong happensin your life.
We have this realization that,whatever we're going to receive
in the long term in a long termwill bring joy, okay.
(01:49):
So, also, gratitude involvesunderstanding that existence
seems to be regulated by someonebigger.
We may feel thankful to ourcreator, you know, to the
universe, humans, also animals,the environments, but not to
(02:11):
ourselves anyway.
When I say, for example, I'mvery grateful that I can wake up
early in the morning to do mypodcast, all right, it's
interesting to consider thedeeper meaning behind those
words.
So it seems that I'm expressinggratitude to an external force.
(02:31):
Ok, so when you expressgratitude like, I don't know,
I'm grateful that I'm losingweight or I'm grateful for the
strength to stay on track withmy diet, it may seem like we're
referring to ourselves, right,but in reality, if you hear
correctly, so I'm grateful forthe strength to stay on track
(02:55):
with my diet, for the strength,you know, to stay on track with
my diet.
See, it's really, it looksreally towards someone else.
It often feels like there is athird party involved, divine or
not.
So this suggests that when weexpress gratitude, we are
(03:16):
acknowledging a bigger presenceor influence in our lives.
Now let's discuss the initialstruggles you faced before
implementing the gratitudeconcept, as negativity, stress
or lack of fulfillment.
So let's talk about negativity,all right.
Negativity is indicated by aninclination to feel down, to
(03:40):
feel doubtful, to have doubts,to feel doubtful, to have
doubtful and hopeless.
When we're negative, wetypically focus on the worst
aspects of any scenario, oftensensing negative elements where
they may not exist.
This is why negativity is oftenharmful to our mental health
okay and, of course, overallwell-being.
(04:02):
Individuals who are negativetend, of course, to be
pessimistic.
They often complain, arecritical of others and they
blame people around them.
They can make feel down thesame people.
It is important to understandthat if someone around a
negative person does not have astrong attitude, this person can
(04:24):
be affected by this negativity.
So negative individuals tend tohave certain resentment as well
and often strangle, with lowself-esteem.
Actually, I would like to sharesomething with you, something
that happened at my jobliterally yesterday.
Even if you might be listeningto this episode in about three
(04:45):
weeks, I guess, we are currentlyexperiencing a significant
reduction in staff guys in myjob.
So the company plans to move orfire, let's say, around 40-50%
of the employees, say around40-50% of the employees.
(05:06):
We received communication fromthe company that this is going
to happen.
All right, they didn't specifyany names yet, which means it
could be any of us, but anyway,it's going to happen.
So, during a meeting with mycolleagues and the big guy who
announced the bad news, myapproach evident evidently
(05:27):
seemed to annoy some people.
How do I know?
I know because I spoke to myteam leader and she told me
Fabio, the way you handled themeeting, with some smiles and
relaxed questions while you knoweveryone else was so tense,
made some people uncomfortable,including the big guy.
Of course, I appreciate thefeedback and she's a great
(05:52):
person, but this situationhighlights one of the downsides
of working in any company.
In fact, I can't be angry withanyone, honestly, because this
is how corporations operate.
Okay, you often feel like youneed to fit into a box that
(06:14):
makes you shape in a differentform than you naturally have,
than your natural one.
So this is very important tounderstand, okay, because the
moment the company makes younotice that you are acting
(06:35):
differently, it's also themoment where you really should
realize that you are showing adifferent identity that's your
identity than the company wantsfrom you.
Also, I'm a very target goalperson, so when something
happens in my life, I try toadapt quickly.
(06:56):
I look for new opportunities.
Okay, there's a reason why Iwas relaxed with myself, but
anyway, let's stick to this partof the topic.
So, negative emotions andgratitude.
So, and let's give this exampleSee, sometimes human beings
approach situations with anegative or hostile mindset.
(07:17):
And when faced with heavynegative emotions, guys, people
often seek to shift some oftheir responsibility onto others
, and that's what happenedevidently in this meeting.
The colleagues, my colleaguessome of the responsibility onto
others.
That's what happened evidentlyin this meeting.
Some of my colleagues werestressed and they were annoyed
about my behavior.
This is a common human reactionthat can happen to anyone,
(07:39):
including you guys and myself aswell.
Of course, I'm not immune, noone is immune but it's important
to acknowledge this behavior.
In the case of this meeting, Ibelieve only a few people
thought, like you know what thiscould be a sign for me to look
for something better or reinventmyself.
Signs, guys.
(08:01):
Signs are very important.
All right, how much importantare the signs?
In the previous episode, wetalked about the psychologist
Carl Jung and his approach tounderstanding the unconscious
and subconscious mind and wherethis can help you also achieve
your goals, especially byrecognizing patterns and signs
(08:22):
around you to make the rightchoices okay, but you can only
approach this mental model onlyif you maintain a positive
mindset, a big positive mindset,filled with gratitude, as much
as you can.
Of course, bad things happen,but as much as you can, you have
(08:42):
to try to maintain a positivemindset and be grateful.
Anyway, still continue with mystory.
After finishing the meeting withmy TL, with my team leader, who
I really think is a greatperson and I wish her the best,
same as my operational managerin Amsterdam.
He also has a special seat inmy heart and I say hello to both
(09:03):
.
They are very good people.
Anyway, after finishing themeeting with my TL, with my team
leader, I went straight away tomy fiancé and said love, it
looks like I hurt someone duringthe meeting.
That wasn't my intention, butit happened.
See, guys, as much as I wasn'tsorry about my behavior and as
(09:24):
much as I was very sad, I had aproper remorse about what
happened to my colleagues basedon my manners.
There was also a mix offeelings because I wasn't sorry,
because being sorry meant alsoneglect my identity, my persona,
(09:49):
right, but for sure I was verysad.
I was very sorry in the sensethat I was sorry about them, you
know, but yeah, I had someremorse.
I didn't feel very well, youknow.
Of course, I didn't want totouch the sensibility of no one.
(10:10):
Anyway, my fiancé responded tome Listen, let me tell you
something.
I said okay, I'm ready for somefeedback again.
Come on, we can do this.
And she said no matter whatpeople think or say about you,
you must protect your identity,because that's what makes us
(10:33):
unique.
And she's right, you know, ifyour identity is genuine, pure
and filled with thoughtfulintentions, you should embrace
it, even if being true toyourself might unintentionally
hurt someone.
Let's be honest, guys, youridentity is the most important
(10:57):
thing.
The moment you fully expressyour identity is when you become
more unique and special.
Okay, it is when you become awall within yourself and realize
the power of gratitude.
When you express your trueidentity, guys, you become a
wall within yourself and realizethe power of gratitude.
When you express your trueidentity, guys, you become
happier.
And when you are happier, youbecome more grateful for what
(11:18):
happens around you.
It is also the time when somepeople will love you, some will
dislike you or, who knows, maybehate you, and the others will
ignore you.
Okay, but it's okay.
It's okay, it is better to betrue to yourself than to fit
into a box and shape yourself tolook and act like those around
(11:41):
you.
Remember that.
So express your identity withpositivity and, in the long run,
you will experience less stressas well.
And in the long run, you willexperience less stress as well.
Okay, so, talking about stress,actually, let's go back to our
topic Stress, stress, stress canbe described as a feeling of
anxiety, okay, anxiety or mentaltension caused by challenges or
(12:06):
circumstances.
It is a natural human responsethat enables us to confront
obstacles and dangers in ourlives.
Guys, okay, every individualexperiences stress, and it can
be fundamental in achieving ourgoals.
And when you are stressed, youoften feel a sense of urgency
which can motivate you to moveforward.
(12:27):
However, we must be mindful ofhow we manage this stress
because, if not handled properly, it can affect our health and
wellness.
And, lastly, we have the lackof unfulfillment, which is often
linked to a lack of purpose anda sense of unrealized potential
(12:51):
.
We tend to feel fulfilled whenwe have a clear understanding of
our potential.
It doesn't matter if it isthrough developing skill,
recognizing our strength orenhancing our gifts.
It doesn't matter.
Strength or enunching, you knowour gifts.
It doesn't matter Anyway.
We can apply those qualitiesfor a meaningful purpose and in
(13:16):
this way, we end up to be morehappy with ourselves.
This is why I enjoy buildingsomething for myself.
Like many of you, I believe Ican use my potential for a
bigger purpose and perhaps helpnot only myself, but also others
.
(13:37):
I want to share something Ienjoy doing, even if I haven't
done it in a while.
Talking about enjoying yourselfwith the right attitude, we
(13:58):
have to understand that it isfundamental to be grateful as
much as you can, as much as wecan, right.
So what I used to do, I used towrite down five phrases each
day expressing my gratitude.
There is always something toappreciate, even if it might
(14:18):
seem insignificant.
Okay, and here I would like toshow you five things that I'm
actually thinking right now,five gratitude things that I
have in my brain and I want toshare with you.
I want to show you how muchpowerful they are, and you're
(14:42):
going to realize an incredibleenergy and power, something that
they're going to be verypowerful, not only for myself,
but also for you.
So, number one, first phrase,that it's very powerful in terms
(15:03):
of energy and gratefulness.
I'm grateful that I'm a miracle.
I'm grateful to be alive, soI'm grateful that I'm a miracle.
I'm a great.
I'm grateful to be alive, soI'm grateful that I'm.
I'm grateful to be alive.
Okay, only this can explaineverything.
Number two I'm grateful that Ican see how beautiful the world
(15:26):
is.
So I can see, I can look at thetrees around me, I can look at
what the human being did for us,made for us, so it's beautiful.
Number three I'm grateful thatI can write and speak about this
topic so that you can hear andbenefit from it.
How much great is that I canuse my hands to create something
(15:56):
.
Number four I'm grateful thatthis is very funny.
I'm grateful that, let's say,they're fixing the street
outside, and it makes the moneyI pay for living in the
Netherlands feel useful.
Just a disclaimer yeah, themoment you are positive on that
(16:20):
is the moment you automaticallyshift away from any negative
momentum.
For example, if you startthinking, oh my God, this is
terrible, I can't even findparking, you are focusing on the
negative side, right?
However, guys, if you focus onthe positive aspect instead, the
negative ones often obvious incases like this, especially when
(16:45):
we talk about cars anyway,cases like this one lose its
power when confronted with thepositive one.
So this is a very powerfulphrase.
And number five I'm gratefulfor the love I receive from the
people around me.
Well, not only people, actually.
You can be also grateful forthe love you receive from
(17:08):
animals, from the world aroundyou, from the wind that color
your face.
I mean, you can be grateful forso many things.
By the way, see, I didn't haveto think hard about it.
The phrase, just how can I saythey flow, they just came to me,
(17:35):
they flow through myself.
I'm sure that, if you see itright now, if you start a phrase
with, it's not superpower.
Yeah, if you see it.
If you start a phrase with I'mgrateful that, listen, I'm
looking at the wall right now,I'm grateful that I can see the
(17:55):
wall in front of me.
What does it mean?
It doesn't mean that I'm crazy.
It means that I'm grateful thatI'm living in the house.
I'm protected from the house.
It is so discounted, you knowto think that we live inside
(18:16):
four walls, but it's not, okay,I don't want to go too much.
I don't want to go too much ina political-slash-philosophical
way, but think about it, okay.
And if you write down whatyou're grateful for, let's say,
(18:37):
five times a day, guys, you'llbe surprised by the positive
effects it can have on yourconscious and subconscious mind.
And when you find it difficultto identify what you're grateful
for, as I said, just as I saidfor the wall, just start
observing, all right.
For example, right now I'mlooking at my desk and I feel
(19:00):
grateful for the lion peluche onmy right.
It reminds me of the time Ivisited the zoo with my fiancée.
So you can also lock memoriesin this way through observation
positive memories.
I'm very thankful for thePlayStation 4 in front of me, to
the left.
I remember buying the PS4 Prowith my own money in Ireland, I
(19:20):
think, like now, maybe nineyears ago, and the satisfaction
I felt was incredible Still whenI look at with my first serious
money.
So really just observe.
Observe your surrounding, guys.
You can be grateful for so manythings.
You can be grateful for therain, because it creates a cozy
(19:42):
atmosphere in your home Insteadof complaining why it's always
gray in the Netherlands, youknow.
Or for the sun, which cancreate a certain warmth feeling
and brings back beautifulmemories with family.
There are so many things to begrateful, truly remember.
The moment you feel grateful isthe moment.
Also, you become automaticallypositive.
(20:04):
I remember, remember somethinggratitude not only boosts mood
and decreases stress, but canalso support your immune system,
improve sleep quality, relievepain and even shape your brain
for a better emotional strength.
Okay, now let's make a recapbefore to wrap up.
So, number one gratituderewires your mind.
(20:28):
So gratitude shifts your focusfrom what's lacking to what's
already present.
So, instead of staying stuck instress, guys, doubt or
emptiness, you begin to noticebeauty, peace, possibility,
especially, so you start to seelife with more clarity and
thankfulness.
Okay.
(20:49):
Number two science supportsgratitude.
So one simple act of gratitudecan boost your happiness by 10%
and reduce depressive symptomsby 35%, but these effects
disappear within months, whichis why gratitude needs to become
a consistent practice, not justa one-time action, something
(21:09):
that I need to remember as well,because, honestly, yes, yes,
I'm pretty positive, but beinggrateful is never enough.
Number three it's bigger thanyou.
When you express gratitude,guys, you recognize that there
is something beyond just yourown effort.
It doesn't matter if we talkabout people, the environment,
environment, something else.
(21:30):
You begin to feel moreconnected, more supported and
less alone.
Number four you reframenegativity and stress.
So gratitude doesn't erase pain?
Okay, of course it doesn't, butit helps you look at challenges
differently.
(21:50):
So where you used to seeproblems, you start to see
perspective.
Even in pressure or discomfortyou find meaning, guys, and that
shifts.
It's important for youremotional state, of course,
because it's going to becomemore positive.
Okay, number five gratitudebecomes a daily ritual.
(22:11):
So when you take time to writefive things you are grateful for
each day, you train your mindto find the good things.
Okay, even small things can bea memory, a moment of connection
, a physical object.
It is about an emotional weightand reminds you how much this
can matters.
Number six.
(22:32):
Six you practice throughobservation.
When it feels hard to feelgrateful, you just pause and
look around.
Maybe it's a photo, the lightoutside, sound that knocked the
door of your memory.
Gratitude lives in presence, andthe more you notice, the more
you receive.
And then we have the last one,number seven.
So gratitude makes strong yourmind and body.
(22:54):
So, with regular practice,gratitude improves your mood,
guys, your sleep and immunehealth.
It helps regulate your emotionsand brings a deeper sense of
calm and purpose.
It shapes the way you show up,you know, for yourself and
others.
So gratitude is not just a niceidea.
(23:15):
It's a powerful tool.
It can touch you, it can healyou, it can open your eyes to
what is already good, and whenyou see this kind of positive
frequency, everything changes,and changes for the best.
Now I want to hear from youwhat is one thing you feel
(23:36):
grateful for today?
Drop it in the comments, nomatter how big or small.
Let's start a real conversationaround presence, perspective
and the power of gratitude.
Okay, and if this messagespeaks to you, guys, don't keep
it to yourself.
Share it with someone who needsthis reminder, someone who is
(23:57):
ready to shift from stress tostrength, from scarcity to
thankfulness, because gratitudeis not just something you feel.
At least for me, it issomething you live.
Okay, thank you, guys, forjoining on Journey to Success
and see you in the next episode.
Cheers.
Did you know that studies, guys, indicate that
engaging in gratitude can helpwith stress and anxiety?
In fact, guys, the sameresearch has demonstrated that
just one act of gratitude canlead to an instant 10% boost in
happiness and a 35% decrease indepressive symptoms.
(00:22):
Okay, also, these benefits tendto reduce within three to six
months, showing the importanceof always practicing gratitude.
Hi guys, my name is Fabio fromJourney to Success, and Welcome.
Today we introduce the conceptof gratitude and how it can
(00:44):
transform your life.
But before to go forward, asalways, please subscribe.
So I know this is the rightdirection to lead you, guys, to
drive you, to guide you towardsyour journey to success.
And let's get started, allright, so let's introduce first
the concept of gratitude.
What is gratitude and why is itso important?
(01:05):
Right, gratitude, first of all,is an emotion, and it is an
emotion similar to appreciation.
And with gratitude, you noticethe beautiful aspects of our
lives.
And when we adopt an attitudeof gratitude, okay, we embrace
life, we acknowledge that, ingeneral, life is good and
(01:26):
contains elements that make itbeneficial.
So it doesn't matter ifsomething good happens in your
life or something wrong happensin your life.
We have this realization that,whatever we're going to receive
in the long term in a long termwill bring joy, okay.
(01:49):
So, also, gratitude involvesunderstanding that existence
seems to be regulated by someonebigger.
We may feel thankful to ourcreator, you know, to the
universe, humans, also animals,the environments, but not to
(02:11):
ourselves anyway.
When I say, for example, I'mvery grateful that I can wake up
early in the morning to do mypodcast, all right, it's
interesting to consider thedeeper meaning behind those
words.
So it seems that I'm expressinggratitude to an external force.
(02:31):
Ok, so when you expressgratitude like, I don't know,
I'm grateful that I'm losingweight or I'm grateful for the
strength to stay on track withmy diet, it may seem like we're
referring to ourselves, right,but in reality, if you hear
correctly, so I'm grateful forthe strength to stay on track
(02:55):
with my diet, for the strength,you know, to stay on track with
my diet.
See, it's really, it looksreally towards someone else.
It often feels like there is athird party involved, divine or
not.
So this suggests that when weexpress gratitude, we are
(03:16):
acknowledging a bigger presenceor influence in our lives.
Now let's discuss the initialstruggles you faced before
implementing the gratitudeconcept, as negativity, stress
or lack of fulfillment.
So let's talk about negativity,all right.
Negativity is indicated by aninclination to feel down, to
(03:40):
feel doubtful, to have doubts,to feel doubtful, to have
doubtful and hopeless.
When we're negative, wetypically focus on the worst
aspects of any scenario, oftensensing negative elements where
they may not exist.
This is why negativity is oftenharmful to our mental health
okay and, of course, overallwell-being.
(04:02):
Individuals who are negativetend, of course, to be
pessimistic.
They often complain, arecritical of others and they
blame people around them.
They can make feel down thesame people.
It is important to understandthat if someone around a
negative person does not have astrong attitude, this person can
(04:24):
be affected by this negativity.
So negative individuals tend tohave certain resentment as well
and often strangle, with lowself-esteem.
Actually, I would like to sharesomething with you, something
that happened at my jobliterally yesterday.
Even if you might be listeningto this episode in about three
(04:45):
weeks, I guess, we are currentlyexperiencing a significant
reduction in staff guys in myjob.
So the company plans to move orfire, let's say, around 40-50%
of the employees, say around40-50% of the employees.
(05:06):
We received communication fromthe company that this is going
to happen.
All right, they didn't specifyany names yet, which means it
could be any of us, but anyway,it's going to happen.
So, during a meeting with mycolleagues and the big guy who
announced the bad news, myapproach evident evidently
(05:27):
seemed to annoy some people.
How do I know?
I know because I spoke to myteam leader and she told me
Fabio, the way you handled themeeting, with some smiles and
relaxed questions while you knoweveryone else was so tense,
made some people uncomfortable,including the big guy.
Of course, I appreciate thefeedback and she's a great
(05:52):
person, but this situationhighlights one of the downsides
of working in any company.
In fact, I can't be angry withanyone, honestly, because this
is how corporations operate.
Okay, you often feel like youneed to fit into a box that
(06:14):
makes you shape in a differentform than you naturally have,
than your natural one.
So this is very important tounderstand, okay, because the
moment the company makes younotice that you are acting
(06:35):
differently, it's also themoment where you really should
realize that you are showing adifferent identity that's your
identity than the company wantsfrom you.
Also, I'm a very target goalperson, so when something
happens in my life, I try toadapt quickly.
(06:56):
I look for new opportunities.
Okay, there's a reason why Iwas relaxed with myself, but
anyway, let's stick to this partof the topic.
So, negative emotions andgratitude.
So, and let's give this exampleSee, sometimes human beings
approach situations with anegative or hostile mindset.
(07:17):
And when faced with heavynegative emotions, guys, people
often seek to shift some oftheir responsibility onto others
, and that's what happenedevidently in this meeting.
The colleagues, my colleaguessome of the responsibility onto
others.
That's what happened evidentlyin this meeting.
Some of my colleagues werestressed and they were annoyed
about my behavior.
This is a common human reactionthat can happen to anyone,
(07:39):
including you guys and myself aswell.
Of course, I'm not immune, noone is immune but it's important
to acknowledge this behavior.
In the case of this meeting, Ibelieve only a few people
thought, like you know what thiscould be a sign for me to look
for something better or reinventmyself.
Signs, guys.
(08:01):
Signs are very important.
All right, how much importantare the signs?
In the previous episode, wetalked about the psychologist
Carl Jung and his approach tounderstanding the unconscious
and subconscious mind and wherethis can help you also achieve
your goals, especially byrecognizing patterns and signs
(08:22):
around you to make the rightchoices okay, but you can only
approach this mental model onlyif you maintain a positive
mindset, a big positive mindset,filled with gratitude, as much
as you can.
Of course, bad things happen,but as much as you can, you have
(08:42):
to try to maintain a positivemindset and be grateful.
Anyway, still continue with mystory.
After finishing the meeting withmy TL, with my team leader, who
I really think is a greatperson and I wish her the best,
same as my operational managerin Amsterdam.
He also has a special seat inmy heart and I say hello to both
(09:03):
.
They are very good people.
Anyway, after finishing themeeting with my TL, with my team
leader, I went straight away tomy fiancé and said love, it
looks like I hurt someone duringthe meeting.
That wasn't my intention, butit happened.
See, guys, as much as I wasn'tsorry about my behavior and as
(09:24):
much as I was very sad, I had aproper remorse about what
happened to my colleagues basedon my manners.
There was also a mix offeelings because I wasn't sorry,
because being sorry meant alsoneglect my identity, my persona,
(09:49):
right, but for sure I was verysad.
I was very sorry in the sensethat I was sorry about them, you
know, but yeah, I had someremorse.
I didn't feel very well, youknow.
Of course, I didn't want totouch the sensibility of no one.
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Anyway, my fiancé responded tome Listen, let me tell you
something.
I said okay, I'm ready for somefeedback again.
Come on, we can do this.
And she said no matter whatpeople think or say about you,
you must protect your identity,because that's what makes us
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unique.
And she's right, you know, ifyour identity is genuine, pure
and filled with thoughtfulintentions, you should embrace
it, even if being true toyourself might unintentionally
hurt someone.
Let's be honest, guys, youridentity is the most important
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thing.
The moment you fully expressyour identity is when you become
more unique and special.
Okay, it is when you become awall within yourself and realize
the power of gratitude.
When you express your trueidentity, guys, you become a
wall within yourself and realizethe power of gratitude.
When you express your trueidentity, guys, you become
happier.
And when you are happier, youbecome more grateful for what
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happens around you.
It is also the time when somepeople will love you, some will
dislike you or, who knows, maybehate you, and the others will
ignore you.
Okay, but it's okay.
It's okay, it is better to betrue to yourself than to fit
into a box and shape yourself tolook and act like those around
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you.
Remember that.
So express your identity withpositivity and, in the long run,
you will experience less stressas well.
And in the long run, you willexperience less stress as well.
Okay, so, talking about stress,actually, let's go back to our
topic Stress, stress, stress canbe described as a feeling of
anxiety, okay, anxiety or mentaltension caused by challenges or
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circumstances.
It is a natural human responsethat enables us to confront
obstacles and dangers in ourlives.
Guys, okay, every individualexperiences stress, and it can
be fundamental in achieving ourgoals.
And when you are stressed, youoften feel a sense of urgency
which can motivate you to moveforward.
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However, we must be mindful ofhow we manage this stress
because, if not handled properly, it can affect our health and
wellness.
And, lastly, we have the lackof unfulfillment, which is often
linked to a lack of purpose anda sense of unrealized potential
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.
We tend to feel fulfilled whenwe have a clear understanding of
our potential.
It doesn't matter if it isthrough developing skill,
recognizing our strength orenhancing our gifts.
It doesn't matter.
Strength or enunching, you knowour gifts.
It doesn't matter Anyway.
We can apply those qualitiesfor a meaningful purpose and in
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this way, we end up to be morehappy with ourselves.
This is why I enjoy buildingsomething for myself.
Like many of you, I believe Ican use my potential for a
bigger purpose and perhaps helpnot only myself, but also others
.
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I want to share something Ienjoy doing, even if I haven't
done it in a while.
Talking about enjoying yourselfwith the right attitude, we
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have to understand that it isfundamental to be grateful as
much as you can, as much as wecan, right.
So what I used to do, I used towrite down five phrases each
day expressing my gratitude.
There is always something toappreciate, even if it might
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seem insignificant.
Okay, and here I would like toshow you five things that I'm
actually thinking right now,five gratitude things that I
have in my brain and I want toshare with you.
I want to show you how muchpowerful they are, and you're
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going to realize an incredibleenergy and power, something that
they're going to be verypowerful, not only for myself,
but also for you.
So, number one, first phrase,that it's very powerful in terms
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of energy and gratefulness.
I'm grateful that I'm a miracle.
I'm grateful to be alive, soI'm grateful that I'm a miracle.
I'm a great.
I'm grateful to be alive, soI'm grateful that I'm.
I'm grateful to be alive.
Okay, only this can explaineverything.
Number two I'm grateful that Ican see how beautiful the world
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is.
So I can see, I can look at thetrees around me, I can look at
what the human being did for us,made for us, so it's beautiful.
Number three I'm grateful thatI can write and speak about this
topic so that you can hear andbenefit from it.
How much great is that I canuse my hands to create something
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.
Number four I'm grateful thatthis is very funny.
I'm grateful that, let's say,they're fixing the street
outside, and it makes the moneyI pay for living in the
Netherlands feel useful.
Just a disclaimer yeah, themoment you are positive on that
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is the moment you automaticallyshift away from any negative
momentum.
For example, if you startthinking, oh my God, this is
terrible, I can't even findparking, you are focusing on the
negative side, right?
However, guys, if you focus onthe positive aspect instead, the
negative ones often obvious incases like this, especially when
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we talk about cars anyway,cases like this one lose its
power when confronted with thepositive one.
So this is a very powerfulphrase.
And number five I'm gratefulfor the love I receive from the
people around me.
Well, not only people, actually.
You can be also grateful forthe love you receive from
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animals, from the world aroundyou, from the wind that color
your face.
I mean, you can be grateful forso many things.
By the way, see, I didn't haveto think hard about it.
The phrase, just how can I saythey flow, they just came to me,
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they flow through myself.
I'm sure that, if you see itright now, if you start a phrase
with, it's not superpower.
Yeah, if you see it.
If you start a phrase with I'mgrateful that, listen, I'm
looking at the wall right now,I'm grateful that I can see the
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wall in front of me.
What does it mean?
It doesn't mean that I'm crazy.
It means that I'm grateful thatI'm living in the house.
I'm protected from the house.
It is so discounted, you knowto think that we live inside
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four walls, but it's not, okay,I don't want to go too much.
I don't want to go too much ina political-slash-philosophical
way, but think about it, okay.
And if you write down whatyou're grateful for, let's say,
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five times a day, guys, you'llbe surprised by the positive
effects it can have on yourconscious and subconscious mind.
And when you find it difficultto identify what you're grateful
for, as I said, just as I saidfor the wall, just start
observing, all right.
For example, right now I'mlooking at my desk and I feel
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grateful for the lion peluche onmy right.
It reminds me of the time Ivisited the zoo with my fiancée.
So you can also lock memoriesin this way through observation
positive memories.
I'm very thankful for thePlayStation 4 in front of me, to
the left.
I remember buying the PS4 Prowith my own money in Ireland, I
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think, like now, maybe nineyears ago, and the satisfaction
I felt was incredible Still whenI look at with my first serious
money.
So really just observe.
Observe your surrounding, guys.
You can be grateful for so manythings.
You can be grateful for therain, because it creates a cozy
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atmosphere in your home Insteadof complaining why it's always
gray in the Netherlands, youknow.
Or for the sun, which cancreate a certain warmth feeling
and brings back beautifulmemories with family.
There are so many things to begrateful, truly remember.
The moment you feel grateful isthe moment.
Also, you become automaticallypositive.
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I remember, remember somethinggratitude not only boosts mood
and decreases stress, but canalso support your immune system,
improve sleep quality, relievepain and even shape your brain
for a better emotional strength.
Okay, now let's make a recapbefore to wrap up.
So, number one gratituderewires your mind.
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So gratitude shifts your focusfrom what's lacking to what's
already present.
So, instead of staying stuck instress, guys, doubt or
emptiness, you begin to noticebeauty, peace, possibility,
especially, so you start to seelife with more clarity and
thankfulness.
Okay.
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Number two science supportsgratitude.
So one simple act of gratitudecan boost your happiness by 10%
and reduce depressive symptomsby 35%, but these effects
disappear within months, whichis why gratitude needs to become
a consistent practice, not justa one-time action, something
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that I need to remember as well,because, honestly, yes, yes,
I'm pretty positive, but beinggrateful is never enough.
Number three it's bigger thanyou.
When you express gratitude,guys, you recognize that there
is something beyond just yourown effort.
It doesn't matter if we talkabout people, the environment,
environment, something else.
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You begin to feel moreconnected, more supported and
less alone.
Number four you reframenegativity and stress.
So gratitude doesn't erase pain?
Okay, of course it doesn't, butit helps you look at challenges
differently.
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So where you used to seeproblems, you start to see
perspective.
Even in pressure or discomfortyou find meaning, guys, and that
shifts.
It's important for youremotional state, of course,
because it's going to becomemore positive.
Okay, number five gratitudebecomes a daily ritual.
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So when you take time to writefive things you are grateful for
each day, you train your mindto find the good things.
Okay, even small things can bea memory, a moment of connection
, a physical object.
It is about an emotional weightand reminds you how much this
can matters.
Number six.
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Six you practice throughobservation.
When it feels hard to feelgrateful, you just pause and
look around.
Maybe it's a photo, the lightoutside, sound that knocked the
door of your memory.
Gratitude lives in presence, andthe more you notice, the more
you receive.
And then we have the last one,number seven.
So gratitude makes strong yourmind and body.
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So, with regular practice,gratitude improves your mood,
guys, your sleep and immunehealth.
It helps regulate your emotionsand brings a deeper sense of
calm and purpose.
It shapes the way you show up,you know, for yourself and
others.
So gratitude is not just a niceidea.
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It's a powerful tool.
It can touch you, it can healyou, it can open your eyes to
what is already good, and whenyou see this kind of positive
frequency, everything changes,and changes for the best.
Now I want to hear from youwhat is one thing you feel
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grateful for today?
Drop it in the comments, nomatter how big or small.
Let's start a real conversationaround presence, perspective
and the power of gratitude.
Okay, and if this messagespeaks to you, guys, don't keep
it to yourself.
Share it with someone who needsthis reminder, someone who is
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ready to shift from stress tostrength, from scarcity to
thankfulness, because gratitudeis not just something you feel.
At least for me, it issomething you live.
Okay, thank you, guys, forjoining on Journey to Success
and see you in the next episode.
Cheers.
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